Dating Scene In Berlin: Why Is It Hard To Find True Love? Real Talk With Locals | The Movement Hub
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The problem with social media is that people think there is always someone better out there and that’s why it is very difficult. You are never treated as a catch, despite having a lot to offer.
Yep Socials and Dating Apps help create the illusion of infinite choice, and there is but only for hookups. Not for serious relationships.
They think that because they self are not the best Version of themself, or they looking for what they not have... they dont know who they are .... they dont follow what they talk make you not a strong independent person 😂😂😂thats goes to All genders
on point
Berlin is poor thats the offer
Dating in nowadays its almost impossible. Congarts to narcissistic social media and government you made it 👏
But only because women exclusively only want 6‘4ft Chads
😂😂😂😂
It's because of liberalism
The whole point is to take whatever is logical or ethical. And go in the exact opposite direction.
Just so they can keep us in a loop. And not do anything constructive at all.
@@eksbocks9438yes they are in loop😂
All long term couples I ever met broke up shortly after moving to Berlin. Most of them are dating dozens of people since and are unhappy as can be. Its not a city for love. Its a city for hedonism.
It's a city of degeneracy. Just like in the times of Weimar, but worse.
Agreed, because relationships are about commitment and therefore sacrifice for the sake of a specific decision. And Berlin being the liberal, green, leftist city it is propagates everybody to be free to live a life where you don‘t have to make _any_ concrete decisions anymore at all. Everybody can supposedly be whatever they wanna be and just switch up preferences as they feel like by the day. But that is an illusion that tears down society as we can clearly see by now..
if their relations broke up so easily after moving to Berlin,......doesn't it means, their relations were not so 'perfect ' beforehand already?
All factors add up. Berlin is a catalysator
Berlin has brothels. 😗
As a German, I would never date someone who voluntarily decided to live in Berlin.
As a German, I would never date somebody, who would prefer to live in Munich ( my f.....in 'hometown btw)
Why?
@@CS-ox9hn Berlin is a place for pretentious hipsters.
Berlin used to be a cool place, now it is either grimey or a playground for rich kids pretending to be troubled artists.
@@fnuppyfnuptrue
I'm 27 and have never dated or had intimacy in Germany. I was too busy with university, family, and sports. It is hard to find a partner who appreciates your existence.
Exactly. Nowadays due to social media, people often think there is always someone better somewhere and have little patience in getting to know each other. They want instant heat and then wonder why that doesn’t work longterm with persons who behave like that.
If your blonde and blue eyed shush and make children. Otherwise no loss
Why A partner?! HAVE SEX. ENJOY. EXPERIMENT. THE MORE SEX YOU HAVE, THE MOST LIKELY YOU WILL FIND LIKE MINDED AND F___ PEOPLE.
male or female
it's not just Berlin, these problems are common all over the US and Europe
Though the Big Cities represent the pinnacle of it, especially the shallow and meaningless lifestyle.
Trust me, its way more a problem in Berlin then other German cities
@@gabele2386 I live in munich. I dated quite alot through dating apps. People are just rushing through people. You get nexted for the smallest things. People dating multiple people at once, shotgun approach.
I live in Oslo, exact same thing
@@seahorse_ridereven in Oslo? damn there's no hope for Europe😂
I am based in Berlin and I think it is extremely easy to meet new people, go on dates, and have a good time. For those who are also new in the city, going out on dates is a good way to explore the districts and get to know bars and cool places.
The problem I see with the dating scene in Berlin is that a lot of people have mental health issues and instead of going to therapy, they go on dating apps.
Also, a lot of people after moving here, went out on dates with an open heart to genuinely find someone but after 3 or 4 ghosts, people think "Well, I also was ghosted, so from now on I also don't care anymore" and everybody starts looking at people as "discardable things". This probably has nothing to do with Berlin but with the dating app culture.
From what I know, my friends back home (Portugal) also struggle a lot with dating and they live in small towns.
Perhaps the problem is due to dating apps and social media. People have so many options that it seems impossible for someone to commit (fear of missing out). It is called "The Paradox of Choices".
Why commit? LET'S HAVE FUN!
It's definetly social media and dating apps. All the scientific evidence points towards that. It's the pure accessibility that makes potential partners an expandable ressource which can be replaced with little effort. Thus the selective pressure on each individual spirals out of control. Humans are naturally not made for this kind and amount of mating possibilities.
really well put together 👏
0:55 that’s an international problem it’s not only in Berlin 😢 dating apps are a cancer spread worldwide, each person in this video seems to be nice and genuine, I wish they'll all find their soulmate in 2024
They make it easier and harder at the same time. I personally don't like them at all.
I totally agree! They all seem indeed kinda sympatic, so what they conclude is actually very sad!!
@@TheMovementHub they make hooking up easier but they destroy the idea of actual relationships and give people the "too many options= no choices get made" issue.
The sooner all dating apps are banned the better off the world will be. Either that or welcome in the coming worldwide population collapse.
Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are "shopping" way out of their league, and it happens a lot on those apps. And men and women need to figure out how to flirt in real life again. I am late 30s in a long term relationship, and I notice it, women are not sending any choosing signals at all. And if they do, I have serious doubt that men know it, unless it is a very clear choosing signal.
Also, gotta meet in local activities, volunteer for something, and if you are a woman, and find chemistry with a man there, please send a clear choosing signal to him. Looking at him will not do the trick. Smile, laugh at his jokes, and maybe even touch his shoulder. Ever since metoo i think men dont know how their advances will be looked at, especially those you actually want to be with, those who are considerate.
@@ronnie5329 i feel this Statement a loot! It is very unfortunate…
Why it‘s hard to find real commitment? For a multitude of reasons. Globalization, social media - but I’d say one of the most important ones is that everybody wants to be independent these days. Men _and_ women! Society desperately conditioned itself to not be reliant on anyone directly anymore, everybody wants to do their own thing. And therefore we get the results we (or the generations before us for that matter) were asking for, simple as that..
So true. I only have youtube. I let every guy know who wants to get my number or take me on a date....That I want to get married. I'm not interested in anything else😊
Independence means loneliness
@@apollontheintp3257No it’s not u incel. It means freedom, making your own choices, etc. U are supposed to be independent.
@@sabrinagonzales4456 We are supposed to become one.
@@apollontheintp3257 No we are not, that’s prison. Freedom, peace, independence, and unlimited growth is the way. Nothing can’t compete with that.
i call Berlin borderline city since over 20 years already. and it gets worse and worse daily. i just moved here to work as a relationshipcoach. what an irony.
Seems the 'Plague of Hookup' is a universal problem for most big metropolitan city. It's nearly impossible dating normally
I’ve never really participated in the hookup culture cause of low self esteem but I would rather have random hookups than take someone serious who lived the hook up life and now wants a safety net that just seems like volunteering to be a sucker.
Exactly they’ve been independent their whole life and now that I have wealth I’m expected to share?? 😂
its funny that you mention low self esteem being a barrier to participate in the hookup culture. Its exactly the opposite.
From a very deep psychological aspect -and this might hit you like a train wreck - when participating in hookup culture people objectify themselves and want to be used and thrown away. The smart ones become escorts and use money as a barrier, treat it like a business to avoid emotional damage and as a compensation for not being able to bond on the long run.
Now why is that?
Its because when having *low self esteem* we want to connect with people who treat us the same way we see ourselves - like trash, unworthy to love, being abandoned like parents did.
Thats exactly the reason why women with low self esteem love bad guys, getting cheated on, tolerating toxic behaviour and getting bored by nice guys. Because nice guys treat women with respect, mutual understanding.
Nice guys dont mirror what women - or men - with low self esteem see inside themselves so its off - putting.
If they continue to be nice, eventually the partner will induce bad behavior by cheating, verbal abuse etc so they can finally be treated mean again. And attraction, albeit unconscious, increases.
Furthermore, when there was no Me/mother but only Me/stranger because of no emotional connection when growing up its very easy to hook up with a lot of people, because they see the same distant parental figure in every new dating encounter.
Thus, its easy use people as toys, break up and go on with life the next day, hooking up the coming night with a stranger. There is simply no " glue "
????? 🤨 did you read what you just wrote.
@@rockon8174 read it again for clarification!
How will you ever know there past .. everyone is lying each other ... nobody can be trusted men should be ruthless in coping with lies , brkups , infedility etc ..and women should choose wisely have patience 😊
The guy holding the dog said it all.
Social media and dating apps ruined it for us.
Girls started thinking they’re all models because of the constant validation of simps.
@@bugra320 simps can be incels too..
Yes i meant simps.
I corrected my comment.
Indeed Social Media and Dating apps create the illusion of "infinite choice". But its only infinite choice for hookups, not serious relationships.
Think of it this way. Who profits from hookup culture and not many serious long term relationships? Its not a conspiracy theory to just follow the money. The apps are engineered to keep you on them for as long as possible.
Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are shopping way out of their league. Someone needs to tell them, because other women will not. As they see them as competition.
@@ronnie5329 Everyone who tells them is labeled sexist or incel. The thing is women are not honest with themself in their circles. They gassing each other up how beautiful and pretty they are. Men jump in on it in hopes to get laid. So women never really face reality the way men are in the dating scene. If you are unattractive as a man, you will know very fast growing up.
The social engineers changed the system without tests. So the change did not work, and there is no backout strategy.
Liebe kommt nicht aus Berlin.
Durch die Nase ins Herz
I don't think it comes from Dusseldorf either
Kann dem zwar zustimmen, allerdings kenne ich hier halt auch hunderte Paare und Ehen, die das Gegenteil beweisen
@@gabele2386 generelle Aussagen mit Ausnahmen widerlegen. Der 80er iq zeigt sich
@@gabele2386 Gut für die hunderte Paare unter Millionen von Menschen. Wow.
,,Like lots of Egos nowadays“
Because Berlin is full of pretentious people
Everywhere now, but for sure the Europeans are the worst when it comes to ego. French especially.
Sounds like NY
How is it that everybody is bragging about that everybody wants only hookups? Where are those “hookupers” if the only people who answer the question are looking for a serious relationship?
Where are the ones of those people who only want hookups? *Open your eyes!* _They're standing in front of the camera!_ *These are the very same, just at a different time.*
Since the majority of _young_ people going to big cities to study, are going there, to experience the carelessness of the Big City Lifestyle, study and nothing else - What is always expressively attached to the Big City Lifestyle, is hookup-culture, and it always was ever since. Yet *no-one* actually dares to put it that way and keeps that part left out on purpose, to gloss over degeneracy.
So when saying they're only going to study in Berlin, Munich, London, New York, L.A., Sydney or some places else, they're actually *genuine* and saying the truth, though only _half_ of it …
Since what they're all quite eager and about to go 'studying' (next to their claimed subjects and pleaded area of studying), are actually _The free Spirits and Subjects of carefree sexual Carelessness_ and the resulting hookup-culture, which is their actual field of interest, and was from the very beginning.
_The carefree _*_sex_*_ itself is their main field of interest and _*_actual_*_ subjects to go studying!_
Everything else like the pleaded 'fields of study' are just a lame excuse for it, and that's how it's often treated, let slide and oftentimes failed.
Many of them even go so far and make their main interest and resulting sloppiness a habit, which results in acute sloopines, letting slide their claimed areas of interest to the point of actually failing it and and in life and get expelled from their universities for being too miserable to participate.
This giant spring break of carelessness over years, is _always a _*_wanted and absolutely intended break off and break-up from their former familiar surroundings_*_ and familiarity of the small town they're coming from_ (which is *judging* them), to circumvent societal restrictions. It's a deliberate break from familiarity of their own home-towns into the anonymity of the big cities.
That is maintained until everyone of them (especially the women) are running out of time and have to find a long-term solution for going forward in life. … and that's when they're often get back home into the familiarity of their home-towns, just to find a clueless guy or gal to get with - Just to act as if no·thing ever happened and constantly tell anyone how awfully tedious and boring it was studying in the big cities (… all that in noble hopes no-one ever finds out anything of what ever happened prior to that in the big cities).
The worst ones, who deliberately broke off with their families and ruined all ties forever in favour of the lifestyle they urgently craved and wanted under all circumstances back then, are the ones who have to _stay_ in these big cities, since they have no longer any place of familiarity to go for - The Big City Lifestyle has become their most familiar surroundings by then.
Before it was the unprejudiced anonymity and necessary open-mindedness they were looking for, to engage in bodily degeneracy without being called out for it …
All this happening is nothing new and is going on since the full last blown century and started even around 1850 … Nothing new under the sun.
*So where are the ones actually wanting all those hookups!?* _Ask the younger versions of them they were, when they came_ - Not only into the big cities but other casual acquaintances' beds!
*tl;dr:* Sex and The City was never a movie, it's a documentary and it always was and never anything else - Just tailored into a movie-length film format for the big picture!
@@Smartcom5bro, I’m not reading your dating PhD dissertation 😂😂😂
@@Tanya.Tsarkova To bad, you might have learned something new!
Ignorance is bliss, right? Though don't come crying later on, where all the good men would be hiding. 🥰
@@Smartcom5I guess they’re all busy writing longreads in the comment section
Good men write long. I give you a short one. Wanna hook me up?
I feel like it is a general problem for the younger generations nowadays ..
That, and I guess it is even amplified in large cities. Less close-knit communities, more possibilities, and more independent thinking.
@@TheMovementHub "more independent thinking" that last point is not true at all.
@@raze956I would say yes because there’s less community so your somewhat forced to be independent since you can only have small amount of close relationships. Look at Dunbars number for example.
@@marcusr3795 Absolutely!
Hypergamy, worldwide problem.
That‘s not the single responsible factor..
That's not a reason for hookups...
@@gmaxh4549
Yes, hookups arise from female hypergamy.
Because women only mate with the best men.
Most men who have data, however, do not have sex.
@@gmaxh4549 It is! Sexuality is connected with perception of value, hook up culture is all about women pursuing men of very high value that are never going to commit to them, so they just sleep around until eventually realizing this doesn't work. Every once in a while, a lower value person will get lucky.
Of course this is just a massive generalization and of course every single person is different and there are many unique forms of relationship and romance which defy this reality. However this is the trend of the 21st century thanks to phones and social media.
Stop basing your views exclusively on all the red pill content out there and get some real life experience..
Berlin is a STD. People confuse it with a city often, no shame about it.
Nice program- serious and informative - good work
Thanks a lot :)
I like the guy with the dog! I'm here :)
The fact that people move around so much and there is so much diversity, both cultural diversity and diverse lifestyles, contribute to the decline in long term relationships. We are all strangers living close together that have very little in common, except sex and maybe one or two tv shows that we watch, and long term relationships are rarely possible when that's all you have in common. We really don't care about the people around us and why should we? They have nothing to do with our immediate lives and offer little to no emotional value.
Yeah I’m think towards the future this will not end well looking at the macro scale IMO.
exactly. hardly anyone cares about neighbourhoods and societal cohesion. Berlin is just a stop amongst many for a significant amount of residents.
The chap with the poodle comes across as genuine and sweet. He's got a healthy attitude to relationships, it must be difficult when the dating scene is not conducive to such attitudes. Hope he finds someone who is on his wavelength 😊
May God guide all the young people in berlin
I disagree. It s also hard in countryside to date-people are also busy there. I see it as a dynamic in the society because of the changes ( families are not anymore simply pragmatic, roles of men and women are luckily not anymore split in one is earning money and the other one is emotionally and financially depending on the other one ), media changes a lot, but also working life and mentality of course. It s not only Berlin, I experienced it in small towns and in villages too and I know others make these experiences too.
What you said are truly right. So thoughtful. Actually everything are changing and some people will find way but some people can not. But i think love is alwYs needed maybe it changed into different forms but yes some old days love seem more romantic.
@@Kmy-karlin Old day love actually was not more romantic-it was more toxic actually: more dependency, more standards, more pressure of norm, ,more pragmatic. There will be new forms-there are already
Dating apps are majority male users. People are hooking up via social media, it's going down in the DM's. That's the reality. Getting rid of dating apps won't change anything
I like how the guy in a brown coat speaks about trying. People nowadays change partners thinking it gets better, but not
Berlin is different than the rest of Germany. Nobody likes Berlin except Berliners.
...and foreigners
It’s a cool place for young people but you grow out of it quite fast. I don’t know of a lot of people that want to settle down on Berlin
3:34 An example of a modern feminist woman
Yep
Agreed shes for the streets
hopefully she will soon understand how unhealthy her thinking style is. The german guy accpeting her 'sexually free lived' past cannot really respect her as a potential wife. But the sad part is, she herself cannot even respect her boyfriend bc he lets all slide and doesnt constructively criticize her. He doesnt point it out, if she does mistakes or behaves immature or degenerately. He doesn't lead. Women sincerely do not respect men like that. The dynamic of the relationship is not as healthy as she thinks it to be. It's much more like: "He accepts everything and I am allowed to be less responsible". A lack of responsibility for your own choices and trying to live life on easy mode will ultimately fail with a huge impact.
I caught that tooo😂 she’s independent but I bet she still want you to pay for everything and be traditional😂
@@zjaeger1800 Das hast du wirklich perfekt beschrieben - danke dafür.
Thank you for people who took interviews and I have some confusions/questions: that are all true (in their mind) but are you not equally same person or are you really a better person ?
Did you really take first steps or just gave up really understanding and truly loving that person?
The conditions and difficulties and differences you said are the root problems?
Are/were you really be honest and do/did you really stand at the same positions to really understand yourself?
( lf it were right that what they want to express / see those are negative to themselves. So here "better " i mean more open minded or deeply want-to-know and people who try all they can to always find ways to make opportunities or efforts if you REALLY want)
Damn apparently this is international...
It seems very fragmented and lonely - do a lot of people here die of loneliness and alienation?
Yes, they do :/ By su*cide. Lots of mental health problems in big metropolitan cities nowadays.
I prefer a protective, masculine, jealous man any day over a man thats ok with me talking to other men.
ABSOLUTELY
yea but when you meet a guy like that, you say hes weak and controling. i have too much power over him and hes got no options
Maybe you are the problem if you are talking to other men then.^^
3:34 That strong and independent woman thinks otherwise
masochistic mindset?
Es ist immer locker bis man jemanden trifft, wo es sich von Anfang an natürlich und gut anfühlt.
Eine Beziehung ergibt sich ohne es von Anfang an darauf zu forcieren.
Das Problem der Protagonisten ist, dass sie versuchen eine Beziehung herbeizuführen, obwohl es offensichtlich nicht so gut passt.
Einfach weiter suchen, reflektieren und lernen wer zu einem passt. ;)
I fell in love in Berlin. Her name was Berliner Pilsner.
😂
Berlin is the worst city in Germany. It has no soul. It's liken Frankensteins city.
The guy with the dog was freakin right
Dating world is fucked.
Most people are selfish and it's all about backstabbing and who does it first.
There are alternatives #mgtow
live on, mgtow!!!!!!
A lot of well thought comments here. I think boils down to that people nowadays are overly narcissistic without even realising and too much diversity around us, different backgrounds and waiting for the better deal that never appears .
Honestly dating just sucks because of womens unrealistic insane standards. Not 6ft can’t date, not a 7/10 can’t date. Average men literally can’t participate in dating whatsoever anymore.
true
Exactly.@@Rainer125
The way they describe it seem like the same thing in any others western country to me
They order fast food but expect a 3 star dinner 😂
Moldy bread more likely 🤣
@@gintonicx6 moldy bread is in Berlin 3 Star
@@gintonicx6 as a Berliner i like it shady but now it its bit rotten
sounds dystopic omg
02:20 complete delusion. Loves hook ups and wants to find a partner through short time dating, but doesn't have the mental capacity to recognize the contradiction why her life is not working out.
She doesn't want anything with anyone. She is a part of that exhaustive crowd.
Exactly
Exactly
I m 63! Was married in 86 guy stole my money,lawyers ripped me off,and i just feel nothing anymore for men!i have my dog,sport and traveling and i m ok!
The more advanced the people are, the more ego they have and the harder it is for dating. Visit any underdeveloped country and you see people there are living happily as couple.
Join to sport teams and find friends , partners with the same interest. Escape from cities.
Finding true love in Berlin is a challenge, I feel like people confuse sex with love. The Berliners are not open😅
Love is not something that you find it's something that you have ...
Im not dating rn but i live in Germany and this seems horrible
Glad I met my wife and married her before dating apps were invented. Life was much simpler then
Im a Berliner and my husband dated me 3 months before he received his first kiss from me. We are married now and got 3 children… We are together since 12 years. He’s my first sexual partner and I’m his second… you can find true love everywhere. Focus on one person and don’t date multiple people at once. Invest time and real feelings in the right person. Choose your partner not only because of their looks… search for a good soul…
The problem in Berlin is that everybody has sex with everyone. No one wants to invest time and feelings in one person. They always think someone who is better waits around the next corner.
Idk why I clicked on this video, I've never lived in Berlin. It just seems to me every big city in Geemany is like that. I'm only glad I've got my husband and don't have to go through the monstrosity and idiocy called dating anymore.
Well online/ digital dating is the wrong place to start 😂
5:19 did she really say “ lets be friends” and see what happens from there….
I mean its an option but im kind sure. For the right huy… she will know
Dont be put in the friendzone , if you want more. Be honest with yourself.
Sure maybe friends can get tobe more.
But way too often, one person is holding out hope.
Berlin sucks so hard
Born in Berlin. 23/m. I dated girls and guys, both on apps and by chance the last few years. I'm a nice and patient guy, but that's the problem, cause I'm not interested in hedonism, though I am quite open minded... I just favour sobriety.
Love to me is reversed depression, i.e a sense of joy you cannot explain, just as you cannot explain the root of your depression. Being full of hedonism and lust is a very predictable move. Love however is wholesome while depression is melancholic. Too many Berliners fall in love with melancholy and romanticise misery - they either fill that whole for hedonism, or are hedonistic due to narcissism : I used to be the same, and used to have an urge to become narcissistic. But falling in love for the right people lifted me mentally up, despite the fact, that I never had a relationship.
8:01 Do what you like and meet like minded ppl.
Solud advice
Perfect way to go to jail. There are all likeminded people there.
Revert
The problem is, that you mostly interviewed expats. Germans among each other act differently. Expats have a hard time connectinf in general, thats our bad German hospitality.
that's the case in every country. it's a human mentality and has nothing to do with German hospitality. Also, I hardly know any country that is more accepting of foreigners than Germany.
"bad German hospitality" Stop the self-hate it´s getting pathetic. You voted to invite millions of them in and now you barely see any Germans in big cities. Foreigners are having the time of their lives in Germany feeling home. Meanwhile the homeless people in big cities are almost always German. Germans are left behind in your hospitality for foreigners.
Good point, it’d be interesting to know how this works between Germans and if the challenges are similar to that of foreigners
In big cities in Europe and spreading to smaller ones the women now have most of the power in dating/reltationships. They are the choosers and keyholders. It's amplified in the 2020s. This is like people said Sweden was this way first, with more female led dating culture, but now its everywhere in the West, because women dominate online dating...also the marketing of culture is tailored towards women. Average Men are only providers and that nowadays. the bottom 40% of men are basically unable to have short term relationships these days, and women can whenever they want
"and women can whenever they want"
that is only true for pretty woman in the range of 7-10. all the others have the problem that they can only get men who they deem undesirable, and thus are dissatisfied. its only the prettiest girls who hold that power, a small percentage in the overall population of woman. and even that small percentage only has a few good years of that power, because beauty fades rather fast. in conclusion, the dating market is not that bright for woman either.
@@raze956Agreed. Also it‘s easy to just blame „women“ for everything. Yes, the market is tailored towards them - but most men don‘t even know how to dress properly, let alone talking to strangers anymore.. It‘s not easy - but it‘s also not supposed to be easy..
The bottom 90% of men literally can’t participate in hook up culture at all not even once in their life the bottom 50% of men are all Incels now and will be forever virgins or maybe luck out and find one or two gfs over their entire lifetime it is literally that bad now.
@@raze956a 300 lbs extremely unattractive woman will still get thousands of matches on Tinder with guys way out of her league while average guy can swipe 10.000 times and not get a single match.
@@Rainer125so guys are less attractive than overweight women guys should work on their looks more just like women
Ok I won't be moving to berlin😅
People are just not honest about what they want. Simple.
Modern independent women is why dating/relationships/marriage have become impossible.
In Berlin, both men and women go clubbing and do hard drugs every weekend. I don't see how this is about independent women at all.
@@tinycatfromhell Berlin maybe. Most people no longer go to clubs. Dating is online.
The absolute gaul of these women to look for mr prim and proper after they ve been ran through 😂
ran through at 130 beats per minute.
So it's just the women then eh? Nice try, incel.
Woman only want the top 10% of man (chads) and chads only pump and dump 💯
There you go 👌
Oh no.. Incel-Philosophy. I hope you learn to think clearly at some point.
@@alexvo3009typical npc ahh response 😂
@@alexvo3009 honestly i do not care about this at all. but it is actually what statistics is showing. its actually a problem thats causing many experts talking about it cause its affecting everyone one. its a circle . I just watched a whole interview . the guy in the interview was saying how its making everyone lonely both men and women.
the men end up being loners and less successful in life as a result and the women end up being lonely and without partners cause they are all chasing the same men who have no incentive to stay with a particular women.
again its not my mindset or anything its just that its become a sad reality and i feel like only ration thinking and solutions could solve this issue , not incel shaming or slut shaming
And through female hypergamy, the hookup culture also emerged.
Women only date the best men, i.e. the top 20%.
Women immediately offer these men sex.
However, these men are not interested in you for a relationship.
@@saeidk736
I think this generation won't be able to change that. I think that in people born now or 10 years old it will get so bad that in 50 - 60 years you will have to think about how to keep civilization going.
Because in this young generation there will be no love or sex for the majority of men.
A quick solution only works with a burqa, allowing violence against women and men have to earn more money.
Because most people are biochemically not able to love.
They are hormonal wrecks.
Drugs,
medication,
stress.
Life can be so beautiful..
What a soulless city with soulless and morally deprived people.
I watched it and thought, none of them like plants, animals, trees, and life.
Nowhere near Berlin -euro trip
Big cities produce hedonism, not love.
Something that does not exist cant be hard xD
Brave turkish women
Damn, i gotta go on vacation to Berlin
The turkish girl at 3:34 does not understand how unhealthy her thinking style is. The german guy accpeting her 'sexually free lived' past cannot really respect her as a potential wife. But the sad part is, she herself cannot even respect her boyfriend bc he lets all slide and doesnt constructively criticize her. He doesnt point it out, if she does mistakes or behaves immature or degenerately. He doesn't lead. Women sincerely do not respect men like that. The dynamic of the relationship is not as healthy as she thinks it to be. It's much more like: "He accepts everything and I am allowed to be less responsible". A lack of responsibility for your own choices and trying to live life on easy mode will ultimately fail with a huge impact.
Agreed, ones that have her mentality are going to only get passive men that they can control and the men they have a committed relationship will act like a kept man.
When society pushes women too hard they tend to slide into another edge, but it’s still edge.
I dated a Turkish woman once and as a foreigner it’s easier with them because they are already happy just because you don’t dictate over them.
This is also how it works in the mislim regions in Russia
@@pteeradukteel I didn't fully understand that. Why do you think that German men dictate over Turkish women? Did this (Turkish) woman tell you that, or was that your impression in Germany? Which country are you from, if I may ask?
You delivered all the redpill bullshit talking points - well done. You know what? I dont respect a man who is community dick either and would never start a serious rs with him
Berlin is definitly wrong city to ask, every other village or town is better then Berlin. Just go to Düsseldorf, a lot of kind and sexy people. Berlin is lost, fallen, down
I moved to Düsseldorf for ein halbes Jahr and made null Freunde. The only thing Düsseldorf has is altbier (tastes awfull) and an altstadt where one can find the most annoying and cringe partyculture of germany. There is absolutely no reason to move to Düsseldorf except you are completely out of your mind (like me back in the days)
stimmt. Berlin is so gut wie Paris heutzutage
No I’m a Berliner and it is possible just harder for people that don’t know anyone and mover here as an adult. I’ve hat relationships. My friends have relationships Berlin is a normal city. People make more out of it then it is. Berlin ist nicht gefallen lol. Was ist das denn für ne Aussage 😂
@@helly0290Berlin ist vollends degeneriert geworden. Bin gebürtiger Berliner, gestern 35 geworden, und erfahre den Verfall Berlins mit eigenen Augen. Gerade deutsche studierte Berliner aus akademischem Elternhaus haben zur Kälte und zum Narzissmus Berlins beigetragen; ich empfinde die Atmosphäre in Vierteln voller Migranten deshalb als viel angenehmer.
@@LamelKendrick Nee man kann Paris und Berlin nicht vergleichen . Ich bin selbst Pariser die in Deutschland lebte .... Es liegt einfach an der kultur , die leute in Deutschland sind schon sehr geschlossen auf sich zentriert und geben nicht viel von sich was betreff kennegerlernt phase bzw. Freundschaft generell . Im ausland lauft schon anders in Frankreich Paris es ist sehr einfach kontakt zu greifen die leute sind schon viel offener .
Its fucked in Berlin
Totally lost 😂
Germany the people's mind weird. Everything is based on material stuff. More options less success.
because of wokeness and feminist, postmodernist ideology, which basically just pushes hedonism, nihilism, selifishness, short term thinking, no accountability or responsibility, all those things.
Lack of arranged marriages brought us to this disaster.
Correct, but many people in the West can't admit this.
Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are "shopping" way out of their league, and it happens a lot on those apps. And men and women need to figure out how to flirt in real life again. I am late 30s in a long term relationship, and I notice it, women are not sending any choosing signals at all. And if they do, I have serious doubt that men know it, unless it is a very clear choosing signal.
Also, gotta meet in local activities, volunteer for something, and if you are a woman, and find chemistry with a man there, please send a clear choosing signal to him. Looking at him will not do the trick. Smile, laugh at his jokes, and maybe even touch his shoulder. Ever since metoo i think men dont know how their advances will be looked at, especially those you actually want to be with, those who are considerate.
err why would the women do all the work? How about men step up and pursue?
@@kani9284 ?
@@kani9284 your comment makes no sense
Hamdulillah for islam. We dont have such problems.
you have worse problems. arranged marriages, forced marriages, incest, pedophilia,...
See that independent turkish woman? Islam fails one woman at a time. Soon the illusion will be over.
@@NoctLightCloud Did you learn that from your TV or did you read Ali Baba and the 40 something
@@dantesparda7719 I saw it with my Egyptian friend that I knew for 8yrs. She was born here in Austria and got married at 18 to a man from Qatar that she never met before👍 I don't need to consume any media to see what's going on.
@@NoctLightCloud And congrats for picking up one case.
Thats what weomen fought for, now they can enjoy results
100% truth.
ok incel. It's men who suffer more though.
It’s not that hard, you just need to lower your standards, use your brains and have a little bit of luck.
If you are average woman, don’t try to get handsome man to long-term relationship - it’s like playing with fire and it ruins your mental health in the long run.
Lmao they are all blowing the dealers for coke
i got depressed halfway through watching this so i stopped
What I ask myself: Why do people nowadays look for a longterm relationship? At least in the west, there is no co-dependence between men and women anymore. Both genders are able to make a living on their own. This wasnt possible back in the 60s/70s. Furthermore, social media has revolutionized the way we date. With a few clicks, we can swipe or compare a possible partner. There are endless opportunities. Is a relationship based on monogamy really the "best" solution and the only way to have a happy love life in 2024?
Just trying to bring in another perspective on this topic.
When there’s kids involved it becomes necessary. Until then it doesn’t really matter.
Because most men are weak simps 😂
Endless opportunities for STIs as well....
If you want no civilization and single mothers than no commitment relationships are the way. Look at african countries ,mass scale cheating , single motherhood,civil wars,it breaks countries when 1-1 principle of marriage is not enforced.
I'll ask you again in your 40s and 50s
If u can learn how to pick up women on the streets, you’ll have an ability 99% of the people in the world don’t have the courage to learn.
Die Türken ist geil, ' ihm ist egal was ich im Vergangenheit gemacht habe' die Übersetzung ist : i was jumping on decks und mein freund ist simp beta male der keinen self Respekt hat.
Exakt richtig erkannt.
Deswegen bekommt sie auch "nur" nen Deutschen, weil sie bei denen eigenen Leuten vermutlich unten durch ist.
Ollen reden viel, wenn der Tag lang ist. Achtet auf ihr Verhalten, nicht ihr Gelaber.
Haha, dass habe ich auch sofort aus ihrem Satz herausgelesen. 😂
Ich könnte so eine Frau nicht lieben. Würde ich ihr ins Gesicht schauen, würd Eich die ganzen decks sehen die darin waren oder reingespritzt haben.
Schon richtig krank heute...
dieses ganze Alpha- Beta-, Omega-Mann gelaber ist für'n A.....! -- wer sein Selbstwertgefühl daraus beziehen muss, dass seine Partnerin möglichst wenig Vergleichsmöglichkeiten mit anderen Männern hat, ist ein "Born Loser " !
why the hell you asking only gay men?
cause ita berlin bro, all been at Berghain wearing assless chaps.
Hat die Türkin Brüder?
Berlin need more mosques 🕌 and shari ah law😂❤ Berlin should keep it halal 🎉
Migrantistan.
you get what you are, so these people are as confusing as the people they are complaining about
I think people who lack social skills will die lonely and also people who dont qualify each others checklist example 6ft height , 6 figure , etc etc... dating now has become much more materialistic and transactional
BLABLABLA your incelism is showing.
@@kani9284 after reply my boy thinkz himself as one of psl gods 😂😂😂😂