How to Understand Your Own Thoughts: A conversation with Kristina Furia, MA @yournewfrequency
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#selfhealers, I hope this helps you on your journey of self observation. All my love, Nicole @the.holistic.psychologist
This conversation was insightful, can't wait for a podcast so I can archive them on iTunes or spotify! Keep doing your best, we appreciate it :)
Hello Dr.LePera.
Powerful video!!!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge , thoughts and testimony..
You are a great blessing!!!
For those of us with a technical background words like 'energy' and 'frequency' can be a bit confusing because in science they have such specific meanings. Could you explain how they are defined here so I know how to relate to the concepts? Thanks
Thank you ladies!! I'm curious what you guys think of when you do arrive in consciousness? I have been working on this for the last month and when my mind comes into consciousness I'm not sure what to think if to keep my mind conscious, if that makes sense.
*Have you ever thought about making this a podcast, Nicole? :-) I would love to listen to this on my runs.*
Yes please do. I hate it you can't listen to video without having the youtube app open all the time and videos just consume so much more data
@@sabinemartin614 I would like to secojd this :-)
There is a way to listen to RUclips without having the video up 😁😁 I don’t want to post it because I don’t want RUclips to realize this loophole and fix it so please email me and I’ll send you the way that you can listen to videos while doing other things on your phone (I only know how to do this on an iPhone). Twilightjoi@yahoo.com
@@twilightjoi thank you for offering!
Yes you are not your thoughts ~ you HAVE them! We are consciousness the observer for sure ! Through meditation practices I can literally now shift out my body and observe myself being myself ! Meditation getting present is such an important part too !! It’s so powerful breaking programs ❤️❤️❤️❤️amazing you 2
Hey Sally, glad to hear your story, if it's not too much can you share some of the resources that had the biggest impact on you (podcasts, vids,books, etc.)
Ms. S McCreath my biggest mentor joe dispenza and Eckhart Tolle ! I also have my own podcast show “ relationships the good & the messy that you may find interesting ..., for me learning to access presence & not identifying with the mind and stories ~ literally dissolving the mental narratives is key ! I have a whole coaching program around all this too ❤️❤️❤️✨✨✨
That part about if we don't come up out of autopilot, we won't be able to create lasting change. That punched me in the gut. I'm an anxiety patient, and I'm in counseling for it. I fall into those ruts where that autopilot mode keeps me from doing anything that brings me joy or satisfaction. My autopilot mode is toxic and fosters fear and sadness while pushing away any type of calm or happiness. However, this conversation reminded me of a lot of the work I've been doing in my counselor's office, and I caught two things about myself that I'll need to work on. The first is understanding that I need to trust that which helps me, not what hurts me. The second is understanding that not every moment requires panic. Thank you for this conversation and I hope you both are having a great Monday.
This sounds essentially like the basis of Mindfulness meditation. Thank you for your great work!
When I realised the cruel and frankly, sadistic things I was saying to myself I was actually shocked. Things I would never dream of saying to someone else. I was merciless, and it took a long time and deliberate and repeated efforts to find an internal voice to defend myself and speak to myself more kindly.
When you described "autopilot pull," it really struck a chord with me.
Usually I feel guilty when my mind drifts back to the familiar ruts.
You've helped me understand that this is normal and not a weakness.
This is really interesting... I do this regularly, I did not realize there was a name for it. I just thought it was part of who I am. I am happily single and an introvert, so I enjoy my time alone. I am often alone with my thoughts and it may sound strange, but observing my thoughts and considering them from different angles is something I enjoy doing. Of course the tendency to be triggered is when I am out around other people. I'm not sure what's going on lately though because situations that used to trigger me have come up and I did not react 🤔 To me, even if I didn't say anything, if my heart rate goes up, that's a reaction. Honestly, even I was amazed by my non- reaction. I just thought to myself I don't have to react to this and I just went on with what I was doing or continued the conversation. I am not a super religious person, but I have to say that I almost felt like I was being guided. I mean how could I struggle with these things my whole life and then suddenly I am feeling very non-reactive about things... It's almost creepy like...who is this person? 😄
Wow I’m so happy for your growth!
Bethany Mo Thanks Bethany 💜 it is truly a lifelong journey...Hope you are enjoying your journey too 🙋🏻♀️
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So freaking excited to try this new visioning guide. I’ve been working slowly and surely to become more aware of and honest with myself these past few months. I’ve had so much progress because of all the help you put out Nicole. Thank you for sharing this work
This was so resourceful and enlightening. 3 things worthy to note are, birds view, door knobs and visioning guide. Thank you Nicole for this.
This will surely help with letting go of the ego to manifest what our souls truly desire. Gr8 post.
When you over come fear , this practice makes sense. Its calming to know that your not your thought.
The author Louise Haynes in her book how to heal your life she stays at 2 of starve yourself your thoughts and what you're feeling. I learn a lot about my patters and how negative my thought. I had to practice meditation and affirmations, how to heal my inner child . To love myself and my fate my believe that God will provide what I need have help me be a better version of myself. I'm still learning , and change does happen with time
Mindfulness is the best starting point
Thank you, Nicole and Kristina. I'm looking forward to the Further Adventures of!
Could you share a video delving deeper into dissociation? Trauma, fear etc. You explained how you’ve gotten better with being more mindful of your thoughts and less dissociative. Would love to hear about coping strategies and grounding back into your body as you briefly explained. 💜
I'm wondering if you could do a post on learning to discern the difference between a trigger and our intuition?
Natasha Adams she has a video on intuition.
@@chicagogirl14 Thank you! I've seen it and it's great but I sometimes still have trouble discerning between a trigger and intuition.
Natasha Adams same here!
This is just a partial answer but behind a trigger there often an urge subtle or strong to change something about something ... F.A.S.T. There is also often stickiness in the form of an obsession that needs to be resolved I order to get relieved. Intuition tend to have a more nourishing and grounded quality to them. They are both from inside but they don't come from the same spot. One is more defense-based and the other does not have that contracted quality. Not overly scientific but those are some of the ways I perceive their difference
Natasha Adams a trigger is felt from a mind concept and has a narrative around it! Intuition is an energy sensation felt in the body as opposed to mind ❤️✨
Thank you ladies... I love the way teach & how you have shared your journey and celebrate your success with the world💖😊💖
For the “visioning board/guide”: it’s beyond believing. It’s the knowing that it is possible and it does exists. That was another game changer for me!
🙏🙏🙏🌹 thank you ladies very relaxing way to learn who we are and what we need to change working around the house with my phone in my pocket a convenient is that thank you again 💜💜
Love this beautiful inspiring enlightening conversation. You Ladies distill it down to the brass tacs Thanx for expediting our learning curve. What a gift to us
Your helping me out so much. We have a similar past and you give me so much hope for recovery. Thank you for being so honest.
Amazing !! Thank you to both of you.
Very Enlightening! Thank You! :)
I teach my students and parents about metacognition- specifically in to the area in their awareness of their learning and reading in connection to their Senses, which is being aware of being g aware of what is going on in their body and for their parents to observe it in their child and help their child learn to observe it too. 😊
This is an awesome idea!! Thank you!
Wow I learned this through meditating but thank you for naming it !!!!!! This is a very Big ahhh ha for me !!!!!!
"The observer is observed". Juddi Krishnamurti has said that decades ago...great thinker
Saving lives out here
Thank you girls, wonderful talk, you're amazing! As I listening, I feel like I'm having a coffee with both of your there. I feel super connected both of you (thanks to instagram) and I'm so grateful for all the knowledge that you share with us. Loves
Sometimes i do not see detachment as such a bad thing. Especially when going into public places... Sometimes use detachment to protect myself.
ic At workplace as well, esp healthcare.,
I think Transcendental meditation every day helps me to do this gradually over time.
Thank you so so much for this 🙏🏻
Thank you this is great!
Could you do a video on counter transference? I've looked for information but I couldn't find much just a basic overview of what it is. I don't let many people close because of a violent upbringing and parent ification as my dad died when I was young and my mom was sick and older as well. I took care of her until she died in my early to mid 30s. I don't know how to ask people for help or to not constantly be doing something. I didn't even know their was a term for this until I saw it on a website earlier today.
Good stuff. Read A NEW EARTH by Eckhart Tolle and use the 10 episode podcast guide - Oprah with Eckhart Tolle. Game changer and very accessible
thx for sharing!
I’m confused..... What’s the difference between ‘meta-cognition’ and mindfulness? I believe Tolle has been teaching ‘meta-cognition’ or mindfulness for 25 years, and the Eastern traditions have been teaching it for thousands of years..... no disrespect, but what’s ‘new’ about this?
yes, i'd say this has all been said before...just various 'spins' on it - i imagine not everyone is aware of 'mindfulness', law of attraction etc..and this is another way of reaching people who may not be on that wavelength.
Love that vidéo. I took a lot or notes!!! About the concept of your are not your thoughts, Wayne Dyer said if I understood well the contrary. That ,your thoughts create your reality, so change your thoughts to change your life. Did I understand well? I feel confused 😦. Thanks for your amazing work
i'm not so sure how much can one really change one's thoughts, but maybe more accepting that they are there, observing them, and not identify wuth them.. i heard someone say in a podcast the other day that it's like a guest come nocking on your door, but you can choose not to let them in..
When I brought up how metacognition was missing from the curriculum in my master's program in counseling, the professors all pretended I did not even make any attempt to communicate. They did not respond to my emails or recognize the peer reviewed articles on the subject that I would bring to their attention.
love it!
regarding future self journaling...do you write the same thing every day? How often do you mix it up? Thx!
ThankYou Mam,Your session is nice Mam👌
The Holistic Psychologist This is great information. I know we all have thoughts. Can we bury our thoughts or ignore them to the point that we think we don’t have thoughts? How can we see thoughts that we don’t know we are even having?
April Lynn I don’t believe we can bury thoughts the ones we disown quite often end up controlling our life ! Look at your physical world that will show you your beliefs and thoughts < your physical world doesn’t lie ! Meaning it’s a mirror to your thoughts and beliefs conscious or not ! We have thoughts we are not our thoughts ! Its important to be aware of subconscious programming ❤️
sally kalan Yes, thank you! I agree and I have read & studied subconscious programming. When I look at my physical world, I do see areas that I need to work on. It still doesn’t help me as far as watching my thoughts and becoming aware of the negative thoughts in my mind. I can assume I have disempowering thoughts based on my outer world. I meditate and journal everyday. I have written down areas in my physical world that that have been challenging to get an idea of the thoughts I have on my head. Maybe you can’t bury your thoughts, but based on this video it sounds like you can resist your thoughts. I have a feeling that is exactly what I am doing.
Stay present & mindful instead of autopiloting through the day. It’s hard but!!
sally kalan I love how you said this, because it made me see something.
April Lynn hello ! You can learn to not give thought attention !!! When we engage with the Mental narratives we stay in ego and that means suffering at some point ! When you learn to stay present and in the now you can transcend thought altogether ! I share a lot of this stuff in my podcasts and my Instagram !! ❤️✨
Autipoilot is so important to have though, to conserve energy and not have to evaluate situations and make decisions on every little thing, like reinventing the wheel each time you need to use one. Life working properly while the little things are taken care of automatically is so empowering and creates self-confidence and security. It makes life manageable. I think attention to metacognition is great to notice your patterns and establish new ones, but I have to differentiate that from constant overthinking about my thinking.
Hi! Could you please recommend some books? i remember you´ve share some but i can´t find those :( or if someone knows please share! thnks
Nicole, I appreciate your coaching and ideas, but provide some scientific backing, please. Give us some documentation and references about this frequency stuff. Thank you!
I find it interesting how u talk about the collective mind. I miss being Ozymondias.
how do you find the energy/desire to operate consciously constantly as oppose to on autopilot given this utilises less effort/energy?? especially in parts of the day where you are more fatigued and so easier to operate from the subconscious? thank you for all your videos sharing such wisdom!
For me it was a weighing the desire to live healthier habit against how I was living at the time. If the autopilot methods were causing me discomfort then I would think back to that and desire a better way of living. Just one person’s perspective. :)
@@theEleMentalCrash thank you for sharing!
i notice my thoughts all day it’s very annoying i don’t see the point in observing them it makes me feel crazy
Same. I was legit watching/listening to this trying to understand the difference between what I regularly do and what they are saying to do lol been doing this for a long time I realize. It does make me feel crazy but then that thought goes away when I look at my life and all the good that has come from me using this awesome tool. Crazy only means that the mass majority think it’s odd, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it (“crazy”) isn’t actually better 😉.
so when you are observing your thoughts are you also "being" your true being as awareness?
I try to be more present so the thoughts go
Can you do a video on healing from disorganised attachment?
Would love some scientific papers as reference to read for the science behind this visioning, if you can provide these please?
What do I Do with the journal? I was very small when we were encouraged to write diary entry. In it I had written certain things certain people made me feel. And someone pried into it. And I felt so much hurt. I don't want anybody to read or see it. Is it okay if I buy a bundle of sheets and. Write on them? And burn them or maybe throw in the bin?
Hi! I’ve been journaling for almost 3 years now and it’s been so beneficial for me. I wouldn’t suggest you to burn the pages ‘cause the major benefit comes from reading them so that you can understand your thoughts and how your mind works. So maybe try buying one of those diaries with locks 🔒 or perhaps try hiding them!
What about the dilemma of excessive metacognition?
Who we actually are, I mean our essence, feels guilt? blames itself?
Stream of consciousness ...?
If I am not my thoughts then who am I?
EXACTLY. I'm not understanding that at all.
here was i
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Theres gotta b a better way to clear the subconscious , lifes short
Dr Nicole.... those ear buds :( Check out some info on how they are doing you damage. I want you to stay well.
Had the same though
Is it the earbuds themselves you are referring to or the bluetooth signal in the ears or nearby?
guitpizz blue tooth terrible for the brain look up some newest science on it
I admire your work and love your messages, but I was a bit shocked that you say the law of attraction is scientifically proven, and naming the quantumworld...?? As a scientist, I am sad that science is misused so often so sell ideas to people that don't understand it, so they believe anything. I understand that thinking positively can help, but it also makes many of us feel guilty in not succeeding while in fact there is a lot of luck and coincedence involved in anything that happens in our lives. Learning to deal with that and be happy with what we have might be more fruitful than wishing for more (even more mental health) :)
Hey Sara, you make a great point. Quick question, is there any scientific explanation for a coincidence/ lucky. Or is luck the definition of something with no scientific explanation? Just genuinely curious, it's not everyday I get to ask a scientist anything. :D
Scientists are full of shite.
@@ms.smccreath5176 There could be a scientific explanation for an event but you don't have the information yourself to make a prediction. If you jumble about the lotto balls in a cylinder that you can calculate which ones will be selected using a highly sophisticated physics model... but you don't have the information needed when you buy your lotto ticket. It's helpful to understand the difference between random, pseudo-random, and chaotic. Commonly people mix up something that is truly un-calculable with something that is beyond your practical ability to calculate. Hope my attempt at answering helps, you probably want a cryptographer to answer a question like that.
Bringing that back to psychotherapy, to grow and develop as a being you need to take responsibility for your mistakes and errors, but the reason not to beat yourself up about it is that those mistakes were beyond your human limits at the time to avoid. Saying it was theoretically possible for you to know you shouldn't have done that thing you regret overlooks how complex life can be and that there's only so much processing our brains can do. You don't want to take the false view that it is impossible to change your life in the future because you'd reached a limit in the past, you can do that additional processing now :)
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Meta cognition is just becoming meditative 🤷♂️ it's not new
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Hi. I just wanted to let you know the reason I'm unsubscribing is because of how little if ever you talk about social structures and their impact on mental health. I just wanted to let you know because I think you would be a much better recourse for people if what you talk about was truly holistic in that way. I've still learned a lot from you ☺️ thank you