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I'm 25 and already at this point *facepalm* actually I've been like this in all my relationships too so I'm starting to work backwards to experience the other side of that coin where you just view women as fun experiences or whatever
Needing to be needed has definitely been a strong pull as I've aged. The instinct to provide and protect can get very strong.
You are correct but many women refuse to believe this.women are told focus on their career and wait until you are 32-34 get married and have a child. They are told that some mid 30s lawyer ,doctor ,engineer or finance bros will wife them up because they are financially successful. Those men are very rare and many aren’t looking to get married. Women making high incomes does not make them more attractive to most men especially those high earning men. There are a lot of average looking 35-37 year old women who have successful high paying careers who don’t understand why even though they have tried for years they aren’t able to get the high value man they want.***** **They refuse to acknowledge they are competing with younger ,prettier ,more cooperative women who are less financially successful or earlier in their careers.******* this data backs this up but many believe men want an older richer woman. NO! That is what women look for. Why are women lying to other women about this?
women are told focus on their career and wait until you are 32-34 get married and have a child. They are told that some mid 30s lawyer ,doctor ,engineer or finance bros will wife them up because they are financially successful. Those men are very rare and many aren’t looking to get married. Women making high incomes does not make them more attractive to most men especially those high earning men. There are a lot of average looking 35-37 year old women who have successful high paying careers who don’t understand why even though they have tried for years they aren’t able to get the high value man they want.*** *They refuse to acknowledge they are competing with younger ,prettier ,more cooperative women who are less financially successful or earlier in their careers.****** this data backs this up but many believe men want an older richer woman. NO! That is what women look for
I suspect being a father, particularly of a girl, might be coloring your position. I've noticed that as men age so do their preferences, though not in lock step, so, a man still playing the field in his 40s might have a lower end of mid-20, a guy in his 50s, early 30s. Someone without kids may take longer to get to your headspace, but, in time, they likely will, so the point isn't without merit.
I will never apologize or feel guilty for finding young women attractive, even as an old man. Nothing selfish or evil about it.
Do you have a teenage or 20 something year old son(s)? Do you really want to compete in that market and deprive your son(s) of meeting and dating those women? Not trying to shame here, just trying to be objective & practical. This need to shame & blame people is highly toxic and makes it hard to have interesting & important conversations. Women continuously do themselves a disservice with this (shame/blame game).
@@inconnu4961 his son will still be deprived in the dating market if he isn't rich or a Chad/Tyrone/etc. No shame in being the one that's in demand.
@@inconnu4961 this is how the dating game is run, you ether compete or sit down
shut up Inconnu. It’s obvious you get no women your age and you’re looking to make up for that by shaming older guys into dating their age. Nut up or shut up.
@@inconnu4961 There are billions of women on earth. Plus, who wants to settle with an old woman that has basically nothing to offer when you’re in your prime as a man? If it was the contrary, she wouldn’t chose you, so why are men the only ones shamed for having standards?
man like young woman - bad
woman like tall handsome rich man - that’s fine
I was tall and rich and started working out. Suddenly all these hot women appeared in my life. To nag me. I pictured when you are in the top percent they'd treat me like David Lee Roth, but it's more like Family Court.
Teach them. They already feel attracted, make them respect you, and teach them to stop thoting if they want anything close to what you are. If not for them, do it for the still salvagable ones
@@bigneiltoo lol , everytime I get nagged I just pretend I listen
Even worse than that is that young women want older men "because their peers are immature", but when they get to the age of the men they used to chase, are now "disgusted" because those men are attracted to young women... 🤨
Your comment is spot on perfect!
"We've gotta celebrate who you're attracted too, sexuality...unless of course you're a straight man!".....Too true.
Straight white male might I add
I'd make the exception for child-twiddlers. Ain't nothing to celebrate there.
So very true
the word "celebrate", women love to celebrate everything about them, just celebrate all the time.... but men please stay being "tools" for us women in order so we can keep celebrate everything.... XD
The words from Tom McDonald’s song Straight White Male are ringing in my head as I read this.
If you' fall in love with a woman when she's 25 or 30 or 21, & she chooses you and you both have a loyal relationship together, you'll always see her at that age. The issues we're seeing is that women stopped wanting to share those years with the one man they would grow old with
Because those women evolve.
100% agree
Underrated comment. This really hits the nail so hard.
This is a very unique and interesting perspective! I think you're 100% right about this. I've dated younger women (in my younger years), and looking back now, I still picture them at the age they were when I first met them.
@@tr1707 I've seen an odd thing happen. I'm a polite guy but popular and have a lot of friends into being pick up artists etc. I bartend. We had bar managers who were married. I watched ALL the girls we worked with go behind our bosses back and sleep wjth her husband (also our boss) some of these girls were extremely polite, sweet, proper etc.. It seemed. As I got older; The girl I'd liked a lot b4 she slept with our boss, started calling me and messaging. She's 32. I'm 35. She informed me she was breaking up wjth her bad boy bf and wanted to ask me how much I make, what's my future plans for career and said she's ready to have a baby now. I was as polite as I could be and said I'd just be friends, thanks. She said okay but then canceled our plans 3 times, so I told her to go f herself. She had a baby with one of her other guy friends 9 months after. And my brothers friends who are married waited until the kids were all 13 then filed for divorce. So we are actually just being used to serve a purpose, like a tool. I guess I'm glad I said no
The Leonardo Dicaprio effect. I support it. Its definitely a double standard. When I was in high school and college women often dated men older than them. Same with women in their mid to late 20s. Sugar daddies. But men are the bad ones.
If vvomynz were capable of Love, then they would deserve loyalty... But they are not capable of Love, so move on to a younger model when the current one ages out and becomes worthless.
When they are 18, they don't want to date 18/19 year olds, they want the 28 year old "grown up" men. When they reach 28 and the 28 year old men don't want her but still want the 18/19 old women, now suddenly those men are pigs and predators, chasing "children"... 🤔
Well yeah they are, but so are the woman.
As a woman I can tell you that I find these kind of women even more disgusting than men chasing for little girls. Why? Because they're usually disgusted by those men as well - and only date them because they are shallow and greedy ... just there for the money, not love, partnership and family.
It is not a double standard. That would assume all other things being equal, but men and women are opposites.
Studies showed that while women prefer men within 5 years of herself (when she's 20 she wants a guy who is 25, and when she is 50 she wants a guy who is 45), men always prefer women who are 20. Of COURSE they do. Women who are 20 offer the most fertility, beauty and chance for large family.
and been through less d
@@FilipMacioszek - TRUE _!_
Only issue with 20 year old women nowadays is that they've been corrupted by progressive religions. They're the best to bear children, but probably the worse to raise them.
Exactly!
@@FilipMacioszek Eh, not so much anymore.
I've known girls just entered in their 18, with double digit D received.
And the first digit wasn't 1
No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth - Plato.
So true brother. Timeless classics will always shine
I've read quite a few. But never remember them to fully for quoting
Yeah I'm single and 35. I don't give two shits about looks because they all fade anyways. I want a woman who is kind, caring, genuine, faithful, and wants to grow old together enjoying the smaller things in this life. That's it. I hate our society. Wish I was born in 1960 - 1970's, probably would be married with 2 kids by now.
Man, if you want something persue it.
Thank you for this.
More like divorced, but ok.
Society applauds 50 yr old women bagging a 25 yr old man, while demonizing the opposite.
This is just one of many reasons why I turned my back on society many years ago
imagine listening to society.
Welcome to the gynocentric social order and "new" way of thinking! I'm actually cool with people applauding and promoting your cougar example, but not cool with not being able to express the opposite viewpoints without sharp criticism. So much for equality and acceptance of free speech - I don't blame you at all for checking out.
My wife was 18 when I met her. I still see the same girl now when I look at her face in the morning, but if we split, any other man would just see a 30yo single mom and any woman would see me as another divorced 40-something. This is what people need to understand before they burn down a marriage just to ride a carousel of partners.
A Channel specialized on Sexism.
I second your sentiment. Unfortunately my ex did not have this same perspective. She's much worse off now. And I don't see women her age the way I would her for precisely this reason. I met her when she was 18 as well.
This is why you don’t get married. You have it backwards. Who really wants to be with the same single person every single day of your entire life? Do you hang out with the same exact friend every single day? Do you do the same job your entire life? People are not programmed to be happy living your life like that. Change is good.
@@JS_2099 So a random 40 year old would be more attractive to you than a partner of 20 years? Huh. I could see it if you're dating 20 years olds or teenagers. Good luck with that when you're 50+... I personally would prefer to have the same partner I had most of my life than random 304s that have been run through by 100+ men. I consider the fact a woman is available to date in her 30s and 40s as a red flag from the start. I guess you prefer major headaches to peace in your personal life.
@@JS_2099 I was 30 when I met her, and didn't marry until I was 40, playing the field until the day we signed the papers. You'd be stupid to marry a girl when you're 18 as a man, but if you bang/date a bunch of chicks to get a feel of what's out there then find a young one who'll follow your lead and let you mold her, you've got a decent shot. Also, I took her to another country to get married, and told her that the US doesn't recognize it. If a girl really wants to be with you, she'll gladly accept marriage on your terms. Oh, and before any _white knights_ chastise me and say I manipulated her, our gyno centric country has been screwing over men for decades, so f•ck off.
As a 40 year old father of three I will say this: what Alexander is experiencing is real, but it’s also just a phase given that he just had a daughter. Male testosterone already naturally decline with age, but particularly around the time when you have young children your T-levels become especially suppressed. Evolutionarily this makes perfect sense - you take less risks, your sex drive is lowered and therefore you are less likely to leave and more likely to stick around, your feminine nurturing qualities start coming through, so on and so forth. You get more comfortable, more pudgy, more soft, have less sexual desires, so on.
However around the time that my youngest daughter was 4-5ish and my wife and I were done having kids, and coinciding with the pandemic quarantines making health a priority and I began eating clean, I can feel my T-level return with a vengeance. I had to urge to lift heavy again, to compete in pickup games and in rec leagues against other men again, my mind became more focused, my head clear, and my sex drive went through the roof. It’s obviously not as strong as when I was 25, but stronger than it had ever been while my children were toddlers. And with the sex drive also came viewing other women as potential sexual partners again, which ebbs and flows and I deal with it through the occasional porn when the urge is particularly strong.
And it’s not just what’s happening internally but also externally to my environment. I started getting alot of female attention again, and have younger women approaching me in public (which used to happen frequently in my 20s but much less so in my 30s). It’s like women can smell it on you when your biochemistry is back on point.
Most importantly though, seeing my changes lit a fire under my wife’s ass and now she is in better shape than she has been since before we got married, initiates sex constantly, and is always vigorous and enthusiastic in bed. It really made me realize how much I’ve taken my masculinity for granted back when it was just overflowing, and I’m looking forward to synthesizing it with things I’ve learned while raising children and through life experiences in general, and hopefully someday I can distill it into actionable wisdom I can pass on to my son.
I love this write up. Thank you for sharing.
"It's like women can smell it on you when you're biochemistry is back on point."
LOL. I'm 48. With the pandemic (pretty much) over, I have started to go to the gym again. I'm lifting fairly heavy again.
I have the same attraction from ladies as before, which is ZERO.
Some guys have all the fun.
@noname123 Agree 100%
Just smash them, it's not rocket science.
@@joebeta1837 How's your body fat %? Personal style? Get an objective, i.e., attractive young female, opinion.
I'm in my 40s, and I found myself giving this very attractive female on my job, information on getting a good dude, instead of picking guys that mess up her life!! We talked about tattoos, and I was trying to inform her on how men view them, but I don't think she caught on! She still wants more tattoos! I'm still a single guy, (after divorce for six years), but I've checked out anyway!! This girl was pretty chill! She wasn't acting as entitled as most, so I was able to talk to her! Difference was.... SHE WAS RAISED BY HER DAD!!
"I was trying to inform her on how men view them, but I don't think she caught on! She still wants more tattoos!" - I don't get what you're trying to say with that.
There's countless men, including myself, that find tattoos on women incredibly attractive.
@@exidrial431 And others that see them like graffiti on a cathedral.
@@WexMajor82 couldn’t agree more, one or max 2 small ones are fine but large ones, no thanks.
@@exidrial431 not marriage material and good for professional settings. You’re going to bring a girl covered in tats in her face to the queens dinner table and expect them to take you seriously … guys who don’t value themselves will marry these women are they cool for fun and just a date or short term relationship sure but marriage no…
@@exidrial431 Just as many men that like tattoos, there are men that don't want them. It's a preference.
When I was married (for a time even happily) young women were beautiful and sexy, but it was something that was easy to appreciate from a distance and interactions were largely platonic and as you describe, more paternal. Now in my mid-late 30's, after years of unhappy/unsatisfying marriage and painful divorce those same young women are right back to being sexual objects.
I think the shift in views that you describe have more to do with the level of satisfaction in our romantic/sexual/intimate relationships than they do age
Agreed completely
I think it's a combination of. It's proven that you have lesser testosterone when you get older, but intimacy and sexual satisfaction also play a role.
I know a couple, they have grown up kids (girls) now. He was called disgusting for finding younger women attractive. However when a guy friend of their daughters' called her mother a MILF, all of a sudden it was funny.
Young men can find older women attractive, but older men cant find younger women attractive. Double standards?
Oh yea, old women can find whomever they want attractive
......the main reason for double standards is young woman DO find older men attractive. ........and that bothers the people who aren't.
"There's a reason the store is named 'Forever 21', not 'Forever 45'." - Rollo Tomassi
He says Forever 41.
It's also called sweet 16 for a reason .. not sweet 35
oof lol
I’ll share a different perspective.
I’m 50, pushing 51, and I’ve never been married. I was extremely shy in my prime years, And didn’t really have my first gf until my early 30s. While I’ve had a few girlfriends in my life they were never ones I fell for. They generally fell for me, and I just went along with it, mainly because it was there and better than nothing. The relationships were never fulfilling because the attraction wasn’t really there for me, and I never really connected with any of them beyond the point of really wanting anything more than just friendship. I have yet to fall for a woman and have her return those feelings.
As such, I’ve never had the chance to truly pair bond with a woman, and let me tell you, it’s a need to doesn’t fade with time. It’s as strong as ever. I can see how it fades as we men age, though, because while I desperately want that mutual attraction, excitement, sexuality, and pair bonding, I’ve also grown incredibly tired and put off with the whole meeting and dating process. Truth be told, I’m still shy are people I don’t know well.
While I don’t feel the paternalism towards younger women, I think that’s because my need to pair bond has never been satisfied. I still want and crave that immeasurably. But at the same time, I want to settle in to that stable comfort zone, too, of being two people in love with each other, sharing the mundanities of everyday life, a d building a life together for whatever I have left of this life.
I’m still attracted to the college age women. That’s something all men carry with us. 18-26 will always be an incredibly attractive group of women. And while I can definitely understand the paternalism, because I never truly pair bonded, I still see them as potential partners - either sexual partners, gfs, or perhaps long term options. Although from the experience of dating apps, they don’t view me as anything more than a wallet.
I’m still attracted to women closer to my age, but the older they get, the “better preserved” they need to be. Pair bonding early in life and developing a good life together helps get you to the point where looks matter less and your shared history makes life apart seem unthinkable. But without having had that bonding experience, it’s much harder the older women get for me to get past their fading or lost attractiveness to want to begin to pair bond with them. Some women absolutely do, but most women lose the desire to even TRY to look good as their 40s and 50s hit.
And I could go on about the general attitude of women of all ages. Suffice it to say if they use the word “patriarchy” non-ironically,or view men as oppressors, it’s impossible for any man to ever have a healthy relationship with them. I’m not even going to try.
"trust me bro"
Interesting write-up. Thank you for sharing. I think the biggest lesson to take away is that even if we as men deeply want genuine desire from a woman ("idealistic" or "validational" love vs "opportunistic" love), we have to be realistic and ruthless. Fully accept the terms and conditions, such as if a relationship is only casual or if the woman just views you in an opportunistic light.
The disturbing part is watching a woman literally drooling over you, but still says no when you ask her out. A woman who always does the opposite of what she says is NOT what you want.
They say "no" just to upset you, because nowadays, bowing, as a wee-man, to any man in any way, shape or form is considered "internalized masogany".
Not that you could trust anything a wee-man say anyway.
in "their reality" :
- "No" could mean "yes, but I want you to try harder"
- "Yes" could mean "no, but you have something I really want to obtain, and as soon as I get it, I'm gonna pretend you were forcing me". Ask a once prevalent Hollywood producer about that one.
And the only way for you to get to the end of this is to push it, and either everything is all right, or you get thrown to jail.
This is great advice. If they can’t be honest with their desires, they’ll only cause you pain because they cannot accept or take pride in their true selves.
This is exactly what I’m seeing. Women, especially in their 30s and 40s, seem to believe what they read or absorb from the “gurus” as opposed to what they actually feel or think. Had one start crying when we were making out because she was “having feelings” for me. Then, she broke it off. Seeing this pattern over and over. They run away if they think they really feel something. My guess is they can’t take the lack of control. Well, smoking hot and crazy was ok when I was in my 20s, but at 49 and divorced, I’m done with them. I’d rather date a younger, less messed up woman.
@@johnlibonati7807 So true. You can literally see her jump at first, then you see her eyes move as she's trying to remember what the "dating experts" have told her to do. So sad.
You might have a perception issue if you think a woman is practically drooling over you but says no thanks when you ask her out. You may be misinterpreting normal friendliness for flirting.
The Wall is 25 years old & 135lbs for me
And single mothers are an Instant NO GO - no matter age or weight.
Who cares
Height bro. Cuz a 25 year old 135 lbs woman how’s 4 foot 8 is gunna be fat af
@@jesserochon3103 I am not shopping in Willy Wonkas Chocolate Factory - no Ooompa Loompas
@@Phantom-kc9ly You commented - so you must. True apathy is pure silence. You should learn that if you want to play the game.
@@dedeborya9015 No one asked
40 and single, I date 28 year Olds because I can. Younger women are drawn to older men because of their hypergamy needing to be fed.
@@cv6176 well done good sir!
40 and 28 is fine. Problems will start to arise when you hit 50 or 60 and still think you'll land a 20 something year one.
@@brucesmith6942 I'm happy to hear this Bruce ! I mean I'm happy that you're happy !:)
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r im in my 20s and ive known plenty of 20 year olds that get with 50 to 60 year olds for money
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r You should probably find a wife by 50. 35 to 45 is probably the best time to start a family as a man.
All women understand the role of youth in attractiveness, but every woman believes that she will be the exception.
Restaurants like Hooters and Twin peaks have capitalized on this. Their servers are all about 18 to 26. Men of all ages come in to be served by and chat with these women. It’s just the way it is.
hooters is misogynistic. they should ban that business 😂
He was joking. Also the truth is Hooters and Twin Peaks have both women customers and their children. It’s not just men
I hadnt been to Hooters in years until earlier this year. Went there after the range with a buddy and I will never be going back. The food was terrible, the women were average at best, and it was filled with mostly weird and creepy looking dudes. The whole vibe was off and was very unsettling. Everything was mid. I couldnt wait to leave, and i even expressed this to the waitress. I said "how do you come in here and work at a place like this, and deal with these strange people everyday?" She said, "I feel like im dead inside, im absent of my soul". Made a couple other comments but you get the point
I basically saw a restaurant with people eating the food the girls brought them. I guess different perceptions by different people.
The laughing face indicates he was joking.
Dating apps are for finding sexual partners. If you just want a friend, you don't need a woman. You can be a friend with anyone. So if you're looking for sexual partners, you want someone who is sexually attractive. That means women who are in their early 20's. It's not that complicated. A man is going to try to get the most desirable woman he can attract in the sexual marketplace.
older women give birth to down syndrom kids
"you want someone who is sexually attractive. That means women who are in their early 20's"
Clearly you haven't discovered what real attractiveness is.
@@mikelisteral7863 the risk is much smaller than you think. Yeah, the increase looks steep on a graph, but it goes from like 0.1% at 20 to 0.5% risk at 40.
@@jimj2683 Thanks for the number. It's 1 in 200 vs 1 in 1000, so not completely crazy but not negligible either I guess
@@ShawnKitchen OK, groomer.
I am the other way round. After being burned in my 20s being compassionate, I now won’t even be interested if the woman doesn’t show signs of thinking about my needs. A relationship is not a one way street.
Would love to see more of this -- this mentality is also an excellent way for men to avoid toxic women. Find a woman who when you pay for a meal offers to make you one next etc. Reciprocity is essential to a healthy relationship and when men idolize youth and beauty over virtue they get burned every time.
I can vouch for this. I'm 41, two kids, married for 17 years. It does change. I still find young women attractive and, I won't lie, I fantasize but it never turns to lust for another woman. I still find my wife attractive but it is more of who she is and how we have grown than it is for looks. I'm not the young attractive buck I used to be and she isn't the young slender thing she used to be. We both try to help each other maintain our looks but it gets tougher as you get older. The fact that we are both trying is the thing that demonstrates to one another that we care. Great video.
I spoke to my wife this week about this. She says woman around me find me atractive and shes kinda jelous of that, but I told her that as I grew older, even the urge to reciprocate such advances from other woman have dimished in such a degree that I find very liberating and wonderfull that I no longer am a hostage to my own sexuality.
Great that you give up so easily on your evolutionary imperative to reproduce as successfully as possible and leave all the young highly fertile women to others such as me. You are a great pal 👍
I hope everything that you've built together has filled in that area of your life with a deeper joy
Gay
I am 54 my GF is 24. We got together when she was 19. I am in good shape, I have a six pack and I will not deal with older women with their dogs and problems.
…
You’re old enough to be her dad. Think about that.
And your gf won't deal with you much longer anymore ... sorry to say that. But being old and lonely, not finding anyone anymore ... you guys bring this on yourself.
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r She has been hounding me to get married. LOL. You could not be further from the truth. Showing her your comment now. Nothing we have not heard. I get told my daughter is waiting all the time. It will be 8 years together in Dec.
Definitely avoid the dog ladies.
@@maidende8280 One has been barking at me after this post already.
With age I've found that I still find young women physically attractive until the moment they speak. Then the "this is a child" vibe kicks in immediately. It is not just the naïve things they say, it is something about the sound of their voice.
Voice gets lower with age, especially after she's had children
Modern people are a by product of a liberal feministic hypersexual experiment on society, maturity is non existent, compared that with other old school countrys or in history where a 15 year old would be more mature and responsible in life than a modern 30 year old
Indeed. When most speak it's a turn off.
Yeah there's this girl in my office, she's rather cute but her voice and her lack of intelligence is really turn off
Yea, and they want help with their homework, screw that!
As an older man I still find young women attractive and was confused when the protective instinct came out instead of the mating. Now it's nice to see beauty and not be intimidated or sidelined by it.
If it makes me a predator, then I'm a predator. Older women have nothing to offer and their opinions should be discarded harder than they were from the dating game.
Acting optimally as to your evolutionary imperatives doesn't make someone a predator.
Matriarchal power abuse does do that.
Cold blooded
Be a predator ... and be sure to never really find love.
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r older women lie, steal and cheat just the same as the young ones.
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r I like your idea to find love with older women. This means less competition for the young ones which I prefer.
You are a great dude 👍
I can't see that the sexual urge towards young women ever goes away. I am 53y young, and totally not attracted to women over 35. I am dating a 19 year old medical student. Why? Because I can.
I guess once I am too old to get young women, there will be no more intimacy as I really can't find older women sexually attractive.
I know I am still at the bottom but I am more attractive now than 30 years ago.
Too bad for you!
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r Good for you though. As to your own words you are interested in older women only, so he doesn't take away from your dating pool.
Thanks to you for leaving the young ones to us 👍
@@Tubinado People have different tastes. I think I am quite good looking, especially for my age, I am fitter than 99% of men who are in their 20s, and she learns a lot from me (life, health, and sexually), so it's a win win situation. Actually, I don't spend anything on her. She never asked for anything nor does she expect an expensive lifestyle.
@@Tubinado He is almost certainly lying. If he isn't, then his girl is (or will soon be) also shagging other guys younger and more attractive than him, but without his money / and or status! She will also be off as soon as she graduates, leaving prof to hook up with the next unsuspecting student. There is a great film based on a true story called "An Education", staring Carey Mulligan as a schoolgirl dating a guy in his 40s. Give it a watch
I am reminded of an interview by Michael Douglas from about 10 years ago, in which he talks about when his libido finally started calming down....at age 65, with a wife 25 year younger than him.
As a man you want to find a young undamaged woman and then keep her .. Simple as that
Can men also get damaged with age?
@@min5899 most cases nope.
@@min5899
Absolutely. There's many damaged men out there
it's not really a case of age really of course men like younger women, but women with high body counts are a waste of time if you want something long term.
@@min5899 we dont get damaged with constant sex. Women do.
So if i get you correctly, Alexander. You gave in to your ' primal ' urges by getting with women in your earlier years. Eventually you reached a point where you were satisfied with your then current gf/wife. And that satisfaction gave you the mindset/insight to mature more deeply into your life with your gf/wife.
So, if id put it bluntly like this:
Get with women-> get your primal urges satisfied and out of your system-> appreciate other factors into older relational life.
The only thing thats missing here is that guys who cant get women or cant get with women (for whatever reason) cant go through your experienced process to level up into that older mindset.
How can you ' mature ' into the mindset you describe if your basic needs arent even met?
This is where i see a slight discrepancy in your video. Feel free to elaborate on this.
I don't think this is a maturity thing at all.
That's a problem for true. If you've never had the luxury of young attractive women when you're younger, you'll likely want that experience when you're older and have the ability to have those young women
Good point.
I think it's more about having that one girlfriend that satisfies you and less about the others, he mentioned them as part of the story not because they satisfied his sexual urges. I am the guy you mentioned, 28 and having dated just 1 girl for some months, those months were so different for me. The relationship part was about the way i had imagined it, but the way i looked at girls was more different than i would assume. A hot girl will always be a hot girl, but it's like a cool car you are like, "oh nice" and then you move on forgetting her a second later, i wanted to see my male friends more, I did not find female groups that interesting and in general i did not prioritize events i could meet and talk to females the way i did before, or the way i do now for that matter.
Very good point. And not everyone is suited to monogamy either.
I'm in the same position now that I'm reaching my 40s. I can't date women in their 20s, let alone marrying them. Yes, they're beautiful, but I can't connect mentally and bond deeply with them simply because they're immature. Not to mention different tastes and views of life that are conflicting.
Also, while woman in their 20s seem "uncomplicated", they grow into women in their 40s. Youth is a foolish basket to sink all your eggs into.
49 y.o. woman: "Guys, be six foot four or stay away from my door."
49 y.o. me: "Ladies, be under age 34 or stay away from my door."
Same woman: "Reeeeeeee!"
right and its hillarious that she had many chances to get a good guy but didn't, yet as a man we cant change our height, I mean I guess you can nowadays, some people getting leg lengthening surgeries o.o
Well i found that the woman will lose interest in her man as he ages and start to have wondering eyes for younger men. I think something like 70% of women are the ones who initiate the split or divorce from their man.
I loved a woman. She rejected me 5 years ago but even though at 44, she is still attractive to me. But I have moved forward. I’m ok being single.
I am sorry, Alexander, but as we age as men, and our sexual needs do not burn as hot as in our youth, one finds that the lack of maturity and the lack of shared experiences makes intelligent conversation with young women, those in the 18 to 24 year old prime dating/mating/childbearing period of women heir lives, difficult if not in fact impossible.
Your comment that urges felt by men as they age become less sexual and more protective was spot on. I am in my mid 60’s now, and I find I view young ladies who are in their above-referenced prime more as daughters than as potential sexual partners, and my attitudes toward them are far more paternal than carnal.
For me it wasn't so much that the sexual drive faded once I hit 30yr but my tolerance for women's nonsense and bs you have to deal with on a daily basis when sleeping with or trying to date women at all (regardless of their age) completely changed. When you're young you'll literally change your entire days schedule and travel ridiculous distances just to get laid. It's quite fun but as time goes by you deal with all the good and bad (wasted time) of those adventures and realize that you actually value your other hobbies, keeping a schedule and getting a good nights sleep over having to deal with a woman just for sex.
If a women wants me to go over past like 10pm when I'm already settled in for the night, its not happening. If they want me to miss the gym or special event to go see the, it's not happening. If they want me to leap through ANY hoops at all just to get some action, I'm laughing at them and walking away.
This right hear says it all. BS, drama, lies, cheating, etc. The 'Chad's/Tyrones' of the male species exist, and they do, but those are what women want these days. I'm single and what you said, I date women on average about 24 years old and I'm 50+, there are respectable women of all ages, but I stop/end a relationship after one warning about any BS/drama behavior, and only one. Some have listened and had decent relationships. The issue that ends the 'good' relationships for me is that I won't hand over my checkbook/credit card to them once things get serious. A woman having a job, and/or just acknowledging they're saving money by living with me, doesn't mean they get 50%, I'll take care of any woman I'm with, but they don't get to run my finances. I understand women want security/stability, sure, but accept that she doesn't get ownership of your money.
@@agtsmith87 Yeah that's another huge issue that many people like to joke about but the view point simply doesn't fit with teh modern relationship dynamics. You can't keep a classic relationship style but with modern empowerment riddled through, it just doesn't work.
Most of the relationships I was in quickly turned into the "My money is my money and your money is our money" type view and I 100% had to put my foot down every single time. Having her spend every cent of her paycheck on non essentials and then thinking I'm going to continue to pay for all the necessities and bills but also simultaneously acting entitled to getting things like ordering in food/nights out.
Don't tolerate drama or entitlement. These are adults, do not allow women to act like spoiled children.
I’m the other way around, being the nice guy all my life and always thinking of others first I grown to be more selfish in my late 30s.
Needed to hear this. Thank you.
Most of the younger girls I deal with call me daddy so they do see a wise masculine protector intermixed with a lover and provider. They can't help it since women innately respect older men way more.
Not all women respect older men. Some find them repulsive
@@wyleecoyotee4252 🙄
I respect older men like my father or grandfather for their wise attitude and their life experiences. Whereas I feel utterly disgusted by men who could be my father or grandfather and have sexual interest in women my age. There is no respect at all - definitely the exact opposite.
What I can respect: A man who meets me on an equal footing, who's loyal, caring, faithful and transitions into a man just like Alexanders describes: who's able to regard young women in a parental/protecting way as they age.
I understand that men are drawn to fertility - it makes sense from an evolutionary point of view. But as women we are drawn to men who make good fathers and protectors ... not to old horn-bags who forget their family over another firm ass.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 True!
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r you again? 🤮🤮🤮 Duuude, you arent gonna change men preferences at all, no matter how hard you try to make them look bad. Shaming tactics cant beat basic biology sweety, there comes a time when old men are gonna find you disgusting too, then feel prepared for that.
My last gf is 28 years younger than me. Currently dating a woman who’s 20 years younger than me. I don’t accept shaming tactics. I’m confident in my preferences
Is it really shaming? I personally think everyone should do what makes him/her happy. But when having discussions about these topics or back then when I was still on the dating market, I've always made clear that I would never date a men who had too young girlfriends before. I wouldn't be able to respect him in a partnership. That's simply my personal taste/preference: Men who have this more caring, parental, mature attitude and who like women on an equal footing.
Why are men allowed to tell everyone that they love young women - and women aren't allowed to respond that they don't like men like that?
you must have a decent bit of money
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r You might not have witnessed it, but yes, men are often being shamed for being attracted to young women (or any other factor in their attraction for that matter). Often times it's women, who are frustrated that they aren't chosen instead.
Furthermore, the "more caring, parental, mature attitude" you're describing, very often comes with the factor of favoring younger women. Men want to provide and protect, and single ladies of age have had to learn to provide for and protect themselves. That's why they're often times less open towards this kind of behaviour and look for a companion and a partner, rather than a husband and father.
Therefor those characteristics are basically in contrast to the "equal footing". Men don't behave this way around their friends and colleagues, who are on equal footing. They do so, when they're around women and children, who are usually weaker and more vulnerable.
It all comes down to polarity, opposites attract. Not in always and not in every aspect, but talkers enjoy listeners, performers enjoy audiences, protecters enjoy nurterers, and the other ways around.
I've never heard of women being shamed for not being attracted for any reason or any aspect of a man. Individually, sure that happens, but not in a broader sense, as far as I can tell.
And obviously it's dumb, if that happens. Attraction is happening in our biology and our subconsciousness. We can't really help that and there's no problem with that, as long as we don't harm anyone in the act of following those urges and feelings.
Hope you have a good one.
How old are you?
@@maidende8280 30
I am a white USA man and married an Asian girl 21 years younger than me, married 17 years. I treat her more gentle and understanding than if she where my age, hard to explain. Even she thinks the age difference is good.
Because she doesn't have the damage a woman on the market at your age would already have. You're protecting her from the trauma other women have been through and hardened from. What's weird is, it is always the older women claiming the men want younger women to manipulate them but if I had to guess, older men whose hormones are not screaming at them to sow their wild oats are going to be far more caring and gentle to one younger woman than a man her own age would be considering he will find it harder to repress his innate need to spread his seed.
This is nothing new yale and harvard did a study called "the marraige crunch" basically showing the same thing with an added twist of single ladies 30 with a college degree 20% chance to get married, 35 with a 5% chance to get married and 40 with a 2%chance to get married. only difference is we are now seeing it in 4k. Also for those wanting this graph its on ok cupid titled a case for older woman
This is very interesting
That Harvard/Yale study was from 1986 and made famous by a Newsweek cover story.
The data is very old and subsequent follow-up articles and studies emphasize that the conclusions/predictions from 1986 were largely wrong.
Did you know women over 25 have a higher risk of gestational diabetes?
It makes sense that men are messaging girls who are 18 or 19. Thank goodness most dating apps don't allow under 18.
I don't think any men thinks about a risk of "gestational diabetes" ^^
You don't know. Apps don't make you verify ID
I know a girl who met her current boyfriend on Tinder when she was 16. He's only 3 years older, so it's not that big of a deal, but that's only 1 example.
Women lie about thier ages. Plenty of men sleep with a younger woman only to have the cops arrest them because she was 16 and lied when she told him she was 18.
@@medoma1000 Relatively little of what shapes our preferences is consciously acknowledged.
I would think that if men were honest, the graph would be two straight lines, the bottom run staying on 18 and the top one around 26 - no matter how old the man is. I'm 47 and go on dates with 20 year old women. I have ZERO interest in women over 30. None whatsoever.
Same for me 👍
Ehmm, as an old fart, I disagree with your statement about 22 and 32 year old women. One of the most stunning things - to me at least - was how at a certain point, 20-year olds start looking like children and 30-year olds start looking like (attractive) adults.
There's a thing that happens around 25-35 to men and women that is underappreciated. In my world, they both get to their prime around that age.
But hey I'm 40 what do I know. Curious to see some experimental results on this.
Me and my husbando are almost 20 years together. We are together from our 14th year. Some people dont believe it but its true😊. Were happy and have 4 daughters together❤️. Greetings from Europe👋
That's the way to go! Hail Europe!
I've been married for over 15 years now, and my wife and I are both in our early 40's. I've never strayed. While I do agree with what you're saying here, there's (unfortunately?) always a part of us men that want young, beautiful women sexually. When we see a gorgeous 19-year old at the beach or at the gym, that's where our mind goes first. There's no hiding from it. It's hardwired in us in the same way as hunger. For me, that part hasn't really diminished over the years. It was put on the backburner a little bit while I was super busy raising my kids and working full time, but I've recently realized that my libido hasn't diminished one bit from when I was in my early 20's. When I see an attractive woman, my initial instinct and internal reaction is always rooted in my sexuality. We instinctively seek to conquer new women and have novel sexual experiences. I think some men experience a lower libido as they age, but I think that is possibly linked to lower testosterone levels. My testosterone levels are as high as they were in my early 20's (I had it tested several times), so that could possibly be a contributing factor.
I'm 39 next week. I find dating easier the older I get despite no longer in my physical peak. I'm 5'7 and earn just above median average income so I am hardly a 'top percenter'. I do however look young for my age. I have dated more women in their early 20s in my 30s than I ever did in my 20s. I am not on any dating apps, but I get to meet a lot of people generally through work. Young women naturally gravitate towards me more as I become more mature as a man. My girlfriend is 22. We met through a work event when she was 20 and became friends through our mutual interests in food, politics, and Jordan Peterson's work. She's funny, courageous, and stunningly beautiful. Our friendship turned romantic just over a year ago. We plan to get married and we both want children. So there's a happy story for you young lads out there. Keep working on yourself and become a better man.
Its not just looks...Older men also want peace. Older woman who have ridden the sexual carousel tend to be more damaged, & set in their ways. Less respectful & more independent.
+frustrated
+entitled
+"I don't do this anymore"
+Their weekly schedule is already full with stuff they can't even get done properly .. Cramming in another relationship is a recipe for desaster
@@jeffb.140 Sadly, this is very true! They dont need a man, they need female friends & cats!
@@jeffb.140
Yes they already have a full life
And very very bitter. Like a lemon that aged badly.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 Absolutely .. full of frustrations
im glad your asking about how older guys view their same age partners, as Im a older single guy and i cant imagen being in a relationship with women my age I just dont find them attractive enough that id be happy, Id always be wanting to be with younger women, at-least thats what I think, but maybe these guys meet their wives when they were both younger so they remain attracted to them, I have a theory that the age the women was when you fell in love with her is the age you remember her as even as she ages, like our parents still view us as old children basically, but to everyone else they just view us as adults
I also have theorized the exact same thing and not heard someone else say this. This is part of my argument of why demonizing man-older and infantilizing never-before-faster-maturing 15-17 year old women, who would have been unanimously married off by then not too long ago, has contributed to the destruction of marriage, high divorce rates, and ruin of family structure. Yet most feministic hypocrite right wingers are too busy whining about comparative trifle problems like LGBT brainwashing while they turn a total blind eye to the massive problem of feminist agism and female-infantilization against men.
I am an older guy and in my case you are right about always seeing the younger version of your wife. Im divorced now and have tried approaching women my age. They all seem to have a very toxic attitude toward the 'patriarchy' and love to steer the conversation around to convey it.
Its called pair-bonding. A man pair-bonds with a woman and his brain is rewired into that of a one woman man, the bond is solidified through the release of hormones after ejaculation/orgasm. Due note that pair bonding does get more difficult the more sexual partners you've had.
@@elonever.2.071 older women are bitter because they know they can’t pick and choose the men they want like a shopping catalogue like they could when they were younger so they say men their own age are are attracted to younger women down to us wanting to control and manipulate younger women more easily and I actually don’t totally disagree with them on this because the very few times I tried dating women my own age they were all extremely inflexible and bossy and controlling and I was like WTF am I doing here, not only are older women less physical attractive they are more difficult to just have fun with,, younger women just go with the flow and are happy with whatever, they can just say yes let’s go do something, older women isn’t go to just go grab a burger and fries or whatever’s she wants fancy restaurant to show off to her friends that she managed to no only get a guy but get a guy to hand over some serious cash on the date
not a bad theory
Well said man!! I love this perspective and the reality of maturing!
Thank you. I really had this concern. This makes things better
No big surprise if you think that regardless how old a man gets *the optimal age of a female always stays the same.* There is no reason to go for an older woman if you can also get a younger one. It is all about max reproductive potential and peak fertility where the _objectively_ best women can be found for the only thing that really matters: reproduction.
I actually wonder how anyone can ever want a woman above age ~40 as from an evolutionary point of view it doesn't make much sense. Probably that's due to modern women being able to change their looks by cosmetics or surgery so they appear younger than they actually are.
Yeah, it's the unquestionable truth. Men will always go for the younger and more attractive woman IF they have that option available to them.
Would 17 make sense from an evolutionary standpoint?
@@paul715 Anything above fertile age makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint.
Yes the looks of the woman is more important than her actual age.
ive gotten with older women and enjoyed it since I didnt have to worry about them getting pregnant
Alex at age 34 8:47 I feel myself becoming older ... like that village elder. Me viewing this at age 51: Alex get off my lawn you punk kid.
53, never married, no kids; Dealing with young women now is like being the lion that adopts the helpless newborn wildebeest.
I appreciate this.
This helped me focus on my golf game.
Yes. This is my story. I’m 37 and happier than ever. I have a wife I love and we share a little two year old miracle who’s brought more meaning to our lives than anything I had in my youth.
I do feel the affects of less testosterone since becoming paternal, which if I’m honest concerns me purely because we want to try for another baby and it matters that we can get there while the window is still relatively open. Having a residual sexuality does matter though to allow this.
I was out with a mate a couple weeks ago for a beer and a chat; first one I’d had in years! I clocked the attention of a girl at the other end of the bar as well as the bar maid serving us (let’s be clear I’ve never been a lethario with ladies), but I definitely noticed more so the looks I received, because I wasn’t looking for any. The security of being content with my lot in life made this attention more noticeable, but not as important as it could have been 10 years ago.
I wish I could impart advice on others who are younger and still in the game. I would say invest in yourself, be passionate about your purpose and finding it if you still don’t know what it is. Keep your faith and heart open; carry yourself like you are good enough to be someone’s husband. The right person will see you then.
Great comment, the last bit was gold.
I´m 21 yo soon to be 22 and i feel like i have more sexual impulses than when i was 17-18
The only good comment here. Well - this is a man every woman wants!
Congrats & good luck with having more kids! If you have any issues hit me up.
@@Agaroth3010 I might be able to give some constructive advice, though I wouldn’t force it unnecessarily. If you have any concerns or questions I might be able to help. Otherwise stay strong.
I think it's fine to feel attracted to younger women but I don't think it's good to act on it (especially as the age gap grows bigger), I think that opens up trouble for both parties. As not fully grown mentally, the younger can be subjected to abuse or manipulation as there's a power dynamic, whether conscious or not. It's hard for both to be in the same page mentally as they're both in different stages in life. As for the older, you're subjecting yourself for possible legal/social ramifications as it's generally not a good look to seek younger blood. I don't know if it should be shamed but I definitely think it's not something to be pursued/favored.
YES. Completely True.
Our natural instinct is to take care of women in a Paternal manner.. like aFather does, even with total strangers. As long as we see them as vulnerable, we want to PROTECT.
As a women in her early 20's I just couldn't be with a man twice my age, I tried but it was weird and I ended up finding them a bit repulsive. My 2 friends can, but only for money and one of them have daddy issues. I wish I could do it for money at least since I'm broke
U seem to be an exception.🤗
@@karna8658 Actually big age gaps are not very common if you analyze your context, I only know one couple, maybe because of the different stages of life or some young people would feel embarrased to be seen with someone old (I witnessed two cases)
@@nataliacastillo687 no , it's actually very common when it's guys who are older than the girls
But it comes with a condition , the guys needs to be financially successful.
I have seen thousands of couples like age difference of 7 to 8 yrs is pretty common.
I m a guy 25 years of age.
I m not very financially successful at this point in life.
But if I become financially successful by the age of 35 , I m not going to date or marry a woman of my age , rather chose a woman way younger than me.
But it comes with a condition
I have to be financially successful.
A lot of us guys are like that , n we think like that.
Its not about how girls think , rather what a guy wants .
Mid-30s guy here engaged to a woman 8 years younger than me. When I interact with other young women, I still think about sex. Nothing has really changed for me.
Being 49 and a father of 17 year old young man, I absolutely agree with this. I look at women below 27 more as daughters than potential sex partners and I am more inclined to give them useful advice about men and have a friendly talk. Especially, due to the fact I never had a daughter and this paternal protective instinct is very strong at this age. When I look at women aged 28-32 I would consider them sexual partners .
Yes as a father of a 17 year old daughter and an older man I have both dated younger women and also recognised the protectiveness element taking over as I got older.
What's interesting is, at 39, a lot of the things that seemed to be important to me in my teens and twenties just aren't anymore. At first I thought I was going soft, but that wasn't it. I find myself growing more protective of my family and of women in general. People suffering bothers me now. It's very bizarre.
Low test.
@@simdal3088 Wrong. My levels are fine. I'll take my doctor's diagnosis over yours. They've dipped some naturally, but far from anything to worry about.
I've been saying this! Glad to see color coordination!! Thank you for sharing!
Torshaaaa. So fine she blows my mind
I only message woman under 25 .. if they are older than that, they'll have to put in the work and convince me.
Why that has no sense, age is a number
@@anastaciagufler3875 you're only value is beauty and fertility because no one falls in love with your personality at first sight. men do not want boss beeches or sloots for commitment especially after data proving it leads to higher divorce rates. This is nothing new yale and harvard did a study called "the marraige crunch" basically showing the same thing with an added twist of single ladies 30 with a college degree 20% chance to get married, 35 with a 5% chance to get married and 40 with a 2%chance to get married. let's keep[ it real the only purpose of marriage is to have children and nothing else if you wasted your youth and fertility partying that is completely on you. only difference is we are now seeing it in 4k.
@@anastaciagufler3875 "Yeah you keep tellin' yourself that darlin'." Jack Sparrow
The graph would say otherwise.
@@christianlovelock3910 there are still virgins even at 30 just not many
@@anastaciagufler3875 If by not many you mean one in a million, then yes you are correct lmao.
Young women like dating older men because of financial security and the men are not as demanding.
But you best believe she has her "real" younger boyfriend on the side. You have to live with this reality.
It was interesting data, thank you!
The only thing a modern woman brings into your life is chaos, noise, drama, extreme financial risk, accumulation of junk in your home, and nagging. You will end up just doing whatever she wants just so she leaves you alone and doesn't make your life totally miserable.
Children and common experiences play a big part in this. My wife is also an excellent mother and demands respect for this. We have been through 25 years of life together so you naturally bond in other ways. Men always have a roving eye but as you age you have less in common with younger girls.
I'm 39. I date women from ages 18-25, have done for the last 20 years and will do for the next 20 years.
I’m older and yea I definitely interact with 21 year old women different when I ever meet one. I might still feel attracted to them but it doesn’t motivate me to act on it. It’s more paternal.
I'm only 36, and I gave up dating years ago. I wouldn't date a woman my age, anyway. Most of them have way too much baggage.
Lets be honest, it really doesn't matter who men message on dating apps, because women never respond to anyone other than Chad.
I'd like to say... YOU'RE OUTTA GEKKO!!! but you are exactly correct
This makes a lot of sense to me. My church used to bring up husbands staying in love with their aging wives, and said remember the young girl you fell in love with? She’s still the same young girl on the inside.
But you can’t build that type of love with someone in a short period of time
As a man in his 40s who has been married since 18 I would argue that the primary reason you feel paternal is due to having a child and not due to your age. My wife has been unable to have children and while I love her I find myself still thinking along the sexuality lines. I believe this is due to a lack of reproduction to shut off that need to reproduce.
You can be attracted to older women, some are more in shape than younger ones. But, if there is some drama, you won't tolerate as much, it will be the end. It's in the firmware, they have lost their power. My experience.
And they might be bitter about it. The second I notice they resent me for being less than what they want IM OUT.
When I was single, any women I was going to date should be AT least 15 years younger. My wife is only 14.4 years younger as when I meet her I had 40 and she was 25, but I didn't knew she was going to make 26 only 2 months later. But I recommend, always get a woman at least 15 years younger. 19 years is the ideal from Aristotle.
I found a 19 year old & she's 6'2 slim, just my type.
@@bucktooth002 Very good! Just don't get too attached, stay always ready to gtfo.
I am 58 and still have not been with a woman over thirty. As I get older, I don't feel a need for a "partner," and when I am looking for sex, it is with someone I find attractive and that is not someone my own age.
@@kc6810 I have children and friends who are there for me, but I also care for myself and my health. You are obviously a woman who wants someone to be around to care for you. Why would I want to be involved with someone like that?
When I was a teenager I asked an old man if it ever goes away.
He said, "no."
It really surprises me how older men in the US will stop trying to match younger girls.
What for?
Just for keks?
It is nice to watch but it is a problem to live (different aims), energy etc.
The older ones are after c carusel which does not encourage man to approach.
Besides,, woman is always a problem.
@@piotrekmajkowski5422 For the same reason they would try to match the older ones. It costs nothing.
I'm 37, dating a 19y single mother, a 31 teacher and another 30y girl. When I was 34 dated a 19, and most girl I date are near this age.
It get easy by the time, they seem to love you more the more you act cold and distant. To the point they are doing things for me. It's mind boggling, when I was super nice it was the exact opposite
Likely you were not just "super nice" but acting like a doormat. That isn't attractive to women. You don't have to be a jerk to get attention. You just have to stop letting women walk all over you.
Exactly.
Because they now know you're financially stable. Don't ever marry. Hypergamy is the default setting and most women are thinking about "financial" security.
Cause they saw value in you for nice guys they disregard them and don't see them as dependable to them like not making enough to satisfy their needs and so on...
i can speak to why there's messaging activity below the youngest age line: i was on okcupid for a while, up until about 6 months ago. they CONSTANSTLY showed me profiles of women several years below my minimum. for reference, i was 40 at the time, and had my minimum set to 28-30, and it seemed like the app showed me mostly women who were 24&25. I even tried adjusting the minimum age up a few years to see if there would be a corresponding increase in the age of profiles i saw. nope... still tons of 24&25 year olds. they showed me older women, too. i think i had my upper limit set to 48, and i'd occasionally see a woman who was 50, but only a fraction of the women younger than my settings.
Hey Alexander, i have never posted a comment before. But what i found you said in the video is correct. I am 30 Years old and was never in a relationship. Tough i don't wanna date a woman that is more than 4 years older than me i would date someone who is 18 Years old i must admit. But at the same time i have a protective feeling about those who are younger. I still have my sexual urges but i also wanna make the best out of people who are younger and less expierenced than me. The last 2 Years i was kinda conflicted about age differences wanting to help and feeling attraction. But i have come to terms with it. I always see the potential good person in younger people that they migth become if you support them. And for the older people i see that they already achieved that. I look at them with diffrent eyes. As long as their personalities are great then i feel attracted to them and i am not ashamed of that even if it is a young woman.
So to sum it up: I haven't gotten my needs fullfilled but i feel the same as you in a strange way.
Bro as a 50 yo guy with 3 adult children, divorced and remarried, and have worked teaching teenagers for over 25 years, I can say you are spot on with this one.
Shocking lol. Single girls in their late 20's and 30s are a pain to deal with.
Yup, your assessment is truth. I have 2 sons and 5 daughters and I am protective of them and all their beautiful young friends who are women. It is nice not to be led by testosterone so much anymore but by age, wisdom and seasoned responsibility for others.
I really appreciate your attitude.
You're much more positive, open minded and inspiring than many of the personalities in the RUclips manosphere.
I think it's scary online because men can get real confused.....
because there's really 2 extremes offered online.
One is feminism, promiscuity and the f***** up world of modern dating..... and the other are these bitter, women hating, sex addicted, porn loving and angry guys.
The important point is not, as you claim, that you're getting older. The important point is that you have a daughter ; you dropped that in the middle of the rest as if that was inconsequential, but you're a father now. That's it, that's important, nothing else. You should have started there. I'm not a father and I'm older than you. I still haven't experienced that switch in desire, and I'll be honest, I don't really want it to happen yet. Later maybe.
Even if you have 'satiated' the normal urges in your youth and/or are not in a relationship in your later years, I can speak from experience that I don't look the same at the 21-22 year olds now as I did in my 20's. Although they are very attractive, as I see and interact with them everyday, I just don't feel the same desire to make them mine as I did in my 20's. I am the same age as alexander 35, or at least very close. Don't know if just a decrease in testasterone is the reason as I go to the gym 5 times a week and am in very good shape. Maybe wisdoms acquired through the years tempers ones instincts as well.
Could be that women now are less attractive inside and out, some are timeless though. So rare, and to be enjoyed
I will confirm this is a fact.
I am 54 divorced twice.i am a good person at heart but this had not always been the case.
I raised 5 children(1 my own female) and observed them lesrning and growing as they went.my daughter has become a singular influence in my life in all respects.shes had her ups and downs but in tge end married a man who very much reflects my influence in her life.
I used to play the feild...or tried anyhow.i look at women differently now thanks to my daughter.i do indeed feel that "fatherly" instinct you refer to. I do think more with my heart now than my genitalia ....not to say that they are at a lack for words mind you.theres still a fire in the furnace i just feel more control and clarity than my younger self had.unfortunatly for most women my age and of these times...this is not so.
This is of course, in my opinion, dependent on they mind of the person in question.some men are always chasing the next young tail they see.
To each their own.
For myself it's been a weird sort of split. I have found that it depends on the context of the introduction. if the context is one of general communication like a coworker or fellow student. Then it's that protective instinct.
However if the context is one of a more intimate nature. A party, dating app, or if they themselves show interest. Then it is more along those sexual lines. Course,maybe it also depends on the values one places a priority on. I tend to lean more into hedonist values so it would make sense that there would still be such an inclination if context presents itself
This is really reassuring... thank you.
Just turned 40. I was burned in my 20s and I gave up completely in my 30s. Now I am gonna try. I am hyperactive and will only date women in their early 20s (I do want a family). I do get what your saying.
What do you mean by "burned" in your 20s?
@@kristiyangrigorov5232 I am guessing he was 'used & abused'.
You want a woman who could be your daughter? Some questions:
1. Do you think your chances are good - considering all the competition? (Basically all men between 18 and 80)
2. Is there no desire to have a partner who is somewhat on your level?
3. Do you really think women in their 30s aren't fertile anymore?
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r also what woman would want to take care of an old husband or partner. Most of these girls get divorced before their husbands get old anyway. These are also the girls who then look for younger guys.
My sister in law is married to an 11 year older man. He misused his power all their marriage because she was just 18 when they met.
Now he is old and is getting everything back. She treats him exactly the way he threatened her.
Women can still be very fertile in their 30s & even into their 40s, though you’ll have to filter for that. But then not all young women are very fertile either.
Women today expose their beauty and bodies on social media excessively because it’s their most valuable asset, unfortunately it doesn’t last long!
I'm 60 and I have not lost my attraction to younger women. The only thing I CAN say is that at 60 I live in reality and have the knowledge that young women aren't interested in me. So I tend to be more of a friendly man than a sexual possibility.
dude my dad is 62 and pulls young babes whenever he wants. dude's ripped.