Men like Nick think they are so hard to figure out. Every moment he interrupts this woman, as she gives her EXPERTISE, and tried to JOKE HIS WAY OUT OF IT: is his inner child fleeing. He’s literally proving her point. He’s literally behaving like a textbook narcissist! A high functioning man would be able to sit, listen and receive the lashing he set HIMSELF up for!
Ladies, I would like to inquire about your understanding of the concept of a high-functioning man. As a subject matter expert, I find it intriguing when women provide advice to men and expect specific reactions, despite not being men themselves. Conversely, when men offer professional or personal advice, they are often told that they cannot dictate a woman's response because they are not women. In my opinion, it is essential for men to receive guidance from other men in certain situations.
The more I watch her interviews with high profile men of my Culture, the more I see that the men of my Culture have chased the BAG at the EXPENSE of putting their emotional intelligence, emotional health & healing on the back burner.
Unfortunately, I feel it’s because that’s how men have been taught that’s what their worth is. They are also rewarded for it in society. In My experience, I’ve also upheld that and less on character, and that’s where I’ve misstepped as a woman. I’m learning that now myself, as I learn my value, that’s not our value. “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” - Matthew 6:21.
Nick’s body language revealed the moment he started to flea even the conversation he was having on his own show. When this “high functioning woman” began to introduce him to himself in a “non-inflamed” exchange-- he wanted to exit soooo bad. (He turned his body from looking at her directly to looking completely away--she was chasing him for mere eye contact!) He didn’t appear to even realize his “lost of control” in his absolute desire to abandon the conversation sooo bad. The “little abandoned boy” showed up and felt cornered; he didn’t know how to pivot in a non- inflamed conversation with a high functioning woman. He actually looked like he felt tricked and betrayed.
He did feel tricked, because he didn't expect her to come out here and read him and his lifestyle. He felt betrayed it happened on his own show, that she didn't hold back and she wasn't black male worshipping. She gave him compliments, but she didn't try to turn his lifestyle of broken homes into something other then what it was; which is dysfunctional.
@@soniacasanova384Big Facts!! It was almost hard to watch. All the laying around, leaning sideways🤦🏾♂️ Receive the information and move on, Nick was defensive this whole interview.
She was spot on! A high functioning woman would not want any dealings with the likes of Nick. We care about our peace at the end of the day not a dumb private jet. The part about church also irked me because trying to manipulate a woman by using faith or church is what you don’t wanna do, you’ll be exposed every time. It’s very clear Nick has no clear idea who he is. He needs recurring appointments with Dr. Bryant or someone like her who will keep it real with him.
I think it starts with having real vulnerable conversations in our communities. My husband has really done the work and encourages deep conversations with his male friends. But not every man can go on that level. As women I think it's been more culturally acceptable for longer for us. But still depending on where and how you grew, a lot of women can't be truly vulnerable either. It's easy to stop at "so and so pissed me off." But we're not all able to process and articulate to the point of "when so and so did that, it made me feel like this or like I'm less than and it made me so angry because this is important to me."
@@Bigwill4real2008she def seems credentialed, just based on the introduction and her long list of accomplishments/accolades in her field. Also to note, she said she need a therapist LIKE Dr. Bryant, not necessarily that she needs Dr. Bryant as HER therapist. This type of tough love Dr. Bryant is coming with is exactly what women need to hear these days! Harsh truths from someone who seems like they care.
I am a 35 year old black man that has been married for 12 years this October. I am a firm believer in solving unresolved issues through rational discourse (which philosophy tells you that the love of wisdom must outweigh your feelings) but hearing how Dr.Bryant explained emotional intelligence as being non-malleable in your emotions is enlightening to me! I believe most men suffer from not wanting to do the work because they only find value in achieving women’s affection rather than long term partnership. Being a high earning man is all you need to attract a lot of women, and doing the work to become a high functioning man is outside the narrow minded goal of most men. I lost my mother at 5 years old, and I am an only child, which I feel led me to “10,000” hours of self reflection, which is why the work is appealing to me, but I can’t speak for most men since my personal situation is so unique. I’m definitely subscribing!🙏🏿
My god this was exhausting to listen to. He was TRIGGERED and DEFENSIVE. She’s communicating with a man child who doesn’t want to listen… protect her at all costs. He got read
When she said "you mess with and pray on low functioning women"...that checked him in a way that he just could not handle. Cause she's right and he knows it
Nick…silence is golden sometimes. Allow the expert to talk and allow your issue of “control” to take a back seat because you have an audience trying to learn.
It's not even control it's EGO! Him and Cam's ego define them. Their status, their money and their children validate them.. without their would be dangerous
@@britt9153wrong, the consumer sets the market. Ladies have to buy what men are selling for it to be considered valuable or rare. Women made money the metric to judge a man’s worth. Him and cam both came off emotionally broken and even still they both were able to attract and control multiple beautiful intelligent low functioning women! It’s sad but true!
This is so enlightening. This explains exactly while people choose singleness and peace rather than functioning on a lower level just to have someone. Being single doesn’t feel so bad when you can see exactly how someone manipulates just to “get what they want.”
"You wont have an opportunity to get hostile with me, and you may wanna flee," was actually happening in real time as he attempted to get hostile with Dr. Bryant.
This conversation shows why WE aren’t married. These are the men we encounter. No accountability, content with who they are, and never want the woman to be right. #welose She can be emotionally intelligent, feminine, gorgeous, all that… and the man will still not want to receive her message. She’s trying to lift him up. Help him see how to get out of his own way. How to acknowledge areas of himself that need improvement. However, he’s defending, deflecting, and contradicting himself just to try to be right. Smh smh
I agree wholeheartedly with your statement. Just understand self-accountability is a 2 way street and a large portion of women avoid it like the plague. Peace and blessings 💙.
Wow just to see Mr Cannon get upset because she said he could NOT get a woman of her caliber really made him show his true self. I’m so glad she stayed in her integrity and explained. I think he got so upset that he literally tried to belittle her. Wow Nick keep on your healing journey
@@shaniashanea4279 my point was deeray had her. So it's not impossible for nick to get a female of her caliber. Ya'll 🤡's see someone with a show & think they're Jesus almighty & yall don't know them from a can of paint
@@Tone22845she admitted certain men had her when she was unhealed and hadn't done the work. That's why she gave back two rings and called off two weddings. Deeray has nothing to do with this conversation except he probably STILL needs to do some work as well. Unmarried and making babies and doing ghetto poligamy.
This woman is definitely high functioning, she stays in the cut despite nen not being able to listen or receive her counsel. She stays with them and craftily steers them back to a safe place.
😒 sounds good and looks better but in real life, she’s not married, never been married, no children. Watching how she is with our men, it’s understandable. She’s telling these men what’s not working for them has she processed what’s not working for her since she is the only one of them without a family of her own?
@@Naomiisrael23Well at least she’s not creating broken homes like these men. Being married and having children guarantee nothing. You can have all that and be miserable. You’re projecting your feelings onto her.
@@lexihart1191 I did and she ain’t good sis. You see how she was calling him baby?! A grown ass man, calling him baby and he has about 12 babies of his own. wtf is that all about? Sexual manipulation. As many beautiful women do when they’re in the company of men of high caliber and wanna persuade them with their charm. She talks quickly and assertively to convince others that what she says is truth, and it’s necessarily not. She’s speaking from her perspective and because she has degrees folks are persuaded that what she speaks is all factual. Her dad was a drug dealer and her mom a drug addict, two ppl that have much game, preys on the weak, and street savvy enough to get what they want from those around them. She is a product of her environment. A Blk woman who feels confident enough to tell two accomplsihed Blk men on TV that what they are doing in their lives is wrong but she’s 41, never married no children )tho wants sum), and is willing to entertain a 27 year old young man to get a baby before death. She obviously doesn’t have her priorities in order. She obviously has done/is doing many wrong things. She’s been chasing money and fame over love and family, the things that matter most in life.
@Naomiisrael23 being married without children is not a disease or dishonor. Women's value doesn't come from laying on her back and popping out children. That mindset is low functioning
You can tell when he started shutting down....I hope he goes back and watches this when he's out of his feelings/emotions. He still has a lot of work to do 🤍 Doing the work doesn't mean being perfect, it's about Being Healthy. Message heard
The fact that he showed every ralking point she made was true is so telling. He laughed his way through it, yet he describes how he preys on women to manipulate them. Ladies, you have to be careful when dealing with men. It is in your best interest to have conversations in which their representative cannot thrive in. The mask has to come off.
There’s multiple ways of healing and it doesn’t all look the same just like everyone’s walk not the same. Iyanla did exceptionally for the space and people she connected too on that level. She helped me tremendously to start the ball rolling for my own intentionality aka accountability to create a plan of action to go further. That further was seeking more books, more deep diving into me, and more spiritual teachers etc ❤ she passed the baton to each of us let’s see what you do with it and the rest of us…
@Kingme1love In my opinion she coddles blk men way too much, never really holds them accountable, and makes a lot of excuses for them but is really short tempered and direct with blk w.
Whenever you have an emotional reaction to something that causes you to continuously cut someone off even in jest- it means they are triggering a part of you - it means they have entered into the zone of the things that you need to unlearn and further examine, but most people don’t want to do the work and instead want to settle on a lower vibration of life. This conversation was so beautiful to witness. I hope people are blessed by it and learn when they have to disconnect from things and move on to find the tribe, they are equally yoked to everyone deserves peace of mind. It was interesting to me to hear that Nick cast things upon the Lord, but then in the same breath, and with the same mind, also believes that the Lord would not provide for people who are operating at a higher vibration . Peace of mind is a reflection of self-love and should always come before your love of someone else, if someone’s love requires that your central nervous system be unregulated or comes with a side of manipulation- it isn’t healthy and probably attachment not love. Also a clear sign that is not the person for you it really is that simple. I have had the opportunity to travel, and while high vibration, people may be rare here in the United States that is not the case once you get on a plane.
By doing the healing work, you will attract other beings that are on the same vibration as you. Money, Fame, Power don’t equal “Healed or Value”. Low functioning people will continue to be low functioning together.
Of all the panels she been on talking with men Nick has been the only one that could keep up with her conversation. When she was talking to Cam Newton, I literally got secondhand embarrassment.
Him being comfortable bragging/joking on how mentally throwed off he is was very uncomfortable and concerning. The level of toxicity he indulges in is insane. I pray he gets some help and works towards changing. This year God is really revealing and bringing things to the light.
She definitely spoke to the little boy in Nick. But I appreciate her patience and grace when talking to men. Not degrading them but not watering the truth.
I mean i am taken away by this woman ability to comprehendsivly explain these common yet complicated emotions its almost as if she is inside my marriage.🤯🤯🤯🤯
Well Spoken Dr. Cheyenne! We need a Black Emotional Intelligence Conference nationwide to heal and reproduce Black Relationships with self, families, and significant others. There are too many broken Black men and women due to slavery and normalization of dysfunction. We have to change and swift our narrative!
Man Doc was on point!! You can’t say you emotionally intelligent or able to control your emotions then sit there and talk all over here like that. I do have so much respect for Nick tho cuz putting himself in the hot seat for everyone to see is not easy 👏🏽❤️
She was having conversation whilst Nick was busy trying to argue. Every time he spoke over her it was because he was triggered and probably didnt want to come to terms with the truth. He needed to do what she said "sit in your feelings" but was trying to avoid them by arguing (deflection)
The cup and the pint analogy was perfect. You could see the light go off in Nick's head when he finally realized what the Dr was trying to to say about him "fleeing" and being equally yolked. 👏🏾👏🏾
I’m glad to have therapy, books & tools to grow thru my low functioning stage. It lasted about two years & was emotionally difficult & caused me a lot of physical pain. So grateful for my will & commitment to grow!
Absolutely love this conversation and everything that transpired during the conversation. The Dr was very strategic, focused and direct in her approach. She used the power of touch when needed. There were so many teachable moments with all of the deflection that was present. This is a much much-needed conversation amongst our community. Nick, thank you for creating this courageous space to have vulnerable, sensitive & delicate conversations.
Nick Canon proved what most people thought of him by his action in this session and in real life, interrupting, laughing to annoyance, not listening. Listening works when you close your mouth and let the other person finish their point.
This was so annoying to watch because he wasn't listening to her. He was trying to make sense of ignorance, foolishness, immature broken behavior. Hopefully in part two he listen more to understand instead of deflecting and over talking
Hopefully 🤞🏽 he rewatches this and understands his defense mechanisms to help him be more receptive for part two. AND make a choice to do the massive work he needs to become ‘high-functioning’
This is crazy!! Watching Nick slide into his toxic mindset and response because he feels like there is "alot more company in this space" or everyone is this way so it's cool....no amount of money can heal...but it can make more resources available. So glad the Dr. identifies and breaks it down clearly.
Yeah it was something to watch wasn’t it? On a positive note, he’s brave enough to expose himself and have the conversation (he desperately needs to have). Whew! The difference between him and Cam (to me) is Nick’s platform is about healing and getting counseling. He said more than once “I’m on your couch…” Cam kept deflecting and even attempted to belittle and control her.
We've been praying for them, for centuries. They need to do the self work, mature and stop using these manipulative low vibrational ways to function as people in society. It has been damaging many faucets of our community long enough.
@@oneabove513 they need to but they won’t because their tricks are still working. woman need to be come less assessable to them and actually listen to how they really think and move accordingly so their tactics don’t work anymore
@@briannabaugh4232 I think some of us women need to stop falling for a man with just money and think that’s a good thing . We need to break the generational curses of our parents telling us find you a man with a job. Find you a man with some money, but they never tell us find a good man with a good heart and good emotional well-being.
Having watched all three parts, I can see that Nick is actually more receptive than Cam in his interview with Dr Bryant. Nick unravelled in this segment after he admitted to his abandonment issues, and his defence mechanism kicked in fully, Nick the entertainer and winner came into play, he deflected a lot, but he kept listening. I am glad he admitted to his toxicity. She touched a massive nerve especially when he got vulnerable about abandonment. But he knows he's on her couch and is open to actually hearing her to a degree, compared to Cam.
I'm always cautious of people who say "I've done the work." (past tense). The "work" never really ends. Even modern psychology doesn't condone outwardly in-validating one's opinion, especially on the persons platform. True emotional intelligence also breeds conversational respect and maturity.
Mr. Cannon says he created this platform "specifically for men to be vulnerable, and to be held accountable for what we say and what we do," so I believe it would be a great idea to bring more men on the show in a panel or other format along with Nick so that Dr. Bryant, Mother Iyanla, Dr. Umar and others guest can speak to different types of men about our issues.
Nick is so smart and dum @ the same time. I would be doing any and everything to make this woman mine. He’s actually sitting in front of someone he’s compatible with on many levels and seem to don’t even realize it. She’s a high functioning woman, smart, beautiful and would be an asset to any man. She challenges him in way that makes him uncomfortable but that’s when true growth happens when you actually have someone to sharpen your ideas. She’s a true gem.
My GOD today 😂😂😂 Nick is not listening to communicate, he is listening to defend and feels attacked here 😢… Simply put he doesn’t know what he doesn’t know. When it comes to emotionally intelligent high functioning, women. The thought of being alone and not manipulated is not a negative in the middle of the night. The women who cannot get out of their low functioning state alone and embrace the piece of solitude, security, and self-respect are the women he attracts. Everybody’s goal is not the same. For emotionally, intelligent, high functioning people the goal is to coexist in self peace with others. Not to conquer, confuse, avoid or control each other. You can’t do the same thing and expect different results, when having a heated discussion that might turn physical removing your physical self from the situation, will cause a compound trauma on top of the trauma of abandonment. Instead of trying to physically remove yourself try to mentally remove yourself and physically stay present. Calling a timeout in the middle of an argument, asking your partner to take 5 deep breath’s WITH YOU and then practice silence for an hour together. Let the emotions calm down and begin again. If in an hour, the emotions are still high, suggest waiting until the next day to talk again. If the emotions continue to stay high it’s just someone or both parties aren’t being heard and validated by the person they are trying to communicate with. At this point active listening is not being done. Practice active, listening without responding just receiving the information given. However leaving your partner at a level 10 in emotional pain is not the solution. That’s equivalent to going into the emergency room in labor and the doctor telling you to get it together before he proceeds. One of the greatest gifts of humanity is empathy. We all have the ability. 💚🧘🏾♀️
This is a great conversation. A lot of folks on Nick's head but he's open to what she is saying. The great thing about the premise of this show is that this is a counseling session -but it can be messy. Good job, Nick! ❤️
Such a powerful teaching tool. The avoidant behavior of laughing, joking, and clown deflection was very triggering. Many gems that ware valuable and nurturing for the growth and health of our community. Thanks for this.
This was an energy draining interview; Nick not listening did contribute to the exhaust, but her energy was too over powering. I subscribe to every one we come into contact with is a reflection of ourselve. And that is exactly what we witness.
Dr. Cheyenne I LOVE the wisdom you just shared. Nick next time please listen more to understand and not te react. This show is a good start tho. Nick as the comments state below we love seeing you holding yourself accountable.
As man who has a mom like this I love to see it. She remain calm and explained what she seen and he understood it was true but he didn’t like to wear it on his sleeves!! Good Counseling👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Nick was so uncomfortable by the truth . The fact that he sat there and admitted how he manipulates women to get them to where he needs them is scary . He’s insecure and proved every point she made !
Well done Dr. Cheyenne! This was honestly an incredible depiction of a high functioning individual interacting with a low functioning individual. A true demonstration of the concepts Doc was speaking on. I admire and send so much encouragement to Nick for placing himself in such a vulnerable position. His behavior really showcased deflection, avoidance, and self preservation perfectly.
Now THIS was night and day with Cam. Nick Definitely respects and has admiration for her. He listened and had respectful dialog... he wasn't shooting slugs and sparky remarks like Newton.
Attraction is energetic. It is like a tuning fork. Hitting one tuning fork makes other forks who are at the same frequency sing. It is frequency and vibration. She is exactly right on the attraction piece.
I came here after watching Cam Newton.. God Bless this smart and patient lady because these men she talks to…
My spirit animal....same, this lady is fearless
Me too. I found her on here and respect her approach
Me too
I've never seen someone muddy up a conversation quite like Nik
The patience that she displays is beyond remarkable!
The way she makes the little boy come out of toxic men is wild.
They get so insecure too.
It’s beautiful to witness lol
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When you’re a professional, and you actually care. Imagine that.
Right at 17:00 ! That little boy was running down the damn room!
Men like Nick think they are so hard to figure out. Every moment he interrupts this woman, as she gives her EXPERTISE, and tried to JOKE HIS WAY OUT OF IT: is his inner child fleeing. He’s literally proving her point. He’s literally behaving like a textbook narcissist! A high functioning man would be able to sit, listen and receive the lashing he set HIMSELF up for!
He and Cam newton are the type of men that bell hooks writes about.
He’s a grown boy that knows how to make money.
@@MaluTheDoulaclock ittttt
Ladies, I would like to inquire about your understanding of the concept of a high-functioning man. As a subject matter expert, I find it intriguing when women provide advice to men and expect specific reactions, despite not being men themselves. Conversely, when men offer professional or personal advice, they are often told that they cannot dictate a woman's response because they are not women. In my opinion, it is essential for men to receive guidance from other men in certain situations.
Dayum you are exact
The more I watch her interviews with high profile men of my Culture, the more I see that the men of my Culture have chased the BAG at the EXPENSE of putting their emotional intelligence, emotional health & healing on the back burner.
I hope you didn’t NEED this interview to prove that TO you?
@@OceanisInfinite relax
@@OceanisInfinite better to learn that here than to attract these type of Men and learn through experience. Are you okay?
Unfortunately, I feel it’s because that’s how men have been taught that’s what their worth is. They are also rewarded for it in society. In
My experience, I’ve also upheld that and less on character, and that’s where I’ve misstepped as a woman. I’m learning that now myself, as I learn my value, that’s not our value.
“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” - Matthew 6:21.
That part!!! 🎯🎯🎯
Dr. Bryant did not come to dim his light or hers. She came to psychoeducate, provide example and empower. Session complete.
Nick’s body language revealed the moment he started to flea even the conversation he was having on his own show. When this “high functioning woman” began to introduce him to himself in a “non-inflamed” exchange-- he wanted to exit soooo bad. (He turned his body from looking at her directly to looking completely away--she was chasing him for mere eye contact!) He didn’t appear to even realize his “lost of control” in his absolute desire to abandon the conversation sooo bad. The “little abandoned boy” showed up and felt cornered; he didn’t know how to pivot in a non- inflamed conversation with a high functioning woman. He actually looked like he felt tricked and betrayed.
wheewwwww you hit the nail on the head
Perfectly said
100%
You explained that so well
He did feel tricked, because he didn't expect her to come out here and read him and his lifestyle. He felt betrayed it happened on his own show, that she didn't hold back and she wasn't black male worshipping. She gave him compliments, but she didn't try to turn his lifestyle of broken homes into something other then what it was; which is dysfunctional.
Nick we know this was difficult but we appreciate you allowing yourself to be uncomfortable while we all get the lesson the doctor is delivering.
Agreed! His body language demonstrated how uncomfortable he was; yet I imagined help other men see themselves in him in order to learn
@@soniacasanova384Big Facts!! It was almost hard to watch. All the laying around, leaning sideways🤦🏾♂️ Receive the information and move on, Nick was defensive this whole interview.
Now his baby mama’s mamas & any new women need to be forewarned on how to move forward in the future with him.
She was spot on! A high functioning woman would not want any dealings with the likes of Nick. We care about our peace at the end of the day not a dumb private jet. The part about church also irked me because trying to manipulate a woman by using faith or church is what you don’t wanna do, you’ll be exposed every time. It’s very clear Nick has no clear idea who he is. He needs recurring appointments with Dr. Bryant or someone like her who will keep it real with him.
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Between Nick & Cam i need us black men to get on a higher frequency. The shoe is really fitting smh.
And it's sad because they are representing to the world and being role model to other young black men. That's what makes it so scary.
I think it starts with having real vulnerable conversations in our communities. My husband has really done the work and encourages deep conversations with his male friends. But not every man can go on that level. As women I think it's been more culturally acceptable for longer for us. But still depending on where and how you grew, a lot of women can't be truly vulnerable either. It's easy to stop at "so and so pissed me off." But we're not all able to process and articulate to the point of "when so and so did that, it made me feel like this or like I'm less than and it made me so angry because this is important to me."
Facts
Facts
Respect!
I need a therapist like Dr. Bryant..
Me too!
I wish I could afford her for my daughter
@@Bigwill4real2008she def seems credentialed, just based on the introduction and her long list of accomplishments/accolades in her field. Also to note, she said she need a therapist LIKE Dr. Bryant, not necessarily that she needs Dr. Bryant as HER therapist.
This type of tough love Dr. Bryant is coming with is exactly what women need to hear these days! Harsh truths from someone who seems like they care.
I am a 35 year old black man that has been married for 12 years this October. I am a firm believer in solving unresolved issues through rational discourse (which philosophy tells you that the love of wisdom must outweigh your feelings) but hearing how Dr.Bryant explained emotional intelligence as being non-malleable in your emotions is enlightening to me! I believe most men suffer from not wanting to do the work because they only find value in achieving women’s affection rather than long term partnership. Being a high earning man is all you need to attract a lot of women, and doing the work to become a high functioning man is outside the narrow minded goal of most men. I lost my mother at 5 years old, and I am an only child, which I feel led me to “10,000” hours of self reflection, which is why the work is appealing to me, but I can’t speak for most men since my personal situation is so unique. I’m definitely subscribing!🙏🏿
Sorry for your loss. I loved that 10,000 hours of self-reflection line. Cheers 😊
Such a well though out comment. Yes, keep doing that work and be your best self. Many blessings are coming to you!🙏🏽🙏🏽❣❣
So beautiful!!!!
Beautifully said….
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Brother man mentally left the conversation when the kitchen got hot. It’s hard when you’re the one being spotlighted. I’ve been there too brother man.
yes, he did. Its so interesting to watch this others. You can literally see him fighting to keep the toxic behavior he has normalized
It’s a fortune to have someone help you in this way, it’s okay to be uncomfortable to reach freedom in self and higher heights in life.
My god this was exhausting to listen to. He was TRIGGERED and DEFENSIVE. She’s communicating with a man child who doesn’t want to listen… protect her at all costs. He got read
At all costs
When she said "you mess with and pray on low functioning women"...that checked him in a way that he just could not handle. Cause she's right and he knows it
Not Nick having a show on counseling but not listening to counselor.
lol 😆
Fleeing 101
Painful to watch 😬
He is seen and he is triggered. Keeping quiet would help
She call his baby mothers low Function while being low Function as well. Lmao
Nick…silence is golden sometimes. Allow the expert to talk and allow your issue of “control” to take a back seat because you have an audience trying to learn.
It's not even control it's EGO! Him and Cam's ego define them. Their status, their money and their children validate them.. without their would be dangerous
I feel like for him to be quite we would not have learnt anything because the point would not been proven by the Dr
@@Sibongiseni_rsafacts
@@Sibongiseni_rsa Exatly !! Dr Cheyenne Bryant was not there for a perfect Nick
@@NSiya84or a pretend Nick
Oh she went in! Nick didn't realize he kept proving her points! Lol
He was too busy trying to distract us from the truth to be aware of the face that he started exhibiting those narcissistic behaviors OUT LOUD.
😮 we just met Nick for the first time. This explains why he works so much. Money = Control
But that is the social standard for men.
@@Sibongiseni_rsamen created that social standard so MEN should change it, start doing the work man.
@@britt9153wrong, the consumer sets the market. Ladies have to buy what men are selling for it to be considered valuable or rare. Women made money the metric to judge a man’s worth. Him and cam both came off emotionally broken and even still they both were able to attract and control multiple beautiful intelligent low functioning women! It’s sad but true!
This exchange is poweful!!! Because this is how some black men act!! And she’s “holding him accountable” and making him sit in it!!! This is GOOD
“You are surviving not thriving.”
felt that one
Yeah came here after the Cam New interview. She's profound!
Girl….
He doesn’t even realize that he is so low vibrational so in his root chakra.
Slap that on a t shirt 👕 cause chile the way that hit my spirit
This is so enlightening. This explains exactly while people choose singleness and peace rather than functioning on a lower level just to have someone. Being single doesn’t feel so bad when you can see exactly how someone manipulates just to “get what they want.”
Right…it doesn’t take long to recognize who’s who when you’re doing the work. I cannot believe he admitted to being manipulating and was proud of it 😑
Agreed
"You wont have an opportunity to get hostile with me, and you may wanna flee," was actually happening in real time as he attempted to get hostile with Dr. Bryant.
Only 20 minutes in and it’s one of the best conversations I’ve ever heard
facts lol
This conversation shows why WE aren’t married. These are the men we encounter. No accountability, content with who they are, and never want the woman to be right. #welose
She can be emotionally intelligent, feminine, gorgeous, all that… and the man will still not want to receive her message. She’s trying to lift him up. Help him see how to get out of his own way. How to acknowledge areas of himself that need improvement. However, he’s defending, deflecting, and contradicting himself just to try to be right. Smh smh
Very true! Sad AF
And you let them be them and walk when you see your way
I agree wholeheartedly with your statement. Just understand self-accountability is a 2 way street and a large portion of women avoid it like the plague. Peace and blessings 💙.
Wow just to see Mr Cannon get upset because she said he could NOT get a woman of her caliber really made him show his true self. I’m so glad she stayed in her integrity and explained.
I think he got so upset that he literally tried to belittle her.
Wow Nick keep on your healing journey
So what makes deeray better then him?
@@Tone22845Nothing
@@Tone22845she’s not better than him. She is more emotionally intelligent than him. She is healed!
@@shaniashanea4279 my point was deeray had her. So it's not impossible for nick to get a female of her caliber. Ya'll 🤡's see someone with a show & think they're Jesus almighty & yall don't know them from a can of paint
@@Tone22845she admitted certain men had her when she was unhealed and hadn't done the work. That's why she gave back two rings and called off two weddings. Deeray has nothing to do with this conversation except he probably STILL needs to do some work as well. Unmarried and making babies and doing ghetto poligamy.
This woman is EVERYTHING!!! The world needs to see more of her❤
🎯🎯🎯That part!
Emotional intelligence and emotional resilience should be talked about in relationships more frequently.
This woman is definitely high functioning, she stays in the cut despite nen not being able to listen or receive her counsel. She stays with them and craftily steers them back to a safe place.
😒 sounds good and looks better but in real life, she’s not married, never been married, no children.
Watching how she is with our men, it’s understandable. She’s telling these men what’s not working for them has she processed what’s not working for her since she is the only one of them without a family of her own?
@@Naomiisrael23Well at least she’s not creating broken homes like these men. Being married and having children guarantee nothing. You can have all that and be miserable. You’re projecting your feelings onto her.
@@Naomiisrael23you must’ve not listened to anything she said 😭😭😭
@@lexihart1191 I did and she ain’t good sis. You see how she was calling him baby?! A grown ass man, calling him baby and he has about 12 babies of his own. wtf is that all about? Sexual manipulation. As many beautiful women do when they’re in the company of men of high caliber and wanna persuade them with their charm.
She talks quickly and assertively to convince others that what she says is truth, and it’s necessarily not. She’s speaking from her perspective and because she has degrees folks are persuaded that what she speaks is all factual.
Her dad was a drug dealer and her mom a drug addict, two ppl that have much game, preys on the weak, and street savvy enough to get what they want from those around them.
She is a product of her environment.
A Blk woman who feels confident enough to tell two accomplsihed Blk men on TV that what they are doing in their lives is wrong but she’s 41, never married no children )tho wants sum), and is willing to entertain a 27 year old young man to get a baby before death. She obviously doesn’t have her priorities in order. She obviously has done/is doing many wrong things.
She’s been chasing money and fame over love and family, the things that matter most in life.
@Naomiisrael23 being married without children is not a disease or dishonor. Women's value doesn't come from laying on her back and popping out children. That mindset is low functioning
When she said “Ima go there”. I leaned forward
DR Cheyenne Bryant, PLEASE GET YOUR OWN PODCAST and SHOW!!!
You can tell when he started shutting down....I hope he goes back and watches this when he's out of his feelings/emotions. He still has a lot of work to do 🤍 Doing the work doesn't mean being perfect, it's about Being Healthy. Message heard
Wow! She needs her own podcast!
The fact that he showed every ralking point she made was true is so telling. He laughed his way through it, yet he describes how he preys on women to manipulate them. Ladies, you have to be careful when dealing with men. It is in your best interest to have conversations in which their representative cannot thrive in. The mask has to come off.
Even if you have thousand conversations, they will lie. Nick just said he's toxic but knows how to hide it very well and that's most men.
It had to be said. Nick's body language is all over the place.
Now THIS is how we needed Iylana to come in and handle business!!!!!
Oooh...I know, right🤔💯
There’s multiple ways of healing and it doesn’t all look the same just like everyone’s walk not the same. Iyanla did exceptionally for the space and people she connected too on that level. She helped me tremendously to start the ball rolling for my own intentionality aka accountability to create a plan of action to go further. That further was seeking more books, more deep diving into me, and more spiritual teachers etc ❤ she passed the baton to each of us let’s see what you do with it and the rest of us…
Right!😂
@Kingme1love In my opinion she coddles blk men way too much, never really holds them accountable, and makes a lot of excuses for them but is really short tempered and direct with blk w.
Straight up
Whenever you have an emotional reaction to something that causes you to continuously cut someone off even in jest- it means they are triggering a part of you - it means they have entered into the zone of the things that you need to unlearn and further examine, but most people don’t want to do the work and instead want to settle on a lower vibration of life. This conversation was so beautiful to witness. I hope people are blessed by it and learn when they have to disconnect from things and move on to find the tribe, they are equally yoked to everyone deserves peace of mind. It was interesting to me to hear that Nick cast things upon the Lord, but then in the same breath, and with the same mind, also believes that the Lord would not provide for people who are operating at a higher vibration . Peace of mind is a reflection of self-love and should always come before your love of someone else, if someone’s love requires that your central nervous system be unregulated or comes with a side of manipulation- it isn’t healthy and probably attachment not love. Also a clear sign that is not the person for you it really is that simple. I have had the opportunity to travel, and while high vibration, people may be rare here in the United States that is not the case once you get on a plane.
By doing the healing work, you will attract other beings that are on the same vibration as you. Money, Fame, Power don’t equal “Healed or Value”. Low functioning people will continue to be low functioning together.
Of all the panels she been on talking with men Nick has been the only one that could keep up with her conversation. When she was talking to Cam Newton, I literally got secondhand embarrassment.
Yeah Nick wasn’t ready for this. This Woman was preaching the Gospel fr!
Him being comfortable bragging/joking on how mentally throwed off he is was very uncomfortable and concerning. The level of toxicity he indulges in is insane. I pray he gets some help and works towards changing. This year God is really revealing and bringing things to the light.
NICK…LISTEN TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING!!! Everything isn’t a joke.
She definitely spoke to the little boy in Nick. But I appreciate her patience and grace when talking to men. Not degrading them but not watering the truth.
Nick shut up and listen with your ears not your mouth i love this conversation
Nick was listening to respond … and she was spilling truth
And Cam turned around and did the same thing. Smh
I mean i am taken away by this woman ability to comprehendsivly explain these common yet complicated emotions its almost as if she is inside my marriage.🤯🤯🤯🤯
The ankles out with the size 14 glitter shoes is killing me 😒🤦🏽♂️
😂😂
Long, sparkly and distracting for what?😂
Reminds me of roll bounce "You got a size 17 back there B Nard" 🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Well Spoken Dr. Cheyenne! We need a Black Emotional Intelligence Conference nationwide to heal and reproduce Black Relationships with self, families, and significant others. There are too many broken Black men and women due to slavery and normalization of dysfunction. We have to change and swift our narrative!
Yesss Lord!!
Man Doc was on point!! You can’t say you emotionally intelligent or able to control your emotions then sit there and talk all over here like that. I do have so much respect for Nick tho cuz putting himself in the hot seat for everyone to see is not easy 👏🏽❤️
She was having conversation whilst Nick was busy trying to argue. Every time he spoke over her it was because he was triggered and probably didnt want to come to terms with the truth. He needed to do what she said "sit in your feelings" but was trying to avoid them by arguing (deflection)
The cup and the pint analogy was perfect. You could see the light go off in Nick's head when he finally realized what the Dr was trying to to say about him "fleeing" and being equally yolked. 👏🏾👏🏾
I’m glad to have therapy, books & tools to grow thru my low functioning stage. It lasted about two years & was emotionally difficult & caused me a lot of physical pain. So grateful for my will & commitment to grow!
Nick really Kirked out on this one 😂. The Dr. Did what she came to do... and Nicks reaction exemplified that!
Those emotions were completely unhinged.. it was very cringe to witness but was needed
Dr Bryant is amazing the way she handeled the conversation! I would have been triggered so many times! She's so inspiring
Absolutely love this conversation and everything that transpired during the conversation. The Dr was very strategic, focused and direct in her approach. She used the power of touch when needed. There were so many teachable moments with all of the deflection that was present. This is a much much-needed conversation amongst our community. Nick, thank you for creating this courageous space to have vulnerable, sensitive & delicate conversations.
Nick Canon proved what most people thought of him by his action in this session and in real life, interrupting, laughing to annoyance, not listening. Listening works when you close your mouth and let the other person finish their point.
Coming here after that tik tok clip
Me too!!
Same
“She don’t know I’m toxic yet!” 😂
And he believed he was saying something 😮
This was so annoying to watch because he wasn't listening to her. He was trying to make sense of ignorance, foolishness, immature broken behavior. Hopefully in part two he listen more to understand instead of deflecting and over talking
Hopefully 🤞🏽 he rewatches this and understands his defense mechanisms to help him be more receptive for part two. AND make a choice to do the massive work he needs to become ‘high-functioning’
Exactly... he was Hella annoying. She touched nerves that's why he was fidgety, defensive and making jokes.
I agree
He did not deal with abandonment he started dealing in what he was served. Perpetuating the pain he suffered. Broken. 😞
Here after the Cam Newton interview. They seem to be doing the same. Leading with ego and money. Also looking for validation.
time never heals all wounds. it only suppresses when it is never delt with it.
This is crazy!! Watching Nick slide into his toxic mindset and response because he feels like there is "alot more company in this space" or everyone is this way so it's cool....no amount of money can heal...but it can make more resources available. So glad the Dr. identifies and breaks it down clearly.
You could see him go back and forth for sure.
Yeah it was something to watch wasn’t it?
On a positive note, he’s brave enough to expose himself and have the conversation (he desperately needs to have). Whew!
The difference between him and Cam (to me) is Nick’s platform is about healing and getting counseling. He said more than once “I’m on your couch…”
Cam kept deflecting and even attempted to belittle and control her.
This conversation was uncomfortable and healthy at the same time. Without discomfort there’s no growth!!!! Good job Dr Bryant!!
She read him down! This was really good!
His response indicates where his vibrations are functioning.
We need to pray for our men , 😢thank you doc for bringing this to the brightest light .
We've been praying for them, for centuries. They need to do the self work, mature and stop using these manipulative low vibrational ways to function as people in society. It has been damaging many faucets of our community long enough.
@@oneabove513 they need to but they won’t because their tricks are still working. woman need to be come less assessable to them and actually listen to how they really think and move accordingly so their tactics don’t work anymore
I have moved on from them completely
@@briannabaugh4232 I think some of us women need to stop falling for a man with just money and think that’s a good thing . We need to break the generational curses of our parents telling us find you a man with a job. Find you a man with some money, but they never tell us find a good man with a good heart and good emotional well-being.
No ❤
Having watched all three parts, I can see that Nick is actually more receptive than Cam in his interview with Dr Bryant. Nick unravelled in this segment after he admitted to his abandonment issues, and his defence mechanism kicked in fully, Nick the entertainer and winner came into play, he deflected a lot, but he kept listening. I am glad he admitted to his toxicity. She touched a massive nerve especially when he got vulnerable about abandonment. But he knows he's on her couch and is open to actually hearing her to a degree, compared to Cam.
Fleeing is not always sabotaging. Sometimes it’s necessary to avoid a definitive dangerous situation. But fleeing as the only strategy is sabotaging.
I'm always cautious of people who say "I've done the work." (past tense). The "work" never really ends.
Even modern psychology doesn't condone outwardly in-validating one's opinion, especially on the persons platform.
True emotional intelligence also breeds conversational respect and maturity.
Mr. Cannon says he created this platform "specifically for men to be vulnerable, and to be held accountable for what we say and what we do," so I believe it would be a great idea to bring more men on the show in a panel or other format along with Nick so that Dr. Bryant, Mother Iyanla, Dr. Umar and others guest can speak to different types of men about our issues.
Will take too long and others do somthing like that already
She's a PRO! She always cosplays the resolve, including herself. It gives the example of what he'll actually have to do with another!!🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Nick is so smart and dum @ the same time. I would be doing any and everything to make this woman mine. He’s actually sitting in front of someone he’s compatible with on many levels and seem to don’t even realize it. She’s a high functioning woman, smart, beautiful and would be an asset to any man. She challenges him in way that makes him uncomfortable but that’s when true growth happens when you actually have someone to sharpen your ideas. She’s a true gem.
Yesss same thing I said!
She’s good for him but he’s emotionally immature for her
He’s not good for her. He’s not willing to change and refuses to take accountability
His "smart" is all superficial.
@@nylianicole22Right! I'm here after the Cam Newton interview with her and she said she doesn't date men with kids let alone 8. Cam was heated 😂
Dr. Bryant is spot on. Nick has done a lot of amazing things but the version of him that is unhealed is STILL MANIFESTING IS SO MANY WAYS
My GOD today 😂😂😂 Nick is not listening to communicate, he is listening to defend and feels attacked here 😢… Simply put he doesn’t know what he doesn’t know. When it comes to emotionally intelligent high functioning, women. The thought of being alone and not manipulated is not a negative in the middle of the night. The women who cannot get out of their low functioning state alone and embrace the piece of solitude, security, and self-respect are the women he attracts. Everybody’s goal is not the same. For emotionally, intelligent, high functioning people the goal is to coexist in self peace with others. Not to conquer, confuse, avoid or control each other. You can’t do the same thing and expect different results, when having a heated discussion that might turn physical removing your physical self from the situation, will cause a compound trauma on top of the trauma of abandonment. Instead of trying to physically remove yourself try to mentally remove yourself and physically stay present. Calling a timeout in the middle of an argument, asking your partner to take 5 deep breath’s WITH YOU and then practice silence for an hour together. Let the emotions calm down and begin again. If in an hour, the emotions are still high, suggest waiting until the next day to talk again. If the emotions continue to stay high it’s just someone or both parties aren’t being heard and validated by the person they are trying to communicate with. At this point active listening is not being done. Practice active, listening without responding just receiving the information given. However leaving your partner at a level 10 in emotional pain is not the solution. That’s equivalent to going into the emergency room in labor and the doctor telling you to get it together before he proceeds. One of the greatest gifts of humanity is empathy. We all have the ability. 💚🧘🏾♀️
WELL SAID SIS!!!! 💜
@@dr.cheyennebryant5066 thank you for your voice in this space 🫰🏾
Ain’t nobody reading all that shit!!!
@@PremierLeagueProductions I did @lady2is2, and it was very well said. Very insightful. An evidence based approach 👏🏿
She is right no woman of God and high moral standers, would be with him the way he thinks about woman.
This is a great conversation. A lot of folks on Nick's head but he's open to what she is saying. The great thing about the premise of this show is that this is a counseling session -but it can be messy. Good job, Nick! ❤️
I wish he would allow her to finish! She is giving great advice ❤
This was a great conversation. I am so glad that Nick sat through this and was open to receive. I pray that he continues to heal on this journey.
Such a powerful teaching tool. The avoidant behavior of laughing, joking, and clown deflection was very triggering. Many gems that ware valuable and nurturing for the growth and health of our community. Thanks for this.
This conversation left me emotional, gave clarity and so much to impact. I definitely saw myself. Thank you both
The tool is emotional intelligence that helps people handle conflict without fleeing (assuming that both are working on it).
A real woman motivates a whole nation 💪
🗣️OH MY GOODNESS THIS WAS SO GOOD!!! Thank you Nick and Dr. Bryant for this. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This was an energy draining interview; Nick not listening did contribute to the exhaust, but her energy was too over powering. I subscribe to every one we come into contact with is a reflection of ourselve. And that is exactly what we witness.
Dr. Cheyenne I LOVE the wisdom you just shared. Nick next time please listen more to understand and not te react. This show is a good start tho. Nick as the comments state below we love seeing you holding yourself accountable.
As man who has a mom like this I love to see it. She remain calm and explained what she seen and he understood it was true but he didn’t like to wear it on his sleeves!! Good Counseling👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I appreciate Nick releasing this.
Another one bites the dust! Hail Dr. Bryant 👸🏽
Nick was so uncomfortable by the truth . The fact that he sat there and admitted how he manipulates women to get them to where he needs them is scary . He’s insecure and proved every point she made !
Open your mind and heart Nick this lady it speaking truth to power, she is awesome.
She's on point with everything she said! I love it I love it !!!!
Well done Dr. Cheyenne! This was honestly an incredible depiction of a high functioning individual interacting with a low functioning individual. A true demonstration of the concepts Doc was speaking on. I admire and send so much encouragement to Nick for placing himself in such a vulnerable position. His behavior really showcased deflection, avoidance, and self preservation perfectly.
She is on 🔥🔥🔥 Fire.
Peace of mind... like can we just have a conversation.🤷🏾♀️
Now THIS was night and day with Cam. Nick Definitely respects and has admiration for her. He listened and had respectful dialog... he wasn't shooting slugs and sparky remarks like Newton.
I'm going to give Nick the respect of being transparent and representing what he represents in all that entails.
Nick handled this interview A LOT better than Cam did. Great discussion.
Dr Bryant you are amazing. Thanks for sharing her Mr. Cannon
She damn near had him laying down on that couch. So good.
Nick pissing me off not letting her speak 😭😭😭
This Goddess handled herself superb! And love Nick for putting his ego aside and listening ❤ chef’s kiss fah this! ❤❤❤
Love this episode!
I need to watch it again.
The emotional energy is so high I'm distracted.
Part II please.
Attraction is energetic. It is like a tuning fork. Hitting one tuning fork makes other forks who are at the same frequency sing. It is frequency and vibration. She is exactly right on the attraction piece.
She is so right with this one because i'm the type to do what Nick say and it never help
Such a healthy convo for black men and sistas too. Least we know what to work on !