That's not your mother responsibility she did not put her in prison or on drugs your sister is grown not a child she need learn to be responsible for her own actions
🗣️Toxic mothers are not discussed enough, especially in the Black community. We always hear the saying…”You only get one mother”…and a select few of us are happy because another one like that one would be too much! If you can’t relate, consider yourself lucky! 💯
@@kaykay757a omg! I feel u. My mother has great children. Everyone handles they business plus. But when things don't go her way she's hits below the belt. I still experience things and I'm grown. Ppl don't see that side of her....all I hear is oh thats your mother. That doesn't help!
@@kaykay757a I agree💯 🎯. I know it all too well. You are attacked as an adult child who speaks truth to toxic mothers. I FINALLY went no contact 7 yrs ago. My mother ONLY contacts me to ATTEMPT to manipulate; ACT as IF she wants a relationship when SHE want something or wants me to do something for her. I'm hated because I don't give in to my boundaries.
@@kaykay757a That’s a lie. The only one who is blamed and held accountable are Black mothers…toxic or not. You are talking about White TV mothers who are given “You only get one mother.”
Trust me, as a white man, the black men do nothing but talk about their mommy issues, and that’s why majority don’t like black women, attitude of their moms 😂
I'm here right now! Yknow what's funny... even me keeping my peace n keeping to myself has become a problem now! But i'll never apologize for my boundries! Seriously!
It’s so refreshing to hear his story and know I’m not alone. I haven’t spoken to my mother in over 17 years. This is a woman that is never happy of my achievements and constantly comparing me to my siblings. I remember buying her gifts at Christmas and she wouldn’t even open them. Years later the unopened gift is left on her dresser. She would give me the silent treatment for weeks because I wanted to be a Christian. When I graduated from College she said she wasn’t going to attend because I invited my biological father to attend. When I got my first corporate job she asked me if it’s a graduate job because my sibling has a graduate job. When I told her it wasn’t, she didn’t even say congratulations. Toxic mothers are draining and it’s only by God’s grace that my mental health was not shattered.
@@Faircafe98 I'm dealing, with that with my Sister, towards my Daughter. She's very mean spirited towards my baby. My daughter said something today, wherever, I go and see her next time and, she tries to start something, I will tell her to keep her love to herself. It's already enough of that going around. Let's spread Joy, Love.Peace. I Dam near droped, the mike listening to her speak.I thank God for healing 💯🙏
I too was told my mom almost aborted me. It was in a conversation about my father and their relationship. Being birthed between two selfish parents has been extremely difficult and harder to process. What I have learned is 1. They're not my responsibility 2. I'm meant to live in peace and not pieces.
He still hurting 😢 Praying for his healing ❤ Whoever sees this. Know you’re going to make it! Cause you’re alive to see this comment. You’re prayed over. Everyone here you made it! @Phinestro
Kirk is a HURTING MAN and sadly he's been HURTING DEEPLY WITHIN for quite a while. He carries this hurt in his FACE and in his eyes, it's affected the way he speaks and communicates. He's in a lot of pain and it's sad. 🙏🏾
I used to tell my family all the time, my Mother didn't like me. From a child she didn't like me and I never understood why. I'm 46 and we're still not ok. It's quite sad but apparently, it made me a loving, caring mother to my 4. I felt everything Kirk was saying.
True. Cam missed the opportunity to express that. This interview thing is a gift. I can see Shannon offering him a box of tissue and giving him the moment of silence that he needed.
The devil only comes thru who u love.if Jesus save us we belong to our spiritual father.for they know not what they do.we have to forgive so they can't break us
Unfortunately, there are mothers who will always choose a man before their own children. Lonely, broken people who choose self always. Forgive and let them go.
@@bluflamewowlyout1943 I don't know you of course, but may I encourage you? When you seek a personal relationship with God, He helps you to forgive and let go. If not, those who hurt you would have moved on from their offense, leaving you broken. As for you, your pain will manifest in unhealthy and self-sabotaging ways. Seek faith based therapy and seek God's face even more. Blessings.
I found my Mama's body Jan 2 this year. She abused me in every way, I have cigarette burn marks from her. Thank God for my Daddy. When she left him she only abused me, I'm the oldest. She let her brothers molest me. Fast forward I'm a college graduate and do a lot for children, homeless, etc. I never had children because I was afraid of what would happen to them. I'm 50 now and grieving her, finding her, her not loving me and I was never enough. 2 degrees with a 3.8 GPA just NEVER ENOUGH. I forgive her, I even took her Dvds she borrowed back to the Library. All praises to the Most High, Ancestors and my Daddy Simeon Yoab Israel. Yah Guide ❤
there are so many toxic mothers out there, narcissists, jealous , controlling, turning other family members against children , lying , abusive and putting men before children particularly before their daughters. Its really is sad because the impact on a child is damaging and our community is good at covering this behaviour up , not talking about things and quick to blame the child…. But God is our refuge.
AMEN AMEN AMEN,,My mother tried to #KILL me with #VOODOO because It was proven by #DNA test Who my Biological father was n because I developed a Relationship with him She Also went around n told #Sooooooooo many Lies on me n turn Sooooooo many relatives, friends n other people Against me n She sat back n laughed about it 🎉
But women R automatically built 2 B moms No matter what U say, what a woman does 2 create a life deserves enough credit 2 B able 2 handle some negativity U CANT BUILD MUSCLES WITHOUT SWEAT
“‘I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. Your enemies will be right in your own household!’” Matthew 10:35-36 NLT
@@shamioshi umm context, yes it does. The context here is this scripture talks about believers vs non believers and how they’d treat you for turning to Jesus. Is Kirk’s mom acting Christ like? No, as a matter of fact, I’d be willing to bet she’s not even married to that man in the Lord’s eye due to previous marriages. As a matter of fact, the man that she’s married to even said to Kirk ‘I thought you were a Christian, you need to talk to your mom more.’ Scripture is very relevant and used appropriately 🤡
@@amastone3644we also have to learn to teach the kids about having unprotected sexual relationships and how babies are made. We will tell them not to have sexual relations but we don’t give them the information needed to prevent unwanted pregnancies and diseases.
As of late, Kirk Franklin has earned my respect and appreciation. The transparency and honesty he displays gives me a newfound respect for him and hope for my healing process. Thank you Mr. Franklin 🙏🏾
Yall remember this is a Christian that was addicted 2 porn I don’t doubt he’s hurt from his mom, TELLING the world their business is TRASH WOMEN have saved so many reputations by holding N the pain & trauma they’ve experienced Males R supposed 2 B stronger & yet R weaker N all facets outside of physical strength If all women told the truths about all the males, guys like diddy & Kirk Franklin, if U know U know, would never have been successful
At age 10, the oldest of 5 children. My mother constantly told me she hated me, she wished I was never born, she wished i run away, she wished I leave and never come back. At age 61, I can still see the demonic hate in her eyes and face.I was a low self-esteem child to adult. 😢 she used me for all my $$$$. She told me only reson why men liked me because I was light skin. It took to age 40 to break away. I moved 3 county away and never looked back. My job was not to make her love me.
Thank you Kirk Franklin. Kirk was my youth minister in Los Angeles (Faithful Central) over a decade ago and he was so amazingly loving, understanding, positive and he would always encourage me to overcome my dad wounds, because he could relate, having mother wound. I still appreciate every hug, smile, kiss on the cheek and kind act.
Everytime I hear about his upbringing. I feel so sad for the little boy inside of him. He is beyond the nurturing at this point. The little boy in him is forever shattered. 😢
@@sharonguyton9119 I agree with you. This is a description of his present state, but not a prediction of his future. What no man can do, God can. No one is beyond the transformational power of the Healer, Jesus Christ, our Lord. I pray for His restoration of his life in this area.
We are all in this together. I'm 41 found out my father wasn't my father last November. I haven't spoken to my mother since then. She did the same thing Kirk's mother did. She said the test was fake and all that dumb ass shit. Then she had the nerve to try and convince my son the test was fake. My father said that the test was real and she needed to tell the truth. She still hasn't told the truth and never will. The sad part is an aunt made mention of it and the man's name who was supposed to be my father about 10 years ago. I didn't act on it because my cousin had just passed also and I was grieving. My father said he wasn't going to change me because we were both lied to and it was not our fault. The same aunt mentioned it again last year and I asked my dad again this time I said I wanted a DNA test and he agreed. Sadly, they allowed my father to pay Child support knowing he was being lied on. They act like they are scared of her because she does all that cursing etc the same aunt became a closed lip and she dropped the bomb and it was verified. I'm not scared of her so she doesn't play with me. She has always favored my sister but I was the one she ran to for money. I cut ties with them all and I have been at peace enjoying life. What I learned is this, if you condone that type of behavior and deal with a person who has messed over so many people you are just like her so I let them devils have each other.
My heart goes out to you as someone who can definitely relate to whole lot of your experience. Mine had me as a teenager, turned to drugs and abandoned me and my sister. Now my dad did the same but he eventually got clean and took accountability. Not her. She continues to lie and act like she did nothing wrong. And like yours will give the world to my sister who basically uses her while slandering me to anybody that will listen. I've had to cut mine out of my life also and my only regret is not doing so years ago. Praying for your continued peace and prosperity, and all the good things you deserve out of this life!!
@@tarasanders1295 thank you. Sorry, you are going through this as well. My mother would do the same thing slander me to anyone that would listen and lie when I confronted her about it. It’s sad that she would go sit at her sister's house and slander me also telling all types of lies when I barked and talked to her ass. Her sister told me everything but didn't say what she said it takes two to talk. I cut everyone off they weren’t helping me in any way nothing at all. I was beneficial to them so I don't miss the mess at all. It was mess seems like every other week something was said and that's been going on all my life. I told them if you are going to say anything about me you better tell people I'm on ish house cars etc and never asked anyone for damn things. See they don't tell what you was doing for them.
My mother was mean and very abusive, and when she found out that my stepfather had SA me, she blamed me... the child. She chose him over me. I joined the military after graduation, served 20 years, and never looked back. My stepfather recently died and guess who showed up at my door? She claimed that she missed me but within a a few hours she asked to move in, I said no. She abused me as a child and chose the devil over her own daughter, now that the devil has died she expects me to open my arms to her. I come from a close-knit southern family and there are several who are upset with me because they feel it's my responsibility to take care of her, simply because she's my mother. I dont agree. I am the victim of her cruelty, abuse and took the blame for what my stepfather did to me. If I am wrong...I pray that god forgives me.
Forgive every one but it doesn’t mean you have to let them back in your life. Some people are toxic and they won’t change, but you still can’t forgive them. Happy life without them.
@@sailormade2 the Bible says don’t cast your pearls to pigs. And if it offends you cut it off and that can mean people as well. Bless up Sis! You didnt let it hinder your success.
See, the thing is they will surely reap what the sow! Even if it hits them in their old age, "consequence" will meet them in the future when they least expect it!
I had tears in my eyes ready to fall but then Cam in strong at 6:57 and took me out omg lmbo! This story isnt funny but Cam knowing when it was time to speak up really brought me pride! Cam knows wassup!
This interview was so powerful!! There are many parallels between his story and my family. I'm a middle child, and there are 4 of us ( siblings) left . Our mother is at the point of dementia and I'm trying so hard to pull the family together to assist with taking care of her while she's in her final stages. I can't help but understand their , ( my siblings) dis- connect when it comes to prioritizing, and sacrificing for our mother the way I do. Please pray for my strength as I remove her from the Nursing home for her to spend the rest of her days left at home with family.❤ P.s.. I feel the same way, she made a lot of mistakes while raising me but if it wasn't for her I would not be here.🧘💕
@thirdworlduniversityllc9084 Besutifully stated! You may nvr receive an apology or thank you from your mother. But God sees your heart and will reward you abundantly. Colossians 3:23
I love Cam for saying what Kirk wanted to say. Cause I personally would have said it with my chest and stand on business. Some people pretend like Christians are perfect. Bruh we have moments and issues too. Thank you for this dialogue.
Kirk Franklin is a gift from God. as a Mexican kid growing up in south Central LA and Fresno, California. I have seen the effects of a broken and hurt family it is rough out here. Shot out to Cam for this hope people can start healing and helping to heal
Kirk's mother was 12 years old when she had him. IMO, he just realized that she doesn't have the capacity to be a nurturing mother. I think she has so many mental issues from being so young. And who knows what happened. I've talked with a lot of older women who say they had no say-so when it came to their bodies. That's where the saying she's in the family's way' come from. It is great to see Kirk talking about his life. Because there is still time for healing. And it's going to help more ppl.
Wow 12 years old 😮😮😮😮She wasn’t even a teenager yet. They sure she wasn’t taken advantage of…….She needs some counseling herself. She may have some mental issues going on…..that was passed to his oldest son.
Kirk is correct when he stated he wasn’t the only one I’m a witness to that true statement. My mother hated me to the point she tried to have me killed I was 19, I was 27 when I received a phone call from the man that she hired. He said that we needed to talk, we spent two hours on the phone and he told me every detail, he told me guilt ate at him when he left our house he shot himself and still carries that bullet in him to this day. The hate that my mother had for me she spreaded it to my half sister and brother. When she died I felt nothing I tried to cry but I couldn’t, I stood by her coffin and said all I every wanted was a huge and to hear her say I love you.
Imagine if you had sought the Lord to learn the root of her pain and condition. It helped me understand why my mom showed me so much hatred. It was spiritual and God gives us authority to intercede so they can get free and he can deliver us from the pain of the rejection. I pray for your healing❤
@@damonsmith7661 Well The Living GOD holds Parents to a Higher Standard and WILL BE JUDGED as So .... Parents have a MORAL OBLIGATION by the Maker of Life and Breath , so No They ARE NOT like the Children We Bare .
I understand what Kirk has gone through , because I was emotionally abused by a narcissistic mother all my life even recently. I respect her as my parent but I just decided to stop our conversations which she constantly stab me with hurting words. Her name is Gertrude and she's 98 years old and I'm 68 years old and damaged beyond repair. I love my Lord and Savior because he saved me.
I was crushed when I found out my mother was going to abort my sister and put me up for adoption to get back with my brothers father. She was his side chick in high school and he was married to his high school sweetheart at the time? Make that make sense.
Praying for your healing. 2023 was a year...God revealed my birth father the month I turned 50. My mother stayed in touch with him, however told me she thought my father was another man who was killed in 1974, 4 months after I was born. My father and I took a Legal DNA, and every since we met on September 3, 2023 he fully accepted me and we are thick as theives. I started a mobile DNA business as a result of mine and Kirk Franklin's experience to help other people find the truth. ❤🎉🙏🏾
How do u know?.I love to hear people's stories❤️ I have the deepest heart for this..for victims of a hurt u can barely describe. U are strong baby. U are here. Blessings
@@Mygirls3-l7x quick story. Mom pregnant at 15. Addicted to drugs by 21; child abused sexually and mentally until 12 when I moved in with Grandparents; mother was suffering from manic depression and never got services for her many issues until she had a stroke and was diagnosed. I’m 47 now. I have forgiven but I made a choice not to have children due to trauma.
Not a fan of Franklin's. But, this definitely allowed me to see the human side of him as a person. I feel and understand his pain. Indeed, You can't give them everything or else they will break you completely. May God heal his pain. In Jesus name.
It's possible but it is also possible she has a mental illness because she is unable to tell the truth yet play victim and become combative when she is exposed
You can see that it still hurts. Forgiving someone who hurts you is tough! Prayerfully, God blesses him and his mother with complete healing and restoration.
One thing i hate is when the family tries to compare your relationship with their relationships with someone similar in their lives.... So good too see the family came and apologized on behalf of their father
Wow .. I apologize so much, Kirk. I hear the pain in your voice, and you have to carry it to the cross in order to truly heal, because God endured so much suffering for us at the cross. 1. He said, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. Woman, behold, thy son! Behold, thy mother! So Kirk, every time you feel pain and hurt. Think about Jesus at the cross. That’s why he died for our sins. Just take it to the cross. It’s so much pain and hurt at the cross. Every time I go through something, I take it to the cross.
When Kirk said there were so many people going through the same thing, he hit the nail on the head. I'm going through the same thing with my mother and my sister. It's so unfortunate for us. I'm a home owner and business owner, and I have been on my job for 20 years. Everything I've done to better myself, help them, and develop our relationship has never been good enough for them. My mom is like Kirk's mom, a firecracker, and my sister is the judgemental type. I just stay to myself and try to handle my business, my health, and my mental health as best as I can.
This conversation resonates deeply. My "family" relationship was never built on a solid foundation which resulted in me leaving to maintain my sanity. I don't have a desire to go back.
mine too. the last conversation we had would be the last conversation we had, and it will haunt me for life, but it was enough for me to stop trying to welcome him into my life. he would raise my brother, but he would never acknowledge me. no one from his family would either, although his brother would later say what he did to me was wrong. i found out he died from the internet. the pain from my father never wanting me will always be there
This is exactly why I have made the decision to wait to start having children until I have initiated the healing process from child hood trauma in order to not continue the brokenness. This is what real generational wealth is not money it’s correcting the faulty DNA.
That is the truth and it was also a test to see what comes out of him. I wonder what would have happened if he said " get behind me satan" in his mind or even out loud what would have the atmosphere been like or reaction. 8:24 As much as this is very painful the insight he should have is we wrestle not against flesh and blood and know unseen forces at play. The mothers action released again the spirit of rejection. I pray God grants him true healing, peace and wholeness.
@@gamingwithangel582 God doesn’t test us we’re led away by our own lust. Pressure just exposes what’s in us. He needed that to help him find what needs to be addressed within himself.
Just recently stop talking to my mom. I love here from a distance ya know. I feel like I never had that connection with her like some of my siblings. I found out at 22 the man I thought was my father, isn’t. I’m 38 and I’m just allowing the man that’s supposed to be my father, into my life. I wasn’t beat for 16 years lol. We been speaking for about a month now. I’m hoping everything turns out. I still call the man I believed was my father, dad. That ain’t never gone change. He’s all I know. But between the challenges we face in the world and the ones we face within our homes, people really don’t know the mental stability of others. I be feeling like crashing out for real, just can’t bring myself to do it. My spirit won’t let me
Baby, you hang in there! Everything will get better in time. Don’t crash out you are here for a reason. Sending love young man from Dallas❤ hang in there dammit!😊
@ronaldsimmons6574 Amen...I appreciate you so much for hanging in there love....yes family is often where the biggest hits come from. Just like the Bible says a man's enemies will be of his own household, I've experienced this as many others have. Keep holding on though, because you're certainly an inspiration to me for your strength and courage. I'm blessed by your comment and your transparency.🥰💕💕
@@sanr6816 thank you for your kind words, I appreciate you. I’m Glad I could assist you in such a way as well. Sometimes a little venting is all we need. But ima definitely hang in there. You stay blessed and maintain that positive energy, It could be contagious. And a lot of folks could use it. Have a great one. Wishing you nothing but the best 🙏🏻
This is sadly the truth. So many are dealing with this and struggle with breaking away because it’s their mother…. This needs to be spoken on much more
@@ChristopherInTexas the verse in the Word saying honor your parents, that applies to parents who take care of business in the parenting roles, that doesn't apply to parents who don't do it, despite having the title of parent and they're not going beyond the title as well as those who are absent, abuse, abandon, and neglect their offspring.
As someone going through something similar, I honor my parents by living an honorable life. When others see how I live my life, they assume my parents raised me well. My parents think that honor means “obey” them, even as a married adult. However, if obeying them results in disobeying God, then I would be idolizing my parents and disobeying God. So while I am always respectful to them, my boundaries are in place and I protect my peace at all times.
This hurt me to the bottom of my heart, because this tells me what so many of my students have gone through ... I have always stepped up for them as much as I can, and we hear a lot about deadbeat fathers ... but some of those men have equally toxic counterparts who are hateful mothers, and their children are going through it. Kirk Franklin articulated the agony that children cannot yet express but can act out ... the Spirit has always shared with me: "They are acting out with you what they are afraid to say to their mothers ... LOVE THEM THROUGH." Now, I know exactly why.
Sometimes that older generation are too prideful to apologize, they will never be accountable and own up to their mistakes. They won't humble themselves enough to try to heal the family line!
Yes it does because you risked ur LIFE Does not make U a gd parent but it makes U a parent It’s different 4 males bcuz they don’t actually do anything 2 male the babies A woman has 2 alter her life longer than most males can even go w/o cursing
It's so many hurt people in this world and when you don't know how to deal and what to do with that trauma and pain. We get the world we live in today and then you have people who have found a way to mask all of what they have been through almost like a functioning addict. My kids where mad a me for putting them in therapy when they were younger but I just didn't want my kids to grow up with any hurt pain trauma and didn't have a outlet to figure out what to do with anything pertaining to everyday life. This was a very good episode actually to close for comfort💚💚
This episode really made my cry fr fr. I have never felt so connected to Kirk Franklin until now. My mother broke my heart as well. It's painful to the core of a man. I appreciate this man for sharing his pain. It's an ashame because our mothers dont realize that we are natural mama's boys. However, when your mother chooses a wordly man over the man that God gave her, it is truly sad. Like Kirk, I'll never wish nothing but best God's best for my mother, and I will always be in debt to my mother for giving me life. With that said, I've never been whole
This is so heartbreaking, I couldn't imagine being rejected by my mother. The bible says, Psalms 27:10, If my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. Praises to the Most High for being faithful of His word! Many blessing to you Bro. Kirk.
Woooo. This hit home. I loved and STILL love my mother (RIP) with all I am. But after doing ALL I could to maintain a HEALTHY relationship (including therapy), it dawned on me that I can't have a healthy relationship with someone who keeps hurting me to my core. It literally became a "me or you" situation, and I had to pick me for my health and survival. I give my mother all kinds of credit, for good and bad. But you cannot give of yourself so much that you risk having nothing left for you and for your life. Wishing Kirk all the healing and peace, and to anyone else struggling with fundamental relationships. ❤❤❤
People can say whatever they want to say. Kirk has been through very traumatic experiences. People forget that he’s human and he has a heart like everyone else. We appreciate you Kirk🙏🏾
I remember my ex-wife never having a relationship with her father. If I would’ve known better.. The few times in a year he called she was a whole different person. I always said if I saw him I’d do him bad for disowning someone so special.
I got into a car accident and had to walk around on crutches. My mother went from saying I shouldn’t sue the woman that hit me to wanting some of the lawsuit money once she found out I was going to court. When she found out I was going to give some money to help my gf’s mama out because she did a lot for me, she told me she was going to kick me out the house. I came back home one night in the rain on crutches and she was with her friend inside the house laughing as I’m knocking on the door. This was a suburban area so someone ended up calling cops and when they came I told them my mother wasn’t letting me in. Soon as she opened the door she broke into a crying fit and lied saying I abuse her and she got her friend and my sister to co-sign the lie. Throughout all things she did, never once thought she’d lie to the police on her own son. That night I cried and knew I really didn’t have a mother that cared for me. That’s a dark place for a child man. She would value money over her own blood.
@@Tawknmysht Which father are you referring to? The man who for 53 years Kirk’s mother lied and said was his father. Or the man who heard a rumor going around ( last year) that he maybe Kirk’s father. He gets in touch with Kirk and explains the rumors he heard and offers to take a DNA test if Kirk wants. The DNA test reveals the he is in fact Kirk’s father. Still Kirk’s mother lies and denies the DNA results and demands another test. Kirk then retakes the test. Test comes back results are the same. She still denies the truth. His mother did nothing, but birth him. He was adopted and raised by someone else.
@@Tawknmysht You NEVER are doing a child a favor by having them when you really don't want them. Nobody asked anybody to birth them. And she wasn't even sure who the father was.
@@MsDera81 a burdened life is better than no life at all Do u think ms Harriet Tubman hated the fact she was born a slave more than she loved the fact she could save so many🤔 Blaming a mom, who birthed U, bcuz she wasn’t the best parent, but not putting any blame on the other parent is pointless If the father wanted 2 B N their child’s life, her knowing wouldn’t have mattered 70% of single parent family households R female led B4 we talk about the % of bad moms, & bad female parents, let’s discuss the 70% or so of males who aren’t handling business
What do you mean cut you off? Financial assistance? If so, she shouldn’t be taking care of grown folks financially. Now if you saying just won’t talk to yall then that’s wrong UNLESS yall in trouble knuckleheads all the time. If you gonna say this, provide more context please sir…
@@jasonbilas5734No one's required to tell you their life story. They aren't looking for you to agree with their assessment of their own life. Weird comment.
@@TB-jj7ri they already on here telling. And they’re telling only THEIR side of the story for sympathy. And I’ll ask what I want unless you wanna pay some bills over here boy. Weird comment trying to tell somebody else what to do with their phone and internet goofy boy
Don't care for Cam Newton as a an interviewer or any one else who trys to insert words for the interviewee. Let the person speak and search for their own words.
This story is so much like mine that it hurts me at 52 years old to know it’s not just me. I also don’t speak to my biological mom and I have no plans on it unless she finds the right words. I told my brother and sister I am only trying to protect myself, wife and child from that situation and holding closely to what I have means throwing away things that aren’t worth the risk of losing.
I truly appreciate the brutal honesty of Kirk how heartbreaking it is to realize that your parents are regular but who are still immature and that hurts idc how old you are it hurts like hell!!!!
Very common in our culture there's nothing like a mother's love and to be denied it from your biological hits different. If you didn't experience the denial you can't quite understand it the way someone else who did does.
“You can’t give them everything to break”. Pain inflicted by a parent is heartbreaking.
@@luvleigh4870 bc baby?! I was looking for this part!..I felt this deeeeep!
BARS!!!!!! (Stank face) God bless Kirk
That's not your mother responsibility she did not put her in prison or on drugs your sister is grown not a child she need learn to be responsible for her own actions
@@luvleigh4870 I felt that with my soul
And you are part of the problem... A mother has an answer for a child that no one else can give😢@@homadpatterson3181
🗣️Toxic mothers are not discussed enough, especially in the Black community. We always hear the saying…”You only get one mother”…and a select few of us are happy because another one like that one would be too much! If you can’t relate, consider yourself lucky! 💯
@@kaykay757a omg! I feel u. My mother has great children. Everyone handles they business plus. But when things don't go her way she's hits below the belt. I still experience things and I'm grown. Ppl don't see that side of her....all I hear is oh thats your mother. That doesn't help!
@@kaykay757a I agree💯 🎯. I know it all too well. You are attacked as an adult child who speaks truth to toxic mothers.
I FINALLY went no contact 7 yrs ago. My mother ONLY contacts me to ATTEMPT to manipulate; ACT as IF she wants a relationship when SHE want something or wants me to do something for her. I'm hated because I don't give in to my boundaries.
@@kaykay757a That’s a lie. The only one who is blamed and held accountable are Black mothers…toxic or not. You are talking about White TV mothers who are given “You only get one mother.”
@@kaykay757a Out momma told us, “don’t kiss anybody’s behind, not even mine!”
Trust me, as a white man, the black men do nothing but talk about their mommy issues, and that’s why majority don’t like black women, attitude of their moms 😂
This is what happens with family in general, you can't be around people that hate you. Forgive them and Love them from a distance.
I'm here right now! Yknow what's funny... even me keeping my peace n keeping to myself has become a problem now! But i'll never apologize for my boundries! Seriously!
@@truth.substance amen. Speak and share this truth!!
Amen. I go around see my faves and I head out
@@truth.substance yes indeed and continue to lift them in prayer. God absolutely knows my heart. ♥️ 🙏🏾
@@truth.substance you're soooooo right ✅️
It’s so refreshing to hear his story and know I’m not alone. I haven’t spoken to my mother in over 17 years. This is a woman that is never happy of my achievements and constantly comparing me to my siblings. I remember buying her gifts at Christmas and she wouldn’t even open them. Years later the unopened gift is left on her dresser. She would give me the silent treatment for weeks because I wanted to be a Christian. When I graduated from College she said she wasn’t going to attend because I invited my biological father to attend. When I got my first corporate job she asked me if it’s a graduate job because my sibling has a graduate job. When I told her it wasn’t, she didn’t even say congratulations. Toxic mothers are draining and it’s only by God’s grace that my mental health was not shattered.
I hope u found peace and god bless you.
@@Faircafe98 I'm dealing, with that with my Sister, towards my Daughter. She's very mean spirited towards my baby. My daughter said something today, wherever, I go and see her next time and, she tries to start something, I will tell her to keep her love to herself. It's already enough of that going around. Let's spread Joy, Love.Peace. I Dam near droped, the mike listening to her speak.I thank God for healing 💯🙏
This sounds so painful to go through! I’m praying for your healing.❤
You were spared years of pain. Congratulations on the amazing life you made for yourself🌟
@@Faircafe98 .... sending love ❤️ and hugs 🤗.
I too was told my mom almost aborted me. It was in a conversation about my father and their relationship. Being birthed between two selfish parents has been extremely difficult and harder to process. What I have learned is 1. They're not my responsibility 2. I'm meant to live in peace and not pieces.
Jesus is ❤️ love will conquer all in God time.
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@@monicag5571 facts!! Stay strong monica
Amen!! Wise 29tds!!🎉 ✝️
Amen !!!!!
“At some point you have to save what is still together. You can’t give them everything to break.”That’s a WORD!
🎯 that right there
Yesss!!
That's right!😊
Boi!!!!
That is a sermon all on its own!
You never know what people are going through…..famous or not.
@@calmway5444 Amen
You also never know the truth hearing one person tell it.
This is awesome!!!
my mom didn't like me, her own child, because I was too much like my father, whom she hated, It was a rough childhood, but god was so good to me.
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know 😊
He still hurting 😢
Praying for his healing ❤
Whoever sees this. Know you’re going to make it! Cause you’re alive to see this comment. You’re prayed over. Everyone here you made it!
@Phinestro
@@phinestro yeah I can hear it…made me cry😢
@@phinestro clearly 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
For sure
Kirk is a HURTING MAN and sadly he's been HURTING DEEPLY WITHIN for quite a while. He carries this hurt in his FACE and in his eyes, it's affected the way he speaks and communicates. He's in a lot of pain and it's sad. 🙏🏾
When you sing about letting go and letting God. But you don't live it.😮
8:00 “Save what’s still together. You cannot give them everything to break.” - K. Franklin 👏
@@greymatters7039 yass
Don't go to hell for un forgiveness! Kick people out of your life but still forgive them
@@greymatters7039 I feel a new song coming.
Baby!!! Whew.. nothing else to say
Take it to the Lord in prayer ..not social media...so shut up
Grown folks are still healing from childhood wounds and trauma. My goodness, I wish him peace and understanding.
They're stuck folk ... not grown folk... Forgive and.move on.
@reesierobinson808 I will never assume everyone functions the same. Folks heal when the body and mind is aligned. Enjoy
I used to tell my family all the time, my Mother didn't like me. From a child she didn't like me and I never understood why. I'm 46 and we're still not ok. It's quite sad but apparently, it made me a loving, caring mother to my 4. I felt everything Kirk was saying.
❤ it cause so much trauma I wasn't able to have kids now 47 no husband social out casted
@@ArmyDet6564 ❤️❤️
@n.b.johanson4732 I'm glad you left as well ❤️🩹
I'm so glad you chose to be the opposite of her and not the mirror of. I pray that your children appreciate the gift they have 🫶🏿
@@QueenSugar72 Thank you 💙
Man I feel that hurt in his voice! Kirk still hurting deep from that
Fr💔
@@_jaynola_ So true.
True. Cam missed the opportunity to express that. This interview thing is a gift. I can see Shannon offering him a box of tissue and giving him the moment of silence that he needed.
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know ❤
You gotta go watch the vkog he did when he found his biological Father, his mamma gone pass you off. It's so sad
She s a birther, not a mother . Mothers nurture and sacrifice for their kids.
But Kirk is whole because of Christ, not because of any human.
Absolutely birther!!!!
Kept that energy 4 the 70% of males who ain’t parents
🗣Tell the WHOLE TRUTH💯‼️🙌💕
Thank you, thank you.
Say it again. Thank you
This!!!!!!
A toxic mother is wayyyyy worse than a absent father
Facts
@@EbonyBruce-z9k they are equally bad.
False at least toxic mothers are present no parents at all is worse💯
@@EbonyBruce-z9k both are devastating praying for your healing
@@ajthegoatduh Its true. They're both bad. Its better not be in the presence of either toxic parent.
You’re supposed to honor your father and mother , but the rest of that says that parents should not provoke their children either !
The devil only comes thru who u love.if Jesus save us we belong to our spiritual father.for they know not what they do.we have to forgive so they can't break us
@@jessecollins2453 this is true but still they have free will they always have a choice
Felt this!!! You can only do/take but so much. Honor & respect are two things , but after so much denial/rejection, you HAVE to save YOU. I get it.
@@bsherese9523 I stay saying this
Parents forget that part every time.
He’s protecting little Kirk. Understandable 🙏🏾
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know ❤
@@BLISB This right here! Most people don't get that. We have to protect that little version of ourselves that experiences the initial hurt/trauma.
@@soulfloweresque 🤔
We have to get delivered and grow into adulthood. God did not mean for us to live as Peter Pan.🙏
Same here my mom never apologize for me being molested and abused she acts like it never happened
Unfortunately, there are mothers who will always choose a man before their own children. Lonely, broken people who choose self always. Forgive and let them go.
But yall literally tell black women to submit and put the man first 😂
@@neferure8336 Y'all who?
@@neferure8336you sound like a typical hurt woman nobody tells a mom to pick a man over the child
Mine sholl did and I am dealing with this every day bc as her son I just hurt and she don’t get it
@@bluflamewowlyout1943 I don't know you of course, but may I encourage you? When you seek a personal relationship with God, He helps you to forgive and let go. If not, those who hurt you would have moved on from their offense, leaving you broken. As for you, your pain will manifest in unhealthy and self-sabotaging ways. Seek faith based therapy and seek God's face even more. Blessings.
I found my Mama's body Jan 2 this year. She abused me in every way, I have cigarette burn marks from her. Thank God for my Daddy. When she left him she only abused me, I'm the oldest. She let her brothers molest me. Fast forward I'm a college graduate and do a lot for children, homeless, etc. I never had children because I was afraid of what would happen to them. I'm 50 now and grieving her, finding her, her not loving me and I was never enough. 2 degrees with a 3.8 GPA just NEVER ENOUGH. I forgive her, I even took her Dvds she borrowed back to the Library. All praises to the Most High, Ancestors and my Daddy Simeon Yoab Israel. Yah Guide ❤
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@@leahmcbride6875 🫂🫂🫂
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So sorry for all you've gone through, Thank God for his protection over your life!! May GOD continue to bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are a great person.👍.Have a good evening.
"At some point, you gotta save what's still together. You can't give them everything to break." I felt that deep in my soul.
there are so many toxic mothers out there, narcissists, jealous , controlling, turning other family members against children , lying , abusive and putting men before children particularly before their daughters. Its really is sad because the impact on a child is damaging and our community is good at covering this behaviour up , not talking about things and quick to blame the child…. But God is our refuge.
AMEN AMEN AMEN,,My mother tried to #KILL me with #VOODOO because It was proven by #DNA test Who my Biological father was n because I developed a Relationship with him She Also went around n told #Sooooooooo many Lies on me n turn Sooooooo many relatives, friends n other people Against me n She sat back n laughed about it 🎉
Yes esp in the family it’s not talked about enough!
Amen.
@@janecampbell5021 AMEN AMEN AMEN, Sister, #Same with my #Wicked #NO good mother, middle sister n #2 Daughters♥️🙏
Everyone isn’t built to be parents.
So true,cause they have so much other stuff going on that’s toxic in their life.
I agree. Just because people can have children, doesn't mean that they should.
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But women R automatically built 2 B moms
No matter what U say, what a woman does 2 create a life deserves enough credit 2 B able 2 handle some negativity
U CANT BUILD MUSCLES WITHOUT SWEAT
#Absolutely TRUE🎉
“‘I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. Your enemies will be right in your own household!’”
Matthew 10:35-36 NLT
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know 😊
@jasonbilas5734 um, context. That scripture does NOTapply to this situation
@@shamioshi umm context, yes it does. The context here is this scripture talks about believers vs non believers and how they’d treat you for turning to Jesus. Is Kirk’s mom acting Christ like? No, as a matter of fact, I’d be willing to bet she’s not even married to that man in the Lord’s eye due to previous marriages. As a matter of fact, the man that she’s married to even said to Kirk ‘I thought you were a Christian, you need to talk to your mom more.’ Scripture is very relevant and used appropriately 🤡
Yeah, especially when people are forced to have children they don’t want. We gotta get away from the fantasy of motherhood.
@@amastone3644we also have to learn to teach the kids about having unprotected sexual relationships and how babies are made. We will tell them not to have sexual relations but we don’t give them the information needed to prevent unwanted pregnancies and diseases.
As of late, Kirk Franklin has earned my respect and appreciation. The transparency and honesty he displays gives me a newfound respect for him and hope for my healing process. Thank you Mr. Franklin 🙏🏾
Yall remember this is a Christian that was addicted 2 porn
I don’t doubt he’s hurt from his mom, TELLING the world their business is TRASH
WOMEN have saved so many reputations by holding N the pain & trauma they’ve experienced
Males R supposed 2 B stronger & yet R weaker N all facets outside of physical strength
If all women told the truths about all the males, guys like diddy & Kirk Franklin, if U know U know, would never have been successful
Mothers from that era would never take accountability
ever!
You got that right!!!
At age 10, the oldest of 5 children. My mother constantly told me she hated me, she wished I was never born, she wished i run away, she wished I leave and never come back. At age 61, I can still see the demonic hate in her eyes and face.I was a low self-esteem child to adult. 😢 she used me for all my $$$$. She told me only reson why men liked me because I was light skin. It took to age 40 to break away. I moved 3 county away and never looked back. My job was not to make her love me.
I’m sorry you went through that and I pray you can get your power back. You’re loved don’t forget❤🫂
I can relate. So happy for your healing and being strong enough to never look back. 💯
Thank you Kirk Franklin. Kirk was my youth minister in Los Angeles (Faithful Central) over a decade ago and he was so amazingly loving, understanding, positive and he would always encourage me to overcome my dad wounds, because he could relate, having mother wound. I still appreciate every hug, smile, kiss on the cheek and kind act.
That’s REAL.
Everytime I hear about his upbringing. I feel so sad for the little boy inside of him. He is beyond the nurturing at this point. The little boy in him is forever shattered. 😢
Lies!
@@alyxzandriaa exactly even after all the years of therapy. I hate that his mother can’t admit the truth.
@@alyxzandriaa His grandmother raised him and nurtured him. So, even if his mother did not nurtured him; his grandmother did.
@@sharonguyton9119 I agree with you. This is a description of his present state, but not a prediction of his future. What no man can do, God can. No one is beyond the transformational power of the Healer, Jesus Christ, our Lord. I pray for His restoration of his life in this area.
Never. We are are redeemable
We are all in this together. I'm 41 found out my father wasn't my father last November. I haven't spoken to my mother since then. She did the same thing Kirk's mother did. She said the test was fake and all that dumb ass shit. Then she had the nerve to try and convince my son the test was fake. My father said that the test was real and she needed to tell the truth. She still hasn't told the truth and never will. The sad part is an aunt made mention of it and the man's name who was supposed to be my father about 10 years ago. I didn't act on it because my cousin had just passed also and I was grieving. My father said he wasn't going to change me because we were both lied to and it was not our fault. The same aunt mentioned it again last year and I asked my dad again this time I said I wanted a DNA test and he agreed. Sadly, they allowed my father to pay Child support knowing he was being lied on. They act like they are scared of her because she does all that cursing etc the same aunt became a closed lip and she dropped the bomb and it was verified. I'm not scared of her so she doesn't play with me. She has always favored my sister but I was the one she ran to for money. I cut ties with them all and I have been at peace enjoying life. What I learned is this, if you condone that type of behavior and deal with a person who has messed over so many people you are just like her so I let them devils have each other.
@@Louisianawhips Wow I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. I hope you get all of the peace, quiet and happiness you deserve.
@@Louisianawhips amen
My heart goes out to you as someone who can definitely relate to whole lot of your experience. Mine had me as a teenager, turned to drugs and abandoned me and my sister. Now my dad did the same but he eventually got clean and took accountability. Not her. She continues to lie and act like she did nothing wrong. And like yours will give the world to my sister who basically uses her while slandering me to anybody that will listen. I've had to cut mine out of my life also and my only regret is not doing so years ago. Praying for your continued peace and prosperity, and all the good things you deserve out of this life!!
@@tarasanders1295 thank you. Sorry, you are going through this as well. My mother would do the same thing slander me to anyone that would listen and lie when I confronted her about it. It’s sad that she would go sit at her sister's house and slander me also telling all types of lies when I barked and talked to her ass. Her sister told me everything but didn't say what she said it takes two to talk. I cut everyone off they weren’t helping me in any way nothing at all. I was beneficial to them so I don't miss the mess at all. It was mess seems like every other week something was said and that's been going on all my life. I told them if you are going to say anything about me you better tell people I'm on ish house cars etc and never asked anyone for damn things. See they don't tell what you was doing for them.
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“I’m not good, but I’m good!”
I felt that Mr. Franklin. I’m going through the same thing.
My mother was mean and very abusive, and when she found out that my stepfather had SA me, she blamed me... the child. She chose him over me. I joined the military after graduation, served 20 years, and never looked back. My stepfather recently died and guess who showed up at my door? She claimed that she missed me but within a a few hours she asked to move in, I said no. She abused me as a child and chose the devil over her own daughter, now that the devil has died she expects me to open my arms to her. I come from a close-knit southern family and there are several who are upset with me because they feel it's my responsibility to take care of her, simply because she's my mother. I dont agree. I am the victim of her cruelty, abuse and took the blame for what my stepfather did to me. If I am wrong...I pray that god forgives me.
@@sailormade2 You are not wrong cut off communication with her and others who don't agree with you.
Forgive every one but it doesn’t mean you have to let them back in your life. Some people are toxic and they won’t change, but you still can’t forgive them. Happy life without them.
Typo I want to say you can forgive them and live a happy life without them in your life.
@@sailormade2 the Bible says don’t cast your pearls to pigs. And if it offends you cut it off and that can mean people as well. Bless up Sis! You didnt let it hinder your success.
She walked out of the house on her two kids…. Again… damn
You can’t give them everything to break!!!!! That was a good one
These parents out here breaking hearts is so sad
See, the thing is they will surely reap what the sow! Even if it hits them in their old age, "consequence" will meet them in the future when they least expect it!
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know ❤
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know
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This so sad I went through thing with my mother that haunt me to this day I am 70 years old 0:06
@@tippingti85 I’m only 27 an went through something similar our bond been different ever since
“At some point you gotta save what’s still together”
Man I NEEDED that
“You gotta save what’s still together” that’s powerful ❤️
Damn CAM this is gonna be your best episode it gave me chills
Stepdad: “What you should do is call your mother!”
Kirk: “My office hours are from 9 to 5.” ~Big Red voice
@@jasonmiles946 yes...
😮😂😂😂
Hell yeah
He's not stepdad, he's Debra's husband.
@@chuckkent5395 Facts!
I had tears in my eyes ready to fall but then Cam in strong at 6:57 and took me out omg lmbo! This story isnt funny but Cam knowing when it was time to speak up really brought me pride! Cam knows wassup!
I WAS LITERALLY SAYING THE SAME THING 🤣
This interview was so powerful!! There are many parallels between his story and my family. I'm a middle child, and there are 4 of us ( siblings) left . Our mother is at the point of dementia and I'm trying so hard to pull the family together to assist with taking care of her while she's in her final stages. I can't help but understand their , ( my siblings) dis- connect when it comes to prioritizing, and sacrificing for our mother the way I do.
Please pray for my strength as I remove her from the Nursing home for her to spend the rest of her days left at home with family.❤
P.s.. I feel the same way, she made a lot of mistakes while raising me but if it wasn't for her I would not be here.🧘💕
@thirdworlduniversityllc9084 Besutifully stated! You may nvr receive an apology or thank you from your mother. But God sees your heart and will reward you abundantly. Colossians 3:23
Kirk it’s her loss. Move on and just pray for her
AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
I love Cam for saying what Kirk wanted to say. Cause I personally would have said it with my chest and stand on business. Some people pretend like Christians are perfect. Bruh we have moments and issues too. Thank you for this dialogue.
Kirk Franklin is a gift from God. as a Mexican kid growing up in south Central LA and Fresno, California. I have seen the effects of a broken and hurt family it is rough out here.
Shot out to Cam for this hope people can start healing and helping to heal
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know
Remember this is the same Christian that was addicted 2 porn
Kirk's mother was 12 years old when she had him. IMO, he just realized that she doesn't have the capacity to be a nurturing mother. I think she has so many mental issues from being so young. And who knows what happened. I've talked with a lot of older women who say they had no say-so when it came to their bodies.
That's where the saying she's in the family's way' come from.
It is great to see Kirk talking about his life. Because there is still time for healing. And it's going to help more ppl.
Wow 12 years old 😮😮😮😮She wasn’t even a teenager yet. They sure she wasn’t taken advantage of…….She needs some counseling herself. She may have some mental issues going on…..that was passed to his oldest son.
She was 12
Kirk is correct when he stated he wasn’t the only one I’m a witness to that true statement. My mother hated me to the point she tried to have me killed I was 19, I was 27 when I received a phone call from the man that she hired. He said that we needed to talk, we spent two hours on the phone and he told me every detail, he told me guilt ate at him when he left our house he shot himself and still carries that bullet in him to this day. The hate that my mother had for me she spreaded it to my half sister and brother. When she died I felt nothing I tried to cry but I couldn’t, I stood by her coffin and said all I every wanted was a huge and to hear her say I love you.
@@robertdavis1217 I’m sorry you went through that, God bless you.
Imagine if you had sought the Lord to learn the root of her pain and condition. It helped me understand why my mom showed me so much hatred. It was spiritual and God gives us authority to intercede so they can get free and he can deliver us from the pain of the rejection. I pray for your healing❤
@@robertdavis1217 I’m sorry you went through that
The older you get the more you realized that your parents are just some regular ass people thats trying to get by just like you
Fo real!! The sooner parents realise that, the sooner they can teach their children that. I feel like parents out here trying too much
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@@damonsmith7661 Well The Living GOD holds Parents to a Higher Standard and WILL BE JUDGED as So .... Parents have a MORAL OBLIGATION by the Maker of Life and Breath , so No They ARE NOT like the Children We Bare .
@@damonsmith7661 God gave us rules on how we are suppose to be as parents. It’s sad how many parents are selfish.
@@tracydavis148 exactly it’s because of our parents that we end up with generational curses cuz they step out of God’s will.
Sending much love to all the hurt children who grew into adults but that hurt is still there. ❤❤❤
Sending LOVE to all of us SURVIVORS❤.I LOVE YOU ❤️
thank you 🙏🏾🫂❤💔
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I understand what Kirk has gone through , because I was emotionally abused by a narcissistic mother all my life even recently. I respect her as my parent but I just decided to stop our conversations which she constantly stab me with hurting words. Her name is Gertrude and she's 98 years old and I'm 68 years old and damaged beyond repair. I love my Lord and Savior because he saved me.
Never beyond repair
I was crushed when I found out my mother was going to abort my sister and put me up for adoption to get back with my brothers father. She was his side chick in high school and he was married to his high school sweetheart at the time? Make that make sense.
@@Patawon NEVER 😔
Sounds like your mom was damaged
And if that's true
Find out everything
It will make a difference❤
At this point let it go..... you're almost 70 and she's almost 100..... knock it off
Thanks, Frank and Cam, for explaining all the hurt! You are not the only one!
Praying for your healing. 2023 was a year...God revealed my birth father the month I turned 50. My mother stayed in touch with him, however told me she thought my father was another man who was killed in 1974, 4 months after I was born. My father and I took a Legal DNA, and every since we met on September 3, 2023 he fully accepted me and we are thick as theives. I started a mobile DNA business as a result of mine and Kirk Franklin's experience to help other people find the truth. ❤🎉🙏🏾
Mama hurt is a different type of hurt. It takes ALOT to get over it. Ask me how I know.
How do u know?.I love to hear people's stories❤️ I have the deepest heart for this..for victims of a hurt u can barely describe. U are strong baby. U are here. Blessings
@@Mygirls3-l7x quick story. Mom pregnant at 15. Addicted to drugs by 21; child abused sexually and mentally until 12 when I moved in with Grandparents; mother was suffering from manic depression and never got services for her many issues until she had a stroke and was diagnosed. I’m 47 now. I have forgiven but I made a choice not to have children due to trauma.
@@cnicolemurchison
I think I know how you know. We've all been there. Love them from afar. And pray for them.
You know nothing but your emotional intelligence. Which is not much. The story of every woman.
@@Generizzy 🤔 🤷♀️
Not a fan of Franklin's. But, this definitely allowed me to see the human side of him as a person. I feel and understand his pain. Indeed, You can't give them everything or else they will break you completely. May God heal his pain. In Jesus name.
You should've seen the human side of him before this.We as people judge too much as if we're perfect.
@@dat1573 i could always see the human side of him and I'm still not a fan of his at all.
@@millennialodyssey5956 Ok and everyone isn't a fan of yours neither.That's life
@@dat1573Who are you to telk me what I should or should not do.
I would love to hear Deborah’s story. Something happened to her in that childhood and she not saying it.
@@dickersonr6172 definitely and usually it’s because she had the exact same up bringing of that type of behavior she’s displaying
It's possible but it is also possible she has a mental illness because she is unable to tell the truth yet play victim and become combative when she is exposed
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know
I said the same thing. It has to be something from childhood
It's always something when Mother's walk out on their children. Father's aren't given this grace I don't understand it!
You can see that it still hurts. Forgiving someone who hurts you is tough! Prayerfully, God blesses him and his mother with complete healing and restoration.
One thing i hate is when the family tries to compare your relationship with their relationships with someone similar in their lives.... So good too see the family came and apologized on behalf of their father
Wow .. I apologize so much, Kirk. I hear the pain in your voice, and you have to carry it to the cross in order to truly heal, because God endured so much suffering for us at the cross. 1. He said, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. Woman, behold, thy son! Behold, thy mother! So Kirk, every time you feel pain and hurt. Think about Jesus at the cross. That’s why he died for our sins. Just take it to the cross. It’s so much pain and hurt at the cross. Every time I go through something, I take it to the cross.
When Kirk said there were so many people going through the same thing, he hit the nail on the head. I'm going through the same thing with my mother and my sister. It's so unfortunate for us. I'm a home owner and business owner, and I have been on my job for 20 years. Everything I've done to better myself, help them, and develop our relationship has never been good enough for them. My mom is like Kirk's mom, a firecracker, and my sister is the judgemental type. I just stay to myself and try to handle my business, my health, and my mental health as best as I can.
This conversation resonates deeply. My "family" relationship was never built on a solid foundation which resulted in me leaving to maintain my sanity. I don't have a desire to go back.
AMEN AMEN AMEN, I feel the same way 🎉
He is speaking of a wall that many of us have put up. My God this is me regarding my relationship with my father.
mine too. the last conversation we had would be the last conversation we had, and it will haunt me for life, but it was enough for me to stop trying to welcome him into my life. he would raise my brother, but he would never acknowledge me. no one from his family would either, although his brother would later say what he did to me was wrong. i found out he died from the internet. the pain from my father never wanting me will always be there
Wow. I’m not good but I’m gooood. I felt that.
This is exactly why I have made the decision to wait to start having children until I have initiated the healing process from child hood trauma in order to not continue the brokenness. This is what real generational wealth is not money it’s correcting the faulty DNA.
Funny how people that don’t know you will use your religion to try and judge you, meanwhile they don’t even believe in your God.
@@michaelbell8627 THAT PART‼️
Whew!!!
That is the truth and it was also a test to see what comes out of him. I wonder what would have happened if he said " get behind me satan" in his mind or even out loud what would have the atmosphere been like or reaction.
8:24
As much as this is very painful the insight he should have is we wrestle not against flesh and blood and know unseen forces at play.
The mothers action released again the spirit of rejection.
I pray God grants him true healing, peace and wholeness.
@@gamingwithangel582 God doesn’t test us we’re led away by our own lust. Pressure just exposes what’s in us. He needed that to help him find what needs to be addressed within himself.
@@michaelbell8627 I said it was a test I didn't say God tested him. However our faith is and will be tested.
That's one of the reasons he is anointed 😊
How do you know he's anointed????
@@Tee-kc3pn people just say any damn thing 🤦🏾♂️
@@Tee-kc3pn If you have to ask that then that means you don't understand his music ✌️
Also I was going through something and his CD helped me put the safety on and pray for the guy🙏
@@lisaallen-dg6bn say it again! Annoited from head to toe.
Just recently stop talking to my mom. I love here from a distance ya know. I feel like I never had that connection with her like some of my siblings. I found out at 22 the man I thought was my father, isn’t. I’m 38 and I’m just allowing the man that’s supposed to be my father, into my life. I wasn’t beat for 16 years lol. We been speaking for about a month now. I’m hoping everything turns out. I still call the man I believed was my father, dad. That ain’t never gone change. He’s all I know. But between the challenges we face in the world and the ones we face within our homes, people really don’t know the mental stability of others. I be feeling like crashing out for real, just can’t bring myself to do it. My spirit won’t let me
Baby, you hang in there! Everything will get better in time. Don’t crash out you are here for a reason. Sending love young man from Dallas❤ hang in there dammit!😊
@ronaldsimmons6574 Amen...I appreciate you so much for hanging in there love....yes family is often where the biggest hits come from. Just like the Bible says a man's enemies will be of his own household, I've experienced this as many others have. Keep holding on though, because you're certainly an inspiration to me for your strength and courage. I'm blessed by your comment and your transparency.🥰💕💕
@@sanr6816 thank you for your kind words, I appreciate you. I’m Glad I could assist you in such a way as well. Sometimes a little venting is all we need. But ima definitely hang in there. You stay blessed and maintain that positive energy, It could be contagious. And a lot of folks could use it. Have a great one. Wishing you nothing but the best 🙏🏻
@ronaldsimmons6574 ohhh thank you baby....same to you🥰
@@melindalee4574 much love ❤️
thank you 😊
What A Testimony!! Somebody Needed To Hear This And Save What’s Still Together ❤
This 😢
Unfortunately every relationship isn’t worth mending. You’ve got to keep your PEACE ✌🏾
Thx u LORD 🙏🏾
This is sadly the truth. So many are dealing with this and struggle with breaking away because it’s their mother…. This needs to be spoken on much more
AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
How do you honor someone who isn't honorable
He just did it. Shout out to Kirk. ❤️
@@ChristopherInTexas the verse in the Word saying honor your parents, that applies to parents who take care of business in the parenting roles, that doesn't apply to parents who don't do it, despite having the title of parent and they're not going beyond the title as well as those who are absent, abuse, abandon, and neglect their offspring.
Real shit..
As someone going through something similar, I honor my parents by living an honorable life. When others see how I live my life, they assume my parents raised me well.
My parents think that honor means “obey” them, even as a married adult. However, if obeying them results in disobeying God, then I would be idolizing my parents and disobeying God.
So while I am always respectful to them, my boundaries are in place and I protect my peace at all times.
The same way U followed all the other rules N ur holy book
Blindly
Having to listen to Cam add his two cents to this powerful testimony was cringey but it is his show 🤷🏾♂️
Yes he needs to work on his passive listening skills
@@blackberrymolasses1502 I promise
This hurt me to the bottom of my heart, because this tells me what so many of my students have gone through ... I have always stepped up for them as much as I can, and we hear a lot about deadbeat fathers ... but some of those men have equally toxic counterparts who are hateful mothers, and their children are going through it. Kirk Franklin articulated the agony that children cannot yet express but can act out ... the Spirit has always shared with me: "They are acting out with you what they are afraid to say to their mothers ... LOVE THEM THROUGH." Now, I know exactly why.
Sometimes that older generation are too prideful to apologize, they will never be accountable and own up to their mistakes. They won't humble themselves enough to try to heal the family line!
Just because you birth a child does not make you a parent.
Yes it does because you risked ur LIFE
Does not make U a gd parent but it makes U a parent
It’s different 4 males bcuz they don’t actually do anything 2 male the babies
A woman has 2 alter her life longer than most males can even go w/o cursing
It's so many hurt people in this world and when you don't know how to deal and what to do with that trauma and pain. We get the world we live in today and then you have people who have found a way to mask all of what they have been through almost like a functioning addict. My kids where mad a me for putting them in therapy when they were younger but I just didn't want my kids to grow up with any hurt pain trauma and didn't have a outlet to figure out what to do with anything pertaining to everyday life. This was a very good episode actually to close for comfort💚💚
You can’t give them everything to break 💯💯💯💯💯💯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 and them Cam said healing starts with acknowledgment 🤯🤯 🤯🤯🤯💯🤯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯🤯🤯🤯🤯
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know ❤
Big ups to Cam for allowing the guest to speak and not interrupt him. Rare these days. Great interview. I even enjoyed the ads. 😅
Folk don’t understand that kind of pain as a man
This episode really made my cry fr fr. I have never felt so connected to Kirk Franklin until now. My mother broke my heart as well. It's painful to the core of a man. I appreciate this man for sharing his pain. It's an ashame because our mothers dont realize that we are natural mama's boys. However, when your mother chooses a wordly man over the man that God gave her, it is truly sad. Like Kirk, I'll never wish nothing but best God's best for my mother, and I will always be in debt to my mother for giving me life. With that said, I've never been whole
Hurt people hurt people.
People not healed hurt other people.
Bruh…. The pain in that man’s voice…. Only the pain caused by a mother can bring that out of a man. Trust me boi…. I feel ya!
This is so heartbreaking, I couldn't imagine being rejected by my mother. The bible says, Psalms 27:10, If my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. Praises to the Most High for being faithful of His word! Many blessing to you Bro. Kirk.
Woooo. This hit home. I loved and STILL love my mother (RIP) with all I am. But after doing ALL I could to maintain a HEALTHY relationship (including therapy), it dawned on me that I can't have a healthy relationship with someone who keeps hurting me to my core. It literally became a "me or you" situation, and I had to pick me for my health and survival. I give my mother all kinds of credit, for good and bad. But you cannot give of yourself so much that you risk having nothing left for you and for your life. Wishing Kirk all the healing and peace, and to anyone else struggling with fundamental relationships. ❤❤❤
Someone hurt mom. Someone hurt her badly 😢
Yep.
Yep and if we don't deal with out issues before having kids you just pass down more trauma 😢
No accountability for mom. 😅 females will be females. When do we ever hear...someone hurt dad???
Not necessarily.
@@sharonguyton9119yes...necessarily......Kirk's son accused him of abuse too.....clearly they're all damaged
Jesus, move Kirk forward. Heal him and let him know none of this is his fault nor is it his fight.
This brought me to tears 🥹. Such a powerful testimony 💕. Had to share this video with a few family members.
People can say whatever they want to say. Kirk has been through very traumatic experiences. People forget that he’s human and he has a heart like everyone else. We appreciate you Kirk🙏🏾
Cam...wow!!!! I love the depth of your interview... this one in particular. Thank you and Kirk for allowing us to be a part of this.
You can't give them everything to break!
It's also Cam for me: That *bleep*- I can say it. Lol
Make DNA tests mandatory or this will always happen
I remember my ex-wife never having a relationship with her father. If I would’ve known better.. The few times in a year he called she was a whole different person. I always said if I saw him I’d do him bad for disowning someone so special.
When Kirk spelled ninja and was like “well I can’t say it” and Cam said “I will I will” it sent me so baaad 😩🤣😭
I got into a car accident and had to walk around on crutches. My mother went from saying I shouldn’t sue the woman that hit me to wanting some of the lawsuit money once she found out I was going to court. When she found out I was going to give some money to help my gf’s mama out because she did a lot for me, she told me she was going to kick me out the house. I came back home one night in the rain on crutches and she was with her friend inside the house laughing as I’m knocking on the door.
This was a suburban area so someone ended up calling cops and when they came I told them my mother wasn’t letting me in. Soon as she opened the door she broke into a crying fit and lied saying I abuse her and she got her friend and my sister to co-sign the lie. Throughout all things she did, never once thought she’d lie to the police on her own son. That night I cried and knew I really didn’t have a mother that cared for me. That’s a dark place for a child man. She would value money over her own blood.
She’s not a mother she was an avenue to get to earth!!!
She still did more 4 him than his father EVER will
Imagine being mad about the sweat that comes from working out but U want muscles
@@Tawknmysht Which father are you referring to? The man who for 53 years Kirk’s mother lied and said was his father. Or the man who heard a rumor going around ( last year) that he maybe Kirk’s father. He gets in touch with Kirk and explains the rumors he heard and offers to take a DNA test if Kirk wants. The DNA test reveals the he is in fact Kirk’s father. Still Kirk’s mother lies and denies the DNA results and demands another test. Kirk then retakes the test. Test comes back results are the same. She still denies the truth. His mother did nothing, but birth him. He was adopted and raised by someone else.
@@Tawknmysht
You NEVER are doing a child a favor by having them when you really don't want them. Nobody asked anybody to birth them. And she wasn't even sure who the father was.
@@MsDera81 a burdened life is better than no life at all
Do u think ms Harriet Tubman hated the fact she was born a slave more than she loved the fact she could save so many🤔
Blaming a mom, who birthed U, bcuz she wasn’t the best parent, but not putting any blame on the other parent is pointless
If the father wanted 2 B N their child’s life, her knowing wouldn’t have mattered
70% of single parent family households R female led
B4 we talk about the % of bad moms, & bad female parents, let’s discuss the 70% or so of males who aren’t handling business
I haven't talked to my mom in 4 months because she got married and cut me and my 3 brothers off and her grandkids. I feel this one
What do you mean cut you off? Financial assistance? If so, she shouldn’t be taking care of grown folks financially. Now if you saying just won’t talk to yall then that’s wrong UNLESS yall in trouble knuckleheads all the time. If you gonna say this, provide more context please sir…
@@jasonbilas5734goodness calm down
@@jasonbilas5734No one's required to tell you their life story. They aren't looking for you to agree with their assessment of their own life. Weird comment.
Blessings forever, beautiful GOD loves you forever, and Jesus loves you too forever. Teach everyone you know and don't know ❤
@@TB-jj7ri they already on here telling. And they’re telling only THEIR side of the story for sympathy. And I’ll ask what I want unless you wanna pay some bills over here boy. Weird comment trying to tell somebody else what to do with their phone and internet goofy boy
Don't care for Cam Newton as a an interviewer or any one else who trys to insert words for the interviewee. Let the person speak and search for their own words.
so true
Agree. He doesn’t read the room or respond well in these moments.
Agreed. I get he has a big platform
because of who he is, but he’s not very emotionally intelligent.
Damn 😂
This story is so much like mine that it hurts me at 52 years old to know it’s not just me. I also don’t speak to my biological mom and I have no plans on it unless she finds the right words. I told my brother and sister I am only trying to protect myself, wife and child from that situation and holding closely to what I have means throwing away things that aren’t worth the risk of losing.
Thank you for your testimony that was vibrantly received
Cam….lean from Shay to let people talk.
@@dustinthomas7968 he literally said countable words.
Sometimes, it's just a conversation with family and not an interview.
@@MrEfortycutting people off in middle of saying something repeatedly, is bad interviewing-- in general.
I truly appreciate the brutal honesty of Kirk how heartbreaking it is to realize that your parents are regular but who are still immature and that hurts idc how old you are it hurts like hell!!!!
He so hurt !!Yet he didn’t let it overtake his whole life and truthful
I know it’s not funny but when Kirk said save what’s still together and cam whispered yes lord I almost spit my drink out lol great interview btw💪🏾💪🏾
Very common in our culture there's nothing like a mother's love and to be denied it from your biological hits different. If you didn't experience the denial you can't quite understand it the way someone else who did does.