Yep, mine is like this. She’d even search the newspaper and shop catalogues to see how much I’d spent on her Christmas present. I’d be scolded for not spending enough on her. And then she’d list off bigger and better things for her to be given next birthday. I no longer see her, but the damage was done to my family and some of my children remember her.
@@redemptionhappens7725 Restlessness is a sign of lack of contentment , grass is always greener on the other side . Problem is you always take yourself along . Due to my ( lack of ) upbringing I never had peace in my head until my life with my empath husband gave me healing . This must be the reducing of emotional thinking that HG talks about . I love my boring life of contentment now away from all the drama . I cannot stay away from my mother though , she's the only narc I allow in my life .
Being empathic isnt always soft & fluffy. Sometimes it can be a pain in the ass because you dont get to pick & choose only the nice feeling others have. You also feel their stress, anger etc. Its not always fun.
I'll have to remember that one "I'm feeling particularly well fuelled (today)" and say it at some random moment, just to observe the reaction of those around, hell, maybe I'll throw in some Narc-speak, just for the sake of it🤣🤣. Good to review this video, thank you💟
Wow. Excellent video HG. It reassured me I’m not a narcissist….although I do have strong narcissist tendencies. If nothing else, just because I don’t like being around people therefore I get very little to no fuel and am content with that helps me to know I’m not a full fledge narc. I do experience contentment…probably not joy or happiness but the contentment is strong with me. 😂
Dear HG, I thank you for all I have learned from your videos. I will be going my way now, I am free! God loves you and even if you don't believe, it's okay, because He believes in you. May you continue your beautiful legacy. Thank you and God Bless you 🙏 May you find Peace!
A very good recording. Thank you. I love happiness and joy. It is an energetic volcano. I like contentment, sadness and solitude. The others are actually burdensome. I usually get rid of them pretty quickly - unless I think, that they can teach me something valuable - then I beat myself up a bit and I add to my real guilt :) I hate deep despair - it's that emotion that only death can cause - real or emotional. If that triumph mixed with the energy and feeling of mastery, that I sometimes feel in every cell of my body, is power or something comparable, it is indeed a powerful feeling. Excellent. But - each emotion has its own unique "taste". I like them all. I wouldn't be able to part with happiness or loneliness - these are such beautiful, incredibly vast and overwhelming feeling. I hate despair and nothingness the most. They often go one after the other.
@@mandymckeown8625 I agree. So grateful for this explanation of narcissism, my mother is one and my empathetic best friend had a horrible narcissistic husband.
The irony is I am more happy post breakup than I was before even meeting my narc ex gf. I drank heavily cause i was lonely living in a new town. When I met her I was taken away from that, introduced to new people and places. Since splitting/being discarded I am in a new town/job and working on my flaws which is making me a better person. Strange.
There can be a huge sense of relief, triumph and renewed sense of direction after ending it with a narcissist with a touch of bittersweet melancholy. But mostly quite a good high with realising what is true and what needs to be done ❤
Yes I do feel guilt but I have taught myself to let the feeling pass before I make any decisions … now I don’t show it, but I feel it which is the opposite to some narcissists 😂 I think not acting from a place of guilt protects me against any potential manipulations or self sabotage 💪 and most of the time, the feeling passes and you realise you’re not actually obliged to do anything, you can just shrug your shoulders and carry on as normal 😅
It can happen - my partner went to her GP because she kept 'barking with joy' and was annoyed and a bit worried. The GP instructed her to film one of these episodes and replay it. The final diagnosis was laughter, which is basically incurable.
@elizaf I recall that extremely helpful, albeit confronting for many, video and it assisted greatly in reinforcing that I was wasting my time even talking to highly narcissistic, or worse, people! Of course, it's often more difficult with long-term "relationships" and family members though. I've found that it helps to gradually cut down on contact, if it's not possible to leave, or to stop altogether. 😊
Now this, for me, is absolutely fascinating. Particularly as regards happiness/joy. On self-reflection, things that make me happy are usually as a result of an interaction with someone or something. I'm not automatically happy, I don't wake up happy for no reason. Things that make me happy, or give me joy, include music, reading, something I've made (cooking/crafts) or achieved, something going to plan, someone agreeing with me or reacting in the way I'd hoped, for example. Even if it's a negative reaction from someone who, in my mind, deserved whatever it is I retaliated with. So, I wonder, is that not the same as feeling fuelled? That satisfied feeling of things having gone your way, even if it's short lived?
I don’t think they are capable of to take their life because they are very grandiose with themselves.. Family and friends are their fuel. Especially their family.
@francine6485 I'm thinking that they might be projecting and I used to project that certain people had empathy, or at least compassion. I learnt the extremely hard way that they lack it, or have none at all, especially when a lot of alcohol and/or other drugs, including psychiatric ones, are involved. 🙁
Hello , HG. This particular video brought up a question. Can a narcissist be a practicing Christian? I know very well they can attend and be involved in a church. But I cannot see how they could be genuine Christians bc one must humble himself to Christ.
HG, when you are relaxing outside of Tudor Towers with the light breeze and sun on your face, what are you feeling? You say you can’t feel contentment.
He has said that he does not relax. At all. He is always doing something, even when it looks like relaxing, be it reading, working or plotting and planning.
@@piperhurtado4945 It is pretty hard to wrap my head around. At least when he is communicating in any way, I assume the narcissism makes relaxing impossible because it has to constantly check for threats. By the way, I think your name is pretty.
Ultra and greaters the need to achieve is the basis for their fuel. Specific need probably from childhood. Only if they did well then maybe close but no cigar but close.
You have a fan here in Italy! I have only a question, and I would be delighted if you could answer: a narc doesn't feel happiness ( but doesn't miss it, because never felt it), doesn't feel sadness or guilt, a narc always win...well this sound a perfect life, don't you agree? Should we empaths and narc survivor that we are the loosers, or, at least, that we live a very hard life...what do you think h.g.?
Which book(s) would you consider for me to read. I have a sister in law that once said that I have empathy and she doesn’t. Also she kicked my 88 year old Mom out of their house bc it was just working. On and on…. She’s exhausting bc she’s competitive and looking for an argument or gotcha moment. Never smiles or laughs. My brother loves her. 😮
Can a narcissist experience some of these traits and not others? Can a narcissist experience all of these things but only to certain degrees? Is it all or nothing?
0:43 Remorse
2:49 Happiness
4:59 Sadness
8:16 Joy
9:23 Contentment
12:30 Guilt
14:06 Lonely
The lack of contentment is most obvious with my mother , always wanting more and never grateful .
Same here.
Yep, mine is like this. She’d even search the newspaper and shop catalogues to see how much I’d spent on her Christmas present. I’d be scolded for not spending enough on her. And then she’d list off bigger and better things for her to be given next birthday.
I no longer see her, but the damage was done to my family and some of my children remember her.
Anyone else know a narcissist who feels the need to move every gdamn year?
@@redemptionhappens7725 Restlessness is a sign of lack of contentment , grass is always greener on the other side . Problem is you always take yourself along . Due to my ( lack of ) upbringing I never had peace in my head until my life with my empath husband gave me healing . This must be the reducing of emotional thinking that HG talks about . I love my boring life of contentment now away from all the drama . I cannot stay away from my mother though , she's the only narc I allow in my life .
@@redemptionhappens7725I do. 🤕 I know one.
An unparalleled and concise explanation that’s very digestible. Bravo as always.
Being empathic isnt always soft & fluffy. Sometimes it can be a pain in the ass because you dont get to pick & choose only the nice feeling others have. You also feel their stress, anger etc. Its not always fun.
This did I say to my narc... we just got different curses applied.. but I wasnt for sure take his.. too..
That is why they DEMAND an apology, but then willing not accept it. To accept it does not add fuel, and they would feel weak
Here's some fuel for you... I think your videos are great, intellectually stimulating.
I'd like some fuel too please.
@@jsi4064❤👏⛽
One tear left eye go
I'll have to remember that one "I'm feeling particularly well fuelled (today)" and say it at some random moment, just to observe the reaction of those around, hell, maybe I'll throw in some Narc-speak, just for the sake of it🤣🤣. Good to review this video, thank you💟
If you say "fossil fuel" you'll be in real trouble.
@@georgeedward1226 oil be-coalful 🤣
At least don't be crude.
People would just think you had a big lunch, unless they also listen to HG 🙀😂
Wow. Excellent video HG. It reassured me I’m not a narcissist….although I do have strong narcissist tendencies. If nothing else, just because I don’t like being around people therefore I get very little to no fuel and am content with that helps me to know I’m not a full fledge narc. I do experience contentment…probably not joy or happiness but the contentment is strong with me. 😂
I love your sarcastic, “I’m so lonely.” 😂
Dear HG, I thank you for all I have learned from your videos. I will be going my way now, I am free! God loves you and even if you don't believe, it's okay, because He believes in you. May you continue your beautiful legacy. Thank you and God Bless you 🙏 May you find Peace!
Yes God bless ❤
@@rubytroy7756 Amen!
@88Melody88 Thank you and God Bless you 🙏
A very good recording. Thank you.
I love happiness and joy. It is an energetic volcano. I like contentment, sadness and solitude. The others are actually burdensome. I usually get rid of them pretty quickly - unless I think, that they can teach me something valuable - then I beat myself up a bit and I add to my real guilt :)
I hate deep despair - it's that emotion that only death can cause - real or emotional.
If that triumph mixed with the energy and feeling of mastery, that I sometimes feel in every cell of my body, is power or something comparable, it is indeed a powerful feeling. Excellent. But - each emotion has its own unique "taste". I like them all. I wouldn't be able to part with happiness or loneliness - these are such beautiful, incredibly vast and overwhelming feeling.
I hate despair and nothingness the most. They often go one after the other.
This all sounds exhausting to me. I can’t imagine reading a book or seeing a film and not be able to feel the intense emotion put in front of me.
sad life
That would feel like hell . Even though I have narc traits ( narc mum ) I couldn’t imagine not feeling emotions
@@mandymckeown8625 I agree. So grateful for this explanation of narcissism, my mother is one and my empathetic best friend had a horrible narcissistic husband.
@@GreatLakesStacking bless you it isn’t easy ❤️
You out did yourself, as always stellar performance
Good morning HG❤ …… just topping up my resolve….. with your divine work…… and of course….. your smooth velvety tones….. that soothe the soul…❤…..
Addicted to options…. Therefore Never able to be satisfied.
So, like a sociopath, you basically mimic how you see other people react to how regular people respond to certain situations?
Thank you, HG
The irony is I am more happy post breakup than I was before even meeting my narc ex gf. I drank heavily cause i was lonely living in a new town. When I met her I was taken away from that, introduced to new people and places. Since splitting/being discarded I am in a new town/job and working on my flaws which is making me a better person.
Strange.
There can be a huge sense of relief, triumph and renewed sense of direction after ending it with a narcissist with a touch of bittersweet melancholy. But mostly quite a good high with realising what is true and what needs to be done ❤
@@LeilaJane So true x
Yes I do feel guilt but I have taught myself to let the feeling pass before I make any decisions … now I don’t show it, but I feel it which is the opposite to some narcissists 😂 I think not acting from a place of guilt protects me against any potential manipulations or self sabotage 💪 and most of the time, the feeling passes and you realise you’re not actually obliged to do anything, you can just shrug your shoulders and carry on as normal 😅
Thank you very much HG. Excellent points as ever:)
I wonder - is remorse a choice for a narcissist - or is it simply not an emotion they are capable of having?
It can happen - my partner went to her GP because she kept 'barking with joy' and was annoyed and a bit worried. The GP instructed her to film one of these episodes and replay it. The final diagnosis was laughter, which is basically incurable.
Narcissist is a nutshell: phony and insincere. I still think one of your best posts is You Are a Toaster (or something like that).
@elizaf I recall that extremely helpful, albeit confronting for many, video and it assisted greatly in reinforcing that I was wasting my time even talking to highly narcissistic, or worse, people!
Of course, it's often more difficult with long-term "relationships" and family members though. I've found that it helps to gradually cut down on contact, if it's not possible to leave, or to stop altogether. 😊
Now this, for me, is absolutely fascinating. Particularly as regards happiness/joy. On self-reflection, things that make me happy are usually as a result of an interaction with someone or something. I'm not automatically happy, I don't wake up happy for no reason. Things that make me happy, or give me joy, include music, reading, something I've made (cooking/crafts) or achieved, something going to plan, someone agreeing with me or reacting in the way I'd hoped, for example. Even if it's a negative reaction from someone who, in my mind, deserved whatever it is I retaliated with. So, I wonder, is that not the same as feeling fuelled? That satisfied feeling of things having gone your way, even if it's short lived?
So if a Narcissist is totally deprived of fuel, for whatever reason, the feeling is that of emptiness? Would a Narcissist ever contemplate suicide?
I don’t think they are capable of to take their life because they are very grandiose with themselves.. Family and friends are their fuel. Especially their family.
Wow... That's interesting that empaths would think you're lonely that would be like the furthest thing that I would ever think about you.
@francine6485 I'm thinking that they might be projecting and I used to project that certain people had empathy, or at least compassion.
I learnt the extremely hard way that they lack it, or have none at all, especially when a lot of alcohol and/or other drugs, including psychiatric ones, are involved. 🙁
Very interesting! I guess they don't really have anxiety/worry??
H.G. Tudor is an admitted narcissist who is giving back by helping us understand narcissists chiefly Harry and Harry's wife et al.
Hello , HG. This particular video brought up a question. Can a narcissist be a practicing Christian? I know very well they can attend and be involved in a church. But I cannot see how they could be genuine Christians bc one must humble himself to Christ.
Interesting the tell tale sign of ASPD is no remorse. Narcs are to feel shame or mortification allegedly . aSPD does not.
What about sense of humour? I’ve seen a lot of random laughter thrown in absolutely everywhere.
No SOH.
Thanks
People sometimes have called me a narcissist what should I do I’m tired of being called a psychopath it annoying
Very interesting how you manipulated a way to make money on utube...very clever.
HG, when you are relaxing outside of Tudor Towers with the light breeze and sun on your face, what are you feeling? You say you can’t feel contentment.
More like satisfaction, perhaps?
@@Maugirl2 maybe he just feels the warm sun and thinks of nothing 🤷♀️
He has said that he does not relax. At all. He is always doing something, even when it looks like relaxing, be it reading, working or plotting and planning.
@@IBelongToH.G. impossible to be doing that all of the time. I don’t think so.
@@piperhurtado4945 It is pretty hard to wrap my head around. At least when he is communicating in any way, I assume the narcissism makes relaxing impossible because it has to constantly check for threats. By the way, I think your name is pretty.
Ultra and greaters the need to achieve is the basis for their fuel. Specific need probably from childhood. Only if they did well then maybe close but no cigar but close.
Do you personally feel admiration or loyalty to anyone?
Your insight into your own narcissism surely negates the effectiveness of any fuel gleaned.
Is that like self-fueling? I think there's a 4 letter word for that.
@@jsi4064 no
You have a fan here in Italy! I have only a question, and I would be delighted if you could answer: a narc doesn't feel happiness ( but doesn't miss it, because never felt it), doesn't feel sadness or guilt, a narc always win...well this sound a perfect life, don't you agree? Should we empaths and narc survivor that we are the loosers, or, at least, that we live a very hard life...what do you think h.g.?
Should we THINK I mean
Which book(s) would you consider for me to read. I have a sister in law that once said that I have empathy and she doesn’t. Also she kicked my 88 year old Mom out of their house bc it was just working.
On and on…. She’s exhausting bc she’s competitive and looking for an argument or gotcha moment. Never smiles or laughs. My brother loves her. 😮
Can a narcissist experience some of these traits and not others? Can a narcissist experience all of these things but only to certain degrees? Is it all or nothing?
A 💧 of ⛽.
I can't imagine you ever feeling lonely HG. I mean, it would be difficult to imagine given you are the smartest most crever most physicarry fit. 😉
Narcissistic will say things like I was thinking about you today u it so irtating it’s a lie
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Spot on punishment is something to discuss, my ex enjoyed that a lot sickening, you are doing a great service