I really believe this one skill can make all the difference in life. When I see someone and think that I INSTANTLY like somebody, when I think about it, they were smiling while talking.
I've met two people who were a master at this. One was a former project manager who for whom I contracted. I was amazed at how he could speak angrily to someone about something they have done but with nods and smiles and the listener never realized until the end that they were just reprimanded because they felt so comfortable with him. The second person was a family planner who was trying to get me to invest in his products. And although I didn't understand the lingo of stocks and bonds I did hire him as I felt him as trustworthy, with all his nods and smiles.
I knew a guy who did this naturally where I worked. He was universally liked but he didn't really stand out in any other way. He just had this permanent smile when he spoke with people. It's really powerful.
Andy Andrews - you're truly a blessing in my life. I'm working on internalizing the lessons you teach in your books and other mediums, and what you have to say resonates on some fundamental level that just feels like I'm having an epiphany every time I hear you speak. Thank you!
I cannot believe I never looked up or asked that question before this, tho I always wondered why some people looked phony while talking/smiling. Thanks. If you are 'really' happy being around the people you are conversing with, you can't help but smile.
I noticed I didn't smile at all when talking :/ I started saying the alphabet with a smile 3x every morning to exercise my facial muscles to see if it would make a difference? When I talk about something I like now! :) It seems to be worth the practice so far :)
I think in certain contexts it's fitting to smile while you talk because it comes naturally (not out of habit). I encounter a lot of people that seem to smile all the time while talking and I can't help but feel it's inappropriate to do so all the time. It just feels unnatural, especially if I'm trying to have a serious conversation with that person. I feel like in a conversation your emotions should mirror each other and that should be communicated accurately to the other person - the people conversing should reflect the appropriate mood of the conversation.
I get what you are saying as I've seen newsreaders talking about serious crimes whilst smiling and it is really off putting. But for everyday interactions, it's really useful unless maybe you work as an undertaker.
Just one tip to make it less of a skill - try to have more fun. Watch silly things, enjoy yourself in the company of others and don't take yourself too seriously. ❤
I have become very aware of all the phony radio adds, usually with women, who smile talk. I hate it.And now I understand why so many young women have to bob their head up and down while they talk. They are demanding agreement.
what i learned here is adding light inoffensive humour to the conversation at intervals, being visually self aware of how you don't want to be perceived as some sort of strong personality, and mildly exaggerating your own humourous statements with change in intonation & a somewhat submissiveness in demeanour looking for approval from the other person, but being self-aware of it & therefore again avoiding any strong personality (poor self confidence)
@@prixipix6589 Bro, congrats! I also wanted to become a flight attendant but now it's very complicated due to this pandemic... What did you do to get on cruise ships? Thank you in advance
I have met a few people that I think could tell someone what they are doing really sucks and still have the recipient not close down or get angry. I think it is a combination of tone of voice, language, body language, empathy, and an internal smile when they talk (with at least a neutral expression on their face). I think that a genuine concern for people and a curiosity about what they can contribute to the world goes a long way. "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie talks a lot about that last sentence.
I always have this really big smile and a really happy look on my face whenever I talk but my resting face looks like I'm having a identity crisis. A lot of my friends can't tell if I'm really happy or really upset when I just feel neutral.
The reason people don't smile when they talk is because it's creepy. Especially if they are not talking about something amusing or funny. You are using something used car salesmen use. Smiling and shaking their head yes to foster a feeling of agreement.
People in the past have grinned and smirked at each other while I spoke. And I have found it so very off putting. I have autism. So that is why I can’t really interact properly with anyone. I have a Daughter, who is nearly 3 years old. Has that ever happens to you, about people grinning and smirking at you while you talk to them?
also when they vigorously nod their head with wide eyes. dude im not some sort of prophet of old spewing gospel. im talking about the job market overseas. damn
Some times it can be annoying though when they smile during the whole conversation. Like what's so frikkin funny? The conversation could be serious and they're like "😃" It can also be nervous habit. Don't give me that "oh I'm just happy" bih 🙄
Smile talking is purposely mismatching your body language with your words. It's insincere and in many cases downright creepy. Politicians, public speakers and sales people do it. Once you notice it, it becomes off putting. It's better to be yourself and sincere rather than practicing these cheap NLP tricks.
I really believe this one skill can make all the difference in life. When I see someone and think that I INSTANTLY like somebody, when I think about it, they were smiling while talking.
I just couldn't stop smiling through this whole 3 minutes - Best. Tutorial. Ever.
I've met two people who were a master at this. One was a former project manager who for whom I contracted. I was amazed at how he could speak angrily to someone about something they have done but with nods and smiles and the listener never realized until the end that they were just reprimanded because they felt so comfortable with him. The second person was a family planner who was trying to get me to invest in his products. And although I didn't understand the lingo of stocks and bonds I did hire him as I felt him as trustworthy, with all his nods and smiles.
I knew a guy who did this naturally where I worked. He was universally liked but he didn't really stand out in any other way. He just had this permanent smile when he spoke with people. It's really powerful.
Andy Andrews - you're truly a blessing in my life. I'm working on internalizing the lessons you teach in your books and other mediums, and what you have to say resonates on some fundamental level that just feels like I'm having an epiphany every time I hear you speak.
Thank you!
Me - smiling while talking.
My friends - C'mon, who's she?
Omg I fall in love how he talkkkk!! I’ll practice every second
I cannot believe I never looked up or asked that question before this, tho I always wondered why some people looked phony while talking/smiling. Thanks. If you are 'really' happy being around the people you are conversing with, you can't help but smile.
I noticed I didn't smile at all when talking :/ I started saying the alphabet with a smile 3x every morning to exercise my facial muscles to see if it would make a difference? When I talk about something I like now! :) It seems to be worth the practice so far :)
Haha, this guy is hilarious!😂
I think in certain contexts it's fitting to smile while you talk because it comes naturally (not out of habit). I encounter a lot of people that seem to smile all the time while talking and I can't help but feel it's inappropriate to do so all the time. It just feels unnatural, especially if I'm trying to have a serious conversation with that person. I feel like in a conversation your emotions should mirror each other and that should be communicated accurately to the other person - the people conversing should reflect the appropriate mood of the conversation.
I get what you are saying as I've seen newsreaders talking about serious crimes whilst smiling and it is really off putting. But for everyday interactions, it's really useful unless maybe you work as an undertaker.
Just one tip to make it less of a skill - try to have more fun. Watch silly things, enjoy yourself in the company of others and don't take yourself too seriously. ❤
Thank you so much. It really helped. I am running a faceless RUclips channel but I would really love to express myself.
I have become very aware of all the phony radio adds, usually with women, who smile talk. I hate it.And now I understand why so many young women have to bob their head up and down while they talk. They are demanding agreement.
what i learned here is adding light inoffensive humour to the conversation at intervals, being visually self aware of how you don't want to be perceived as some sort of strong personality, and mildly exaggerating your own humourous statements with change in intonation & a somewhat submissiveness in demeanour looking for approval from the other person, but being self-aware of it & therefore again avoiding any strong personality (poor self confidence)
I'm practicing by my own for an interview to become flight attendant. it's hard
I'm here exactly for that reason, did the video works for you? You get the job?
Me too. Have both of you gotten the job flight attendant yet?
Didnt make it. But I'm working on cruise ships. Love it.
@@prixipix6589 Bro, congrats! I also wanted to become a flight attendant but now it's very complicated due to this pandemic... What did you do to get on cruise ships? Thank you in advance
Here for the same reason too. My recruiter said I needed to smile more while talking 🥹
Thank you all the way from Dubai
You got us smiling, amazing tutorial!
As you smile and talk it looks natural.
Agree
My co workers thought it was strange
I have met a few people that I think could tell someone what they are doing really sucks and still have the recipient not close down or get angry. I think it is a combination of tone of voice, language, body language, empathy, and an internal smile when they talk (with at least a neutral expression on their face). I think that a genuine concern for people and a curiosity about what they can contribute to the world goes a long way. "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie talks a lot about that last sentence.
Thank you for this video.
Great reminder and wonderful to share.
I noticed this while watching THE BOYS. I am working on being a better person every day slowly, but this is a good thing to try.
Person like smiling always be lucky.
Very good advise, thank you.ill bet it will open doors
I smilled to come here
Do you know the secret to smiling while you talk? Without feeling phony? Watch this!
I want to stop smiling when I talk
I smile when I talk sometimes without knowing
Best tutorial ever (y)
The greatest git good ever.
Great Video! short precise and effective. I can definitely take something away from this video
Awesome tip, Andy. You're salt to the earth.
I've been doing this my whole life lol. I'm still trying to wonder how I do it
I started nodding and smiling while he was nodding wtf
I always have this really big smile and a really happy look on my face whenever I talk but my resting face looks like I'm having a identity crisis. A lot of my friends can't tell if I'm really happy or really upset when I just feel neutral.
LOL I have never related so well to a comment!
Wow I can talk while smiling it awesome
How do u do it?
The reason people don't smile when they talk is because it's creepy. Especially if they are not talking about something amusing or funny. You are using something used car salesmen use. Smiling and shaking their head yes to foster a feeling of agreement.
Actually it is opposite..my friend...just u must have sense.......if someone dies or something sad happens....stop smiling that's it
From india
I smile and laugh when I talk to people its natural
Nah I think it came as acquired
Wicked awesome advice.
Where is tutorial...how to do smile while taking where is the procecure in the vedio?
Good video
I just swallowed my smoke from cigarette
Great tutorial for Sociopaths 🥴😂
People in the past have grinned and smirked at each other while I spoke. And I have found it so very off putting. I have autism. So that is why I can’t really interact properly with anyone. I have a Daughter, who is nearly 3 years old. Has that ever happens to you, about people grinning and smirking at you while you talk to them?
also when they vigorously nod their head with wide eyes. dude im not some sort of prophet of old spewing gospel. im talking about the job market overseas. damn
My man
Some times it can be annoying though when they smile during the whole conversation. Like what's so frikkin funny? The conversation could be serious and they're like "😃" It can also be nervous habit. Don't give me that "oh I'm just happy" bih 🙄
Lol this comment makes me feel exposed
If the other person pay attention here
Smile talking is purposely mismatching your body language with your words. It's insincere and in many cases downright creepy. Politicians, public speakers and sales people do it. Once you notice it, it becomes off putting. It's better to be yourself and sincere rather than practicing these cheap NLP tricks.
I've seen a lot of youtubers exaggerate smiling to a very cringy level and it feels so fake.
I dont have to practise
It belongs to my personality :)
I don’t think so
I was told not to smile while talking... Is it wrong ?? I feel people dont take you seriously when you smile a bit everytime
For men yes, for women no
@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 i was in a sales job... My manager always told me not to smile... I dont know. I feel.like im stupid
if your telling a funny story it's normal
Has Fousey been here?
Why u say that?
People that smile while talking are the bs. It’s so fake these days.Any One who does, has self image problems or is a con.
I'm sorry but that looks forced and unnatural.
sorry not worth watching