Great talk . Thank you . Made me think that the first act of self compassion for oneself is actually having the courage to seek therapy and walk through that door for the first time
are the other speakers on you tube for this conference? wow I have been so hard on myself and others inducted into the 1980s mentality of my worth is money, but yet it was freedom as a goal from the grip of others and that is worth it. so many expectations at every turn. one cannot even get a haircut without an uneducated person combing through the details of your life and then imposing a comparison to doris day movies. what do you say to someone who can make you look funny then. retired therapist could become hairdressers?
Easier said than done.... With Complex trauma it's not so easy to 'connect' w ppl bc of trust issues. This can be an obstacle to self compassion since you need all 3 components.. Common humanity (connection) As well ...after one has been hurt many ppl go directly to anger (instead of self-compassion) to reclaim their power...in a nanosecond (default mode)
Chronic complex trauma experienced results in CPTSD..! vs your statement about most ppl that experience trauma not developing PTSD.. It DEPENDS on the nature of the trauma duration etc Please don't invalidate those w childhood trauma...🙏
I'm not a doctor, but in my opinion 100%. I have family members who are constantly riddled with health anxiety. My personal theory is that because trait-shame causes us to believe there is something fundamentally wrong with us, hypochondria can manifest when we become obsessed with trying to 'be in perfect health' all the time, similarly to how other types of perfectionism plague people with trait-shame.
Tragically, Chris pushes the responsibility onto abuse survivors to heal ourselves, when our trauma was at the hands of uncaring, nonprotective, stressed-out, often alcoholic, unattentive, emotionally abandoning, and too often actively abusive parents/parent figures. So, the healing must be in the context of NEW PARENTING by caring and protective fellows who "love us until we can love ourselves". The individual psychotherapy can only go so far, but group therapy is far more powerful and healing. Ironically, for many of us, this takes place in 12-step recovery group meetings and over an often lengthy period of time, but the outcomes are nothing short of miraculous. I'm a retired psychiatrist and abuse survivor and have experienced this miraculous healing process first hand, for $1-2/session. 20% of American adults ages 20-50 die from alcoholism in the US and Chris's do-it-yourself method is too anemic and infrequent to accomplish what serious 12-step group therapy can and does. Good Luck! Stress R Us
Great talk . Thank you . Made me think that the first act of self compassion for oneself is actually having the courage to seek therapy and walk through that door for the first time
Louise Hay has been teaching mirror work self-compassionate love for decades. Love this teaching.
55:35 “how do you care for yourself when you’re sad? what do you think you need when you feel sad like this?”
I really enjoyed this. The wish to be loved concept was really helpful and the meditation was great. Thank you.
Thank you so much
Looking forward to your new book on Shame !
are the other speakers on you tube for this conference?
wow I have been so hard on myself and others inducted into the 1980s mentality of my worth is money, but yet it was freedom as a goal from the grip of others and that is worth it. so many expectations at every turn. one cannot even get a haircut without an uneducated person combing through the details of your life and then imposing a comparison to doris day movies.
what do you say to someone who can make you look funny then. retired therapist could become hairdressers?
Easier said than done....
With Complex trauma it's not so easy to 'connect' w ppl bc of trust issues.
This can be an obstacle to self compassion since you need all 3 components..
Common humanity (connection)
As well ...after one has been hurt many ppl go directly to anger (instead of self-compassion) to reclaim their power...in a nanosecond (default mode)
The most sweetest man in the world 🌻
Thank you for making this talk available. Very useful and informative
41:07 i've always questioned the same thing 😅 glad to know now!
Thank you so much, everything has shared is so helpful!! 🙏
Wonderful. Thank you so much.
Chronic complex trauma experienced results in CPTSD..! vs your statement about most ppl that experience trauma not developing PTSD..
It DEPENDS on the nature of the trauma duration etc
Please don't invalidate those w childhood trauma...🙏
Would you add hypochondria to the list of symptoms propagated by trait-shame developed within early childhood?
I'm not a doctor, but in my opinion 100%. I have family members who are constantly riddled with health anxiety. My personal theory is that because trait-shame causes us to believe there is something fundamentally wrong with us, hypochondria can manifest when we become obsessed with trying to 'be in perfect health' all the time, similarly to how other types of perfectionism plague people with trait-shame.
Thank you so much
I need this
Very interesting.
Tragically, Chris pushes the responsibility onto abuse survivors to heal ourselves, when our trauma was at the hands of uncaring, nonprotective, stressed-out, often alcoholic, unattentive, emotionally abandoning, and too often actively abusive parents/parent figures. So, the healing must be in the context of NEW PARENTING by caring and protective fellows who "love us until we can love ourselves". The individual psychotherapy can only go so far, but group therapy is far more powerful and healing. Ironically, for many of us, this takes place in 12-step recovery group meetings and over an often lengthy period of time, but the outcomes are nothing short of miraculous. I'm a retired psychiatrist and abuse survivor and have experienced this miraculous healing process first hand, for $1-2/session. 20% of American adults ages 20-50 die from alcoholism in the US and Chris's do-it-yourself method is too anemic and infrequent to accomplish what serious 12-step group therapy can and does. Good Luck! Stress R Us
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i have enough of your nonsense, thanks!
Public speaking anxiety :)