I think this is more like "10 things chinese guys shouldn't say when dating ANY girls" hahahaha... especially the showing off part... love your videos~~
Came from ADVChina. Wish I could find this video earlier! I am from a small town in China, and I have never seen any western girl before age 19. Right now I have been living in a small town in the Midwest in U.S. for five years. I hit 7 out of 10 things on your list in the past five years. I still remember that how mad my date was when I told her don't eat that ice cream because that will make you gain weight! I kinda learned my lesson in the hard way. Very nice video, I will keep following up.
i still remember when my korean boyfriend kept asking me why i decided to date him, a korean guy, instead of finding someone from my country.... like..... dude maybe because i liked you as a person and that's all i care about??? it can be a bit annoying, i agree!
I can see your frustrations when it comes to dating Chinese guys . I am going to tell you something to cheer you up . As a Chinese guy , not your average typical Chinese guy though , I am going to tell you how I proposed to my Scottish/Irish girlfriend twenty years ago in 1995 . On one sunny afternoon we took the train from Glasgow to Helensburgh to have fish and chip lunch near the seaside and did some sightseeing and shopping , on the way back when we got back to Glasgow it was already near 7:00pm , so we decided to eat out in a Chinese restaurant , while we were looking at the menu I asked my girlfriend what would you like ...... beef , chicken , seafood , pork , etc .Then she said "chicken" . That suddenly gave me an idea proposing to her .I said " well , I am no Robert Redford and you are no spring chicken , let's get hitched ."Twenty two years later we are still happily together ...... married of course .Regarding the weight issue , I never questioned her going to Scottish Slimmer to try to lose weight , you see she needs to pay £5 everytime to get in so I know she will definitely lose 5 pounds every week .Have a nice day .
My cousin sister actually told me that you are not going to get any Chinese girl if you don't do, bla bla bla like the expensive restaurant, car, house, you mentioned, it is almost like a cultural thing. I totally agree with you, it makes relationship look like buying and selling, and a lot of Chinese girls such as in 非诚勿扰 they asked those questions too. I hope all foreign girls are like you. :)
I love this video! You're so funny and you make a lot of good points here; I've experienced some of these myself as well. Also, when it comes to the handshake part, I think the word you were looking for is "firm" - I agree, a firm handshake is so important!
I gotta say I really like this video. In this video, a lot of things were mentioned about western girls' mindset, which is vitally important for Chinese to mingle with caucasian girls. Pretty cool video and looking forward to more stunning videos.Thanks, Ling Ling! All the best to you in China!
I just know about your channel recently. One thing I love about you is that despite all those negative things you've seen online or in the media, you still chose to embrace the Chinese culture ♥ Thank you. 😇
time flies, hi, Lena...three years has passed when i saw this video for the first time nowadays. wish you will be healthy again and being back to China if given the chance...
To propose in two months? that's not even typical for Chinese who date another Chinese..... Job is an important thing for us, so we get used to this idea, no good job no girlfriend. lol Strong steady handshake may be too "aggressive" in Chinese culture, as we dont get used to that much of body contacts. Fancy expensive restaurants: one of the reasons I am still single. sigh and lol. No money for that. I don't see foreign guys as superiors. But I understand why some think so: they just have so many advantages in China. Let's say, going to some restaurant or bars, foreign guys do not need to pay entrance fees, and girls no need either. but Chinese men have to pay. I call such a thing "racism". And I refuse to go to any such restaurants or bars in China. I am not a inferior race to anyone, especially it's in my hometown. Ask bra size? I only know one guy who did this once, and everyone else think his EQ is low. The guy who ask you that? That's not polite for us either.
+C Sun thank you for sharing your experience. Yes I call that racism too and it's unfair but hard to change. Haha he was a quite successful guy but who knows maybe a little slow haba
My Chinese husband never proposed but he did say some things like, 'if we got married would we get married in a church?" just a few weeks after meeting. And yes, we did end up getting married in a church. lol
that's not really a proposal. but thats a way to try to figure out if a girl is thinking of marriage in the long term. though I would still say, a few weeks is not typical.
Fantastic observations! Im a US citizen that works with almost all Chinese and Malaysian born people. We definitely have these conversations as they learn to live here in the US.
Why not try some Chinese guys who understand western culture, or pretty international. Otherwise, you might be stuck in Chinese style dating which will not meet your needing. You can always find more open-mind and international people in those eastern big cities in China, like Shenzhen, Shanghai, Beijing etc. People from middle and western China usually will be more traditional. After living in Nanjing for more than a decade, I find my way of doing and thinking is quite different compared to what my relatives do in Hunan province. Anyway, China is huge. Just go for it. I hope you enjoy your life in China.
AHAHA, I think you are totally right with all of them :D this is so typical mainland Chinese. The mentality is very well described. Especially the confidence part, show off part and money parts. I guess Chinese society and twisted trends in China have brainwashed guys in such a way, I guess nowadays Chinese just can't orientate themselves to a right value, it needs time for them to truely know about this world. It is on the process, i guess after a few decades , this kind of mentality will fade. So no wonder all this answer and question may make one shocked! If you put them in a foreign place for a while, i can assure that most of them won't act like that any more. :D
Hey Lena, just saw the video where Wincent and Laowhy86 interviewed you and that got me curious, how did you manage to get a work visa in China? I'm also Scandinavian (yey) but I looked into teaching English in China and it seems nowadays it's difficult to do for Europeans? I might be wrong though, curious to hear your answer. :)
Gosh that made me laugh. Yes! When I was in China I experienced exactly the same situation. At first I thought am I being too sensitive to these questions. Then after a while I began to really hate being asked over, and over, and over again. Arggggh!!!
I totally feel you :) the lack of confidence is just like all the Danes like to ask me why do I choose to come to Denmark.. nobody from other countries asked me why I came to their countries.. Danes also need to be more confident :) don't always think Denmark is a small country...
Those things u said about Chinese guys showing off their fancy gears of they own or how big of the houses and the marriage thing are THE exact things Chinese girls will feel impressed. Sadly it's very hard for the guys to get out of this cycle so it slowly becomes a thing. And for those who ask u private questions, it just means they don't know nor care to know anything about the west which means don't waste ur time on them.
I started this video to know culture/manner shocking/different things at first, why and when did I take my notebook out and now 11:01 taking the vocabulary matching notes? LOOOOOOOL BTW, was that "a bu" sounds Chinese or English, please? I thought that was like "啊不”, haha
Confidence is never a merit in Chinese culture. I've never heard any of girls around me said they like confident guys (and so am I.) Their common answers toward a guy is tall. And we girls don't want to be called sexy, ...even a primary girl dislike sexy word haha. Cute is way more better for describing a girl. Being asked for the weight is quite normal 😂 Your friends might ask you even when they first meet you. Maybe that's the way that they are showing they really notice you 😂
My best friend, I like him, not sure if he likes me that way honestly. but he does the opposite and pokes fun at how small I am, such as I will die from 'natural selection' from the cold because I am too thin 🤣
3:36 why chinese guy coz i cant marry jackson wang so i want to find who look like him 🤧 6:13 i hate show off too like who cares if you have anything as long i love you i will love you the rest of my love apparently chinese ask me to marry him and i said no 9:23 my weight is 52kg 😑
Asian people like talk about money its same everywhere! But i kinda dont know why i met a lot of canadian girls they like to stay with the guys cant even pay a diner at the restaurent!
Lenaaround haha yeah cultural shock! If here in canada i want to date a lady of course i would like to pay! And well dressed! Its a manner of gentleman
I hate any predefined rules for a relationship. dating is private things, as long as the F + M have no problem, they can share any rare topic, any niche taste, any dissent hobbies. you are pro-liberal, pro-feminist pro-Jante-Law at first sight, but do you know love is blind , insane and crazy, its fuel of passion, its expedition to new world. when you turn ur dating to guided operation of check list or manual book, u have succumbed to the sloppy mediocrity designed by norm of society and ancestors, or circles. break shackles of establishment, brave girl, try those forbidden fruits, they will be sweet and addictive. before ur next dating, watch The [English Patient (1996) ] first.
What is your bra size? lol Seriously, all these are understandable except the shaking hand. We believe shaking hand strongly is too aggressive especially with a girl. We think boys should be soft and gentle to girls.
Great video! However, it is understandable that he would ask you why you are interested because it is so rare. A black woman would ask me every time the same question for the same reason. Well good luck with you!
My friend who's 21 is just starting to date, and my other long time friend who's 40 she waited till she was 32 before marriage because she wanted the right guy... He turned out to be a physically and verbally abusive guy who probably cheats on her. Even though he met all of these Chinese standards for a good guy I.E. alot of money, apartments, and cars. And in the event of a divorce the man takes all... It seems like it's already been ingrained in their minds from an early age that once u get rich and older it's normal to go cheat.
Top tip for Chinese guys trying to date western girls from a western guy - DON'T FRICKIN BOTHER! The juice isn't worth the squeeze with western girls! You will go through more sh*t than it's worth!
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I think this is more like "10 things chinese guys shouldn't say when dating ANY girls" hahahaha... especially the showing off part... love your videos~~
I met a chinese guy and he said his friends said I would be perfect if I lost weight. You gave me the courage to block him on wechat.
lol pls.....
Came from ADVChina. Wish I could find this video earlier! I am from a small town in China, and I have never seen any western girl before age 19. Right now I have been living in a small town in the Midwest in U.S. for five years. I hit 7 out of 10 things on your list in the past five years. I still remember that how mad my date was when I told her don't eat that ice cream because that will make you gain weight! I kinda learned my lesson in the hard way. Very nice video, I will keep following up.
i still remember when my korean boyfriend kept asking me why i decided to date him, a korean guy, instead of finding someone from my country.... like..... dude maybe because i liked you as a person and that's all i care about??? it can be a bit annoying, i agree!
Lenaaround exactly!
It's because of Imperialism
I can see your frustrations when it comes to dating Chinese guys . I am going to tell you something to cheer you up . As a Chinese guy , not your average typical Chinese guy though , I am going to tell you how I proposed to my Scottish/Irish girlfriend twenty years ago in 1995 . On one sunny afternoon we took the train from Glasgow to Helensburgh to have fish and chip lunch near the seaside and did some sightseeing and shopping , on the way back when we got back to Glasgow it was already near 7:00pm , so we decided to eat out in a Chinese restaurant , while we were looking at the menu I asked my girlfriend what would you like ...... beef , chicken , seafood , pork , etc .Then she said "chicken" . That suddenly gave me an idea proposing to her .I said " well , I am no Robert Redford and you are no spring chicken , let's get hitched ."Twenty two years later we are still happily together ...... married of course .Regarding the weight issue , I never questioned her going to Scottish Slimmer to try to lose weight , you see she needs to pay £5 everytime to get in so I know she will definitely lose 5 pounds every week .Have a nice day .
This kind of thing always happens in relationships between people from distant cultures, but it's only in the beginning
My cousin sister actually told me that you are not going to get any Chinese girl if you don't do, bla bla bla like the expensive restaurant, car, house, you mentioned, it is almost like a cultural thing. I totally agree with you, it makes relationship look like buying and selling, and a lot of Chinese girls such as in 非诚勿扰 they asked those questions too. I hope all foreign girls are like you. :)
That was funny!! You made me crack up!! And I'm a Chinese guy!! 😂😂😂😂
I love this video! You're so funny and you make a lot of good points here; I've experienced some of these myself as well. Also, when it comes to the handshake part, I think the word you were looking for is "firm" - I agree, a firm handshake is so important!
I gotta say I really like this video. In this video, a lot of things were mentioned about western girls' mindset, which is vitally important for Chinese to mingle with caucasian girls. Pretty cool video and looking forward to more stunning videos.Thanks, Ling Ling! All the best to you in China!
I just know about your channel recently. One thing I love about you is that despite all those negative things you've seen online or in the media, you still chose to embrace the Chinese culture ♥ Thank you. 😇
time flies, hi, Lena...three years has passed when i saw this video for the first time nowadays. wish you will be healthy again and being back to China if given the chance...
I love your personality. Great videos.
funny pointing out in thinking of what's on chinese mind in general guys and what's on western girls mind particularly in dating. thank you so much :)
Lenaaround wishing the lenaaround being kept on stabilized with as many subscribers as it possible. ja yoe !!!
To propose in two months? that's not even typical for Chinese who date another Chinese.....
Job is an important thing for us, so we get used to this idea, no good job no girlfriend. lol
Strong steady handshake may be too "aggressive" in Chinese culture, as we dont get used to that much of body contacts.
Fancy expensive restaurants: one of the reasons I am still single. sigh and lol. No money for that.
I don't see foreign guys as superiors. But I understand why some think so: they just have so many advantages in China. Let's say, going to some restaurant or bars, foreign guys do not need to pay entrance fees, and girls no need either. but Chinese men have to pay. I call such a thing "racism". And I refuse to go to any such restaurants or bars in China. I am not a inferior race to anyone, especially it's in my hometown.
Ask bra size? I only know one guy who did this once, and everyone else think his EQ is low. The guy who ask you that? That's not polite for us either.
+C Sun thank you for sharing your experience. Yes I call that racism too and it's unfair but hard to change.
Haha he was a quite successful guy but who knows maybe a little slow haba
My Chinese husband never proposed but he did say some things like, 'if we got married would we get married in a church?" just a few weeks after meeting. And yes, we did end up getting married in a church. lol
that's not really a proposal. but thats a way to try to figure out if a girl is thinking of marriage in the long term. though I would still say, a few weeks is not typical.
@@AnonymousZyx That's beautiful.
Fantastic observations! Im a US citizen that works with almost all Chinese and Malaysian born people. We definitely have these conversations as they learn to live here in the US.
Hahahahahhahah. Spot on! Chinese guys are very reserved probably because of their culture
Hi lingling, this video was very fun, i really like it. I'm a new subscriber,
Following you from ADVChina, great to know that there are more tubers on China's Culture. :)
Why not try some Chinese guys who understand western culture, or pretty international. Otherwise, you might be stuck in Chinese style dating which will not meet your needing.
You can always find more open-mind and international people in those eastern big cities in China, like Shenzhen, Shanghai, Beijing etc. People from middle and western China usually will be more traditional. After living in Nanjing for more than a decade, I find my way of doing and thinking is quite different compared to what my relatives do in Hunan province.
Anyway, China is huge. Just go for it. I hope you enjoy your life in China.
Your jokes are killing me :D
also funny when she is awkward laughing :D
I had girls asking me about houses, cars etc. I am a pureblood Chinese, but still ... sh*t, we have it hard ...
+Calvin Liang 压力 for sure
wow, Lena is a great resource
Good points! Like your videos, funny and most are pretty correct! Good luck with your life in China!
Cant believe I found you channel a few days ago and now see you were in my hometown. Hope you had a great time.
LOL OMG that was so funny !!! Mainland chinese guys you all have homework !!! LOL
No shawty, I say what I want nomsayin?
AHAHA, I think you are totally right with all of them :D this is so typical mainland Chinese. The mentality is very well described. Especially the confidence part, show off part and money parts. I guess Chinese society and twisted trends in China have brainwashed guys in such a way, I guess nowadays Chinese just can't orientate themselves to a right value, it needs time for them to truely know about this world. It is on the process, i guess after a few decades , this kind of mentality will fade. So no wonder all this answer and question may make one shocked! If you put them in a foreign place for a while, i can assure that most of them won't act like that any more. :D
Here from ADVChina!
I remember you! You lift my spirit.
Same!
I love the way you present in this video, it's lovely.
Very helpful advice, thank you.
What are the characters for curvy? I'm really interested. 谢谢!
I like your glasses andyour personality. Could you make a video about your tattoo?
i love you and your videos so much Lena!! 💕💕
Oh my gosh, the dead fish handshake. It's like they just hand you a dead fish. You're just holding it trying to figure out what to do with it.
watched you spot on ADVChina. stopping by to check your channel
@1:36 omg hahahahahajajaja that laugh!! You got me rolling hahahahahajajaja. That's good shit!
@10:28 hahahahahajajaja a little 胖. I love that! Hahahahaha
11:03 uh不. Wow you are Chinesed or wut. lok
Hey Lena, just saw the video where Wincent and Laowhy86 interviewed you and that got me curious, how did you manage to get a work visa in China? I'm also Scandinavian (yey) but I looked into teaching English in China and it seems nowadays it's difficult to do for Europeans? I might be wrong though, curious to hear your answer. :)
Thanks for the great answer, appreciate it. :)
hello i found you on C Milks and Winston s channel i commented liked and subscribed😎
Gosh that made me laugh. Yes! When I was in China I experienced exactly the same situation. At first I thought am I being too sensitive to these questions. Then after a while I began to really hate being asked over, and over, and over again. Arggggh!!!
the dating rules ,culture are different here in china, keep going , I like your video
I totally feel you :) the lack of confidence is just like all the Danes like to ask me why do I choose to come to Denmark.. nobody from other countries asked me why I came to their countries.. Danes also need to be more confident :) don't always think Denmark is a small country...
Curvy is ok if not saying fat, big chubby? Dating coach
these are so true hehe the comparison can really weigh you down
Those things u said about Chinese guys showing off their fancy gears of they own or how big of the houses and the marriage thing are THE exact things Chinese girls will feel impressed. Sadly it's very hard for the guys to get out of this cycle so it slowly becomes a thing.
And for those who ask u private questions, it just means they don't know nor care to know anything about the west which means don't waste ur time on them.
Great video! Subscribed! （中国粉丝）
Love your confidence 😊😁
Hello, I came from ADVchina to like and subbed
Very interesting video!!!
I started this video to know culture/manner shocking/different things at first, why and when did I take my notebook out and now 11:01 taking the vocabulary matching notes? LOOOOOOOL BTW, was that "a bu" sounds Chinese or English, please? I thought that was like "啊不”, haha
He asked me about my weight it made me feel so down
What should I do and It was just out first day
Gosh, that is so hilarious. I like your videos.
ADVChina brought me here New Sub for you girl :)
Sorry to hear about you having so much trouble with some of the Chinese males there in the mainland 😞 #LenaaroundSwatterLife
Lenaaround That is wonderful to hear Lena ☺️ You deserve nothing less than that
Genuine human u r
Great video, Is it ok to ask a girl's age?
Bengali girls also love to marry rich men. Doesn't matter which country he is from 😥😥
I hate showoff, focus on money, and ask about Jin
ahhhhhhhhh, it was a funny video.~ I am a Chinese girl and I am from Changsha, what you said I totally agree~~~ahhhhhhh
Well said！Exactly！
Confidence is never a merit in Chinese culture. I've never heard any of girls around me said they like confident guys (and so am I.) Their common answers toward a guy is tall. And we girls don't want to be called sexy, ...even a primary girl dislike sexy word haha. Cute is way more better for describing a girl. Being asked for the weight is quite normal 😂 Your friends might ask you even when they first meet you. Maybe that's the way that they are showing they really notice you 😂
thanks it is helpful
My best friend, I like him, not sure if he likes me that way honestly.
but he does the opposite and pokes fun at how small I am, such as I will die from 'natural selection' from the cold because I am too thin 🤣
Homework done.
like your video, enjoy yur stay in China
+FeniX Gu thanks :)
Gotta agree with u on alot of these points hahah.
omg, you should be my dating coach.
3:36 why chinese guy
coz i cant marry jackson wang so i want to find who look like him 🤧
6:13 i hate show off too like who cares if you have anything as long i love you i will love you the rest of my love
apparently chinese ask me to marry him and i said no
9:23 my weight is 52kg 😑
A firm handshake 😂😂😂
i wanna date zhang yixing.
Here from ADVChina.
Came from ADVChina. One question, how good do you have to be or what kind of education do you need to have to get a english teaching job in China?
Şükru Mehmed Bachelor and a white face is the standard now.
Zichang Lin White face check but I am an engineering drop out.
Zichang Lin. lol white worship in China is disgusting
You are very beautiful and having a very cute personality.
Weight wise, I think you are just fine by any standard.. Just saying.. Well, within reason is how I would put it precisely.
And how tall are you exactly as a Danish girl???
Ok that's not bad.
Oh I think it should be 168 cm or 1.68 m^_^
Lenaaround what?
What does the tattoo state on her right wrist area?
Asian people like talk about money its same everywhere! But i kinda dont know why i met a lot of canadian girls they like to stay with the guys cant even pay a diner at the restaurent!
+Chudong Li we date guys we like not guys with money, that's probably why
Lenaaround haha yeah cultural shock! If here in canada i want to date a lady of course i would like to pay! And well dressed! Its a manner of gentleman
Just accept the fact that east is not west that way all is fine. We don't tell westerners to be like asians it's offensive.
I just now see your videos you are so lovely 😍😘😍
Lol. Some of us are clueless :(
I hate any predefined rules for a relationship. dating is private things, as long as the F + M have no problem, they can share any rare topic, any niche taste, any dissent hobbies.
you are pro-liberal, pro-feminist pro-Jante-Law at first sight, but do you know love is blind , insane and crazy, its fuel of passion, its expedition to new world.
when you turn ur dating to guided operation of check list or manual book, u have succumbed to the sloppy mediocrity designed by norm of society and ancestors, or circles.
break shackles of establishment, brave girl, try those forbidden fruits, they will be sweet and addictive. before ur next dating, watch The [English Patient (1996) ] first.
ADV China me. New sub.💜
What is your bra size? lol Seriously, all these are understandable except the shaking hand. We believe shaking hand strongly is too aggressive especially with a girl. We think boys should be soft and gentle to girls.
+Chen Xin haha interesting times in China for sure. Always another story haha
You are so cute!
u r sweet lookg..i like yr cheerful personality..wsh i hv gf like u
here I come
hahahahah weight and bra size LOL I can relate . like whyyyy ?
👍
that's soo funny
When you're so insecure about your weight and you make it *his* problem....
People shouldn't be mentioning weight anyways and comparing.
you are so cute
Great video! However, it is understandable that he would ask you why you are interested because it is so rare. A black woman would ask me every time the same question for the same reason. Well good luck with you!
詹特法则？哈哈
Hair???? Makeup??? Contact Lenses??? Longer hair maybe ????
前提是遇到一个有感觉的外国妹子，233333。
YOU LOOK LIKE MY EX
She sure was :D
Hey Lena my friend told me young Chinese men from china are all turning into playboys now n days is that true?
My friend who's 21 is just starting to date, and my other long time friend who's 40 she waited till she was 32 before marriage because she wanted the right guy... He turned out to be a physically and verbally abusive guy who probably cheats on her. Even though he met all of these Chinese standards for a good guy I.E. alot of money, apartments, and cars. And in the event of a divorce the man takes all... It seems like it's already been ingrained in their minds from an early age that once u get rich and older it's normal to go cheat.
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Top tip for Chinese guys trying to date western girls from a western guy - DON'T FRICKIN BOTHER! The juice isn't worth the squeeze with western girls! You will go through more sh*t than it's worth!
为什么你的发型都老土！！完全不适合中国人的审美
你的想法为什么如此狭窄, 不能接受差异. 他们可以接受你的区别，但你不能接受他们的!?
但是你要評審他人, 他人也可以評審你, 我不覺得全部中國內地或台灣人長得特別優秀, 特別好看。只是談外表,
你們也太片面了。而她沒有批評亞洲男外表, 她所說的只是亞洲男那些不動腦子想的問題和行徑, 內涵比外表更為重要。
nikkietw, 審美觀不同沒有問題, 我也有不同審美觀, 但是不用在人家的版上說長得不優或发型都老土之類的東西, 如果我在你的板上說這樣的話, 你有什麼感受? 這其實算是人身攻擊。就算你真的要批評, 也可以提供建議!
nikkietw 首先我專重你的論點, 但是如果你想真的比較一下, 出去外地走走也是好的。你認識很多德國人? 以一人代表全部人有點不公平。 但是, 不人身攻擊, 就已經好了。
You are so cute