6 Terrible Body Language Habits We Need To Change
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- Опубликовано: 13 июл 2024
- Our body-language habits have a way of sneaking into our everyday lives that we may not even realize we are doing them. However, some of these subconscious behaviors could possibly be the reason for why you aren’t landing that job after your interview, or perhaps why all your blind dates tend to ghost you for no apparent reason. So, if you have a hunch that a body language habit of yours might be the culprit, here are some of the common not-so-great body language habits you should look out for.
#bodylanguage
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Cain, Áine. “11 Horrible Body Language Mistakes That Are Hard to Quit but You’ll Be Glad You Did.”
Business Insider, Business Insider, 4 Apr. 2018, www.businessinsider.com/bad-body-language-habits-2017-12.
Stafford, Tom. “How the Way We Walk Can Increase Risk of Being Mugged.” BBC News, BBC, 2013,
www.bbc.com/future/article/20131104-how-muggers-size-up-your-walk.
Rhett and Link’s “The Safest Way to Walk” from Good Mythical Morning
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I think Spanish would be awesome.
Malay maybe
How did you actually add those languages? Do you learn on it yourself or hiring volunteer?
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Alternate title: Psych2go calling me out for 6 minutes.
Lmao same
1 week*
We should have Amanda do that :)
@@Psych2go hi
Yessir, it do be like that😂
1. Slouching. 1:02
2. Holding a Defensive Position. 1:47
3. Not Walking with Confidence. 2:24
4. Appearing Distracted. 3:28
5. Too Much or Too Less Eye Contact. 3:54
6. Fidgeting. 4:44
I identify with every single one of these LOL.
Thanks :D this comment should get more attention, sadly flooded by those time travellers
Better to not go out
4:35 Temmie is in the sofa :3
I'm 1 and 2
@@71002 you talking to me?
For the fidgetting thing, people who have ADHD tend to do that and in a certain way, it helps them to stay focused because they think better when they are in movement
ya same for autism
@@eldritch_friend yep
@@eldritch_friend ADHD is on the spectrum :) /nm
@@themaleskeleton No it’s not? ADHD is not autism.
@@eldritch_friend Sorry, I meant that it’s related in many ways. Forgot my facts, I hope you don’t take it to offence :)
I wanna point out that some of these behaviors are things that some people with autism, ADHD, etc. cannot help, and those people, like everyone else, also do not intend to give off bad vibes or appear rude in an interview.
AMEN!
Exactly. So the problem is actually that society needs to be more accepting of those people and not enforce arbitrary rules that seek only to oppress those that communicate differently. We aren't the problems, society is. I will not apologize for being who I am because I'm smart enough to recognize that I am not, and was never, at fault in that regard.
@@paigemosher8697 beautifully said. Sucks that this will likely never change, at least not anytime soon, though.
I have ADHD and am always anxious about people mistaking my fidgeting with my rings and doing/ looking somewhere else for disinterest. In reality, if a teacher is lecturing or something similar, I have to be doing SOMETHING else, or I will retain none of the information. So I guess it's all or nothing. Anyway, Thank you for the video, it will help me mask better, because, unfortunately, society can't handle amazingly awesome people like me yet. (Saying that for all the amazingly awesome people with ADHD and autism out there) If you are reading this, neurotypical or no, have a great day!!
But I think the video was more for people without any of those. Like I have anxiety and its hard for me to be confident and not slouch so I get it, but like other can stop these habits
If this lady had to be my teacher, I’d be getting straight A’s. Her voice is so calming and you never get bored of listening to it. Also not to mention how funny she is😄
Haha, perhaps, we will make lessons in psychology with her voice. What do you think?
@@Psych2go YES!!!
That would be awesome for a lot of people
@@Psych2go yes :D
@@Psych2go OMG YES
Her: “Slouching”
Me: *Immediately straightens back*
...for 10-20 seconds before slouching back down again
Repeat for entirety of life
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 YUP 😂
Shh
Me
Khahaa😂
Idk why crossing your arms gets such a bad rep...when I do it it's because it's comfortable and a way to show I'm relaxed in a conversation.
exactly!!
Same
I like how you put a bit more humor to the video than usually, but there are some comments that I think might suggest to some people that they're responsible for being mugged or ghosted or whatever. I think it is important to make it clear that poor body language gives no excuse of doing these stuff.
#1: slouching
*me who does school in my bed all day everyday* 🚶♀️
The animation is so darn cute btw 🦆
I have great posture & a bad azz & powerful walk!
@@decemberlotus cant relate 😔✋
My mom always reminds me to sit up straight but I forget ;-;
This is why my back hurts so much
yeah naphia is the best owo
Little hint for the eye contact thing:
If you're in the middle of an little group, try to keep the eye contact to each one for 3 seconds while talking, this way, even if you aren't talking directly to someone in the group, they can still feel that they're part off the conversation, and not just existing there.
wow this is helpfull too. thanks
yea i actually do this too
Thanks.
making eye contact is so awkward sometimes tho esp if you're telling a story and everyone is looking at you lol
@@gingersnapuu444 the same feeling when everyone is singing happy birthday to you
I love how she still tries to put some humor in the videos, but still is calm and isn’t obnoxious
*THIS CHANNEL IS LIKE A MOTHER! BUT ALSO LIKE A FATHER! ITS BASICALLY A HOME!*
Its full of things you need and want to know on behalf of everyone who watches your channel including me thank you! You have helped me and so many figure out our struggles in life. I just wanted to Thank you for all you do.
Did I just get flipped off by a marshmallow...
I'm ok with that
Lol I thought that too
To be fair, as many of his/her brethren as I've eaten, it's understandable. ;o)
Omg😅. I've eaten very much of its brethren. They're good tho
@@marsp5636 Yup ;o)
ok, so im not the only one! They didn't cover it in the video! ..i suppose the bird technically/literally counts as body language...
“Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.” 🙌🏽
Smelly donke..,,
*AAAAAAAaaAaaAAaAAaaaAAa*
I stay optimistic and everything bad comes to me-
Is that "magnet" or "magnate"??? (you might find it funnier if you look 'em up first)... ;o)
What if my positivity attracts pain?
that explains my life
Alternative title: "Stop being you."
No kidding, I do all of these and I will keep doing 2,4, and 5. I don't see anything bad with those except the lack of interaction with people who will keep on judging you anyway no matter how much you adjust yourself. So, why adjust to that extent?
2:25 i slouch when sitting, i don't have much confidence, but when i walk alone i always have a serious look, looking determined like i know exactly where i'm going, walk with a rapid pace (whish usually adds up to the fact that i'm always running late for everything) and with good posture. you want to look confident and strong so people won't see you as a vunerable target
“Being in a defensive position”
*not me who was in the exact same position as the one on screen*
Funny... my "defensive position" usually involves a lot of running in tight circles and screaming "EVASIVE MANEUVERS! EVASIVE MANEUVERS!"
It doesn't seem to help in job interviews either, but having developed the habit, I've found I'm a LOT more conscious of when I'm shifting into "my defensive position" now. ;o)
lmao what
@@nano2.038 Maybe, the next time you find yourself "getting defensive" in your posture before there's good cause for it, you can picture me "getting into my defensive position" (as it were)... AND then you'll lighten up and start giggling, like so many other folks waiting for their job interviews when I last "got defensive"...
Comedy can be ALL about self awareness, and noticing the rules just SO you break them at the perfect time.
...who needed that job anyway? ;o)
honestly when im defensive im usually just get quiet and avoid all eye contact
@@nano2.038 A lot of people are. I go "full on comic" when I get nervous or defensive. As long as I can keep 'em laughing, they can't even hurt me if they wanted to. ;o)
Maybe instead of judging people so much how they dress, walk, talk or look, we should take EACH person as they are and discover through time. Realizing someone could be shy, had a bad day etc. There would be less suicides if people didn't feel they had to fit a cookie cutter world. We are too uptight over the wrong things! Not everyone can make a good impression. Just fed up with all the judging! Life is too short! YOU could be missing out on an amazing friendship because of being too judgmental!
Well said I too feel like people are so much into judging others that they even forget about their own behavior that could hurt others and it leads the others to feel insecure.
YES THANK YOU someone said it, why cant we just be our own people and accept everyone and talk to everyone equally. Some poeple get distracted easily so being disctrated is a problem for them, some people like to sit comfy and slouch a bit, doesnt mean they are any different from the rest.
Truly said
And you . Are an amazing person x
You’re kinda being hypocritical
Some of these are just making it seem like people are bad for being neuro divergente (meaning having ADHD, OCD, PTSD, etc.) or having jobs on computers, or just being someone like me who does a lot of crossing of legs, arms, and putting one hand on my hip.
I find looking people in the face a lot easier than the eyes for a normal conversation, it shows I'm listening without making either of us feel too uncomfortable. I save direct eye contact for the heavier (or important) conversations.
Same lol
Sad thing about this how many people missed out on some truely great friends and or relationships because said person body langauge was off that day.
The body says alot more than words unfortunately and people could take you the wrong way simply because of how your body talks
Me to a t 🤦🏿
True
Yeah, but the fault is at the person acting because of it.
Only 8% of the way we communicate is through words the tone of our voice and our body language are way more important
It's funny how your body language introduces you before you even speak
I've often found it odd that people so willingly draw conclusions about you within 3 to 5 seconds of approaching you. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 I think that is sometimes helpful for us. By quickly drawing conclusions, we are able to adjust our approach to them (maybe they appear to be not a very bubbly or outgoing person so I will approach them gently) or assess if they are dangerous or not.
@@charfree6888 Some of it's fine... BUT there's a tendency to get downright unhealthy, judgmental, or even toxic with the level of conclusions some people draw...
...anyway, I just find it amusing, considering all the "helpful advice" about not judging books by their covers and so forth. ;o)
@@charfree6888 People that are outgoing and bubbly are the ones to look out for, they love being the center of attention, and when their ego's don't get stroked... watch out.
Where to start?
1) Back injury, I try to keep my posture good but it's hard
2) After being attacked constantly as a child my defenses go up easily
3) Walking confidently lead to my parent thinking I had an attitude and brought on an attack. It was safer to scurry around them and be unnoticeable. Back injury doesn't help now that I'm older.
4) ADHD is a pain. If I spend too much concentration on concentrating on the person talking I miss what they're saying. If I focus on listening not looking I catch everything.
5)Eye contact was another trigger to my abusive parent. Add ADHD and it's hard
6) Figeting and ADHD are friends. I am also very nervous
Having ADHD, I have most of these habits, not by pleasure but because being distracted leads to look away, and fidgeting is hardly avoidable nya. Being focused on my thoughts has me looking at the grounds not to be distracted by people or environment nya.
I would like to add that eye contact struggles are very common for autistic people! A trick I learned for eye contact is looking at the space directly between the eyes, one of the person's tear ducts, or shifting gaze from one eye to the other (less intense than looking at both eyes at once).
Thank you sm I'll try that out another time! I'm not diagnosed with anything but i struggle with it sm
@@hueningpotato5212 omg same
yes i look at their forehead haha
We should never let our body language betray the confidence and sincerity of our words. Just as we should strive to be truthful and speak with conviction, our body should speak the same words with our actions.
damn that’s deep
A lot of these are symptoms/aspects of being mentally ill/neurodivergent! Please don't be ashamed if you do these (cuz I'm very with you)
the speaker's voice is so soothing for all the videos
Hey, I'm that one time traveler that finds this animation too cute and loves the fact that there's subtitles!
You know time traveling is a talent, no need to pay, you're born with it. You just need to exploit that talent. And it can be hard but you'll see it's a whole other world.
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What do you do to do it?
Thanks for the kind words!
how-
chileee
This video made me self conscious. Specifically the ones about looking around and eye contact.
Turron!
The thumbnail was so cutely derpy!! This video was honestly just so nice and helpful, thank you
I understand why people want me to look at them when they are talking, it is difficult for me to do so because i am autistic. Either I
look away and listen very carefully or I look at them and forget what they said or cant listen to what they are saying. (looking someone in the eye is difficult for me,
especially if I am doing it for more than 2 or 3 seconds).
this is definitely my favorite animation. the lines are very soft, the colors don’t pop out, very neutral and very calming, the art style is super cute.
Glad you like it! Would you like to see more of this animation? :)
@@Psych2goyes pwease🥹🥹
Me: “Oh cool, maybe I can learn how to have better social interactions and sidestep my autism!”
Psych2go: *6 minutes of naming common autism body language*
Me: “...dammit....”
This entire video seemed to just name off steps to take if you want to pretend not to be autistic. A.k.a. mask.
@@susanoverbay8119 Agreed. Seemed like a masking video for NDs.
Yeah… I’ve opted to continue being autistic instead :)
These tips have been reinforced my whole life... I have terrible social anxiety. I'm trying to work on them, but I wish there was more understanding for the reason behind these specific habits.
same :T
i love how this channel helps people for the fun of it... it makes me happy
I don’t know how to stop looking away from peoples eyes. It’s not even just people I recently met, I still can’t hold an entire conversation with my best friend or parents while maintaining eye contact the whole time. My brothers are one of the most important people in my life and odds are I couldn’t tell you what color eyes they have
“Defensive Position”
okay then
my defencive postion is putting my knees on my shirt, and twisting my fingers
we can't all be neurotypical michal :) to my fellow fidgety/stimmy folks and ppl who aren't comfy with eye contact: ur good just the way you are
Thank you.
This animation is so lovely my heart was overfilled with cuteness 💕
Also the little jokes were a nice detail, loved it! 🙌🏻✨
Not walking with confidence and coorination.
My ADHD self that keeps walking in shit unless she looks at the ground: how tho?
lol mood
Can we all just appreciate how there were doodles of Phil, Techno and George at 0:26?
(For every mcyt fan)
Yessss and nice pfp
YES
i saw that and wondered if i say awake-
i was scrolling and i finally found the comment
Very useful, thank you :)
The animation and voice is so cute, I love it!
0:45 THE DRAWING! It has Technoblade,Philza, and georgenotfound!
Instructions not clear... walked upsidedown to my interview
I can’t find the crown emoji, Wanna know why? Because your wearing it, that’s why.
Thank you King/Queen/Royalty. You dropped this 👑
Oml this is a good one 😂
@@robot.boy_ no, I think it’s yours.
@@robot.boy_ besides, I don’t need a crown. All I need is for everyone who reads it to feel more confident about themselves ♥️
Ok i got offended
The one habit I can totally relate with was the part where I look away often. I gotta try to make it stop! 😪
I'm prone to everything listed (unintentionally). It's hard to act like you aren't nervous when you are, in fact, nervous. All the time. My mind forsakes me!
Even when I'm not nervous, I feel like I need to do something with my hands; I tend to use hand gestures when I'm talking. Eye contact is hard; I feel very uncomfortable when someone is staring at me. Slouching is a bad habit, and walking confidently in public is challenging at times.
Well, if the chairs I'm forced to sit in 5 hours a day didn't hurt my spine so much, maybe I wouldn't slouch. Sorry for the snappy tone, I didn't get much sleep last night. Also, I have ADHD, which makes it difficult for me to maintain eye contact.
Yeee a lot of these habits are extra hard to leave for NDs
Aaaand another secret video!🤗🙌🏽💕
How-
How did you get it? 🥺🥺
the heck.....?
Good job!
@@enji9855 pysch2go has a patron you can check it out and pay to see the video early! =)
4:36 Did anyone notice that Temmie plushie on the couch? :3
I love the simplicity of your videos..... makes me feel so calm😊
So many commentsssss
The art is adorable thoooo
agh i'm literally getting called out..
also 4:00 isn't that Yashiro Nene's eye from Jibaku Shounen Hanako-Kun? don't know if i overlooked it but it literally look like it is
Im about to say that:v
yes i does look like it
There’s also Tem from Undertale at 4:36 on the couch
I was actually looking for a comment that said that cuz I didn't know if I'm right or not 😅
I also thought that 😄
I love your voice, it's so soothing and your delivery is great. This girl could read the phone book and I'd still feel better!
I have changed and got motivated things to your awesome motivation channel And you're best help for people with anxiety and other problems
Nobody:
Psych2Go at 2:35: "Say what?"
I don't know why this part made me laugh.
It made me laugh too 😆
Sammeeeee
True😂😂😂
I'm a very high fuctioning Autist, as a Child I was always at the adults section researching. I studied Psychology and body language as a child, self taught from my second home: The Library.
Didn't help much as I maintained eye contact for too long. At 46 years old my Psychologist who diagnost my Autism stated my eye contact made him unconfortable.
Good thing is I already knew Chinese don't like eye contact. I'm a Chinese Chef.
All of your animation is so cute, but I simply melted when that sweetheart started their drum solo around 4:50
I looooved that one especially 😭🥰
The videos just keep getting better
With the eye thing so I can't look away and I can't let look directly at them....i'll just I'll just leave 🤣
I've always had a "walk of confidence" I put on when walking to/from school, and I always know when someone is around. When I leave my house, I look up and down the streets, doing the same when I turn corners. My friends always found it weird, but I do it out of need for safety. I also hate walking alone, but I normally have to, especially to school. So yeah, I always make sure I know the normal time I leave and the people who show up around that time, and if I feel iffy about something, I leave 5 minutes early that day just to make sure I feel safe. And I live in a pretty good neighborhood, but that's what my mom+dad always taught me too do.
Cute animation, sprinkle in some comic relief = great video... ty Amanda...
Thanks..., Your video contents are superb 🙂
Don’t buy time machines in a mall! They are really cheap and never work properly
Where did you get yours?!
@@Psych2go i got mine off of Amazon.
Its really good i use it all the time.
eye-
Que? What the hell is going on here 💀
@@Psych2go I got mine from the dollar store, they have much better time machines. None of those cheap ones you see at the mall.
this video made me uncomfortable
i have autism so i cant just stop fidgeting or look someone in the eyes
its very stressful for me and i cant focus without it
I love the new artstyle! I also love the colors in the video because my eyes are way to sensitive bright colors , w,
Omg I love Rhett and Link sm I love how you referenced them.
Omg the animation is so adorable! Lovely voice! Ahhh love this channel
Thank you so much! Glad you like them :)
This was really helpful, especially having healthy posture, but what about people who are autistic or have ADHD? Some of the behaviors, like stimming and limited eye contact are habits that seem to be an inherent part of some people. Should behaviors like these still be corrected or should they just be accepted as the way that person is? I've heard that it's really stressful for some autistic people to stop simming or to give some people eye contact, and at the end of the day, they get burnt out from it, and just want to be accepted by others for the way they are. At least, as far as I know. It would be nice to have more videos about this subject.
Yeah, trying to force neurodivergent people to act the way neurotypicals like by controlling things like eye contact and stimming is ableist, no question about it. They can either accept how we're wired or mind their damn business- it is incredibly selfish of them to think we should be the ones to change when we are the ones who can't help the way we are. THEY can change, or they can just not talk to anyone ever again.
I was thinking the same. I went from too much staring to almost no eye contact. I can listen better when I don't look directly at the person or when I'm looking around passively, and I fidget and stim constantly. All of these increased the older I got. My brain power is too focused on keeping me alive that it gave up on trying to keep me looking "normal".
I love your voice its so calming nad I love your content of teaching too
U guys are amazing you post so many vids!
If it weren't for Psych2go I would never noticed that things I do are bad for me
But most of these are only bad because of other (stupid) people, not that you're doing something bad.
@@Nekotaku_TV Hmm very true
We hope this video has helped you in some way! How many habits did you relate to?
@Lotte I agree with you and what you said made me realize alot of things
Hearing your voice is so relaxing like it’s so calm and positive 😭
I love how the thumbnail shows something bad yet looks so cute and child friendly lol
3:54 uh oh 😬 I have social anxiety and I always avoid making eye contact with other people like when I'm shopping. I never really think about their point of view but if I were one of those people and this person keeps avoiding making eye contact with me I would think I don't look normal or something. I should stop avoiding making eye contact
“Fidgeting”
HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO STOP MOVING I’M ONLY HUMAN
Or you can strike a pose :D
Ah when I heard fidgeting I said 😐
yeah they really said “stop having adhd🥰✨”
I love your voice. It's so very soothing.
I love this video, it was funny 😂 I learnt more too. Thanks!
eeeek I have trouble with distractions!! I get distracted so so easily and people think I'm disinterested in them :(
If that happens please tell them you have trouble concentrating. If you want to you can talk to a psychiatrist to look into attention problems or even adhd. Hopes this helps you 🌠
@@edgyedgelord477 ahhh yes I hve been diagnosed with adhd! So I’ve been learning to manage it
Honestly this channel helped me to confirm some of my psychology issues and helped me understand myself better 💜
I like how the videos get more humour for each passing video being made.
WHY IS YOUR VOICE SO CALMINGGGGG
I love how comedic the narrator was in this one. She usually makes jokes in every video but I felt like she explored that much more here and it was quite surprising lol
The pet goldfish... NO NOT THE ADDITIVELY YUMMY SNACK- 💥💥💥
As soon as you said "slouching" I stood up straighter
All these easter eggs are so Great !
Me: Needs to study for a test tomorrow
Psych2Go: uploads a video
Me: Just one more video...
Good luck for your test 2moro :-)
all the best!
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No no its NANI?
Someone's comments are a week ago
@@safieabdullah1072 Yeah but H O W
Heh, nearly everything you said, I do. I'm also severely ADHD, so I'm basically a walking fidget and general annoyance to those who take themselves way too seriously. 🙃
Oh my gosh your voice is so calming
03:24 her laugh 😭😭💗
0:17
Georgenotfound and technoblade wtf are you guys doing there!?
There is also one crewmate or impostor. ( Look in left side)
3:00 among us reference!! "There is one impostor among us"
and the cool s, and ph1lza
This video made me feel great about myself and habits :))))
If this person doesn’t have a podcast, I’m surprised! They have a calming voice and her podcasts would be so nice to listen to.
Requiring eye contact in conversations may be culturally normal, but it is ableist. Neurodiverse folks often find eye contact to be way too intense.
THE DOODLES IN THE BOOK AND THE “Technoblade never dies” EHCBHJWDC
5:18 *when you lack confidence and get nervous easily so you fidget a lot, but you're a very advanced drumset player*
I observed one thing in this video, her talking style was slightly different from the other videos. And I am pretty sure, that was because she was not trying to hurt the feelings of the people who have these habits; at all. Because it would maybe make them sad. So, she talked a bit differently ,for example "Crackers, not the snacks" and "drum solos might be entertaining, but leave them to drum experts" . ❤️❤️❤️❤️ She is soo good. ILY ❤️❤️❤️❤️