As a guy I watch Jonathon because he seems to be talking to both men and women. After all, one of his main messages is "Love yourself first, work on yourself first." And that works for all of us. Love this channel BTW I can't be the only guy here...
Not everyone is exagerrating about dating narcissists. It is a personal choice though. An unhealed person with ptsd is much more likely to tolerate men who don’t respect boundaries. We really do need to be less tolerant of bad behaviors.
American society promotes narcissism. The government encourages the bragging, confident, persona (entrepreneur) that fits into the male "winning" mindset.
Your rants are hilarious! 😂 Educational but hilarious. “Have a good day! Hope u had a good day! Can’t wait to talk about your day..” It’s funny cause it’s true 😂
Questions to ask for an exclusive monogamy relationship, for both men and women: 1. Do you have my back? Is about trust and if they care about your feelings. 2. Why didn't your last relationship last? Listen for anger, resentment, judgement, criticism about they ex. If they complaining about their past relationships, they are not healed and are not ready for a new relationship. 3. How much transparency do you feel you need in a relationship? 4. What do you consider cheating? 5. What any personal development, self therapy or spiritual work have you done or you are currently doing? People that are doing introspective work are usually better partners. 6. Are you open to relationship counselling if needed? Read the book HOW TO BE AN ADULT IN A RELATIONSHIP. 7. How can I trust you? Are their words matching their actions Before you ask all this questions you need to work at yourself and find that beautiful relationship and happiness you want within yourself. Do the healing, learn better communication skills, resolve your past relationships, be intentional in the process instead ambiguous, take ownership. YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR DESTINY. LOVE ON YOURSELF
I have found it very productive to consider Jonathans relating ideas as I am meeting new people. It is working out and I feel so much better about how the getting to know you process. Thank you Jonathan.
Love it! Love what you’re saying! You are so funny, especially when you yell and curse though normally cursing is a turn off.. 😬 You make me laugh, I appreciate you! 😆 “You’re in charge of your life.” Take ownership!!! Fk right Johnathan!!! ❤️🔥 Go ladies gooooo!!!
Hi Jonathon, I think this is my favorite video you've posted. Layers of wisdom and the obvious care you put out is so valuable! Thanks to you, with much gratitude. 🙏
Just got the 8 dates book can't wait to read it! We all start out being dysfunctional in relationships. Hopefully we grow up and mature and learn to treat people with compassion and forgiveness!
Omg love this video…….your passionate …..The more we read these books, the more we level up…I’ve said the same thing for years JA….men, you have no excuse..plenty of books out there, if you want me? Go read some books….you can’t BS us any longer, cause of the internet…….And oh by the way, the more I read, I just don’t need a man anymore! LOL…..I love your videos, open, honest, passionate communication , keep it coming love
Definitely ask these questions face to face, look into their eyes & observe their body language too ... I recently was on a 2nd date with a man we'd chatted on phone over 2 weeks. Met for an hour for coffee. Arranged a "real" date after that. He got so very uncomfortable when I said I'm able to learn more about a person by listening to what they don't say, than what they do. He'd just spent an hour telling me how fantastic he was, boasting, threw ALL his exes under a truck & bragged that most women he's met on dating sites wanted sex from him on the 2nd date. Gave me the "leery eyes" as he said it. He's nearly 70 years old ffs! I'm 62. Were not teenagers. He got so offended by my rejection of his advances that lunch ended abruptly & his last words to me were "piss off". Really???? Yes. It's Really Really off-putting how challenged some men are .... and no, no third date. Thank fuck for red flags so soon (which are hard to detect over text or phone ladies ~ you've got to meet these men in person & not fall for their text games) Thankyou Jonathon xx
Please watch the whole video : 1- Do you have my back no matter what ? 2- why your last relationship / marriage didn’t work out ? 3- How much transparency do you feel you need in a relationship ? 4- what do you consider cheating ? 5- what if any personal development, self-help, spiritual work, or therapy, have you done or currently doing? 6- are you open to relation counsellor if needed ? 7- How can I trust you ? Please listen to Jonathon carefully , this video is eye opening. 💯🦋
“Catching feelings” is the term that explains it all - natural feelings of romantic attachment is treated like a disease to be avoided! And not the natural and necessary thing that it is. But the gen z and a portion of the millennial generation is ending the era of detached hook ups, it’s not cool anymore, it’s just painful.
Great, more in depth explanations and examples than prior videos. Perspective of dating process changes over the past fifty years. Everything you say is applicable to all ages of daters. Many things I wish I had better recognized and expressed to potential partners in the past are outlined here/this video!!!
Love your information Jonathan, I’ve bought most of the books you’ve recommended and improved my communication skills greatly 🤩……but Jonathon you said “as a single guy” ….what about your girlfriend? I loved hearing your story of how you met and the processes you’re using ! much love 💕 & light to you both 🌺💕🧚🏼♂️
I was supposed to go on a first date yesterday. Never heard from him when I was supposed to meet up. He forgot to tell me he had a unexpected work supper. I almost forgave him and accepted a date for today. I said that what he did was hurtful and I deserve better. So. I'm doing it. Sticking by myself.
“All a man has to do is pretend they want a relationship with you” If someone is pretending to want to be a relationship with you/ LYING, how does someone ever stand a chance to not be deceived? Someone “pretending to want a relationship” with you is not something someone could decode. They will lie about all the answers to these questions if they’re pretending to want a relationship with you. It is outright deception. Decoding this is near impossible if it is given that men will outright LIE about wanting a relationship to get in bed.
I like that you're passionate about calling out the bullshit delivered from both sides, that so many are enduring. I like that you urge people to discover who they are, and how much there is to love in ourselves alone. And I agree that casual sex is so often toxic to real connection. Oral contraceptives unfortunately were hijacked by not men exactly, but by the then-predominant male perspective of convenience to their agenda: oh cool now we can pressure you to have sex whenever. At a party in 1976, a group I was drinking with (of course) were talking about how much better things are since the sexual revolution. I said that it seemed to me that women weren't free to say yes before; now we're not free to say no. Wow did they get pissed off. Lately I've made my uneasy peace with the fact that I'm a product of evolution. Men are built to breed; I'm built to bond. Now that I'm working without a net (off booze, weed, etc.), with casual sex, the happy hormones kick in and I'm bonding with a guy I DON'T EVEN LIKE, when all's over. I would invite women who still think casual sex is okay, to do it WITHOUT self-medicating FIRST. Then see how "casual" it still feels. Yeah. Welcome to the real world.
@@jadegreen1554 I think it helps if they had traumatic childhoods that damaged their ability to feel and connect with anyone. Then it helps to stay medicated with whatever they prefer. I had and did both; I just stopped at alcoholism and casual sex. Relieved to leave both behind.
Bro,I was doing all the hard questions online.The guy wants to meet me in person now.He likes me but he thinks I'm unreal because I didn't provide my number.
I agree with a lot of your content. Fewer tangents from the main topic would be helpful for my brain, and recognize there's much to say. Carry on the good cause cause! Thank you.
People find narcissistic partners if they were raised by a narcissistic parent(s). I believe it’s called imago when you end up dating/attracted to people like your parents. That’s how one can end up having multiple past partners who had narcissistic traits. But, when you finally figure it out and heal and do self work - you can break the cycle and finally find a good person to partner with. I’m living proof :).
I didn’t have narcissistic parents at all. I entered into a marriage with a boarder line personality w/narcissistic tendencies for over 20 yrs. Came on slowly. I’m learning to see the red flags much sooner. I believe that they find very empathetic people to prey on.
I mean that instead of questions we should spend time to get to know each other...because they can say whatever you want to hear...🙄 Thank You so much for your channel 🙏
Every time a new potential asks that (texts of course) I absolutely cringe! Then I think of Jonathan and can hear him saying that and chuckle. Then DELETE the guy... I am SO beyond sick of that lame question!
We need this taught in schools, especially books like nonviolent communication etc. Why is sex Ed a part of the middle school curriculum but not relationships?!
A young mind needs more than a class in school, it requires daily conversations and tools to develop emotional maturity and understanding of how relationships work.
“What A Fucking Crock Of Shit!!!”…..😂😂😂 LOVE IT!!! Are you sure you’re not Australian??? 😏😉😁🤣🤣🤣 THAT!!! is how to start ANY LIVE TOUR you do Jonathon, in the future (which I hope you do), teaching others, such as myself, spreading your wisdom and knowledge. Educating, being a Mentor, Guide, “Sensei”. R.e. “Dating and Relating on a Physical, Mental and Spiritual Level (Holistically)”, for those of us out there who are souls in a more mature body, seeking a deeper connection in every shape, way and form, on each and every level, both humanistic ally and on a “Soul Level” too. 😊 Aussies 🇦🇺 would love and appreciate your “ Call a Spade a Shovel”…. No BS, straight to the point, honesty 😁👍💖 We would welcome your irony and you “saying it like it is”, with as many “F Bombs” and whatever other “descriptive adjectives” you want to use 😆 We’re not that precious “Down Under” 😁 Thank-you for your dedication, hard work and all that you’ve done to personally “open my own eyes up”, to drop the “rose coloured glasses” I had a tendency to wear at times and educate me about “what/who to look for and who/not to look for”. As well as assisting me through your personal recommendations via resources r.e books etc on how to educate myself more in order to make sure I was evolved enough for the kind of commitment I was/am seeking. I was healed to the best of my ability. Knew/had learned appropriate boundaries. How to Date. How to stop being so trusting and naïve in a way. Overgiving/sharing. So much more. I’m still a “Work in Progress” and always will be, as I will never stop learning. However, I have evolved and learned so much because of being fortunate and blessed to have found you, who had the motivation, tenacity, vision, enthusiasm, drive, belief, will, etc to “Dare to be Different” on RUclips. If, perchance, you do ever Tour Live, I hope you would consider coming to Australia 🇦🇺 ?? Many Thanks and Blessings from this Aussie Woman to you and yours for all you do and have done 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖 Love and Light to All, Special prayer to the Arch Angels and Spirit/Universe/Source (call it what you will)… for your son Connor too 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
this resonates, because most ppl dont want to make an effort, but me, i dont want to be w someone who i cant trust or my feelings, so basically Who is this person, and that takes a while for finding out,
It’s come to my attention, I’m not becoming exclusive to 1 until I have weeded out the weeds, some major red flags are disheartening. I’m gonna ask your questions! Sorry! I have decided to look at dating as a job interview. Thank you for your passion! 2 guys now, who will win so far both have issues 😮😅
I absolutely despise the people who unfairly use the term narcissist, they cheapen the absolute hell that surviving narcissistic abuse is. There is no abuse like it, all of the experts agree that narcissistic abuse is the worst type of abuse there is. Also, NPD is unfortunately common, it’s just rarely diagnosed!
@@if7363 there are integral ongoing qualities to narcissistic abuse that the narcissist will only show their victim, but everyone else. Only the victim knows the truth, the narcissist will lie to the doctor because they are completely incapable of empathy or accountability.
@@winxclubstellamusa quite shallow understanding. There's so much to it there will not be enough space to describe to you. Especially when you still haven't worked it through to really grasp.
@@if7363 I’ve been studying it nonstop for the past 4 years from the experts in order to heal my literal life time of narcissistic abuse. Very few people are unlucky enough to understand cluster bs like I do. Narcissistic abuse is hell on earth, and that’s not “shallow” at all, it’s the complete experiential truth of it. Stop minimizing the experience of its survivors.
OK HOLD THE PHONE there J man. Narcissist personality disorder is a diagnosis that requires a PhD or MD to assess. Narcissism is a personality trait that exists on a spectrum. You need to take a deeper dive into the latter. I was in a relationship with a narcissist and he had been abused by his alcoholic father. They are very intractable to therapy. Everyone needs to learn the signs of narcissism. It is insidious. Arrogance is not narcissism. They will make you think you are losing your mind. Please take this seriously. I have dated two such people, and it generally stems from severe early abuse and trauma. It is real. It is toxic and devastating.
I agree we don’t get to know each other and we don’t talk like we used to. I agree that we take sex too casually. I think you are so spot on here. Thank you Jonathan we need to discuss these.
I have had to have enormous amount treatment for childhood trauma and I see men resisting looking at themselves. They will not look at their emotional problems or flaws, and we all have them. I see this as a huge problem for them. Yes I agree women are dysfunctional too but many do seem to try to sought this out but it has to be bad. Terrible relationship skills is problematic in both sexes. Yes you need to heal yourself FIRST. Your two cents is great.
Dear Jonathon ♥️🙏♥️ since 2014 I can't read anymore. I would love to read all the books you recommend. What can I do? Thank you in advance. I have been living alone in almost 11 years now. Love health peace and light from a female Virgo in Denmark 🇩🇰😀
Jonathon all guys are sex oriented...they will ask even if they know the answer is "no" or " wait". In my opinion, the difference between the right guy and the user is that the right guy do while the users talk talk. I am engaging with a guy who does not express himself much with "words" rather with his "actions." He likes that I talk talk talk talk....he genuinely enjoy listening to me yet he does not have the ability to narrate stories with details as i do. Actions can be an indicator of someone's intentions.
How to bond with a man (someone whose focus is on sex) when at every turn you have to be worried they’re thinking of “sex” with someone else? How? Sometimes I ask, why?
hummmm ps I have serious issues w nails/keyboard sizes, and being small. so it causes havoc, with keyboard communication, pls ecuse me for being out of touch w the rest of the world hahaha thanks to all that understand,,, be blessed, All xo
AGREE A WOMAN SHOULD BE AS IMPORTANT AS A MAN INTELECTUAL COM+PATIBLE CURIOUS ABOUT EACH OTHER OPINIONS FEELINGS ENJOY EACH OTHER COMPAGNIE WITHOUT SUFOCATING ONE ANOTHER AT HOME U DO NOT NEED TO BE GLUED TO THE MAN OR THE WOMAN AND MAY BE AS WELL LEARN FROM ONE ANOTHER SPORT MUSIC ETC ETC AND LAUGH IT IS IMPORTANT OF COURSE CHEMISTRY IS IMPORTANT BUT NOT THE FIRST DAYS OF DATING A WOMAN SGOULD TAKE TIME TO SEE IF THE MAN IS INTERESTED IN HER SERIOUSLY TRUST YES VERY IMPORTANT AND IF U ARE INSECURE IT WON T WORK U NEED TO LOVE YOURSEL FIRTSSSSSSSSSSSSS SO U CAN BE ABLE TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE DO U AGREE JONATHON ???'STOP SCREAMING PLEASE LOL DEAR JONATHON SENDING U A BIGGGG HUG AND BREATHHHHHHHHHH I NEED TO BREATH LOL WHEN U SCREAM LOL UFFFFFFFFFFFFF TY
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As a guy I watch Jonathon because he seems to be talking to both men and women. After all, one of his main messages is "Love yourself first, work on yourself first." And that works for all of us. Love this channel BTW I can't be the only guy here...
Awe... thank you for sharing your experience, much appreciated and yes, there are men who watch. 🙏
Not everyone is exagerrating about dating narcissists. It is a personal choice though. An unhealed person with ptsd is much more likely to tolerate men who don’t respect boundaries. We really do need to be less tolerant of bad behaviors.
American society promotes narcissism. The government encourages the bragging, confident, persona (entrepreneur) that fits into the male "winning" mindset.
@@karolsorrell827 that has nothing to do with what creates true, toxic narcissism. 🙄
There is a difference in expressing one's opinion or making a statement than trashing someone else.
Your rants are hilarious! 😂 Educational but hilarious. “Have a good day! Hope u had a good day! Can’t wait to talk about your day..” It’s funny cause it’s true 😂
Questions to ask for an exclusive monogamy relationship, for both men and women:
1. Do you have my back? Is about trust and if they care about your feelings.
2. Why didn't your last relationship last? Listen for anger, resentment, judgement, criticism about they ex. If they complaining about their past relationships, they are not healed and are not ready for a new relationship.
3. How much transparency do you feel you need in a relationship?
4. What do you consider cheating?
5. What any personal development, self therapy or spiritual work have you done or you are currently doing? People that are doing introspective work are usually better partners.
6. Are you open to relationship counselling if needed? Read the book HOW TO BE AN ADULT IN A RELATIONSHIP.
7. How can I trust you? Are their words matching their actions
Before you ask all this questions you need to work at yourself and find that beautiful relationship and happiness you want within yourself. Do the healing, learn better communication skills, resolve your past relationships, be intentional in the process instead ambiguous, take ownership. YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR DESTINY. LOVE ON YOURSELF
I have found it very productive to consider Jonathans relating ideas as I am meeting new people. It is working out and I feel so much better about how the getting to know you process. Thank you Jonathan.
Thank you 😊
Love it! Love what you’re saying! You are so funny, especially when you yell and curse though normally cursing is a turn off.. 😬
You make me laugh, I appreciate you! 😆
“You’re in charge of your life.” Take ownership!!! Fk right Johnathan!!!
❤️🔥 Go ladies gooooo!!!
😊 thank you
Hi Jonathon, I think this is my favorite video you've posted. Layers of wisdom and the obvious care you put out is so valuable! Thanks to you, with much gratitude. 🙏
Wow, thank you!
Just got the 8 dates book can't wait to read it! We all start out being dysfunctional in relationships. Hopefully we grow up and mature and learn to treat people with compassion and forgiveness!
Omg love this video…….your passionate …..The more we read these books, the more we level up…I’ve said the same thing for years JA….men, you have no excuse..plenty of books out there, if you want me? Go read some books….you can’t BS us any longer, cause of the internet…….And oh by the way, the more I read, I just don’t need a man anymore! LOL…..I love your videos, open, honest, passionate communication , keep it coming love
TY 🙏
Fist day watching this. Your energy and your way of telling as it is - Spot on. Oh yes!!!💪I absolutely love this!!
Thank you for opening my eyes up wide enough to take care of my heart. Books on order, to begin a journey of healing first. X
Definitely ask these questions face to face, look into their eyes & observe their body language too ... I recently was on a 2nd date with a man we'd chatted on phone over 2 weeks. Met for an hour for coffee. Arranged a "real" date after that. He got so very uncomfortable when I said I'm able to learn more about a person by listening to what they don't say, than what they do. He'd just spent an hour telling me how fantastic he was, boasting, threw ALL his exes under a truck & bragged that most women he's met on dating sites wanted sex from him on the 2nd date. Gave me the "leery eyes" as he said it. He's nearly 70 years old ffs! I'm 62. Were not teenagers. He got so offended by my rejection of his advances that lunch ended abruptly & his last words to me were "piss off". Really???? Yes. It's Really Really off-putting how challenged some men are .... and no,
no third date. Thank fuck for red flags so soon (which are hard to detect over text or phone ladies ~ you've got to meet these men in person & not fall for their text games)
Thankyou Jonathon xx
Wow! You dodged a bullet!
@@WhyNotYouWhyNotNow 💯 exactly!
Please watch the whole video :
1- Do you have my back no matter what ?
2- why your last relationship / marriage didn’t work out ?
3- How much transparency do you feel you need in a relationship ?
4- what do you consider cheating ?
5- what if any personal development, self-help, spiritual work, or therapy, have you done or currently doing?
6- are you open to relation counsellor if needed ?
7- How can I trust you ?
Please listen to Jonathon carefully , this video is eye opening. 💯🦋
The FISH on the men's dating profile! 😂💥😂💥
Laughing so hard in Canada I can hardly breathe. Your honesty is sooo refreshing, Jonathan!
Thanks ☺️
Wish you were my big brother! You call them out Jonathon, well done!
Love it! It helped me navigate through just one of the many books ⚘
Men need to want to grow & listen to stuff like this!
Thank you big Brother!
I LOVE YOU JONATHON, give these men some reality talk!!!
TY 🙏
Not all of us are Jonathon. I've read "If the Buddha Dated" and I'm reading "Attached" right now!
Good for you...
I luved this video. Thank you for your honesty. People do need to grow up and quit acting/dating like 20 year olds. It's ridiculously.
“Catching feelings” is the term that explains it all - natural feelings of romantic attachment is treated like a disease to be avoided! And not the natural and necessary thing that it is. But the gen z and a portion of the millennial generation is ending the era of detached hook ups, it’s not cool anymore, it’s just painful.
Yes
Jonathon, Thank you for calling the men out!!
Great, more in depth explanations and examples than prior videos. Perspective of dating process changes over the past fifty years. Everything you say is applicable to all ages of daters. Many things I wish I had better recognized and expressed to potential partners in the past are outlined here/this video!!!
Love your content! You are speaking truth and I love your delivery! 🙌
Thank you so much 🤗
Love your information Jonathan, I’ve bought most of the books you’ve recommended and improved my communication skills greatly 🤩……but Jonathon you said “as a single guy” ….what about your girlfriend? I loved hearing your story of how you met and the processes you’re using ! much love 💕 & light to you both 🌺💕🧚🏼♂️
I was supposed to go on a first date yesterday. Never heard from him when I was supposed to meet up. He forgot to tell me he had a unexpected work supper. I almost forgave him and accepted a date for today. I said that what he did was hurtful and I deserve better. So. I'm doing it. Sticking by myself.
It's healthy to have boundaries when it comes to dating and that you realized your self worth and enforced your boundaries.
Another great video, love your passion ❤
Amazing! Give the guys hell too! Lol
Then can you make a short list of the guys still watching after that? 😂😂😂
Yes 😁
“All a man has to do is pretend they want a relationship with you”
If someone is pretending to want to be a relationship with you/ LYING, how does someone ever stand a chance to not be deceived? Someone “pretending to want a relationship” with you is not something someone could decode. They will lie about all the answers to these questions if they’re pretending to want a relationship with you. It is outright deception.
Decoding this is near impossible if it is given that men will outright LIE about wanting a relationship to get in bed.
Exactly
I like that you're passionate about calling out the bullshit delivered from both sides, that so many are enduring. I like that you urge people to discover who they are, and how much there is to love in ourselves alone. And I agree that casual sex is so often toxic to real connection. Oral contraceptives unfortunately were hijacked by not men exactly, but by the then-predominant male perspective of convenience to their agenda: oh cool now we can pressure you to have sex whenever. At a party in 1976, a group I was drinking with (of course) were talking about how much better things are since the sexual revolution. I said that it seemed to me that women weren't free to say yes before; now we're not free to say no. Wow did they get pissed off. Lately I've made my uneasy peace with the fact that I'm a product of evolution. Men are built to breed; I'm built to bond. Now that I'm working without a net (off booze, weed, etc.), with casual sex, the happy hormones kick in and I'm bonding with a guy I DON'T EVEN LIKE, when all's over. I would invite women who still think casual sex is okay, to do it WITHOUT self-medicating FIRST. Then see how "casual" it still feels. Yeah. Welcome to the real world.
Great indepth look into real feelings.
How do strippers and prostitutes do it? I don’t understand it.
@@jadegreen1554 I think it helps if they had traumatic childhoods that damaged their ability to feel and connect with anyone. Then it helps to stay medicated with whatever they prefer. I had and did both; I just stopped at alcoholism and casual sex. Relieved to leave both behind.
😂 I find hysterical when you do the feminine energy bit! It's so great that you keep it so real!!!
I try 😁
Bro,I was doing all the hard questions online.The guy wants to meet me in person now.He likes me but he thinks I'm unreal because I didn't provide my number.
I love it when Johnathan starts yelling.
TY 🙏
I agree with a lot of your content. Fewer tangents from the main topic would be helpful for my brain, and recognize there's much to say. Carry on the good cause cause! Thank you.
Really great, Jonathon; thank you.
My pleasure 🙏
🎉🎉 LOVE THE F BOMBS, THE PASSION❤THANK YOU❤
Jonathon, I like your passion and I understand why you use curse words. You are just being you.
People find narcissistic partners if they were raised by a narcissistic parent(s). I believe it’s called imago when you end up dating/attracted to people like your parents. That’s how one can end up having multiple past partners who had narcissistic traits. But, when you finally figure it out and heal and do self work - you can break the cycle and finally find a good person to partner with. I’m living proof :).
I didn’t have narcissistic parents at all. I entered into a marriage with a boarder line personality w/narcissistic tendencies for over 20 yrs. Came on slowly. I’m learning to see the red flags much sooner. I believe that they find very empathetic people to prey on.
I come to your site, because there's no one out there giving similar advice to men!!!
I now have a men's channel too, thank you.
This resonates with me thank you Jonathan
YW 🙏
I love you and your passion!! Inspiring
One rule is that there is no rules.. doesnt matter what questions You Ask...they can say anything...
Better than doing nothing...
I mean that instead of questions we should spend time to get to know each other...because they can say whatever you want to hear...🙄 Thank You so much for your channel 🙏
Great information today
TY 🙏
"How is your day going". 🤣🤣🤣. I love your teachings. They are so educational
TY 🙏
Every time a new potential asks that (texts of course) I absolutely cringe! Then I think of Jonathan and can hear him saying that and chuckle.
Then DELETE the guy... I am SO beyond sick of that lame question!
I love your thought process, Jonathon, and how we need to understand their expectations, and ours.
Great advice.
Excellent points…thank you so much!
I learned to trust because I applied these. Thank you!
👍🏼
We need this taught in schools, especially books like nonviolent communication etc. Why is sex Ed a part of the middle school curriculum but not relationships?!
A young mind needs more than a class in school, it requires daily conversations and tools to develop emotional maturity and understanding of how relationships work.
@@JonathonAslay I agree with you, but we need to teach this stuff just like we need to teach personal finance, etc. It would at least be a start.
Love this! You are best big brother
Awe... thanks
Thank you for reminding us women that if we KEEP ALLOWING MEN TO USE US, THEN WE ARE THE ONLY ONES TO BLAME ....💚🤍❤
YW 🙏
Guy says his ex left him six times and I asked how did it end.. he said he doesn’t know
Run Tara run
“What A Fucking Crock Of Shit!!!”…..😂😂😂 LOVE IT!!! Are you sure you’re not Australian??? 😏😉😁🤣🤣🤣
THAT!!! is how to start ANY LIVE TOUR you do Jonathon, in the future (which I hope you do), teaching others, such as myself, spreading your wisdom and knowledge. Educating, being a Mentor, Guide, “Sensei”.
R.e. “Dating and Relating on a Physical, Mental and Spiritual Level (Holistically)”, for those of us out there who are souls in a more mature body, seeking a deeper connection in every shape, way and form, on each and every level, both humanistic ally and on a “Soul Level” too. 😊
Aussies 🇦🇺 would love and appreciate your “ Call a Spade a Shovel”…. No BS, straight to the point, honesty 😁👍💖
We would welcome your irony and you “saying it like it is”, with as many “F Bombs” and whatever other “descriptive adjectives” you want to use 😆
We’re not that precious “Down Under” 😁
Thank-you for your dedication, hard work and all that you’ve done to personally “open my own eyes up”, to drop the “rose coloured glasses” I had a tendency to wear at times and educate me about “what/who to look for and who/not to look for”. As well as assisting me through your personal recommendations via resources r.e books etc on how to educate myself more in order to make sure I was evolved enough for the kind of commitment I was/am seeking.
I was healed to the best of my ability. Knew/had learned appropriate boundaries. How to Date. How to stop being so trusting and naïve in a way. Overgiving/sharing. So much more. I’m still a “Work in Progress” and always will be, as I will never stop learning. However, I have evolved and learned so much because of being fortunate and blessed to have found you, who had the motivation, tenacity, vision, enthusiasm, drive, belief, will, etc to “Dare to be Different” on RUclips.
If, perchance, you do ever Tour Live, I hope you would consider coming to Australia 🇦🇺 ??
Many Thanks and Blessings from this Aussie Woman to you and yours for all you do and have done 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖
Love and Light to All,
Special prayer to the Arch Angels and Spirit/Universe/Source (call it what you will)… for your son Connor too 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
On 3 Men and a Little Lady they used that phrase back in the 80's...maybe early 90's
Nope... Turkish
this resonates, because most ppl dont want to make an effort, but me, i dont want to be w someone who i cant trust or my feelings, so basically Who is this person, and that takes a while for finding out,
Good one! Thanks!!!
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Great video. Self love is better than being with a jackass
Great advice..
Glad you think so!
It’s come to my attention, I’m not becoming exclusive to 1 until I have weeded out the weeds, some major red flags are disheartening. I’m gonna ask your questions! Sorry! I have decided to look at dating as a job interview. Thank you for your passion! 2 guys now, who will win so far both have issues 😮😅
Totally resonated
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You’re so funny when you’re angry Jonathon 😂😂😂❤️
Woah, this was intense
Honesty from you ❤️❤️❤️
It is tough but I need to look in the mirror & SEE me.
I absolutely despise the people who unfairly use the term narcissist, they cheapen the absolute hell that surviving narcissistic abuse is. There is no abuse like it, all of the experts agree that narcissistic abuse is the worst type of abuse there is. Also, NPD is unfortunately common, it’s just rarely diagnosed!
Just like throwing labels around to the left and right without knowledge or right to diagnose.
+ Specialists can also misdiagnose.
@@if7363 there are integral ongoing qualities to narcissistic abuse that the narcissist will only show their victim, but everyone else. Only the victim knows the truth, the narcissist will lie to the doctor because they are completely incapable of empathy or accountability.
Thanks for pointing this out! Couldnt agree more
@@winxclubstellamusa quite shallow understanding. There's so much to it there will not be enough space to describe to you.
Especially when you still haven't worked it through to really grasp.
@@if7363 I’ve been studying it nonstop for the past 4 years from the experts in order to heal my literal life time of narcissistic abuse. Very few people are unlucky enough to understand cluster bs like I do. Narcissistic abuse is hell on earth, and that’s not “shallow” at all, it’s the complete experiential truth of it. Stop minimizing the experience of its survivors.
You are resonating with me. Thank you. 😊
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I love the beginning of this video I’m screaming 🤣🤣
OK HOLD THE PHONE there J man. Narcissist personality disorder is a diagnosis that requires a PhD or MD to assess. Narcissism is a personality trait that exists on a spectrum. You need to take a deeper dive into the latter. I was in a relationship with a narcissist and he had been abused by his alcoholic father. They are very intractable to therapy. Everyone needs to learn the signs of narcissism. It is insidious. Arrogance is not narcissism. They will make you think you are losing your mind. Please take this seriously. I have dated two such people, and it generally stems from severe early abuse and trauma. It is real. It is toxic and devastating.
I agree...
THIS IS TRUTH, first two sentences! Love you J
Started the Hoffman Process Today! 😭 I cried first few lines.
Just got done with it. Learns much. Keep reading. You will love it till the end.
It's life changing 🙌
YELL CUSS Drink your coffee, share your stories! You're honest yay 😁
Love the intro 🤣
I agree we don’t get to know each other and we don’t talk like we used to. I agree that we take sex too casually. I think you are so spot on here. Thank you Jonathan we need to discuss these.
YW 🙏
Very interesting Jonathan but is the bad language really.necessary?
When is your next Q&A? I’ve got a question about a dating situation.
I have had to have enormous amount treatment for childhood trauma and I see men resisting looking at themselves. They will not look at their emotional problems or flaws, and we all have them. I see this as a huge problem for them. Yes I agree women are dysfunctional too but many do seem to try to sought this out but it has to be bad. Terrible relationship skills is problematic in both sexes. Yes you need to heal yourself FIRST. Your two cents is great.
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I so agree!!!
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Yes!
Talk about long term relationships.
I meant to say long distance relationships.
Just divorced and NOT looking forward to the dating scene…. Ughhhh
btw, just read your book! ❤️
Dear Jonathon ♥️🙏♥️ since 2014
I can't read anymore. I would love to read all the books you recommend. What can I do? Thank you in advance. I have been living alone in almost 11 years now. Love health peace and light from a female Virgo in Denmark 🇩🇰😀
Audio books
The beginning is hilarious.
Question How long should getting to know each other last? Any cue that someone to go by that will help them to know they are not wasting their time?
I love your sites.
Jonathon all guys are sex oriented...they will ask even if they know the answer is "no" or " wait". In my opinion, the difference between the right guy and the user is that the right guy do while the users talk talk. I am engaging with a guy who does not express himself much with "words" rather with his "actions." He likes that I talk talk talk talk....he genuinely enjoy listening to me yet he does not have the ability to narrate stories with details as i do.
Actions can be an indicator of someone's intentions.
How do you get to know someone friendship level if you already have had sex
Do friendship based activities
How to bond with a man (someone whose focus is on sex) when at every turn you have to be worried they’re thinking of “sex” with someone else? How? Sometimes I ask, why?
Yes!! I will be the brakes!
Did I catch a live???
Haha
It was a recording...
Did you ask your current girlfriend these questions while dating?
Yep 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
You're not single. You have a girlfriend. You just said you're a single man out there. How strange.
This was a recording from February....
@@JonathonAslay So, sorry.
Really? IUD has replaced the pill.
hummmm ps I have serious issues w nails/keyboard sizes, and being small. so it causes havoc, with keyboard communication, pls ecuse me for being out of touch w the rest of the world hahaha thanks to all that understand,,, be blessed, All xo
men are the gas women are the brakes. that goes on in my head all the time now. lol 😂. its a good thing
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Wow you came into this video with cleats up! LOL
Just curious, what does that mean?
Yes you yell and I laugh. It is called excitability.
Id do 8 dates with you jonathen, but i live in Australia lol.. thankyou
Awe... thanks ☺️
Staying married does not equal success It just means you’re stuck , for whatever reasons No thanks
AGREE A WOMAN SHOULD BE AS IMPORTANT AS A MAN INTELECTUAL COM+PATIBLE CURIOUS ABOUT EACH OTHER OPINIONS FEELINGS ENJOY EACH OTHER COMPAGNIE WITHOUT SUFOCATING ONE ANOTHER AT HOME U DO NOT NEED TO BE GLUED TO THE MAN OR THE WOMAN AND MAY BE AS WELL LEARN FROM ONE ANOTHER SPORT MUSIC ETC ETC AND LAUGH IT IS IMPORTANT OF COURSE CHEMISTRY IS IMPORTANT BUT NOT THE FIRST DAYS OF DATING A WOMAN SGOULD TAKE TIME TO SEE IF THE MAN IS INTERESTED IN HER SERIOUSLY TRUST YES VERY IMPORTANT AND IF U ARE INSECURE IT WON T WORK U NEED TO LOVE YOURSEL FIRTSSSSSSSSSSSSS SO U CAN BE ABLE TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE DO U AGREE JONATHON ???'STOP SCREAMING PLEASE LOL DEAR JONATHON SENDING U A BIGGGG HUG AND BREATHHHHHHHHHH I NEED TO BREATH LOL WHEN U SCREAM LOL UFFFFFFFFFFFFF TY
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The seven questions start at 9:14
Ya they're blind ! And in denial.