Your videos make me feel like motherhood is possible. Really appreciate you so much for being kind, inclusive, and reassuring. It’s so empowering to see someone speak this way about something that feels very heavily stigmatized.
PLEASE offer an online birth education course!! I would love to learn everything I need to know about having a natural hospital birth from you!! It's definitely something I (and probably a lot of other expectant mamas) would be willing pay for! I'm not due until January but I love watching your videos so much!
I have had 3 inductions and no epidurals with them. My last baby I was at 5 cm and started having anxiety. I went into the bathroom and just sat in the dark on the toilet and was able to relax. I went from 5 to 10 cm in 10 minutes. My amazing nurse had to deliver baby boy he came so fast. The bathroom is where I plan to labor for baby #5 lol.
Love these toolbox videos and so excited to have a video everyday because I love all your videos!! I had a playlist of music, low lights, water, and that was pretty much all I wanted/needed. From the moment labor began, I didn't want anyone to speak or touch me during contractions so I was cool if nobody was in the room. A happy and understanding birth environment is so important! Thanks again for the tool box videos
I love your videos!!! Thankyou so much for these, I'm maaaybe 2 weeks away, these videos have helped me feel more comfortable and calm about delivery :D Thankyou Nurse Zabe!!!!
Thanks! I tried doing the curly girl method, but I really like the versatility of doing it both ways (and that method doesn’t allow any heat on your hair)
If I was to wait till 5 or 6 cm before I go to the hospital would I still be able to get the epidural if I wanted ? I was always told u can't get it after 5 cm
Some women have an arrest of dilation (they stop dilating) and require a cesarean birth to safely deliver their baby. It can happen when babies are malpositioned or too large to fit through the pelvis. Just because this happened to your mother does not necessarily mean it will happen to you, though!
Indeed, birth environment can make or break a natural, unmedicated birth. This is helpful for first time moms or for those moms who are doing home birth for the first time. Definitely no to induction. Laboring in the bathroom and sitting on the toilet is a good tip. Very practical.
You can create a calm birth environment in the hospital and with inductions too. It might have some modifications, but low lights, quiet voices and music can all help support mama!
@@Nurse_zabe Thank you for your well-meaning suggestion. However, studies shows that there are ill-effects of inductions on the mother and the baby and is often is underrated. It can lead to a host of other unnecessary additional interventions.
I agree that induction can lead to unnecessary interventions, but sometimes they are medically necessary for the health of mom and/or baby (pre-eclampsia, cholestasis, poorly managed diabetes, and many other reasons). I’m a firm believer that birth is a natural process that sometimes requires medical intervention, not a medical process that sometimes happens naturally.
Yeah.... With this stupid pandemic it's going to be even harder to do the, "Shut the he** up, stay back, and let my body do what it needs to do because you're only here to handle any medical complications IF they arise, simply because I cant afford a homebirth midwife!" Love my midwives, they get it. I've been a very low risk mom through my previous 4 births, with no medical complications popping up, making me an ideal candidate for the homebirth I've wanted so badly, but they know full well I wouldn't be seeing them if we had the spare $4,000 for the homebirth midwife.
Been loving all your videos, but if I can be a little honest (and please nobody take this offensively. Please read with an open mind) having all these optimal/calming things to do for birth seems a bit of a luxury. For many people (along with myself) who live overseas, we do not have the luxury of even understanding 100% of the language the doctors are speaking. Let alone trying to understand the system and how different things can be surrounding pregnancy and expectations in general. Many people don't even have cars to get to a hospital, no pain medications, or their husbands are not allowed to be at delivery. In the country I'm in, the husband is not expected to help much at all, and the wife is expected to move back with their parents for a month or so and learn to care for a child that way. As for most foreigners in situations like this, it can be very lonely and difficult because they have no one except their spouse who cannot take time of work. Im not saying being relaxed isn't important, but when outside of your home country, you really need to give up a lot of your rights of comfortably, understanding, and expectations. And that's ok! I just don't want to get caught up in hoping everything is calming and perfect when there are many difficulties for many women out there.
Your right, it is a luxury that we have definitely grown accustomed to in the United States. Thank you for your perspective, and I hope that you are able to find inner calmness and peace in a more chaotic environment during your birth. 💗
This is a valid opinion @Lady Liddie. That's why our team teaches other couples options. Home birthing with midwife and even doing free birth is very empowering for the couples we worked with.
Lady Liddie what country do you live in? I’m wondering if in your country women have all the rights that North American women do outside of childbirth. Or if women are oppressed in general where you are. Really sad to read this :-(
@@beth90 I'm in Japan, and I'm sorry if my comment came across as too negative! I just meant to shed some light on the fact that many women (even in America) don't have such a luxury. And feeling pressure to have it all together, might not be healthy or cause more anxiety to someone. But I do agree that we should do the best we can to have a safe birth! From what I know, women aren't being suppressed here, it's just a difference in cultural values. But they rarely use epidurals. And men aren't expected to be as involved as a western man would be expected to (as a general). There is a lot of information and care here for births, but little to nothing in English. Like any country, there are pros and cons, but as a foreigner in any country, you're in the hands of whatever you can get. Unless you're able to speak the language quite well. Any foreigners who don't speak English are in for an even harder time unfortunately. Also I would not be able to do it alone (I have a friend come) so my privacy is very small. Oof! Japan is quite advanced in some areas, but far behind in others. I do feel cared for here, but they nervous laugh as to why I do not go "home" to my family and country to birth. This is my home now and sometimes they won't understand that. I hope that helps make a little more sense ☺️
@@Nurse_zabe Thank you, I appreciate your reply! I hope I didn't come across to negative. I think there definitely needs to be a healthy balance between the 2, and didn't mean to sound like you weren't aware of those who have different situations! Living abroad has opened my eyes to many things. Globally and in history leading up til, only a small portion of the world can say they have such a luxury. Which is fine! But we forget that this might not be the norm around the world. And being open to so many unknowns can bring a different kind of confidence and peace that can only be had by being a little uncomfortable 😊
THANK YOU FOR THE TOOLBOX VIDEOS! Also thank you for taking time out of your busy day to spread your knowledge.
Of course! I hope you find them helpful!
Your videos make me feel like motherhood is possible. Really appreciate you so much for being kind, inclusive, and reassuring. It’s so empowering to see someone speak this way about something that feels very heavily stigmatized.
PLEASE offer an online birth education course!! I would love to learn everything I need to know about having a natural hospital birth from you!! It's definitely something I (and probably a lot of other expectant mamas) would be willing pay for! I'm not due until January but I love watching your videos so much!
I'm so excited about this series! I should be having my baby any day now and I'm grateful for the content that you are sharing here.
Was literally going to say this. I'm due Saturday
Oh my goodness, good luck! You got this mama! Definitely update us and let us know how labor and delivery go!
I love all your videos!! Given this whole pandemic I am utilizing RUclips in place of a class! Thank you for doing this!!
You’re so welcome! 💗
I have had 3 inductions and no epidurals with them. My last baby I was at 5 cm and started having anxiety. I went into the bathroom and just sat in the dark on the toilet and was able to relax. I went from 5 to 10 cm in 10 minutes. My amazing nurse had to deliver baby boy he came so fast. The bathroom is where I plan to labor for baby #5 lol.
I love your intro music, one of my favorite parts about your videos!❤️
Free from iMovie! 😊
Love these toolbox videos and so excited to have a video everyday because I love all your videos!!
I had a playlist of music, low lights, water, and that was pretty much all I wanted/needed. From the moment labor began, I didn't want anyone to speak or touch me during contractions so I was cool if nobody was in the room. A happy and understanding birth environment is so important! Thanks again for the tool box videos
Exactly, each ideal birth environment is going to be unique to the birthing person. And you’re so welcome!
I love your videos!!! Thankyou so much for these, I'm maaaybe 2 weeks away, these videos have helped me feel more comfortable and calm about delivery :D
Thankyou Nurse Zabe!!!!
Yay! Good luck with your delivery! You’ve got this 💪🏼💗
Love your videos, my birth class was cancelled and you have helped educate me so much! Thanks! :)
You’re so welcome! Good luck with your delivery 💗
That's so funny because in previous videos I was like..is that faint snoring in the background?! 😂 Maybe your dog was in the room. Lol so cute.
She often is, and she is often snoring 😴
Great tips! I wish you could be my labor and delivery nurse!
I know your labor nurse will be great!
So excited for all the tool box videos ♥️ Thank you!!
Thanks for tuning in. I hope they are helpful!
We don't often see your hair straight. Like it! (nothing to do with your video but thanks for the content, this was helpful!).
Thanks! I tried doing the curly girl method, but I really like the versatility of doing it both ways (and that method doesn’t allow any heat on your hair)
@@Nurse_zabe And hey, a girl's gotta have options! :)
Love this so much! 💕
💗💗💗
If I was to wait till 5 or 6 cm before I go to the hospital would I still be able to get the epidural if I wanted ? I was always told u can't get it after 5 cm
In most cases that shouldn't be true
Can you post your playlist suggestions here please or a link to it? I cannot find it on IG and am trying to make my own playlist.
I’m not sure how to do that because it’s a saved story highlight called “fav labor songs.” Shoot me a dm on Instagram and I’ll send it to you there!
Nurse Zabe 😊
Do you have any videos that talk about using TENS machines during labour? Thank you :D
I do! Check out my labor pain management options video!
Could you do a video on hypnobirthing?
My mom only dilated to 4cm with me. Is that normal ? Thanks for all the help for me when I get older.💖
Some women have an arrest of dilation (they stop dilating) and require a cesarean birth to safely deliver their baby. It can happen when babies are malpositioned or too large to fit through the pelvis. Just because this happened to your mother does not necessarily mean it will happen to you, though!
I only made it to 5cm after 18 hours of labor. I had a c-section on Mother’s Day last year. My son turned 1 yesterday and I’m 29 today. 🥳
Bathroom is my go to for labour lol, showers there if I'd like, bath if I want, toilet
Indeed, birth environment can make or break a natural, unmedicated birth. This is helpful for first time moms or for those moms who are doing home birth for the first time. Definitely no to induction. Laboring in the bathroom and sitting on the toilet is a good tip. Very practical.
You can create a calm birth environment in the hospital and with inductions too. It might have some modifications, but low lights, quiet voices and music can all help support mama!
@@Nurse_zabe Thank you for your well-meaning suggestion. However, studies shows that there are ill-effects of inductions on the mother and the baby and is often is underrated. It can lead to a host of other unnecessary additional interventions.
I agree that induction can lead to unnecessary interventions, but sometimes they are medically necessary for the health of mom and/or baby (pre-eclampsia, cholestasis, poorly managed diabetes, and many other reasons). I’m a firm believer that birth is a natural process that sometimes requires medical intervention, not a medical process that sometimes happens naturally.
Yeah....
With this stupid pandemic it's going to be even harder to do the,
"Shut the he** up, stay back, and let my body do what it needs to do because you're only here to handle any medical complications IF they arise, simply because I cant afford a homebirth midwife!"
Love my midwives, they get it. I've been a very low risk mom through my previous 4 births, with no medical complications popping up, making me an ideal candidate for the homebirth I've wanted so badly, but they know full well I wouldn't be seeing them if we had the spare $4,000 for the homebirth midwife.
Been loving all your videos, but if I can be a little honest (and please nobody take this offensively. Please read with an open mind) having all these optimal/calming things to do for birth seems a bit of a luxury. For many people (along with myself) who live overseas, we do not have the luxury of even understanding 100% of the language the doctors are speaking. Let alone trying to understand the system and how different things can be surrounding pregnancy and expectations in general. Many people don't even have cars to get to a hospital, no pain medications, or their husbands are not allowed to be at delivery. In the country I'm in, the husband is not expected to help much at all, and the wife is expected to move back with their parents for a month or so and learn to care for a child that way. As for most foreigners in situations like this, it can be very lonely and difficult because they have no one except their spouse who cannot take time of work. Im not saying being relaxed isn't important, but when outside of your home country, you really need to give up a lot of your rights of comfortably, understanding, and expectations. And that's ok! I just don't want to get caught up in hoping everything is calming and perfect when there are many difficulties for many women out there.
Your right, it is a luxury that we have definitely grown accustomed to in the United States. Thank you for your perspective, and I hope that you are able to find inner calmness and peace in a more chaotic environment during your birth. 💗
This is a valid opinion @Lady Liddie. That's why our team teaches other couples options. Home birthing with midwife and even doing free birth is very empowering for the couples we worked with.
Lady Liddie what country do you live in? I’m wondering if in your country women have all the rights that North American women do outside of childbirth. Or if women are oppressed in general where you are. Really sad to read this :-(
@@beth90 I'm in Japan, and I'm sorry if my comment came across as too negative! I just meant to shed some light on the fact that many women (even in America) don't have such a luxury. And feeling pressure to have it all together, might not be healthy or cause more anxiety to someone. But I do agree that we should do the best we can to have a safe birth! From what I know, women aren't being suppressed here, it's just a difference in cultural values. But they rarely use epidurals. And men aren't expected to be as involved as a western man would be expected to (as a general). There is a lot of information and care here for births, but little to nothing in English. Like any country, there are pros and cons, but as a foreigner in any country, you're in the hands of whatever you can get. Unless you're able to speak the language quite well. Any foreigners who don't speak English are in for an even harder time unfortunately. Also I would not be able to do it alone (I have a friend come) so my privacy is very small. Oof! Japan is quite advanced in some areas, but far behind in others. I do feel cared for here, but they nervous laugh as to why I do not go "home" to my family and country to birth. This is my home now and sometimes they won't understand that. I hope that helps make a little more sense ☺️
@@Nurse_zabe Thank you, I appreciate your reply! I hope I didn't come across to negative. I think there definitely needs to be a healthy balance between the 2, and didn't mean to sound like you weren't aware of those who have different situations! Living abroad has opened my eyes to many things. Globally and in history leading up til, only a small portion of the world can say they have such a luxury. Which is fine! But we forget that this might not be the norm around the world. And being open to so many unknowns can bring a different kind of confidence and peace that can only be had by being a little uncomfortable 😊