I love your #11!! Here are some tidbits and advice from my own experience: - if you have an emergency c-section, try and stay calm even as your dream for a vaginal delivery disappear, and even if your baby is born early: the medical team will take care of you two. - the spinal tap barely pinched, I didn't feel pain. It was actually a relief to stop feeling stuff before the operation and it helped me relax. - talk to the team present about everything you're feeling. I told them we didn't know the baby's sex and that it was a surprise (I was holding on to one last thing) so they wouldn't tell me before I saw the baby. - they'll put a catheter in after your spinal tap, and you may still feel something, though no pain. It may disturb you a bit (as catheters do), but focus on the fact that it's not hurting you, and once it's in place you don't feel nor notice it. - if like me you don't feel any sharp pain, but the whole thing is freaking you out (especially in an emergency with zero preparation), speak up and they can give you drugs to help. In my case it was ketamine and I saw geometrical patterns and was half passed out until I heard my baby cry. So I wasn't mentally present during the process and I was grateful for it, and still awake to hold my baby afterwards. - about holding your baby: it may take five minutes for you to hold them as the nurse cleans them out a bit and makes sure the airways are clear (and whatever else it is they're doing). I'm guessing if it's a preemie that you holding them may be even more compromised. It's tough, but it's for your baby's health. - after holding my baby for a minute, they had to take her away again because it's cold in the OR and she was small and needed to be warmed up. It took two hours before I could see her again because I obviously couldn't walk and my bed couldn't get through the nursery door. This is something that still makes me angry (who designs a hospital where a rolling bed cannot get through the nursery door for women to see their baby??). Anyway, be aware that depending on your hospital and the baby's health, it may take some time for you to hold them. Hang in there! You hopefully will have plenty of time afterwards. - if you feel like it, kick all your visitors out when you can finally be with your baby and do skin to skin or breast feeding. You don't owe your family who wants to see the baby. You owe yourself and your baby after what you went through. - removing the catheter does not hurt: I peed with a nurse the next morning and she pulled on it while I was peeing and I didn't know it was out until I asked. Didn't feel a thing! - do take the medicine every time it's proposed, even if you feel fine, so you can stay ahead of the pain. - take as many stool softeners as you can. I was SO hungry starting the next day and did not poop for 3 days (I think my body used up all that food). When it finally happened, it was a tough moment, especially with the incision. Tmi but I was glad they had gloves in the bathroom, and even took some home, which is one of the best decisions I ever made. - holding your belly and wearing the brace they give you helps so so much! - if your doctor doesn't mention it, ask about the kind of stitches they'll use: the new technology is barely more expensive and is like gluing you back together and doesn't require them to remove the stitches! The scar will also look better faster. - you will feel numb around the scar, as nerves have been cut, and it can be frustrating when it's itchy because you get no relief. Feeling can come back slowly. It's been two years for me and there's still a bit of numbness, though I usually don't notice it. - it may still hurt weeks afterwards, especially to one side (where they tied everything up), do talk to your doctor if you're worried, but if there's no swelling, no redness, etc, you should be fine and they can examine you to make sure. - you WILL heal from it, may recover fast like I did and walk around the next day. Even with the pain lingering for a while, I knew it was getting better. And in the end I was grateful to have a vagina still pristine! Also you have your hopefully healthy baby, and will not care what you yourself went through. - if the conditions are good you can still have a vaginal delivery the next time around! Or go for another c-section if needed or if you feel like it'd be too much to go through something different and scary in its own way. You are amazing!
Also, even if your ob is very passionate and fun, do NOT let them convince your partner to look behind the sheet. My husband got slightly traumatized for looking at my insides, because my ob thought it was so fascinating. Don't do eeeet!
Ganychan lol my husband didn’t see but when they lowered the drape so I could see my daughter they had a mirror set up and I saw my own insides so that was something 😂
I don’t know why there’s this “if you have a c section you didn’t really give birth” I have nothing but respect for those women. C sections terrify me. You guys are brave! Seriously!
I got this from my colleague. She said it to me. Right at my face. That I only got pregnant, I did not give birth. I got many many more comments about my planned c-sect and it depressed me so much that I was crying so much. It was a planned c-sect because of a complication, not that it matters to those people anyway. It still scares me, few months after getting my baby out... C-sect mums do not deserve all the negativity.
My first baby was vaginal with 22 stitches.. I just had a csection last night with a surro baby, pushed for over a hour he didn't move at all. Turns out he was to big to fit he was 10lb 4oz. C sections are wayyyy harder. I feel like I got hit by a train today..
I really had to grieve the birth that I imagined. I had a hard time with feeling like I wasn’t woman enough or that my body didn’t work. I felt (and sometimes still do feel) like I was robbed in some way of the miracle of birth that was my right as a woman to have. Anyway I have c-section number 3 schedule for six weeks from today and it still kinda sucks. But nobody in my life has said anything horrible about it to me but I really beat myself up about “letting it happen”. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves than others are and I really had to work it out between me and God. My husband thinks I’m amazing for what I had to do and God blessed us with an option that saved our baby’s life so that’s good enough for me.
@@BethsMom that's it, you said what i've been feeling since my baby was born, 4 months ago... i grieve the delivery i didn't get to have, and the worst part was that the nurse that was "helping me out" blamed it all on me, she said i wasn't being strong enough to give birth to my son, and that was the reason i had to have a c-section..
I had my fourth and last csection last week! Each time was a different experience! The things you speak of are so relatable. But I'm alive and well and my kids are in great health! Glory to God 🧡
I'm about to have my 6th csection, why do people ask, are you allowed to have so many csections?! Like anyone but you get that choice lol I didn't know i had to get permission to have more kids
Another tip for us plus size mommas, (having 3rd c-section in August) to keep the incision dry, take a panty liner and fold it over and place on the incision so it can control the sweat. 👍
I went and bought large gauze pads and kept that folded up by the incision. Also I’ve been told to use a hair dryer after showering to keep everything dry
Alexandra Sutika that's great. Sometimes gauze is hard to find that's why I just used panty liners and folded them. Cheap and efficient. Never had an issue with my incision. And plus the panty liners don't stick to staples if you have those. Gauze tends to sometimes.
I had a last minute c section last month. I couldn’t believe how quick the baby came out! We didn’t even make it through a whole post Malone song! 😂 the stitching up process felt like a long time but I was really surprised at the little bit of pain I experienced and how well the healing process is going!
I had a c-section and I can not even tell you how many NEGATIVE comments I had about the procedure prior to having my baby, when I sat on the operating bed my whole body was shaking because all I could think of was the horrible things ppl told me I might feel (feeling them cut me, smelling, or hearing when they cut me, etc.) and my experience was literally the opposite! I felt nothing at all, no pain what so ever after the surgery... after all of it was over and to the date it pisses me off thinking about all the comments I got about it. ppl are so inconsiderate and ALWAYS want to point out the negative things about it... if you are going to get a c-section PLEASE do not be scared stay calm and just know you are where you SHOULD be for the best of your health and the baby’s... there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of
I needed to see this. I’m scheduled for a c section in 4 days and although it’s not my first, I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life and this situation is no exception. Frankly I’m terrified but you’re right i need to get out of my head and realize it’s all for a reason and that’s for my little baby boy 💙
I wish I could like this 100 times. There’s no point in scaring these women who likely don’t have a choice. I’ve had 2 great c section experiences, soon to be 3.
It’s nice to hear you had a good experience! Mine was absolutely horrible.. it was emergency and I couldn’t hold my baby after cause I was shaking and puking. They cut an artery or a blood vessel (can’t remember) and I bled quite a bit. It was awful :(
I'm one of those viewers who are no where near having a baby,but watches for the info and you seem like such a sweet and genuine person. Its so refreshing to see how passionate about your job you are!! 💖
I’m crying now at the very last part. You wouldn’t believe the negative things I’ve heard about c sections or how I didn’t really give birth. I’ve had 3 and I’m going for my 4th in August. I’m not scared or anything I’m not nervous I just hate the constant questions of “why”. Why am I getting a c section. I’m also sick to death of people telling me that I should still try for a natural birth as if they know my body better than me or my doctor... it’s actually infuriating. I almost want to make a video of what not to say to a pregnant woman/new mom. But thank you for saying such good things it’s so nice to actually hear it said...
Yes! My 4th was an unplanned c section. I labored forever and couldn't get past 9cm. Baby was going into distress so a c section was best. I'm having a repeat c section in July ( 2 years after my last one) and a lot of people don't understand why I won't push for a vbac. I absolutely trust the advice of both my ob and high risk doctor, that's why.
I never made it past 3cm with my 1st. They wouldn't induce me with my 2nd but would have let me go for a vbac if I had gone into labor on my own. Now at 12 weeks with my 3rd I already know that I won't be allowed to even try for a vbac this time because of the 2 previous c sections. I have the scar to prove I gave birth and I'm a Mom and even though I'm sure some people don't see it that way, how you see yourself is more important than how other people see you.
Sara Williams you did! Just because it wasn’t out of your vagina you baby came out of your body and you went through a way worse struggle to get your baby here!
I smacked mine in the face during (I had been in labor for over 30 hours and was barely conscious while in the OR from exhaustion). All I remember was him trying to put a mask on my face and since I am VERY claustrophobic, I had a minor panic attack. I immediately apologized and I remember nothing else but waking up in my room a half hour later
Hello, does he only get called in if you have to have a c section or is it an epidural thing too? I ask because I spoke with mine on the phone the other day and he was funny /charasmatic and I really don't want him seeing my undergarment!! Or anything! Lol!
LOL, SAME!! I had had a vaginal birth previously, and never dreamed it'd turn into a c section. I wasn't prepared one bit. The anesthesiologist was my rock when my husband went to tend to baby.
I just love your videos. I wish you could be my nurse when I go into labour. I’m going to be a first time mom and labour has always been the one fear I had about pregnancy. You and your videos are helping me work through that fear. Thank you for your kindness and honesty. Keep the great content coming :)
Just had my second C-Section 2 days ago and it went very well! My first was very traumatic, but I can happily say; just because the first one was bad doesn’t mean the second will be! Stay strong mommas! Spinal taps are your friend. I felt nothing but pressure and weird sensations as Nurse Zabe went over. I still haven’t received a binder but I’m going to ask for one today. Pain wise, it’s actually not bad, compared to when I had the emergency one. You got this mommas! The faster you get out of bed, when you feel like it, the better!!
This comment just means more then you can believe my first c section was an emergency one and was VERY traumatic for me and I go in in 14 days for my second and I'm completely scared because the first time they ended up putting me to sleep after my husband had to hold me down because the spinal block failed
the anesthesia made me shake like crazy, uncontrollably. that’s also something to be aware of! I thought something was wrong with me but they said it was normal.
The exact same thing happened to me, my whole body was trembling uncontrollably. they told me it was a normal side effect to the drugs, and I was given diazepam which helped. I also suffered a major fall in blood pressure which I also was told is normal, but it was an very unpleasant experience!
The first time I stood up after my C-section I was in awe how much it hurt 😂 I looked at the nurse and said “Are These stitches and staples going to hold up? Cause I feel like my insides are going to spill out in the floor” she laughed so hard
i feel like there's such hate towards mums who've had c-sections sometimes. I had to have one because my baby was breech, and my next one will also be a c-section for the same reason. I've been told so many times "Ooooh, what a shame, you aren't even going to try natural birth!" Like, 1. it isn't my fault, it's the way I'm built, and 2. It's literally none of your business. No one gets a medal at the end of it, whether it's a normal birth or c-section. We Ziploc mamas rule
This is messed up. People generally avoid c sections as much as possible since the recovery is so much harder. Sounds like you didn't really have an option, which is how most c sections end up happening anyway.
@@Topaz_Estrella this very mindset you're telling me about is part of the problem!! I HAD a choice, i CHOSE to have a c-section. Maybe this assumption that all women are after a natural experie ce is the issue here.
@@sarahpitcher4615 you're allowed to do whatever you want. I just want to avoid long term pain personally, and it seems like that's the route most doctors recommend, too.
@@Topaz_Estrella I have a choice at the moment and I'm going for csection because of the 4 degree tear during my last delivery (vbac). Vaginal birth is only faster to recover from if you don't tear or not much. A scar on my belly was way easier to care for and to heal from than one all over the most sensitive parts of your body, that also covers basic body functions, sex and just plain old sitting. I know your comment was written in full support, but the thing is, even if we choose csection we are not less of a parent for it.
I was told that having a c-section took the experience of having a "birthing story " from me. 🤔 I'm glad that pregnancy hormones made me more feisty and I immediately ignored that negativity. Many people think c-sections are the, "easy way out." All of those people are uneducated. #11 is so important! You are valid, your experience is yours and important. Grieving is okay. Just remember, you are a strong person no matter which way your baby got here!
Thank you for #11. I recently experienced an unplanned C-section after 32 hours of labor and 2.5 hours of pushing. It was traumatic and not the birth I envisioned, and I've been so sad because of it. Thank you for saying it's okay to grieve and for validating my ability to be a mother, regardless of how my baby was born.
Hill Country Homesteading I love that!! Congrats I Hope birth goes well!! I think that it’s so healthy you’ve researched but you’re mentally prepared the plan could change! Let me know how it goes!! So exciting
Two videos in one week, it’s like Christmas! Great video as always! I’d like to make a request for you to do a video about the best things to bring with you in your baby bag for the hospital! From your own personal perspective as well as what you’ve seen as a nurse!
I'm still a good 3-4 years away from having a baby and as the kind of person that obsessively researches before even ordering a menu item, I really appreciate your videos. Watching you has taken away all of my birth anxiety and has made me feel prepared. Thank you for your work (:
Your number 11 made me cry! For the longest time, I felt like I didn't give birth to my daughter and that I wasn't good enough. Thank you so much, I wish I had seen this before I had my C section!
Your videos helped me through my last baby who was just born March 2023. I went in and I got to labor for 8 hrs before my emergency c section. It is very scary but I wouldn't have him in my arms without my team. They had him out in just under 6 mins. I want other moms to know your not a failure, your body is beautiful, and no matter how they come into this world you will still be the best mom. ❤️ Also your team and nurses are there for you through everything
The accuracy!!! I love your videos. And I LOVED my anesthesiologist. I'm convinced he's an angel sent from God. That man listened and heard everything I said and even wiped my tears during my surgery. I am sooo grateful for the team in the OR during my surgery.
I labored for 19 hours and ended up needing an emergency csection, I was so upset, my anesthesiologist put on my favorite songs and calmed me so much during the entire surgery, appreciated that so much 💙
I had a emergency c section One thing I want to add is after surgery the bleeding is horrible at times , the first time they had me get up it literally was all over the floor like a flood of blood it was so scary And the gas after surgery was intense , worse than labor But all worth it for my healthy baby boy .. who now isn’t so little anymore ... he will be 14 in July
Wow!! Im sorry u had this experience! Im not sure if my c-section was considered an emergency. I went to the hospital for a non stress test and then they said your having these babies in the next hour (twins) but i didnt have the gas pain or lots of bleeding. Sorry u went through that :(
Melanie Moak emergency c-sections are defined as decision to incision in 30 mins or less. Sounds like yours was urgent instead of emergent or STAT. Congrats on the twins!
I had an emergency c section due to preeclampsia and my experience was very good. I actually had no bleeding for 2 months after I had it. Nurse said they cleaned me out completely so that might have been why 🤷♀️ I'm having another c section in Feb and I'm actually scared about it even tho the first one went good.
I’m happy you mentioned the pulling feeling! With my daughter, the pulling freaked me out!! I looked at my husband and said “please talk to me. Distract me!!!” Definitely wasn’t expecting that!
So, I am a C-section momma(x3), I just found it funny when you talked about feeling pressure during the delivery aspect. I always describe that moment as dental work. Because being numb from the block all I was more worried about falling off the table. I couldn't feel anything. I knew what they were doing but it felt very much like getting a tooth removed.
I'm 21 and expecting my first. 10 weeks today! I've been binge watching your videos every night after work, and you are REALLY preparing me for this baby! You make me feel less anxious (something nobody has been able to do) I may just be very emotional at this point but the ending of this video truly made me BALL my eyes out! You're the sweetest most kind person I've ever met, and I'm staring through a phone screen! Thank you for making these videos ! And know you are so so SO deeply appreciated 💖
I get so jolly when I see a new video of yours! Had a c-section 10 years ago and here I am soon to bring another little one to the planet. Not sure if I’ll have a vaginal birth but if it’s another c-section I feel good because of your video. So informative and sweet. Thanks xoxo
No body told me about gas pain when I had my c section. I was SO bad in my shoulders, almost unbearable! Worse than the pain where I had my c section. Thank you for making people aware of this!
Thank you for sharing! #11 had me in tears, I cant lie. It is so true and it takes soo much to have a c-section and I think a lot of times women aren't given enough credit for it. I had my sweet boy a few weeks back on March 1st via planned c-section. It was emotional when the decision was first made but once I had time to process it, I was fine. Being in the pre-op room got nerve racking once I heard the prep team doing their thing. I broke down and started crying as I started to walk into the OR...all the emotions came flooding out. My entire life I have waited for my sweet baby and it was finally time. My husband wasn't allowed in when I had to get my spinal..so my doctor (who is such an angel, I absolutely love him! Shout out to Dr. Michael Lim!) and a sweet sweet nurse held my hands as I got my spinal. I was fully numb in 4 1/2 minutes. Like you said, no pain at all just pressure...and even the pressure wasn't bad. The 2nd day after the meds were off, by far the worst. That night I held my baby for about two hours and didn't realize I was putting his weight on my belly. The sensation when I tried to move was a ripping and burning sensation on the side I held him on. Getting up and moving was hard but definitely helped. I didn't pass gas until the second full day. I wanted to so bad but couldn't. The nurses would come in and check my belly with an ever so soft push on my stomach and dang that hurt. Once I got my shower I felt a lot better. I had staples and I would use classic or the rose dove soap to wash my body including my incision and one day I ran out so I used some scented body wash I had...nope never again. It irritated my incision. So only Dove for this mommas incision. I was scared about getting my staples out. Didn't hurt at all! Meeting my baby was the most amazing moment of my life and I would do it all again in a heartbeat. To any mommas out there who may be reading this regardless of how you had your baby or any momma who is about to have their baby...do know, the pain you feel is temporary and you will forever have that sweet angel of yours. You are amazing and you can do this!
I lost a litre of blood in labour and had placental abruption and got rushed to theatre they had 5 minutes to save my life and my babies life because the placenta was coming away and his heart rate dropped .. was the scariest experience of my life .. ended up having blood transfusions was awful but I thank god that my son is perfectly fine
Thank u for this..i am pregnant with twins & although I hope I will deliver vaginally ..I am being as best informed as possible in case our journey goes in another direction.
I'm expecting my twins in the next couple weeks and baby A is still breech, so unlikely for me that I will deliver vaginally. I feel so much better with resources like this out there so I know what to expect! I hope you have a safe and healthy delivery no matter what happens, and congratulations!
I have to admit that I'm deeply thankful for c-sections, because without them I'd most likely be paralyzed and our son would either be dead or seriously handicapped, so I could never accept anyone telling me I'm a lesser mom because I didn't have a vaginal delivery! I'm a heathy mom with a healthy kid, and thank you for reminding me that! Btw I got an emergency c-section after 17 hours of labor, and I threw up in the hallway on our way to the O.R., so I was probably a nightmarish patient for everyone there, but everybody was amazingly kind, funny, efficient, just like you seem to be! So may things went wrong during those three dreaded days spent in the hospital, but I am still thankful and carrying loads of good memories!
Just had second c section 2 weeks ago…. Team was amazing… very thankful to all of u doctors and nurses … online offline … we have real stories to tell … and all hospital employees are real heroes especially once u get to eat after surgery u can’t thank enough the cooks and chefs 🤗🤗
I do want to say its so great how real and inclusive you are in your language when you are talking about a support person or significant other it really means a lot you take into account the very many ways people experience labour and the people that might be around
I wish I had watched this when I had my first child. She is six now. I had planned for a vaginal birth, but she was breech and wouldn't turn. I was convinced that if I had a C-Section that I would not be considered a "real" mother. I know it sounds silly saying it now, but I had some severe depression both during pregnancy and post partum. Thank you for saying that no matter how our babies come into the world we are still mothers. I hope it helps other moms going through what I went through❤
THANK YOU! I am TERRIFIED to have my C Section. My son refuses to move out of his breach position and I have the Placenta Pv issue. So as of now unless god changes my plans, I will be having one. I am so scared and became even more scared when YouTubing the procedure. So from the bottom of my heart I cannot thank you enough for giving me comfort and security! Don’t get me wrong I am still scared shitless but you are the only person that has given me any comfort in this journey. God bless
I've had two c-sections but with my first I was lucky enough to have the most amazing nurse. When it was time for me to get up for the first time she helped me over to the bathroom and cleaned me up in the most gentle and caring way. It was the most intimate moment to have with a stranger and my first instinct was to be embarrassed but she was so caring and kind that any ill feelings I had just went right out the window. It nurses like you guys that make those difficult moments so much easier for moms. Thank you for all that you do!
Thank you so much for making this, Elizabeth. I had an emergency c section two weeks ago and I was given such little info about what to expect afterward. I ended up watching this in the hospital the day after surgery and it was SO helpful. So thank you.
I wish I would've seen this before my planned c-section almost a year ago. I love your videos from a mom who has had 1 emergency c-section and 1 planned c-section.
Little Rookie this made me giggle 😂 after I had my catheter taken out I had nerves and couldn’t pee for over 2 hours when I finally did my body let lose with everything else and my hubby and 2 nurses where waiting. When I came out they were cheering and clapping so funny 😂
I am currently grieving the birth I did not get to experience. I labored for 12 hrs and pushed for 2 hrs. My baby would not fit through my "narrow pelvis" so we had to do a c section. When I think about it, I cry. Because I wanted so badly to have a natural birth and it makes me feel like I failed. Thank you for this video, especially what you said towards the end ♡♡♡
It’s perfectly ok and normal to grieve the birth you didn’t get. (I actually have a whole video on that subject.) But how lucky is your sweet baby to have an amazing mama who worked tirelessly for 14 hours and then didn’t give up, but had to change plans and do something scary and big to bring baby healthy and safe into this world. You are so strong and brave and you should be so proud of yourself for selflessly growing a baby, laboring towards delivery and giving birth! 💗💗
I ended up having an emergency c section at 34 weeks due to preeclampsia and honestly the c section was nothing for me. I was soooo scared bc of all the stories you hear but going through it is completely different. I used Tylenol to manage the pain and was perfectly fine. Using the binder I was given definitely helped make me more comfortable and limited the pain I felt. There are only two things that I wished would’ve happened differently. 1st I didn’t speak to the dr about being able to see my son being born and I now feel like I missed that opportunity to watch him emerge. 2nd bc my son was 6 weeks early I got maybe 5 minutes with him that first night. My husband brought him over to me but he needed to be taken to the nursery for special care. I was on bed rest bc of my bp so my family was able to go and see him but I didn’t get to really spend time with him until the next day so I feel like I missed some bonding. Otherwise everything was great and I plan on scheduling a c section during my next pregnancy bc it was very easy for me.
I’m not at the stage in my life to be having a baby yet but I really appreciate the fact about not eating before surgery. I’ve wondered about that for years!!
I'm having my third c-section in 3 months. I'm really scared, but I know by watching this video with all your advice everything is going to be fine. Thank you so much. 💓
I had a c section last month! Those sexy underwear’s I had to wear were super fun. Jk, tip for plus size mamas, since we have a little pouch, I used nipple pads (not sure what they’re called, my son has kept me up for the past 6 hours lol) I took the stickers thing of, folded them in half and boom! Keeps the area dry, cheap, and yeah :) Good luck to all the mamas having their babies soon and the ones who have them now lol ❤️
I am so happy to see a c section video. Thank you!! From an proud unplanned c section mama. We so often feel left out of any of these videos and it’s so nice to have c sections acknowledged.
L&D and Mother&Baby nurses are such very special people. I’m so grateful for every single one of mine. I really wish I knew that the anesthesiologist was there for me, and that she could’ve been more of a support person for me. First time mom and first time dad, we were both pretty freaked out in the OR. I really could’ve used some encouraging words, if I had known to ask. That would’ve made a world of difference. But I have a healthy boy! He was 10lbs 11oz and 23 inches! One other thing, I wish the staff would have recognized his reflux! Looking back now, it was so obvious. A couple of nurses propped his bassinet, but never mentioned anything as to why. And I went home, none the wiser, and he suffered until his two week appointment with the pediatrician. His doc diagnosed it right away. But it makes me beyond angry that no one said anything! My son was on Zantac and thickened formula, and it was still bad.
I'm loving your delivery videos! I'm not planning on having a c section but life might have other plans and I'm glad i have this video to refer to! A lot I didn't know in this video.
Kristine Jorgensen Same! I was not expecting to have a c-section. But this baby girl decided to turn around butt first at 35 weeks and is still breach at 38. So unless baby girl decides to turn I will be having a c-section at 39 weeks. This is my second and the first one was all natural vaginal. So I’m terrified of having this c-section.
@@TheRealMeekaa Have they mentioned External cephalic version (ECV) or physically rotating the baby? It's not comfortable & some physicians don't do it.
They have I took the orientation with the high risk doctors. The risks are crazy from dislocated shoulder to even accidentally breaking the babies neck.
@@TheRealMeekaa Can you wait until you go into labor? My situation is flipped: unplanned C-section now going for a VBAC. Here is my positive experience to help you with the fear: 🌻 *Labor:* 2 days, no progress 🌻 *Why?* Prolonged Fetal distress 🌻 *Surgery Time:* 15min total 🌻12 tugs & heard Baby cry 🌻 *Recovery was beautiful* 🌻 Breastfeeding, gas, no biggie *My point is: You probably have more time to decide then you think.* So if you feel it's right to wait and hope a little longer.. it's probably fine! *Just ask how long surgery & prep normally takes.* So you can make an informed decision and feel more empowered in the case of a C-section. Breech babies turn and operations go well. So don't be afraid, it happens everyday. Good luck ❤
THANK YOU Nurse Zabe!!!🙏🏽🥰 38 weeks now. My 1st daughter 4 years ago was healthy, vaginal delivery… so hubby & I have pretty much just planned for that again. Little did we know, baby is breech with little room to turn now due to bicornate uterus.😩 So we’re trying to mentally prepare for c-section. I’m scared & almost stopped watching this due to anxiety, but you’re so sweet & understanding. I am strong, confident & open to whatever baby needs to get here safely!💝💪🏽
Zabey Baby 2015 yes - I am going to have a hospital birth this time and really want an unmediated birth using the hypnobabies program. I was in a free standing birth center with my son.
@@mandiaimone891 I have had both. I was induced with my first and went naturally with my second. No epidural with either. The contractions hurt way more with the induced labor than the naturally occuring... the difference was so stark that I didnt think I was FULLY DILATED with my second but that's how I arrived to the hospital (my water also hadn't broken). Looking back at it now I believe I was in labor for a good 12-18 hours with my second. My first was 6 hours from the start of pitocin (halfway through that they broke my water which made the contractions worse)
I wish someone had told me all of this when I had my baby. I went in fully prepared. I took all the classes when i found out I was pregnant. I bought everything. I was PREPARED! Untill in the middle of a 23 hour labour, I was told it wasn't going to work out. I was quickly ushered into a delivery room, I was sliced open and then I lost my mind...I will new forget the horror i went through. My postpartum depression was immediate! I struggled for so long. But somehow, we got through the months of suffering. I now love my baby beyond words. I wish everyone a better experience than I had.
Oh, thank you so much for this video! ❤️ I just scheduled my c/s at the end of the month as baby is still breech as of 37 weeks. Trying not to freak out over major abdominal surgery when I've been mentally preparing for another vaginal delivery is something I'm really struggling with. I'm hopeful that baby will flip beforehand (I also have an ECV scheduled this week) but your kind words and soft spirit make the whole process a little less intimidating. So here is a huge thank you for all the time and effort you put into this video ❤️
My sister had 2 c sections, one after a long labor and a second one that was scheduled. Recovery sounds so miserable, but I'm so grateful for this procedure. Crossing my fingers that I won't need it, but always good to be prepared.
Mama of two c sections here 🙋🏼♀️the first was twins and the second was a singleton, I agree and used just about every tip you had here! I loved both of my births even though they didn’t go to “plan”/“preference” and I have three beautiful children! One thing I messed up on was getting a last dose of mess before heading home, I still had to go to the pharmacy (in reality send my husband) and by the time I was home I could feel it all and I thought I was going to die! And I’m not even very dramatic!
Making this 8 month pregnant mama cry with that #11 😭 I have a scheduled c-section planned for December 2nd! Thank you for making informative videos for first time moms like me who have no idea what to expect. I have a tour at my hospital next week to get all the details I need!
This has really reassured me. I’m having an elective section in July because my last birth was quite traumatic. I was getting really anxious and this has answered some of my questions! Thank you!
Thank you so much for posting these videos. I'm watching this and crying tears of joy while holding my 2 month old son. I had originally planned a birth with zero medical intervention. I wanted to go to a birth center and have my water birth. I had literal dreams about it. And then 37 weeks hit and the swelling began. A week later, I noticed I gained 20lbs in 2 weeks. I went straight to the hospital to be tested. I was diagnosed with Preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. My heart hurt and I was so sad. I was scared mostly. They immediately started inducing me. I labored for a good 12 hours and had only 5 cm of progression and that's when we noticed my baby's heart rate was dropping. I had an emergency C-section, lacerated bladder and a very lengthy recovery. Unplanned medical intervention saved my baby and me. I did grieve a few weeks after my baby's birth when I realized how much we went through. I'm just so grateful for modern medicine and the miracles that come out of it.
I am going back to school in September to get on the path of becoming a nurse!!! L & d nursing is my #1 choice and I'm so excited! I love your videos, they are so helpful. I hope I'm a nurse just like you in a few years 😁❤️
I gave birth 6 months ago (here because if we have another baby my consultant advised I have a c section next time) and your last point genuinely brought a tear to my eye. Your words made me feel so proud of myself for getting through the pregnancy and labour. Thank you!
I don't currently have children but hope to in the future. Thank you for your videos as they are not only informative but also filled with love and reassurance. Pls be my nurse!!! ❤
I watched your videos in 2020 preparing for my vaginal birth of my son, i had a 4th degree tear with him and now were expecting baby #2 and I'm prepping for a csection. Thank you for having videos for both!
I had a footling breech and an emergency csection with my twins. I went into preterm labor. When my water broke baby a(Kaden) foot was out at work. Within five minutes of me getting to the hospital he was born then I had to have an emergency csection because twin b(Amara) flipped and her heart rate was dropping. I surprised my nurses that I was able to walk unattended the same day I had my twin. They were by my side
It is so very clear that you are doing what you were meant to do in life. I have watched multiple births from cesarean to vaginal and while some nurses were lovely, some were definitely not. Truly wish every nurse was as patient, kind, knowledgeable and supportive as you! So refreshing to see someone who is truly passionate!
I also was extremely impacted and the dr never mentioned it to me or warned me what was going on! The night after my c-section I had to get manually cleaned out and the nurse used an old time enema thing which was like water irrigation. The nurse said I had pushed just as hard as if I were having a vaginal delivery(keep in mind this was the night AFTER a rough c-section) . It was unreal. But thank God for the nurse I had that did all this to me. She went through the same thing when she gave birth and was just an Angel to have that night. We need more nurses like you and her!
Thank you so much for your final comment. I have struggled with that exact thing subconsciously, and I forget about it until the subject gets brought up and it really hurts when it does. It was so moce to be watching this video and seeing the sincerity in your eyes when you said what you did about all births being amazing, and it being okay to grieve the birth that I didn't get- when sometimes I feel silly for feeling that way. So, thank you!
I have had 2 c sections and I have to say one thing that really helped me, don't wait until day 2 to get up, my first I got up within 3 hours, second it was 6 hours but it really helped me to get up and walk and keep moving. I think it made my recovery so much better.
I just wanted to say. I had an emergency c-section in May & I watched everyone of your videos before going in for induction & it honestly helped so much. I didn’t expect a c section but I’m so glad I watched your videos. Now I’m pregnant again & planning on another c section, obviously scheduled this time so I’m back watching this again!
Im 34 weeks pregnant and I so needed this! Baby has not turned yet and I’m trying to be ready for all the possibilities. I wish I had you as my nurse, you seem so kind and passionate! Thank you so much for making your videos❤️
After having my baby and being in the hospital for almost 2 weeks do to complications, I now have so much respect for nurses, they treated me with so much love and respect, they made me feel comfortable and never ashamed when I needed help. Thanks for everything you do for all the moms❤️
Number 11 was EVERYTHING!!! As a trained labor and birth doula (and pregnant first time mom) I felt it necessary to share that same message and recently made a video about it on my channel. “YOU ARE A MOM REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU BROUGHT BABY INTO THIS WORLD” So important to say and hear!
Thank you so much for this video! I'm about 7 weeks out from delivery and all of your videos have been really helpful in thinking about delivery - but I agree with other posters that your #11 was SO important. There is all this hate about c-sections, so just thank you so much for saying the truth that however your baby comes in to your life (vaginal, c-section, surrogacy, adoption, fostering) you are a parent! That's the magic.
Happened to me and they gave me an oxygen mask.. I was shaking uncontrollably but I had my hubby by my side who was talking to me and keeping me calm the entire time.. scariest thing I've been through but I had a great support team the Drs and everyone were amazing.
I'm late but just had an unexpected c section on new years eve. While going into the OR I was so nervous I was dry heaving and threw up bile before going back then when we got back there and were about to start I told them how I was feeling , my heart was racing and I felt like i couldn't breathe. They gave me a medication through my iv which started working right away it made me drowsy and out of it but my nerves were non existent after it. It was a lifesaver.
I recently had an emergency c-section and had a bad panic attack in the OR. I told them I felt it coming on and they gave me anxiety meds in my IV. That worked WONDERS
Great video! My baby was born via (unplanned) c-section at 4am, I was wheeled back to the delivery room to just recover for like 2 hours. After that they moved me to a recovery room and I had to get up at noon (most difficult thing I ever had to do), had to take a shower (assisted by a nurse) and walk to the room where I spent the next 3 days. My baby was with me a lot while I was in the recovery room and after we moved to my room they left the baby with me and I had to take care of him (no visitors were allowed around the baby, not even husband). It wasn't too easy 7 ish hours after surgery with a brand new wound. But I credit my quick quick quick recovery to this. Get up and start walking as soon as they let you no matter hiw hard it is. It makes a world of a difference!
Good luck! Hopefully being prepared will help you live it well. I'm pregnant with my second. Do you mind sharing what made you decide to get a second c-section vs VBAC?
Idk if your first was emergency or planned, but I can tell you that the second section is so much easier. You know what to expect. For me, not having labored for 30 hours and coming in fully rested helps so much with recovery and my mental state.
I had a C section and I gotta say that you explaining how they push down on the uterus when the baby is being born like that to me makes me feel better about my c section. That’s a beautiful statement about the c section birth.
I had a schedule c-section with my first son. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant with my 2nd son. Unfortunately the spinal medications didn't work. So they had to put me under general anesthesia. The coughing was the worst part. I love these 10 things video.
Thank you so much! We are going to bring our first baby into the world in a few months and I was so nervous about having an emergancy c-section. It's so refreshing to have someone give honest information without making it feel like the world is ending lol
I love your #11!!
Here are some tidbits and advice from my own experience:
- if you have an emergency c-section, try and stay calm even as your dream for a vaginal delivery disappear, and even if your baby is born early: the medical team will take care of you two.
- the spinal tap barely pinched, I didn't feel pain. It was actually a relief to stop feeling stuff before the operation and it helped me relax.
- talk to the team present about everything you're feeling. I told them we didn't know the baby's sex and that it was a surprise (I was holding on to one last thing) so they wouldn't tell me before I saw the baby.
- they'll put a catheter in after your spinal tap, and you may still feel something, though no pain. It may disturb you a bit (as catheters do), but focus on the fact that it's not hurting you, and once it's in place you don't feel nor notice it.
- if like me you don't feel any sharp pain, but the whole thing is freaking you out (especially in an emergency with zero preparation), speak up and they can give you drugs to help. In my case it was ketamine and I saw geometrical patterns and was half passed out until I heard my baby cry. So I wasn't mentally present during the process and I was grateful for it, and still awake to hold my baby afterwards.
- about holding your baby: it may take five minutes for you to hold them as the nurse cleans them out a bit and makes sure the airways are clear (and whatever else it is they're doing). I'm guessing if it's a preemie that you holding them may be even more compromised. It's tough, but it's for your baby's health.
- after holding my baby for a minute, they had to take her away again because it's cold in the OR and she was small and needed to be warmed up. It took two hours before I could see her again because I obviously couldn't walk and my bed couldn't get through the nursery door. This is something that still makes me angry (who designs a hospital where a rolling bed cannot get through the nursery door for women to see their baby??). Anyway, be aware that depending on your hospital and the baby's health, it may take some time for you to hold them. Hang in there! You hopefully will have plenty of time afterwards.
- if you feel like it, kick all your visitors out when you can finally be with your baby and do skin to skin or breast feeding. You don't owe your family who wants to see the baby. You owe yourself and your baby after what you went through.
- removing the catheter does not hurt: I peed with a nurse the next morning and she pulled on it while I was peeing and I didn't know it was out until I asked. Didn't feel a thing!
- do take the medicine every time it's proposed, even if you feel fine, so you can stay ahead of the pain.
- take as many stool softeners as you can. I was SO hungry starting the next day and did not poop for 3 days (I think my body used up all that food). When it finally happened, it was a tough moment, especially with the incision. Tmi but I was glad they had gloves in the bathroom, and even took some home, which is one of the best decisions I ever made.
- holding your belly and wearing the brace they give you helps so so much!
- if your doctor doesn't mention it, ask about the kind of stitches they'll use: the new technology is barely more expensive and is like gluing you back together and doesn't require them to remove the stitches! The scar will also look better faster.
- you will feel numb around the scar, as nerves have been cut, and it can be frustrating when it's itchy because you get no relief. Feeling can come back slowly. It's been two years for me and there's still a bit of numbness, though I usually don't notice it.
- it may still hurt weeks afterwards, especially to one side (where they tied everything up), do talk to your doctor if you're worried, but if there's no swelling, no redness, etc, you should be fine and they can examine you to make sure.
- you WILL heal from it, may recover fast like I did and walk around the next day. Even with the pain lingering for a while, I knew it was getting better. And in the end I was grateful to have a vagina still pristine! Also you have your hopefully healthy baby, and will not care what you yourself went through.
- if the conditions are good you can still have a vaginal delivery the next time around! Or go for another c-section if needed or if you feel like it'd be too much to go through something different and scary in its own way. You are amazing!
Also, even if your ob is very passionate and fun, do NOT let them convince your partner to look behind the sheet. My husband got slightly traumatized for looking at my insides, because my ob thought it was so fascinating. Don't do eeeet!
I love all these! So helpful! I pinned this comment so others can see. 😊
These are great suggestions and I agree with all of them!
Ganychan lol my husband didn’t see but when they lowered the drape so I could see my daughter they had a mirror set up and I saw my own insides so that was something 😂
@@Nurse_zabe thank you, and thank you for your videos! I'm tempting a VBAC in 3 months!
I don’t know why there’s this “if you have a c section you didn’t really give birth” I have nothing but respect for those women. C sections terrify me. You guys are brave! Seriously!
I got this from my colleague. She said it to me. Right at my face. That I only got pregnant, I did not give birth. I got many many more comments about my planned c-sect and it depressed me so much that I was crying so much. It was a planned c-sect because of a complication, not that it matters to those people anyway. It still scares me, few months after getting my baby out... C-sect mums do not deserve all the negativity.
My first baby was vaginal with 22 stitches.. I just had a csection last night with a surro baby, pushed for over a hour he didn't move at all. Turns out he was to big to fit he was 10lb 4oz. C sections are wayyyy harder. I feel like I got hit by a train today..
Agreed! I’ve only ever had vaginal births, c sections terrify me! If you had c section you are super woman and so so brave! Birth is birth 🙌
I really had to grieve the birth that I imagined. I had a hard time with feeling like I wasn’t woman enough or that my body didn’t work. I felt (and sometimes still do feel) like I was robbed in some way of the miracle of birth that was my right as a woman to have. Anyway I have c-section number 3 schedule for six weeks from today and it still kinda sucks. But nobody in my life has said anything horrible about it to me but I really beat myself up about “letting it happen”. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves than others are and I really had to work it out between me and God. My husband thinks I’m amazing for what I had to do and God blessed us with an option that saved our baby’s life so that’s good enough for me.
@@BethsMom that's it, you said what i've been feeling since my baby was born, 4 months ago... i grieve the delivery i didn't get to have, and the worst part was that the nurse that was "helping me out" blamed it all on me, she said i wasn't being strong enough to give birth to my son, and that was the reason i had to have a c-section..
Another suggestion, use a pillow to apply pressure on the drive home. Speed bumps and rough roads are killers when you had a C-section.
Melissa Graeff Great suggestion! Thanks for watching! 😊
Omg yes !!!! Those were the worst
Oh yes I definitely agree. Some bumps in the first few weeks nearly made me scream. It's so painful
Melissa Graeff So true!
Melissa Graeff couldn’t agree more to this comment, my friend was driving us home and literally every bump I could’ve cried
I had my fourth and last csection last week! Each time was a different experience! The things you speak of are so relatable. But I'm alive and well and my kids are in great health! Glory to God 🧡
You can have four c-sections?
@@sarachase5091 I mean I'm sure it's not recommended to do so, but I did. My youngest turned one last week. I do not believe it's ideal though.
@@JosephinesHaulHaven Ah okay...just curious, I'm currently about to have my first and my doctor mention about possible C-Section so I was curious.
@@sarachase5091 yes I've had 4 but alot of women have regular birth after their first one, sometimes even the second! You'll be just fine. 💚
I'm about to have my 6th csection, why do people ask, are you allowed to have so many csections?! Like anyone but you get that choice lol I didn't know i had to get permission to have more kids
You are just the best and most motivational woman ever. Anyone would be lucky to have you as their nurse :)
Kaitlin P Thank you! And thanks for watching! 😊
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Another tip for us plus size mommas, (having 3rd c-section in August) to keep the incision dry, take a panty liner and fold it over and place on the incision so it can control the sweat. 👍
Courtney Scarber such a helpful idea!!!
I went and bought large gauze pads and kept that folded up by the incision. Also I’ve been told to use a hair dryer after showering to keep everything dry
Alexandra Sutika that's great. Sometimes gauze is hard to find that's why I just used panty liners and folded them. Cheap and efficient. Never had an issue with my incision. And plus the panty liners don't stick to staples if you have those. Gauze tends to sometimes.
I used the pads they give you at the hospital the super plain rectangles. They were a life saver.
That’s what I did! Or a wash clothes that I didn’t mind getting dirty lol
I had a last minute c section last month. I couldn’t believe how quick the baby came out! We didn’t even make it through a whole post Malone song! 😂 the stitching up process felt like a long time but I was really surprised at the little bit of pain I experienced and how well the healing process is going!
I hope you have healed completely @Birdget Teyler postCsection
I had a c-section and I can not even tell you how many NEGATIVE comments I had about the procedure prior to having my baby, when I sat on the operating bed my whole body was shaking because all I could think of was the horrible things ppl told me I might feel (feeling them cut me, smelling, or hearing when they cut me, etc.) and my experience was literally the opposite! I felt nothing at all, no pain what so ever after the surgery... after all of it was over and to the date it pisses me off thinking about all the comments I got about it. ppl are so inconsiderate and ALWAYS want to point out the negative things about it... if you are going to get a c-section PLEASE do not be scared stay calm and just know you are where you SHOULD be for the best of your health and the baby’s... there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of
I'm so glad to hear you had a great birth experience!
I needed to see this. I’m scheduled for a c section in 4 days and although it’s not my first, I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life and this situation is no exception. Frankly I’m terrified but you’re right i need to get out of my head and realize it’s all for a reason and that’s for my little baby boy 💙
Guadalupe Vasquez this helps ! Thank you ☺️
I wish I could like this 100 times. There’s no point in scaring these women who likely don’t have a choice. I’ve had 2 great c section experiences, soon to be 3.
It’s nice to hear you had a good experience! Mine was absolutely horrible.. it was emergency and I couldn’t hold my baby after cause I was shaking and puking. They cut an artery or a blood vessel (can’t remember) and I bled quite a bit. It was awful :(
I'm one of those viewers who are no where near having a baby,but watches for the info and you seem like such a sweet and genuine person. Its so refreshing to see how passionate about your job you are!! 💖
Bri Morgan Thanks for watching!! 💗
I’m crying now at the very last part. You wouldn’t believe the negative things I’ve heard about c sections or how I didn’t really give birth. I’ve had 3 and I’m going for my 4th in August.
I’m not scared or anything I’m not nervous I just hate the constant questions of “why”. Why am I getting a c section. I’m also sick to death of people telling me that I should still try for a natural birth as if they know my body better than me or my doctor... it’s actually infuriating. I almost want to make a video of what not to say to a pregnant woman/new mom. But thank you for saying such good things it’s so nice to actually hear it said...
Aw, mama, your babies are so lucky to have a mom that gave so much of herself for them! And yes, that would be a great video!
Yes! My 4th was an unplanned c section. I labored forever and couldn't get past 9cm. Baby was going into distress so a c section was best. I'm having a repeat c section in July ( 2 years after my last one) and a lot of people don't understand why I won't push for a vbac. I absolutely trust the advice of both my ob and high risk doctor, that's why.
I never made it past 3cm with my 1st. They wouldn't induce me with my 2nd but would have let me go for a vbac if I had gone into labor on my own. Now at 12 weeks with my 3rd I already know that I won't be allowed to even try for a vbac this time because of the 2 previous c sections. I have the scar to prove I gave birth and I'm a Mom and even though I'm sure some people don't see it that way, how you see yourself is more important than how other people see you.
My first was an emergency c section and I'm always told that I "didn't give birth"
Sara Williams you did! Just because it wasn’t out of your vagina you baby came out of your body and you went through a way worse struggle to get your baby here!
can you do a "what to bring in your hospital bag" video and talk about what to bring for the mom and for the baby! Thank you:)))
YES!!!
Agree
Omg I was looking for one from her!!!
Yes!
#11 made me cry my eyes out bc I didn’t get the birth I wanted but I appreciate you validating that grief. You are amazing!
I literally left my c section thinking man me and my Anesthesiologist are bffs after going through that with him. I loved him 😂
darcie mellon I left like “I bet we’re gonna hang out after this, I have a new friend” Could have been the meds too 😹
I smacked mine in the face during (I had been in labor for over 30 hours and was barely conscious while in the OR from exhaustion). All I remember was him trying to put a mask on my face and since I am VERY claustrophobic, I had a minor panic attack. I immediately apologized and I remember nothing else but waking up in my room a half hour later
@@mswitch936 dang embarrassing
Hello, does he only get called in if you have to have a c section or is it an epidural thing too? I ask because I spoke with mine on the phone the other day and he was funny /charasmatic and I really don't want him seeing my undergarment!! Or anything! Lol!
LOL, SAME!! I had had a vaginal birth previously, and never dreamed it'd turn into a c section. I wasn't prepared one bit. The anesthesiologist was my rock when my husband went to tend to baby.
I just love your videos. I wish you could be my nurse when I go into labour. I’m going to be a first time mom and labour has always been the one fear I had about pregnancy. You and your videos are helping me work through that fear. Thank you for your kindness and honesty. Keep the great content coming :)
Yea, think I’ll bring these videos with me to watch again in labor
Same due for my fifth section in November
Just had my second C-Section 2 days ago and it went very well! My first was very traumatic, but I can happily say; just because the first one was bad doesn’t mean the second will be! Stay strong mommas! Spinal taps are your friend. I felt nothing but pressure and weird sensations as Nurse Zabe went over. I still haven’t received a binder but I’m going to ask for one today. Pain wise, it’s actually not bad, compared to when I had the emergency one. You got this mommas! The faster you get out of bed, when you feel like it, the better!!
This comment just means more then you can believe my first c section was an emergency one and was VERY traumatic for me and I go in in 14 days for my second and I'm completely scared because the first time they ended up putting me to sleep after my husband had to hold me down because the spinal block failed
the anesthesia made me shake like crazy, uncontrollably. that’s also something to be aware of! I thought something was wrong with me but they said it was normal.
That was labor not meds
katherine mantooth no, I didn’t go into labor. it was a planned c. it was the meds.
The exact same thing happened to me, my whole body was trembling uncontrollably. they told me it was a normal side effect to the drugs, and I was given diazepam which helped. I also suffered a major fall in blood pressure which I also was told is normal, but it was an very unpleasant experience!
That happened to me right after the epidural while I was in surgery and the second night postpartum.
It happens in unmedicated births too
The first time I stood up after my C-section I was in awe how much it hurt 😂 I looked at the nurse and said “Are These stitches and staples going to hold up? Cause I feel like my insides are going to spill out in the floor” she laughed so hard
It really feels like things aren't going to stay in, but they do!
Zabey Baby 2015 It’s crazy how strong those stitches/staples are!
i feel like there's such hate towards mums who've had c-sections sometimes. I had to have one because my baby was breech, and my next one will also be a c-section for the same reason. I've been told so many times "Ooooh, what a shame, you aren't even going to try natural birth!" Like, 1. it isn't my fault, it's the way I'm built, and 2. It's literally none of your business. No one gets a medal at the end of it, whether it's a normal birth or c-section. We Ziploc mamas rule
This is messed up. People generally avoid c sections as much as possible since the recovery is so much harder. Sounds like you didn't really have an option, which is how most c sections end up happening anyway.
@@Topaz_Estrella this very mindset you're telling me about is part of the problem!! I HAD a choice, i CHOSE to have a c-section. Maybe this assumption that all women are after a natural experie ce is the issue here.
@@sarahpitcher4615 you're allowed to do whatever you want. I just want to avoid long term pain personally, and it seems like that's the route most doctors recommend, too.
@@Topaz_Estrella cool 👍
@@Topaz_Estrella I have a choice at the moment and I'm going for csection because of the 4 degree tear during my last delivery (vbac). Vaginal birth is only faster to recover from if you don't tear or not much. A scar on my belly was way easier to care for and to heal from than one all over the most sensitive parts of your body, that also covers basic body functions, sex and just plain old sitting.
I know your comment was written in full support, but the thing is, even if we choose csection we are not less of a parent for it.
I was told that having a c-section took the experience of having a "birthing story " from me. 🤔 I'm glad that pregnancy hormones made me more feisty and I immediately ignored that negativity. Many people think c-sections are the, "easy way out." All of those people are uneducated. #11 is so important! You are valid, your experience is yours and important. Grieving is okay. Just remember, you are a strong person no matter which way your baby got here!
You are so pretty! You remind me of Drew Barrymore (: thank you for this amazing video
Omg yes
I thought the same thing!
Angel Tellez Aw, thanks! 💗
Angel Tellez I was just about to say the same thing!!
Yes!!!!!! Totally!!!!
Thank you for #11. I recently experienced an unplanned C-section after 32 hours of labor and 2.5 hours of pushing. It was traumatic and not the birth I envisioned, and I've been so sad because of it. Thank you for saying it's okay to grieve and for validating my ability to be a mother, regardless of how my baby was born.
I am one of the non pregnant people watching all your videos 😂
Lol no, you're not
Annie Tee Im the non pregnant prepping for when I get pregnant in the future
Hill Country Homesteading I love that!! Congrats I Hope birth goes well!! I think that it’s so healthy you’ve researched but you’re mentally prepared the plan could change! Let me know how it goes!! So exciting
Sameee
I was too lol
Two videos in one week, it’s like Christmas! Great video as always! I’d like to make a request for you to do a video about the best things to bring with you in your baby bag for the hospital! From your own personal perspective as well as what you’ve seen as a nurse!
EmilyMarieEstes Great idea!
I can definitely do that!
I'm still a good 3-4 years away from having a baby and as the kind of person that obsessively researches before even ordering a menu item, I really appreciate your videos. Watching you has taken away all of my birth anxiety and has made me feel prepared. Thank you for your work (:
Your number 11 made me cry! For the longest time, I felt like I didn't give birth to my daughter and that I wasn't good enough. Thank you so much, I wish I had seen this before I had my C section!
Awww, sending you love and hugs, mama! Your daughter is lucky to have a mother who gave so much of herself to bring her into the world.
I’ve had 3 c-sections and this is still hard for me.
Didnt have a c-section and teared up anyways. Amazing compassion coming through her videos!!
Your videos helped me through my last baby who was just born March 2023. I went in and I got to labor for 8 hrs before my emergency c section. It is very scary but I wouldn't have him in my arms without my team. They had him out in just under 6 mins. I want other moms to know your not a failure, your body is beautiful, and no matter how they come into this world you will still be the best mom. ❤️ Also your team and nurses are there for you through everything
The accuracy!!! I love your videos. And I LOVED my anesthesiologist. I'm convinced he's an angel sent from God. That man listened and heard everything I said and even wiped my tears during my surgery. I am sooo grateful for the team in the OR during my surgery.
I labored for 19 hours and ended up needing an emergency csection, I was so upset, my anesthesiologist put on my favorite songs and calmed me so much during the entire surgery, appreciated that so much 💙
Thanks for all these informative videos ! Am currently expecting my first baby and am very nervous for the delivery part 😭 .
00yl you got it! Mediation really helped me.
Marissa Legend Thank you so much , Just thinking about it makes me cry lol
You got this, mama! 💗💪🏼
Hey me too, but it'll be worth it right 😉
I had a emergency c section
One thing I want to add is after surgery the bleeding is horrible at times , the first time they had me get up it literally was all over the floor like a flood of blood it was so scary
And the gas after surgery was intense , worse than labor
But all worth it for my healthy baby boy .. who now isn’t so little anymore ... he will be 14 in July
Wow!! Im sorry u had this experience! Im not sure if my c-section was considered an emergency. I went to the hospital for a non stress test and then they said your having these babies in the next hour (twins) but i didnt have the gas pain or lots of bleeding. Sorry u went through that :(
Naomi White Gas lain is no joke! Glad you had a healthy baby!
Melanie Moak emergency c-sections are defined as decision to incision in 30 mins or less. Sounds like yours was urgent instead of emergent or STAT. Congrats on the twins!
I had an emergency c section due to preeclampsia and my experience was very good. I actually had no bleeding for 2 months after I had it. Nurse said they cleaned me out completely so that might have been why 🤷♀️
I'm having another c section in Feb and I'm actually scared about it even tho the first one went good.
Same here it ran down my legs an was literally a puddle
I’m happy you mentioned the pulling feeling! With my daughter, the pulling freaked me out!! I looked at my husband and said “please talk to me. Distract me!!!” Definitely wasn’t expecting that!
Yes! The pressure is something else. Definitely the most uncomfortable part. Hard to describe to people that haven't had a CS.
So, I am a C-section momma(x3), I just found it funny when you talked about feeling pressure during the delivery aspect. I always describe that moment as dental work. Because being numb from the block all I was more worried about falling off the table. I couldn't feel anything. I knew what they were doing but it felt very much like getting a tooth removed.
Nicole Hernandez how long in between children did you wait?
I'm 21 and expecting my first. 10 weeks today! I've been binge watching your videos every night after work, and you are REALLY preparing me for this baby! You make me feel less anxious (something nobody has been able to do) I may just be very emotional at this point but the ending of this video truly made me BALL my eyes out! You're the sweetest most kind person I've ever met, and I'm staring through a phone screen! Thank you for making these videos ! And know you are so so SO deeply appreciated 💖
I get so jolly when I see a new video of yours! Had a c-section 10 years ago and here I am soon to bring another little one to the planet. Not sure if I’ll have a vaginal birth but if it’s another c-section I feel good because of your video. So informative and sweet. Thanks xoxo
Hi I'm a nurse in Korea, I love your videos and I think I can learn how to educate patients I encounter. It's so helpful thanks!!
No body told me about gas pain when I had my c section. I was SO bad in my shoulders, almost unbearable! Worse than the pain where I had my c section. Thank you for making people aware of this!
Can you do a video on vbacs? I would love to know the ins and outs of them
Thank you for sharing!
#11 had me in tears, I cant lie. It is so true and it takes soo much to have a c-section and I think a lot of times women aren't given enough credit for it.
I had my sweet boy a few weeks back on March 1st via planned c-section. It was emotional when the decision was first made but once I had time to process it, I was fine. Being in the pre-op room got nerve racking once I heard the prep team doing their thing. I broke down and started crying as I started to walk into the OR...all the emotions came flooding out. My entire life I have waited for my sweet baby and it was finally time. My husband wasn't allowed in when I had to get my spinal..so my doctor (who is such an angel, I absolutely love him! Shout out to Dr. Michael Lim!) and a sweet sweet nurse held my hands as I got my spinal. I was fully numb in 4 1/2 minutes. Like you said, no pain at all just pressure...and even the pressure wasn't bad. The 2nd day after the meds were off, by far the worst. That night I held my baby for about two hours and didn't realize I was putting his weight on my belly. The sensation when I tried to move was a ripping and burning sensation on the side I held him on. Getting up and moving was hard but definitely helped. I didn't pass gas until the second full day. I wanted to so bad but couldn't. The nurses would come in and check my belly with an ever so soft push on my stomach and dang that hurt. Once I got my shower I felt a lot better. I had staples and I would use classic or the rose dove soap to wash my body including my incision and one day I ran out so I used some scented body wash I had...nope never again. It irritated my incision. So only Dove for this mommas incision. I was scared about getting my staples out. Didn't hurt at all!
Meeting my baby was the most amazing moment of my life and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.
To any mommas out there who may be reading this regardless of how you had your baby or any momma who is about to have their baby...do know, the pain you feel is temporary and you will forever have that sweet angel of yours. You are amazing and you can do this!
I lost a litre of blood in labour and had placental abruption and got rushed to theatre they had 5 minutes to save my life and my babies life because the placenta was coming away and his heart rate dropped .. was the scariest experience of my life .. ended up having blood transfusions was awful but I thank god that my son is perfectly fine
Thank u for this..i am pregnant with twins & although I hope I will deliver vaginally ..I am being as best informed as possible in case our journey goes in another direction.
I'm expecting my twins in the next couple weeks and baby A is still breech, so unlikely for me that I will deliver vaginally. I feel so much better with resources like this out there so I know what to expect! I hope you have a safe and healthy delivery no matter what happens, and congratulations!
I have to admit that I'm deeply thankful for c-sections, because without them I'd most likely be paralyzed and our son would either be dead or seriously handicapped, so I could never accept anyone telling me I'm a lesser mom because I didn't have a vaginal delivery! I'm a heathy mom with a healthy kid, and thank you for reminding me that!
Btw I got an emergency c-section after 17 hours of labor, and I threw up in the hallway on our way to the O.R., so I was probably a nightmarish patient for everyone there, but everybody was amazingly kind, funny, efficient, just like you seem to be! So may things went wrong during those three dreaded days spent in the hospital, but I am still thankful and carrying loads of good memories!
Do people really say such things? Are they crazy??
Just had second c section 2 weeks ago…. Team was amazing… very thankful to all of u doctors and nurses … online offline … we have real stories to tell … and all hospital employees are real heroes especially once u get to eat after surgery u can’t thank enough the cooks and chefs 🤗🤗
I do want to say its so great how real and inclusive you are in your language when you are talking about a support person or significant other it really means a lot you take into account the very many ways people experience labour and the people that might be around
Agreed!!
I really try to be inclusive since we have all types of families and support systems! ❤️
I’m 19 weeks pregnant with my first baby boy & I PRAY I have a nurse as sweet and informative as you!! These videos have made me feel so much better!
I wish I had watched this when I had my first child. She is six now. I had planned for a vaginal birth, but she was breech and wouldn't turn. I was convinced that if I had a C-Section that I would not be considered a "real" mother. I know it sounds silly saying it now, but I had some severe depression both during pregnancy and post partum. Thank you for saying that no matter how our babies come into the world we are still mothers. I hope it helps other moms going through what I went through❤
THANK YOU! I am TERRIFIED to have my C Section. My son refuses to move out of his breach position and I have the Placenta Pv issue. So as of now unless god changes my plans, I will be having one. I am so scared and became even more scared when YouTubing the procedure. So from the bottom of my heart I cannot thank you enough for giving me comfort and security! Don’t get me wrong I am still scared shitless but you are the only person that has given me any comfort in this journey. God bless
Your job is my dream career! Can you please do a video in regards to the steps needed in order to work as a l&d nurse 🙏🏽
I've had two c-sections but with my first I was lucky enough to have the most amazing nurse. When it was time for me to get up for the first time she helped me over to the bathroom and cleaned me up in the most gentle and caring way. It was the most intimate moment to have with a stranger and my first instinct was to be embarrassed but she was so caring and kind that any ill feelings I had just went right out the window. It nurses like you guys that make those difficult moments so much easier for moms. Thank you for all that you do!
Thank you so much for making this, Elizabeth. I had an emergency c section two weeks ago and I was given such little info about what to expect afterward. I ended up watching this in the hospital the day after surgery and it was SO helpful. So thank you.
I wish I would've seen this before my planned c-section almost a year ago. I love your videos from a mom who has had 1 emergency c-section and 1 planned c-section.
.....so farting is important?!?!? Serious? So for once I can get praised for farting instead of laughed at?! Sign me up!!!
Little Rookie this made me giggle 😂 after I had my catheter taken out I had nerves and couldn’t pee for over 2 hours when I finally did my body let lose with everything else and my hubby and 2 nurses where waiting. When I came out they were cheering and clapping so funny 😂
Did getting a catheter in and out hurt?
@@angelaluna9665 my experience with c section, catheter was the least awkward of all the things your body is doing. I barely felt pressure in or out.
Omg! After my c section all I wanted is to fart! I was so full of gas and nothing!!! What a pain :/
@@angelaluna9665 mine was definitely uncomfortable but I wouldn't say it hurt really.
I am currently grieving the birth I did not get to experience. I labored for 12 hrs and pushed for 2 hrs. My baby would not fit through my "narrow pelvis" so we had to do a c section. When I think about it, I cry. Because I wanted so badly to have a natural birth and it makes me feel like I failed.
Thank you for this video, especially what you said towards the end ♡♡♡
It’s perfectly ok and normal to grieve the birth you didn’t get. (I actually have a whole video on that subject.) But how lucky is your sweet baby to have an amazing mama who worked tirelessly for 14 hours and then didn’t give up, but had to change plans and do something scary and big to bring baby healthy and safe into this world. You are so strong and brave and you should be so proud of yourself for selflessly growing a baby, laboring towards delivery and giving birth! 💗💗
I ended up having an emergency c section at 34 weeks due to preeclampsia and honestly the c section was nothing for me. I was soooo scared bc of all the stories you hear but going through it is completely different. I used Tylenol to manage the pain and was perfectly fine. Using the binder I was given definitely helped make me more comfortable and limited the pain I felt. There are only two things that I wished would’ve happened differently. 1st I didn’t speak to the dr about being able to see my son being born and I now feel like I missed that opportunity to watch him emerge. 2nd bc my son was 6 weeks early I got maybe 5 minutes with him that first night. My husband brought him over to me but he needed to be taken to the nursery for special care. I was on bed rest bc of my bp so my family was able to go and see him but I didn’t get to really spend time with him until the next day so I feel like I missed some bonding. Otherwise everything was great and I plan on scheduling a c section during my next pregnancy bc it was very easy for me.
This was helpful and encouraging, I'm scheduled for a c-section next week and I'm just praying for a great recovery
I’m not at the stage in my life to be having a baby yet but I really appreciate the fact about not eating before surgery. I’ve wondered about that for years!!
I'm having my third c-section in 3 months. I'm really scared, but I know by watching this video with all your advice everything is going to be fine. Thank you so much. 💓
I had a c section last month! Those sexy underwear’s I had to wear were super fun. Jk, tip for plus size mamas, since we have a little pouch, I used nipple pads (not sure what they’re called, my son has kept me up for the past 6 hours lol)
I took the stickers thing of, folded them in half and boom!
Keeps the area dry, cheap, and yeah :)
Good luck to all the mamas having their babies soon and the ones who have them now lol ❤️
I am so happy to see a c section video. Thank you!! From an proud unplanned c section mama. We so often feel left out of any of these videos and it’s so nice to have c sections acknowledged.
💗💗💗
I had a c-section with my son last May and I feel like you definitely did so well with this video!! Very informative! ♥️
L&D and Mother&Baby nurses are such very special people. I’m so grateful for every single one of mine. I really wish I knew that the anesthesiologist was there for me, and that she could’ve been more of a support person for me. First time mom and first time dad, we were both pretty freaked out in the OR. I really could’ve used some encouraging words, if I had known to ask. That would’ve made a world of difference. But I have a healthy boy! He was 10lbs 11oz and 23 inches!
One other thing, I wish the staff would have recognized his reflux! Looking back now, it was so obvious. A couple of nurses propped his bassinet, but never mentioned anything as to why. And I went home, none the wiser, and he suffered until his two week appointment with the pediatrician. His doc diagnosed it right away. But it makes me beyond angry that no one said anything! My son was on Zantac and thickened formula, and it was still bad.
I'm loving your delivery videos! I'm not planning on having a c section but life might have other plans and I'm glad i have this video to refer to! A lot I didn't know in this video.
Kristine Jorgensen Same! I was not expecting to have a c-section. But this baby girl decided to turn around butt first at 35 weeks and is still breach at 38. So unless baby girl decides to turn I will be having a c-section at 39 weeks. This is my second and the first one was all natural vaginal. So I’m terrified of having this c-section.
@@TheRealMeekaa Have they mentioned External cephalic version (ECV) or physically rotating the baby? It's not comfortable & some physicians don't do it.
They have I took the orientation with the high risk doctors. The risks are crazy from dislocated shoulder to even accidentally breaking the babies neck.
@@TheRealMeekaa Can you wait until you go into labor? My situation is flipped: unplanned C-section now going for a VBAC. Here is my positive experience to help you with the fear:
🌻 *Labor:* 2 days, no progress
🌻 *Why?* Prolonged Fetal distress
🌻 *Surgery Time:* 15min total
🌻12 tugs & heard Baby cry
🌻 *Recovery was beautiful*
🌻 Breastfeeding, gas, no biggie
*My point is: You probably have more time to decide then you think.* So if you feel it's right to wait and hope a little longer.. it's probably fine! *Just ask how long surgery & prep normally takes.* So you can make an informed decision and feel more empowered in the case of a C-section. Breech babies turn and operations go well. So don't be afraid, it happens everyday.
Good luck ❤
THANK YOU Nurse Zabe!!!🙏🏽🥰
38 weeks now. My 1st daughter 4 years ago was healthy, vaginal delivery… so hubby & I have pretty much just planned for that again. Little did we know, baby is breech with little room to turn now due to bicornate uterus.😩 So we’re trying to mentally prepare for c-section. I’m scared & almost stopped watching this due to anxiety, but you’re so sweet & understanding.
I am strong, confident & open to whatever baby needs to get here safely!💝💪🏽
Could you do a video on natural birth in a hospital?
She has made one in her channel
Emma do you mean unmedicated? I definitely can!
Yes, please do one on unmedicated birth! Also do inductions hurt worse than going into labor naturally? I'm mildly freaking out lol
Zabey Baby 2015 yes - I am going to have a hospital birth this time and really want an unmediated birth using the hypnobabies program. I was in a free standing birth center with my son.
@@mandiaimone891 I have had both. I was induced with my first and went naturally with my second. No epidural with either. The contractions hurt way more with the induced labor than the naturally occuring... the difference was so stark that I didnt think I was FULLY DILATED with my second but that's how I arrived to the hospital (my water also hadn't broken). Looking back at it now I believe I was in labor for a good 12-18 hours with my second. My first was 6 hours from the start of pitocin (halfway through that they broke my water which made the contractions worse)
I wish someone had told me all of this when I had my baby. I went in fully prepared. I took all the classes when i found out I was pregnant. I bought everything. I was PREPARED! Untill in the middle of a 23 hour labour, I was told it wasn't going to work out. I was quickly ushered into a delivery room, I was sliced open and then I lost my mind...I will new forget the horror i went through. My postpartum depression was immediate! I struggled for so long. But somehow, we got through the months of suffering. I now love my baby beyond words. I wish everyone a better experience than I had.
Oh, thank you so much for this video! ❤️ I just scheduled my c/s at the end of the month as baby is still breech as of 37 weeks. Trying not to freak out over major abdominal surgery when I've been mentally preparing for another vaginal delivery is something I'm really struggling with.
I'm hopeful that baby will flip beforehand (I also have an ECV scheduled this week) but your kind words and soft spirit make the whole process a little less intimidating.
So here is a huge thank you for all the time and effort you put into this video ❤️
My sister had 2 c sections, one after a long labor and a second one that was scheduled. Recovery sounds so miserable, but I'm so grateful for this procedure. Crossing my fingers that I won't need it, but always good to be prepared.
Mama of two c sections here 🙋🏼♀️the first was twins and the second was a singleton, I agree and used just about every tip you had here! I loved both of my births even though they didn’t go to “plan”/“preference” and I have three beautiful children! One thing I messed up on was getting a last dose of mess before heading home, I still had to go to the pharmacy (in reality send my husband) and by the time I was home I could feel it all and I thought I was going to die! And I’m not even very dramatic!
Making this 8 month pregnant mama cry with that #11 😭 I have a scheduled c-section planned for December 2nd! Thank you for making informative videos for first time moms like me who have no idea what to expect. I have a tour at my hospital next week to get all the details I need!
This has really reassured me. I’m having an elective section in July because my last birth was quite traumatic. I was getting really anxious and this has answered some of my questions! Thank you!
how did it go?
Thank you so much for posting these videos. I'm watching this and crying tears of joy while holding my 2 month old son.
I had originally planned a birth with zero medical intervention. I wanted to go to a birth center and have my water birth. I had literal dreams about it. And then 37 weeks hit and the swelling began. A week later, I noticed I gained 20lbs in 2 weeks. I went straight to the hospital to be tested. I was diagnosed with Preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. My heart hurt and I was so sad. I was scared mostly. They immediately started inducing me. I labored for a good 12 hours and had only 5 cm of progression and that's when we noticed my baby's heart rate was dropping. I had an emergency C-section, lacerated bladder and a very lengthy recovery. Unplanned medical intervention saved my baby and me. I did grieve a few weeks after my baby's birth when I realized how much we went through. I'm just so grateful for modern medicine and the miracles that come out of it.
I am going back to school in September to get on the path of becoming a nurse!!! L & d nursing is my #1 choice and I'm so excited! I love your videos, they are so helpful. I hope I'm a nurse just like you in a few years 😁❤️
I gave birth 6 months ago (here because if we have another baby my consultant advised I have a c section next time) and your last point genuinely brought a tear to my eye. Your words made me feel so proud of myself for getting through the pregnancy and labour. Thank you!
I’m having a c section next Thursday this video made me feel better thanks 😊
I don't currently have children but hope to in the future. Thank you for your videos as they are not only informative but also filled with love and reassurance. Pls be my nurse!!! ❤
This was so helpful! I am having my first c section next month and this helped ease some of my fears!
I watched your videos in 2020 preparing for my vaginal birth of my son, i had a 4th degree tear with him and now were expecting baby #2 and I'm prepping for a csection. Thank you for having videos for both!
I had a footling breech and an emergency csection with my twins. I went into preterm labor. When my water broke baby a(Kaden) foot was out at work. Within five minutes of me getting to the hospital he was born then I had to have an emergency csection because twin b(Amara) flipped and her heart rate was dropping. I surprised my nurses that I was able to walk unattended the same day I had my twin. They were by my side
It is so very clear that you are doing what you were meant to do in life. I have watched multiple births from cesarean to vaginal and while some nurses were lovely, some were definitely not. Truly wish every nurse was as patient, kind, knowledgeable and supportive as you! So refreshing to see someone who is truly passionate!
16:00 and now I'm crying... thank you so much! You are so sweet, I wish you had been my nurse... 😭💓😭💓
I also was extremely impacted and the dr never mentioned it to me or warned me what was going on! The night after my c-section I had to get manually cleaned out and the nurse used an old time enema thing which was like water irrigation. The nurse said I had pushed just as hard as if I were having a vaginal delivery(keep in mind this was the night AFTER a rough c-section) . It was unreal. But thank God for the nurse I had that did all this to me. She went through the same thing when she gave birth and was just an Angel to have that night. We need more nurses like you and her!
Thank you so much for your final comment. I have struggled with that exact thing subconsciously, and I forget about it until the subject gets brought up and it really hurts when it does. It was so moce to be watching this video and seeing the sincerity in your eyes when you said what you did about all births being amazing, and it being okay to grieve the birth that I didn't get- when sometimes I feel silly for feeling that way. So, thank you!
I have had 2 c sections and I have to say one thing that really helped me, don't wait until day 2 to get up, my first I got up within 3 hours, second it was 6 hours but it really helped me to get up and walk and keep moving. I think it made my recovery so much better.
I know nobody who has had a C-section so this is helpful for the future
I just wanted to say. I had an emergency c-section in May & I watched everyone of your videos before going in for induction & it honestly helped so much. I didn’t expect a c section but I’m so glad I watched your videos. Now I’m pregnant again & planning on another c section, obviously scheduled this time so I’m back watching this again!
Im 34 weeks pregnant and I so needed this!
Baby has not turned yet and I’m trying to be ready for all the possibilities.
I wish I had you as my nurse, you seem so kind and passionate!
Thank you so much for making your videos❤️
roxykiwi3 Did your baby ever turn? I’m 36 weeks and he has yet to turn.
Jessica McCool he did not! Had a csection. You, any chance?
After having my baby and being in the hospital for almost 2 weeks do to complications, I now have so much respect for nurses, they treated me with so much love and respect, they made me feel comfortable and never ashamed when I needed help. Thanks for everything you do for all the moms❤️
So thankful you had some great nurses to help you get through such a difficult situation! ❤️
This video was so informative and helpful. I know I will have a scheduled c-section for my next birth, so knowing all of this in advance is great! ❤️
The last point caught me offguard. My C- section was 10years ago. And yet your words just had a healing effect. Thank you so much.
I love love love these videos, thank you so much for making them!! Oh I PRAY that my labor and delivery nurse is as wonderful as you are!
Number 11 was EVERYTHING!!! As a trained labor and birth doula (and pregnant first time mom) I felt it necessary to share that same message and recently made a video about it on my channel. “YOU ARE A MOM REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU BROUGHT BABY INTO THIS WORLD” So important to say and hear!
I agree with some the previous comments. You should totally do a vbac video.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm about 7 weeks out from delivery and all of your videos have been really helpful in thinking about delivery - but I agree with other posters that your #11 was SO important. There is all this hate about c-sections, so just thank you so much for saying the truth that however your baby comes in to your life (vaginal, c-section, surrogacy, adoption, fostering) you are a parent! That's the magic.
Thank you for watching. Good luck with your delivery, mama!
I'm curious to know how to handle severe anxiety attacks that may happen if you're about to have an emergency c-section.
Same
Happened to me and they gave me an oxygen mask.. I was shaking uncontrollably but I had my hubby by my side who was talking to me and keeping me calm the entire time.. scariest thing I've been through but I had a great support team the Drs and everyone were amazing.
Yari Frometa sane thing happened with me. I couldn’t stop shaking. Very scary
I'm late but just had an unexpected c section on new years eve. While going into the OR I was so nervous I was dry heaving and threw up bile before going back then when we got back there and were about to start I told them how I was feeling , my heart was racing and I felt like i couldn't breathe. They gave me a medication through my iv which started working right away it made me drowsy and out of it but my nerves were non existent after it. It was a lifesaver.
I recently had an emergency c-section and had a bad panic attack in the OR. I told them I felt it coming on and they gave me anxiety meds in my IV. That worked WONDERS
Great video! My baby was born via (unplanned) c-section at 4am, I was wheeled back to the delivery room to just recover for like 2 hours. After that they moved me to a recovery room and I had to get up at noon (most difficult thing I ever had to do), had to take a shower (assisted by a nurse) and walk to the room where I spent the next 3 days. My baby was with me a lot while I was in the recovery room and after we moved to my room they left the baby with me and I had to take care of him (no visitors were allowed around the baby, not even husband). It wasn't too easy 7 ish hours after surgery with a brand new wound. But I credit my quick quick quick recovery to this. Get up and start walking as soon as they let you no matter hiw hard it is. It makes a world of a difference!
Thank you for this! I’m having my second c-section on Monday 😬😬
Good luck! Hopefully being prepared will help you live it well. I'm pregnant with my second. Do you mind sharing what made you decide to get a second c-section vs VBAC?
Good luck I will be having my 3rd c section. Not so bad. But good luck.
Idk if your first was emergency or planned, but I can tell you that the second section is so much easier. You know what to expect. For me, not having labored for 30 hours and coming in fully rested helps so much with recovery and my mental state.
Good luck!!
I had a C section and I gotta say that you explaining how they push down on the uterus when the baby is being born like that to me makes me feel better about my c section. That’s a beautiful statement about the c section birth.
You’re genuinely amazing. I have watched all your videos and you’ve given me so much relief from your explanations and information. 💘
I had a schedule c-section with my first son. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant with my 2nd son. Unfortunately the spinal medications didn't work. So they had to put me under general anesthesia. The coughing was the worst part. I love these 10 things video.
You're such a sweetie! How amazing would it be if all nurses were like you!
Thank you so much! We are going to bring our first baby into the world in a few months and I was so nervous about having an emergancy c-section. It's so refreshing to have someone give honest information without making it feel like the world is ending lol