Why Are People So Easily Offended?
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- Опубликовано: 16 июл 2024
- Broken people hurt each other. It is a sad but enlightening truth. As people are not perfect, they tend to do things that can be offensive. But what if I tell you that you can choose to not be offended when faced with this common predicament? In today's video, I'm giving you four specific questions you can ask yourself to help you stay out of the "easily-offended" mentality.
00:19 Imperfect people do stupid things
01:22 Concept of choice
02:43 The victim paradigm
04:27 Personal vs impersonal component
05:49 How did I create this?
07:50 What can I learn from this?
09:16 What is my commitment to myself and others moving forward?
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In these days and times, I feel like humanity is doomed.
"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end" - Caroline Myers. Things are tough, especially right now. Try your best to stay positive, The Thing.
@The Thing Twitter is dooming humanity
They r
Im gonna say it
Ok doomer
@@LiveOnPurposeTV
Sorry, but what do you mean by " The Thing?'
I was always mentally strong I wouldn’t get offended. It’s a waste of energy
Jaycamboi, You are right, it is a waste of energy. Happy to have you in our community.
Jaycamboi but do you still hang out with that people?
U wish 😛
People who are easily offended tend to say these things to make themselves feel better.
Did you just get offended ? 😏
I agree with you. If someone were to bully me or tease me, I would be neutral to whatever said after a solid 30 minutes because I didn’t care about it. But nowadays, I see people being called “a little ugly” and they would cry and scream over it for weeks.
I said all positive words and I still offended people, by then picking up on one of those positive things and turn it into negative and start a fight.
Jessica Sanna, don't fight, just calmly say that is not what you intended.
Topaza Grainne Weber maybe you are dealing with people who have narcissistic personality disorder! You can’t say anything because they don’t want you to be right.
Live On Purpose TV or ignore them and walk away because if they’re offended it’s none of our business unless if it’s someone that is either apart of your family or your friend
I think u should only get offended whenever your hurt, or, others r hurt!
I hate when people feel entitled to be offened on other people's behalf
UnderStance, I know what you mean.
Easily offended people are the #1 reason why I find it hard to apologize or accept responsibility. It's not like when you throw a baseball and smash a window by accident (or otherwise) in which the damage and the one who caused it is obvious. No matter how good or harmless your intentions are, no matter how well you behave, none of that matters. If anyone still gets "offended" by that behavior, for example, allegedly accuse you of "harassment" or say that you made them feel uncomfortable, they're automatically right and you're automatically the asshole. Naturally, you'd try to explain the situation, try to clear away the misunderstandings made by the offended party, only to get accused of making excuses. The verdict gets decided in favor of the offended party while your side of the story, your harmless intentions, are never addressed. Getting in trouble nowadays seems to depend more on what they claim, rather than what you did.
CYSYS8993, what you say is true, some people just choose to be offended. We can still speak respectfully which is under our control, and not worry about what the other person thinks about us, which is not under our control. Thanks for watching and commenting.
I am in my early 60's and was just was just thinking about this very thing last night. People are so "sensitive" for lack of a better word, these days. I'm afraid to say anything to anyone. I suppose I'm also old and out of touch with a lot of the current stuff. I'm a liberal minded person but so much has changed and changes every day that I don't know what to say or how to say it. For instance, I don't know how to address all the gender changes when I meet people. Or how to talk to people of other races without saying something that offends them. I certainly don't INTEND to offend anyone. I've always tried to honor everyone and be kind. I never intend to hurt anyone or anything. But these days some people take offense at the smallest thing and that doesn't even begin to address road rage which really scares me that I will tick someone off and be shot! It's a scary new world for sure. People are under so much stress and things are so weird. Thanks for addressing this. 👍☺
Buckeye Fangirl19, I hear this more and more. Brene Brown addressed this in one of her books. Basically, give people a break and the benefit of the doubt.
@Black Hydra freedom of speech does not mean whatever comes into your head is without consequences.And freedom of speech has its limits. If you were to go to an airport or a government facility and talked about guns or bombs you would still be investigated and if probable cause were to be felt by security arrested. You also can not yell fire in a theatre when there was no fire as a joke, The police would be called so freedom of speech under the constitution if it merits people being hurt is not allowed and punishment by the full extent of the law happens because those people have the same philosophy that you have that they can say what ever they want because they don't understand what freedom of speech is.And they wonder why they are interrogated for talking about weapons in a government facility. Because it is illegal and could merrit violence thats why. I get sick of people saying things and saying freedom of speech as an excuse. You can say what ever you want that does not mean there is no consequences or no exceptional places were you can't do that at an airport or a government building you simply do not have the right to talk about certain subjects like the ones I just named. And if you do the consequence that the law give you are severe.
@@aelrickofoid6733 so you're not understanding the difference between saying something to cause panic or actual physical harm or just getting your feelings hurt. In one instance, like yelling "fire" in a movie theatre can cause panic and cause people to get injured in the stampede that follows. Someone saying something that causes your feelings to get hurt just means you need to learn how to deal with the world not caring about your feelings, because that's the reality.
@@KiwiGraggle That's why you need to help yourself to not act like that when you get offended, because like you said you will "cut him off of your life" when he said that. That is very childish, you aslo need to understand that the person who saide that to you does not know that your offended by that, so its best to just let that pass by.
How does being OLD equate with being "out of touch" I'm 70 and know eactly what's happening .The vast majority of people who are not old do not.
Hurt people hurt happy people and sometimes these people just hate their life so much... they want to push their negativity onto happy 😃 people. It’s very sad... but unfortunately people like this can’t even be befriended... 🙏🏻😍 great video.,
Sarah Brennan, I hear what you are saying, we do have to choose wisely.
the guy i love said i'm trash at talking and actually im overthinking that right now i seriously cant stop thinking about it
Mermaid Motel, I hope this video helped you. Here is another one that might be better suited for your situation: "How To Stop Overthinking Everything And Find Peace Of Mind" - ruclips.net/video/Lgy0ErJQnYY/видео.html
Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
As a behaviour management (aka attention management) teacher, I wish all teachers could watch and benefit from the freedom this video offers. Articulately put! Thank you
Coach Guy, we are having more teacher subscribing to the channel. Glad to have you.
Live On Purpose TV Omg my teachers get offended to easily. Y do they get offended that I cuss?
Agreed
Thanks for being open minded. I have a friend that is offended by everything and I had to leave for my sanity. Everyone owed them and they had trouble forgiving. I spent time alone and asked why I attract such people?
God is helping me forgive others, accept human weakness as He did, setting appropriate boundaries and learning to speak the truth in love. This is an ongoing journey. Thanks to Him, I have healthy friends and opportunities.
The refusal to be held hostage in order to move forward!
YES! So powerful and empowering.
Modern society created validation for people to get easily offended. Years ago, people worked for their happyness and success. This is one of the billion reasons.
Dark Max, thank you for watching and sharing.
These days I have to write 'Just for fun'/ "#no_offence" for every joke i write to anyone else they easily get offended. This experience made me say sorry more often than thank you :(
NAMAN MARKHEDKAR, you are welcome.
Society must play a huge part of it, considering how easily offended people are nowadays. Haven't watched the full video yet though, so I don't know if you brought it up or not. Will finish it as soon as I can, thanks for uploading! I like to listen to other reasons (such as yours) to see it from all angles, shout out from Sweden!
Carl, hello. My son spend time in Sweden and speaks the language. I love that you are open to new ideas.
Fully agree 💯
I decided in high school not to be someone who is easily offended because I thought it added so much unnecessary drama to life! I truly believe Christ opened my eyes to that reality and gave me the strength, grace and love for others to truly not be easily offended. It’s silly. I’m not perfect and I hope for others’ grace towards me when I mess up because oh, trust me, I WILL!
Alana L, I wish more people could see we have a choice and make the one you did.
Beautifully said!❤
Amen
I love your comment! ❤
I always get tired of my teachers telling us that all of us are very misbehaved kids even if I'm not one of them. I tried everything to be the "best smart" kid but instead all of it just wasted my time doing the things I love by taking all this bad stuff in to me. Making me think that I'm the victim to the situation.
Thanks by the way. Im happy that I don't have to go through all this again. ^w^
George's_ Biscuit, glad to have you at the channel.
Haha love this guy, "2 men come out the van and beat me up, how is that me" "That is me!!!" hahah, funny guy
Hyper Relic, thanks for watching.
I literally accidentally offended a very i guess semi friend when i was making a joke and practically calling myself a coward.
That was annoying
Accidents happen and we just need to communicate to understand one another.
"How did I create this?" is a hard question but profoundly helpful.
When answered honestly, it can be a game changer.
Wow this is powerful! Great information as usual. Thank you for these videos!
Home with Riss, you are very welcome.
There’s also a way you can look at it from a self-defense standpoint in target avoidance, or trying not to be selected by criminals, but that’s a whole other line of thought...Thanks for this message.
J. H., thanks for being a part of our Live On Purpose Community.
I walked down the street, without carrying some form of protection, and without awareness of my surroundings
Seekers Cover, thank you for watching.
Seekers Cover, thank you for watching.
I absolutely love the valuable content and effort put into all of your videos. I love this channel! Thank you for providing us with wisdom to deal with situations when most people simply feel helpless about.
LanguageVista, so honored to be on your team!
You're hilarious Dr. Jenkins. Informative AND entertaining. Thank you for the lessons
Why thank you, Kate Hu. Honored to be on your team!
Live On Purpose TV U have a lot of manners. I like that!
Brilliant! Beautifully explained.
Shubha Baldota, thank you!
Why do people get offended when you look at them? Not staring but look at them
Gabriel Guzman, I am not sure. Maybe get someone close to you to give you some honest feedback of the way you look at people.
#2 is extremely inconvenient but extremely important. People hate taking responsibility. A few years ago someone I know had their car broken into. When the Police came, the officer attempted to educate the victim about how they could avoid the situation. The victim FLIPPED OUT and went on to lambaste the officer because he was supposedly blaming the victim. I was there and witnessed the interaction, and I can objectively say that the cop was 100% right and the victim was 100% wrong. The victim hated the idea that they could have taken measures to limit the likelihood of their things getting stolen. They hated to think that it was partially their “fault”. The victim was so stuck in their own prideful ignorance that they couldn’t see the other side of the coin, even though it was staring them in the face. However, the cop handled the entire situation calmly and gracefully. Respect.
regul8or, thank you for the example. We should be respectful, even if we disagree. Prideful ignorance will get us every time.
Dr. Paul , you crack me up 😁🤭 appreciate your work and videos. Thank you
My pleasure, Petra Langr.
Wow! You helped me a lot! Thank you!
Language Partners Ministry, honored to be on your team.
I was watching a video from 15 or so years ago and a lot of the comments there are just talking about how the video wouldn't be "okay" today
Bajsig Visare, good point.
I’m so grateful for you! I’m now going to buy your positivity book! 😍
Thank you. Honored to be on your team.
Agreed! I have struggled with this and had close people ask me to respond negatively to those who deserve it. I never wanted to, I thought it was a waste of my time. Haven't had anyone confirm my feelings like you have. Thank you.
But after a while it does get exhausting to hear people's negativity, so there are periods of time where I need to avoid everyone except my immediate family.
How do you handle so much negativity coming out of your clients? Do you take time off? Give clients candy after a while?
Or ???
Love 2 Learn V Y, I decided a long time ago that I am ok with what my client's say, it is their choice. I ask them to run whatever I say through their truth filter and don't force them to do anything. I do need some time off and enjoy hiking and spending time with my wife and kids.
Don't take other peoples words and emotions as your own. Shield off those negative energies. Spend time doing something you enjoy and don't let them live rent free in your mind.
One of the issues is compensation. People will now have a financial incentive to feel personal attacked over nothing
everyone needs to stop the victim mentality period !
We need to work our way out and work toward being more proactive. It may take some time, but we can get there.
It is what it is. It's only a problem if you make it a problem. Either stew on the problem or solve the problem. Don't just drown in it. It's all in the mind about how things are.
Joe Bustos, how we frame things is very important to getting past them.
I forgot what I was ganna type!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dr Paul
Thank you, thank you. thank you!!!! Your life strategies and tools work great:) :) :)! Thanks for all you do.
Mum, honored to be on your team.
It has more to do with ego than anything else. If you had no ego you would not be offended. In time you may realize that You are no one and act accordingly. In the age of narcissism, this is a monumental test that few will pass.
Thank you for watching and commenting. Appreciate it.
"He who takes offense when offense was intended is a fool and he who takes who takes offence when is intended is a greater fool." -Brigham Young
Tagalagadingdong Destructo Fudincalberrie, thanks for watching,
@@LiveOnPurposeTV You can learn more about Brigham Young about this topic.
Love your channel, it's helping me to become a nicer person
😁
Lynne Parker, yay for you! A more positive life.
Great advice and video
Thank you, Gabriel Guzman. Honored to be on your team.
I feel like I need to filter myself around people. Women often misunderstand me, and cease contact. All I did was having some dark humor. She won't forgive me for calling her a overly sensitive snow flake.
Good lesson to learn, hope you learned it to move on.
This is so true people nowadays get so offended by anything
TheMaster, life is so much more peaceful when we don't get upset.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV yeah :)
This video was very helpful☺️ you def made a lot of sense and your words of wisdom creating a space for me to continue to live my life not being held hostage to personal and Impersonal matters that I have no control of. It's not about me or what happened to me, it's about did I live to learn a lesson that can help me to commit to myself and others on "Is it worth becoming offended" NOPE, gained my power back!! 😊
Reneatha Newell, Glad you feel empowered.
My mom let my dog out and my dog got killed. I got upset and she got upset that I was upset with her. She was offended that I said she was negligent when I made it clear if ppl come over , dog goes in kennel bc she will run out and get hit..and here we are...
Heather D. Morris, I am so sorry.
Excellent summary! I wholeheartedly agree with you, but I'd also like to add that the entitlement that people have in the 21st Century is also part of the problem.
People are far more demanding and less tolerant of others, especially when their opinions differ from their own.
But rather than just accept that everyone has these different opinions, there's an ugly precedent of thin-skinned people that wants to criticise, take offence and also to censor those with different beliefs.
This is especially evident on social media and I believe that they have played a large part in how people get so offended these days.
Ninh Ly, I get what you are saying, it is a different world and I wish like you that we could all be a bit more accepting.
Loved this
Thank you, Emily.
Stuff happen ignited a childish giggle followed by a flashback to forest gump.
Thank you for watching.
Great video
Thank you, Branden.
Good tips. I found that underlying the feeling of offence was hurt and i realised that i had to acknowledge and tend to the hurt (emotional repair) before i could move forward. Another thing that helps when i get offended, is curiosity. I ask, what is really going on here with this person/ this situation that i might not be aware of but need to pay attention to? Curiosity enables a modicum of detachment.
Yes, it does. Thanks for being here at the channel.
This must be shared with everyone 😉
I agree. Thanks!
Comedians like Dave Chappelle, Bill Burr, and Andrew Shultz are probably the only ones that can push the envelope without caring about the PC culture we're in.
It is unfortunate, Tashanté. I love a good laugh. Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
It offends me that some people get offended for smal stuff
I know what you mean.
Me: says “gg” after match
That one enemy: *sToP mAKInG fUn of uS ThIs is So ToXic*
Just smile.
Too many people WANT to be offended.
khgdc, it does seem that way sometimes.
There life sucks!
@@tumedasco7010
excuse me, I think the word you're looking for is "their", as it is a possessive pronoun. I am offended by your inability to spell
Whenever someone says something like hate or disagree (sometimes) with me I really get offended I don't know why..
I am not sure why either. If you want to work with a coach or a therapist you could find out why.
It comes down, for me, to a basic false assumption we tend to make about ourselves at times, and people high in narcissistic tendencies make it much more strongly and more relentlessly than others. The assumption behind it is that we cannot be wrong: we are epistemically infallible and, especially, supremely morally righteous.
When one takes the staggeringly arrogant position of being the determiner of unassailable absolute truth, then believing one has the right to terrorise others into conforming is never far behind. I also think there is often more than a little recognition of the weakness of the belief manifest in pathological offense-taking - why bother being outraged if one's position is really as solid as one needs others to believe? Do we really think there are no possible explanations, option choices, or ways of thinking other than the one we have decided is absolutely true because feelings?
Great questions. I love your self-reflection. So valuable and much needed today.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thanks, mate!
Just offended my friend a few days ago when send i send a pic of a conversation where i said: ah i just dance with her because i have no partner and she got offended which i didn't know so i apologize to her and she didn't reply and after a few days i wrote a sincere apology again but she didn't reply and its making me nuts if she would accept my apology or not since she is not seeing my message but she reply to the other groups but ill think ill move on from that situation i already done my side and apologize to her sincerely its up to her if she accept it or not. So i got a question should i apologize to her again for offending her? Or should i just move on
I don't know if your feelings or behavior have changed. If you aren't going to do something like this again and want the friendship then apologize. If not, work on yourself.
We live in an age where people are offended by everything, but ashamed of nothing. A terrible combination.
That is a good synopsis.
This is why my favourite show is South Park
Thanks for watching, Gabriel Nash-vanderwall.
Same. Both South Park and Family Guy are the only two animated shows with mature content that can push the envelope and doesn't really care about the backlash from snowflakes.
OMG MINES TO!!🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
Tashanté There’s a bunch of other adult animation.
People weren’t like this 10 years ago
DJ, that could be. Thanks for watching.
They can't handle the truth and whatever is being said they get offended
We can choose not to be offended. It leaves us more open to people and ideas.
I was with you until the mugging.
I do think we have a learned taking offense. What I mean is that people around us can through confirmation of our feelings of being offended, bring us to believe that this is the way I should respond that it is my right to my feelings that should guide whether this was offensive or not. Response to Feelings that could have been a learned behavior through other peoples doing.
Once we learn that there’s an alternative and training ourselves to a different response pattern, we have a tool for an alternative approach.
But if I am mugged, that is definitely about me.
I know from recent incidents, not mugging, that your adrenaline goes thru the roof and your fight, flight and freeze system kicks in. You are gonna have a reaction. Because it is suddenly very much about you.
I can say I didn’t sleep more that night, and I am not easily scared.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I read your comment twice and am thinking about it some more.
I like this comment. I feel like we're trying to detach ourselves from being human, and alive. Like you mentioned with the fight, flight, freeze response: We're animals at the end of the day. It's natural to have that kind of reaction and to be offended when something is trying to harm our survival.
twitter should watch this
Haha, that is an animal that I haven't taken on.
I don’t know what to say because everything I said is wrong that’s why better don’t give people any comment 😰
Uchiba Uki, even though some people are easily offended, just do your best to be kind and non-judgmental. If a person takes offense - that's on them. Thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV i also despise that people who are overly sensitive 'are' this way bc they have a self centered view of the environment and other ppl in it.. Who are you to dictate to other ppl if their actions/words violated some decorum and if they had a good enough reason or not? (If it even occurs to you there could be a reason😒).. What? your own feelings are how we can judge something as right or wrong? I think we've established that you are self centered and ultra sensitive, therefore that is a pretty unreliable and even tyrannical system to go by..
Does it actually make sense in their heads that, 'this person is acting this way TO offend me.. a stranger..'?? This actually checks out to them? It is especially a waste of energy when you dont know each other and the odds are high that its a one time encounter..
I was called 'very rude' bc, One, the way i was 'gesturing my arm' and evidently my resting face was unsettling.. The reason i could have been percieved this way was bc i was overcoming an alcohol addiction (wonder what caused me to drink so much😒).. The medication i was on alters your mood.. Second time, was when i was on a steroid.. The third time was when i was feeling ill... Fourth time, i guess everyone else could be facetious but me😒.. The ppl triggered enough to call you 'rude' basically assume that there is no reason ppl can be even at least somewhat in an altered state of mind.. They assume or expect that everyone is balanced and stable enough to be conscientious in all that they present.. Its actually a pretty infantile rationale to have.. I mean if a person is giving you subtle negative energy its an indication that they are unbalanced.. It is also an infantile expectation that you are the only variable which determines the way a person ought to or does behave.. What a simplistic one dimensional view of reality and other ppl in it..
Of course if the person is repeatedly impolite to you this is different and you ought to inform them of their uncouth behavior.. Which is what i do👆🏻.. I allowed this guy to be a dick to me three times before i submitted a complaint.. First time, i reminded myself of everything i wrote above.. Second time, was a test of my own composure.. Third time, was when this became a pattern or was an actual attribute of this personality which i wouldnt be patient with anymore..
I remember this person who put hours of work into something and they made a video of the progress and the finished project it was based off of something from American culture they thought they did enough research to make it as accurate as possible but they didnt do enough research and made it in accurate but it wasnt their intention some of the people who watched the video were very offended of it not being accurate and they voiced their opinion and thats fine but what happened was that the person deleted the video and threw away their hard work it was in the end their choice and wasnt forced to do it but in the end the only reason they ended up throwing it away was because a group of people were offended
Thanks for sharing.
yeah that probebly explains why people get offended by the word "retard" now. i used to use that word in the playground when i was 6 and everyone found it funny. i honestly don't know what went wrong. honestly i feel horrible to be part of gen z. everyone gets offended by everything. wether its a joke, a word or even something nothing to do with them. humanity really has gone down hill.
YOSHI KID PLAYS XD, I have hope for the world.
Lessons learned from being mugged: 1) Be aware of your surroundings 2) camouflage - suits scream "I have money" 3) most importantly - learn to defend yourself.
Gan, sounds like a traumatic experience. Glad you can share what you learned.
Or just avoid run down, scruffy areas
@@Ahmed35956 I'd prefer the confidence to know that whatever situation I find myself in I'm prepared to deal with it. Sometimes, areas that are normally safe become hostile.
unfortunately your video didn't answer the question in the title.
the title asks the question why are people so easily offended and you spend the entire video talking about how we can avoid being offended.
do these people have a mental illness?were they abused as children?if they were not abused where the parents still responsible for that?is there some other reason people get offended?
what is the damn reason?
It is individual and could be due to mental illness or how they were raised. Diagnosis can only be done by a psychologist or psychiatrist. Since the only person we control is ourselves, that is what the video deals with. It is admirable that you want to understand why. Knowing why doesn't change how we deal with the problem.
Wish more people could see this.
So do I, Epic 1224, share away.
I never feel offended
I watched to understand the easily offended people that blame me on basically everything
Ourari World, that is awesome that you are seeking to understand others. You will go far.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks
I don’t really get offended by anything unless it’s something about me personally if something a celebrity say I don’t care
dante golding, I get it.
I get people saying whatever to me but i don't even notice because i don't get offended by it and i people say i have a huge ego because i don't get offended by their insults. As soon as i say something insulting i'm the one in the wrong lmao it's the funniest thing in the world, it makes no sense how deluded and sensitive people are. I enjoy annoying people sometimes because it's funny. And whenever someone tries to insult me now i just say something along the lines of me going to the gym and them not because going to the gym makes you care so much less about the ignorant and negative people around you.
Thank you for sharing.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV You didn't need to reply to say you don't care.
Fab
Mary Hamilton, thanks!
Let's Hope Buzzfeed doesn't Finds this video and sabotages it
Devon Mike, I won't tell.
How dare you?! I am not easily offended! REEEEEEEE!
Devastator941, ummmm, that's all I am saying.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Relax, JK my dude.
I feel offended
Gary Yeghiayan, Thank you for watching.
My boyfriend is chronically offended by me. I try to tell him how he's neglecting his part of our relationship and he spirals into self centered negativity trying to hide and distract from the facts.
I try not to get offended but as he spirals things are said and assumed from him towards me. It's hard to understand why he likes me after thinking about all the things he just dumps. I try to explain my position and the logic behind it ie... You wouldn't treat a friend this way in a conversation. I'm an afterthought to him most of the time. I will be talking about something and most of the time his response is ok or you lost me a while ago... He never wants to understand anything I feel want or think. It's just shallow conversations with him... And always about him, his childhood, friends, thoughts, interests,whatever... It's always about him. I know all this makes him sound horrible... He had a terrible childhood and has chronic self hate and a serious fear of getting close to anyone. Seems like he can only accept a woman that will ignore him and go out with her friends and the relationships just a small part of his time. I'm too deep to connect with others I think. I once had a psychologist say wow... You are the most self aware person I've ever seen. I'm just curious... It sucks being one of the best at anything. People don't get you, don't appreciate you, are intimidated by you, and some even attack... Though none imbalance my self image... The only things that's shaken me is this. He's such a good person, I wish he could just stop hating himself making my unmet needs about his self hate... Shoving me aside so he can hate himself instead of just show me appreciation and love sometimes. Why is that so hard? Why...
Have you considered this might not be a good match for you? He may not know how to express himself and may not have done the work he needs to do to be in a relationship where he can give.
What if I wrack my brains and I can’t learn anything from it?
Time to seek the help of a coach.
If i live in USA i think im gonna offend everyone. Im glad im not. 😂😄
Teddy Kurniawan, we are glad you are in our community with no borders.
Live On Purpose TV Was that thing he said racist?
@@tumedasco7010 No, he meant that most people in the US gets offended so easily, and as someone who lives in the US, I think he's actually right
@@thehiddenone6232 So glad I live in the EU, in a small Nordic country with less than 6 million people. Not many people getting offended here. They do exist, but they're a relatively small minority. Most people just want to be happy and left alone and don't really care about others, what they do or think about them.
Pretty sure it's a similar situation in other European countries, I'm not sure.
People get easily offended over an opinion now and days. It's like whenever i comment on a movie review telling them my thoughts in a calmly manner, some people just had to go to the reply section and had to be salty about it. Like that one time I was really excited to see Godzilla vs Kong and I was commenting how exited I was for the film and someone replied in a hateful,toxic manner saying, don't watch because Kong lost. People who get toxic over opinion's are just so childish, that's why I lost my faith in humanity now and days.
Don't spend too much time on their negativity. Keep being you.
blacks minorities modern feminists, lgbtq.... and everything else needs to learn this
Seekers Cove, thank you for watching.
I agree and also certain women
Mostly white liberals.
I'm not taking offence personally... The term hoods when referring to muggers smacks of racism. Maybe not in your culture but in many other cultures in the USA.
no offence meant, thanks.
People just need to grow up and stop being offended by everyone and everything period! it’s 2021 ! we’re all human just grow up people! Just saying! It’s stupid that people get so offended by everyone and everything now days! Just a waste of time for people to take offense of things rather intended or not!
Definitely more gets done when we stay in a proactive mode.
when someone bully for no reason and say you are fat and ugly and nobody will ever love you..I think it's okay to be offended.
This is basically stoicism.
Thank you.
People where I am from get offended to easily you say one thing remotely negative about them and they will get extremly angry like call someone stupid and that guy will ask you to fight him because the people here dont have the ability to argue they only know how to fight
pizza delivery springtrap, thanks for watching. I hope you can find a more peaceful place some day. Be the example.
Metacognition.
So powerful.
I really wonder what happend to society.
This wasnt a thing 20 years ago...
It started kicking off at 2016
Jakubosk, Probably more awareness. It isn't always a bad thing, we just need to be more open and forgiving.
some people are narcs
Dena Pitter, thanks for watching.
I find easily offended people offensive.
OK.
Hey would it be offensive to say all the girls in my class get offended very easily
No because it's true
And saying that's offensive proves my point
This is just a story of one day at class
Saiyan Guardian, it is more of a generalization about a group. Try not to do this, be specific, it is more effective.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I'm sorry did u get offended
My girl just jokingly said she wanted to get a background check on me because I'm "Too perfect" 🧐
Idk why that offended me so bad, but I'm here to finger out why.
Yes, i said finger....
DJ Statyk, that is a great compliment.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Rearranging my perspective, you're right. It is! This woman is amazing, man. And we're really taking our time. It's nice. Thank you for the reply!
I remember the old day when we use the word "gay" for insult
Hopefully that doesn't happen anymore.
😂
just trying to figure out those infinity gender species
Thanks for watching, Zongqi Zhang.
It's not that people are easily offended, it's you who keeps underestimating the seriousness of your behavior. You need to stop playing the victim.
Sebastian Sprucer, so much in this comment.
“I’m offended because what you said might upset other” Right, so not you?
I'm offended that people use the cliché im not perfect to execuse themselves from an expectation of being perfect
because the argument or point goes like this if u were perfect that would never happen therefore u r not perfect stereotype can't we just be happy and content with being sinful people because why the f would u want to be perfect whats the point of that do u know what being perfect means it means that you would have achieved absolutely anything and everything that ever could or would happen beyond what you are willing to achieve therfore you no longer have a reason to continue living anymore and so u may as well fade the f out right now if you are the type of person who believes that life must have purpose otherwise whats the point to my existence being stuck in a state of wonder confusion etc I dont live because I have purpose i live because I have a unconscious desire that I take for granted because that's the point of unconscious experiences to show gratitude
Kenneth Wiley, None of us are perfect, but hopefully we are all trying.
This years generation must be the softest generation ever lol
Thanks for watching.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV No problem
People aren't "easily offended". It's you who keeps refusing to reflect on yourself and be more considerate of others. So why do you still get surprised when the consequences predictably happen? No one likes a victim mentality.
I would take the thugs car after they ran off.
AlexDroog71, thanks for watching.
I'm sorry, but this was one of the dumbest things I've ever heard and the comment section is on par. It's simple victim blaming. The comment section seem to be comprised of narcissists unwilling to take responsibility for them being offensive. If someone is offended by something you say, guess what? That's a great opportunity to self reflect and try to understand why they were offended (especially if this is something that happens to you often). Maybe they misinterpreted you, maybe you can be clearer about your intentions? Most of the times that is the case. The worst thing you could do in that situation is to say they're just being overly sensitive. It's invalidating and selfish.
Always open to other's thoughts and perspectives.
Nah. You can see a lot happening in twitter even now just everyone getting offended. Hero hei has some videos of it and even the twitter people gets mad when he gets tagged
Literally, you could go up to a person and say the word "black" and they'll get butt-hurt about it and call you racist
TheHiddenOne62, I hope we aren't to that point. A little more seeking to understand the other person would be more helpful.