My husband is an ENTJ and he is absolutely incredible. He has amazing emotional intelligence, but he also will not allow himself be pushed around. Yes I have to be careful not to tell him my "plans" because before I know it, he will have started that project and I'll be swept along! He has never applied for the jobs above him, he was always seen as the person who was the obvious choice and promoted over and over. He's very forgiving, and yes, he can put up with people for the sake of his network...they'll be useful later, but he will still do anything for them too. He stuck with me when we were going through hard times in our marriage, I'm a difficult "emotional" infj at times, but he loves me anyway. I'm blessed by my relationship with my ENTJ.
I can see the ENTJ pairing being such a power boost... Having a man around who doesnt doubt himself but is so secure in himself must be very empowering :)
You certainly picked it! Even when my ennaegram 6 stresshead (I'm a 9 but digress to a 6 in times of overwhelm) shows itself and I put all the doomsday advice to his grand plans out there "What if.....", he just sails through, nothing can pull him down. And of course he's victorious!
I am ENTJ, and I have said the words, "I am Inevitable," lol. I am not a psychopath, I have some sociopathic tendencies, but I'm not one. I never went through the greed phase, I've always wanted to share. I am an ENTJ squared, both my parents were ENTJ, so my upbringing was all about tactics. I knew business, and how to make pungi stakes by 9, lol. I have never fit in anywhere. Rationality is dying out, which is why ENTJ are becoming more rare. I chose my spouse based on her genetics, and my son is ample evidence that I chose correctly. After I chose her, love eventually developed. I have 0 problem apologizing, if I am in the wrong. My wife has 100% access to my resources. My wife is an ENFJ, and I think a perfect match for me.
My husband is Entj. He is amazing. He has the internal strength of the Titan. It is able to pull us out of every trouble if it falls on us. It's really....unbelievable. I am quite strong (enfj) but he is titanium. I also have a friend entj - the same story. It's a stereotype that it's a psychopathic personality. They are loving helping people with great strength. Thanks to my husband, we saved many homeless animals.Entj are people "moving mountains".But they must have something.... to move
I'm an ENFJ marrying an ENTJ after five years this October. I agree with all that you said! While I am certainly strong and capable, it is phenomenal for me to know that he's always going to be able to take the lead if necessary.
That last sentence hits the nail on the head. My therapist said we entj’s are like obsidian. Capable of handling extreme pressure, it keeps us sharp, but we literally fall apart without it. Excellent insight.
You're an ENFJ married to an ENTJ? Cool. I'm an ENTJ married to an ENFJ. Can you perchance give me some advice on how not to stress our my wife? I know I tend to bulldoze her. One of the first things she said to me was, "you always speak in certainties," to which I responded, "if I didn't think it was true, I wouldn't say it."
I am a 58 year old ENTJ and agree with 85% of with what you said. I have a hard time with playing nice with other people in work settings when people don't want to try their best and work efficiently. I realize this is my issue and I do struggle with it all the time so I have learned that I need to work alone most of the times. But it is hard knowing that I think different than others. I do understand that I can be so out of control of my emotions and I believe it is from my childhood and or co-dependency issues. It is hard for me to ask for help with just about anything so I tend to continue going down the same rabbit hole time after time. Another great video Erik!
As a female ENTJ I have been told how weird it is that I typcially dont let men do things for me like most women. I dont even think about it, it just comes naturally to do it myself.
When I was young I was bullied and was constantly rejected by other kids, because I was label as nerd. When I was in the 8th grade, I had a 'what do I need to become to survive' moment and thats when it all started.
ENTJ's are not usually described as nerds. The INTP gets that alot. ENTJ is typically outgoing and funny. They may be good students, but the are not introverts
@@susankievman642 I was 14, don't know what exactly was happening there. I always wanted back then to be around people I still had lots of other friends, but the bullying from some school kids and my daily arguments with my dad push me in a new direction. In school I was never the best, and didn't do bad, but I was never in the top 3, but I think I was labeled as a nerd cuz of my strange ideas and humor. I'm definitely not and introvert or persuasiv. After my moment I befriended my bullies, and with one of them I got really close until the 12 grade
@@MrGothic01 Middle school is the worst! Seems like anyone who is a bit different gets bullyed. I dont know how old you are, but i think the generation X and the Millenials had the worst time in middle school.
@@susankievman642 I'm 31, born in Romania in 1988 and growing up in the 90's in an ex communist country after the revolution was just like the wild west.
Ok. This is 100% accurate, as a ENTJ I used to have so much self doubt due to people trying to put me down constantly because of my confidence and overall, my outstanding personality.. Later on I learned to disconnect from the external world and I became more numb to personal attacks.. I can listen to you but if what your saying doesn't align with my plan or way of thinking.. Then don't bother talking.
In terms of difficulties with others, the biggest problems I find are: People seemingly feeling insecure by comparison, and seeking to 'prove you're full of shit', or to tear you down out of jealousy. Having a tendency to be hyper-critical, not regarding it as a bad thing, and to enjoy criticisms as a source of efficiency, or as merely a cognitive process, and not an emotional one(probably the biggest source of conflict with others). However, prizing objectivity, and obviously directing these same things inward in a way that is apparent to others, helps temper this 'somewhat'. I would hate to speak for others, but at least for myself, I don't feel emotions unless they're very strong and overwhelm my ability to maintain control/comfort. If they are less potent, and tied to things I hold particularly strong value attachments to(frustration for wasted time/effort, judgment of unfairness/pettiness for negative emotions) even lesser negatives can affect me, and for positive things they have to be things I 'both' feel 'and' rationalize(not someone blowing smoke up my ass with a complement I disagree with, small acts of kindness are particularly valued, or compliments about 'noble' acts on my part, or well-thought reassurances about failures, or even teaching me something new, or being receptive towards my help/consideration). Thankfully being so helpful and supportive/useful, as well as genuine/sincere, and honest, tends to make people put up with me being 'rough around the edges' as I call it, or even perhaps a bit 'intense' or overbearing at times. I find I have a tendency to be a polarizing figure, with most people either strongly appreciating me as a positive force in their lives, and enjoy quite a bit of personal popularity, or people absolutely loathe and demonize me, to an almost comical degree, even to the point of acting reckless or totally uncharacteristic of themselves in response. While this can be a bit of a pain to deal with(especially with the resultant social fallout among more feeling types who don't grasp apparent social dynamics as well), it is pretty useful because it saves a lot of time and energy in being selective of others, since people tend to 'show their cards' pretty damn quick after enough exposure to me, and the rest are easy enough to suss out. I feel like also mentioning, that despite efficiency being an overwhelming concern of mine, I tend to be quite verbose with my explanations, but the disappointing truth of that is, this is all second-nature to realize, but incredibly difficult to break-down and relate to others(at least for me), so the lack of succinct explanations can put others off as well, in my experience at least.
ENTJs have a bad habit. They make other people feel inferior simply by talking. Every word an ENTJ uses, is an alienation to anyone who isn't automatic with analysis. Personally, as an ENTJ; I just wish people would take me seriously.
Im an entj and i mostly got my way with my ambitions and goals . Whoever tries to do pity party on me ive taken advantage of them esp in group works cause if you dont do the jobs i will let it slip in your pov but really your getting cut and i get the rest . Atm in fashion school than regular college . Heartbreak is painful but as a short sting . People i dont like or love are just specks of trash dont care . Investing to thoes i care is real like comforting my depressed boyfriend . Encouraged him to get help gently and spend time with him and friends i do care sentimental value as well . Been seen as stuborn by parents but they admire the part that when i want to achive a goal they would let me . Hard to express my feelings unless its with a close friend fam and loved one
My fiancee is an entj, for sure a lot of these hit it spot on in a way I could only Express once heard, I'm a mix between infp or enfp but regardless he has been my rock in my life. He's so unique to any person I've ever met and I'm so glad we did
Eric Thor well done! I love your previous video on ENTJs too. It was so super accurate! And I like the humour in ordering us to like and comment and so you have it!
I find this comment funny because many times i'm told by my girlfriend that I do allot of manipulation to get people to do what I want them to do, she is an INFJ so the truth must lie somewhere in the middle.
@@user-cn8oe5sr5z You probably just developed that trait over time. I believe MBTI is variable and fluid, because you know, neuroplasticity and transformation.
@@user-cn8oe5sr5z Depends on what your values/goals are. We are relentless, keep in mind MBTI and functions are more about how you treat the world, and perceive things, and what motivates you, or where you come from mentally/emotionally, it doesn't really say anything about what you do, or are capable of. I have a strong cognitive science background, and highly developed empathy at this point in my life(early 30's), but I abandoned it as a career path because I have no interest in dealing with the problems of strangers, or people who annoy me. Now I use what I've learned for self-mastery, and helping others that I either care for, or find worthy of assistance(roughly based on a combination of whim, moral-alignment, and their own degree of tangible exertion of effort). Next goals are personal investments, patents, side-projects, and a degree in Biomedical Engineering.
I started as an INFJ to an INFP burnt, betrayed, rejected and gone through some hard times here I am today as an ENTJ so what he says at around 2:00 is so fucking true! Stronger than ever...I'm unstoppable now and wise with all the experience...
I'm an ENTJ, here are some random thoughts I had during your video. 0:35 It'll be one of us in the comments, but most likely me hahahaha 7:15 Damn, only A rank? Nah, more like S rank, way above A 9:50 into 10:20 BOOM truth bomb, self-reflection stuff right there! 12:27 You cannot command The Commander All in all, this was a great video and it brightened my day. Good work.
Thats true. Sometimes i feel different with other people. In my mind, why they can't think efficiently.. why they spent their times for unnecessary thing..
I did not know that ENTJ is now considered the rarest. As an ENTJ female, I heard that we are the rarest, like an INFJ male. I certainly felt different as a child, it was hard to make female friends. I had trouble relating to their girly emotionality and they didnt seem to like me either, except for my one or two good friends. On the outside, I appeared confident, sure of my self. But inside, I wasnt sure that I was likeable. As a much older woman now, I am quite comfortable in my own skin, I realize what my strengths are, and am very aware of my weakness. It wasnt easy having a more "masculine" personality in the years that I was young.
@Dude Sweet I believe that Karl Jung did that study on the rarity or common types and that other studies were done later as well, but i have not studied that, so i cannot be certain. In the many years that I have been interested and studying MBTI, I have always heard that INFJ is the rarest type, like 1.5% of the population. ENTJ is like 3%, I believe. Woman of this type are not as common as men, and it makes sense since the attributes of this type are quite “masculine”. (The commander). I dont relate to all the attributes like being a workaholic, or a leader of groups-(I have never had the situation where I managed others), but most of it does sound like my personality.
@@susankievman642 not being a workaholic is fine as long as you work smart. About the leadership idk maybe youre not an entj. Ive always been too dominant thats why it was hard to make friends i always just took the lead and became more like a dictator in school being basically the top alpha and everyone was just my subjects. i would describe myself a poster child for an entj if there was one... and i smell youre probably something else those tests arent as accurate as it seems.
@@DoraTheDestroyerrr I know that you do not know me, but I do not rely on those online tests. I have been studying MBTI for many years now, reading books, watching youttube videos and learning about cognitive functions. I am definitely an ENTJ, but women ENTJ's present differently in the world. I was raised in the 50's and 60's. We were not expected to be breadwinners or head of corporations, or entrepreneur self employed. Leadership? I will step in for sure if I see a lack of leadership and I cannot work for a leader who is weak or lacking in skills. I have been a commissioned saleswoman for over 40 years. I dont like working for a corporation for a wage. My emotions are my weakest function, and I love abstract thought, word play, metaphors etc. I am a bit unconventional and hate dumb rules. ( ESTJ's are rule followers, not me!) Efficiency is my middle name and I only entertain things that make sense.
@@DoraTheDestroyerrr The other thing that I have learned is that whatever type that you are - although you share the cognitive stack as others in your type, your behaviors can be different. We are all influenced by many other factors- like the culture or country that we grew up in, the time or era of our upbringing, the birth order in our family, and our DNA. We can be psychologically damaged and acting in our alter ego state or "in the grip" as I have heard it described. My demon functions are ISFP as an example when I am under stress. Gender plays a role too. When I said I didnt put myself in leadership roles, I meant in business or organizations. As I think of leadership, it can mean someone who wants to be in control and help other people with the knowledge and wisdom that they have gained in life. That is definitely my position that I take with my family and friends. So maybe I am a leader but never defined it in the way the literature does!
@@AShaheen92yeah I understand what you want to say, that everyone should be able to do anything, with the limits of.. Yeah you got the idea.. And everyone should fell well.. Etc, but being the ,,president,, isn't on the checklist of many and thus I don't think that it's corect.
"While most personality types are B-rank humans, ENTJs are A-rank humans." You know, I've never heard anyone actually say that out loud, but I can't argue with that sentiment! What you said about not needing help from others, not needing PR, not needing to CHEAT, basically, to get ahead.....because we get ahead on STRENGTH--it's true. I have been in situations where I was the only person on my side, but I KNEW it was the right side, and was proved right. Once, in high school, I had the entire clarinet section against me, saying I was playing a certain passage wrong, and they were all right because they all agreed with each other. It was 30 to 1, and I did not endear myself to them by arguing that since I was the best player, I was more likely to be playing it correctly. When we called over the band director, of course I was right. But even without that validation, I KNEW. It's been the story of my life. :-)
27 year old ENTJ here- for years and years I honestly thought there was something wrong with me. Some practical advice for anyone out there struggling with self doubt: 1) Useful resources- check out Psychocybernetics, Relentless by Glover and Can't hurt me by Goggins. These books in combo will help with self image and doubts that have been placed there by other people. Additionally check out David Snyder on youtube for self image work. Its labelled as Law of Attraction stuff, which was a bit too woo woo bull shit for me BUT..... I tried it and its worked, and its worked consistently with removing negative memories or beliefs that others put in me whilst going through puberty. Give it a try. 2) Be careful using empathy as a strategy to understand and build relationships alone. People will misuse your kindness and you are doing covert contracts where you are expecting people to just be loyal to you because you've done x, y, z for them. Don't do this. It will fuck you in the long run. A resource here is to learn social engineering by CS Joseph on youtube. Check out his channel, its amazing. 3) For young guys out there who are ENTJ's, be very hesitant in getting into a relationship. It will slow you down the majority of times, and until you know who you are, and accomplished some of the things you want to do, i would not reccomend it. Worst case scenario is your relationship will break up and the child aspect of you that just wants people to care and love you will be wounded, and in even worse case scenarios your child aspect will feel betrayed because you will chalk things up to helping your partner with a list of x, y, z and they just used you and took advantage (or at least thats how you will interpret it). Hope this helps.
I experience doubt about the world, and practical realities, far more than about myself. Usually my only doubts are about moral failings, or whether I tried my hardest, or learned how to succeed quickly enough. So much truth in these things. Spend far too much time on other people, but not quick to 'bond' with others. Treat those close to me as projects. Pretty much all of this is on the money.
Thank you for your insights on ENtJ. I appreciate your videos. Please I’d like to seek your opinions. Me and a male ENtJ male friend. We’ve known each other from church for 5 years. We both love activities and each organizes activities and joins each other’s activities. I had been seeing him as a fun guy to hangout with. Until last Christmas and new year day, he suddenly asked me out couple times with two mutual church friends for museums and movies…. Ever since we started texting each other a loooot more than before…from an hour up to three hours…. And he kinda “report” to me what he did… on weekend with family…. It’s only been a month and half…. I can’t wrap my head around it… please I need your help! Thanks a lot!
Omg I soo sunderestimated this channel, mainly because of the NF dominant aestethic.. But I always wondered if it was something wrong with me because as an entj I'm not the most unemotional, baddas cold hearted bitch.. Entj's are described to be. Makes a lot of sense now.
I'm 35. I've been through enough to share my love with those i care about. They don't see it, so I learned it's good practice to admit it. ENTJs are asses without experience.
An unhealthy entj is someone most want to keep at arms length. Obnoxious, unreasonable and bullying. I was there and I'm a female. I just started a relationship with a sweet isfj man that arouse all the silly childish side and the feminine side of me, so much so to the point of me ignoring my.Te + Ni that defined me in all my adult life. But I'm living it. Any advise for this combination?
What an interesting match. It's like a superjudging pairing. People that can help each others achieve control and discipline and harmony on all scales, not just one.
Im an ENTJ female and i married an ISFJ and for a time it was wonderful.. but theyre not very rational. As with all relationships, and you know this, its more important for each person in the relationship to have emotional intelligence, boundaries and neutral conflict resolution skills. Without attacking the other person, to be able to discuss the behavior or question the other within a "safe" environment. Statistically, ENTJ + ISFJ is the most common pairing bc ISFJs are so numerous. ISFJs have a tendency to be paranoid, fearful, have high anxiety, hypochondriacs.. theyll let you lead because theyre background types, and if you do anything with rationale over whats necessarily "good" theyll judge you for that and communication can break down. I'm now with an INTP, and it is astounding the difference, also a background type, but very intellectually oriented over that ISFJ faith and fear aggressive and passionate crap. My INTP is amazing for supporting my inferior functions, he presents me with logical arguments for or against something. He remembers things for me, reminds me of things.. boosts my massive ego all the time, all in all is like a missing puzzle piece to make my weaknesses into strengths. Ooh and hes proactive, and intentional. Whereas my ISFJ ex was more of a, only if he was explicitly obligated to do something would he do it.. but he definitely had gender role brainwashing and I wasnt down for that. If you want a lot of work, maintain an ISFJ pairing. If you want to grow, find you some kind of nerd INTP somehow.. theyre essentially a unicorn, but worth finding. Mine is a fishing nerd, so they dont all have to be pasty, weird, and unwashed. Nerds come in all forms. Good luck to you. Theres my 2 cents.
@@malindaeckert2300 from one ENTJ to another, you're strong enough!How can you blame the relationship failing just one person and their ISFJ personality. Nothing lasts forever, he probably never changed but it became an issue for YOU. Either it was a lesson you had to learn or all ISFJ are garbage. Which answer is more realistic?
@@gaelntore4758 @Gael Ntore well, i didn't explicitly say the relationship failing was entirely due to our personality types, but to that point, life is rarely ever so black and white. Choose to see the grey, or the neutrality in things and you won't get so triggered at my comment.. or put another way, practice double deciding instead of just single deciding. Conjecture isn't useful here either. (I'm referring to your use of "probably") You don't know me, and you don't know my ISFJ ex. ISFJs aren't all bad, in fact no type is, inherently anyway. Each type has their strengths, and in my experience, my ex was very unhealthy (due mostly from his very toxic (narcissistic/borderline?) mother, and his upbringing of damn near neglect..of course those could be his skewed anecdotal narratives, but either way his personality was chaotic and very much relevant to his cognitive wiring. On a good day, ISFJs are fiercely loyal, protective, Long suffering, enduring, faithful people.. poetic even. But with that coin, comes a lot of fear.. and fear is, well.. irrational most of the time. And that bugged me that he couldn't see positive potential in things.. and instead seemed to default to homeostasis, stagnation, consistency.. The same traits that make them so loyal, and steadfast.. Are also what makes them incompatible with me. I like change, growth, progress, moving towards a goal.. adapting, growing. Those things scared him. Stressed him tf out. I didn't know his type then, only what I observed, and only now have been able to articulate through the framework of typology's cognitive function stack. Which is the greater mercy in that scenario.. should i have stayed, and kept triggering his fear side.. continuing to make him subconsciously feel like i thought less of him for his immovability? Or leaving so that he could grow with someone else that'd make him much happier than I could.. a lovely ESFP perhaps. The point is, my anecdotal, isolated experience of that particular ISFJ was vastly more complex than i could fully illustrate in this thread. I know other ISFJs now (my INTP guy's mom, actually) who present differently, but still with that same ISFJ base nature. Im a double feminine ENTJ.. you may have one or both of your top functions as masculine.. and so you and i arent going to see eye to eye even though we're both ENTJs. Theres more variety than just the core 16 types, but my point was that an ISFJs core tendencies, ultimately will hold you back, or youll constantly conflict and hurt them.. and hurt yourself. Best avoided romantically. Work is a whole other story, and in that sense, keep as many ISFJs as you can find, bc they're gems to work with.
@@malindaeckert2300 That was really deep and came from the pain within. Better to induce it yourself rather than wait for a breakdown (unwarranted personal advice). I just felt like I've seen/heard this kind of trauma before and wanted to give emotional advice with M-Te (a work in progress) Just 2 questions tho. 1. How do you FEEL after venting? 2. Do you put pressure on yourself to constantly perform and improve?
My goodness!!! Two minutes into the video...and I'm screaming 😱🤣 This is one of the legit ENTJ info. The 'smiling psychopath' is so true.lolz... Being an ENTJ woman, I'm mostly rejected by woman😅. "You should've been a man" is what I'm often told, kinda offensive to hear but not to me. And Yes, I'm straight. And it's true, when I'm at work mode, people feel intimidated😅. Ty Bro for this facts.
I just fully realized that any conflict in my life and success has been based on ENTJ, took this test in a job years ago, didnt really give it much credit, but it was right.
When you're determined to compel the world to align with your standards of how it should be, you're 'definitely' heading towards disappointment and hardship. Fortunately for us, obstacles only exist to both piss me off, and make me feel better about myself. ;)
🤤Waaaaat are we the rarest???! And omg this is the most accurate description of the entj's which is pretty wow, not even objective personality or cs Joseph said those things.. From where did you take those things??
I am an ENTJ but imposter syndrome let many INTPs and myself to believe that I was an INTP. It also led few people and myself to believe I was an ENTP. Finding out I was one of those outgoing extroverts helped a lot. Mainly cause I have a clearer goal in my head. And I noticed many issues I had and now I can better differentiate between my personality and my anxiety.
I am a female entp. I also felt I was different and I was told that you are weird. My ex-boyfriend is an entj. Yup, he invested in me and give me a lot of challenges. And those challenges make me do magic things. I am grateful for it. However, I have to leave him because he is an unhealthy entp and he is bullying me. After I have done magic things, he said he is the reason for the magic things so I must obey him, obey him, obey him, which is my nightmare.
My husband is an ENTJ and he is absolutely incredible. He has amazing emotional intelligence, but he also will not allow himself be pushed around. Yes I have to be careful not to tell him my "plans" because before I know it, he will have started that project and I'll be swept along! He has never applied for the jobs above him, he was always seen as the person who was the obvious choice and promoted over and over. He's very forgiving, and yes, he can put up with people for the sake of his network...they'll be useful later, but he will still do anything for them too. He stuck with me when we were going through hard times in our marriage, I'm a difficult "emotional" infj at times, but he loves me anyway. I'm blessed by my relationship with my ENTJ.
I can see the ENTJ pairing being such a power boost... Having a man around who doesnt doubt himself but is so secure in himself must be very empowering :)
You certainly picked it! Even when my ennaegram 6 stresshead (I'm a 9 but digress to a 6 in times of overwhelm) shows itself and I put all the doomsday advice to his grand plans out there "What if.....", he just sails through, nothing can pull him down. And of course he's victorious!
WOW that’s amazing
This makes me want to cry. INFJs rock. 🥰
I'm a ENTJ with a INFJ gf. She can be emotionally exhausting. But i think she is impressed with how i handle myself
I am ENTJ, and I have said the words, "I am Inevitable," lol.
I am not a psychopath, I have some sociopathic tendencies, but I'm not one.
I never went through the greed phase, I've always wanted to share.
I am an ENTJ squared, both my parents were ENTJ, so my upbringing was all about tactics. I knew business, and how to make pungi stakes by 9, lol.
I have never fit in anywhere.
Rationality is dying out, which is why ENTJ are becoming more rare.
I chose my spouse based on her genetics, and my son is ample evidence that I chose correctly. After I chose her, love eventually developed.
I have 0 problem apologizing, if I am in the wrong. My wife has 100% access to my resources.
My wife is an ENFJ, and I think a perfect match for me.
My husband is Entj. He is amazing. He has the internal strength of the Titan. It is able to pull us out of every trouble if it falls on us. It's really....unbelievable. I am quite strong (enfj) but he is titanium. I also have a friend entj - the same story. It's a stereotype that it's a psychopathic personality. They are loving helping people with great strength. Thanks to my husband, we saved many homeless animals.Entj are people "moving mountains".But they must have something.... to move
I'm an ENFJ marrying an ENTJ after five years this October. I agree with all that you said! While I am certainly strong and capable, it is phenomenal for me to know that he's always going to be able to take the lead if necessary.
I believe you've accomplished lots of goals with your partner
That last sentence hits the nail on the head. My therapist said we entj’s are like obsidian. Capable of handling extreme pressure, it keeps us sharp, but we literally fall apart without it.
Excellent insight.
You're an ENFJ married to an ENTJ? Cool.
I'm an ENTJ married to an ENFJ. Can you perchance give me some advice on how not to stress our my wife? I know I tend to bulldoze her.
One of the first things she said to me was, "you always speak in certainties," to which I responded, "if I didn't think it was true, I wouldn't say it."
@@Kec3124 my question in my previous comment is also for you, how do I keep from bulldozing and stressing out my ENFJ wife?
I’m an ENTJ and I confirm there’s much truth in this video
I do like to watch it again and again because it puts my ego above the clouds
Nice weather up here eh?
What a beautiful name. I'd love to hear you introduce yourself.
As an ENTJ I liked how fast you where talking but then I realized the video is playing at 1.5 x the speed
Hi5 🤣🤣🤣
I am a 58 year old ENTJ and agree with 85% of with what you said. I have a hard time with playing nice with other people in work settings when people don't want to try their best and work efficiently. I realize this is my issue and I do struggle with it all the time so I have learned that I need to work alone most of the times. But it is hard knowing that I think different than others. I do understand that I can be so out of control of my emotions and I believe it is from my childhood and or co-dependency issues. It is hard for me to ask for help with just about anything so I tend to continue going down the same rabbit hole time after time. Another great video Erik!
As a female ENTJ I have been told how weird it is that I typcially dont let men do things for me like most women. I dont even think about it, it just comes naturally to do it myself.
When I was young I was bullied and was constantly rejected by other kids, because I was label as nerd. When I was in the 8th grade, I had a 'what do I need to become to survive' moment and thats when it all started.
ENTJ's are not usually described as nerds. The INTP gets that alot. ENTJ is typically outgoing and funny. They may be good students, but the are not introverts
@@susankievman642 I was 14, don't know what exactly was happening there. I always wanted back then to be around people I still had lots of other friends, but the bullying from some school kids and my daily arguments with my dad push me in a new direction. In school I was never the best, and didn't do bad, but I was never in the top 3, but I think I was labeled as a nerd cuz of my strange ideas and humor. I'm definitely not and introvert or persuasiv. After my moment I befriended my bullies, and with one of them I got really close until the 12 grade
@@MrGothic01 Middle school is the worst! Seems like anyone who is a bit different gets bullyed. I dont know how old you are, but i think the generation X and the Millenials had the worst time in middle school.
@@susankievman642 I'm 31, born in Romania in 1988 and growing up in the 90's in an ex communist country after the revolution was just like the wild west.
@@MrGothic01 same. I'm an ENTJ and I and other INTPS believed I was an INTP.
Ok. This is 100% accurate, as a ENTJ I used to have so much self doubt due to people trying to put me down constantly because of my confidence and overall, my outstanding personality.. Later on I learned to disconnect from the external world and I became more numb to personal attacks.. I can listen to you but if what your saying doesn't align with my plan or way of thinking.. Then don't bother talking.
In terms of difficulties with others, the biggest problems I find are:
People seemingly feeling insecure by comparison, and seeking to 'prove you're full of shit', or to tear you down out of jealousy.
Having a tendency to be hyper-critical, not regarding it as a bad thing, and to enjoy criticisms as a source of efficiency, or as merely a cognitive process, and not an emotional one(probably the biggest source of conflict with others). However, prizing objectivity, and obviously directing these same things inward in a way that is apparent to others, helps temper this 'somewhat'.
I would hate to speak for others, but at least for myself, I don't feel emotions unless they're very strong and overwhelm my ability to maintain control/comfort. If they are less potent, and tied to things I hold particularly strong value attachments to(frustration for wasted time/effort, judgment of unfairness/pettiness for negative emotions) even lesser negatives can affect me, and for positive things they have to be things I 'both' feel 'and' rationalize(not someone blowing smoke up my ass with a complement I disagree with, small acts of kindness are particularly valued, or compliments about 'noble' acts on my part, or well-thought reassurances about failures, or even teaching me something new, or being receptive towards my help/consideration).
Thankfully being so helpful and supportive/useful, as well as genuine/sincere, and honest, tends to make people put up with me being 'rough around the edges' as I call it, or even perhaps a bit 'intense' or overbearing at times. I find I have a tendency to be a polarizing figure, with most people either strongly appreciating me as a positive force in their lives, and enjoy quite a bit of personal popularity, or people absolutely loathe and demonize me, to an almost comical degree, even to the point of acting reckless or totally uncharacteristic of themselves in response. While this can be a bit of a pain to deal with(especially with the resultant social fallout among more feeling types who don't grasp apparent social dynamics as well), it is pretty useful because it saves a lot of time and energy in being selective of others, since people tend to 'show their cards' pretty damn quick after enough exposure to me, and the rest are easy enough to suss out.
I feel like also mentioning, that despite efficiency being an overwhelming concern of mine, I tend to be quite verbose with my explanations, but the disappointing truth of that is, this is all second-nature to realize, but incredibly difficult to break-down and relate to others(at least for me), so the lack of succinct explanations can put others off as well, in my experience at least.
“A positive comment” given!
ENTJs have a bad habit. They make other people feel inferior simply by talking.
Every word an ENTJ uses, is an alienation to anyone who isn't automatic with analysis.
Personally, as an ENTJ;
I just wish people would take me seriously.
Im an entj and i mostly got my way with my ambitions and goals . Whoever tries to do pity party on me ive taken advantage of them esp in group works cause if you dont do the jobs i will let it slip in your pov but really your getting cut and i get the rest . Atm in fashion school than regular college . Heartbreak is painful but as a short sting . People i dont like or love are just specks of trash dont care . Investing to thoes i care is real like comforting my depressed boyfriend . Encouraged him to get help gently and spend time with him and friends i do care sentimental value as well . Been seen as stuborn by parents but they admire the part that when i want to achive a goal they would let me . Hard to express my feelings unless its with a close friend fam and loved one
I’ve had nearly the same
MO as your friend my whole life “you don’t need to pick yourself apart, the world will do that”
WOW.
My fiancee is an entj, for sure a lot of these hit it spot on in a way I could only Express once heard, I'm a mix between infp or enfp but regardless he has been my rock in my life. He's so unique to any person I've ever met and I'm so glad we did
ENTJs are amazing lovers, generous, confident, like having your very own brown bear! :)
@@ErikThor Yet as ENTJ Im scared to talk to my INTP friend to ask her out :( PLZ help :D
Eric Thor well done! I love your previous video on ENTJs too. It was so super accurate! And I like the humour in ordering us to like and comment and so you have it!
Hey hold up, no one is more good looking than ENTJs 😁 but yeah, the lack of social manipulative skills is definitely annoying. 🤣
I find this comment funny because many times i'm told by my girlfriend that I do allot of manipulation to get people to do what I want them to do, she is an INFJ so the truth must lie somewhere in the middle.
@@user-cn8oe5sr5z You probably just developed that trait over time. I believe MBTI is variable and fluid, because you know, neuroplasticity and transformation.
@@user-cn8oe5sr5z Depends on what your values/goals are. We are relentless, keep in mind MBTI and functions are more about how you treat the world, and perceive things, and what motivates you, or where you come from mentally/emotionally, it doesn't really say anything about what you do, or are capable of.
I have a strong cognitive science background, and highly developed empathy at this point in my life(early 30's), but I abandoned it as a career path because I have no interest in dealing with the problems of strangers, or people who annoy me. Now I use what I've learned for self-mastery, and helping others that I either care for, or find worthy of assistance(roughly based on a combination of whim, moral-alignment, and their own degree of tangible exertion of effort).
Next goals are personal investments, patents, side-projects, and a degree in Biomedical Engineering.
I started as an INFJ to an INFP burnt, betrayed, rejected and gone through some hard times here I am today as an ENTJ so what he says at around 2:00 is so fucking true! Stronger than ever...I'm unstoppable now and wise with all the experience...
Same with me
I’ve awakened to my Sigma Infj Awakening.
Great video. Very reassuring. Thank you
I'm an ENTJ, here are some random thoughts I had during your video.
0:35 It'll be one of us in the comments, but most likely me hahahaha
7:15 Damn, only A rank? Nah, more like S rank, way above A
9:50 into 10:20 BOOM truth bomb, self-reflection stuff right there!
12:27 You cannot command The Commander
All in all, this was a great video and it brightened my day. Good work.
Thats true. Sometimes i feel different with other people. In my mind, why they can't think efficiently.. why they spent their times for unnecessary thing..
I did not know that ENTJ is now considered the rarest. As an ENTJ female, I heard that we are the rarest, like an INFJ male. I certainly felt different as a child, it was hard to make female friends. I had trouble relating to their girly emotionality and they didnt seem to like me either, except for my one or two good friends. On the outside, I appeared confident, sure of my self. But inside, I wasnt sure that I was likeable. As a much older woman now, I am quite comfortable in my own skin, I realize what my strengths are, and am very aware of my weakness. It wasnt easy having a more "masculine" personality in the years that I was young.
Honestly.
@Dude Sweet I believe that Karl Jung did that study on the rarity or common types and that other studies were done later as well, but i have not studied that, so i cannot be certain. In the many years that I have been interested and studying MBTI, I have always heard that INFJ is the rarest type, like 1.5% of the population. ENTJ is like 3%, I believe. Woman of this type are not as common as men, and it makes sense since the attributes of this type are quite “masculine”. (The commander). I dont relate to all the attributes like being a workaholic, or a leader of groups-(I have never had the situation where I managed others), but most of it does sound like my personality.
@@susankievman642 not being a workaholic is fine as long as you work smart. About the leadership idk maybe youre not an entj. Ive always been too dominant thats why it was hard to make friends i always just took the lead and became more like a dictator in school being basically the top alpha and everyone was just my subjects. i would describe myself a poster child for an entj if there was one... and i smell youre probably something else those tests arent as accurate as it seems.
@@DoraTheDestroyerrr I know that you do not know me, but I do not rely on those online tests. I have been studying MBTI for many years now, reading books, watching youttube videos and learning about cognitive functions. I am definitely an ENTJ, but women ENTJ's present differently in the world. I was raised in the 50's and 60's. We were not expected to be breadwinners or head of corporations, or entrepreneur self employed. Leadership? I will step in for sure if I see a lack of leadership and I cannot work for a leader who is weak or lacking in skills. I have been a commissioned saleswoman for over 40 years. I dont like working for a corporation for a wage. My emotions are my weakest function, and I love abstract thought, word play, metaphors etc. I am a bit unconventional and hate dumb rules. ( ESTJ's are rule followers, not me!) Efficiency is my middle name and I only entertain things that make sense.
@@DoraTheDestroyerrr The other thing that I have learned is that whatever type that you are - although you share the cognitive stack as others in your type, your behaviors can be different. We are all influenced by many other factors- like the culture or country that we grew up in, the time or era of our upbringing, the birth order in our family, and our DNA. We can be psychologically damaged and acting in our alter ego state or "in the grip" as I have heard it described. My demon functions are ISFP as an example when I am under stress. Gender plays a role too. When I said I didnt put myself in leadership roles, I meant in business or organizations. As I think of leadership, it can mean someone who wants to be in control and help other people with the knowledge and wisdom that they have gained in life. That is definitely my position that I take with my family and friends. So maybe I am a leader but never defined it in the way the literature does!
Will an ENTJ eventually ‘win’ and become president and CEO of the world?
Erik Thor a better world when all the people combine and become one president with their differences and similarities
@@AShaheen92yeah I understand what you want to say, that everyone should be able to do anything, with the limits of.. Yeah you got the idea.. And everyone should fell well.. Etc, but being the ,,president,, isn't on the checklist of many and thus I don't think that it's corect.
They already did, they do, they will and they won't be the only ones. 😕What's with the question?
Of the entire world? someday, yeah probably 😕
@@Solarqueenthesoverign yes. A fellow entj.
You're great guys. I love to work with you. You get s**t done!
"While most personality types are B-rank humans, ENTJs are A-rank humans." You know, I've never heard anyone actually say that out loud, but I can't argue with that sentiment! What you said about not needing help from others, not needing PR, not needing to CHEAT, basically, to get ahead.....because we get ahead on STRENGTH--it's true. I have been in situations where I was the only person on my side, but I KNEW it was the right side, and was proved right. Once, in high school, I had the entire clarinet section against me, saying I was playing a certain passage wrong, and they were all right because they all agreed with each other. It was 30 to 1, and I did not endear myself to them by arguing that since I was the best player, I was more likely to be playing it correctly. When we called over the band director, of course I was right. But even without that validation, I KNEW. It's been the story of my life. :-)
27 year old ENTJ here- for years and years I honestly thought there was something wrong with me. Some practical advice for anyone out there struggling with self doubt:
1) Useful resources- check out Psychocybernetics, Relentless by Glover and Can't hurt me by Goggins. These books in combo will help with self image and doubts that have been placed there by other people. Additionally check out David Snyder on youtube for self image work. Its labelled as Law of Attraction stuff, which was a bit too woo woo bull shit for me BUT..... I tried it and its worked, and its worked consistently with removing negative memories or beliefs that others put in me whilst going through puberty. Give it a try.
2) Be careful using empathy as a strategy to understand and build relationships alone. People will misuse your kindness and you are doing covert contracts where you are expecting people to just be loyal to you because you've done x, y, z for them. Don't do this. It will fuck you in the long run. A resource here is to learn social engineering by CS Joseph on youtube. Check out his channel, its amazing.
3) For young guys out there who are ENTJ's, be very hesitant in getting into a relationship. It will slow you down the majority of times, and until you know who you are, and accomplished some of the things you want to do, i would not reccomend it. Worst case scenario is your relationship will break up and the child aspect of you that just wants people to care and love you will be wounded, and in even worse case scenarios your child aspect will feel betrayed because you will chalk things up to helping your partner with a list of x, y, z and they just used you and took advantage (or at least thats how you will interpret it).
Hope this helps.
I experience doubt about the world, and practical realities, far more than about myself. Usually my only doubts are about moral failings, or whether I tried my hardest, or learned how to succeed quickly enough. So much truth in these things. Spend far too much time on other people, but not quick to 'bond' with others. Treat those close to me as projects. Pretty much all of this is on the money.
Thank you for your insights on ENtJ. I appreciate your videos.
Please I’d like to seek your opinions. Me and a male ENtJ male friend.
We’ve known each other from church for 5 years. We both love activities and each organizes activities and joins each other’s activities. I had been seeing him as a fun guy to hangout with.
Until last Christmas and new year day, he suddenly asked me out couple times with two mutual church friends for museums and movies…. Ever since we started texting each other a loooot more than before…from an hour up to three hours…. And he kinda “report” to me what he did… on weekend with family….
It’s only been a month and half…. I can’t wrap my head around it… please I need your help! Thanks a lot!
Lol at the end Erik Thor was becoming an ENTJ😂 I loved the last part👍🏼
positive comment?
You have nice colored eyes
We lack compassion or rather we are ruled by logic but we don’t lack empathy. That’s why we’re not psychopaths.
This is the first video I’ve watched that was extremely accurate!!
Thank you for your video. Great channel 👌🏽
About rarity, I’ve never ever personally met another ENTJ and I’m 32 🤔
I told a few friends I think I'm a psychopath they told me they that there's some truth in it.
ERIC how do you know so well ENTJ... ? Most of your point is correct
Omg I soo sunderestimated this channel, mainly because of the NF dominant aestethic.. But I always wondered if it was something wrong with me because as an entj I'm not the most unemotional, baddas cold hearted bitch.. Entj's are described to be. Makes a lot of sense now.
I'm 35. I've been through enough to share my love with those i care about. They don't see it, so I learned it's good practice to admit it.
ENTJs are asses without experience.
I cried watching this, haha. Thank you.
Love this video and yes 💯
An unhealthy entj is someone most want to keep at arms length. Obnoxious, unreasonable and bullying. I was there and I'm a female.
I just started a relationship with a sweet isfj man that arouse all the silly childish side and the feminine side of me, so much so to the point of me ignoring my.Te + Ni that defined me in all my adult life. But I'm living it. Any advise for this combination?
What an interesting match. It's like a superjudging pairing. People that can help each others achieve control and discipline and harmony on all scales, not just one.
Im an ENTJ female and i married an ISFJ and for a time it was wonderful.. but theyre not very rational.
As with all relationships, and you know this, its more important for each person in the relationship to have emotional intelligence, boundaries and neutral conflict resolution skills. Without attacking the other person, to be able to discuss the behavior or question the other within a "safe" environment.
Statistically, ENTJ + ISFJ is the most common pairing bc ISFJs are so numerous. ISFJs have a tendency to be paranoid, fearful, have high anxiety, hypochondriacs.. theyll let you lead because theyre background types, and if you do anything with rationale over whats necessarily "good" theyll judge you for that and communication can break down.
I'm now with an INTP, and it is astounding the difference, also a background type, but very intellectually oriented over that ISFJ faith and fear aggressive and passionate crap. My INTP is amazing for supporting my inferior functions, he presents me with logical arguments for or against something. He remembers things for me, reminds me of things.. boosts my massive ego all the time, all in all is like a missing puzzle piece to make my weaknesses into strengths.
Ooh and hes proactive, and intentional. Whereas my ISFJ ex was more of a, only if he was explicitly obligated to do something would he do it.. but he definitely had gender role brainwashing and I wasnt down for that.
If you want a lot of work, maintain an ISFJ pairing. If you want to grow, find you some kind of nerd INTP somehow.. theyre essentially a unicorn, but worth finding.
Mine is a fishing nerd, so they dont all have to be pasty, weird, and unwashed. Nerds come in all forms.
Good luck to you. Theres my 2 cents.
@@malindaeckert2300 from one ENTJ to another, you're strong enough!How can you blame the relationship failing just one person and their ISFJ personality.
Nothing lasts forever, he probably never changed but it became an issue for YOU.
Either it was a lesson you had to learn or all ISFJ are garbage. Which answer is more realistic?
@@gaelntore4758 @Gael Ntore well, i didn't explicitly say the relationship failing was entirely due to our personality types, but to that point, life is rarely ever so black and white.
Choose to see the grey, or the neutrality in things and you won't get so triggered at my comment.. or put another way, practice double deciding instead of just single deciding.
Conjecture isn't useful here either. (I'm referring to your use of "probably")
You don't know me, and you don't know my ISFJ ex.
ISFJs aren't all bad, in fact no type is, inherently anyway.
Each type has their strengths, and in my experience, my ex was very unhealthy (due mostly from his very toxic (narcissistic/borderline?) mother, and his upbringing of damn near neglect..of course those could be his skewed anecdotal narratives, but either way his personality was chaotic and very much relevant to his cognitive wiring.
On a good day, ISFJs are fiercely loyal, protective, Long suffering, enduring, faithful people.. poetic even.
But with that coin, comes a lot of fear.. and fear is, well.. irrational most of the time. And that bugged me that he couldn't see positive potential in things.. and instead seemed to default to homeostasis, stagnation, consistency..
The same traits that make them so loyal, and steadfast..
Are also what makes them incompatible with me.
I like change, growth, progress, moving towards a goal.. adapting, growing.
Those things scared him. Stressed him tf out.
I didn't know his type then, only what I observed, and only now have been able to articulate through the framework of typology's cognitive function stack.
Which is the greater mercy in that scenario.. should i have stayed, and kept triggering his fear side.. continuing to make him subconsciously feel like i thought less of him for his immovability?
Or leaving so that he could grow with someone else that'd make him much happier than I could.. a lovely ESFP perhaps.
The point is, my anecdotal, isolated experience of that particular ISFJ was vastly more complex than i could fully illustrate in this thread.
I know other ISFJs now (my INTP guy's mom, actually) who present differently, but still with that same ISFJ base nature.
Im a double feminine ENTJ.. you may have one or both of your top functions as masculine.. and so you and i arent going to see eye to eye even though we're both ENTJs. Theres more variety than just the core 16 types, but my point was that an ISFJs core tendencies, ultimately will hold you back, or youll constantly conflict and hurt them.. and hurt yourself.
Best avoided romantically.
Work is a whole other story, and in that sense, keep as many ISFJs as you can find, bc they're gems to work with.
@@malindaeckert2300 That was really deep and came from the pain within. Better to induce it yourself rather than wait for a breakdown (unwarranted personal advice).
I just felt like I've seen/heard this kind of trauma before and wanted to give emotional advice with M-Te (a work in progress)
Just 2 questions tho.
1. How do you FEEL after venting?
2. Do you put pressure on yourself to constantly perform and improve?
My goodness!!! Two minutes into the video...and I'm screaming 😱🤣
This is one of the legit ENTJ info.
The 'smiling psychopath' is so true.lolz...
Being an ENTJ woman, I'm mostly rejected by woman😅. "You should've been a man" is what I'm often told, kinda offensive to hear but not to me. And Yes, I'm straight. And it's true, when I'm at work mode, people feel intimidated😅.
Ty Bro for this facts.
and, yes I do definitely think that we deserve this and more of it, absolutely !!! it's just clear !!!
Too much of nice things, I'm happy. Thanks 👌👍
Amazing stuff
I am ENTJ and I have found that I am attracted to (and they to me) ESFJ women. Does anyone have any thoughts on this pairing?
Im an ENTJ dating an ESFJ. She takes care of the most tedious things I can think about and I love her so much for it.
Yes I'm the most rare 👏 well done guys
He Must be an entj. didn’t have time to finish the sentence ..
Wow, great insights.
Lol, I seldom "like" videos but I did for this one just a couple of minutes in!
I just fully realized that any conflict in my life and success has been based on ENTJ, took this test in a job years ago, didnt really give it much credit, but it was right.
I’ve only watched the first 5 minutes so far...I gotta say I’m impressed
Sincerely,
An ENTJ
When you're determined to compel the world to align with your standards of how it should be, you're 'definitely' heading towards disappointment and hardship. Fortunately for us, obstacles only exist to both piss me off, and make me feel better about myself. ;)
🤤Waaaaat are we the rarest???! And omg this is the most accurate description of the entj's which is pretty wow, not even objective personality or cs Joseph said those things.. From where did you take those things??
my sis is an entj and I love her to bits ♡
love
Please show us your statistic where it says we’re now the rarest, I want to see for myself but I don’t see that anywhere online.
I am an ENTJ but imposter syndrome let many INTPs and myself to believe that I was an INTP. It also led few people and myself to believe I was an ENTP.
Finding out I was one of those outgoing extroverts helped a lot.
Mainly cause I have a clearer goal in my head. And I noticed many issues I had and now I can better differentiate between my personality and my anxiety.
Totally true
I get what I want.
I am a female entp. I also felt I was different and I was told that you are weird. My ex-boyfriend is an entj. Yup, he invested in me and give me a lot of challenges. And those challenges make me do magic things. I am grateful for it. However, I have to leave him because he is an unhealthy entp and he is bullying me. After I have done magic things, he said he is the reason for the magic things so I must obey him, obey him, obey him, which is my nightmare.
They will remember it as roses and rainbows lmao yes 🙌
damn so fucken accurate. This is me.
Very true
I’m INFP. I don’t have any experience with ENTJ, so can’t relate! Or even comment. Oh, I just did! But not helpfully. 🙃
Where are you from? I wonder about your accent.
💗💗💗💗💗
Erik u r ENTJ?
Are you Swedish?
It will be a FEMALE ENTJ lol
Sounds like Trump to me.
TheBittenBullet no way trump is an entj
I think he may be more of a ESTJ.
yes he is ENTJ
No, not really.
@@def6420 He is an unhealthy ENTJ. Fits the description to a "T"