Your description is very true, even for women ENTJ. I have learned to soften more in relationships and keep my mouth shut more on work conference calls and let other express themselves and ask questions. I have never done the leave a relationship and not look back thing. I have mostly been in very long relationships, trying to make them work. Working on patience, being less harsh, showing vulnerability etc. I am strong, capable, self sufficient, good with money, not emotionally needy. But I am learning kindness, regard for other's feelings, praising, etc.
Susan Kievman It sounds like you’re an amazing 😉 person and I’m sure others are blessed with your abilities and also your awareness of others. Thanks for sharing! 😊
@@scilines INTJ, INTP, ENTP-mostly NT types! Intelligent, deep thinkers. I did have a long relationship with a ISFP - he was gentle and easy going, but couldnt make a living! I tend to be attracted to introverts. I am an extrovert, for sure!
Susan Kievman Interesting, thanks for sharing. I am also an ENTJ woman and have been either with ISFPs or ISTPs. Stronger chemistry with the FPs but they were too emotional and I don’t have very much emotional intelligence. 😂 My current long term boyfriend is ISTP. We have a very playful, light relationship. He admires me tremendously, and I admire him for that. 😂
@@scilines Interesting. I have always gone for NT types. I like their deep intellectualism and sense of humor. INTP, ENTP and INTJ. I did have one boyfriend for many years that was an ISFP, a photographer. I liked his artistic creativity, but he was too soft for me. And too awful in business!
As you've explained in your first ENTJ video, ENTJs are seen intimidating and I think that's why it's hard for me to have a boyfriend lol. I'm not so feminine and I'm close with lot of guys. But, none of them really want to get into a more serious relationship with me because they think I'm so above them like I'm beyond their reach. I mean, I'm just a human as well as them :')
Great explanation. Also a fact that is so often missed about the ENTJ is their huge heart which is their driving force. Their passion is sometimes misunderstood as forcefulness. They care more about getting you help than even you do often times.
I'm a 44f entj enneagram 3. I really liked your explanation it's spots on on the nuances and not just following the mainstream narrative of what an entj is. Well done!
Bee Attack thanks so much! I really appreciate the compliment. What a cool combo-Enneagram 3. I think it’s great that you know your type. It helps so much in life to understand yourself. I appreciate you watching my videos. I have several ENTJ videos and I think a couple on Enneagram 3. Maybe someday you can check them out :-)
Melisa Chandra Thanks so much and your encouragement means a whole lot! I just released a new video on your type yesterday: ENTJ Best Things ruclips.net/video/Gm-8z5_b6mw/видео.html
I really wish i would have came across your channel a long time ago. You have a way about you and some understanding i am in desperate need of. I would give anything for a chance to get some understanding from you . God bless
LOADING... I’m sure you’ll find someone soon-Someone truly deserving of you. Sometimes, esp when we’re younger, Relationships can be trial and error so you’ve probably saved yourself a lot of damage and heartache. Don’t be discouraged-it’s coming 😊
Old thread I know, but I'm 30 and the same! I loved working and living in my Se world too much that I didn't want to have one in my 20s. I do now recognize the importance and growth a relationship can offer although my independence is greatly needed.
I was talking to a girl for over a month and showed clear interest, only for her to turn around one day and tell me she was interested in someone else. I let her have it for making such a dumb decision (especially considering the other guy lives in Pakistan and we're both in America) and blocked her shortly afterward. We had lots of potential. Did I cut her off too soon without giving her (INTJ) enough time to think?
I really need your advice .. first sorry my english not very good I am infp ...and that man is entj-A He is ...how to say it ...he is really unsteady he change his mind really fast ..like i can feel him almost that he just talk to me when he is bored most of the time ..and the unsteady parts for example like ...one day he is so sweet and flirty and we talk in deep and personal thing and the other day he change his mind ! Like yesterday he came to me and text me that he need some kindness and hug and etc and i gave him Know to day when i came to him he was like "i don't want you to be so attached to me so don't give kindness " I really get angry from him but i was tired so i didn't say anything... i just gave him a hint that he do this bcuz he don't want me... i really have been going through a lot from him . And i forgive him just bcus i love him so hard i even loved him at first without seeing his face And note ...i don't think he complete me or i don't have low self esteem i can get a better guy of course but i really think of him the most i even got diabetes bcuz i overthinked about us a lot ...sorry for wasting you time and speaking a lot i just really need help I'm still young and i don't have anyone that can guide me
lara alfatlawe Hi 👋 Lara it is my pleasure to help you! I’m sorry for the pain you are going through. I know it is very hard. The heart wants what the heart wants. And telling you not to want what you want feels bad. And it is very painful to let go of someone who is playing with your heart. This guy is not ready for real love. And he certainly doesn’t deserve it from someone as special and amazing as you. So as long as you are with him, he will continue this BAD behavior. I believe there is someone else out there for you who will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated ALL the time. But the longer you allow this relationship to go on, the more damage it will do to you. So when you do meet the right guy, you may hurt him because you are developing fears due to this guy‘s bad behavior. The new guy that’s coming your way deserves for you to give him a chance at love and to be happy. Because the right guy will treat you with lots of caring, love stability and respect.This guy is teaching you not to trust anyone with your heart. Love is meant to be enjoyed so you are missing the point by staying with him. You don’t want to get into the habit of getting into relationships with guys who missed treat you. So you’ve got to find the strength to move on.I’m hoping that you will have find the courage to let this guy go. You can do it! You are so much stronger than what you think.It will be extremely painful for a while and difficult to cut him off completely, but if you can do it, Eventually you will feel so much better and so happy that you let him go! You don’t want to miss out on your right guy because you’re holding on to this undeserving guy.
@@TamsPsychAdvice you are so right especially about meeting the right one ...i dont want to hurt someone because i know how much it is painful but i really still wish for him to change ... I will try to ignore him hopefully he will get that he should treat me better ... I do really have to mention tho that he a might text me because he want to ...i am thinking of pulling away but i realized that we talk a lot he will notice And i also talk to him about this problem after i wrote this comment and he said that he doesn't want relationship or love because his ex left him and he dont want to have a lot of relationships before his "right one" that is waiting for him But i really what to thank you a lot ...your reply made my cry actually it make happy and sad about him... Still i cant tell what the time has for us ..but i will try from now on focus on me more than him...thank you so much again really really ..❤
@@laraelixirs to me he is dont act ed like ENTJ , maybe he is but as entj T myself, entj A rarely acted that why. From my view he is more like ENTP or xxTP
apothe6 ignorant comment u made, as a 21 yo entj the moment i started growing was the moment I realized there are people much smarter and more expert in the field than me, although it was uncomfortable at first it made me work harder to grow and improve myself. If you keep the mindset that ur smarter than everyone else you either havnt matured yet or surround yourself with people below you. The faster you come to that realization the faster you will grow.
The funniest thing about this video is an ENFJ is giving interpersonal advice to an ENTJ who really doesn't care about interpersonal niceties. Caring about others feelings is what an ENFJ does. Imagine an ENTJ making a video about ENFJ's on how they could be less feeling and more pragmatic. How they could stop catering to the subjective emotions of others to feel good about themselves instead of feeling good because they got their job done. This has been my main problem with ENFJ's, they ego engulf others by trying to make others in THEIR image, without even noticing that an ENTJ is NOT an ENFJ for a reason and they never will be and they never should be expected to be. It's not a matter of wanting to, it's a matter of Not Being. It would be like asking an ENFJ to become as decisive, intelligent, and efficient as an ENTJ. You simply can't. Ever. Period. ENFJ's should stay in their circle with Fe. That's what they're made for. That's who they are. ENTJ's should stay in their circle. That's Te. It's what we're made for, it's what we do. We don't want to operate according to Your personality.
Your description is very true, even for women ENTJ. I have learned to soften more in relationships and keep my mouth shut more on work conference calls and let other express themselves and ask questions. I have never done the leave a relationship and not look back thing. I have mostly been in very long relationships, trying to make them work. Working on patience, being less harsh, showing vulnerability etc. I am strong, capable, self sufficient, good with money, not emotionally needy. But I am learning kindness, regard for other's feelings, praising, etc.
Susan Kievman It sounds like you’re an amazing 😉 person and I’m sure others are blessed with your abilities and also your awareness of others. Thanks for sharing! 😊
What MBTI types are you usually in relationships with?
@@scilines INTJ, INTP, ENTP-mostly NT types! Intelligent, deep thinkers. I did
have a long relationship with a ISFP - he was gentle and easy going, but couldnt make a living! I tend to be attracted to introverts. I am an extrovert, for sure!
Susan Kievman Interesting, thanks for sharing. I am also an ENTJ woman and have been either with ISFPs or ISTPs. Stronger chemistry with the FPs but they were too emotional and I don’t have very much emotional intelligence. 😂 My current long term boyfriend is ISTP. We have a very playful, light relationship. He admires me tremendously, and I admire him for that. 😂
@@scilines Interesting. I have always gone for NT types. I like their deep intellectualism and sense of humor. INTP, ENTP and INTJ. I did have one boyfriend for many years that was an ISFP, a photographer. I liked his artistic creativity, but he was too soft for me. And too awful in business!
As you've explained in your first ENTJ video, ENTJs are seen intimidating and I think that's why it's hard for me to have a boyfriend lol. I'm not so feminine and I'm close with lot of guys. But, none of them really want to get into a more serious relationship with me because they think I'm so above them like I'm beyond their reach. I mean, I'm just a human as well as them :')
Auly Nahdyan I agree with this wholeheartedly.
Im intimidating everyone :( being male even more
@@def6420 Same
Same.
Wow, personally this video articulated the way I operate and feel about things perfectly. I could not have said it better myself.
Great explanation. Also a fact that is so often missed about the ENTJ is their huge heart which is their driving force. Their passion is sometimes misunderstood as forcefulness. They care more about getting you help than even you do often times.
Bella Rose 🌹 I think that’s so true! Thanks for enlightening us 💕😊
I'm a 44f entj enneagram 3. I really liked your explanation it's spots on on the nuances and not just following the mainstream narrative of what an entj is. Well done!
Bee Attack thanks so much! I really appreciate the compliment. What a cool combo-Enneagram 3. I think it’s great that you know your type. It helps so much in life to understand yourself. I appreciate you watching my videos. I have several ENTJ videos and I think a couple on Enneagram 3. Maybe someday you can check them out :-)
Early morning Entj shout-out, thank you mam, helping me through some shitty times
You’re right on point! Keep it up, please!
Melisa Chandra Thanks so much and your encouragement means a whole lot! I just released a new video on your type yesterday: ENTJ Best Things
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Thank you so much, this helped me a lot
Great information, new Subscriber!
Yippee 🥳
Great video.
S Lines Thank you so much I really appreciate it!
I really love what you do!
I really wish i would have came across your channel a long time ago. You have a way about you and some understanding i am in desperate need of. I would give anything for a chance to get some understanding from you . God bless
Not that they should go around failing on purpose😅
I hv been single for 7 years :( now I’m 30.
LOADING... I’m sure you’ll find someone soon-Someone truly deserving of you. Sometimes, esp when we’re younger, Relationships can be trial and error so you’ve probably saved yourself a lot of damage and heartache. Don’t be discouraged-it’s coming 😊
Tams PsychAdvice thanks for the encouragement
Same!
Old thread I know, but I'm 30 and the same! I loved working and living in my Se world too much that I didn't want to have one in my 20s. I do now recognize the importance and growth a relationship can offer although my independence is greatly needed.
@@samuelansondid you find someone😊...
I was talking to a girl for over a month and showed clear interest, only for her to turn around one day and tell me she was interested in someone else.
I let her have it for making such a dumb decision (especially considering the other guy lives in Pakistan and we're both in America) and blocked her
shortly afterward. We had lots of potential. Did I cut her off too soon without giving her (INTJ) enough time to think?
I guess if someone started to show less interest on us, its the best time for to let them go.
I really need your advice .. first sorry my english not very good
I am infp ...and that man is entj-A
He is ...how to say it ...he is really unsteady he change his mind really fast ..like i can feel him almost that he just talk to me when he is bored most of the time ..and the unsteady parts for example like ...one day he is so sweet and flirty and we talk in deep and personal thing and the other day he change his mind ! Like yesterday he came to me and text me that he need some kindness and hug and etc and i gave him
Know to day when i came to him he was like "i don't want you to be so attached to me so don't give kindness "
I really get angry from him but i was tired so i didn't say anything... i just gave him a hint that he do this bcuz he don't want me... i really have been going through a lot from him . And i forgive him just bcus i love him so hard i even loved him at first without seeing his face
And note ...i don't think he complete me or i don't have low self esteem i can get a better guy of course but i really think of him the most i even got diabetes bcuz i overthinked about us a lot ...sorry for wasting you time and speaking a lot i just really need help I'm still young and i don't have anyone that can guide me
lara alfatlawe Hi 👋 Lara it is my pleasure to help you! I’m sorry for the pain you are going through. I know it is very hard. The heart wants what the heart wants. And telling you not to want what you want feels bad. And it is very painful to let go of someone who is playing with your heart. This guy is not ready for real love. And he certainly doesn’t deserve it from someone as special and amazing as you. So as long as you are with him, he will continue this BAD behavior. I believe there is someone else out there for you who will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated ALL the time. But the longer you allow this relationship to go on, the more damage it will do to you. So when you do meet the right guy, you may hurt him because you are developing fears due to this guy‘s bad behavior. The new guy that’s coming your way deserves for you to give him a chance at love and to be happy. Because the right guy will treat you with lots of caring, love stability and respect.This guy is teaching you not to trust anyone with your heart. Love is meant to be enjoyed so you are missing the point by staying with him. You don’t want to get into the habit of getting into relationships with guys who missed treat you. So you’ve got to find the strength to move on.I’m hoping that you will have find the courage to let this guy go. You can do it! You are so much stronger than what you think.It will be extremely painful for a while and difficult to cut him off completely, but if you can do it, Eventually you will feel so much better and so happy that you let him go! You don’t want to miss out on your right guy because you’re holding on to this undeserving guy.
@@TamsPsychAdvice you are so right especially about meeting the right one ...i dont want to hurt someone because i know how much it is painful but i really still wish for him to change ...
I will try to ignore him hopefully he will get that he should treat me better ...
I do really have to mention tho that he a might text me because he want to ...i am thinking of pulling away but i realized that we talk a lot he will notice
And i also talk to him about this problem after i wrote this comment and he said that he doesn't want relationship or love because his ex left him and he dont want to have a lot of relationships before his "right one" that is waiting for him
But i really what to thank you a lot ...your reply made my cry actually it make happy and sad about him...
Still i cant tell what the time has for us ..but i will try from now on focus on me more than him...thank you so much again really really ..❤
lara alfatlawe Aw You’re so welcome. I hope you feel better soon Sweetie! Do something nice for yourself and take good care.
@@laraelixirs to me he is dont act ed like ENTJ , maybe he is but as entj T myself, entj A rarely acted that why. From my view he is more like ENTP or xxTP
@@Lavender0810 he was SHIT-A
it doesn't matter i am happily in another offical relationship screw that ex crush LOLXD
Their arrogance is such a turn off
Sylvia Lopez I understand it so I like it
We're just better, accept it
@@apothe6 Better at being humble, kind, cooperating, understanding everything and everyone is heading towards death?
apothe6 sounds like a racist white person no human is better than another just accept that
apothe6 ignorant comment u made, as a 21 yo entj the moment i started growing was the moment I realized there are people much smarter and more expert in the field than me, although it was uncomfortable at first it made me work harder to grow and improve myself. If you keep the mindset that ur smarter than everyone else you either havnt matured yet or surround yourself with people below you. The faster you come to that realization the faster you will grow.
Lousy volume... cant hear shit.
Must max the volume to hear anything.
Turn up your volume dickhead it’s fine
The funniest thing about this video is an ENFJ is giving interpersonal advice to an ENTJ who really doesn't care about interpersonal niceties.
Caring about others feelings is what an ENFJ does.
Imagine an ENTJ making a video about ENFJ's on how they could be less feeling and more pragmatic. How they could stop catering to the subjective emotions of others to feel good about themselves instead of feeling good because they got their job done.
This has been my main problem with ENFJ's, they ego engulf others by trying to make others in THEIR image, without even noticing that an ENTJ is NOT an ENFJ for a reason and they never will be and they never should be expected to be.
It's not a matter of wanting to, it's a matter of Not Being.
It would be like asking an ENFJ to become as decisive, intelligent, and efficient as an ENTJ.
You simply can't. Ever. Period.
ENFJ's should stay in their circle with Fe. That's what they're made for. That's who they are.
ENTJ's should stay in their circle. That's Te. It's what we're made for, it's what we do. We don't want to operate according to Your personality.