Except that both actors are straight as an arrow. Maybe they should get white guys to play black characters again. Or men to play all women characters as in Ancient Greece. Why always have straight guys play gay ones?!?
The setting. The lighting. The clothing. The music. The old objects and vehicles. The cinematography. Everything screams the feeling of old memories from a good summer.
YES! Absolutely! The slow peace of everything, the boredom, the nature, the sun bathing everything... Summers of a time long ago... that you only get to live once.
yes, everything is beautiful in this scene, the pacing, the rythm, the dialogue, I´ve heard in some interviews the resolution of this scene in one shot, (ones), it was suggested by the actor Armie Hammer. This Mr. Guadagnino such a sensibility it has.
Armie says it's like a scene from a play!..he was right! If there's a cut from the scene at any moment it wouldn't have the same effect!...I love what Timmy says in the shift of the dynamic of the relation ship!..it was Elio that set the phase in the conversation!..even when Oliver wanted to forget about it!..Elio was still brave to let him know what's really is going between them!... I'm paraphrasing.."it was his choice to wear a seat belt or not!"
Yep I love it too, and so so much...the fact it's just a sigle shot makes us feel the indeniable tension growing more and more between them, in real time...this scene couldn't any more perfect.
I’ve just seen the film 16 times in 7 weeks - and I can’t come over it. This is actually my life with my friend Hans (we spent 30 years together) concentrated into 6 weeks in Italy. Met him 1984, he looked like Oliver with his hairy chest, and I was Elio, but just 2 years younger, exactly, we were both born the 21st of July. Had a wonderful life together until Hans passed away the other year - and left me alone in chaos - as Oliver did to young Elio. This is the most perfect film I ever seen, the love between them is amazing - like the 30 years we got - but just a couple of weeks for them… Jan Hermansson, Sweden
Because I wanted you to know Because I wanted you to know Because I wanted you to know. Because I wanted you to know Because there's noone else I can say this to but you
I love how subtly crafted and sophisticated this film is. No flashy special effects, no over the top villain (rather the antagonist in this story is time), and the romance is not shoved in your face.
You are in the right, no special effects, no top villain, I think the movie is so powerful, because all the time it´s talking about feelings. And is so beautiful. Specially in this times...
I wonder if the real antagonist in the film isn't Oliver's "recognition" -- if you want to call it that -- that he has a real life waiting for him elsewhere in America, one that could never include Elio?
I loved how the authenticity of the scenes is given by the context. Here, after one of the greatest scenes, Oliver goes to take his printed pages. That's precisely what makes it real. That's what makes the scene alive, it goes over its own inherent meaning since that meaning can't exist without context.
Miguel Cunha one of the best movie lines i ever heard. Plus the monologue of Mr Perlman- " but to make yourself feel nothing, so as not feel anything. What a waste."
At first I didn't understand this scene, I didn't pay close attention to it, now that I'm re-watching I come to the realisation that this scene is a masterpiece (like the movie itself) Elio declaring his love to Oliver without even saying really saying it. This scene is so simple yet so complicated and I think that's what I like about it. God, this movie is amazing.
@@11Garrett11 That's perhaps a bit harsh. In Oliver's American world, those sorts of feelings must not be even acknowledged, let alone acted upon. In that sense, Elio is much the stronger of the two.
Why exactly did Elio say”If you only knew how little I know about the things that matter” and how did Oliver know that this was Elio confessing his love?
Love this scene however I can’t help but laugh when I think of how my dumbass would NOT be able to hear from the distance they were talking I would of been like “WHa- hUh?!?”....”WHaT THingS??!!”
I thought this was one of the most powerful and symbolic scenes of the movies. Notice the techniques Guadagnino uses as Elio and Oliver navigate this conversation. When they first start talking about smoking, multiple cars and mopeds drive by, creating a loud buzz and noise over the scene. This matches the meaninglessness of their conversation about smoking. It is a conversation that ultimately means nothing. It is empty, it holds zero significance. It is simply noise. There are no more vehicles or noise like this until the very end of the scene. For the rest of the scene Elio and Oliver rotate around the statue. They begin far apart as Elio brings up how little he knows. Here, they are distant from one another both physically and in the way they speak. "Because I wanted you to know" Elio half speaks to himself. As they continue to move around the statue, this directly represents the way they move and dance around the point of their conversation. Neither of them actually says what they're feeling or what they are talking about. Deep down they both know, but instead they dance around the point for the whole conversation, just like they dance around the statue. Until finally they meet, "these are things we cant speak about" and the door (of the car) is quite literally shut on the conversation. All of this being done under the watch of the church. They can't fully express themselves due to the ever present judgement and stifling expectations of society. This scene screams volumes. So so incredible and I think it's a perfect example of one of the key themes of the movie: that love should be expressed. It felt like for most of the movie, Elio and Oliver dance around their feelings like they do in this scene. And in this scene it is quite frustrating to watch. I think many viewers watching the screen want to tell the characters to "just say how you actually feel!!" And through that discomfort and frustration, Luca is returning that exact same sentiment back onto you. Share the love you feel you in your life because it's frustrating and confusing when you don't. Don't hold back and never be afraid to be open and honest with those you love.
I also just noticed that Elio says "I'm not going anywhere" as he passes by the bus in the background - the same bus that will take them away from here temporarily, but only Elio will return.
after multiple rewatches, one thing that stood out to me and which i haven't seen much or any mention of, is the way oliver words his reply "are you saying what i think you're saying?". on the surface it seems like a candid thing to say, but after pondering this conversation, i find it such an obtuse expression because it masks a painfully astute self-awareness and also fear towards whatever it is that elio has brought up. both are holding back from being completely transparent with each other. oliver is phrasing it as his conjecture-- he is wary and does not want to proceed with impulse. he is possibly dissuading himself from even ascertaining that he knows what elio is talking about. but perhaps it's this very peculiarity that makes it the perfect response to elio's equally circuitous confession. this exchange demonstrates their intellectual compatibility, which is one of the main factors of their attraction.
Ellio's language skills, personality and intelligence are so alluring...It's no surprise that Oliver was drawn to him..... That's what made the film so good to me. I felt the emotions in the scene...like this one.
suzycreamcheesez this is probably one of the most underrated lines of the entire story. this speaks volumes, as future Elio (as far as love goes) never goes anywhere.
i haven’t rewatched in a year. this movie causes me to feel unbearable pain that i often like to steer away from. but i might watch it tonight, this clip just made me feel it all over again.
@@donniedarko5641 same with me. I felt emptiness and pain after watching this movie that i don't think i can watch it again. Same reation as to film "The pianist" of R. Polański
This is one of the greatest scenes of one of the most memorable films in comtemporary cinema. Subtle and smart. So refreshing from all the blockbuster noise... Pure gold!
Excellent! Timothy Chalamet is so perfect in his acting like an awkward teen. Breathtaking face and body language. Just like the old stars like Greta Garbo in silent movies that acted with their eyes and faces. This kid is amazing. I saw him in the lobby of the hotel I work for before he was nominated. He's very playful and real.
That's what I love so much about this film, it's clear that Elio and Oliver are in love but they never said those words to each other, I think that makes it so much more powerful.
SO grateful for your comment & please excuse my long response. To me this is one of the many precious, striking moments of Chalamet's portrayal because he conveys with such a childlike movement how innocent Elio is; but, also, it’s as though he's about to shake his head to answer "No" to Oliver's question (because he’s terrified of the ramifications)...and then answers “Yes” by nodding. I live in southern Louisiana and have yet to meet one person locally who has seen CMBYN. I only saw it a month ago; it has affected me profoundly and I have no one to talk with about it. P.S. I don’t in any way pretend to be a film critic.
I agree. This is incredibly sad. How can a young man harbour such intense feelings? Sadly his life after Oliver was virtually meaningless hence he described it as “ being in a coma” while Oliver’s life was described as a “parallel life”. Do you remember the part of the book where Oliver asked “ Do you like me that much, Elio?” And Elio replied.....” I worship you Oliver”. My heart is absolutely shattered to pieces for poor Elio! Wish Oliver never came to his house
Well, yes, given its title (Une Barque Sur L'Ocean). It plays throughout the scene only when the two of them are separated (little Elio, sailing alone on the sea of First Love).....until they leave town and ride into the distance together (now little Elio has a first mate on his voyage). Yeah yeah...corny metaphors...
The only film I have ever watched where I long for more and more. It simply won’t let you go, and I am happy about that. It is beautiful in every way possible.
I sat and sobbed at the end. Then I just sat some more. Elio's dad's speech at the end is one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard. What an example to the rest of mankind. 😭
After watching this movie I felt extremely empty inside and in pain...seriously... similar story happened to me with the difference that i am straight. It would be better for Elio never say anything to Oliver or even Oliver never coming to this house.
I feel this away too though I recently found there is a sort of sequal though its only in book format its called find me and its a continuation of the story in sorts and its four acts though it takes places with the same characters years later
I am 67 and this movie haunts me. The scene at the train station where Elio and Oliver part had my mind rushing back to 1979 in Palma de Mallorca, Spain, when I was in the U.S. Navy. I was 23 and Javier was 18. It was our destiny that we met the innocent way we did. We spent three glorious days together, walking, talking, joking, laughing, eating... I promised to find him the next time my ship was in port. Our last day slowly wound its way through the morning, the afternoon, but finally evening arrived. We made the day last until around midnight when our meandering brought us to the landing at the bay where my ships' liberty boat would take me away from Javier. I wanted to cry so badly but didn't want to draw the attention of my drunken shipmates also waiting for the boat. Then it started to rain lightly, and I realized the gods were crying for us. We finally had to be apart... The next year when my ship went back to the Mediterranean and arrived at Palma, I rushed to the sailor bar where I knew two of Javier's lesbian friends worked. They told me Javier had been drafted into the Spanish navy for his two years mandatory service. I never saw my sweet, sweet Javier again. Javier has been in my mind and heart for 44 years now. I think about him and I have a little cry occasionally. Elio, I understand...
I had the same experience in the late seventies in my military service in Spain in Zaragoza.i never saw him back and in my late sixties I occasionally cry.in fact that changed my life,big wound.
There's a part in the book just a few days after this confession and their first kiss when Elio kept trying to break the silence between them, Oliver asked Elio: "Do you really like me that much, Elio?" to which the champion of love, Elio replied: "Do I like you? Oliver, I worship you." mic drop
I'm watching this again for like the 100th time, and only now noticing the beautiful irony of when Oliver says "stay right here" and elio replies rather sadly "you know I'm not going anywhere " and the camera pans so that we see a bus in the background - it's a subtle reminder of how little time they have left together; elio isnt going anywhere, but oliver will; Oliver will move on, but this will never leave Elio. It's what makes this scene so strangely emotional.
Excellent! Timothy Chalamet is so perfect in his acting like an awkward teen. Breathtaking face and body language. Just like the old stars like Greta Garbo in silent movies that acted with their eyes and faces. This kid is amazing. I saw him in the lobby of the hotel I work for before he was nominated, before he became really known. He's very playful and real.
you can find it if you just type "Call Me By Your Name Elio's Backpack" into google and do a bit of looking around. it was so expensive because it's from a fancy Italian brand... kinda like Gucci to us Americans. BUTTTT I found a cheaper one on Amazon for like 70 bucks :)
La maggior parte delle volte il suo italiano è asdolutamente perfetto,veramente bravissimo ......grandissima ammirazione per le doti artistiche di questo giovane ragazzo....la sua emotività e la sua empatia credo di nn averla mai trovata in nessun attore. Pensando poi alla sua età l'unica spiegazione è che con certe doti ci si nasce. Fantastico
@@lunadiggorytennant yes, it's true .... Elio still has an excellent Italian pronunciation almost always .... sometimes his Italian has a French cadence and it's still very nice to hear
Non è vero. It is not true, he speaks Italian very badly. And "andiamo l'americamo" doesn't even make sense in Italian! Capisco che vi piace il film, ma dai, l'accento e la pronuncia di questi due non si può sentire, fanno sanguinare le orecchie!
Such a very powerful segment that melts my heart anew with each viewing. Elio's coquettish wiggle after "..are you saying what I think you're saying?" is so redolent of teenage behaviour too! Perfection! Such a transformative experience watching this work played out with such enormous delicacy and love of their characters!
"Are you saying what I think you're saying?" Elio swaying nervously and nodding his head shyly has left me all soft and mushy inside 😔 He's so precious 💕
The use of Ravel's "Une Barque sur l'Océan" makes this scene so dreamy and languid. While I love the entire film, this has to be my favorite part. Sheer brilliance!
It´s interesting how it´s used the music in the movie as stated of mine of Elio´s. This piece represent the fascination of Elio´s about Oliver. It was innecesary to request a film composer, they used pre recorded music and had matched at perfection.
The dialogue in this scene follows the original scene in the book very closely. In fact many of the lines in the film are lifted directly from the book. Interestingly, some of them have been reworked into scenes that are different from the book, sometimes even spoken by different characters from the book, but the lines are identical, and it works really well both ways. Really interesting adaptation.
This movie makes me feel so young, full of hope, and filled with the promise of what young love, ANY love, brings. Just so pure before it EVER got complicated! What a wonderful time!
O: Why are you telling me this? ... E: Cause I thought you should know. O: Because you thought I should know? E: Because I wanted you to know. ... E: Because there's no one else I can say this to but you. O: Are you saying what I think you're saying?
Elio have to tell him somehow ... back in the early 80's, well, it wasn't that easy to admit the attraction to someone who you might see as an ordinary friend! Oliver also is in denial of what he feels at that moment!
Oliver had his life set on this on and off relationship he had back in the states but he met Elio and changed his life around. The hard part is what do you do with a summertime romance....and some people pursue it and other like Oliver just move on. Tough times
I love how the music just floats in and out of this scene. One of my favourites in this movie. Elio is such a sweet boy. He reminds me alot of myself when I was that age. If I was Oliver, I would take him in my arms and hug him forever.
I love that everytime i randomly feel the need to search up this movie again i find new people love it as well. Once you enter the CMBYN portal there’s no getting out ever
A moment of character development on Armie's part right at the conclusion of the scene 04:15 to the end. Right after telling Elio "we can't talk about those things" when Elio hops on his bike and begins to ride away, Oliver hesitates for a moment, just staring at nothing, trying to process what just happened and what it means. You can imagine him thinking to himself, "Now what do I do?" He is probably wondering whether he handled Elio's confession well or poorly. Then he snaps out of it when Elio calls, "Hey! Andiamo Americano!" It's a subtle moment, but shows us where Oliver's heart is now. And kudos to Armie for playing it so quietly and subtly.
The whole atmosphere of this scene is just mesmerizing! While Elio leaves you can see Olivers internal struggle just before he jumps on his bike. And the beautiful music every time they are apart, so beautifully done! Can’t get enough of this movie, dammit.......
The Portuguese have a word that isn’t translatable in English called Saudede, it’s a bittersweet feeling of nostalgia but even those words don’t explain it. This film took me right back to my youth, it’s the most beautiful film I’ve watched in over a decade, the residual feelings from the film float around with me for days afterwards. Simply stunning. This scene is life! So intelligent and real, so beautiful and poetic, full of nuances it’s amazing and takes me back to those delicate awkward feelings of first love
Can everyone please realise that this is one single shot, no cuts, nothing. Those are about 5 minutes and that’s not at all typical for movies. Amazing acting and amazing directing! Also, I come here so often and I want to watch the movie again now but I also don’t want to cry?? Somebody help me ugh
"Because there's no one else I can say this to but you." This makes so much sense after reading the book. I remember just trying to understand everything Elio thought when there was silence in the movie, but now that I've read the book, every little silence in the movie makes sense. It's full of thoughts, of repressed emotions. It has a flavor of its own.
You don't understand why- but at the moment you see Elio watching the top of the temple, *you just know* it's him imploring to whatever god there is for a chance with Oliver. This damn film just sneaks inbetween you, like flu.
This is what summer was like before cell phones, 500 channels, social media, and other timesucks of today. I miss those great summers where everybody was friends with everybody and parties where everyone was invited.
I love how poetic this scene was to take place in this monument depicting a battle. Love is a battlefield. And how Elio peeked at at the church afterwards.
I think I get obsessed with this movie, I watched for the first time in 2018 and still i can't get it out of my mind. I love everything in this film, music, photography, and the chemistry between Armie and Timothee is amazing.
I love the use of music in this scene; it is faint and doesn't overwhelm the conversation. Too many movies use music as a crutch, or to generate emotion, but CMBYN understands that it is the characters and the dialogue that grabs us.
There’s so many little nuances in this scene. It’s truly masterful. There’s things I didn’t notice the first time I saw it, the delivery and body language of both actors is perfection.
This one of the best movies ever made. Each and every actor's performance is just out of the world. The little things between elio and Oliver. I even read the book and the movie is a perfect visualisation of Andrew Aciman's call me by my name. Whose waiting for the sequel find me? I AM ❤️
To me, the beauty of this movie lies in the fact that I didn't understand it at all when I first watched it. I could not wrap my head around why, everyone else loved it so much. Now, being a little older and actually in love everything about this movie comes to me very clearly. Sometimes you just need to change your perspective...
What a beautifully choreographed scene. I love the quiet, the slow pace, the shifts of emotion and the way the music weaves in and out. You can feel the heat inside and outside.
It was just put on Netflix this month and I watched it for the 1st time on Timothée's birthday, without even knowing it... I couldn't watch it before because I did not have the opportunity. Plus when it was released, cinemas near me didn't have it (I live in a very bigoted area). To say that my soul is amazed and thunderstruck in the deep core is an understatement.
@Esse who down below says he still doesn't understand this scene. Elio is telling Oliver in a roundabout way that he likes him... saying it without really saying it. This is what their relationship has been like until this point: both of them interested in each other but neither of them openly saying so. Oliver has shown many clues that he likes Elio but Elio's response has been unclear and confusing, even rude sometimes. It finally gets to a point where Oliver is annoyed with Elio: "Just don't play at being the good host." Elio isn't mature enough to realize that his responses have been sending mixed signals to Oliver, but he is learning. Later that same day, he offers, "Truce?" and the two of them shake hands and get back on track. So now when Elio openly says he doesn't know about the things that matter, he is admitting to Oliver that he doesn't know what he is doing or how to show what he really feels. Oliver has been confused about Elio to this point, and asks "Why are you telling me this?" Elio's first response is almost but not quite the truth: "Because I thought you should know." Oliver repeats it back as a question, as if to ask Elio to be clearer about what he means, and at first Elio answers with another question: "Because I wanted you to know?" ("Is this the right answer?") Oliver still doesn't respond, and so Elio says it again but as an affirmative statement: "Because I wanted you to know." And repeats it again, more confidently: "Because I wanted you to know." It took him a few tries but he finally got it right and he is being honest and vulnerable now. In effect Elio is telling Oliver "I might be smart in a lot of other ways, but I don't know how to show you that I like you, and I need you to take the lead and show me how to do it." Oliver is still not sure, and so he asks, "Are you saying what I think you're saying?" Elio answers silently with a nod of his head. He is new to adult and sexual relationships. As a guest in their summer home, this now puts Oliver in a tricky and awkward situation, and he says "We can't talk about those kinds of things, we just can't." In the next few scenes we see how Elio tries to show, even inappropriately at times, that he likes Oliver in a physical, sexual way. Oliver's response is, "You are making this very difficult for me." But Oliver understands now, so he continues to take it slowly and carefully until he finally has to tell Elio to "Grow up. Meet me at midnight." So in this scene at the monument, Oliver has come to realize Elio is naive and inexperienced, and he has to take things carefully and patiently at Elio's pace. This is a turning point in how they will relate to each other through the remainder of their time together. What Elio is not prepared for, and what Oliver cannot teach him, is the pain that awaits at their inevitable separation. Oliver can't help him with that, nor can he prevent it from happening. Elio will have to experience that for himself, and on his own. Fortunately he has understanding parents who will be there for him. As Oliver tells him later on the phone, "You are so lucky..." The beauty of this movie is that the script does not spell this all out in words. It shows us what is happening between these two without saying it out loud, in the same way Oliver and Elio relate to each other. It is up to us, the audience, to figure it out on our own, the same way Oliver and Elio have to figure out their relationship. The movie is not going to explain it for us; it is enough to show us the important moments and it trusts us to put the in-between pieces together.
I remember watching this scene and wondering if all of this happened in one take, and I watched it again and found out that it was. The camera movement is so smooth and natural, I love it.
"I thought you should know... " Indeed, he should have won the Oscar. He played coming of age - and coming to terms with being gay - so beautifully. What a wonderful performance.
One thing important to notice about this scene is that they’re talking on opposite sides of this event/memorial site of an intense war. They’re on opposite sides of a war; a war of love. Wondering whether to keep fighting their urges or surrender to each other. And they keep walking and walking around this war until they finally come together.
I haven’t watched the movie yet but I know I will cry heavily because I already relate to so much of this relationship and situation with my own story. I connect a lot with both characters (especially elio) and how they weren’t able to find words to express how much they loved each other or tell them how they truly felt when things started to become distant in ways, but did show their true love through ways of actions and emotions. This is a sign to let go of any repressed emotions or feelings your scared to show. Set them free and let yourself be open to expression and communication and open to love, fully. Apologetically for the people you love and for your own sake + peace of mind! Tell people how you feel when you feel it!! Even when it terrifying, it’s such a beautiful and raw feeling to allow yourself to be open. I’m happy that I am open to a lot now and that I know and understand so much more than before, I now appreciate how love is infinite, even when things aren’t “forever” if that makes sense. But also how things don’t have to make sense, some things just are. And love will always be. You will find that love within and with another!! And hopefully be as inspired as I was with my own story, like this movie reminds you to; express your love fully in the moment when you can. Take the chances and risks to follow what you truly want & what you’re passionate towards or what you care for, even when it’s unknown or uncomfortable to let go of any attachments or doubts/self sabotage. You can do it. I believe in you… I will always believe in us. In our infinite and everlasting, growing love. It will truly always inspire me in everything I do. I know it will for you too.
Une des scènes les plus fabuleuses, les textes, les silences tout est dit de façon si intelligente ! Quel courage il faut pour avouer ce genre de sentiments "interdit "... Quels fabuleux acteurs et metteur en scène .....
Such a beautiful, well-crafted scene! So dream-like and ethereal, like the rest of the film. To add to everything else, the beauty of Armi as Oliver and Timmy and Elio. They each were meant to play these roles. They're so perfect and natural together. And oe of the happy coincidences is that the character Oliver is a professor at Columbia University, and actor Timmy (Elio) actually was accepted into Columbia University and attended there a year before transferring.
my favorite thing about this scene was the nod. what he said to oliver was bold and mature but the nod was so childlike and just made me want to smile. this scene was extremely well explained.
Love how the music is used in this scene. Its only played when Elio is alone in the scene, as if to give us an idea of the rush of emotions he feels and thinks about Oliver. So well done
this movie is enchanting and beautifully executed, the characters effortlessly invokes romance and the dialogue is subtle yet profound. this movie is magical at its best
my oliver...Gosh. He was so perfect to me, I truly loved him. I'll never get over him. Imagine if Elio only saw Oliver in fleeting moments after these 6 weeks. That's how it is for me. It will always hurt me, rip me into shreds that I'll never be able to pick up again. I get physical pain whenever I see him once every three months for events me and his daughter share. He truly breaks my heart everytime.
This movie has ruined me in the best way possible.
Rebekah Drummond BROO SAME
Rebekah Drummond couldn’t have phrased it better
It promotes perversion
Gandalf4568 one of them looks like he’s 12
Gandalf4568 I’m just saying that would be the only way this dude would say this is that Timothy Charlemet looks like he is a very young teenager
"don't go anywhere, stay right here"
"you know i'm not going anywhere"
*walks 20 steps*
Chiara Bottini i thought the exact same hahaha
It's only 15 😭
I yodeled
@@Justasmile1000 bro did you guys actually counted it?
@@wdft-qk4ix yeah that's how obsessed I am with this movie
Elio flirting is somehow so cute. The way he says "you know what things" and his whole body language is just a special thing.
IKR
yeah, when he did this 2:58 so cute
wow I didn't know I got so many likes on this comment
And his body language when they are standing on the river, in the place where Elio likes to read books...
Except that both actors are straight as an arrow. Maybe they should get white guys to play black characters again. Or men to play all women characters as in Ancient Greece. Why always have straight guys play gay ones?!?
The setting. The lighting. The clothing. The music. The old objects and vehicles. The cinematography.
Everything screams the feeling of old memories from a good summer.
Yessss. It also teleports you to those quaint towns you love but know could never be a permanent residence.
I love the way they filmed it
it was filmed beautifully the whole aura of the film felt so sensual
I know , right . That is why it is so natural. Too many beautiful things in this movie.
YES! Absolutely! The slow peace of everything, the boredom, the nature, the sun bathing everything... Summers of a time long ago... that you only get to live once.
I love how it's just one shot
yes, everything is beautiful in this scene, the pacing, the rythm, the dialogue, I´ve heard in some interviews the resolution of this scene in one shot, (ones), it was suggested by the actor Armie Hammer. This Mr. Guadagnino such a sensibility it has.
I thought the same!
Armie says it's like a scene from a play!..he was right! If there's a cut from the scene at any moment it wouldn't have the same effect!...I love what Timmy says in the shift of the dynamic of the relation ship!..it was Elio that set the phase in the conversation!..even when Oliver wanted to forget about it!..Elio was still brave to let him know what's really is going between them!... I'm paraphrasing.."it was his choice to wear a seat belt or not!"
Yep I love it too, and so so much...the fact it's just a sigle shot makes us feel the indeniable tension growing more and more between them, in real time...this scene couldn't any more perfect.
It was Armie's suggestion to Luca who had problems structuring the scene.
I’ve just seen the film 16 times in 7 weeks - and I can’t come over it. This is actually my life with my friend Hans (we spent 30 years together) concentrated into 6 weeks in Italy. Met him 1984, he looked like Oliver with his hairy chest, and I was Elio, but just 2 years younger, exactly, we were both born the 21st of July. Had a wonderful life together until Hans passed away the other year - and left me alone in chaos - as Oliver did to young Elio. This is the most perfect film I ever seen, the love between them is amazing - like the 30 years we got - but just a couple of weeks for them… Jan Hermansson, Sweden
you have a beautiful love story Jan Hermansson.
wow !!
Jan Hermansson thats the kind of love i wish i could have !!! i hope my oliver will find his way to me.
All the best, Jan. Thank you for sharing your story
Life imitates Art
"Because I wanted you to know"
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Because there's noone else I can say this to but you
so cute
@@НастяіМетодиРаціональності my favorite scene.
It is in the book as well 😊
"Is it better to speak or to die"
💕😭
IT BROKE ME
To die obviously
ad soyad mood
Speaaaaak
I love how subtly crafted and sophisticated this film is. No flashy special effects, no over the top villain (rather the antagonist in this story is time), and the romance is not shoved in your face.
You are in the right, no special effects, no top villain, I think the movie is so powerful, because all the time it´s talking about feelings. And is so beautiful. Specially in this times...
I wonder if the real antagonist in the film isn't Oliver's "recognition" -- if you want to call it that -- that he has a real life waiting for him elsewhere in America, one that could never include Elio?
I loved how the authenticity of the scenes is given by the context. Here, after one of the greatest scenes, Oliver goes to take his printed pages. That's precisely what makes it real. That's what makes the scene alive, it goes over its own inherent meaning since that meaning can't exist without context.
Beautifully put
"the antagonist in this story is time" very beautifully said!!
"If you knew how little i know about the things that matter..."
"What things that matter?" :P
thewaywardpoet "You know what things." 😉
Miguel Cunha one of the best movie lines i ever heard. Plus the monologue of Mr Perlman- " but to make yourself feel nothing, so as not feel anything. What a waste."
why are you telling me this
Miguel Cunha I wanted you to know..
At first I didn't understand this scene, I didn't pay close attention to it, now that I'm re-watching I come to the realisation that this scene is a masterpiece (like the movie itself) Elio declaring his love to Oliver without even saying really saying it. This scene is so simple yet so complicated and I think that's what I like about it. God, this movie is amazing.
yes, it´s a beautiful scene, I like the simple dialogue, but in the background of every word there is a powerful message.
Yes the powerful message is that the older man is not being careful with the younger man's heart at all.
@@11Garrett11 That's perhaps a bit harsh. In Oliver's American world, those sorts of feelings must not be even acknowledged, let alone acted upon. In that sense, Elio is much the stronger of the two.
Why exactly did Elio say”If you only knew how little I know about the things that matter” and how did Oliver know that this was Elio confessing his love?
@@bspearslover99 samee here I also need explanation abt that, someone pls help
He was robbed of an Oscar.
Yes . . . and once again recently for "Beautiful Boy."
@M martin so was Leo but now see him xD
R Berg we both know he deserved one
It's Leonardo DiCaprio all over again
and a Golden Globe
Love this scene however I can’t help but laugh when I think of how my dumbass would NOT be able to hear from the distance they were talking I would of been like “WHa- hUh?!?”....”WHaT THingS??!!”
THAT IS SO ME OMGGG
C.T.S Texas 😂 also this couple makes me cry A LOT
LMAOO
🤣
what “thing” we’re they talking about? i’m confused
I thought this was one of the most powerful and symbolic scenes of the movies. Notice the techniques Guadagnino uses as Elio and Oliver navigate this conversation. When they first start talking about smoking, multiple cars and mopeds drive by, creating a loud buzz and noise over the scene. This matches the meaninglessness of their conversation about smoking. It is a conversation that ultimately means nothing. It is empty, it holds zero significance. It is simply noise. There are no more vehicles or noise like this until the very end of the scene. For the rest of the scene Elio and Oliver rotate around the statue. They begin far apart as Elio brings up how little he knows. Here, they are distant from one another both physically and in the way they speak. "Because I wanted you to know" Elio half speaks to himself. As they continue to move around the statue, this directly represents the way they move and dance around the point of their conversation. Neither of them actually says what they're feeling or what they are talking about. Deep down they both know, but instead they dance around the point for the whole conversation, just like they dance around the statue. Until finally they meet, "these are things we cant speak about" and the door (of the car) is quite literally shut on the conversation. All of this being done under the watch of the church. They can't fully express themselves due to the ever present judgement and stifling expectations of society. This scene screams volumes. So so incredible and I think it's a perfect example of one of the key themes of the movie: that love should be expressed. It felt like for most of the movie, Elio and Oliver dance around their feelings like they do in this scene. And in this scene it is quite frustrating to watch. I think many viewers watching the screen want to tell the characters to "just say how you actually feel!!" And through that discomfort and frustration, Luca is returning that exact same sentiment back onto you. Share the love you feel you in your life because it's frustrating and confusing when you don't. Don't hold back and never be afraid to be open and honest with those you love.
I also just noticed that Elio says "I'm not going anywhere" as he passes by the bus in the background - the same bus that will take them away from here temporarily, but only Elio will return.
Wow amazing. So that's why he was looking at that church. I was already wondering.
Fuck this scene I was so mesmerised I could not breathe
after multiple rewatches, one thing that stood out to me and which i haven't seen much or any mention of, is the way oliver words his reply "are you saying what i think you're saying?". on the surface it seems like a candid thing to say, but after pondering this conversation, i find it such an obtuse expression because it masks a painfully astute self-awareness and also fear towards whatever it is that elio has brought up. both are holding back from being completely transparent with each other. oliver is phrasing it as his conjecture-- he is wary and does not want to proceed with impulse. he is possibly dissuading himself from even ascertaining that he knows what elio is talking about. but perhaps it's this very peculiarity that makes it the perfect response to elio's equally circuitous confession. this exchange demonstrates their intellectual compatibility, which is one of the main factors of their attraction.
What an amazing comment
I really didn't notice it was one shot until they got back on the bikes, it felt so natural.
Alex alejo i didnt even noticed until you pointed that out, so cool!!
One thing i love about these comments is that, people always share things that others didn't notice. Thanks for pointing that out.
@@AsthyllaAsim youre right,I just noticed very little and meaningful details just by reading these comments:)
I know I’m late but wow I just noticed! How did they even memorize all of those lines that’s impressive
This film is a spell, it pulls you in, further and further deep
I agree!
Yesss
Ellio's language skills, personality and intelligence are so alluring...It's no surprise that Oliver was drawn to him..... That's what made the film so good to me. I felt the emotions in the scene...like this one.
It's so true, everything in his face in his body says something to spectators. Amazing Timothee ❤
You know I'm not going anywhere.
The book actually described this comment as an affirmation of total and eternal devotion Elio felt towards Oliver. What a classic piece of literature
i'm not okay
suzycreamcheesez this is probably one of the most underrated lines of the entire story. this speaks volumes, as future Elio (as far as love goes) never goes anywhere.
I'd said that to a boy I loved 2 years ago. And when I saw Elio said the same thing when I watched the movie for the first time my blood froze
suzycreamcheesez but you are going to somewhere and never come back 😞
Yup. It’s decided. I’m rewatching this tonight.
I watched it only last night and watch again right after and 2 more times today.... Don't blame me 😂😂
I'm about to watch it again as well. 😫
i haven’t rewatched in a year. this movie causes me to feel unbearable pain that i often like to steer away from. but i might watch it tonight, this clip just made me feel it all over again.
it's time to do that again right now
@@donniedarko5641 same with me. I felt emptiness and pain after watching this movie that i don't think i can watch it again. Same reation as to film "The pianist" of R. Polański
This is one of the greatest scenes of one of the most memorable films in comtemporary cinema. Subtle and smart. So refreshing from all the blockbuster noise... Pure gold!
kexakalu you said everything ! :)
see also Brokeback
no..gay...
Excellent! Timothy Chalamet is so perfect in his acting like an awkward teen. Breathtaking face and body language. Just like the old stars like Greta Garbo in silent movies that acted with their eyes and faces. This kid is amazing. I saw him in the lobby of the hotel I work for before he was nominated. He's very playful and real.
yes..gay...
This scene is incredible. They declared their love without saying "I love you"
That's what I love so much about this film, it's clear that Elio and Oliver are in love but they never said those words to each other, I think that makes it so much more powerful.
Is that what they did? I missed it. I don't get subtle nuance. I read the book and loved it though!
The way he sways while nodding yes😊
That was too adorable. I found myself grinning during that part. :)
So cute. And look at Oliver's face, seem like he can't handle with his baby's thing. Lovely, both of them.
I know!!! One of my favorite things.
SO grateful for your comment & please excuse my long response. To me this is one of the many precious, striking moments of Chalamet's portrayal because he conveys with such a childlike movement how innocent Elio is; but, also, it’s as though he's about to shake his head to answer "No" to Oliver's question (because he’s terrified of the ramifications)...and then answers “Yes” by nodding. I live in southern Louisiana and have yet to meet one person locally who has seen CMBYN. I only saw it a month ago; it has affected me profoundly and I have no one to talk with about it. P.S. I don’t in any way pretend to be a film critic.
its was very flirty...in a cute way!
nothing:
absolutely nothing:
my head: ʸᵒᵘ ᵏⁿᵒʷ ʷʰᵃᵗ ᵗʰᶦⁿᵍˢ
The piano in the background just adds that extra emotion I love it
DanBdx68 THANKYOUU
FINALLY 😭
btw, the name of the piece is Ravel - Un Barque Sur L'Ocean
Thank you🙂.. From then till now, I wanted to find this music badly❤️.
"You know I'm not goin' anywhere."
This is my favorite part
The book actually described this comment as an affirmation of total and eternal devotion Elio felt towards Oliver. What a classic piece of literature
I agree. This is incredibly sad. How can a young man harbour such intense feelings? Sadly his life after Oliver was virtually meaningless hence he described it as “ being in a coma” while Oliver’s life was described as a “parallel life”. Do you remember the part of the book where Oliver asked “ Do you like me that much, Elio?” And Elio replied.....” I worship you Oliver”.
My heart is absolutely shattered to pieces for poor Elio! Wish Oliver never came to his house
where to watch free?
@@estelle3005 true. Pretty much toxic stuff
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The way he said: you know what things... omgg
😆
What did he mean???
@@heatherdoty66 tyyyy
How hard to express ones love without using the three magical word.
LOVE this scene!!! The music gives it a very dream-like quality!!!!
Yes . . . but that music is supposed to represent the ocean, you know? (Still, it does work wonderfully well here.)
Well, yes, given its title (Une Barque Sur L'Ocean). It plays throughout the scene only when the two of them are separated (little Elio, sailing alone on the sea of First Love).....until they leave town and ride into the distance together (now little Elio has a first mate on his voyage).
Yeah yeah...corny metaphors...
The only film I have ever watched where I long for more and more. It simply won’t let you go, and I am happy about that. It is beautiful in every way possible.
I sat and sobbed at the end. Then I just sat some more. Elio's dad's speech at the end is one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard. What an example to the rest of mankind. 😭
After watching this movie I felt extremely empty inside and in pain...seriously... similar story happened to me with the difference that i am straight. It would be better for Elio never say anything to Oliver or even Oliver never coming to this house.
I feel this away too though I recently found there is a sort of sequal though its only in book format its called find me and its a continuation of the story in sorts and its four acts though it takes places with the same characters years later
I am 67 and this movie haunts me. The scene at the train station where Elio and Oliver part had my mind rushing back to 1979 in Palma de Mallorca, Spain, when I was in the U.S. Navy. I was 23 and Javier was 18. It was our destiny that we met the innocent way we did. We spent three glorious days together, walking, talking, joking, laughing, eating... I promised to find him the next time my ship was in port. Our last day slowly wound its way through the morning, the afternoon, but finally evening arrived. We made the day last until around midnight when our meandering brought us to the landing at the bay where my ships' liberty boat would take me away from Javier. I wanted to cry so badly but didn't want to draw the attention of my drunken shipmates also waiting for the boat. Then it started to rain lightly, and I realized the gods were crying for us.
We finally had to be apart...
The next year when my ship went back to the Mediterranean and arrived at Palma, I rushed to the sailor bar where I knew two of Javier's lesbian friends worked. They told me Javier had been drafted into the Spanish navy for his two years mandatory service. I never saw my sweet, sweet Javier again.
Javier has been in my mind and heart for 44 years now. I think about him and I have a little cry occasionally.
Elio, I understand...
thank you for sharing❤
I had the same experience in the late seventies in my military service in Spain in Zaragoza.i never saw him back and in my late sixties I occasionally cry.in fact that changed my life,big wound.
This made me cry
I’d watch this movie
There's a part in the book just a few days after this confession and their first kiss when Elio kept trying to break the silence between them, Oliver asked Elio: "Do you really like me that much, Elio?" to which the champion of love, Elio replied: "Do I like you? Oliver, I worship you."
mic drop
Does Oliver like him as much?
This scene is in the directorial cut:(((((
I watched the movie before reading the book so now I’ll go back to read the book to get the whole perspective of it
@@juanacoronaa its sad cuz the book is also in elio's perspective..we dont get to see oliver's perspective at all
who is the top tho? Is it really Elio? Oliver is the bottom?
I'm watching this again for like the 100th time, and only now noticing the beautiful irony of when Oliver says "stay right here" and elio replies rather sadly "you know I'm not going anywhere " and the camera pans so that we see a bus in the background - it's a subtle reminder of how little time they have left together; elio isnt going anywhere, but oliver will; Oliver will move on, but this will never leave Elio. It's what makes this scene so strangely emotional.
Y are we both loving the screen is ruin me the best way possible
Excellent! Timothy Chalamet is so perfect in his acting like an awkward teen. Breathtaking face and body language. Just like the old stars like Greta Garbo in silent movies that acted with their eyes and faces. This kid is amazing. I saw him in the lobby of the hotel I work for before he was nominated, before he became really known. He's very playful and real.
I think its Timothee. He's french, so that would mean he has two e's instead of a y
Bcuz he's actually only TWO years older than a teen... hahah
@@sheylapaola9658 4 years older*
Azazel don’t forget the accent on the first e! timothée
Timothée
Has anybody noticed Oliver's happy little smile just before he sets off on his bike at the end?
Yeeees I've noticed it..!!😍😍so dreamy..❤❤
Omgg he notice what elio said
Omgg he notice what elio said
i wanted his backpack SO BAD & when i finally found it, it was $8,000. rip me
why so expensive? it was used by Elio?
Where is it?
haha..'used by Elio'
you can find it if you just type "Call Me By Your Name Elio's Backpack" into google and do a bit of looking around. it was so expensive because it's from a fancy Italian brand... kinda like Gucci to us Americans. BUTTTT I found a cheaper one on Amazon for like 70 bucks :)
BIG NUT but Gucci is italian, and it's also really expensive here in Italy...
Oh my god....this is so beautiful. This might be one of my favorites scenes of any movie, ever.
see also Brokeback and Skam Season 3
Absolutely LOVE both of those. Thanks for the recs though :)
aloha nui loa!!
Timmy's italian was flawless when he said "andiamo l'americano!"
La maggior parte delle volte il suo italiano è asdolutamente perfetto,veramente bravissimo ......grandissima ammirazione per le doti artistiche di questo giovane ragazzo....la sua emotività e la sua empatia credo di nn averla mai trovata in nessun attore. Pensando poi alla sua età l'unica spiegazione è che con certe doti ci si nasce. Fantastico
@@lunadiggorytennant yes, it's true .... Elio still has an excellent Italian pronunciation almost always .... sometimes his Italian has a French cadence and it's still very nice to hear
What does it mean?
@@sumantjaiswal3811 let's go American!
Non è vero. It is not true, he speaks Italian very badly. And "andiamo l'americamo" doesn't even make sense in Italian! Capisco che vi piace il film, ma dai, l'accento e la pronuncia di questi due non si può sentire, fanno sanguinare le orecchie!
Such a very powerful segment that melts my heart anew with each viewing. Elio's coquettish wiggle after "..are you saying what I think you're saying?" is so redolent of teenage behaviour too! Perfection! Such a transformative experience watching this work played out with such enormous delicacy and love of their characters!
Yes, somehow this segment of the film is almost beyond perfect.
Love the wiggle, and the little head tilt he does too....
What did he mean by that
The best and smartest confession ever. How magical it is. Now, this movie is a spell
"Are you saying what I think you're saying?"
Elio swaying nervously and nodding his head shyly has left me all soft and mushy inside 😔 He's so precious 💕
His sentence "because I wanted you to know" comes back into my head again and again during my days.
One of the best 3 minutes on a cinema screen ever subtle but says everything you need to know
The use of Ravel's "Une Barque sur l'Océan" makes this scene so dreamy and languid. While I love the entire film, this has to be my favorite part. Sheer brilliance!
It´s interesting how it´s used the music in the movie as stated of mine of Elio´s. This piece represent the fascination of Elio´s about Oliver. It was innecesary to request a film composer, they used pre recorded music and had matched at perfection.
Mariano Sister so true although Stevens wrote two exquisite songs for it. And the other song of his which was included was perfect as well
Thank you for that, I was wondering what the name of the piece was! Very evocative.
The genius of James Ivory's script is that it doesn't sound written. It just sounds like two guys talking. Brilliant.
Absolutely agree. The conversation seemed so natural that the significance of the dialogue went over my head.
The dialogue in this scene follows the original scene in the book very closely. In fact many of the lines in the film are lifted directly from the book. Interestingly, some of them have been reworked into scenes that are different from the book, sometimes even spoken by different characters from the book, but the lines are identical, and it works really well both ways. Really interesting adaptation.
This movie makes me feel so young, full of hope, and filled with the promise of what young love, ANY love, brings. Just so pure before it EVER got complicated! What a wonderful time!
O: Why are you telling me this?
...
E: Cause I thought you should know.
O: Because you thought I should know?
E: Because I wanted you to know.
...
E: Because there's no one else I can say this to but you.
O: Are you saying what I think you're saying?
I am still amazed that Oliver understood what he saying.
I will never get tired of this movie watched it a lot of times already
The best piece of Armie's work. I could not like him more in any other movie. This was his master piece.
This literally my favourite scene. I still can’t get over this movie 😞
Elio have to tell him somehow ... back in the early 80's, well, it wasn't that easy to admit the attraction to someone who you might see as an ordinary friend! Oliver also is in denial of what he feels at that moment!
i think now it isn´t so easy,
Oliver had his life set on this on and off relationship he had back in the states but he met Elio and changed his life around. The hard part is what do you do with a summertime romance....and some people pursue it and other like Oliver just move on. Tough times
I love how the music just floats in and out of this scene. One of my favourites in this movie. Elio is such a sweet boy. He reminds me alot of myself when I was that age. If I was Oliver, I would take him in my arms and hug him forever.
I love that everytime i randomly feel the need to search up this movie again i find new people love it as well. Once you enter the CMBYN portal there’s no getting out ever
3 years later & im back again
U still feel the same after armies accusations? I’m asking of genuine curiosity?
@@alexcarlson4344 no, tell me what what happened! (Genuinely asking about the accusations)
How he repeats "I wanted you to know"
So romantic and tender and raw. Arrrgh this movie is so good ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
A moment of character development on Armie's part right at the conclusion of the scene 04:15 to the end. Right after telling Elio "we can't talk about those things" when Elio hops on his bike and begins to ride away, Oliver hesitates for a moment, just staring at nothing, trying to process what just happened and what it means. You can imagine him thinking to himself, "Now what do I do?" He is probably wondering whether he handled Elio's confession well or poorly. Then he snaps out of it when Elio calls, "Hey! Andiamo Americano!" It's a subtle moment, but shows us where Oliver's heart is now. And kudos to Armie for playing it so quietly and subtly.
words can’t describe how much i love this movie. it’s beautiful and amazing in so many ways
The whole atmosphere of this scene is just mesmerizing! While Elio leaves you can see Olivers internal struggle just before he jumps on his bike. And the beautiful music every time they are apart, so beautifully done! Can’t get enough of this movie, dammit.......
I think one of my favorite things about this movie is that we never hear them say “I love you”. We see it shown so clearly without words.
really in love with the soundtrack of this movie. the ravel in the background just makes this even more enchanting
The Portuguese have a word that isn’t translatable in English called Saudede, it’s a bittersweet feeling of nostalgia but even those words don’t explain it. This film took me right back to my youth, it’s the most beautiful film I’ve watched in over a decade, the residual feelings from the film float around with me for days afterwards. Simply stunning. This scene is life! So intelligent and real, so beautiful and poetic, full of nuances it’s amazing and takes me back to those delicate awkward feelings of first love
Can everyone please realise that this is one single shot, no cuts, nothing. Those are about 5 minutes and that’s not at all typical for movies. Amazing acting and amazing directing!
Also, I come here so often and I want to watch the movie again now but I also don’t want to cry?? Somebody help me ugh
"Because there's no one else I can say this to but you."
This makes so much sense after reading the book. I remember just trying to understand everything Elio thought when there was silence in the movie, but now that I've read the book, every little silence in the movie makes sense. It's full of thoughts, of repressed emotions. It has a flavor of its own.
You don't understand why- but at the moment you see Elio watching the top of the temple, *you just know* it's him imploring to whatever god there is for a chance with Oliver. This damn film just sneaks inbetween you, like flu.
This is what summer was like before cell phones, 500 channels, social media, and other timesucks of today. I miss those great summers where everybody was friends with everybody and parties where everyone was invited.
I could watch this movie everyday and I won't even complain
I love how poetic this scene was to take place in this monument depicting a battle. Love is a battlefield.
And how Elio peeked at at the church afterwards.
This scene, is just so….ridiculously effortlessly perfect
I love everything about this scene. Under the seemingly casual calm conversation, emotions run like waves of the ocean.
Ur pfp
I think I get obsessed with this movie, I watched for the first time in 2018 and still i can't get it out of my mind. I love everything in this film, music, photography, and the chemistry between Armie and Timothee is amazing.
I love the use of music in this scene; it is faint and doesn't overwhelm the conversation. Too many movies use music as a crutch, or to generate emotion, but CMBYN understands that it is the characters and the dialogue that grabs us.
You only hear the music when they are separated!
This master shot is one of the best scenes in the history of cinema. Each second is meticulously crafted like lace.
I love how ethereal the music is in this scene
Ravel providing
There’s so many little nuances in this scene. It’s truly masterful. There’s things I didn’t notice the first time I saw it, the delivery and body language of both actors is perfection.
This scene is a true masterpiece...all is perfect!
This one of the best movies ever made. Each and every actor's performance is just out of the world. The little things between elio and Oliver. I even read the book and the movie is a perfect visualisation of Andrew Aciman's call me by my name. Whose waiting for the sequel find me? I AM ❤️
The sequel has been canned, alas.
To me, the beauty of this movie lies in the fact that I didn't understand it at all when I first watched it. I could not wrap my head around why, everyone else loved it so much. Now, being a little older and actually in love everything about this movie comes to me very clearly. Sometimes you just need to change your perspective...
What a beautifully choreographed scene. I love the quiet, the slow pace, the shifts of emotion and the way the music weaves in and out. You can feel the heat inside and outside.
You say it as it is.
Just watched this movie today for the first time ever and I feel like watching it 20 trillion more times
It was just put on Netflix this month and I watched it for the 1st time on Timothée's birthday, without even knowing it... I couldn't watch it before because I did not have the opportunity. Plus when it was released, cinemas near me didn't have it (I live in a very bigoted area).
To say that my soul is amazed and thunderstruck in the deep core is an understatement.
@Esse who down below says he still doesn't understand this scene.
Elio is telling Oliver in a roundabout way that he likes him... saying it without really saying it. This is what their relationship has been like until this point: both of them interested in each other but neither of them openly saying so. Oliver has shown many clues that he likes Elio but Elio's response has been unclear and confusing, even rude sometimes. It finally gets to a point where Oliver is annoyed with Elio: "Just don't play at being the good host." Elio isn't mature enough to realize that his responses have been sending mixed signals to Oliver, but he is learning. Later that same day, he offers, "Truce?" and the two of them shake hands and get back on track.
So now when Elio openly says he doesn't know about the things that matter, he is admitting to Oliver that he doesn't know what he is doing or how to show what he really feels. Oliver has been confused about Elio to this point, and asks "Why are you telling me this?" Elio's first response is almost but not quite the truth: "Because I thought you should know." Oliver repeats it back as a question, as if to ask Elio to be clearer about what he means, and at first Elio answers with another question: "Because I wanted you to know?" ("Is this the right answer?") Oliver still doesn't respond, and so Elio says it again but as an affirmative statement: "Because I wanted you to know." And repeats it again, more confidently: "Because I wanted you to know." It took him a few tries but he finally got it right and he is being honest and vulnerable now. In effect Elio is telling Oliver "I might be smart in a lot of other ways, but I don't know how to show you that I like you, and I need you to take the lead and show me how to do it."
Oliver is still not sure, and so he asks, "Are you saying what I think you're saying?" Elio answers silently with a nod of his head. He is new to adult and sexual relationships. As a guest in their summer home, this now puts Oliver in a tricky and awkward situation, and he says "We can't talk about those kinds of things, we just can't." In the next few scenes we see how Elio tries to show, even inappropriately at times, that he likes Oliver in a physical, sexual way. Oliver's response is, "You are making this very difficult for me." But Oliver understands now, so he continues to take it slowly and carefully until he finally has to tell Elio to "Grow up. Meet me at midnight."
So in this scene at the monument, Oliver has come to realize Elio is naive and inexperienced, and he has to take things carefully and patiently at Elio's pace. This is a turning point in how they will relate to each other through the remainder of their time together. What Elio is not prepared for, and what Oliver cannot teach him, is the pain that awaits at their inevitable separation. Oliver can't help him with that, nor can he prevent it from happening. Elio will have to experience that for himself, and on his own. Fortunately he has understanding parents who will be there for him. As Oliver tells him later on the phone, "You are so lucky..."
The beauty of this movie is that the script does not spell this all out in words. It shows us what is happening between these two without saying it out loud, in the same way Oliver and Elio relate to each other. It is up to us, the audience, to figure it out on our own, the same way Oliver and Elio have to figure out their relationship. The movie is not going to explain it for us; it is enough to show us the important moments and it trusts us to put the in-between pieces together.
Perfect analysis. Spot on.
"You know I'm not going anywhere ..." oh god ♥️
The book actually described this comment as an affirmation of total and eternal devotion Elio felt towards Oliver. What a classic piece of literature
The moment you remind yourself whenever a character says 'I know nothing' that a love scene is coming
This film is beautifull it will go down in cinematic archives to be watched by future generation
The most elaborate and subtle way to say I love you, I want you, please be mine...
I always try not to watch any thing related to this movie but it pulls me again and again, always leaves me crying for hours.
I just finished watching it and now! I AM IN TRAUMA AND CANT GET OVER HOW THIS MOVIE WOUNDED ME IN ALL POSSIBLE WAYS
Same. I felt extremely empty and hurt at the end
One of my favorite scenes !
I remember watching this scene and wondering if all of this happened in one take, and I watched it again and found out that it was. The camera movement is so smooth and natural, I love it.
"I thought you should know... " Indeed, he should have won the Oscar. He played coming of age - and coming to terms with being gay - so beautifully. What a wonderful performance.
One thing important to notice about this scene is that they’re talking on opposite sides of this event/memorial site of an intense war. They’re on opposite sides of a war; a war of love. Wondering whether to keep fighting their urges or surrender to each other. And they keep walking and walking around this war until they finally come together.
I loved this scene. This movie was so beautiful visually, musically and emotionally. I will never get over it.
I haven’t watched the movie yet but I know I will cry heavily because I already relate to so much of this relationship and situation with my own story. I connect a lot with both characters (especially elio) and how they weren’t able to find words to express how much they loved each other or tell them how they truly felt when things started to become distant in ways, but did show their true love through ways of actions and emotions.
This is a sign to let go of any repressed emotions or feelings your scared to show. Set them free and let yourself be open to expression and communication and open to love, fully. Apologetically for the people you love and for your own sake + peace of mind! Tell people how you feel when you feel it!! Even when it terrifying, it’s such a beautiful and raw feeling to allow yourself to be open.
I’m happy that I am open to a lot now and that I know and understand so much more than before, I now appreciate how love is infinite, even when things aren’t “forever” if that makes sense. But also how things don’t have to make sense, some things just are. And love will always be. You will find that love within and with another!! And hopefully be as inspired as I was with my own story, like this movie reminds you to; express your love fully in the moment when you can. Take the chances and risks to follow what you truly want & what you’re passionate towards or what you care for, even when it’s unknown or uncomfortable to let go of any attachments or doubts/self sabotage. You can do it. I believe in you…
I will always believe in us. In our infinite and everlasting, growing love. It will truly always inspire me in everything I do. I know it will for you too.
Phenomenal!
The power of dialogue and filming - it made me feel there, it made hold my breath, it made me blink every third time.
Une des scènes les plus fabuleuses, les textes, les silences tout est dit de façon si intelligente ! Quel courage il faut pour avouer ce genre de sentiments "interdit "... Quels fabuleux acteurs et metteur en scène .....
Such a beautiful, well-crafted scene! So dream-like and ethereal, like the rest of the film.
To add to everything else, the beauty of Armi as Oliver and Timmy and Elio. They each were meant to play these roles. They're so perfect and natural together.
And oe of the happy coincidences is that the character Oliver is a professor at Columbia University, and actor Timmy (Elio) actually was accepted into Columbia University and attended there a year before transferring.
my favorite thing about this scene was the nod. what he said to oliver was bold and mature but the nod was so childlike and just made me want to smile. this scene was extremely well explained.
This scene says so much by saying so little. It's so perfect.
I love how the music starts playing Everytime Oliver leaves or when they're apart in this scene
Love how the music is used in this scene. Its only played when Elio is alone in the scene, as if to give us an idea of the rush of emotions he feels and thinks about Oliver. So well done
Tyler MacCormack It’s small excerpts from the third piece of Maurice Ravel’s “Miroirs”.
still so amazed by the beauty of this film
this movie is enchanting and
beautifully executed, the characters effortlessly invokes romance and the dialogue is subtle yet profound. this movie is magical at its best
my oliver...Gosh. He was so perfect to me, I truly loved him. I'll never get over him. Imagine if Elio only saw Oliver in fleeting moments after these 6 weeks. That's how it is for me. It will always hurt me, rip me into shreds that I'll never be able to pick up again. I get physical pain whenever I see him once every three months for events me and his daughter share. He truly breaks my heart everytime.