Hey everyone, thanks for watching. I just wanted to jump in and respond in this pinned comment to a beef some of you seem to be having with my interpretation of the ending! Particularly what the "Does mom know?" refers to. One of my favourite things about art is that you can interpret it any way you like and that any way you interpret it is (in my view) inherently valuable because that's how you experienced it. And the ending of CMBYN is no different. Watch André Aciman - author of the novel - talk about the film's ending. He talks about how the way I interpreted it in this video is completely different - but potentially better - than the way he intended when writing the book: ruclips.net/video/mObuAkTOG_A/видео.html. A fascinating insight into Reader Response - this was THE most pivotal scene in the film for me, and it remains totally ambiguous. Also, one reason I interpreted the scene this way was because I thought there was no way the mom wouldn't know what was going on between Elio & Oliver. From the start of the film she seemed more clued in than Elio's father did. She was encouraging Elio to warm up to Oliver and become friends because she sensed a connection. And you can't really watch this car scene at 9:01 of this video and think that she didn't know how much Oliver meant to Elio. Plus she obviously knows what's going on at the phone call scene at 11:14 - she is the one who suggests Oliver get some time to talk to Elio alone. So for me, Guadagnino took that ambiguous line in the books and encourages the interpretation of "does mom know?" where it refers to Mr Perlman's previous relationship and sexuality - particularly because Elio asks just after Mr Perlman reveals it. There's also the interpretation made by Charles Barber in the comments which sees Mr Perlman lie to his son about the mom's knowledge of Elio's and Oliver's relationship. This is not how I saw it when I watched the film but it is an equally poetic and interesting take. The best thing about this film is its subtelty and ambiguity - so feel free to interpret any and every way you want. That's the beauty of it ❤️
I haven't read the book, but I always thought it was obvious that Elio was asking his father if his mom knew that he [the dad] was gay/bi and had a prior relationship with a man. Am I completely off for thinking that?
The quote below from p. 225 of the English softcover edition of CMBYN (in "Ghost Spots") seems to contradict Aciman's later words regarding the nature of Professor Perlman's remarks to Elio about his own earlier relationship experiences: "We said good night. On my way upstairs I vowed to ask him about his life. We'd all heard about his women when he was young, but I'd never even had an inkling of anything else. Was my father someone else? And if he was someone else, who was I?"
Ok, I scrolled through the comments before watching the video and I do need to reply to this rn so I'm sorry if I'm disclosing sm that has been said already I love this movie with all my heart, but this specific thing annoys me so much and here's why: in the book the mom is not really a prevalent character. There is another character (a young kid) that has the role of being Oliver's friend and she does kinda pushes them together. In the movies they used the mom character for this, so for the viewer it's obvious she knows (and we expect Elio and the Dad to know it as well from their interactions) With that in mind in the book I had the idea that Elio asks if she knows about Oliver, I don't think that the other possibility is even fitting (also there's a 2nd book -wich I have not read- about the relationship the dad had and it was with a woman) I remember reading the movie script for this scene and when the dad answers it was something along the lines: "I don't think so" and the dad looks at Elio as to say - but if she did I'm sure that her feelings wouldn't differ from mine- So it gets even more confusing for me Honestly I do believe it's either an unintencional plot hole or Lucca simply didn't wanna alter this specific scene from the book (because it's so touching and beautiful) and accepted that it wouldn't make 100% of sense I'll look for the script just to be sure of what I'm saying, but in conclusion Elio is indeed asking if mom knows about him and Oliver.
Yes but mine alway hurt for Oliver. Elio going to be fine he has a loving family who know and accepts him. More importantly he knows and accepts himself. He’s not going in to a loveless marriage with a woman. Oliver is older buts he’s actually behind Elio.
This movie felt like a fleeting memory, it's vivid but blurry at the same time. It's slow and patient but it feels like seconds when you look back. It's bittersweet The fact that the director managed to make us feel that through the cinematography is so impressive. It's "show, don't tell" to it's highest exponent. He manages to tell a story that would sound so boring on paper on a masterpiece by highlighting the little details, and mainly, the character's internal thoughts. As this movie after all is the mental struggle of two men finding parts of themselves they'd never seen before.
No one's talking about how tailor-made Sufjan Stevens songs to this masterpiece. I mean, we can't deny the impact of his art to the film; especially on the ending scene, Visions of Gideon.
I totally agree. Whenever I have the craving of a serene yet painful feeling that call me by your name gives, I listen to Sufjan Stevens and the scenes automatically replays in my head. It's unbelievably well-fitted.
It’s not about how entertaining the film was to watch for the first time. It’s the impact it had on my heart once the screen turned black. It felt as if I’ve lived through everything myself. Lucas has given the viewer enough time to form a close relationship with both of them, resulting in the most painful heartbreak.
so true! the whole movie gave me this indescribable mood it reminded me of something I never even experienced. I guess a lot of people wouldn’t like this movie because the storyline is not as “exciting” as in movies like spiderman or whatever but to me it’s my favorite movie because of how it made me feel
I couldn't get invested in the heartbreak because Oliver is such a piece of shit. And Elio is too if you think about the movie from the perspective of Marzia. And yeah doesn't help that Oliver goes for the underage boy... idk but why is nobody commenting on how inappropriate it is.
@@piperfree4271 Oliver is scared of what society will say about his relationship with a man so he marries a woman. Elio didn't know for sure he's not into women at that time when he dates Marzia. I think he "tried to be hetero" because it was the easier way to live in the 80's. Also Elio is 17 and Oliver 24? So it's really not that bad.
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare870117 was considered an adult at the time and place, and the whole point was to compare the maturity differences leading to why the relationship wouldn't work anyway
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701 ah yes gotta love when someone thinks dating a 17 yo can be considered pedophilia 🤡 17 yo is not a prepubescent child (which is a requirement to be pedophilia just so you know)
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701CMBYN is one of the realest depictions of love I’ve ever seen and since this film ends in heartbreak it in no one endorses this type of relationship
Honestly, Call me by your name is such a subtle story, not much happens, but you can just *feel* it without many words or drama… Thats peak cinematography tbh. I have nothing against movies or shows that are pretty explicit, but works like this are just on another level, you can truly feel and experience everything that characters did
my favorite part about the movie ( and i feel like the source of what makes someone love or hate the movie) is how much they don’t say. like everything is communicated through touch and looks, rarely do they ever say what they feel in explicit words, which i love cuz you as the viewer have to actually figure out and piece together what it all potentially means. i think it’s gorgeous. i love it. it speaks a lot louder to me than words do (in this movie! sometimes how people speak is also my favorite haha)
@@kenzibrown8076 This!! I told my friend about this. About just how little speaking is done, it’s through non-verbal cues that the important stuff happens. And for that reason people will hate it or love it. If you aren’t one to pay attention to fine details…the story will slip through and you’ll be bored. But in my opinion, it’s a damn near-perfect work of art. This story broke my heart because of how WELL Chalamet embodies the teenage spirit through love and heartbreak w/out the use of words (bc like you) it speaks far more to me than words.
Yes! When I watched the video I truly felt the feeling of being in love and it lasted for at least two weeks. I was obsessed! I watched it sooo many times when it came out. And tbh I've never felt so in love with a real person as I was when watching elio falling in love. That is amazing, because it showed me all the possibilities of love within myself!
omg same. and is an actual felling. the song was added to my playlist and I had not listen to it in a long time and as the video played, all of the weird feelings just came back so fast.
that feeling of emptiness after i finished this movie, it’ll never be the same as the first time but it’s the close to the same for me whenever i hear that song
I am a straight male and never thought I would watch a film like this. But I had heard nothing but great things about this movie so, being a lover of cinema, I finally watched it for the first time tonight. I am awestruck. This movie just GETS what infatuation and strong romance FEELS like, in film form. Everything from the direction, the performances, the cinematography, the musical score, the sounds of nature in the countryside, this movie just feels so dreamlike and yet, everything feels so real. So raw. So powerful. This movie just highlights how low effort most of the romance films are today. It’s been hours since the end credits rolled and I’m STILL thinking about this film. Bravo to all involved in getting this film to the cinemas.
This is exactly how I felt when I finally gave it a watch. The music, the ambient sounds, the way they talk, the laughter. I like the way it makes me feel in it's totality
The seasonal fruit silently shows time passing too. In the book, which is broken into parts, apricots, peaches, and figs are featured in order. Apricots are ripe in June, and not for long. It’s an early sign of summer, but one that is really relished. Peaches are the height of summer. And figs, ripening all summer long, are an anticipated but almost forlorn fruit. By the time they ripen, summer is closing. They’re delicious, but sad. In Italy and in my Italian family in America, the seasons of produce silently capture the associated feelings of times during the year. In the book, which I read after I saw the movie, when I realized this, it added this weight to my heart. No, they’re eating figs in Roma; the end is near.
I didn't realize that so many people interpreted the father's monologue as his coming out to his son as queer. I always read it as simply a giving away of one's self to love. How he never allowed himself to "throw caution to the wind" and feel emotions to their fullest extent because of his fear of pain. I can definitely see this as a specifically queer feeling, but I also think it's universal for people to fear feeling. As someone who never puts myself out there, that's what touched me, beyond my viewpoint as a queer person. This film inspires me to investigate myself and express what I find.
i feel the same way. up until this point i never even thought that his father was gay. that conversation to me was never about the dad being queer, at least to me!
I actually think the writer of the original book said that the movie misses some lines of it that would contextualize and make it more clear what the father means, in the movie is more open to interpretation, but in the book it's clear that 'Does mom know?' refers to if the mother knows about Elio and Oliver's relationship, not that his father once almost had a similar relationship with another man
That ending father-son moment makes me cry every time. It reminds me of something my mother told me after my boyfriend broke up with me when I was 22, she said that she wishes she had loved someone as deeply as I loved my ex. She doesn't think she ever opened herself up as much as I had in that relationship. Its crazy to think about the depth of love and how everyone's is different.
I love The analogy that a love affair or relationship is like reading a great book. When the book ends, you’re not angry, you might be sad it’s over, but you enjoyed it, cherished it, and learned from it. I think we make too much of heartbreak in that we make it a pure tragedy, but it’s also such a humanizing experience. When I first had my heart really broken, part of me was aware of tapping into something that has inspired so many songs, and poems and great works of art. It also makes you feel ALIVE if you really let yourself feel it. Still sad and hurt and humiliated, but alive and feeling. Better to have loved and lost...
I love it, that scene made me cry uncontrollably, Elio's father's words were translating exactly, (putting into words, in a way that makes "actually" makes sense, instead of something simply felt) the reason as to why, even after a (naturally painful) break up with the person i was with, i didn't feel sad that it had happened, the way it happened, or sad that i allowed someone to clearly hurt me, that i gave my love to someone that "didn't want it", or something like that, i was happy that i had felt the *joy* of the love that i lived, that what sprouted out of pondered love couldn't possibly be something bad in itself, though we like to be loved reciprocally, that's not why i was in love in the first place. Before i was afraid of making mistakes, i was eager to do fight, to mend. That me and her had a cause so great, that we didn't tire in our fight, how could i ever feel anger at her, if i trusted that her mistakes, were just mistakes, the same for mine...
But, it seems everyone is also the same. Falling into love that ends prematurely is unbearable. But honestly showing love for as long as the heart needs without fear or regret, before leaving filled with gratitude and compassion is entirely different.
I kinda hate you for bringing back the emptiness I felt after watching this film. I felt so hollow: to make you experience CMBYN's world so vividly and take it away so abruptly is just cruel. You're just left with tiny shards of memories; hoping the fire that once burned so passionately, now reduced to embers, can soothe the longing you feel. The air that once scorched your skin made you shiver as it turned into a bone-chilling breeze. At least that's what it felt like when the movie began in Summer and ended in Winter. A tragic end to a utopia is so contrasting it makes you feel numb. I didn't know movie reviews can make you cry - I didn't know that I'd cry! But I love this so much. I subscribed because I'll surely be waiting for your next videos.
That's because that's what heart breaks are... When ur in love u feel like the world is pink and beautiful all around but it's not... U appreciate the beauty of the world around because u are in love... Every detail now stuck in your head... The beautiful Utopia but that's because u are in love and the creators wanted u to feel what they felt and that's how this movie is amazing but also to remind u of ur first love when u were a teen and young and naive ... The movie could've ended w tragedy but actually was just heart break but hey there could be part 2 where Oliver comes back 5yrs later n divorces his wife but Elio already has moved on and now lives w his new boyfriend and is happy... Their parents sold their house and now is used as a hotel... So Oliver stays where Elio lived once ...
This movie hit me really hard being set in 1983, because I toured Europe as a young 17yo boy/man for five weeks in 1982 and met the love of my life during that trip. The hetero-normative society and its ever-present phobic anxieties mentioned in the video, which were all too present in my upbringing, kept me from telling him but 40 years later as a married man with kids I doubt a week goes by without me reminiscing about him and our time together on that magical vacation.
it hits me the same way, only I wasn't in Europe, I was in college in the late 1980s-riding bikes along Lake Michigan, going on trips to Chicago. I did eventually tell him how I felt, and he felt the same way. By that time he had married a woman and had two young kids. Sadly, I found out he passed away quickly from pancreatic cancer, so what "could have been" never was. That is another reason it is almost too difficult to watch this movie as much as I love it.
when you were talking about the dirty used clothing, you show clips of oliver’s swimsuits. in the book elio describes the different color swimsuits as oliver’s different moods and how he’s feeling. “He had, it took me a while to realize, four personalities depending on which bathing suit he was wearing. Knowing which to expect gave me the illusion of a slight advantage. Red: bold, set in his ways, very grown-up, almost gruff and ill-tempered-stay away. Yellow: sprightly, buoyant, funny, not without barbs-don’t give in too easily; might turn to red in no time. Green, which he seldom wore: acquiescent, eager to learn, eager to speak, sunny-why wasn’t he always like this? Blue: the afternoon he stepped into my room from the balcony, the day he massaged my shoulder, or when he picked up my glass and placed it right next to me.”- quote from the book. also just shows the cinematography that luca showed
@@HAPPY-ev4kx Blue: the afternoon he stepped into my room from the balcony, the day he massaged my shoulders, or when he picked up a glass and place it right next to me.
This movie made me feel things I've never felt before. It just seemed magical and like fine art. The way he directed it and the way Timothy portrayed the character. Never seen anything that has touched me like this. Everything feels magical, and like you've experienced it all with them. Somehow. And now this video reminded me and I am once again close to tearing up. Fuck
Also because it's too perfect that it's near impossible to recreate it today... Why because there's technology like phones... What ofcoarse u can also do en experiment and not use them while u are away except to call or text back home... I would love to have a summer romance in Italy or France why not... Italian and french boys are flirts and beautiful
He directed this so beautifully. It feels like you’re watching someone else’s memories, especially when there are long scenes where the camera is placed a bit away from the people. It really makes it feel like your watching something personal.
You can really see the juxtaposition of cold and warmth in that last scene in front of the fireplace. The snow in the background together with the desaturated, blue colored effect evokes what we associate with winter, while the warm colored light reflected to Elio's face by the fire creates that warm feeling that the associate with summer. This shot really demonstrates the contrast between the two seaons. For Elio, the winter represents the end of summer, coldness, loneliness and heartbreak, whereas the summer represents warmth and love. And in the middle of winter, there he is longing for the summer, knowing that he'll never have it again.
Not with Oliver, anyway. I like to think that Elio finds someone later on down the road, someone more mature and ready to embrace to his own queerness.
Words can’t actually describe how this movie moved me. Every time I watch it, it’s like I’m watching it for the first time again. I feel SO much in every single scene and I think that’s due to what you mentioned on how you can feel the movie through not only the visuals but the sounds. Top 3 fav movies EVER. I’m so happy I got to see this movie while I was alive lmao. (Also lets not even mention the soundtrack bc the music alone is another entire masterpiece)
@@ronniemonae1809 well I feel like I’m gonna disappoint you because my other 2 fav movies are coraline and beetlejuice and im pretty sure half the globe has seen them haha
Lucky you! I wish could back to the first time that I've watched this movie. I can't explain what I felt and immediately watched again. I also feel very happy too have seen this movie in my life lol
i agree. i finally listened to the book and i was sad to say it didn’t move me in the same way and i that’s bc without the music and actual scenery i can’t feel all the emotions not to mention the acting is among the best!!
So I went to Crema, Italy where the movie was shot. The hype had died down so the town was quiet. I actually needed a bike to get around. I spent two days there exploring the scene locations. For example, the spring fountain was surprisingly beautiful with super chilly water. The whole visit was serene, wholesome, and effing hot. Loved every second of it :)
it feels really good to watch a movie review that’s appreciative of this film. it’s definitely healthy and appropriate to be aware of the controversies surrounding this movie, but i think people often forget just how well-made and, simply, beautiful this movie is.
The controversies around this movie are stupid because eliot was 17 so, he was over the age of concent in Italy anyways, and oliver was only 24 is not like he was 60.
I'm sorry but I'm not even 17 I'm 18 and I'd still be a little weirded out if a 24 yo was coming on to me tbh. It does seem like a good movie but I don't get why their age gap had to be so big
@@whatcanidooo But Elio was not weirded out, it was more the opposite, so that point doesn't really matter. Oliver is a grad student (which makes sense for the character to be staying with the Perlman's), and 24 is most commonly the youngest age to be a grad student. Elio is the oldest age on average that kids are still living with their parents. Having a closer age gap would have made the story much less controversial but the gap in the book/movie makes sense for the plot.
It's so INCREDIBLY moving to me to read the comments on how this film deeply moved so many people...people like me. There has been so much praise written, but there are just so many elements of subtle perfection, the actors make you feel as if you are on this trip of forbidden love with them. The ache between them is palpable. This movie will always take me back to college in the late 1980s, when I fell in love almost exactly like Elio. And there was so much wasted time. So many things that were left unsaid. Years later (also like Elio and Oliver), I learned he felt the same way....but by that time was married to a woman and had a family. He passed away suddenly and very quickly from pancreatic cancer about 3 years ago, but at least we finally were able to be open and honest with each other about our incredible feelings back then (and in the present). I cannot watch this film without getting a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes .. remembering so many similar summer days spent together before cell phones riding bikes and going swimming, desperately wanting to say things that wouldn't be said until we were in our 40s. Like Elio's father says in the speech: when you are young you think that you have forever to sort your feelings out, but you don't. I truly wish someone had given me that speech.
Thank you, WinterSoldier, for sharing your experience. Real love - the one that deeply changes us - is so alien to societies as they exist, that they do everything to make it impossible, including moralising with what théy call ethics. If they did not, love would change thém, and that they cannot permit. To paraphrase the author of this great little visual essay: Elio is surrounded, as in Utopia, by a society that does everything nót to stand in the way of the discovery of self and other by two human beings; a society that allows them to be the “other” key to themselves. Then, genuine love, by transforming us, may encourage us to transform “our” part of that society a little, as if in return. And more importantly: it gives to our hearts the power to stay alive, even while our bodies are gradually giving up.
You are absulutly correct that is exactly what m movie is about, In the book, the time factor is even more reinforced as being the main archenemy of the heart, and how life can be wasted ... books go into their 40s and makes it even more depressing to see how much time they lost, and instead of spending it together, they spent it a longing for each other their entire lives!
Wow, I cannot believe what you went through. I hope you find your peace! I fell madly in love too but it was unrequited. It was very painful but I still tried to love as much as I could while hurting at the same time. I realized that maybe we can’t be together but I can allow myself to love freely as a friend. I tried to be the best friend I could ever be, offer support and my care. It hurt so much to hear the words of Elio’s father about running time and me realizing that I never have been in love and loved by someone else (who is not a family member) at the same time. And that seems to me like an impossible dream. Wishing you all the best out there and, once again, hope you find your peace.
I'm a very sensitive person. I always pay the most attention in films to the sounds and how they wrap around each scene or character's expressions. Call Me by Your Name is the perfect summer where nature, sounds in the house or by the water play the biggest part. You can hear every detail of movement or sigh. When it gets dark the only thing you hear is wild animals. I don't know of a better film with such a sonorous background.
Yeh if you read the sequel, which I wouldn't recommend because it's not great.. but the Dad is definitely not queer, or at least there's no indication of it. There's a lot of his POV in that book.
In the books, Elio's father is not talking about a man, but a woman he loved. She had a boyfriend at the time, so did him. They finally went together on a night, but after that, they never met again, and he loved her untill the last of his days. It's tragic, because the thing that holded him back was himself, and the things that standed on the way, was the life itself. He is an awesome character, and the kind of dad that everyone wants. Excellent video, man, I think I'll see more of your work.
I don't remember the above poster's narrative from either of the books, but it is true that Mr. Perlman had a new relationship with a woman after the divorce. Still, I think that the OP's interpretation makes much more sense given what is said and shown in the film.
The author André Aciman has stated when he wrote the book he didn’t mean to imply Elio’s father was talking about a man he wasn’t thinking about it but in the movie they did with the exact same words and he preferred that meaning so yes.. both the movie and now the author both say that when he was younger Mr Perlman almost had a love affair with a man but was held back
Something about this movie just makes me feel ALIVE. It’s almost like I was able to watch the movie through elios eyes, as if I were him living in every scene and every moment. It made me feel as if though I too experienced a love so innocent and pure. The wind rustling through the dry grass as we ride our bikes down the trail, foraging our never ending love growing deeper and deeper. You feel his anxious demeanor as he realizes his feelings are something way bigger. VIVIDLY, your able to feel his pain, his drive and his love, something so rare with films. Not to mention the music, sufjan helped create this image where you as the viewer were brought back to your moment of falling in love for the very first time. The love of the innocents and inexperienced, the love that BREAKS YOU APART, but makes you feel so whole and together. Bittersweetness. I’ll never get over this film. Ever. Not only as a gay man but just feeling so seen and included.
i think it's so interesting that when Oliver asks Elio what he does all day he answers with "wait for summer to end" and Oliver responds with "then wait for winter to be over?" I love that this shows they've yet to develop a relationship. they don't realise how precious their time together is yet until its too late.
I first saw CMBYN at a basically empty showing at the cinema I worked at in dec ‘17, and the sensuality of the film was utterly mesmerising. The theatre was so empty that it felt so intimate between myself and the film. I then saw it a month later (after the oscar nomination) at a sold out showing (~400 people in the theatre) and the atmosphere was completely different. Whilst I understand the criticisms of the film, I can’t help but marvel at the film making. It is so tangible. This was a wonderful analysis!
This movie changed me, it brought a feeling to me that I didn’t know a movie could. Every part of it was done amazingly. The last minutes of Elio sitting in front of the fire felt so long as he cried. This was a poetic masterpiece.
This movie is the only thing that can give me that ‘endless summer’ feeling from when I was younger. Not particularly the story of course, but the over all vibes of this movie is just pure summer. I actually got to visit one of the filming locations last week and it was amazing.
Excellent, insightful and, yes, a poetic examination of an exquisite film. When Oliver is coming downstairs and pauses, what he touches is (I believe) a dyed wall hanging made of heavy suede-like material... something almost skin-like in texture, which amps the sensuality further. Something which I loved was the way Guadagnino made the house itself a character in the story, especially through the soundscape - a quietly walking Elio accompanied by the breathing beat of the banging shutter was magical.
Yes exactly! The production and costume designers on this film were also amazing in creating all of that, and the wind blowing through the house....so good. Thanks for watching again!
One scene that struck me, that you didn't mention, was where the 2 men ride their bikes into the frame and proceed down that path through a grassy field. The camera held that shot for a much longer time than you would expect, so long that the 2 riders are barely visible in the distance. I found myself wondering why is this scene still going, and then noticed that I could feel the sweltering heat, squinting in the hazy sunshine, and hearing the buzzing of insects in the field. Finally the 2 reappear from behind a bush and the scene ends. Holding that frame so long while nothing was happening gave the viewer time to put himself into the location as if he was actually there.
@@marcustranfilm I posted this in a separate comment, but I'm not sure RUclips notified you, so I'll paste it here... I strongly object to your beginning your description with the terms "'borderline pedophilic' and potentially abusive", even though you disagree with them. It is either pedophilic or it is not. Young adults who are over the age of consent (on BOTH sides of the Atlantic!) are entitled to have relationships without being called "borderline" anything. Also, relationships are either abusive or they are not. This one is not abusive, and that's that. I also object to the line, "I know there are many who disagree." There are a FEW who disagree, a tiny minority. Nearly all of them are ignorant Americans who believe that the age of consent is 18 in all US states, when actually the most common age of consent in US states is 16. Please check this fact. (Hence Dirty Dancing, featuring a 17yo female and a 25yo male, took place in New York State.) The ignorance of these few people does not deserve to be acknowledged and given respect, or even mentioned, at the top of your description. P.S. As well as Dirty Dancing, notice also that the biggest romance of all time, Titanic, features a 17yo female engaged to be married to a 30yo male. None of the transatlantic passengers object, because that is perfectly legal. Both these age gaps are smaller than here (17 and 24). The only advantage those relationships have is that they are opposite-sex. STOP giving respect to ignorant or misinformed people. You should delete those lines from your description. Otherwise, anything you said in your video is irrelevant. Disliked and unsubscribed.
I absolutely love this movie. To me it reflects the silence of summer. It can be fun and exciting but it is also stiflingly hot and the crickets are annoyingly loud and the movie balances both in away that feels so nostalgic. This movie makes me feel like im bathing in sunlight but the grass is itchy and dry I miss when summers really felt like this.
Ikr every time I hear the one of those songs I just get immediate flash backs to when I first watched the movie and it makes me want to burst into tears
The first time I saw this film, it just felt so real and it was so strong that I have watched it during 3 days. And every time I was watching it, I was always crying during its entirety. It was making me feel so bad, but I couldn't explain why exactly. Since now, when I watch this movie I still have this strong and sorrowful feeling of nostalgia for something that actually never happened to me. (sorry for my english)
@@eduardochavacano boring 🤣 love how you just told everyone publicly that you don’t have enough emotional intelligence, experience with love or empathy or understanding of art to get what the movie’s about
I feel like a reason that this movie is so captivating aside from the fact that is is gorgeous and has great music is how relateble it is. There is no dramatic villain, no relationship one side is on etc, but you just watch 2 people fall in love despite their trepidations or fears
Yes, in the novel, "does mom know?" clearly refers to Elio and Oliver, from the context of what they were talking about. This question sounds rather absurd in the movie because his mother had just picked him up at the station and saw him cry and you can tell she knows. So this extra scene and some tweaks in the monologue/dialogue between father and Elio make the question "does mom know?" acquire a different meaning.
@@zakaryan2004 No, I haven't. But according to what I see in the movie I can tell it wasn't about elio and Oliver because its elio's mom who asks her husband to send both of them on a trip also in the movie she tells and asks elio " You like oliver? Oliver likes you too! ".
The engagement of the senses in this movie is very relaxing. This is one of those movies that doesn't feel like a movie. It feels like you're just watching people live their lives.
Everytime i watch this movie i end up crying in my bed in a panic attack, the ex that i loved the most and i watched the movie for the first time together and we identify in a certain way with the characters, making us take it as our movie. Once we were done, I remember watching this movie alone and the emptiness I felt was terrible, it depresses me every time I watch it, but I still love the art of this film and I love the stage atmosphere. Literally a masterpiece.
i hope you’ll recover from this bad breakup. please know that you have the capacity to hold yourself at times when other people can’t. sending lots of love 💙
My bf and I have a strange relationship, but we just watched this movie for the first time yesterday and we were both crying by the end. I hope you’re doing better.
This essay is the exact feelings I have about cmbyn and the whole backlash thing. I think some people were quick to judge and didn't really get the messages this movie was sending out. Either way, I still love it and I love this essay. Thank you!!
Beautifully done film and review. But I am not certain that Oliver loves Elio in the 'majestic' way assumed here. Oliver is maybe bisexual, considerably older than Elio who is an attractive adolescent and the aggresive seducer in the duo. One time sex does not a lifelong romance make. CMBYN is study in adolescent infatuation (which we know can be BREATHTAKING and unnerving); Elio could very well be passing through a phase and wind up in his adulthood a sensitive, heterosexual man who had an 'enriched' youth. Such is life's possibilities.
@@rogercarroll2551 it can be true but it also could be that he discovered that he was homosexual ( he was probably bisexual as well I guess). Some people state that Elio was innocent but i don't think so - he was a little bit of "dirty Diana" because he was with the girl first ( as a revenge on Oliver)and later with Oliver so not so innocent....
I've never heard of that, will definitely take a look! Legitimately one of the best things about creating this channel has been all the film/show recommendations from everyone. So keep it up!
@@marcustranfilm I second t6hat suggestion. God's Own Country has breath-taking cinematography, and one of the greatest senses of place I have ever seen. As CMBYN has the feel of an idyllic location in Italy, GOC has the feel of a stifled, remote sparsely populated location in Yorkshire. In many ways the lead is slmost the polar opposite of Elio. This was a far less well-known film than CMBYN and is probably a great deal less inviting to non-gay people. But to me, it is also a masterwork.
I couldn't believe that this was only your SECOND video on RUclips! This looks and feels like a professionally produced review. The writing is very good and the narration is topnotch. I LOVE your voice! You've got a new subscriber here!
This film is a masterpiece. Even apart from Chalamet’s extraordinary performance, everyone was perfect. Michael Stuhlbarg, Amira Casar, Esther Gerell, and especially Armie Hammer! It was just such beautiful and very subtle storytelling. Everything was flawless. The cinematography, the soundtrack, the screenplay, literally everything. It’s just a masterpiece. Timothee Chalamet is so damn lucky to work with Luca and have THIS film out of every indie film being made, be the one that makes him a breakout star. I mean imagine how many amazing Indie films are made and how many actors are working, and then this film comes along with such a visionary director and such a meaty script for Timothee to become world wide famous and skyrocket his career to superstardom. It’s like a once in a generation thing. The kid is kissed by the angels. This film is a literal emotion. I only wait for the summers, or even the occasional winter, to view it in its entirety. You just can’t cut away from the feeling
Armie Hammer was too bland and stoic in this role - his voice sounded like to was dubbed over. He's supposed to be a 27 year old student but acts and delivers his lines like a middle aged clergyman
Wow wow wow. Just WOW. Even tho i watched CMBYN many many times and read the book 2 times, your thoughts in the video are incredibly empathic . Such a different POV. Thank you for sharing!
The way you connected the last scene with the fire to the summer's heat blew my mind, I love how even though I watched this movie so many times you've given me a new and beautiful perspective to some of my favorite scenes
I knew from the first minutes I started watching Call Me by Your Name that it was going to be poetic. The way that everything is shown to the viewer is so subtle and romantic, in a way that rarely ever happens. It's the kind of movie that makes you wish you could create your own work of art that meaningful
Excellent once again! You really made me “see” this film in a new way. The thing that made me notice the tactile elements in this movie was the way all the characters interacted physically. So much touching, most of it not at all sexual. Great work! I’m looking forward to your next video.
Yeah I didn't have too much of the touching between characters in this video because a lot of Romances have characters touching and so it's not instantly recognisable as a unique feature of Call Me By Your Name; but you're right, the touching between characters in this film really is a cut above the rest. Thanks for watching :)
This is a film that will stay in my heart forever, and honestly, no matter how often I play it, each time feels as fresh and healing almost. I tend to notice more and more details that I might have missed before, so every time watching it, I still see something new within. It's truly a precious masterpiece that totally won my heart over.. Even the way the family is so heartwarmingly welcome to everyone, it reminds me of how beautiful human beings can get along with eachother and it motivates me to be so much more kind and spread positivity rather than lash out in any upsetting manners. Ahhh, love it!
When I watched this movie for the first time, I cried for two days and I couldn't get over it for like a week (I'm emotional lol). It's just amazing how the atmosphere and the music brings you inside the story and it leaves you there to experience it alongside the characters throughout the story. I don't know how else I could describe the atmosphere other than magical, like it was timeless somewhere in the world, two people falling in love and hurting for each other. The director and the actors definitely created magic. I was really sad when the Armie Hammer thing happened and the sequel was canceled. Because I felt like it broke the magic for me (just talking about the movie here, my heart goes to the victims and I hope the best for them), and it also ruined the chance to have another experience like this in the sequel. Truly heartbreaking. Anyways, I loved the video! Amazing content, it made me "feel" the movie again, you're very talented!!
I reckon this is my favorite video essay i've watched yet. Your voice is extremely soothing and your points are clear, poetic and show immense awareness of subtlety and artistry. So thanks:)
Elio and Oliver's summertime romance may be yesterday's love, but it should not be tomorrow's regret. This film captures the warmth of the summer so much that i always yearn for its heat
Dude, you are a poet. I just discovered this channel and I love it. Wonderful, insightful, tender, intelligent, and such sweet, gentle delivery. A breath of fresh air. Thank you :)
Just when you thought the movie was over, Timothee Charlamet excels. He is in front of a fireplace, and I see him spend just a minute or two in front of the camera. Now I know why his portrayals is respected. He is in love, and his love is lost. He wants to bring that love to him, but he knows that will not happen. It is a wonderful few minutes of drama that we see.
mystery of love might be the perfect song to me. i feel such an overwhelming feeling the second it starts, like it literally takes my breath away it feels like falling in love. and honestly i do think this movie is problematic but i associate so heavily with the song that i cant actually fathom not being so invested in the beautiful story it tells so well. i don't think there will ever be another song like it tbh
The first time I watched this movie I was in company of someone, the second time I was by myself and I was able to take in everything you mentioned in this video... And Mr. Perlman's speech to Elio never fails to make me cry. I don't really know why "Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once" gets to me.
I was in the place of Elio when I was exactly 17 and he was 26. It brings me back nostalgia how raw we were. Had Motor bike rides late in the mid night, me trying to get his attention like a typical teenager lol. even though we never said each other "I love you" but those memories spent with him felt like heaven. we met every single night in the park side by lake where he sleeps in my lap and we used to do arm wrestling there. I remember first time when I kissed him in the Sacred temple my soul turned holy and I closed my eyes. Though we had fights and misunderstandings off and on but seeing him always my heart started pounding. Now there is only longing ache to see him again but I think he might have been married as it is almost 10 years past.
Luca is so talented it brings tears to my eyes between this movie and bones and all he has found a way to set a bar for cinema and bringing a feeling to a movie u never felt before the feeling u wanna Burst into tears and rewatch over and over again to feel how u felt while watching the nostalgia of young free love that consumes you he knows exactly how to make u feel the emotions as if u are elio , Oliver , lee , maren I will forever talk ab how INCREDIBLE Luca is and the vision he has for the projects he works on he brings them alive liek no other. The music also in both movies fits so perfectly it’s insane the artists know how to set a mood and add even more depth to a scene then it already has its mind blowing really I could go on and on but I’m so happy I found my people who rlly appreciate the beauty of this movie and Luca as a artist it’s not even movies anymore it’s pure art form I love love that so many people feel the way I feel ab this it’s seriously moves people and that’s what cinema can do if it’s done the way we all seen Luca do and all the other incredible people who worked on these projects
I love the fact that you see the beauty of every single detail in every film, it doesn't care what kind of film, and that is precious. I know people that can see the beauty in music or paintings, but never in movies in the way you do. It's a talent that I'm grateful to find, and I'm glad that the internet works for this too (sorry for my English, still practising)
The fish scene makes me think of Elio as a young boy being goofy and how he is testing out being grown up in his scenes with his new romances but is still attached to his youth and his supported dependence on his parents. I really enjoyed watching these two unlikely characters fall in love while keeping in mind it is the 80's so there is a different context than now for not only the difference in age, but the same sex relationship. The clincher was the talk with his father at the end of the movie. This brought so much light and hope to the whole story and made the movie worth watching.
Please do "God's Own Country". The movie is a modern cinematic masterpiece. Stunning visuals, wildly beautiful locations and Josh O' Connor's superstar performance- I love this movie to death.
That'd be great. It's an amazing movie. Similar in the way that most of the emotions are portrayed in a subtle way that slowly builds, and the surroundings are used as a perfect frame to the story. It's beautiful.
This is an extraordinary commentary on this film and I’m so happy RUclips suggested it to me. This film destroyed me, in the best way possible … it lingered with me many weeks after I saw it initially, it truly impacted me like no film has done before it. You not only did the film justice, but pointed out things that were new and compelling to me. You’ve gained a fan and subscriber
I always read the father's monologue as if it was simply about a love that got away (not necessarily same sex or opposite sex), I never read it as him explicitly coming out to Elio. I also thought they were talking about whether or not the mom knew about Elio and Oliver, not about the father actually being gay. I think the point stays though. For me the monologue is supposed to teach about courage and not letting time fly you by. On another note though: I absolutely, absolutely adore this movie. I think the love story is amazing and all the things mentioned in this video make it a true masterpiece and perfect comfort film tbh. Nevertheless the biggest thing bugging me as I look back on it a couple of years later is that the age gap really is quite uncomfortable. It didn't bother me watching the movie (2 times) as a teen but now I can't unsee how problematic it is. I think I always watched the movie from Elios perspective and saw myself in him in a way, so it didn't seem like problem. But of course realizing that Oliver is a grown man it seems incredibly predatory that he engages in a (sexual!) relationship with a teenage boy. And as beautiful as it as to see the parents being encouraging of this mlm relationship, it's fairly concerning that they're seemingly so okay with an adult more or less grooming their teenage son. Of course it's all consensual but as we know consent given by a teenager isn't really the same. It's just too easy for an adult to take advantage of them, to make it seem like this is the only choice. In the movie all ultimately goes well (or I mean, does it?) but being more aware of the real life issue this ultimately ruins Oliver's character for me. Not only in a political correct 2021 but at any point in time it should be clear that it's not okay for an adult to engage in a relationship with a teenager. As heartbreaking as it would've been, Oliver could and honestly should've rejected Elio.
The age of consent is 16 in Italy. And he was a little over 17. I dont think you need to be a certain age to be taken advantage of. It happens to people of all ages, esp if the partner has alterior motives, or is manipulative. I certainly don't see Oliver having such motives, it was purely an pure 1st love story. The majority of us had our first love around Elio's age, and we learn from that experience. It was a bit painful to see Elio so heartbroken at the end, but it made it even more realistic. Plus wouldnt it defeat the purpose of the movie if Oliver rejected Elio
@@yanavav right but if u remove first person perspective/ narration u see a story about a guy - Oliver- who is arrogant, got his rocks off, narcissistic and not supportive to Elio (who is compulsive obsessive btw, spoiled self centred kid) who goes away to his girlfriend ( he is in relationship on and off, he was never single lol - Oliver's motives) to keep his straight profile. Age is NOT a problem but the way Oliver acts is a problem. It makes Oliver more of a user. It's not a love story but a user story
the way you ended this with the song quote made me actually start crying. this movie and book have always meant so much to me and it got a lot of hate lol but it’s truly beautiful. the soundtrack is my crying playlist for sure. but this is amazing for real like you explained my love for this movie so beautiful. ❤️
This book and movie is like a memory to me and i want to keep it that way. That is the reason why I can't rewatch/reread it because it's impossible to live the same moment twice.
I agree that "Does mom know?" isn't about Elio and Oliver. At the same time, I never interpreted it as his father being homosexual himself. To me, the ambiguity is deliberately alluding to how the film portrays the theme of love as existing beyond gender. The song and it's title "Mystery of Love" would perfectly encapsulates the films sentiment if it weren't for the one Hephaestion line bringing gender into the mix. At the same time it's still much more ambigous than other Sufjan Stevens songs.
This was review as as beautiful as the movie itself. Given that it's only your second video, you should be enormously proud of your work here. Great job.
i loved this movie. i feel like a lot of the backlash it got was cursory, misguided and, at times, tinged w homophobia. like a lot of media, this movie was initially well-liked, then it became cool to dislike it and criticize it; hopefully now we're at the point where people can watch, think critically, and form their own opinions.
I actually didn't knew people hated it, the only criticism i've heard is that it implies paedophilia because elio is underage or something, because of the book. Tho, in the movie that is not clear or explicit. But don't worry, this is normal in popular things, the more people like it, the more someone will hate it making it uncool to love something, then time passes, and people start to like it again. And this comes from a ex-twilight hater, which i now regret, those are not as bad movies as i used to think. So don't worry, good things always come back.
Such a beautiful review. I thought when Elio was asking his dad"did mom know" he was talking about him and Oliver, but I also get it as you said the father might have been in a homosexual relationship himself
Check out the link in the description! It shows the novel's author talking about the different interpretations of the ending and how they affect the story's meaning.
Honestly. You are incredible...you probably won't even read this and that is okay, but I just wanted to say that you have a real gift. Your insight and perspective has really touched me, please keep doing this.
After reading the novel the first time, I spent a full week with such melancholy for Italy and B, with a deep pain for a love I have yet to experience. Your video brought back a lot of those feelings. Thank you
What an absolutely phenomenal video. I watched Call Me By Your Name for the first time in 2018, and it has held up as my favorite movie to date. The book (by Andre Acimen) is one of the best novels I've ever read. Although written in prose, the elegance of his writing makes the words feel more like lyrics. You did an incredible job of articulating just how subtle and beautiful this movie truly is. Thank you for reviewing it so wonderfully!
I’ve never interpreted Mr Pearlman’s speech in this way before, I always got the impression that when Elio asks “does mom know” he’s referring to himself and whether or not his mother is aware that her son is homosexual, because that’s something he would be concerned about given their religious background and the time context. When Mr Pearlman says that he “came close once” I had assumed he meant the type of connection Elio and Oliver had, that raw, emotional and all consuming infatuation that can only truly end in devastation, rather than assigning a gender to it. That’s probably why Mr and Mrs Pearlman’s relationship is so beautiful and healthy, because it’s a slower kind of love that is founded in friendship and understanding, but he is still reminiscent of that time. But it’s so interesting to hear another take on this and it’ll give me another perspective to look through the next time I watch cmbyn. Definitely food for thought.
The knowing look that Elio's wonderful parents exchange in the study after hearing Oliver's news is them having told him "congratulations" on his engagement, while feeling their hearts breaking for their son Elio. And the very next line is Elio telling Oliver "They know about us." I'll add to this that the last thing that they told Oliver when he left by bus was to come back to Italy, and in first speaking to him on this phone call, it's "Darling, when are you coming back?" His news is finality for them and for Elio. That's what was conveyed when the film lingers on them in the study. (Mr Perlman isn't keeping a secret or lie from his wife)
meu deus, eu não tenho nem palavras para descrever o que foi esse video. não é somente uma review, de um filme sensacional, mas sim uma experiência de nostalgia e lembranças que não são suas. ele faz uma semelhança tão grande, como o cheiro e o calor, que é impossivel não se lembrar de algum momento assim. simplesmente brilhante
When I first saw this movie I was transported to all summer feelings from my early adolescence. The feelings, smells, sounds, tastes and sensations. I envied those days because being an adult sucks. I lacked the feeling of having so little to worry about. It was one of my strongest film experiences. I love it so much.
this was a true masterpiece. no matter how much i search, i can never find anything that gives me the same feelings as watching this film for the first time did. there is a hollow feeling when watching the film, but it still impacts your emotions so much through the subtle interactions.
I love the way his mom respected his feelings the final scene. I mean… she could say “ come on, son. Dry your tears. It’s time to move forward. Be brave. You’re too young. Let’s have dinner”. They are incredible parents.
Awesome video! By the way, the song that plays in the end is "Visons of Gideon", that repeatedly asks "is it a video?". Interestingly, "video" is the first person present conjugation of "seeing", like "I see", as a present action. That's why videoart is born in a sort of neverending or beginning form of audiovisual. Just imagens running in front of us, aimlessly. I think it adds so much to your analysis, because the power of that last shot is exactly the memories we've already created of that romance, now flashing through our mind with every tear and eventual laughter by Timothee. Again, awesome video essay. Hope to see more of you soon.
I think your interpretation of "Does Mom know" puts a whole new spin on understanding the father and his view of Elio's relationship with Oliver as well as sharing something so private.
in an interview, the authtor actually talks about how when he wrote it, he intended for it to be elio questioning whether mom knew about elio and oliver, but loved when he first heard a fan intepret the question the other way and felt it much more powerful and resonant
before i was out, call me by your name made me feel empty, after i came out, it made me ball my eyes out. it felt different and this will always be one of my favorite films because of how big of a cinematic masterpiece it is.
can i just say, as a young aspiring actress in love with film, your videos make me so so happy. to see someone else as invested in the storylines and diving deep into choices made by actors and filmmakers alike is seriously such a refreshing thing. keep up the incredible work my friend!
What they had was quite similar to me, but instead of Oliver leaving I thought who I had loved had left, but later learned he had passed away. I thought he was gone from what we had, but looking back on the weeks I missed him now knowing he was gone it is sort of scary. Now I have since moved, leaving the dead dream behind. I’ll go back just to see his name on his grave, I think that’s the closure I need.
This movie really captivated me when I first saw it and kept drawing me back in. The way that the setting feels lived in and as you describe, the way we can feel, and smell, and taste the world adds a lot of depth to this film. Great job! And this is really well done for only your second video! Keep it up :)
I just wanted to weigh in on what you mentioned in the video description - I understand people thinking that the relationship portrayed is pedophilic, however the age of the characters is relatively irrelevant other than it highlights the gap between them in experience of sex and love. And besides, I think what the film doesn't show so well but the book does is that it's mutual between them from the start, not just Oliver seducing Elio, it's even suggested that Elio was drawn to Oliver before he arrived as he saw him in a picture and helped his dad chose him to come over other potential students. The story is all about Elio's struggle to figure out Oliver's feelings whilst coming to terms with his own as they grow closer to each other. I think casting Armie Hammer, though I think he was great in the film, only exaggerated the age gap as he clearly looks older than 24, if they had cast a younger looking man to play him I wonder if so many people would have had an issue.
I think it's quite clear even in the film that Elio longs for Oliver from the start as well, and despite Oliver's slight touching at volleyball, Elio is mostly the "aggressor" in the relationship. So yeah to me it is very safe and consensual despite the film appearing to have a slightly larger age gap than the books
This! I think there is merit to suggesting that the praise this movie received makes the movie, even if to a small degree, normative. However, obviously this specific relationship is not what we're warning about when we talk about subjects like grooming and predatory relationships. I think it's interesting that the implication of the backlash to this film is that Elio couldn't be in love (as in we are unable to call his feelings love) because of his inexperience. Defining romantic love as something that can only be achieved by someone with a fully developed brain seems like it really demarcates our current understandings of love.
exactly! when i first finished watching the movie it was obvious to me that its trying to show these kind of age gaps in relationships as a bad thing, not romanticize them. through the whole thing you see elio being a lot more 'into' the relationship than oliver and it just sums up in the ending when we learn oliver thought of him as a summer romance (he said something about his relationship with a women being 'off and on for a couple of years' so i suppose he met eilo when it was 'off') and not really caring so much, as elio like a teenager he is was really invested in it and had those 'visions of gideon' of how it might end up, he thought it would be something permanent.
underage people cant consent even if they are into the adult... we all have crushes on older people as children, but we're still immature and underdeveloped, lack experience and are unprepared are moldable and naive etc etc..
@@OmfgHiii I would like to throw it out there that in Europe, where the story is set, the age of consent is generally lower than 18, usually around 16, in Italy it’s actually 14, so though I’m not condoning relationships where someone is significantly older, I don’t think the situation in Call me by your name is that problematic, especially since the story wouldn’t be any different if Elio happened to be 18
I listened to Mystery of love all summer long when I was in Italy with my mother a year ago really having the best time of my life and almost always closed my eyes just being in the moment. When I listen to it now I get this strong melancholy feeling and sadness rolling over me remembering all the smells, sounds, people talking in a language I couldn’t understand, the grass between my toes and people playing music everywhere. Deeply wishing to go back but I can’t. That was the last summer before I started working and beginning my ,adult life’ . The peace and joy this song gives me and being so great full for life itself I can’t describe. I often times think If I could only be in these moments. But I know those happy summer days will come back to me once again. Thank you so much for this video, I deeply needed it.
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Hey everyone, thanks for watching. I just wanted to jump in and respond in this pinned comment to a beef some of you seem to be having with my interpretation of the ending! Particularly what the "Does mom know?" refers to.
One of my favourite things about art is that you can interpret it any way you like and that any way you interpret it is (in my view) inherently valuable because that's how you experienced it. And the ending of CMBYN is no different. Watch André Aciman - author of the novel - talk about the film's ending. He talks about how the way I interpreted it in this video is completely different - but potentially better - than the way he intended when writing the book: ruclips.net/video/mObuAkTOG_A/видео.html. A fascinating insight into Reader Response - this was THE most pivotal scene in the film for me, and it remains totally ambiguous.
Also, one reason I interpreted the scene this way was because I thought there was no way the mom wouldn't know what was going on between Elio & Oliver. From the start of the film she seemed more clued in than Elio's father did. She was encouraging Elio to warm up to Oliver and become friends because she sensed a connection. And you can't really watch this car scene at 9:01 of this video and think that she didn't know how much Oliver meant to Elio. Plus she obviously knows what's going on at the phone call scene at 11:14 - she is the one who suggests Oliver get some time to talk to Elio alone.
So for me, Guadagnino took that ambiguous line in the books and encourages the interpretation of "does mom know?" where it refers to Mr Perlman's previous relationship and sexuality - particularly because Elio asks just after Mr Perlman reveals it.
There's also the interpretation made by Charles Barber in the comments which sees Mr Perlman lie to his son about the mom's knowledge of Elio's and Oliver's relationship. This is not how I saw it when I watched the film but it is an equally poetic and interesting take.
The best thing about this film is its subtelty and ambiguity - so feel free to interpret any and every way you want. That's the beauty of it ❤️
oui, d'accord. the beauty of this film is eloquent at many levels. perhaps we find what we need to find?
@@charlesbarber8166 Couldn't have said it better myself.
I haven't read the book, but I always thought it was obvious that Elio was asking his father if his mom knew that he [the dad] was gay/bi and had a prior relationship with a man. Am I completely off for thinking that?
The quote below from p. 225 of the English softcover edition of CMBYN (in "Ghost Spots") seems to contradict Aciman's later words regarding the nature of Professor Perlman's remarks to Elio about his own earlier relationship experiences:
"We said good night. On my way upstairs I vowed to ask him about his life. We'd all heard about his women when he was young, but I'd never even had an inkling of anything else.
Was my father someone else? And if he was someone else, who was I?"
Ok, I scrolled through the comments before watching the video and I do need to reply to this rn so I'm sorry if I'm disclosing sm that has been said already
I love this movie with all my heart, but this specific thing annoys me so much and here's why:
in the book the mom is not really a prevalent character. There is another character (a young kid) that has the role of being Oliver's friend and she does kinda pushes them together.
In the movies they used the mom character for this, so for the viewer it's obvious she knows (and we expect Elio and the Dad to know it as well from their interactions)
With that in mind in the book I had the idea that Elio asks if she knows about Oliver, I don't think that the other possibility is even fitting (also there's a 2nd book -wich I have not read- about the relationship the dad had and it was with a woman)
I remember reading the movie script for this scene and when the dad answers it was something along the lines:
"I don't think so" and the dad looks at Elio as to say - but if she did I'm sure that her feelings wouldn't differ from mine-
So it gets even more confusing for me
Honestly I do believe it's either an unintencional plot hole or Lucca simply didn't wanna alter this specific scene from the book (because it's so touching and beautiful) and accepted that it wouldn't make 100% of sense
I'll look for the script just to be sure of what I'm saying, but in conclusion Elio is indeed asking if mom knows about him and Oliver.
I just love how Elio's father LOUDLY diminishes his son's internalized homophobia and then also ALMOST QUIETLY gives him that monologue.
Oh fuck you right
i’m not getting what you’re saying, elio was bisexual? how is he homophobic?
That scene was a masterpiece. Luca Guadagnino is the reason why my film became an award winning film! ruclips.net/video/nSC4ptU79-8/видео.html
it’s one of the best scenes in the whole movie!
Soooo well pointed out!! I never thought about it that way. Incredible.
Elio broke the world's heart with that final scene in front of the fire.
Yes but mine alway hurt for Oliver. Elio going to be fine he has a loving family who know and accepts him. More importantly he knows and accepts himself. He’s not going in to a loveless marriage with a woman. Oliver is older buts he’s actually behind Elio.
it was literally gut wrenching JUST WATCHING HIM TEAR FOR 8 MINUTES
And I actually think that the song on that scene made it even worse, it just fits so so well to that heart breaking moment… unreal!
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Read the book for proper closure.
This movie felt like a fleeting memory, it's vivid but blurry at the same time. It's slow and patient but it feels like seconds when you look back. It's bittersweet
The fact that the director managed to make us feel that through the cinematography is so impressive. It's "show, don't tell" to it's highest exponent. He manages to tell a story that would sound so boring on paper on a masterpiece by highlighting the little details, and mainly, the character's internal thoughts. As this movie after all is the mental struggle of two men finding parts of themselves they'd never seen before.
Exactly!!!
It's a beautiful movie based on a beautiful book!
its so boring. Just watch porn and save time.
Très juste
I agree that it's a wonderful film, but "so boring ob paper"???? The book is SO special and capturing.
No one's talking about how tailor-made Sufjan Stevens songs to this masterpiece. I mean, we can't deny the impact of his art to the film; especially on the ending scene, Visions of Gideon.
YES! this man can do anything and his songs give the final touches on the feelings and in the experiences. Sufjan is wonderful!
yes exactly i feel like it’s everything together that makes it so insanely beautiful
The song is for two years straight my alarmclocl
I totally agree. Whenever I have the craving of a serene yet painful feeling that call me by your name gives, I listen to Sufjan Stevens and the scenes automatically replays in my head. It's unbelievably well-fitted.
Ikr, his work is so incredible and fitting for the movie, i can't help but feel a little heartbroken everytime i listen to Futile devices :(
It’s not about how entertaining the film was to watch for the first time. It’s the impact it had on my heart once the screen turned black. It felt as if I’ve lived through everything myself. Lucas has given the viewer enough time to form a close relationship with both of them, resulting in the most painful heartbreak.
Absolutely, we lived each and every moment with them. We lived their story and now the story lives within us.
so true! the whole movie gave me this indescribable mood it reminded me of something I never even experienced. I guess a lot of people wouldn’t like this movie because the storyline is not as “exciting” as in movies like spiderman or whatever but to me it’s my favorite movie because of how it made me feel
I couldn't get invested in the heartbreak because Oliver is such a piece of shit. And Elio is too if you think about the movie from the perspective of Marzia.
And yeah doesn't help that Oliver goes for the underage boy... idk but why is nobody commenting on how inappropriate it is.
@@piperfree4271 Oliver is scared of what society will say about his relationship with a man so he marries a woman. Elio didn't know for sure he's not into women at that time when he dates Marzia. I think he "tried to be hetero" because it was the easier way to live in the 80's. Also Elio is 17 and Oliver 24? So it's really not that bad.
I was depressed for weeks after the movie
The dad’s speech always gives me validation. I keep coming back to it just to feel human. It gives me great comfort. This film is a masterpiece
ah yes, gotta love it when people idolize a film that romanticizes p*dophilia. brokeback mountain is a better gay love story
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701 Meh, it's legal in Italy and the soundtrack slaps
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare870117 was considered an adult at the time and place, and the whole point was to compare the maturity differences leading to why the relationship wouldn't work anyway
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701 ah yes gotta love when someone thinks dating a 17 yo can be considered pedophilia 🤡 17 yo is not a prepubescent child (which is a requirement to be pedophilia just so you know)
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701CMBYN is one of the realest depictions of love I’ve ever seen and since this film ends in heartbreak it in no one endorses this type of relationship
Honestly, Call me by your name is such a subtle story, not much happens, but you can just *feel* it without many words or drama… Thats peak cinematography tbh. I have nothing against movies or shows that are pretty explicit, but works like this are just on another level, you can truly feel and experience everything that characters did
Yes, and I didn't even talk about the cinematography in this video! I could talk about the films cinematography for hours. So wonderful and subtle
my favorite part about the movie ( and i feel like the source of what makes someone love or hate the movie) is how much they don’t say. like everything is communicated through touch and looks, rarely do they ever say what they feel in explicit words, which i love cuz you as the viewer have to actually figure out and piece together what it all potentially means. i think it’s gorgeous. i love it. it speaks a lot louder to me than words do (in this movie! sometimes how people speak is also my favorite haha)
@@kenzibrown8076 This!! I told my friend about this. About just how little speaking is done, it’s through non-verbal cues that the important stuff happens. And for that reason people will hate it or love it. If you aren’t one to pay attention to fine details…the story will slip through and you’ll be bored. But in my opinion, it’s a damn near-perfect work of art. This story broke my heart because of how WELL Chalamet embodies the teenage spirit through love and heartbreak w/out the use of words (bc like you) it speaks far more to me than words.
Yes! When I watched the video I truly felt the feeling of being in love and it lasted for at least two weeks. I was obsessed! I watched it sooo many times when it came out. And tbh I've never felt so in love with a real person as I was when watching elio falling in love. That is amazing, because it showed me all the possibilities of love within myself!
This is so so true
Every time Sufjan Stevens' song plays, I immediately feel things or remember how I felt watching the movie.
omg same. and is an actual felling. the song was added to my playlist and I had not listen to it in a long time and as the video played, all of the weird feelings just came back so fast.
SAMEE
So well said. Luca Guadagnino is the reason why my film became an award winning film! ruclips.net/video/nSC4ptU79-8/видео.html
Lmao I've avoided the original soundtrack for YEARS because I've always teared up a bit by just hearing the intro.
that feeling of emptiness after i finished this movie, it’ll never be the same as the first time but it’s the close to the same for me whenever i hear that song
I am a straight male and never thought I would watch a film like this. But I had heard nothing but great things about this movie so, being a lover of cinema, I finally watched it for the first time tonight. I am awestruck. This movie just GETS what infatuation and strong romance FEELS like, in film form. Everything from the direction, the performances, the cinematography, the musical score, the sounds of nature in the countryside, this movie just feels so dreamlike and yet, everything feels so real. So raw. So powerful. This movie just highlights how low effort most of the romance films are today. It’s been hours since the end credits rolled and I’m STILL thinking about this film. Bravo to all involved in getting this film to the cinemas.
Why would someone only want to watch films about straight people?
ofc a straight person would love some pretty pa3do stuff
I appreciate your open kindness and honesty about an amazing film, it really is hard to see straight men like you💚
This is exactly how I felt when I finally gave it a watch. The music, the ambient sounds, the way they talk, the laughter. I like the way it makes me feel in it's totality
I was very dissapointed from the movie!Its very boring cold and without passion!
who doesn't want to live a summer love like this? when it ends we suffer, but life makes sense while it lasts...
I feel like it would leave me empty inside afterwards for a long time
this film just want me to know what happened next. yet we dont
Beautifully worded. I'll steal this.
So well said. Luca Guadagnino is the reason why my film became an award winning film! ruclips.net/video/nSC4ptU79-8/видео.html
"A thing isn't beautiful because it lasts."
The seasonal fruit silently shows time passing too. In the book, which is broken into parts, apricots, peaches, and figs are featured in order. Apricots are ripe in June, and not for long. It’s an early sign of summer, but one that is really relished. Peaches are the height of summer. And figs, ripening all summer long, are an anticipated but almost forlorn fruit. By the time they ripen, summer is closing. They’re delicious, but sad. In Italy and in my Italian family in America, the seasons of produce silently capture the associated feelings of times during the year. In the book, which I read after I saw the movie, when I realized this, it added this weight to my heart. No, they’re eating figs in Roma; the end is near.
my God, beautiful
Thank you for that. That us absolutely amazing
This comment has inspired me to create a painting featuring these fruits, thank you!
omg omg thank u for this detail and insight
Thank you
I didn't realize that so many people interpreted the father's monologue as his coming out to his son as queer. I always read it as simply a giving away of one's self to love. How he never allowed himself to "throw caution to the wind" and feel emotions to their fullest extent because of his fear of pain. I can definitely see this as a specifically queer feeling, but I also think it's universal for people to fear feeling. As someone who never puts myself out there, that's what touched me, beyond my viewpoint as a queer person. This film inspires me to investigate myself and express what I find.
i feel the same way. up until this point i never even thought that his father was gay. that conversation to me was never about the dad being queer, at least to me!
I actually think the writer of the original book said that the movie misses some lines of it that would contextualize and make it more clear what the father means, in the movie is more open to interpretation, but in the book it's clear that 'Does mom know?' refers to if the mother knows about Elio and Oliver's relationship, not that his father once almost had a similar relationship with another man
That ending father-son moment makes me cry every time. It reminds me of something my mother told me after my boyfriend broke up with me when I was 22, she said that she wishes she had loved someone as deeply as I loved my ex. She doesn't think she ever opened herself up as much as I had in that relationship. Its crazy to think about the depth of love and how everyone's is different.
I love The analogy that a love affair or relationship is like reading a great book. When the book ends, you’re not angry, you might be sad it’s over, but you enjoyed it, cherished it, and learned from it. I think we make too much of heartbreak in that we make it a pure tragedy, but it’s also such a humanizing experience. When I first had my heart really broken, part of me was aware of tapping into something that has inspired so many songs, and poems and great works of art. It also makes you feel ALIVE if you really let yourself feel it. Still sad and hurt and humiliated, but alive and feeling. Better to have loved and lost...
I love it, that scene made me cry uncontrollably, Elio's father's words were translating exactly, (putting into words, in a way that makes "actually" makes sense, instead of something simply felt) the reason as to why, even after a (naturally painful) break up with the person i was with, i didn't feel sad that it had happened, the way it happened, or sad that i allowed someone to clearly hurt me, that i gave my love to someone that "didn't want it", or something like that, i was happy that i had felt the *joy* of the love that i lived, that what sprouted out of pondered love couldn't possibly be something bad in itself, though we like to be loved reciprocally, that's not why i was in love in the first place. Before i was afraid of making mistakes, i was eager to do fight, to mend. That me and her had a cause so great, that we didn't tire in our fight, how could i ever feel anger at her, if i trusted that her mistakes, were just mistakes, the same for mine...
I wish men loved even 50% of how women love but sadly they only care about sex. They are so superficial it's painful
It makes me cry too but because my parents have never said anything like that to me
But, it seems everyone is also the same. Falling into love that ends prematurely is unbearable. But honestly showing love for as long as the heart needs without fear or regret, before leaving filled with gratitude and compassion is entirely different.
I kinda hate you for bringing back the emptiness I felt after watching this film. I felt so hollow: to make you experience CMBYN's world so vividly and take it away so abruptly is just cruel. You're just left with tiny shards of memories; hoping the fire that once burned so passionately, now reduced to embers, can soothe the longing you feel. The air that once scorched your skin made you shiver as it turned into a bone-chilling breeze. At least that's what it felt like when the movie began in Summer and ended in Winter. A tragic end to a utopia is so contrasting it makes you feel numb.
I didn't know movie reviews can make you cry - I didn't know that I'd cry! But I love this so much. I subscribed because I'll surely be waiting for your next videos.
your comment, so beautifully written, made me cry even more as you just took the words out of my mind
That's because that's what heart breaks are... When ur in love u feel like the world is pink and beautiful all around but it's not... U appreciate the beauty of the world around because u are in love... Every detail now stuck in your head... The beautiful Utopia but that's because u are in love and the creators wanted u to feel what they felt and that's how this movie is amazing but also to remind u of ur first love when u were a teen and young and naive ... The movie could've ended w tragedy but actually was just heart break but hey there could be part 2 where Oliver comes back 5yrs later n divorces his wife but Elio already has moved on and now lives w his new boyfriend and is happy... Their parents sold their house and now is used as a hotel... So Oliver stays where Elio lived once ...
i love this review. thankyou for putting it in words
This is not a review, it's a commentary
Beautiful. Thank you ❤️
This movie hit me really hard being set in 1983, because I toured Europe as a young 17yo boy/man for five weeks in 1982 and met the love of my life during that trip. The hetero-normative society and its ever-present phobic anxieties mentioned in the video, which were all too present in my upbringing, kept me from telling him but 40 years later as a married man with kids I doubt a week goes by without me reminiscing about him and our time together on that magical vacation.
This 😢 I hope you’ve found love again
cry me a river, wannabe victim
... those "phobic-anxieties" all manage to disappear during late-stage societal-decay.
it hits me the same way, only I wasn't in Europe, I was in college in the late 1980s-riding bikes along Lake Michigan, going on trips to Chicago. I did eventually tell him how I felt, and he felt the same way. By that time he had married a woman and had two young kids. Sadly, I found out he passed away quickly from pancreatic cancer, so what "could have been" never was. That is another reason it is almost too difficult to watch this movie as much as I love it.
@@WinterSoldier0315 Read the book.
when you were talking about the dirty used clothing, you show clips of oliver’s swimsuits. in the book elio describes the different color swimsuits as oliver’s different moods and how he’s feeling. “He had, it took me a while to realize, four personalities depending on which bathing suit he was wearing. Knowing which to expect gave me the illusion of a slight advantage. Red: bold, set in his ways, very grown-up, almost gruff and ill-tempered-stay away. Yellow: sprightly, buoyant, funny, not without barbs-don’t give in too easily; might turn to red in no time. Green, which he seldom wore: acquiescent, eager to learn, eager to speak, sunny-why wasn’t he always like this? Blue: the afternoon he stepped into my room from the balcony, the day he massaged my shoulder, or when he picked up my glass and placed it right next to me.”- quote from the book. also just shows the cinematography that luca showed
So well said. Luca Guadagnino is the reason why my film became an award winning film! ruclips.net/video/nSC4ptU79-8/видео.html
When you quoted the book I could see the scenes in which the emotion was portrayed. Absolutely masterful.
What did blue mean?
@@HAPPY-ev4kx Blue: the afternoon he stepped into my room from the balcony, the day he massaged my shoulders, or when he picked up a glass and place it right next to me.
This movie made me feel things I've never felt before. It just seemed magical and like fine art. The way he directed it and the way Timothy portrayed the character. Never seen anything that has touched me like this. Everything feels magical, and like you've experienced it all with them. Somehow. And now this video reminded me and I am once again close to tearing up. Fuck
The book was great too! It perfectly describes the feeling of having an extreme crush on someone
@@91frankthetank the book is my summer read. I am loving it!!
Also because it's too perfect that it's near impossible to recreate it today... Why because there's technology like phones... What ofcoarse u can also do en experiment and not use them while u are away except to call or text back home... I would love to have a summer romance in Italy or France why not... Italian and french boys are flirts and beautiful
@@xxkarlosxxxxxx7233 I totally agree with everything you just said!! Especially the part about French and Italian guys, it do be very fine
@@willewiking98 Watch Maurice if you haven't. I highly recommend it. Directed and the screenplay co-written by James Ivory.
He directed this so beautifully. It feels like you’re watching someone else’s memories, especially when there are long scenes where the camera is placed a bit away from the people. It really makes it feel like your watching something personal.
You can really see the juxtaposition of cold and warmth in that last scene in front of the fireplace. The snow in the background together with the desaturated, blue colored effect evokes what we associate with winter, while the warm colored light reflected to Elio's face by the fire creates that warm feeling that the associate with summer. This shot really demonstrates the contrast between the two seaons. For Elio, the winter represents the end of summer, coldness, loneliness and heartbreak, whereas the summer represents warmth and love. And in the middle of winter, there he is longing for the summer, knowing that he'll never have it again.
Beautifully expressed!
I noticed this as I watched it but you beautifully expressed what I was seeing :,)
« In the midst of winter, i found there was, within me, an invincible summer » Albert Camus
this was so beautiful it made me cry
Not with Oliver, anyway. I like to think that Elio finds someone later on down the road, someone more mature and ready to embrace to his own queerness.
Words can’t actually describe how this movie moved me. Every time I watch it, it’s like I’m watching it for the first time again. I feel SO much in every single scene and I think that’s due to what you mentioned on how you can feel the movie through not only the visuals but the sounds. Top 3 fav movies EVER. I’m so happy I got to see this movie while I was alive lmao. (Also lets not even mention the soundtrack bc the music alone is another entire masterpiece)
I’m looking for movie recs! If you’re willing to share, what are the other two of your top 3?
@@ronniemonae1809 well I feel like I’m gonna disappoint you because my other 2 fav movies are coraline and beetlejuice and im pretty sure half the globe has seen them haha
Lucky you! I wish could back to the first time that I've watched this movie. I can't explain what I felt and immediately watched again. I also feel very happy too have seen this movie in my life lol
i agree. i finally listened to the book and i was sad to say it didn’t move me in the same way and i that’s bc without the music and actual scenery i can’t feel all the emotions not to mention the acting is among the best!!
Please share your top personal choices that complete your favorite three favorite movies!
So I went to Crema, Italy where the movie was shot. The hype had died down so the town was quiet. I actually needed a bike to get around. I spent two days there exploring the scene locations. For example, the spring fountain was surprisingly beautiful with super chilly water. The whole visit was serene, wholesome, and effing hot. Loved every second of it :)
it feels really good to watch a movie review that’s appreciative of this film. it’s definitely healthy and appropriate to be aware of the controversies surrounding this movie, but i think people often forget just how well-made and, simply, beautiful this movie is.
well put!
The controversies around this movie are stupid because eliot was 17 so, he was over the age of concent in Italy anyways, and oliver was only 24 is not like he was 60.
I'm sorry but I'm not even 17 I'm 18 and I'd still be a little weirded out if a 24 yo was coming on to me tbh. It does seem like a good movie but I don't get why their age gap had to be so big
@@whatcanidooo But Elio was not weirded out, it was more the opposite, so that point doesn't really matter. Oliver is a grad student (which makes sense for the character to be staying with the Perlman's), and 24 is most commonly the youngest age to be a grad student. Elio is the oldest age on average that kids are still living with their parents. Having a closer age gap would have made the story much less controversial but the gap in the book/movie makes sense for the plot.
@@JuliaJiggs okay I guess I'll take your word for it. I haven't actually seen the film so I guess I can't really make any solid judgments
It's so INCREDIBLY moving to me to read the comments on how this film deeply moved so many people...people like me. There has been so much praise written, but there are just so many elements of subtle perfection, the actors make you feel as if you are on this trip of forbidden love with them. The ache between them is palpable. This movie will always take me back to college in the late 1980s, when I fell in love almost exactly like Elio. And there was so much wasted time. So many things that were left unsaid. Years later (also like Elio and Oliver), I learned he felt the same way....but by that time was married to a woman and had a family. He passed away suddenly and very quickly from pancreatic cancer about 3 years ago, but at least we finally were able to be open and honest with each other about our incredible feelings back then (and in the present). I cannot watch this film without getting a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes .. remembering so many similar summer days spent together before cell phones riding bikes and going swimming, desperately wanting to say things that wouldn't be said until we were in our 40s. Like Elio's father says in the speech: when you are young you think that you have forever to sort your feelings out, but you don't. I truly wish someone had given me that speech.
Thank you, WinterSoldier, for sharing your experience. Real love - the one that deeply changes us - is so alien to societies as they exist, that they do everything to make it impossible, including moralising with what théy call ethics. If they did not, love would change thém, and that they cannot permit. To paraphrase the author of this great little visual essay: Elio is surrounded, as in Utopia, by a society that does everything nót to stand in the way of the discovery of self and other by two human beings; a society that allows them to be the “other” key to themselves. Then, genuine love, by transforming us, may encourage us to transform “our” part of that society a little, as if in return. And more importantly: it gives to our hearts the power to stay alive, even while our bodies are gradually giving up.
your comment brought tears to my eyes, i really hope you’re doing well x
You are absulutly correct that is exactly what m movie is about, In the book, the time factor is even more reinforced as being the main archenemy of the heart, and how life can be wasted ... books go into their 40s and makes it even more depressing to see how much time they lost, and instead of spending it together, they spent it a longing for each other their entire lives!
aaahhhhhhh 💙😣
Wow, I cannot believe what you went through. I hope you find your peace! I fell madly in love too but it was unrequited. It was very painful but I still tried to love as much as I could while hurting at the same time. I realized that maybe we can’t be together but I can allow myself to love freely as a friend. I tried to be the best friend I could ever be, offer support and my care. It hurt so much to hear the words of Elio’s father about running time and me realizing that I never have been in love and loved by someone else (who is not a family member) at the same time. And that seems to me like an impossible dream. Wishing you all the best out there and, once again, hope you find your peace.
I'm a very sensitive person. I always pay the most attention in films to the sounds and how they wrap around each scene or character's expressions. Call Me by Your Name is the perfect summer where nature, sounds in the house or by the water play the biggest part. You can hear every detail of movement or sigh. When it gets dark the only thing you hear is wild animals. I don't know of a better film with such a sonorous background.
ah yes, gotta love it when people idolize a film that romanticizes p*dophilia. brokeback mountain is a better gay love story
Yeh if you read the sequel, which I wouldn't recommend because it's not great.. but the Dad is definitely not queer, or at least there's no indication of it. There's a lot of his POV in that book.
In the books, Elio's father is not talking about a man, but a woman he loved. She had a boyfriend at the time, so did him. They finally went together on a night, but after that, they never met again, and he loved her untill the last of his days.
It's tragic, because the thing that holded him back was himself, and the things that standed on the way, was the life itself. He is an awesome character, and the kind of dad that everyone wants.
Excellent video, man, I think I'll see more of your work.
I don't remember the above poster's narrative from either of the books, but it is true that Mr. Perlman had a new relationship with a woman after the divorce. Still, I think that the OP's interpretation makes much more sense given what is said and shown in the film.
The woman isn’t the person he’s talking about in the first novel
Doesn’t the dad leave the mom for a younger women in the books ?? Or am I confusing it for another series 🤔
@@nowey2251 no, they’ve split up by the time he gets in a relationship with Miranda (the younger woman)
The author André Aciman has stated when he wrote the book he didn’t mean to imply Elio’s father was talking about a man he wasn’t thinking about it but in the movie they did with the exact same words and he preferred that meaning so yes.. both the movie and now the author both say that when he was younger Mr Perlman almost had a love affair with a man but was held back
Something about this movie just makes me feel ALIVE. It’s almost like I was able to watch the movie through elios eyes, as if I were him living in every scene and every moment. It made me feel as if though I too experienced a love so innocent and pure. The wind rustling through the dry grass as we ride our bikes down the trail, foraging our never ending love growing deeper and deeper. You feel his anxious demeanor as he realizes his feelings are something way bigger. VIVIDLY, your able to feel his pain, his drive and his love, something so rare with films. Not to mention the music, sufjan helped create this image where you as the viewer were brought back to your moment of falling in love for the very first time. The love of the innocents and inexperienced, the love that BREAKS YOU APART, but makes you feel so whole and together. Bittersweetness.
I’ll never get over this film. Ever. Not only as a gay man but just feeling so seen and included.
Well said...
i think it's so interesting that when Oliver asks Elio what he does all day he answers with "wait for summer to end" and Oliver responds with "then wait for winter to be over?" I love that this shows they've yet to develop a relationship. they don't realise how precious their time together is yet until its too late.
I first saw CMBYN at a basically empty showing at the cinema I worked at in dec ‘17, and the sensuality of the film was utterly mesmerising. The theatre was so empty that it felt so intimate between myself and the film. I then saw it a month later (after the oscar nomination) at a sold out showing (~400 people in the theatre) and the atmosphere was completely different. Whilst I understand the criticisms of the film, I can’t help but marvel at the film making. It is so tangible. This was a wonderful analysis!
This movie changed me, it brought a feeling to me that I didn’t know a movie could. Every part of it was done amazingly. The last minutes of Elio sitting in front of the fire felt so long as he cried. This was a poetic masterpiece.
This movie is the only thing that can give me that ‘endless summer’ feeling from when I was younger. Not particularly the story of course, but the over all vibes of this movie is just pure summer. I actually got to visit one of the filming locations last week and it was amazing.
yess i feel the same way about this movie!
Yes same! I love it for the story but the ability to make me feel like I am 13 again is uncanny and gives it this very special place in my heart.
Excellent, insightful and, yes, a poetic examination of an exquisite film.
When Oliver is coming downstairs and pauses, what he touches is (I believe) a dyed wall hanging made of heavy suede-like material... something almost skin-like in texture, which amps the sensuality further.
Something which I loved was the way Guadagnino made the house itself a character in the story, especially through the soundscape - a quietly walking Elio accompanied by the breathing beat of the banging shutter was magical.
Yes exactly! The production and costume designers on this film were also amazing in creating all of that, and the wind blowing through the house....so good. Thanks for watching again!
One scene that struck me, that you didn't mention, was where the 2 men ride their bikes into the frame and proceed down that path through a grassy field. The camera held that shot for a much longer time than you would expect, so long that the 2 riders are barely visible in the distance. I found myself wondering why is this scene still going, and then noticed that I could feel the sweltering heat, squinting in the hazy sunshine, and hearing the buzzing of insects in the field. Finally the 2 reappear from behind a bush and the scene ends. Holding that frame so long while nothing was happening gave the viewer time to put himself into the location as if he was actually there.
This was so poetic in of itself I nearly started crying
Thank you so much. ❤️❤️
Part of it is your voice and the microphone you use. Well done.
So well said. Luca Guadagnino is the reason why my film became an award winning film! ruclips.net/video/nSC4ptU79-8/видео.html
@@marcustranfilm I posted this in a separate comment, but I'm not sure RUclips notified you, so I'll paste it here...
I strongly object to your beginning your description with the terms "'borderline pedophilic' and potentially abusive", even though you disagree with them. It is either pedophilic or it is not. Young adults who are over the age of consent (on BOTH sides of the Atlantic!) are entitled to have relationships without being called "borderline" anything. Also, relationships are either abusive or they are not. This one is not abusive, and that's that. I also object to the line, "I know there are many who disagree." There are a FEW who disagree, a tiny minority. Nearly all of them are ignorant Americans who believe that the age of consent is 18 in all US states, when actually the most common age of consent in US states is 16. Please check this fact. (Hence Dirty Dancing, featuring a 17yo female and a 25yo male, took place in New York State.) The ignorance of these few people does not deserve to be acknowledged and given respect, or even mentioned, at the top of your description.
P.S. As well as Dirty Dancing, notice also that the biggest romance of all time, Titanic, features a 17yo female engaged to be married to a 30yo male. None of the transatlantic passengers object, because that is perfectly legal. Both these age gaps are smaller than here (17 and 24). The only advantage those relationships have is that they are opposite-sex.
STOP giving respect to ignorant or misinformed people. You should delete those lines from your description. Otherwise, anything you said in your video is irrelevant. Disliked and unsubscribed.
@@raphfilms6243 your film did not receive any award worth mentioning
I absolutely love this movie. To me it reflects the silence of summer. It can be fun and exciting but it is also stiflingly hot and the crickets are annoyingly loud and the movie balances both in away that feels so nostalgic. This movie makes me feel like im bathing in sunlight but the grass is itchy and dry I miss when summers really felt like this.
I know I'm not the only one who still feels things hearing mystery of love and visions of Gideon. I haven't watched this movie in years 😭
same
Yes 🥺
Ikr every time I hear the one of those songs I just get immediate flash backs to when I first watched the movie and it makes me want to burst into tears
The first time I saw this film, it just felt so real and it was so strong that I have watched it during 3 days. And every time I was watching it, I was always crying during its entirety. It was making me feel so bad, but I couldn't explain why exactly.
Since now, when I watch this movie I still have this strong and sorrowful feeling of nostalgia for something that actually never happened to me.
(sorry for my english)
Same to me! Exactly the same feelings. But instead of cry a lot I got anxiety lol
It's a story of a first love so it brings up all those emotions in all of us.
don’t worry, we will someday love like this
its boring. But the actors look so real. Like the people you see onthe streets.
@@eduardochavacano boring 🤣 love how you just told everyone publicly that you don’t have enough emotional intelligence, experience with love or empathy or understanding of art to get what the movie’s about
This movie felt like a memory, it’s amazing it made me feel like that.
I feel like a reason that this movie is so captivating aside from the fact that is is gorgeous and has great music is how relateble it is. There is no dramatic villain, no relationship one side is on etc, but you just watch 2 people fall in love despite their trepidations or fears
Yes, in the novel, "does mom know?" clearly refers to Elio and Oliver, from the context of what they were talking about. This question sounds rather absurd in the movie because his mother had just picked him up at the station and saw him cry and you can tell she knows. So this extra scene and some tweaks in the monologue/dialogue between father and Elio make the question "does mom know?" acquire a different meaning.
Actually this question "does mom know "? Is about elio's dad's sexuality or past love!!
@@flyboysagar have you read the novel?
@@zakaryan2004 No, I haven't. But according to what I see in the movie I can tell it wasn't about elio and Oliver because its elio's mom who asks her husband to send both of them on a trip also in the movie she tells and asks elio " You like oliver? Oliver likes you too! ".
@@flyboysagar "Yes, in the novel,..."
This is how the main comment starts. Make the conclusion yourself.
@@zakaryan2004 aggressive for what LMFAO
The engagement of the senses in this movie is very relaxing. This is one of those movies that doesn't feel like a movie. It feels like you're just watching people live their lives.
Everytime i watch this movie i end up crying in my bed in a panic attack, the ex that i loved the most and i watched the movie for the first time together and we identify in a certain way with the characters, making us take it as our movie. Once we were done, I remember watching this movie alone and the emptiness I felt was terrible, it depresses me every time I watch it, but I still love the art of this film and I love the stage atmosphere. Literally a masterpiece.
i hope you’ll recover from this bad breakup. please know that you have the capacity to hold yourself at times when other people can’t. sending lots of love 💙
You’ll find someone who can call you by his name.
i went through a similar situation. hope you’re ok
My bf and I have a strange relationship, but we just watched this movie for the first time yesterday and we were both crying by the end. I hope you’re doing better.
I feel you.
This essay is the exact feelings I have about cmbyn and the whole backlash thing. I think some people were quick to judge and didn't really get the messages this movie was sending out. Either way, I still love it and I love this essay. Thank you!!
Lets not forget Elio's Mother. She was such an special and wise mom.
It's funny how they never said "I love you" and yet I felt their love. I even cried
Yes and that was the beauty of their love.🥺❤️
I think that's what "Call Me by Your Name" stands for
@@GusLawrenson Yes, it was their way of expressing love.
Beautifully done film and review. But I am not certain that Oliver loves Elio in the 'majestic' way assumed here. Oliver is maybe bisexual, considerably older than Elio who is an attractive adolescent and the aggresive seducer in the duo. One time sex does not a lifelong romance make. CMBYN is study in adolescent infatuation (which we know can be BREATHTAKING and unnerving); Elio could very well be passing through a phase and wind up in his adulthood a sensitive, heterosexual man who had an 'enriched' youth. Such is life's possibilities.
@@rogercarroll2551 it can be true but it also could be that he discovered that he was homosexual ( he was probably bisexual as well I guess). Some people state that Elio was innocent but i don't think so - he was a little bit of "dirty Diana" because he was with the girl first ( as a revenge on Oliver)and later with Oliver so not so innocent....
Just two reviews but the quality is insane, man like wow. Keep making LOVE cinema💗💗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you!! Any other films/shows that you think I'd enjoy?
Oh maybe God's Own Country,...less known but just beautiful or the series Unorthodox whom the acting is strong🤩🤩
I've never heard of that, will definitely take a look! Legitimately one of the best things about creating this channel has been all the film/show recommendations from everyone. So keep it up!
@@marcustranfilm I second t6hat suggestion. God's Own Country has breath-taking cinematography, and one of the greatest senses of place I have ever seen. As CMBYN has the feel of an idyllic location in Italy, GOC has the feel of a stifled, remote sparsely populated location in Yorkshire. In many ways the lead is slmost the polar opposite of Elio. This was a far less well-known film than CMBYN and is probably a great deal less inviting to non-gay people. But to me, it is also a masterwork.
@@marcustranfilm broke back mountain ;)
I couldn't believe that this was only your SECOND video on RUclips! This looks and feels like a professionally produced review. The writing is very good and the narration is topnotch. I LOVE your voice! You've got a new subscriber here!
This film is a masterpiece. Even apart from Chalamet’s extraordinary performance, everyone was perfect. Michael Stuhlbarg, Amira Casar, Esther Gerell, and especially Armie Hammer! It was just such beautiful and very subtle storytelling. Everything was flawless. The cinematography, the soundtrack, the screenplay, literally everything. It’s just a masterpiece. Timothee Chalamet is so damn lucky to work with Luca and have THIS film out of every indie film being made, be the one that makes him a breakout star. I mean imagine how many amazing Indie films are made and how many actors are working, and then this film comes along with such a visionary director and such a meaty script for Timothee to become world wide famous and skyrocket his career to superstardom. It’s like a once in a generation thing. The kid is kissed by the angels. This film is a literal emotion. I only wait for the summers, or even the occasional winter, to view it in its entirety. You just can’t cut away from the feeling
The soundtrack was so beautiful!!! Ugh, Sufjan Stevens and the mix of beautiful classical music was just PERFECT.
Agreeee
Armie Hammer was too bland and stoic in this role - his voice sounded like to was dubbed over. He's supposed to be a 27 year old student but acts and delivers his lines like a middle aged clergyman
@@hsnrb9959 24 year old student in the classics/philosophy 💀💀. Kind of suits the role well
@@choblgobblrr1074 Hammer doesn't look or act like a 24yo student. He looks much older
Wow wow wow. Just WOW. Even tho i watched CMBYN many many times and read the book 2 times, your thoughts in the video are incredibly empathic . Such a different POV. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much. ❤️❤️
I also like how the colour grading added some depth of emotion. This is one definitely one of the most visually pleasing films of recent years.
The way you connected the last scene with the fire to the summer's heat blew my mind, I love how even though I watched this movie so many times you've given me a new and beautiful perspective to some of my favorite scenes
I knew from the first minutes I started watching Call Me by Your Name that it was going to be poetic. The way that everything is shown to the viewer is so subtle and romantic, in a way that rarely ever happens. It's the kind of movie that makes you wish you could create your own work of art that meaningful
its a very inspiring movie
like the last of us, it fits its medium very well
Excellent once again! You really made me “see” this film in a new way. The thing that made me notice the tactile elements in this movie was the way all the characters interacted physically. So much touching, most of it not at all sexual. Great work! I’m looking forward to your next video.
Yeah I didn't have too much of the touching between characters in this video because a lot of Romances have characters touching and so it's not instantly recognisable as a unique feature of Call Me By Your Name; but you're right, the touching between characters in this film really is a cut above the rest. Thanks for watching :)
Agree totally. I always notice how Oliver touches the father's shoulder when he walks inside to listen to Elio play the piano. Such a natural gesture
Your ending statement and beginning of "oh to see without my eyes" it threw me off guard im genuinely speechless
This is a film that will stay in my heart forever, and honestly, no matter how often I play it, each time feels as fresh and healing almost. I tend to notice more and more details that I might have missed before, so every time watching it, I still see something new within. It's truly a precious masterpiece that totally won my heart over.. Even the way the family is so heartwarmingly welcome to everyone, it reminds me of how beautiful human beings can get along with eachother and it motivates me to be so much more kind and spread positivity rather than lash out in any upsetting manners. Ahhh, love it!
When I watched this movie for the first time, I cried for two days and I couldn't get over it for like a week (I'm emotional lol). It's just amazing how the atmosphere and the music brings you inside the story and it leaves you there to experience it alongside the characters throughout the story. I don't know how else I could describe the atmosphere other than magical, like it was timeless somewhere in the world, two people falling in love and hurting for each other. The director and the actors definitely created magic.
I was really sad when the Armie Hammer thing happened and the sequel was canceled. Because I felt like it broke the magic for me (just talking about the movie here, my heart goes to the victims and I hope the best for them), and it also ruined the chance to have another experience like this in the sequel. Truly heartbreaking.
Anyways, I loved the video! Amazing content, it made me "feel" the movie again, you're very talented!!
I reckon this is my favorite video essay i've watched yet. Your voice is extremely soothing and your points are clear, poetic and show immense awareness of subtlety and artistry. So thanks:)
Elio and Oliver's summertime romance may be yesterday's love, but it should not be tomorrow's regret. This film captures the warmth of the summer so much that i always yearn for its heat
this comment is so gorgeous
Dude, you are a poet. I just discovered this channel and I love it. Wonderful, insightful, tender, intelligent, and such sweet, gentle delivery. A breath of fresh air. Thank you :)
Just when you thought the movie was over, Timothee Charlamet excels. He is in front of a fireplace, and I see him spend just a minute or two in front of the camera. Now I know why his portrayals is respected. He is in love, and his love is lost. He wants to bring that love to him, but he knows that will not happen. It is a wonderful few minutes of drama that we see.
when I thought I couldn't love this movie more than I already do... this appears
such a beautiful review ❤
I just love how this movie makes you *feel* with so little.
mystery of love might be the perfect song to me. i feel such an overwhelming feeling the second it starts, like it literally takes my breath away it feels like falling in love. and honestly i do think this movie is problematic but i associate so heavily with the song that i cant actually fathom not being so invested in the beautiful story it tells so well. i don't think there will ever be another song like it tbh
The first time I watched this movie I was in company of someone, the second time I was by myself and I was able to take in everything you mentioned in this video... And Mr. Perlman's speech to Elio never fails to make me cry. I don't really know why "Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once" gets to me.
I was in the place of Elio when I was exactly 17 and he was 26. It brings me back nostalgia how raw we were. Had Motor bike rides late in the mid night, me trying to get his attention like a typical teenager lol. even though we never said each other "I love you" but those memories spent with him felt like heaven. we met every single night in the park side by lake where he sleeps in my lap and we used to do arm wrestling there. I remember first time when I kissed him in the Sacred temple my soul turned holy and I closed my eyes. Though we had fights and misunderstandings off and on but seeing him always my heart started pounding. Now there is only longing ache to see him again but I think he might have been married as it is almost 10 years past.
I'm so sorry about what you went through. I genuinely hope your doing well now away from that creep.
Hey Abhishek so you are 27 now?
Are u also married?
bro, ur a victim of grooming 😬
@@Lemoncakelover678 wtf
victim
Luca is so talented it brings tears to my eyes between this movie and bones and all he has found a way to set a bar for cinema and bringing a feeling to a movie u never felt before the feeling u wanna Burst into tears and rewatch over and over again to feel how u felt while watching the nostalgia of young free love that consumes you he knows exactly how to make u feel the emotions as if u are elio , Oliver , lee , maren I will forever talk ab how INCREDIBLE Luca is and the vision he has for the projects he works on he brings them alive liek no other. The music also in both movies fits so perfectly it’s insane the artists know how to set a mood and add even more depth to a scene then it already has its mind blowing really I could go on and on but I’m so happy I found my people who rlly appreciate the beauty of this movie and Luca as a artist it’s not even movies anymore it’s pure art form I love love that so many people feel the way I feel ab this it’s seriously moves people and that’s what cinema can do if it’s done the way we all seen Luca do and all the other incredible people who worked on these projects
I love the fact that you see the beauty of every single detail in every film, it doesn't care what kind of film, and that is precious. I know people that can see the beauty in music or paintings, but never in movies in the way you do. It's a talent that I'm grateful to find, and I'm glad that the internet works for this too (sorry for my English, still practising)
12:12 "the heat that makes water taste like air" jesus christ that's beautiful
The fish scene makes me think of Elio as a young boy being goofy and how he is testing out being grown up in his scenes with his new romances but is still attached to his youth and his supported dependence on his parents. I really enjoyed watching these two unlikely characters fall in love while keeping in mind it is the 80's so there is a different context than now for not only the difference in age, but the same sex relationship. The clincher was the talk with his father at the end of the movie. This brought so much light and hope to the whole story and made the movie worth watching.
Please do "God's Own Country". The movie is a modern cinematic masterpiece. Stunning visuals, wildly beautiful locations and Josh O' Connor's superstar performance- I love this movie to death.
That'd be great. It's an amazing movie. Similar in the way that most of the emotions are portrayed in a subtle way that slowly builds, and the surroundings are used as a perfect frame to the story. It's beautiful.
its so fucking good
OMFG AND THE LACK OF MUSIC✨✨✨
literally so good
@@ellaocean But that musical gem at the end though! "Days" by Patrick Wolf. Makes everything a hundred times better!
This is an extraordinary commentary on this film and I’m so happy RUclips suggested it to me. This film destroyed me, in the best way possible … it lingered with me many weeks after I saw it initially, it truly impacted me like no film has done before it. You not only did the film justice, but pointed out things that were new and compelling to me. You’ve gained a fan and subscriber
this is my absolute favourite video on the internet. i come back to it every once in a while.
I always read the father's monologue as if it was simply about a love that got away (not necessarily same sex or opposite sex), I never read it as him explicitly coming out to Elio. I also thought they were talking about whether or not the mom knew about Elio and Oliver, not about the father actually being gay. I think the point stays though. For me the monologue is supposed to teach about courage and not letting time fly you by. On another note though: I absolutely, absolutely adore this movie. I think the love story is amazing and all the things mentioned in this video make it a true masterpiece and perfect comfort film tbh. Nevertheless the biggest thing bugging me as I look back on it a couple of years later is that the age gap really is quite uncomfortable. It didn't bother me watching the movie (2 times) as a teen but now I can't unsee how problematic it is. I think I always watched the movie from Elios perspective and saw myself in him in a way, so it didn't seem like problem. But of course realizing that Oliver is a grown man it seems incredibly predatory that he engages in a (sexual!) relationship with a teenage boy. And as beautiful as it as to see the parents being encouraging of this mlm relationship, it's fairly concerning that they're seemingly so okay with an adult more or less grooming their teenage son. Of course it's all consensual but as we know consent given by a teenager isn't really the same. It's just too easy for an adult to take advantage of them, to make it seem like this is the only choice. In the movie all ultimately goes well (or I mean, does it?) but being more aware of the real life issue this ultimately ruins Oliver's character for me. Not only in a political correct 2021 but at any point in time it should be clear that it's not okay for an adult to engage in a relationship with a teenager. As heartbreaking as it would've been, Oliver could and honestly should've rejected Elio.
I agree, Oliver should care about Elio's feelings and reject him as he knew it won't go anywhere and taking an advantage on teenager is just wrong.
The age of consent is 16 in Italy. And he was a little over 17. I dont think you need to be a certain age to be taken advantage of. It happens to people of all ages, esp if the partner has alterior motives, or is manipulative. I certainly don't see Oliver having such motives, it was purely an pure 1st love story. The majority of us had our first love around Elio's age, and we learn from that experience. It was a bit painful to see Elio so heartbroken at the end, but it made it even more realistic. Plus wouldnt it defeat the purpose of the movie if Oliver rejected Elio
@@yanavav right but if u remove first person perspective/ narration u see a story about a guy - Oliver- who is arrogant, got his rocks off, narcissistic and not supportive to Elio (who is compulsive obsessive btw, spoiled self centred kid) who goes away to his girlfriend ( he is in relationship on and off, he was never single lol - Oliver's motives) to keep his straight profile. Age is NOT a problem but the way Oliver acts is a problem. It makes Oliver more of a user. It's not a love story but a user story
@@ultron374 omg chill grl. There only humans, they make mistakes
@@yanavav they are not humans, they are just badly constructed characters by author in generall.
the way you ended this with the song quote made me actually start crying. this movie and book have always meant so much to me and it got a lot of hate lol but it’s truly beautiful. the soundtrack is my crying playlist for sure. but this is amazing for real like you explained my love for this movie so beautiful. ❤️
This book and movie is like a memory to me and i want to keep it that way. That is the reason why I can't rewatch/reread it because it's impossible to live the same moment twice.
The subtle mundanity of this story makes it so much more real, thus so much more painful.
I agree that "Does mom know?" isn't about Elio and Oliver. At the same time, I never interpreted it as his father being homosexual himself. To me, the ambiguity is deliberately alluding to how the film portrays the theme of love as existing beyond gender. The song and it's title "Mystery of Love" would perfectly encapsulates the films sentiment if it weren't for the one Hephaestion line bringing gender into the mix. At the same time it's still much more ambigous than other Sufjan Stevens songs.
This was review as as beautiful as the movie itself. Given that it's only your second video, you should be enormously proud of your work here. Great job.
i loved this movie. i feel like a lot of the backlash it got was cursory, misguided and, at times, tinged w homophobia. like a lot of media, this movie was initially well-liked, then it became cool to dislike it and criticize it; hopefully now we're at the point where people can watch, think critically, and form their own opinions.
I actually didn't knew people hated it, the only criticism i've heard is that it implies paedophilia because elio is underage or something, because of the book. Tho, in the movie that is not clear or explicit.
But don't worry, this is normal in popular things, the more people like it, the more someone will hate it making it uncool to love something, then time passes, and people start to like it again. And this comes from a ex-twilight hater, which i now regret, those are not as bad movies as i used to think.
So don't worry, good things always come back.
Screw the haters
Such a beautiful review.
I thought when Elio was asking his dad"did mom know" he was talking about him and Oliver, but I also get it as you said the father might have been in a homosexual relationship himself
Check out the link in the description! It shows the novel's author talking about the different interpretations of the ending and how they affect the story's meaning.
omg same
Or maybe just that the dad isn't all that enamored with his current marriage?
Honestly. You are incredible...you probably won't even read this and that is okay, but I just wanted to say that you have a real gift. Your insight and perspective has really touched me, please keep doing this.
After reading the novel the first time, I spent a full week with such melancholy for Italy and B, with a deep pain for a love I have yet to experience. Your video brought back a lot of those feelings. Thank you
What an absolutely phenomenal video. I watched Call Me By Your Name for the first time in 2018, and it has held up as my favorite movie to date. The book (by Andre Acimen) is one of the best novels I've ever read. Although written in prose, the elegance of his writing makes the words feel more like lyrics. You did an incredible job of articulating just how subtle and beautiful this movie truly is. Thank you for reviewing it so wonderfully!
I’ve never interpreted Mr Pearlman’s speech in this way before, I always got the impression that when Elio asks “does mom know” he’s referring to himself and whether or not his mother is aware that her son is homosexual, because that’s something he would be concerned about given their religious background and the time context. When Mr Pearlman says that he “came close once” I had assumed he meant the type of connection Elio and Oliver had, that raw, emotional and all consuming infatuation that can only truly end in devastation, rather than assigning a gender to it. That’s probably why Mr and Mrs Pearlman’s relationship is so beautiful and healthy, because it’s a slower kind of love that is founded in friendship and understanding, but he is still reminiscent of that time. But it’s so interesting to hear another take on this and it’ll give me another perspective to look through the next time I watch cmbyn. Definitely food for thought.
Another banger right after the Young Royals one?? Wow. The internet is not ready for you.
'Banger' is my middle name James.
@@marcustranfilm Shiny Banger Reviews
The knowing look that Elio's wonderful parents exchange in the study after hearing Oliver's news is them having told him "congratulations" on his engagement, while feeling their hearts breaking for their son Elio. And the very next line is Elio telling Oliver "They know about us." I'll add to this that the last thing that they told Oliver when he left by bus was to come back to Italy, and in first speaking to him on this phone call, it's "Darling, when are you coming back?" His news is finality for them and for Elio. That's what was conveyed when the film lingers on them in the study. (Mr Perlman isn't keeping a secret or lie from his wife)
meu deus, eu não tenho nem palavras para descrever o que foi esse video. não é somente uma review, de um filme sensacional, mas sim uma experiência de nostalgia e lembranças que não são suas. ele faz uma semelhança tão grande, como o cheiro e o calor, que é impossivel não se lembrar de algum momento assim. simplesmente brilhante
When I first saw this movie I was transported to all summer feelings from my early adolescence. The feelings, smells, sounds, tastes and sensations. I envied those days because being an adult sucks. I lacked the feeling of having so little to worry about. It was one of my strongest film experiences. I love it so much.
Is it impossible to get that back now?.
this was a true masterpiece. no matter how much i search, i can never find anything that gives me the same feelings as watching this film for the first time did. there is a hollow feeling when watching the film, but it still impacts your emotions so much through the subtle interactions.
I love the way his mom respected his feelings the final scene. I mean… she could say “ come on, son. Dry your tears. It’s time to move forward. Be brave. You’re too young. Let’s have dinner”. They are incredible parents.
Awesome video! By the way, the song that plays in the end is "Visons of Gideon", that repeatedly asks "is it a video?". Interestingly, "video" is the first person present conjugation of "seeing", like "I see", as a present action. That's why videoart is born in a sort of neverending or beginning form of audiovisual. Just imagens running in front of us, aimlessly. I think it adds so much to your analysis, because the power of that last shot is exactly the memories we've already created of that romance, now flashing through our mind with every tear and eventual laughter by Timothee. Again, awesome video essay. Hope to see more of you soon.
I think your interpretation of "Does Mom know" puts a whole new spin on understanding the father and his view of Elio's relationship with Oliver as well as sharing something so private.
in an interview, the authtor actually talks about how when he wrote it, he intended for it to be elio questioning whether mom knew about elio and oliver, but loved when he first heard a fan intepret the question the other way and felt it much more powerful and resonant
Hmmm....
One of those movies that i always want to watch again but never do because its simply too painful.
before i was out, call me by your name made me feel empty, after i came out, it made me ball my eyes out. it felt different and this will always be one of my favorite films because of how big of a cinematic masterpiece it is.
can i just say, as a young aspiring actress in love with film, your videos make me so so happy. to see someone else as invested in the storylines and diving deep into choices made by actors and filmmakers alike is seriously such a refreshing thing. keep up the incredible work my friend!
What they had was quite similar to me, but instead of Oliver leaving I thought who I had loved had left, but later learned he had passed away. I thought he was gone from what we had, but looking back on the weeks I missed him now knowing he was gone it is sort of scary. Now I have since moved, leaving the dead dream behind. I’ll go back just to see his name on his grave, I think that’s the closure I need.
This movie really captivated me when I first saw it and kept drawing me back in. The way that the setting feels lived in and as you describe, the way we can feel, and smell, and taste the world adds a lot of depth to this film. Great job! And this is really well done for only your second video! Keep it up :)
Can we please ask Luca to release the 4 hour cut!!!
I've never seen anyone make this good of a second video. I would have thought you've been doing this for years
I just wanted to weigh in on what you mentioned in the video description - I understand people thinking that the relationship portrayed is pedophilic, however the age of the characters is relatively irrelevant other than it highlights the gap between them in experience of sex and love. And besides, I think what the film doesn't show so well but the book does is that it's mutual between them from the start, not just Oliver seducing Elio, it's even suggested that Elio was drawn to Oliver before he arrived as he saw him in a picture and helped his dad chose him to come over other potential students. The story is all about Elio's struggle to figure out Oliver's feelings whilst coming to terms with his own as they grow closer to each other. I think casting Armie Hammer, though I think he was great in the film, only exaggerated the age gap as he clearly looks older than 24, if they had cast a younger looking man to play him I wonder if so many people would have had an issue.
I think it's quite clear even in the film that Elio longs for Oliver from the start as well, and despite Oliver's slight touching at volleyball, Elio is mostly the "aggressor" in the relationship. So yeah to me it is very safe and consensual despite the film appearing to have a slightly larger age gap than the books
This! I think there is merit to suggesting that the praise this movie received makes the movie, even if to a small degree, normative. However, obviously this specific relationship is not what we're warning about when we talk about subjects like grooming and predatory relationships.
I think it's interesting that the implication of the backlash to this film is that Elio couldn't be in love (as in we are unable to call his feelings love) because of his inexperience. Defining romantic love as something that can only be achieved by someone with a fully developed brain seems like it really demarcates our current understandings of love.
exactly! when i first finished watching the movie it was obvious to me that its trying to show these kind of age gaps in relationships as a bad thing, not romanticize them. through the whole thing you see elio being a lot more 'into' the relationship than oliver and it just sums up in the ending when we learn oliver thought of him as a summer romance (he said something about his relationship with a women being 'off and on for a couple of years' so i suppose he met eilo when it was 'off') and not really caring so much, as elio like a teenager he is was really invested in it and had those 'visions of gideon' of how it might end up, he thought it would be something permanent.
underage people cant consent even if they are into the adult... we all have crushes on older people as children, but we're still immature and underdeveloped, lack experience and are unprepared are moldable and naive etc etc..
@@OmfgHiii I would like to throw it out there that in Europe, where the story is set, the age of consent is generally lower than 18, usually around 16, in Italy it’s actually 14, so though I’m not condoning relationships where someone is significantly older, I don’t think the situation in Call me by your name is that problematic, especially since the story wouldn’t be any different if Elio happened to be 18
I listened to Mystery of love all summer long when I was in Italy with my mother a year ago really having the best time of my life and almost always closed my eyes just being in the moment. When I listen to it now I get this strong melancholy feeling and sadness rolling over me remembering all the smells, sounds, people talking in a language I couldn’t understand, the grass between my toes and people playing music everywhere. Deeply wishing to go back but I can’t. That was the last summer before I started working and beginning my ,adult life’ . The peace and joy this song gives me and being so great full for life itself I can’t describe. I often times think If I could only be in these moments. But I know those happy summer days will come back to me once again. Thank you so much for this video, I deeply needed it.