The original video popped up in my timeline and I almost watched it. I thought it was about a cheating husband. I had no idea the story was this horrific.
Just a small correction: She had 2 sons before the marriage. Her and her husband have 2 daughters together and third baby. She found out he was abusing their 4 year old daughter and their 2 year old daughter. She herself was abused as a child by a neighbor’s husband and she is also a product of rape. Which really puts into perspective why she thought she could overlook him assaulting her multiple times. I think experiencing things like that and her being born from her mother being abused probably really messed with her mentally. I’m just glad she got her children out of there immediately. This is a very sad situation.
I commend her. My bio dad SA'd both my sister and I, and when my mother found out, she made it about her, never asking if we were okay. She stayed with dad and made it a point to punish me whenever I brought the subject up. We had to keep pretending like we were a happy family. I'm apparently the monster for not just getting over it. Eff them all. I went no contact.
The devil will use anyone. I pray you find healing ❤️🩹 and help. Personally I finally end up believing in Jesus through his signs and miracles after seeking a lot
It was his own daughters . The only other person on earth you’re supposed to trust with your kids is their father/ your husband and to know that that person violated their kid this way is CRAZY
Exactly!!! I am so tired of seeing people not doing their research and automatically claiming she just had her small daughters around him. She married him WAY too quickly, but the truth still remains that they are his daughters and she should have been able to trust their own father with them.
@@latecheckout11 agreed that women should be more cautious getting in relationships, but if a guy is able to hide their true nature until after marriage, how is that the partner's fault? some people don't show who they rly are until they have you locked down with marriage or kids
As messed up as this story is , I commend her for leaving. There are so many disgusting women that will ignore the abuse and stick beside the man “for the bag” smdh
Hearing this as a man…… sadly this is not surprising. Happened to me at 5 by an adult woman family friend who you’d never think she would be that way because she was a career driven well put together woman. FAST FWD, I lead a panel in college of men and this topic came up. Out of 59 of my guys, 41 of them said this happened to them as young single digit kits by a female adult whether it was family or a friend. Please…. please be careful of your children. Also, just because a man is attractive or a provider doesn’t mean they’re good people.
I am sorry that happened to you. There is definitely an ignorant stereotype that you can tell all pedophiles by looking at them and they will be ugly and scruffy looking but reality is that they can be good looking well put together by people and not just men but also women.
People sleep on women predators, but I've been with two men who lost their virginity as teens to women in their thirties. Fucking disgusting. People play down women preying on young men too, it's so sad.
I was abused as a 6 - 8 year old by the son of a neighbor who babysat us. Worse: the neighbor in question was a therapist for children with mental and physical disabilities, as well as his own sister having disabilities, who he also abused. I'm 33 and have a 3 year old little girl and this is literally my worst nightmare. When you've been abused you can't shut that distrust off with anyone, including my own husband, who is in all regards an incredibly trustworthy loyal man. But still, there will always be something in me that knows what people are capable off and I cannot switch that off. I pray for the innocent every day, may God love and protect them and may the adults in their lives take positive action.
Amen. Sorry you had to go through that. It’s our burden to carry and weights heavily on us, but I would rather be cautious than be wrong and god forbid something happens to my babies. Absolutely worst nightmare, used to have literal nightmares when I was pregnant with my first, plenty of sleepless nights worrying. God is good he gave me a wonderful husband, his children are his world and is an amazing father and husband. I feel immense guilt, and I would never express the distrust I have for every male. It’s been a journey and having amazing brothers and husband has helped forced me to deal with distrust but it never fully goes away. I will say it gets a little easier when they can communicate I felt like I was going crazy in the first 4 years of their life. You have to be their best friend and foster healthy communication and language around difficult conversations. I will breathe easy when my children are in their 20s. Sending you lots of love and prayers.
@@Tadao-Lao-q6t Thank you for your message. I'm glad to hear that you have an amazing husband and brothers who helped you through. I totally relate to what you said about going crazy because they can't properly communicate, I struggle with that too though I put a lot of time into teaching my daughter to talk... but still, knowing they are so innocent and wouldn't know or realize what is happening, and that they would have to tell me, drives me insane. So I tell her she can always tell mommy anything, and I also tell her that if an adult or other person makes her uncomfortable or tells her not to tell me something, she should definitely tell me. But it's hard navigating the "right" way of teaching her how to communicate about it without transferring my fears to her, which I do try to be aware of... it's good to hear from someone who relates. ♥
My mother remarried after a 7 year relationship with my step father. My step father is like my real father, he raised us like his own. Not every man is a monster, there just needs to be extra care when selecting and before settling.
Good for her. Thats what All single parents should do. I did the same for my son. I didnt want him going through what I did and a vast majority of children these days went through. Its the Right Path. Tell your mother how Good she is/was with her decision. Thats a Very good mother. Bless you all.
Amen, same with my mom. She was always terrified I would be targeted and saw it happen in her family growing up. I'm so extremely thankful she put me first instead of her love life.
he will most likely go to another prison. which is forever, it's called hell. unless the guy repents, which is very unlikely but you never know. only God can save this guy but he has to repent. sick dude
@@lennylink8772 dude she saw the daughter's vagina was red and sensitive. what do u think happened? you can't be serious with this comment bro. completely heartless.
touching her children after seeing and knowing how protective she is over them and knowing about how she was brought into this world herself, makes it even more sickening.
@@Ohkay5613 while this does add another level, I feel like the willingness to 'diddle' kids at all is the most severe part of this. Them being his biological children makes it slightly more disgusting for sure tho
What most don't know is there were even videos on her channel where you can clearly hear her daughter crying and yelling saying "owww" and she would tell us to ignore it, her daughter is with daddy and she's being cranky. multiple videos. He was married 3 times all domestic violence cases but she didnt know that because she IMMEDIATELY married and moved in with him. After being assaulted herself she didnt consider the safety of her children. As a mother who's had some experiences with abuse myself and dealt with dangerous men this horrifies me. She ignored it and I hope she learns from the experience so she can see what's important in life and have a safer, happier life for her children.
Right, in a way she UNKNOWINGLY put her children in that position because she was so quick to marry him instead of giving him to earn that trust. He has been married previous times and has been reposted for DV as well. She also unknowingly enabled his behavior after being sexually assaulted by him and continuing to be with him afterwards…a man she thought she loved, she’s a victim and I feel awful for her. People are going to question WHY she stayed, but honestly people don’t understand how being a victim of rape by someone you loved can damage you mentally. You start to make illogical decisions. This isn’t justifying her actions, but it definitely explains why. At the end of the day, however she plays a role as well in enabling his bad behavior and continuing to give him access to vulnerable people. It’s honestly not talked about enough that behind abusers and toxic people, there are often good-hearted people who are unfortunately enablers and end up unknowingly making their behaviors worse and giving them reasons to continue to be abusive or continue their toxic behavior
@rainberry2159 right. I just hope she takes the step to start the much needed inner work for herself and learns her lessons. I wouldnt want her to be ashamed all her life or not forgive herself... we all fall and have done wrong especially after having our own traumas but at some point you have to look at yourSELF or u keep going through the cycles. Maybe this is the wake up call she needed I'm glad people are holding her accountable or she'd never learn
@@janellepas I'm sorry, but you are simplifying a situation that is HIGHLY complex... If you think that deep trauma don't impact the way the brain works, you are just ignorant (and that's all right). But instead of judging, make the effort to learn about it... Kids that have parents in a violent relationship are more likely to be in a relationship with violence. A mother that was abused as a kid are more likely to have kids that will be abused as kids. If this is true in statistics, it means that it's much more complex than just "it's a choice". You don't solve problems with your attitude. The end goal would be for this to not happen anymore. It's unlikely. But with a better knowledge, psychological support can help.
@@stephsnacks1272I understand, I’ve been sexually assaulted multiple times. But, those were actually his kids he did that to. The boys were hers. And this man raped her 4 times within a few months of their marriage, they married each other after only a week of talking online. And she still went on to have kids with him knowing that he was a predator. I’m not blaming her for his actions, but better choices could have been made. Especially with children being involved.
😢 Props to her for leaving and protecting the kids. I hope she calls the authorities. There’s resources to help women going through stuff like this. Praying for her and the kids.
Right. I’m frustrated & irritated with Aba & Preach for not providing information or links to those resources while becoming judgmental towards her as a trophy wife influencer. She, as a victim, literally has no role in the disgusting alleged behavior of her husband towards her or her children. As a MD I wish they’d used their power to share resources because so many women don’t have the funds to leave such situations safely. Also children who’ve been SA’ed statically have higher odds of entering abusive relationships as adults. Lots of correctable ignorance around this issue if people took the time to research it. This video frustrated me immensely but I’m glad she was able to get both herself & her kids to safety!
This is why we got be careful of those who call themselves "Christian" but don't actually follow Christ. Because they wear the name like a costume. Then when people who are on the outside don't know, they can't tell the difference between the real and the fake because that costume is Hollywood grade.
@@LacquerLockdownshe’s to blame for being a “trophy wife” to begin with… shes literally a gold digger… literally just confirms that everything she looks for in a man is purely superficial and not based off his character like it should be…
My mom was ra**d by hee bio dad... it cuts deep when you guys say that their pleasure is more important than their children's sanity... heck, it even affected me, my brother and fathers life when her repressed memories came flooding back decades later and she was never the same.... she was broken... decades of heavy medication never brought her back... she died 2021 and am glad her suffering is over.. love you mom
😢🥺😢 this just brought tears to my eyes. I have never been touched but most my friends and family have. The hurt they feel is and pain they carry is heavy. I pray for anyone who has been through it or knows anyone who has been through it. Rih to your mom
I will say this as someone studying psychology and slightly interested in couples and marital counseling. MARITAL SEXUAL ASSAULT IS SOOOO COMMON. a lot of men have this thought that they should be able to have their wives sexually at any time. Most of those men don’t go to grape their children though. I can see why someone looking for a “traditional man” would over look this assault a lot of people are blaming her but she is not at fault here
Yeah, I wouldn't blame her at all. She's very brave and she did the right things exactly when it mattered. I just wish she didn't tell this story so publically. Everyone in their lives will know what happened when these little girls were 2 and 4. She should've just blurred her face or something. This wasn't her story to tell so publically imo.
@ yes! I understand her wanting to put her story out there to help other women but there’s a way she should’ve went about it.. she didn’t have to specifically say which children she has 5 if I’m not mistaken. The words “2 out of the 5” could’ve worked fine.
@Enoughalready20237 are you trying to convince me, you or everyone else in the comments? I'm just trying to understand the intention behind your reply to my comment..
Exactly...I had my first bf when I was 18, it lasted for a 2 weeks😂. He didn't do anything crazy to me but since then I never got into a relationship and now I'm 25 and honestly with how most man are fucked up, I don't see myself dating ever. Being single is much safer
@@qwertyt586 If he didn't do anything im curious as to what a 2 week relationship can do just to make you stop dating? I understand hating men but when they haven't even done anything to you is a bit wild aint it?
Hmmm, wow fellas this 1 was truly tough to watch especially because I am a single mother to 2 daughters. I am very particular when dating & have never introduced my kids to anyone. I even believe that I may need to shelf my romantic desires for after my girls are grown & on their way because I was also abused as a child & it is my worst nightmare for my daughters to experience the same, worse yet by someone I trusted & brought into their home. I empathize with this lady in the video but I also believe y'all handled the content responsibly. These questions needed to be asked for accountability sake, hell for the kid's sake. It's not about victim blaming or not hurting the mother's feelings. The part about her kids trauma now being on the internet for public consumption is real, its her truth to tell but that's a perspective I didn't consider but I definitely will be mindful of that in the future when it comes to my own kids. Thanks guys, job well done🙏🏼 -Thanks so much guys for the engagement. This is a really serious topic & it should be spoken about more so that people can become more aware of how easy it is for kids to be mistreated & taken advantage of. We have to do all within our power & within the law as a society to keep our children safe. It saddens me that from the follow up, this woman failed miserably to do that. Let's stay vigilant & be each other's keeper. Those kids deserve so much better.
@@NaquitaAlexander it’s sad that some people will have the audacity to insult the victims like they play a part in their victimization. Until it happens to someone close to them, some will never understand. I don’t blame victims and especially children. Ppl need to control their demons or remove themselves
@@deborahdonald9323 If we live in a world of demons we need to fight them and 100% not expect them to remove themselves. If a dog on a chain I felt was a threat I would warn my son to keep his distance. I definitely think that we should make people aware of how to protect themselves from the wolves and what behaviors attract them.
I feel you ❤️🫂🫂🫂 By the way, it's good to see a positive pin, no shame involved 😊😊. It's important for people to realize that you don't need a romantic relationship to survive. We should spend that time thinking about the games we try to play like "sprinkle sprinkle" to cultivate relationships for business and just friends. I used to be a girl into red pill content, I don't even understand how exactly I feel into it but I wasn't in a good place at all. I lost my only sibling in 2021 and people were saying some stupid stuff around me (an introvert who was really close to her brother and didn't have many friends). People mentioned marriage a lot, I was 20 when it happened and a yes later my parents still couldn't let me go far from home (not even the very next state for a compulsory year of national youth service). I started using RUclips and movies (especially Netflix) to escape. I think RUclips felt I would love red pill and American conservatives (Daily Wire specifically), because I'm in Nigeria and until 2022, I had no idea about these platforms, never even heard of Andrew Tate and Pierce Morgan. Imagine the frame of mind you have to be to agree with 70% of Andrew Tate and Candace Owens 😅. I'm lucky I was too much of an introvert to act on anything, the worst I did was a few pick me tweets about men not knowing what they want and men overlooking good women 😂🤦🏾♀️
@tamiausten873 Wow! Firstly, sorry for your loss. I have 3 brothers & for me just the thought of losing them is unbearable, may God console you & your family. On the red pill thing, there's no shame in admitting you got swept up. The internet is like an echo chamber, i guess the algorithm gave you what you needed at the time.
This woman deserves props. Not only did she immediately believe the child, she immediately got the children looked at by professionals, and immediately made moves to protect the children. She didn’t wait, she didn’t allow the suffering to continue, she acted as quickly as she was able to stop it. She’s beating herself up because it happened but if I knew her I’d be quick to remind her she acted quickly to stop it and keep it from continuing to happen. That’s not nothing, that’s being a good mom and something she should be proud of.
Good mothers don’t ignore red flags 🚩 nor put there children at risk like that. More importantly good mothers don’t have kids with random ass men they don’t truly know.
He was sick before she met him. She was just an easy target for him & I think he knew that. She probably did want the best for herself & her kids but she shouldn't have moved in with him without getting to know him first. When he graped her the first time, she should have left. Also, she kind of did the opposite of what SheraSeven talks about on her channel. I'm glad that she believed her daughter & took all the necessary actions to get her children out of there. I hope the kids get therapy as well but she could've kept this off the Internet for their privacy & protection.
I also thought how I would hate for my trauma story to come out without my permission. But I also see why she had to post it and ultimately she’s doing more good by telling her story than not. She’s breaking the sprinkle sprinkle illusion.
It is almost ALWAYS someone you would never expect. A woman pretended to be my friend, worked at a school. She ended up grooming my 5 year old son. Got caught making him kiss her to have recess. Giving him all these secret gifts when he was off at kindergarten. I never would have expected it.
@@KNByam probably not. if it was money she wouldnt even be making this video. a person who married for money knows what they are getting into. they dont expect loving treatmen.t a person who marries with rose colored glasses, acts like this.
The monster, who did it to me for almost 11 years got sentenced to 3 years in prison 2 weeks ago. 3 years. Fight for your children. Protect your children. Get them help and get yourself help.
As a young man, there’s nothing I hate more than situations and scenarios like this. One of the biggest fights we all have as humans, but especially as men is self-control. It doesn’t matter what your desires are or what your emotions are you should always have self-control. Especially when it comes to your significant other and children! HOW DARE HE do what he did! He deserves to rot in hell for that! Nonetheless, he’s made such a shameful image for us men. He’s an abomination of an existence and I’m sorry you had to go through that.
Finally a comment with common sense. Most I've read are just blaming her as if she could have known he would do that to HIS OWN CHILDREN. Good to know people with common sense still exist
6:14 I'm with Preach. The mom couldn't have done anything when it's her HUSBAND who was doing this. Someone who's supposed to help protect the kids. Unless you want to say she shouldn't have trusted her husband alone with her kids... 😅 'Cause if a woman has any suspicion of that, then they shouldn't even be with that person
@@alexmason3190 Okay, what? Be paranoid about her husband? Like I said, if any woman suspects their husband is even capable of this, the they shouldn't even be with them. 😅
Those are his biological daughters....people aren't mentioning that. Of course a mother isn't going to want to think about her own childs father messing with them and not letting him be alone with them.
Just for context, from what I've seen, the girls are actually his biological kids. She had 2 sons prior to meeting him and they had two girls (plus the baby) who he SA'd. Its so sick, praying for those poor kids Edit: Just to clarify I didn't mean the baby was SA'd, only that they share 3 children
No, she never stated that the infant was sa’d. The situation is bad enough as is, don’t go adding to the horror. Correct me if I’m wrong, and with proof, but nowhere is this stated in the original video.
I just want to give an alternative perspective on the part about her talking on her child's trauma, I look at it like this, I'm not one for sharing everything about your life online, BUT (and I speak as someone who was abused in that way as a child) I think it's a good thing to put out there, my reason is this type of abuse is generally hidden, taboo, not talked about, and abusers many times get away with their abuse due to the shame and taboo of that subject, expose them, it's important as a society to stop feeling shame over this, these monsters should be exposed, my hope is that someday, this behaviour would be lessened due to the fear of exposure, monsters are monsters and we need to put a light on them so they can't hide and have secrecy anymore!
The signs were there, but were ignored unfortunately. I don’t understand why the relationship was continued after the initial abuse. Regardless, I hope she and her children heal and get the help they need. I hope her “husband” rots in jail.
Maybe because she experienced SA in the past she thought she could endure it in her marriage. I agree she should've left but her past gives content as to why she didn't. Sad situation. Glad she left
She married him in two weeks, so she didn't have enough time to see the signs before she got married. Her daughters are the kids she had with him, and she had two sons from previous relationships when she married him. So it seems she ignored the signs he showed after they got married before she had the daughters until it was too late.
The worst is these women will criticize other women for not wanting to deal with red flags when we see them and tell us we need to get like them. We know the signs. If a woman has to preach at other women about how great her marriage is, she’s trying to convince herself. This is sad. Bless all of them.
@@TripleJJJ111JJJ For me personally, I wouldn’t watch any videos on a women who claims to be a trophy wife. I’m not looking into trying to trick or find old rich guys so that’s not my forte. I kind of understand wanting to be at home with the kids but she solely did this for money.
Although when I first heard this story the first time I was with everyone here in the comments. Scared to watch… I commend her etc… UNTIL I LOOKED AT HER OLD VIDEOS!!! She was DOWN with the sick crap. advising the stream to ignore the baby saying OUCH AND CRYING HORRIFICALLY in the background and home girl didnt FLINCH!! I would do a bit of checking on this story guys. There is much more to this one and mama of the year ain’t so. 😢 I pray for the kids tho
I once dated a single mother. One of her biggest fears was someone she’s dating messing with her daughter. I totally get it, if I had kids that’d worry me too. But this guy is a real monster - ruined lives.
@@michaelwaninger3155she wants to date then she should, the men who prey on small babies should be guilty not the poor mother for wanting to date, your mentality is victim shaming at its best, she shouldn't have to stop dating to protect her children from r@pe the fact that u think that alone and see it as a common occurrence is sick
For those wondering why a woman graped by her partner would stick around with vulnerable children… people have different responses to trauma. Especially if she experienced SA in childhood, it’s quite common to have a freeze/dissociative/denial response when that kind of trauma reoccurs later in life … you don’t want to believe someone you love and trust so much would hurt you in that way. It’s telling that she wasn’t able to hold those “red flags” when it came to her own boundaries being violated, but jumped to protect her children from the same situation. She likely told herself those incidents were not what she thought they were, and that she was misinterpreting the situation. Developmental trauma can really screw with one’s ability to protect their own safety and boundaries, even while rushing to rescue others and being hypervigilant around their vulnerabilities
Stop infantilising fefails, che is just as as guilty and at fault for how che didn't protect the kids. (Had to spell things wrong because you're not allowed to criticise fefails)
You are 100% correct but we have to start holding everyone accountable in these situations. Don’t tell me about how protective you are with your kids when you allowed a rapist around them🤦🏽♀️. At some point it’s your responsibility to seek help for your trauma and take accountability for who you brought about your kids.
This is so sickening. I'm a mother of three and My spouse and I work around our children's schedule to not leave them with anyone. Because its not safe for your sons either. It does make my life revolve around my children and getting to go out with friends isn't something that can happen right now but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make. They won't stay young forever but these traumas can affect their whole life. So my social life involves my children & friends who also have children. Beach Days, Play Dates etc.
"I thought that he was my prince charming" Ladies..........Nobody is your prince charming. That is a lie that you have been sold since you were a little girl by hollywood, disney, and other romanticized soap opera's drama. its the same for us fellas.
An old neighbor disclosed to me that her daughter was assaulted (to excuse her behavior at the event we attended). It was the first time I met her and her daughter. I hear what you're saying Aba. I was perturbed because even as a woman, as someone who had a mother who did not protect her secrets, I would NOT want my mother telling a stranger I was violated. The world is a crazy place but I don't think it's weird to expect mothers (and fathers) to be more sensitive and protective of information related to their children. I understand this lady isn't bringing up her child's trauma in a similar sense. BUT I completely hear where you're coming from.
For those saying she shouldn’t come and say publicly: I get why! However:Many women are unalived for knowing their husband’s deep dark secrets , her coming out and putting his face out there will prevent that man from doing even worst than what he already done.
Not really, if this guy is really sick in the head then what’s stopping him from kil…. her? She didn’t say his name or how you looked or maybe am wrong and this doesn’t show that.
it wouldve been enough i think to go through the appropriate procedures and not make a public spectacle of it , this is a mess .. it wasnt her decision to make it public , its her daughters business
@ maybe , but I’m not sure if any good mother who gets caught in such horrible situation would be able to act more rationally. When humans beings are in shock they tend to do things that are out of character .
Victims absolutely should make this public, abusers have to be shamed and not protected. The whole Gisele Pelicot case is exactly about that! The men who don't want abuse victims to go to the public are highly sus
I agree completely with you guys about how too often people rely on the idea of karma to pacify their fears. It's not a reliable or fixed thing. Even if these monsters torment themselves mentally for what they do to others, that doesn't mean they will stop and that there wont be any more victims. They can go on for years and ruin many lives take many lives before getting caught, sometimes they dont get caught. How long will we wait for this thing called karma to "get them"?
You are praying? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Did you not actually listen to the video? - SHE is christian - HE is christian - SHE prayed to god to protect her children - God wasn't there for her when she was raped as a child - God wasn't there for her when her "christian" husband raped her kids And you think "praying" for her is the answer? WOW... DELUSIONAL!!!
She MAY have overlooked his grape of her during their marriage because there is some unhealed part of her from her childhood. Often victims of sexual assault in childhood struggle delineating between what is real love and lust or perversion. SA generates confusion and disgust. I know a lot of people are blaming her for her silly trophy wife mentality and I agree it's silly. however there is no way she caused the abuse of her children. I commend her for believing her daughters right away. These Predators seek out abused and/or naive women because they can trigger and use their trauma against them.
Or she ignored it due to financial gain. whats that saying about crying in a lambo? In fact she's worse than people think. she knew she was dealing with grape by this man but had a whole channel lying to other women and talking down to hard working average men.
@@meloran2571exactly. She was literally advertising herself to every scǔmbag man as an object “trophy wife” and she’s surprised when she is treated like one? She should be in prison for putting her children in that situation too.
I agree. I have friends who have experienced that and I’ve noticed their “cautious behavior” and vetting of men is so far below what my personal standards are. I really believe they should receive therapy to help reshape what they think is normal and proactive.
Yes this is a well known fact in psychology. The brain is comfortable with what it knows. This makes abuse victims especially vulnerable to continue the cicle of abuse and why there is so much generational trauma in some families.
I usually find your commentary to be a bit sexist and patronizing; however, when it comes to this specific topic ,you guys are spot on! I would just like to add that it appears that she lacks discernment, and she is a classic case of a Jezebel spirit. To be more specific, it's more so a classic case of a somatic-sexual narcissist, with a touch of Histronic personality disorder/AKA trophy wife meets covert malignant narcissist. On the contrary, we always want to refrain from victim shaming, however, in this specific case; it makes you wonder, if she's a victim, after all. She could have just ignored his proclivities in the honor of money and status.
I immediately looked up this story and dived a little deep and there are loads of pictures of her kids and none of the husband. I thought that was pretty weird. There's even pictures of her in her wedding dress. She posts content about hypergamy and the like and it makes you think did he not want his face out there because of what he did in the past.
She used to have pics of him, and removed them since the situation. That's usually what ppl do when they break up. She's leaving the glamorous pics bc she's still running the "trophy wife" business.
@uncannytheos2454 Wrong. Vetting might have not change a damn thing. There are so many predators who live their who live capable of hiding their crimes.
Sad but if youve gone through serious abuse from a young age. Especially s*xual abuse- youre bound to find yourself repeating the cylcles with what you allow into your life. Even if its the opposite of what you want and what u think youre looking for. Its an "the energy is familar" thing. Happens on a subconscious level. You have to put in serious, biggest effort of my lifetime work- to change these patterns. Its not your/our fault but it is a haunting feeling to have it follow you. But there is something you can do to boost your change of changing patterns.
I think it's important that she has told the public so more people in her community are aware of this monster and they can stop him! Please sometimes we do need to alert everyone to keep other children safe. Someone I know close to me kept quiet about things and other children were affected by this decision.
It’s the “I am a product of this and I prayed to god this situation wouldn’t happen” I was diddled and I would want my mother to tell the whole world who to stay away from.. for sure…
But that's you. And you were old enough to give your mom that permission. A two and four year old don't even have that comprehension. I'm just glad the four year old wasn't brainwashed into keeping it a secret from her mom. Sadly, seeing as she was four, she was probably brainwashed for years into thinking what "dad" was doing was ok.
@@minilea144 yea.. that is me.. I thought it was clear I was speaking as me when I said “ I was…. I would” so yes!! That is me… indeed.. you know what no child actually wants… to be diddled in the first place!! 🤷🏽♀️ and what do you mean I was old enough?? Do you know how old I was? What age of experience do you think I’m speaking from? At 4 you are old enough to comprehend that’s why brainwashing is how it usually happens, that’s how they are able to repeatedly offend. This is exactly why it does need to be talked about.
@@Livelaughlove-n8t Until she fix herself. Same for anyone else that is broken. If it takes a lifetime, then that lifetime you must take that journey alone.
my first thought was why did she get married to this guy, one of the things ppl do is Vet the person before they marry them and get to know their parents to see how things generally play behind closed doors, this saves you alot of time in the long run, but my question is why did she get with a rapist? She said it herself she got touched by him several times before this happened
Maybe with her history of being abused and being a product of abuse she’s repeating the past. I hope this doesn’t become a generational problem with her children’s children as well😢. She needs to seek therapy and find out and deconstruct some unhealthy thought processes and possibly bring mum along. Maybe she got used to giving power to someone who she feels can protect her due to some inner vulnerabilities and like preach said she has a child’s thought process still.
I like the points brought up concerning "victim blame". Truth is, predators exist and there's nothing wrong with teaching potential prey how to avoid and protect yourself against them. Being someone who watches a lot crime content, I often see people get accused of victim blaming when they bring up things like hitching a ride with strangers isn't the safest thing to do etc... I think this rhetoric of vilifying teaching people survival skills only benefits perpetrators. While I understand that it's important to "teach boys not to commit crimes blahblah" a lot of times criminals are just messed up in the head and they'll just do what they want regardless of how good their parents/teachers/mentors were.
I find it so funny that people who cry victim blaming, are SO QUICK to try to teach predators, and literally people who don't care about right and wrong, not to do wrong. And it's to the point where they just INSULTINGLY "teach all boys/men not to grape" and yet, whenever they hear people want to impart steps to protect yourself to people with actual SENSE, that's victim blaming. That's not the right thing to do. Yet telling ghostface not to ghostface is apparently the smartest thing to do. Wow. Good job it's worked wonders lol
Yep to me it's logical to encourage both preventative measures to both victims and perpetrators. The way some people twist victim blaming makes it sound like you should encourage a woman to walk down a dark alley late at night because in a perfect world no-one would attack them! Like yeah in a perfect world we could do that and keep our doors unlocked but in reality that isn't sensible and is dangerous. It's just stupid and imo if you actually care about (potential) victims you would want to help them protect themselves. I also like true crime and get annoyed when parents do an awful job and something tragic happens to their child but if you mention it, or criticise them in anyway, you get told you're victim blaming and you should just have sympathy and only blame the attacker. Like no I think letting your 12 year old child go out at midnight riding around in a car with a group of random teenagers you don't know actually isn't the best parenting and shows poor safety and bad decisions making. Like obviously that doesn't mean she deserved her child to die, or that I don't feel sorry for her. However if she hadn't let her child go out she would likely still be alive and I think pointing that out can help prevent more victims. I believe pretending she was a perfect parent and couldn't have done anything differently is not acknowledging reality, and is actively harmful to child protection and keeping people safe, healthy and alive.
So what is your solution here? If you actually consume a lot of true crime content you should know that whenever a serial killer is exposed the people around him, sometimes the whole village can't believe that he was that kind of person and would have never guessed. Men like that are usually highly valued members of their community because this is how they can stay hidden. This woman thought she married a devout Christian man with traditional values and he ended up abusing his own daughters (yes he was the bio dad of the girls, not their step dad)
@@fehyndana7725 That's what I want to know too. Did they even watch the video? The two MENTION that this kind of thing usually happens right under one's nose - an uncle, an auntie, a teacher, a priest - and that there's no way to feasibly prepare for it. Yes, it's stupid to wander into a forest with nothing to protect yourself in the middle of the night, but I'd argue that it's not at all stupid to not anticipate that your (albeit problematic to begin with) husband would assault his own. progeny. And not only that, but she herself said that due to her own trauma, she watched her children 'like a hawk'. How is that not enough? What on earth could she possibly have done to protect herself further than that? Not marry a gigantic blaring red flag, sure. But there's other men (and women) that, as you mentioned, are completely unassuming to everyone around them all the way up until it's too late. I highly doubt that the majority of these anti-victim-blaming soldiers the commenter speaks of are 'vilifying teaching people survival skills'. More likely, they don't think that it's fair to expect what is essentially constant paranoia from these women - don't wear those clothes. don't walk in that direction. not that one either. don't go to that city. avoid that country, period. always bring something that can be used as a weapon. don't leave your house. don't have children with him. don't have children, point blank. wait no come back, we need you to have children. but not in those clothes, some people have a pregnancy fetish around these parts. in fact, how about you don't even breathe? that's better.
@@fehyndana7725 This woman married a man she barely knew. She moved in with him days after moving out of an ex's house because the ex wasn't bonding with her children. Moving in and out with different men isn't something someone does when they have their children's interest at heart. She has a history of compulsive risky behavior and it's unfortunate that her children paid for it.
As a medical professional I will advise all parents to research and study the signs and symptoms of abuse. You would be surprised what parents ignore for lack of knowledge.
Im glad people are noticing how it can be anyone, like Aba said, especially people in your circle that have a level of power or trust that they can manipulate. Also good point about making this trauma public, it should have definitely been handled by the authorities first and foremost. (Edit:) the need for people to have their ambitions in place over the wellbeing of their children is so saddening, and it happens far too often. Unplug and look at yourself for what you are truly and not craft facade.
This is why I always trusted my daughter's intuition. If she didnt like someone or want to be near them, I NEVER forced her to interact with them. Man Woman Fish or Fowl. I have eyes in the back of my head where my daughter is concerned even though she's 26 yo. I was a child who became a woman so I talked to her about everything and what to look out for as she grows. I dont believe I could wait on karma so my long ass collins was always kept sharp!!! 😢
13:14 Absolutely YES. OMG finally I hear somebody speaking about that. I will NEVER blame the victim for what it happens to them, that is not what it is about. The main culprit will always be the one who did it. But, this doesn't mean that there isn't more aspects to this type of situations to blame, and the very beggining of that is the glorifying of this type of lifestyle, values, and ideals that enables this type of horrific situations to happen. Pointing this out is not victim blaming, on the contrary, it hilghlights the specific area in which the victim has some type of agency: becoming aware of the path, whereas chosen or encouraged or both, that the victim finds themselves in. Removing themselves from that path or situation is what the victim or potential victim can do for themselves. It is not easy, the choice is in many ways stripped away from them one way or the other, or they are cornered into really difficult situations in which possibilities are scarce. But at least, talking about this ernestly and with this seriousness can help into pointing out where the way out is, or why you should look for a way out before things really take a bad turn.
When people say "we have chemistry.."...that chemistry could be a feeling that feels familiar including abuse! ( unhealed trauma) Chemistry is energy .We need to examine it before jumping in at the deep end.
This was a chemical disaster and created something toxic. Ok enough chemistry puns, this is deeply disturbing in every way. I just hope that deviant is left to rot in prison.
@@phoquemeI think it’s the sons who were from a previous relationship The 3 younger kids being the 2 daughters and the baby are the ones they had together is what I saw some ppl confirming
6:40 about the "we don't know if it's her fault, or if she neglected" listen. It's fucked up already that she has to protect her kids from her own husband! At some point you will give them to your partners care, bc you trust them. At some point it won't even cross your mind anymore... So I don't think that in any case she could be blamed for HIS ACTIONS!
I feel bad for the young boys and girls that are now grown that have gone through this . I wish our children never have to go through something like this
you live on planet incest unfortunately amongst other things. no more wishing. get involved. donate or volunteer. there are many places that could use more than a prayer or a wish
How the hell is that a struggle? A good parent will immediately take action. The severity of the action depends on how good you are to get away with it.
As a survivor of CSA by my dad, I applaud this woman for recognizing something was right an immediately seeking help. Many women choose to look the other way. My mom included out of convenience or not wanting to be alone. My dad’s brother was also SA’ing his daughter and my cousin told her mom and her mom did nothing, she choose to stay because she was a SAHM. My cousin told our grandma and grandma did nothing, even dismissed it saying “why do you want me to do, call the police?” Yes grandma, that’s the absolute bare minimum that should have been done. I’ll add one more in here to demonstrate how absolutely foul women can be. My mom let her coworker move in with us, I might have been 6/7 at the time. The man she allowed to live with us was SA’ing his daughters, one of them ended up pregnant. The baby was born incredibly deformed and the hospital did genetic testing because of how severe the birth defects were. It came out that dad was also grandpa. The girls mom denied that her husband was SAing the girl that she must have used a piece of toilet paper that he had used and that’s how she got pregnant. Foul. Absolutely foul!
It gets worse when there's a long intergenerational history of it in an extended family, and a community, sadly it gets normalized in some ways, that could be a reason for those womens reactions, its like a plague/sickness if it seeps in and it does a lot of damage.
i don’t know how much research yall did into this but there are several videos of her online where you can hear her daughter screaming and crying alone with her father and she never seemed concerned or checked on her daughter, from what i’ve seen it appears like she knew something was wrong and didn’t say anything because she was hoping that he was her dream guy
@@aeiragonbenjamin6515 I'm still trying to figure it out if it was both the son and dad who were molesting her daughters or only the son since the father seems to be scot free and no charges has been pressed against him
It’s not about their pleasure Aba, these predators are sick. Seeking pleasure leads to one million avenues without ever even considering abusing your own infant children.
She ran background checks on this guy and he didn’t have a bad record. She married him and gave birth to his daughters that he decided to SA 😢…he did this to his own biological daughters
I feel for her 😢. It's not easy. I pray for strength of Spirit, Soul and Body. She did well as a mother to leave. What that man did is horrible and a crime. As i listen to her story, i can't help but sincerely feel that from a spiritual lens that there could be marks and traces of rape upon her life. Her mum was raped, she was raped, her children experienced something similar. Some spiritual interventions can be something she can consider. May the Lord strengthen her and her children as they go through this healing journey.
Good for her! Straight to the hospital! Get Confirmation , charge him and Divorce! If she was the type to avoid, she wouldn't have taken them to the hospital. Your conscience has to be GONE to do that to a child.
I think the broader discussion around turning your family and personal life into content for social media should be brought up more often in these situations. I commend her for be brave enough to share her experience with her followers for the sake of awareness, and I actually think it's very important to have these conversations. But a regular person irl who goes through these things in their private life would never feel the same pressure or level of normalcy to reveal their childs trauma to random people they dont know. Her poor kids don't deserve to live with this hanging over their heads the rest of their lives, but now its been immortalized on the internet for the whole world to see. Family content really feels detrimental to kids who don't get a say in how their personal lives are shared with the world, I hope this doesn't make their road to recovery any more difficult.
i can’t even feel bad with all that i know,she did not shed a single tear and when her daughter was verbally crying and being hurt she just ignored it now she wants to play the victim
@@afterbitenero3408 I mean, and? people can make mistakes....and you can feel bad for them. unless you think people don't deserver empathy if they are imperfect and have regular human flaws. if i see a man or woman get in a bad relationship ill feel bad. it happens
Desperate single moms are the biggest targets for those kinds of creeps. Protect your kids people. Put your selfishness on the side or at least keep them away from your kids
He SA'd his own daughters that HE had with her. She wasn't selfish if she was she would have stayed to upkeep her image as a trophy wife but she didn't. She saw the signs of abuse, which reminded her of her own experience as a child, and took action immediately. Look up the case.
She wasn't desperate. How was she "selfish" when he did this to HIS OWN kids? This happens when women aren't even parents, let alone single moms. How is the father of her two prior children not also selfish for not having his own kids? 🤡 Both of your brain cells are fighting for 3rd place.
@@whatever4566like people literally don’t want to understand this fact. How do you suspect a bio father and why would you be protecting your kids from their own father? Logically. She found out and she left. Stop finding a way to blame the mom, people. It’s not a two to tango issue. Literally ONE man did the SA.
She compromised her children the moment she stayed after 4 rapes. The reality is she left far too late and pretty much contributed to history repeating itself. She left which her mother didn’t do for her. But she still contributed to this situation unfortunately.
@keithmutamba1395 true but I love how you as a man are so quick to say well she contributed but not one word about this male predator. Most men like you are quick to say 'but her but her' over he should never of being doing that even if she allowed it 4 times. I would say she should have left after the 1st time but he shouldn't be touching her like this anyway shape or form. Condemn him not her.
@@cha9165 As a man????!!!! If I had kids and got shot by my husband four times and still stayed. Why the hell should no one question my choice to stay. Is he a monster yeah, but damn if he showed you what he was not once but four times then choosing to stay was a very questionable choice. Especially for the little brats. I am not going to act like she is blameless in this. She stayed that’s the problem she should have left after the fourth rape. You are treating her or all women like vulnerable kittens. We all make choices in life. She is suffering from the shame of hers.
@@cha9165what else is there to say about that man? We all know he’s the monster? She’s the one that is the most right in the head. She was supposed to take immediate initiative
11:34 Let’s talk ABA! When other women say this we’re haters, jealous, stupid, etc!!! My moms and aunts first marriage’s they were “trophy wives” along many of the women in our family. ALL OF THEM told me to get your own for this very reason! If you hear the stories they tell you, you would understand why they chose to divorce them, be disowned by their family, and lose all their wealth. Your dignity does not have a price! Build your own and use your discernment!
They always wanna call us jealous and bitter when we’re criticizing these silly norms and concepts. Nowadays in any situation when people scream the “jealous!” rhetoric I ignore it. It’s important to heed caution and think critically and people who say that just wanna pull the wool over your eyes and drag you down.
As a woman who’s experienced SA on several occasions, I’ve had so many conflicting feelings about the branding of her channel. I think where I land is it was irresponsible to make this content after being SA’d several times, but I think she tried to take accountability by sharing what happened with her children. That said, she could’ve just shared her story and not her children’s because they should have the autonomy to choose who knows something that traumatic. I can’t imagine my parents telling 2 million people my business.
Because views. That's why. Her entire channel is based on the same bs to get views and interaction. What sort of mother learns this and then does her make up and hair sits in a robe and exposes something which her own children cannot comprehend. She clearly didn't press charges. Why? She's been thru the same thing, yet clearly states on her channel she DID NOT KNOW THIS MAN. She married him in LESS THAN a year AFTER JUST getting out of another relationship which (her own words) "DID NOT LIKE HER KIDS". SHE was the one who PUSHED marriage on that man. SHE was the one who by her own admission said she wanted to be married. She has entirely herself to blame. We know monsters exist. We don't marry strangers when we have children. We prioritise them and not our own desperation for a man and to be a "wife". She brought her kids around one stranger, had them living with him, alone with him, who did not like them and STRAIGHT away jumped into another man who then ended up hurting her young kids she had by the same stranger. And then she comes and talks about it online as if it's remotely appropriate to go into detail about your own child's assault. What a fkin world huh.
@@SOSSOSNM1No I think it was her way of maybe warning people, she was wrong about her message. It was her responsibility to talk her audience how dangerous her view points were through her own experience. I don't think she was doing this for attention, it was a warning. The whole thing is horrific.
when you really think about it, what kind of person decides to put on makeup, switch on the camera and talk about their own babies' most traumatic experience, and experience that so violated human decency....at the hands of the man she had already suffered sexual abuse from...
She also displayed how she neglected her kids by revealing that she was graped several times before she found out about the kids being touched. She a hot mess. How can you allow that man to stay in your home after that? With the kids there? That’s crazy
At 16:20 I'm so happy that you guys bought that topic up. Every time you try to bring up that kind of accountability talk, they always throw back the stop victim blaming and trying to make that person feeling better. But by not bringing it up, you're just burying the underlining issues just to make that person feel better. Yes bringing up that topic right after the incident is a bit sensitive but sometimes you have to just rip off the bandage and treat the wound.
I get the wanting to keep quiet, but in cases like this YOU HAVE TO WARN EVERYONE. There’s plenty of “fathers” out there abusing their children, all while smiling in their woman’s face. I’m glad she got the help.
i got recommended the original randomly the other night. was playing tf2 and it just showed up on autoplay in the background after a different video i was watching. this shit was crazy. feel bad for her and the kids. i went and watched one of her other videos and watching her say "hey trophies" at the beginning was surreal to say the least.
Yeah she pinned her GoFundMe to the top of the comments. I'm not calling her a liar but I don't make it a point to believe every sob story on social media, especially when people have their GoFundMe tied to it. It's been people who have said and done worse to get clicks, views, and money on social media so I don't put anything past anyone.
It's really tough. I understand her sharing the story as a cautionary tale for other women in similar positions and let them know its possible to get out of that situation. But im also a bit worried about everyone knowing her kkds were abused. It's hard growing up when everyone look at you differently because they know what happened.
Preach you're so right about the victim blaming BS. It's so annoying to see people willfully ignore circumstances that are obvious to them just so that they can prove some kind "freedom" to themselves. Doing really stupid crap like flash money/valuables in shady places, being disrespectful to dangerous figures, getting in other people's way and escalating volatile situations just because they can...then the OBVIOUS consequences happen and they looking for sympathy gtfoh. That aside, to the mother in the video, please don't beat yourself up with guilt. All things considered, that creature was in the best position to hide the fact from you; not only has he earned your trust but he also knew you well enough to know how not to arouse your suspicion. Neither of those things are your fault...he may be sick in the head but he ain't dumb. What's important is that you followed through when you found out. I think those girls will forever thank you for that
Agree. It's easy for people on the outside to believe that walking away without a second thought would be easy for people being abused esp that those women who has no other option and would gladly accept such mistreatment just for their kids to have some roof - though this may not be exclusive, some stay because of codependency but most of the time it's the former. Just like other women, it isn't easy to hate the person who mistreats you when most of the time you think they’re being a godsend and played the part as well.
@@carrethenry6237 call out the name of the person you are talking about. Don’t be scared to. People flaunting their money is not new neither is envy. Cut the bullshit. Believe you me, you are not more radical than me. We can go at it.
I am tired of people who embrace these Symbols that Objectify and Dehumanize themselves or others. Stop with the *Trophy Wives* or I am the Prize!! You are basically saying you are Loot. This is a terrible situation and I feel Horrible for the Kids. People need to think about value as in what they have as a person, a human, connection, not a commodity. I hope she got all the help from the authorities, sounds like that old man is loaded, I have a feeling it could get even more messy and if it does go further his defense team will use anything against her and she might of put a lot out there being a content creator.
In an earlier video she said they had a small wedding, and she was also making excuses for having a small ring. So I wouldn’t be surprised if he was fabricating how much he earns.
2:49 I cannot even begin to describe how unprepared I was to hear this. I paused it. Does it get too descriptive after this? Someone please let me know so I know if I can even continue to watch this video.
Hiding from the world never solves anything woman, stop being self absorbed and aware yourself on the type of people out there, maybe it will change your perspective and save you from trouble down the line.
I have a family member that was SA'd as a young child and by a step parent. When they told the blood parent that parent got mad. Then went to the step parent threatening them to "Never do it again." And they all stayed together. WTF!? "Don't do it again" !? And being mad but keeping the assaulter around and in the home with the child knowingly. It will be no surprise that the child (my relative) grew u with a LOT of issues and was very promiscuous and also picked the worst kind of "partners" and was SA'd more than once. At a young age they would brag about their physical relationships and also started to get their sibling to try the same behaviors. The effects are horrible even for those that grow and somehow find a way to handle it and have a positive life. With help or without. They suffer too it just isn't as obvious. I have even seen long term marriage, over 30 years so far, that still suffers from the wife's abuse from before they even met. This lady did something when she suspected and she left the situation with the children. GOOD on her! I hope the children will get the help they may need and grow up knowing this was a crime against them and they are people of worth. In no way responsible for their abuse.
The original video came on my explore page, but I didn't watch it because I thought it would be about a cheating husband influencer drama. Never in my wildest thought did I think I would hear this...
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She was apparently.
Oh dear..
Sprinkle Sprinkle
There is a divide. Ego personas and human beings.
Calls herself a “trophy wife” and gets treated like an object… say it ain’t so
The original video popped up in my timeline and I almost watched it. I thought it was about a cheating husband. I had no idea the story was this horrific.
Same here! I said nahhh skip now my mind is blown
Same its everywhere
It’s crazy watching it now, I realized why something in my body told me to move on
Same. So sad and disgusting.
I started watching it when it popped up on my timeline, but I never finished.
I very strongly hope that she also checked if her sons were abused as well...too many times that is overlooked.
dude u just ruined my night even more , thanks
Facts that was going through my mind too 😢
My guess is they didn’t find anything, she said she brought all the kids to the hospital so I’m assuming they were all checked for signs of abuse
@@onemorescout I don't think she took her sons. He was going to get the boys so she used that moment to get the girls looked at.
They are boys. They will get over it. In order to become a man you have to learn how to suck it up from a young age.
Just a small correction: She had 2 sons before the marriage. Her and her husband have 2 daughters together and third baby. She found out he was abusing their 4 year old daughter and their 2 year old daughter. She herself was abused as a child by a neighbor’s husband and she is also a product of rape. Which really puts into perspective why she thought she could overlook him assaulting her multiple times. I think experiencing things like that and her being born from her mother being abused probably really messed with her mentally. I’m just glad she got her children out of there immediately. This is a very sad situation.
THIS!!!
Endless cycles of abuse. So tragic.
What's her name?
I believe her name is Isis. Her channel is called “thenewtrophywife”
When you say she is a product of rape, did you mean her mother was raped and then she was born as a result of that?
I commend her. My bio dad SA'd both my sister and I, and when my mother found out, she made it about her, never asking if we were okay. She stayed with dad and made it a point to punish me whenever I brought the subject up. We had to keep pretending like we were a happy family.
I'm apparently the monster for not just getting over it.
Eff them all. I went no contact.
Im sorry that happened to you. I hope you at least have your sister to rely on now
The devil will use anyone. I pray you find healing ❤️🩹 and help. Personally I finally end up believing in Jesus through his signs and miracles after seeking a lot
Oh gosh
i am sorry to say but that is a disgrace and embarrassment of a mother and father, i hope you and your sister are living your best lives without them.
You should press charges
It was his own daughters . The only other person on earth you’re supposed to trust with your kids is their father/ your husband and to know that that person violated their kid this way is CRAZY
Exactly!!! I am so tired of seeing people not doing their research and automatically claiming she just had her small daughters around him. She married him WAY too quickly, but the truth still remains that they are his daughters and she should have been able to trust their own father with them.
Facts
@@melindaroop1346 maybe don't have a kids with a person like that.
Lack of accountability at all.
@@latecheckout11 agreed that women should be more cautious getting in relationships, but if a guy is able to hide their true nature until after marriage, how is that the partner's fault? some people don't show who they rly are until they have you locked down with marriage or kids
@@latecheckout11 maybe don't be an abuser? Don't abuse people. You sound like a moron. 😆
As messed up as this story is , I commend her for leaving. There are so many disgusting women that will ignore the abuse and stick beside the man “for the bag” smdh
Jon Jones's fiancee
The damage has already been done. I dont commend her for leaving after her kid got into it. She shouldve been out of there already
@@ShordyosrsSure but the damage would be a lot worse if she stayed, including on the child.
ya for the bag and to portray a good image or maintain the wife status. Reminds me that happened to Joyce Meyer, her mom didn't leave.
Those are called pick me women the type of women I hate!!!!
Hearing this as a man…… sadly this is not surprising. Happened to me at 5 by an adult woman family friend who you’d never think she would be that way because she was a career driven well put together woman. FAST FWD, I lead a panel in college of men and this topic came up. Out of 59 of my guys, 41 of them said this happened to them as young single digit kits by a female adult whether it was family or a friend. Please…. please be careful of your children. Also, just because a man is attractive or a provider doesn’t mean they’re good people.
I am sorry that happened to you. There is definitely an ignorant stereotype that you can tell all pedophiles by looking at them and they will be ugly and scruffy looking but reality is that they can be good looking well put together by people and not just men but also women.
I’m SO sorry that happened to you. So incredibly sorry. ❤
Unfortunately people don't acknowledge when these things happen to men.
Thank you for this testimony 🙏 🙌 had the same experience
People sleep on women predators, but I've been with two men who lost their virginity as teens to women in their thirties. Fucking disgusting. People play down women preying on young men too, it's so sad.
I was abused as a 6 - 8 year old by the son of a neighbor who babysat us. Worse: the neighbor in question was a therapist for children with mental and physical disabilities, as well as his own sister having disabilities, who he also abused. I'm 33 and have a 3 year old little girl and this is literally my worst nightmare. When you've been abused you can't shut that distrust off with anyone, including my own husband, who is in all regards an incredibly trustworthy loyal man. But still, there will always be something in me that knows what people are capable off and I cannot switch that off. I pray for the innocent every day, may God love and protect them and may the adults in their lives take positive action.
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Amen❤
Amen. Sorry you had to go through that. It’s our burden to carry and weights heavily on us, but I would rather be cautious than be wrong and god forbid something happens to my babies. Absolutely worst nightmare, used to have literal nightmares when I was pregnant with my first, plenty of sleepless nights worrying. God is good he gave me a wonderful husband, his children are his world and is an amazing father and husband. I feel immense guilt, and I would never express the distrust I have for every male. It’s been a journey and having amazing brothers and husband has helped forced me to deal with distrust but it never fully goes away. I will say it gets a little easier when they can communicate I felt like I was going crazy in the first 4 years of their life. You have to be their best friend and foster healthy communication and language around difficult conversations. I will breathe easy when my children are in their 20s. Sending you lots of love and prayers.
may God give you peace and the ability to learn to trust people wholeheartedly. you are so LOVED by so many people, I hope the best for you girl 💝
@@Tadao-Lao-q6t Thank you for your message. I'm glad to hear that you have an amazing husband and brothers who helped you through. I totally relate to what you said about going crazy because they can't properly communicate, I struggle with that too though I put a lot of time into teaching my daughter to talk... but still, knowing they are so innocent and wouldn't know or realize what is happening, and that they would have to tell me, drives me insane. So I tell her she can always tell mommy anything, and I also tell her that if an adult or other person makes her uncomfortable or tells her not to tell me something, she should definitely tell me. But it's hard navigating the "right" way of teaching her how to communicate about it without transferring my fears to her, which I do try to be aware of... it's good to hear from someone who relates. ♥
This is why my mother refused to date or remarry during our childhood and teen years. I thank God for her sacrifice 😢
My mother remarried after a 7 year relationship with my step father. My step father is like my real father, he raised us like his own. Not every man is a monster, there just needs to be extra care when selecting and before settling.
Good for her. Thats what All single parents should do. I did the same for my son. I didnt want him going through what I did and a vast majority of children these days went through. Its the Right Path. Tell your mother how Good she is/was with her decision. Thats a Very good mother. Bless you all.
She led by example and put you guys first. May she live a beautiful life
Hey if you ladies can't avoid dating monsters then this is the best you can do lololol
Amen, same with my mom. She was always terrified I would be targeted and saw it happen in her family growing up. I'm so extremely thankful she put me first instead of her love life.
The monster did this to HIS own biological daughters. Allegedly. If he really did hurt the the kids, i hope he rots in jail forever.
Not his daughters
@@amablogreactionsI believe they are. She had two sons when she met him.
he will most likely go to another prison. which is forever, it's called hell. unless the guy repents, which is very unlikely but you never know. only God can save this guy but he has to repent. sick dude
How much time should she do if this is found out to be false?
@@lennylink8772 dude she saw the daughter's vagina was red and sensitive. what do u think happened? you can't be serious with this comment bro. completely heartless.
touching her children after seeing and knowing how protective she is over them and knowing about how she was brought into this world herself, makes it even more sickening.
He was touching his own children. The daughters are the husband's kids.
@@lexiautumn4974 those weren't just her kids. The husband is the bio father of the girls. He touched on his own daughters
@@Ohkay5613Yeah, a lot of people are failing to mention that they are his kids.
@@Ohkay5613 while this does add another level, I feel like the willingness to 'diddle' kids at all is the most severe part of this. Them being his biological children makes it slightly more disgusting for sure tho
@@Ohkay5613 Yes, that's what I heard from multiple other videos and comments, as well!
What most don't know is there were even videos on her channel where you can clearly hear her daughter crying and yelling saying "owww" and she would tell us to ignore it, her daughter is with daddy and she's being cranky. multiple videos. He was married 3 times all domestic violence cases but she didnt know that because she IMMEDIATELY married and moved in with him. After being assaulted herself she didnt consider the safety of her children. As a mother who's had some experiences with abuse myself and dealt with dangerous men this horrifies me. She ignored it and I hope she learns from the experience so she can see what's important in life and have a safer, happier life for her children.
Yes she has to take responsibility too
what videos? i didnt realize it because im new..
Right, in a way she UNKNOWINGLY put her children in that position because she was so quick to marry him instead of giving him to earn that trust. He has been married previous times and has been reposted for DV as well. She also unknowingly enabled his behavior after being sexually assaulted by him and continuing to be with him afterwards…a man she thought she loved, she’s a victim and I feel awful for her. People are going to question WHY she stayed, but honestly people don’t understand how being a victim of rape by someone you loved can damage you mentally. You start to make illogical decisions. This isn’t justifying her actions, but it definitely explains why. At the end of the day, however she plays a role as well in enabling his bad behavior and continuing to give him access to vulnerable people. It’s honestly not talked about enough that behind abusers and toxic people, there are often good-hearted people who are unfortunately enablers and end up unknowingly making their behaviors worse and giving them reasons to continue to be abusive or continue their toxic behavior
@rainberry2159 right. I just hope she takes the step to start the much needed inner work for herself and learns her lessons. I wouldnt want her to be ashamed all her life or not forgive herself... we all fall and have done wrong especially after having our own traumas but at some point you have to look at yourSELF or u keep going through the cycles. Maybe this is the wake up call she needed I'm glad people are holding her accountable or she'd never learn
@Celestials1aurora I guess she deleted them but other channels posted the clips
A woman who has been abused is actually *more* likely to encounter a predator/abuser.
People don't understand and can't understand how our brains work after being SAed repeatidly as children...
This is true but relationships are a choice.
@@janellepasshut up, and stop trying to act better than other people.
@@janellepas I'm sorry, but you are simplifying a situation that is HIGHLY complex...
If you think that deep trauma don't impact the way the brain works, you are just ignorant (and that's all right). But instead of judging, make the effort to learn about it...
Kids that have parents in a violent relationship are more likely to be in a relationship with violence.
A mother that was abused as a kid are more likely to have kids that will be abused as kids. If this is true in statistics, it means that it's much more complex than just "it's a choice". You don't solve problems with your attitude. The end goal would be for this to not happen anymore. It's unlikely. But with a better knowledge, psychological support can help.
@@stephsnacks1272I understand, I’ve been sexually assaulted multiple times. But, those were actually his kids he did that to. The boys were hers. And this man raped her 4 times within a few months of their marriage, they married each other after only a week of talking online. And she still went on to have kids with him knowing that he was a predator. I’m not blaming her for his actions, but better choices could have been made. Especially with children being involved.
😢 Props to her for leaving and protecting the kids. I hope she calls the authorities. There’s resources to help women going through stuff like this. Praying for her and the kids.
Doctors are mandated reporters so they definitely did report it if everything she is saying is factual
Right. I’m frustrated & irritated with Aba & Preach for not providing information or links to those resources while becoming judgmental towards her as a trophy wife influencer. She, as a victim, literally has no role in the disgusting alleged behavior of her husband towards her or her children. As a MD I wish they’d used their power to share resources because so many women don’t have the funds to leave such situations safely. Also children who’ve been SA’ed statically have higher odds of entering abusive relationships as adults. Lots of correctable ignorance around this issue if people took the time to research it. This video frustrated me immensely but I’m glad she was able to get both herself & her kids to safety!
This is why we got be careful of those who call themselves "Christian" but don't actually follow Christ. Because they wear the name like a costume. Then when people who are on the outside don't know, they can't tell the difference between the real and the fake because that costume is Hollywood grade.
She gets no “props” she’s the reason her kids are in this situation to begin with.. shes a “trophy wife” so shes attracting all the scum…
@@LacquerLockdownshe’s to blame for being a “trophy wife” to begin with… shes literally a gold digger… literally just confirms that everything she looks for in a man is purely superficial and not based off his character like it should be…
My mom was ra**d by hee bio dad... it cuts deep when you guys say that their pleasure is more important than their children's sanity... heck, it even affected me, my brother and fathers life when her repressed memories came flooding back decades later and she was never the same.... she was broken... decades of heavy medication never brought her back... she died 2021 and am glad her suffering is over.. love you mom
🫂 💔
I’ll be praying for you tonight my man. Bless your family and I’m am so sorry you guys had to experience something like this 🙏🏽
Omg I'm so sorry
😢🥺😢 this just brought tears to my eyes. I have never been touched but most my friends and family have. The hurt they feel is and pain they carry is heavy. I pray for anyone who has been through it or knows anyone who has been through it. Rih to your mom
Bless you for the compassion in your heart for your mother's trauma 🙏 I'm sorry you all endured that. 💔
I will say this as someone studying psychology and slightly interested in couples and marital counseling. MARITAL SEXUAL ASSAULT IS SOOOO COMMON. a lot of men have this thought that they should be able to have their wives sexually at any time. Most of those men don’t go to grape their children though. I can see why someone looking for a “traditional man” would over look this assault a lot of people are blaming her but she is not at fault here
Yeah, I wouldn't blame her at all. She's very brave and she did the right things exactly when it mattered. I just wish she didn't tell this story so publically. Everyone in their lives will know what happened when these little girls were 2 and 4. She should've just blurred her face or something. This wasn't her story to tell so publically imo.
@ yes! I understand her wanting to put her story out there to help other women but there’s a way she should’ve went about it.. she didn’t have to specifically say which children she has 5 if I’m not mistaken. The words “2 out of the 5” could’ve worked fine.
10:00 maybe she’s going public because she fears for their lives and also wants people to know so they stay away from him. The law may take too long.
I don’t believe a word she says.
@Enoughalready20237 are you trying to convince me, you or everyone else in the comments? I'm just trying to understand the intention behind your reply to my comment..
@@Enoughalready20237of course you’d believe a criminal over a child. You yourself are one you dirtbag
Yes, it is important to warn others
Where are the police reports the photos of this man
“The baby is renovating?”
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you just gotta love preach lol
@@macmuhnpro bro what
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@@zakariyasadig681 dude had a seizure lol
3:03 She had two little boys before she met him. Then she had two little girls (and another boy) with him. The daughters he assaulted were his own.
Repulsive. No other words.
Yep those are his own children he touched
They dint matter to her
@@Drega001 they don't matter to him*
She still shouldn't have moved her boys in with some man that she barely knew.
At this point.... it's best to just stay single to not have to go through anything like this ever.
Exactly...I had my first bf when I was 18, it lasted for a 2 weeks😂. He didn't do anything crazy to me but since then I never got into a relationship and now I'm 25 and honestly with how most man are fucked up, I don't see myself dating ever. Being single is much safer
@@qwertyt586 If he didn't do anything im curious as to what a 2 week relationship can do just to make you stop dating? I understand hating men but when they haven't even done anything to you is a bit wild aint it?
Hmmm, wow fellas this 1 was truly tough to watch especially because I am a single mother to 2 daughters. I am very particular when dating & have never introduced my kids to anyone. I even believe that I may need to shelf my romantic desires for after my girls are grown & on their way because I was also abused as a child & it is my worst nightmare for my daughters to experience the same, worse yet by someone I trusted & brought into their home.
I empathize with this lady in the video but I also believe y'all handled the content responsibly. These questions needed to be asked for accountability sake, hell for the kid's sake. It's not about victim blaming or not hurting the mother's feelings. The part about her kids trauma now being on the internet for public consumption is real, its her truth to tell but that's a perspective I didn't consider but I definitely will be mindful of that in the future when it comes to my own kids. Thanks guys, job well done🙏🏼
-Thanks so much guys for the engagement. This is a really serious topic & it should be spoken about more so that people can become more aware of how easy it is for kids to be mistreated & taken advantage of. We have to do all within our power & within the law as a society to keep our children safe. It saddens me that from the follow up, this woman failed miserably to do that. Let's stay vigilant & be each other's keeper. Those kids deserve so much better.
Pin of respect? 🫡 that’s tuff
@@NaquitaAlexander it’s sad that some people will have the audacity to insult the victims like they play a part in their victimization. Until it happens to someone close to them, some will never understand. I don’t blame victims and especially children. Ppl need to control their demons or remove themselves
@@deborahdonald9323 If we live in a world of demons we need to fight them and 100% not expect them to remove themselves. If a dog on a chain I felt was a threat I would warn my son to keep his distance. I definitely think that we should make people aware of how to protect themselves from the wolves and what behaviors attract them.
I feel you ❤️🫂🫂🫂
By the way, it's good to see a positive pin, no shame involved 😊😊. It's important for people to realize that you don't need a romantic relationship to survive. We should spend that time thinking about the games we try to play like "sprinkle sprinkle" to cultivate relationships for business and just friends. I used to be a girl into red pill content, I don't even understand how exactly I feel into it but I wasn't in a good place at all. I lost my only sibling in 2021 and people were saying some stupid stuff around me (an introvert who was really close to her brother and didn't have many friends). People mentioned marriage a lot, I was 20 when it happened and a yes later my parents still couldn't let me go far from home (not even the very next state for a compulsory year of national youth service). I started using RUclips and movies (especially Netflix) to escape. I think RUclips felt I would love red pill and American conservatives (Daily Wire specifically), because I'm in Nigeria and until 2022, I had no idea about these platforms, never even heard of Andrew Tate and Pierce Morgan. Imagine the frame of mind you have to be to agree with 70% of Andrew Tate and Candace Owens 😅. I'm lucky I was too much of an introvert to act on anything, the worst I did was a few pick me tweets about men not knowing what they want and men overlooking good women 😂🤦🏾♀️
@tamiausten873 Wow! Firstly, sorry for your loss. I have 3 brothers & for me just the thought of losing them is unbearable, may God console you & your family.
On the red pill thing, there's no shame in admitting you got swept up. The internet is like an echo chamber, i guess the algorithm gave you what you needed at the time.
This woman deserves props. Not only did she immediately believe the child, she immediately got the children looked at by professionals, and immediately made moves to protect the children. She didn’t wait, she didn’t allow the suffering to continue, she acted as quickly as she was able to stop it.
She’s beating herself up because it happened but if I knew her I’d be quick to remind her she acted quickly to stop it and keep it from continuing to happen. That’s not nothing, that’s being a good mom and something she should be proud of.
She put herself and her kids in that situation.
Props for moving 2 young girls in with a man she barely knew? Props is a weird way to put it.
@@aquarian-talkThose girls are his biological daughters. Nobody wants to believe that their child's OWN FATHER would do that.
@@aquarian-talk right how do you marry and move with someone you barely know after one date ?
Good mothers don’t ignore red flags 🚩 nor put there children at risk like that. More importantly good mothers don’t have kids with random ass men they don’t truly know.
He was sick before she met him. She was just an easy target for him & I think he knew that. She probably did want the best for herself & her kids but she shouldn't have moved in with him without getting to know him first. When he graped her the first time, she should have left. Also, she kind of did the opposite of what SheraSeven talks about on her channel. I'm glad that she believed her daughter & took all the necessary actions to get her children out of there. I hope the kids get therapy as well but she could've kept this off the Internet for their privacy & protection.
I also thought how I would hate for my trauma story to come out without my permission. But I also see why she had to post it and ultimately she’s doing more good by telling her story than not. She’s breaking the sprinkle sprinkle illusion.
Or he was an easy target for a false accusation and he has lots of resources to steal
I’m sorry. At what point was it said that he graped her?
@@RA-wp6th 2:03, quote, 'he ______ me four times in the few months of our marriage"
It waant said. It was the text on screen preach was reading @@RA-wp6th
It is almost ALWAYS someone you would never expect. A woman pretended to be my friend, worked at a school. She ended up grooming my 5 year old son. Got caught making him kiss her to have recess. Giving him all these secret gifts when he was off at kindergarten. I never would have expected it.
Why? What did she get out of that?
Damn!! Glad you caught that!
@TomikaKelly same thing a male predator gets.
Watching this immediately in case this video disappears later
Same!
Ong i hate how youtube is like that but a video with a dude showing his bare anus was allowed for so long
This is not fresh and fit, we not getting demonetized over here
Funny, the ISIS married to a monster video was recommended to me a couple of days ago. I ignored it.
This mf gets it
As a single mom, you have gotta be very careful with who you date. I don't like how quick she married this man.
Money.
Money.
@@KNByam probably not. if it was money she wouldnt even be making this video. a person who married for money knows what they are getting into. they dont expect loving treatmen.t a person who marries with rose colored glasses, acts like this.
@@KNByamlisten, we don’t know what it’s like to struggle to care for your children, let’s not be quick to judge her situation
@@dobbiereals She didn't marry a poor man that quickly.
The monster, who did it to me for almost 11 years got sentenced to 3 years in prison 2 weeks ago. 3 years. Fight for your children. Protect your children. Get them help and get yourself help.
What consequences should false accusers face?
This woman TARGETED wealthy men for their assets. She benefits financially by making false accusations.
@@lennylink8772 What part of replying this under a bunch of comments from real assault victims gives you so much satisfaction?
@@lennylink8772 wait youre saying she lied???? Proof or youre lying....
@@lennylink8772How does she benefit? Her whole brand was based on being a married SAHM, which is now ruined.
@@lennylink8772 dude i think you have issues , get some therapy
youre either a troll or a deeply F-ed up , either way go work on urself
As a young man, there’s nothing I hate more than situations and scenarios like this. One of the biggest fights we all have as humans, but especially as men is self-control. It doesn’t matter what your desires are or what your emotions are you should always have self-control. Especially when it comes to your significant other and children! HOW DARE HE do what he did! He deserves to rot in hell for that! Nonetheless, he’s made such a shameful image for us men. He’s an abomination of an existence and I’m sorry you had to go through that.
Finally a comment with common sense. Most I've read are just blaming her as if she could have known he would do that to HIS OWN CHILDREN. Good to know people with common sense still exist
I’m at 2:45. Sorry gents, this one’s not for me.
Same 2:45 I’m good. I need to watch anything else.
Dam u made it that far? I stopped at 2:36. Don’t need to hear no more
Bruh that ruined my morning
6:14 I'm with Preach. The mom couldn't have done anything when it's her HUSBAND who was doing this. Someone who's supposed to help protect the kids.
Unless you want to say she shouldn't have trusted her husband alone with her kids... 😅
'Cause if a woman has any suspicion of that, then they shouldn't even be with that person
Yes she could
@@alexmason3190 Okay, what? Be paranoid about her husband?
Like I said, if any woman suspects their husband is even capable of this, the they shouldn't even be with them. 😅
@@AndresGomez-ct7qb It's crazy that you don't even know the details. And she should be self aware
Those are his biological daughters....people aren't mentioning that. Of course a mother isn't going to want to think about her own childs father messing with them and not letting him be alone with them.
@@AndresGomez-ct7qbi think you missed the part where she said the husband graped her 4 times in the beginning of their marriage.
Just for context, from what I've seen, the girls are actually his biological kids. She had 2 sons prior to meeting him and they had two girls (plus the baby) who he SA'd. Its so sick, praying for those poor kids
Edit: Just to clarify I didn't mean the baby was SA'd, only that they share 3 children
I'm honestly in disbelief.
his own kid? OH HELL NO
No amount of money in the world would make me turn a blind eye to that.
@@jamelahallsdyerwhy? You guys didn't how that most r*pe is commitend by male family members?
No, she never stated that the infant was sa’d. The situation is bad enough as is, don’t go adding to the horror. Correct me if I’m wrong, and with proof, but nowhere is this stated in the original video.
I just want to give an alternative perspective on the part about her talking on her child's trauma, I look at it like this, I'm not one for sharing everything about your life online, BUT (and I speak as someone who was abused in that way as a child) I think it's a good thing to put out there, my reason is this type of abuse is generally hidden, taboo, not talked about, and abusers many times get away with their abuse due to the shame and taboo of that subject, expose them, it's important as a society to stop feeling shame over this, these monsters should be exposed, my hope is that someday, this behaviour would be lessened due to the fear of exposure, monsters are monsters and we need to put a light on them so they can't hide and have secrecy anymore!
I completely agree with this. In my friend group of 5.... 3 were molested as children. Let's talk about it, because it's more than people think.
The signs were there, but were ignored unfortunately. I don’t understand why the relationship was continued after the initial abuse. Regardless, I hope she and her children heal and get the help they need. I hope her “husband” rots in jail.
Her channel is about being a troohy wife. So im sure she chose financial security over character.
@@GoldLBS nooooooooo!!! A woman?!?! Choosing MONEYYY?????????
You sir are clinically insane (😂😂😂 lmao just playin)
Maybe because she experienced SA in the past she thought she could endure it in her marriage. I agree she should've left but her past gives content as to why she didn't. Sad situation. Glad she left
But who would think he'd prey on children. Even less his own children.
She married him in two weeks, so she didn't have enough time to see the signs before she got married. Her daughters are the kids she had with him, and she had two sons from previous relationships when she married him. So it seems she ignored the signs he showed after they got married before she had the daughters until it was too late.
this happened to my ex, only her mother didnt leave. it has to be one of the most harrowing afflictions i can possibly imagine.
Oh my , I know a few girls whose moms didn’t leave. They never healed 💔
Wow it seems like a lot of children are molested by their fathers.😢 why is this so common??? Maybe women should just stay single. It’s not worth it.
The worst is these women will criticize other women for not wanting to deal with red flags when we see them and tell us we need to get like them. We know the signs. If a woman has to preach at other women about how great her marriage is, she’s trying to convince herself. This is sad. Bless all of them.
THIS
this is why I'm happily single
@@AtheneHolder It all depends on the people you deal with. There are good and bad people
Being single is blessing in my life
Puhlease. Women dump men for all sorts of trivial reasons. To say every woman is right to end every relationship is peak woman moment.
@@TripleJJJ111JJJ For me personally, I wouldn’t watch any videos on a women who claims to be a trophy wife. I’m not looking into trying to trick or find old rich guys so that’s not my forte. I kind of understand wanting to be at home with the kids but she solely did this for money.
Although when I first heard this story the first time I was with everyone here in the comments. Scared to watch… I commend her etc… UNTIL I LOOKED AT HER OLD VIDEOS!!! She was DOWN with the sick crap. advising the stream to ignore the baby saying OUCH AND CRYING HORRIFICALLY in the background and home girl didnt FLINCH!! I would do a bit of checking on this story guys. There is much more to this one and mama of the year ain’t so. 😢 I pray for the kids tho
I once dated a single mother. One of her biggest fears was someone she’s dating messing with her daughter. I totally get it, if I had kids that’d worry me too.
But this guy is a real monster - ruined lives.
Didn't stop her from dating.
She was vulnerable and lonely and was abused when younger. Vulnerability stops you from making good decisions and makes you more susceptible to abuse
@@michaelwaninger3155she wants to date then she should, the men who prey on small babies should be guilty not the poor mother for wanting to date, your mentality is victim shaming at its best, she shouldn't have to stop dating to protect her children from r@pe the fact that u think that alone and see it as a common occurrence is sick
It's his kids too. Not like if he was a stranger to them little girls.
@@michaelwaninger3155They were his daughters.
Nothing prepared me for what I heard at 2:40… Firing squad right now.
This is why the death penalty exist inside of the US justice system. For crimes THAT bad. This is disturbing.
Bro I was ready to day she was dumb and all this but dam
WOOD CHIPPER !!!! 🪓
Your comment popped up at the exact moment and my face was already😮😮😮
I felt a quiet seething rage built up in me and hate this feeling.
For those wondering why a woman graped by her partner would stick around with vulnerable children… people have different responses to trauma. Especially if she experienced SA in childhood, it’s quite common to have a freeze/dissociative/denial response when that kind of trauma reoccurs later in life … you don’t want to believe someone you love and trust so much would hurt you in that way.
It’s telling that she wasn’t able to hold those “red flags” when it came to her own boundaries being violated, but jumped to protect her children from the same situation. She likely told herself those incidents were not what she thought they were, and that she was misinterpreting the situation. Developmental trauma can really screw with one’s ability to protect their own safety and boundaries, even while rushing to rescue others and being hypervigilant around their vulnerabilities
She was financially dependent on him and so she set herself up.
Stop infantilising fefails, che is just as as guilty and at fault for how che didn't protect the kids.
(Had to spell things wrong because you're not allowed to criticise fefails)
When children are abused they behave differently. It’s hard for me to believe she didn’t notice their change in behavior.
You are 100% correct but we have to start holding everyone accountable in these situations. Don’t tell me about how protective you are with your kids when you allowed a rapist around them🤦🏽♀️. At some point it’s your responsibility to seek help for your trauma and take accountability for who you brought about your kids.
@ 🙏🏾 Amen
This is so sickening. I'm a mother of three and My spouse and I work around our children's schedule to not leave them with anyone. Because its not safe for your sons either. It does make my life revolve around my children and getting to go out with friends isn't something that can happen right now but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make. They won't stay young forever but these traumas can affect their whole life. So my social life involves my children & friends who also have children. Beach Days, Play Dates etc.
"I thought that he was my prince charming"
Ladies..........Nobody is your prince charming. That is a lie that you have been sold since you were a little girl by hollywood, disney, and other romanticized soap opera's drama. its the same for us fellas.
Prince charming= He comes from money.
@kiim0 Agreed 💯☝🏾
It's the same for us fellas. Frfr.
100%. Ladies, get your bag by yourself.
Learning this the hard way in my relationship now ❤
An old neighbor disclosed to me that her daughter was assaulted (to excuse her behavior at the event we attended). It was the first time I met her and her daughter.
I hear what you're saying Aba. I was perturbed because even as a woman, as someone who had a mother who did not protect her secrets, I would NOT want my mother telling a stranger I was violated. The world is a crazy place but I don't think it's weird to expect mothers (and fathers) to be more sensitive and protective of information related to their children.
I understand this lady isn't bringing up her child's trauma in a similar sense. BUT I completely hear where you're coming from.
Agree 100%. Also predators target the previously abused
For those saying she shouldn’t come and say publicly: I get why! However:Many women are unalived for knowing their husband’s deep dark secrets , her coming out and putting his face out there will prevent that man from doing even worst than what he already done.
Not really, if this guy is really sick in the head then what’s stopping him from kil…. her? She didn’t say his name or how you looked or maybe am wrong and this doesn’t show that.
it wouldve been enough i think to go through the appropriate procedures and not make a public spectacle of it , this is a mess .. it wasnt her decision to make it public , its her daughters business
@ maybe , but I’m not sure if any good mother who gets caught in such horrible situation would be able to act more rationally. When humans beings are in shock they tend to do things that are out of character .
I think that's the justice system's job.
Victims absolutely should make this public, abusers have to be shamed and not protected. The whole Gisele Pelicot case is exactly about that!
The men who don't want abuse victims to go to the public are highly sus
I agree completely with you guys about how too often people rely on the idea of karma to pacify their fears. It's not a reliable or fixed thing. Even if these monsters torment themselves mentally for what they do to others, that doesn't mean they will stop and that there wont be any more victims. They can go on for years and ruin many lives take many lives before getting caught, sometimes they dont get caught. How long will we wait for this thing called karma to "get them"?
Im praying for her, this story is so sad
Im not sprinkle sprinkle
@@Penterror yeah, because your bitter and let gender sway your emotions.
You are praying? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Did you not actually listen to the video?
- SHE is christian
- HE is christian
- SHE prayed to god to protect her children
- God wasn't there for her when she was raped as a child
- God wasn't there for her when her "christian" husband raped her kids
And you think "praying" for her is the answer?
WOW... DELUSIONAL!!!
@@Penterror lame
@@ClarkeMichaelDuncan If people hate on red pillers gotta hate on gold diggers too
She MAY have overlooked his grape of her during their marriage because there is some unhealed part of her from her childhood. Often victims of sexual assault in childhood struggle delineating between what is real love and lust or perversion. SA generates confusion and disgust. I know a lot of people are blaming her for her silly trophy wife mentality and I agree it's silly. however there is no way she caused the abuse of her children. I commend her for believing her daughters right away.
These Predators seek out abused and/or naive women because they can trigger and use their trauma against them.
Or she ignored it due to financial gain. whats that saying about crying in a lambo? In fact she's worse than people think. she knew she was dealing with grape by this man but had a whole channel lying to other women and talking down to hard working average men.
@@meloran2571exactly. She was literally advertising herself to every scǔmbag man as an object “trophy wife” and she’s surprised when she is treated like one? She should be in prison for putting her children in that situation too.
She does talk about being sa and she had disclosed it to him
I agree. I have friends who have experienced that and I’ve noticed their “cautious behavior” and vetting of men is so far below what my personal standards are. I really believe they should receive therapy to help reshape what they think is normal and proactive.
Yes this is a well known fact in psychology. The brain is comfortable with what it knows. This makes abuse victims especially vulnerable to continue the cicle of abuse and why there is so much generational trauma in some families.
No parent deserves this, let alone a child. I hope they get the help and healing they need.
I usually find your commentary to be a bit sexist and patronizing; however, when it comes to this specific topic ,you guys are spot on! I would just like to add that it appears that she lacks discernment, and she is a classic case of a Jezebel spirit. To be more specific, it's more so a classic case of a somatic-sexual narcissist, with a touch of Histronic personality disorder/AKA trophy wife meets covert malignant narcissist. On the contrary, we always want to refrain from victim shaming, however, in this specific case; it makes you wonder, if she's a victim, after all. She could have just ignored his proclivities in the honor of money and status.
just curious how are they sexist with how they speak . i believe the opposite
0:14 i love when preach makes himself laugh 😂
Edit: the whole vibe has been ruined
😂😂😂 accurate
LMFAOOOO literally 😭
SAME
Went down hill fast
Hahaha😂😂😂😂
Dawg….
I immediately looked up this story and dived a little deep and there are loads of pictures of her kids and none of the husband. I thought that was pretty weird. There's even pictures of her in her wedding dress. She posts content about hypergamy and the like and it makes you think did he not want his face out there because of what he did in the past.
She really should put his face out there now so people know what’s up I’m so sick of predators
On her old videos there are pictures of her husband. Watch the first video of her talking about being a trophy wife.
She used to have pics of him, and removed them since the situation. That's usually what ppl do when they break up. She's leaving the glamorous pics bc she's still running the "trophy wife" business.
@@LenaSh-q8pshe’s still leaving up the “glamorous pics” of the two of them together? That’s pretty insane
@@SeansCorn3rjust the ones of herself. Removed pics w him in them
At least, she protected her child and left the situation.
But she didn't tho, she didn't vet the guy an married him in a week
@uncannytheos2454 Wrong. Vetting might have not change a damn thing. There are so many predators who live their who live capable of hiding their crimes.
I'm 2mins and 40 secs in the video. Has he been arrested?
Yea that was so good of her, to get her children out of the unnecessary situation she put them in!!
@@ccee1985?? Wdym? That's the father of her children? How could she have known?
Sad but if youve gone through serious abuse from a young age. Especially s*xual abuse- youre bound to find yourself repeating the cylcles with what you allow into your life. Even if its the opposite of what you want and what u think youre looking for. Its an "the energy is familar" thing. Happens on a subconscious level.
You have to put in serious, biggest effort of my lifetime work- to change these patterns.
Its not your/our fault but it is a haunting feeling to have it follow you. But there is something you can do to boost your change of changing patterns.
I think it's important that she has told the public so more people in her community are aware of this monster and they can stop him! Please sometimes we do need to alert everyone to keep other children safe. Someone I know close to me kept quiet about things and other children were affected by this decision.
It’s the “I am a product of this and I prayed to god this situation wouldn’t happen”
I was diddled and I would want my mother to tell the whole world who to stay away from.. for sure…
Damn!!! I’m sooooooo sorry 😞
But that's you. And you were old enough to give your mom that permission. A two and four year old don't even have that comprehension. I'm just glad the four year old wasn't brainwashed into keeping it a secret from her mom. Sadly, seeing as she was four, she was probably brainwashed for years into thinking what "dad" was doing was ok.
@@minilea144 yea.. that is me.. I thought it was clear I was speaking as me when I said “ I was…. I would” so yes!! That is me… indeed.. you know what no child actually wants… to be diddled in the first place!! 🤷🏽♀️ and what do you mean I was old enough?? Do you know how old I was? What age of experience do you think I’m speaking from? At 4 you are old enough to comprehend that’s why brainwashing is how it usually happens, that’s how they are able to repeatedly offend. This is exactly why it does need to be talked about.
@@tendaroni #MeToo
She's praying to God while promoting a trophy-wife life. God ain't listening to her 😂
The man is a monster, but she also needed therapy before getting married so fast!
How long does one wait?
This is why I wish people were required to undergo therapy and take parenting classes before procreating. I know it’s not realistic though.
But thing is women are the ones who put time limits on when to get married we hear it all the time
@@Livelaughlove-n8t Until she fix herself. Same for anyone else that is broken. If it takes a lifetime, then that lifetime you must take that journey alone.
my first thought was why did she get married to this guy, one of the things ppl do is Vet the person before they marry them and get to know their parents to see how things generally play behind closed doors, this saves you alot of time in the long run, but my question is why did she get with a rapist? She said it herself she got touched by him several times before this happened
Maybe with her history of being abused and being a product of abuse she’s repeating the past. I hope this doesn’t become a generational problem with her children’s children as well😢. She needs to seek therapy and find out and deconstruct some unhealthy thought processes and possibly bring mum along. Maybe she got used to giving power to someone who she feels can protect her due to some inner vulnerabilities and like preach said she has a child’s thought process still.
I like the points brought up concerning "victim blame". Truth is, predators exist and there's nothing wrong with teaching potential prey how to avoid and protect yourself against them. Being someone who watches a lot crime content, I often see people get accused of victim blaming when they bring up things like hitching a ride with strangers isn't the safest thing to do etc... I think this rhetoric of vilifying teaching people survival skills only benefits perpetrators. While I understand that it's important to "teach boys not to commit crimes blahblah" a lot of times criminals are just messed up in the head and they'll just do what they want regardless of how good their parents/teachers/mentors were.
I find it so funny that people who cry victim blaming, are SO QUICK to try to teach predators, and literally people who don't care about right and wrong, not to do wrong. And it's to the point where they just INSULTINGLY "teach all boys/men not to grape" and yet, whenever they hear people want to impart steps to protect yourself to people with actual SENSE, that's victim blaming. That's not the right thing to do. Yet telling ghostface not to ghostface is apparently the smartest thing to do. Wow. Good job it's worked wonders lol
Yep to me it's logical to encourage both preventative measures to both victims and perpetrators.
The way some people twist victim blaming makes it sound like you should encourage a woman to walk down a dark alley late at night because in a perfect world no-one would attack them! Like yeah in a perfect world we could do that and keep our doors unlocked but in reality that isn't sensible and is dangerous. It's just stupid and imo if you actually care about (potential) victims you would want to help them protect themselves.
I also like true crime and get annoyed when parents do an awful job and something tragic happens to their child but if you mention it, or criticise them in anyway, you get told you're victim blaming and you should just have sympathy and only blame the attacker. Like no I think letting your 12 year old child go out at midnight riding around in a car with a group of random teenagers you don't know actually isn't the best parenting and shows poor safety and bad decisions making. Like obviously that doesn't mean she deserved her child to die, or that I don't feel sorry for her. However if she hadn't let her child go out she would likely still be alive and I think pointing that out can help prevent more victims. I believe pretending she was a perfect parent and couldn't have done anything differently is not acknowledging reality, and is actively harmful to child protection and keeping people safe, healthy and alive.
So what is your solution here? If you actually consume a lot of true crime content you should know that whenever a serial killer is exposed the people around him, sometimes the whole village can't believe that he was that kind of person and would have never guessed.
Men like that are usually highly valued members of their community because this is how they can stay hidden.
This woman thought she married a devout Christian man with traditional values and he ended up abusing his own daughters (yes he was the bio dad of the girls, not their step dad)
@@fehyndana7725 That's what I want to know too. Did they even watch the video? The two MENTION that this kind of thing usually happens right under one's nose - an uncle, an auntie, a teacher, a priest - and that there's no way to feasibly prepare for it. Yes, it's stupid to wander into a forest with nothing to protect yourself in the middle of the night, but I'd argue that it's not at all stupid to not anticipate that your (albeit problematic to begin with) husband would assault his own. progeny. And not only that, but she herself said that due to her own trauma, she watched her children 'like a hawk'. How is that not enough? What on earth could she possibly have done to protect herself further than that? Not marry a gigantic blaring red flag, sure. But there's other men (and women) that, as you mentioned, are completely unassuming to everyone around them all the way up until it's too late.
I highly doubt that the majority of these anti-victim-blaming soldiers the commenter speaks of are 'vilifying teaching people survival skills'. More likely, they don't think that it's fair to expect what is essentially constant paranoia from these women - don't wear those clothes. don't walk in that direction. not that one either. don't go to that city. avoid that country, period. always bring something that can be used as a weapon. don't leave your house. don't have children with him. don't have children, point blank. wait no come back, we need you to have children. but not in those clothes, some people have a pregnancy fetish around these parts. in fact, how about you don't even breathe? that's better.
@@fehyndana7725 This woman married a man she barely knew. She moved in with him days after moving out of an ex's house because the ex wasn't bonding with her children. Moving in and out with different men isn't something someone does when they have their children's interest at heart. She has a history of compulsive risky behavior and it's unfortunate that her children paid for it.
As a medical professional I will advise all parents to research and study the signs and symptoms of abuse. You would be surprised what parents ignore for lack of knowledge.
Like what
Im glad people are noticing how it can be anyone, like Aba said, especially people in your circle that have a level of power or trust that they can manipulate.
Also good point about making this trauma public, it should have definitely been handled by the authorities first and foremost.
(Edit:) the need for people to have their ambitions in place over the wellbeing of their children is so saddening, and it happens far too often. Unplug and look at yourself for what you are truly and not craft facade.
This is why I always trusted my daughter's intuition. If she didnt like someone or want to be near them, I NEVER forced her to interact with them. Man Woman Fish or Fowl. I have eyes in the back of my head where my daughter is concerned even though she's 26 yo. I was a child who became a woman so I talked to her about everything and what to look out for as she grows. I dont believe I could wait on karma so my long ass collins was always kept sharp!!! 😢
13:14 Absolutely YES. OMG finally I hear somebody speaking about that. I will NEVER blame the victim for what it happens to them, that is not what it is about. The main culprit will always be the one who did it. But, this doesn't mean that there isn't more aspects to this type of situations to blame, and the very beggining of that is the glorifying of this type of lifestyle, values, and ideals that enables this type of horrific situations to happen.
Pointing this out is not victim blaming, on the contrary, it hilghlights the specific area in which the victim has some type of agency: becoming aware of the path, whereas chosen or encouraged or both, that the victim finds themselves in. Removing themselves from that path or situation is what the victim or potential victim can do for themselves. It is not easy, the choice is in many ways stripped away from them one way or the other, or they are cornered into really difficult situations in which possibilities are scarce. But at least, talking about this ernestly and with this seriousness can help into pointing out where the way out is, or why you should look for a way out before things really take a bad turn.
Love how the less terminally online I've gotten you guys cover enough random stuff that i still find out random shit like this
Lmao you can’t escape it
there is no such thing as grape within the sanctity of marriage
@@aSSGoblin1488um what do you mean by that
@@aSSGoblin1488true.
@@Benito0421 that is retarded
When people say "we have chemistry.."...that chemistry could be a feeling that feels familiar including abuse! ( unhealed trauma) Chemistry is energy .We need to examine it before jumping in at the deep end.
^^^^^^This^^^^^^
This was a chemical disaster and created something toxic.
Ok enough chemistry puns, this is deeply disturbing in every way. I just hope that deviant is left to rot in prison.
This is why i told my daughter's mum i don't trust no one with my daughter. No one.
But it was the biological dad who touched on his own bio daughters in this story. The kids she had before marriage are older boys.
@@Ohkay5613is it? From what I understood the daughters are from a previous guy and she had an additional baby with this guy
@@phoquemeno they are his children that they had together after getting married.
@@phoquemeI think it’s the sons who were from a previous relationship
The 3 younger kids being the 2 daughters and the baby are the ones they had together is what I saw some ppl confirming
@@phoquemeHer two boys are from a previous relationship. Those girls are his. He messed with his own kids. Go look at her channel.
6:40 about the "we don't know if it's her fault, or if she neglected" listen. It's fucked up already that she has to protect her kids from her own husband! At some point you will give them to your partners care, bc you trust them. At some point it won't even cross your mind anymore... So I don't think that in any case she could be blamed for HIS ACTIONS!
I feel bad for the young boys and girls that are now grown that have gone through this . I wish our children never have to go through something like this
you live on planet incest unfortunately amongst other things. no more wishing. get involved. donate or volunteer. there are many places that could use more than a prayer or a wish
The hardest thing isn’t realizing you’re married to a monster, it’s to find the strength to protect your children from them.
How the hell is that a struggle? A good parent will immediately take action. The severity of the action depends on how good you are to get away with it.
Nah thats not hard at all if you love your kids.
Huh
More prevalent in older generations maybe?
How could that’ be hard?
As a survivor of CSA by my dad, I applaud this woman for recognizing something was right an immediately seeking help.
Many women choose to look the other way. My mom included out of convenience or not wanting to be alone. My dad’s brother was also SA’ing his daughter and my cousin told her mom and her mom did nothing, she choose to stay because she was a SAHM. My cousin told our grandma and grandma did nothing, even dismissed it saying “why do you want me to do, call the police?”
Yes grandma, that’s the absolute bare minimum that should have been done.
I’ll add one more in here to demonstrate how absolutely foul women can be.
My mom let her coworker move in with us, I might have been 6/7 at the time. The man she allowed to live with us was SA’ing his daughters, one of them ended up pregnant. The baby was born incredibly deformed and the hospital did genetic testing because of how severe the birth defects were. It came out that dad was also grandpa. The girls mom denied that her husband was SAing the girl that she must have used a piece of toilet paper that he had used and that’s how she got pregnant.
Foul. Absolutely foul!
Heart breaking 💔
I’m sorry you, your cousin and that man’s daughters went through that. This is why I’m tired of the gender wars there’s evil in both
It gets worse when there's a long intergenerational history of it in an extended family, and a community, sadly it gets normalized in some ways, that could be a reason for those womens reactions, its like a plague/sickness if it seeps in and it does a lot of damage.
She did all this within a year of meeting him...
No words 😔
i don’t know how much research yall did into this but there are several videos of her online where you can hear her daughter screaming and crying alone with her father and she never seemed concerned or checked on her daughter, from what i’ve seen it appears like she knew something was wrong and didn’t say anything because she was hoping that he was her dream guy
the no tears, the leaving out the fact BOTH of her daughters were SA it’s not because she’s ashamed it happened she KNEW the whole time
@@aeiragonbenjamin6515 I'm still trying to figure it out if it was both the son and dad who were molesting her daughters or only the son since the father seems to be scot free and no charges has been pressed against him
This is dark and depressing. I always think about my daughter when she is not with me. I hope sick behaviors ends.
Same I pray and pray and pray.
Sadly it won't end especially with all this easy access to corn people have these day's.
It’s not about their pleasure Aba, these predators are sick. Seeking pleasure leads to one million avenues without ever even considering abusing your own infant children.
She ran background checks on this guy and he didn’t have a bad record. She married him and gave birth to his daughters that he decided to SA 😢…he did this to his own biological daughters
There's no way she properly vetted this man in just one week
She definitely rushed into this marriage
Did she, though?
1 week background cheques. 1 week vetting. Got it
@@nouriaatangana5241I’m confused why you morons think that people with clean legal records can’t commit crimes?
Single life is less complex guys. Safety first. At this point every other person was molested.
We need a society reset.
I feel for her 😢. It's not easy. I pray for strength of Spirit, Soul and Body. She did well as a mother to leave. What that man did is horrible and a crime. As i listen to her story, i can't help but sincerely feel that from a spiritual lens that there could be marks and traces of rape upon her life. Her mum was raped, she was raped, her children experienced something similar. Some spiritual interventions can be something she can consider. May the Lord strengthen her and her children as they go through this healing journey.
I heard this story bro. How could this man be a father:( those poor children
Good for her! Straight to the hospital! Get Confirmation , charge him and Divorce! If she was the type to avoid, she wouldn't have taken them to the hospital. Your conscience has to be GONE to do that to a child.
I think the broader discussion around turning your family and personal life into content for social media should be brought up more often in these situations.
I commend her for be brave enough to share her experience with her followers for the sake of awareness, and I actually think it's very important to have these conversations. But a regular person irl who goes through these things in their private life would never feel the same pressure or level of normalcy to reveal their childs trauma to random people they dont know. Her poor kids don't deserve to live with this hanging over their heads the rest of their lives, but now its been immortalized on the internet for the whole world to see.
Family content really feels detrimental to kids who don't get a say in how their personal lives are shared with the world, I hope this doesn't make their road to recovery any more difficult.
i can’t even feel bad with all that i know,she did not shed a single tear and when her daughter was verbally crying and being hurt she just ignored it now she wants to play the victim
I hope she’s okay. 😢
I hope the kids are ok
Hope the kids are okay. She made her bed
I hope the kids are okay wtf
@@afterbitenero3408 I mean, and? people can make mistakes....and you can feel bad for them. unless you think people don't deserver empathy if they are imperfect and have regular human flaws. if i see a man or woman get in a bad relationship ill feel bad. it happens
@@dobbierealsexactly. Plus she immediately made plans to get away from that man
Desperate single moms are the biggest targets for those kinds of creeps. Protect your kids people. Put your selfishness on the side or at least keep them away from your kids
He SA'd his own daughters that HE had with her. She wasn't selfish if she was she would have stayed to upkeep her image as a trophy wife but she didn't. She saw the signs of abuse, which reminded her of her own experience as a child, and took action immediately. Look up the case.
those were his own biological daughters
She wasn't desperate. How was she "selfish" when he did this to HIS OWN kids? This happens when women aren't even parents, let alone single moms. How is the father of her two prior children not also selfish for not having his own kids?
🤡 Both of your brain cells are fighting for 3rd place.
@@whatever4566like people literally don’t want to understand this fact. How do you suspect a bio father and why would you be protecting your kids from their own father? Logically. She found out and she left. Stop finding a way to blame the mom, people. It’s not a two to tango issue. Literally ONE man did the SA.
Man this vid went from 0 to 100 reql quick god damn
I believe her story but her emotions don't look real. She doesn't look as angry or broken as any mother should be.
At least she left when she found out her daughter was getting assaulted, I just wish it didnt get to that point, not to victim blame.
She compromised her children the moment she stayed after 4 rapes. The reality is she left far too late and pretty much contributed to history repeating itself. She left which her mother didn’t do for her. But she still contributed to this situation unfortunately.
@keithmutamba1395 true but I love how you as a man are so quick to say well she contributed but not one word about this male predator.
Most men like you are quick to say 'but her but her' over he should never of being doing that even if she allowed it 4 times.
I would say she should have left after the 1st time but he shouldn't be touching her like this anyway shape or form. Condemn him not her.
@@cha9165
As a man????!!!!
If I had kids and got shot by my husband four times and still stayed. Why the hell should no one question my choice to stay. Is he a monster yeah, but damn if he showed you what he was not once but four times then choosing to stay was a very questionable choice. Especially for the little brats.
I am not going to act like she is blameless in this. She stayed that’s the problem she should have left after the fourth rape. You are treating her or all women like vulnerable kittens. We all make choices in life.
She is suffering from the shame of hers.
I wish it didn't get to this point either, but it's hard for that wish to be fulfilled when predators exist....
@@cha9165what else is there to say about that man? We all know he’s the monster? She’s the one that is the most right in the head. She was supposed to take immediate initiative
My prayers are with her and her baby 😢
Pray for the woman who prayed for god to protect her children
God doesn't give a f, because he doesn't exist.
Preach at 0:00 :😂😂😄
Preach at 2:05: 😧😨😱
I will never understand how someone could see a child and think to do that ..very sad
Dude, there is a special place in hell for people like this...
11:34 Let’s talk ABA! When other women say this we’re haters, jealous, stupid, etc!!! My moms and aunts first marriage’s they were “trophy wives” along many of the women in our family. ALL OF THEM told me to get your own for this very reason! If you hear the stories they tell you, you would understand why they chose to divorce them, be disowned by their family, and lose all their wealth. Your dignity does not have a price! Build your own and use your discernment!
They always wanna call us jealous and bitter when we’re criticizing these silly norms and concepts. Nowadays in any situation when people scream the “jealous!” rhetoric I ignore it. It’s important to heed caution and think critically and people who say that just wanna pull the wool over your eyes and drag you down.
@@moethemoon exactly! Once someone says I am being jealous or a hater, I leave it alone too. You're too far gone for me. So you like it I love it!
As a woman who’s experienced SA on several occasions, I’ve had so many conflicting feelings about the branding of her channel. I think where I land is it was irresponsible to make this content after being SA’d several times, but I think she tried to take accountability by sharing what happened with her children. That said, she could’ve just shared her story and not her children’s because they should have the autonomy to choose who knows something that traumatic. I can’t imagine my parents telling 2 million people my business.
Because views. That's why. Her entire channel is based on the same bs to get views and interaction. What sort of mother learns this and then does her make up and hair sits in a robe and exposes something which her own children cannot comprehend. She clearly didn't press charges. Why? She's been thru the same thing, yet clearly states on her channel she DID NOT KNOW THIS MAN. She married him in LESS THAN a year AFTER JUST getting out of another relationship which (her own words) "DID NOT LIKE HER KIDS". SHE was the one who PUSHED marriage on that man. SHE was the one who by her own admission said she wanted to be married. She has entirely herself to blame. We know monsters exist. We don't marry strangers when we have children. We prioritise them and not our own desperation for a man and to be a "wife". She brought her kids around one stranger, had them living with him, alone with him, who did not like them and STRAIGHT away jumped into another man who then ended up hurting her young kids she had by the same stranger. And then she comes and talks about it online as if it's remotely appropriate to go into detail about your own child's assault. What a fkin world huh.
@@SOSSOSNM1No I think it was her way of maybe warning people, she was wrong about her message. It was her responsibility to talk her audience how dangerous her view points were through her own experience. I don't think she was doing this for attention, it was a warning. The whole thing is horrific.
when you really think about it, what kind of person decides to put on makeup, switch on the camera and talk about their own babies' most traumatic experience, and experience that so violated human decency....at the hands of the man she had already suffered sexual abuse from...
She also displayed how she neglected her kids by revealing that she was graped several times before she found out about the kids being touched. She a hot mess. How can you allow that man to stay in your home after that? With the kids there? That’s crazy
@@samuisun6684 yeahhh
Aba brought up what a lot of us were thinking. What happened to her children was horrible, and she told the entire world.
At 16:20 I'm so happy that you guys bought that topic up. Every time you try to bring up that kind of accountability talk, they always throw back the stop victim blaming and trying to make that person feeling better. But by not bringing it up, you're just burying the underlining issues just to make that person feel better. Yes bringing up that topic right after the incident is a bit sensitive but sometimes you have to just rip off the bandage and treat the wound.
I get the wanting to keep quiet, but in cases like this YOU HAVE TO WARN EVERYONE. There’s plenty of “fathers” out there abusing their children, all while smiling in their woman’s face. I’m glad she got the help.
Uncles, grandads, siblings, women etc sad world 😢
i got recommended the original randomly the other night. was playing tf2 and it just showed up on autoplay in the background after a different video i was watching. this shit was crazy. feel bad for her and the kids. i went and watched one of her other videos and watching her say "hey trophies" at the beginning was surreal to say the least.
Yeah she pinned her GoFundMe to the top of the comments. I'm not calling her a liar but I don't make it a point to believe every sob story on social media, especially when people have their GoFundMe tied to it. It's been people who have said and done worse to get clicks, views, and money on social media so I don't put anything past anyone.
@@Ahdree23exactly let’s just wait & see because this could be a cash grab etc;
It's really tough. I understand her sharing the story as a cautionary tale for other women in similar positions and let them know its possible to get out of that situation. But im also a bit worried about everyone knowing her kkds were abused. It's hard growing up when everyone look at you differently because they know what happened.
Yeah this lady is just doing a lot right now
Preach you're so right about the victim blaming BS. It's so annoying to see people willfully ignore circumstances that are obvious to them just so that they can prove some kind "freedom" to themselves. Doing really stupid crap like flash money/valuables in shady places, being disrespectful to dangerous figures, getting in other people's way and escalating volatile situations just because they can...then the OBVIOUS consequences happen and they looking for sympathy gtfoh.
That aside, to the mother in the video, please don't beat yourself up with guilt. All things considered, that creature was in the best position to hide the fact from you; not only has he earned your trust but he also knew you well enough to know how not to arouse your suspicion. Neither of those things are your fault...he may be sick in the head but he ain't dumb. What's important is that you followed through when you found out. I think those girls will forever thank you for that
Agree. It's easy for people on the outside to believe that walking away without a second thought would be easy for people being abused esp that those women who has no other option and would gladly accept such mistreatment just for their kids to have some roof - though this may not be exclusive, some stay because of codependency but most of the time it's the former. Just like other women, it isn't easy to hate the person who mistreats you when most of the time you think they’re being a godsend and played the part as well.
@@carrethenry6237 call out the name of the person you are talking about. Don’t be scared to. People flaunting their money is not new neither is envy. Cut the bullshit. Believe you me, you are not more radical than me. We can go at it.
Earn her trust? He raped her multiple times. He showed his true self early on but for whatever reason she chose to stay.
I am tired of people who embrace these Symbols that Objectify and Dehumanize themselves or others. Stop with the *Trophy Wives* or I am the Prize!! You are basically saying you are Loot. This is a terrible situation and I feel Horrible for the Kids. People need to think about value as in what they have as a person, a human, connection, not a commodity. I hope she got all the help from the authorities, sounds like that old man is loaded, I have a feeling it could get even more messy and if it does go further his defense team will use anything against her and she might of put a lot out there being a content creator.
In an earlier video she said they had a small wedding, and she was also making excuses for having a small ring. So I wouldn’t be surprised if he was fabricating how much he earns.
The original video was recommended to me. I'm so glad I didn't watch it. I had no idea this was where it would go.
Same
It's better you didn't ,because he victimblames her for even making this public about her kids
11:00 A guy named Hugh Nelson took baby pictures from the internet and use AI to make child corn.
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I about GAGGED 🤢🤢🤢
2:49 I cannot even begin to describe how unprepared I was to hear this. I paused it. Does it get too descriptive after this? Someone please let me know so I know if I can even continue to watch this video.
Same. I’m outta here!
She doesn’t describe attack details. Only her reaction to it and the actions she took
I wouldn’t watch if I were you. Its very heavy
Hellfire upon him
Hiding from the world never solves anything woman, stop being self absorbed and aware yourself on the type of people out there, maybe it will change your perspective and save you from trouble down the line.
I have a family member that was SA'd as a young child and by a step parent. When they told the blood parent that parent got mad. Then went to the step parent threatening them to "Never do it again." And they all stayed together. WTF!? "Don't do it again" !? And being mad but keeping the assaulter around and in the home with the child knowingly. It will be no surprise that the child (my relative) grew u with a LOT of issues and was very promiscuous and also picked the worst kind of "partners" and was SA'd more than once. At a young age they would brag about their physical relationships and also started to get their sibling to try the same behaviors. The effects are horrible even for those that grow and somehow find a way to handle it and have a positive life. With help or without. They suffer too it just isn't as obvious. I have even seen long term marriage, over 30 years so far, that still suffers from the wife's abuse from before they even met.
This lady did something when she suspected and she left the situation with the children. GOOD on her! I hope the children will get the help they may need and grow up knowing this was a crime against them and they are people of worth. In no way responsible for their abuse.
I've..... physically checked tf out of men for doing far less
The original video came on my explore page, but I didn't watch it because I thought it would be about a cheating husband influencer drama. Never in my wildest thought did I think I would hear this...