The CONSEQUENCES OF RAISING YOUR STANDARDS!

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  • Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024

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  • @beedido439
    @beedido439 6 месяцев назад +59

    Walk away. You have the strength. You’re not a pain the neck. You’re not difficult. You’re not too sensitive. You’re not an insecure woman. He just doesn’t prioritize you or the relationship. For whatever reason that is. Walk away.

    • @gok655
      @gok655 6 месяцев назад +4

      That's right just did walk away and I feel good for doing so. Realised that I had more to get on with than trying to invest in someone else who was never invested in the relationship from the start. It was false so I cut the cord once an for all. And I have every confidence in my decision and what I suspected of them.

    • @beedido439
      @beedido439 6 месяцев назад +2

      Good for you. Don’t forget to make a list of why you chose to walk away bc second guessing yourself will begging to naw at you! Stay strong and stay no contact. Block!!!

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      Do a relationship autopsy. Accept ownership for your choice. And learn from it. You deserve better!
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

    • @jasIbe88
      @jasIbe88 4 месяца назад

      This is crazy facts!

    • @jasIbe88
      @jasIbe88 4 месяца назад

      Thank you for articulating it for me, truly appreciated!!

  • @Trulyblessedandgrateful
    @Trulyblessedandgrateful 6 месяцев назад +16

    I’m on this path now, probably will lose a lot of my men but I’m comfortable alone too. I’m tired of getting my heart ripped out and doing everything. DONE

  • @melanieoreilly2565
    @melanieoreilly2565 6 месяцев назад +19

    I did it. It was one of the hardest things I had to do in my life, but I knew it was the right thing to do. I knew that if I did not walk away, I would end up having him, but worse still, I would end up hating myself.

    • @esmeraldayachting
      @esmeraldayachting 5 месяцев назад +1

      I fully understand you, I am passing through the same path right now

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      When they add no value, subtract.
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

  • @ritadoran5039
    @ritadoran5039 6 месяцев назад +11

    I have raised my standards I got my heart broken but he and I were unequally yoked on the things that matter most. I am healing and trusting God

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

  • @antoinettebulatao2299
    @antoinettebulatao2299 6 месяцев назад +8

    Hi Derek, you should create your own dating site with all evolved men and women only on that website. So both men and women can find their match.

  • @katarzynaklos6527
    @katarzynaklos6527 4 месяца назад +3

    When the pain of current reality is greater that the fear of change that’s when we change

  • @chosen1liz
    @chosen1liz 6 месяцев назад +5

    My standards are better than haven't had any at all. I'm good and anyone that has a problem with my quality of life they can f**k off. They are the problem(s), no more. The pain is worth going through to know who I am and the pain I've had to push through made me the strong woman I am currently.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

  • @NatashaBailey
    @NatashaBailey 6 месяцев назад +4

    I raised my standards and stood up for my needs. I got emotionally abused, shamed and rejected. Thank you! I realised from your video that the wrong men will remove themselves and then make you wrong for it. Good. Open for Mr Right.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад +1

      Good attitude. That trash takes itself out.
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

  • @DS-wv7lf
    @DS-wv7lf 6 месяцев назад +13

    He is talking to me. Thank you Sir!

  • @user-yg5hq9zv2t
    @user-yg5hq9zv2t 6 месяцев назад +5

    I'm standing on business. I want better !!!!

  • @tynaangelici3023
    @tynaangelici3023 6 месяцев назад +8

    This is what I’m going through right now at work and in my dating life. I raised my standards at work set boundaries spoke up for what I wanted and needed and I got gaslit shamed had things they done for me thrown in my face.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад +2

      That's on them. Next! It's a very dysfunctional dating market.
      90% of men aren't good boyfriend or husband material. - Evan Mark Katz

    • @tynaangelici3023
      @tynaangelici3023 5 месяцев назад

      @@sherriflemming3218 I’m realizing this now. I’m done giving chances and benefit of doubt to my detriment.

  • @elizabethlopez1030
    @elizabethlopez1030 6 месяцев назад +9

    Yes, repulsed. Thank you for making sense of this.

  • @Harry-o6g
    @Harry-o6g 6 месяцев назад +6

    Denial of your real circumstance ... and then THAT realisation is an eye opener ! It can erode your strength to leave ... but I raised & got out 😊 You are speaking so much truth here ... thank you 👏 👏👏

  • @elizabethclarke2005
    @elizabethclarke2005 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you Brother Derrick. TRUTH!!!

  • @jacquelineward7421
    @jacquelineward7421 5 месяцев назад +1

    Pray and pray your way out along with working your way out.

  • @andreal.1666
    @andreal.1666 6 месяцев назад +8

    I have experienced it two times the hard way.

    To be safe and to feel safe must come together! = My opinion/ experience.
    To feel something (like safety) is not an addiction!!!
    Thank you for your helpful „wake up calls“! I‘m the eldest of four children. I (61) wished I would have had fourty years ago an elder brother like you in my life.
    Thank you for your brotherly teachings at the beginning of my Golden Sixties! 😉🙋🏻‍♀️

    • @lanapalij4014
      @lanapalij4014 6 месяцев назад

      I thank you too!

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

  • @joyceczarniowski2379
    @joyceczarniowski2379 6 месяцев назад +7

    Very true! Great message!

  • @chosen1liz
    @chosen1liz 6 месяцев назад +2

    *enough is enough.
    *Pushing through the pain is worth it.
    It defines the strengthening of a TRUE CHAMPION!
    "I"

  • @chosen1liz
    @chosen1liz 6 месяцев назад +3

    I'm going to be paying all your videos forward onto my personal feed on FB.
    -thank you for all your time, support, and obedience to actually give knowledge and help and healing to women.
    *You are a true King and God is proud of you Derrick.

  • @EricaLynn-lj6dh
    @EricaLynn-lj6dh 6 месяцев назад +1

    Most encouraged i have EVER felt ... Thank you Derrick Jaxn

  • @ruthrnk3826
    @ruthrnk3826 3 месяца назад +1

    Powerful message.

  • @kimberthompson5227
    @kimberthompson5227 6 месяцев назад +1

    I did it and it hurt but I chose me and I deserve more. ❤Thank you for reminding me I made the right decision no matter how much this hurt because I do care for this person but love me more. ❤

  • @user-ex4ce7gh1k
    @user-ex4ce7gh1k 2 месяца назад

    Loved the section about raising the prices and dating within your budget- that resonates with me 😊💕

  • @user-j7t8u
    @user-j7t8u 6 месяцев назад +1

    I can't thank you enough Derrick for your encouragement and support! 🥰 You da bomb! 😍

  • @lisachildofGod2879
    @lisachildofGod2879 4 месяца назад +2

    You make perfect sense always

  • @_jules86
    @_jules86 6 месяцев назад +1

    You are my favorite. Always speaking facts✨✨

  • @melvynom
    @melvynom 6 месяцев назад +3

    Very true. Thank you

  • @reneesears2501
    @reneesears2501 6 месяцев назад +3

    I just think about what I've been through n honestly 💯 put myself through want to throw up!

    • @browneyes9507
      @browneyes9507 6 месяцев назад +2

      I feel you ..

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

  • @Emily-ed6ed
    @Emily-ed6ed 6 месяцев назад +2

    Great message

  • @desiscarletblack6993
    @desiscarletblack6993 5 месяцев назад +3

    I'm going through this right now.

  • @olgakiely6898
    @olgakiely6898 4 месяца назад +1

    I. for sure. So happy I did..

  • @ritadoran5039
    @ritadoran5039 6 месяцев назад +1

    Great true talk

  • @Prairiegirl3
    @Prairiegirl3 6 месяцев назад +3

    I’m not changing my prices

  • @blingblingnelida
    @blingblingnelida 6 месяцев назад +3

    Me Myself and I...Me "
    It Does hurts...😢 "

  • @chosen1liz
    @chosen1liz 6 месяцев назад

    When i get my tax return, i will invest into myself and the content you have created for women like me. Amen my brother. So grateful for you being here at this time in my life. Thank you so very much Derrick.

  • @scorpiored3871
    @scorpiored3871 6 месяцев назад +1

    Ur so right,happened to me .Thank you Derrick!❤

  • @anointed7516
    @anointed7516 6 месяцев назад +1

    I needed this

  • @user-ji1cs5ee8e
    @user-ji1cs5ee8e 6 месяцев назад +1

    Pray for the hurting to stop,NO one Deserves your pain 🙏

  • @user-yk3qm4zf5o
    @user-yk3qm4zf5o 4 месяца назад

    Now you can say. That I can have my own standards,thoughts decisions, opinions YUP👍🏻.

  • @robinrobertson8690
    @robinrobertson8690 6 месяцев назад +2

    True 🎯

  • @tonyamadison2980
    @tonyamadison2980 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you ❤ this Message!

  • @skybundick6685
    @skybundick6685 6 месяцев назад

    Love the message I got to get it together but I will definitely relay the message to my nieces I need to focus on me thank you

  • @fanniecaruthers7787
    @fanniecaruthers7787 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you sir

  • @savannahkat-ls9zq
    @savannahkat-ls9zq 6 месяцев назад +1

    Let them think what they want

  • @anacfonseca8292
    @anacfonseca8292 6 месяцев назад +1

    I, it happened to me. It hurt and still hurting me after I left him .

  • @teresajura2575
    @teresajura2575 5 месяцев назад

    Just went through this. Was told I was a enemy now.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 месяцев назад

      That's on them. Don't care.
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Safe People by Henry Cloud

  • @user-yk3qm4zf5o
    @user-yk3qm4zf5o 4 месяца назад

    👑 BRO 👑 FACTS 🐦‍🔥 ✌🏻 TRUTH 💪🏻 REALITY 🦉🧠🧘🏻‍♀️⚡🌎.

  • @flipflops-ed5xq
    @flipflops-ed5xq 5 месяцев назад

    Omg did you just admit these things???? Ur owning up and this is RARE.

    • @JaxnVideos
      @JaxnVideos  5 месяцев назад

      Hey @flipflops-ed5xq, I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure at times. Remember to be gentle with yourself and take things one step at a time. You are capable of overcoming any obstacles that come your way. If you're looking for more guidance and support, I highly recommend checking out my new master class. You can find the link in the description below. Keep pushing forward, you've got this!

  • @marir102012
    @marir102012 6 месяцев назад +2

    True I got repulsed and I was so attracted

    • @marir102012
      @marir102012 6 месяцев назад

      @@Lavon_Professional Do you think I should wear less?

    • @Lavon_Professional
      @Lavon_Professional 6 месяцев назад

      @@marir102012 Well yes, natural is better. I want you to change your profile picture too. I'm curious to know about your self esteem though? your picture is showing too much of your cleavage. You don't have to dress like that to get attention.....

    • @Lavon_Professional
      @Lavon_Professional 6 месяцев назад

      @@marir102012 Yes you don't need makeup, I want you to change your profile picture to. I'm curious to know about your self esteem though? Your cleavage is showing too much, you don't have to dress like that to get attention.....

    • @marir102012
      @marir102012 6 месяцев назад

      @@Lavon_Professional i agree thats a 1 year old pic iI wear alot less now. Thsnks

    • @marir102012
      @marir102012 6 месяцев назад

      FYI, I also respect your honesty. Okay, talk to you soon!

  • @dwilliams5700
    @dwilliams5700 6 месяцев назад

    Makes perfect sense!!!

  • @lisachildofGod2879
    @lisachildofGod2879 4 месяца назад

    Yes

  • @5Luckyducky
    @5Luckyducky 6 месяцев назад

    No doubt

  • @tanyabaughn3639
    @tanyabaughn3639 6 месяцев назад

    I for sure!! ☮️💟✝️

  • @user-yk3qm4zf5o
    @user-yk3qm4zf5o 4 месяца назад

    Sadly my own 😢son, and 2 brothers came into my life😔 that's definitely sucks!!!!

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 6 месяцев назад

    Very good topic

  • @user-ji1cs5ee8e
    @user-ji1cs5ee8e 6 месяцев назад

    AMEN 🙌👍👍👍👍👍

  • @leel6839
    @leel6839 6 месяцев назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @demetriajackson784
    @demetriajackson784 6 месяцев назад

    So true

  • @EricaLynn-lj6dh
    @EricaLynn-lj6dh 6 месяцев назад

  • @lolds222
    @lolds222 6 месяцев назад

    Yes, Standards do hurt.

  • @cocoacovagurl5397
    @cocoacovagurl5397 6 месяцев назад

    I!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @tagridmitchell285
    @tagridmitchell285 5 месяцев назад

    Me 🙋🏻‍♀️

  • @vanessacarpenter6247
    @vanessacarpenter6247 6 месяцев назад

    Yes I was

  • @verettaholland9580
    @verettaholland9580 6 месяцев назад

    Me!

  • @JenniferBurkett-sj4ls1980
    @JenniferBurkett-sj4ls1980 6 месяцев назад

    Me, this makes sense to me.

  • @louise8188
    @louise8188 6 месяцев назад

    Yep

  • @kellymorgan1549
    @kellymorgan1549 6 месяцев назад

    ME!

  • @esthermoore3082
    @esthermoore3082 6 месяцев назад +1

    Me

  • @DunnessaAlston
    @DunnessaAlston Месяц назад

    I was in that kind

  • @louise8188
    @louise8188 6 месяцев назад

    True

  • @tonibissett4570
    @tonibissett4570 6 месяцев назад

    I was called self rightous.

  • @moniqueteal7153
    @moniqueteal7153 6 месяцев назад

    🙌💯🙌‼️

  • @sarrahfiler5993
    @sarrahfiler5993 6 месяцев назад

    Me!!!🎉

  • @hadiza1
    @hadiza1 6 месяцев назад

    ♥️♥️♥️

  • @kellyadams468
    @kellyadams468 6 месяцев назад

    Yesyes

  • @hannehartmann9562
    @hannehartmann9562 6 месяцев назад

    👂👂👂

  • @lbfaith
    @lbfaith 6 месяцев назад

    7:29 🤚🏼

  • @nadiaconseillant8616
    @nadiaconseillant8616 4 месяца назад

    Repulsive is not the word. It's out. Taboo. You can't even entertain it

  • @kfresh1ify
    @kfresh1ify 6 месяцев назад

    Me now. I was ghosted the summer of 2023 so I cut him off but I'm not disgusted with him. He didn't make wise choices in his younger years so he can't satisfy me.

  • @khanyisilewotshela1639
    @khanyisilewotshela1639 6 месяцев назад

    Me.

  • @pt5594
    @pt5594 4 месяца назад

    Meeee

  • @chosen1liz
    @chosen1liz 6 месяцев назад

    " ME "

  • @user-j7t8u
    @user-j7t8u 6 месяцев назад

    Why did you say he's not going to apologise? Why not apologise AND talk more to find out more about both of you in the situation? This would work better for me. I would really appreciate your views on this please Derrick.

  • @flipflops-ed5xq
    @flipflops-ed5xq 5 месяцев назад

    I!!!!!!!!!!+

    • @JaxnVideos
      @JaxnVideos  5 месяцев назад

      Hi @flipflops-ed5xq, it sounds like you're going through a tough time right now and feeling lost. Just know that you're not alone and it's completely normal to feel overwhelmed at times. Remember to take deep breaths, practice self-care, and reach out to loved ones for support. I believe in you and know that you have the strength to overcome any challenges that come your way.
      Also, if you're looking for more guidance and support, I just launched a new master class that dives deep into managing relationships and building a strong foundation for yourself. Check it out in the description below - I think it could really help you on your journey. Take care!

  • @jingersnaps1244
    @jingersnaps1244 6 месяцев назад

    ME

  • @bregettewashington
    @bregettewashington 6 месяцев назад

    Me it's time to go and move on

  • @marysanders2817
    @marysanders2817 6 месяцев назад

    Hi

  • @lyneicebrown420
    @lyneicebrown420 7 дней назад

    I

  • @creneshiaphillips6954
    @creneshiaphillips6954 Месяц назад

    ❤…I …..🔥🪭

  • @user-bl6xg8mb6c
    @user-bl6xg8mb6c 6 месяцев назад

    I😢

  • @pt5594
    @pt5594 4 месяца назад

    Iiiiiiu

  • @bernicerosado9218
    @bernicerosado9218 6 месяцев назад

  • @lyneicebrown420
    @lyneicebrown420 7 дней назад

    Me

  • @jennifercraft7022
    @jennifercraft7022 2 месяца назад

    I

  • @kimclark-pi7uf
    @kimclark-pi7uf 2 месяца назад

    Me

  • @kimclark-pi7uf
    @kimclark-pi7uf 2 месяца назад

    Me

  • @lisachildofGod2879
    @lisachildofGod2879 4 месяца назад

    Me

  • @ashleybecker3461
    @ashleybecker3461 Месяц назад

    Me

  • @DiG-lc2qc
    @DiG-lc2qc 2 месяца назад

    Me

  • @mwilliams9826
    @mwilliams9826 3 месяца назад

    Me