Why he blames you for EVERYTHING!

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  • Опубликовано: 2 ноя 2024

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  • @jeanettemena1286
    @jeanettemena1286 Год назад +100

    Yea if he constantly finds fault in you - that’s his guilty conscious. He can’t bare staring in the mirror so he’s projecting his guilt on to you.

    • @marian5554
      @marian5554 2 месяца назад +2

      I know i made mistakes, and i tried letting him know that i waa changing thst and i has faith in us. He smiled and said ok its a promise. And days later he broke me telling me all my mistakes ans weaknesses head to toe

    • @DottyMcInk
      @DottyMcInk 8 дней назад +1

      ​@marian5554 My boyfriend is doing that too. Everything he does is perfect. Everything i do is wrong or "not enough" for him

  • @jasminea7828
    @jasminea7828 9 месяцев назад +18

    “He’s cultivated a distrust by being untrustworthy.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @simpsonmarie4
    @simpsonmarie4 Год назад +89

    My ex hubs did this a lot. And he never took responsibility for noothing he did. I was married for 14 years and he committed adultery the whole time. He blames me for that too.

    • @christinabaatz1204
      @christinabaatz1204 Год назад +6

      Be happy sister ,🙂
      that you gave him up,
      that you broke up with him and ,
      that you are doing YOUR life without him .

    • @tamiaj7350
      @tamiaj7350 Год назад +4

      @JustSimply Marie... That's my current situation!!! It's just nonstop adultery!

    • @ThePrivacyviolation
      @ThePrivacyviolation Год назад

      Me too gurl ...hit me up! Lets chat and uplift each other

    • @deidrejordan2761
      @deidrejordan2761 Год назад +2

      I’m glad that you are no longer in that toxic relationship.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 Год назад +1

      Not your fault. Gaslighting and no accountability.

  • @80sbaby90
    @80sbaby90 Год назад +31

    Good men are rare

    • @victorial8764
      @victorial8764 6 месяцев назад +3

      Godly men are rare too. ❤

  • @sammie2377
    @sammie2377 Год назад +19

    It's really hard for people when all Blame is thrown their way, and accountability is nowhere to be found.

  • @MrSavannah2017
    @MrSavannah2017 Год назад +22

    Whew! These brothers ain't safe to love.

  • @simthembilefundiswamaguban9265
    @simthembilefundiswamaguban9265 Год назад +20

    You've spit facts only. This is actually a confirmation of my assessment of my ex. He has so much work to do on himself. At one point I had to tell him that he crucified me everytime because he lacked accountability for his own actions. His insecurities stemmed from his childhood, past infidelity, and of course the inability to heal from his past traumas

  • @joyoussouls
    @joyoussouls Год назад +12

    I actually appreciate you, because you seem to be very positive, and you’re not attacking women for being who they are and you’re being honest about how men truly are

  • @busylane
    @busylane 3 дня назад

    Amazing timing of this video. Every conversation turns into a fight thanks to him because he cannot take accountability for himself. He turns things, always, around back to me. It makes me crazy.
    Thank you, Derrick.

  • @reneedregmans556
    @reneedregmans556 5 месяцев назад +5

    💯 Men like this are so obvious they tell on themselves every time 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @d6l.w8ds
    @d6l.w8ds Год назад +13

    PLEASEEEEEEE POST MORE MEN AND THEIR CHILDHOOD MENTAL VIDEOS LIKE THIS PLEASEEEE AND HOW THEY ACT IS A PRESENTATION OF THEMSELVES A WHOLEEE SEPARATE WORLD FROM THEIR S.O
    THIS WAS BEYOND BEAUTIFULLY PUT. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! 👏

  • @cookiesmom584
    @cookiesmom584 9 месяцев назад +5

    Damn ! You’ve got some incredible insight I’ve never heard before. This explains my last 7 year Situationship.

    • @JustMe-wu9tj
      @JustMe-wu9tj 9 месяцев назад +1

      Situationship! Love that, gonna use it now.

  • @sxyrachelle
    @sxyrachelle Год назад +26

    FACTS AGAIN!!! WHEN I NEED TO HAVE REASSURANCE OF WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH AND THE PERSON I USED TO BE WITH... BOOM, A VIDEO POPS UP😊 THANKS AGAIN!!

    • @Yoqyy
      @Yoqyy Год назад +1

      God works in mysteries way beautiful 💜

    • @lanapalij4014
      @lanapalij4014 Год назад

      @@Yoqyyyes!
      Always!😉

  • @simpsonmarie4
    @simpsonmarie4 Год назад +17

    You spoke facts. This video described my ex hubs, to the T.

  • @colorfreakjina
    @colorfreakjina 9 месяцев назад +14

    What a sick behavior to humble/put in place/even the score a woman who he knows has value and goodness and high level traits. Instead of trying to grow and match her level he wants her to go down so he feels good about himself. So sick.

    • @marsdreamproductions
      @marsdreamproductions 6 месяцев назад +1

      Everyy try thing he said i feel like i just went through. It had me in tears. I hope to never go through that again.

    • @impossiblegems
      @impossiblegems 3 месяца назад

      Always my experience

  • @malloryfithen1900
    @malloryfithen1900 Год назад +20

    I just want through this he left me just a couple day ago now he's telling people I did him wrong its crazy

    • @missantonia14goldsby
      @missantonia14goldsby Год назад +2

      Mines attacked me and wanted me to cut all my friends off woman nd men because he felt he only mattered then told his family I was crazy and did a bunch of things to him then turned them against me too I wasn’t even aware

  • @tinalang1320
    @tinalang1320 Год назад +15

    I was married for 21 years, then we got divorce. Don’t want to take accountability for his actions. Adultery and few more things

  • @Billionairess103
    @Billionairess103 5 месяцев назад +2

    THIS IS SO ON POINT AS I HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH A LOT OF THINGS GOING ON IN MY LIFE. 7 YEARS OF DEALING WITH THE MADNESS.. I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO MOVE ON AS THERE IS NO COMMUNICATION OUTSIDE OF THE YELLING AND BLAMING AND TALKING SLICK TO ME. ENOUGH OF THAT..

  • @elizabethvice488
    @elizabethvice488 Месяц назад

    D, I'm so glad to listen to this video again! Three times in a row, very valid perspective! There are men out here who are a combination of all these traits, and I know: I had him. Thank you very much D!!! You're the Internet Bro we all need!!!

  • @tubegen11
    @tubegen11 Год назад +8

    Thank you Derrick for this truth …Thank God for you. You are inspiring generations of women and giving them the courage for change for the better.

  • @kickstartwithkate4510
    @kickstartwithkate4510 Месяц назад

    Jaxn- thanks for the video because your last point about emotional state and up bringing is soooo on point …. Really makes me think and feel better knowing I am not the only one that thinks that. Good men are hard to come by ladies- I’m living the being blamed and criticized for everything and if you are too - reevaluate it all and see it’s not you - it’s so them and then you’ll know how to handle it and what to do. Jaxn you are so on point.

  • @connieeller46
    @connieeller46 Год назад +5

    Facts, you have described half the men out here. With that being said, there are a handful of good ones out here too.

  • @dwilliams5700
    @dwilliams5700 9 месяцев назад +1

    You couldn't be more on point Derrick !!! 🎯🎯🎯

  • @thisloop
    @thisloop Год назад +6

    true... i agree! blame the woman & make that all her faults where actually its his + accuse her for things that she aint do

  • @sushmalewis5425
    @sushmalewis5425 11 месяцев назад +1

    The last point struck home thank you Derrick for clearing up everything that I have been enduring

  • @patriciaburtescu
    @patriciaburtescu Год назад +8

    Beyonce says to play the cards we’ve been dealt, ehich means listen to his blame game, see his cards, smile&wave and leave without a shdow of a doubt.

    • @marsdreamproductions
      @marsdreamproductions 6 месяцев назад +1

      Facts. when i heard this song i was like wow she is right

    • @misskiana81
      @misskiana81 4 месяца назад

      What song is this?

  • @PaulaLowery-r8d
    @PaulaLowery-r8d Год назад +5

    I can’t go for a long drive just to think without a thousand questions n accusations

  • @yd4460
    @yd4460 Год назад +7

    I All love and respect for the respect you give to men and women in teaching respect for each other.💯💞 all love and respect for you and your family.💯💞

  • @nadiaconseillant8616
    @nadiaconseillant8616 Месяц назад +1

    I want peace and to sit on the beach with my love next to me. Nice to have peace. Too much drama for these relationships

  • @evelisisdavis7242
    @evelisisdavis7242 Год назад +5

    Thank you for sharing!!!

  • @blondeevan4731
    @blondeevan4731 3 месяца назад +1

    Asking him just that one question opens up the probability of an argumen

  • @belinda8610
    @belinda8610 6 месяцев назад +3

    My husband blames me for every single damn thing. When I say everything I MEAN EVERYTHING!! He even tell his family friends and anyone I'm the blame for his Fu*ked up life!!!

  • @Bobcats-PoppyandRosey
    @Bobcats-PoppyandRosey 3 месяца назад

    Oh wow, this makes so much sense. I see now. Thank you for sharing!!

  • @leonamendoza2199
    @leonamendoza2199 Год назад +2

    GOODNESS YES! EVERY SINGLE WORD!!

  • @khanyisilewotshela1639
    @khanyisilewotshela1639 Год назад +1

    Make perfect sense with everything you've said.

  • @mea24palustre3
    @mea24palustre3 Год назад

    It's because it's good doesn't mean it's right, on point!

  • @adriennechamberlain4868
    @adriennechamberlain4868 11 месяцев назад

    OMG YOU MAKE TOTAL SENSE!!!

  • @Jackie-O.Louisiana
    @Jackie-O.Louisiana Год назад +2

    WOW! This is my life right now!

  • @esbethstuurman5661
    @esbethstuurman5661 Год назад +9

    🙏Hi Derrick Jaxm THANK you for your reading it resonates 100% to me truly that's my Husband whether l must say it my self lm a very good hearted person for my family grandchildren and other people but he will never change me God is good to me lm not perfect but I tired to move on spirituality 🙏🙏THANK you for bringing peace to my Soul 🙏🙏🙏l love you Lord 🙏♥️♥️♥️

    • @esbethstuurman5661
      @esbethstuurman5661 Год назад +1

      🙏🙏 Amen Hi Derrick l THANK you for bringing more clarity to my mind and Soul🙏🙏 but most of all l THANK God for putting the right poeple on my Path 🙏🙏l can see there is light at the end of the tunnel Amen 🙏🙏be bless ♥️♥️♥️

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Год назад +3

    He projects on you to create an alibi for his future wrongs, a game strategy ~ a great defense is a good offense !! Textbook Player Game

  • @Judybell1959
    @Judybell1959 Год назад +2

    Yes you making sense

  • @virginiavaldes4601
    @virginiavaldes4601 Год назад +1

    everything you said hes doing each and every one of those to me

  • @kendrariedelrealestateprof2932
    @kendrariedelrealestateprof2932 Год назад +1

    Wow...😢 I needed this. Thanks 🎉

  • @Steph_1215
    @Steph_1215 6 месяцев назад

    Oh my God, amazing explanation!

  • @BR9900-w5l
    @BR9900-w5l Год назад +1

    Love it..respect from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤️

  • @AmieLewis-t5q
    @AmieLewis-t5q 6 месяцев назад

    You are speaking to me my Bro

  • @hussalena
    @hussalena 11 месяцев назад

    I love that u still do these videos ❤

  • @paulawilliams2664
    @paulawilliams2664 10 месяцев назад

    On point! Thank you 🙌🏼

  • @ldbobay
    @ldbobay Год назад

    You are making perfect sense

  • @Steph_1215
    @Steph_1215 6 месяцев назад +1

    That is the language that he is speaking to himself!

  • @tina12rusco.
    @tina12rusco. Год назад +2

    That is so true

  • @shelleykennedy876
    @shelleykennedy876 Год назад +1

    He goes back and forth.

  • @tyronejones8434
    @tyronejones8434 2 месяца назад

    These conversations just don’t hold the same weight

  • @Cherryblossom-fg1pl
    @Cherryblossom-fg1pl 3 месяца назад

    I you are RIGHT!

  • @CarolynVan
    @CarolynVan Год назад +1

    An ex for a reason. I was spared and am so grateful for it ♥️.

  • @BulelwaJack-xo3fd
    @BulelwaJack-xo3fd 6 месяцев назад

    Thanx for the facts big brother 😊❤

  • @lanapalij4014
    @lanapalij4014 Год назад

    Damn!!! You got that right! He blames ME, says “I’m seeing someone else”, cuz he can’t reach me on Friday night!
    Told him, I’m not, and, that’s what people are doing to ME! ( and accuses me, hah!)

  • @Keana43
    @Keana43 Год назад +2

    Been through this

  • @MrAnna2626
    @MrAnna2626 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this video 🙏

  • @sandraestraume7278
    @sandraestraume7278 Год назад +5

    Lots of blamers accuse me

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 Год назад

      B4 you accuse me, take a look at yourself ~ Eric Clapton song lyric

  • @kurosawagin
    @kurosawagin Год назад +1

    Love u derrick you keep up the good work 🙏

  • @Qween_Effie
    @Qween_Effie 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this video

  • @miayacarter9059
    @miayacarter9059 Год назад

    True facts 💯

  • @jennifernunez220
    @jennifernunez220 Год назад

    Excellent points

  • @sevrinedelannay9381
    @sevrinedelannay9381 Год назад

    your reading resonates with me. Ex of mine come from a critical entourage and did it with me also so i decide to remove myself

  • @jewelrich27
    @jewelrich27 Год назад +2

    Ain’t nobody listening to U. U just HECKA FINE. We all know better ❤

  • @StephaniEtienette
    @StephaniEtienette Год назад

    God bless you Derrick ☝ I mean he already obviously did with the life experiences that led you to sharing this wisdom, immense gratitude for that Sir, thank you🙏❤ So I guess we're all blessed after all, if we just choose to see all the blessings👁 Seeing or not seeing truly is a matter of free will and choice, cowardice or strenght, beauty or beast 🧚‍♀👹

  • @JacquelineOuma
    @JacquelineOuma 9 месяцев назад

    Thnx derrick

  • @princessjulia5646
    @princessjulia5646 Год назад

    Your making good sense

  • @TyroneEntertainingJoseph
    @TyroneEntertainingJoseph 10 месяцев назад

    Talk the talk bro

  • @danielledickerson9732
    @danielledickerson9732 Год назад

    This was a great video

  • @jenniwats2806
    @jenniwats2806 Год назад +1

    I worry about what he do but more importantly what he don't do and don't correct

  • @theresapollice6857
    @theresapollice6857 4 месяца назад

    Hit home!

  • @AmieLewis-t5q
    @AmieLewis-t5q 6 месяцев назад

    That's what I had in a marriage and He Just left me and gone

  • @survivor4776
    @survivor4776 Год назад +1

    Facts 🤴🏽

  • @sevrinedelannay9381
    @sevrinedelannay9381 Год назад

    its speaks to me ,

  • @marthaarias233
    @marthaarias233 Месяц назад

    He keeps calling me toxic and annoying af!

  • @Tina12121
    @Tina12121 9 месяцев назад +1

    Ok.. so when we split and 1 year later he blames me for his relationship not working . Ive been no where near or spoke to him for all this time .. he wasnt nice 😔. Hey! He did me wrong thats why i ended it. I just don't get it

  • @jejebarack7160
    @jejebarack7160 Год назад

    My husband divorcing me yesterday just because he said my attitude really bad when we fight. It doesnt make sense just because lil thing he left me. He blamed me I'm a bad person. Like I deserve this

  • @PaulaLowery-r8d
    @PaulaLowery-r8d Год назад +1

    All his exs were crazy red flag

  • @isobelle.London
    @isobelle.London Год назад +3

    That’s a cluster b personality.

  • @kaitlynconlan561
    @kaitlynconlan561 Год назад

    Yo facts

  • @MiltaEstien
    @MiltaEstien 9 месяцев назад

    Yes

  • @charleanaroberts5477
    @charleanaroberts5477 10 месяцев назад

    Thanks for clarifying lot of what I went through for 23 yrs. Is this a Reprobate person? I divorced him on his Birthday! He did t bother to show up. Thank you.

  • @PaulaLowery-r8d
    @PaulaLowery-r8d Год назад

    No but we’ve been together since we were kids

  • @elizabethlyon2950
    @elizabethlyon2950 10 месяцев назад

    I have frozen ground beef.

  • @valeriecarolus-figini5045
    @valeriecarolus-figini5045 10 месяцев назад

    Oh yes

  • @sandraestraume7278
    @sandraestraume7278 Год назад

    Next would be his placement

  • @janehotvedt3949
    @janehotvedt3949 Год назад

    Felt.

  • @lefoxtube
    @lefoxtube 4 месяца назад

    They do not exist.

  • @alicevollman5769
    @alicevollman5769 Год назад

    💯

  • @sandraestraume7278
    @sandraestraume7278 Год назад

    Seekingattention

  • @taylormeisenburg6383
    @taylormeisenburg6383 10 месяцев назад

  • @ITSRAYANNNN
    @ITSRAYANNNN 3 месяца назад

    Idk , I don't think his mom taught him better than than that.

  • @brendamartin763
    @brendamartin763 3 месяца назад

    Good is not right.

  • @nyasijahmilton6795
    @nyasijahmilton6795 Год назад

    He say all I do is nagged but i don’t

  • @cullen6015
    @cullen6015 7 месяцев назад +1

    Bro, it's time to get that bible out and read Revelation. This game is coming to an end!

  • @jd6331
    @jd6331 8 месяцев назад +1

    9:34 and 11:08

  • @valeriecarolus-figini5045
    @valeriecarolus-figini5045 10 месяцев назад

    I down

  • @lanapalij4014
    @lanapalij4014 Год назад

    Eye