What I WISH I Knew When Planning My Wedding
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Anyone else here that isn’t actually getting married soon. I just like weddings, haha!!
snap plus we are in the industry. Think you will find a lot of what Jamie talks about is transferable to other areas of life as well.
Same and I'm not dating anyone or anything. Just looking at wedding planning stuff but definitely not gonna be married anytime soon
im single-
Lol, I found this because I’m going to be a mother of the groom, but it’s just fun and interesting to listen to.
@@annmariethomas9968 congrats.
PLEASE do a video about the most creative/ untraditional features you’ve seen for weddings that you love!!
strongly agree
Omg I would love this. Did she do this anywhere?
Love this!
I would love this
This would be great!
Top wedding stressor: lack of organization and NOSY RELATIVES THAT FORCE YOU TO DO WHAT THEY WANT
SOUNDS LIKE MY STEP MOM.... Ugh, it's the worst!!
LOL. Yes! On the planning stage and this gets to my nerves.
Oh, I remember telling everyone that this was going to be how my boyfriend and I wanted it to be. The next thing I know, everyone is fighting over the flowers..
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@alizahope7043 lol that sucks...I'm scared because I'm horrible with confrontation, and my h2bs mom is...like this. Lol. Aghhhhh
AYahya Al Sharif so glad my h2b stood his ground. Family tried control things and from the start he was like no this is what WE want.. thank god because I just hate confrontation and would let everyone do anything 🙈😂 now there happy and say “I know it’s what you want” x
A good tip to help establish communication with your fiance about wedding planning and expectations is to each take a few minutes after the engagement to identify your priorities for the wedding, whether it's just one thing or multiple things. We agreed to chose one thing each that was most important to us that the other one couldn't give you shit about. I chose photography, he chose food. Then we ran through all the other major categories and shared our expectations for each (music, decor, venue, ceremony, guest list, etc). The whole conversation took 15 minutes and made planning so much easier! I know he doesnt care about decor so I ask my bridesmaids for input instead of him, whereas the guest list is an ongoing compromise. Our communication so far has been great!
Emily Victoria Great idea!
I am soooooo lucky! My fiance actually wants to be involved. I haven't had to make a single decision alone. Again....soooooo incredibly lucky!
I told mine from early in the relationship that I expected it by 5 years. Money and ability to afford a ring were not relevant to the proposal process in my opinion; I said "if you haven't figured it out by then, then I'm going to have to move on and find someone who does want to be with me forever." lol. I'm a bit headstrong I guess. I also took him to a jeweler where I had found a ring set I liked (sidewalk sales in a small town where we live) and said "I like this, I'm going to take a 15 minute walk so you can decide if you want to do this or not." He did buy the ring set, but then in a super show of romance, gave me the paperwork for it because he said he would lose it.... We are ULTRA romance here. We did leave it at the jewelry store though so that the proposal could still be a surprise even if the ring wasn't.
8 months later I learned he still hadn't even picked up the ring from the store... WHAT. We went down there and I made him pick it up, lol. 4 months after that, he still hasn't proposed. I ended up bawling one day because we went to a friend's birthday dinner and the friend confided in us that he was going to propose to his boyfriend. On the ride home I bawled and told my guy I didn't understand why it was so hard to ask me, lol. We get home, I'm still crying, he leaves me to cool down and change into lounge clothes, I turn around 3 minutes later and he's there in his underwear only with the ring. -- Totally not how I ever expected to be proposed to (I worked with a girl who was proposed to IN ITALY) but you know, it's us. We have a two-year engagement and have our wedding for Sept 2020. #WorthIt
“Why didn’t we elope?” My fiancé and I have been asking that since the second month in lol
Regarding the groom in the wedding planning process... I did the opposite! I assumed he wouldn’t want any part of it, so when he saw me stressed or frustrated, he was like “what can I do?” and I literally had no answer. Literally had to go, “can I think about it and tell you tomorrow?” That was a huge wake up call that I wasn’t actually offering him 1, the opportunity to be part of the day, and 2, the credit that he can handle what I threw at him.
Stressersssss ugh
1 Mother in Law
2 Budget
3 Budget 😂😂😂
Mine's sisters-in-law 😂
amen
YEP!!!
Stressors: guest list & the"obligation" to invite certain family members.
Trust me, I feel you. What I've found is easiest for me is to make a list of people that are must have. People like both of your parents, siblings, best friends, grandparents. Then, you make a SECOND list of people you would like to have there. These could be family friends, possibly co-workers, "happy acquaintance" relatives.
And from there, take the sum of people being invited and use that as a "limit". If anyone has any questions or pressures, just repeat that you're trying to keep your wedding smaller/more personal.
At the end of the day, this is about you and your person. Not everyone will be happy but what is important is that you're happy. Anyone who thinks your happiness is less important than their idea of how neccessary someone else is at YOUR wedding isn't invited for a reason.
Had that problem too. But figured out that i'd rather invite them- i mean the obligatory, close family members that i cannot really stand-, and try to be with them as little as possible, than to have to listen to not inviting them for the rest of my life. Anyways, since we are not really close and do not have hardly anything in common, they probably will not stay long, if they come at all.
I am not inviting half of my mom’s part of the family (siblings their spouses and children) family I’ve honestly have grown up with. However, I’ve made it very clear to my parents, I am not inviting people who don’t check up on me/my life every so often, or shoot a text, or when at family gatherings DONT take the time to ask me how I’m doing how’s life going, etc. Because it’s clear they couldn’t care less about me so why spend the money on them at my wedding. In addition to that, I am having a destination wedding to facilitate the idea of having a smaller guest list and intimate wedding. Because it would be far more challenging if I got married in our hometown.
Having COVID really helps to eliminate almost everyone. =)
YES! We just got engaged and I'm personally not looking forward to that bit. We haven't even started setting a date and I was already panicking about one potential bridesmaid. I remember what a terror terror was for her sister.. She is a bridemaidzilla and I decided I'm not dealing with it.
I'm a dude and I enjoy this channel...granted i'm a wedding filmmaker lol but this channel is so helpful!!!
Lawrence Page ditto sir I thought I'd be the only guy involved with planning my own wedding WITH my fiancé...I also love this channel and I'm taking notes lol!
You probably had/will have the happiest bride!!!
1. Picking a venue
2. Guest list
3. Dealing with all the people who give you “advise” &/or tell you what you’re planning is wrong.
my wedding stresses:
1. im single
I’m 4 months out from my wedding and I could cry at how much help you have been! Hearing you say “cut it out” to a lot of the traditional stuff just made me feel much more confident and happy about doing just that! So helpful! Thank you so much!!
So far the most stressful part for me has been figuring out what exactly I want. I had to learn and understand myself at another level in order to have the wedding I want.
I told my very sweet and calm mom that we weren’t doing the garter toss, and she was “WHAT?! WHY? of course you’re doing it!”
like I didn’t know/expect how passionate relatives can get about traditions.. and that can be kinda stressful to feel like you’re letting someone down.
(The reason we aren’t doing the garter thing is I don’t feel comfortable with him going under my dress in front of everyone? and we don’t even understand what it means.. like is it supposed to represent him going down on you? The tradition is just so weird to us haha)
Im not doing it either because its also weird and uncomfortable for me!
for anyone curious, the garter toss tradition arose a long time ago. it was superstition that having a piece of the wedding gown was considered good luck so when the bride left people would literally try to rip her dress. the garter toss arose as a way to appease the superstitious guests in a dignified way lol
Yes, this!! My mother is normally so sweet and open minded but she has had some strong opinions about my wedding that I was completely unprepared for!
I am the mother of the bride. I am asking all the way through what is it that YOU want? It’s YOUR DAY (and of course the fiancé lol). The ONLY thing I want that she doesn’t care for is a professional Photo Booth. It’s a way to keep guests entertained while grazing and a keepsake for her instead of a “guest book” that you may or may never look at. Oh! Since I want it, we (husband and I are paying)… and if she said absolutely not, I would oblige. We started 14 months out. WHERE do I get a Coodinator?! Help! Panhandle Florida!
"This is the first time you've planned an event of this magnitude." Laughs in Mexican. I've planned three of my cousin's full sized quinceaneras and working on my 4th. (Not to mention my sister's wedding) BUT I did wish I knew all of this before. ALL of your videos so far have been extremely helpful! Thank you
My top three wedding stressers are 1. finding a venue in Boston that fits our budget. 2. finding a wedding coordinator that I can afford. 3. Saving money to put towards the wedding.
Our engagement story is we walked down the garden stretch where we had our first kiss and for the entire 15 minute he told me why he loved me and every good thing he's ever thought about us and our future. Yes I did cry. He then proposed and my family jumped out from behind a statue and had recorded the proposal and we went out for cheesecake.
Your engagement sounds perfect. You're a blessed woman!
@@Purplelily24 Thank you! I really am. I appreciate your comment reminding me of that. 🤗😄
Budgets in big cities are stressful. Everywhere else it seems people can somehow finagle the smaller budget... but I’m in New York. I’m looking at places in jersey and upstate. Maybe travel a bit out of the city?
@@teenagers012 yeah, I'm looking at non traditional venus and places accessible from the commuter rail train. A lot of my friends and family don't have cars because we live in the city which makes finding an affordable venues far away slightly hard.
Monica Martin I hate to put things on guests, but cars can be rented possibly? I’m also looking at non-traditional places. No choice!
I got engaged about a week ago ! So excited 😍
Congrats x
My top stresses have been to find a photographer and videographer... because I AM a photographer/event videographer so finding someone to do my job as well as I would do is hard 😭
Julie Jigsaw same!!!!
your teacher/mentor?
Completely there too
Julie Jigsaw omg this is so true !! I am a hairdresser, and finding a hairdresser to do mine is harder than I thought 😂
omg! same!!! This ones tough!
You mentioned the craziness that happens 4-6 weeks before the big day, I’d LOVE a video on little things to not forget during those last few weeks leading up to the big day!
Collecting addresses, picking a dress, figuring out what to diy and what to leave to the professionals. I could keep ranting but I don’t want to be a trigger for anyone lol. Your videos have helped me so much! I get married September 6th I’ve watched every video. 💕
Omg! The ADDRESSES! And the thought of writing them all down. 😵 The invitations in general stress me out.
Uughh yeah I've asked my parents to get addresses for our relatives for like two months? Half of our guest list is my dad's gigantinc family so I'm stressed outtt...
Don't panic, if your parents aren't getting addresses organised then cut out the middle person and get in touch with the guests yourself. Being proactive and feeling organised will really help you to feel more confident and less stressed. Best of luck guys 😊
I'm getting married September 6th this year! I am overwhelmed, this channel has helped me so much too, and I've watched every video lol.
Hey! I actually started a google doc for addresses and asked my family to email their addresses to my wedding email. Then it was as simple as copying and pasting them onto a label maker. You can use this for initial collecting of addresses and a method to address your envelopes! hope this helps :)
Even though it is pricier I am so glad I've decided to go with the type of venue I picked. I don't have to worry about set up/tear down or bussing tables or stuff like that. The extra cost is totally worth it to me
I am getting married in a year :) my fiancé is so into the planning I feel so blessed, he is checking up designs, had made a Pinterest saved list for our weeding planners, had bought a wedding planner to write down all the steps in this beautiful process… and so on. He is sooo much involved and excited about the planning and our big day 🥰🥰
I've heard you say not to go to an all inclusive venue. My venue has a chapel and reception hall together (and bridal suite to get ready in, and a grooms room!) they do all catering and bar service except making the cake. They have a coordinator for me and they provide and set up and bus the tables. Yes, all inclusive has a convenience fee attached, but I'd rather pay someone else to deal with things that I wouldn't think of.
Is having to think about who will bus the tables and clean up a DIY wedding thing? I've never heard of this before.
When you said the thing about Lace table squares and it’s only good for people who are over 80 my heart sank hahaha 😩😩😂😂 I was like oh no I’m using lace doilies for my centerpieces
Megan Shenold girl so am I!!! 😝
Tilar Williams yay! I’m not alone. Im vintage rustic. 😂
Don't let what Jamie said put you off, it may not be her taste but that's no reason you shouldn't have them if you love them x
Lace table squares...check 🤦🏽♀️
I think these are fine! It just didn’t really match her wedding. If you watch her how to plan a wedding in under 10k video you can see why lace table squares didn’t match her theme at all.
And it’s okay to have a 80 year old hidden inside of you. Maybe you’re just bringing your mature side out for show on your wedding day?! Lol!
My daughter wedding is 16 days away and it's been incredibly challenging and we only have 20 guests. I can't imagine the stress of a bride and groom with more than 100 guests, I think I would have lost my mind. Jamie you should definitely do a video on small weddings.
My biggest stressors has been the budget (basically I have no idea how to make one) and second is asking for help! I feel so bad asking people to do things for me if they didn’t first offer
I'm engaged and have been pleasantly surprised with people stepping up asking me if I need help. Don't be shy! Start asking your family and bridal party for their support and help. Those who are married know how much effort goes into the process, and your family&friends love and support you so they would be happy to help make your day extra special!
So many people have offered to help that I've got the opposite dilemma, how do I make sure everyone feels like they've contributed? Basically ask, more than often people will be delighted that you want them to be part of you guy's big day! And if they can't help out, they're probably living busy lives so don't take it personally ❤
Wura manola (wedding planner on youtube) has a great video on making a budget that helped me alot.
Hey Anna! Jamie's videos are AMAZING when talking about budgeting! I had no idea where to begin either but I started a google doc with everything I wanted - photographer, video, venue, cake, caterer, etc. I did research of what the usual cost is per my guest count. Your venue is a HUGE factor. My venue only allowed 5 caterers and of that 5 only one did not requre a 10k minimum so I went with them haha. Also talk to your fiance and see if his parents are expecting to pay for something. I hope this helps a little :)
Hi Anna, when I got engaged my fiance and I began to discuss what was really important for us in a wedding. We decided there were 40ish guests we absolutely HAD to invite and we wanted it to feel intimate so we stuck to that number. My fiance really values full meals, and neither of us love DIY, so a full sit down meal was something we wanted. But we are not party people, so we decided on a lunch reception in a private room of a resturant and we're leaning towards a dry wedding. We wanted a strong photography budget, but we were okay with buying used wedding dresses or even just evening dresses. Once we had those basic permaters (we want a lunch for 40 guests at a resturant, drinks but no alchohal, a great photographer, a small wedding dress budget etc) we estimated those costs. We added them all up and put in a 10% contingency fee. Then we compared the budget of the wedding We wanted to what we thought we could realistically spend. For us it worked out, but if your dream wedding costs more than you want to spend, you can go back and see what you can reduce (swapping fancy chair rentals for chair cover rentals? Etc).
Day of Transportation video please!! ❤️
Yes. I said the same thing. We were thinking of renting some 6 person golf carts bc the venue is large.
This!!
Yes... because i get married in 5 months and I forgot about transportation... I've just started taking care of this..
Yes please! I Have no Idea how to do this
Wedding stresses
1. Our planing time (2 months)
2. Budget
3. Pleasing others
Becca Ruland Exact same.
IM 12 WEEKS FROM MY WEDDING AND I AM ON THE LEDGE. Biggest stressors during the planning process have been:
1. Money and budgeting. We are super blessed that my parents offered us some money to help us pay for the wedding but we are also having to use our own money while trying not to go into debt. Waiting for the next paycheck to purchase the next thing on the list that we need is super stressful.
2. My fiancée deciding at inopportune times he wants to be involved in planning and suddenly has a strong opinion on something he previously didn’t care about.
3. Having trust issues/wanting to do everything myself so it gets done the right way
Honorable mentions include trying to get all of my bridesmaids together for things, future in laws adding to the guest list every week, and deciding what traditions to follow and which ones to ditch.
Molly Mathis my exact struggles.
Ugh yeah I feel the SO suddenly having ideas sooo hard right now. I've listened to his ideas and when they're bonkers I've tried to point that out in a calm manor or go "nah we can't change that, we've already paid for it" smh. But he's had a few brilliant ideas too so 🤷
Oh the exact same for me! When we were 6 months out SO decided it was go time and wanted to be involved in everything! I said fine here is the baker I like, book a tasting and call Qdoba for food. Fast forward a couple of months and guess who set up the tasting, and got the dj and photo booth combo. Spoiler alert not FH lol.
He was constantly worried about things I could care less about! But I do think in the long run it helped round us out.
Hey! I couldn't imagine. Budgeting is hard especially that close. As far as your fiance having strong opinions, at least he cares haha. I would let him know that those decisions have been made but you're more than happy to get his insight on something else. it will help him feel involved. As far as adding to the guest list. I would say you budgeted for X number of guests so if family is adding to the list you might wnat to see if they are going to pay the difference if it causes you to go over budget.
I’m at the beginning, but I feel you. I’m kinda a bridechilla, and last week I called him a groomzilla. “It’s your day, as long as I marry you and as long as our family is there I’ll be happy”. The only thing I want is a bow tie. The only thing I want is no junior groomsman. The only thing I want is a photographer. The only thing I want is...
I’m currently in the middle of planning my wedding and your videos have been so helpful! Also your videos on here and your second channel are just amazing in general, I could watch them all day!
I love how there’s so many brides-to-be who are just engaged in the comments. I have been engaged for and year and a half and have 5 months till my wedding and just found this channel now!!
Stressed about where to even start with it all...
I understand completely! Some advice that was given to me was: set the venue and therefore the date FIRST, then work on finding a dress and cake. Those have to be ordered a while in advance. Then you can work on everything else. I find that its made the process less stressful. Not completely, but some.
You are such a wealth of information and I appreciate it SO MUCH. I feel like I am going to be the most prepared person ever when the time for my event comes. Plus now I have girlfriends who want me to help to plan their weddings because I love this stuff sooooo you're a life saver.
Also, thank you for also being super real and keeping the brides humble and calm lol
So so grateful for you! Starting to plan our wedding and realizing it's a lot. One of my stressors is the blending of two cultures together and making sure they are both celebrated and represented
Love all of your videos! They are so helpful, quick to the point (you don't ramble on like soooo many other vidoes, thank you thank you! :)), and I love your quirky and fun personality!!
Loves how she talks and I’m just starting to DIY my wedding so this is helpful. I didn’t think about who would bust the table
I’m not even engaged yet, he’s hinting that he will propose after we both graduate college in May. It’s been 4 years together and he told me he wants to get married in 2021. So I’m going through the dreamy phase currently. Great video! Good ideas to keep in mind.
Hollye Helms - just wondering, did he propose yet? 😊
2021
@@samuelhalder2200 we got married in June!! Hehe
You have been sooo helpful!! I just got engaged 3 days ago and I already feel better. You also confirmed a lot of things for me that I did not think were important.
These videos are literally THE BEST wedding planning videos hands down. Love so much I watch all the way to the end!
Jamie, you look so amazing in earth tones!!!😍😍😍 This video is going to be so helpful in our planning💖 Thank you for always being one step ahead💖
I found you a couple days ago and subscribed 2 minutes into the first video I watched. I am OBSESSED with your channel! I get married in November & my budget is much smaller than most weddings. All of your tips have been incredibly helpful! I also really like your personality & how you speak with your audience/subscribers. Do you think you could do more vlogs, q & a's, challenges, etc as well? That way once I get married I'll have more content to watch on your channel other than the wedding tips 😂😂 Idk if I explained that right, but hopefully you get what I mean! 💖
#6 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is so true. I learned guys dont really care too much about wedding planning they just want to know the prices. These videos saved my life. I love u Jamie 😘
I own a catering company and do a lot of weddings- and your videos are truly amazing! This channel has definitely benefited my catering game! Thank you!!
I LOVE your videos! Your videos have helped me stop worrying about what I'm "supposed" to do and do things the way I want. You've also helped me give myself permission to hire a coordinator. We just started planning, but having a coordination to be my sounding board and help guide me through what I don't know has been key to lowering my stress level. THANK YOU!!
Hello! I just got engaged a couple days ago and I have started planning. So I don't freak out if I push it back. And your videos have helped me feel more confident about this whole event! Thank you for so many tips and advice!!
You might want to try momentoweddings.com . It is a cool way to have your own app for your wedding. Check it out!
American weddings are so different to the UK lol. I love your videos, giving me lots of ideas for my wedding in 2022 x
I loved to plan my imaginary wedding, and I've been following this channel for such a long time, now I finally got engaged and I'm super excited to watch all of this over again!! ❤️😍 Thank you for these tips!
My fiancé loves being involved in the wedding planning. He comes up with great ideas. Getting married on June 20, 2020. Your videos are so helpful.
You asked for comments here and now there's SO many! As always - Love you Jamie!
My wedding stressors have been:
1. Fiance not being invested - like you said. I have had to make every single decision and he got upset and asked for extension after extension on the deadlines I gave him for just picking groomsmen! I actually ended up picking them for him and he just agreed to go with it. C'mon!!
2. My type A, control freak personality planning something that relies heavily on participation from others. I'm struggling so hard internally to not nag my bridesmaids about getting their dresses.
3. Making decisions on vendors that do more custom work. Especially when I'm choosing everyone over the phone or website (destination wedding)! This one was really tough for me. I had no issue choosing a venue, pastry chef, catering menu... but the florist and photographer took me forever to decide!! I could only look at pictures of other visions that didn't totally match mine and choose from that. It's hard for me to just trust that they will capture my vision like I have in my head. Customizing flowers in the bouquets and centerpieces without seeing it all put together was also hard.
Luckily the coordinator wasn't as hard of a decision since I just clicked with her type A "on top of it" personality over the phone. That's one vendor that I splurged on rather than going with the most affordable option. :)
My engagement story? Haha none...just enjoy watching your videos and dreaming about my future wedding 😃
Same!
Same! Not even engaged yet and already have half of our wedding planned!!! 🤦♀️🤷♀️
You are saving my wedding planning as I do this without a planner or coordinator. Thank you so much!
Hi Jaime! I am currently planning my wedding and I find all your videos very very helpful! Thank you so much xx
I can't even begin to tell you how much you have helped me. I am 100% planning my own wedding and I wish I had some help. Your videos have helped me so much!! Thank you!!
“Flying fart in space” 😂😂😂 you had me at that.
One of the things that's made a HUGE difference in the beginnings of wedding planning for me is:
*What 3 words describe your style or what you're looking for in your wedding?*
I was looking at stuff and considering buying some flowers and looking at venues. And everytime I cringed at an element or I wasn't over the moon over something in a venue I took note of that. Also, the styles or things I was drawn to. My 3 words that sum up what I want from my wedding are:
Contemporary, bright, vintage elements
So that REALLY narrowed down what I am actually looking for. Not just a venue and not just decorations. They are the things I'm drawn to the most.
Mireya Seymour Excellent perspective, especially taking note of what you don’t like. That helps tons. Your three words are the best summary of current couples and perfectly said, thank you!
Ahhh!! I just got engaged last Friday and my head is already spinning! I’m planning on doing a DIY wedding and I’m so happy I landed on this channel :)
My fiancé doesn’t care about the color of my bridesmaids dresses either. 😑
Lol
Jamie, I would LOVE if you did a video on how to plan a small destination elopement and throwing a backyard reception for the full guest list. My fiance and I are soooo not traditional and feel awkward with the whole "make a toast, tour the tables and say hi, garter toss, cake cutting" etc. business a formal reception has. But it's pretty challenging trying to plan a special time with our immediate family out of state. Help??
I am SOO incredibly grateful for your videos. I am getting married in Oct and just found you this week 🙌 I'm almost 50, and although this isn't my first marriage, it is my first wedding to plan. Your tips/advice/tricks/stories have brought me so much relief in regards to what I really should focus my attention and budget/money on...and what I can seriously just let go of. Thank you..thank you...thank you! P.s.: your hair is gorgeous!!
Thank you so much for making these videos. These have helped me SO much while planning my wedding. My date is Feb. 9th, and I am going to be 6 months pregnant on the big day. Watching your videos has helped me stay sane!!
I can only speak for myself but I'd rather organize the logistics than pick colours for bridesmaids' dresses; it isn't that I don't care but rather that I don't have the context to understand the appeal of the colour you like over the others.
Thank you for giving a guy's perspective. I get frustrated with my partner, but now I understand a little more. He is only concerned with music and food and is not interested in the frilly details like I am.
Yeah we've decided I'll focus on the decor elements since that's what I love to do anyways, and he's focusing on catering and the more logicstical parts. That's how we usually split things when we host parties anyways so it just makes sense.
I've only been planning for a few weeks (still 17 months out from the wedding!) but top 3 stressors right now are 1. BUDGET, I wish we had one! We have people in our lives willing to pay for portions of it but its very very difficult, and a bit awkward, to get actual numbers and figure out what we can really afford. So far we have a photographer that I'm so excited about, a venue (my parent's back garden) and that's it. No idea how much we can spend on everything else! 2. Wedding Party - my family has lots of kids, I have multiple god children and so does he, there are so many contenders for flower girls and I want a couple of flower girls, not 10! At least I have no doubt who my 4 bridesmaids will be. and finally, 3. Weather. I live in Ireland and am planning an outdoor ceremony and food (evening will be indoors)! Am I crazy?? I don't want the expense of a full marquee so we are planning on having gazebos for the drinks tables and food areas, and buying 50 matching clear pretty umbrellas just in case... also, because you asked - he proposed on Christmas eve on the beach when we were on a dog walk and I had NO idea it was coming. We've been together almost 12 years so we already knew we were spending forever together, I just thought he'd maybe never get around to proposing. He's a silversmith and had been making the ring in secret when I went out for months! He got down on one knee and accidentally asked me to be his husband. it was perfect! I haven't stopped smiling since. Thanks for your wonderful channel, I'm learning so much!!
That's so beautiful! For budget my tip is figure out what you and fiance can manage on your own financially and set your budget up using that number (theknot app is what we're using and it's been super helpful). The money your family is contributing can be used for extra expenses like getting nicer alternatives or add-ons that aren't necessities, or to pay for your honeymoon. I love the idea of the clear umbrellas. that'll be cute!
Oh for wedding party I was going to say just keep it small so you don't hurt any feelings, unless you really are going to have everyone. Or if you can use a rule like immediate family only, that might work, otherwise there will be questions of why you chose some and not others.
I have a long engagement too! When is your date? I'm May 16, 2020
I'm getting married to my wonderful fiance in May, this year, and I am SO overwhelmed!!! These videos are helping me so much and also reminding me of things we've forgotten!! We're having a simple, southern outdoor wedding and a cookout reception. I haven't even found a dress yet but I'm confident now, with all these tips and helpful notes! I'm literally building a playlist of just these videos because I NEED them. Thank you
i love your videos jamie! i would love to see more diy floral/greenery/anything videos!!!
My biggest stressor when wedding planning was the last few weeks, trying to communicate with our vendors to make sure everything was in order! I was terrified no one was going to show up the day of! 😂
We're getting married this summer and this is my biggest stress right now. I'm so afraid they're going to forget about us. 😓
I got a day of coordinator and I never thought I’d need one!! Best 700$ I’ve spent so far though they communicate with all the vendors for you so you can have a stress free day! :)
Hi Jamie :) My SO and I are planning a smaller wedding of about 60-75 people. I'm worried that I'm going to over complicate things and freak out about a lot of things that won't end up mattering. Especially since we're not doing that much of a traditional wedding and basically have a huge party.
My questions for you:
1. Do you have any advice that differs for smaller weddings? I know sometimes you preface that things take longer with larger crowds, but are there any unique challenges with under 100 people?
2. Do you have any recommendations for wedding games? What can people do at a reception other than dancing?
Thanks for making this channel, it's awesome!
I'm just gonna pipe in since I've also got a smaller wedding guest list that the venue is quite important. Many wedding venues are so big that a small party will feel out of place. I went to a small wedding in a big venue a few years back and I ended up missing the first dance together with about a fourth of the guests as well stayed out chatting while some where having a smoke cause the toast master couldn't find all the guests who'd wandered off. Also the dining hall was so big that it felt a bit awkward and it was difficult to get a cosy chatty atmosphere going. Just something to keep in mind!
Katja Oksanen same challenge. Too many people for a restaurant or a lot of these “unique” places, too small for a room that seats 100+. Thinking of partitioning a space. Also the seat minimum for a lot of places... I feel that’s a mean joke. Any judgement for the small guest list from those invited?
@@teenagers012 Partitioning could definitely work to create a cosier atmosphere, but for me the issue is also the rest of the venue. If there's a lot of space outside of the main dining room people will just wander off like they're all lemmings. We've got a lot of gorgeous old buildings nearby where I've been to loads of fancy dinners through uni, and if you don't tell people they've got a fifteen minute bathroom break they won't be back cause they've run in to someone and started chatting. I don't mind people having a smoke and staying out chatting to some cousin, but it'd be good if they were sort of close by so that they can come back in when they hear something's going on.
I haven't had any issues with people questioning our guest list but my family's Finnish and my SO's is Swedish so that might be a culture thing. People don't really butt in but rather lets us do our thing. Have you had push back on the guest list?
Katja Oksanen that’s a good point I didn’t think of. I’d hate for important moments to be in an empty room because the grounds are still large...
And more from friends than family. Don’t you want it to be special? How’re you inviting so few? Oh I’m sure it’ll be more when you make the list! Made the list and invites are going to a max 80, but I’m expecting 50 or 60
@@teenagers012 Yeah and I'm too much of a control freak to have a huge venue lol.
That sucks, we've been lucky with no one having anything negative to say so I'm knocking on wood for that to stay that way. Stay strong!
I'm a few months into wedding planning and the biggest stressors for me were wedding date, budget, and managing my own expectations vs what my fiance and I are actually able to accomplish.
But luckily, my fiance and I have been able to figure each of these out and are swiftly planning a beautiful wedding.
Couldn't do it without this channel though!
I went to a super lovely event this summer but omg ended up bussing tables and doing SO MUCH CLEAN UP. It was SUCH a lesson to me. Hiring someone to bus tables. SO WORTH IT. Definitely having a clean up crew at my wedding!!
Am I the only one who found these when dating and ended up rewatching them after their S/O popped the question?? 😅
My biggest stress with wedding planning was my mother. Momzilla is a real and scary thing!
🤣🤣🤣 same! Watch out for the momzillas! They want to speak to the manager !
Omg i feel this soooo much! My mom is helping pay for things and she was giving me a hard time about me wanting a non-religious wedding (because I'm Atheist). FINALLY she has come around but I had to explain that I was atheist to her and that broke her heart since I was brought up in a Midwestern Pentacostal family. But she came to terms with it and now she's being helpful. Still butting heads on some details but I hope to hammer those out soon.
Same!
Hillary Minnaert I’ve been engaged for less than a week and I have my mom already emailing venues and asking for a date 😂
You are wonderful. given my friends who are getting married so many ideas. I have been married 15 years and what you says rings true. Keep it up.
You have a really wonderful personality and aura. This is why I like watching you.
Oh Lord I fee l eloping just watching this 😫
I would be surprised if my fiancé DID become invested 😂
I'm on the other end. My fiance has a lot of opinions and they're so different than my own! It's great but also overwhelming haha
I love your videos!! I think I’ve watched them all. I’m 4 1/2 months away from my wedding and my biggest stressors have been guest list, budget and my fiancé being uninterested. We’ve had plenty of arguments as well. I, however, keep plugging away and will do my best to dot every i and cross every t. And then release it all to my day-of coordinator on the day of. Thank you for your videos!!! They have helped me tremendously!!
✨GIIIRRRLLL✨ I’m so happy that I started following your content!!! ✨💜✨
I look forward to these every week. Can you do a video about transportation and hotel blocks. One stressor I have is that my wedding will be an inconvenience for guest. Some have a 5 hour drive to get to the venue and I am afraid I should have it at another location.
Ask for courtesy blocks so you won't be held to a minimum!
It being an inconvenience is not your worry. Having it closer to them may very well be a longer period of inconvenience to you: you may either have to find vendors in the venues area or pay massive travel fees, you'll have to make trips to visit the venue etc several times while they'd only being making the trip once. Do what you feel best, but try not to make this already stressful time anymore stressful on yourself. Hoping the best for you, darling!
Pick the venue that you and fiance want and if people can make it, they will. If most are not able to, you could consider having another reception with just hors'devoures at a place closer. With a 5 hour drive i'm sure most will be staying at the hotel so keep that in mind. Besides depending on where, some folks might take it as a mini vacation.
@@djpjdidit Do you get a discount on those?
Planning my wedding through covid-19 trying to find a venue is a nightmare
I came across this channel shortly after getting engaged, and your videos have been so helpful! I actually got all vendors booked a month after my engagement! The hardest part has been keeping within my budget, since my fiancé & I are paying for the wedding ourselves. He is the one that’s better with money, so I come up with the ideas & he is the more realistic one that figures out how we can successfully make those ideas happen in our budget. ☺️
Proposed to my fiance on New year's and I have been binging all of your videos since. I definitely cut my diy list after listening to you
I got engaged a few months ago on Halloween! Our story is this: we were supposed to go see a friend because one of my classes was canceled earlier in the week. So we head out and my boyfriend starts ignoring the gps and going the wrong way. He wouldn’t listen to me so i ended up pouting the rest of the car ride, then he made me get out of the car..... it was cold and had rained recently and i had no coat and was wearing white shoes, so we get out and i start complaining more and we walk towards the river and I’m thinking that he is going to push m in and leave be because he is over me and as i turned he got down on one knee an asked me to marry him! He told me that he did it there because he knew I wanted it near water and that was the closest he could get with out making me more mad lol. Our wedding is a little less than a year away. We have a lot planned, right now my biggest stresses are 1) the parts of my catholic wedding that the priest is super strict about (music and time) 2) how to find a dj for low cost and 3) if a videographer is worth it.
Congratulations! ersonally i would say get a videographer. Pics are great but there's just something about seeing emotions come to life on video ❤
Oh the videographer question!! I thought it would be a waste until I saw a beautifully edited video with sweeping images of the dress, decor, venue and ceremony, with their personalized vows dubbed over the images. That video changed my mind!
I’m getting weddingmix instead of a video. The reviews are all good except the odd person that expected it to be a videographer. Basically your guests take the video, they edit it and put it together for you. Also the catholic wedding is hard. I think we are doing 2 ceremonies. One church for just parents and siblings and then a second ceremony outdoors. Congratulations!
Me to my fiancé “I want you to be more involved and have opinions!!”
My fiancé “I think we should change this about the invitations”
Me *gets really offended and hurt that he doesn’t think my invitation creation is perfect* 😂
Same girl same. My bae got involved and said well bae I like this color for the color scheme. Like well scrap my whole wedding board now. I mean they are right its a lovely color. . . But still lol
I just got engaged and honestly have no idea where to start. Your videos are a huge help!!!
Your videos are honestly so helpful they help me feel less alone on this whole wedding process! I get married March 23 2019!!!!
Have you ever worked a LGBTQ wedding? My gf and I are getting married next year 😊😊
ashleec1218 yes she does ! Jamie will be coordinating our lesbian wedding next month!💕
congrats!!! I would say getting complementary dresses is something to consider. My bestie got a lace gown and her SO got a lace gown but because they were both different lace types and one was white and one was only a slightly different shade of white it looked kind of odd together of that makes sense. Both gorgeous brides obviously but they did regret it for photos etc
Can you make a video based on LGBT wedding tips and tricks and differences than regular weddings?
I second this! I live in Texas and I don't know how to pick vendors that are ACTUALLY accepting.
@@casschroy5855 Austin based vendors might be your best bet ;) lol
I don't mean to sound ignorant or rude @richardswieton but is there a difference? I've never been to a LGBT wedding but I imagined they would just be the same as non LGBT weddings? Genuinely curious 😊
Aisle less traveled is a great website and resource for those planning LGBTQ weddings in the states, I think it's difficult to give advice of you haven't worked with non-straight or non-cis couples.
I've been to a gay wedding and there wasn't really any difference but we live in Scandinavia where discrimination based on sexuality or gender identity is illegal so they didn't have to deal with anti-gay bakers or shit like that. The biggest difference was the walking down the aisle which they did by coming from different directions and meeting up at the start of the aisle (outdoor venue). They also skipped most of the wedding traditions but that's been common in the straight/bi weddings I've been to too. The biggest difference is for my other good friend and his fiance since their families don't approve (second gen immigrants) so they've got lots of shit to deal with. They've been planning to get married for years but they're just stuck. I think it's difficult to give advice to those couples if you don't know that struggle. Not to say that straight couples can't encounter that same issue of families disapproving.
@@snemehta3274 the knot points out pro LGBT vendors. It's come in really handy for us
Wow!!! I love all of the advice. I have 15 months before we get married. I am researching what I need to DYI our wedding. I hadn’t thought of who sets up and breaks down everything and who keeps the wedding moving forward and on time.
Hey. Hi. On my 4th video and I'm not quitting til I watch em all. Getting married on 6/6/20 and just want to say
THANK
YOU!!!!
Freaking thank you tho fr.
Also your bed looks hella comfy ♡
This tips are so helpful!!! Wedding planning is extra stressful this year unfortunately. I need all the tips and advice I can get!
Hey Jamie! Love your channel! One of my wedding stressors: trying to plan everything at once then getting frustrated, Second Stressor: Trying to find a DJ, thats been one lately and Third Stressor: Family and Friends asking when the wedding is before invites can even be sent out. Engagement Story: My fiance asked me to marry him at the same place were we met almost 10 years this october, before asking me he had me read a letter he had written, its one of our things writing hand written letters to one another; at the bottom of the letter it said "Will you marry, me?" it took me a minute, and my response was "Are you serious?" then I said yes!
Your videos are super helpful, thank you so much!
Just bought my wedding dress yesterday 🥰 (because of covid I was the only bride in the store and had the whole place to myself HEAVEN!) and now I’m working on wedding plans! Thanks for these vids! They are helpful I would of never thought to make sure people were there to clean up 🧼
Making parents happy. Making sure guests have fun and timeline going to plan
# 1 stressor is figuring out the details and timeline of all the things involved in changing from a miss to a mrs. Bank account, insurance, family planning, moving in, all the address changing, marriage certificate, driver's license....
So glad I found your channel. You are awesome! Love your energy :)) and thanks for sharing all your knowledge and experience! ☺️
I watched this when you first released it but now that I'm engaged and actually planning my wedding here are my top 3 stressors:
1. Figuring out a layout for a "blank slate" venue tight on space (church garden)
2. DIY Save the Dates and Wedding Invites, where to print so the photos look professional but it's still budget friendly
3. Centerpieces for round tables with an umbrella hole/market umbrella in the middle for shade
I need lace table squares for my wedding! No joke! Thanks for the video! Having a struggling on starting our planning. Doing all DIY basically. ❤️
My boyfriend and I are hoping for a 2020 wedding - problem is, no engagement yet! LOL but we’re working on it. In the mean time, I’m just binging wedding related videos and yours have been so INCREDIBLY helpful, OHMYGOSH.
I’m a DJ and I can tell you that I stick to the timeline I help the bride create. I literally build that into what I do for her. And I know when she is ready to come into her grand entrance when the photographer gets into place. If it’s time and I don’t see the photographer or the videographer, I go find them and check in because 99% of the time they are with the bride and groom.
As the DJ, I know where all vendors are at all times to make sure I work in harmony with them and adjust for them.
A coordinator makes it so much easier. But if there isn’t one, your DJ should be the one checking in and balancing with you guys and your vendors so everyone is taken care of and your guests stay entertained
I have been engaged for a little over a month! AH! So thankfully, I am not stressed at this moment. What has stressed me the most is after I have my heart set on a vendor and I bring it to my parents all excited. Then they ask me so many questions that makes me uncertain that I have any clue what my opinion is. But so thankful to have parents that think of the questions that don't even occur to me!
Haiden Keener mindy weiss’ book has given me a lot of anxiety, but it also has checklists of questions to ask vendors! Hope that helps!
You're an incredible human for making this video