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I was just at a wedding and I took so many favors because I remembered this video and I didn’t want the bride to see her favors laying around so I shoved a bunch in my purse 😂
That is so sweet you. ❤️
xoxoBirdi I do that! In fact, I haven’t had to buy honey for 8 months now because two weddings we went to last June gave us little jars of honey. Yummy! But no one at our table took them except me. I bet that was expensive.
That's so cool of you! Aww. ♡♡♡
Lol you absolute sweetheart
REAL MVP
my hispanic family is definitely going to care about the bouquet toss lol.
😂😂 same
Because we love it all!
Oh yes girl. We Hispanics are traditional. 😂
We walk away with everything at the wedding 😂🤣
la mejor parte de la fiesta! jajajaja
Our "guest book" was a picture frame that people signed and we have hanging on our wall in our home for 12 years now with a picture of us on our wedding day. That was our perfect way to do a guest book.
This is genius
How big of a picture frame did you use for how many guests? Cause that is a cute idea
This might be the best idea I've ever heard
I wanted to do this, and my husband reminded me we definitely had friends that would love leaving NSFW things that our children would one day question. And the saddest thing is when someone has this, and there are like, two signatures. We always go around getting everyone, even toddlers, to "sign", and then fill it in as much as possible.
I LOVE THAT!! 🥰
*deletes bookmarks on diy wedding favors*
🤣🤣🤣🤣 same
:( I assure you many would appreciate it but also don't spend money you don't have
People! Invite me to your weddings, I will not only appreciate and cherish your invitations, place cards, programs and stuff... I will hoard them and save them as keepsakes. I can't be the only one lol I agree on the linens and choreographed nonsense
Lol I tend to slip those things into the "box" too. The one that still contains my childhood key on a yarn braid I carried everywhere, every program from every play, and every other paper momento ever. :)
Well Jamie, you maybe right about everything else but we Jamaicans go to wedding for 'THE CAKE'.....Lordy lordy....please have some wonderful black rum fruit cake!...because that's the whole reason why we came....and to celebrate with the bride and groom as well....but that's secondary...lol..
Im the last of my friends to get married, and I truly dont even know where any of those invitations are....I know in my heart I would never ever throw them away! But, what exactly happened to them??? Haha
my grandmother is a hoarder too =D
I will send you an invite.. XD
About the Guest book! I went to my cousins wedding where at every table there was a card and an enveloppe for each table to write a message to the Bride and Groom, someone came round the tables collecting them for the parents of the bride to send out to them through out the year. I thought that was an original and lovely idea.
They placed the cards amongst their wedding photo album.
I like that idea.
Mélanie HH I’m stealing this idea! Omg! I loveee it!
Cute idea
I ❤ this idea so much!!
Mélanie HH has
If you *really* want a program, just do a chalk/white board with everything written out.
That’s a good idea🤙🏽
Yay for school
That’s smart
I just went to a catholic wedding, and I would say that’s one of those few times when a program is necessary since the ceremony is so long
1. Invitations
2. Programs
3. Escort Cards
4. Guest Book
5. Linens
6. First Dance
7. Slideshows
8. Open Seating
9. Cake
10. Bouquet Toss
11. Favors
12. Grand Exit
Thank you
Guest book is more so for the bride.
That's pretty much the whole wedding
So basically everything.
First dance had nothing to do with the guests though? Lmao it’s like 3-5 mins tops
Doing a simple photo slideshow in the background during the meal is a great conversation piece and can be a laugh too :)
Our venue had a TV in the entryway so we just put our slideshow up there and had it playing in a loop so people could just have a look at it if they wanted to but it didn't take up any time.
@@SjofnBM1989 Another great way of doing it! Ours was just looping silently on a big screen in the room, it wasn't planned, I think my father in law threw it up there pahaha
I like that! ❤️
Right, and it’s so easy to put together.
It definitely depends on the person, but I can see why it could be considered something most guests don’t care about. I’ve honestly always thought is was boring/basic so opted out of it for mine, but I know older family members who love little things like that. Definitely a know you’re crowd and do what makes you happy thing.
I printed my invitations at Walgreens for $42
Leo Nicole I said the same thing. I haven't spend a lot of money on anything. The most expensive thing has been my venue at $850. I'm doing a lot of stuff myself
My whole wedding cost about £400! I printed my invitations on card myself using a template and it cost about £10 for the card and the ink
AbSCi my friends were like you could use the 10,000 that you using to pay for a wedding on a downpayment on you alls first home. I'm was like WTH paying 10,000 in a wedding, NOT me lol
Becoming Mrs. Griffin yes go the cheap way because people will just throw them in t hug e trash once they look at them
Mine were vista print, Pretty sure they were under 100 dollars for a box of 150 or more.
I completely agree with all of these things. Although I did sort of an “after wedding” favor. I waited until after my pictures came in to send out thank you cards and I printed out pictures that my photographer took of my guests and/or their families and then sent those with the thank you cards. Realistically most guests don’t want a picture of me and my husband but they would want one of their own family. I received a ton on thanks from my guests for the pics.
Also, I love going to wedding for dancing but I’m really there for the cake. A coworker of mine says that she judges the ability of a marriage to last based on how good the cake is!! 😂😂
Mica Watson I love this photo idea! So thoughtful. When I was a young mama and went to a great deal of effort to get all my kids cleaned up, it would have been awesome to receive a really good photo of the event. I like the photo booth pictures, too... but I think this is less cheesy.
Great idea of your after wedding favor!
LOVE This idea goin to definatley give it to our couples as a great alternative which will be more appreciated than your traditional wedding favours which end up being left behind and thrown in the bin
brilliant!!
im so using this!! GREAT idea!
Watching this even though I’m not engaged or married 😂
snap lol but being in the industry we have a secret excuse we can hide behind x
Gotta soak up that knowledge ahead of time 😁
Lol I'm 14
I'm not even dating anyone lmao
Ariana Grande me too haha
As a Puerto Rican I can tell u they will take the table clothes and the silverware if u let them ,my grandma has tons of centerpieces in her horder closet ,yes centerpieces not favors the dam center piece .
Haha yup thats what happens in Latin wedding and any other party. People get to tables fast so they can claim the centerpieces 😂
@@darilsandoval7452 True! My Mexican friend does that everywhere we go.
In argentina its the same! People love to take the center pieces, what for? Nothing really lol
What????
This is soo accurate. Even my dad has taken a centerpiece home! Its a puerto rican tradition at this point.
Is it just me or she looks like Jamie Lynn Spears
I was wondering if anyone noticed
Clicked this video cuz I thought it was Jamie Lynn Spears with a new last name no joke. Look so much alike.
@@stephdavis8462 same!
Literally just clicked because I thought she looked like Jaime, then I saw her name and thought maybe it’s her married now.
river_song I thought it was her but I follow her on IG and she never mentioned a yt channel
I haven't been to many weddings in my life but to the ones I have, these are what really help make a wedding really magnificent;
1) Food
2) Music
3) Seating
4) Space for if you want to walk around or be alone
5) Lighting
6) Keeping the speeches short and sweet
7) Welcoming atmosphere when you enter and thanks when you leave
You basically listed everything I am prioritizing for my own wedding. I almost want to skip the ceremony just to have more money for the lighting and dancefloor lol.
@@Wee-Snaw Wow, I actually didn't know that a lot of money went into the ceremony. I just assumed that it was a vital and touching moment of a wedding
@@drewminiz3812 It could be cheap for sure if your church doesn't charge a fee, or if you do it in your own back yard or a park...etc. I'm totally fine with a courthouse ceremony though.
My best friend didn’t print off programs for her and her husband’s wedding last week and I actually heard a handful of people say they’d enjoy having a program to see who everyone in the bridal party was.
Also, a tip on slideshows, have them rolling on a screen during the reception. But don’t do a formal showing and say “now we’re going to watch the slideshow.” Guests who want to watch the pictures will pay attention and those who aren’t interested won’t have to sit through it after sitting through the ceremony.
I had one of my best friends print pictures of themselves as the table identifier #, it gave a reason to have people mingle and visit other tables if you wanted to see the other pictures selected
On the bouquet toss, my friend is going comical. Sometimes, brides have an extra bouquet to throw, in German, that's a Wurfstrauß (throwing bouquet). Instead of that, she is going to throw a stuffed animal ostrich with a veil on it, becaaause, in German "Strauß" also means ostrich, so a Wurfstrauß can also be a throwing ostrich 😁
I laughed so hard I almost woke up my baby 😂 I love this so much and will have to remember this for my sister or daughters since I already had my day!
I am getting married in 8 days and my last name is going to be Strauss! He told me it meant “Ostrich.” Your comment is great. Thanks for sharing.
Omg yes just throw something funny
So glad I read this! My fiancé is of German decent and want to bring both our cultures together, I’ll definitely be doing this instead of a regular bouquet.
I love that!
I went to a wedding recently where there were grab and go gifts set up in the restrooms. Lots of mini toiletries/makeup by brand names. I walked away with a Shisheido face cream and I thought that was a really cute idea.
ΔSTRID what I’ve seen here is that they put spray on deodorant, body spray, hair clips, ties, Bobby pins and a small sewing kit for emergencies in the bathroom. It’s full sized so everyone can use the toiletries
I think there's a psychology of hotel stays and nicking the toiletries behind that. 😃 Maybe if people think they are being naughty they want it more.
Do you know what the men had? I love this idea of make up or skin care but what could you offer the men? Lol
^ men can have deodorant too. fancy soaps, cologne, hair pomade, razor, shaving cream, lotion…
Linens are SO important for the look of the wedding in my opinion.
The title is about guest dgaf.
I agree like more important than centerpieces it’s the base color, it sets the tone.
Very true
@S f Thanks. I was going to do white floor length (basic) for mine. :)
People are really into table looks and ARE judgey if they look bad! Like if they’re off everyone will notice it looks cheap, and it really costs a lot for overhanging white hotel quality linens…people so notice unless you spend $50 per table so that’s caring imo since you have to sink good money in!
I've been djing weddings for 15 years and I agree on these. The bouquet toss can be used to open up the dance floor. I always suggest to place it before we actually open the dance floor. I always suggest once we open the dance floor to not have any other events. I work on building the energy slowly throughout social hour, dinner, etc. It's so difficult to get anything else going after that. Anyway, Blah blah, Great video thank you very much!
We're thinking of giving $1 Lotto scratchers in an envelope with our wax seal to make it more fancy. People like opening gifts! We went to a wedding that gave out lotto scratchers and it was so fun. We won $7 too. :D
We’re doing the same!
Lauren Niki yay!! It's so fun. Can't wait for your guests to enjoy it!
Dana I would’ve loved to go to that wedding
That’s an awesome idea. Thank you.
that's so fun! if I won really big I think I'd give back some to the couple.
I've literally been to a wedding every year since I turned 18 and I've enjoyed every slide show! I'm just one person though, so maybe the majority doesn't actually care too much for it. In my experience people have enjoyed seeing how the couple grew and found each other. Heck, the smallest wedding was a party of 50, shabby chic motif, and they hung several strings of significant photos on a fancy clothes line. That's practically a slide show, lol!
I really enjoyed the slide shows at my cousins wedding as well! Not only did I get a peek into their life and see their happy moments, but I would also count how many times I was in photos lol
@@catherineramos9922 I usually do this too!, that's why I put extra effort in mine
Nup. It's boring. Especially if it drags on. Someone's idea here about letting it play in the background is nice.
*You know your own guest better so your guest might actually care.*
I know assigned sitting doesn’t fly for my family. Everyone will just end up switching seats throughout the night. We mingle with everyone. Also, on the party favors the tias and gramas tend to hoard those.
But it's chaos. People came to my cousins wedding that weren't invited. (These people also didn't come to the ceremony) I was running around helping with the wedding and it was buffet. By the time I got my food, I had to sit on the floor in the corner to eat. Which was super annoying, especially since I had helped so much.
Growing up, I had NEVER been to a wedding with assigned seating. Never had an issue. I think if I were to do assigned seating, I'd just sit people with who I know they'd be comfortable with. And, Jamie made a good point about the guests being evenly distributed among the tables. So, if I did assigned seating, I'd do it just for that reason.
Switching seats later is fine, especially after people relax. At first, however, it's better to have some structure. I agree with Jamie. It's a good precaution.
I just got married yesterday and I am proud to say that I followed all of your rules except for one, open seating. Which I will say, we should have done. But the rest was absolutely magical and being simple about things really took a lot of stress off my plate. From one bride to another, take these recommendations!! 💜
Right I honestly don’t think you are even remotely correct about any of these. At all except for maybe 2 of them which is common sense
Hi, what do you mean you followed all the rules except for the open seating? Like, so did you do open seating or set seats/tables for your guests? Which worked or didn’t work for you? My fiancé and I are still arguing over this.
Congratulations! I think open seating sounds great. Sometimes I am placed in spots where I can’t see, or it’s a boring place. I think open seating would be more organic feeling.
Theres a difference between things guests dont care about and what bothered guests. When your guests leave your wedding you want them to leave with an overall feeling of a great time remarking how beautiful everything was. Favors increase the look of the table and certain implemented personalized ideas at your wedding contribute to the overall feel. Just dont bore or annoy your guests. If you make your wedding too plain they will notice that and definitely compare your wedding to theirs or someone's else's. Find the balance.
Love this take. I'm watching this like if u drop everything, then it's boring too. We just need to learn to be creative and intentional with the things we choose. And yes I want my people to leave feeling like they got something of value. They don't have to.take part in every aspect but there needs to be something there that can excite them.
Also when she said no one is gonna wonder why there was no bouquet toss. Uhm yes SOMEONE WILL. the ppl who honor tradition will wonder. That doesn't mean u have to do it. But just be mindful dropping everything will leave open spaces.
The one I just really don't care about? An outdoor wedding in the Summer! Just have it indoors and take your pics outside if it's that important. Your guests will hate you if you have an outdoor wedding when its 100 degrees outside, especially since they have to pay for a nice outfit just to soak it in sweat.
Elise Nicole You are so spot on! Not to mention the fact that you spend time and money doing your hair and makeup only to look like a hot mess for the rest of the evening. Oh, and your heels digging into the lovely mud/grass. No thank you.
yesssss so much yesssssss!!!!
Especially if you're unfortunate enough to get easily sick from the heat! I've skipped more than one outdoor wedding because of that. Do I feel bad? Sure. But at least I'm not weak and miserable at work, the day after. Now, I'm having an outdoor wedding and reception at a park, next year. But it's late October, so different scenario.
That's why she specifically said 'an outdoor wedding in the summer'.
23 years ago, when my wife and I were married, our entire wedding cost $1300. She and I, our two “witnesses”, and our parents went to the Court House and were married by a Judge. Our reception was outside on an absolutely perfect August day (and night). We had a pig roast, no one had to dress up, and I made the invitations myself.
I catered/attended over 70 weddings in college and 50% of favors go to waste. Thank you for saying something about the grand exit! I’m not leaving my friends with sparklers. I’m gonna stay and play with them!
Wedding invitations were one of the most important parts to me, just because I love pretty paper things lol. I really wanted a pretty invitation for my own memories. If my guests throw them away, I'm not upset, they don't need to hoard my memories forever. I think the invitation also really helped me solidify the theme/aesthetic at the beginning too.
We are going to do a dessert table as well as a mini wedding cake so we can traditionally cut it! But desserts for everyone :)
Katie I’m now considering doing this too!
My best friend did one at her wedding 3 years ago and still till this day people talk about it.
Desserts for everyone! Sounds like a good campaign :D
Katie This is what I am doing too 😊
I make gourmet torted cakes for weddings, and I try to always have at least three flavors of cake. So far the favorite seems to be pink champagne with strawberry cheesecake filling. That or Chocolate with fudge and almond filling. I agree that boring cake is boring, but mine are apparently very memorable! Four layers of cake, three of filling. It's cake like most people never knew existed!
Orange mimosa cake with honey buttercream and passionfruit filling.....White chocolate with whipped white ganache and raspberry reduction....Lemon blueberry with cream cheese filling, lemon curd, and blueberry syrup.....
That way the cake is actually something people want to eat.
Seriously, the only wedding favors I have ever enjoyed were food ones or the set of glasses we were given at one wedding which are actually very nice, but as I told people giving away these favors, people are ready to go after a long night of partying and dancing, or being in the wedding...they aren't going to go back and retrieve the homemade honey jar that won't fit in their clutch or walk additional steps on tired feet to locate the box with copies of your wedding digital playlist. Guests care about your love, food, good music/good vibes, and if they are comfortable enough to enjoy themselves (not too hot/cold/mosquitoes everywhere). You have those things, and you're pretty much set.
Yes! The only wedding favour I remember was a small tin of mints. Perfect for after the meal and handy tomorrow too!
For my wedding (just last month) I gave a really heartfelt favor. My 81 year old grandfather and his friend hand made Christmas tree ornaments with our monogram. I hope the people cared at least a little
As part of our wedding favors I'm doing a "hangover kit" with many items purchased in bulk or from the dollar store. Bandaid, chewy bar, scope onetime use toothbrush, mini water, coffee, hair scrunchy and sunglasses. Even if they dont take it, I will still have a use for all of those things. :)
My friend did blankets for her wedding favors (it was a cold October night) and those went fast! And my sister and I still have ours! Very simple but very useful during the reception and at home!
Do you know where she sourced these with out spending a ton? Love this idea!
That must’ve cost a fortune. And you implied they didn’t have enough for everyone 😅 not ideal
Yes! I'm not the only one who hates Fondant! 8:58 xD
Just peel that crap right off and enjoy your cake. :)
It's absolutely awful. If I have a cheaper wedding, I want to make my own wedding cake. Buttercream all the way.
fondant was actually created to make the cake look smoother, which is something a lot of bakers can't achieve with buttercream. you're not supposed to eat it, you are supposed to peel it off. which is why it tastes bad :)
When I got married I looked at fondant for the cake (makes looks so nice and smooth) but I couldn't handle the taste. To me it tasted like melted marshmallow on top of cake. Too sticky and sweet.
#TeamButtercream
My wedding favors were great, they were Smores, they had a tag that read: To love you s' more. Most of guest, ate theirs at the wedding. It was a backyard wedding in December we had a fire pit. So it was fun.
The best wedding I’ve ever been to was my cousin’s wedding. Everything was literally God’s timing. Her fiancé was from brazil and he got his fiancé visa 4 days before the wedding, but everyone had faith that everything would work out and it did! Nothing was left out, nothing was forgotten, and all but one favor was taken home! The favors were acrylic coasters with everyone’s name on it. It was used as a seat holder. There were 11 round tables that sat 8 each, there were about 80 guests total. Family got table 1, close family/friends got to choose any of the next 4 tables, and everyone else sat anywhere else, it was open seating but still allowed everyone to sit wherever.
Programs were passed out because during their unity ceremony everyone sang a song over them.
It was beautiful, I cried. I was the second hand to the friend who acted as the coordinator, and I could probably do the day-of coordinating as a job.
Omg this is so helpful. I so do NOT want to do a bouquet toss, a slideshow, or even the dances with parents (my dad passed last year and who wants to cry?!) so I was worried about opting out of those. I feel much better now. You’re so right, too much of that is just boring for guests. Thanks so much!
I totally agree with you on the wedding cake thing!
We were at a wedding a few years ago, where instead of that big gigantic cake, the couple had chosen different kinds of desserts so that their guests could choose what they would like to have...
It was a success 😊
There were different types of cakes, miniature cupcakes, cookies, ice creams, chocolates, etc. 😋😊
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I make gourmet torted cakes for weddings, and I try to always have at least three flavors of cake. So far the favorite seems to be pink champagne with strawberry cheesecake filling. That or Chocolate with fudge and almond filling. I agree that boring cake is boring, but mine are apparently very memorable! Orange mimosa cake with honey buttercream and passionfruit filling.....White chocolate with whipped white ganache and raspberry reduction....Lemon blueberry with cream cheese filling, lemon curd, and blueberry syrup......*drools*
@infiniteworlds5 your cakes sound tasty indeed!
In a world where weddings costs a ridiculous amount, when there's always an additional thing you need to buy, or you're sold the ULTIMATE package (because no other package will apparently do), it's so nice to watch you give REAL advice on what's ACTUALLY important! Breath of fresh air!
For the cake tip, I've heard of people having a fake cake with a small section of real cake to cut for the pics but then they have a sheet cake in the back that they serve the guests.
I love cake, so do most ppl, I'm having a cake! Ppl remember a pretty unique cake too. And the bouquet toss is fun.
TOTALLY agree about the open seating! It’s especially anxiety triggering when you go to a wedding alone 😭 I went to a wedding once and knew NO ONE and I ended up feeling so awkward because I just found a random seat at a table with a bunch of people & I had nothing to talk to about 😂😂 I totally wished there was some sort of seating chart, at least I could have sat with people my age.
This is so valid from both perspectives. As a wedding guest im just honored to be invited. I dont care where it is when it is what i have to wear or whats for dinner. I just wanna watch you be married. Im not talkative or a dancing guest but ill be so happy to be there. As a bride though i don't want anyone to feel bored even though someone will inevitably be bored. I want options for entertainment. I want plated dinner with self serve station appetizers and passed around appetizers. I want place cards so someone can reserve a seat at their designated table and then get up and see other guests. I want games for kids and a dj who interacts with everyone and is having fun. I want lots of food options for every dietary restriction and taste. But mostly i just wanna stare at my husband all dressed up and looking like a snack
When you said that you may or may not have 5 of those succulent favors at your house, I automatically looked behind at the pots behind you to check if they're the succulents! Now I must convince my fiance to not have wedding favors anymore as they seem to be only a waste of money. And he wants succlents as favors! Thank you!
Unless I was specifically told, or the place card "take me home with you, nature me like the bride and groom nurtured their love", I would have never known I was supposed to take a succulent home with me...
Maybe I'm in the minority, but I would've have absolutely no clue.
same. would've almost felt like stealing
I agree that some people might not notice these things, but they all contribute to setting a scene and creating a vibe (not just for the guests, but for the couple)
Best wedding advice ever. Always love some money saving tips, and you as always are so authentic, real, and relatable. Don't stop these videos!!!!!
We did wedding programs, we had the "Traditional parts", people's names involved in ceremony but added some fun things we wanted. A word find, crossword puzzle, coloring page, guessing game "who did it?" (We put some of the crazy stuff we did and guests had to figure out which of us did it. We had them at the door when guests came in, along with crayons and pencils. It was big hit and filled in time when getting pics taken. We printed them at Staples on plain paper and it was very cheap.
Hi! I just wanted to say that I am so grateful for this video! 💕 Please continue to make videos as such because it truly is a blessing to those who want to share this special moment but also are looking ways to lessen the stress of planning on their own, while not going into debt by holding a wedding! 😊
Slavic people hang wedding invitations on the fridge 😁 we have whole collections of them. (Usually it's an invitation with a photo/photos of the couple).
The thing about open seating really surprised me. I've never been to a wedding with a seating plan in my life. It's not a thing in my country. I don't want to be told who I can and can't sit next to and make forced akward small talk with people I don't know. Pretty much every wedding here has enough tables and chairs so that it doesn't matter if five people fill up a table of eight. Also, a lot of the weddings I've been to haven't even had a formal diner. just buffet or bbq, or little snacks that are served out, and people just stand to eat with bar height tables, or just find a place to sit somewhere, stand up to get a second helping of food, and go back to sit somewhere else. Not forced, no nameplats and seating charts, just fun and enough room for everybody.
Same! I've never been to a wedding with a seating plan. And I also don't plan to have one for my wedding.
Ilse Sounds lovely 😊
I've also been to a few weddings with no seating plans and I even prefer them, that way if you want to stick to the people you know, you can and if you want to be a social butterfly and make friends with other people you can do that too. No awkward or unwanted small talk either!
That sounds fun! I think seating charts are nice if the event is formal at all... but if you're going casual-- genuinely casual, not "black tie fancy barn with a nod to rusticity" casual-- then skip it. We provided enough seating for people, but some oldsters sat together on sofas inside with plates on their laps, some social butterflies ate standing like a cocktail party, the Socially Awkwards took their dinners out to the beach nearby and had their own weird little party... it was really nice, actually.
What country are you from? In my country (Switzerland) some people choose to do without assigned seating too but personally I prefer the more “formal” approach :)
Thanks so much for your videos! They have cut down my stress and finally someone is telling me the truth, not what's expected! 💗 Thanks again!
I feel like many of these suggestions are valid for those who truly don't care what their event looks like! So much of your beautiful, once in a lifetime day is about the details of the day!!!
I found your channel through this video and even though my country's wedding culture is a little different it was super helpful to see that the pressure we tend to put on ourselves can very often be arbitrary and that our guests just want to have fun and spend the big day with us. I really appreciate this video and your whole channel (and your second one too!)❤️ I would love to do what you do one day and your advice is invaluable! ❤️❤️❤️
Also, I love your energy and sense of humor! Keep up the good work 😘
As a mom planning her daughter's wedding I love your videos! I've been binge watching them since she got engaged!
I'm just starting the binge! God help us!
I love this video! So refreshing and truthful 😍 I'm happily cutting most of these things out of my wedding! Less time and stress and money over things nobody gives a crap about!
We went to a wedding where they had these candy filled plastic heart favors. We took 2 home and couldn't figure out how to open them. My boyfriend said, "I guess we'll have to break their hearts to get the candy."
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5 years later and those favors are still sealed and collecting dust on a shelf because we couldn't bring ourselves to break their hearts after such a lovely wedding.😬🤣
Thank you for your honest opinion! We're not doing quite a few things you've mentioned in your list, glad to hear the guests aren't going to notice much too! :D
I've truly never left a youtube comment before but I stumbled upon this and it soothed a lot of my wedding anxiety! Thank you so so much!!
Love this! At the end of the day, just staying present is the secret to a beautiful wedding no matter where you are.
As a wedding lover just in general and a portuguese is so amusing to me to find out differences in weddings around the world! Love your chanel, you gained a new subscriber 😊
Thank you. This is so true and even though some people may want these things, (which is fine to disagree, don't get your thong in a knot) this is reminder that you do not have to STRESS and get UPSET about the tiny details on these things. Loved this!!
I’m planning my wedding in less than 7 months on too of being a full time student, working a part time job in a long distance relationship during COVID and at first I was feeling so overwhelmed but watching your videos late night while I flip through my wedding binder has seriously eased my heart so much. THANK YOU so much for posting these videos and sharing them with the world! New subscriber here!!!!! 💕🙏🏼
My first time watching you. You are so honest and refreshing and to the point!!! I’m here for it! I look forward to watching your videos
I completely agree with all you have said in this video! I have thought about this things before, but it's so nice to have all this information together and so well explained. Thank you!!
Best favor we have had so far is a picture of me and my husband that was taken during the wedding reception and then sent to us afterwards as a thank you :). We put it in a frame and it is standing in the hallway of our appartment!
Now THAT is a great idea!
anileaatje That isn’t a favor.
Great stuff! I totally agree with you about ALL of these! However, I have seen some really cool and creative ways to do a "guest book". 1) a beautiful 3.5 foot flat, surf board shaped piece of finished wood that guests could write on with silver sharpies. The whole board is filled with notes/signatures and the bride & groom hung it in their living room after their wedding! 2)Another example, a guest book with blank pages, Instax mini camera, cute washi tape, and colored pens - guests could take photos, tape them in the book and write a note!
I’m so happy I found your channel because I’m going to school to be a wedding planner and I now I know all this good extra information!!
This video was a huge game changer. Thank you. Seriously, every single one of these was an EXCELLENT tip.
I just started to plan my wedding and this has made so many choices easy for me and SAVED ME TONS OF MONEY!!!!!!!!!!
"Single Awareness Day" - Yeah, over here on the dance floor, me, in front of all the other married people…I'm single! Great practical input delivered in an engaging, entertaining way. "Build up your love story and make for an amazing, epic guest experience!" Well put.
Your videos are super helpful and realistic as I look back on weddings I've attended and thinking about planning my own. Thanks for the tips!
My other half and I are both musicians in bands, so we're using the guitar my late father gave me when I was 15 as our guestbook. Just a couple sharpies(silver for the body, black for the pick guard), then spray that bad boy with some clear coat and we can mount it on the wall ❤
Got married 4 years ago...had ZERO of these (except open seating, I'm lazy + favors - we gave out sunscreen for our cruise) AND NO FLOWERS! No one complained. It was still a great time!
I agree with all of this!! Invest in good food, good drinks, good treats and good music.. that's what the guests really come for!
THANK YOU! I wrote all of this down! Planning my own wedding and I've found so many things I would have invested in that seem silly now. Instead I'm going to focus on what I want and what I think will make my wedding nice.
I love your honesty and humor lol! I can tell you have witnessed too many weddings and are letting it all out! Thank you for the tips!!!
We had a tiered wedding cake, but it was a mint chocolate mousse cake. Everyone raved about it and when we went to get another sliver, that tiers had been scraped clean :D Also, we had fudge as favours and while we hoped that some would be left over (so we could take it home and enjoy), all of the guests either ate it at the reception, or took it with them, as none was left over on the tables at the end of the night.
Excellent. I was totally thinking chocolate as a gift. Or little things of alcohol. It totally helps to hear fudge was a winner. I really think the favors thing depends on what u give. If u give a baby succulent, who wants to babysit that in their luggage. But something useful or delicious might be a different story.
@@TEWMUCH most of our guests were local, or semi-local, but we also had a number of people who came from overseas, so we knew we had to consider that.
@@laulutar right. Makes sense.
I DidntGAFF about that list and saved so much money on my car insurance! Thanks for all your help!
THANK GOD!!! I loved this video, and I'm so glad that I can do away with so many tiny details that I AGREE DON'T MATTER at my wedding!!!
i'm getting married in 4 months and i'm so glad i found your channel! it's so helpful :)
I recommend you do plantable invitations so that instead of the guests throwing it away they will plant the invitations and it'll grow into a plant
sounds very expensive! omg
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We did programs that were big fans for the outdoor wedding and I saw the fans flapping the whole time! Plus it always gives me comfort to know what’s happening next and the fan was super helpful for them even if just for five minutes LOL definitely something to skip but if not I liked the pretty fan idea!:)
I'm having a July outdoor wedding. I've been planning this. Haha
In such cases, perhaps hand fans could be the wedding favors.
I'm glad I watched this. There were things that I felt like I had to do, but there's so much less of a burden not worrying about those little details
I really like this video because it is a list of things to think about and decide whether it is relevant to your guests or not. It is not about being ultimately right or wrong because it would be impossible to make a video that would adhere to every single wedding guest group. It is about things guests might not care about in general. It helps you decide whether or not it is right for your wedding and your guests. Some of these points will work for my wedding and others will not but it is still a great video to help with wedding planning!
This is seriously so helpful, THANK YOU!!! I've been so on the fence about investing in some of these things, and feeling pressured to put time and energy into fancy invites and wedding favors and this is so validating. YOU'RE AWESOME!
It's true!!, we centered our focus on great (and plenty) food and drinks, and the music was a very close 3rd, the rest was pretty much expendable. We prepared this little bags with everything you may need for after a night of partying (advil, mints, bandaid, little sheets to take of your makeup, and a safety pin) and attached to it it was a thank you note from us because we knew it would be impossible for us to talk to everyone that night, and we had one for each seat. Until this day people keep saying how much fun they had and how good the food was (we actually ended up using the same caterer for later events, and some family members also used them)
Oh wow this is so culture-specific! I've been working weddings (as a photographer) since 2010, and have found quite a number of these to be things people do enjoy/notice/care about. In particular, open seating (maybe people here are much less socially awkward? It is not weird to sit next to people in unusual groups), & slideshows (people love slide shows oh my gosh). Still, good list!
U make some valied points but i love the slide show. One of my favorite parts. Helps you connect with other side of the family or those at your table.
I love your energy and 'get to the point' kind of attitude! Always good to know the stuff that nobody talks about, the sugar coated version doesn't help much in real life situations.
I agree with everything including the fondant - but I love wedding cakes with beautiful and real buttercream frosting!!!
Costco cake!
Thank you so much!!! It will definitely save me a lot of grey hairs :D
Just found your channel and YOU ARE A JEM 😍😍 wedding planning is a passion of mine
I LOVED this list! Your personality is fantastic!
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS! Planning a wedding right now and trying to document it on my channel, and this video was everything! Thank you for sharing your insight! Also, part of what "did it for me" was your face in the thumbnail! Ev-er-y-thing! Sending love & light to all
Jamie Wolfer Awww thanks! That’s super kind of you. Keep these awesome vids coming 😀
This is the most useful wedding related video I have watched. Thank you!!!!!
I don't know how I ended up on your channel but as an entertainer, I thoroughly enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work!
This video gave me less stress when thinking about planning my wedding! Thank you!
Bahaha ok this is great!! I'm not doing a SINGLE one of these things. I was a bit worried but now I feel so much better
Well this has just reinforced that we are doing the right thing with our wedding (this weekend!) Loads of the things you listed are thoughts I’ve had myself. We are having no programs, no cake (but yes to dessert table), no favours, no linens. I’ve never found those things important at any wedding I’ve been to.
I'm thinking of a dessert table as well and a small cake for us to cut for photos. I agree fondant is gross and the whole 7-tiered cake is a waste of $$. Another thing I've seen are late night noshes (mini sliders, fries). You do work up an appetite from dancing but I think guests would rather go home than stay and have another meal.
I will have been married for 4 years on June 25th 👋🏼 and I agree with what your saying. I honestly didn’t know this was going to be about wedding guests but I was drawn to your channel and now I’ve screen shoted your video because your room is gorgeous and it inspired me haha.
This definitely has helped me decide against programs but definitely doing assigned tables for the seating.