10 Wedding TRADITIONS to SKIP (but only if you want to ✌🏻)

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  • @Housewarmin
    @Housewarmin 4 года назад +374

    Anytime you feel like you have to shell out money for a tradition, ask yourself “why do I need this?” If the answer is just “because everyone else did”. You don’t need it!

    • @valerielinares2068
      @valerielinares2068 4 года назад +2

      Exactly!!

    • @kailebrogan447
      @kailebrogan447 4 года назад

      I agree

    • @simonejohnson3334
      @simonejohnson3334 3 года назад +7

      I wish people felt this way about last names. I've known women to spend hundrends and thousands of dollars to change all their identifications and degrees to their husbands last name! I think its unfortunate how we are one of the few counties who practice this "tradition." Even women in places where we are taught are unfortunate to be a woman in (Iraq, Iran and Saudi Arabia), the women here do not change their last names.

    • @angelaamarie7337
      @angelaamarie7337 3 года назад +6

      @@simonejohnson3334 Thank you for saying this! I'm about to finish my Master's and will be applying for my PhD soon but my wedding is this year. It's also difficult for other scholars to follow your name if you have written published work! Some people want to keep their accomplishments in their family's name, which shouldn't be viewed as taboo.

    • @turtleena3280
      @turtleena3280 3 года назад +2

      @@simonejohnson3334 I second that! People--mostly family--look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them I have no intention of changing my last name when I get married. I like my name the way it is, plus it's a name that's not very common. I do have a unique situation because my one cousin-in-law (on my dad's side of the family) & I have the exact same 1st, middle, & last name since she changed her last name after she married my cousin so changing my last name would be "easier for everyone else" ...but being expected to change my last name just because "that's the tradition" is crazy. Of course, there's a lot of traditions that I just don't get ...

  • @Housewarmin
    @Housewarmin 4 года назад +602

    Other things that aren’t necessary: expensive invitations, favors, a limo, videographer, an expensive outfit, bridal party outfits (robes, tshirts, anything with “bride” on it) Weddings pressure you to buy a lot of things you don’t need!

    • @sdarling6518
      @sdarling6518 4 года назад +8

      Do people still rent limos?

    • @FedericaGalli89
      @FedericaGalli89 4 года назад +9

      There's one very thing i hate: the pressure about finding the right dress. I'm not into white (i want black), I'm not into ball gown, I'd love to have a jumpsuit but I can't find the right one. In order to have the one I want i'd have to make it custom made, which will cost around 2000$. I found a very simple black dress that I love, i find it sexy without being slutty but... My mum breaks my balls about it. She's like "That's too plain, simple, not appropriate for the occasion"

    • @katieoverstreet2055
      @katieoverstreet2055 3 года назад +2

      Federica Galli I’m the white dress type but that idea actually sounds so cool to me

    • @cindy846
      @cindy846 3 года назад +32

      A videographer is GREAT though. The day goes by so quickly, getting to relive some of the highlights is priceless.

    • @theatrekid-hi9207
      @theatrekid-hi9207 3 года назад +11

      I feel like party favors and a videographer is some of the only semi-important things. Small favors and little thins for family to have a memory of would be nice. To be a able to remember the day their child or sibling or cousin or grandchild got married.
      And a videographer just so that you can let guests know that they can relax and not worry on recording everything. It’s nice to be able to have a professional recording of your happiest day to look back on. A video where everyone is watching the ceremony, and not through their iPhone screen.

  • @HeyHippieHey
    @HeyHippieHey 4 года назад +258

    Thank you SO much! I want a dry wedding. I am an alcoholic and I have many family members who are. But, I’m getting so much flack for wanting a dry wedding. “It’s boring. No one will dance. No one will come”. Thank you for giving me permission to tell them no alcohol!
    *Got married 11/28/21 with a dry wedding and it was AMAZING. People danced. People enjoyed themselves. People who said they weren’t coming ended up coming and having fun! It’s your day, do what you want! ♥️♥️

    • @12carla4
      @12carla4 4 года назад +29

      That's nonsense!! People will go for you, not for the alcohol. They will dance if the music is good and they will have fun

    • @beautyizeasy
      @beautyizeasy 4 года назад +24

      I’m sorry you have people in your life who are discouraging your dry wedding idea. It is YOUR and YOUR SPOUSE’s day. Don’t do anything that would make you feel uncomfortable or give you anxiety. If people don’t come to your wedding because there is no alcohol then they are missing out and they aren’t your true friends. And bonus for you bc you are saving money! Every dollar that isn’t spent on alcohol or on a guest that won’t come bc there is no alcohol is just more money that you can put towards something you actually want at your wedding, honeymoon, or right back into your newlywed savings fund!! I don’t drink either but I am always the one living it up on the dance floor at every wedding! Cheers to you and your future spouse and I hope you have an amazing wedding!!❤️

    • @ingridpear1882
      @ingridpear1882 2 года назад +3

      Coffee,tea, fizzing water,punch, virgin cocktail, "charcoal coconut cream ice latte"(to counteract overdoing sugary sweets),frape/smoothie....there are other options so people won't go hungry or thirsty.Even if it's nice to have a glass of wine offered it's not a big deal to have a party without.You can go to dinner at a lot of homes... alcohol isn't the thing on the table,still feels special.Thanksgiving for instance? (Sometimes if you're sitting close to the bar it attracts a noisy crowd,it can be pleasant to mingle,sit,walk around /if you've got an outdoor area maybe? -as well as dance)It's not a bar party,so just make it elegant and beautiful the way you imagine including everyone.

    • @JaneDoe-dg4pq
      @JaneDoe-dg4pq 2 года назад +2

      I am not having any alcohol at my wedding either.

    • @yippehanako
      @yippehanako 2 года назад +1

      If you're concerned about what people will think of a dry wedding (I would totally go to one btw, I dont drink either), then it may be a good idea to have a brunch wedding because most people wont even want to drink at that time of day

  • @hannaleber1632
    @hannaleber1632 4 года назад +147

    You literally just described my wedding 😂 No bridal party, 50 guests, assorted cheesecakes and lemon squares, no grand entrance or exit, no bouquet toss. And it was my favorite day ever!! We did serve dinner though (pizza and garlic knots).

    • @helenas7605
      @helenas7605 4 года назад +6

      Perfect wedding!

    • @butterflyn8062
      @butterflyn8062 2 года назад +1

      Ouu I wanna serve pizza! I'm worried it would be too messy with people dressed all nice lol

    • @Hamstergirl71
      @Hamstergirl71 2 года назад +1

      I would love to have a wedding like that..

  • @kitc.3104
    @kitc.3104 4 года назад +300

    Instead of a bachelor/bachelorette party we had a a bonfire with friends a couple months prior, and then a spa day with moms and sisters the week prior (wedding talk was banned). Totally better for us and the combo of the 2 of them was cheaper and more relaxing. Although after the wedding we had a paintball tournament.... nothing to do with the stress of hosting a party with 150 people.

    • @brinaf2857
      @brinaf2857 4 года назад +1

      I LOVE that!!!!

    • @theatrekid-hi9207
      @theatrekid-hi9207 3 года назад

      Writing this down for when I’m older, this is amazing❣️

    • @parker6739
      @parker6739 3 года назад +1

      I want that but I’m paranoid some egg will still get me a stripper 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @theatrekid-hi9207
      @theatrekid-hi9207 3 года назад

      @@parker6739 That would quiet a memory though😂 and you wouldn’t be paying so you can just send it away🤷‍♀️

  • @titililalita25
    @titililalita25 4 года назад +163

    My boyfriend (23 at the time) was the ring bearer at his cousin's wedding lol he was asked because he (my boyfriend) is the youngest of his family line of cousins everybody got a good laugh when they saw a 6'2" full bearded man entering the venue with a "here comes the bride" sign in his hands!!!

    • @CordiallyCornelia
      @CordiallyCornelia 4 года назад +2

      Laura Cristina Valdez I love this

    • @beautyizeasy
      @beautyizeasy 4 года назад +4

      I am 100% stealing this idea!

    • @lilyobrien3264
      @lilyobrien3264 4 года назад +2

      I love that

    • @jordanmwa13
      @jordanmwa13 3 года назад +4

      This is absolutely hilarious 😂😂😂 I’m choosing not the have kids at my wedding so this makes sense to do in lieu hahahahha

  • @mhsisson3294
    @mhsisson3294 4 года назад +194

    Anyone else surprised she didn’t say anything about not needing favors? 😂😂

    • @sophier315
      @sophier315 4 года назад +14

      Megan Hope I think it was because it’s not a BIG tradition. But she says it in all her other videos so I was expecting it too😂

  • @rebelgirl6252
    @rebelgirl6252 4 года назад +171

    I recently went to a budget wedding. The couple had coffee and donuts afterward. It was the best!

  • @legerdemain444
    @legerdemain444 4 года назад +168

    I'm planning on giving my bouquet to my mother as we leave the aisle. I'm getting her favourite flowers especially for it. She doesn't know this yet though.

    • @yuliyalyube
      @yuliyalyube 4 года назад +5

      Stephanie Thompson how sweet!!!

    • @saravore512
      @saravore512 3 года назад +3

      Omg this is SO sweet!!

    • @tiaraanice
      @tiaraanice 3 года назад +4

      OMG I love this! Especially since I plan to have my mother walk me down the aisle

    • @shawneeshareen
      @shawneeshareen 3 года назад +2

      Oh my this is so sweet 😭

    • @parker6739
      @parker6739 3 года назад

      That’s awesome 💜

  • @JennyNichole07
    @JennyNichole07 4 года назад +116

    We decided early on that we aren't doing a bouquet/garter toss. Totally not our speed at all.

    • @nataliem7671
      @nataliem7671 4 года назад

      JennyNichole07 agreed!

    • @sabrinapershing7387
      @sabrinapershing7387 4 года назад +11

      Same! I'm gifting part of my bouquet to the couples that have have been married the longest and nooooo garter toss

    • @JennyNichole07
      @JennyNichole07 4 года назад +10

      So glad we aren't the only ones! The whole process just looks and feels so awkward to both of us. We would much rather spend that precious reception time dancing and loving on the people who came to celebrate with us.

    • @beccag2758
      @beccag2758 4 года назад +4

      Sabrina Pershing that's a really sweet idea! I've seen something similar when the flowers in the center of the tables goes to the oldest woman at the table. Good way to not waste perfectly good flowers, plus makes someone's day

    • @devonwinkler9943
      @devonwinkler9943 4 года назад +1

      Us too

  • @abigaylegeisel
    @abigaylegeisel 4 года назад +88

    I once heard an idea for instead of a ring bearer that I love. (Though it takes probably a small wedding and complete trust in all your guests.) You have your guests pass the rings from person to person to warm the rings/give their blessing/say a prayer/whatever. By the time for them, they, in theory, would be at the front for you

  • @Namast33
    @Namast33 4 года назад +24

    My daughter small intimate wedding in September 2019 was divine. She skipped almost all traditions and didn't listen to any of Martha Stewart advise. She didn't do flower or garter toss, first dance, favors, videographer, no bridal party, no kids, toast, speeches were limited only mom (me) bride and groom spoke and thanked everyone. It was a prefect day of being present, enjoying their guest talking to everyone, taking pictures, listening to the harpest play, eating the most delicious food and drinking the best wine. Their honeymoon was in the Maldives. They preferred to invite less people, skip traditions to save for their future house, children and have an amazing honeymoon.

    • @vsatx
      @vsatx Год назад +2

      Nice ❤

  • @samanthaneill3096
    @samanthaneill3096 4 года назад +60

    Jamie, you saying Bride and Bride so casually makes me want to cry with joy. That kind of inclusive language, without it being a big deal or an afterthought is so refreshing and appreciated. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! 🌈😭😍

    • @beautyizeasy
      @beautyizeasy 4 года назад +5

      Samantha Neill agreed! It was nice to hear someone just mention it in a sentence casually!

    • @kerriannsaint9006
      @kerriannsaint9006 4 года назад +5

      Literally was coming in the comment section to mention this!

  • @laurenmatthews2908
    @laurenmatthews2908 4 года назад +72

    I went to a wedding that the bride and groom did their ‘grand exit’ when leaving the church after the ceremony before we all went to the reception venue! So they got the cool pictures but they didn’t wait until the end of the night!!

    • @rachelknight3433
      @rachelknight3433 4 года назад +1

      Lauren Matthews That’s a great idea! might just steal it😍👌🏻

    • @stina51093
      @stina51093 4 года назад +6

      That's what my husband and I did. I totally let him decide on his own what car because he loves cars. He picked a getaway car for us to take to the venue after church. He wanted some sort of 1950s car. We are both obsessed with the 1950s-1960s esthetic. We got a 1956 Ford Fairlane. It was the best decision to take our own car to the venue. We did a nice grand exit from there and lots of people took pictures of us in it. Still get comments on it 8 months later. We were able to get alone time right after getting married. I highly recommend doing this if you have the budget for it.

    • @missknisely
      @missknisely 2 года назад

      That sounds so fun, I'll have to consider doing this myself. Especially if my reception ends up at a different location than the ceremony. Thanks for the suggestion!

    • @rosestewart1606
      @rosestewart1606 2 года назад +1

      that's how it's done at all weddings here. lots of people go just to the ceremony so the receiving line is just outside the church

    • @vsatx
      @vsatx Год назад

      What was their grand exit? Some people use bubbles or sparkles

  • @litallove
    @litallove 4 года назад +48

    My fiancé and I are getting married next year and we’re lesbians. I appreciate you saying Bride and Bride like it’s no biggie. My family does not support our love AT ALL. So, it feels good to hear someone say it like...eh...moving on. Love you so much!

    • @abigailsalmanac
      @abigailsalmanac 2 года назад +7

      Your comment was a year ago…I hope your wedding was PERFECT!! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @litallove
      @litallove 2 года назад +6

      @@abigailsalmanac Hey there! It was AMAZING! We eloped on the top of a mountain ⛰. Unforgettable and beautiful day, thank you sooo much ♥️!

    • @rachy5384
      @rachy5384 Год назад

      @@litallove wow good for you. I love this ❤️😊 sounds like an amazing day for you both!

    • @litallove
      @litallove Год назад

      @@abigailsalmanac IT WAS AMAZING!!!!! We got married on a mountain top. Just me, her, and our photographer. I wouldn’t have changed a thing! ♥️♥️♥️

    • @litallove
      @litallove Год назад

      @@rachy5384 It sure was!!! Thank you so much!!!!

  • @lizzielogemann6422
    @lizzielogemann6422 3 года назад +12

    I just want to mention, thank you for saying bride and bride when talking about the grand entrance. It's so nice to see that kind of casual inclusion!

  • @howlovely1851
    @howlovely1851 3 года назад +16

    I plan on having a big sleepover for my bachelorette. Fun games, movies, not yoo many snacks cuz I'll get sick, and a chance for my bridesmaids to bond some more.

  • @CarolineCarnivorous
    @CarolineCarnivorous 4 года назад +35

    The only things we're doing on this list is pro officiant (only priests, mayors and such can wed in Norway, we're doing a courthouse wedding which is free in our city), tacos for dinner, alcohol (BYOB after dinner) and a small cake (the rest cupcakes)! No flowers, decor, paper stuff.. We're only doing the things we WANT to, which isn't much! 60 ish guests, about $4500 cost max :D

  • @rebeccarichins9472
    @rebeccarichins9472 3 года назад +12

    Honestly for my bachelorette party I got a few humans together and we played dungeons and dragons, For the hole weekend. The best idea ever!

  • @brinaf2857
    @brinaf2857 4 года назад +35

    Hi Jamie!!!! If it might be useful to anyone, I also think that you can skip favors, in fact, I think you said on multiple occasions that most guests do not take favors with them anyways.
    As a rule of thumb, don't let family/friends/vendors/people push you to do things you don't want to do!
    Stay safe everyone ❤

    • @brinaf2857
      @brinaf2857 4 года назад

      @@Aoendkth-nv7au or they just leave them on a shelf to collect dust 😅

    • @alexandrabush8077
      @alexandrabush8077 4 года назад +4

      I take them not because I want them, but because I feel obligated to take one. Save the $$$ and spend it towards an area of your wedding you want to go a little more elaborate with! 😊

  • @beautyizeasy
    @beautyizeasy 4 года назад +12

    My mom’s wedding to my stepdad was 40 people. There was no bridal party and my brother and I walked my mom down the isle! Don’t be afraid of nontraditional!

  • @katehiebert1033
    @katehiebert1033 4 года назад +36

    Thank you sooo much for making this!! Weddings have gotten a little out of control with the rise of social media. It makes me feel a lot better after watching this for not wanting the same kind of wedding all my friends have had.

  • @sabrinapershing7387
    @sabrinapershing7387 4 года назад +59

    Thank you for your thoughts about a dry wedding! We're having a dry, brunch wedding and I've struggled explaining to people that it's expensive and puts a lot of responsibility on us 🙃
    Also, after watching your channel for a while, you inspired me to become an event planner/coordinator. I work in the wedding industry already (bridal gowns) and never thought about doing it professionally until a friend asked me to coordinate hers so I came to your channel for advice!

    • @sdarling6518
      @sdarling6518 4 года назад +8

      I’d recommend the podcast, “Bridechilla” to you. I love it. The host talks alot about how to act assertively during wedding planning and feeling more confident to do things the way you think works best for your event.

    • @sabrinapershing7387
      @sabrinapershing7387 4 года назад

      @@sdarling6518 thanks!! I'll definitely have to check that out.

  • @Isna4727
    @Isna4727 4 года назад +4

    I am a wedding photographer and my wedding was everything but traditional, and it was PERFECT for me. I have been working weddings for over 5 years now so I have known for a while what I don't want to waste money on, so I had no bridal party, a free ceremony space, a ceremony one day and reception the next morning- brunch buffet with bloody and mimosa bar. The whole weekend was exactly what I wanted and we saved a lot of money.

  • @kellij91
    @kellij91 4 года назад +9

    I got married back in October. I didn't have a flower girl or ring bearer because kids under 15 weren't allowed at our wedding. I also didn't have alcohol, and bouquet/garter toss. We played the shoe game instead of the tosses. I absolutely didn't regret not having any of it.

  • @katarinap.611
    @katarinap.611 3 года назад +3

    1. You don't have to have a registry
    2. Any form of bridal party
    3. Flower girl and/or ring bearer
    4. Any form of bachelor/bachelorette weekend
    5. Big guest count
    6. Professional officiant
    7. Dinner
    8. Alcohol
    9. Grand entrance
    10. Grand exit

  • @lesleebarthle7481
    @lesleebarthle7481 4 года назад +5

    I'm eloping on a mountain top in Colorado. No guests just us, a photographer and officiant. I love attending weddings as a guest but Its just not for me or my other half. I have heard the stress for my friends of expectations of their wedding choices. I feel for anyone stressed over wedding planning

  • @Crystal25R
    @Crystal25R 4 года назад +29

    I was waiting for you to say. You don’t have to do a veil if you don’t want to. I guess I just wanted validation haha

    • @anggieperez8584
      @anggieperez8584 4 года назад +6

      Crystal Rodriguez I’m not doing one either! Haha. We validate each other !

    • @libbymiller7406
      @libbymiller7406 4 года назад +9

      I'm not doing a veil. They are SO over priced for what they are (just a piece of see through material). And I personally think they can look kinda weird/funny.

    • @jessann5581
      @jessann5581 4 года назад +2

      Don’t do it if you don’t want to

    • @baileyj8354
      @baileyj8354 4 года назад +3

      Girl don’t wear the veil if you don’t want to! 👏🏼

    • @absinthegrl69
      @absinthegrl69 2 года назад

      I'm not doing a veil either, getting married in exactly a week😁

  • @nataliecook1199
    @nataliecook1199 3 года назад +3

    My fiancé and I are doing a budget wedding, getting a combo of chipotle and Olive Garden in my dad’s backyard, no bridal party and we’re both wearing jeans with a 60 person guest list, making most of the things ourselves and planning it ourselves. Saving so much $$$$$!

  • @BeckyCoon
    @BeckyCoon 4 года назад +13

    We didn’t have cake at our wedding! Grandma in law was a little bitter about it and went out to get cake after the wedding 😂

  • @Syriihime
    @Syriihime 3 года назад +4

    Oh my god I got SO MUCH FLACK in a bridal group for saying it was okay for brides to be uncomfortable with a garter toss/not want to do it!! Was told that my boundaries didn't matter, that I was too immature and childish to get married if I wasn't okay with doing it??? Wild how aggressive people get over OTHER PEOPLES' wedding choices

    • @Sky-Child
      @Sky-Child 18 дней назад

      Lol. I have never once seen a garter toss. It must be an American thing?

  • @Myannadream
    @Myannadream 4 года назад +18

    Can you possibly do a video on all the traditions that there are. Not necessarily the ones we should do but just what a typical traditional wedding day includes from the time we wake up until we leave the venue. I’m newly engaged and am not necessarily wanting to do all the traditional things but I do want to know them all so I can pick and choose what right for us

  • @tamarynfolscher266
    @tamarynfolscher266 4 года назад +8

    I’m a diligent student who has seen some of these already 😅
    However, I’m getting married in September 2020, and you have helped me be the bride I want to be, and let us have the wedding we want, shame free!
    Nothing about our wedding is ‘typical’ or ‘traditional’ and our vendors and families are so excited to experience it once it happens ♥️ it will be OUR wedding OUR way! Thank you Jamie

  • @FanFickChick1992
    @FanFickChick1992 2 года назад +3

    To add to the cake thing, some people want a cake for the look and tradition, so in such a situation you can have a small wedding cake made to cut and take photos with, and serve much cheaper sheet cake on the side to your guests. It can be the same flavors and everything, it just doesn't cost as much to make and decorate.

  • @tashadenise7491
    @tashadenise7491 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much! I was feeling pressured to have a huge reception. So we’re doing Dessert only Reception . The catering alone cost more than my honeymoon and the venue. I refuse to go into debt for people who are just going to complain about the food anyway !

  • @candysmith8724
    @candysmith8724 Год назад +2

    Groom's cake is another item you can cut. Thanks for the modern wedding tips...our wedding will be our 3rd for both of us and we are both over 50. I was seeking ideas for a different kind of wedding.

  • @kionarandle710
    @kionarandle710 2 года назад +3

    I never considered not doing dinner for the reception but I think just appetizer, dessert, and drinks sounds amazing!!!

  • @MySweetIsabella
    @MySweetIsabella 4 года назад

    Jamie I love your channel and I look forward to your intro music and your “Bye guys!” exit. So cute!! and it just brightens my day when I watch your videos and how they’ve been helping me about wedding planning. Keep up the upbeat personality 😊

  • @juliacherkinian6300
    @juliacherkinian6300 4 года назад +10

    YOU DIDN'T SAY FAVORS!! *gasp* haha :)

  • @amberleyselesky6700
    @amberleyselesky6700 4 года назад +18

    You have been ESSENTIAL to planning my wedding! Love your content and your beautiful family!

  • @turtleena3280
    @turtleena3280 3 года назад +3

    It's nice to hear more people are going the nontraditional route. The ONLY wedding tradition I have any interest in keeping is the "trash can" gift tradition, which was created by my great uncle, and gets a lot of the family involved. Practical items, gag gifts, as long as you can tie it to the wash-line and fit it all in the garbage can, anything goes! :)

  • @Cayisle85
    @Cayisle85 4 года назад

    Honestly, your videos are absolutely clutch, and essential! Thank you! Thank you! They are a must for every bride & groom!

  • @lexythompson9131
    @lexythompson9131 4 года назад +8

    I love these types of videos. I hadn’t thought about the grand entrance part. We have a large wedding party so it would also cut down on time to skip a big entrance for them and do a casual one for just us

  • @melzcampo
    @melzcampo 4 года назад +1

    Thank you Jamie for all your tips and advice. Started watching your channel when i got engaged last year October. You’ve helped me a lot. Thank you ♥️

  • @amystronstad8273
    @amystronstad8273 4 года назад +5

    Absolutely love your content. Been watching on your personal channel too!
    An average UK wedding only has around 80 guests... and 4 bridesmaids/groomsmen. Its wild to think of such a large bridal party and large guest count in general!

  • @karenkirkpatrick7337
    @karenkirkpatrick7337 2 года назад +2

    Just watched three of your videos and appreciate your advice so much. I am happy to know that the things I think are superfluous are ok to skip. And I now know what guests will and won’t care about which will make planning much less burdensome. Kudos for great presentation!

  • @emilyrausch6328
    @emilyrausch6328 2 года назад

    I needed to hear this ❤️ Thank you!

  • @rubymoon9079
    @rubymoon9079 4 года назад +8

    I’ve been watching your videos throughout planning my wedding and they have been so helpful! I never thought I’d get married because I didn’t feel a lot of the traditions are ‘me’ and now I have realised I can make it however I want :) now I’m super excited to get married :) thank you Jamie 💕

  • @j.m.watson6884
    @j.m.watson6884 3 года назад +2

    Yessssss!!!! I just got engaged and you listed a bunch of stuff I really didn't want to do and for some reason it felt really nice to have a total stranger on youtube agree with me so THANK YOU. I hate cake! And I have too many close friends to choose a bridal party! You are hilarious!

  • @anumaaritsoini4656
    @anumaaritsoini4656 4 года назад

    Jamie you are so sweet totally my fav human here at RUclips! Thank you so much for all of your advices here. Love your channel and keep going back. Sending my best vibes and well wishes to you and your loved ones!
    Going to (hopefully still) have our wedding 1th of August with under 30 people total at a historical venue. Short lovely ceremony at outdoors park-like-garden area and then casually eating, drinking and having a good time together & looking around the venue (there is an art exhibition and the place have a long history + a few little things to get involved if wanted so). Then casually going together at local club if feeling like dancing a night away. Only traditions and/or well known wedding things we are going to have is my dad's speech.
    We are not into "wedding looking like wedding", dressing like a bride and groom, we don't have anything tossed, no games and quizzes nor anything leaded program, no traditional wedding food and no cake (still good warm food and dessert yes we have catering), no bridal/groom's party, no huge budget, no professional photo- or videographers (we are so lucky to have both a sister who is great with pro camera and want to give wedding photos as a wedding gift + we have a polaroid camera for quests to use).
    Just 2 of us getting married after 10 years together and having the nearest ones spending that special day with us.
    So what I am trying to say with this is that if you are reading this please remember that you and your soulmate are the most important so please do whatever you love to do with your wedding and that wedding day is just a one day and it's going to be lovely & you gonna have so much golden memories no matter what.

  • @kstephens1991
    @kstephens1991 3 года назад +5

    Omg I NEEDED to hear this at this exact moment! I’ve watched all your videos like 3 times through throughout this last year as I’ve been planning, but the grand entrance thing has been giving me issues and I’ve been wondering what to do. I feel such relief, and all it took was Jamie Wolfer telling me that I don’t need to do it! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @charitykennedy4020
    @charitykennedy4020 Год назад

    Loved this video. Thank you! 💜

  • @Belovelyava
    @Belovelyava 3 года назад

    1st time listener! I needed this reinforcement!

  • @TJAG4evr
    @TJAG4evr 4 года назад

    Watching all the ads to support you a little extra right now! Thanks for the ray of sunshine today.

  • @jessicatonnar5705
    @jessicatonnar5705 4 года назад +9

    Thanks Jaime! Now I can get rid of the cake and not feel guilty! My partner just hates cake and it’s expensive so we might have wedding pie and cookies 😊 love yah! Keep inspiring the world!

  • @livelongandprospermary8796
    @livelongandprospermary8796 4 года назад +3

    My guest list is 32 people myself and groom included. Our wedding officiant is my step brother. My ring bearer is my almost adult-teenage brother. Our desert is s’mores (outdoor September wedding). My photographer is my cousin (who is building a photography business). We hope it will naturally transition from wedding to reception and into bonfire party. Our wedding venue is also our lodging so no grand exit. Just casual big party and get together with our closest family/friends. It’s small and covid-approved.

  • @AliiReviews
    @AliiReviews 3 года назад +1

    Your channel is so amazing. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!!

  • @snuggieashley89
    @snuggieashley89 4 года назад

    I've been waiting for this video 🙌🏿

  • @ClareGreenan
    @ClareGreenan 4 года назад

    I LOVE watching your videos and saving them for the future!!

  • @Peachlover345
    @Peachlover345 4 года назад +20

    My wedding got postponed but I didn’t plan to do a bouquet toss in the original plan. I didn’t even realize that was a tradition I skipped! Still won’t do it haha!

    • @aurelijabud
      @aurelijabud 4 года назад

      I'm thinking about this one too. Honestly, I would love to preserve my wedding bouquet and I'm not ready to spend more money on the bouquet which I just toss...

    • @rubymoon9079
      @rubymoon9079 4 года назад

      My wedding is being postponed too :( but I feel like I can start fresh with my plans and it will hopefully be in spring so more flowers will be available so that’s a plus :)

  • @aeanaean3804
    @aeanaean3804 4 года назад

    This is so absolutely helpful! First time seeing your videos! Thank tou

  • @taylorforsythe3505
    @taylorforsythe3505 4 года назад +11

    Could you do a video on how to handle bridesmaids that you now regret asking to be a bridesmaid??😅 my maid of honor is my fiancé’s sister and it seems that she thinks it’s her wedding? Literally everything I do pisses her off and she complains about it to the other bridesmaids. And I. Can’t. Handle. It. Hellllppppp 😐😐😐

    • @jalynnwilliams6170
      @jalynnwilliams6170 2 года назад +1

      Oh gosh that’s terrible lol. I kinda don’t want bridesmaids I asked either. I just prefer my sister and my soon to be sister in law. Rather than them and three friends-ish.

    • @RenaRego
      @RenaRego Год назад

      Fire her. Don’t worry about hurting her feelings. She’ll get over it and will learn boundaries!

  • @amberquinlin1735
    @amberquinlin1735 4 года назад

    YES I’ve been waiting ❤️❤️❤️

  • @ashleypapp144
    @ashleypapp144 2 года назад

    Thank you for this!!!!

  • @missblueeys1999
    @missblueeys1999 4 года назад +34

    have you ever seen a wedding where there wasn’t a first dance? i’m planning my wedding right now and the idea of having a first dance makes me feel sick, as someone with anxiety i can’t stand the idea but i feel like everyone would expect it?

    • @xxkatiegracexx
      @xxkatiegracexx 4 года назад +12

      you don't have to! i'm the same way and we debated on having one or not. i'm 10000% for making your wedding about you two and things that make sense for you.

    • @missblueeys1999
      @missblueeys1999 4 года назад +1

      Katie Grace thank you! it’s become a real stress since he thinks we should because people will expect it, but it’s just not something i want to do!

    • @sophieh2902
      @sophieh2902 4 года назад +9

      Don't do it! If you're not comfortable with it, you will just be constantly stressing about it rather than enjoying your wedding. It might be worth thinking about a meaningful song for both of you play during the "dancing segment" and if you feel like it, have a dance.

    • @missblueeys1999
      @missblueeys1999 4 года назад

      Sophie H that’s a great idea! Although I don’t know if we could even come up with one together since our music tastes are sooo different haha

    • @CarolineCarnivorous
      @CarolineCarnivorous 4 года назад +2

      We're not doing ANY dances!

  • @siehelms1
    @siehelms1 4 года назад +6

    Thank you so much for this video! I’m supposed to be getting married in August (pending this virus situation). I have so much pressure from friends and family for certain things, and this video just reassured my feelings on some subjects! 💕

  • @lovelywishes4235
    @lovelywishes4235 4 года назад +1

    This video makes me feel so much better about my choices! I'm basically already not doing any of those things (except dinner, I am having dinner) and the fee people that are coming keep being shocked at all the things I'm doing nontraditional

  • @ambercaly4368
    @ambercaly4368 4 года назад +3

    Watching all those ads for ya girl ❤️

  • @augustanna8386
    @augustanna8386 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for this! I have been so stressed out about my upcoming wedding. One thing that stood out to me was the bouquet and garter tosses. I have always cringed at those. It always made me feel bad about being single.

  • @stardustmelody2709
    @stardustmelody2709 8 месяцев назад +1

    My stepson got married last year. They had a fancy, sit-down dinner and a DJ. Everybody left after the first dance because there wasn't any alcohol. Most people don't like to dance sober. The place was rented until midnight but everyone (except immediate family) had left by 7:30. The bride was heartbroken.

  • @allovertheplace277
    @allovertheplace277 2 года назад

    This was my first video 😊 thank you it really helped

  • @chamisaredmond3585
    @chamisaredmond3585 4 года назад

    Thank you. Nice to meet you.

  • @jennip8585
    @jennip8585 3 года назад

    I appreciate this immensely. Thank you. 💞

  • @colleenharding8665
    @colleenharding8665 Год назад

    Haven’t even listened yet, but I appreciate and need to hear this.

  • @GeoffrytheButler
    @GeoffrytheButler 4 года назад +4

    We're doing a grand entrance mainly because my fiance and I are extra as hell. It's something that we're genuinely excited for, and I totally understand how some brides and grooms would not be down for it.
    As for garter and bouquet toss, I think we're going to throw them at the same time, and whoever catches what can! Again, we're extra and would love to see our friends Duke it out (even though 90% are happily single and will likely run in the opposite direction 😂)

  • @thesavvyrose5453
    @thesavvyrose5453 3 года назад

    Great video Jamie! Saw your video on unique weddings also - could you share with us though some other/more reception ideas, games that are either untraditional or different or people tend to forget that you've seen? Things like the money dance, or the shoe game etc?

  • @poppy7415
    @poppy7415 4 года назад +6

    My mum had a cheese wedding cake and it was amazing.
    Also we are having a little cake and having our desert table.We are having cake, cupcakes, cake pops, shortbread, meringue kisses along with sweets. That is our desert for our meal

  • @tassiahartley1694
    @tassiahartley1694 Год назад

    Getting married this weekend and I have made all of these choices before seeing you. I am so glad I seen this because I was questioning choices!

  • @shaneilwhite2376
    @shaneilwhite2376 2 года назад

    I needed to hear this...

  • @AlohaAdri
    @AlohaAdri 4 года назад

    The video I needed THE MOST!! Thank u for taking all those stresses off of me!! Jamie made me do it🙊🙉🙈💕 You are definitely my excuse lol

  • @JCho-pi5jz
    @JCho-pi5jz 4 года назад

    I bought this using the coupon code, and I'm single... this is how you know shelter in place has driven me crazy. I bought it because I wanted to understand weddings as someone who never really cared before Jamie really made it an interesting and exciting topic with all her info on how a wedding is like a symphony and it all works together. It's really useful information.!!! I probably won't need it for longer than a month and debated returning but the info she gives is DEF worth $100. Thanks, Jamie, I love your content!

  • @annette.1030
    @annette.1030 4 года назад +3

    First minute of your vid and I had to comment: I don't mind the pre-recorded vids one bit! Bring em on!

  • @lexiejordie
    @lexiejordie 4 года назад +1

    Love this video Jamie! For officiant, depends on your state if they accept people that get certificate online (my state has strict rules on officiants). Another note is that my fiancé and I are having mixed gender sides (4 women 1 man for bridal party, 2 women 3 men for groomsmen) it’s all about who you want up there!

  • @colleenharding8665
    @colleenharding8665 Год назад

    First time. Thank you

  • @Chainie0505
    @Chainie0505 4 года назад

    Love ya 🙌🏽

  • @Jessicapinkrose06
    @Jessicapinkrose06 2 года назад

    You’re amazing!! Wish you were out of Sacramento! I would so hire you!

  • @MinnieMoo48
    @MinnieMoo48 4 года назад +1

    Jamie, you can repeat yourself anytime. As a subscriber, I love your channel and content. If it's really important, of course you're going to say it more than once!

  • @Jemgirl152
    @Jemgirl152 4 года назад

    Aww Jamie, I've never seen you look so sad. I want to give you a hug! I'm a bride who had to postpone and yes we totally got this!! Hang in there.

  • @girl8792
    @girl8792 4 года назад

    I am really proud that we did not do most of the things on your list (especially the little kid flower girl. Total fan girl moment but I digress). Thx for giving permission to those engaged couples who strive to have a wedding that is completely their own. ALSO YOUR ENDING IS ADORABLE AND I AM A HUGE FAN OF YOU AND YOUR LIFE AND YOUR BUSINESS

  • @connormanis2556
    @connormanis2556 4 года назад +1

    Love the lamps LOL

  • @anielajarosz6093
    @anielajarosz6093 4 года назад +1

    It's so much fun to see how many traditions are around the glob. I'm personally live in Poland and there's not such thing as grand exit, bride and groom just stays to the end of the party. Registry it's quite rere same as flower girls and ring bearer. And in legal way there is ceremony in a church or with official in city hall (or in any place you want with extra charge). And usually there's something name "oczepiny" which is around 12pm and it's time for games like tossing a bouquet (or a veil, with groom a tie)

  • @snemehta3274
    @snemehta3274 4 года назад +6

    Thank you for calling me a dedicated student, I feel very special haha

  • @annelieseott3804
    @annelieseott3804 4 года назад +2

    Yes!! Thank you! I'm not having cake at my wedding because I worked as a server at a wedding venue and SOOOOOOOO much cake is wasted. People don't want cake after eating appetizers, getting a drink, AND having a meal. We throw away most of the cake and it's a real shame. Also donuts and other desserts so so delicious, unique, and just not as heavy when you're about to dance.

  • @Melanie_gz
    @Melanie_gz 4 года назад

    Thank you for sharing this video and your insights! This is completely off topic but I LOVE your shirt in the beginning of the video! Would you mind sharing where you got it?!

  • @Rockingwithms.R
    @Rockingwithms.R 2 года назад

    I love you!!!!! Thank you!!!! 😊
    No grand entrance no grand exit lol

  • @nicolepatrick4743
    @nicolepatrick4743 4 года назад

    Love all this. We are doing ice cream instead of cake and are doing our “grand exit” style photos as we walk back up the aisle so we don’t have to pay the photographer to stay late. Plus everyone is already in one spot. Just seemed to make sense to us.

  • @kanishagrover8590
    @kanishagrover8590 4 года назад

    Thank you so much for this video! I am skipping the bridal party!!

  • @hks2456
    @hks2456 4 года назад

    Hi Jaime, love all of your videos and great money saving tips! Could you please do a video on all inclusive wedding venue such as Wedgewood Weddings? And, if you recommend going that route for destination wedding? Thanks!

  • @storiwhite2718
    @storiwhite2718 2 года назад +2

    We are doing bundt cakes for our wedding! And I'm having a Halloween pajama party for my bachelorette super fun but simple!

  • @krissyfabz5867
    @krissyfabz5867 4 года назад

    oh my gosh. thank you for enlightening me! a huge rock lifted off my shoulders now.. love you! 😘💕
    p.s. im not ditching the CAKE.. its the main attraction of the table 😂