I was a bridesmaid a few years ago. Leading up to the wedding, the maid of honor and I helped out with prepping decorations and stuff. Bridesmaid #2 didn't show up for any pre-wedding stuff. For the bachelorette party, we had a wine and paint night. MOH was in charge of food. I did wine. We kind of helped each other out on that as I had a food connection and don't drink wine. The other part of the bachelorette party was spending the night in a larger city a few hours away and doing a bunch of stuff there. BM#2 didn't come with us but another friend did. We figured out during this process that MOH was good with coming up with the overarching ideas, I was good with the details to make it happen, and the other friend was good with timing to keep us on schedule. Day of the wedding, BM#2 was late, wasn't ready for hair/ makeup, and flat out said she wished she wasn't asked to be in the party. The rest of us slipped into the tasks we were best suited for. MOH made sure everything was taken care of for the bride, I made sure evening was good for the ceremony site, and the friend who went with us on the trip made sure everything was good for the reception site. We made sure she got the wedding she wanted.
I've never been more obsessed with listening to videos that do not pertain to me yet😂. I love this channel and soon enough I will be putting these things to play!
I am married a looooong time ago (ok 6 years, but I am only 33), but I would love to hear your take on an annoying dilemma we had. We very, very clearly stated, we did not want gifts. We lived in a tiny place so we did not have room for a million things, we have quite specific dietrary prefrences that make it hard to buy consumables for us, flowers make me allergic and we do not have time to use 1000 different gift cards for experiences. But. At least half of the party brought gifts any way and while we outwardly and in theory appriciated the effort, it put a major burden on us finding out what to do with all this stuff. We ended up donating 99% of it, because we just did not need it, but that took alot of time and mental energy, especially getting to terms with that it was okay to donate it In quite a few of your videos you mention a honey fund as an alternative to gifts, but we really did not want to do that. We were amongst the top earners of the friend group and it felt strange to accept money from broke ass college kids. You have also suggested contributions to a charity as an alternative, but we felt funny about that as well, as the cause may not align with ppl. It can sort of just get muddy when there are exchanges of money or gifts involved with all the expectations ect. We thoroughly just wanted to focus on the party. Many have said to us, that we need to respect, that many people enjoy giving, but after thinking about if for years, i have decided, that my stand is that while i respect that, my explicit withdrawl of consent to recieve gifts trumps it. It is okay to not want to recieve anything - not even symbolic trinkets. The earth does not need more stuff. My question is, how the fuck do we get people to not bring anything? No food for a potlock, no drinks, no gifts, no money? Cause we plan on having a wild 10y celebration and I get an intense feeling of claustrophobia when I think about the gifts (the amount was insane at the wedding) Btw kept all the cards and from the get go said to people if they really wanted to gift us something, we solely wished for personalized letters
What about having more than one charity? Then, hopefully people could choose the one that best resonates with them? And maybe telling guests up front that all physical gifts/experiences received will be donated to charity as well? There's that saying, "The only gift we need is your presence." So, it's like... we don't need anything, but if you really want to, you can give to charity on our behalf or we will donate any gifts received. That way, if someone does it, they can't say they weren't warned!
One of my sister's is getting married and she made the rest of the sisters including me bridesmaids. We're all given responsibilities mine is Time Keeper. This was very helpful 🥰💯🙌 Thank you
So helpful! I'm discussing wiith my groom who is useless (but really into cars, so he is in charge of transport) and my MoH who used to help me put together theatre productions 😂 we got this
Honest question, I have seen your pricing video, but it still negated the fact that Why do wedding vendors charge a ridiculous amount??? My mom used to do coordinating a couple years back and only charged an honest $800 in San Diego CALIFORNIA and she did okay for once a week!! But every vendor like; flowers, coordinating, photography, $4,000+ what’s with the markup? A job with a decent paying degree, less than $1,000 for 40 hours, but $4,000 for one week, I HIGHLY HIGHLY doubt the labor is 40+ hours too. My fiancée and I are just in shocked that just because the word “wedding” is in it we have to pay 50% more like what the heck!
Def pay your wedding party if they are really good at crafting. Because centerpieces, signs, etc takes hours and expecting hundreds and thousands of dollars of work for free because I’m your friend is a little unfair. I have this happen to me all the time. I’m happy to help but I’m not DIYing everything for you because you don’t want to pay to have it done
The podcast was good this week! I’ve been listening to a lot of them back to back while I am working at my desk job and they are such good Content! I’d love if you did a long episode every once in a while, because I am running out of content to listen to at work for eight hours.🫠
How did you know that this was the EXACT video I needed this week
Same! First one of my siblings and friend group getting married, so going into all this stuff blind!
I was a bridesmaid a few years ago. Leading up to the wedding, the maid of honor and I helped out with prepping decorations and stuff. Bridesmaid #2 didn't show up for any pre-wedding stuff. For the bachelorette party, we had a wine and paint night. MOH was in charge of food. I did wine. We kind of helped each other out on that as I had a food connection and don't drink wine. The other part of the bachelorette party was spending the night in a larger city a few hours away and doing a bunch of stuff there. BM#2 didn't come with us but another friend did. We figured out during this process that MOH was good with coming up with the overarching ideas, I was good with the details to make it happen, and the other friend was good with timing to keep us on schedule.
Day of the wedding, BM#2 was late, wasn't ready for hair/ makeup, and flat out said she wished she wasn't asked to be in the party. The rest of us slipped into the tasks we were best suited for. MOH made sure everything was taken care of for the bride, I made sure evening was good for the ceremony site, and the friend who went with us on the trip made sure everything was good for the reception site.
We made sure she got the wedding she wanted.
I've never been more obsessed with listening to videos that do not pertain to me yet😂. I love this channel and soon enough I will be putting these things to play!
I immediately laughed at "NARS palettes"
I am married a looooong time ago (ok 6 years, but I am only 33), but I would love to hear your take on an annoying dilemma we had. We very, very clearly stated, we did not want gifts. We lived in a tiny place so we did not have room for a million things, we have quite specific dietrary prefrences that make it hard to buy consumables for us, flowers make me allergic and we do not have time to use 1000 different gift cards for experiences.
But. At least half of the party brought gifts any way and while we outwardly and in theory appriciated the effort, it put a major burden on us finding out what to do with all this stuff. We ended up donating 99% of it, because we just did not need it, but that took alot of time and mental energy, especially getting to terms with that it was okay to donate it
In quite a few of your videos you mention a honey fund as an alternative to gifts, but we really did not want to do that. We were amongst the top earners of the friend group and it felt strange to accept money from broke ass college kids.
You have also suggested contributions to a charity as an alternative, but we felt funny about that as well, as the cause may not align with ppl.
It can sort of just get muddy when there are exchanges of money or gifts involved with all the expectations ect. We thoroughly just wanted to focus on the party.
Many have said to us, that we need to respect, that many people enjoy giving, but after thinking about if for years, i have decided, that my stand is that while i respect that, my explicit withdrawl of consent to recieve gifts trumps it.
It is okay to not want to recieve anything - not even symbolic trinkets. The earth does not need more stuff.
My question is, how the fuck do we get people to not bring anything? No food for a potlock, no drinks, no gifts, no money? Cause we plan on having a wild 10y celebration and I get an intense feeling of claustrophobia when I think about the gifts (the amount was insane at the wedding)
Btw kept all the cards and from the get go said to people if they really wanted to gift us something, we solely wished for personalized letters
What about having more than one charity? Then, hopefully people could choose the one that best resonates with them? And maybe telling guests up front that all physical gifts/experiences received will be donated to charity as well? There's that saying, "The only gift we need is your presence." So, it's like... we don't need anything, but if you really want to, you can give to charity on our behalf or we will donate any gifts received. That way, if someone does it, they can't say they weren't warned!
The most important is the wedding coordinator!!
I am SO bookmarking this for later!
One of my sister's is getting married and she made the rest of the sisters including me bridesmaids. We're all given responsibilities mine is Time Keeper. This was very helpful 🥰💯🙌 Thank you
You are my fairy godmother. Always such amazing and thoughtful advice.
Ooh good tip on the speaker! Yoink!
So helpful! I'm discussing wiith my groom who is useless (but really into cars, so he is in charge of transport) and my MoH who used to help me put together theatre productions 😂 we got this
What are traditional mom of the bride and mom of the groom jobs? How about the fathers?
My first time watching a video since being engaged! Whoop whoop, I needed this!
So happy I discovered you!!! Thank you for all of these incredible resources
Do you have a video on ways to create a smooth transition with guests if wedding and reception are 5 miles apart?
And tear down is often/always complicated by people who’ve been drinking. Plus what if someone gets hurt? It’s serious.
Another awesome video Jamie
Very helpful video! Currently trying to figure out which bridesmaid wears a watch... and looks at it. Uh oh...😂
Is there a list of breakdowns of tasks and items to put in an excel sheet?
This is just what I needed! Thank you so much!! 🙏🙏🙏
Honest question, I have seen your pricing video, but it still negated the fact that Why do wedding vendors charge a ridiculous amount??? My mom used to do coordinating a couple years back and only charged an honest $800 in San Diego CALIFORNIA and she did okay for once a week!! But every vendor like; flowers, coordinating, photography, $4,000+ what’s with the markup? A job with a decent paying degree, less than $1,000 for 40 hours, but $4,000 for one week, I HIGHLY HIGHLY doubt the labor is 40+ hours too. My fiancée and I are just in shocked that just because the word “wedding” is in it we have to pay 50% more like what the heck!
I was wondering, of how to delegate tasks, for my bridesmaids.
Love this!! ❤️
Where do the bags go and who takes them?
How do I know how to ask if they actually have the skill with what they want to help with without being weird about it 😅?
I will do the things 😉😂😂 xx
Wow this title, like how did you know?!
i’ve never been this early
Def pay your wedding party if they are really good at crafting. Because centerpieces, signs, etc takes hours and expecting hundreds and thousands of dollars of work for free because I’m your friend is a little unfair. I have this happen to me all the time. I’m happy to help but I’m not DIYing everything for you because you don’t want to pay to have it done
The podcast was good this week! I’ve been listening to a lot of them back to back while I am working at my desk job and they are such good Content! I’d love if you did a long episode every once in a while, because I am running out of content to listen to at work for eight hours.🫠