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Hey Julian I struggle with extreme anxiety, but not social anxiety more like a fear of time and being stagnant from a 9-5! I lost my job recently and my mom is my roommate she needed my help, but It’s impossible to help her with the hole I’ve dug, I’ll have to move out and find her a roommate? I’m trying to avoid this reality and delivering groceries w favor for money, as well as starting to hustle on RUclips! I’m 98% sure I won’t be able to pay nearly any of the bills because it’s not working, and even if I got a job it would take about a month and a half to get a first paycheck and she couldn’t afford that! How can I help her soon? I hope you read this and much love to you sincerely! I have the drive and ideas to change the world I just need the time to create the art to express myself!
That man will make it. His level of awareness, his intelligence, his dedication [working on himself]. He needs to give himself permission to finally evolve to the form he is designed for because of his positive traits, not the one he programmed into his head believing his not destined to be great. Nobody is.
That moment when he asked, "When did you get hurt," I knew exactly what that guest had going through his head. That debate about whether he should be vulnerable or not. "I'll look weak and be laughed at if I'm honest about this." Anybody with a similar experience can see it written all over his face.
Yes, a very common form of inner resistance... What's great though, is that even if he doesn't verbally express it, the associated sensations surfaced which he can then LET GO of! 🙏
@@JulienHimself I saw a lot of myself in this guy. Especially when he talked about not living up to his potential. That's a feeling I wrestle with regularly. He's on the right path. All he has to do is trust his internal compass. Thank you for doing the work you do. Keep it up
Used to hate having those panic attacks from anxiety, I forced myself out into the world so I could feel comfortable in that awkward space. I accepted who I was and didn’t care what others said. And if they did say something I made sure to assert myself to them. Took a good 14 years
Roko Grga I used to cower in a crowd or In small social settings even though I was 6”3. Let others walk all over me, I hold my head high now let my presence be known. I have a great career an wife two kids. None of this would of happened if I stayed in my comfort zone.
For me it’s HUMILITY and the ability to never take yourself seriously. These two things have always allowed me to interact with other people better. Also, don’t force shit, love on people, focus on what YOU can bring to others WITHOUT being overbearing. In other words, get the fuck out of your ego. If you find yourself getting anxious or unconfident you just made it about you, and this one should statement has ALWAYS made me feel better, IT’S NOT ABOUT ME.
Yeah dude i agree with you 100%. There was one time i let go of all my pride and went to the grocery store to pickup an item and my confidence was like no other, it was just me and everybody else but I wasnt in my head or worried about how id appear because i dropped most of my pride. I wasnt even self conscious. Even nowadays, the second i stop giving a fuck about every little shit and just let go, i get confident as fuck lol. Its like all that playing in your head and making it about you ruins you, now that I look back it seems pretty hurtful to your self esteem.
This poor guy was so resistant to revealing himself up there on stage, he processed his every word through a filter and it really triggered me at first, frustrating me that he was being so guarded while having this tremendous opportunity. I almost turned the video off because it was so hard to watch him struggle through this and not grab it by the horns! But then I put myself in his shoes and tried to remember back to how I would have handled this situation before I started working on myself years and years ago. And my God, compared to the wreck I was this was an absolutely amazing display of courage by this young man. Hope he takes what he accomplished here and runs with it.
Really diving deep and self-introspecting isn't easy... There's a LOT of resistance! Although he did struggle, this was a HUGE step for him and massive respect to him for diving deep! 🙏
I usually cringe when watching thing like this but for some reason this time i didn’t. It seemed like he put thought into his answers to be as honest and forthcoming as possible. Very inspiring. I don’t look at him as a sob story because he seems to be headed in the right direction. God speed
This is really what transformation is about... being 100% real with yourself. No barriers, just expressing and embracing the truth of what you feel. Or that's the starting point at least. Great content as always Julien 🙏🏻
@@JulienHimself I’m 17 I honestly just got in this leadership position and your videos have truly been helpful throughout my journey. I really appreciate you for being you and doing what you do. Much love to you man.
@@boatfloat123 the happier you are, the less you judge. Because judging others is a reflection of what you don't like in yourself or because you want the laugh and validation of the people around you. But because you currently don't like yourelf and need validation, you yourself judge others which leads you to believe everyone judges other. Because we believe everyone thinks the same way we do.
Ultimately it's about changing your relationship with uncertainty. When you want to meet someone or in this case speak to an audience of strangers, you don't know how they will react. This state of uncertainty is extremely uncomfortable for the majority of people just learning this stuff. Not only does it prevent them from taking action it also affects ability to present in a charismatic fashion. You just can’t be present or confident while feeling anxiety. You are very aware of being observed when you initially meet other people, and therefore (given social conditioning) being judged. Anxiety follows directly from anticipation of judgement, altering your inner environment so your energies are controlled, blocked, repressed, concealed or otherwise interfered with. The work we do in our programs aims to diagnose these blockages so you can begin the process of releasing them and replacing their manifestations in your life.
My biggest challenge in life has been learning to embrace the uncertainty of it all. I had challenges in my upbringing, same as anyone, and so I wanted to control my environment as much as possible as I grew older, to limit the amount of flack I would take from the triggers and stressors that impacted me most. And so I was someone really drawn to movies, especially those featuring cool-as-a-cucumber characters that always knew what to say in every situation and shrugged off adversity with ease. And my solution to the uncertainties of life as a teenager was to try to emulate these movie characters as closely as possible, reacting to life in the manner I would imagine they would, and just completely losing my own identity in the process. It helped for a little while in that it created the illusion that I had everything under control, I was able to fool myself into believing I had created a persona that could handle anything just like in the movie. . But of course, life doesn't unfold like a movie whatsoever, where everything is scripted out and preordained. And so after realizing this wasn't anything approaching a fulfilling or healthy way to exist I had to begin looking inward and working on myself rather than constantly searching for a new and better FRONT to hide behind! And one of the things I have to work on everyday still is learning to embrace the uncertainty of life rather than try to figure out the formula to best it. Because there is no such thing as being able to calculate and control every outcome, that's the path to either madness or paralysis. The key is to work on yourself so that you have the strength, character and confidence to take on all comers in life. And I'm most definitely still a work in progress in that regard, but at least now I know for sure what is the best path to follow, and that is to grab hold of life's uncertainty by the horns and ride it out!
I wonder if you have any recommendations for fear of Hell. I grew up religious but have become an atheist about 10 yrs ago. I keep getting stuck on the fear of hell. Unfortunately, there is no way to prove that God is not real, and that there is no Hell. But this feels like the ultimate fear of uncertainty that cannot be resolved.
It's amazing how much you can learn about yourself and how your mind works from listening to someone else honestly open up about their thought processes.
Me2. I was isolated by this one girl from the group. I don't know y but I think it's because of her daddy issue( I got to know later) she took it out on me.
Huge props to this man for being vulnerable in front of millions of eyes. A lot of what he’s feeling is resonant with me. I had had a similar path to his in my upbringings. One thing I’ve learned from my therapist, is that true healing can only be done from within. There are many ways to do it. But, this has been the key tool in conquering my internal issues that were impeding the quality of my life.
5:55 I knew he ll say “both”. Looking at him in this moment almost made me cry. He has so much strength inside of him. Incredible level of awareness. He can shed old programming with therapy.
There's ALWAYS STRENGTH IN VULNERABILITY. I commend him for exercising his muscle, all the while encouraging and fueling all of us in the comments to do the same thing. Kudos ‼️
I still have some social anxiety, but I overcame a LOT of my social anxiety as an introvert when I worked as a salesman. It forced me to be good at talking with people. I've been thankful for that job everyday because it helped me in so many ways. I'm still trying to be better at socializing, so here I am!
I'm also getting into sales in a couple days and I can see how it can help me with my social anxiety. But I guess it's hard in the beginning, right? I just hope I don't ruin it in the middle of the process lol In the past I used to search for remote jobs because of my anxiety, but I became sick of it and I wanna change. I don't wanna be a slave to fear for the rest of my life.
@@maisatsuj it will take some time to adjust to in the beginning, but you’ll eventually get used to it and your confidence will only build stronger as you progress. You got this!
Holy shit, I'm really proud of this man for showing his vulnerabilities. i relate to his struggles, helped me realise and grow in awareness of my own stuff I need to work on. Big ups man, may you find yourself and prosper in abundance in life.🍀🌟
This guy seems to present a fantastic ability to think and communicate at a high level considering he is under an intense amount of pressure. When I get this pressure I typically start making dumb jokes or saying dumb things because I can't think straight under that social pressure. Kuddos to him! I hope he finds peace and groundedness within himself
Yeah he's got it real easy compared to a lot of people, a lot of people have something beyond anxiety, it's really like being mentally paralyzed where u can't think of anything to say and can't do anything effectively
@@erawwwww I wouldn't say he has it easy per se. On the outside, he is able to show that be can still communicate well. Often the ones suffering the most will show it the least, it would be unfair to say he has it any better or worse than anyone else
@@mitchwow5325 well im saying got it easy in terms of hes not shitting so much bricks that he can speak coherently with a decent tone ,he can ponder his thoughts, appear relaxed no sweating no fidgeting no shakiness, compared to people who are shitting so much bricks they cant say anything without shaking sweating horrible fatigue like tonality or very soft feminine like, like i said he probably does have some nervousness some anxiety but evidently doesnt have it where its even worse than anxiety and is basically like being mentally paralyzed
@@erawwwww I totally see your point, and perhaps social anxiety isn't his weakest point directly. However, when he goes home, who knows how much worse he feels. There's also a good chance he's put in a lot of work to appear composed and is at war with himself mentally to continue to maintain that composure. If that's the case,then he's surely gone through a lot of shit to get there and that deserves an applaud rather than being overlooked. It's always hard recognize when someone is in a great deal of pain when they are so good at masking it, or when they have worked exceptionally hard to combat it and that doesn't get any recognition. With these points, I believe it is very unfair to say someone has it easy, it is extremely difficult to judge someone's suffering and compare it to another's because we are all so different from one another and feel things differently at different times. With that being said, I do see where you are coming from, as it does appear to be the dream to be more under control and dialed in, in situations like this video shows.
The thing that helped me with the subject of social phobia is to do a momentary meditation, to stop my thoughts by focusing on a small point around me for 20 seconds, and this brings the body back to its normal state and thinking to its normal state as well
Man this dude is brave to sit there, being as scared as he is - and not steering away from the questions. He answers even though he is terrified. At his heart he is a good guy. I truly wish the best for him.
Thanks for this Julien. A reminder to stick with the anxiety rather than run away from it…. Unfortunately it’s not easy, and I got drunk on Sunday running away from it 🏃🏽♂️
No joke 60-90 mins after watching this and my own introspection, became aware of refrigerator hum victim identity and self-talk in my mind telling me I didn't deserve success or deserve to be taken seriously because I'm 5'8". It's just so deeply embedded, I normalized it! It's why I look up to guys like Owen, Jeff, etc to destroy limiting beliefs. After that, I was able to visualize (for the first time ever), deserving to be the center of attention in a club. Thanks Julien :)
I’m 6’3 and my cousin is 5’8 and he is the most confident & respected person I know, literally the life of the party, while I’m the most insecure and anxious person he knows. I’m actually the tallest person in my family, and believe it or not, being the tallest person in the room gives me allot undesired attention. Tall people are expected to be more attractive, confident, “cool” etc and I’m just not what people consider to be the expectations with someone my height or looks. If I had a quarter for every time someone told me “You should be a football linebacker.” because of my stature I’d be rich. I have no interest in football whatsoever. Just keep improving brother, it’s all in your head.
I have an interview next week and i'm overwhelmed with the feeling of anxiety that i can't focus on preparing. I feel like i don't have much to say that i'll be stuck in awkward silence moments. Thanks for these videos they help.
if there will be 'akward silence moments' thats the fault of the interviewer, just be in the present moment and dont drain yourself with thinking. goodluck with your interview.
Good luck bruv, you will nail it as long as you remain personable and realize there is NO such thing as perfection. You won't have the right answer for everything, you don't want the right answer to everything, that's a computer, that's not a human being. Don't over prepare, whatever you do!
Well I did it. I posted a small art video, it's definitely not much but it was everything I needed to make. I'm done feeling like an imposter, done with the self hate and I'm embracing the hard. I think of something being hard as an advantage now because of you, because not everyone will embrace the difficulty and step out of their comfort zone. This is everything I needed! I will see everyone here in their success soon and it'll be amazing! You got this! Thank you Julien.
“Letting myself crook comfort and fade away into that” I really resonate with that. And as for the worst fears out of the four you asked, oddly enough it’s fear of living alone for me. I don’t need so many friends or anything but living life without a partner would be rough. I feel like I could be happy with a partner never living up to my potential or being good enough, but having the latter two without a partner would still suck. It’s been hard to push myself to try and meet someone.
A lot of risk in that, but at the end of the day you only need love from yourself honestly, I think your mindset is concerning, it's great you acknowledge that fear though.
I think what he said is really about loving yourself to the max that you allow yourself to succeed and it blends with consistency as well, great video btw
well "become socially unstoppable“ isn't the best way to name this video 😂 but the content that has been offered here is still pretty valuable so thanks!
I can relate to this guy on so many levels! I’m happy hes putting in the work, letting go of the toxic shame and forgiving/being kind to himself! Love this.
I dig deep 24/7 and sometimes that really stresses out people around me, but I feel like it’s better to do it now, then forget about it and hope I remember some day. “I feel it now I need to do this”
Holy shiet, I felt every question as if Julien was asking me directly, and then thinking my own answers and listening this man answering made me have that "almost about to cry" voice. Kudos to this man. I wish him the best in life.
Julian is a pillar of knowledge, hope, and guidance for us who experience social anxiety. Julian, I have to say that your content has helped me so much with letting go of my past trauma and focusing on living in the present moment. I would love to come to one of these conferences sometime. How could I go about doing this? Thank you either way 🙏🏻
Highly recommend attending any of his events... I've only been to one, but that has been very powerful. I was able to let go of demons I didn't even know I had lol. All the best 🙏🏻
The worst challenge to find a job to me is the feeling that I am not sufficient for such responsibilities or tasks. So I've been working at a Call center for the past 3 years even though I have social anxiety. I always feel like an Imposter who will eventually be caught and fired
It’s all in the mind. Best way to overwrite anxiety is to learn the art of not giving a faq! It simply does not matter…be yourself and express your thoughts…if you feel anxiety buildup, take a huge breath and exhale. You will feel so much better…upon repetition it will become almost non existent.
I agree, don't give a fuck, be the best version of yourself and keep moving forward no matter what because you're not going to have any choice anyway. This is why having goals are so important in life. And I mean mainly work goals. Whether short or long, by constantly setting goals for yourself, your mind has always something to work on and look forward to. Doesn't matter if you succeed or fail because it's all about the process and journey throughout life. And that journey, whatever it is is much better to participate in than walking around aimless and miserable. So keep striving for those goals, whatever they might be! Other than that, just take care of whatever needs you have in the moment, although be careful not to give in to your impulses all the time because they can ruin you.
this guy is a CHAMPION, so easy to believe and pay attention to, I wish you the very best for the future if you read this man, you've inspired me to be so fearlessly honest and vulnerable 👏
I really respect this man for being so honest. That is very brave to express his inner feelings of hurt and pain. He expressed himself very well. Strength and greatness to you brother!
The fear of not fulfilling my true potential Lack of consistency The pain of not knowing who tf I am Always feeling broken But Always holding on to hope that things will get better
Just being out in general public I get anxious. I use headphones as a sort of social pacifier and use minimal eye contact. I'll try to welcome the anxiety next time I'm out.
"Ceiling of success." I'm having the same problem. It's tough to stay on a good level. I try to be calm when I'm too energetic, and try to amp up when I'm not. It's a helluva see-saw. Thankfully I'm getting a hang of it now.
My impression of him after watching the clip is that he has a very good soul, as if a child is talking from him, but he doesn't think of himself that way. I often do that, I keep imagining that people have a bad impression of me, but in reality it turns out not to be so.
8:50 The question what do you fear most is very interesting. It seems as though what you fear most is a byproduct of what is currently happening and feels like work that will eventually "pay off" when you defeat it. For me, my biggest fear isn't not being able to live up to my potential, but rather not being good enough. This is the area where I feel insufficient. I know I can achieve a lot of things if I put my mind to it, I've already achieved quite a bit. But for me, I've never felt ___ enough (in my case it's that im not fun enough to have better friendships, relationships etc. I can only find energy to work). What I've noticed is that my problem is very similar to his. My mentality has always been that one day it will just click and I'll be good. But the rebound is always there and a new mindset is required. The toll that takes is compounding, and can make you feel lows you never thought possible. With the occasional high every once in a while. For him, not living up to his potential is his biggest fear of his given choices. This makes sense, given he's explained he isn't happy with his body and would want to achieve a better one, but knows he'd rebound. Firstly, to defeat your fear means to change your way of thinking and way of life. There is no destination so to speak. It's just a new path that goes on forever. Our fears are literally manifested within us already, and adaption of mindset could very well be a way of solving the issue.
The man has a high self-awareness when he said that he started eating voraciously because he was exposed to a bad situation and started trying to please others and so on.
I relate to this guy a lot. I have very few moments in which I felt unstoppable and felt that I could really make something of myself, whatever that meant. Then, like he said, I got to that tipping point of feeling great and then almost didn't know where to go after that and then followed by the drop of not continuing that mindset, that feeling. Might sound weird, the attractive woman next to him, being in the presence of a woman like that alone would make me feel uneasy and nervous. I think that comes from my early introduction to porn as a kid and starting to like females, knowing full well that they never would like me. This is already a long comment, but the last thing I'll say is, when it comes to women, social skills, feeling good about myself enough to keep growing, it's been a huge hurdle to get over. I've made some headway but not enough to satiate where, who, and what I am in my life. I hope this guy gets to a place in his life that is fulfilling. I really do.
Its crazy how different you are compared to the videos with Owen back in the days. Basically all you teach is what you have learned the past years while you already teached ( on a lower quality). You‘re definetely more relatable now on your own, it seems like you were suffering authenticy in that owen phase and ur now able to bring your own perspective into it a bit more, which makes you definetely more confident. Keep going
Julian you do realise that you are the messiah to anyone cursed with anxiety, I want to be around you or chat to you in a discord and just let you're supreme self confidence inspire me to attack life and show my absolute acceptance of my anxiety to where I can act like im in a movie playing a character with Julians complete charms and magnetism, everyone respects him like hes a hero very quickly and you know this is a man that can save us he knows me like no one in my real life knows me truly. Now we know there is hope to take back our minds and then our destiny. Now any irish people hear hit this likes so we can show how popular he'd be in ireland. Julian I don't know if you have even considered going to Ireland but we need you, I would love to go up and crumble on your stage and then rebuild myself right there and actually overcome it all and feel full of hope and belief. Seriously wed love to have you. Anyone irish wants to have him tour here hit like let's go😎
This guy seems surprisingly well at public speaking, I would speculate from his occupation, dressed well. He has the potential to go far...Sure he's overweight but the dude has confidence at a glance. He's a large guy in general, I know how that feels being 6 3, you stand out and get more looks which plays into social anxiety...
Honestly, it looks and sounds like he has ADHD. Not in his physical appearance or voice, but in how he explains things about himself. I literally say almost the same things about myself internally, as well as others diagnosed, as he says externally. It's just a thing that even if we understand the issue, want to fix the issue, try to address it internally, something just doesn't *click*. From the simple easy 30 second things, to bigger things. Even to explain one of the things I do, knowing how utterly ridiculous and irrational it is, even calling/texting my family on the phone is really nerve-wracking ALOT to where I'm bad at keeping in touch despite how close and loving we are. It's a lot
Yes me too, calling people is a serious weird fear of mine, I’d rather talk to someone face to face than call them, cos I can’t see how they are truly reacting to our conversation. Obvs their voice changes but I’ve learnt to read body language over the years so maybe that’s why It affects me so much, I hope ur thoughts get better with time! ❤️
NOBODY MAKES YOU Feels NERVOUS nobody makes YOU FEEL ANYTHING WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION..thoughts an feelings is harmless without your reaction you can think about being depressed its the identification thats the problem meaning believing it ,just be watcher of it thoughts an feelings come an go but you remain
"Just don't identify with depression, bro." If it was that easy humanity would live happily ever after. People make you feel things because that is basic biology. As a social animal it is crucial for humans to depend their actions upon the feedback they get from others to not be cast out from society. That is why rejection needs to hurt as much as possible, that is why bullying kills your self esteem, that is why the most extroverted people are the most attractive. To explain human nature and feeling, look no further than biology.
Dude was awesome, It's addicting to watch these people be authentic. I wish I could answer questions like him though, he just thinks for 5 seconds and something comes up. You ask me one of those questions and I just blank. Happiest day of my life, worst day, most embarassing moment, most angry moment, no clue...
This is better than a 1 on 1 therapy.. in a group setting where everyone can relate and is there to help each other and not judge. Not easy.. but it won’t change you if it was. Moral of all this, the mind is very manipulative.. fear, doubt, trauma. That movie “Inside out” apply that to real life, sadness, anger or even none of the emotions would be present for those with anxiety instead in the mind would be abducted by imposters(filtering speaking)
I feel relieved when I can just crash on the bottom because caring so much about everything all the time every second feels like such agonizing burden.
I can see myself in this dude, I afraid to end up like him (with all the respect) this video gave me a lot of points that I can apply on my own life, thanks Julien!
I really wish that 30 seconds into this guy telling what makes him feel anxiety. That instead of a follow up up question, he would been like, "95 plus % of everyone in this room identifies with what you just said. And you don't know how much you just helped them."
I think a lot of people don’t get that the way you think and look is ultimately a reflec tion of yourself. So when you stop, you go right back down. Lifestyle changes need to occur forcefully, aslong as you’re happy with the changes you make
People consistently confuse social ineptness with social anxiety, so they think once they overcome the latter, they will magically transform into this witty, charismatic, magnetic person. Nope. Social adeptness is more complicated than that and to some extent, innate. This guy didn't even need to get up on the stage, he's a natural.
I know exactly where this man is coming from. All my life I sought validation from people by being the nice guy. When they would abuse me I tried to be even nicer. I didn't know why until my mother died and with research found out she was a narcissistic parent. I had to be her caregiver and also had to deal with all her insecurities because she was a very vey skinny woman which she was ashamed of. I had to watch everything I said to her because she was soooo sensitive. In turn this made me afraid to have boundaries with everyone I met. My first wife was the same way and my wife now has those traits also. With my knowledge our whole marriage dynamic has changed since she knows I will not put up with any abuse especially all the maniputive emotional abuse. I've even learned what my wife's mother did to her to cause her to be this way. I call it out now and I can tell she doesn't like that I don't think she is this perfect person that I put on a pedestal anymore. By watching videos like this I've learned to have boundaries and to not seek constant validation from outside sources. I've lost some close friends since I've changed but I really don't consider them friends if the only reason they were with me is because I was someone they could put their stuff on to. I'm still a working on myself but I love how far I have come from where I was at.
no offense but its astounding how some people drive all their self confidence and speechiness on how their body looks, especially nowadays. Here we see: Personality is so important
It ALL starts with this type of deep awareness! 👉 This video will provide you with a new approach to overcoming anxiety for good!
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Lots of great content coming out, thanks for the hard work Julien
@@grahamhartmann940 🙏🙏🙏
I love your stuff man. I need to book myself for one of these.
I know exactly what he meant by when he said about his parents not reciprocating when he was young and being outgoing
Hey Julian I struggle with extreme anxiety, but not social anxiety more like a fear of time and being stagnant from a 9-5! I lost my job recently and my mom is my roommate she needed my help, but It’s impossible to help her with the hole I’ve dug, I’ll have to move out and find her a roommate? I’m trying to avoid this reality and delivering groceries w favor for money, as well as starting to hustle on RUclips! I’m 98% sure I won’t be able to pay nearly any of the bills because it’s not working, and even if I got a job it would take about a month and a half to get a first paycheck and she couldn’t afford that! How can I help her soon? I hope you read this and much love to you sincerely! I have the drive and ideas to change the world I just need the time to create the art to express myself!
That man will make it. His level of awareness, his intelligence, his dedication [working on himself]. He needs to give himself permission to finally evolve to the form he is designed for because of his positive traits, not the one he programmed into his head believing his not destined to be great. Nobody is.
Yes, letting go of that negative programming is the way! Massive respect to him for having the courage and willingness to do the work! 🔥👊
Well daid
@@jg2554 well daid indeed
Well daid mate
Well daid 👊
Under anxiety he's actually very well spoken.
tbh he dosent even seem anxious at all
@@Majin33 because he choosed death. I mean he welcome the anxiety
That's what all of us anxious person feels
@@Majin33 lol ikr
Yeah I wouldnt have done that well
That moment when he asked, "When did you get hurt," I knew exactly what that guest had going through his head. That debate about whether he should be vulnerable or not. "I'll look weak and be laughed at if I'm honest about this." Anybody with a similar experience can see it written all over his face.
Yes, a very common form of inner resistance... What's great though, is that even if he doesn't verbally express it, the associated sensations surfaced which he can then LET GO of! 🙏
@@JulienHimself I saw a lot of myself in this guy. Especially when he talked about not living up to his potential. That's a feeling I wrestle with regularly. He's on the right path. All he has to do is trust his internal compass.
Thank you for doing the work you do. Keep it up
@@JulienHimself Ahhh a breath of fresh air
Used to hate having those panic attacks from anxiety, I forced myself out into the world so I could feel comfortable in that awkward space. I accepted who I was and didn’t care what others said. And if they did say something I made sure to assert myself to them. Took a good 14 years
Congrats mate
and what are you better at now? What changed in your life?
Roko Grga I used to cower in a crowd or In small social settings even though I was 6”3. Let others walk all over me, I hold my head high now let my presence be known. I have a great career an wife two kids. None of this would of happened if I stayed in my comfort zone.
@@sikone8672 I’m proud of u man
Can you give us exact steps how you overcame anxiety
For me it’s HUMILITY and the ability to never take yourself seriously. These two things have always allowed me to interact with other people better. Also, don’t force shit, love on people, focus on what YOU can bring to others WITHOUT being overbearing. In other words, get the fuck out of your ego. If you find yourself getting anxious or unconfident you just made it about you, and this one should statement has ALWAYS made me feel better, IT’S NOT ABOUT ME.
Preach. I’m trying got get better at this
Yeah letting yourself be imperfect, beacuse all humans are.
Well said. The ego definitely gets in the way
Yeah dude i agree with you 100%. There was one time i let go of all my pride and went to the grocery store to pickup an item and my confidence was like no other, it was just me and everybody else but I wasnt in my head or worried about how id appear because i dropped most of my pride. I wasnt even self conscious. Even nowadays, the second i stop giving a fuck about every little shit and just let go, i get confident as fuck lol. Its like all that playing in your head and making it about you ruins you, now that I look back it seems pretty hurtful to your self esteem.
@@DibbzTV if i were you, stop giving a fuck about everything and just live your life.
how tf is this not viral, this is like one of the most interesting content ive ever seen on social media...
I resonate so much with this guy. He's very intuitive, empathetic, self-aware and brave. It'll get better dude
This guy is so real with himself.
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That’s the key don’t lie to yourself and you won’t get twisted .!
Then why does he look like this
@@gibememoni real in this moment* fair point
This poor guy was so resistant to revealing himself up there on stage, he processed his every word through a filter and it really triggered me at first, frustrating me that he was being so guarded while having this tremendous opportunity. I almost turned the video off because it was so hard to watch him struggle through this and not grab it by the horns! But then I put myself in his shoes and tried to remember back to how I would have handled this situation before I started working on myself years and years ago. And my God, compared to the wreck I was this was an absolutely amazing display of courage by this young man. Hope he takes what he accomplished here and runs with it.
Really diving deep and self-introspecting isn't easy... There's a LOT of resistance! Although he did struggle, this was a HUGE step for him and massive respect to him for diving deep! 🙏
i feel like the guy didn’t exactly know how to answer that question so he said an answer that everyone wanted to hear
I usually cringe when watching thing like this but for some reason this time i didn’t. It seemed like he put thought into his answers to be as honest and forthcoming as possible. Very inspiring. I don’t look at him as a sob story because he seems to be headed in the right direction. God speed
This is really what transformation is about... being 100% real with yourself. No barriers, just expressing and embracing the truth of what you feel. Or that's the starting point at least. Great content as always Julien 🙏🏻
Just accept that everyone is judging you then release it and stand on what you believe
Release, yes! And what you'll realize is that "everyone is judging" you is just a lie your mind made up... 😉
@@JulienHimself I’m 17 I honestly just got in this leadership position and your videos have truly been helpful throughout my journey. I really appreciate you for being you and doing what you do. Much love to you man.
@@JulienHimself what if it’s not though? I’ve heard so many people judge others including myself, so I can never convince myself that’s not the case
@@boatfloat123 the happier you are, the less you judge. Because judging others is a reflection of what you don't like in yourself or because you want the laugh and validation of the people around you.
But because you currently don't like yourelf and need validation, you yourself judge others which leads you to believe everyone judges other. Because we believe everyone thinks the same way we do.
Yup best way is not give a fuck what people think. Just be yourself and live
The guy actually appeared pretty confident on stage based on his body language. It was open and his hands were animated as well.
Ultimately it's about changing your relationship with uncertainty. When you want to meet someone or in this case speak to an audience of strangers, you don't know how they will react. This state of uncertainty is extremely uncomfortable for the majority of people just learning this stuff. Not only does it prevent them from taking action it also affects ability to present in a charismatic fashion. You just can’t be present or confident while feeling anxiety.
You are very aware of being observed when you initially meet other people, and therefore (given social conditioning) being judged. Anxiety follows directly from anticipation of judgement, altering your inner environment so your energies are controlled, blocked, repressed, concealed or otherwise interfered with. The work we do in our programs aims to diagnose these blockages so you can begin the process of releasing them and replacing their manifestations in your life.
My biggest challenge in life has been learning to embrace the uncertainty of it all. I had challenges in my upbringing, same as anyone, and so I wanted to control my environment as much as possible as I grew older, to limit the amount of flack I would take from the triggers and stressors that impacted me most. And so I was someone really drawn to movies, especially those featuring cool-as-a-cucumber characters that always knew what to say in every situation and shrugged off adversity with ease. And my solution to the uncertainties of life as a teenager was to try to emulate these movie characters as closely as possible, reacting to life in the manner I would imagine they would, and just completely losing my own identity in the process. It helped for a little while in that it created the illusion that I had everything under control, I was able to fool myself into believing I had created a persona that could handle anything just like in the movie. . But of course, life doesn't unfold like a movie whatsoever, where everything is scripted out and preordained.
And so after realizing this wasn't anything approaching a fulfilling or healthy way to exist I had to begin looking inward and working on myself rather than constantly searching for a new and better FRONT to hide behind! And one of the things I have to work on everyday still is learning to embrace the uncertainty of life rather than try to figure out the formula to best it. Because there is no such thing as being able to calculate and control every outcome, that's the path to either madness or paralysis. The key is to work on yourself so that you have the strength, character and confidence to take on all comers in life. And I'm most definitely still a work in progress in that regard, but at least now I know for sure what is the best path to follow, and that is to grab hold of life's uncertainty by the horns and ride it out!
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Too true!!
I wonder if you have any recommendations for fear of Hell. I grew up religious but have become an atheist about 10 yrs ago. I keep getting stuck on the fear of hell. Unfortunately, there is no way to prove that God is not real, and that there is no Hell. But this feels like the ultimate fear of uncertainty that cannot be resolved.
@@МыколаНетребко he is real. So believe in him and you won't fear hell
It's amazing how much you can learn about yourself and how your mind works from listening to someone else honestly open up about their thought processes.
Yes! Glad these types of coaching videos resonate and are so impactful! 🙏
Yup bullied through developmental years in school. Lots of us get social anxiety years later from those early experiences
Me2. I was isolated by this one girl from the group. I don't know y but I think it's because of her daddy issue( I got to know later) she took it out on me.
Huge props to this man for being vulnerable in front of millions of eyes. A lot of what he’s feeling is resonant with me. I had had a similar path to his in my upbringings. One thing I’ve learned from my therapist, is that true healing can only be done from within. There are many ways to do it. But, this has been the key tool in conquering my internal issues that were impeding the quality of my life.
Kudos to this guy he was so open and honest and spoke from the heart you can hear and see he is a really good guy.
Yes! MASSIVE respect to him! 🙏🙏🙏
Really great to see people working on themselves like this! -Owen
same -Owen
A great example of "what's most personal, is most universal" yes! 🙏
Good for you -Owen
Really great to see Owen working on themselves like this! -people
Hello, my name is Owen. -Owen
5:55 I knew he ll say “both”. Looking at him in this moment almost made me cry. He has so much strength inside of him. Incredible level of awareness. He can shed old programming with therapy.
There's ALWAYS STRENGTH IN VULNERABILITY.
I commend him for exercising his muscle, all the while encouraging and fueling all of us in the comments to do the same thing. Kudos ‼️
Yes! He did amazing! Massive respect to him! 🔥👊
I still have some social anxiety, but I overcame a LOT of my social anxiety as an introvert when I worked as a salesman. It forced me to be good at talking with people. I've been thankful for that job everyday because it helped me in so many ways. I'm still trying to be better at socializing, so here I am!
I’m going to challenge myself this summer and get a job that will push me to talk more. I want to grow and improve myself.
I'm also getting into sales in a couple days and I can see how it can help me with my social anxiety. But I guess it's hard in the beginning, right? I just hope I don't ruin it in the middle of the process lol
In the past I used to search for remote jobs because of my anxiety, but I became sick of it and I wanna change. I don't wanna be a slave to fear for the rest of my life.
@@maisatsuj it will take some time to adjust to in the beginning, but you’ll eventually get used to it and your confidence will only build stronger as you progress. You got this!
Holy shit, I'm really proud of this man for showing his vulnerabilities. i relate to his struggles, helped me realise and grow in awareness of my own stuff I need to work on.
Big ups man, may you find yourself and prosper in abundance in life.🍀🌟
I pray this man be lifted up from his base nature and ways.
This guy seems to present a fantastic ability to think and communicate at a high level considering he is under an intense amount of pressure. When I get this pressure I typically start making dumb jokes or saying dumb things because I can't think straight under that social pressure. Kuddos to him! I hope he finds peace and groundedness within himself
Yeah he's got it real easy compared to a lot of people, a lot of people have something beyond anxiety, it's really like being mentally paralyzed where u can't think of anything to say and can't do anything effectively
@@erawwwww I wouldn't say he has it easy per se. On the outside, he is able to show that be can still communicate well.
Often the ones suffering the most will show it the least, it would be unfair to say he has it any better or worse than anyone else
@@mitchwow5325 well im saying got it easy in terms of hes not shitting so much bricks that he can speak coherently with a decent tone ,he can ponder his thoughts, appear relaxed no sweating no fidgeting no shakiness, compared to people who are shitting so much bricks they cant say anything without shaking sweating horrible fatigue like tonality or very soft feminine like, like i said he probably does have some nervousness some anxiety but evidently doesnt have it where its even worse than anxiety and is basically like being mentally paralyzed
@@erawwwww I totally see your point, and perhaps social anxiety isn't his weakest point directly. However, when he goes home, who knows how much worse he feels.
There's also a good chance he's put in a lot of work to appear composed and is at war with himself mentally to continue to maintain that composure. If that's the case,then he's surely gone through a lot of shit to get there and that deserves an applaud rather than being overlooked. It's always hard recognize when someone is in a great deal of pain when they are so good at masking it, or when they have worked exceptionally hard to combat it and that doesn't get any recognition.
With these points, I believe it is very unfair to say someone has it easy, it is extremely difficult to judge someone's suffering and compare it to another's because we are all so different from one another and feel things differently at different times.
With that being said, I do see where you are coming from, as it does appear to be the dream to be more under control and dialed in, in situations like this video shows.
@@mitchwow5325 I see your points as well, everything u said is a fact, completely agree with it all and I do applaud him for his efforts
You can tell he was really honest! And it looks like it definately took courage
The thing that helped me with the subject of social phobia is to do a momentary meditation, to stop my thoughts by focusing on a small point around me for 20 seconds, and this brings the body back to its normal state and thinking to its normal state as well
Man this dude is brave to sit there, being as scared as he is - and not steering away from the questions. He answers even though he is terrified. At his heart he is a good guy. I truly wish the best for him.
that guy is authentic and is all right. Sympathy and honesty is his strength. He is aware about himself and will grow and develop continually.
Thanks for this Julien. A reminder to stick with the anxiety rather than run away from it…. Unfortunately it’s not easy, and I got drunk on Sunday running away from it 🏃🏽♂️
You're welcome! Let me know if you'd like my help PROCESSING this for good: application.julienhimself.com
No joke 60-90 mins after watching this and my own introspection, became aware of refrigerator hum victim identity and self-talk in my mind telling me I didn't deserve success or deserve to be taken seriously because I'm 5'8". It's just so deeply embedded, I normalized it! It's why I look up to guys like Owen, Jeff, etc to destroy limiting beliefs. After that, I was able to visualize (for the first time ever), deserving to be the center of attention in a club. Thanks Julien :)
Bro 5”8 is like the the perfect height, I’m 5”6 we all wish for what we don’t have, that’s your Ego… Keep your head up fam 👀💪🏾🤎💯🐐
I’m 6’3 and my cousin is 5’8 and he is the most confident & respected person I know, literally the life of the party, while I’m the most insecure and anxious person he knows. I’m actually the tallest person in my family, and believe it or not, being the tallest person in the room gives me allot undesired attention. Tall people are expected to be more attractive, confident, “cool” etc and I’m just not what people consider to be the expectations with someone my height or looks. If I had a quarter for every time someone told me “You should be a football linebacker.” because of my stature I’d be rich. I have no interest in football whatsoever.
Just keep improving brother, it’s all in your head.
@@godsway85015’4?
Taking his time to answer was everything.
I have an interview next week and i'm overwhelmed with the feeling of anxiety that i can't focus on preparing. I feel like i don't have much to say that i'll be stuck in awkward silence moments.
Thanks for these videos they help.
Glad they help! Let me know if you'd like my help overcoming this FASTER: application.julienhimself.com/
if there will be 'akward silence moments' thats the fault of the interviewer, just be in the present moment and dont drain yourself with thinking. goodluck with your interview.
Good luck bruv, you will nail it as long as you remain personable and realize there is NO such thing as perfection. You won't have the right answer for everything, you don't want the right answer to everything, that's a computer, that's not a human being. Don't over prepare, whatever you do!
Maybe you could try the Sedona Method, it is very easy and amazingly effective. Good luck! 😊
Some interviewers do akward silences on purpose.
Well I did it. I posted a small art video, it's definitely not much but it was everything I needed to make. I'm done feeling like an imposter, done with the self hate and I'm embracing the hard. I think of something being hard as an advantage now because of you, because not everyone will embrace the difficulty and step out of their comfort zone. This is everything I needed! I will see everyone here in their success soon and it'll be amazing! You got this!
Thank you Julien.
Sometimes it’s better to be done than to be good. Keep posting my guy!
@@kmonyx22123 Thank You so much!
This is so inspiring. Making yourself so vulnerable in front of random strange people takes a lot of courage.
Yes! Massive respect to him! 🙌
“Letting myself crook comfort and fade away into that” I really resonate with that.
And as for the worst fears out of the four you asked, oddly enough it’s fear of living alone for me. I don’t need so many friends or anything but living life without a partner would be rough. I feel like I could be happy with a partner never living up to my potential or being good enough, but having the latter two without a partner would still suck. It’s been hard to push myself to try and meet someone.
A lot of risk in that, but at the end of the day you only need love from yourself honestly, I think your mindset is concerning, it's great you acknowledge that fear though.
He seems very well spoken. It takes a ton of energy for me to say a single word. I would do anything to be able to speak so clearly like him.
I think what he said is really about loving yourself to the max that you allow yourself to succeed and it blends with consistency as well, great video btw
Yes! Thank you! 🙏
Love that you were able to get into the authenticity of how this guy is feeling/living
YES! 🙏
This guy was awesome to watch. Very open and honest with his experience. Seems like a good solid individual.
I find this guy so lovely! Yes, a bit overweight, but his intelligence and level of awareness is really attractive!
well "become socially unstoppable“ isn't the best way to name this video 😂 but the content that has been offered here is still pretty valuable so thanks!
I can relate to this guy on so many levels! I’m happy hes putting in the work, letting go of the toxic shame and forgiving/being kind to himself! Love this.
Glad this resonated with you! And yes, MASSIVE respect to him! 🙌
I dig deep 24/7 and sometimes that really stresses out people around me, but I feel like it’s better to do it now, then forget about it and hope I remember some day.
“I feel it now I need to do this”
Holy shiet, I felt every question as if Julien was asking me directly, and then thinking my own answers and listening this man answering made me have that "almost about to cry" voice.
Kudos to this man. I wish him the best in life.
Julian is a pillar of knowledge, hope, and guidance for us who experience social anxiety. Julian, I have to say that your content has helped me so much with letting go of my past trauma and focusing on living in the present moment. I would love to come to one of these conferences sometime. How could I go about doing this? Thank you either way 🙏🏻
Highly recommend attending any of his events... I've only been to one, but that has been very powerful. I was able to let go of demons I didn't even know I had lol. All the best 🙏🏻
"self discipline is the first step but it's a tool of self hate"....that hit me hard !
Glad this resonated! Watch this btw: ruclips.net/video/EcpQsh4PKBg/видео.html
He seems like a nice honest man. Im sure you’ll find good friends if you let you be you. 💪🏼
When he asked “do you feel like an imposter?” That broke my heart because I’ve always felt that way. I still do.
The worst challenge to find a job to me is the feeling that I am not sufficient for such responsibilities or tasks. So I've been working at a Call center for the past 3 years even though I have social anxiety. I always feel like an Imposter who will eventually be caught and fired
Same
It’s all in the mind. Best way to overwrite anxiety is to learn the art of not giving a faq! It simply does not matter…be yourself and express your thoughts…if you feel anxiety buildup, take a huge breath and exhale. You will feel so much better…upon repetition it will become almost non existent.
I agree, don't give a fuck, be the best version of yourself and keep moving forward no matter what because you're not going to have any choice anyway.
This is why having goals are so important in life. And I mean mainly work goals. Whether short or long, by constantly setting goals for yourself, your mind has always something to work on and look forward to.
Doesn't matter if you succeed or fail because it's all about the process and journey throughout life. And that journey, whatever it is is much better to participate in than walking around aimless and miserable.
So keep striving for those goals, whatever they might be! Other than that, just take care of whatever needs you have in the moment, although be careful not to give in to your impulses all the time because they can ruin you.
this guy is a CHAMPION, so easy to believe and pay attention to, I wish you the very best for the future if you read this man, you've inspired me to be so fearlessly honest and vulnerable 👏
I really respect this man for being so honest. That is very brave to express his inner feelings of hurt and pain. He expressed himself very well. Strength and greatness to you brother!
Hey, it's okay to feel what you're feeling and I'll stay here with you as you feel it.
The fear of not fulfilling my true potential
Lack of consistency
The pain of not knowing who tf I am
Always feeling broken
But Always holding on to hope that things will get better
Just being out in general public I get anxious. I use headphones as a sort of social pacifier and use minimal eye contact. I'll try to welcome the anxiety next time I'm out.
Welcoming it is a great first step… But you’ll want to dive a lot deeper in order to get to the cause and let go of it!
"Ceiling of success." I'm having the same problem. It's tough to stay on a good level. I try to be calm when I'm too energetic, and try to amp up when I'm not. It's a helluva see-saw. Thankfully I'm getting a hang of it now.
Watch this video that goes deeper on ceilings of success: ruclips.net/video/1FjGqZNkj80/видео.html
My impression of him after watching the clip is that he has a very good soul, as if a child is talking from him, but he doesn't think of himself that way. I often do that, I keep imagining that people have a bad impression of me, but in reality it turns out not to be so.
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The question what do you fear most is very interesting.
It seems as though what you fear most is a byproduct of what is currently happening and feels like work that will eventually "pay off" when you defeat it.
For me, my biggest fear isn't not being able to live up to my potential, but rather not being good enough. This is the area where I feel insufficient. I know I can achieve a lot of things if I put my mind to it, I've already achieved quite a bit. But for me, I've never felt ___ enough (in my case it's that im not fun enough to have better friendships, relationships etc. I can only find energy to work). What I've noticed is that my problem is very similar to his. My mentality has always been that one day it will just click and I'll be good. But the rebound is always there and a new mindset is required. The toll that takes is compounding, and can make you feel lows you never thought possible. With the occasional high every once in a while.
For him, not living up to his potential is his biggest fear of his given choices. This makes sense, given he's explained he isn't happy with his body and would want to achieve a better one, but knows he'd rebound.
Firstly, to defeat your fear means to change your way of thinking and way of life. There is no destination so to speak. It's just a new path that goes on forever.
Our fears are literally manifested within us already, and adaption of mindset could very well be a way of solving the issue.
"Did you feel lonely, growing up?
and he answered "Yes"😢😢😢.
Watching from Hong kong.
Wow....this video hit home. That guy was me up there. Jesus.
Glad this resonated so deeply! Remember: What's most personal is most UNIVERSAL! 🙏
Bro is literally confident
He was putting into practice what Julien was saying, all in realtime. Absolute legend. Bravo.
Yes, he crushed it! 🙌
Ah broke my heart when he said "unsatisfied", would love to have this guy as my neighbour. He seems cool
The man has a high self-awareness when he said that he started eating voraciously because he was exposed to a bad situation and started trying to please others and so on.
Julien is definitely getting better socially, I can tell, nice.
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I relate to this guy a lot. I have very few moments in which I felt unstoppable and felt that I could really make something of myself, whatever that meant. Then, like he said, I got to that tipping point of feeling great and then almost didn't know where to go after that and then followed by the drop of not continuing that mindset, that feeling. Might sound weird, the attractive woman next to him, being in the presence of a woman like that alone would make me feel uneasy and nervous. I think that comes from my early introduction to porn as a kid and starting to like females, knowing full well that they never would like me. This is already a long comment, but the last thing I'll say is, when it comes to women, social skills, feeling good about myself enough to keep growing, it's been a huge hurdle to get over. I've made some headway but not enough to satiate where, who, and what I am in my life. I hope this guy gets to a place in his life that is fulfilling. I really do.
Its crazy how different you are compared to the videos with Owen back in the days. Basically all you teach is what you have learned the past years while you already teached ( on a lower quality). You‘re definetely more relatable now on your own, it seems like you were suffering authenticy in that owen phase and ur now able to bring your own perspective into it a bit more, which makes you definetely more confident. Keep going
Julian you do realise that you are the messiah to anyone cursed with anxiety, I want to be around you or chat to you in a discord and just let you're supreme self confidence inspire me to attack life and show my absolute acceptance of my anxiety to where I can act like im in a movie playing a character with Julians complete charms and magnetism, everyone respects him like hes a hero very quickly and you know this is a man that can save us he knows me like no one in my real life knows me truly. Now we know there is hope to take back our minds and then our destiny.
Now any irish people hear hit this likes so we can show how popular he'd be in ireland.
Julian I don't know if you have even considered going to Ireland but we need you, I would love to go up and crumble on your stage and then rebuild myself right there and actually overcome it all and feel full of hope and belief.
Seriously wed love to have you. Anyone irish wants to have him tour here hit like let's go😎
Also is there a way to watch your full shows like subscription to your full content
This guy seems surprisingly well at public speaking, I would speculate from his occupation, dressed well. He has the potential to go far...Sure he's overweight but the dude has confidence at a glance. He's a large guy in general, I know how that feels being 6 3, you stand out and get more looks which plays into social anxiety...
You're really nailing these questions. I guess letting your guard down but keep a watchful eye.
"When did you get hurt?" Simple but very powerful question.
Yes! 🙏
Honestly, it looks and sounds like he has ADHD. Not in his physical appearance or voice, but in how he explains things about himself. I literally say almost the same things about myself internally, as well as others diagnosed, as he says externally. It's just a thing that even if we understand the issue, want to fix the issue, try to address it internally, something just doesn't *click*. From the simple easy 30 second things, to bigger things. Even to explain one of the things I do, knowing how utterly ridiculous and irrational it is, even calling/texting my family on the phone is really nerve-wracking ALOT to where I'm bad at keeping in touch despite how close and loving we are. It's a lot
Yes me too, calling people is a serious weird fear of mine, I’d rather talk to someone face to face than call them, cos I can’t see how they are truly reacting to our conversation. Obvs their voice changes but I’ve learnt to read body language over the years so maybe that’s why It affects me so much, I hope ur thoughts get better with time! ❤️
I love the way you interact, you are so aware, inspire me beyond belief as a singer. Thank you Julien
Stuff gets more real with every second passing. That was intense to witness
Glad this was so impactful! 🙏
NOBODY MAKES YOU Feels NERVOUS nobody makes YOU FEEL ANYTHING WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION..thoughts an feelings is harmless without your reaction you can think about being depressed its the identification thats the problem meaning believing it ,just be watcher of it thoughts an feelings come an go but you remain
"Just don't identify with depression, bro."
If it was that easy humanity would live happily ever after. People make you feel things because that is basic biology. As a social animal it is crucial for humans to depend their actions upon the feedback they get from others to not be cast out from society. That is why rejection needs to hurt as much as possible, that is why bullying kills your self esteem, that is why the most extroverted people are the most attractive. To explain human nature and feeling, look no further than biology.
Dude was awesome, It's addicting to watch these people be authentic. I wish I could answer questions like him though, he just thinks for 5 seconds and something comes up. You ask me one of those questions and I just blank. Happiest day of my life, worst day, most embarassing moment, most angry moment, no clue...
Glad this resonates! And having trouble coming up with an answer is normal and a classic sign of INNER RESISTANCE. Something to let go of!
This is better than a 1 on 1 therapy.. in a group setting where everyone can relate and is there to help each other and not judge. Not easy.. but it won’t change you if it was.
Moral of all this, the mind is very manipulative.. fear, doubt, trauma.
That movie “Inside out” apply that to real life, sadness, anger or even none of the emotions would be present for those with anxiety instead in the mind would be abducted by imposters(filtering speaking)
It's crazy how what this guy said after he said eating is exactly how I am, the eating part to.
I believe the biggest fuel for anxiety when speaking publicly is a huge fear of sounding stupid. At least that’s how I feel and trying to work around.
Wow, mind-blowing authenticity! Well done for open up
Massive respect to him, yes! Glad this resonated!
Interesting I see him trying to use these tricks of occupying more space, shoulders back.... But broooo he is tense AF.
can't remember last time i related to somebody THIS much like to this guy. wow.
I feel relieved when I can just crash on the bottom because caring so much about everything all the time every second feels like such agonizing burden.
I can see myself in this dude, I afraid to end up like him (with all the respect)
this video gave me a lot of points that I can apply on my own life, thanks Julien!
I really wish that 30 seconds into this guy telling what makes him feel anxiety. That instead of a follow up up question, he would been like, "95 plus % of everyone in this room identifies with what you just said. And you don't know how much you just helped them."
This guy is the best. I love this gentleman
damn dude, fully convered after years of wtaching your content to hate on self help
Does jullien have a degree in psychology? Cause his analytical skills are top knotch. It's impressive. No wonder he's got so much success
Respect to this guy.
S/O to the big homie! He gone make it!!!
This dude reminds me of myself thanks for coming up
Love these clips of you working with people. Yes, I have TM and HVC, but seeing this sort of work makes it more real and is a great refresh.
Thank you! Glad this videos resonate and complement the courses! 🙏
This man has to be one of the bravest people i’ve seen. Hope he gets everything figured out.
I think a lot of people don’t get that the way you think and look is ultimately a reflec
tion of yourself.
So when you stop, you go right back down.
Lifestyle changes need to occur forcefully, aslong as you’re happy with the changes you make
And even the guy interviewing feels like this guy sometimes. We ALL do!
I love this guys vulnerability ❤
People consistently confuse social ineptness with social anxiety, so they think once they overcome the latter, they will magically transform into this witty, charismatic, magnetic person. Nope. Social adeptness is more complicated than that and to some extent, innate. This guy didn't even need to get up on the stage, he's a natural.
I love how they talk!
I know exactly where this man is coming from. All my life I sought validation from people by being the nice guy. When they would abuse me I tried to be even nicer. I didn't know why until my mother died and with research found out she was a narcissistic parent. I had to be her caregiver and also had to deal with all her insecurities because she was a very vey skinny woman which she was ashamed of. I had to watch everything I said to her because she was soooo sensitive. In turn this made me afraid to have boundaries with everyone I met. My first wife was the same way and my wife now has those traits also. With my knowledge our whole marriage dynamic has changed since she knows I will not put up with any abuse especially all the maniputive emotional abuse. I've even learned what my wife's mother did to her to cause her to be this way. I call it out now and I can tell she doesn't like that I don't think she is this perfect person that I put on a pedestal anymore. By watching videos like this I've learned to have boundaries and to not seek constant validation from outside sources. I've lost some close friends since I've changed but I really don't consider them friends if the only reason they were with me is because I was someone they could put their stuff on to. I'm still a working on myself but I love how far I have come from where I was at.
no offense but its astounding how some people drive all their self confidence and speechiness on how their body looks, especially nowadays. Here we see: Personality is so important