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Life is kind of trippy. You walk through life expecting everybody to like you at first, and then they don't and you're sat there like "wtf did I do?" And you can't please everybody. No matter how stupid it seems, that's a "them" problem. They don't appreciate, nah, leave me alone and let me do my moves. Great content!
Julien: "Did you notice the anxiety boiling up?" Me at home with no risk of being picked: Nods yes as heart beats furiously and my brain struggles to think of a captivating story.
I was in a supermarket an hour ago. Tried to talk to a girl in the parking lot after 2 years of not approaching a single soul. It went horrible, of course. Even worse: she was with her mom and dad. They just ignored me as if I was a homeless guy. Stayed inside my car with facepalm for half a hour feeling like the most useless creature on the planet. Then I got home and this video actually gave me some comfort. At least I felt alive again and for a moment people weren't mere shadows passing by.
Good stuff man, keep the momentum and just keep getting out of your comfort zone, it will get easier every time, it’s only up from here. You got this man, nothings as serious as we think it is, life is just a game🙌🏻.
You won today. Even if this might not feel like you have improved much, you are going to be in a much better position to relax in front of the women. 💪
Respect for having the Balls to Approach her. The Goal of Approaching is to do it and not to avoid it :) I wish I had the Balls you have. Be proud of yourself :)
Proud of you for doing that. Don’t dwell on how bad it went. Focus on you did what you wanted to do and if there was improvement then that’s AMAZING, think how you could’ve done better and make a plan for next time. Maybe it would’ve been a good idea right after that happened to reassess in your car and then just pick a random girl to do that to again to walk away from the situation feeling like a winner not a loser. Btw you’re not a loser, losers think and never act, winners try multiple outcomes, fail repeatedly but learn what they did wrong and try and not make those same mistakes again. Also (side note) let’s say you did everything perfect with them, you were confident, said what you wanted with no trip up in your words and it went perfect, if they started to yell at you or do something completely put field from what you would expect, you need to not let there negative energy influence your positive energy. (This is pretty rare but it does happen, then you might possibly think, wtf am I actually the messed up person? Should I act like them?) you can’t control other peoples thoughts or feelings only your own and how you take them is dependent on you. Much love, stay safe, and youre a winner bro
If you start working out you don't lifet 250 pounds immediately. You hae tnstat with 5 pound bell.that girl is the 250 pound . Start practicing with old folks . Thy are always Glad someone ta k s to them
I work as a Kindergarten substitute teacher. What i learn from these kids is invaluable. You get to feel that its all real. The energy fields, everything. When all the kids ignore you, until you find that sensation and you become surrendered, all the kids jump on you like you are a magnet for cuddling Or when and a kid is on his way to you, so you notice and become needy. Almost every kid without fail will just turn on their feet and go do something else.
Dude you keep smashing banger after banger for FREE. You know what I watch with your vids?? Your body language. You seem so calm and chill I am trying to be like that man
Glad my content has been so helpful! If you want to go DEEPER on the subtle social dynamics of it all, check this out: www.highvibecommunication.com/bhvc
I was at a park yesterday in stormy weather. I saw a woman around my age (30 ish) feeding stray cats in the park. I saw her from a far and approached her. I commanded her for taking care of the cats. She smiled and said she's doing what she can. We chatted a bit about the cats then walked off. It was a nice exchange, a little unexpected but that's what makes it memorable. I wasn't expecting to see anyone in that damn weather. Now, I am a very private person but I'm authentic. My outside persona isn't a fake one, it's the real me and it gets to flex it's muscles and act freely when I'm in the presence of strangers. I'm a lot more unhinged while talking to new people. The thing is, I've learned to look at the big picture kind of like watching the situation from the third person. I know nothing's gonna happen romantically and knowing that makes you free from the shackles of idealized to death romantic situations and fantasies. So just approaching her from a neutral standpoint and actually mean what I say was my goal. It was important to let her know her taking care of stray animals was appreciated so she would feel motivated to keep going. I was very isolated since the pandemic as well but for different reasons. I got stuck in living conditions I don't like while at the same time shedding my old friendships after realizing they have become harmful to me. I have social anxiety but I guess it's in a different form and not very visible to the outside. I have no problem chatting people up or going into huge crowds and events. What I have a problem is when my privacy is broken. I don't like going to intimate events like birthdays, gatherings where there is only a handful of people and they all know me. I guess it's not social anxiety but I have no tolerance left for familiar people anymore. I'm not sure what to call that exactly. I've been binge watching Julien for a while and it's so helpful and entertaining but even he would get confused about my feelings lol. I can be very social and am very in tune and comfortable with myself but have no tolerance left for people who wronged me, suppressed me, oppressed me in some way. This includes my family as well. Perhaps I was always meant to be a lone wolf and start my life fresh in a distant place.
@@danieldandrade10 that's good! I'm not sure if it would do me any good though, just reading what I said I can see my thoughts are all over the place lol. Just talking them out is helpful at least, better out than in.
I used to do spoken word competitions and go to performance workshops all the time, now I interview artists and do podcasts and still deal with everything you talked about, all those workshops yet never seen a speaker like you before. Everything I really needed to hear, cool, direct, relatable, and called me out on a lot about myself I hadn’t realized I became comfortable with yet left me feeling uplifted and refreshed. Thank you!!
I’ve struggled with social anxiety most of my life. My conclusion is that ego danger is similar to actual danger. The difference is that ego danger is based on beliefs so you can change what is or isn’t ego danger but you can’t eliminate ego danger entirely.
@@JulienHimself true :) I love your content. I used to be so stifled as a child to the point that I would cry if someone looked at me. Around 7th grade idk what happened specifically but I stopped taking life so seriously and stopped caring what people thought about me. I'm not perfect of course but I learned to love myself anyways and now I'm just hoping I can instill that in my daughter as she grows up. 💯
people don't know what it feels like to REALLY be in danger. they lack context. it's like when you're always depressed but you think you're ok because you never experienced actually being ok. that's how i was for the last 10 years. of course i don't know how it feels to really be in danger either. but i have experienced much worse than not being captivating in front of a crowd.
My honest opinion from experience if you want it: Open up to yourself first, practice being yourself just by yourself and progress outward. Around pets, then 1 family member then maybe 2 I've had to move to the woods and live on my own as I just couldn't do it anymore. But, I still felt like the trees and birds were judging me for singing and dancing only little outbursts something I'd never do in public. I Realised that the problems we carry are within you not without you, change the internal and let the external take care of itself. Big steps small progress a time will come when you feel ready if you continue the work.
That's what it happens to be imagining right now. The next second who knows what it could imagine. It can imagine anything it wants but it just so happens that it keeps imagining something consistent so that we can get a sense of reality.
@@goldythefish36 Just sit there to contemplate it all after you come back because you're gonna see such crazy and radical things in these trips. That when you come back you're gonna be like what the fuck was that? And you're gonna spend a week just in the shower, what the fuck was that? Cooking your food, what the fuck was that? Driving to work, what the fuck was that? Sitting at work doing your work, what the fuck was that? Thinking that. Trying to wrap your mind around it. Try to remember and trying to figure it out and that's a very valuable process.
From my experience I don't think my social phobia will decompress in the externality. People are a complete nuisance. They have a lackluster of knowledge and consolation.
Julien, please read this. I need help. I've let go of a desire I had for a girl about a month ago and I've since been in a constant fight or flight response, I've alienated a lot of people, my parents think I have depression I've tried to explain to them what happened but they just laughed at it, I need help ASAP I've been shamed in the past for liking a girl so maybe it's a response to that but my RAS is so fucked up that I'm scared I will do more harm than good.
When you're Happy and you follow the trail of "whys" you always end at Love or God. Try it :) But don't go the goodfellas route: "well because I'm funny!" "You mean funny like a clown, do you amuse everybody? How the hell are you funny, what The FUCK is so funny about you? Tell me!" :D But even that one would work
It's different in that you are able to process what comes up. You have the space and time to feel and witness your sensations in meditation. As oppose to being in the social situation when you're experiencing fear but still have to navigate the situation you're in. The sensations that come up are the ones you want to feel. Meditation gives you the opportunity to do this.
I don't believe him he was definitely getting some resistance during the day before this speech it is normal and everyone gets it some more than others. We are not children anymore our minds have experienced a lot you don't just shed that away.
@@DoctorChocolate Yea, but when you're damaged sometimes you just can't see that or feel that cuz ur run by negative energy. Eat clean, clean your room, sleep well, quit any addictions and get some EMDR therapy and listen to Julien as well. Transformation Mastery is also amazing. Anyway BRIAN, we are here for you bro!!!!
While im agree that andro is very technical with is Masculinity and have no this mumant but is masculine is fake to But Papa Dan is different story He is pure masculine Without this mumant But is masculine is real and pure Thats why Dan P is the Goat I mean literally everything Cv, Cc, Leading, Commandments, Is hunter henergy is pure, Legs on the ground pure, Full masculine box, Dream Papa Dan is the Goat
It ALL starts with this type of deep awareness! 👉 This video will provide you with a new approach to overcoming anxiety for good!
👉 BOOK YOUR FREE COACHING CALL: bit.ly/2S9YVum
🚨 WATCH ME NEXT
- The cause of social anxiety: ruclips.net/video/V6lwwZX7nfw/видео.html
- My favorite social anxiety challenge: ruclips.net/video/AUj6gN0o4wU/видео.html
- My full STEP-BY-STEP social skills method: ruclips.net/video/pCZdJiGSk8g/видео.html
Life is kind of trippy. You walk through life expecting everybody to like you at first, and then they don't and you're sat there like "wtf did I do?" And you can't please everybody. No matter how stupid it seems, that's a "them" problem. They don't appreciate, nah, leave me alone and let me do my moves. Great content!
The story of my life
not to mention you see others get picked on and suddenly your quiet self is like "oh god, i better not be like THEM" and then its the same effect
Julien: "Did you notice the anxiety boiling up?"
Me at home with no risk of being picked: Nods yes as heart beats furiously and my brain struggles to think of a captivating story.
RIGHT 😭
I was in a supermarket an hour ago. Tried to talk to a girl in the parking lot after 2 years of not approaching a single soul. It went horrible, of course. Even worse: she was with her mom and dad. They just ignored me as if I was a homeless guy. Stayed inside my car with facepalm for half a hour feeling like the most useless creature on the planet. Then I got home and this video actually gave me some comfort. At least I felt alive again and for a moment people weren't mere shadows passing by.
Good stuff man, keep the momentum and just keep getting out of your comfort zone, it will get easier every time, it’s only up from here. You got this man, nothings as serious as we think it is, life is just a game🙌🏻.
You won today. Even if this might not feel like you have improved much, you are going to be in a much better position to relax in front of the women. 💪
Respect for having the Balls to Approach her. The Goal of Approaching is to do it and not to avoid it :) I wish I had the Balls you have. Be proud of yourself :)
Proud of you for doing that. Don’t dwell on how bad it went. Focus on you did what you wanted to do and if there was improvement then that’s AMAZING, think how you could’ve done better and make a plan for next time. Maybe it would’ve been a good idea right after that happened to reassess in your car and then just pick a random girl to do that to again to walk away from the situation feeling like a winner not a loser. Btw you’re not a loser, losers think and never act, winners try multiple outcomes, fail repeatedly but learn what they did wrong and try and not make those same mistakes again. Also (side note) let’s say you did everything perfect with them, you were confident, said what you wanted with no trip up in your words and it went perfect, if they started to yell at you or do something completely put field from what you would expect, you need to not let there negative energy influence your positive energy. (This is pretty rare but it does happen, then you might possibly think, wtf am I actually the messed up person? Should I act like them?) you can’t control other peoples thoughts or feelings only your own and how you take them is dependent on you. Much love, stay safe, and youre a winner bro
If you start working out you don't lifet 250 pounds immediately. You hae tnstat with 5 pound bell.that girl is the 250 pound . Start practicing with old folks . Thy are always Glad someone ta k s to them
I work as a Kindergarten substitute teacher. What i learn from these kids is invaluable. You get to feel that its all real. The energy fields, everything.
When all the kids ignore you, until you find that sensation and you become surrendered, all the kids jump on you like you are a magnet for cuddling
Or when and a kid is on his way to you, so you notice and become needy. Almost every kid without fail will just turn on their feet and go do something else.
So true, and I find this to be true for adults and animals too.
Dude you keep smashing banger after banger for FREE. You know what I watch with your vids?? Your body language. You seem so calm and chill I am trying to be like that man
Glad my content has been so helpful! If you want to go DEEPER on the subtle social dynamics of it all, check this out: www.highvibecommunication.com/bhvc
Takeaways: Do your best and dont take yourself too seriously. Enjoy improvising, along with having some structure.
I was at a park yesterday in stormy weather. I saw a woman around my age (30 ish) feeding stray cats in the park. I saw her from a far and approached her. I commanded her for taking care of the cats. She smiled and said she's doing what she can. We chatted a bit about the cats then walked off. It was a nice exchange, a little unexpected but that's what makes it memorable. I wasn't expecting to see anyone in that damn weather. Now, I am a very private person but I'm authentic. My outside persona isn't a fake one, it's the real me and it gets to flex it's muscles and act freely when I'm in the presence of strangers. I'm a lot more unhinged while talking to new people.
The thing is, I've learned to look at the big picture kind of like watching the situation from the third person. I know nothing's gonna happen romantically and knowing that makes you free from the shackles of idealized to death romantic situations and fantasies. So just approaching her from a neutral standpoint and actually mean what I say was my goal. It was important to let her know her taking care of stray animals was appreciated so she would feel motivated to keep going.
I was very isolated since the pandemic as well but for different reasons. I got stuck in living conditions I don't like while at the same time shedding my old friendships after realizing they have become harmful to me. I have social anxiety but I guess it's in a different form and not very visible to the outside. I have no problem chatting people up or going into huge crowds and events. What I have a problem is when my privacy is broken. I don't like going to intimate events like birthdays, gatherings where there is only a handful of people and they all know me. I guess it's not social anxiety but I have no tolerance left for familiar people anymore. I'm not sure what to call that exactly. I've been binge watching Julien for a while and it's so helpful and entertaining but even he would get confused about my feelings lol. I can be very social and am very in tune and comfortable with myself but have no tolerance left for people who wronged me, suppressed me, oppressed me in some way. This includes my family as well. Perhaps I was always meant to be a lone wolf and start my life fresh in a distant place.
You can try doing the free call to see if you can get some guidance and direction on your situation. Was super helpful for me!
@@danieldandrade10 that's good! I'm not sure if it would do me any good though, just reading what I said I can see my thoughts are all over the place lol. Just talking them out is helpful at least, better out than in.
Nice, yeah vocing your thoughts can be quite cathartic 🤯
I used to do spoken word competitions and go to performance workshops all the time, now I interview artists and do podcasts and still deal with everything you talked about, all those workshops yet never seen a speaker like you before. Everything I really needed to hear, cool, direct, relatable, and called me out on a lot about myself I hadn’t realized I became comfortable with yet left me feeling uplifted and refreshed. Thank you!!
I’ve struggled with social anxiety most of my life. My conclusion is that ego danger is similar to actual danger. The difference is that ego danger is based on beliefs so you can change what is or isn’t ego danger but you can’t eliminate ego danger entirely.
Long form content always wins!!!
Glad it resonates!
Being nice secures you
@21:19 the voice goes up like asking for a question or approval. @22:19 it is grounded and self-assured. That’s the difference.
Tough crowd, lol... but the beauty is it doesn't matter :)
It’s actually the perfect crowd for this specific topic! 👌
@@JulienHimself true :) I love your content. I used to be so stifled as a child to the point that I would cry if someone looked at me. Around 7th grade idk what happened specifically but I stopped taking life so seriously and stopped caring what people thought about me. I'm not perfect of course but I learned to love myself anyways and now I'm just hoping I can instill that in my daughter as she grows up. 💯
i like you demonstrating freedom through honesty. thanks for your energy.
I'm an empath so being nice is my programming
As long as it's authentic and not fake, which is what people pleasers do. 👌
people don't know what it feels like to REALLY be in danger. they lack context. it's like when you're always depressed but you think you're ok because you never experienced actually being ok. that's how i was for the last 10 years.
of course i don't know how it feels to really be in danger either. but i have experienced much worse than not being captivating in front of a crowd.
I understand but I still can't let go because I have too much fear to open myself to the world
Definitely something to let go of… Let me know if you’d like my help: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
My honest opinion from experience if you want it:
Open up to yourself first, practice being yourself just by yourself and progress outward. Around pets, then 1 family member then maybe 2 I've had to move to the woods and live on my own as I just couldn't do it anymore.
But, I still felt like the trees and birds were judging me for singing and dancing only little outbursts something I'd never do in public.
I Realised that the problems we carry are within you not without you, change the internal and let the external take care of itself. Big steps small progress a time will come when you feel ready if you continue the work.
That's what it happens to be imagining right now. The next second who knows what it could imagine. It can imagine anything it wants but it just so happens that it keeps imagining something consistent so that we can get a sense of reality.
What?
@@goldythefish36 Just sit there to contemplate it all after you come back because you're gonna see such
crazy and radical things in these trips. That when you come back you're gonna be like what the fuck was that? And you're gonna spend a week just in the shower, what the fuck was that? Cooking your food, what the fuck was that? Driving to work, what the fuck was that? Sitting at work doing your work, what the fuck was that? Thinking that. Trying to wrap your mind around it. Try to remember and trying to figure it out and that's a very valuable process.
Very interesting video, thank you for posting, helped me a lot understanding some things about myself.
You’re so welcome! Glad to hear it!
Free Julien wow just wow your really hear to help thank you
Thank you! This really clicked!
You're welcome! Glad it was helpful! 🙌
REQUEST - Sir please could you please guide your last life lessons on relationship in this Valantine's day. - From India 🙏🏾
I read "Socially Invisible" 😅 damn.
😂
😂😂😂
THAT was perfect to start yelling at the numbnuts crowd...! Funny as Sh!t...!!
Hey man, you should make a course!!
Genius🔥👏
Loved it
I love you Julien 😭
🙏🙏🙏
Steve Martin vibes when you were raising your voice as an example 🙌😄 that's awesome, I love your content @JulianHimself
Thank you! 🙌
I would like to have a free coaching call but I am french and I do not speak english that very well
From my experience I don't think my social phobia will decompress in the externality. People are a complete nuisance. They have a lackluster of knowledge and consolation.
Julien, please read this. I need help.
I've let go of a desire I had for a girl about a month ago and I've since been in a constant fight or flight response, I've alienated a lot of people, my parents think I have depression I've tried to explain to them what happened but they just laughed at it, I need help ASAP
I've been shamed in the past for liking a girl so maybe it's a response to that but my RAS is so fucked up that I'm scared I will do more harm than good.
Update on this: I'm fine, it took time for my brain to update after reowning the loud aspect of me
When you're Happy and you follow the trail of "whys" you always end at Love or God. Try it :)
But don't go the goodfellas route:
"well because I'm funny!"
"You mean funny like a clown, do you amuse everybody? How the hell are you funny, what The FUCK is so funny about you? Tell me!"
:D But even that one would work
I love DG but i gotta admit he can be a little over the top.
I would like to read your book, if you wrote it
Next year! 😉
when you do the meditation on social anxiety for example do you feet the same EXACT fear as when you are outside with people or is it different ??
It's different in that you are able to process what comes up. You have the space and time to feel and witness your sensations in meditation. As oppose to being in the social situation when you're experiencing fear but still have to navigate the situation you're in. The sensations that come up are the ones you want to feel. Meditation gives you the opportunity to do this.
@@danieldandrade10 that is not what i said .. i said are they the exact samme feelings.... i did not say anything about the situation
Has anyone had a consultation with him?
I don't believe him he was definitely getting some resistance during the day before this speech it is normal and everyone gets it some more than others. We are not children anymore our minds have experienced a lot you don't just shed that away.
We’re all NPC’s !!
Gucci suit 😳
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
10 seconds in and i all ready find this guy obnoxious
1 minute in ...he's wasted
Why bother?
🤔
Doesn’t sound too good… 😅 hope you are okay, bro! Get some help and find the passion to live again ❤
Appreciate the life you have, it’s a miracle you are even here
@@DoctorChocolate Yea, but when you're damaged sometimes you just can't see that or feel that cuz ur run by negative energy. Eat clean, clean your room, sleep well, quit any addictions and get some EMDR therapy and listen to Julien as well. Transformation Mastery is also amazing. Anyway BRIAN, we are here for you bro!!!!
We need you :D!
I don’t know why, but I just don’t trust this guy.
Don't trust how? I will say he gives off antihero vibes, lol
@@niellalien it’s like he’s trying to hard. Anyway, it’s my choice whether to take notice or not.
Maybe I haven't watched enough of his videos. But he loojs very awkward in his skin. Like not authentic.
Cringe
While im agree that andro is very technical with is Masculinity and have no this mumant but is masculine is fake to
But Papa Dan is different story
He is pure masculine
Without this mumant
But is masculine is real and pure
Thats why Dan P is the Goat
I mean literally everything
Cv, Cc, Leading, Commandments,
Is hunter henergy is pure,
Legs on the ground pure,
Full masculine box,
Dream
Papa Dan is the Goat