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ive been actively watching you for probably 2 or 3 weeks by now and ive noticed some great improvements to my mental health and confidence, i had jury duty and had to talk in front of nearly 50 people and if it was the me before i watched you i think i wouldve frozen up really hard, but i ended up killing it remembering your advice, ive recommended you to some of my friends and i plan on continuing to watch you for the foreseeable future, genuinely thank you for the things you do
@@js2sgamer951 basically just that no one was taking anything personally, no one actually cared as much as i think they do, and no one has anything against me and it instantly calmed my nerves
@@Mr.Honest247exactly! I've found out that even if i make mistakes or have embarrassing moments, it doesn't matter because I'm being myself, and accept the consequences. It feels better from this point of view. I'm not trying to be someone that I'm not :)
I don't usually comment too much on youtube but this time I have to. I discovered this channel a month ago while i was stuck in a mental state that i knew was ruining my life experiences...but still didn't have the actual will to do something about it. Long story short, this channel gave me a whole new point of view on some mental mechanisms I ignored for years. I'm just getting to fully enjoy the real me, step by step, without comparision, without the rush of all that bs "competition". People around me are noticing the change...and most of them appreciating it that's cause me in the first place am appreciating myself. Truly gold of a channel.
My authentic self as a stoic introvert is quite mellow and average. I don't like to be the center of attention; I don't like to exude confidence in 'an area I have no authority to be confident about'; I don't like to feel like I'm constantly performing or putting on a cheerful facade; I'm not trying to garner favor / appeal / likability or to attract people. And in not caring about those things, it makes me authentic. It doesn't make me everyone's cup of tea, but I'm not trying to sell anything to a wide audience. This isn't shyness or a lack of self esteem, or a fear I won't be liked, or being stifled - I just have no 'motive' to be liked by everyone. In being myself, there's a niche of quiet / nerdy / introvert folks who go "you're my vibe", and I don't have to audition for their approval. I'm content with my parents and 3 close friends. I enjoyed the talk, like you said "You're too different, there's no right or wrong" / "Find your tribe". I just write this because it's easy to close your eyes and Imagine authenticity to be vibrant, expressive, colorful, vulnerable to everyone... But imo most authenticity is rather average. I identify my own authenticity from these three behaviors: 1) I'm not curating / catering my personality, conversations, and our social media accounts to portray someone I'm not. 2) I actively try to not have a 'motive' in any conversation / interactions (ie; what will they think of me? attracting a woman, trying to be liked by everyone, trying to get something from someone ie; changing my personality around authority / hierarchies). 3) I'm generally the same person in my solitude, vs when I'm with people. This involves not being ashamed about any aspect of my "true self" when no one's watching.
As an introvert myself, I would say that being an introvert is not a role that one chooses to play. It is a psychological feature that you are born with. It's where you focus your energy naturally; internally or externally. Now, whether or not someone chooses to "extrovert" or "introvert" themselves (VERBS) is by choice, and dependent on their energy levels, environment, comfort level, for sure. Exercising those features IS by choice.
This is literally me, a stoic introvert with anti-social tendencies to just be by myself. I think to be authentic is to be yourself completely from the natural energy from within. It doesnt matter how other people think of you nor react to your behavior. If i want to have a calm demeanor and just chilling when I am outside at a party, that is my authentic self. If the party or the people I am gets me hyped up with excitement from me reacting to their energy, that’s my authentic self because that is the natural flow of energy. My authentic self comes from me accepting myself for whatever I am and nothing outside can change how that except give me feedback and another perspective towards how others view me through external lens. Watching Julien’s videos, he has that power to manifest that authentic self from people. He more or less hype them up and draws out that energy from within that’s been repressed for so long due to societal repercussions. I think the “real authentic you” is the person at the very core kept hidden subconsciously by your mind because itsociety told you no it’s not okay to act that way. Who you are, how you act in this given moment in time is just your current state of mind, both conscious and subconscious. You either slowly peel the onion and release and forgive all the traumas and rejections over the years or accept who you are currentlly. Until you desire and take action to change for the better and get in touch with your authentic self in the deepest parts within, you will go through life not being the happiest you can be. Julien is the type of person to train you to get that “authentic” mind just like how a personal trainer will help you get your dream body.
This has become my favourite youtube channel in a very short time. I'm not sure if Julien is aware, but his process is very much the same the same that all serious spiritual practitioners walk through. In Dzogchen Buddhism it's called the 'natural state', it's the same as 'being your authentic self'. Much respect to Julien! Makes me really happy to see such teachers, and being so reachable to modern people. 🙏
He wasn't always a confident coach or life coach. I luckily was able to watch some of his development and he got this knowledge from many spiritual practitioners. So yes, his stuff is based on thousands of years wisdom.
I've long felt that I've been polarising to people, they either strongly dislike me or I get people opening up to me and being genuine or vulnerable. I've known that I've been unwilling to change or compromise just in the hope of getting approval from anyone, whether peers or bosses. I'm comfortable with very little in the ways of material stuff and don't feel a need to show or prove my worth to others. However, I find that a part of me really kind of places value on the part of it that focuses on the me vs others mentality. That my success is only valuable it it's hard won in a fight against the ones who don't like me, that I'm not hoping for their approval, I'm needing to prove myself over them and while I often have proven myself in hollow victories, it's never going to alter their opinion, it's something I already knew about myself and it's only making things go the hard way and I know it.
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I’m in my mid to late thirties and I noticed for my whole life that I’m one of those people that just doesn’t click with about 90% of people but the ones I do click with tend to be very powerful friendships and relationships. I have VERY specific tastes and I noticed most people just don’t like what I like. They may like the topic such as movies, music and video games but the specific TYPE of those things are drastically different than what I love. Same with my thinking style. I feel like an alien.. I have tried for so many years to find like minded people and it almost never happens. So I think there’s people like me out there too in the sense that you’ll just be a serious outcast where no one resonates. I don’t think it’ll always be 50/50 with people liking you and not for everyone.
You can't be scared to lose ppl for being yourself. But if your true self is not a good person then work on that first before you present to the world. Realize that distinction between good enough and not good.
The truth is that none of us are good people. We aren't bad people either. We have the latent potential for both, and rather than good or bad it is more like benevolent or malevolent. The difference being that what benefits one person might actually harm another person. If I take all of the food out of someones fridge and give it to a hungry person then I have done a good/beneficial thing for that person, but at the same time the person who owned the fridge and all the food in it has now been deprived of their food. So to say that if my true self is not a good person then wait and work on it is the same as saying that I'll be happy when my life has no more problems. Part of being authentic is recognizing even the selfish and ugly desires and parts of our self and owning them for what they are, and not hiding them in the dark. The worst parts of ourselves are made powerless when brought into the light and exposed. In the dark they are unaccountable. Like lies when the truth exposes them. They are no longer able to decieve anyone like they were when there was a lack of knowledge of the truth. It only has power over those who choose to voluntarily believe the deception, and only way the bad parts of yourself have any power to defile who you are and make you bad is if you choose to let them have control over you. Which is possible. I said there's no inherently good or bad people. A person is capable of doing good or bad, and if they choose to be bad they will have to face consequences. Obviously, I know, but I don't want it to seem like I'm saying that because people arent inherently good or bad that they are free or should be free from the consequences of their choices
@@upperdecker1750no I didn't. Your point was that we cant be scared of losing people when we make the decision to be our authentic self. And do I love to hear myself talk? Well I'm actually typing. But besides that idk. It doesn't bother me to hear myself, but I can't say that I love it either. In conversations I can be long-winded but I've worked on being more curious about what other people know and have to say and actively listening and being truly curious about others. This is basically a message board where everyone is can speak at the same time and choose who they want to pay attention to, so I would say if ideas are gonna be hashed out then this is the fuckin best place to do it The problem with communicating online is that people automatically assume someone replying means they disagree. We forget how convenient and amazing this technology is. If we were from the 1950s we would see all the possibilities, our first interaction would be fun and we wouldn't automatically make negative assumptions about other people in a snap over the petty ass shit we get offended by daily. Why is that do you think? Why do the things that are supposed to make our lives better become a nuisance? Personally I think the prevalence of options and opinions is overwhelming... I think a persons reading ability plays into it more than it would seem. For a person who can't read as fast as they speak it will be hard to fuck with the stuff I'm talking about Chill tho bro.... you don't know me... Not everyone sucks
Yeah. I think it's easier done in loneliness at first, at a small scale. After you identify how it feels it's just a matter of learning how to stay with it in other areas of your life.
I used to wear a robe and pajamas to campus at SJSU when I was studying for my midterms and finals sometimes. I also wore professional attire to parties, but it is important to be confident and love yourself no matter what you are wearing regardless of how others feel about you on that specific day. "Be authentic to you."- JulienHimself
Thank you, Julien!! It’s Thanksgiving today and I’m thankful I recently found you! I’ve been binge watching your videos and they’ve already made an impact on my life. You’ve reminded me who I used to be and I’ve decided to spit out the bugs and reclaim the old me. And it’s so freeing, and actually fun! I’m growing in my relationship with myself and actually enjoying life again! Today for a wild challenge I sang “Happy Thanksgiving day” in the tune of “happy birthday” to my family around the Thanksgiving table. They were speechless haha and I was a lil shaky but so damn proud of myself. I truly feel so fortunate to have stumbled across your videos. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you for caring so much and helping me and others like me. Happy Thanksgiving!!!
13:14 - real great piece of information. A golden nugget. "it's not fake it til you make it." It's act real until you remember.". If you came to a realization that you were unknowingly being or living out a personality that you were thought to have but is not really who you are.
I don't remember when was the last time I cried, maybe years. But Julien tapped deep into my mind with this talk, and also his other videos. I really appreciate this kind of content
Be grateful that people at your job were honest enough to tell you they dont like you! "NEXT!" Much better than you believing that they were genuine friends, trusting them, only for them to backstab you in the end!! There are 8 billion people on this planet. Your job is a very small aspect of the globe. Do not care about these people. They sound cruel anyway. Who tells a person that outright? Would you really want thise kind of people as friends? Every loss is not a LOSS. Sounds like a blessing. God loves you. Peace!
It's a breath of fresh air to listen to someone speak back to me how i have lived life for the past 8ish years now. And you are absolutely spot on in your video's. Keep on keeping on ❤
I read a lot of books and warch a lot videos about confidence and how to be more sociable how to comminucate with other people better but most of them was unhelpfull and they didn't really help me but whenever i watch your videos i can feel the change i can sense it and i believe it can be usefull for everyone i appreciate your words your honesty and your support good luck
@@JulienHimself Thank you for your life lessons. I'm 16 so they're helping me A LOT. The top takeaway from this video in my opinion is the fact that no one can say "This is the finish line and you have to reach it to be good enough".
@@JulienHimself That I am carrying confidence within myself. I dont have to work on myself, I just have to switch the button and be myself and feel the negative emotions which comes with that. I was always so theoretical and the thousands of Selfhelp vids made it so complicated for me and hold me back from taking action even more.
Yo yo yo.... nothing better than living your life for yourself and finding the authentic self......I love juilon has the ability to explain this complex thing to me in a way that it get into my heart....❤
Yeah duh because you acted outside your true self and that fake person is what people see as the real you, then when you get comfortabel these 'idiots' see a change in your behavior, you are the one who causes this,❤
I don’t know, I am known as very authentic and polarizing. I am interested in other people and I tell them what I think.. I have a lot of good conversations when im around people but it doesn’t translate to friends or relationships, if you make somone feel like you unraveled their perspective they don’t like it. I tell people honestly about mental health issues I’ve been going through etc. I am candid with my emotions and intellect. I wouldn’t say I have no filter, that’s really not true, but I have a strong inclination to be candid.
Taking action and having ambition are part of our natural programming and a necessity of life, it doesn't necessarily come from a place of restlessness and disconnect from true self when you have to pay bills and a family to feed, life itself demands action so you can't wait around to be inspired and find yourself before you act. Duty first, especially for men, then being philosophical and spiritual comes second. In fact doing one's duty can be a spiritual experience and it has been the male life path for thousands of years.
25:56 made me tear up because that's exactly where I am and I think about that moment down the road when I wished I could have more, but I'm in such a rush to the end.
Im letting go alot and had such an weird thought some days ago. I want home. I thought about it and came to the conclusion i feel absolutely not at home in myself.
I have never cried that hard on a yt vid, everything you've said im being through and suffer from every single day, and im having that question when will i ever cross that finish line? When will i ever be enough to satisfy everybody's fucking opinion about me? WHEN WILL I FUCKIN WIN?!!!!! Am i ever gonna win?. I believe if i ever had the ability to go out with my real self, that time i will have the ability to express whats really inside
If you have to uplift your best qualities , find the root of them , remmember when it happened in the past , ragulate and feel the same posivie feeling in the same moment , and take it with you on the present moment . The more you repeat it , the more you stronger and confident you become - because this root is becomes you . ❤
I used to care what people think. Turns out, I only cared what the closest people to me think. Since they were toxic for me overall, I’ll say *fortunately*, they decided to stop talking to me as of like dec 3 2022. Since then, I’ve regained my confidence and am much less insecure because I have nothin to lose. I’ve lost my friends of over a decade and now, anyone who talks to me will talk to the genuine me, not a front i put on to fit in. When you become yourself, you will lose friends, but they were never truly friends. They were people who stayed around out of the convenience or because they wanted something from you. True friends would not abandon you over differing ideals. Whenever you attract your tribe, it puts you in a state where you can flourish n grow together. Edit: damn i said this BEFORE you even talked about attracting a tribe, we must be on the same type shit 😂
The feeding off of energy thing is true. Unfortunately for my case this happens with my older brother. He is extremely isolated so he rarely gets casual social interaction. Whenever me and the family have lunch on the weekends when he talks he is constantly rubbing against his thigh as a crutch and it’s impossible not to feel it uncomfortable when he does that. Sad thing is that he doesn’t care to try and be better socially because he has one of those determinist views where he thinks “it’s just how I am”. Trying to help him out often reveals alot of arrogance in his personality.
Well this video is totally worth being shuned for supporting you during the SCANDAL. Break down the fasade of the people. I feel authentic again :) love it! End conformity!
Today I had my hair in a messy bun, I wore my black leggings, a baggy green sweater, my boat shoes, and I had no idea that my confidence somehow shined through in attracting a couple of guys at the store. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂I was confused because I didn't even try....😂
The thought of that is whats holding you back! In high school nobody knows jack shit so dont take those memories as an ankor with you! Because u are awesome no matter what and i dont even know u.
What if my authentic self at the moment is "I want to take a nap?" I dont think most people's authentic selves are always carpe diem, right? Serious question, because I always try to be positive and I wonder about this.
The thing is I am confident and I feel worthy of love. I can be loud and express my thoughts easily, but if anyone wants to blame me for some mistakes that I do they try to make fun of me saying words that are humiliating I can't defend myself and I feel devastated for weeks and months for not being able to stand for my self when I needed to. But how can I really stand for my self? I never have the right words to defend myself and it seems like my brain just stops working when I need it the most...
If someone is attacking you, the weakness is theirs. When its happening, amuse yourself by observing them and how ridiculous the situation is and how they're coming across. At the end of the day most people say stuff to you and 10 seconds after they forget about it and go back to thinking about themselves so that being the case why would you take what they say more seriously than they do? We all think "oh man what if I'd do this or that in the moment it would have been o perfect", but the next best thing is "You know, I don't actually give a shit what you think"
Bro u don’t understand you’ve helped me gain confidence alongside me reading some audiobooks on social anxiety. I always thought I was an introvert but in reality I realised I like talking to peiole
First I watched all those personality improvement and self development stuff for years to get a persona. & Now I’m watching julien to remove that persona.
Personally, if we're talking about attraction, I prefer shy girls that can kind of talk. I know confidence is a must in a guy to be able to lead in conversations and spark chemistry but for girls, beauty and kindness is all it takes generally.
Just found this channel. Looks excellent. Where does one with severe anxiety start, including social anxiety? And how do you get this person in need to realize they need to subscribe and do the work? Anyone? Thank you
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@@JulienHimself I'm interested. Is this for me? I really like your techniques sir...
ive been actively watching you for probably 2 or 3 weeks by now and ive noticed some great improvements to my mental health and confidence, i had jury duty and had to talk in front of nearly 50 people and if it was the me before i watched you i think i wouldve frozen up really hard, but i ended up killing it remembering your advice, ive recommended you to some of my friends and i plan on continuing to watch you for the foreseeable future, genuinely thank you for the things you do
Man, I would kill to be on jury duty but sadly they don't happen in India.
@@js2sgamer951 basically just that no one was taking anything personally, no one actually cared as much as i think they do, and no one has anything against me and it instantly calmed my nerves
@@js2sgamer951If you think about it, Julien’s advice is generally simple. Just be your true self and accept all the good and bad that comes with it.
@@Mr.Honest247 This is really the truest, simplest way of putting it, be yourself and if people don’t match with it then it’s not your problem
@@Mr.Honest247exactly! I've found out that even if i make mistakes or have embarrassing moments, it doesn't matter because I'm being myself, and accept the consequences. It feels better from this point of view. I'm not trying to be someone that I'm not :)
This guy is great. He's preaching unconditional self acceptance. This is the truth and Very rare to hear any self help guru say it!!
Yes! Glad this message resonates with you! 🙏
@@JulienHimself Hi Sir, I love you🎉❤
When we truly accept ourselves we feel safe in our own skin when rejected by others
I don't usually comment too much on youtube but this time I have to. I discovered this channel a month ago while i was stuck in a mental state that i knew was ruining my life experiences...but still didn't have the actual will to do something about it. Long story short, this channel gave me a whole new point of view on some mental mechanisms I ignored for years. I'm just getting to fully enjoy the real me, step by step, without comparision, without the rush of all that bs "competition". People around me are noticing the change...and most of them appreciating it that's cause me in the first place am appreciating myself. Truly gold of a channel.
That's great. I'm happy for you!
My authentic self as a stoic introvert is quite mellow and average. I don't like to be the center of attention; I don't like to exude confidence in 'an area I have no authority to be confident about'; I don't like to feel like I'm constantly performing or putting on a cheerful facade; I'm not trying to garner favor / appeal / likability or to attract people. And in not caring about those things, it makes me authentic. It doesn't make me everyone's cup of tea, but I'm not trying to sell anything to a wide audience. This isn't shyness or a lack of self esteem, or a fear I won't be liked, or being stifled - I just have no 'motive' to be liked by everyone. In being myself, there's a niche of quiet / nerdy / introvert folks who go "you're my vibe", and I don't have to audition for their approval. I'm content with my parents and 3 close friends. I enjoyed the talk, like you said "You're too different, there's no right or wrong" / "Find your tribe". I just write this because it's easy to close your eyes and Imagine authenticity to be vibrant, expressive, colorful, vulnerable to everyone... But imo most authenticity is rather average. I identify my own authenticity from these three behaviors:
1) I'm not curating / catering my personality, conversations, and our social media accounts to portray someone I'm not.
2) I actively try to not have a 'motive' in any conversation / interactions (ie; what will they think of me? attracting a woman, trying to be liked by everyone, trying to get something from someone ie; changing my personality around authority / hierarchies).
3) I'm generally the same person in my solitude, vs when I'm with people. This involves not being ashamed about any aspect of my "true self" when no one's watching.
Your authentic self has nothing to do with being an introvert or stoic, those are just labels, roles you chose to play. Read Awareness by de Mello.
As an introvert myself, I would say that being an introvert is not a role that one chooses to play. It is a psychological feature that you are born with. It's where you focus your energy naturally; internally or externally. Now, whether or not someone chooses to "extrovert" or "introvert" themselves (VERBS) is by choice, and dependent on their energy levels, environment, comfort level, for sure. Exercising those features IS by choice.
This is literally me, a stoic introvert with anti-social tendencies to just be by myself.
I think to be authentic is to be yourself completely from the natural energy from within. It doesnt matter how other people think of you nor react to your behavior. If i want to have a calm demeanor and just chilling when I am outside at a party, that is my authentic self.
If the party or the people I am gets me hyped up with excitement from me reacting to their energy, that’s my authentic self because that is the natural flow of energy.
My authentic self comes from me accepting myself for whatever I am and nothing outside can change how that except give me feedback and another perspective towards how others view me through external lens.
Watching Julien’s videos, he has that power to manifest that authentic self from people. He more or less hype them up and draws out that energy from within that’s been repressed for so long due to societal repercussions.
I think the “real authentic you” is the person at the very core kept hidden subconsciously by your mind because itsociety told you no it’s not okay to act that way.
Who you are, how you act in this given moment in time is just your current state of mind, both conscious and subconscious. You either slowly peel the onion and release and forgive all the traumas and rejections over the years or accept who you are currentlly.
Until you desire and take action to change for the better and get in touch with your authentic self in the deepest parts within, you will go through life not being the happiest you can be.
Julien is the type of person to train you to get that “authentic” mind just like how a personal trainer will help you get your dream body.
This has become my favourite youtube channel in a very short time. I'm not sure if Julien is aware, but his process is very much the same the same that all serious spiritual practitioners walk through. In Dzogchen Buddhism it's called the 'natural state', it's the same as 'being your authentic self'. Much respect to Julien! Makes me really happy to see such teachers, and being so reachable to modern people. 🙏
He wasn't always a confident coach or life coach. I luckily was able to watch some of his development and he got this knowledge from many spiritual practitioners. So yes, his stuff is based on thousands of years wisdom.
Yes, this is full of spiritual insight
I've long felt that I've been polarising to people, they either strongly dislike me or I get people opening up to me and being genuine or vulnerable. I've known that I've been unwilling to change or compromise just in the hope of getting approval from anyone, whether peers or bosses. I'm comfortable with very little in the ways of material stuff and don't feel a need to show or prove my worth to others. However, I find that a part of me really kind of places value on the part of it that focuses on the me vs others mentality. That my success is only valuable it it's hard won in a fight against the ones who don't like me, that I'm not hoping for their approval, I'm needing to prove myself over them and while I often have proven myself in hollow victories, it's never going to alter their opinion, it's something I already knew about myself and it's only making things go the hard way and I know it.
I totally relate to that and you articulated so much of my experience. I'm rooting for you.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🎤 Understanding the power of state transference
03:18 🧐 The fear of judgment and authenticity
06:00 💡 Owning and accepting your true self
10:48 🤔 Accepting and understanding yourself
14:02 🔄 From faking it to acting real
21:12 🚀 Embracing Confidence and Neediness
23:21 ⏳ Motivation and the Purpose of Life
25:30 🕰️ Perspective on Time and the Ultimate Finish Line
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I’m in my mid to late thirties and I noticed for my whole life that I’m one of those people that just doesn’t click with about 90% of people but the ones I do click with tend to be very powerful friendships and relationships. I have VERY specific tastes and I noticed most people just don’t like what I like. They may like the topic such as movies, music and video games but the specific TYPE of those things are drastically different than what I love. Same with my thinking style. I feel like an alien.. I have tried for so many years to find like minded people and it almost never happens. So I think there’s people like me out there too in the sense that you’ll just be a serious outcast where no one resonates. I don’t think it’ll always be 50/50 with people liking you and not for everyone.
You can't be scared to lose ppl for being yourself. But if your true self is not a good person then work on that first before you present to the world. Realize that distinction between good enough and not good.
But what i you think ur super awesome but everybody else thinks ur an asshole 😂
The truth is that none of us are good people. We aren't bad people either. We have the latent potential for both, and rather than good or bad it is more like benevolent or malevolent. The difference being that what benefits one person might actually harm another person.
If I take all of the food out of someones fridge and give it to a hungry person then I have done a good/beneficial thing for that person, but at the same time the person who owned the fridge and all the food in it has now been deprived of their food.
So to say that if my true self is not a good person then wait and work on it is the same as saying that I'll be happy when my life has no more problems.
Part of being authentic is recognizing even the selfish and ugly desires and parts of our self and owning them for what they are, and not hiding them in the dark.
The worst parts of ourselves are made powerless when brought into the light and exposed. In the dark they are unaccountable. Like lies when the truth exposes them. They are no longer able to decieve anyone like they were when there was a lack of knowledge of the truth. It only has power over those who choose to voluntarily believe the deception, and only way the bad parts of yourself have any power to defile who you are and make you bad is if you choose to let them have control over you.
Which is possible. I said there's no inherently good or bad people. A person is capable of doing good or bad, and if they choose to be bad they will have to face consequences.
Obviously, I know, but I don't want it to seem like I'm saying that because people arent inherently good or bad that they are free or should be free from the consequences of their choices
@@donavanheinbokel yea you completely missed the point. Which is shocking, since you love to hear yourself talk so much....
@@upperdecker1750no I didn't. Your point was that we cant be scared of losing people when we make the decision to be our authentic self.
And do I love to hear myself talk?
Well I'm actually typing. But besides that idk. It doesn't bother me to hear myself, but I can't say that I love it either.
In conversations I can be long-winded but I've worked on being more curious about what other people know and have to say and actively listening and being truly curious about others.
This is basically a message board where everyone is can speak at the same time and choose who they want to pay attention to, so I would say if ideas are gonna be hashed out then this is the fuckin best place to do it
The problem with communicating online is that people automatically assume someone replying means they disagree. We forget how convenient and amazing this technology is. If we were from the 1950s we would see all the possibilities, our first interaction would be fun and we wouldn't automatically make negative assumptions about other people in a snap over the petty ass shit we get offended by daily.
Why is that do you think? Why do the things that are supposed to make our lives better become a nuisance?
Personally I think the prevalence of options and opinions is overwhelming... I think a persons reading ability plays into it more than it would seem. For a person who can't read as fast as they speak it will be hard to fuck with the stuff I'm talking about
Chill tho bro.... you don't know me... Not everyone sucks
This hits home. There's no winning or losing.
"It's not fake it 'till you make it, it's act real until you remember." that explains it perfectly
Best take away: identify the source.
Can’t be more basic but difficult. It’s so hard to do, but it’s such an important beginning.
Yeah. I think it's easier done in loneliness at first, at a small scale. After you identify how it feels it's just a matter of learning how to stay with it in other areas of your life.
The source is your Nervoussystem
@@leonhorak3422the nervous system is a recepter, not the source
Seeing Julian’s personality transformation is honestly inspiring to watch. He’s come a long way.
That message was extremely deep, and made it clear to just start living.
if a guy is talking about confidence in such a natural and confident way while wearing big feet shaped shoes, he knows what hes talking about
It is a huge shock to realise that you are and were complete all along. I don't know if i am ready to face that really, but thanks for the reminder❤
Pure revelation for me. It's like all I've heard before on forcing things are bs. Thanks Julien !
I used to wear a robe and pajamas to campus at SJSU when I was studying for my midterms and finals sometimes. I also wore professional attire to parties, but it is important to be confident and love yourself no matter what you are wearing regardless of how others feel about you on that specific day. "Be authentic to you."- JulienHimself
Bro,
Your outfit slays!
Thanks for being genuine.
Thank you, Julien!! It’s Thanksgiving today and I’m thankful I recently found you! I’ve been binge watching your videos and they’ve already made an impact on my life. You’ve reminded me who I used to be and I’ve decided to spit out the bugs and reclaim the old me. And it’s so freeing, and actually fun! I’m growing in my relationship with myself and actually enjoying life again! Today for a wild challenge I sang “Happy Thanksgiving day” in the tune of “happy birthday” to my family around the Thanksgiving table. They were speechless haha and I was a lil shaky but so damn proud of myself. I truly feel so fortunate to have stumbled across your videos. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you for caring so much and helping me and others like me. Happy Thanksgiving!!!
You changed my life Julien
And I still watch you
You are so charismatic. I love you as a person and your videos. Very helpful!
I recently discovered your channel and every video is on point ❤
13:14 - real great piece of information. A golden nugget. "it's not fake it til you make it." It's act real until you remember.". If you came to a realization that you were unknowingly being or living out a personality that you were thought to have but is not really who you are.
I don't remember when was the last time I cried, maybe years. But Julien tapped deep into my mind with this talk, and also his other videos. I really appreciate this kind of content
Thank you. It has helped. Still a hermit. Just came across your channel recently, but it definitely feels a lot more chill than others.
Julian I’m polarizing more and more people since I started watching your content about 2 years ago. You really help me❤
Be grateful that people at your job were honest enough to tell you they dont like you! "NEXT!"
Much better than you believing that they were genuine friends, trusting them, only for them to backstab you in the end!!
There are 8 billion people on this planet. Your job is a very small aspect of the globe. Do not care about these people. They sound cruel anyway. Who tells a person that outright? Would you really want thise kind of people as friends? Every loss is not a LOSS. Sounds like a blessing.
God loves you. Peace!
Oh man! This Julian is so freaking wise
It's a breath of fresh air to listen to someone speak back to me how i have lived life for the past 8ish years now. And you are absolutely spot on in your video's. Keep on keeping on ❤
I read a lot of books and warch a lot videos about confidence and how to be more sociable how to comminucate with other people better but most of them was unhelpfull and they didn't really help me but whenever i watch your videos i can feel the change i can sense it and i believe it can be usefull for everyone i appreciate your words your honesty and your support good luck
Wow...not the first time i've shed tears from realizations from Owen and Julien videos....
Wow, very easy and practical explaination. Thank you so much 👏🏼
You’re so welcome! What was your top takeaway from the video?
@@JulienHimself Thank you for your life lessons. I'm 16 so they're helping me A LOT. The top takeaway from this video in my opinion is the fact that no one can say "This is the finish line and you have to reach it to be good enough".
@@JulienHimself That I am carrying confidence within myself. I dont have to work on myself, I just have to switch the button and be myself and feel the negative emotions which comes with that. I was always so theoretical and the thousands of Selfhelp vids made it so complicated for me and hold me back from taking action even more.
Yo yo yo.... nothing better than living your life for yourself and finding the authentic self......I love juilon has the ability to explain this complex thing to me in a way that it get into my heart....❤
When you truly yourself you always get that idiot who asks you 'are you okay'? 'Are you on something? '
Yeah duh because you acted outside your true self and that fake person is what people see as the real you, then when you get comfortabel these 'idiots' see a change in your behavior, you are the one who causes this,❤
"Are you on something".
"Yeah something big, it's called happiness, you should try😂"
@@alexandrenedellec7116 It's called Dopamine and it's AWESOME ! 🤯🥳😎
Thank you so much Julien.
You're welcome! 🙏
I don’t know, I am known as very authentic and polarizing. I am interested in other people and I tell them what I think.. I have a lot of good conversations when im around people but it doesn’t translate to friends or relationships, if you make somone feel like you unraveled their perspective they don’t like it. I tell people honestly about mental health issues I’ve been going through etc. I am candid with my emotions and intellect. I wouldn’t say I have no filter, that’s really not true, but I have a strong inclination to be candid.
4000 views and only 400 likes? The man is doing humanity a favor, the least we can do is put a like... Come on people!👍👍👍
Accepting things doesn’t necessarily make it easier, it just stays difficult while you at least make progress.
Even a little progress is just that, progress :D
Genuinely masterful. Crazy amount of value. Thanks so much for all of this man!
You're so welcome! Glad this resonated!
Taking action and having ambition are part of our natural programming and a necessity of life, it doesn't necessarily come from a place of restlessness and disconnect from true self when you have to pay bills and a family to feed, life itself demands action so you can't wait around to be inspired and find yourself before you act. Duty first, especially for men, then being philosophical and spiritual comes second. In fact doing one's duty can be a spiritual experience and it has been the male life path for thousands of years.
25:56 made me tear up because that's exactly where I am and I think about that moment down the road when I wished I could have more, but I'm in such a rush to the end.
Im letting go alot and had such an weird thought some days ago. I want home. I thought about it and came to the conclusion i feel absolutely not at home in myself.
I feel that
Seing him smile makes me so happy🤍
This is an absolute masterpiece thank you julien💗
Still gotta listen to it a couple more times to let it hit the spot😭
This video is GOLD!!! Thanks Julien
I have never cried that hard on a yt vid, everything you've said im being through and suffer from every single day, and im having that question when will i ever cross that finish line? When will i ever be enough to satisfy everybody's fucking opinion about me? WHEN WILL I FUCKIN WIN?!!!!!
Am i ever gonna win?.
I believe if i ever had the ability to go out with my real self, that time i will have the ability to express whats really inside
The outfits get better and better
If you have to uplift your best qualities , find the root of them , remmember when it happened in the past , ragulate and feel the same posivie feeling in the same moment , and take it with you on the present moment . The more you repeat it , the more you stronger and confident you become - because this root is becomes you . ❤
When Julian talked about going to the bathroom, I was drinking a sip of coffee it almost dribbled out 😂
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Thank you sir! On fire as always.
Wow, I love the wisdom! Keep it up!
I was a cascade of sentences that hit deep. Damn. Thanks for all this content ❤
You're welcome!
This is absolutely genius
Thank you so much! Glad this was impactful! 🙏
I used to care what people think. Turns out, I only cared what the closest people to me think. Since they were toxic for me overall, I’ll say *fortunately*, they decided to stop talking to me as of like dec 3 2022. Since then, I’ve regained my confidence and am much less insecure because I have nothin to lose. I’ve lost my friends of over a decade and now, anyone who talks to me will talk to the genuine me, not a front i put on to fit in.
When you become yourself, you will lose friends, but they were never truly friends. They were people who stayed around out of the convenience or because they wanted something from you. True friends would not abandon you over differing ideals. Whenever you attract your tribe, it puts you in a state where you can flourish n grow together.
Edit: damn i said this BEFORE you even talked about attracting a tribe, we must be on the same type shit 😂
The feeding off of energy thing is true. Unfortunately for my case this happens with my older brother. He is extremely isolated so he rarely gets casual social interaction. Whenever me and the family have lunch on the weekends when he talks he is constantly rubbing against his thigh as a crutch and it’s impossible not to feel it uncomfortable when he does that. Sad thing is that he doesn’t care to try and be better socially because he has one of those determinist views where he thinks “it’s just how I am”. Trying to help him out often reveals alot of arrogance in his personality.
Well this video is totally worth being shuned for supporting you during the SCANDAL. Break down the fasade of the people. I feel authentic again :) love it! End conformity!
Scandal?
Thanks so much
Today I had my hair in a messy bun, I wore my black leggings, a baggy green sweater, my boat shoes, and I had no idea that my confidence somehow shined through in attracting a couple of guys at the store. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂I was confused because I didn't even try....😂
Y’all need to give this man more likes 🙄
Great video and LUV THE SHIRT :)))
Thank you
You made me slow down during my walk 🫶🏼
Yes julien heyyyy ❤
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Dude, You are F-ING AWESOME !!!!!! 🤯🥳😎💪
I just love you Julien
I Think I missed the Part Where You explain the Unusual Outfits ? Yet Somehow, I still get it. 🤔😎🤣
🔥Content. Always love Julian. Big RESPECT 💯🙏🏽👊🏽
Thank you so much! 🔥👊
Like SCARLXRD says… “wanna talk shit then go on / i can really handle judgement” 😈😈😈
You know it's a good day when you see a Julien upload
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Lots of important information here.
Wow, that was great experience. Examples with table and legs / throwing a phone
Julien! Stop hiding behind your sunglasses and be REAL! 🤪😏
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Lol
@@JulienHimself❤
The 🐐 of personal development
It's time to start being honest. I'm a pdofile! And I'm working to overcome shame!
Ah the shoes! That's my favorite thing
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11:07. 13:38 😅. 13:44. 20:49
I love your stuff
Thank you! Glad my content resonates with you!
His shoes 👞 🥰
I actually didn’t fit in the classroom and now I feel like I don’t fit in the world.
The thought of that is whats holding you back! In high school nobody knows jack shit so dont take those memories as an ankor with you! Because u are awesome no matter what and i dont even know u.
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This guy is a modern day prophet
You are what a philosopher at his best
What if my authentic self at the moment is "I want to take a nap?" I dont think most people's authentic selves are always carpe diem, right? Serious question, because I always try to be positive and I wonder about this.
The thing is I am confident and I feel worthy of love. I can be loud and express my thoughts easily, but if anyone wants to blame me for some mistakes that I do they try to make fun of me saying words that are humiliating I can't defend myself and I feel devastated for weeks and months for not being able to stand for my self when I needed to. But how can I really stand for my self? I never have the right words to defend myself and it seems like my brain just stops working when I need it the most...
If someone is attacking you, the weakness is theirs. When its happening, amuse yourself by observing them and how ridiculous the situation is and how they're coming across. At the end of the day most people say stuff to you and 10 seconds after they forget about it and go back to thinking about themselves so that being the case why would you take what they say more seriously than they do?
We all think "oh man what if I'd do this or that in the moment it would have been o perfect", but the next best thing is "You know, I don't actually give a shit what you think"
Your videos are amazing
Bro u don’t understand you’ve helped me gain confidence alongside me reading some audiobooks on social anxiety. I always thought I was an introvert but in reality I realised I like talking to peiole
You’re feet are hilarious 🤣😭💗💗💗💗
So true ! 👏
Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
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lets fucking go we want this
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His shoes are so cool
First I watched all those personality improvement and self development stuff for years to get a persona.
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Now I’m watching julien to remove that persona.
His dressing sense is actually quite clever for something he does.
Personally, if we're talking about attraction, I prefer shy girls that can kind of talk. I know confidence is a must in a guy to be able to lead in conversations and spark chemistry but for girls, beauty and kindness is all it takes generally.
You saved me ❤😅
Just found this channel. Looks excellent. Where does one with severe anxiety start, including social anxiety? And how do you get this person in need to realize they need to subscribe and do the work? Anyone? Thank you
I discovered julien when he was Doing RSD
17:15 just a timestamp for me