I met a man, an army veteran, who proposed 3 months after meeting! He’s ready to be a husband, and I, a wife. Wedding is this month! I have been abstinent for a little over a year! I’m so happy to finally be wife at 31. RC Blakes & Tony Gaskins has really helped me out in finding out where I was going wrong. Thank you to both of you! Update 02/2024 : We just had our first baby , we are so happy and I’m so blessed to be a wife and a mom ❤️🎉🥳
1. Set boundaries. Don’t be too accessible. 2. Respect your body. It should be off limits. 3. Talk to you with respect. 4. Make sure he honors his word. 5. Do not bend over backwards. Go out your way to help. Don’t neglect any responsibilities for a man!! Bonus: Keep your mouth closed. No oral sex!!!
5 things that makes a woman respect you 1: stop sleeping around with anything and everything 2:stop leading woman on especially when you have no intention of marrying her 3:be respectful and stop thinking women are disposable 4:stop being manipulative 5:respect a womans body and no means no
Men are very much entitled to have their own videos about what they expect and what their standards are for a woman. Matter of fact, I am here for it because it's good to know there are men out there with standards rather than the standard belief that almost all men will settle for anything. There are an abundance of videos where women share their standards for men. I just find it distasteful that men can't have anything without women trying to assert their opinions in as well. We have enough opinions. It reminds me of how women always try to assert themselves on Father's Day and make Father's Day about them as well. We understand the fact that there are a lot of no good men out there. I just wish they could have one thing to themselves without us always trying to combat it in some way.
I would say the same if this was a women's video and a man inserted his 5 tips. I just feel like there is a time and a place. And if one feels that strongly maybe they should go and make their own video with their own platform if not done so already. A woman's view is not what this video is about. This is extremely educational and needed for a lot of women. It seems like a slap in the face to make this about women.
My pastor always taught us when getting serious in a relationship before marriage that both partners should get tested for all STD’s and go over each other test results with confidentiality.
I do this myself as a grown mature woman before i enter into a serious relationship. Its a given for me. I think it shud be for allmen n women who want to have physical intimacy.
This is true and also when a man doesn't love himself he cannot love another woman. We cannot get love from someone who does not have it. Some men hate themselves and they will transfer that into their treatment of their women.
Sex is definitely not that serious, me and my boyfriend are waiting until marriage. He respects my decision and he is willing to wait. If he isn’t willing to wait, he’s not the man for you. Point blank
My man is willing to wait as well. I find it incredibly difficult to be alone with him and trying to always meet in public. I think he's going to propose soon. Abstinence is SO difficult when you are in love.
@@Fitandfabcrew Yes, I'm not chillin' at his place. Nor he at mine. But even in the car going on a date, we are wildly attracted to each other. Very much in love. I hope he proposes soon. I'm a bit afraid I might sleep with him and the attraction, both emotionally & physically gets stronger and stronger. Lord, help!
This message goes back to what my grandma and great aunt's used to tell me growing up. If a man want you, he will wait. Sex will not keep a man, if that's all it takes; then no woman will be alone.
1. Set and maintain boundaries 2. Respect your own body (avoid pre-marital sex and any “foreplay” like kissing and touching, etc.) 3. Make sure he speaks with you with respect (no cursing, yelling, etc.) 4. Make sure he honours his word/keeps his promises to you (give him 2 chances) 5. Do not permit him to get away with disrespecting your schedule or responsibilities 6. Bonus: Do not do oral and/or anal sex
I mean this in a respectful way. Is there anyone online that is teaching young men how to treat women properly instead of teaching women how to handle the disrespect of men?
No one on line teaching men how to be respectful to women that is the job of mum, dad, school, church and society as well as common sense and decency e.g. treat others how you want to be treated. Men often see all women as sport. Women see all men as boyfriend/ husband material then get taken to the cleaners. In other words men are from Mars women from Venus. Tony Gaskins teaching here about life on Mars.🙏
@@muzzmill He may be teaching about life on Mars but he is directing his comment to women on how to steer through Mars. If you can teach one gender on how to drive defensively, why not teach the other how to properly steer. How is it possible to advise or offer suggestions to one gender and not the other? Are men not approachable or advisable?
💙So basically, Ladies make sure u GET A LIFE AND Get u some BUSINESS and don’t be all MAN CRAZZZZZY that we forget about OUR PRIORITIES. We AS WOMEN has always had the power 🥰🥰💙💙 but at times we have not ALWAYS KNEW THIS nor KNEW HOW TO USE IT. What’s for u is for u🥰🥰💙💙, As Tony usually Always says. Come on LADIES WE GOT THIS!!!!!!💙💙
Waiting until marriage to become intimate with another person is the best route to take and only your husband will accept that decision. Everyone else is just there to sample goodies they haven’t earned nor have any intension of keeping for the long term. This is the absolute truth ladies. Take it or leave it. The power and choice is and has always been yours.
Wow! This needs to be taught to teenagers especially in our black churches. I’m 32 trying to date and I honestly feel like I have been thrown out to the wolves and I’M NOT WINNING. My parents and even the church spent so much time making sure I knew what a wife is supposed to do/ be and how to treat a man but no one ever taught me how a man should treat me or how manipulative and conniving the male species could be. Imagine how much heartbreak and life changing mistakes women could avoid if we didn’t have to learn this through trial and error and someone told us what we could expect from men and how to avoid it.
@@thefriendlypsychopath3894 You, sir, are not the prize. The 18 yr olds are not looking for you. You have to resort to looking for people who were recently underage children, to manipulate some naive kid, so you can get your way? Tells us your mental maturity level. Mentally arrested at the same age and never grew past that.
I see that man’s comment, calling u too old. I’ve also seen men, who want a woman their own age. It’s always been scary to me, when a man, 15, 20 yrs my senior tries to get me🤢🤮. Plus, I’ve rarely see any good results in those dynamics. Screw that guy, is what I’m saying. Providing some reassurance here, which I’m sure u already know. Just adding to it, while also saying, SCRAM, to the guy.😊
Honestly, your videos should be part of the curriculum for Middle and High School to help the youth make better decisions before reaching adulthood. I find myself watching some of your videos more than once because I really have to get your message imbedded in my brain to help me change bad habits. I hope your younger son feel better 🙏🙏 Keep up the Great Work Tony 💪🙌🙏
Amen to that!!! Everything I've learned I wish I knew a lot sooner in life even though I'm only 20. And videos that pertain to my issues I rewatch over and over until I can practically recite what he's saying 😂
Tony thank you for your advice and wisdom. After a dead end relationship in 2019 I made a decision to committ to the word of God and took two years off to grow and heal. I used your videos to grow and as a silent accountability. Fast forward December 2021 started to date someone eight months in dating a God fearing man I am in engaged and wedding date set. Thank you for all that you do and walking in your kingdom purpose blessings.
Tony you are spot on. I had a friend to not come to a birthday celebration for a milestone mind you in order to meet up with a guy she never met. Told her she was doing too much but she disagreed. And guess what...he changed plans. We as women have to learn to have some self-esteem. That's where all this desperation is coming from.
@@la6136 Oh that hurt me so bad. I been around for all kinds of men in her life....told her that stranger is not your spouse not even your man. I was so done. It sickens me to see women go crazy over a man. I'm single and been working on myself because all of that comes from a place of low self-worth.
I saw red flags in week 2 of getting to know him..I have never stood up for myself when it comes to a man but when he didn't make any effort to see me when he asked am I seeing you this weekend, I knew deep down I was going to be used..I wished him well expressed how I felt and bam he dissapeared..ladies do not waste time ⌚ please..keep moving. Glad I don't have to invest anymore time and energy and I know we all go through stuff but if we can not help each other what's the point. I know Tony is talking about people in relationships or 2 months in but I had a feeling I have to do it now.
@@dublingirl1691 oh my gosh thank you..I'm reading your message in the morning thinking about him but comments like yours makes it so much easier to move forward..I'm glad us woman are standing up for each other.
@Didi that's exactly how it's been with me and this lawyer I met on dating. He says the exact same things to me. "When am I going to see you next beautiful?" No effort at all to go out of his way to meet me half way or drive to my town..it was all on me. He wouldn't even walk me out to my car at night and had me driving to his place at night as a single mother, after work. And didn't ever offer gas money knowing that I'm a single mother!
You & RC Blakes are having the convos others shy away from. Thank you for this video. More young ladies need to hear this!!!! Set the boundaries and hold firmly to them. ♥️
This is great advice. Now as women it’s our responsibility to follow through. This way we set a higher standard for men that they have no choose to meet if they want to be with us.
Thanks for this deep message , I agree 100% and confirm that when you give a man sex before marriage your value in his eyes will definitely decrease a lot and the respect in the same time ! I’ve made mistake in my past but no more . Thanks God for this confirmation to encourage me to stay abstinent and celibate until I get married . God Bless you my dear 🙏🏽
Once it is established you have a committed relationship where you are only with each other and you feel this... You know this. If that happens I think that's okay too :-)
Currently in the process of getting to know someone and this came just in time! I’ve been re-watching all of your older videos on dating. Thank you, Tony!
Same! I got a folder for his top 10 videos and a note pad!! I've been moving intentionally since 2019! I always go back and listen when I start to really like someone..🥰
Sex isnt all oc it. Some men are closet gay so abstinence works for him. Some men will wait because they are only after your wallet. They could get sex elsewhere in the mean time. Been there, done that. I have no idea what works.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins, I come from a 2 parent household where watching my mother and father interact was borderline cringe 😬. The way a husband respects his wife is the foundation of what a child subconsciously mimics within their own life when it comes to dating. Needless to say, I didn’t come from a background where my father spent time teaching me about dating and men because he was busy spending time outside of the home entertaining other women. So thank you for opening your platform to allow our younger generation of ladies to have AWARENESS of what a quality man looks like and the steps into creating better relationships overall. ❤
My mistake as a woman has been I have came on strong to men and came at them sexually when they acted uninterested, just recently I went through my young daughter phone and I was shocked so I have to have much more respect for myself because my daughter is watching
Didn’t watch the video but I’m just here to let you know that there is no way a man that doesn’t respect himself can respect you , whether you follow rules or not , it doesn’t matter. First of all a decent man respects everyone and is kind to everyone , that is when you know you’ve met a good man. Love and Peace ☮️
Big facts, Tony... 3 mos will most definitely reveal who you're really dealing with! Hold on and hold out ladies. Also, re: not allowing a man to speak to you disrespectfully or call you out of your name, address it immediately 4sure but most importantly hold yourself accountable the same way. Model the same behavior you expect... I do my best to rarely use profanity in general, but particularly at/toward my partner and as a result I have never been disrespected in that way even when emotions were high. Stay blessed and strong Sistas!
It's the rawness for me! Ladies let's get this FREE knowledge Tony is giving and use it to our advantage. No other man is giving us this information ..especially those of us without fathers/brothers. We have to listen and do better! Like Tony said a few months ago... the power is in the P lol. We hold the power. So we have to keep our legs & mouths closed 🙏🏾😂
Thank you for highlighting the importance of boundaries with time and not being so easily accessible and available. I’ve been trying to adopt the mindset that having access to my time is a privilege. Supporting you as your channel grows and evolves. Thanks for the work you do!!!
My ex told me he would have waited for however long I said he had to wait because he liked me that much. I was the one that wanted it and he was shocked. After he told me that men will wait if they really like you, I said say less sir understood. And I’ve found what he said to be 100% true.
7:21 ladies yall need to hear what uncle Tony said : if he does not want to get married , he will not respect the no touchy my body. If he move like that as uncle Tony always say “got to go🏃🏾♀️”😂. But that will help you to not waste your time ! Ain’t nun changing his mind after that point. That’s all him, nothing of you and there is nothing you can do about that. Keep moving until you find the one who can respect that. Assess that man as a potential husband ! 💎💍. Uncle tone just drop big gems for us! You better pick it up !
With or without thumbnails, glitz and glamor and all the fluffy introductions on so many of the different podcasts, I love Tony’s content and delivery. His spontaneous videos and posts are unique. Haven’t seen anything like his on this deep honest knowledge he is teaching all of us. He is right on target with it. I’m not a big fan of the Hollywood showy look but if that’s what he thinks it will take then I get it. I trust he knows best as he reaches out to more people. The fact that Tony is not wild about set routines, this current model for him works really well. I’m sure he will take all of that into consideration as he moves on with this gift that he has.🙌🏻🙏🏻💗
Powerful message! I am so grateful for my father and brothers. They have teach me the most of this on a young age. it’s so important for us to have a male role model. My father died 4 years ago and I still miss this conversation with him. @Tony Gaskins may God bless you. Much love all the way from Holland Nederland 🇳🇱❤️
To add to what you said about the current times and it being difficult for a woman to gain a man's respect..I also think the porn industry has totally warped the minds of men. Pornhub, Only Fans, even seeing women thirst trapping on social media & twerking has placed the value of women collectively at an all time low. Last year, I decided to totally put God 1st and since then it feels like God has taken over my self esteem and self worth. I now have absolutely zero tolerance for bs and the games men (and people in general play). When we as Women take our rightful place as beloved daughters of God and heir to throne, God doesn't play about us!!!
Yes porn being easily accessible on the internet is a huge problem. I'm not saying women aren't watching it but it's extremely addicting for men and that includes married men and it affects every aspect of their lives including of course their relationship with women. It is very hard for women to know if and how often this is occurring.
You are absolutely 100% spot on. Porn is depicting women being strangled, slapped, dragged, spat on… and this is the mainstream stuff on Pornhub. Boys as young as 10 are also masturbating to this, thinking it is how women should be treated, and men’s brains are being rewired by porn and porn addiction in such a way they’re becoming extremely sociopathic and lacking in empathy. I’d guess the vast majority of husbands are masturbating to other women in secret whilst the wife is remaining faithful and clean in her heart. We have serious problems. I don’t know if we can even recover from this as a society now. The consequences even if porn got banned worldwide tomorrow, will be multi-generational.
Your 💯 right! The dating scene right now is disgusting. The hookup culture has really damaged dating. These guys are expecting sex on the first, second, or third date. The men actually feel entitled to have sex wit you. These desperate women are ruining it for the rest of us. I can’t believe what women are putting up with these days!! I always thought a man would appreciate a virtuous woman… they don’t seem to these days. I think it’s totally disrespectful for a man to assume he can kiss you on the lips on the first date. It’s literally Sodom and Gomorrah out there.
Talk to the men too because some men never taught how to treat a woman. Some men raised by single mother and need to hear it from a man. Thanks. Appreciate you
I'm praying for u Mr, Gaskins. May God grant u all ur wishes Sir. May God continue to bless u and the Gaskins family Sir! May He be with u. May God protect u! Amen!
Tony, Tony, Tony has done it again!!! These are straight jewels that he's dropping. I needed this in high school, my 20''s 30''s and now 40's.....but better late than never.
Although I thought “ladies keep your mouth closed” meant stop talking and listen to these men (I believe men tell on themselves so I just let them talk my ear off lolll) I’m a big anti-oral for the girlies. It’s gross!! You speak with your mouth, people interact and see you & your face. Woman do not need to give multiple men top especially when these men are not getting tested or cleaning themselves properly hygiene wise. It’s not lady like & it’s a bit degrading (to me) with someone you don’t love. Anyways, I have firm no touching on parts when I’m dating men. They don’t touch mines and I’m not touching theirs.
Just wanted to say I've been obtaining your wisdom since late 2019 and you're so right the hand of God has been evident throughout the years. I'm looking forward to your future endeavors!
Hey Tony, not sure if you’re aware, but there’s a new RUclips page reposting your content to their page. They put your name in the title, but I still think its a kind of theft to garner traffic to their page by using your content and not making their own. The page is called “Christians Abstaining for Marriage Courting”.
Tony, I want you to know that one of the BIGGEST reasons you have a good platform the way you is because of how genuine you are. I personally don't want you to get the glam and glitter, because a lot of people change when that happens. We are comfortable with your platform the way it is because it's almost like we're talking to someone we know personally. That is the kind of relationship you want to have with your audience. You are a married man- so not TOO personal, but personal enough to where we feel like you are family and we can come for advice. I have not had sexual intercourse in 2 years- plus I was able to walk away from a man that I was dealing with on and off for 2 years a little over a year ago. That is 100% because of God leading me to YOUR VIDEOS. You changed the way I deal with men. Particularly black men. Cause I date all races, but brothas are unique in a sense that they act like lil boys that need to be trained and I've learned how to put my foot down with these dudes. And as a result, they respect me for it. So please don't change anything. We are getting the message. We hear you. And we are grateful for men like you who actually care about women. Because most men don't. Thank you!
Preach! bm in mass are manboys🔥. putting bw down, while they consistently doing the least yet expecting the most sexually & in every way. but 🙄 run if u say i'm abstinent or mention the word marriage 🏃♀️. they have no morals/values and blames bw women for everything bad yet claims he's a king. other races don't put their women down they protect them. done with bm grownboys. they are addicted to porno and lost in the sauce. other race men are not 🤷 the best. but they are not broken beyond repair like bm.
This was such a very powerful life changing msg. I have already shared with my daughter and friend and will continue to share with women and plan on sitting my 13 yr old grandson down when I feel he’s mature enough to receive. To God be the glory, honor, power and praise! 🙌🏾👏🏾💃🏿
I am so, so, soo thankful I have a somewhat protective dad who has always vetted the man I was interested in dating. He taught me lessons similar to this over the years. When I became Christian I also began learning why it is so important to set boundaries, discipline ourselves and walk away from anyone who does not respect that. You might not want to do these things, but we must think of our future selves and the consequences of our actions.
It's the breakdowns that Tony gives that should make one stop, listen intently, think about and examine ones own actions when it comes to the topic at hand, see what ones behavior can be better or what behavior needs to stop, and then move accordingly to the wisdom of the message that was given. 👏🏾💯
Brother Tony Gaskins - yes, GOD is in the details. Favor is upon you. Your work is for the KINGdom🙌🏾🙏🏾. Continue to be led by Him. You are appreciated. Blessings to your wife and sons🙏🏾..... So grateful for your work 🤌🏾
Okay, big brother! We see the thumbnail lol I'm sooooo proud of your growth. God's Hand on you is so evident that excellence in every area is just the natural progression. I needed that same encouragement/reminder (thanks!). And, because of you, I've also grown sooo much in so many areas. Thank you!
Tony I love you! With all due respect! I feel like I’m the only woman that thinks oral on a strange man is DISGUSTING!!! Women give away so much to too many men. The desperation is real out here. I’ve been eating my popcorn watching this horror story.
I pray God will continually bless you in your season of excellence. God has so much in store for you because you speak the truth. This is confirmation.
I seen the thumb nail and was like ….. WAIT Tony does not do that !!! 👀 I agree with everything you say! Do what you got to do & get your word out ! Lord we need YOU and we are praying and rooting for you !!!!! 🙏
Mr. Tony, you are truly out here doing the lord’s work, How come I’m over 30 and the more I watch your videos, I find out I don’t know anything about men. Wow! These messages need to be televised. I will teach this to my children and more women. You don’t know how much of a impact you have. May God continue to protect you and bless you more❤❤❤ We love, value and respect you. When you teach a woman, you teach a generation.
It’s been such a blessing to listen to your views, leadership, and perspective. I promise I felt like I was dropped on the wrong planet! So many, even the sisters are doing too much too soon and I’m looking around like am I wrong for knowing my value and having boundaries? I can’t thank God enough for filling me with his love and showing me I am worthy. It’s to the point where I’m not even lonely. I just look at most people’s toxic, loveless, aggravating relationships and stay busy with positives. Women have represented so poorly it’s no wonder why the pickings are clueless on how to step to a real one. I appreciate these videos of confirmation I’m not crazy!!!!!
I just told my mom about being submissive, and understanding a mans position . He is the head. Women don't want to let men lead.. but the man has to know himself enough to lead as the teacher of this video... I'll be showing this to my daughter . Thank you! I'm just old fashioned. This is one reason women are loosing feminimity- Thinking they can be like a man and do what a man does and then our bodies get all worn down trying to manage too much..
Don’t ever be men lead. Being men lead means doing all the things he wants and not thinking for yourself. So If he wants to sleep with you in the first date it’s ok? If he wants to call you names that’s ok? If he wants to jump into bed when you have the flu that’s ok? He doesn’t want you to discipline your kids you have together that’s ok? If you are tired and he wants cooked food that’s ok? If you want to be men lead that means the man is 100% right all the time. No person is 100% all the time. I will never be lead by anyone. I don’t drink don’t smoke don’t party… very educated great job. people who do those things are lead by others. Ladies always have boundaries even if you are married with children like I am.
@@suddiansmith8578 i understand what you're saying, id like to clarify because i mostly definitely do not mean in the way you listed above, lol. Each person has to know themselves. Couples have accountability to each other. Most people simply do want that responsibility. A lot goes into it. Whether someone is damaged from their past bringing that into something new , or the influences of the world, or they simply have not been taught or have not had an example as this man is doing in these videos... the list goes on and on. The psychological effects of just the few things that I named Are deeper than what people realize you cannot love someone if you do not love yourself or know yourself That alone can take a lifetime. So no most definitely not let a man lead and control everything but each person know their postion & place . A lot of people can not let go enough Because they are harboring things from the things I listed above and more... We can't even let go enough to let God! That's enough said😊🙏🙌
For me the talking late at night or early morning is not a big deal because I’m just genuinely excited to get to know this person. And sometimes late at night may be the only time I have during the week. But I know I do struggle respecting my own time so… Physical boundaries though, and making sure he treats you with respect (honesty, kindness consistency) will weed out the players.
The reason why Tony said late at night and early in the morning is because a guy who just wants to use you contacts you at those hours. Everyone got 24hrs in a day and if a guy doesn't contact you during the day that's a red flag.
@@FoundSheep-AN I agree in the initial conversation but if it naturally happens, I don’t think that is bad. Especially if you communicate with this person earlier in the day on a regular basis. Also, I tend to stay up late especially on weekends. My main thing is authenticity. I don’t want to refuse a phone call or text convo that I genuinely want to have. It’s feels in-genuine. I don’t think you should not doing something just for the sake of appearances i.e. being classy. I want to not do things because they are actually impractical, detrimental, etc. I do get the point though, if you are doing that so much that it interferes with your schedule (like needing to get up early). This would then be a real issue of you putting them above your needs and responsibilities. Im an entrepreneur and my schedule is not set, so it’s easier for me to adjust my schedule. I guess it goes into the “caveats” for me, and not pretending to have a standard just to appear “classy.”
I agree, it’s not one size fits all. Everyone’s schedule are different. Like you said if you’re both communicating throughout the day and talking after a certain time at night works for you both then go with it.
Awesome!! I live in Central Florida and I do hope to book a session with you! Welcome to Florida 🥰 This video is wonderful and a confirmation to me. I have been been single and abstinent for two years now, I’ve healed my childhood traumas, went to therapy and sought the Lords help, I have to tell you ladies it has been life changing! I am breaking all generational curses and strongholds so my children will not repeat patterns and toxic decisions. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and taking the time out to help others grow and be better!
“When you really that guy” Cmon TG - loving you walking in the authority in your anointing. Thank you for coaching me- over my 7 years of single- ness [abstinent 🫣🤯🙏🏽] leading women in the learning of self & men- so life-changing. From listening to becoming a coach myself. I’ve been blessed by your “Yes” to Christ. ***pristine production loading 💬🙌🏽 Lord, take & multiply it- for Your glory!!!
Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. I pray many women take this and understand this is for our Good. If we build off of this message, God will do the rest for us. I've made this mistake and after hearing this, it made me realize I need to do better & be patient to wait on God Instead of proving to men we are good women & bending over backwards, in truth, it's only making us look desperate. Bless you brotha! Thank you for allowing God to work through you for So many women that needs this wisdom 🙏
Dang I’m almost 40 and I wish my dad would have told me all this when I was younger!! I’m suffering the consequences now of my foolish actions when it has come to disrespecting myself and my body. Doing this will inevitably 99 percent of the time lead to horrible depression and anxiety, envy, anger….and just so many things that lead to destruction. I’m slowly breaking free from each of these things everyday. You’re amazing Mr. Toni. Thank you for putting this info out there for young women who need to hear this. Knowledge only first came by hearing, and hearing only from those who were sent and bold enough to tell it. 🙏🏾
Your video is so valuable , every woman should watch, especially teenagers who have started dating. it amazes me how the Black community in America throw the word "bitch" around even playfully, it has become accepted and women dont get offended when there"re referred to as bitches..
WOW Tony this video is much needed! All of your videos are helpful and I thank you and Mrs. Gaskins to give your time as you have. I just heard on a podcast that some men aren't against polygamy to have multiple women. Yet it may not be his taste to do but he's not against polygamy. Yet when asked could his women have other men, there was a straight no because a man explained "his woman could get pregnant by the other man". Yet wouldn't that be the same for him getting one of his women pregnant. The boundaries are so out of line with some men, not all. Cause there are some good men out there. We continuously need your voice Tony to speak truth. You give truth and game away and these are truly life changing for the better. THANK YOU TONY, THANK YOU because you are saving women and men LIVES!
He is telling the truth ladies if a man want be with u and he say he love u make him earn your love ,trust, and respect you cant change a man he will change himself that's how u know if he really love u real talk
I have been literally torn to pieces thru my relationships and I see why now! My last relationship took my life, while still living! Smh 🤧😭🙏🏾🙌🏾 TGBTG that I can even share this because I haven't been able to speak on it since... ( tears forming now) but I made EVERY mistake that you speak on! Grew up fatherless and without any brothers, just me 4 sisters and mom. I really feel that we don't even know the full communication , body language, or even common thoughts of a man and his actions, so much so that I find it difficult at time to fully even express myself to men . Its weird but it's definitely to the light now and I am trying daily to correct that! Your videos are so enlightening and needed! Idk how I stumbled upon you or this channel, but I'm so grateful I did! I now be sharing these videos with my sisters n hopes for us ro see ourselves better, so that God may help US and send us the right person he has picked for us🙏🏾 God bless you and your family!!! Thank you Tony! Much LOVE
I just experienced one of those enlightenments in Life while listening to this video. The concept of "to not bend over backwards" particularly speaks to my core. During the first months of my previous relationship, I took a leave of absence from work to accompany him to a doctor's appointment (screening for pancreatic cancer). In my mind back then, it felt natural to be by his side in that particular circumstance of his life. Today, I understand that I had put him in a position in my life with this message: "You are more important than my work, my career, my money". I will learn the hard way that I had made a big mistake, and you are right. Recognizing. Understanding. Setting boundaries. Mr. Gaskins, your videos are more than ever nowadays of public interest.
There’s so much I didn’t know that I wish I did know. Having an absent father who’s suppose to teach his daughter what to/not to do is a true disadvantage to dating. I had to make so many mistakes just to get to this point of learning. Nobody gave me the game. My dad was and is still a “grown boy”. I’m so embarrassed of how much I don’t know but now that I know better, I’m going to put my best foot forward to get this dating thing right 🤦🏾♀️. I’m tired of getting this wrong but I do know better now
Hi Tony. Sometimes, a woman can do all the right things, follow all the rules of morality and still encounter a man who will not respect her. Some men are good at lying and manipulating; therefore masking who they really are. Do you have a video about those types of guys?
In my late 40s I talk to a man for 3 months B4 I even consider a first date.I tell my cousins...let him pursue you for 3 months see if he still pursuing most times he will leave to that one that put out....come back to you....try anyway...I wasn't always this smart.
I watched this whole video through and it was all wisdom, but the ending spoke to me the most. You hit the nail on the head when you said "this is for my kingdom people"... I definitely needed to hear that one.
Just wish I had known all this info a long time ago. I am really upset hearing this so late in life. You are the first male that has been honest enough to tell the truth. Now, I have a whole new perspective. Wow. I will be thinking about this all day. It's Thanksgiving morning. Guess, better late than never. Keep telling the truth. You g girls need, and I mean, need to hear this before they mess up their life. Blessings. 💕
Everything you said was spot on Tony. I remember when I told a friend that my boyfriend at the time who is my husband now that he had to call before he stopped by she was like he not going to take me seriously, well well he said thats what made him even more interested in me because no other woman had ever said that to him so he was like this young lady serious and mean BOL. We still laugh about that today ... 🤣
I met a man, an army veteran, who proposed 3 months after meeting! He’s ready to be a husband, and I, a wife. Wedding is this month! I have been abstinent for a little over a year! I’m so happy to finally be wife at 31. RC Blakes & Tony Gaskins has really helped me out in finding out where I was going wrong. Thank you to both of you!
Update 02/2024 : We just had our first baby , we are so happy and I’m so blessed to be a wife and a mom ❤️🎉🥳
God bless you ❤congrats 🎉
Congrats and be prayerful in all situations!
3 months. You only known him for 3 months……. Be careful….
You shared this on a public platform so I’ll say it, Military men are iffy, so this sounds like a red flag 🚩.
Crazy military
1. Set boundaries. Don’t be too accessible.
2. Respect your body. It should be off limits.
3. Talk to you with respect.
4. Make sure he honors his word.
5. Do not bend over backwards. Go out your way to help. Don’t neglect any responsibilities for a man!!
Bonus: Keep your mouth closed. No oral sex!!!
Thank you ❤❤
I did all
The opposite 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
The bonus for the win! 😂😂😂😂💯💯💯
Amen, Bonus-AMEN, Amen,amen
@@maribelsanchez6421 same girl . Same 🤦🏾♀️
5 things that makes a woman respect you
1: stop sleeping around with anything and everything
2:stop leading woman on especially when you have no intention of marrying her
3:be respectful and stop thinking women are disposable
4:stop being manipulative
5:respect a womans body and no means no
Men will only do what women ALLOW them to do..women have the power, we set the boundaries.
@@franwilds145 Your generalizing. My man treats me like Gold. At all times. We are courting God's way. Hey, keep hope alive!
Men are very much entitled to have their own videos about what they expect and what their standards are for a woman. Matter of fact, I am here for it because it's good to know there are men out there with standards rather than the standard belief that almost all men will settle for anything. There are an abundance of videos where women share their standards for men. I just find it distasteful that men can't have anything without women trying to assert their opinions in as well. We have enough opinions. It reminds me of how women always try to assert themselves on Father's Day and make Father's Day about them as well. We understand the fact that there are a lot of no good men out there. I just wish they could have one thing to themselves without us always trying to combat it in some way.
I would say the same if this was a women's video and a man inserted his 5 tips. I just feel like there is a time and a place. And if one feels that strongly maybe they should go and make their own video with their own platform if not done so already. A woman's view is not what this video is about. This is extremely educational and needed for a lot of women. It seems like a slap in the face to make this about women.
It's just strange when the opposite sex tries to combat as if it invalidates everything that the other has said.
My pastor always taught us when getting serious in a relationship before marriage that both partners should get tested for all STD’s and go over each other test results with confidentiality.
I believe and agree with that, i tell my daughter that too!!
I do this myself as a grown mature woman before i enter into a serious relationship. Its a given for me. I think it shud be for allmen n women who want to have physical intimacy.
LOVE IT💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Also to get random aids test to keep things on the up an up . We only know what a person is doing when their in front of us
Very true
#1 if he don’t respect himself he can’t respect you.
So true!! That goes for people in general.
True
This is true and also when a man doesn't love himself he cannot love another woman. We cannot get love from someone who does not have it. Some men hate themselves and they will transfer that into their treatment of their women.
Preach sis ❤
If a boy has trouble keeping his pants waist at his waistline then what you have is a boy who doesn’t respect himself. RUN 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Sex is definitely not that serious, me and my boyfriend are waiting until marriage. He respects my decision and he is willing to wait. If he isn’t willing to wait, he’s not the man for you. Point blank
My man is willing to wait as well. I find it incredibly difficult to be alone with him and trying to always meet in public. I think he's going to propose soon. Abstinence is SO difficult when you are in love.
@@danilaroche1156 I feel that, me and my boyfriend rarely ever hang out alone in a private intimate setting because of that reason
@@Fitandfabcrew Yes, I'm not chillin' at his place. Nor he at mine. But even in the car going on a date, we are wildly attracted to each other. Very much in love. I hope he proposes soon. I'm a bit afraid I might sleep with him and the attraction, both emotionally & physically gets stronger and stronger. Lord, help!
......per i ODD!!!😁
Period!!!!
This message goes back to what my grandma and great aunt's used to tell me growing up. If a man want you, he will wait. Sex will not keep a man, if that's all it takes; then no woman will be alone.
True cause I am married the sex was great and he still cheated
A man will do what ever you want...gotta be bout day life.
Period
What grandma and auntie said if he want you he will wait
Love this, so well-said
A man respects a woman when she walks way from his crap... Never settle!
Forgiving myself for my mistakes and doing better.Thank you Mr Gaskins.
Sis, we’ve all been there. God bless you.
Yes!
It’s a blessing to know better my sister. Be proud and move on. ❤
Forgiving yourself and moving on and doing better is k
Amen! same here sis! 🙏🏾🤗❤
1. Set and maintain boundaries
2. Respect your own body (avoid pre-marital sex and any “foreplay” like kissing and touching, etc.)
3. Make sure he speaks with you with respect (no cursing, yelling, etc.)
4. Make sure he honours his word/keeps his promises to you (give him 2 chances)
5. Do not permit him to get away with disrespecting your schedule or responsibilities
6. Bonus: Do not do oral and/or anal sex
Thank you for that. I had lost count and the visual list truly helped me.
@@ladyempire5921 You are welcome!
Im just gonna copy your work. You put it so nice and neat
Thank you. God bless you
@@mileyroe4877 You are welcome. God bless you also.
I mean this in a respectful way. Is there anyone online that is teaching young men how to treat women properly instead of teaching women how to handle the disrespect of men?
Wow...
No one on line teaching men how to be respectful to women that is the job of mum, dad, school, church and society as well as common sense and decency e.g. treat others how you want to be treated.
Men often see all women as sport. Women see all men as boyfriend/ husband material then get taken to the cleaners. In other words men are from Mars women from Venus. Tony Gaskins teaching here about life on Mars.🙏
@@muzzmill He may be teaching about life on Mars but he is directing his comment to women on how to steer through Mars. If you can teach one gender on how to drive defensively, why not teach the other how to properly steer. How is it possible to advise or offer suggestions to one gender and not the other? Are men not approachable or advisable?
@@sonyawalkercreations5991good question
Men already know how to treat a woman… they just don’t. So we have to work around it
💙So basically, Ladies make sure u GET A LIFE AND Get u some BUSINESS and don’t be all MAN CRAZZZZZY that we forget about OUR PRIORITIES. We AS WOMEN has always had the power 🥰🥰💙💙 but at times we have not ALWAYS KNEW THIS nor KNEW HOW TO USE IT. What’s for u is for u🥰🥰💙💙, As Tony usually Always says. Come on LADIES WE GOT THIS!!!!!!💙💙
💯🎯🙏🏻
Absolutely 💯
Yesss
Exactly
Waiting until marriage to become intimate with another person is the best route to take and only your husband will accept that decision. Everyone else is just there to sample goodies they haven’t earned nor have any intension of keeping for the long term. This is the absolute truth ladies. Take it or leave it. The power and choice is and has always been yours.
It’s definitely not easy though but it’s true! It’s best to wait
Facts
There will be not sex ever. EVER.
Easier said than done, ...most women out here are smashing the SAME NIGHT..
Wow! This needs to be taught to teenagers especially in our black churches. I’m 32 trying to date and I honestly feel like I have been thrown out to the wolves and I’M NOT WINNING. My parents and even the church spent so much time making sure I knew what a wife is supposed to do/ be and how to treat a man but no one ever taught me how a man should treat me or how manipulative and conniving the male species could be. Imagine how much heartbreak and life changing mistakes women could avoid if we didn’t have to learn this through trial and error and someone told us what we could expect from men and how to avoid it.
You too old sit down, especially when there a girl turning 18 every single day, we need that fresh water!
Sis, I feel you. We will learn and be better. We will receive what we deserve. Love you first and do you.
@@thefriendlypsychopath3894 You, sir, are not the prize. The 18 yr olds are not looking for you. You have to resort to looking for people who were recently underage children, to manipulate some naive kid, so you can get your way? Tells us your mental maturity level. Mentally arrested at the same age and never grew past that.
I see that man’s comment, calling u too old. I’ve also seen men, who want a woman their own age. It’s always been scary to me, when a man, 15, 20 yrs my senior tries to get me🤢🤮. Plus, I’ve rarely see any good results in those dynamics. Screw that guy, is what I’m saying. Providing some reassurance here, which I’m sure u already know. Just adding to it, while also saying, SCRAM, to the guy.😊
@@thefriendlypsychopath3894 you're just your average ignorant person.
Honestly, your videos should be part of the curriculum for Middle and High School to help the youth make better decisions before reaching adulthood. I find myself watching some of your videos more than once because I really have to get your message imbedded in my brain to help me change bad habits. I hope your younger son feel better 🙏🙏 Keep up the Great Work Tony 💪🙌🙏
Yesssssss
I agree ❤
Yes indeed and I agree too.
Amen to that!!! Everything I've learned I wish I knew a lot sooner in life even though I'm only 20. And videos that pertain to my issues I rewatch over and over until I can practically recite what he's saying 😂
@@Alanjacksonliarforhire Great!! You're definitely on the right path ☺️
Yeah a man can’t call me dawg, bro, man…my name is Akilah
What about TAkilah ?
Tony thank you for your advice and wisdom. After a dead end relationship in 2019 I made a decision to committ to the word of God and took two years off to grow and heal. I used your videos to grow and as a silent accountability. Fast forward December 2021 started to date someone eight months in dating a God fearing man I am in engaged and wedding date set. Thank you for all that you do and walking in your kingdom purpose blessings.
Congratulations!!
Ladies, listen to this brotha! These are all things I learned the VERY hard way...and suffered immensely due to my ignorance!
me too and I wish I heard this when I was a teenager wasted time and suffered alot Praise God I'm still here must teach my nieces and grands.
Tony you are spot on. I had a friend to not come to a birthday celebration for a milestone mind you in order to meet up with a guy she never met. Told her she was doing too much but she disagreed. And guess what...he changed plans. We as women have to learn to have some self-esteem. That's where all this desperation is coming from.
I'm sorry I can't stand women friends like this. They are the type that will throw their most loyal friends under the bus to get a man.
@@la6136 Oh that hurt me so bad. I been around for all kinds of men in her life....told her that stranger is not your spouse not even your man. I was so done. It sickens me to see women go crazy over a man. I'm single and been working on myself because all of that comes from a place of low self-worth.
True!
@@lafemme8 Trust me I understand I have had female friends like this too and it never ended well. Had to learn that lesson the hard way
So true
I saw red flags in week 2 of getting to know him..I have never stood up for myself when it comes to a man but when he didn't make any effort to see me when he asked am I seeing you this weekend, I knew deep down I was going to be used..I wished him well expressed how I felt and bam he dissapeared..ladies do not waste time ⌚ please..keep moving. Glad I don't have to invest anymore time and energy and I know we all go through stuff but if we can not help each other what's the point.
I know Tony is talking about people in relationships or 2 months in but I had a feeling I have to do it now.
It’s wonderful that your gut instinct kicked in and you kicked him to the curb. You saved yourself a lot of time and grief!! Well done!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻💯
@@piscespisces6 you're right 👉
@@dublingirl1691 oh my gosh thank you..I'm reading your message in the morning thinking about him but comments like yours makes it so much easier to move forward..I'm glad us woman are standing up for each other.
@@Didi-fr5ic I know it’s hard especially when your mind keeps going into a loop and pulls you in. You can do better and move on from it.
@Didi that's exactly how it's been with me and this lawyer I met on dating. He says the exact same things to me. "When am I going to see you next beautiful?" No effort at all to go out of his way to meet me half way or drive to my town..it was all on me. He wouldn't even walk me out to my car at night and had me driving to his place at night as a single mother, after work. And didn't ever offer gas money knowing that I'm a single mother!
You & RC Blakes are having the convos others shy away from. Thank you for this video. More young ladies need to hear this!!!! Set the boundaries and hold firmly to them. ♥️
This is great advice. Now as women it’s our responsibility to follow through. This way we set a higher standard for men that they have no choose to meet if they want to be with us.
Once I raised my standards and respected myself, I received several marriage proposals. I'm over 50!
Thanks for this deep message , I agree 100% and confirm that when you give a man sex before marriage your value in his eyes will definitely decrease a lot and the respect in the same time ! I’ve made mistake in my past but no more . Thanks God for this confirmation to encourage me to stay abstinent and celibate until I get married .
God Bless you my dear 🙏🏽
Once it is established you have a committed relationship where you are only with each other and you feel this... You know this. If that happens I think that's okay too :-)
Facts🔥 Thank You 🙏🏽
@@CC12398 No Marriage. No Sex. Period. God's way is Always the best way!
@@tp1201 ALWAYS!!
@@patriciawhite9509 AMEN.
Tony got another thumbnail? Oh ok💙💙 let me tune in now💙💙🥰🥰.
Lol
Currently in the process of getting to know someone and this came just in time! I’ve been re-watching all of your older videos on dating. Thank you, Tony!
Same! I got a folder for his top 10 videos and a note pad!! I've been moving intentionally since 2019! I always go back and listen when I start to really like someone..🥰
All women Listen Always Have Respect For yourselves
As always, perfect message! Abstaining until marriage is key. A man who GOD has solely for you, will absolutely wait. Stay Blessed 🙏🏼
Sex isnt all oc it. Some men are closet gay so abstinence works for him. Some men will wait because they are only after your wallet. They could get sex elsewhere in the mean time. Been there, done that. I have no idea what works.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins,
I come from a 2 parent household where watching my mother and father interact was borderline cringe 😬. The way a husband respects his wife is the foundation of what a child subconsciously mimics within their own life when it comes to dating. Needless to say, I didn’t come from a background where my father spent time teaching me about dating and men because he was busy spending time outside of the home entertaining other women. So thank you for opening your platform to allow our younger generation of ladies to have AWARENESS of what a quality man looks like and the steps into creating better relationships overall. ❤
My mistake as a woman has been I have came on strong to men and came at them sexually when they acted uninterested, just recently I went through my young daughter phone and I was shocked so I have to have much more respect for myself because my daughter is watching
You can do it sis. Coming on to men is not worth it.
Good luck
Didn’t watch the video but I’m just here to let you know that there is no way a man that doesn’t respect himself can respect you , whether you follow rules or not , it doesn’t matter.
First of all a decent man respects everyone and is kind to everyone , that is when you know you’ve met a good man.
Love and Peace ☮️
This needs to be pinned
Timing Is Everything and should be a understanding of when the right time and place to do anything.
Big facts, Tony... 3 mos will most definitely reveal who you're really dealing with! Hold on and hold out ladies. Also, re: not allowing a man to speak to you disrespectfully or call you out of your name, address it immediately 4sure but most importantly hold yourself accountable the same way. Model the same behavior you expect... I do my best to rarely use profanity in general, but particularly at/toward my partner and as a result I have never been disrespected in that way even when emotions were high. Stay blessed and strong Sistas!
I met a guy that told me not to curse but he would it's the double standards for me and would say he could because he is a man
It's the rawness for me! Ladies let's get this FREE knowledge Tony is giving and use it to our advantage. No other man is giving us this information ..especially those of us without fathers/brothers. We have to listen and do better! Like Tony said a few months ago... the power is in the P lol. We hold the power. So we have to keep our legs & mouths closed 🙏🏾😂
What’s messed up is when a Man is super sweet and respectful while begging you to marry him then after you marry him he acts 100% disrespectful. 😢
That how narcissist are! The mask comes of after the marriage. They are wolves in sheep's clothing.
That's why you must wait at least 6 months because they can't hold that mask on that long before it slips.
Key is to follow the Holy Spirit. Following your intuition!
Thank you for highlighting the importance of boundaries with time and not being so easily accessible and available. I’ve been trying to adopt the mindset that having access to my time is a privilege. Supporting you as your channel grows and evolves. Thanks for the work you do!!!
My ex told me he would have waited for however long I said he had to wait because he liked me that much. I was the one that wanted it and he was shocked. After he told me that men will wait if they really like you, I said say less sir understood. And I’ve found what he said to be 100% true.
Uncle Tony with the lunchtime gems 💎 ✨️ 🙌🏾
Mr, Gaskins! I'm ready for class! I love ur videos and wisdom Sir! Be blessed Sir. Much love from the Netherlands.
7:21 ladies yall need to hear what uncle Tony said : if he does not want to get married , he will not respect the no touchy my body. If he move like that as uncle Tony always say “got to go🏃🏾♀️”😂. But that will help you to not waste your time ! Ain’t nun changing his mind after that point. That’s all him, nothing of you and there is nothing you can do about that. Keep moving until you find the one who can respect that. Assess that man as a potential husband ! 💎💍. Uncle tone just drop big gems for us! You better pick it up !
With or without thumbnails, glitz and glamor and all the fluffy introductions on so many of the different podcasts, I love Tony’s content and delivery. His spontaneous videos and posts are unique. Haven’t seen anything like his on this deep honest knowledge he is teaching all of us. He is right on target with it. I’m not a big fan of the Hollywood showy look but if that’s what he thinks it will take then I get it. I trust he knows best as he reaches out to more people. The fact that Tony is not wild about set routines, this current model for him works really well. I’m sure he will take all of that into consideration as he moves on with this gift that he has.🙌🏻🙏🏻💗
Powerful message! I am so grateful for my father and brothers. They have teach me the most of this on a young age. it’s so important for us to have a male role model. My father died 4 years ago and I still miss this conversation with him. @Tony Gaskins may God bless you. Much love all the way from Holland Nederland 🇳🇱❤️
Your videos have changed my life for the better. Bless you, your wife and boys.
To add to what you said about the current times and it being difficult for a woman to gain a man's respect..I also think the porn industry has totally warped the minds of men. Pornhub, Only Fans, even seeing women thirst trapping on social media & twerking has placed the value of women collectively at an all time low. Last year, I decided to totally put God 1st and since then it feels like God has taken over my self esteem and self worth. I now have absolutely zero tolerance for bs and the games men (and people in general play). When we as Women take our rightful place as beloved daughters of God and heir to throne, God doesn't play about us!!!
Yes porn being easily accessible on the internet is a huge problem. I'm not saying women aren't watching it but it's extremely addicting for men and that includes married men and it affects every aspect of their lives including of course their relationship with women. It is very hard for women to know if and how often this is occurring.
You are absolutely 100% spot on. Porn is depicting women being strangled, slapped, dragged, spat on… and this is the mainstream stuff on Pornhub. Boys as young as 10 are also masturbating to this, thinking it is how women should be treated, and men’s brains are being rewired by porn and porn addiction in such a way they’re becoming extremely sociopathic and lacking in empathy. I’d guess the vast majority of husbands are masturbating to other women in secret whilst the wife is remaining faithful and clean in her heart. We have serious problems. I don’t know if we can even recover from this as a society now. The consequences even if porn got banned worldwide tomorrow, will be multi-generational.
Your 💯 right! The dating scene right now is disgusting. The hookup culture has really damaged dating. These guys are expecting sex on the first, second, or third date. The men actually feel entitled to have sex wit you. These desperate women are ruining it for the rest of us. I can’t believe what women are putting up with these days!! I always thought a man would appreciate a virtuous woman… they don’t seem to these days. I think it’s totally disrespectful for a man to assume he can kiss you on the lips on the first date. It’s literally Sodom and Gomorrah out there.
Talk to the men too because some men never taught how to treat a woman. Some men raised by single mother and need to hear it from a man. Thanks. Appreciate you
I'm praying for u Mr, Gaskins. May God grant u all ur wishes Sir. May God continue to bless u and the Gaskins family Sir! May He be with u. May God protect u! Amen!
I don’t care about all the bells & whistles.. just the information Tony . 🙌🏾
Be classy and expect classy. Been married 11 years and this is so true. Finally somebody speaking with some sense.
Tony spoke a word on this video! Sending this to a few people.
Tony, Tony, Tony has done it again!!! These are straight jewels that he's dropping. I needed this in high school, my 20''s 30''s and now 40's.....but better late than never.
Although I thought “ladies keep your mouth closed” meant stop talking and listen to these men (I believe men tell on themselves so I just let them talk my ear off lolll) I’m a big anti-oral for the girlies.
It’s gross!! You speak with your mouth, people interact and see you & your face. Woman do not need to give multiple men top especially when these men are not getting tested or cleaning themselves properly hygiene wise.
It’s not lady like & it’s a bit degrading (to me) with someone you don’t love. Anyways, I have firm no touching on parts when I’m dating men. They don’t touch mines and I’m not touching theirs.
Just wanted to say I've been obtaining your wisdom since late 2019 and you're so right the hand of God has been evident throughout the years. I'm looking forward to your future endeavors!
Hey Tony, not sure if you’re aware, but there’s a new RUclips page reposting your content to their page. They put your name in the title, but I still think its a kind of theft to garner traffic to their page by using your content and not making their own. The page is called “Christians Abstaining for Marriage Courting”.
You beat me to it!! Hopefully he sees this!
I saw this too on that website!!!
It can't be more powerful than this🙌🏾 Thank you and God bless your heart!!
Tony, I want you to know that one of the BIGGEST reasons you have a good platform the way you is because of how genuine you are. I personally don't want you to get the glam and glitter, because a lot of people change when that happens. We are comfortable with your platform the way it is because it's almost like we're talking to someone we know personally. That is the kind of relationship you want to have with your audience. You are a married man- so not TOO personal, but personal enough to where we feel like you are family and we can come for advice. I have not had sexual intercourse in 2 years- plus I was able to walk away from a man that I was dealing with on and off for 2 years a little over a year ago. That is 100% because of God leading me to YOUR VIDEOS. You changed the way I deal with men. Particularly black men. Cause I date all races, but brothas are unique in a sense that they act like lil boys that need to be trained and I've learned how to put my foot down with these dudes. And as a result, they respect me for it. So please don't change anything. We are getting the message. We hear you. And we are grateful for men like you who actually care about women. Because most men don't. Thank you!
Preach! bm in mass are manboys🔥. putting bw down, while they consistently doing the least yet expecting the most sexually & in every way. but 🙄 run if u say i'm abstinent or mention the word marriage 🏃♀️. they have no morals/values and blames bw women for everything bad yet claims he's a king. other races don't put their women down they protect them. done with bm grownboys. they are addicted to porno and lost in the sauce. other race men are not 🤷 the best. but they are not broken beyond repair like bm.
This was such a very powerful life changing msg. I have already shared with my daughter and friend and will continue to share with women and plan on sitting my 13 yr old grandson down when I feel he’s mature enough to receive. To God be the glory, honor, power and praise! 🙌🏾👏🏾💃🏿
I am so, so, soo thankful I have a somewhat protective dad who has always vetted the man I was interested in dating. He taught me lessons similar to this over the years. When I became Christian I also began learning why it is so important to set boundaries, discipline ourselves and walk away from anyone who does not respect that. You might not want to do these things, but we must think of our future selves and the consequences of our actions.
It's the breakdowns that Tony gives that should make one stop, listen intently, think about and examine ones own actions when it comes to the topic at hand, see what ones behavior can be better or what behavior needs to stop, and then move accordingly to the wisdom of the message that was given. 👏🏾💯
Brother Tony Gaskins - yes, GOD is in the details. Favor is upon you. Your work is for the KINGdom🙌🏾🙏🏾. Continue to be led by Him. You are appreciated. Blessings to your wife and sons🙏🏾..... So grateful for your work 🤌🏾
Okay, big brother! We see the thumbnail lol I'm sooooo proud of your growth. God's Hand on you is so evident that excellence in every area is just the natural progression. I needed that same encouragement/reminder (thanks!). And, because of you, I've also grown sooo much in so many areas. Thank you!
Tony I love you! With all due respect! I feel like I’m the only woman that thinks oral on a strange man is DISGUSTING!!! Women give away so much to too many men. The desperation is real out here. I’ve been eating my popcorn watching this horror story.
I've beennn saying thisssssss . Off the cuff I say I don't be texting men after 10pm
Please keep it 💯 because it’s truly sad to see what is happening now. I have my daughters following you!!! 😊
I pray God will continually bless you in your season of excellence. God has so much in store for you because you speak the truth. This is confirmation.
This isn't safe driving, sir.
I seen the thumb nail and was like ….. WAIT Tony does not do that !!! 👀 I agree with everything you say! Do what you got to do & get your word out ! Lord we need YOU and we are praying and rooting for you !!!!! 🙏
Mr. Tony, you are truly out here doing the lord’s work, How come I’m over 30 and the more I watch your videos, I find out I don’t know anything about men. Wow! These messages need to be televised. I will teach this to my children and more women. You don’t know how much of a impact you have. May God continue to protect you and bless you more❤❤❤ We love, value and respect you. When you teach a woman, you teach a generation.
It’s been such a blessing to listen to your views, leadership, and perspective. I promise I felt like I was dropped on the wrong planet! So many, even the sisters are doing too much too soon and I’m looking around like am I wrong for knowing my value and having boundaries? I can’t thank God enough for filling me with his love and showing me I am worthy. It’s to the point where I’m not even lonely. I just look at most people’s toxic, loveless, aggravating relationships and stay busy with positives. Women have represented so poorly it’s no wonder why the pickings are clueless on how to step to a real one. I appreciate these videos of confirmation I’m not crazy!!!!!
I’m old thought I knew it all but don’t be accessible after 10 or before 9. I seriously had no idea. WoW thanks
I just told my mom about being submissive, and understanding a mans position . He is the head. Women don't want to let men lead.. but the man has to know himself enough to lead as the teacher of this video... I'll be showing this to my daughter . Thank you! I'm just old fashioned. This is one reason women are loosing feminimity- Thinking they can be like a man and do what a man does and then our bodies get all worn down trying to manage too much..
Don’t ever be men lead. Being men lead means doing all the things he wants and not thinking for yourself. So If he wants to sleep with you in the first date it’s ok? If he wants to call you names that’s ok? If he wants to jump into bed when you have the flu that’s ok? He doesn’t want you to discipline your kids you have together that’s ok? If you are tired and he wants cooked food that’s ok? If you want to be men lead that means the man is 100% right all the time. No person is 100% all the time. I will never be lead by anyone. I don’t drink don’t smoke don’t party… very educated great job. people who do those things are lead by others. Ladies always have boundaries even if you are married with children like I am.
@@suddiansmith8578 i understand what you're saying, id like to clarify because i mostly definitely do not mean in the way you listed above, lol. Each person has to know themselves. Couples have accountability to each other. Most people simply do want that responsibility. A lot goes into it. Whether someone is damaged from their past bringing that into something new , or the influences of the world, or they simply have not been taught or have not had an example as this man is doing in these videos... the list goes on and on. The psychological effects of just the few things that I named Are deeper than what people realize you cannot love someone if you do not love yourself or know yourself That alone can take a lifetime. So no most definitely not let a man lead and control everything but each person know their postion & place . A lot of people can not let go enough Because they are harboring things from the things I listed above and more... We can't even let go enough to let God! That's enough said😊🙏🙌
A woman do want a man to lead, if he doesn't act like a woman.
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Feel like this was the fatherly advice I always wanted/ needed
For me the talking late at night or early morning is not a big deal because I’m just genuinely excited to get to know this person. And sometimes late at night may be the only time I have during the week. But I know I do struggle respecting my own time so… Physical boundaries though, and making sure he treats you with respect (honesty, kindness consistency) will weed out the players.
The reason why Tony said late at night and early in the morning is because a guy who just wants to use you contacts you at those hours. Everyone got 24hrs in a day and if a guy doesn't contact you during the day that's a red flag.
@@bee67371 Yes I have been contacted by the guy testing me at 11 pm at night. Usually a guy I just connected with. It does say a lot.
Tony is right
It’s a lot classier to not comunicate between 10,00 pm and 9,30 am
@@FoundSheep-AN I agree in the initial conversation but if it naturally happens, I don’t think that is bad. Especially if you communicate with this person earlier in the day on a regular basis. Also, I tend to stay up late especially on weekends. My main thing is authenticity. I don’t want to refuse a phone call or text convo that I genuinely want to have. It’s feels in-genuine. I don’t think you should not doing something just for the sake of appearances i.e. being classy. I want to not do things because they are actually impractical, detrimental, etc. I do get the point though, if you are doing that so much that it interferes with your schedule (like needing to get up early). This would then be a real issue of you putting them above your needs and responsibilities. Im an entrepreneur and my schedule is not set, so it’s easier for me to adjust my schedule. I guess it goes into the “caveats” for me, and not pretending to have a standard just to appear “classy.”
I agree, it’s not one size fits all. Everyone’s schedule are different. Like you said if you’re both communicating throughout the day and talking after a certain time at night works for you both then go with it.
Awesome!! I live in Central Florida and I do hope to book a session with you! Welcome to Florida 🥰
This video is wonderful and a confirmation to me. I have been been single and abstinent for two years now, I’ve healed my childhood traumas, went to therapy and sought the Lords help, I have to tell you ladies it has been life changing! I am breaking all generational curses and strongholds so my children will not repeat patterns and toxic decisions. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and taking the time out to help others grow and be better!
Third video of Tony’s I listened to today. They are giving me courage to do what I need to- and want to do- to hopefully fix the mistakes I’ve made.
“When you really that guy”
Cmon TG - loving you walking in the authority in your anointing.
Thank you for coaching me- over my 7 years of single- ness [abstinent 🫣🤯🙏🏽] leading women in the learning of self & men- so life-changing.
From listening to becoming a coach myself. I’ve been blessed by your “Yes” to Christ.
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Lord, take & multiply it- for Your glory!!!
Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. I pray many women take this and understand this is for our Good. If we build off of this message, God will do the rest for us. I've made this mistake and after hearing this, it made me realize I need to do better & be patient to wait on God Instead of proving to men we are good women & bending over backwards, in truth, it's only making us look desperate. Bless you brotha! Thank you for allowing God to work through you for So many women that needs this wisdom 🙏
Dang I’m almost 40 and I wish my dad would have told me all this when I was younger!! I’m suffering the consequences now of my foolish actions when it has come to disrespecting myself and my body. Doing this will inevitably 99 percent of the time lead to horrible depression and anxiety, envy, anger….and just so many things that lead to destruction. I’m slowly breaking free from each of these things everyday. You’re amazing Mr. Toni. Thank you for putting this info out there for young women who need to hear this. Knowledge only first came by hearing, and hearing only from those who were sent and bold enough to tell it. 🙏🏾
Your video is so valuable , every woman should watch, especially teenagers who have started dating. it amazes me how the Black community in America throw the word "bitch" around even playfully, it has become accepted and women dont get offended when there"re referred to as bitches..
WOW Tony this video is much needed! All of your videos are helpful and I thank you and Mrs. Gaskins to give your time as you have. I just heard on a podcast that some men aren't against polygamy to have multiple women. Yet it may not be his taste to do but he's not against polygamy. Yet when asked could his women have other men, there was a straight no because a man explained "his woman could get pregnant by the other man". Yet wouldn't that be the same for him getting one of his women pregnant. The boundaries are so out of line with some men, not all. Cause there are some good men out there. We continuously need your voice Tony to speak truth. You give truth and game away and these are truly life changing for the better. THANK YOU TONY, THANK YOU because you are saving women and men LIVES!
He is telling the truth ladies if a man want be with u and he say he love u make him earn your love ,trust, and respect you cant change a man he will change himself that's how u know if he really love u real talk
I have been literally torn to pieces thru my relationships and I see why now! My last relationship took my life, while still living! Smh 🤧😭🙏🏾🙌🏾
TGBTG that I can even share this because I haven't been able to speak on it since... ( tears forming now) but I made EVERY mistake that you speak on! Grew up fatherless and without any brothers, just me 4 sisters and mom.
I really feel that we don't even know the full communication , body language, or even common thoughts of a man and his actions, so much so that I find it difficult at time to fully even express myself to men . Its weird but it's definitely to the light now and I am trying daily to correct that! Your videos are so enlightening and needed! Idk how I stumbled upon you or this channel, but I'm so grateful I did! I now be sharing these videos with my sisters n hopes for us ro see ourselves better, so that God may help US and send us the right person he has picked for us🙏🏾 God bless you and your family!!!
Thank you Tony! Much LOVE
Excellent video. The only way to break free from the power of a man is to get under the power of the Holy Spirit.
I just experienced one of those enlightenments in Life while listening to this video.
The concept of "to not bend over backwards" particularly speaks to my core.
During the first months of my previous relationship, I took a leave of absence from work to accompany him to a doctor's appointment (screening for pancreatic cancer).
In my mind back then, it felt natural to be by his side in that particular circumstance of his life.
Today, I understand that I had put him in a position in my life with this message: "You are more important than my work, my career, my money".
I will learn the hard way that I had made a big mistake, and you are right.
Recognizing. Understanding. Setting boundaries.
Mr. Gaskins, your videos are more than ever nowadays of public interest.
There’s so much I didn’t know that I wish I did know. Having an absent father who’s suppose to teach his daughter what to/not to do is a true disadvantage to dating. I had to make so many mistakes just to get to this point of learning. Nobody gave me the game. My dad was and is still a “grown boy”. I’m so embarrassed of how much I don’t know but now that I know better, I’m going to put my best foot forward to get this dating thing right 🤦🏾♀️. I’m tired of getting this wrong but I do know better now
You are such a blessing to the world. Thank you for the word 🙏
Teach us Coach Tony,teach us.
Thank God for u, Tony Gaskins. God has u and will continue to lead u. Thank God for u in teaching us to be open and receptive. 🙌🙌🙌
One of the best video ever post!!! Yes women, do not be easy and giving it all aways at once because your desperate. Have some respect for yourself.
Thank you for confirming my conclusion, regarding men. Three years ago God reveled the nature of men is circulated around respect! Thank you 🙏🏾
This is so needed in our generation today God bless you and all that the LORD has you doing for His kingdom 🙏🏽
This is quite instructive. I have sent it to my daughter. Must listen to it again. A woman's privacy should not be violated.
Hi Tony. Sometimes, a woman can do all the right things, follow all the rules of morality and still encounter a man who will not respect her. Some men are good at lying and manipulating; therefore masking who they really are. Do you have a video about those types of guys?
He has many... search for his name and add "grown boys" and you'll find them.
I have seen you on other shows, ran across your video today & I subscribed. You are right God’s anointing is on you.
In my late 40s I talk to a man for 3 months B4 I even consider a first date.I tell my cousins...let him pursue you for 3 months see if he still pursuing most times he will leave to that one that put out....come back to you....try anyway...I wasn't always this smart.
Spirit of excellence… Polished! Thank you for that blessing 🙏🏼
I watched this whole video through and it was all wisdom, but the ending spoke to me the most. You hit the nail on the head when you said "this is for my kingdom people"... I definitely needed to hear that one.
Just wish I had known all this info a long time ago. I am really upset hearing this so late in life.
You are the first male that has been honest enough to tell the truth. Now, I have a whole new perspective. Wow. I will be thinking about this all day. It's Thanksgiving morning. Guess, better late than never. Keep telling the truth. You g girls need, and I mean, need to hear this before they mess up their life. Blessings. 💕
Tony, Thank you for bringing us life-changing content! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Definitely have to move different in todays world! We are in the world but not to be of it. Love yourself and everything for u will follow🤞🏾
Everything you said was spot on Tony. I remember when I told a friend that my boyfriend at the time who is my husband now that he had to call before he stopped by she was like he not going to take me seriously, well well he said thats what made him even more interested in me because no other woman had ever said that to him so he was like this young lady serious and mean BOL. We still laugh about that today ... 🤣