LET'S TALK BREAKUPS.. Get Ready with Me

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Комментарии • 701

  • @cathleen8697
    @cathleen8697 Год назад +743

    I’ve been a fan for years, Carli. I’m 60 years old and a widow. I too just had a recent breakup. May I say a huge ‘thank you’ for your great presentation in helping all of us ladies. Congrats on being such fabulous support as we all face challenges. Wishing you the best ahead!!

  • @michellesharon80
    @michellesharon80 Год назад +6

    It is so sad, the amount of ladies who feel like their life is over, over a man who probably isn't giving you another thought. I have been single for almost a full year after a 20 year horrible relationship/marriage and a 2 1/2 year "situationship" and it has been amazing.

  • @bookworm2625
    @bookworm2625 11 месяцев назад

    Can you PLEASE make a video about toxic relationships and how to know when to stay or when to leave.

  • @kristinamiret3747
    @kristinamiret3747 Год назад +3

    I found you back in 2013 when I got out of a very toxic relationship and your videos are what got me through everything ...Thank you Carli for all your videos!

  • @cessnaisabella
    @cessnaisabella 11 месяцев назад

    I'm listening with my eyes closed and crying. Thank you for this. Sending love and support back to you.

  • @angelaharris7277
    @angelaharris7277 Год назад +3

    Yes ❤️she's right...put yourself first for once!!! It's a process ,I know..and if you have to,go get therapy to help you! Heal from it, and something positive will come from it all ♥️♥️♥️..Valentine's day...take your son out! Buy yourself flowers!

  • @carmenmondragon2390
    @carmenmondragon2390 Год назад

    Carli I’m so happy to see you uploading this video soooo needed this. Going through this right now love you so much the struggle is real

  • @danielle3760
    @danielle3760 Год назад

    Rlly glad ur on YT still. Appreciate you

  • @jillianallcock718
    @jillianallcock718 Год назад

    In a respectful way!!! You had dark under eyes in past videos and over the years they are gone and you are glowing! You were glowing before to!!! I need your secret! I can’t get mine to go away :( xox love you. ❤

  • @yaritzayanez6985
    @yaritzayanez6985 Год назад

    I just love this video! I appreciate you taking the time for making this video not just for you but for us as well! God bless you and your family!❤

  • @dennisesantillan5335
    @dennisesantillan5335 Год назад +2

    Always enjoy watching you love you!!❤❤❤

  • @marissalyn
    @marissalyn Год назад +3

    Breakups are never easy. I was forced to say goodbye to my fiancé. He was murdered in front of me. I have to testify in court next week and watching you and how strong you are is giving me the courage to keep going and make me want to follow even my hardest of dreams like filming videos 🥰
    I’ve been here for over 10 years following your journey, I don’t comment much but I had to this was important to me to say😇🤍

    • @whatever7004
      @whatever7004 Год назад +1

      Sending you so much love dear! ❤️

    • @HailaAlexis
      @HailaAlexis Год назад +1

      I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

    • @yasmeen5684
      @yasmeen5684 Год назад +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love ♥️

    • @marissalyn
      @marissalyn Год назад

      @@whatever7004 omg thank you for your sweet reply. Im used to getting mean replies

    • @marissalyn
      @marissalyn Год назад +1

      @@HailaAlexis thank you so much🥹💜

  • @Justgirliethings6
    @Justgirliethings6 Год назад +2

    This video makes me so sad I was rooting for you and Anthony. I’m still rooting for you guys.😢

    • @babybluecheeks
      @babybluecheeks Год назад

      I feel like something else must have happened recently for Carli to make this video, it's seem passive aggressive.
      I only just realised that Anthony is the guy from Jerseylicious! I used to love that show.
      Carli is such a kind-hearted, smart, beautiful, and intelligent women, she really deserves someone who is going to match that. We all do

  • @veerdz7744
    @veerdz7744 Год назад +2

    It almost doesn’t seem real seeing you use liquid blush lol it looks so good

    • @juliabm6551
      @juliabm6551 Год назад

      Is that the same color she used on her lips right? I was confused about what color she used on her lips

  • @michellebelle6269
    @michellebelle6269 Год назад

    I've been in a toxic relationship for 15 years and I've tried to end things so many times but it just doesn't happen. We live in a house I own, in my state you cant kick your spouse out of your martial home. I can't leave because he'd probably destroy my house, something I've worked so hard for and I don't want to leave my pets. So I am literally stuck. I have no options...

    • @MsJujubee3
      @MsJujubee3 Год назад +2

      That’s what you’re telling yourself babe. You are not stuck. You can do this!!! Get an amazing divorce attorney and never look back!!! You only get one life, don’t waste another second!!!

    • @michellebelle6269
      @michellebelle6269 Год назад

      @@MsJujubee3 thank you ❤

    • @sonyadrake7843
      @sonyadrake7843 Год назад +1

      You have options, just like the prior commenter stated, get yourself a Divorce Attorney that's going to have your back and to get you on with your Life!
      Don't give up, you got this! 😉🙂

  • @rodriguezstephanie10
    @rodriguezstephanie10 Год назад

    Loveeee your lip liner color❤ what is it????
    Love you since you started with your fashion ig 💕💕💕

  • @gabbysalazar4209
    @gabbysalazar4209 Год назад

    I needed this today thank you Carli

  • @sayantaniist
    @sayantaniist Год назад

    I really appreciate your strength and God bless you 💖💖

  • @HelenaMagarian
    @HelenaMagarian Год назад

    You're My Sweet Inspiration 💜✨
    Love you Strong Carli ✨✨

  • @priscillaanaliese190
    @priscillaanaliese190 Год назад

    Needed this ❤️ thank you!

  • @Youtubberrrrrrrrlol
    @Youtubberrrrrrrrlol Год назад

    Thanks for this video my boo is a dub rn I love you baby❤

  • @armanigabrielle6391
    @armanigabrielle6391 Год назад

    It’s so hard feel like I’m dying lol but Ik everything happens for a reason. Trying to stay positive.

  • @Nabiilahbun
    @Nabiilahbun Год назад

    Am married
    But I feel like at a certain age girls feel the pressure that they have to be married and have kids and then it gives you so much stress. 2023 Girls you are independent, you are happy , When the right time and person comes it will be here. Do not pressure yourself on others questions. Live for yourself first.

  • @maringiardini
    @maringiardini Год назад

    Going through one right now. 10 year relationship and a 9m/o

  • @maram.6592
    @maram.6592 Год назад +1

    the earring comment was a little creepy. mothers who think they come before their sons wife once theyre married is sickening and means they failed.

  • @mkat4271
    @mkat4271 Год назад +2

    Women need to stop trying to force relationships. No one should be living with someone they haven't even known a year. Relationships need built, you don't just fall into them, or they fall apart.

  • @rachaelgrewell7232
    @rachaelgrewell7232 Год назад

    Hey, Everything you said was facts and ............... Whats your lip combo?

  • @Kassandranm
    @Kassandranm Год назад

    Carliii would you like to try new products that are viral right know? I will appreciate your opinion about them 🤍

  • @Tiff-vi9kx
    @Tiff-vi9kx Год назад +779

    My main piece of advice is actually for post-post breakup.
    We’ve all seen the girl who goes from relationship to relationship and in between “finds herself” or loses a ton of weight or “glows up” and then gets in a relationship again and bam, she’s back to square one and rinse and repeat.
    Find yourself during the breakup, yes. But actively work to KEEP yourself, even if you’re in a relationship. That’s when you’ll really glow up and find your true partner. Don’t make a relationship your entire life or personality and keep growing. Because even if that relationship ends, the relationship you have with yourself is still solid.

    • @1misshorsefan
      @1misshorsefan Год назад +16

      The absolute best wisdom

    • @1misshorsefan
      @1misshorsefan Год назад +20

      Most girls are codependent in relationships they dont want to be alone because they dont have the healthy self relationship

    • @jocelynandradesanchez9682
      @jocelynandradesanchez9682 Год назад +2

      LOVE THIS

    • @Ramiiii123
      @Ramiiii123 Год назад +2

      Awwwww :') love this

    • @Lucy_f831
      @Lucy_f831 Год назад +2

      💯🙏🏻

  • @nessilla.godzilla
    @nessilla.godzilla Год назад +282

    12 year relationship ended recently and I'm currently watching this in bed with a bag of Wendy's 😂 being in the moment is so hard and I cry everyday, multiple times a day, but I know God has a plan for me. Just gotta have faith. Its just, again, hard when you're in the moment with the feeling of a deep sinking sorrow in your chest...

    • @plavaovcica
      @plavaovcica Год назад +5

      Stay strong angel🫶🏻

    • @christinekim4056
      @christinekim4056 Год назад +9

      You are strong girl. I know you can get through this and I’m so happy to hear that you know God has a plan for you.
      I ended my 8 year relationship because I was so unhappy and felt it was toxic. It was really difficult and having anxiety about turning 31 with no husband and kids makes it feel even worse. Especially because my girls are all married and have kids. But I keep reminding myself, I’d rather feel lonely than be married to someone who makes me unhappy.

    • @rollyatm55
      @rollyatm55 Год назад +2

      @@christinekim4056 Exactly! Dont settle so that you can just pretend you are happy and because you feel pressured cause all your freinds got married. In the long run you will be way more miserable in a marriage like that than if you are single and doing what you love and whats best for you!!

    • @SonoNariFiorewithGrace
      @SonoNariFiorewithGrace Год назад +5

      Remember that our Almighty God loves you and is for you! May you receive the healing you need in Jesus name! 💞✨

    • @carlabarrick8538
      @carlabarrick8538 Год назад +1

      Love ya girl 💗

  • @skitty114
    @skitty114 Год назад +211

    What I always tell myself is " you were good before them, you will be better after them"

    • @lilrr1431
      @lilrr1431 Год назад

      And old too 🤣

    • @putrihs5
      @putrihs5 Год назад

      Omg that quote is always my mantra since my first break up in 2011 :)

  • @Simplelivingslowliving
    @Simplelivingslowliving Год назад +191

    Different topic but has anyone else had a friendship breakup that felt even worse than a romantic breakup ? I have , it literally broke my heart to let that friend go after finding out something really shady about her character. I couldn’t forgive and it still haunts me. 😢

    • @ayeeyoya
      @ayeeyoya Год назад +13

      Going through it right now and it has completely shattered me more than finding out my ex of 6 years was living a double life.

    • @Simplelivingslowliving
      @Simplelivingslowliving Год назад +11

      @@ayeeyoya wow I’m so sorry for both situations dear. My friend completely broke my heart, sort of like a stab in the back; and this was 13 years ago. I still have dreams about her in my life and I think it’s because I never properly closed that chapter. I just distanced myself and never explained what I discovered. She was my best friend for 9 years of my life . What Ive come to learn is that not every friend is meant to remain in your life . And sometimes you consider someone your best friend but they consider someone else their best friend and that’s ok. I just wish it wasn’t so painful till this day to remember. I hope you heal your wounds . It’s hard for sure .

    • @themango9644
      @themango9644 Год назад +2

      Ur gonna find better friends trust

    • @sarahcabbara5124
      @sarahcabbara5124 Год назад +1

      I’m going through a friend breakup. Was best friends with him for 20 years. I said the same thing, that friend break ups are worse. So much time of being super close and the disappointment just killed me. At the end of the day I remind myself that he no longer deserved me in his life and I have many amazing friends that do. 🙌🏻

    • @bre3108
      @bre3108 Год назад +1

      There's better friends to be found. I know how u feel. Hang in there

  • @vsfam5vsfam5
    @vsfam5vsfam5 Год назад +59

    Ladies, most importantly, take advice from people who are in long and successful relationships. I've been with my husband 15 years and I can honestly say, be confident with yourself and being alone. Look for a teammate/partner, not someone to save you. Also, don't move in together right away, and have babies before marriage. Have respect for yourself. Don't compare your relationship to others. Don't give up at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take work on both ends. And just don't settle.

  • @dilemmaleary
    @dilemmaleary Год назад +354

    i just wanted to say i’ve been watching your videos since like 2015 and i still use l’oréal telescopic bc of you and still use your blow drying method and products from back in the day and you are such a role model and icon to me. i just wanted you to know you had THE most impact on my overall appearance and feeling good about myself ily

    • @CarliBel55
      @CarliBel55  Год назад +66

      aw :) hi my love!!! Thanks for sticking with me all these years!! Sending you all my love!!!

    • @dilemmaleary
      @dilemmaleary Год назад +7

      @@CarliBel55 legit tearing up rn I LOVE YOU❤️❤️❤️

    • @louisesharpy
      @louisesharpy Год назад +4

      I have followed you since 2015 or 2016 ?? Your palette was my very first real eyeshadow palette I bought like. You roughte me back to my love of makeup. I’m 61. Don’t look or act it for sure. I have been there, done that. Let me tell you all this. YOU DONT NEED ANYONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL WHOLE OR MAKE YOU “ANYTHING”. I raised my girl all alone, and I didn’t date for 10 yrs. She was more important !! You can do it, you will get over anyone. You may hurt, be sad, grieve, but that’s ok !! I FOUNd PEACE, and you will too !! Don’t LET ANYONE TAKE YOUR SUNSHINE AWAY. NOT EVER 😊. I also have never been married I have been with my man for 16yrs now. But it took a lot to find him. ❤oh, and my daughter is amazing AND INDEPENDENT bought her first home at 24. And makes bank. Ha ha. You can be alone, and you can be ok

    • @oscarse5541
      @oscarse5541 Год назад +1

      @@CarliBel55 Love your GRWM

    • @nianewton2551
      @nianewton2551 Год назад +4

      Same I still use telescopic because of her too! Lol

  • @plavaovcica
    @plavaovcica Год назад +364

    I am literally packing my stuf rn and moving out of my bf’s place after 6 years od toxic relationship. This couldn’t have been more TIMELY! 🦋

    • @dj.1094
      @dj.1094 Год назад +16

      The best advice i can give you is to leave your stuff and start fresh. Every item that you shared with that person will be a constant reminder of them. Throw everything away!

    • @loredanacaldararu7916
      @loredanacaldararu7916 Год назад +12

      @@dj.1094 Ok so start to pay for her new items!🙂👏

    • @rudolf-ezelduna-bayraktar3055
      @rudolf-ezelduna-bayraktar3055 Год назад +1

      You got this girl trust me god knows why he does things you will be ok and stronger 💚💚👌

    • @KatMarie1992
      @KatMarie1992 Год назад

      I am doing the same girl, after 3 years of toxicity. I’m proud of you!! ❤️❤️❤️🥂

    • @plavaovcica
      @plavaovcica Год назад +5

      @@dj.1094 Can’t wait till I’m financially able to do that! 🤞🏻

  • @feefs2139
    @feefs2139 Год назад +69

    I will say people also need to look at themselves when they go through a breakup. You can't always say to yourself "well it's their loss"..no.
    Sometimes it's your loss. Maybe you thought you were a great partner by your limited understanding of what a partner should be, but in reality you weren't. There's always room to grow.

    • @TheAjda2011
      @TheAjda2011 Год назад +11

      Yes! Same thing came to mind. If you're constantly going through the same thing with different individuals then you may be the problem. There should be respect, compromise and communication in a relationship. We can't expect to find the "perfect" person when we don't bring our "perfect" into it. Plus no one will ever be perfect.

    • @feefs2139
      @feefs2139 Год назад

      @@TheAjda2011 Yes very well said! 💜

    • @everlynlanka7712
      @everlynlanka7712 Год назад +1

      Definitely true this

  • @katie4996
    @katie4996 Год назад +73

    I found my person when I was 29! I had gone through some bad relationships and was just focusing on myself. Making good financial decisions, focusing on my health. Then I reconnected with a guy I had a fling with years prior. I wasn’t wanting anything serious, but before we knew it, we realized we were perfect for each other. We both went through bad relationships and we both had so much growth. Fast forward 3 years, we’re married and have our first baby on the way. I’ve never been closer to anyone in my life. We have great financial goals and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. And he’s so excited to be father. I can’t wait for our next chapter. ❤

  • @lauraeliselangwell2459
    @lauraeliselangwell2459 Год назад +98

    Going through divorce, single mum of 3 young children! I needed this today ❤️ thank you!

    • @carlabarrick8538
      @carlabarrick8538 Год назад +2

      Love ya girl 💗

    • @lauraeliselangwell2459
      @lauraeliselangwell2459 Год назад +1

      @@carlabarrick8538 love ya back 😘

    • @candyhouseAMOUR
      @candyhouseAMOUR Год назад

      Sending love 💕 being a single mom isn’t easy I have two of my own. But this is what makes us the strongest beings on earth.

    • @rickypv2978
      @rickypv2978 Год назад

      Why are you going through a divorce

  • @alyssapooler63
    @alyssapooler63 Год назад +76

    You and Nicole are the only reasons I still watch RUclips, my absolute favorites 😭♥️

  • @imjustanasshlesometimes3488
    @imjustanasshlesometimes3488 Год назад +38

    You're absolutely right. I was single for 2 yrs, worked on myself, gained self worth, confidence... I was happy being alone and really had no desire to change that. Then I met my now husband. I honestly didn't think partners like him existed... we're going on 10yrs together, 4 yrs married, and have a beautiful 3yr old and 16 month old. I'm so grateful I never settled for less. Healing and taking time for myself was the best thing I could do for myself. Lots of love to you and your son 💗

  • @Desiii1515
    @Desiii1515 Год назад +215

    And what about friendship breakups? They hurt worst than the romantic ones sometimes 😭

    • @CarliBel55
      @CarliBel55  Год назад +148

      100% ... what's meant for you will stay, what's not will be a lesson learned. x

    • @Desiii1515
      @Desiii1515 Год назад +5

      @@CarliBel55 I love this! Thanks Carli ❤️

    • @hubabaloop
      @hubabaloop Год назад +1

      Listen to “friends that break your heart” by James Blake and be prepared to 😢

    • @PAHGirly
      @PAHGirly Год назад

      PREACH!!!!

    • @gabriellefaerman1091
      @gabriellefaerman1091 Год назад +4

      What about the relationship where the man was nothing but perfect, but you were too toxic and he left

  • @meeow7970
    @meeow7970 Год назад +48

    Going through one right now. So glad you uploaded a video on this topic. I am sure there will be words of wisdom for who is going through one right now. Love you girlie❤

  • @katie_kate88
    @katie_kate88 Год назад +5

    Sadly, in today's society, your value as a woman is based off of how successful u are, or what a "bad bitch" you are.. I'm neither successful or a "bad bitch" so it appears my value is low in today's dating world.. I've been a stay at home mom for 9 years, and just became a single mom. So I'm starting at literal square one. I have no desire to date, solitude is where I'm happiest. But the low value woman thing will definitely keep me out of the dating world. I refuse to be valued by what I've done in my life, rather than who I am and what my heart is..

  • @m_a_rzzzz6027
    @m_a_rzzzz6027 Год назад +14

    when you keep going from relationship to relationship most of the time is a “me” problem not a “all of them are the problem”, … laddies it’s okay to think of ourselves as worthy but when you put your beauty up in a pedestal and assume you ALWAYS deserve better, that’s no longer “self love “ that’s called “pride”! And pride will always bring a fall. Sometimes just sometimes it’s best to concentrate on working in our own selves that’s also “self love”..

    • @langeli_art
      @langeli_art Год назад

      it doesn't apply to everyone… if so, now I don't have a long-long-term relationship after all . And there were 3 frogs before him 😅 they kept saying that I was the problem . With the last one, I found out that it is not true.

    • @adk5997
      @adk5997 Год назад

      There are also too many men who expect being taken care of as if they are children. Too many are like that. Easy for such to tell women to be running around them… nope thanks.

  • @serenalakkiss
    @serenalakkiss Год назад +33

    So happy you covered this topic! You’re literally the best & most beautiful person with the most purest soul. I will forever love you Carli🥺💖💖💖

    • @CarliBel55
      @CarliBel55  Год назад +1

      Thank you doll baby!!! love you!!!!

  • @antonilabredoon589
    @antonilabredoon589 Год назад +74

    I just want to take this moment and say that you’re one of my favorite and OGs RUclipsrs I’ve been watching you for years. ❤ god bless you and your family and wish you the best 🙏🏻

    • @CarliBel55
      @CarliBel55  Год назад +5

      Thank you my angel!! Same to you & yours xoxo

  • @TriciaLynn
    @TriciaLynn Год назад +20

    One of the things I struggled with after breakups is forgiving myself and giving myself grace to acknowledge that ‘yea it didn’t work out but that’s okay’

  • @NoName-1239
    @NoName-1239 Год назад +2

    Carli I love you and everything but why have all your long term relationships have not lasted? It’s just very strange to me, you seem like a good person and the men you choose seem to be good people too and you get in these long term relationships… even gave a man a whole child… and you still always end up single

  • @day6879
    @day6879 Год назад +52

    I love that you’re sharing your tips and experiences. It’s something we can all apply into our life if we are still in the dating scene. Been watching you since I was a teenager and now I’m 25! I love listening and learning from you xoxo ❤️

  • @dodge10P1N
    @dodge10P1N Год назад +15

    When my ex broke up with me, i was devastated at first. You only remember the good and it felt extra shitty to be blindsided by it. But time makes you see clearer and clearer. My breakup was one of the best things that happened to me. I was settling for a man who was immature, selfish, and thought that power and abusing women was normal. I look back and severely regret not leaving him when i really wanted to. I lost myself and everything i thought i was. I was no longer the person i wanted to be and was stuck being manipulated and abused so much that i didnt recognize myself. I hated my life. But now, being single is truly amazing. I dont have to compromise, mix schedules, share things, check-in, etc.

  • @Lela_Emily
    @Lela_Emily Год назад +3

    I do not believe in manifestation but God and that He has a plan for me. There’s a reason breakups usually are heartbreaking especially when you have sex with that someone. Because God says you become one flesh at that point. All love 💕

  • @ВикаДегтярева-н3с
    @ВикаДегтярева-н3с Год назад +15

    Thank you for this video. I just got divorced, my husbund left me when i was 7 months pregnant, after 11 years of a marriage, he said that our baby is a "mistake" and he always wanted a divorce... He don't care about me or our son (no he's 6 months old), and now i'm going through the darkest period of my life. I have no job now, almost no friends...barely have anyone to talk to... i'm very tired and exhausted... i almost lost any hope for any better future

    • @mkat4271
      @mkat4271 Год назад +9

      It's hard, but force yourself to pull yourself up, little by little if you need too. Otherwise you will always be letting him take you down. He isn't worth you.

    • @aranielleb7718
      @aranielleb7718 Год назад +2

      Don’t ever give up hope because a brighter day is on its way, I promise you. Your angel is your baby. Cherish him with your whole heart.

    • @rebeccalee4801
      @rebeccalee4801 Год назад +1

      You can do this!

    • @Mariangelmt
      @Mariangelmt Год назад +1

      You’re gonna get through this!! I promise!!

  • @gemmygemlouise
    @gemmygemlouise Год назад +2

    I love you carli but this was very repetitive & literally the most cliche advice…

  • @dinnahamzeh5243
    @dinnahamzeh5243 Год назад +1

    I agree with most things. However, it’s very egotistical for women to think that you’re a loss to him. Because most times you’re not a loss. Men know when a women is deserving of their time.

  • @daniellevalentino2253
    @daniellevalentino2253 Год назад +9

    I remember seeing this quote online when i was in high-school, and debating about breaking up with a boyfriend at the time. " If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be, if it continues to fly let it soar. Have faith god has something better in store".. So glad I broke up with my ex. God definitely had something better in store for me. My best friends brother!! Who knew..🥰 13 years and 3 kids later I couldn't be more thankful and happy.
    I know one day you will find true love. It will come when you least expect it, and not looking. All my Love Carli 💓 😘

  • @CalebJon3
    @CalebJon3 Год назад +1

    I’m afraid that I’m getting old (I’m 34) and my time has passed. No one is going to want me at 35 or 40, with 3 kids… 😢

  • @nailedbymarieee5758
    @nailedbymarieee5758 Год назад +12

    ABSOLUTELY NEEDED THIS♥️you touched literally all the emotions running through me at the moment Thankyou babes💋

  • @shelbyyt276
    @shelbyyt276 Год назад +11

    Post break up 5 months here, it’s been hard, started talking to him again and realized why we broke up the first place, so now I’m done done. It’s still hard being single and lonely. I hope to get to the point of being okay with it. I deserve better and you deserve someone to treat you like a queen ❤

    • @khadijabegum5121
      @khadijabegum5121 Год назад

      It’s been a month between me n him and I keep hoping for him to text me back 😢

    • @shelbyyt276
      @shelbyyt276 Год назад

      @@khadijabegum5121 ugh I’m sorry I know it’s hard

  • @shaunteewillis3925
    @shaunteewillis3925 Год назад +8

    I really needed this video. I've been with my high school sweethart for 7 years and broke up with him recently. I'm finally ready to say goodbye. I've been going back and forth the last 3 years since I got pregnant and had our son. I've been so scared to walk away and feeling guilty, but I can't deal with the mental and emotional turmoil and manipulation anymore. I have to figure out a new job, car, and place to live but I'm so ready to be done. I told myself this was the year I walk away and get myself together especially for my son.

  • @anamora424
    @anamora424 Год назад +55

    I’ve never clicked quicker !!! Me and my bf of 8 years broke up and I’m doing my own thing on my own for the first time in a long time and it’s crazy but I’m so much more happy. Never thought I could do it on my own but I am. Love you Carly !!❤

    • @md8388
      @md8388 Год назад +1

      Good for you girl! 👏🏽

    • @CarliBel55
      @CarliBel55  Год назад +5

      Proud of you babe!! Love you

    • @melody2unes
      @melody2unes Год назад

      I also left an eight year relationship, I thought he wanted the same things. He did but wanted me to wait five more years because he wasnt ready, he wasnt ready to be engaged, so that made me realize I wasted 8 years of my life with someone and it hurts, but im ok. Im 48 and starting over again 🤷‍♀️ I cant settle and I was not happy with the sitaution. He told me I broke his heart....he broke my heart for letting me believe we were gonna be together in the right way.

    • @plavaovcica
      @plavaovcica Год назад +1

      Wishing you a lot of happines! 🫶🏻

    • @christinekim4056
      @christinekim4056 Год назад

      So happy you were able to find happiness within yourself. I’m still trying to figure it out.

  • @rebeccarebstock8487
    @rebeccarebstock8487 Год назад +8

    Best quote I heard that I try to live by at the age of 38 “I’d rather be alone than to be someone and feel alone”.💕

  • @yasminansari2201
    @yasminansari2201 Год назад +13

    you've legit grown as a role model for every other gurl!!!♥️

  • @fullsoulvocals
    @fullsoulvocals Год назад +2

    i like you and your advice a lot. But I disagree on the part where you were saying that if your partner breaks up with you he/she's gonna be missing out, because you are the best thing that has ever happened to them. Well, maybe not. Maybe I habe brought some difficulties into the relationship as well.

  • @stephanietorres6511
    @stephanietorres6511 Год назад +2

    I am going through a divorce after 18 years and 3 children together.... It's very hard... very.. but I know that it is what's best for me and my kids, this really should have happened a long time ago, but even though our relationship has had more bad times than good, he has been my "normal" for so long that I lost myself somewhere in those 18 years and have basically been his puppet... We were 21 and 20 when we got together and are 38 and 39 now so just completely different people.... It's so hard and there are days when I feel like going back would just be the easy thing to do, but I watch uplifting videos like these and stay strong in my decision. So thank you for this girl!! 😘😘

  • @heatherslade37
    @heatherslade37 Год назад +39

    Your videos put me a complete peace ❤️ please never stop posting

  • @amylu434
    @amylu434 Год назад +5

    my sister in law met my brother when she was 37, they've been together 12 years now. she always tells me that there is no rush bc when you find someone they will be in your life forever so enjoy the time with yourself

  • @annlatham
    @annlatham Год назад +6

    The best advice I can give is always do what makes you feel good & do not chase, act unbothered if he makes you mad… and if you guys cannot grow together and be understanding of each other’s feelings, it’s probably best to just go on and put energy into people who care for you because you cannot make anyone get on your level if they’re not ready. Don’t let anyone continuously disrespect you. make boundaries! You show them how to treat you. Stand up for yourself. ❤

  • @jenweeks4398
    @jenweeks4398 Год назад +47

    My husband left me, were in the middle of the divorce now. Its literally the worst thing I've ever experienced in my entire life. It feels like I'll never find anyone that made me feel the way he did. It's so hard. We have 2 daughters also. Thank you for this video!!!

    • @rollyatm55
      @rollyatm55 Год назад +10

      im so sorry! It must be really hard trying to pretend that you are ok in front of your kids. I am mid break up of a 3 year relationship and i am devestated. I cant imagine going through that with kids..

    • @carlabarrick8538
      @carlabarrick8538 Год назад +7

      Jen, you are beautiful and deserving of the love of a lifetime if you choose down the line. Love ya girl 💗

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns Год назад +2

      Prayers for you during this difficult time 🙏🏽

    • @tangerine3683
      @tangerine3683 Год назад +1

      My ex left me too after 8 years and we also have 2 kids together. This was back in 2020. I know how much it hurts! The pain was on another level. It takes time but I promise you it gets better. Carli gave some pretty solid advice. Focus on you and your kids and heal. You'll come out of this a better person. God bless ❤️

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns Год назад

      @@tangerine3683 so sorry! Sending love and prayers your way.

  • @Funnymombecca
    @Funnymombecca Год назад +2

    I’m worried about your right eye 🤔

  • @kalicaviness8453
    @kalicaviness8453 Год назад +5

    I’ve been watching you for roughly 10 years and you’ve “been with me” thru many break ups. I was treated like shit off and on for 6 years. I’m now happily married to the man of my dreams and treated like a Queen. I agree with everything you say and it’s so true to ensure you focus on your own health and well-being, first and foremost!!

  • @xojacquie7356
    @xojacquie7356 Год назад +1

    I had a miscarriage with my ex. I was terrified to tell him so I waited 4.5 months which was so awful on my part. He said if I didn’t have a baby with him he wouldn’t be with me. He mentally abused me for 9 months yet I still felt I loved him. He kicked me out last week after I told him we lost our baby girl in Sept. I’m in therapy and I’m just praying to God I can get over this awful pain I feel in my chest. I know he wasn’t right for me, but to be discarded like that has been beyond hurtful. I’m grateful for my family and friends who have embraced me during this time. Again you rock Carli. 💕

  • @BreaMichelle3
    @BreaMichelle3 Год назад +2

    “Do a little retail therapy” - baby we broke broke 😢

  • @sandra-pk7tk
    @sandra-pk7tk Год назад +2

    Ladies! Carli is right. Ive been in a relationship with somene for 6 years and in the end he dumped me(sounds harsh). But i choose not to give him closure when he decided to find me back and explain things. Nope. Sis got the best closure by not allowing him to comeback.
    Now im happy and still working on myseld in so many ways. Yes grief cant be avoided. Cry when you can. Its okay. You feel better. And yes i do believe there is someone out there for each and everyone of us.
    Remember ladiees, never compare yourself with their current partner. We are the diamonds after all and they do not deserve us. Pity them.
    Enjoy and have fun the single time you have. Put yourself first always. Carpe diem everyday!
    Thanks Carli, such an inspiration by showing us its okay when you are not with someone and being the independant woman you are. God bless you and Lorenzo. 😘

  • @fibi164
    @fibi164 Год назад +5

    Thank you for this!!! You’re so right in everything you said & you gave me so much hope that a “my one” is still out there (saying it from a 37 yr old). Sending lots of love from NYC!! ❤❤❤

  • @AGMonz
    @AGMonz Год назад +6

    I love this Carli! Something I needed to hear tonight. 10 year relationship gone. After being betrayed and cheated on, for the last 3 years on and off I feel so broken. I’ve lost my bestfriend and it’s honestly the worst pain I’ve ever felt. We have children together and it almost seems impossible to get away from it all. I want to be out of this toxic mentality so bad. It’s true that we really do think about all the good times, and all the memories you shared. Praying for things to get better. I’m 31 and knowing I’m starting over after 10 long years is scary, but I know I deserve so much more ♥️

    • @TheAlexa6
      @TheAlexa6 Год назад

      It’s definitely harder with children involved but seeing their momma disrespected isn’t great for them, so good for you! I was divorced with two kids after a horrible marriage. Worked on myself and building up my confidence and married my real soulmate a few years later. We had three more kids and have been married 18 years now. I don’t even recognize myself from my first marriage. My name is Alexa, too. Sending lots of strength to you!!

  • @sophiebaty2883
    @sophiebaty2883 Год назад +7

    Carli❤ about 7 years ago when my ex broke up with me I left a message in your comments (the first message I’d ever left to anyone on RUclips although I’d watched you for years) and your were just so lovely to me and your subs were too I saved the messages and they got me through the wrist break up of my life. We were engaged and owned a house together. I used it as motivation ended up travelling and living in the uk for years. Now back home in nz found the man of my dreams and have now been married for 6weeks. ❤ tones of love I will always be great full to you for that time

    • @MochiColorsZanos
      @MochiColorsZanos Год назад

      What an amazing story!!

    • @sophiebaty2883
      @sophiebaty2883 Год назад +1

      @@MochiColorsZanos omg I recognise your profile photo !! You wrote to me on my comment all those years ago too I still have the screen shot!!! 😊❤️

    • @MochiColorsZanos
      @MochiColorsZanos Год назад

      @@sophiebaty2883 Oh wow! No way!!!! 😃😃 Haha that's AMAZING!!! I was meant to see your comment then ☺I'm so happy things worked out for you!!! you deserve to be happy 🥰❤💞

    • @sophiebaty2883
      @sophiebaty2883 Год назад +1

      @@MochiColorsZanos it’s just lovely that you are always being such a lovely supportive it’s a wonderful part of Carlis community. Your so wonderful spreading such kindness ❤️❤️🥰

    • @MochiColorsZanos
      @MochiColorsZanos Год назад

      @@sophiebaty2883 Well, you know what's funny is I hardly watch Carli's videos anymore. I haven't in a really long time and I wasn't even going to click on this one, but I precisely thought I haven't seen her videos in a long while so I did 😄❤

  • @ShotbyKdot
    @ShotbyKdot Год назад +3

    I would say microdosing mushrooms changed my mental health! It was such a beautiful experience & im now in the best place mentally I have ever been in before💕 working on yourself is a MUST

  • @alaatakache2212
    @alaatakache2212 Год назад +2

    I don't agree with some of the advice here. I've lived my best life and the best version of myself with my husband (12 years married, 2 boys, and still love and respect each other). Before marriage I was lonely, it wasn't much fun doing things alone.

  • @BrookeTheOutcast
    @BrookeTheOutcast Год назад +4

    Can you please do more get ready with mes and talk about your struggles and share your advices because you are the most humble RUclipsr, you’re so real and it’s so nice to here you it’s like catching up with a friend

  • @JB11334
    @JB11334 Год назад +1

    Volunteer, serve at your church and in your community, get involved in your church, learn something new, get hobbies, learn things you want your future spouse to know it be( fitness/health, good cook, get your finances together)Also I would encourage everyone to not be intimate- that’s what makes it so hard to break up. God created us to be equally yoked and when we are intimate it binds us to a person you may not have connected with or stayed with as long as you did had you not been intimate.

  • @jbean596
    @jbean596 Год назад +3

    I think a part of her is saying this not only to her followers, but to herself as well. It’s okay Carli. We know you’re hurting. Be blessed and heal! We love you

  • @sonyadrake7843
    @sonyadrake7843 Год назад +1

    I Safely Exited Myself from a Narcissist, he's Blocked and doesn't know where I am.
    He had his friend contact me, whom I won't be getting in touch with.
    NO MORE DRAMA AND TOXICITY!
    💝 Day I Treated Myself to a Beautiful Diamond ❤️ Necklace and a Spectacular Shopping Spree! 🛍️
    Love Yourself and it's okay to have just you time. 🤗🙂😉

  • @Notoriouslyana
    @Notoriouslyana Год назад +2

    I’m in a toxic relationship and I’m ready to leave after 4 years. We have a baby together but it’s harder because I became a stay at home mom, I sold my car and have no money. It’s a lot harder for me to leave when I have nowhere to go. I have my bachelors but it’s harder to find jobs especially when I don’t have a car or someone to watch my baby😭😭

  • @deeluther3108
    @deeluther3108 Год назад +1

    Great Video As Always
    😘Lovely thumbNail Tho😘
    Your Beyond Beautifully You Are
    Makeup Always On Point
    Those Breathtaking Eyes Love Em
    Nice Ass Cheeks
    Good morning
    Enjoy the rest of your Good Week
    Happy Fabulous Weekend Ahead
    😇Stay Bless N Be Safe Always😇

  • @geminisweetie21
    @geminisweetie21 Год назад +6

    Love you!! ❤ Growing up with you has been a blessing. Let us celebrate ourselves, we got this 💐❤

    • @CarliBel55
      @CarliBel55  Год назад +3

      yes we do!!! LOVE YOU ANGEL

  • @allisonroberts2519
    @allisonroberts2519 Год назад +1

    Can you do a get ready with me for a first date?? That would be so fun to watch!! I’m just curious if you go sexy or sophisticated 🤔

  • @ronellepatterson4176
    @ronellepatterson4176 Год назад +4

    A wise woman once said: They call it "falling in love" for a reason.
    It's not easy to just get over the love you develop for that person. But when you finally do, it will be refreshing.

  • @jhEyniekeYt
    @jhEyniekeYt Год назад +4

    I haven't seen one of your videos in a while and literally yesterday I was like "Oh I wonder how's Carli doing". I didn't expect this, but you are a strong beautiful mama! Hope things will get better. 🥰

  • @kaseymarquardt8125
    @kaseymarquardt8125 Год назад +1

    Loved this. I was hoping for some more tea spilled about her breakups specifically haha!! I wanna know the nitty gritty of what happened w Brett and Anthony

  • @thisishard72
    @thisishard72 Год назад +2

    That east coast came out real quick. Deadass? ❤️😩

  • @alexiagranata9913
    @alexiagranata9913 Год назад +3

    This video is just what I needed ! Going through a tough breakup after a 15 year relationship, he was my first and only bf ever and this is so hard
    Thank you Carli ❤

  • @jessisjourney9915
    @jessisjourney9915 Год назад +2

    I was married for 18 yrs. We were HS sweethearts. Sometimes you out grow someone. I think that’s what happened in my case since we were so young. I knew I deserved better, I wanted better. Guess what… I go it!! Hang in there and make the leap! It’s hard and scary but man you’re gonna look back and be so mad you didn’t do it sooner! ❤

  • @manifestingmaren
    @manifestingmaren Год назад +2

    Carli, your soul wants you to be your own best friend first. being alone is so underrated , who is Carli without a significant other? Find that person love her wholey, and then and only then will your soulmate appear. but the kicker is you have to be your own soulmate first

  • @jamiekennedy2555
    @jamiekennedy2555 Год назад +1

    Well said hun!! Also we should do a drive with me and listen to music again like back on the day!!!

  • @Gi0114
    @Gi0114 Год назад +1

    Something that helped me after my breakup was a life changing decision to seek Jesus Christ. My true worth and identity were found in God. I gained clarity, my heart was healed and restored. No amount of yoga classes, masterclasses, courses, crystals, sage, self care, self help books, meditation etc. helped me the way God and His word has.

  • @marcyb6647
    @marcyb6647 Год назад +1

    Dang it! I was hoping to hear tea about lorenzos dad 😂 dying to know ❤ love you carli

  • @vn2787
    @vn2787 Год назад +1

    Love this but you’re kinda contradicting yourself when you say “there’s a perfect person out there for everyone” & “your prince charming will come one day” and then you said “idk if i’m ever gonna find someone” 😅😅

    • @MsJujubee3
      @MsJujubee3 Год назад +1

      Yeah kinda generic advice lol

    • @vn2787
      @vn2787 Год назад

      @@MsJujubee3 very generic, as her supporters we want to know about her stories

  • @eunminwootang
    @eunminwootang Год назад +3

    I literally just went through 💔 6 months ago and for the first time feel great about being single, thx Carli!

  • @MegaTelenovela
    @MegaTelenovela Год назад +1

    My advice would be that if you believe in God please pray to Him. Because some people may need to time apart to grow and come back a better version for themselves and for each other. Let go and let God. Surrender your pain, sadness and hopes to God if He wills, you will be back together because you both deserve each other and are meant to be together.

  • @cinthiavirgen6710
    @cinthiavirgen6710 Год назад +2

    Awe Chi is like ok mama just don’t get sad cus I am with you to cuddle 🥰