Working in Sales made it alot easier getting over rejection, but I won't lie it still sucks. Fortunately, my lust usually outweighs my fear of "No". I'd rather get rejected, then wonder 'what could've been'.
Rejection don’t bother me. She just had to be somebody who. I’m attracted to .Just be straight up with the woman if you just want to hook up or go on a date, then you just say that from the beginning, the only answer you needs to hear yes or no if she’s not cooperating with your program leave her alone and move on to another woman . And some of these women’s are chasing fairytales, we was not made to be alone, but nobody got time for games. We are grown adults .
I only deal with the women that want to deal with me. Some of those women are unattractive, some average and some are pretty but, they have all given conformation in some form of another, that they are into me. I never, ever approached women that are not checking for me, no matter how much they fit my criteria. I'm sure that there are exceptions out there but most of the time, it's not the rule. Approaching a women isn't about ego or fear for me, it about making sense. If she's checking for me, it makes sense. If she's not, it doesn't make sense.
It’s just constantly hearing the no’s can be draining and I’m not no slouch but in this social media era approaching just seems to be a no go , and like you said a lot of them can be real mean about it idk how many times I’ve had a girl reject me then go on to tell others she rejected me things like that can tap you out
Many of the these women are some real mean beasts out here. Like you said, social media and dating apps gives them a false sense of unlimited options. They focus too much on the “unlimited” options and not finding a quality brother. Hence, they end up sharing a dude later on.
You do learn who to approach overtime. I learned to stay away from follower girls who won’t talk to you if their friend(s) won’t. I’ll pop at the bad and dominant one who controls the dynamic of her social group. 💯🗣️
That herd / beehive mentality is strong with many women. They can be feeling you but if their friends don’t approve, they will drop you. This speaks to the statement “single women make / keep other women single.” Thank God for her giving you the opportunity to move on to a better woman.
Men are doing what they've always done which is let her choose. Women overall are feeling a reduction is simp orbiters as red pill goes mainstream. Men of value are raising the bar higher than ever.
If they (Women) don't look approachable, I won't won't speak or gesture a non-verbal towards them. I don't subscribe to game because for me, it's a matter of me just being my natural fluent self. I'm in a flow with life so if she isn't interested or not acknowledging, I keep it moving. I'm not going to disrupt my Flow. And there's always the probability that a more intriguing specimen might align with me/a better woman.💯
There’s a lot of reasons, is what I think. The main ones are because men don’t wanna be downplayed nor clowned just because they approached and wanted to get the number from the fine chicc, social media has set some unrealistic standards for many of us and has fogged most of our minds, we often think we have to be perfect to attract the woman we want, but whats also important is what we carry inside, our heart and soul.
From MY EXPERIENCE. I don’t have a problem approaching. It’s just women come with too many specifics. So it’s not even worth it. You could have 99 things right but that 1 thing you have wrong, it’s over. I have seen men do it to. Us as men usually see past some minor flaws because it’s definitely manageable and no one is perfect. It’s easier when a woman shows interest first because you know you’ve been qualified.
You can also learn to approach in a way that you own the interaction from beginning to end. It’s a vibe, an aura you put out and even if they are with someone and / or not genuinely interested, you will leave a mark on them. If she focuses in on one thing and uses that to disqualify you, thank her for putting you one step closer to the awesome woman you deserve and who deserves you.
@@kryptonite754What’s funny is when I go out to music concerts, it’s pretty clear to see who likes who more. My now ex and I went to a concert and was sitting next to this couple. The guy was real chill. His lady was touching him, rubbing on him, kissing him, dancing on his lap. I gave that brother a fist bump because his woman was so into him. I said to my now ex “take note”. She said “I don’t do that. It’s not me.” Well, that’s one of the reasons I am on the market again. She will do that for someone but didn’t want to do it for me. Oh well, next!
You literally have women disqualifying men for having an android or a certain zodiac sign. You could be everything she wants but God forbid you were born in June
Sir, one thing I've learned about women is this. You can have a great personality, dress well, eat healthy, be in shape, be on semen retaining, shave & let the barber bless you often, have excellent cologne, but, hue does play an important perspective in attraction. But, its not even about the hue, it comes down to your facial features. If you're ugly to women, you will get 'dissed' as they say, or rejected frequently. It destroys confidence. Good thing there's tracks & blades that have courtesans or Straight grown men such as myself would be "heauxless & doughless". I will say one thing, you're correct about body game. Word up. Blessings & peace to you Mr. Rom wills.
Started approaching lately, almost every time it's "I got a boyfriend". Still feel like a million dollar after it, it's just in my head. "Yea I just did that" and I feel empowered cause of it.
Same and same. I approach good looking women and they're always taken. I do feel great afterwards knowing that I tried. I hate the feeling of regret not trying.
This is why Rom Wills is the GOAT I've been telling dudes to focus on their dating demographic(tribe) for years... you could be Boris Kodjoe, Denzel or Idris Elba, NO one man can attract and keep any type of woman And as a man with options you SHOULDN'T be trying to mess with just any woman anyways
For me, its my autonomous nature, combined with my dislike for people in general. I dont like putting myself in a position where someone can say yes or no to me because its conflicts with my autonomous nature. This is why I dont like job interviews either. I dont like the idea of having to "bypass" a "gatekeeper" in order to get what I want. Ever since a teen, I always recognized that I want to make money without having to answer to anyone, and also get women without necessarily making the first approach either. Maybe im too much of a absolutist, but I simply refuse to "hand over my power" to another human being in any capacity.
thats how i feel and have listened to others and their advice never made sense they were just probably jealous of that type of freedom but you have to be ok with being in solitude which i finally im comfortable with
@@garthyahudahandrews8504 Yeah I don't mind the solitude because I'm a introvert and I like being by myself anyways, but the challenge that I'm having is that I don't know how to reconcile between my strong desire for women and my autonomous nature/dislike for people. Also, I don't want to do nothing that I will regret in the future either. However, I'm starting to realize, or believe, that all of these conditions might just simply be a part of the human experience and I might simply have to accept it, but i'm not ready, or willing, to fully go there yet.
I'm not scared of approaching them I genuinely just don't have the motivation to after all the rejections and apparently every woman claiming she has a boyfriend. Even if you do by chance get the number there's a good chance she won't even respond to your first message, then you have to deal with many who play games, take 12 hours to respond, flakes on the date, ghosts, still has feelings for their ex etc. Every woman out there is already dealing with a handful of dudes, 1 that she's consistently sleeping with but he won't commit. What chance does a random stranger have over those guys who are already talking to her?
It’s crazy but one has to assume that a woman you are interested in is messing with other dudes until she chooses you. My last ex was messing with multiple guys (found this out later on) before we became exclusive.
You also have to be straightforward, upfront and confidently approach. Talk to them like you already have them. There are two types of dudes women put on a show for: 1) The dude they just want to f**k - he don’t have to date them and they don’t invest in him anymore than raw sex 2) The relationship dude; this is the dude they want to be a “good girl” for and make him wait 90+ days and take them out while they are still messing with dude #1. The secret is to move like a blend of dude #1 and #2. This is where being straightforward, upfront and confident comes in. You can go out on dates (dude #2) but drop that heavy game on her where she is getting dude #1 vibes from you. She has a hard time processing both types of dudes occurring simultaneously. The 90+ day rule goes out the window while you get both boyfriend and f**k buddy energy from her.
Let me add that in becoming your best self, it is equally important to develop discernment. Lot of men who have reached the height of lives have been destroyed by dealing with the wrong woman.
Thank you Rom. On top of that SOME women are way too picky. Their standards are unrealistic. I’ve kinda fell back on the approaching and went for the ones who made it super obvious that they want me to talk to them. But even with that was a waste of time💀
Facts.. 💯 I been there on both ends.. Doing the approach and letting them choose up on a Brother.. both didn't end so well.. the dating scene is tainted
Yes I can relate to this a lot. Even when they are giving you clear choosing signals to approach most of the time I do not because atleast 3/4 of them just want your attention and even if they are truly interested in you they don’t smile or anything they just act like they are on their phone half the time and get near you. Like Jesus Christ if you actually want him to approach just give a small smile ladies….
About a year ago when I was watching Rom I couldn’t even make eye contact with any women over time I kept listening and eventually stopped bc my confidence grew and pushed me to be able too approach and now I’m back jus to keeping learning
That is why I don't approached women anymore, everytime while I'm at work or going outside for a walk, woman gave me mean dirty looks, roll their's eyes and never smile while i had other things to take care of, I'm perfectly fine be alone in peace with no drama and focus on going to work everyday, my art and my other hobbies that I always enjoy.
@@optimisticmindz2545 depends on what of women you dealing with and environment plays a huge whole. If you say everywhere that means you been all over the world to back your claims
If the fellas really think about it. Its alot of easy...or females thats willing to sumit to your leadership. We just be over looking them cause whatever reason lol. Dont go to the party if you dont wanna dance. Approaching is always gonna be a challenge that aint gone change
A lot of men don’t want to accept that we also overlook women who are obviously coming after us. However, for whatever reason - looks, sex appeal, etc - we don’t generally choose those types.
@BiscuitsNGravy-p3l that's true. For me personally I have a lot of trust issues I'm working on. I'm low key select...when chicks be open to throwing they life at me. I get suspicious. I'm a idiot I know. I'm working on it. And it's sometimes a female doesn't have that sexual flair. We all want a good girl but she gotta have the flair. That's my main reason they get over looked for me.
@@TonyChase365 If you are not already in therapy, consider it to help you with your trust issues. I had to get therapy to help me with trust issues and other stuff I developed after being in an extremely toxic relationship with an evil ass woman. Let’s put it like this; that relationship with her introduced me to terms like gaslighting, love bombing, narcissism, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and more. I had no idea what I was getting into until I was in it and entrenched in the darkest, most damaging relationship I ever had. I luckily escaped without being completely broken.
@BiscuitsNGravy-p3l thank you for the support. I know from just my words you can tell I've been through the same. So your not alone. In my case I knew all of this stuff but I was caught in a "to big to lose concept" shorty was toxic but I blame my own ego and arrogance for putting me in the hole I was. I gained 1000% introspective after it was all said and done. I'm growing and strongly considering therapy even for if for gaining more introspective and research. I appreciate ya response
@@TonyChase365 You got this, brother man. No matter what people may say, men hurt and many times, it’s a woman we let close to us that inflict the most damage. It’s ok to seek out and talk to a mental health professional about what you are experiencing. It’s a sign of strength to know when you need someone to help walk you through some things.
Dunno if it's only me, but a lot of women i find around at supermarket and other places have this kind of dead serious/unhappy/angry expression, they look unapprochable to be. Only few times it happens that one looks at you with a gentle smile, that's the only occasions i think it's worth trying in public. I see a lot if not most of women that look like brain dead zombies with no emotions, it's a bit like finding the needle in the haystack these days, but there are still some good ones.
Probably the town or city you from environment plays a huge role especially how the economy is and where society is going especially this election coming
@@johnspartan4025 100% experience this a lot as well. If they not gonna even give a small smile the littlest amount of effort to get a man they really desire… then what the hell are we doing here.
@johnspartan4025 I’m 29 years old I know exactly what you talking about that’s why I no longer flirt nomore I’m too old at this point and most women got a man at home it ain’t worth it and their man look like Kevin hart btw
@@user-ug5fm4ct9y environment is the factor and I don't like bringing up politics but if you look where society ( in the states) and economy going right now you see why some looking unapproachble
I will always say if I look my best and still get rejected then at least I tried. The no and I have boyfriend phases me sometimes but least I know I tried
Rom there are times where a woman reject me, say she have a boyfriend, etc and still continue to carry the conversation. In my book that woman still find me somewhet attractive otherwise she wouldve walked away much sooner and went on about her day.
Very good point, Mr. Wills. I've noticed that when wearing my jobsite attire "yellow reflector shirt/vest, jeans, boots), I get attention from certain women. In my business attire, I get looks from another group of women. I've always concluded that it was my face and height. However, with your excellent point, it may be the "uniform", along with the physical. Cheers, sir. 🥃
Ima be honest , wen I was younger I was scared because of the lack of confidence and the environment I grew up in. However I always had girls check me out. Now that I’m a little older and got notches under my belt. That fear is gone. Most of the time my lust overcomes the fear because that woman turns me on a lot I just go for it.
Facts, used to be very scared aswel. Since body game and no longer having a p$rn addiction my lust has become so high. I just want to get some so I approach
@@thenewjord50it’s a skill and what he does to get it will be completely different from how YOU do it because YOURE not HIM. Unc rom suggest just say hi to 3 women a day. That’s all, just to practice the skill. Your confidence will build and eventually if you do it everyday, it’ll just be part of your every day life to talk to women. Which will make you more attractive than the average guy because most guys won’t even approach women. Good luck!
@@Thewrightbrotha I'm not saying I'm not confident but people especially women are different not everyone is the same. Many women move like chameleons nowadays. Saying hi it's not the problem but we are in the 2020s when people are antisocial and anti talking as if it's illegal to know people especially the opposite gender plus getting women to smash you( if smash is the motive) when she barely know you is not easy too depending on what woman she is
For me, I have no problem approaching, or saying hi to a woman. Although I usually don't approach women who seem aloof, rude or full of themselves, but sometimes they might surprise you by reacting positively. The other day I saw this beauty out jogging and as she came closer, I gave her a smile and greeted her, and she smiled and waved back enthusiastically. With women, you've just got to take your chances, and see what happens.
Happened to a months ago learned a lil Spanish tired talking to this Colombian give her number we texted for little bc I’m not a texter more of a face to face person. She said she was busy the first time. Second time I asked it rained she didn’t even remember and didn’t care so. I kinda stop talking to women give me choosing singles a day later that still didn’t motivate me enough to approach women.
I’m 6’4 and pretty built after years of hard work.. all I get is married women or women in relationships checking me out/touches, long deep stares with smiles, but then I get women who just ignore me one day and like me the next day or something. I genuinely don’t like talking to women that are awkward or just seem like they don’t genuinely like men but do it just to be nice in front of others especially at work. I can tell if they are fake or genuine. It’s just brutal out here man..
I find it annoying when girl sends choosing signals, but immediately hides behind a phone or has earphones in. I would approache otherwise. And then afterwards sometimes I feel remorse. Maybe that isn't as big of a deal as I feel it is. I don't know. Kinda feels like it's a setup. Or at least attempt at starting something with power imbalance.
@@honestalgo yea, I thought so too afterwards. I am intimidating as I'm introverted, tall, body game is on point and I look confident. Them acting such way throws me off tho. Don't want awkward situation of shifting their focus from something their doing to do some small talk.
@@BiiskapsLV I'm also a tall in shape introvert etc. Most women will see you and know that they can't hold your interest for long or at all. So their main goal is to set you up and/or reject you, because they think that is the most they can get out of you if you aren't focused. Most women who think this way are correct.
Rejection is painful…Which is why after reading some of the comments I can see most of us men have given up and rightfully so…The only thing is we ourselves have made women to become like this from replacing our lust over our dignity…And as long as these hoes know it’s some fool out there who will give them everything for nothing in return then we will always struggle with them…Imagine if most of us didn’t pay for onlyfans,porn,tricking,etc…Dynamics would change and most of us would be getting approached by women because they would HAVE TOO!..Supply and demand it’s simple
It takes a bit of internal strength and fortitude to control that strong sexual desire within us. I don’t know if men as a whole will ever be able to master it. However, the men who have 🍆 discipline and requires a woman to bring more than her box to the dance I.e. respect, a pleasant attitude, kindness, good communication, etc., will repel 304s (hoes). They won’t even entertain them unless that’s what HE wants in that moment. Regardless of if she’s a 304 or not, if she ain’t following his program, he discards her quickly and moves on.
They are scared I’m not I got 2 numbers a few days ago one didn’t text back and one did still don’t care also I like asking for numbers I don’t start conversations I walk up on them and be like you cute can I get your number they either say yes or no I got a boyfriend I keep it pushing I do it for fun I don’t be scared or nervous I go in with a open mind
@@alfredcowans880 I never freeze up because I never overthink about anything I just approach without thinking I be calm and chill about it that’s what make it so easy just don’t think about nothing and do it
Moved from an urban city to a suburban city with an older demographic, majority white, and majority with kids. White women in all body types or ages seem like they not going for what i got. It was less to begin with but even less now. However, when i was still at my previous city i always had good interactions with black people, black women in particular. Its funny though that i havent approached black women as much as the white women. I moved here with family. I will still go after what i want but i need to be prepared to move to another city that would help me be more mobile and meet more ppl. Im going to approach more before to see which type of woman i can get in this environment.
Unfortunately, this new generation of young men have become whips. They are afraid of talking to women. Well done Rom, they need a father figure to lace them with some game.
I also wanted to say, I’m 18 and I have a podcast but I’m looking for a mentor like figure to market and learn from to produce content with and I think it could do very well, please reach out if your interested Rom
Approaching is cool BUT if she’s beautiful you gotta stand out wit your dialogue . Extra points if you got swag together too. I usually find something we have in common instead of going straight to complimenting her.
let's be honest cold approaching just isn;t going to be successful 99% of the time. things take time. even if she just want a fling. USUALLY she has to get a FEEl for u first. from seeing around. talking. maybe mutual friends. association plays a big part. but if u see a girl at a store as in the book. get her use to seeing u a few times. then ask her out. not a definite yes. but in my experience if she has had time to get to know u a bit she well either say yes or u can see she has to tHInk About it a lil. or isn't just flat out no . i say take ur time
Well that’s not true. If a woman sees you and finds you attractive and you’re not an airhead when you open your mouth she is going to entertain you ! You don’t have to take anything slow where do yall get this from ? I’ve never had a woman that was into me that I had to take it slow with… sometimes they’re checking me out even before I make a move.
I just don’t pay women attention all like that no more because when it comes to it all I just do is be in my own world and catch them when they looking they was choosing from the start, but when they chosen, you gotta apply a principal that they gotta pay for your dinner, not theirs and that’s when you don’t have time wasted
Then on top of the that, it seem like you gotta talk real heavy to em that’s how I did it. They even had boyfriends When I did that, I got my results. And when I say heavy, I mean a little bit bass a little bit loudness in your voice that’s what I meant. If you can hold it for a while you in there plain and simple
I hear that. Life is easier when women are not on the pedestal. They respect dominance from men. They command assertiveness from us. They look to us as leaders. And that's why we gotta guide younger dudes because the simping pandemic is way too high
@@Shaddyraddy92Facts! I learned this later in life as I wasn’t raised by a father. The woman in your life need that from you as a man. Also, I’ve learned that women in your life need instructions. For example, when your woman comes over to your place to hang out, many times, they will jump on their cell phone instead of engaging with you. What I have learned to do is give her a task or something to do that allows her to interact with me. “Hey baby, while I am making these sides, do me a favor and put your seasoning on that chicken. I love the way you season my meat (say it in a way that it hints at the meat you are eating and the meat she will get later).” My ex use to come to my place and the first few times, asked if there is anything she could do. I said “no, I got it.” Then, she started coming over jumping on her phone for social media or whatever and not engaging me. That stuff led to me discovering that she was more than likely stepping out on me and communicating with other guys (experienced other confirming signs like secrecy with the cell phone, unreachable at certain times that she was normally available, etc). Going forward, any woman that I invite to my place, she will have a task or tasks to do that helps her engage with me. Letting them sit on your couch, they are going to reach for that cell phone and engage with anybody but you. Give them some work to do that will put them in your zone to pat them on the butt, play with their breasts or something. They love that ish.
"You didn't live BITD..." Rom, it's a psychological defense known as "Fatnasy Formation"; an idealized past that one has never experienced, yet cites as "Correct"....
That means you are getting over 10% success. That’s actually pretty good for men in today’s toxic dating market. Think about it; you may be approaching 100 women a month, 11 of which you get their numbers, 3 call you back, 2 you actually hook up with, 1 who stands out above the rest and you and her keep on hooking up and making things happen.
@ You can’t worry about that. You approach from the perspective of ‘I’m interested in this woman and I’m taking my shot. However she chooses to respond is her business and won’t negatively impact me one bit.’ Don’t care about a woman getting an ego boost. It’s always her loss. You are approaching her with the opportunity to be in your amazing life. If she declines, she realizes she is not worth your opportunity. 😁
You have to be straightforward, upfront and confidently approach. Talk to them like you already have them. There are two types of dudes women put on a show for: 1) The dude they just want to f**k - he don’t have to date them and they don’t invest in him anymore than raw sex 2) The relationship dude; this is the dude they want to be a “good girl” for and make him wait 90+ days and take them out while they are still messing with dude #1. The secret is to move like a blend of dude #1 and #2. This is where being straightforward, upfront and confident comes in. You can go out on dates (dude #2) but drop that heavy game on her where she is getting dude #1 vibes from you. She has a hard time processing both types of dudes occurring simultaneously. The 90+ day rule goes out the window while you get both boyfriend and f**k buddy energy from her.
Some dudes don't know how to be one or both. Plus most don't know heavy game or game in general that's why they are struggling with and getting women it's not like they have been properly taught game even their fathers don't or can't teach then game with women depending how their fathers meet their mothers
@@thenewjord50 These channels will help. I learned late and did not have a father figure in my life. Each guy must take the initiative and fill and his knowledge gaps and get out here and make it happen.
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Working in Sales made it alot easier getting over rejection, but I won't lie it still sucks. Fortunately, my lust usually outweighs my fear of "No". I'd rather get rejected, then wonder 'what could've been'.
i’m too lazy to approach them, i don’t think it worth my energy
Rejection don’t bother me. She just had to be somebody who. I’m attracted to .Just be straight up with the woman if you just want to hook up or go on a date, then you just say that from the beginning, the only answer you needs to hear yes or no if she’s not cooperating with your program leave her alone and move on to another woman . And some of these women’s are chasing fairytales, we was not made to be alone, but nobody got time for games. We are grown adults .
I only deal with the women that want to deal with me. Some of those women are unattractive, some average and some are pretty but, they have all given conformation in some form of another, that they are into me. I never, ever approached women that are not checking for me, no matter how much they fit my criteria. I'm sure that there are exceptions out there but most of the time, it's not the rule. Approaching a women isn't about ego or fear for me, it about making sense. If she's checking for me, it makes sense. If she's not, it doesn't make sense.
It’s just constantly hearing the no’s can be draining and I’m not no slouch but in this social media era approaching just seems to be a no go , and like you said a lot of them can be real mean about it idk how many times I’ve had a girl reject me then go on to tell others she rejected me things like that can tap you out
Many of the these women are some real mean beasts out here. Like you said, social media and dating apps gives them a false sense of unlimited options. They focus too much on the “unlimited” options and not finding a quality brother. Hence, they end up sharing a dude later on.
You do learn who to approach overtime. I learned to stay away from follower girls who won’t talk to you if their friend(s) won’t. I’ll pop at the bad and dominant one who controls the dynamic of her social group. 💯🗣️
That herd / beehive mentality is strong with many women. They can be feeling you but if their friends don’t approve, they will drop you. This speaks to the statement “single women make / keep other women single.” Thank God for her giving you the opportunity to move on to a better woman.
@@BiscuitsNGravy-p3lI don’t flirt nomore and I’m 29 years old the world is getting more demonic so I’m good
@@Jay2Official-n8j It’s pretty bad out here. Social media and dating apps have messed a lot of people up.
@@BiscuitsNGravy-p3l even the older generations too and my generation and the younger generation ( Gen Z )
Men are doing what they've always done which is let her choose. Women overall are feeling a reduction is simp orbiters as red pill goes mainstream. Men of value are raising the bar higher than ever.
If they (Women) don't look approachable, I won't won't speak or gesture a non-verbal towards them. I don't subscribe to game because for me, it's a matter of me just being my natural fluent self. I'm in a flow with life so if she isn't interested or not acknowledging, I keep it moving. I'm not going to disrupt my Flow. And there's always the probability that a more intriguing specimen might align with me/a better woman.💯
I don’t care about being rejected or accepted. I always feel great when I approach women that i genuinely desire.
There’s a lot of reasons, is what I think. The main ones are because men don’t wanna be downplayed nor clowned just because they approached and wanted to get the number from the fine chicc, social media has set some unrealistic standards for many of us and has fogged most of our minds, we often think we have to be perfect to attract the woman we want, but whats also important is what we carry inside, our heart and soul.
It’s a numbers game I got a higher chance of getting numbers if I approach 10 women , then just approach 1 and give up if she rejects me 💯 🧠.
If it’s not a “hell yes” it’s a “no.”
From MY EXPERIENCE. I don’t have a problem approaching. It’s just women come with too many specifics. So it’s not even worth it. You could have 99 things right but that 1 thing you have wrong, it’s over.
I have seen men do it to. Us as men usually see past some minor flaws because it’s definitely manageable and no one is perfect.
It’s easier when a woman shows interest first because you know you’ve been qualified.
You can also learn to approach in a way that you own the interaction from beginning to end. It’s a vibe, an aura you put out and even if they are with someone and / or not genuinely interested, you will leave a mark on them.
If she focuses in on one thing and uses that to disqualify you, thank her for putting you one step closer to the awesome woman you deserve and who deserves you.
Not to mention a woman needs to like a man just a little bit more than he likes her or else it’s already over even if she doesn’t say anything
@@kryptonite754What’s funny is when I go out to music concerts, it’s pretty clear to see who likes who more. My now ex and I went to a concert and was sitting next to this couple. The guy was real chill. His lady was touching him, rubbing on him, kissing him, dancing on his lap. I gave that brother a fist bump because his woman was so into him.
I said to my now ex “take note”. She said “I don’t do that. It’s not me.” Well, that’s one of the reasons I am on the market again. She will do that for someone but didn’t want to do it for me. Oh well, next!
You literally have women disqualifying men for having an android or a certain zodiac sign. You could be everything she wants but God forbid you were born in June
@@LeeEverett1 You have to flip that around. She disqualified herself from being with the awesome man that you are.
Sir, one thing I've learned about women is this. You can have a great personality, dress well, eat healthy, be in shape, be on semen retaining, shave & let the barber bless you often, have excellent cologne, but, hue does play an important perspective in attraction. But, its not even about the hue, it comes down to your facial features. If you're ugly to women, you will get 'dissed' as they say, or rejected frequently. It destroys confidence. Good thing there's tracks & blades that have courtesans or Straight grown men such as myself would be "heauxless & doughless". I will say one thing, you're correct about body game. Word up. Blessings & peace to you Mr. Rom wills.
Started approaching lately, almost every time it's "I got a boyfriend". Still feel like a million dollar after it, it's just in my head. "Yea I just did that" and I feel empowered cause of it.
Same and same. I approach good looking women and they're always taken. I do feel great afterwards knowing that I tried. I hate the feeling of regret not trying.
Absolute facts my brothers. Love to see it
Is what is bro hella ton women out there
yea that’s part of the game. Some of them broads wouldn’t even mention their bf if they were extremely attracted to you…..
@@blackshadexl word!
This is why Rom Wills is the GOAT
I've been telling dudes to focus on their dating demographic(tribe) for years... you could be Boris Kodjoe, Denzel or Idris Elba, NO one man can attract and keep any type of woman
And as a man with options you SHOULDN'T be trying to mess with just any woman anyways
Easier said than done because most women act like chameleons these days to see if they are in your tribe
For me, its my autonomous nature, combined with my dislike for people in general. I dont like putting myself in a position where someone can say yes or no to me because its conflicts with my autonomous nature. This is why I dont like job interviews either. I dont like the idea of having to "bypass" a "gatekeeper" in order to get what I want. Ever since a teen, I always recognized that I want to make money without having to answer to anyone, and also get women without necessarily making the first approach either. Maybe im too much of a absolutist, but I simply refuse to "hand over my power" to another human being in any capacity.
Damn bro 🎯 👍🏾
You spitting facts with this one.
That’s exactly how I feel 😂😂😂🫡🔥
thats how i feel and have listened to others and their advice never made sense they were just probably jealous of that type of freedom but you have to be ok with being in solitude which i finally im comfortable with
@@garthyahudahandrews8504 Yeah I don't mind the solitude because I'm a introvert and I like being by myself anyways, but the challenge that I'm having is that I don't know how to reconcile between my strong desire for women and my autonomous nature/dislike for people. Also, I don't want to do nothing that I will regret in the future either. However, I'm starting to realize, or believe, that all of these conditions might just simply be a part of the human experience and I might simply have to accept it, but i'm not ready, or willing, to fully go there yet.
Salute! The more you approach the less scary it is!
I'm not scared of approaching them I genuinely just don't have the motivation to after all the rejections and apparently every woman claiming she has a boyfriend. Even if you do by chance get the number there's a good chance she won't even respond to your first message, then you have to deal with many who play games, take 12 hours to respond, flakes on the date, ghosts, still has feelings for their ex etc.
Every woman out there is already dealing with a handful of dudes, 1 that she's consistently sleeping with but he won't commit. What chance does a random stranger have over those guys who are already talking to her?
That's why you always push things for a date before u get the number. If she aint interested in dating don't get the number
We’re all living the same life 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It’s crazy but one has to assume that a woman you are interested in is messing with other dudes until she chooses you. My last ex was messing with multiple guys (found this out later on) before we became exclusive.
You also have to be straightforward, upfront and confidently approach. Talk to them like you already have them.
There are two types of dudes women put on a show for:
1) The dude they just want to f**k - he don’t have to date them and they don’t invest in him anymore than raw sex
2) The relationship dude; this is the dude they want to be a “good girl” for and make him wait 90+ days and take them out while they are still messing with dude #1.
The secret is to move like a blend of dude #1 and #2. This is where being straightforward, upfront and confident comes in. You can go out on dates (dude #2) but drop that heavy game on her where she is getting dude #1 vibes from you. She has a hard time processing both types of dudes occurring simultaneously.
The 90+ day rule goes out the window while you get both boyfriend and f**k buddy energy from her.
"Any evil is small when compared to a woman's evil; may she experience a sinner's fate"
Ecclesiasticus 25:19
Become YOUR best self and that will eliminate a lot of foolishness
Facts
Let me add that in becoming your best self, it is equally important to develop discernment. Lot of men who have reached the height of lives have been destroyed by dealing with the wrong woman.
As I Always Say Everyday, Positive Indifference Makes All Of The Difference 🤷🏽♂️😎
Thank you Rom. On top of that SOME women are way too picky. Their standards are unrealistic. I’ve kinda fell back on the approaching and went for the ones who made it super obvious that they want me to talk to them. But even with that was a waste of time💀
big facts 💯 and I think it’s most women that are way too picky.
@@adifferentperspective8448 it is. As guys were simple. We don’t want much
Facts.. 💯 I been there on both ends.. Doing the approach and letting them choose up on a Brother.. both didn't end so well.. the dating scene is tainted
They choose until they choose 💩
Yes I can relate to this a lot. Even when they are giving you clear choosing signals to approach most of the time I do not because atleast 3/4 of them just want your attention and even if they are truly interested in you they don’t smile or anything they just act like they are on their phone half the time and get near you. Like Jesus Christ if you actually want him to approach just give a small smile ladies….
About a year ago when I was watching Rom I couldn’t even make eye contact with any women over time I kept listening and eventually stopped bc my confidence grew and pushed me to be able too approach and now I’m back jus to keeping learning
That is why I don't approached women anymore, everytime while I'm at work or going outside for a walk, woman gave me mean dirty looks, roll their's eyes and never smile while i had other things to take care of, I'm perfectly fine be alone in peace with no drama and focus on going to work everyday, my art and my other hobbies that I always enjoy.
Where you work and your area and environment plays a big role. Is it all races of women doing that?
Women are like that everywhere ..attitude like they just rolled outta bed ..
@@optimisticmindz2545 depends on what of women you dealing with and environment plays a huge whole. If you say everywhere that means you been all over the world to back your claims
Don’t let these 304s get you down, bro.
Rejection is protection
Thanks for the video, Uncle Rom! You never know what can happen when approaching. It’s a muscle that I have to keep working. Peace and blessings!
Women price to high when the juice not worth the squeeze . I can't speak for all men we not up for games and later find out she was waste of time.
If the fellas really think about it. Its alot of easy...or females thats willing to sumit to your leadership. We just be over looking them cause whatever reason lol.
Dont go to the party if you dont wanna dance. Approaching is always gonna be a challenge that aint gone change
A lot of men don’t want to accept that we also overlook women who are obviously coming after us. However, for whatever reason - looks, sex appeal, etc - we don’t generally choose those types.
@BiscuitsNGravy-p3l that's true. For me personally I have a lot of trust issues I'm working on. I'm low key select...when chicks be open to throwing they life at me. I get suspicious. I'm a idiot I know. I'm working on it. And it's sometimes a female doesn't have that sexual flair. We all want a good girl but she gotta have the flair. That's my main reason they get over looked for me.
@@TonyChase365 If you are not already in therapy, consider it to help you with your trust issues. I had to get therapy to help me with trust issues and other stuff I developed after being in an extremely toxic relationship with an evil ass woman. Let’s put it like this; that relationship with her introduced me to terms like gaslighting, love bombing, narcissism, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and more. I had no idea what I was getting into until I was in it and entrenched in the darkest, most damaging relationship I ever had. I luckily escaped without being completely broken.
@BiscuitsNGravy-p3l thank you for the support. I know from just my words you can tell I've been through the same. So your not alone. In my case I knew all of this stuff but I was caught in a "to big to lose concept" shorty was toxic but I blame my own ego and arrogance for putting me in the hole I was. I gained 1000% introspective after it was all said and done. I'm growing and strongly considering therapy even for if for gaining more introspective and research. I appreciate ya response
@@TonyChase365 You got this, brother man. No matter what people may say, men hurt and many times, it’s a woman we let close to us that inflict the most damage. It’s ok to seek out and talk to a mental health professional about what you are experiencing. It’s a sign of strength to know when you need someone to help walk you through some things.
Dunno if it's only me, but a lot of women i find around at supermarket and other places have this kind of dead serious/unhappy/angry expression, they look unapprochable to be. Only few times it happens that one looks at you with a gentle smile, that's the only occasions i think it's worth trying in public. I see a lot if not most of women that look like brain dead zombies with no emotions, it's a bit like finding the needle in the haystack these days, but there are still some good ones.
Probably the town or city you from environment plays a huge role especially how the economy is and where society is going especially this election coming
@@thenewjord50intelligent point.
@@johnspartan4025 100% experience this a lot as well. If they not gonna even give a small smile the littlest amount of effort to get a man they really desire… then what the hell are we doing here.
@johnspartan4025 I’m 29 years old I know exactly what you talking about that’s why I no longer flirt nomore I’m too old at this point and most women got a man at home it ain’t worth it and their man look like Kevin hart btw
@@user-ug5fm4ct9y environment is the factor and I don't like bringing up politics but if you look where society ( in the states) and economy going right now you see why some looking unapproachble
I will always say if I look my best and still get rejected then at least I tried. The no and I have boyfriend phases me sometimes but least I know I tried
Rom there are times where a woman reject me, say she have a boyfriend, etc and still continue to carry the conversation. In my book that woman still find me somewhet attractive otherwise she wouldve walked away much sooner and went on about her day.
@dsetgetatme
From what you've written, it sounds like she just wanted your attention for validation.
Ever heard of a manipulative time waster? 👍🏾😉🌟
Very good point, Mr. Wills. I've noticed that when wearing my jobsite attire "yellow reflector shirt/vest, jeans, boots), I get attention from certain women. In my business attire, I get looks from another group of women. I've always concluded that it was my face and height. However, with your excellent point, it may be the "uniform", along with the physical. Cheers, sir. 🥃
1:03 courage and confidence are two different things and people get them both confused.
Ima be honest , wen I was younger I was scared because of the lack of confidence and the environment I grew up in. However I always had girls check me out. Now that I’m a little older and got notches under my belt. That fear is gone. Most of the time my lust overcomes the fear because that woman turns me on a lot I just go for it.
Facts, used to be very scared aswel. Since body game and no longer having a p$rn addiction my lust has become so high. I just want to get some so I approach
I agree 100%. I feel the same way!
How you do it and getting women to give you the "business "
@@thenewjord50it’s a skill and what he does to get it will be completely different from how YOU do it because YOURE not HIM. Unc rom suggest just say hi to 3 women a day. That’s all, just to practice the skill. Your confidence will build and eventually if you do it everyday, it’ll just be part of your every day life to talk to women. Which will make you more attractive than the average guy because most guys won’t even approach women. Good luck!
@@Thewrightbrotha I'm not saying I'm not confident but people especially women are different not everyone is the same. Many women move like chameleons nowadays. Saying hi it's not the problem but we are in the 2020s when people are antisocial and anti talking as if it's illegal to know people especially the opposite gender plus getting women to smash you( if smash is the motive) when she barely know you is not easy too depending on what woman she is
Love Unc💪🏾 Man You On Point this morning🙏🏾 God Bless👊🏾
4:16 that’s courage.
For me, I have no problem approaching, or saying hi to a woman. Although I usually don't approach women who seem aloof, rude or full of themselves, but sometimes they might surprise you by reacting positively.
The other day I saw this beauty out jogging and as she came closer, I gave her a smile and greeted her, and she smiled and waved back enthusiastically. With women, you've just got to take your chances, and see what happens.
Morning sir
Happened to a months ago learned a lil Spanish tired talking to this Colombian give her number we texted for little bc I’m not a texter more of a face to face person. She said she was busy the first time. Second time I asked it rained she didn’t even remember and didn’t care so. I kinda stop talking to women give me choosing singles a day later that still didn’t motivate me enough to approach women.
I’m 6’4 and pretty built after years of hard work.. all I get is married women or women in relationships checking me out/touches, long deep stares with smiles, but then I get women who just ignore me one day and like me the next day or something. I genuinely don’t like talking to women that are awkward or just seem like they don’t genuinely like men but do it just to be nice in front of others especially at work. I can tell if they are fake or genuine. It’s just brutal out here man..
Don't let em tell you women care about height, my short dudes, you will just get S test by the less attractive ones
I find it annoying when girl sends choosing signals, but immediately hides behind a phone or has earphones in. I would approache otherwise.
And then afterwards sometimes I feel remorse. Maybe that isn't as big of a deal as I feel it is. I don't know. Kinda feels like it's a setup. Or at least attempt at starting something with power imbalance.
She could just be shy, u can still approach. If she aint feeling it immediately then u just say have a nice day and move on
@@honestalgo yea, I thought so too afterwards. I am intimidating as I'm introverted, tall, body game is on point and I look confident.
Them acting such way throws me off tho. Don't want awkward situation of shifting their focus from something their doing to do some small talk.
@@BiiskapsLV its a setup. If they want you they will make the approaching part as easy as possible, or approach you themselves.
@@BRockin25 yea, that's what I was thinking. A lot of attention seekers out there.
@@BiiskapsLV I'm also a tall in shape introvert etc. Most women will see you and know that they can't hold your interest for long or at all. So their main goal is to set you up and/or reject you, because they think that is the most they can get out of you if you aren't focused. Most women who think this way are correct.
Rejection is painful…Which is why after reading some of the comments I can see most of us men have given up and rightfully so…The only thing is we ourselves have made women to become like this from replacing our lust over our dignity…And as long as these hoes know it’s some fool out there who will give them everything for nothing in return then we will always struggle with them…Imagine if most of us didn’t pay for onlyfans,porn,tricking,etc…Dynamics would change and most of us would be getting approached by women because they would HAVE TOO!..Supply and demand it’s simple
Don’t crush on her. As a man, you can be attracted to her but not like her.
It takes a bit of internal strength and fortitude to control that strong sexual desire within us. I don’t know if men as a whole will ever be able to master it. However, the men who have 🍆 discipline and requires a woman to bring more than her box to the dance I.e. respect, a pleasant attitude, kindness, good communication, etc., will repel 304s (hoes). They won’t even entertain them unless that’s what HE wants in that moment. Regardless of if she’s a 304 or not, if she ain’t following his program, he discards her quickly and moves on.
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It’s fun to approach women
They are scared I’m not I got 2 numbers a few days ago one didn’t text back and one did still don’t care also I like asking for numbers I don’t start conversations I walk up on them and be like you cute can I get your number they either say yes or no I got a boyfriend I keep it pushing I do it for fun I don’t be scared or nervous I go in with a open mind
I Used To Do That To My G Lol..I Can't Front Tho..I Freeze up Sometimes..But I Break Through It Tho💪🏾💪🏾😂😮💨😓
@@alfredcowans880 I never freeze up because I never overthink about anything I just approach without thinking I be calm and chill about it that’s what make it so easy just don’t think about nothing and do it
Facts!
Good ahh video!! 👍🏿
4:50 what if no women are interested in YOU? They may be but they would just set you up for trouble
you right. every woman i said “ Damn “ in my head to i code approached. Otherwise im living out my day naturally
Moved from an urban city to a suburban city with an older demographic, majority white, and majority with kids. White women in all body types or ages seem like they not going for what i got. It was less to begin with but even less now.
However, when i was still at my previous city i always had good interactions with black people, black women in particular. Its funny though that i havent approached black women as much as the white women.
I moved here with family. I will still go after what i want but i need to be prepared to move to another city that would help me be more mobile and meet more ppl.
Im going to approach more before to see which type of woman i can get in this environment.
good video. 😂
Amen Rom God bless
Unfortunately, this new generation of young men have become whips. They are afraid of talking to women. Well done Rom, they need a father figure to lace them with some game.
Lmaooo, this ain’t the 80’s of 90’s old timer.
@@storm2945 80’s 90’s there where whips back then however this generation its an epidemic of feminine males.
I also wanted to say, I’m 18 and I have a podcast but I’m looking for a mentor like figure to market and learn from to produce content with and I think it could do very well, please reach out if your interested Rom
But if your select you don’t have to approach, right Rom?
select or non select you gotta approach. Signals mean a warm approach.
everyman should learn how to approach. your mental strength will be underdeveloped if you don’t learn to put yourself at the mercy of the game
Most men, Select or Non-Select have to approach.
Approaching is cool BUT if she’s beautiful you gotta stand out wit your dialogue . Extra points if you got swag together too. I usually find something we have in common instead of going straight to complimenting her.
The other day on the video the braud said she didn’t want to deal with a doctor because that’s all he was an he wasn’t ambitious enough 😂
let's be honest cold approaching just isn;t going to be successful 99% of the time. things take time. even if she just want a fling. USUALLY she has to get a FEEl for u first. from seeing around. talking. maybe mutual friends. association plays a big part. but if u see a girl at a store as in the book. get her use to seeing u a few times. then ask her out. not a definite yes. but in my experience if she has had time to get to know u a bit she well either say yes or u can see she has to tHInk About it a lil. or isn't just flat out no . i say take ur time
Well that’s not true. If a woman sees you and finds you attractive and you’re not an airhead when you open your mouth she is going to entertain you ! You don’t have to take anything slow where do yall get this from ? I’ve never had a woman that was into me that I had to take it slow with… sometimes they’re checking me out even before I make a move.
I just don’t pay women attention all like that no more because when it comes to it all I just do is be in my own world and catch them when they looking they was choosing from the start, but when they chosen, you gotta apply a principal that they gotta pay for your dinner, not theirs and that’s when you don’t have time wasted
Then on top of the that, it seem like you gotta talk real heavy to em that’s how I did it. They even had boyfriends
When I did that, I got my results. And when I say heavy, I mean a little bit bass a little bit loudness in your voice that’s what I meant. If you can hold it for a while you in there plain and simple
I hear that. Life is easier when women are not on the pedestal. They respect dominance from men. They command assertiveness from us. They look to us as leaders. And that's why we gotta guide younger dudes because the simping pandemic is way too high
@@Shaddyraddy92Facts! I learned this later in life as I wasn’t raised by a father. The woman in your life need that from you as a man. Also, I’ve learned that women in your life need instructions. For example, when your woman comes over to your place to hang out, many times, they will jump on their cell phone instead of engaging with you.
What I have learned to do is give her a task or something to do that allows her to interact with me. “Hey baby, while I am making these sides, do me a favor and put your seasoning on that chicken. I love the way you season my meat (say it in a way that it hints at the meat you are eating and the meat she will get later).”
My ex use to come to my place and the first few times, asked if there is anything she could do. I said “no, I got it.” Then, she started coming over jumping on her phone for social media or whatever and not engaging me. That stuff led to me discovering that she was more than likely stepping out on me and communicating with other guys (experienced other confirming signs like secrecy with the cell phone, unreachable at certain times that she was normally available, etc).
Going forward, any woman that I invite to my place, she will have a task or tasks to do that helps her engage with me. Letting them sit on your couch, they are going to reach for that cell phone and engage with anybody but you. Give them some work to do that will put them in your zone to pat them on the butt, play with their breasts or something. They love that ish.
Shout out cousin T-Taw
304 likes when I see this video lol - anyway good stuff as always
I caught that. 304! 😆
"You didn't live BITD..."
Rom, it's a psychological defense known as "Fatnasy Formation"; an idealized past that one has never experienced, yet cites as "Correct"....
Because they dont have enough juice
If 89% of the time I approach & nothing pops off that’s not worth too much of my time & investment.
That’s the point of the video. You gotta keep trying.
That means you are getting over 10% success. That’s actually pretty good for men in today’s toxic dating market. Think about it; you may be approaching 100 women a month, 11 of which you get their numbers, 3 call you back, 2 you actually hook up with, 1 who stands out above the rest and you and her keep on hooking up and making things happen.
@@BiscuitsNGravy-p3l But he’s also boosting their egos and giving away leverage if he’s only cold approaching.
@ You can’t worry about that. You approach from the perspective of ‘I’m interested in this woman and I’m taking my shot. However she chooses to respond is her business and won’t negatively impact me one bit.’
Don’t care about a woman getting an ego boost. It’s always her loss. You are approaching her with the opportunity to be in your amazing life. If she declines, she realizes she is not worth your opportunity. 😁
You have to be straightforward, upfront and confidently approach. Talk to them like you already have them.
There are two types of dudes women put on a show for:
1) The dude they just want to f**k - he don’t have to date them and they don’t invest in him anymore than raw sex
2) The relationship dude; this is the dude they want to be a “good girl” for and make him wait 90+ days and take them out while they are still messing with dude #1.
The secret is to move like a blend of dude #1 and #2. This is where being straightforward, upfront and confident comes in. You can go out on dates (dude #2) but drop that heavy game on her where she is getting dude #1 vibes from you. She has a hard time processing both types of dudes occurring simultaneously.
The 90+ day rule goes out the window while you get both boyfriend and f**k buddy energy from her.
Some dudes don't know how to be one or both. Plus most don't know heavy game or game in general that's why they are struggling with and getting women it's not like they have been properly taught game even their fathers don't or can't teach then game with women depending how their fathers meet their mothers
@@thenewjord50 These channels will help. I learned late and did not have a father figure in my life. Each guy must take the initiative and fill and his knowledge gaps and get out here and make it happen.
Avoiding rejection is preventing guys from growing into the best version of themselves.
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