As a guy, learning how to accept rejection and having an abundance mindset is so powerful. Once you get over that hoop of caring about being rejected, you'll eventually find someone who f***s with you. Also, the greatest lesson i ever learned is you should never need to do too much to get a woman who is truly interested in you to like you. Being yourself, and being a decent person should be enough to actually spark something with some women. If you find yourself doing too much or trying to "win" her over, it'll never work.
I'm done with American women and black women period just thru been through some shit it's time pick up the big stick and keep moving it's best to bite the bullet of acceptance than to be delusional in the land of make believe
@@dominus360 Like, when you talk, show interest, ask questions, express yourself... don't do too much but whatever you do, make it quality and interesting and make sure it shows what you want from her.. did I get it right?
@@zuhairreza Yeah but it's more deeper than that. The fundamental concept of love is not based on 2 people loving each other like most people think. But it's more a case of one person loving and the other allowing him or herself to be loved. -- FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO BE THE ONE ALLOWING A WOMAN TO LOVE YOU -- If you want your relationship (long term / short term) be pleasant, you have to be in passive state 70% of the time. Means she act, you respond. When a woman loves you, she initiates almost everything, conversations, s3x, jokes, phone calls etc.. EVERYTHING is easy She even invest money in you, buying you some random cheap gifts "babe, I saw that mug in a shop, I thought it would please you... 🥰" She will naturely worry if you have eat something, means she will cook for you without you having to ask for it. Men who never experience real love from a woman think they have to prove themselves, jumping through hoops to please her, going on dates, buying her gifts, investing money and stuff... But it's not how you get a woman to appreciate or love you. Woman just love who they want, and you can do nothing about that. It's just, either she chooses you or she doesn't. ( BONUS : Women knows within the first 3 min from your 1st meeting, if you're that guy or not ) In short, if a woman really loves you. All you have to do is respond to her gestures of love. And that boils down to 3 things that are common to every woman in every country in the world: - Her financial investment in you - She initiates s3x at least 30% of the time - She cares if you've eaten If you don't have these three things in a woman, I'm sorry but she's just playing you.
I'm 60 and met my wife of 33 years now in person at a nightclub on the last dance of the night. I have learned over the years that women by nature are passive towards men. If I had not made the move on my wife in that club, who knows what would have happened. Social media, dating apps, and cell phones are the worst things to happen to relationships between man and woman.
Dating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
1) Please don’t just approach a woman and ask for her number right away. Have an opener and then try to get her to talk for 5-10 minutes. 2) Instead of commenting on her beauty, say something specific and relevant, like you like her style, or noticed the book she’s carrying, something she’s reaching for at the store, or a pin on her bag. Open with something that shows you have interest in her as a person. Get her talking about that. 3) NON-VERBAL CUES. Go between leaning in and leaning back. Don’t back her into a corner. When you lean in, pay attention to her body. Does she lean or turn away? If you say something flirtatious, does she match energy, or nervously giggle? When you pause, does she look around, does she start saying she has to go, or does she linger? The more cues she gives that she’s open to advancement, the more you can close the gap. Back to 1, don’t just ask for her number and walk away. Try to get her to have a mini date with you right then. If you’re at a coffee shop, offer her a coffee, ask her to join you at the seats. Keep it going.
Yes, this is true. There is nothing wrong with dating apps if you don't take them too seriously. I'm not the best looking and am a bit overweight, I still did well. I suspect most guys don't know how to conversate.
Cold approach is a low probability numbers game for all guys that aren't Chris Evans. Therefore the opener has to be simple - not finely crafted and unique to the situation as studied for hours. If you are not somewhat direct, you will waste far too much time with empty "chit-chat" as a guy. Oh numbers on their own are pointless! So many of them will flake! Say you are doing a specific event or meeting with friends & ask the woman to come along. If she declines, then there is absolutely NO POINT getting her number! The only purpose of a number is to arrange a later meeting - nothing else. So make sure she is up for meeting BEFORE asking for a number. Body language can be important, but only matters if you get enough time during the interaction. It wont help change an initial rejection into a maybe. Cold approach is difficult & time consuming; its not the simople shortcut some people seem to think it is.
How i wish all men on dating apps get to read this great piece od advice I personaly i have ever tried two dating apps but those guys have fake approches mmmnn Now i gave up on them an just learning to enjoy single life
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
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Forget dating apps. I see a women I like and I go over and chat to her then ask her out! What's the problem? Yes, you'll get rejections however some women will say yes!!
Don't hate the world. I realize that on these dating apps, the women I KNOW who passed me up for perhaps a better tailored B.S. profile of Mr. Adventure and Rico Fricken Suave, will end up lonely the same as I am feeling now. Reading these comments, yeah, in person attempts to meet women these days could get a grocery store security officer called on you for harassment and stalking. I don't give up hope and perhaps I will meet her, and the right one worthy of my damn time and not the other way around. I work out, I am not bad looking, yet you won't find me hosting a television show nor acting in a blockbuster movie. Women have their delusions of "Mr. Perfect" when really it is nothing more than Rico Greaseball and that guy is a twig by my comparison and lol! Don't let a woman or lack of a woman in your life defeat the man that you are. I believe it is a divine thing and I gotta wait and work out more. At least I have my life in order being single and it only takes one bad woman to ruin it and take it away from you. Remember that guys!
I just approached an chick yesterday she was in her 50's I tried to get her number and I was rejected. The biggiest fear for me was doing the actual approaching. I've gotten over my fear of rejection years ago It was alwayss making the first move and saying the words out of my hard the hardest part for me. Dating apps made people cowardly, male or female.
Yea I think that is most guys I know it is for me, the rejection is never scary you’ll never see them again it’s just getting the words out, I’ve noticed that if I make my feet move then I will do it cuz I can’t just turn around
I honestly think you are on the right track in general. Especially with working out and wanting to have a social life. It is needed in the world, especially when it comes to jobs and meeting women like you stated. There are some great women left, but they are too overshadowed by the amount of goldiggers and scamming females out here leading the blind like sheep.
Yea you’re right bro especially with social media you’ll never see the good ones approaching is the only way gonna do my first cold approach in months today
Love your honesty and realness man. But I hate to tell you, approaching in real life can go just as badly, if not worse than using dating apps. On apps, the worst that can happen is she doesn't reply. But IRL, there are MANY potential consequences to approaching a girl other than her not being interested. You can have memberships terminated, be ostracized, get a reputation as "that guy" and more. Not to mention the toll it takes on you when you put in the work to get into shape, build your confidence and charisma, only to still get constant disinterest and rejection from women.
Unless there is one key reason you are always getting rejected (too fat but otherwise hot etc) then working on yourself really isn’t going to suddenly make you successful with the opposite sex. It will increase your chance of making something work with someone, and one is all you need. But the main reason to work on yourself really needs to be for you. In a weird way it has the opposite effect when it’s seen that you only make effort for her, you need to actually be into bettering yourself for you for it to show as a positive to others.
BS don't believe this chic ignore tf out of them and eventually one will choose you, trust me bro it ain't you, from the way you described it just act as if they don't exist bro trust me on this!
@@nofilter451 Sadly, I've done that many times with girls who gave me the cold shoulder, and not once has ignoring them made them suddenly become interested in me. Not once. I've also tried ignoring girls that I hadn't approached, and nothing ever happens, they don't even know I exist.
how about socialize with women where you see no outcome of getting her number or anything from her just to practice/say hi/be neighborly? but important: *read the situation/the room *
@@CB12345 man i always get unattractive matches bro. It be women i will never look twice at or even notice in person. I rather be single than settle for what I don’t want
Precisely. The harsh truth is man, that It will be hard to find someone that can follow your lead and fit what you are looking for. I'm currently still having that problem, but the older I get and take it slow I will get better. Unfortunately it is way too much trash out here and or lazy women, but we'll figure it out somehow. @@Imfocused1
As an older woman I can confirm that a man that approach a woman in person nicely and with manners is a winner. The older you get the more looks are not very important
@gregorylatta8159 Sure, doesn’t that make sense though? You have to remember you are the first generation of men that rely on women to pay bills. Generally speaking it was always a man’s job to provide a life for his wife and family. This idea that a man can be bad looking and not provide for a woman but still expect an attractive desirable girlfriend to choose him just seems really bizarre to me, you have to bring something.
@@jaybee4288 If you rely on another person to sustain your lifestyle you have an issue man/woman. The truth is many younger women of family starting age want it all and are much pickier than prior generations. Many men would be fine making 50k on their own but that isn't enough for the lavish desires of many young women. The ease in which a man can be deemed unattractive physically is very easy since the goal posts are much higher compared to men's looks expectations in women. Thats why the response more men are choosing is to not bother trying; after all there are many modern/future amenities to make up for lack of relationship prospects.
I have a couple thoughts on the things you said. 1. For me, and I believe a lot of white collar professionals, working from home/remote has become a significant barrier to meeting people in public. I'm home all the time. My software job is at home. And I do music, also from home. When I do go out, I don't encounter the type of woman I want to date. I typically hang out in the local music scene, which, has plenty of hot girls I am physically attracted to, but rarely do I meet someone that has a stable career and stable life like I do. It's a lifestyle mismatch. 2. The dating apps, just like what you said. I have no problem getting dates on them. I may not be the "hottest" guy, but I am the hottest, most together, guy that the girls I date can get. If they are hot, it's been a situation where their life is a mess. 3. At this point, I'm so busy and tired, even if I do meet a nice girl in public, I don't feel motivated to put effort in to finding out more about them, or meeting them another time. I typically convince myself it's not worth my time. I get hit on plenty out in public, and I just let it slide right by. I like my peace. Anyway, good luck out there.
I ran across your video and it has to be the most honestly sincere from the heart vlog I have seen in awhile. First kudo's for that. I also think for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. The women going after the top guys are probably getting the most sleeziest non datable guys who have tens of woman throwing themselves at them.
@@ctb1977 thats ur defense mechanism talking, preventing you from facing your own traumas. Blaming parents or seeing true causes arent the same thing, dont be scared to admit parents make mistakes that have consequences.
Fear of social rejection is ingrained deeply into our DNA, it's like fear of snakes, it's very rational to fear these things because real risk is attached to them.
@theonlyexpert Children aren't fearless, they can be shy. But yes being very socially anxious and a loner probably is learned behaviour. Would you say most your social skills come from parents or peers? The traumas probably come from being bullied or rejected by other kids. Social skills with friends of the same age can't be taught by parents, it has to be learned from experience. The role of the parent is to teach the kid bravery, how to overcome the fear of rejection. Of course if the parents are very bad the trauma may come from the parents side. But I'm saying in many cases the trauma isn't from the parents, it's from peers
Here I have are a few thoughts. Firstly, dating apps create the illusion that we all have a seemingly endless supply of potential mates. We don't because there are always limits. Secondly, any individual man or woman is only compatible with a handful of people out there in the available pool regardless of how attractive they appear. Most of the dates you go on won't lead to a meaningful relationship for a variety of different reasons. Thirdly, men have the challenge of getting and keeping a woman's attention, while women have the challenge of sorting through numerous men who express their interest. Neither has an easy task.
My thoughts: a) quite frankly, dating apps are for people who are really not serious about meeting someone and just use them as a crutch to kill time. If you are serious and solely rely on dating apps, you could be closing in on retirement age and *still* on them; b) if you are serious about meeting someone, be willing, able and *prepared* to invest the time, money and energy into developing *and* sustaining a relationship. In other words, do the work. Otherwise, don't waste your and someone else's time. On a personal note, I am 52, never married, single and happy! Remember, happiness begins and ends with you!
Never used dating apps, but I think it's what the majority of young people use these days. My female friends go on 3-4 dates a week with guys from Tinder, and they get laid frequently through these apps. As a guy who will only approach women in real life, if I meet them through friends or at a bar, which is not often, I have a lot less experience. But that's just how it is for us guys. Women have it easy in dating.
Yes def for women yes but as a guy it’s pointless unless you are super attractive I think if I ever were to do it again I would get professional photos taken and i think I’d have more success but I still wouldn’t rely on just the app
@@CavionWilliams1guys def need professional photos to have success on the apps.. I went from 0 to 180 matches with pro photos from using regular phone pics. I have a new photoshoot tomorrow for updated pics
@@oscarperez5539Apps are really just about looks and who has the best photos. It is competing to see who is the most shallow if we are being honest about it.
I'll give you a tactic i used one time in my 20's. Feel free to steal it. When I went out with my boys, I would bring a pineapple and set it on the table or bar where I was seated. Women would come up and ask what's up with the pineapple. I had dozens of lines, but most of the time quickly transitioned to something interesting about them, or a really funny random question. "Oh, this pineapple? I brought it because i heard you wanted a Pina Colada." "I lost a bet with the boys." It doesn't really matter what you say. Get comfortable being funny, goofy, interesting, and charasmatic.
ayyee haha i like that was cool i’ll for sure use that, me and my friends will actually being going to the mall tmrw where we can do some approaches which i’m pretty excited for
@@CavionWilliams1 it beats sending 100's of pointless messages on a dating app, lowering yourself by chasing them with all of the Chad's in their inbox. Best of luck man. 👍
Did that for 7 years. I’ve been making good money for 3 of those years. I still have no beaches. Now I’m just older and my options are slimmer than when I was young. Don’t wait too long
@ragequitter That’s interesting, since I’m always hear g from men that women are the ones with an expiration date at 27 (sometimes as low as 23), and men just become MORE valuable as they get older.
You have to remember that woman are very different to men. Remember that apps work differently for them. Most men are just happy to get a couple of likes, we can navigate through our likes a lot easier. Now woman get constant likes and attention. They basically max out their likes in a day or so. Their brains can’t cope with the influx of attention they get, they really can’t deal with it. Dating apps are a failed business. Cool concept that just doesn’t work. They will find anything little thing to pick that and disqualify every guy no matter what. You just can’t win. Their brains can’t cope with this amount of attention.
To be fair, I don't take anyone serious on those apps. It's just a bunch of people that fake their lifes & appearances. I have also been on dates from those apps. They are all just uploading their own imagination of their own physical appearance. That's not even that bad, but once they start talking I get very quit. I usually do that when they get annoying and talk like a MG. Another thing I've experienced is that the less attractive they are, the bigger their attitudes are. Just safe your energy.
The problem with trying to meet people in person is that you do not know anything about the person before spending time and money on them. One of the last ladies I met in a night club in NY city, was a disaster two weeks in the relationship, she started to tell me how she was planning to get back on Welfare and first she told me she had one child, after two weeks I found out she had three kids. I had to abandon that. I have given up, I only meet ladies through introductions now
That's the dumbest thing I've ever read. So because one girl lied to you, you will never try to meet another woman again, only through introductions. Just because someone else introduces you doesn't mean that the relationship will be smooth sailing. You should cut the crap and continue shooting your shot. The more experience you get you will be able to see patterns in bs women and you will be able to chose better
@@deanmartin5532 I met several women after the lady I mentioned and I almost went to the alter, but that experience I posted was just an example how iffy it is to meet ladies randomly on the street or in a night clubs
i stopped using them because regards of where i lived (relocated 3 times drastically in the US), how my personality changed or developed, etc, there was always the SAAAAAAAAAME types of people on them. it sounds very rude to say it that way, but it would be the same men/people on the same apps for months and months and months!!!! that was the sign i needed to just get off and meet ppl irl
I did cold approach’s for years. I took a year in 2015 to go out and beat approach anxiety and it worked. Honestly getting rejected in person is easier then the tinder cess pool is not. At least you can initiate in person and instantly know if it’s a go or a no.
I studied software engineering. There were 40 guys in my class, and like 5 girls only. I dated one of them, after rejecting another. I'm slightly short, and not fat, but also not in good shape. But when we were in-between classes, when having a coffee or lunch as a group, I would bring out my game. I could make people laugh, and I could also be reflective when it was time to be. I was confident, took shit from no one, and had good grades. A few months in, I had several options. _Meanwhile,_ we would go out to dance and for drinks. I never, _EVER,_ had a one-night stand. I stopped trying. I remember liking this girl who hung out around a bar we went often. I tried to talk her in, and I was rejected in quite a dry way. I sat with a friend and he told me some very wise words: "Dude, you and I are not the type of people who get one night stands." - He was right. We're both married today, with a kid each. We both had several relationships before that, with (mostly) good-looking women. It ain't that hard, but you have to work with what you have. I'd rather be a raven than a peacock, but I can never compete if I just sort of **show myself** and call it a day.
Even the less active one's only want a certain type of man. If you're a average looking man dont even bother with it. I was on several dating apps for almost a year and only got 4 likes, i just deleted them all cause I was tired of the rejection.
great video mate. You've made some excellents points. I agree with all of them. The online dating thing is a real confidence and mental health killer for the majority of blokes. As we are all aware unfortunately life is unfair. We just have to make the best of it.
You can approach women in real life. All you need is a dash of confidence. And if you have internal substanance, and stay in your league you can find a great woman. Good luck!!
Same here I started to cold approach women and for some odd reason I got lots of numbers and now I really have abundance mindset with women you are going to get rejected it’s normal because you don’t know lots of things has you start to do it often your going to eventually get used to get rejected and it’s perfectly normal for a man to go through this and get your feet in the dirt and get hat experience with them I actually enjoy cold approach women now it’s really exciting
day game is something that everyone should do at least once but to think that you're gonna crush it in rea life, especially doing cold approach... nah it's still gonna be quite hard
Dating apps was good when they were not business'. I got lots of matches on POF until 2012, now it's just a total waste of time unless you are in top 10%. You have better luck approaching in real life.
I've been on all the major dating apps for over 20 years. Zero dates. Landed one date off ig, two on Facebook and a few on Reddit. Dating apps for men are 99% useless.
Yeah dating apps do suck that is definitely true. But I will tell you it is best to put yourself in a place of the kind of women you want to meet. Bars are not that great if you're looking for one night stand go to a place where it is solid and you will find solid females to meet. You cannot be scared they're human just like you.
Interesting. Would love to hear an update! I’ve been fighting off the urge to get back on dating apps. It’s a horrendous experience and I’d rather wait for a guy to introduce himself and start a conversation with me out in real life. I think you’d do great & I hope you haven’t given up! Take care
Good video. this man almost got more comments on this video than he currently has subscribers. That shows PPL are FED UPP with the apps! And I said it on my channel 4 years ago.
@@Mindsetolympics yea it is kinda wild how much views this has got eventually I’ll move this channel more into dating eventually because that’s just what the people like but currently I’m just thinking about fitness
As a female I’ve noticed more guys approaching me in person when doing my normal daily tasks...usually at the supermarket... It catches you off guard, but it’s flattering... It’s nice that a guy has the confidence to approach too... Keep it up... However there are bad approaches and good approaches. The better ones, are just those that come up to you, compliment you, saying they would like to chat to you and whether you would like to or have time, and if not exchange numbers... Then perhaps, ask if you would like to meet up for a coffee the next day. Bad approaches are the ones where guys try too hard and overly confident as if he is talking and it’s an order that I listen to him
I dont think about doing dating apps. The world has turned towards that and i just dont care. It gave me room and space to love my own company. I can focus on my goals without distractions. When im approached i dont eagerly give out my phone number because i just want anybody. If im not interested im just not im not goin to waste anyones time. I dont use people to fill up empty space. Im already full so i smile and nicely decline; like other day when i was at the mall. Good luck and you will succeed and just be yourself 😊❤
I recently uploaded a video on my channel about this topic. I totally agree with you man the dating apps have become polluted with bad people. Also you don't know if the "girl" your talking to online is actually who they say they are.
I used all the apps years ago and did get some dates but the women were average. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates. Recently tried again this year and it's gotten so bad. Hardly get matches and they hardly say anything. If you're very good looking a guy might get something but for average guys it's dead.
I've been watching these types of videos for a month and your the one who found the key in my brain why you need to speak to women in person. "Who would a woman rather meet, a polite, gentleman, who is confident and starts a friendly conversation in person, or some random guy on a stupid dating app thing." Wow
Rejection in the states are epic, soul killing. The best option is to avoid american women altogether, only date women from overseas. Social Media has ended online dating or meeting women in person at nightclubs, why spend $300 to get rejected
I dont waste my time on dating apps anymore its a scam first soon as u start conversatining they try to make u pay to keep talking lmao nah im not that fool person to person is my thing
Men are pretty bad at dating especially online. Most guys seem to feel they’re unique and special but over three quarters of the profiles are the exact same. It’s the same with texting and first dates. I do think we should give guys more feedback if they’re willing to accept it, we’re all guilty of letting guys think it’s going well when it’s not.
I would love to do more on the first dates to stand out and be unique, unfortunately, you ladies insist on having lame coffee/drink dates in the name of "safety." Then act surprised why the date was boring and unromantic. Then I get the message there's "no spark." Can't for the life of me get a second date. Now my local matches are drying up because I've already dated everyone remotely interested in me in my area.
Hey bro it went pretty well I did to approaches at my local mall it took me about 45 mins to get one approach it because i was too scared, once I get to my goal weight of 180 I will switch to more of dating time content when I will do approaches on camera
Social interaction is a muscle, you need to exercise it. The internet in general (not just dating apps) gives us a social outlet but it ends up being a pale imitation of real life. We would all do better to put down our phones and get out there and live life!
It’s hard for guys do be on these things women are very picky on what they want I’ve had 2 dates and both don’t work out I can honestly say I’m never really on them much anymore I’ve been bored and over it slowly I’m still have it because I have faith but I rather meet people in person flaky ass women on there
I dunno, I'm afraid it's western society specifics. In Russia women are much more open-minded to any kinds of men according to my experience. And tbh on average they're more beautiful. Probably it's about better European/American genetics, because your best (from genetic perspective ) ancestors were not constantly dying in global scale wars, may be it's just about culture
Listen to me. This is the BEST time to directly talk to women when you see them out in the stores, etc. Right now, so many guys have stopped asking ladies out that the ladies are getting REALLY desperate and are now approaching men. There are multiple video's of ladies going to different venues like a hardware store just to find a man to talk to. So this is the BEST time to approach the ladies. Even a man thats nervous in speaking to a woman will come up now just by saying "hello" and telling her she "very beautiful" and can he take her out sometime. The best way I can visually describe what I'm saying to you is back in 2020 once covid hit NO one was flying. BUT it was the best time to fly. I was flying coast to coast in the U.S. for $120 round trip each ticket for months with my own full row to myself and the plane being EXTRA clean cus everyone was scared to catch a flight. So do NOT be scared. Just start swinging and approach any fine female you come across, ask for their number, and watch the magic happen. Peace
I can't say what is going on in the US, but here in Brazil guys have stopped asking out because women are so influenced by feminist ideology that they will call the police and expose you on social media for approaching them on the street. Ask them for their number? Not happening here, good to know this still works in the US though.
er... you do realize there is a middle ground. You don't have to rush up to strange girls and ask for their number. That's kind of creepy for most women. You can also sign up for various social groups. Groups that meet for dinner, plays, movies, archery, or what ever interest you have. And in those groups just talk to women and men alike and have fun without the intention of getting a date. Then, if you meet a girl you like, then you can contact them afterward and simply say "hey, I really enjoyed talking to you at the function, how about we catch up for coffee". By that stage you're not the creepy guy that ran up to them in public, you're the normal guy that they've already met, and probably like already.
yea of course that would be the most ideal way to do it, go about your normal day and allow it to happen organically. Going out in general is something I need to work on but I say it isn't creepy at all to speak to a random women as long as your polite about it the worse she can say is no
@@CavionWilliams1 There's a big difference between casually chatting with someone, and chatting them up. I've seen players run across a mall to try to seduce some pretty young thing they saw walking by. Its creepy because you know that guy is trying it on with every girl he meets. That's how players are born. After their first success they just can't stop themselves from doing it over and over again. Some women have taken to screaming at guys who approach them in this way. Over reacting, sure, but imagine if every guy started interrupting girls in their daily duties and asked for their number. Sure, they can say no, but it s pretty rough on them having to say NO to every horny young guy looking to score. I imagine some of them would be fearful of a negative reaction. Its not a decent way to get to know people. Go to social functions and meet them that way.
I wonder what this "not going anywhere" means. Is it like almost 0 interest? Or you get enough but none of them interest you? Or you get some like one match per month? I am in the last category and that's only because I try dating out of my own ethnic group, which is typically more difficult IMO. Also I am one of those 98% guys that are afraid to approach, but not at all because of the rejection fear but because I just don't do anything much for fun TBH. I think women do a lot of socializing - camping, hiking, going to concerts, local fairs, blah blah and it just seems like we would have issues right there already so.
I think most of them have been hiking once and post a photo like it's a regular hobby, been rafting once and post a photo and they do that with everything. Most evenings probably Netflix.
Move overseas bro, or at least find your partner there and move home. I recommend cebu, pattaya, nairobi. Anywhere where gdp per capita is low. The lower the better for dating. I met a 18 year old 10 in cebu, 10 bro, who earned $1 per hour and worked 12 hours per day. So your $200 per day is equivalent of being a millionaire in the west.
As a guy, learning how to accept rejection and having an abundance mindset is so powerful. Once you get over that hoop of caring about being rejected, you'll eventually find someone who f***s with you. Also, the greatest lesson i ever learned is you should never need to do too much to get a woman who is truly interested in you to like you. Being yourself, and being a decent person should be enough to actually spark something with some women. If you find yourself doing too much or trying to "win" her over, it'll never work.
I agree, I've definitely learned recently about my over pursuing and doing too much. It was hard, but at least I am out of that mindset currently.
I'm done with American women and black women period just thru been through some shit it's time pick up the big stick and keep moving it's best to bite the bullet of acceptance than to be delusional in the land of make believe
with women less is more
@@dominus360 Like, when you talk, show interest, ask questions, express yourself... don't do too much but whatever you do, make it quality and interesting and make sure it shows what you want from her.. did I get it right?
@@zuhairreza Yeah but it's more deeper than that.
The fundamental concept of love is not based on 2 people loving each other like most people think.
But it's more a case of one person loving and the other allowing him or herself to be loved.
-- FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO BE THE ONE ALLOWING A WOMAN TO LOVE YOU --
If you want your relationship (long term / short term) be pleasant, you have to be in passive state 70% of the time. Means she act, you respond.
When a woman loves you, she initiates almost everything, conversations, s3x, jokes, phone calls etc.. EVERYTHING is easy
She even invest money in you, buying you some random cheap gifts "babe, I saw that mug in a shop, I thought it would please you... 🥰"
She will naturely worry if you have eat something, means she will cook for you without you having to ask for it.
Men who never experience real love from a woman think they have to prove themselves, jumping through hoops to please her,
going on dates, buying her gifts, investing money and stuff... But it's not how you get a woman to appreciate or love you.
Woman just love who they want, and you can do nothing about that.
It's just, either she chooses you or she doesn't.
( BONUS : Women knows within the first 3 min from your 1st meeting, if you're that guy or not )
In short, if a woman really loves you. All you have to do is respond to her gestures of love.
And that boils down to 3 things that are common to every woman in every country in the world:
- Her financial investment in you
- She initiates s3x at least 30% of the time
- She cares if you've eaten
If you don't have these three things in a woman, I'm sorry but she's just playing you.
I'm 60 and met my wife of 33 years now in person at a nightclub on the last dance of the night. I have learned over the years that women by nature are passive towards men. If I had not made the move on my wife in that club, who knows what would have happened.
Social media, dating apps, and cell phones are the worst things to happen to relationships between man and woman.
Yes, the internet ruins dating so much. I'm 26
If you try today you might get arrested!
@@gregorylatta8159you’re lying to yourself. It’s okay to say I’m scared to approach random women.
100%. Most straight women are more passive!!
Dating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
1) Please don’t just approach a woman and ask for her number right away. Have an opener and then try to get her to talk for 5-10 minutes.
2) Instead of commenting on her beauty, say something specific and relevant, like you like her style, or noticed the book she’s carrying, something she’s reaching for at the store, or a pin on her bag. Open with something that shows you have interest in her as a person. Get her talking about that.
3) NON-VERBAL CUES. Go between leaning in and leaning back. Don’t back her into a corner. When you lean in, pay attention to her body. Does she lean or turn away? If you say something flirtatious, does she match energy, or nervously giggle? When you pause, does she look around, does she start saying she has to go, or does she linger? The more cues she gives that she’s open to advancement, the more you can close the gap. Back to 1, don’t just ask for her number and walk away. Try to get her to have a mini date with you right then. If you’re at a coffee shop, offer her a coffee, ask her to join you at the seats. Keep it going.
Yes, this is true. There is nothing wrong with dating apps if you don't take them too seriously. I'm not the best looking and am a bit overweight, I still did well. I suspect most guys don't know how to conversate.
Cold approach is a low probability numbers game for all guys that aren't Chris Evans.
Therefore the opener has to be simple - not finely crafted and unique to the situation as studied for hours.
If you are not somewhat direct, you will waste far too much time with empty "chit-chat" as a guy.
Oh numbers on their own are pointless! So many of them will flake!
Say you are doing a specific event or meeting with friends & ask the woman to come along. If she declines, then there is absolutely NO POINT getting her number! The only purpose of a number is to arrange a later meeting - nothing else. So make sure she is up for meeting BEFORE asking for a number.
Body language can be important, but only matters if you get enough time during the interaction. It wont help change an initial rejection into a maybe.
Cold approach is difficult & time consuming; its not the simople shortcut some people seem to think it is.
How i wish all men on dating apps get to read this great piece od advice
I personaly i have ever tried two dating apps but those guys have fake approches mmmnn
Now i gave up on them an just learning to enjoy single life
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Forget dating apps. I see a women I like and I go over and chat to her then ask her out! What's the problem? Yes, you'll get rejections however some women will say yes!!
That’s the spirit 👏👏
😂the smoke alarm ofcorse
Looking for this comment 😂
Checked comments the second I heard it.
lol
They really don't hear it, do they?
Every single time😂
I hate this world
😆 why do I care about this subject at 58 years old 😆
I hate this world 10x
Don't hate the world. I realize that on these dating apps, the women I KNOW who passed me up for perhaps a better tailored B.S. profile of Mr. Adventure and Rico Fricken Suave, will end up lonely the same as I am feeling now. Reading these comments, yeah, in person attempts to meet women these days could get a grocery store security officer called on you for harassment and stalking. I don't give up hope and perhaps I will meet her, and the right one worthy of my damn time and not the other way around. I work out, I am not bad looking, yet you won't find me hosting a television show nor acting in a blockbuster movie. Women have their delusions of "Mr. Perfect" when really it is nothing more than Rico Greaseball and that guy is a twig by my comparison and lol! Don't let a woman or lack of a woman in your life defeat the man that you are. I believe it is a divine thing and I gotta wait and work out more. At least I have my life in order being single and it only takes one bad woman to ruin it and take it away from you. Remember that guys!
I just approached an chick yesterday she was in her 50's I tried to get her number and I was rejected. The biggiest fear for me was doing the actual approaching. I've gotten over my fear of rejection years ago It was alwayss making the first move and saying the words out of my hard the hardest part for me. Dating apps made people cowardly, male or female.
Yea I think that is most guys I know it is for me, the rejection is never scary you’ll never see them again it’s just getting the words out, I’ve noticed that if I make my feet move then I will do it cuz I can’t just turn around
Respect for making a move. I need the courage to do it too.
I honestly think you are on the right track in general. Especially with working out and wanting to have a social life. It is needed in the world, especially when it comes to jobs and meeting women like you stated. There are some great women left, but they are too overshadowed by the amount of goldiggers and scamming females out here leading the blind like sheep.
Yea you’re right bro especially with social media you’ll never see the good ones approaching is the only way gonna do my first cold approach in months today
Agreed. In person is best for sure.
Quit dating apps in 2015. Haven't missed it even a little bit.
Love your honesty and realness man. But I hate to tell you, approaching in real life can go just as badly, if not worse than using dating apps. On apps, the worst that can happen is she doesn't reply. But IRL, there are MANY potential consequences to approaching a girl other than her not being interested.
You can have memberships terminated, be ostracized, get a reputation as "that guy" and more. Not to mention the toll it takes on you when you put in the work to get into shape, build your confidence and charisma, only to still get constant disinterest and rejection from women.
Unless there is one key reason you are always getting rejected (too fat but otherwise hot etc) then working on yourself really isn’t going to suddenly make you successful with the opposite sex. It will increase your chance of making something work with someone, and one is all you need. But the main reason to work on yourself really needs to be for you. In a weird way it has the opposite effect when it’s seen that you only make effort for her, you need to actually be into bettering yourself for you for it to show as a positive to others.
@@jaybee4288BULLSH-T.💯
BS don't believe this chic ignore tf out of them and eventually one will choose you, trust me bro it ain't you, from the way you described it just act as if they don't exist bro trust me on this!
@@nofilter451 Sadly, I've done that many times with girls who gave me the cold shoulder, and not once has ignoring them made them suddenly become interested in me. Not once. I've also tried ignoring girls that I hadn't approached, and nothing ever happens, they don't even know I exist.
how about socialize with women where you see no outcome of getting her number or anything from her just to practice/say hi/be neighborly? but important: *read the situation/the room *
We all need to go back to daying the old fashioned way
You dont chase women-you attract them
I have gotten way better looking women in person imo
Same here, dating apps have way too many filters and women that aren't that attractive.
@@CB12345 man i always get unattractive matches bro. It be women i will never look twice at or even notice in person. I rather be single than settle for what I don’t want
Precisely. The harsh truth is man, that It will be hard to find someone that can follow your lead and fit what you are looking for. I'm currently still having that problem, but the older I get and take it slow I will get better. Unfortunately it is way too much trash out here and or lazy women, but we'll figure it out somehow. @@Imfocused1
As an older woman I can confirm that a man that approach a woman in person nicely and with manners is a winner. The older you get the more looks are not very important
Because money is the emphasis 😆
@gregorylatta8159 Sure, doesn’t that make sense though? You have to remember you are the first generation of men that rely on women to pay bills. Generally speaking it was always a man’s job to provide a life for his wife and family. This idea that a man can be bad looking and not provide for a woman but still expect an attractive desirable girlfriend to choose him just seems really bizarre to me, you have to bring something.
@@jaybee4288Not at all. Read Proverbs 31.
@@gregorylatta8159 I’ll choose the bear
@@jaybee4288 If you rely on another person to sustain your lifestyle you have an issue man/woman. The truth is many younger women of family starting age want it all and are much pickier than prior generations. Many men would be fine making 50k on their own but that isn't enough for the lavish desires of many young women. The ease in which a man can be deemed unattractive physically is very easy since the goal posts are much higher compared to men's looks expectations in women. Thats why the response more men are choosing is to not bother trying; after all there are many modern/future amenities to make up for lack of relationship prospects.
I have a couple thoughts on the things you said.
1. For me, and I believe a lot of white collar professionals, working from home/remote has become a significant barrier to meeting people in public. I'm home all the time. My software job is at home. And I do music, also from home. When I do go out, I don't encounter the type of woman I want to date. I typically hang out in the local music scene, which, has plenty of hot girls I am physically attracted to, but rarely do I meet someone that has a stable career and stable life like I do. It's a lifestyle mismatch.
2. The dating apps, just like what you said. I have no problem getting dates on them. I may not be the "hottest" guy, but I am the hottest, most together, guy that the girls I date can get. If they are hot, it's been a situation where their life is a mess.
3. At this point, I'm so busy and tired, even if I do meet a nice girl in public, I don't feel motivated to put effort in to finding out more about them, or meeting them another time. I typically convince myself it's not worth my time. I get hit on plenty out in public, and I just let it slide right by. I like my peace.
Anyway, good luck out there.
I do well with talking with Women in Public. Dating apps are useless because they don't reflect the real person.
The larger percentage of profiles on the dating apps are scammers with fake profiles. Their the ones ruining the experience tbh.
I ran across your video and it has to be the most honestly sincere from the heart vlog I have seen in awhile. First kudo's for that. I also think for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. The women going after the top guys are probably getting the most sleeziest non datable guys who have tens of woman throwing themselves at them.
Approach anxiety is really fear of rejection which ties into childhood trauma of not having your needs met by parent/s.
Nah don't blame your parents. Fear of rejection is healthy and normal
@@ctb1977 thats ur defense mechanism talking, preventing you from facing your own traumas. Blaming parents or seeing true causes arent the same thing, dont be scared to admit parents make mistakes that have consequences.
Fear of social rejection is ingrained deeply into our DNA, it's like fear of snakes, it's very rational to fear these things because real risk is attached to them.
@@ctb1977 if its ingrained in dna, why a little child is fearless and needs to be taught by the parents?
@theonlyexpert Children aren't fearless, they can be shy. But yes being very socially anxious and a loner probably is learned behaviour.
Would you say most your social skills come from parents or peers? The traumas probably come from being bullied or rejected by other kids.
Social skills with friends of the same age can't be taught by parents, it has to be learned from experience. The role of the parent is to teach the kid bravery, how to overcome the fear of rejection.
Of course if the parents are very bad the trauma may come from the parents side. But I'm saying in many cases the trauma isn't from the parents, it's from peers
As a man, I agree with this. Once I stopped using dating apps my life not only became more peaceful but I got more luck when it came to women
Here I have are a few thoughts. Firstly, dating apps create the illusion that we all have a seemingly endless supply of potential mates. We don't because there are always limits. Secondly, any individual man or woman is only compatible with a handful of people out there in the available pool regardless of how attractive they appear. Most of the dates you go on won't lead to a meaningful relationship for a variety of different reasons. Thirdly, men have the challenge of getting and keeping a woman's attention, while women have the challenge of sorting through numerous men who express their interest. Neither has an easy task.
Spot on video, Thank you for this sir. It’s really hard to talk with women for many of us.
Trust me bro been there
My thoughts:
a) quite frankly, dating apps are for people who are really not serious about meeting someone and just use them as a crutch to kill time. If you are serious and solely rely on dating apps, you could be closing in on retirement age and *still* on them;
b) if you are serious about meeting someone, be willing, able and *prepared* to invest the time, money and energy into developing *and* sustaining a relationship. In other words, do the work. Otherwise, don't waste your and someone else's time.
On a personal note, I am 52, never married, single and happy! Remember, happiness begins and ends with you!
I live in Europe where it’s weird to approach a woman in public 🤷🏾♂️
Good luck young man. I have sons around your age with the same issue. Would love to see an update. Dating apps ain't it.
All young man are screw got no chance it’s over for western
Never used dating apps, but I think it's what the majority of young people use these days. My female friends go on 3-4 dates a week with guys from Tinder, and they get laid frequently through these apps. As a guy who will only approach women in real life, if I meet them through friends or at a bar, which is not often, I have a lot less experience. But that's just how it is for us guys. Women have it easy in dating.
Yes def for women yes but as a guy it’s pointless unless you are super attractive I think if I ever were to do it again I would get professional photos taken and i think I’d have more success but I still wouldn’t rely on just the app
@@CavionWilliams1guys def need professional photos to have success on the apps.. I went from 0 to 180 matches with pro photos from using regular phone pics. I have a new photoshoot tomorrow for updated pics
@@oscarperez5539Apps are really just about looks and who has the best photos. It is competing to see who is the most shallow if we are being honest about it.
@@oscarperez5539 you are right I also do professional photoshoots at least once a year
@@oscarperez5539do you also pay for the apps as well?
I'll give you a tactic i used one time in my 20's. Feel free to steal it. When I went out with my boys, I would bring a pineapple and set it on the table or bar where I was seated. Women would come up and ask what's up with the pineapple. I had dozens of lines, but most of the time quickly transitioned to something interesting about them, or a really funny random question.
"Oh, this pineapple? I brought it because i heard you wanted a Pina Colada."
"I lost a bet with the boys."
It doesn't really matter what you say. Get comfortable being funny, goofy, interesting, and charasmatic.
ayyee haha i like that was cool i’ll for sure use that, me and my friends will actually being going to the mall tmrw where we can do some approaches which i’m pretty excited for
@@CavionWilliams1 it beats sending 100's of pointless messages on a dating app, lowering yourself by chasing them with all of the Chad's in their inbox. Best of luck man. 👍
Become the man that women want to date. I felt so pathetic and sad on dating apps. Fully focusing on myself and my career.
Did that for 7 years. I’ve been making good money for 3 of those years. I still have no beaches. Now I’m just older and my options are slimmer than when I was young. Don’t wait too long
How old are you @ragequitter
just wake up & be chad bro lol smh
That'll require surgery and probably some steroids. Realistically.
@ragequitter That’s interesting, since I’m always hear g from men that women are the ones with an expiration date at 27 (sometimes as low as 23), and men just become MORE valuable as they get older.
You have to remember that woman are very different to men.
Remember that apps work differently for them. Most men are just happy to get a couple of likes, we can navigate through our likes a lot easier. Now woman get constant likes and attention. They basically max out their likes in a day or so. Their brains can’t cope with the influx of attention they get, they really can’t deal with it.
Dating apps are a failed business. Cool concept that just doesn’t work.
They will find anything little thing to pick that and disqualify every guy no matter what. You just can’t win. Their brains can’t cope with this amount of attention.
To be fair, I don't take anyone serious on those apps.
It's just a bunch of people that fake their lifes & appearances.
I have also been on dates from those apps. They are all just uploading their own imagination of their own physical appearance.
That's not even that bad, but once they start talking I get very quit. I usually do that when they get annoying and talk like a MG.
Another thing I've experienced is that the less attractive they are, the bigger their attitudes are.
Just safe your energy.
The problem with trying to meet people in person is that you do not know anything about the person before spending time and money on them. One of the last ladies I met in a night club in NY city, was a disaster two weeks in the relationship, she started to tell me how she was planning to get back on Welfare and first she told me she had one child, after two weeks I found out she had three kids. I had to abandon that. I have given up, I only meet ladies through introductions now
That's the dumbest thing I've ever read. So because one girl lied to you, you will never try to meet another woman again, only through introductions. Just because someone else introduces you doesn't mean that the relationship will be smooth sailing. You should cut the crap and continue shooting your shot. The more experience you get you will be able to see patterns in bs women and you will be able to chose better
@@deanmartin5532 I met several women after the lady I mentioned and I almost went to the alter, but that experience I posted was just an example how iffy it is to meet ladies randomly on the street or in a night clubs
Dude that's why it's called dating because u tryna find the person who fits your lifestyle 😅😅😅😅😅
Asap Ferg was on Tinder?
The smoke alarm bruh 😂
This is encouraging because you're a good looking dude
i stopped using them because regards of where i lived (relocated 3 times drastically in the US), how my personality changed or developed, etc, there was always the SAAAAAAAAAME types of people on them. it sounds very rude to say it that way, but it would be the same men/people on the same apps for months and months and months!!!! that was the sign i needed to just get off and meet ppl irl
I did cold approach’s for years. I took a year in 2015 to go out and beat approach anxiety and it worked. Honestly getting rejected in person is easier then the tinder cess pool is not. At least you can initiate in person and instantly know if it’s a go or a no.
This is what will work best. Approach girls you like in real life.
I studied software engineering. There were 40 guys in my class, and like 5 girls only. I dated one of them, after rejecting another.
I'm slightly short, and not fat, but also not in good shape. But when we were in-between classes, when having a coffee or lunch as a group, I would bring out my game. I could make people laugh, and I could also be reflective when it was time to be. I was confident, took shit from no one, and had good grades. A few months in, I had several options.
_Meanwhile,_ we would go out to dance and for drinks. I never, _EVER,_ had a one-night stand. I stopped trying. I remember liking this girl who hung out around a bar we went often. I tried to talk her in, and I was rejected in quite a dry way. I sat with a friend and he told me some very wise words: "Dude, you and I are not the type of people who get one night stands." - He was right.
We're both married today, with a kid each. We both had several relationships before that, with (mostly) good-looking women. It ain't that hard, but you have to work with what you have. I'd rather be a raven than a peacock, but I can never compete if I just sort of **show myself** and call it a day.
Even the less active one's only want a certain type of man.
If you're a average looking man dont even bother with it. I was on several dating apps for almost a year and only got 4 likes, i just deleted them all cause I was tired of the rejection.
great video mate. You've made some excellents points. I agree with all of them. The online dating thing is a real confidence and mental health killer for the majority of blokes. As we are all aware unfortunately life is unfair. We just have to make the best of it.
You can approach women in real life. All you need is a dash of confidence. And if you have internal substanance, and stay in your league you can find a great woman. Good luck!!
Same here I started to cold approach women and for some odd reason I got lots of numbers and now I really have abundance mindset with women you are going to get rejected it’s normal because you don’t know lots of things has you start to do it often your going to eventually get used to get rejected and it’s perfectly normal for a man to go through this and get your feet in the dirt and get hat experience with them I actually enjoy cold approach women now it’s really exciting
Dude, change your fire alarm battery. Don’t you hear that high pitch beeping. Lol
Never used a dating app ever. Must be smarter than I look😊
day game is something that everyone should do at least once but to think that you're gonna crush it in rea life, especially doing cold approach... nah it's still gonna be quite hard
"BEEP" a hood classic.
Grab a 9v battery while you’re out
lol
Dating apps are working quite well for me. The reason why some guys don't approach is because the meetoo movement messed it up for everyone!
5:05 Fire alarm chirp. Classic.
Great bro! Best thing to do cos It'll seriously affect your emotional well being staying on there
You got this bro !!!
thanks bro coming real soon will be an approach in public
Used them too. There are, without a doubt, a JOKE. Enough said. 🕷
like the Nike slogan: Just Do It!! good luck my friend.
Wow we women are complaining that there's no good men on there 😂 meanwhile the men think the same, so why are we not meeting eachother😢
Dating apps was good when they were not business'. I got lots of matches on POF until 2012, now it's just a total waste of time unless you are in top 10%. You have better luck approaching in real life.
I've been on all the major dating apps for over 20 years. Zero dates. Landed one date off ig, two on Facebook and a few on Reddit. Dating apps for men are 99% useless.
Yeah dating apps do suck that is definitely true. But I will tell you it is best to put yourself in a place of the kind of women you want to meet. Bars are not that great if you're looking for one night stand go to a place where it is solid and you will find solid females to meet. You cannot be scared they're human just like you.
Leave all the bad on them.🤣..Keep them away from us good decent women..👌
Interesting. Would love to hear an update! I’ve been fighting off the urge to get back on dating apps. It’s a horrendous experience and I’d rather wait for a guy to introduce himself and start a conversation with me out in real life. I think you’d do great & I hope you haven’t given up! Take care
Your a decent looking guy to see you also get crushed on dating apps is pretty amazing. The world is so upside down right now
Good video. this man almost got more comments on this video than he currently has subscribers. That shows PPL are FED UPP with the apps! And I said it on my channel 4 years ago.
@@Mindsetolympics yea it is kinda wild how much views this has got eventually I’ll move this channel more into dating eventually because that’s just what the people like but currently I’m just thinking about fitness
@@CavionWilliams1 That's great keep doing your thing!!!!
As a female I’ve noticed more guys approaching me in person when doing my normal daily tasks...usually at the supermarket... It catches you off guard, but it’s flattering... It’s nice that a guy has the confidence to approach too... Keep it up...
However there are bad approaches and good approaches. The better ones, are just those that come up to you, compliment you, saying they would like to chat to you and whether you would like to or have time, and if not exchange numbers... Then perhaps, ask if you would like to meet up for a coffee the next day.
Bad approaches are the ones where guys try too hard and overly confident as if he is talking and it’s an order that I listen to him
I dont think about doing dating apps. The world has turned towards that and i just dont care. It gave me room and space to love my own company. I can focus on my goals without distractions. When im approached i dont eagerly give out my phone number because i just want anybody. If im not interested im just not im not goin to waste anyones time. I dont use people to fill up empty space. Im already full so i smile and nicely decline; like other day when i was at the mall.
Good luck and you will succeed and just be yourself 😊❤
I recently uploaded a video on my channel about this topic. I totally agree with you man the dating apps have become polluted with bad people. Also you don't know if the "girl" your talking to online is actually who they say they are.
Thanks for this. I needed to hear this. I feel like so many of us are in the same boat and need to support each other.
I used all the apps years ago and did get some dates but the women were average. Nothing lasted more than 2 dates.
Recently tried again this year and it's gotten so bad. Hardly get matches and they hardly say anything.
If you're very good looking a guy might get something but for average guys it's dead.
I've been watching these types of videos for a month and your the one who found the key in my brain why you need to speak to women in person.
"Who would a woman rather meet, a polite, gentleman, who is confident and starts a friendly conversation in person, or some random guy on a stupid dating app thing." Wow
Hey man thanks I happy you found some value in the video! Get out there and start approaching
Rejection in the states are epic, soul killing. The best option is to avoid american women altogether, only date women from overseas. Social Media has ended online dating or meeting women in person at nightclubs, why spend $300 to get rejected
I dont waste my time on dating apps anymore its a scam first soon as u start conversatining they try to make u pay to keep talking lmao nah im not that fool person to person is my thing
Replace your smoke detector battery if you want a girl
Men are pretty bad at dating especially online. Most guys seem to feel they’re unique and special but over three quarters of the profiles are the exact same. It’s the same with texting and first dates. I do think we should give guys more feedback if they’re willing to accept it, we’re all guilty of letting guys think it’s going well when it’s not.
I would love to do more on the first dates to stand out and be unique, unfortunately, you ladies insist on having lame coffee/drink dates in the name of "safety." Then act surprised why the date was boring and unromantic. Then I get the message there's "no spark." Can't for the life of me get a second date. Now my local matches are drying up because I've already dated everyone remotely interested in me in my area.
hey bro.. how did it go? i got that approach anxiety as well
Hey bro it went pretty well I did to approaches at my local mall it took me about 45 mins to get one approach it because i was too scared, once I get to my goal weight of 180 I will switch to more of dating time content when I will do approaches on camera
@@CavionWilliams1 Nice to hear that man. Thanks for the reply
Social media is real life. In real life isn’t different from online. Women are on their phones 24/7
My experience with dating apps was bad top so i just deleted them
Well done for practicing that!
i agree with all of this but don't women today think its creepy to be approached in person ...
Yes, they do . And chances are they will call the police and expose you on social media
Directed are better things in life to pursue. The modern woman is too entitled and deluded. Never get married. ✊
I think you got the right idea!
Social interaction is a muscle, you need to exercise it. The internet in general (not just dating apps) gives us a social outlet but it ends up being a pale imitation of real life. We would all do better to put down our phones and get out there and live life!
100% agree with you bro
Thanks for video, I'll take ur advice
Odd guys find really good women that can maybe stay with real long term or get married. Deff the odd
wish you good luck man and wish me good luck as well!
It’s hard for guys do be on these things women are very picky on what they want I’ve had 2 dates and both don’t work out I can honestly say I’m never really on them much anymore I’ve been bored and over it slowly I’m still have it because I have faith but I rather meet people in person flaky ass women on there
I dunno, I'm afraid it's western society specifics. In Russia women are much more open-minded to any kinds of men according to my experience. And tbh on average they're more beautiful. Probably it's about better European/American genetics, because your best (from genetic perspective ) ancestors were not constantly dying in global scale wars, may be it's just about culture
Listen to me. This is the BEST time to directly talk to women when you see them out in the stores, etc. Right now, so many guys have stopped asking ladies out that the ladies are getting REALLY desperate and are now approaching men. There are multiple video's of ladies going to different venues like a hardware store just to find a man to talk to. So this is the BEST time to approach the ladies. Even a man thats nervous in speaking to a woman will come up now just by saying "hello" and telling her she "very beautiful" and can he take her out sometime.
The best way I can visually describe what I'm saying to you is back in 2020 once covid hit NO one was flying. BUT it was the best time to fly. I was flying coast to coast in the U.S. for $120 round trip each ticket for months with my own full row to myself and the plane being EXTRA clean cus everyone was scared to catch a flight. So do NOT be scared. Just start swinging and approach any fine female you come across, ask for their number, and watch the magic happen. Peace
I can't say what is going on in the US, but here in Brazil guys have stopped asking out because women are so influenced by feminist ideology that they will call the police and expose you on social media for approaching them on the street. Ask them for their number? Not happening here, good to know this still works in the US though.
Everthing bro said is true... except for pineapple pizza ever being the best option that shi aint possible homie.
He killed himself shortly after filming this video
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Thank you for this.
er... you do realize there is a middle ground. You don't have to rush up to strange girls and ask for their number. That's kind of creepy for most women. You can also sign up for various social groups. Groups that meet for dinner, plays, movies, archery, or what ever interest you have. And in those groups just talk to women and men alike and have fun without the intention of getting a date. Then, if you meet a girl you like, then you can contact them afterward and simply say "hey, I really enjoyed talking to you at the function, how about we catch up for coffee". By that stage you're not the creepy guy that ran up to them in public, you're the normal guy that they've already met, and probably like already.
yea of course that would be the most ideal way to do it, go about your normal day and allow it to happen organically. Going out in general is something I need to work on but I say it isn't creepy at all to speak to a random women as long as your polite about it the worse she can say is no
@@CavionWilliams1 There's a big difference between casually chatting with someone, and chatting them up. I've seen players run across a mall to try to seduce some pretty young thing they saw walking by. Its creepy because you know that guy is trying it on with every girl he meets. That's how players are born. After their first success they just can't stop themselves from doing it over and over again. Some women have taken to screaming at guys who approach them in this way. Over reacting, sure, but imagine if every guy started interrupting girls in their daily duties and asked for their number. Sure, they can say no, but it s pretty rough on them having to say NO to every horny young guy looking to score. I imagine some of them would be fearful of a negative reaction. Its not a decent way to get to know people. Go to social functions and meet them that way.
How many matches would you get a week? Did you get any hookups
I wonder what this "not going anywhere" means. Is it like almost 0 interest? Or you get enough but none of them interest you? Or you get some like one match per month? I am in the last category and that's only because I try dating out of my own ethnic group, which is typically more difficult IMO.
Also I am one of those 98% guys that are afraid to approach, but not at all because of the rejection fear but because I just don't do anything much for fun TBH. I think women do a lot of socializing - camping, hiking, going to concerts, local fairs, blah blah and it just seems like we would have issues right there already so.
I think most of them have been hiking once and post a photo like it's a regular hobby, been rafting once and post a photo and they do that with everything. Most evenings probably Netflix.
if I was you I'd tag keywords in your vidoes and get a more interesting background it will help your channel grow alot!
I slowly stopped using dating apps for good like its over , apps r overrated
Stop approaching bro you giving then a upupper head lowering your self especially when these women have nothing let them choose you
This is bad advice.
Dating apps
Crimes waiting to happen 👍
Your right
U seem like a cool ass dude
Move overseas bro, or at least find your partner there and move home. I recommend cebu, pattaya, nairobi. Anywhere where gdp per capita is low. The lower the better for dating. I met a 18 year old 10 in cebu, 10 bro, who earned $1 per hour and worked 12 hours per day. So your $200 per day is equivalent of being a millionaire in the west.