@@Jojo-mc7ku You can be both and you can be one or the other. The original commenter is just talking about how people use introverted and anti social interchangeably when they're not the same thing :)
I saw this quote that's something along the lines of, "Fools speak because they feel like they have to say something, wise people speak because they have something to say."
This video! I've grown up to feel I'm not enough. Not funny enough, not loud enough, not interesting enough. I'm tired of it because quiet people do bring value to the table
Sometimes I feel like I'm not funny enough because I don't show myself as I am to my coworkers but honestly, I'm so much fun when I'm with my family, so the thing is, it's not that I'm not funny, it's just that I don't wanna be me with the wrong people, they mostly are just not my cup of tea and I think that could be your case too, it's not you, it's the wrong people
i've found with quiet confidence comes this subtle leadership skill. once you do a certain action people will notice and follow your example. sometimes being the observer, whether that's at work or in your friend group, can help build up natural leadership qualities because you will know when to speak up, when to advocate for others, and have a firm grasp on how others communicate and in turn that helps you communicate better with that individual.
I still have trouble with the “act like you’re correct” because even though I know something I say is right, I still add “I think” at the end. I honestly hate that I do this, but ig I’m just scared to be seen like an arrogant person. I’m an indecisive person and have low self confidence, so I tend to act submissive to the other person I’m talking too. This was a bad choice to do because when I do better than a coworker, they become competitive and try to bring me down. Watching this video made me realized that I’m not forced to talk to my coworkers when work is slow.
I personally like to use the phrase "I believe" rather than "I think", just a small change that makes me feel a lot more confident while still basically saying the same thing
this video resonated with me so much omg every single point ESPECIALLY THE ENCYCLOPEDIA i will literally be scared to say anything if i’m not confident in being 10000% correct also i have a deeper monotone voice sometimes and i’m scared if i don’t sound bubbly and high pitched that people are gonna think i’m uninterested or being mean 😭😭
I love this ❤ I have the feeling that a lot of people think that you can only be confidence when you're extreme loud, extravert and talkative, but I think most confident people are in fact more on the quite side because they know that they are worthy and don't feel the need to impress anyone. Confidence is a feeling of accepting yourself just the way you are
I just started uni in a very differrent part of the country from my family. I dont have any family members here, just some friends of my parents. I've been pressured by my family to make friends, and I'm really trying to. When actually, I'm really comfortable with myself. But because of their pressure, I have been trying really hard. I've been watching videos of how to socialize, how to make convorsations, and pretty much every social skill video. I've been hard on myself because I cant keep a conversation with people, because I feel that I'm not interesting. But this video made me realize that I could just be myself again, my quiet self with imperfections that needs improvement. Thank you very much for making this video, it helped me through this difficult time🥰
I relate so much to your quirk about throwing things away. I'm always on a quest to chuck things out of my room even though it's almost empty, and I've done a declutterung on my clothes like 10 times there's literally no more thigs that i can throw away😂😂
Thank you for this video and also as an introvert myself i feel like it’s not so hard for us to be confident when we are with the right people but than when we are around people we don’t know it’s like we shut down because we don’t know what to say or we feel that we won’t fit it. And sometimes we don’t and it’s okay to remove yourself from the situation or the group. But when I was in middle school I was antisocial and shy but then when I was around my friends I would be talkative so I think the older I got the more introverted I became and the less talkative I became as well. And by the way I love your accent 💕
exactly!! we become so animated and bubbly around the right people, and then the opposite around other people. imo all that matters is you keep those people close, bc it doesn't matter what acquaintances or strangers think, only what you think and the ppl close to you! 💕
This is random but a great synchronicity happened. You mentioned that the background changed because you moved in back to your mom’s place after finishing uni, and I’m literally finishing uni and moving back to my parents’ house in a few days
Christina, love your thinking! ❤️ Hope your medical job treats you well. By the way, throwing things away or wearing the same clothes are signs of your practically, which is very useful. Decluttering is an extremely important thing nowadays. If you're in London, I would love to have a chat over a cup of tea. All the best with your life journey 🙏
ive been reflecting on it lately but watching this video definitely brought to the forefront of my mind just how truly scared i am when it comes to social interactions and relationships. i honestly think im the type where when i feel very confident im more on the loud side so i dont thknk quiet confidence is exactly something i strive for but i appreciate this video to look into the mindset of a person who is confident.
I so get the wanting to wear the same thing every day lol but yeah, the one of throwing things away is giving major sk vibes 😭 but perhaps it's because I'm the opposite and I always save things "because it could be useful later". my own sk trait (as my friend called it) is my bed placement, in the middle of my room or right next to the stairs LMAOOO
The problem that u expound in this video resonates with me, I manifest I could be like u in university! I just graduated highschool and wish to get into medical school and be a doctor just like u, it will be a long and life-changing journey pls root for me so that the experience would be positive, life changing, and does not go south....❤
a good example of this is mimi vs. Samatha on love island, mimi has a lot of the quite confidence and sam is a bit louder and extroverted but not necessarily as confident.
I struggle a lot with being myself around people, just because I feel like there is this unspoken standard that they have of what a person should be like. It's almost as if I subconsciously attached myself to their identity and like I'm trying to keep up with those standards and with their changes and it's so exhausting. When I am around these people, I feel stressed out, in all honesty, and when I am away from them, I feel lost. It's this constant switch between being stressed and feeling lost. It's overwhelming and I definitely need to work harder to find myself again.
Hey I really liked this video. I know I learned a lot of confidence and how to build it up. Ideally I would like to implement all of these different exercises to better improve my confidence; but the one I want to focus on the most is just saying no.
great content, watching your videos makes me more aware and less emotional about the phase I'm going through and motivates me to continue!! I only ask that the next videos have subtitles, as English is not my native language and sometimes the lines are too fast, I still love your videos!!
13:55 I'm having an identity crisis because in 1 year (I hope) I'll graduate, and I feel so lost with the idea of not studying anymore, but I'm also starting to see all the things I can do besides studying
I totally get the "uniform" you wear every day ... even if everything around you changes, your clothing stays the same, so your reflection grounds you. Hope that makes sense 😅 Wearing he same thing every day doesn't necessarily make you autistic, tbh
literally was taking notes from that video, thanks so much for the advice. little question here: any tips on being respected by everyone? can i just delulu into it, and go in conversations with the mindset of ''i'm already respected''? xoxo
omg i'm literally planning a video on this. it's gonna be called something like 'don't aim to be liked, aim to be respected' or something like that. i've come to realise people respect you A LOT when you care more about approving of yourself vs seeking approval. but i'll elaborate more in the video. but yeah, like you said, defo walk in the room, confident af, you approve of yourself, you don't need anyone to validate you, win or lose, you always have your own back, you don't need anyone's validation 🙌
you give me so much hope, you can’t imagine… it’s like i’m listening to a future, wiser version of myself. I’m in med school right now, and throughout first three years of it all my personality was literally studying. Only recently I discovered that i also have other things i like to do 😆 Great video, as per usual 🩷
aw girl 🥹 you've got this !! med school has that affect on a lot of us 🥲 it's a slow process to unlearn but you can absoluelty thrive in your exams and irl too!
I thought your "throwing away things" quirk was funny but why do you do that do you think? 🤔 I understand the clothes thing I identify with that it makes sense. Great video as always, glad you started a RUclips channel.. valuable content 💪🏆🫡
This is what an introvert actually is not the antisocial people in today’s time have deemed it to be 🤝 great video
FACTS
It can be both
@@raider394 my point is you can be both.
@@Jojo-mc7ku You can be both and you can be one or the other. The original commenter is just talking about how people use introverted and anti social interchangeably when they're not the same thing :)
@@emeeeeyy alright got it. My bad I guess I was being defensive
I saw this quote that's something along the lines of, "Fools speak because they feel like they have to say something, wise people speak because they have something to say."
This video! I've grown up to feel I'm not enough. Not funny enough, not loud enough, not interesting enough. I'm tired of it because quiet people do bring value to the table
literally me, it's exhuasting
i personally love quiet ppl. used to dislike them but thats only cus i hated my iwn quietness. now i love them the mostttt.
Yes they bring the greatest value that everyone.
Sometimes I feel like I'm not funny enough because I don't show myself as I am to my coworkers but honestly, I'm so much fun when I'm with my family, so the thing is, it's not that I'm not funny, it's just that I don't wanna be me with the wrong people, they mostly are just not my cup of tea and I think that could be your case too, it's not you, it's the wrong people
i've found with quiet confidence comes this subtle leadership skill. once you do a certain action people will notice and follow your example. sometimes being the observer, whether that's at work or in your friend group, can help build up natural leadership qualities because you will know when to speak up, when to advocate for others, and have a firm grasp on how others communicate and in turn that helps you communicate better with that individual.
I love throwing stuff away too, I feel much cleaner when my room is like empty, someone gets me😭😍❤
me too right now i am cleaning and throwing stuffs 😭
@@AmiMistry me three haha :D
Hate to be seen and love to be known is a beautiful way to say that. Double tap.
I still have trouble with the “act like you’re correct” because even though I know something I say is right, I still add “I think” at the end. I honestly hate that I do this, but ig I’m just scared to be seen like an arrogant person.
I’m an indecisive person and have low self confidence, so I tend to act submissive to the other person I’m talking too. This was a bad choice to do because when I do better than a coworker, they become competitive and try to bring me down.
Watching this video made me realized that I’m not forced to talk to my coworkers when work is slow.
yeeeess me too
I personally like to use the phrase "I believe" rather than "I think", just a small change that makes me feel a lot more confident while still basically saying the same thing
this video resonated with me so much omg every single point ESPECIALLY THE ENCYCLOPEDIA i will literally be scared to say anything if i’m not confident in being 10000% correct
also i have a deeper monotone voice sometimes and i’m scared if i don’t sound bubbly and high pitched that people are gonna think i’m uninterested or being mean 😭😭
omg same and heavy on the second paragraph !! i feel you
Deep voice makes someone be respected. I would prefer to have deep voice
literally found ur channel 5mins ago and I FEEL SO SEEEENNNN w this vid 😭 omg
when my channel finds the right ppl >>>
I have one friend like this her aura is go beyond.
I love this ❤ I have the feeling that a lot of people think that you can only be confidence when you're extreme loud, extravert and talkative, but I think most confident people are in fact more on the quite side because they know that they are worthy and don't feel the need to impress anyone. Confidence is a feeling of accepting yourself just the way you are
that last line >>> 'confidence is a feeling of accepting yourself just the way you are' i couldn't agree more!
I just started uni in a very differrent part of the country from my family. I dont have any family members here, just some friends of my parents. I've been pressured by my family to make friends, and I'm really trying to. When actually, I'm really comfortable with myself. But because of their pressure, I have been trying really hard. I've been watching videos of how to socialize, how to make convorsations, and pretty much every social skill video. I've been hard on myself because I cant keep a conversation with people, because I feel that I'm not interesting. But this video made me realize that I could just be myself again, my quiet self with imperfections that needs improvement. Thank you very much for making this video, it helped me through this difficult time🥰
I relate so much to your quirk about throwing things away. I'm always on a quest to chuck things out of my room even though it's almost empty, and I've done a declutterung on my clothes like 10 times there's literally no more thigs that i can throw away😂😂
FINALLY someone who gets me 😭😭
Me too 😂🥰
HERE IN 30 SECS AND TSYMM NEEDED THIS ILYSMM
you were quicker than me lmaoo
You're just a minimalist if you like an empty space. I love having a clear out too 😊
that's the word! i just love the aesthetic
You’re growing so fast :o!! I only subbed a few weeks ago and you were around 16k and now you’re already over 25k, keep it up
ikr!! it's crazy 😭 i didn't realise this sort of stuff resonated with so many ppl
Thank you for this video and also as an introvert myself i feel like it’s not so hard for us to be confident when we are with the right people but than when we are around people we don’t know it’s like we shut down because we don’t know what to say or we feel that we won’t fit it. And sometimes we don’t and it’s okay to remove yourself from the situation or the group. But when I was in middle school I was antisocial and shy but then when I was around my friends I would be talkative so I think the older I got the more introverted I became and the less talkative I became as well. And by the way I love your accent 💕
exactly!! we become so animated and bubbly around the right people, and then the opposite around other people. imo all that matters is you keep those people close, bc it doesn't matter what acquaintances or strangers think, only what you think and the ppl close to you! 💕
@@ChristinaAaliyah thank you and so true 🥹💕
Its insane you pinpointed EVERYTHING in my life. I am in utter shock. Thank you for this video.
You're so welcome!
This is random but a great synchronicity happened. You mentioned that the background changed because you moved in back to your mom’s place after finishing uni, and I’m literally finishing uni and moving back to my parents’ house in a few days
Christina, love your thinking! ❤️ Hope your medical job treats you well. By the way, throwing things away or wearing the same clothes are signs of your practically, which is very useful. Decluttering is an extremely important thing nowadays. If you're in London, I would love to have a chat over a cup of tea. All the best with your life journey 🙏
i love your advices please don’t die
You kinda remind me of a cartoon character. Same outfit everyday, almost empty room, ridiculously pretty. You just are a cartoon character
this made me laugh idk why 🤣🤣 thank you 😭
i automatically subscribed 10 mins in, girl u just described my problem rn😭
ive been reflecting on it lately but watching this video definitely brought to the forefront of my mind just how truly scared i am when it comes to social interactions and relationships. i honestly think im the type where when i feel very confident im more on the loud side so i dont thknk quiet confidence is exactly something i strive for but i appreciate this video to look into the mindset of a person who is confident.
Oh my god, THANK YOU, I literally always think "I need to say something interesting/funny and smile"
Thank you for great advices and for your hardwork❤
I so get the wanting to wear the same thing every day lol but yeah, the one of throwing things away is giving major sk vibes 😭 but perhaps it's because I'm the opposite and I always save things "because it could be useful later". my own sk trait (as my friend called it) is my bed placement, in the middle of my room or right next to the stairs LMAOOO
thank youuu! It's so useful and cheerful. Your advices are really good and you're very beautiful💛
We need to accept others the way they are
this is literally what i've been looking for
we're made for each other
congratulations on getting your degree! So proud of you miss doctor!!! ahh that’s so big👩⚕️💚💚
thank you!! i can't believe it's all done, officially an adult now
I know right! Congratulations girl!
The fact that Christina mentioned it so casually. I mean, being a doctor is a big deal.
i needed this, i can't be social even if my life depends on it, love you queen
here for u 🦋
@@ChristinaAaliyah 🤍
The problem that u expound in this video resonates with me, I manifest I could be like u in university! I just graduated highschool and wish to get into medical school and be a doctor just like u, it will be a long and life-changing journey pls root for me so that the experience would be positive, life changing, and does not go south....❤
a good example of this is mimi vs. Samatha on love island, mimi has a lot of the quite confidence and sam is a bit louder and extroverted but not necessarily as confident.
As an autistic person I find your friends comment super funny, because I totally wear ”the same” outfits all the time, lol.
haha it's just so reassuring to know i don't have to worry about what i'm gonna wear
Thank you, I am not feeling lonely now 🎉
I love throwing stuff away and I love wearing the same things everyday 😭twinsies
Oh my goodness, I just discovered your channel and I'm in uni right now in nursing and I'm obsesseddd
what do we think of the new set up!!
strangeee but cozy❤
Without the mic it looks like I am having a conversation with my close friend / older sister and they are giving me advice lol ❤
LOLLLL having 9 of the same shirt is giving a bit of the tism ngl😭
nothing wrong with that 🙏
Thank you for this!
I struggle a lot with being myself around people, just because I feel like there is this unspoken standard that they have of what a person should be like. It's almost as if I subconsciously attached myself to their identity and like I'm trying to keep up with those standards and with their changes and it's so exhausting. When I am around these people, I feel stressed out, in all honesty, and when I am away from them, I feel lost. It's this constant switch between being stressed and feeling lost. It's overwhelming and I definitely need to work harder to find myself again.
I appreciate your vulnerability. It's relatable, and i've done the needful(subscribed).
I love ur content
i love u 2
I found your channel 2 minutes ago and it's so good!! These are actually helpful videos
Excellent points all!
Tysm I needed this 😭
Hey I really liked this video. I know I learned a lot of confidence and how to build it up. Ideally I would like to implement all of these different exercises to better improve my confidence; but the one I want to focus on the most is just saying no.
I think it’s because my manager called me out for saying “like” so much so I’m more aware that you’re saying too many “like” also 😅
great content, watching your videos makes me more aware and less emotional about the phase I'm going through and motivates me to continue!!
I only ask that the next videos have subtitles, as English is not my native language and sometimes the lines are too fast, I still love your videos!!
thank you Leticia! i can definitely upload subtitles in my next ones :)
Thank u for ur videos girl! 🫶✨️
ofc
You just described me in the first 40 seconds🤩
i feel like we would be such good friends, i love your energy
we would for sure 😎
13:55 I'm having an identity crisis because in 1 year (I hope) I'll graduate, and I feel so lost with the idea of not studying anymore, but I'm also starting to see all the things I can do besides studying
I love your videos, they are very helpful!
than you katherine, this means more than u know
Your content is amazing!
this means so much
The fact that I scrolled to see ur thumbnails is hilarious
hehe
I totally get the "uniform" you wear every day ... even if everything around you changes, your clothing stays the same, so your reflection grounds you. Hope that makes sense 😅
Wearing he same thing every day doesn't necessarily make you autistic, tbh
this video was amazing
literally was taking notes from that video, thanks so much for the advice. little question here: any tips on being respected by everyone? can i just delulu into it, and go in conversations with the mindset of ''i'm already respected''? xoxo
omg i'm literally planning a video on this. it's gonna be called something like 'don't aim to be liked, aim to be respected' or something like that. i've come to realise people respect you A LOT when you care more about approving of yourself vs seeking approval. but i'll elaborate more in the video. but yeah, like you said, defo walk in the room, confident af, you approve of yourself, you don't need anyone to validate you, win or lose, you always have your own back, you don't need anyone's validation 🙌
Another fab videoooo!!!
my bestie !! thank you 💘
why tf did u EXACTLY describe me at the begginning
bc i know u hehe
omg i feel like we’re so similar, i’m also only child parents divorced and likes to yap only when i want to 😭
hey twin
Wow dope content keep growing🔥🔥🔥
you give me so much hope, you can’t imagine… it’s like i’m listening to a future, wiser version of myself. I’m in med school right now, and throughout first three years of it all my personality was literally studying. Only recently I discovered that i also have other things i like to do 😆 Great video, as per usual 🩷
aw girl 🥹 you've got this !! med school has that affect on a lot of us 🥲 it's a slow process to unlearn but you can absoluelty thrive in your exams and irl too!
You speek in 1.75x speed 😭
But your videos are great , as a introvert i can feel each and every word u told
Your face and your speech is sooooooooo beautifulllll wow 🫂🦋
you're so kind, thank you 🦋
I thought your "throwing away things" quirk was funny but why do you do that do you think? 🤔 I understand the clothes thing I identify with that it makes sense. Great video as always, glad you started a RUclips channel.. valuable content 💪🏆🫡
i think i get scared having too much stuff, like my worst nightmare is being a hoarder 😭🤣
@ChristinaAaliyah This is very interesting 🤔
Stoicism
amazing philosophy
you said like so many times 😩😅
Imma shoot my shot here. Does anyone want to go out on a date soon lol? Los angeles local here
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I like u because u are from England 🎉 10:36
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Nah those girls were weird asf
They sounded so rude! You don't owe anyone a friendship but small talk 2 weeks into uni wouldn't have killed them.
steve jobs wears the same thing everyday
right ?? if it's good enough for steve it's good enough for me
@@ChristinaAaliyah i read somewhere intelligent people do that to save time in the morning trying to figure out what to wear