how to have quiet confidence and natural magnetism

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  • Опубликовано: 30 июл 2024
  • Real confidence is not cold, detached, or uncaring. Quiet confidence is firm, but open and receptive. It embodies self-love, self-trust, and self compassion, which allows others to feel safe being their full selves in the presence of it. Once you're able to embody this energy from the inside out, then magnetism happens naturally. You can trust yourself to be selective, stand by your decisions, yet remain curious and open to differing ideas and opinions. #quietconfidence #howtobemoreconfident #selfdevelopment
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Комментарии • 110

  • @cherrysorbet-it6bs
    @cherrysorbet-it6bs 22 дня назад +242

    1. Shadow work (understand and accept self qualities so nobody can tell you otherwise, undertand what u do why u do it)
    2. Dont judge others
    3. Accept insecurities(make peace)
    4. Accept past mistakes and learn from them GENUINLY
    5. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PRESENT IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS
    6. Nobody is thinking about you more than yourself

  • @emmali2265
    @emmali2265 24 дня назад +222

    I am a very defensive person before. But now, if someone really show no respect and always say to me negative judgement . I ignore them and leave. Don't waste my time and energy on them at all.

    • @kdms.3377
      @kdms.3377 9 дней назад +1

      What if they are coworkers and you have to work with them?

    • @rburns1182
      @rburns1182 6 дней назад

      what if they are family or people you have to be with for long periods of time. I'm quite a defensive person and tend to get reactive when I feel attacked whether it was their intention to attack me or not.

  • @allanpeter7700
    @allanpeter7700 22 дня назад +44

    Tbh it is very true that if you’re compassionate to yourself self you become more compassionate to others, I wasn’t taught to be compassionate but after I changed I do feel more compassionate

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад +3

      Not sure why it took so long to truly have that click in place for me - But it’s made the biggest difference on my own journey.

    • @allanpeter7700
      @allanpeter7700 21 день назад

      ​@@DiaJin The thing is it's still weird for me to describe myself as kind and compassionate but I do actually help old people carry heavy stuff down the stairs and etc more.
      The biggest difference for me is breaking through my trauma and getting an implicit answer that I needed(maybe Idk I feel spectacular and the first time I've ever felt somewhat similar to who I envisioned), the compassion was a side effect for me.
      For me I dont think I could think could have nurtured my compassion the other way around since it wasnt really taught to me, I am bitter about my family, and generally people dont care about each other anyway.

  • @jayrichdubai
    @jayrichdubai 21 день назад +42

    David Beckham has always exuded that quiet confidence. I've always admired that trait in him.

  • @tasleemlaila1478
    @tasleemlaila1478 4 дня назад +2

    I love that- "you kind of look like a horse".
    "Yeah, I know." Amazing!

  • @nise0421
    @nise0421 4 дня назад +1

    Good point well said. When we start doing the shadow work & truly accepting who we are, and trust me that’s not an easy task, that’s when we learn empathy, understanding & kindness for ourselves & others.

  • @kish2187
    @kish2187 22 минуты назад

    I've watched 2 videos from you and can tell I love your content. You are a therapist but you do the breakdown to detail and I appreciate that a lot. Will be following and listening 🎧

  • @DessaAtmaStudio
    @DessaAtmaStudio 24 дня назад +34

    I love the reminder that we write our own story. It’s up to us to build our foundation of our character within ourselves and naturally over time we will free ourselves from the past identity of who we think we are vs. who we actually are now.
    Thank you for the weekly practical magic ❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  24 дня назад

      Yes yes. Thank you 😉🩵

  • @ekuniverse1
    @ekuniverse1 20 дней назад +14

    Accept who you are, and realise you're not perfect which applies to everyone so that when people judge you don't care.

  • @kathleenkaleookalanismith8724
    @kathleenkaleookalanismith8724 18 дней назад +5

    This is such a beautiful message. I always tell my children that confidence is always kind. It’s a natural way that confidence moves through life.

  • @oumaima418
    @oumaima418 23 дня назад +3

    So amazing to see you have overcome alcoholism etc. Even tough I don't know you personally, I am really proud of you. I can definitely see you have done a lot of inner work. Thanks for sharing < 3

  • @allanpeter7700
    @allanpeter7700 22 дня назад +13

    With social anxiety it’s generally you are so focused on being nervous when in reality you should on asking questions and absorbing information about the other person

  • @zarinsubah9331
    @zarinsubah9331 5 дней назад +1

    You’re literally so gorgeous ❤

  • @dirtbaguette
    @dirtbaguette 22 дня назад

    You're absolutely gorgeous! I appreciate the realistic advice that there's no quick fix solution to this, and that real confidence is not detached :) Love the honesty and wisdom.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      Thank you for your kind comment! 🩵

  • @therese8658
    @therese8658 24 дня назад +1

    you truly embody that quiet confidence and magnetism that you are saying because that is what made me click this video. i've come across several thumbnails nd i was quick to brush them off but when i saw this video, i was like .. woah. i know that each person has their own energy that radiates and shine on its own but i like your energy best :)

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      Aww thank you so much! I definitely still have many moments of self doubt and feeling uncomfortable but grateful for the progress. 🩵

  • @rawauthenticvulnerable
    @rawauthenticvulnerable 22 дня назад +2

    This is great thanks for exposing this , all the fake it til you make it , and to encourage people to really be authentic and vulnerable -

  • @bhavnaaggarwal1563
    @bhavnaaggarwal1563 12 дней назад

    This is a gorgeous video Dia, it all just comes down to accepting your whole self

  • @Isabel-fb2zs
    @Isabel-fb2zs 3 дня назад

    love the cuality of self explanation

  • @strawberryknfe
    @strawberryknfe 13 дней назад +1

    I've watched a few different self help videos made by multiple ppl abt this similar topic and so far you're the only one that has not made me feel guilty abt my lack of confidence. Your confidence and the way you speak is so uplifting and your advice is so grounded and realistic. Rly loved this video

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  12 дней назад +1

      Aww I’m so glad it resonated with you 🩵🫶

  • @lucasbittar
    @lucasbittar 22 дня назад +2

    What an amazing video, Dia! Great timing as well. I've been going through some stuff in my life recently (breakups, getting rid of toxic people) and this video really gave me a different perspective of things. Really appreciate it! Love the Arrival poster by the way :) Cheers from Brazil!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  22 дня назад +1

      Wish you all the best! 🩵

  • @dreamerzstorie
    @dreamerzstorie 24 дня назад

    Ahhh ❤ another amazing woman to be followed/subscribed, im on my self growth journey rn and the latter half part of this video resonates so much with me. Almost all my life ive been avoiding to get out of my comfort zone and making the term “introvert” as an excuse for everything. Thanks for this. You and some other amazing people out there really pushes me to take accountability with my life and live for the better. Love from 🇵🇭

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      Aww thank you so much for the kind comment. I resonate with this very much, as a self proclaimed introvert. 😉 wish you all the very best 🫶🩵

  • @estheranthony7539
    @estheranthony7539 24 дня назад +6

    This is just what I needed at this moment. I started a new job and I'm trying to retool my life. Your insights have been incredibly useful, providing me with productive areas to focus on. You speak in a realistic, down-to-earth way without resorting to overly optimistic platitudes. Thank you for your valuable advice.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      I’m so glad to hear this! Thank you for leaving a comment 🩵

  • @RobHMastiffDad
    @RobHMastiffDad 24 дня назад +20

    The Gabor Mate book "In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts" should be required reading for anyone considering the privilege of being a parent. It shows how our childhood environment impacts us as adults. It is far more than a book on addiction and a fascinating read.

  • @monica95275
    @monica95275 24 дня назад +1

    Thank you for this amazing video❤I am currently 23 years old and loving myself had been such a huge topic in my life, and I often struggle to comprehend what it meant and how exactly I should achieve it, but watching your video definitely helps clearing my mind a lot! looking forward to see more of your videos in the future❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      I’m glad the video can add to your journey 🫶 and thank you for watching 🩵

  • @sabinastapel7528
    @sabinastapel7528 12 дней назад +1

    Just came across your video, it got me thinking about a couple of thinks. And just want to say that you radiate selflove and calmness. To me it looks like you are proud of the person you are now. That's beautiful to see!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  10 дней назад

      🥹🫶

  • @miriamtm369
    @miriamtm369 16 дней назад

    You always speak to the deepest part of me and seem to spark a light in the darkness, thank you for your message❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  13 дней назад

      aww thank you for such a kind comment. 💞

  • @hairnloveproducts8915
    @hairnloveproducts8915 24 дня назад

    Loved this segment this specifically resonated I think I’ll watch this every morning thank you for this Gem 💎

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      Awww I’m glad it resonated with you🫶

  • @dolibbom
    @dolibbom 21 день назад

    thank you ❤ i’ve learnt a lot from this video

  • @quynhchi4201
    @quynhchi4201 21 день назад

    love this! thank you Dia

  • @rishikashahi2187
    @rishikashahi2187 9 дней назад

    This entire video, you've spoken and explained beautifully. You exude confidence and I can feel that being passing on to me as well. The first video I came across of yours and truly loved it. ❤️

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  8 дней назад

      Thank you for your kind words! 🫶

  • @Poppitywoo
    @Poppitywoo 4 дня назад

    This is a wonderful video, thanks for making and sharing it with all of us 🥰

  • @Theawakenedsomnambulist
    @Theawakenedsomnambulist 21 день назад

    You speak so beautifully! I love listening to your wisdom. ❤️

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад

      Aww thank you 🩵🫶

  • @arbueshelena
    @arbueshelena 24 дня назад +19

    She's so pretty and calm, don't really know if I want to be her or marry her 😂❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  21 день назад +2

      Girl stahp 😂 🫶

  • @25kishkish
    @25kishkish 23 дня назад +1

    So informative, thank you!

  • @Magicalhooman
    @Magicalhooman 24 дня назад +1

    This video is amazing!!!! ❤❤

  • @alissia8767
    @alissia8767 24 дня назад +5

    This video deserves more views 💗

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  24 дня назад +1

      Aww thank you 🫶

  • @juliamayumi9961
    @juliamayumi9961 15 дней назад

    Thank you for this video ❤

  • @user-zy5yy8nk5m
    @user-zy5yy8nk5m 18 дней назад

    thank u🤍!

  • @juliamurphy5943
    @juliamurphy5943 15 дней назад

    i really needed this video today, thank you

  • @Nocturnal_Lorena
    @Nocturnal_Lorena 24 дня назад

    Tysm! 💖

  • @paulrivera5231
    @paulrivera5231 21 день назад

    Ooo Dia your views are exploding. Great job !!!

  • @richardgraber1477
    @richardgraber1477 24 дня назад +1

    Awesome!

  • @hobsyllwin2562
    @hobsyllwin2562 24 дня назад +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @TiffanyKuo-ps5fc
    @TiffanyKuo-ps5fc 6 дней назад

    It may be beside the point, but she is sooo pretty in many ways ~

  • @bglv306
    @bglv306 6 дней назад

    Good talk ❤

  • @ellawishnya
    @ellawishnya 22 дня назад

    very smart and useful!

  • @iamthecozyking
    @iamthecozyking 22 дня назад

    Fantastic video 🎉

  • @melissa1488
    @melissa1488 21 день назад

    Luv you’re absolutely gorgeous. 😊

  • @LovingHypnoASMR
    @LovingHypnoASMR 15 дней назад

    I loved this! Thank you ❤ subbing 😇

  • @semo_amg
    @semo_amg 21 день назад +2

    you are so pretty

  • @wbts7475
    @wbts7475 11 дней назад

    hmmm satabishac girlll✨✨✨

  • @dianabratu6177
    @dianabratu6177 13 дней назад

    You are absolutely beautiful just in every sense of the word, had to share that.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  13 дней назад

      🥹thank u

  • @patgrl
    @patgrl 24 дня назад +1

    Tkssss❤❤❤❤

  • @dreamergirl1140
    @dreamergirl1140 12 дней назад

    Unrelated but I love your artwork in the background! It reminds me of something from the movie Arrival. It looks super cool!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  12 дней назад +1

      It is from Arrival! One of my favorite movies 😛

    • @dreamergirl1140
      @dreamergirl1140 12 дней назад

      Wait wait wait!! I think it says "time" or maybe "there is no linear time". That's so cool!!!

  • @LAdreaming19
    @LAdreaming19 17 дней назад

    Wow you are stunning

  • @hohanh1452
    @hohanh1452 24 дня назад +1

    This change me

  • @studymusic403
    @studymusic403 8 дней назад

    You are amazing wow - feel like I want to be your friend :)))))

  • @lavatr8322
    @lavatr8322 22 дня назад

    I am a very Quiet guy. I like my own space & peace.
    But outside factors make me react....

  • @ejohnson67
    @ejohnson67 21 день назад

    Proverbs 3 : 26
    [26] For the Lord will be your confidence, And will keep your foot from being caught.

  • @user-xq4zh1oj7g
    @user-xq4zh1oj7g 14 дней назад

    You are extremely gorgeous💕🥹

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  13 дней назад

      Thank uuu🥹🩵

  • @xwhy888
    @xwhy888 23 дня назад +5

    Who read the title as "magnesium"? Anyone?

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  22 дня назад +1

      I had to triple check my own eyes when I typed it you’re not alone 😆

  • @stephanie387
    @stephanie387 23 дня назад

  • @weier_populus
    @weier_populus 15 дней назад

    The picture on the wall, is that from film Arrival?

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  13 дней назад

      yes! :)

  • @ivanasancort
    @ivanasancort 18 дней назад

    Hiii, can i ask where do you get the poster in the background?

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  18 дней назад

      Hi I ordered the print off of Etsy I think and then bought frames on Amazon

    • @ivanasancort
      @ivanasancort 15 дней назад

      @@DiaJin Thank you!

  • @ProfessorHamachi
    @ProfessorHamachi 24 дня назад +1

    1st🎉❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  24 дня назад +2

      Woo!!🙏🏼💖

  • @alissia8767
    @alissia8767 24 дня назад +1

    3rd :))

  • @compact-disc
    @compact-disc 4 дня назад

    If somebody walked up to me saying I looked like a horse, I'd actually laugh about how random that comment'd be 💀 seriously who does that??

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  4 дня назад

      Haha my retelling lacked enough context, this person was a friend of her friend.

    • @compact-disc
      @compact-disc 4 дня назад

      @@DiaJin ohh I see.. well shame on that person anyway, it's cool of your friend that she could react this way :)

  • @borednow
    @borednow 13 дней назад

    why is your plant shaking the whole time?

  • @Carolareyes__
    @Carolareyes__ 24 дня назад +2

    🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @StudentofFlames-me3ie
    @StudentofFlames-me3ie 23 дня назад

    It's John Wick.

  • @amberlee8074
    @amberlee8074 24 дня назад +2

    2nd❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  24 дня назад

      🩵🩵🩵

  • @Lauratrenzas673
    @Lauratrenzas673 23 дня назад

    Hola guapa, que cambiarias si pudiera en el mundo

  • @ericaknox2715
    @ericaknox2715 5 дней назад +1

    I love Arrival I want a poster like that too now!! 🐙 🪨🪐… I think the main character played by Amy Adam’s has quiet confidence…🩵

  • @divushypnotica5955
    @divushypnotica5955 7 дней назад

    Please let us know why the plants in your room keep moving 🍀🫶🏻 thank you for the video

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  6 дней назад

      😂there’s a fan in the room, I almost wanted to just let the mystery remain but seeing this is the second comment on the ghostly plant

  • @paulacesarini9591
    @paulacesarini9591 13 дней назад