The biggest thing about this story is that it appears that neither op or his wife engage in "health and wellfare checkups" to see how the other party is coping with day to day life and what mental state they are in. There is definitely a lack of accountability and empathy from both of them.
The wife is the one the that chose to leave for two months to have fun while leaving all responsibilities to her husband. She should be doing check ups on him, not the other way around.
@@MrWilson812 I'm referring to before they got to that point. My spouse and I check in with each other a couple times a day to see how each other's mental health and state is. There is so little detail about where the couple was at before the wife went off that it just sounds like being actually interested and involved with each other's lives wasn't really a thing in that relationship.
If I were gone a week I would call to check on my CAT at least once. She leaves for 7 weeks and doesn't check on her toddlers more than twice. This entire story is suss.
The red flag for me was: how can you leave your children behind for SEVEN WEEKS, and only call your husband a grand total of TWICE during those SEVEN WEEKS?! No wonder he don't love you no more!
yep. and also no wonder he was so exhausted. people are like he must not be accustomed to take care of the kids n bla but have you ever tried to care for kids that miss one parent and are upset about it???
You don't. I sent my daughter to an in-patient facility for her depression and self-harm and she wasn't allowed visitors or phone calls for the first 2 weeks. I hate to disagree with Dusty, but the whole thing sounds to me like she went into treatment and hubby never knew how badly she was doing.
@@nicholepautz928This was my thought as well. I worked at an inpatient mental health hospital, it was always no contact for the first 2 weeks! And after that, the therapist has to okay any outside contact. She may have felt ashamed about needing inpatient treatment. I definitely feel like we have an unreliable marriage that is only sharing what makes him look good.
@nicholepautz928 perhaps, but why not be honest? If it were that then with the break up she will have to tell him the truth at some point. Then she breaks his trust by lying and without a basis of love in the relationship that will be enough reason to not really try for him.
My sister and I were sent to texas for 3 months in 2010.. my mom only called twice and the second time was asking if we wanted to move with our dad to CA. Stopped living with my mom at 15. Some mothers just don’t care
She didn't call HIM. Once he'd turned them over to the sister, did Mom call HER to talk to kids? If he broke down completely after only 1 week, was he involved AT ALL in their lives before she left?
@@CatLee-z8n But taking care of two small children with someone and taking care of two small children alone are VERY different things. Especially if the person works too. That's why being a solo mother is so hard.
I'd have said he was a jerk if she hadn't been so neglectful the whole time. She literally NEVER checked in on them. If a man did this to a woman everyone would savage him and call him a terrible father and tell the woman to dump him and get a new man after the first week of NO contact. He's more than justified in his exhaustion and response to what she did.
Yeah, I thought the comment about the division of labor being unbalanced was a bit unfair, especially since the dad had to work on top of taking care of the kids.
I left for 7 weeks once. It was for inpatient therapy. They have really strict rules in phone use too. When I did call to check on my son, my ex kept calling it "a vacation"; He also called my 6 week Port Partum leave a "vacation". I dont feel OP is being honest about his wife's situation. My Ex is a Malignant Narcissist and abuser, and I broke down and checked myself in to a psyche unit. Mind you, I'm in a 20yr relationship with my partner and my ex was ao awful that it almost broke up me and my fella.
The way my jaw hit the floor when you read that she only called TWICE in 7 weeks! I would be calling at LEAST twice a day if I was gone for more than a day! I can not even comprehend this information?!
I sense an unreliable narrator. I also wonder if he only loved her for the role she played. Her behavior is absolutely suspect, but I feel like something is being left out.
Regardless, anyone who leaves their children like that and doesn't make an attempt to reach out, is bad. OP is the only one working and his wife was a SAHM. She made the decision to leave for two months and only reach out twice. OP was left to do EVERYTHING. While his wife comes back and tries to act like nothing happened.
@@sallyjopatriot Maybe, but we don't have that information, so any assumptions would be unwarranted. No matter what, she left her family for almost two months, with barely to no contact and came back like nothing happened. The husband supported her decision and stepped up.
@@sallyjopatriotyou people can never just take a story for what it is. She gave her reasons. And still did after being asked to shorten it. You want so badly for the man to be in the wrong that you just make up scenarios in your head. “There must be more cause there are no bad moms”. It’s disgusting
Did he never call her in those 7 weeks? What a terrible couple. Wife was probably expectiglng him to call and beg to come back. Everyone has a cell phone. Unless this was rehab, she is a terrible mother. Hoping this one is fake.
@@MAJORQUEENBITCH101 agree, but the commenter is also right.. I suspect the stressful job and the back to back babies were too much stress for an already weak marriage.
YEAH.. WE need to hear the wife's side.. basically back to back pregnancies and home 'alone' yes, he's home, but it doesn't sound like he's much involved with family life at least during work hours... I'm glad it was a 'young dad' who pointed this out.. Absolutely, 7 weeks is too long to be gone from babies, or even a husband.. even if she called twice EVERY DAY.. but this marriage was in deep doggy doo. long before the vaycay came up, or she wouldn't have left. Back to back babies.. he's got a stressful, well paying job.. can't excuse the 7 week vaycay, but there's WAY MORE to this story than OP is letting on.. and the fact that he may not even realize it is the biggest part of the problem
How many times did OP call her??? Her only calling twice is a red flag but also a red flag that OP didn't call her. Hopefully she was in rehab for something. We need more of what was going on in the home before taking said "vacation".
@@kamisa7362He's stated that his sister moved in from the beginning of the second week and stepped in to care for the kids. So he wasn't left on his own. It sounds like life went back to normal except for that first week. I also agree that it sounds like the wife may have been checked in somewhere. I worked in a mental health hospital, outside communication rules were very strict.
Op, why aren't you asking your wife questions? She could have gone to inpatient treatment for postnatal depression. It can affect women for 2 years after the birth of their child. You have 2 children. It sounds like she didn't get enough support emotionally or physically from you because you already checked out of the relationship.
Anything to make the father the villain of the story. Even if it means making up scenarios of him being a bad husband based on context you don’t have. You’re disgusting.
This all sounds weird, im with the others saying there is something being left out. Not saying it would justify what wife did, but it certainly seems to leave out much needed context.
If OP didn't hear from her, why wasn't he calling her or these 'friends' she was with? Zero communication on both ends. Either she wasn't doing what she said she was doing, or neither of them are in love with each other anymore. There's a reason there's a difference between loving someone and being IN love with them.
Instead of spending that money on traveling for that long would it not have been better to send the kids to daycare, or get a nanny? She went to something specific that took seven weeks. One thing that popped out to me was how he felt better once she was gone, which means their relationship was very toxic. Also, why did he not call her? The only reason for him not to call is that he was angry with her, decided to see how long it would take for her to call, and the less she calls the more ammunition he has against her.
He “agreed” but I also feel like what was he supposed to do? Agree and go on or disagree and then her either go anyways or her make their lives miserable because he told her “no”
I think that even though he works remotely, he doesn’t help out at all & that his wife probably wanted him to see what all she does. He doesn’t miss her & doesn’t notice it because he had his sister come in & take over her responsibilities PLUS I’m sure the sister doesn’t nag about him not helping with the kids or around the house
This makes me lean more to being unfaithful...and they came back home bc they don't want to give up their comfortable situation. But it could be other situations. It could be mental health. I will say ESH... OP didn't mention attempting to make contact. There is no context of his behavior with his wife nor children.
My child is almost six and I can’t go more than 24 hours without being with her. There’s no way I can wrap my head around being away from my TODDLERS for over a month… that’s insane behavior
I was on board w the husband until he said his sister helping w the kids gave her a sense of purpose🤨. There’s just something off here. And how wife having strong feelings abt daycare at too yng of an age but not calling more than twice in 7 wks😳. There’s just somethin abt this post that reeks of disingenuity.
I literally just did an overnight trip with hotel to see a band. Hubby doesn’t like music but wanted me to have a good time. I texted and spoke to him continually. I couldn’t sleep and missed him so much I came right home. When you love someone, being with them feels like home. Btw I texted my daughter, too. She wanted a band tee😂
He literally said he has receipts of her spending during the trip. Why can’t you fathom that she’s just a bad wife & mother instead of putting it on the man? She essentially quit her job for 2 months, how would you feel if he did that?
@stratataisen 5:18-5:20 "it didn't bother me HOW much she spent on the trip" KINDA sounds like receipts to me.. most likely everything showed up in their bank account, SHOWING what was spent..
@@Bhy1345 If a man did this they'd say he's a selfish POS (and he would be), if a woman does something a lot of woman (not all) will literally make up stuff to make her the victim.
What if she went away for mental health reasons? There are ppl who have mental issues & keep it to themselves… There are restrictions on inpatient therapy, right? If so, it would explains the 2 calls… IJS
I think having time away from the kids is fine but for 7 weeks is not ok unless there is something going on. I have 2 kids and I’m raising them by myself and it gets overwhelming at times.
Respect is the greater part of love…so when it dies, love usually does as well. I get how he feels. Love, choosing love and making the decision “to love and be together” is what actual love is…that could be said to both of these people (but especially the wife.) I feel like it isn’t just the vacation. BUT, given everything, something MUCH BIGGER is up here. (Either OP doesn’t know something crucial, AND OP is oblivious, if not leaving things out…maybe both).
Like other commenters said, this feels like a lot is left out. He works from home but he didn’t know how to take care of his kids?? It’s different doing it alone but the shock of it sounds like he’s never done it before. Of course it’s horrible to leave your 1 and 2 year olds for 7 weeks with no contact, no check-ups- but it feels like something else was already going on. OP could’ve said a blanket “no” and they could’ve worked out a different plan. He also didn’t mention reaching out to her when he was having a hard time, then said he didn’t miss after the first week. She is 100% TA but sounds like their relationship was already majorly on the rocks. He doesn’t represent her as a loving mom at all but she is a SAHM and it’s weird that she didn’t contact him more than twice. I’d guess a mental issue, or resentment like the commenter said - maybe she was playing chicken to see if he would reach out to her?
this story is not complete and i am thoroughly sus... you all are like "she only called twice".. HE HAS A FUCKING PHONE.. HE ALSO DIDN"T CALL HER... and by that he didn't call her even once! why does everyone always only blam one person for lack of phone calls.. communication is a 2 way street. I'm not buying this story i wanna hear from the wife.. this feels so ESH
I think he is the a hole. One unless she did something while she was away you made a marriage comment you asked to spend the rest of your life's together. 2 he doesn't know what she was doing just as much as she didn't call neither did he. 3 you cant be a week alone with out you kids sounds like you weren't putting in the work in the child rasing department. 4 if she was suffering and needed that much of a break sounds like you were a bad partner anyway.
Dude... my Wife and I don't have kids and I've had to live a continent away from my Wife for the last year. I can't go a day without even getting a text from her or me texting her or video chatting every day! I would go bonkers without hearing from her. There's a lot that we don't know, but the whole relationship is sus...
So much context is missing that I can't form an opinion. Did OP try to reach her at all during the vacation? Did either of them think through what day-to-day life was going to be like for OP and the kids while she was gone? Was there a specific reason that it had to be seven weeks? Had she ever struggled with post-partum depression? And so on...I don't know, OP. Not calling regularly at least for the kids' sake is pretty terrible.
This honestly sounds to me like she's been deep in PPD for 2 years straight and he's given 0 💩 about her the entire time except for what she provides/does for him. He's the kind of guy that's like "I don't know why she left" even though she's said so a bazillion times and pleaded for him to do anything to show he cares. I'm sorry, but there is WAY more to this and I wouldn't be shocked if she was in a facility for 2 weeks to get the PPD cared for. No mom of 2 littles leaves and then comes back after 7 weeks. I guarantee that there's more. There always is with dudes like this
As a single mom, with a very good coparenting relationship, I have a hard time leaving my child for 4 days. SEVEN WEEKS???? I could never, especially at their ages. And only TWO calls???
My partner and I have been together for 12 years. When they were gone for a week, they called everyday. It still hurt like hell everyday and even worse when it was time to go to bed. I got almost no sleep until they returned. This couple felt none of this. I wonder if they ever were in love. Lots of people will bury their feelings "for the sake of the children." I suspect that's what happened here.
I don't like all the hate this woman's get for taking a break and leaving for less than 2 months there's plenty of parents that work away from home and go for business trips, months at a time. Making sacrifices for a better home life. Mental health is just as important as financial security IMO. Sometimes parents need breaks, she came back and she came back a better person.. not saying they have to be together at all, my feeling would change too. I just personally don't like the double standard that a woman shouldn't be able to leave her children for an extended period of time but it's not even questioned when a man does it
Even without kids the 2 phone calls isn't ok. My bf and I text every day we aren't together. I still text my mom every day I'm not home. How do you ghost a loved one for 7 weeks and think that's ok?
Whether or not there's stuff missing, if a man pulled this everyone would be calling him the asshole. But because it's the mom, people are willing to give her the benefit of the doubt that's f***** up
He agreed? He told her a couple and that 7 was too much. He couldn't believe she went through with it. Ultimately he must've thought he's not going to worry himself or investigate her possibly cheating and may have realized he's ok without her.
Even if we aren’t getting her side I’d say abandoning your kids for 7 weeks defaults you to being the AH. Also people saying “there’s no way you could fall out of love in 7 weeks he just realized it” I call BS on that. If your partner abandoned you and your infant children for 2 months I think you’d probably have a lot of resentment to the point you would not want to make things work. His sister showing him he didn’t need his wife to take care of the children probably just made him realize he didn’t need to stay with her. I don’t think he’s indifferent I think he maybe feels like saying he resents her decision would make him an AH. My guess he sounds like a workaholic and they got distant emotionally after the birth of the children (she probably has PPD as well). She rekindled things with an old significant other from her home town and wanted to explore that option while keeping her family as the backup. Sure the rehab could be a plausible story but not communicating that still makes her the AH. In no universe is she not the AH. Even if the husband was abusive she left her kids with him for 2 months alone. She’s the AH and the husband resents her for leaving and that’s why he’s done. Sure there were probably issues before but leaving your family for 2 months immediately makes you the AH
As others have said, I do think we are missing a lot of the story. Why could he not take care of his children for a week? This woman has had two babies back to back. Has she been getting breaks? Has he been focusing on his work and doing less than 50% of the domestic and childrearing labour? Speaking very generally, most women will not leave their children for that long without good cause. Not going to say it doesn't happen but leaving kids behind doesn't come easily to our biology. I would guess that this was a last ditch effort to force her husband to be a father to his kids. If so, it didn't work. He got his sister (another woman, how interesting!) to do most if not all of it after just one week so he could get back to his work. This is one where I would definitely like an update from the wife.
I can make so many assumptions about this situation based on the little information that OP shared...but it sounds like OP got a 7-week dose of what his wife dealt with for over a year... the only difference is his wife didn't have his sister come to save the day. I would really like to hear the wife's side of this. Because it seems like OP isn't giving the while story.
OK ok... Here are my thoughts. 1. When I was having issues with a relationship with a guy, a friend of mine told me "love is like a plant, it needs attention, nourishing, or at least a little water so it doesn't die." and that stuck with me, we don't know if it was a realization or if it was actually being appart, what baffles me is the fact that she only called 2 times!!! And... Why didn't OP tried to call her? In this time and age there's no excuse to lose contact for 7 weeks!! 2. Thinking of a nasty scenario... What if the wife had an affair, or started an affair while she was away, and... She wanted to initiate s³x right away in case she was pregnant and wanted to pin it on her husband... Just saying. 😐
Unless she was in rehab the not calling except for twice is inexcusable. Honestly considering neither of them called the other except for twice in a seven week vacation I think this marriage is probably sunk. The husband just actually has come to the understanding that they are both indifferent to the others existence.
NTA. The boyfriend needs a new girlfriend instead of trying to force her to be someone she is not and I totally get OP's discomfort over the entire situation and the way it was presented.
I like how no one is noticing that the husband didn’t even take care of the kids for a week and couldn’t handle it. Let’s put mom’s obvious failings aside for a moment and note that this man didn’t take care of his kids and the house that entire time like his wife has been. He broke down and got another woman to handle the household and the children for it because he can’t even get his shit together to parent his own children and care for the house. It sounds to me like this vacation is the least of this relationships problems. There is no support between the two of them. I want to hear the entire story. Not to say that the mother is right here- even if she needs a break she needs to keep in contact. But there is clearly more to this story and the lack of involvement and parenting from Dad is clearly a massive part of that issue
He did take care of the kids for a week. He was overwhelmed between his wife leaving, two newborn kids, a stressful full time job and paying for his wife's vacation. Is he not entitled to his feelings? I have a stressful job that requires me to be away every week (airline pilot). If my spouse randomly left for almost 2 months and if we had kids (we don't), I would have a difficult time too trying to balance this life and keep a roof over our heads. You can't praise a stay at home mother and then talk down about the father who's the breadwinner, having to randomly take over the role of the SAHM AND the breadwinner, while the mother runs off to "find herself".
NTA. I was trying not to judge but it’s hard. the only type of parents that I personally know who take long trips and leave the kids with minimal no contact ….. are all crappy parents. My 1st kid turned 1 today couldn’t imagine being gone that long and without much contact. Plus the no daycare rule is not fair for almost 2 months .
I feel wife is hiding something. OP I feel is also withholding some info in the post. She definitely should have called WAY more often! Mom might need therapy!
NTA, but if you can fall out of love with someone in less than 2 months that says a lot there. She shouldn't have gone on that long of a trip. I can't imagine leaving my kids that long, and once the kids know how she willingly left them for that long will do a number on them. She was obviously cheating on him while away. There is NO other reason to only call him and the kids TWO TIMES in seven weeks~~~
She may be going through some type of PPD or the husband is giving her zero help. Women need breaks too 🤷🏽♀️ I bet if he added all the things he’s done it would be way more than 7 weeks. If men leave for weeks on end nobody thinks twice about it. I’m on mom’s side, women go through so much and men just don’t get it! We need breaks too!!
It's not a red flag for a mom to go on an extended vacation without kids sometimes it's necessary to keep your sanity. The real red flag is the fact they don't seem to check in on each other on any regular basis.
The assumptions against the husband in these comments are insane. Unless she lied to her husband about what she wanted to do on the trip ( concerts and see friend ) and checked herself in somewhere, isn’t that a red flag? Why not be honest with your husband. And people dogging him for not being able to handle his part by working and now her part and fully caring for the kids are delusional. Imagine if he took off for 7 weeks and the wife had to pick up a full time job and take care of the kids. Y’all would run that dude through the mud. Also the point about him agreeing with her going, he literally tried to convince her to shorten the trip but she declined, wth yall want him to do?
you keep saying that he agreed to it and while yes he did it was with reluctance. I know I wasn't able to leave my children for a couple of days . there's no way in hell I would have been away for 7 weeks.
I feel like ops wife might have checked herself into a treatment facility and was ashamed to talk about it. Maybe she wasn’t mentally stabled and was afraid of any self inflicted harm or harming anyone else. Didn’t want hubby to know so hid under the guise of vacation. If hubby broke down after a week, imagine wife being. A sth mom 24/7. Communication isn’t a factor with this couple and drastically need it. Maybe couples therapy will shed a light to what actually happened
I think it's fishy on both parts. He okayed her to go. Now he's holding it against her. And she thought taking 7 weeks away from Toddlers was a good idea. Everybody sucks here. When two narcissists fall in "love". She's more narcissistic than he is but I just don't get how you can fall out uf love with somebody that you have two children with and you're married too...... maybe I'm being judgemental? Maybe a lot of things have happened? Has she cheated while she was on this little vacation? Yeah I just don't know what's going on here it seems very crazy
Maybe she has post natal depression? Does he want to be a single dad? The responsibility if just one is really hard, especially at night. Need to talk deeply with her. Rehab might explain lack of contact
ESH. The husband sucks because the wife felt she needed 7 weeks away - I have big suspicions that he wasn’t helping her with the kids or the housework at all. Especially since he had a breakdown after 1 week and needed his sister to help. The wife sucks because she couldn’t/wouldn’t communicate how she was feeling and what she needed. Maybe it was an in patient psych care for 7 weeks. However, if she felt she couldn’t be honest about her struggles with her partner and what she was actually doing, that’s more of a reflection of him than of her. The poor kids are just trapped between the two of them.
My husband is retired military and we have an 18 year old daughter. In the 10 years we have been married and the 18 years of being a mom. I have never been more than a few days without communication with both of them. I cannot imagine being a wife and mother and NOT being active in both of their lives. This definitely feels sus!
I think they both suck. They clearly don't like/love each other. It's just weird. I've watched my nephew multiple times over weekends throughout his life, and I talked to her either call or text every day.
OP DIDNT FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH HIS WIFE BECAUSE SHE TOOK A MUCH NEEDED AND WELL DESERVED 7 WEEK VACATION HE NEVER LOVED HER TO BEGIN WITH HE WANTS OUT ALL BECAUSE HE HAD TO HELP TAKE CARE OF HIS KIDS FOR THE FIRST TIME WOMEN DO IT ALL THE TIME SOLELY ON THIER OWN BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO CHOICE OP WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM TAKING A 7 WEEK VACATION WITHOUT HIS KIDS WOMEN DO EVERYTHING MEN DO VERY LITTLE NEXST TO NOTHING AND THEY CRY THE WIFE WAS A SINGLE PARENT FROM DAY 1 MOST WOMEN WHO ARE LIVING WITH OR MARRIED TO THIER PARTNER ARE STILL SINGLE MOTHERS OP IS A CRYBABY I HOPE OPS WIFE TAKES HIM FOR EVERYTHING HE HAS IN THE DIVORCE
First of all, the capslock really makes stuff harder to read. Secondly. If a man went up to his wife and was like "Yeah, I'm taking a 7 week trip and you're gonna have to totally care for the kids all by yourself, and I'm only gonna call twice during that 7 weeks to check up"? Pretty much no one would be going "Yep, that's a great husband, you should stay married with him" I'm not gonna pretend no one would say that, but it definitely wouldn't be the majority. This isn't a gendered thing. If you ditch your kids for 7 weeks of vacation and don't check up on them more than once or twice, you're not a good parent.
Agreed. I get this commenter's anger, but the fact this gets done to women all the time still doesn't make it ok to do it to a man. It's not ok no matter who is on the receiving end
@@TonySamedi And something that that commenter, and, initially Dusty, seem to have missed is that when OP's wife wasn't on vacation, OP was still working from home, meaning that he was available as a caregiver. When she left, she was GONE. She was NOT available to help with the kids. So, she expected him to solo parent for 7 weeks. I do think it has potential for ESH, just not for this reason.
Did he "agree" or was he forced into an agreement? There's a difference. She's not trustworthy. If she can just up and leave for seven weeks at the start of their kid's lives, what's stopping her from doing it again and disregarding his emotions and feelings? Also that comment about him not being able to handle one week... NAW! He's the ONLY person working. Of coarse his wife is gonna be primary care of the children. Not only did she LEAVE HIM, she left him with two newborns AND he had to work a full-time job with no help. How can you summarize him breaking down after one week as his failings as a husband and father which caused his wife to want to leave?
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The biggest thing about this story is that it appears that neither op or his wife engage in "health and wellfare checkups" to see how the other party is coping with day to day life and what mental state they are in. There is definitely a lack of accountability and empathy from both of them.
The wife is the one the that chose to leave for two months to have fun while leaving all responsibilities to her husband. She should be doing check ups on him, not the other way around.
@@MrWilson812 I'm referring to before they got to that point. My spouse and I check in with each other a couple times a day to see how each other's mental health and state is. There is so little detail about where the couple was at before the wife went off that it just sounds like being actually interested and involved with each other's lives wasn't really a thing in that relationship.
If I were gone a week I would call to check on my CAT at least once. She leaves for 7 weeks and doesn't check on her toddlers more than twice. This entire story is suss.
The red flag for me was: how can you leave your children behind for SEVEN WEEKS, and only call your husband a grand total of TWICE during those SEVEN WEEKS?! No wonder he don't love you no more!
yep. and also no wonder he was so exhausted. people are like he must not be accustomed to take care of the kids n bla but have you ever tried to care for kids that miss one parent and are upset about it???
@@meirin5316not to mention that while she was gone he not only had to keep bearing his load of maintaining the household but hers as well
I'm a single parent of twins, as hard as it is , and as much as I'd love a vacation, I wouldn't only call twice if I DID go on vacation.
Rehab would actually make sense, I don’t think you have much access to phones in rehab
You don't. I sent my daughter to an in-patient facility for her depression and self-harm and she wasn't allowed visitors or phone calls for the first 2 weeks.
I hate to disagree with Dusty, but the whole thing sounds to me like she went into treatment and hubby never knew how badly she was doing.
@@nicholepautz928This was my thought as well. I worked at an inpatient mental health hospital, it was always no contact for the first 2 weeks! And after that, the therapist has to okay any outside contact. She may have felt ashamed about needing inpatient treatment. I definitely feel like we have an unreliable marriage that is only sharing what makes him look good.
@nicholepautz928 perhaps, but why not be honest? If it were that then with the break up she will have to tell him the truth at some point. Then she breaks his trust by lying and without a basis of love in the relationship that will be enough reason to not really try for him.
My sister and I were sent to texas for 3 months in 2010.. my mom only called twice and the second time was asking if we wanted to move with our dad to CA.
Stopped living with my mom at 15. Some mothers just don’t care
I feel like there's a WHOLE LOT missing from this story
She didn't call HIM. Once he'd turned them over to the sister, did Mom call HER to talk to kids? If he broke down completely after only 1 week, was he involved AT ALL in their lives before she left?
No prob not .
@@CatLee-z8n But taking care of two small children with someone and taking care of two small children alone are VERY different things. Especially if the person works too. That's why being a solo mother is so hard.
I'd have said he was a jerk if she hadn't been so neglectful the whole time. She literally NEVER checked in on them. If a man did this to a woman everyone would savage him and call him a terrible father and tell the woman to dump him and get a new man after the first week of NO contact. He's more than justified in his exhaustion and response to what she did.
Yeah, I thought the comment about the division of labor being unbalanced was a bit unfair, especially since the dad had to work on top of taking care of the kids.
I left for 7 weeks once. It was for inpatient therapy. They have really strict rules in phone use too.
When I did call to check on my son, my ex kept calling it "a vacation"; He also called my 6 week Port Partum leave a "vacation".
I dont feel OP is being honest about his wife's situation.
My Ex is a Malignant Narcissist and abuser, and I broke down and checked myself in to a psyche unit. Mind you, I'm in a 20yr relationship with my partner and my ex was ao awful that it almost broke up me and my fella.
The way my jaw hit the floor when you read that she only called TWICE in 7 weeks! I would be calling at LEAST twice a day if I was gone for more than a day! I can not even comprehend this information?!
I sense an unreliable narrator. I also wonder if he only loved her for the role she played. Her behavior is absolutely suspect, but I feel like something is being left out.
my thoughts exactly
Regardless, anyone who leaves their children like that and doesn't make an attempt to reach out, is bad. OP is the only one working and his wife was a SAHM. She made the decision to leave for two months and only reach out twice. OP was left to do EVERYTHING. While his wife comes back and tries to act like nothing happened.
@@erauprcwa like I said, I can't condone the moms behavior.. but theres way more to this than that 7 weeks..
@@sallyjopatriot Maybe, but we don't have that information, so any assumptions would be unwarranted.
No matter what, she left her family for almost two months, with barely to no contact and came back like nothing happened. The husband supported her decision and stepped up.
@@sallyjopatriotyou people can never just take a story for what it is. She gave her reasons. And still did after being asked to shorten it. You want so badly for the man to be in the wrong that you just make up scenarios in your head. “There must be more cause there are no bad moms”. It’s disgusting
Did he never call her in those 7 weeks? What a terrible couple. Wife was probably expectiglng him to call and beg to come back. Everyone has a cell phone. Unless this was rehab, she is a terrible mother. Hoping this one is fake.
Why didn’t SHE call to speak to the kids?
@@MAJORQUEENBITCH101 agree, but the commenter is also right.. I suspect the stressful job and the back to back babies were too much stress for an already weak marriage.
@@MAJORQUEENBITCH101 I agree, why at the I said she was a terrible mother. But why did dad not call?
100% I just know that his version isn't even close to the truth
@@AR-sz5lm oh, it might be the truth.. but likely only the truth that he has seen... which is probably about 2 percent of it
YEAH.. WE need to hear the wife's side.. basically back to back pregnancies and home 'alone' yes, he's home, but it doesn't sound like he's much involved with family life at least during work hours... I'm glad it was a 'young dad' who pointed this out.. Absolutely, 7 weeks is too long to be gone from babies, or even a husband.. even if she called twice EVERY DAY.. but this marriage was in deep doggy doo. long before the vaycay came up, or she wouldn't have left. Back to back babies.. he's got a stressful, well paying job.. can't excuse the 7 week vaycay, but there's WAY MORE to this story than OP is letting on.. and the fact that he may not even realize it is the biggest part of the problem
How many times did OP call her??? Her only calling twice is a red flag but also a red flag that OP didn't call her. Hopefully she was in rehab for something. We need more of what was going on in the home before taking said "vacation".
Likely because he's feeling resentful. He's left with the kids and working full time for 7 weeks
@@kamisa7362He's stated that his sister moved in from the beginning of the second week and stepped in to care for the kids. So he wasn't left on his own. It sounds like life went back to normal except for that first week.
I also agree that it sounds like the wife may have been checked in somewhere. I worked in a mental health hospital, outside communication rules were very strict.
@@chellepeterson9719don’t change the narrative. He was left alone. That his sister came to help doesn’t change the fact he was left alone.
Op, why aren't you asking your wife questions? She could have gone to inpatient treatment for postnatal depression. It can affect women for 2 years after the birth of their child. You have 2 children. It sounds like she didn't get enough support emotionally or physically from you because you already checked out of the relationship.
You got all of that from this? It's the husband's fault the wife LEFT for 7 weeks and didn't bother to check in to see how her kids were?
That's a lot of assumptions
Anything to make the father the villain of the story. Even if it means making up scenarios of him being a bad husband based on context you don’t have. You’re disgusting.
This all sounds weird, im with the others saying there is something being left out. Not saying it would justify what wife did, but it certainly seems to leave out much needed context.
Wow only 2 calls in 7 weeks? My fiance and I video call every day in his lunch break, and he's only gone 10 hours a day
If OP didn't hear from her, why wasn't he calling her or these 'friends' she was with? Zero communication on both ends. Either she wasn't doing what she said she was doing, or neither of them are in love with each other anymore. There's a reason there's a difference between loving someone and being IN love with them.
Instead of spending that money on traveling for that long would it not have been better to send the kids to daycare, or get a nanny? She went to something specific that took seven weeks. One thing that popped out to me was how he felt better once she was gone, which means their relationship was very toxic. Also, why did he not call her? The only reason for him not to call is that he was angry with her, decided to see how long it would take for her to call, and the less she calls the more ammunition he has against her.
I think he fell out of love with her before but didn't realize it until he didn't miss her.
He “agreed” but I also feel like what was he supposed to do? Agree and go on or disagree and then her either go anyways or her make their lives miserable because he told her “no”
I think that even though he works remotely, he doesn’t help out at all & that his wife probably wanted him to see what all she does. He doesn’t miss her & doesn’t notice it because he had his sister come in & take over her responsibilities PLUS I’m sure the sister doesn’t nag about him not helping with the kids or around the house
This makes me lean more to being unfaithful...and they came back home bc they don't want to give up their comfortable situation.
But it could be other situations. It could be mental health.
I will say ESH...
OP didn't mention attempting to make contact. There is no context of his behavior with his wife nor children.
My child is almost six and I can’t go more than 24 hours without being with her. There’s no way I can wrap my head around being away from my TODDLERS for over a month… that’s insane behavior
I was on board w the husband until he said his sister helping w the kids gave her a sense of purpose🤨. There’s just something off here. And how wife having strong feelings abt daycare at too yng of an age but not calling more than twice in 7 wks😳. There’s just somethin abt this post that reeks of disingenuity.
I bet she pressured him till he agreed.
How many times did he try to contact her?
So many details missing.
Oh my days. My kids are gone for a day and I'm texting them. I can't go a day without my 'Daily Annoyance' as they so fondly call it 😂
Also, at the age that OP's kids are, I was video calling so they could still see me when they were with their Dad.
I literally just did an overnight trip with hotel to see a band. Hubby doesn’t like music but wanted me to have a good time. I texted and spoke to him continually. I couldn’t sleep and missed him so much I came right home. When you love someone, being with them feels like home. Btw I texted my daughter, too. She wanted a band tee😂
It's definitely the 2 calls in 7wks that tip the scales.
I'm not saying this isn't possible but I don't buy this whole scenario. Usually when something doesn't make sense, it isn't true.
My sister left her son to go to Spain for a year for no good reason. It absolutely happens
If I'm a betting person I think she check herself in somewhere to get the help that she needed. I don't think OP was a good partner.
He literally said he has receipts of her spending during the trip. Why can’t you fathom that she’s just a bad wife & mother instead of putting it on the man? She essentially quit her job for 2 months, how would you feel if he did that?
@@Bhy1345 Where did he say he had receipts for her spending? Did he say it in a comment somewhere?
@stratataisen 5:18-5:20 "it didn't bother me HOW much she spent on the trip" KINDA sounds like receipts to me.. most likely everything showed up in their bank account, SHOWING what was spent..
@@Bhy1345 If a man did this they'd say he's a selfish POS (and he would be), if a woman does something a lot of woman (not all) will literally make up stuff to make her the victim.
He was begging her to shorten it. He never agreed to 7 weeks.
What if she went away for mental health reasons? There are ppl who have mental issues & keep it to themselves… There are restrictions on inpatient therapy, right? If so, it would explains the 2 calls… IJS
I think having time away from the kids is fine but for 7 weeks is not ok unless there is something going on. I have 2 kids and I’m raising them by myself and it gets overwhelming at times.
I wonder if she was in some type of rehab, that would explain the two phone calls.
She’s like a deadbeat Dad. 😂. Only called twice in 7 weeks. I don’t care about their relationship tbh. I care about those kids.
Respect is the greater part of love…so when it dies, love usually does as well. I get how he feels. Love, choosing love and making the decision “to love and be together” is what actual love is…that could be said to both of these people (but especially the wife.) I feel like it isn’t just the vacation. BUT, given everything, something MUCH BIGGER is up here. (Either OP doesn’t know something crucial, AND OP is oblivious, if not leaving things out…maybe both).
Like other commenters said, this feels like a lot is left out. He works from home but he didn’t know how to take care of his kids?? It’s different doing it alone but the shock of it sounds like he’s never done it before.
Of course it’s horrible to leave your 1 and 2 year olds for 7 weeks with no contact, no check-ups- but it feels like something else was already going on. OP could’ve said a blanket “no” and they could’ve worked out a different plan. He also didn’t mention reaching out to her when he was having a hard time, then said he didn’t miss after the first week. She is 100% TA but sounds like their relationship was already majorly on the rocks.
He doesn’t represent her as a loving mom at all but she is a SAHM and it’s weird that she didn’t contact him more than twice. I’d guess a mental issue, or resentment like the commenter said - maybe she was playing chicken to see if he would reach out to her?
this story is not complete and i am thoroughly sus... you all are like "she only called twice".. HE HAS A FUCKING PHONE.. HE ALSO DIDN"T CALL HER... and by that he didn't call her even once! why does everyone always only blam one person for lack of phone calls.. communication is a 2 way street. I'm not buying this story i wanna hear from the wife.. this feels so ESH
Right. He didn’t mention ever trying to call her and not reaching her.
I believe in rehab you don’t get much phone calls or phone access.
I would ask him what was she like on those phone calls?
I won’t leave my cat for 7 days. I can’t imagine 7 weeks without my children. If this is real it’s horrible
I think he is the a hole. One unless she did something while she was away you made a marriage comment you asked to spend the rest of your life's together. 2 he doesn't know what she was doing just as much as she didn't call neither did he. 3 you cant be a week alone with out you kids sounds like you weren't putting in the work in the child rasing department. 4 if she was suffering and needed that much of a break sounds like you were a bad partner anyway.
Sounds like rehab or a mental breakdown.
Dude... my Wife and I don't have kids and I've had to live a continent away from my Wife for the last year. I can't go a day without even getting a text from her or me texting her or video chatting every day! I would go bonkers without hearing from her. There's a lot that we don't know, but the whole relationship is sus...
So much context is missing that I can't form an opinion. Did OP try to reach her at all during the vacation? Did either of them think through what day-to-day life was going to be like for OP and the kids while she was gone? Was there a specific reason that it had to be seven weeks? Had she ever struggled with post-partum depression? And so on...I don't know, OP. Not calling regularly at least for the kids' sake is pretty terrible.
This honestly sounds to me like she's been deep in PPD for 2 years straight and he's given 0 💩 about her the entire time except for what she provides/does for him.
He's the kind of guy that's like "I don't know why she left" even though she's said so a bazillion times and pleaded for him to do anything to show he cares.
I'm sorry, but there is WAY more to this and I wouldn't be shocked if she was in a facility for 2 weeks to get the PPD cared for.
No mom of 2 littles leaves and then comes back after 7 weeks.
I guarantee that there's more. There always is with dudes like this
I can’t picture not talking to my kids/partner longer than 12 hours…… I wish I could talk to them at work and school 😂
I feel there were so many issues unsaid in this story.
As a single mom, with a very good coparenting relationship, I have a hard time leaving my child for 4 days. SEVEN WEEKS???? I could never, especially at their ages. And only TWO calls???
I’m curious about how he was supposed to do any work, before knowing that sister would help. Surely he couldn’t take 7 weeks off.
I wonder if the wife called the sister instead of him since she was the one caring for the kids🤔 There’s something missing
My partner and I have been together for 12 years. When they were gone for a week, they called everyday. It still hurt like hell everyday and even worse when it was time to go to bed. I got almost no sleep until they returned.
This couple felt none of this. I wonder if they ever were in love. Lots of people will bury their feelings "for the sake of the children." I suspect that's what happened here.
I don't like all the hate this woman's get for taking a break and leaving for less than 2 months there's plenty of parents that work away from home and go for business trips, months at a time. Making sacrifices for a better home life. Mental health is just as important as financial security IMO. Sometimes parents need breaks, she came back and she came back a better person.. not saying they have to be together at all, my feeling would change too. I just personally don't like the double standard that a woman shouldn't be able to leave her children for an extended period of time but it's not even questioned when a man does it
I check in with the Pet sitter more often than that.
Even without kids the 2 phone calls isn't ok. My bf and I text every day we aren't together. I still text my mom every day I'm not home. How do you ghost a loved one for 7 weeks and think that's ok?
Yep, there's way more to this story than what's presented.
Why didn't he call her?
Whether or not there's stuff missing, if a man pulled this everyone would be calling him the asshole. But because it's the mom, people are willing to give her the benefit of the doubt that's f***** up
As she is a stay at home mum, surely he pays all the bills, so could check where money was spent, while she was away.
He agreed? He told her a couple and that 7 was too much. He couldn't believe she went through with it. Ultimately he must've thought he's not going to worry himself or investigate her possibly cheating and may have realized he's ok without her.
Even if we aren’t getting her side I’d say abandoning your kids for 7 weeks defaults you to being the AH. Also people saying “there’s no way you could fall out of love in 7 weeks he just realized it” I call BS on that. If your partner abandoned you and your infant children for 2 months I think you’d probably have a lot of resentment to the point you would not want to make things work. His sister showing him he didn’t need his wife to take care of the children probably just made him realize he didn’t need to stay with her. I don’t think he’s indifferent I think he maybe feels like saying he resents her decision would make him an AH. My guess he sounds like a workaholic and they got distant emotionally after the birth of the children (she probably has PPD as well). She rekindled things with an old significant other from her home town and wanted to explore that option while keeping her family as the backup. Sure the rehab could be a plausible story but not communicating that still makes her the AH. In no universe is she not the AH. Even if the husband was abusive she left her kids with him for 2 months alone. She’s the AH and the husband resents her for leaving and that’s why he’s done. Sure there were probably issues before but leaving your family for 2 months immediately makes you the AH
If she's in some kind of program then I can see not being able to call home.
Sounds to me like there has been issues for a while and her time away showed him just how bad it actually was and how much better it could be
As others have said, I do think we are missing a lot of the story. Why could he not take care of his children for a week? This woman has had two babies back to back. Has she been getting breaks? Has he been focusing on his work and doing less than 50% of the domestic and childrearing labour?
Speaking very generally, most women will not leave their children for that long without good cause. Not going to say it doesn't happen but leaving kids behind doesn't come easily to our biology. I would guess that this was a last ditch effort to force her husband to be a father to his kids. If so, it didn't work. He got his sister (another woman, how interesting!) to do most if not all of it after just one week so he could get back to his work.
This is one where I would definitely like an update from the wife.
I can make so many assumptions about this situation based on the little information that OP shared...but it sounds like OP got a 7-week dose of what his wife dealt with for over a year... the only difference is his wife didn't have his sister come to save the day. I would really like to hear the wife's side of this. Because it seems like OP isn't giving the while story.
Unfortunately, some people truly don't want kids but have them anyway
He worked a fulltime job. I'm sorry taking care of a house isn't that hard.
if a man dissappears for seven weeks with toddlers in the house nothing would be said
THIS!!!
Yup!! The double standard is alarming.
OK ok... Here are my thoughts.
1. When I was having issues with a relationship with a guy, a friend of mine told me "love is like a plant, it needs attention, nourishing, or at least a little water so it doesn't die." and that stuck with me, we don't know if it was a realization or if it was actually being appart, what baffles me is the fact that she only called 2 times!!! And... Why didn't OP tried to call her? In this time and age there's no excuse to lose contact for 7 weeks!!
2. Thinking of a nasty scenario... What if the wife had an affair, or started an affair while she was away, and... She wanted to initiate s³x right away in case she was pregnant and wanted to pin it on her husband... Just saying. 😐
Kids were too small to leave for 7 weeks. If money wasn't an issue or she was postpartum, she could have hired help. I would divorce, too.
Unless she was in rehab the not calling except for twice is inexcusable. Honestly considering neither of them called the other except for twice in a seven week vacation I think this marriage is probably sunk. The husband just actually has come to the understanding that they are both indifferent to the others existence.
NTA. The boyfriend needs a new girlfriend instead of trying to force her to be someone she is not and I totally get OP's discomfort over the entire situation and the way it was presented.
Did he know who the friends were. Even if she was inpatient somewhere she would get calls and visitation
There is definitely more to this story
I like how no one is noticing that the husband didn’t even take care of the kids for a week and couldn’t handle it. Let’s put mom’s obvious failings aside for a moment and note that this man didn’t take care of his kids and the house that entire time like his wife has been. He broke down and got another woman to handle the household and the children for it because he can’t even get his shit together to parent his own children and care for the house.
It sounds to me like this vacation is the least of this relationships problems. There is no support between the two of them. I want to hear the entire story. Not to say that the mother is right here- even if she needs a break she needs to keep in contact. But there is clearly more to this story and the lack of involvement and parenting from Dad is clearly a massive part of that issue
He did take care of the kids for a week. He was overwhelmed between his wife leaving, two newborn kids, a stressful full time job and paying for his wife's vacation.
Is he not entitled to his feelings?
I have a stressful job that requires me to be away every week (airline pilot). If my spouse randomly left for almost 2 months and if we had kids (we don't), I would have a difficult time too trying to balance this life and keep a roof over our heads. You can't praise a stay at home mother and then talk down about the father who's the breadwinner, having to randomly take over the role of the SAHM AND the breadwinner, while the mother runs off to "find herself".
NTA. I was trying not to judge but it’s hard. the only type of parents that I personally know who take long trips and leave the kids with minimal no contact ….. are all crappy parents. My 1st kid turned 1 today couldn’t imagine being gone that long and without much contact. Plus the no daycare rule is not fair for almost 2 months .
I feel wife is hiding something. OP I feel is also withholding some info in the post. She definitely should have called WAY more often! Mom might need therapy!
Mom does a fucked up thing. Dad tells the story. Women: there’s gotta be more, I don’t trust dad! 🤣🤣🤣
What is accountability for $200,- Alex
NTA, but if you can fall out of love with someone in less than 2 months that says a lot there. She shouldn't have gone on that long of a trip. I can't imagine leaving my kids that long, and once the kids know how she willingly left them for that long will do a number on them. She was obviously cheating on him while away. There is NO other reason to only call him and the kids TWO TIMES in seven weeks~~~
She may be going through some type of PPD or the husband is giving her zero help. Women need breaks too 🤷🏽♀️ I bet if he added all the things he’s done it would be way more than 7 weeks. If men leave for weeks on end nobody thinks twice about it. I’m on mom’s side, women go through so much and men just don’t get it! We need breaks too!!
It's not a red flag for a mom to go on an extended vacation without kids sometimes it's necessary to keep your sanity. The real red flag is the fact they don't seem to check in on each other on any regular basis.
For 7 weeks?
It is absolutely a red flag to ditch your family for 2 months, are you fucking slow?
The assumptions against the husband in these comments are insane. Unless she lied to her husband about what she wanted to do on the trip ( concerts and see friend ) and checked herself in somewhere, isn’t that a red flag? Why not be honest with your husband. And people dogging him for not being able to handle his part by working and now her part and fully caring for the kids are delusional. Imagine if he took off for 7 weeks and the wife had to pick up a full time job and take care of the kids. Y’all would run that dude through the mud. Also the point about him agreeing with her going, he literally tried to convince her to shorten the trip but she declined, wth yall want him to do?
you keep saying that he agreed to it and while yes he did it was with reluctance. I know I wasn't able to leave my children for a couple of days . there's no way in hell I would have been away for 7 weeks.
I feel like ops wife might have checked herself into a treatment facility and was ashamed to talk about it. Maybe she wasn’t mentally stabled and was afraid of any self inflicted harm or harming anyone else. Didn’t want hubby to know so hid under the guise of vacation. If hubby broke down after a week, imagine wife being. A sth mom 24/7. Communication isn’t a factor with this couple and drastically need it. Maybe couples therapy will shed a light to what actually happened
I think it's fishy on both parts. He okayed her to go. Now he's holding it against her. And she thought taking 7 weeks away from Toddlers was a good idea. Everybody sucks here. When two narcissists fall in "love". She's more narcissistic than he is but I just don't get how you can fall out uf love with somebody that you have two children with and you're married too...... maybe I'm being judgemental? Maybe a lot of things have happened? Has she cheated while she was on this little vacation? Yeah I just don't know what's going on here it seems very crazy
Maybe she has post natal depression? Does he want to be a single dad? The responsibility if just one is really hard, especially at night. Need to talk deeply with her. Rehab might explain lack of contact
Everybody sucks in this one
Sounds like she might not of being well that’s a lot to have your body go through two years
No socials from her either? Even just generally?
ESH. The husband sucks because the wife felt she needed 7 weeks away - I have big suspicions that he wasn’t helping her with the kids or the housework at all. Especially since he had a breakdown after 1 week and needed his sister to help. The wife sucks because she couldn’t/wouldn’t communicate how she was feeling and what she needed. Maybe it was an in patient psych care for 7 weeks. However, if she felt she couldn’t be honest about her struggles with her partner and what she was actually doing, that’s more of a reflection of him than of her. The poor kids are just trapped between the two of them.
My husband is retired military and we have an 18 year old daughter. In the 10 years we have been married and the 18 years of being a mom. I have never been more than a few days without communication with both of them. I cannot imagine being a wife and mother and NOT being active in both of their lives. This definitely feels sus!
She’s the AH
I think they both suck. They clearly don't like/love each other. It's just weird. I've watched my nephew multiple times over weekends throughout his life, and I talked to her either call or text every day.
OP DIDNT FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH HIS WIFE BECAUSE SHE TOOK A MUCH NEEDED AND WELL DESERVED 7 WEEK VACATION HE NEVER LOVED HER TO BEGIN WITH HE WANTS OUT ALL BECAUSE HE HAD TO HELP TAKE CARE OF HIS KIDS FOR THE FIRST TIME WOMEN DO IT ALL THE TIME SOLELY ON THIER OWN BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO CHOICE OP WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM TAKING A 7 WEEK VACATION WITHOUT HIS KIDS WOMEN DO EVERYTHING MEN DO VERY LITTLE NEXST TO NOTHING AND THEY CRY THE WIFE WAS A SINGLE PARENT FROM DAY 1 MOST WOMEN WHO ARE LIVING WITH OR MARRIED TO THIER PARTNER ARE STILL SINGLE MOTHERS OP IS A CRYBABY I HOPE OPS WIFE TAKES HIM FOR EVERYTHING HE HAS IN THE DIVORCE
First of all, the capslock really makes stuff harder to read.
Secondly.
If a man went up to his wife and was like "Yeah, I'm taking a 7 week trip and you're gonna have to totally care for the kids all by yourself, and I'm only gonna call twice during that 7 weeks to check up"? Pretty much no one would be going "Yep, that's a great husband, you should stay married with him"
I'm not gonna pretend no one would say that, but it definitely wouldn't be the majority.
This isn't a gendered thing.
If you ditch your kids for 7 weeks of vacation and don't check up on them more than once or twice, you're not a good parent.
Agreed. I get this commenter's anger, but the fact this gets done to women all the time still doesn't make it ok to do it to a man. It's not ok no matter who is on the receiving end
@@TonySamedi And something that that commenter, and, initially Dusty, seem to have missed is that when OP's wife wasn't on vacation, OP was still working from home, meaning that he was available as a caregiver. When she left, she was GONE. She was NOT available to help with the kids. So, she expected him to solo parent for 7 weeks. I do think it has potential for ESH, just not for this reason.
@@icygubler Just curious...what is ESH?
@@live_troublemaker everone sucks here
Single moms do it 24-7/365. Why an exception for him?
Bad mom. Horrible wife. Move on.
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Everything is is suss lol everyone is an AH not the babies and OP’s sister to come help
Here’s a question I have: someone mentioned therapy - what therapy would prevent you from calling more than two times?
Wife is screwed. This vacation is going to look so poorly on her during the custody battle.
Did he "agree" or was he forced into an agreement? There's a difference. She's not trustworthy. If she can just up and leave for seven weeks at the start of their kid's lives, what's stopping her from doing it again and disregarding his emotions and feelings?
Also that comment about him not being able to handle one week... NAW! He's the ONLY person working. Of coarse his wife is gonna be primary care of the children. Not only did she LEAVE HIM, she left him with two newborns AND he had to work a full-time job with no help.
How can you summarize him breaking down after one week as his failings as a husband and father which caused his wife to want to leave?