The fact that she had to ask him weekly to pick up their daughter from dance, and when he didn’t get a text he just went straight home says a lot. She wasn’t icing him out of anything, she just stopped putting in the extra work that she was doing to compensate for his lack of effort.
The only time he expressed helping was when there were other people's kids being taken care of. He underpredicted the split in parenting they had and assumed it was equal, but I don't recall phrasing it as help, The whole time it was equated to equal parenting. You're putting impressions from other stories into this one.
@@death2boredom3388:08 “since our fight, my wife hasn’t asked me for any help with the kids” and he goes on to say that that was her excluding him, even though he shouldn’t have to be asked to be present or to “help”
The sad truth is that it was probably less work for her to do everything than to constantly remind OP to do "his share". I think that it IS essential for him to take on 100% of the family schedule so that he has an intimate understanding of how much work it is, and has a better idea of what an equal share should be. I will give this guy credit that he recognized his error, and wasn't okay with having his wife do everything. He actually wanted to parent, but didn't know he was failing.
I work in a predominantly female area and the number of times I hear women say their husband doesn't know the kids' schedules, they don't know their child's preferences and if they didn't tell them where and when to be they wouldn't be involved is sickening
It's not HER job to make sure HE does shit for his kids. If she has to TELL YOU what to do to be involved THEN YOU ARE DOING IT TO YOURSELF!!! You're a grown ass man FIGURE IT OUT
This is my X husband. He left us and expected me to drive to him so he could see the kid. Obviously, that never happened. In 6 months he came to see the kid once for 15 minutes. The kid cried the whole time and 10 minutes after he left.
It's sadly all to common. Mental load falls mostly to the women and the men pat themselves on the back because they do the work we assign them with mixed success. But if we remind them to do what needs doing too often, we are nagging. When my kid was in kindergarten I asked my ex to take over morning duties, since I was starting work from home very early. For him that was getting up 5 minutes before they needed to go, scream at the kid for not being dressed and not having eaten yet, then vanishing downstairs again until the kid was ready to go. So in reality, I could either disrupt my work to help the kid get ready before his dad woke up, or I could be disrupted by the screaming and crying and then help the kid get ready anyway.
Did he expect his wife to be a bad mom? He intentionally had 2 kids with what he assumed is a bad mom? And is surprised that she is a good mom? She actually gave herself 20 minutes (probably more) with all the time she isn't managing him anymore. I wonder why so many people think that their spouses are useless without them. Why would you even marry somebody you are convinced is useless? Projection much?
if you have a job where you can work from home, that is so damned cushy. Not going to the bathroom for like what 5 hours is not even close to what she does. What a man child. I’m glad that she stopped managing him
No offence, but this is what a lot of men don't get. Even if you do half of the load that comes with raising kids and maintaining a home, if that half is a result of the wife's planning, management and constant reminders automatically her load is heavier. And sometimes women feel like if I have to plan it (pick up, drop off, meals, schedule, b'day parties, medical check ups, etc), give you all the details (when, where, how, who, etc) and then remind you day before, day of, etc it's easier to just do it myself. And that is where resentment is born. Being a partner includes relieving you SO of the mental load, not just the physical load.
1:56 She hasn't gone to the bathroom all day either. You CHOSE not to take a lunch break. She doesn't have one. You get to have interactions with adults. She doesn't. You got to sit. She didn't. Yes, you care for your kids. AND, you both were working all day. One of you chose not to go take your mandated breaks, the other doesn't have any breaks. I'm not saying one works more than the other, I'm saying these jobs have different parameters, and one is a mostly thankless, unpaid work
Please note that 'preferring to manage things' is less preference and more trying to put out fires before they start. A person that prefers being in charge is usually just trying to stay on top of the chaos since the people around them think that poor planning on their part should constitute an emergency on the planner's part. You don't remind your partner to pick up the kids because it gives you warm fuzzy feelings, you do it so you don't get that call an hour after pick up time that forces you to leave work to get them yourself. Add in the irate adults and the upset kids and that reminder is your saving grace. Still think it's a preference?
Wow. He did it and thought it was easy,meanwhile he had instructions on "how to" . Just be proactive and don't be another child to take care of. Do things w/o being asked. Co-parent without being asked. Ask the kids and make a timetable then take it upon herself to do things . He sounds like "got it" , and now appreciates his wife. Hope it works❤
Hold on. We're not going to talk about that list where she listed out what she did and then he listed out what he did? What do you want to bet the OP demanded that she prove how much more she does by listing it. Like she had to justify how much she does for the family?
He won't. She wanted to be a working mom and he weaponized incompetence to get what HE wanted. She's a typical woman who thinks men can be "equal partners." They don't even see women as fellow HUMANS! I vote ESH, mainly because she was dumb enough to believe that she could "have it all." 99% of women in het relationships end up as single married parents. Yet they think they've found The Unicorn 🙄
Some things don't come easy to people. Like some are better with planning and managing the house and kids. The difference is when you recognize this and do better to learn. Just because it doesn't come naturally to you that doesn't mean you can't learn it.
WHAT, he is so not gaslighting her. My god he f*cked up and has done so much to try make it up to her. Maybe she also needs to step up and make it up to him for treating him like shit in front of their kids. Marriage is a two way street and it can not be just him trying to make it better.
Just by hearing this and having come from a similar situation this was a “married single mom” who got tired of parenting her husband and the kids and finally reached her snapping point. I had to do the same things and had to tell him like I would have to tell my kids what he needs to do every minute of the day. Of course he had a perfect like she managed him.
Take your wife on a trip and rekindle your relationship, leave the kids at Grandmas. OP running her a bath is so sweet, so glad he is jumping back in and showing her his love. AND OP you are not a waste of space or an ass you made a mistake, move on and up! So now he is going to work fulltime and do all of the organizing of everything is so not fair, Op is going to run him self sick. More team work sooner not later. Take time for yourselves and OP needs to forgive himself and stop overdoing it. Mental burnout will destroy you.
The idea that splitting bedtime, bathtime, and doing pick ups and drop offs is somehow an even or comparable division of child rearing is a little nuts to me. Maybe when she was working, but even then mom was probably the one expected to handle anything that wasn't covered by daycare.
What more can he do other what he was doing, he helped with pick up and drop offs, bath time , bedtime, plain just being a dad other stuff and working fulltime. If she wants him to do so much more she can expect him to burnout mentally and be of no use to anyone including himself. He is not the bad guy, he f*cked up and is trying harder than any man I have ever seen step up. This is sad and he loves her to bits. He is now just punishing himself to try to make up for saying something stupid, what is she doing for him or for them as a couple. I wish them peace and love in their marriage and I hope it works out.
@@karri8998 I didn't say he's the bad guy and she wasn't asking for him to do more. She was asking for him to keep an eye on the kids for an extra 20 minutes when she hit her limit on one day. He overcorrected on his "solution" and it probably will lead to burnout, but she didn't ask for him to do that she just decided to quit being the external prompt for him to do those things with the kids and he didn't like the result. He didn't like finding out that his parenting contributions weren't nearly as big as he thought they were because he was measuring himself against the deadbeats that make "married single moms" and not the entirety of the overall task.
He was wrong, but she needed to express her dissatisfaction before it got to this point. People cannot give you what you need if you don't tell them what you need. If you are unhappy, please, please give your partner a chance to help. If they refuse to help, THEN you throw their stuff out on the lawn and change the locks.
Glad they're working it out and working on it. Be careful who you procreate and build a life with. The little things you think you can ignore, is how so many divorces happened in the pandemic.
OP says his wife doesn’t enjoy child rearing. It sounds to me like HE is the one who doesn’t enjoy the child rearing. If he actually did more for his kids then he’d understand why his wife was so upset.
My mother is like OP’s wife in that she prefers managing everything, like she actually enjoys it and opposes anyone trying to step in or take initiative. Even so, she gets very hurt when she’s taken for granted, when people get used to depending on her and give up trying to step in. I have to remind myself to thank her and tell her I appreciate everything she does, and to make sure that she does get that break when she finally asks for it.
We don’t know that OP’s wife prefers it. You’re making an assumption. It doesn’t seem like she prefers it. It seems like she wanted a partner who puts in without her saying so every single time. She’s proven her husband doesn’t participate unless she makes it happen. None of that means she wants it to be that way or prefers it.
@@GwenApMannanan Obviously OP’s wife doesn’t prefer it because housework and childcare are work to her, but OP did say she “loved being a working mom and doing it all” - which reminded me of my mom. My comment wasn’t meant to imply that OP didn’t do anything wrong because his wife actually likes doing everything by herself.
@@14hoursahead I can’t read your mind and what you are trying to imply, only what you actually wrote. Which is that your mother ‘is like OP’s wife in that she prefers managing everything’ which was your very first sentence. And I’m just saying, from the story, I think you are assuming too much when you say that.
@@GwenApMannanan I know you can’t read my mind haha, which is why I explained what I meant. It’s a small part of a long, complex story with a lot of updates and I neglected to clarify exactly which part I was talking about.
OP is being a jerk PERIOD. She was taking care of 6 kids, she only wanted 20 minutes. All he had to say was "sure honey, just let me go to the bathroom really quick" no fight would have happened. He was being selfish AF. She didn't "ask" him for help? she shouldn't have to "ask" to be a dad. He should just freaking DO IT.
While it's great he helped earlier in the day I missed the part where she forbidded him to use the bathroom The I work hard comment is a slap in the face for 2 reasons 1. being with six kids is a LOT of work and 2.She missed her ouoffice job
10:12 ok at first I was like mom was being childish! Yes dad was being insensitive and hardheaded! But the update proves this guy is a goofball!!!! Get in there help! Get ur ass up! And he said she has access to my account!😂 isn’t it ur guess account! My goodness! This guy! Mom is a superstar super hero! She is it all! She’s all that!
Not even a single bathroom break, huh? Well, you poor put upon man. The pressure you must feel not to take a bathroom break all day must be just...tragically unbearable! You poor man. You poor, poor man. How does your wife not understand what a virtuous martyr you are? I mean, you needed to pee and put COOKIES in the oven. You saint, you! 🙄
Are you f*cking kidding me. He clearly does not sit around on his ass doing nothing, as you so wrote he was baking and he did and does a lot around the house. He sounds to me like a man who does a lot for his family and he is trying to fix his f*ck up. What is she doing to fix up treating him like shit in front of their kids? The man loves her and wants to fix the problem, A LOT of men would have walked out. I think you all forget he works full time , actually more than fulltime and still steps up. Shameful how women treat men like they are lesser on here, oh and yes I am a woman and disagree with how men are treated in these comments. Think about this ladies, do you want people treating her sons like this one day? Yeah the answer would be NO!
I don't think the wife "proving she can do it on her own" is the solution to "teach him a lesson" is a healthy way to handle the situation. There seems to be no accountability on the wife's part either. Everyone sucks here in my opinion.
I wonder if it's not about teaching him a lesson, but about her just being effing done. He is entrenching and being willfully ignorant of the mental and emotional load she carries and just wants thinga to go back to how it was before, with her doing all the emotional labor for the family. She may just be sick if hoping he'll show up and be a partner, so she stopped hoping.
OP sounds like a wonderful dad who isn't perfect. Everyone is dumping on him like he is some horrible father. I would have LOVED to have had my ex husband be anywhere as loving and as involved as OP. She sounds like a spoiled princess who chose to watch the neighbors kids and then expects to be declared super mom. Do they need better communication, yes. Is OP Satan, no. Is he an awful husband and father, also no.
ESH Yeah, he should have given her the break. But now she’s being a complete DB. She’s being petty and involving the kids, and that’s not ok. One comment, and she’s now turning it into a competition.
@@debyegge4289she was organising what he has to do everyday what are you on about. It's his own fault if he didn't take a break in 5 hours not anyone elses
I’m on OP side, if she’s not working and is a stay at home mom then it’s HER job to take care of the kids. He’s working not sitting on his ass playing video games
OMG how dare she asks for 20 minutes, OPs wife normally works so what are you talking about, she can ask for a break they're his children as well. SAHMs or Dads can ask for a break regardless. OP helped make the kids so whether a parent is working or not they're allowed to take a break.
ESH no one here needs to have kids. She didn't want them. When he does homeschooling it apparently doesnt count as time with them. Her choosing to invite her kids' friends over and keep track of them is somehow his fault even though it was entirely her choice to do that. Now he's too dumb to wake himself up or offer what to do for the kids so he can make a schedule and keep track of what he needs to do like an adult.
The fact that she had to ask him weekly to pick up their daughter from dance, and when he didn’t get a text he just went straight home says a lot. She wasn’t icing him out of anything, she just stopped putting in the extra work that she was doing to compensate for his lack of effort.
Here's how this should've gone:
Wife: "Hey, can I go lay down for 20 minutes?"
OP: "Sure, just give me a second to use the bathroom."
She is done being your manager. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Ugh, "just a mother" "just a wife" 🤬
Thank you. Exactly
He still has the attitude of "helping" her instead of feeling like his children are THEIR responsibility, not him "HELPING." UGH!
The only time he expressed helping was when there were other people's kids being taken care of. He underpredicted the split in parenting they had and assumed it was equal, but I don't recall phrasing it as help, The whole time it was equated to equal parenting. You're putting impressions from other stories into this one.
@@death2boredom3388:08 “since our fight, my wife hasn’t asked me for any help with the kids” and he goes on to say that that was her excluding him, even though he shouldn’t have to be asked to be present or to “help”
My first thought was he's definitely not doing as much as he thought and the wife proved it immediately
"She texts me to ask me to pick my daughter up, I do this every week".... Yeah, exactly.
@@samgay9571 I love how this is normal at home but not at work.
The sad truth is that it was probably less work for her to do everything than to constantly remind OP to do "his share". I think that it IS essential for him to take on 100% of the family schedule so that he has an intimate understanding of how much work it is, and has a better idea of what an equal share should be. I will give this guy credit that he recognized his error, and wasn't okay with having his wife do everything. He actually wanted to parent, but didn't know he was failing.
I work in a predominantly female area and the number of times I hear women say their husband doesn't know the kids' schedules, they don't know their child's preferences and if they didn't tell them where and when to be they wouldn't be involved is sickening
I wonder if his wife being "reasonable" was a lot of her forgiving his issues and him not trying to fix it.
It's not HER job to make sure HE does shit for his kids. If she has to TELL YOU what to do to be involved THEN YOU ARE DOING IT TO YOURSELF!!! You're a grown ass man FIGURE IT OUT
This is my X husband. He left us and expected me to drive to him so he could see the kid. Obviously, that never happened. In 6 months he came to see the kid once for 15 minutes. The kid cried the whole time and 10 minutes after he left.
It's sadly all to common. Mental load falls mostly to the women and the men pat themselves on the back because they do the work we assign them with mixed success. But if we remind them to do what needs doing too often, we are nagging.
When my kid was in kindergarten I asked my ex to take over morning duties, since I was starting work from home very early. For him that was getting up 5 minutes before they needed to go, scream at the kid for not being dressed and not having eaten yet, then vanishing downstairs again until the kid was ready to go. So in reality, I could either disrupt my work to help the kid get ready before his dad woke up, or I could be disrupted by the screaming and crying and then help the kid get ready anyway.
When she asked for a moment, the right answer was "let me go to the bathroom first, then I take care of the rest"
Sometimes we just misspeak,,, then sometimes it's more of a Freudian slip.
There's a really cute movie called "Mr Mom" with Michael Keaton and Terri Garr. I think all couples should watch it.
Lonestar did a song called that too. The video's adorable.
Did he expect his wife to be a bad mom? He intentionally had 2 kids with what he assumed is a bad mom? And is surprised that she is a good mom? She actually gave herself 20 minutes (probably more) with all the time she isn't managing him anymore.
I wonder why so many people think that their spouses are useless without them. Why would you even marry somebody you are convinced is useless? Projection much?
“Sure lemme pee” but we can’t all be 100% present and say the right things and perfect and stuff all the time
why do I have the feeling that you coughed "bulls***" lol
She BIG mad! Ive been there. Once a woman says, " Fine ill do it," you are already screwed.
Kuddos to OP for accepting criticism and trying to make things right!!!😇
if you have a job where you can work from home, that is so damned cushy. Not going to the bathroom for like what 5 hours is not even close to what she does. What a man child. I’m glad that she stopped managing him
She had a kid instead of a husband and proved it. I’m glad he’s deciding to fix that.
No offence, but this is what a lot of men don't get. Even if you do half of the load that comes with raising kids and maintaining a home, if that half is a result of the wife's planning, management and constant reminders automatically her load is heavier. And sometimes women feel like if I have to plan it (pick up, drop off, meals, schedule, b'day parties, medical check ups, etc), give you all the details (when, where, how, who, etc) and then remind you day before, day of, etc it's easier to just do it myself. And that is where resentment is born. Being a partner includes relieving you SO of the mental load, not just the physical load.
1:56 She hasn't gone to the bathroom all day either. You CHOSE not to take a lunch break. She doesn't have one. You get to have interactions with adults. She doesn't. You got to sit. She didn't.
Yes, you care for your kids. AND, you both were working all day. One of you chose not to go take your mandated breaks, the other doesn't have any breaks. I'm not saying one works more than the other, I'm saying these jobs have different parameters, and one is a mostly thankless, unpaid work
Please note that 'preferring to manage things' is less preference and more trying to put out fires before they start. A person that prefers being in charge is usually just trying to stay on top of the chaos since the people around them think that poor planning on their part should constitute an emergency on the planner's part.
You don't remind your partner to pick up the kids because it gives you warm fuzzy feelings, you do it so you don't get that call an hour after pick up time that forces you to leave work to get them yourself. Add in the irate adults and the upset kids and that reminder is your saving grace.
Still think it's a preference?
So he has to wait for her to call him to help? Instead of complaining just get in there.
Mommy has to get her oldest ( dad) to interact with the other kids
Wow. He did it and thought it was easy,meanwhile he had instructions on "how to" . Just be proactive and don't be another child to take care of. Do things w/o being asked. Co-parent without being asked. Ask the kids and make a timetable then take it upon herself to do things . He sounds like "got it" , and now appreciates his wife. Hope it works❤
Hold on. We're not going to talk about that list where she listed out what she did and then he listed out what he did? What do you want to bet the OP demanded that she prove how much more she does by listing it. Like she had to justify how much she does for the family?
12:47 needs can change also... she told him what she wants
Why do u need to be asked ?
He needs to realize he was being selfish, then he needs to grovel, and apologize.! And take some responsibily.
He won't. She wanted to be a working mom and he weaponized incompetence to get what HE wanted. She's a typical woman who thinks men can be "equal partners." They don't even see women as fellow HUMANS! I vote ESH, mainly because she was dumb enough to believe that she could "have it all." 99% of women in het relationships end up as single married parents. Yet they think they've found The Unicorn 🙄
I can't wait for my husband to realize this.. 😂😂😅
Send him this video 👀
Don't hold your breath. You'll just wind up passing out and giving yourself a headache.
Some things don't come easy to people. Like some are better with planning and managing the house and kids. The difference is when you recognize this and do better to learn. Just because it doesn't come naturally to you that doesn't mean you can't learn it.
This title created a DEJA VU moment for me. I remembered my ex saying the same thing. OOPS! I messed up by living my life just fine without him.
Man pull ya finger out! Do things she shouldn’t need to ask you for god sake
He's gaslighting her!
WHAT, he is so not gaslighting her. My god he f*cked up and has done so much to try make it up to her. Maybe she also needs to step up and make it up to him for treating him like shit in front of their kids. Marriage is a two way street and it can not be just him trying to make it better.
@@karri8998 I don't think she treated him like shit. She just stopped babying him
If you want your partner back YOU HAVE TO BE A PARTNER. Ffs
Just by hearing this and having come from a similar situation this was a “married single mom” who got tired of parenting her husband and the kids and finally reached her snapping point. I had to do the same things and had to tell him like I would have to tell my kids what he needs to do every minute of the day. Of course he had a perfect like she managed him.
Take your wife on a trip and rekindle your relationship, leave the kids at Grandmas. OP running her a bath is so sweet, so glad he is jumping back in and showing her his love. AND OP you are not a waste of space or an ass you made a mistake, move on and up! So now he is going to work fulltime and do all of the organizing of everything is so not fair, Op is going to run him self sick. More team work sooner not later. Take time for yourselves and OP needs to forgive himself and stop overdoing it. Mental burnout will destroy you.
The idea that splitting bedtime, bathtime, and doing pick ups and drop offs is somehow an even or comparable division of child rearing is a little nuts to me. Maybe when she was working, but even then mom was probably the one expected to handle anything that wasn't covered by daycare.
What more can he do other what he was doing, he helped with pick up and drop offs, bath time , bedtime, plain just being a dad other stuff and working fulltime. If she wants him to do so much more she can expect him to burnout mentally and be of no use to anyone including himself. He is not the bad guy, he f*cked up and is trying harder than any man I have ever seen step up. This is sad and he loves her to bits. He is now just punishing himself to try to make up for saying something stupid, what is she doing for him or for them as a couple. I wish them peace and love in their marriage and I hope it works out.
@@karri8998 I didn't say he's the bad guy and she wasn't asking for him to do more. She was asking for him to keep an eye on the kids for an extra 20 minutes when she hit her limit on one day. He overcorrected on his "solution" and it probably will lead to burnout, but she didn't ask for him to do that she just decided to quit being the external prompt for him to do those things with the kids and he didn't like the result. He didn't like finding out that his parenting contributions weren't nearly as big as he thought they were because he was measuring himself against the deadbeats that make "married single moms" and not the entirety of the overall task.
He was wrong, but she needed to express her dissatisfaction before it got to this point. People cannot give you what you need if you don't tell them what you need. If you are unhappy, please, please give your partner a chance to help. If they refuse to help, THEN you throw their stuff out on the lawn and change the locks.
Glad they're working it out and working on it. Be careful who you procreate and build a life with. The little things you think you can ignore, is how so many divorces happened in the pandemic.
OP says his wife doesn’t enjoy child rearing. It sounds to me like HE is the one who doesn’t enjoy the child rearing. If he actually did more for his kids then he’d understand why his wife was so upset.
My mother is like OP’s wife in that she prefers managing everything, like she actually enjoys it and opposes anyone trying to step in or take initiative. Even so, she gets very hurt when she’s taken for granted, when people get used to depending on her and give up trying to step in. I have to remind myself to thank her and tell her I appreciate everything she does, and to make sure that she does get that break when she finally asks for it.
We don’t know that OP’s wife prefers it. You’re making an assumption. It doesn’t seem like she prefers it. It seems like she wanted a partner who puts in without her saying so every single time. She’s proven her husband doesn’t participate unless she makes it happen. None of that means she wants it to be that way or prefers it.
@@GwenApMannanan Obviously OP’s wife doesn’t prefer it because housework and childcare are work to her, but OP did say she “loved being a working mom and doing it all” - which reminded me of my mom. My comment wasn’t meant to imply that OP didn’t do anything wrong because his wife actually likes doing everything by herself.
@@14hoursahead I can’t read your mind and what you are trying to imply, only what you actually wrote. Which is that your mother ‘is like OP’s wife in that she prefers managing everything’ which was your very first sentence. And I’m just saying, from the story, I think you are assuming too much when you say that.
@@GwenApMannanan I know you can’t read my mind haha, which is why I explained what I meant. It’s a small part of a long, complex story with a lot of updates and I neglected to clarify exactly which part I was talking about.
So instead of making an effort to include himself, he blames her ? Okkkkk
OP is being a jerk PERIOD. She was taking care of 6 kids, she only wanted 20 minutes. All he had to say was "sure honey, just let me go to the bathroom really quick" no fight would have happened. He was being selfish AF. She didn't "ask" him for help? she shouldn't have to "ask" to be a dad. He should just freaking DO IT.
While it's great he helped earlier in the day I missed the part where she forbidded him to use the bathroom The I work hard comment is a slap in the face for 2 reasons 1. being with six kids is a LOT of work and 2.She missed her ouoffice job
10:12 ok at first I was like mom was being childish! Yes dad was being insensitive and hardheaded! But the update proves this guy is a goofball!!!! Get in there help! Get ur ass up! And he said she has access to my account!😂 isn’t it ur guess account! My goodness! This guy! Mom is a superstar super hero! She is it all! She’s all that!
Not even a single bathroom break, huh? Well, you poor put upon man. The pressure you must feel not to take a bathroom break all day must be just...tragically unbearable! You poor man. You poor, poor man. How does your wife not understand what a virtuous martyr you are? I mean, you needed to pee and put COOKIES in the oven. You saint, you! 🙄
Are you f*cking kidding me. He clearly does not sit around on his ass doing nothing, as you so wrote he was baking and he did and does a lot around the house. He sounds to me like a man who does a lot for his family and he is trying to fix his f*ck up. What is she doing to fix up treating him like shit in front of their kids? The man loves her and wants to fix the problem, A LOT of men would have walked out. I think you all forget he works full time , actually more than fulltime and still steps up. Shameful how women treat men like they are lesser on here, oh and yes I am a woman and disagree with how men are treated in these comments. Think about this ladies, do you want people treating her sons like this one day? Yeah the answer would be NO!
Both are TA
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All he had to.do was just say sure, let me use the bathroom first. They both need to work on communication
I want to know who normally does the childcare when she's at work 🤔
Ah, grandparents and daycare
I don't think the wife "proving she can do it on her own" is the solution to "teach him a lesson" is a healthy way to handle the situation. There seems to be no accountability on the wife's part either. Everyone sucks here in my opinion.
I agree with this. I think they’re both assholes.
I wonder if it's not about teaching him a lesson, but about her just being effing done. He is entrenching and being willfully ignorant of the mental and emotional load she carries and just wants thinga to go back to how it was before, with her doing all the emotional labor for the family. She may just be sick if hoping he'll show up and be a partner, so she stopped hoping.
OP sounds like a wonderful dad who isn't perfect. Everyone is dumping on him like he is some horrible father. I would have LOVED to have had my ex husband be anywhere as loving and as involved as OP. She sounds like a spoiled princess who chose to watch the neighbors kids and then expects to be declared super mom. Do they need better communication, yes. Is OP Satan, no. Is he an awful husband and father, also no.
Op grow from a$$bag1 to loving husband and dad❤
I like his attitude to grow up❤
ESH
Yeah, he should have given her the break. But now she’s being a complete DB. She’s being petty and involving the kids, and that’s not ok. One comment, and she’s now turning it into a competition.
I totally agree with you. This bashing him only is unfair, she needs to communicate better when everything & everyone is calm about problems
@debyegge4289 it sounds like she tells him everyday whst to do and is sick of doing so. Straw broke the camel's back
@@debyegge4289she was organising what he has to do everyday what are you on about.
It's his own fault if he didn't take a break in 5 hours not anyone elses
ESH. She chose to watch the extra kids. But she still just get 20 mins. I dont see why you couldn’t have run to the bathroom .
I’m on OP side, if she’s not working and is a stay at home mom then it’s HER job to take care of the kids. He’s working not sitting on his ass playing video games
She fucking was working her work burned down you evidently don't fucking hear correctly
Somebody wasn't watching the video. Tsk. Tsk.
OMG how dare she asks for 20 minutes, OPs wife normally works so what are you talking about, she can ask for a break they're his children as well. SAHMs or Dads can ask for a break regardless. OP helped make the kids so whether a parent is working or not they're allowed to take a break.
ESH no one here needs to have kids. She didn't want them. When he does homeschooling it apparently doesnt count as time with them. Her choosing to invite her kids' friends over and keep track of them is somehow his fault even though it was entirely her choice to do that. Now he's too dumb to wake himself up or offer what to do for the kids so he can make a schedule and keep track of what he needs to do like an adult.