" To be silent the whole day long ,see no newspaper, hear no radio, listen to no gossip, be thoroughly and completely lazy, thoroughly and completely indifferent to the fate of the world is the finest medicine a man can give himself " ~ Henry Miller
I have come to the conclusion that the most pervasive and destructive feeling along these lines, is shame. In all aspects of modern life such as work, attractiveness, attainment, etc. the systemic expectation (that remains by design unattainable) serves as the basis of comparison, moral judgement, and control. And it is all internalized. There are so many people in my life who feel like they are not smart enough, haven't accomplished enough, are not attractive enough, not weathly enough...are just "not enough" and that shame leads some people to depression and others to rage. Some cope by overcompensation. Others just seek solitude and follow the path of stoicism. May we all extend some grace to each other and reassure those around us that they too, are enough.
@@Jhawk_2k I see the most damaging kind as that which comes from the situation where people seemingly "do the right thing" by working hard, being loyal, living well, and are still shamed and experience contempt.
@@BrandonFoltz for sure. It's the "I've tried everything and nothing works" that leads us to some of the darkest places. Believing that this hard work alone will make us worthy of happiness that can hurt us so much
No. Most people are not enough. And I'm not going to congratulate them for doing the literal bare minimum. Stop with this feminine emulation. You are a man. Act like one for the sake of your father's dignity!
@@Jhawk_2k Wrong. Shame is what kept people in line. Just saying its a universal evil that must be suppressed is suicidally dumb. You have been failed by your parents and society that gave you such nonsensical beliefs. Shame is healthy and it keeps people from acting like feral animals. I'd rather have people that feel bad about themselves than people that feel great about themselves and then they all flash mob rob the grocery store. They have many names these so called people. But you know who exactly I'm talking about. >Kids >Teens >Thugs >Youths >Mayors >Joggers Rascals >Parolees >Juveniles >Hooligans >Hoodlums >Squatters >Protesters >Teenagers >Pranksters >Youngsters >Ex-convicts >SUV Drivers >Party goers >Delinquents >Church goers >Young fathers >Jobless losers >Gifted athletes >Gang members >Trouble makers >Bus passengers >Aspiring rappers >Subway dancers >Repeat offenders >Lifelong criminals >Masked assailants >Lunchtime rowdies >Persons of interest >Restaurant patrons >Former NFL players >Community activists >Unhappy customers >Black Friday crowds >Troubled young men >High school students >Spring break partiers >Neighborhood bullies >Scholarship recipients
Worked for about 5 years, Monday & Tuesday nightshift(10:30 PM to 6:45 AM), Wednesday & Thursday free, Friday, Saturday & Sunday early shift (6:30 AM to 2:45 PM). Only I kept showing up half an hr earlier to help out in case the shift before me was being overwhelmed, kept staying longer to make sure I took care of everything, kept jumping in and taking over other people's shifts if they couldn't come to work, and kept taking on extra responsibilities to make sure problems didn't develop further down the line. My mentality was "Someone has to do the job, and if you can work, you will work", and felt ashamed of even thinking of saying "no" if I got asked to work some more. The two days off didn't feel like days off, since I was still thinking about work and trying to adapt my sleeping schedule to the shift I had next. At some point I looked at my bank account and noticed how much money I had saved up and how I have no idea what to do with it. I had no desire to spend it on anything, since... when would I have the time to enjoy what I bought for myself, but more importantly, I had no plans for the future whatsoever. It felt like I was working to gather money so it could collect dust. I surprised myself when I told my manager, seemingly out of the blue, I want to quit and not work for a while so I could figure out what I wanted from life. Even that I felt ashamed of, since I felt like I was abandoning my co-workers. But it was the best decision of my life. I had no idea what being relaxed actually meant.
Thật tiếc khi bạn không nói cụ thể công việc của bạn đang làm là làm việc gì. Nếu bạn đang làm việc và thấy tâm mình an với công việc mình đang làm thì tốt thôi. Như về thiền thì thiền không có nghĩa là ngồi yên một chỗ tĩnh lặng mà hoàn toàn trong lúc đang may quần áo, đang làm bánh, đang làm một công đoạn nào đó trong dây chuyền sản xuất,....thì cũng có thể thiền. Bởi vì, thiền là nhất tâm, một tâm duy nhất, không vọng tưởng. Nên khi bạn làm việc mà chú tâm vào nó, không bị phân tâm thì chính là bạn đang thiền rồi đó. Mà thiền là 1 trạng thái thư giãn rất tốt, ở đó không có niệm tưởng lăng xăng làm đầu óc bấn loạn, bị kích thích quá mức.
@@ngocthamhuynh9966 I had the same life as him and the problem was the all encompassing nature of the work. It left no time for relationships, friends or hobbies. I do agree that meditating at work and being in the zone accomplishing something hard was an amazing feeling. It was fun while it lasted but spending your entire life climbing mountains leaves a lot to be desired for other goals. For me it was finding love for example.
@@KevinVeroneauI quit my high paying stressful job and have been driving up the coast living out my car and i can deff attest to this. Sometimes we don’t need much
Me Tooooo when I was younger I really wanted to become a Yogi and I used to think life in Africa under a tree would be nice. But! Capitalist society we have to play the game of money. So I have a degree not rich and going to expat out of America in five ASAP now that my mom has passed safely. Can't sell my soul any longer for money.
For me, it was/is a fishing boat. As a kid I lamented the mundane drudgery, the hard work that seemed unending, only because I'd rather have been doing something else. Now, it's those times when "nothing" was happening; when it was just the sea, the land and the sky, uninterrupted nature, life and perception uncontaminated, the very stuff of the universe... that I remember so clearly.
"Man surprised me most about humanity.Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived." -Dalai Lama
There was a time where i truly did not live either in the past, nor the future. Solely in the present. I was so much happier. Was genuinely happy, for the most part. Now, being older, i find it difficult to not live in the past, nor to fear the future. Sadly though, if i had have worried about the future more in my youth, I'd probably be better off than i currently am? But perhaps would not have enjoyed the past as much? Sad challenge of life. That hit's home though. I lived so much of my life acting as if i was going to stay young and that things were going to remain the same, same things would be fun, nothing had to change, not too many worries or cares. I was wrong. And i feel quite lost. Something i fear a lot of today's youth will experience, more than previous generations. Lot's of people old and alone. After an extended adolescence.
Dalai Lama didn’t have a family or expenses or a minimum wage to sustain his family to worry about… Dalai Lama has no experience in being a modern family chief slave.
We live in a society where we compete to be better than the other person and over work ourselves day and night to one day wake up and understand it was all pointless. The Pursue of nothing..
Society cannot give you purpose, you have to find your own purpose in life. But society gives us the right conditions to self realisation. The extent to which we utilise these conditions properly is up to us.
@@Michael-ko8ufit definitely doesn’t give you the right conditions for self realisation. Working a soul crushing job only to have no energy to want to do anything isn’t the right condition at all.
Competition has the very negative effect of wanting to stop others from being as successful and knowledgeable as they could be, as well as making people work themselves to death to get ahead.
we are forced either to scam themselves or help a scammer called the employer. No other way in capitalism, that's why it is a rotten system where only certain sick type can thrive, the rest just tries to survive ...
be grateful to all the scientists, engineers, doctors who went thru burnout to bring the modern man, amenities like antibiotics, electricity, GPS, microprocessors, brain surgery. Imagine a world without anesthesia and repairing a fractured bone. Its time for you to put on your big boypanties, stop complaining about burnout, and carry on the torch...humanity needs you!
I feel like my eyelids are peeling off from the speed of change. I wish I could just step off this society rocket and share more love and make more memories I cared about. Instead of just falling forward for no reason
@@thesjkexperience I found the Buddhist philosophy terrifying. I actually think it is mostly right, but I do find the having "no-self" part a little too much. I think the truth is somewhere between "I have an intrinsic unchanging self" and nirvana.
I was burned out 3 years ago, and still haven't recovered. I gave everything to my work, but when the big sick hit I was shown what people really care about. I can't imagine myself working for someone else again, not even for myself.
if i may recommend, pls do: kapalbhati yoga, it'll open up lungs, for vitality to rise and burnout to recover.. for me as well it took a lot of time.. i got seriously drained, that memory went low, intellect became dull, n more.. this really helps heal brain n body
Same here. I just cant see myself becoming a salaryman anymore, it feels like i rather die and i prefer suicide to it. I have been like this since for some time now. I am really depressed and i get nightmares everyday. I wake up, having panic attacks. I cant meet or socialize with people anymore. I cant imagine being in any other place besides my house for a prolonged time. I dont have the motivation to do anything. Constantly, i am finding myself reassuring that suicide is a good option. I am convincing myself to do it. I told many of my loved ones about this and my battle with depression for 8 years. But everyone brushes it off, remarking i should man up and suck it up, find work, regardless of job. I just cant. People dont understand
I'm sorry to hear that. Since burnout is a symptom of how we are self-managing or failing to. Burnout is the result. Tips for burnout help start with an early warning system for burnout. When you notice yourself starting to lose interest in your business or work that used to bring you joy, don't wait until you can't stomach it anymore, taking action early to reassess your process, revise your time management and spend more time in energizing relationships will help prevent burnout before it takes over. When you're already burnt out, it is still possible to get yourself back to your former self. But you must start the rebuilding work from connecting with what drives you, what matters most to you at a high level. list those things and then start to craft steps to experience them in order from highest to lowest. You can absolutely recover and come back stronger than ever. I believe in you, you've got this!
@@brianstone4459 I worry that we don't always have the option of taking action. In this day and age of high inflation and cost of living, low wages, and the expected achievements that are mentioned in this video, a lot of people don't seem to have a choice about their time management or energizing relationships, even if they feel the alarms inside of themselves going off. That's why they've ignored them. Sorry to be pessimistic, but I struggle to necessarily find a solution to some of these problems.
Tao Te Ching - Verse 24 He who stands on tiptoe doesn’t stand firm. He who rushes ahead doesn’t go far. He who tries to shine dims his own light. He who defines himself can’t know who he really is. He who has power over others can’t empower himself. He who clings to his work will create nothing that endures. I like those eastern wisdom, so simple yet profound. I collect them in my channel as well.
Folks, make a priority to sit still in silence for at least one hour every day and just let your thoughts wander without interfering with them in any way, don't force a thought or resist any of them, just let them run their course so to speak. Same with the emotions, because once you start practicing this you are going to notice that a lot of bottled up, unresolved negative stuff is going to resurface and you just need to simply let them work themselves out and not push them away, they'll go away on their own, don't worry, you just need to give them some room to breathe. The key is (this is very important) basically to sit still and not interfere with any thought or emotion and just let them be. You're going to start noticing major changes fairly quickly in 2 weeks already if you do this consistently every day. I'm telling you, it's life changing, wish I knew about this years ago, honestly would've saved me a lot of misery. It'll literally feel like you've gotten rid of heavy baggage that you've been carrying around on your back for years and your head will always be clear with zero anxiety. Also, if you think sitting in silence sounds boring, it is, but only for the first 15-20 mins, then you'll naturally enter trance-like state which you'll find very comforting and you'll actually look forward for the next one, so don't let yourself be discouraged if it doesn't seem to work at first, give it some time and you'll be amazed what a wonderful blessing this meditation practice is.
@@bogdankarpenko6661 yeah the first 15-20 mins is kinda tough, ngl, especially when you are just beginning to practice it, your mind just keeps racing and it's very difficult to just sit there not doing anything. But if you stick to it, all that noise in your head will start to disappear and once you start noticing the overall positive changes in yourself it'll motivate you to stay consistent with it. It kinda carries itself from there on, you just need to kickstart the whole thing, you'll always want to go back to it once you see the difference it makes.
1 hr was daunting to me some months ago, so if anyone's feeling the same but would like to try it out, start small. Starting off with 10, 15 mins twice a day will lead to you slowly building a tolerance to complete silence. And journaling, in my experience, seems to be a lite version of this. Or it at least helps with being able to sit with yourself.
To the people in the comments telling others to not be lazy and stop whining, I'm sorry you feel you cannout express your struggles openly and in turn are irritated by others doing so. We all deal with our pain differently.
I developed depression very early in life, and then burnt out at 35 after a suicide attempt at my then work. It's been three years, I am on disability and probably will be for the rest of my life. I am a shell of a man, easily scared and quick to anger. I have been through therapy and prescriptions. I was on two or three pretty serious things at one time and man did it screw with my head. I don't know who I was at that time but it was someone who made all my friends hate me. Now I just try to live a quiet life, play some video games, watch come videos. Read a lot and go on walks with my head phones on. Just quiet me living my own life, trying to put it all back together.
Slow and steady wins the race. Ive been in a similar place. I've found reading philosophy has been tremendously helpful over the course of my life. Nothing fancy, just read some accessible books that can give you food for thought. Enjoy a few moments of silence, engage in some contemplation and reflection, and dont forget the great healing benefits of just spending some time in nature. Good luck on your path mate.
@@HarryKamal-c4d I wish I could tell you it gets better. I wish I could tell you there is hope. But if there is one thing I have learned, its that it only gets better if you make it do so, and there is only what hope you give yourself. I am here to talk, always. best of luck, one shell to another.
@@generalnawaki Oh I know it doesn't get "better". I have been trying to get better but trying to make ends meet on such a small income in a city where you need to make 60k to be able to live, with high costs of rent and expenses keep me in such state of high stress that the situation ensures that I will never recover. And my illness traumatizes me repeatedly and so does living in solitary confinement and so I am trapped in a vicious cycle. One can not recover when faced with constant stress. I play retro games, watch videos, cook, eat, jerk off, tune out, and just think to myself that atleast I'm not a wage slave anymore.
You're right. However, we are still the highly intelligent apes that we always have been. We are meant to live in small, tight-knit communities where we constantly receive social feedback. Now I live in a city of millions, most humans I meet I will never see again. Even though I agree with you ideologically/philosophically, without a steady source of positive social feedback from a community, to my ape brain, I have no value.
This “burnout” happens, because the modern mindset focus on material pursuits and achievements mostly, the spiritual and natural were completely thrown out of our existence, this is why even tho we achieve much, it all seems meaningless and empty
True, i used to collect things, materialistic non essential things, used to mean so much to me, now means nothing. I never married nor had kids, was never something i wanted nor felt built for, but now i can see that living without these things, i am also not religious, etc, so life just feels meaningless and just a repetitious ground hog day grind. And i am not wealthy enough to just travel or start a family now or etc either. Bought a house but my neighbors houses are all so close, jammed together, so yeah, there really isn't much "natural" about my life.
It's because there's a fear that people have and especially big business, that if we don't rush ahead we'll never reach our destination at all, so there's this need to go as fast as possible to ensure we make it there. Instead, a better idea is to thoroughly plan before moving forward on any ambition or venture, and work in a very relaxed slower pace, and focus on health and relaxation in life, in work and in vacation.
Currently trying to read Byung-Chul Han. His books are short but very dense. Wonderfully insightful though. I love the analysis of "self-optimizing, crafting our authentic lifestyles, and becoming the best version of ourselves", all concepts whose over-use now make me cringe, for the very reasons Byung-Chul Han outlines. There is a cult of self-improvement that keeps us all tied to a life of ever more striving and sees any kind of negativity as morally questionable at best.
@@EmbraceTheStruggle24 It's a commentary on how even the self improvement crowd has essentially become a commodity and how the book they're reading is effectively addressing those concerns because the book is self aware of this very problem growing in the self help community that seems to focus on striving for greater and greater abundance. That's why it feels cringe inducing to the OP how overused these self help terms are becoming since it seems modern self help people often are really trying to essentially spew out yet another form of consumerism to keep generating more success for themselves and others who become like them. My two sense is the underlying problem with saying for example you need to "manifest abundance" is it's a very unstable model at the core that people on the surface won't see because, compared to trying to be more mindful and minimalistic for freedom, having more abundance is ultimately based still on the idea of infinite growth in a finite world, a world which also always requires cheap and nearly slave like work to offload the material labour to allow for such practices to exist in the first place. Even if everything is recycled like it should be, someone has to manage all that "abundance" of waste to turn trash back into treasure. Will those people ever have a chance to do what we're doing? No so, to me, humanity's real goal should be to only consolidate power to redistribute it, meaning seek abundance to share it, not own it. Often self help stuff seems obsessed with individuals gaining power to only teach others how to gain power the same way they did, if they happen to actually share their real technique if it's truly more then merely generating wealth off the interest of others who want said wealth. If you connect with this message, it would be nice to see a like or a comment. In✌️and ❤
@@dr.laydude yes this was definitely well thought out. Believe you me ... I definitely was not attempting to spam or troll ... lol ... however I must say, that all of what you described is very accurate and validating on a whole bunch of levels ^_^
LAMO. You normies really can't handle the world. I've always always always hated telephones before everyone got forced into carrying cellphones. They had buttons. Do you what a button is you little zoomie? Ever actually dialed a phone number? You weaklings make me feel self esteem.
That's called a dopamine detox. I would like to try that one day> It's difficult to do all the time because banking services, bills and so on are now done digitally.
When I'm not into social media Facebook I'm more peaceful and can focus. I have twitter, no IG, no Tiktok. I'm only in YT because I wanna spread joy, enthusiasm, inspiration as well as my photographs😊.
When I worked at Amazon I took a month off for medical leave of absence and when I returned to work I had 4000 emails and 10000 chime messages waiting. Soon after I quit the madness.
I've been experiencing this burn out for some time now, it's gotten to the point where I couldn't take it anymore and quit my job. Doesn't help that I've been dealing with depression since I was a child and never really learned how to properly regulate my emotions so when those low times kick in, I'm a mess. Couldn't take all that pressure, and it hurt even more when I realized how little it all meant. I still feel empty and unfulfilled and I honestly just want to give up. Can't take this anymore. Decided to just use what free time I have now until I can find a job to just get back into my martial arts and try to actually just take a break. I'm so tired of all this.
I also quit my job because of burnout (I was a teacher). To be honest, I also feel worthless sometimes, as if there were nothing worthy to fight for. But after a while, I came to the conclusion that I don't know anything about life and that good and bad are often a matter of point of view. Many wonderful things may come in the future, some of them pretty suddenly. So, I just try to keep myself busy, think on others too and keep learning from life.
I spent 12 years working 12-14 hours shifts with no weekends off, on top of trying to work on a side hustle on my days off. I was always spaced out and could never enjoy the moment with my friends. I finally started an 8 hour shift and I realized how much free time I have now. I feel myself returning to me, I may not be making tons of money but it feels like a restart to finding myself and what I really want to do again.
I was working 12 hrs for a few years. No weekend 😔. I think it was stupid now. But I was a work a holic. As long as I was working I was a good person and I get ahead. Only I never did. 🥴
@@whatrtheodds Yeah everything I saved up went into 3 emergencies that happened separately within 12 years. Since I worked so much, I didn't have any time for hobbies or learned any new skills. My days off involved catching up on chores and running errands, plus I'd be so tired I didn't have the mental capacity for anything else. After the lockdown I was a wreck. I was completely burnt out so I took a pay cut and found a job with regular 8 hour shifts. My quality of life has greatly improved since then even though I'm making less. I'm currently studying for a certification in tech while enjoying the things I've been putting off for years.
I wrote something on this a while back that touches similarly to what Han noticed. "We are the hardest working slave and the most cruel taskmaster; all in one."
Actually we’re learning essential information and realizing that we’ve been living in a manipulated society to a degree that’s absolutely horrific. My phone allowed me the access too enough information that I realize we’ve been all lied too from birth about everything.
Đúng vậy. Nhưng không biết số tiền đóng bảo hiểm y tế ở nơi bạn sống thì như thế nào, còn ở nơi tôi, Việt Nam thì mức đóng tiền bảo hiểm y tế thì có thể chấp nhận được, và không cần phải làm nhiều để có đủ tiền đóng bảo hiểm y tế. Mà hiện nay tôi thấy có vấn đề là ở bảo hiểm nhân thọ. Có rất nhiều người làm việc kiệt sức như bạn nói để có thể đóng mức tiền cao ngất ngưởng để khi họ chết thì người nào đó họ chỉ định sẽ nhận số tiền đó. Trong khi hợp đồng thì lê thê, tiền có thể mất bất cứ lúc nào. Thật là, những người làm bảo hiểm này ăn trên nỗi sợ của người khác. Và thật sự chỉ khiến người ta sợ hãi hơn, tham lam hơn, yếu đuối hơn.
I was thinking about this the other day. The one way to get affordable health care in the u.s. is by making yourself a cog in some system, full time. And the only reason that was probably created.. Was most likely by companies that wanted their staff to stop dying from over working them. "Alright, lets give them healthcare, but we have to own them if they want it."
I am someone fascinated by history. I also have an absolute appreciation for authenticity and simplicity. Now, it's all so difficult and different. Society has nothing to offer us. No ritual, no authenticity or passion.
Bertrand Russell's 1935 essay "In Praise of Idleness" is cited to argue against the modern obsession with work. Russell asserted that excessive work is not only unhealthy and unnecessary but also a waste of life and human potential. He argued that advancements in technology have made it possible to drastically reduce the workday and workweek, freeing up time for leisure and personal pursuits. Russell believed that society should re-evaluate the value of work and prioritize activities that are not solely focused on productivity and monetary gain.
My dad is a good guy and his whole life has been to grind, achieve, level up, become noticeably better than they were yesterday. I’ve lived my whole 25 years of life in this way, and only in the past 6 months is this not right for me. It’s really hard to drop this line of thinking “the grindset” thinking. If I don’t work as hard, then I’m not valuable as a person. Well since I have been taking more breaks, and chilling out a lot more, I’ve been overall happier as a person! I don’t put as much emphasis on being valuable as much as I do having fun. Thanks for the video. I take it as a sign from the universe that I’m doing the right thing now :)
Especially when you see people who do 1/5th of what you do running the world and 1/20000000th as well as you would. You realize that’s not the best way to play the game
So true. It’s literally a kind of guilt towards the system and shame towards oneself for not being “optimally productive” Oh I should be watching this movie in the zeitgeist! I should be learning a language while playing a game so I’m actually accomplishing something! I need to listen to a padocadt while getting my coffee at the local cafe so I’m not wasting time! It’s all time wasted regardless of what you do. It will pass no matter what. So better to take it slow and be “bored”
there’s a lot being ignored in these theories. the idea that we are creating our own prisons is not necessarily true, and it once again shifts blame on the individual. the reality is that we live in societies that govern what we need to do. we can’t escape the systems we are a part of. so it is not us who are building our prisons, it’s our society and government. this is why people who live in countries where the government provides more for the people, have a better quality of life and more happiness. whereas in places like the US, where the structure is design to make everyone fend for themselves, we suffer. I can guarantee that if our societies / governments provided more to maintain our necessities, we wouldn’t be in such a rush to achieve.
Nope that's not it, the reason is that we stayed away from a traditional life of family, people are selfish,all they care is appearance and what are they perceived as,the capitalists government seek at every corner to tax you more,to steal and fund more wars all while your wages have stagnated for decades in purchase power,inflation is always high,wages never catch up,energy is always more expensive, governments always restrict you more in what you când do.
No doubt, agree. I think Han and some others choose the individual framing (or at least include alongside the systemic) to emphasize the idea of co-creation, which lends the individual agency. That idea being the individual does participate to some degree in the preservation of that society / system that dictates what is needed to survive by participating in it, even if begrudgingly.
I'm so lucky. Born disabled, therefore shunned by society and the people that make it up. Never been included, never had a job, never been loved by any other person, always been a reject. But I adore the beauty in nature, I have a disability welfare check that's higher than the US average wage, I get free healthcare, legal medical weed and no obligations to anyone or anything. I own a 4x4 and a bunch of camping gear, a camera drone, a nice DSLR for my photography and videography hobbies. Every day is a blank page for me to create on. And no, I don't feel the least bit burned out. Quite content and happy for every sunrise I get to see. Life is beautiful. People are terrible to each other though, I avoid them at all costs.
It is so nice to hear from someone who sees their freedom and takes it. I have friends on disability who are held down by the weight of their "shame" (but they have nothing to be ashamed about. Their good people.). They just feel that society has rejected them and it hurts them. It follows them every day. But they have unlimited freedom. Yes they cant afford super fancy things, but they can afford whatever they need and whatever they might want if their smart about it. They can self actualize totally, in any direction. Its, in a way, what you get for the cost. Some people would pay anything to have that. But that societies expectation just crushes them, even while they have total freedom. To me, it has become the ultimate example of how materials are not what allows you happiness. Your ability to see the freedom, and TAKE IT, is so deeply admirable. You DESERVE it. Dont let people tell you what is and isnt success. It sounds to me like you found it. The disability check is from people that care. People that are terrible to each-other are just scared and trying to act tough. Pity them.
I felt that i had to quit my job because of burn out ! Money doesnt pay health ! I lost a lot of money but now i have my focus again stop drinking stop partying eat good food again and working out ! Money isnt everything dont compare youself with others every person need to find their own PATH and just to try every day better and everything is going to align !
@@BlackJesus8463 the purpose of solitude is to find out whether one can live with their thoughts, for stimulation is only desired when one needs an escape from it
@@BlackJesus8463 for me solitude is really What is giving me Clarity ! Burn-outs make you wanna drink do drugs live Life reckless cause when you are tired of your daily rotine everything that is “bad” Seems to be a good escape ! Now im Alone yes but now i know my worth im learning to say no im learning What type of beahviour is not align with my better self in the end of the day being alone its all about lay low and getting stronger and better
I think people say "whatever happens in Japan, so goes the world" Japan is a great indicator of where the world ends up, and we are seeing this now. They went and are going through overworking, burnout and loneliness. Now the world is experiencing it. Also,getting a college degree and making good money comes at a price: overworking and burnout. Now a lot college jobs are basically no different than fast food jobs. I think we are really living in a real worsening dystopia. it is happening very slowly ,but we are still experiencing it. Too many unsolvable problems hitting society all at once and there is a "creativity crisis" and no solutions to fix these problems. It sucks. Climate change worries the hell out of me.
@@michaeljaymarajas8186how can we touch grass when we are all overworked, underpaid, depressed, hyper fixated, misunderstood, and only looking forward to death
@@46FreddieMercury91 its unnatural and shouldnt happen. Animals and nature end up dying. The arctic is losing land mass (ice) and thus polar bears barely have room to live Acid rain is forming in more places than china And many places are not equipped for the changes. Ie: snowing in texas. Cars arent equipped for any snow at all, thus causing many accidents. Or snow melting in alaska. Many homes are built on thick ice in alaska. Landslides occuring and ruining homes
I decided to increase my stress-resistance by working a stressful job (smart move, isn't it?) ended up being completely burned out and diagnosed with depression (on top of my already existing anxiety from the previous job). Now I'm hoping that my savings would be enough to renovate a tiny house where I would be able to live with my pets and work remotely or do some part-time jobs. I also want to get some chickens which is considered a wild dream for a 25 y.o. girl living in the city these days.
I genuinely mean it. You will be miserable, because women are not like men. That is the number one lie on this entire planet, anything to do with the dual mating strategy of our species. Have kids, none after 30 unless your doctor says you a genetic freak that is as healthy as someone half your age. I'm telling you. *You do not want to have a kid that will be physically and intellectually dependent on you until you die and they will soon die after you, this is what happens with geriatric pregnancies.*
i hope your dream comes true! I have a similar dream. I just want to retire early and live with a few animals on a little farm somewhere on an island in Indonesia 😍
20 years ago I helped place my father in the retort (oven) at the crematorium. Then, I did the same for my brother 16 years ago. As I drove out of the cemetery, smoke was rising out of the stack. The majority of people say, how gruesome ~~!! But for me, it allowed me to witness the reality of life in that we all "pass". I have an awareness that many people do not have, nor want to acknowledge. When in India, I saw the place where Gandhi was cremated. I relate seeing Shiva dancing in the circle of fire, beating the tambourine, which is the tick, tick, tick of time for all of us......
Bởi vì con người ảo tưởng sống lâu nên mới tăng tính tham lam tích góp cho thật nhiều. Người ta nhìn người khác chết, người trong ngôi nhà lân cận chết nhưng họ vẫn thản nhiên, cho tới khi nào người trong chính gia đình họ chết thì họ mới có chút biết mạng sống ngắn ngủi, biết mạng sống vô thường. Nhưng đó còn là cái chết của người khác, chưa ảnh hưởng họ là bao nhiêu, cho tới khi nào chính thân họ bệnh tật thì họ mới hốt hoảng.
It is different. The difference is we can map out its entirety and we have a lot of information to use from trial and error. We have been close to a society crash numerous times for 2 decades. The only thing keeping us a float is hope and societal organization
Except our society has lived and transformed through the industrial revolution, the information revolution and now, the AI revolution. These are just the big ones. A lot of technologies have completely transformed our socities over and over for the last 200 years. That didn't happen to any of the other civilizations in history. So no, our civilization is not going to simply fall and be replaced by a new one like the egyptians. Anyone who thinks it will fall and that they will somehow live to see the next regime is a dillusional fool.
Yes, every society can fall. But it would be stupid to say that societies are different and there is no difference between the fall of Ancient Greece and USSR. Different consequences.
I have watched many many many of your RUclips videos but this one? Byung-Chul has absolutely and profoundly captured society as it is today. Profound...absolutely nails the empty "vessels" in the world.
US metrics: Cost of living is out of control Rising grocery costs are 2x what they were 4yrs ago Utilities cost more Gas costs more Housing is absurd, imagine the choice of 500k-700k on a "condo" that also requires a 300-500/monthly HOA OR you can live 2hrs away from work Average car payment is 1000-1200/month Early talks of increasing income and other taxes Is it really a surprise that people are "burnt-out" and not caring about the future???
@lindyloohoo facts. Society expects us to have kids so society can go on but our society has made things so expensive that it's easier/better to just go childless.
I'd never spend that much on a car nor lease / finance it. I don't drive much though so bought some cheap (less than 8k the one I paid the most) second hand ones. Just to say that the video doesn't mention it (unless I missed it), but debt is another form of control 😅
@@Legrandcase Far East is not getting richer. They are in a worse spot than the West. In literally every measurable way. The whole southeast Asian prosperity thing, that's just a facade. This is literally the art of war, WORD FOR WORD! "When you are weak appear strong, when you are strong appear weak." Tell me. Does Korea manufacture quality products or shit? Taiwan? Philippines? China? No. They *mass produce* cheap plastic bullshit, cheap plastic parts that are not reliable, and pig iron not steel. The far East is no powerhouse, its a warehouse that nobody is willing to admit is completely ablaze.
Yes, everything is becoming more predatory. The problem is a lack of money and money management from government, company, banks, and other bullshit. The decline of society is real. Also, human nature is always biased about who deserves the most benefits.
After my mom died, I lost interest and faith in everything. I go out into the world and I feel invisible. Nobody cares about each other like they used to. Occasionally someone will smile at me but that’s it. They don’t even say hi when I say hi. People say I need to try harder but if I tried any harder than a Hello, they’d call me weird and I’m just so tired of it all.
I love my friends and miss the fallen ones, but it is absolutely true that people i met and became friends with had a huge impact on my life. Positive in some ways, long term strong friendships, at one stage a rather large social circle, but this was at the expense of me once getting good grades in school and playing sports. And replaced with things like drugs, alcohol, staying up all night and sleeping all day, even had other people get me into certain types of video games and on line gaming, anime, etc. All of which took over my life at stages. For better or for worse ^^; But yeah, you need to rid yourself of people who bring you down, keep you down, block your progress, leech off of you, etc.
This is why I gave zero fucks about money when making decisions. Like my pops says, “if you got a problem that money can fix, you don’t have a real problem.”
@@austinharvey9116 Nobody is starving because of money since food is plentiful and cheap. If you can't afford food then it will be given to you. Starvation today only happens because of war
“As for pleasures: once we have passed youth they vanish away, never again to be seen. 🌞 Death is the end of all. Never to be born is the best thing. 🎃 To have seen the daylight And be swept instantly back into dark oblivion comes second.” 🌻🌲🍉🎃 - From Oedipus at Colonus
I respect the comment, but from my experience I know some elderly people who have more energy and act younger than some of the youngsters today. Age is a state of mind firstly, obviously the body gets older but the mind can still remain young if your SPIRIT is strong Even myself grew up with heaps of body aches and pain, after practicing yoga for a long time now I have never felt younger :) thank God for this Blessing and my Bliss
Get roommates, makes a world of a difference on a small paycheck. I lived off of $800 a month about 5 years ago. Extra bathrooms and privacy are perks no one is entitled to.
@@stephosoinstead of thinking in entitlement terms, which are judgmental by nature… think of human needs terms, do I or they need this to survive or it can be done/lived through just fine without that ‘thing’
I find it quite coincidental that I stumbled upon this video just as I've been contemplating this topic recently. I've been pushing myself too hard and constantly burning out, and I've been wondering why. I always thought I had to be a warrior, relentless in pursuing my goals. I believed that if I didn't take action, nothing would happen. However, I'm starting to realize that this may not be true. I don't want to constantly be in warrior mode, relentlessly chasing after the next project. Perhaps this mindset was ingrained in me by my upbringing and society. This intense competitiveness is rooted in my upbringing and is tied to my fears. I'm making an effort to not push myself so hard now, but it's proving to be extremely difficult. I'm committed to this experiment because I can't keep burning myself out for the rest of my life.
Some might say "live the life you have instead of chasing the one you think you want". Time passes quick man, trust me... It'll be over for most before it even started.
If you find yourself enslaved to ideas about who you think you're supposed to be but find you cannot bridge the gap between those expectations and who you are, stop trying. You get to be the author of your own story. There are multiple ways to combat burnout. One of the first is to take control of your time. Use the 80/20 and make the commitment to eliminate in the next 7 days anything that represents a heavy draw on your time and energy, with little or no significant return. Reinvest that energy into recharging yourself and your batteries. Start there and there are many other useful steps to help continue to refine your pace and your life. You've got this.
I have suffered from mind-distorting anxiety and more than one depression consistently for years, every time I tried to achieve something I felt was significant, I had the rug pulled from underneath by these life-sapping conditions. Part of me also recognized that I seemed to be freaking out over trivial things but this busy demanding commercialized society also reinforced my neurotic obsessions. It appears that nobody escapes mental health decline these days and I think, finally I see what I have been hoping for, that somebody who is academically noteworthy will come out and tell everyone honestly that it is our social setup that is driving all of us insane.
You don't need to burnout if you never rush, and if you're working at a job where you need to rush, gradually find a way to shift to a job in where you don't have to rush.
I remember when I was 18 I had a job at a warehouse. Freezer Warehouse like -20°. After a year of work in 6 days a week 10 to 12 hours a day I asked for less hours. The boss lost his mind berating me saying all these other guys work just as many hours and nobody else complained. I quit on the spot and said well they can do it then bye. Dude look like he was going to have a stroke and a heart attack all at the same time. I remember him very well bald probably got divorced his whole life was just work. So I think seeing somebody else say hey work isn't the most important thing in my life really triggered him. I hope you found peace. I hope he figured out that money isn't the end I'll be all of life.
Gratitude in all things, small acts of kindness to ourselves and others, the joy of solitude and mindfulness in the now moment and Satori. Loving this journey of self discovery. Blessing to you and yours, shared your production with several of my contacts. Bravo. ♾Rb
That was another fantastic video, Einzelganger! I love how you noted the tormentor has become ourselves as opposed to the prison guard. And multi-tasking world doesn't allow time for true creativity to create great things - well at least you have. Keep them coming!
Western society is two headed, We can choose hyper achievement or be subject to the same old authoritarianism We’ve replaced parenthood with narcissism and imposed greater authority, we live in fear of humiliating failure while we imagine surreal success
OMG are you kidding me? The parents are the biggest ass "narcissists" that I know. Their babies and children have become "accessories" - you know the Baby Bump, the Babymoon, the look what "I" made early days, the running buggies, the post-baby fitness classes, the pregnant Yoga classes, the baby clothing, the Instagram and Facebook pages. Barf.
"When someone takes a break these days, it's often something like binge-watching a series on Netflix while checking one's phone, with music in the background" This is becoming a serious issue; I don't know about not being able to endure boredom, the people I've heard defending this say they're trying to manage their anxiety to the point that they can't fall asleep without all of that.
We’re not in an achievement society we’re in a consumer society and most of the advantages you attribute to it are only available if the individual can afford it.
@@kin-of-orakio Spare me the exploitation angle. That just screams to anyone clued in that you are a perpetual victim. Explorative is the wording used by weaklings. You have to articulate what is wrong with regulations and anti-competitive lobbying. Those are both exploitation but if you use that word people will rightly ignore everything you say. Nobody cares about your sex life or the color of your skin, its not an argument.
I guess the Korean dude wrote about what he sees in Korea, but the world couldn't be less homogeneous. Here in Hungary, for instance, the gov is a corrupt tyrant / mafia. In Communism, everything was state-owned. The moment we adopted Capitalism, the new elite took everything into private ownership (for free) under the slogan "The state is a bad (read: extremely inefficient) owner/operator." They made sure there was no way of entry into their markets for outside independent parties. This continues to this day. The result is that there is no motivation of any kind to perform. You do the absolute minimum in your job, because there is no competition, only cartels that arbitrarily set prices, therefore there is no reason to perform. And there is not a damn thing people will do about it until they have their basic needs met and are kept "safe".
Respectfully disagree. Society is what you make it. If your only motivation is getting the new iPhone, you'll view it as consumer. If your motivation is getting a great promotion at work, or building a business, you'll view it as achievement. It's all personal perspective.
I’ll add my experience as a late diagnosed autistic adult. I escaped a traumatic and neglect filled religious fundamentalist childhood and went on to graduate from big ten university with 3.8 GPA, made it all the way to 🍎. Autistic burnout is NOT plain burnout and is often medically mediated. It’s from being forced to live in a stigmatized and discriminatory society, years of perpetuation. It’s from being forced to communicate with the most willfully ignorant, low consciousness, credentialed people who run the world. I’ve had 9 lawyers in the last decade to fight discrimination cases, won two through EEOC. Been assaulted by police because of my autism. So naturally one would burn out in a society committed to ignoring and abusing us. 13x higher suicide rate in my community.
Something'll have to give at some point. There's a lot of shame forced down our throats by default for wanting something different out of life, and I can barely begin to imagine how being different without knowing it adds to that. Again, good luck to you. It's also nice to seeing you here as well.
@@anthoras Oh yes, I do recall your other message, which I was too sick to reply to a couple of weeks ago. I'm not sure what you think has to give and at what point you are thinking. Your other comment indicated I may be stuck in victimhood, not taking responsibility for myself. I don't owe any justifications and don't feel inclined to divulge more personal details, but know that's not the case. I don't take the shame down the throat- that's one of the characteristics people don't like about autism is I don't pull any punches or beat around the bush. It's not that I want something different out of life. It's that my neurotype and medical conditions are different and are not mirrored back to me, so I always chart my own course by necessity.
@@SideB1984I realized while writing this that it's unclear what group I'm referring to. "We" as in humans. I was referring to burnout. If we keep doing something because we think we should, rather than because we actually want to, our lives will begin to deteriorate. And that something that'll have give will either be our tolerance of it (and we stop doing it), or our wellbeing (and we "break down" in some way). If we're being forced to, then it'll be both, which will be worse, since we don't have agency. I wasn't trying to make any implications in that comment (and that's what I was trying to avoid), I only meant it as a warning of a mistake that I made out of... hatred, at that point. What I meant in my comment here is that a pretty good chunk of people imply that we're wrong for not wanting to follow the "best" path, or some social norm. For not caring about having the best paying job, for not caring about having a degree, for not wanting to sit in class for 8 hrs / day memorizing what is basically trivia and then not wanting to do the same thing again when we finally get the opportunity to do something else. That's what I meant by "something different out of life." And I've been shamed for simply liking or being drawn to different things than what others liked or were drawn to. So I was trying to imagine what having to deal with that, what seems to me to be a default level of shaming, plus the stigma must be like.
Oh this is me after a year losing my job and going to the doc to see what the hell happened I was misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety and I believed her but after a year of no work trying all these medication I took a rash decision and moved to London and now I went to my new doc it turns out I have ADHD now it all makes sense and it feels like a massive weight off my shoulder. After years feeling like a failure it was just a fault with mind and now I’m on the mend and I can see the future again!
I used to be in a corporate culture of go go go go go. About 5 years ago I had enough of that so I sold all my stocks, investments, cashed out my retirement, and sold everything that I could sell like my house and cars. I thought a bunch of rentals and quit my Cobra job. I am now much much much much much much happier not working for anyone else. I take my time to do things incorporate at my own leisure. Even waking up in the morning I wake up not by an alarm clock but buy just naturally waking up at whatever time. In other words my life has slowed down greatly and I love it
@@ahmedfiasco6412 alright, fair, but I was hoping for a more in-depth understanding of what it means. This is like answering the question "What is burnout?" with "It's feeling exhausted." It doesn't really say much
Let's not forget that this society is like this because of the government and millionaires. If we had true freedom, we wouldn't need to work 80 hours a week just to barely pay for rent and bills.
The "expectations" of being successful sometimes choke me ngl. I want to become an artist but I stopped posting my art on social medias because attaining popularity was poisoning my mind and I gave up not only to protect myself but also because "there are so many artists out there and I'm not contributing anything meaningful/unique in this world. The world would be better off without me"
This hit the nail on the head my friend, I do not subscribe to the capitalistic world we've been thrown into, and it's odd to look around at how many are completely "lost in the sauce" as I like to say haha. Thank you for taking the time to create such intricate videos, it shows.
as a corporate lackey and gym rat, this hit home powerfully. I'm often bothered by an "intrusive" thought: what does my life mean? Too many of today's doctors treat this as a symptom rather than a valid existential concern.
This is so relevant for our time! Why aren’t more people talking about this!! We are all living in this capitalist prison pursuing that ever moving end goal and before we know it life is over
Its genuinely not capitalism. You have been mislead. You are now further away from understanding the nature of reality than you were before having watched this video. I know that will sound bizarre, I know you will want to disagree and argue. But it is true. This is literally how the system consumes people, and you're following the steps to the dance perfectly. Is that really what you want? To be entrapped by the features of the prison you scream that you want to escape from? Cus that's what you're doing. Getting deeper into the hole.
An expectation of constant improvement is going to be there whether capitalism is there or not. It sucks being a Korean, north or south because of work culture. At least in capitalism you get to keep your stuff instead of working for some bizarre utopian worker’s paradise that will never exist.
Man you described what I have been doing for the last 20 years. I achieved a lot, but I am so burned out that I can’t even talk to people without getting exhausted in a matter of minutes…. And I was asking god for some material about the burnout and here it is
My brain 'broke' a little more than a year ago after ~20 years of striving, culminating in back-to-back months of over 80-hour intense weeks at work (while raising / helping to homeschool three children and being involved in leadership in a church my family helped to plant in a rural area over the last 15 years). I don't know how I am going to stay on the hamster wheel long enough to see the kids finish growing up and moving out, let alone until 'retirement' (which I am not confident will exist). There is a lot more to the story, but there was a period of time last year when I became suddenly unable to even do the most basic tasks at work despite sitting at a desk all day trying to force myself. (I'm a computer programmer.) My brain would 'shut down' within minutes of any beginning of an effort. I have not been the same since. I was miraculously able to hold on to the job - which subsequently almost went bust, lost more than half of my pay in the last year, but that is also another story - but I no longer have the ability to process / problem solve / burn through solutions over extended timelines like I used to. If I can't somehow keep this gig or something similar (with restored income...) for the next decade or more, we cannot continue to live the way we do (with my wife able to devote full time to management of home / projects and the children's education). But I feel like my life's energy is already spent.
@@valkyrie5948 Studies have revealed that while using constructs in your brain reinforces them, overusing them actually causes them to degrade and have the opposite effect of practising something. Over long periods of time, like years, those structures will slowly die from overuse and you will literally lose a capacity you had from doing it to much. Like overworking a muscle to death. Worse, if you are hard burned out, and you take a break and dont use the constructs, they often just die. Meaning in order to do the same thing again, you need to start from scratch. In order to actually recover from burnout, you need to stop doing what is causing the burnout, but then do "very light exercise" of that thing, in order to bring it slowly back to life. Thats where the brain is broken feeling is comming from. It is. Your literally destroying yourself, and if you go far enough, a break wont even be the solution. Youll need the rehab I mentioned above.
Great video! I am adding this book to my reading list. The concept reminds me of Thoreau's words, paraphrased as a person is rich in proportion to the things they can let alone. To me, the way out is awareness and a blend of hard work, to a point, combined with intentional minimalism. Similar to the topic discussed, it's no wonder society has so many autoimmune diseases. I am sure this is not the only reason, but it certainly makes you wonder. Chronic distress is self sabotaging. I can certainly relate that the modern world is overstimulating for me and I find great solace in nature away from it all for a majority of the time, a reversal of what is considered "normal".
Many of us are more connected to self then ever. And it's best feeling in the world. You realize many things you believed aren't really true. I healed my addictions, depression, ptsd, anxiety with energy work and no meds. Not saying was easy, it was rather slow change but so worth it! I hope we all find our way to be who we came to be ❤
19:05. As a 56 year old woman, the gym is my happy place (I go when it's empty) and it's to maintain health, not for posing or attracting a mate. That being said, I gave my notice to step down from a managerial role, as I can't abide the corporate BS. I'm totally burnt out. I'm not depressed, I'm just so tired, and there's no joy. Hence the gym for endorphin hit. I'm saving this video, as it's so eloquently on point. Thank you 🙏
This honestly might be my favorite video so far. This needs to be addressed more than anything! I wish anyone would be willing to have these conversations.
Brilliant video. I love the idea that multitasking, especially in work/business means that there is no space for creativity and therefore no new ideas. I wonder if AI will replace or reduce the multitasking jobs and leave more space for creative roles. I spent 5 days camping solo in the bush in an area with no phone reception so all I had was food, fire and nature to walk around in and observe. New ideas for music, writing and for my life popped into my head after 2-3 days and when I returned I was invigorated and fresh.
Tôi không biết AI có làm được việc thay thế hoặc giảm bớt các công việc đa nhiệm cho con người không. Nhưng trước mắt tôi thấy nó đã đang thêm vào một công việc cho con người là theo dõi nó, học sử dụng nó, trang bị máy móc, thiết bị, lại thêm công việc cho con người và thêm thứ kích thích con người. Và bất cứ thứ gì thì cũng không nằm ngoài vô thường, hợp rồi tan bất cứ lúc nào. Nên tôi biết AI sẽ sập bất cứ lúc nào, khi con người đã lệ thuộc vào nó mà nó lại "sập" thì con người càng trở nên trống rỗng, mệt mỏi đến tê dại.
I think the biggest reason for this is that employers are back in power now, because of the bad market conditions they know that people are trapped and they can ask anyone to do overtime or do more work and cannot reject due to fear of being fired.
@@bobbyverma94yahoo I still don't do overtime. I just found that their products are non-compliant with some laws, and now I get the best treatment there is
Yup, that is the case and that is so true. This is actually what I'm going through right now. I never thought I would be working back in the warehouse. I was trying to get a job with of the bank Since I worked with this same bank before as a contractor, But they keep telling me they found somebody better than me. And they give me these rejection letters. So,here I , I am thankful that I have a job at least. Lower pay less hours, but it's something to help give towards my family and I have no car either anymore.That broke down last year. So I take Uber to work, but I try to walk everywhere when I need to go to the store. This goes against everything I try to do to save money. But yes, I still have my health and I'm here helping my parents as much as I can, since they're older now. Trying to keep focus to learn more on about my purpose.
I am going to look for The Burnout Society on my next trip to my local independent bookstore. Or have them order it for me. Thanks for this video. Very thought provoking ideas.
Wow, I didn't expect anyone serious on youtube would bring this subject to light. I'm extremely thankful to this channel for this and many other videos. It's important to remember about the pros and cons of current system.
Wow, nice one. Dramatic ending. Most of these ideas are also elsewhere. Cal Newport is an example of proponents that say the modern culture of productivity and hyper attention is actually less productive and more stress inducing. He reminds us that we will be remembered for our main achievements, and those hard things take time and focus and deep thought. He blasts corporate culture and helps people find techniques to move away from this. I did hear an idea I hadn’t before. The diagnosis of depression as a response to the stress to be productive seems very believable to me, and an original thought. It can explain why depression is so ubiquitous today, whereas not common in yesteryear.
Your videos are always 100% spot on. Im glad a couple months ago, i started realising where society is going, and making changes in my life on a deeper level to stay ahead of everyone else. I used to work as many hours as i could for as much money, now im trying to get as much as i can while working as little. Trying to do more with less, and stop trying to trade time for dollars and trade time for happiness instead. Our society is going further and further into debt, not just financially.... and i have no desire to be a part of a future like that
I’m afraid it’s not as simple as that, you see we also go into this way of life because of the reality our world has been facing that’s always been there, even if you go back to face to face, we will almost never know exactly how to solve society’s issues that make us turn to the phone in the first place.
@@BlackJesus8463 What's in it for me? I unapologetically put a price on my labour and contribute to not providing more labour by not having kids. Lower the supply to increase the demand and then you have a market you can exploit.
The problem also stems from the fact that our society values ambition and devalues its absence. A lot of people just want to live a quiet life, have a job that's often food, do things they enjoy, spend time with friends and family, maybe it's routine, but a lot of people enjoy it. The problem is that social pressure pushes people to pursue goals, be they economic, celebrity etc., when this doesn't make them happy - quite the contrary.
If i had to guess, I would say your naturally chilled out state was being hit with all the bullshit of the world, and instead of reacting you stayed chilled, but the emotion built up in your nervous system and now you're over reacting to any stimulus that touches it, super sensitive and getting triggered (not saying that in a derogatory way). You gotta process and release the emotion out in a private setting eg 😡/😭 but mainly 😭 tbh
Part of my challenge is that when I breath and look around, I recognize I live in paradise (certainly when compared against someone's life a 100 or 200 years ago and increasing the further back you go.) I am safe, I have food, I am healthy, I have money in my wallet, I have AC and heat, I have clean water, shelter from the elements,.. but it often feels like (not realistically but feels,) it can be taken away quickly if I don't continue to spin. Then I get angry at myself for not appreciating the paradise I live in and that my complaints are petty. I beat myself up for not achieving more or being more given the paradise of options available. Fitter, smarter, more friends, more caring, more giving... I retreat within because I don't have the energy to do all the 'I should' or beat myself up when I fail to workout or eat right. Then I remind myself, its ok, I live in paradise, relax... and the cycle begins to repeat.
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" To be silent the whole day long ,see no newspaper, hear no radio, listen to no gossip, be thoroughly and completely lazy, thoroughly and completely indifferent to the fate of the world is the finest medicine a man can give himself "
~ Henry Miller
he was on to something.
I'm going back and hopefully adopting a 80s type of life.
Going retro. Reduce technology as much as possible
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@@RedpillPortugal They had technology in the 80s. It wasn't _that_ long ago.
@@RedpillPortugal 1880'S
"Why are we trying so hard to survive... when we're too dead to live..."
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Nails it.
I have come to the conclusion that the most pervasive and destructive feeling along these lines, is shame. In all aspects of modern life such as work, attractiveness, attainment, etc. the systemic expectation (that remains by design unattainable) serves as the basis of comparison, moral judgement, and control. And it is all internalized. There are so many people in my life who feel like they are not smart enough, haven't accomplished enough, are not attractive enough, not weathly enough...are just "not enough" and that shame leads some people to depression and others to rage. Some cope by overcompensation. Others just seek solitude and follow the path of stoicism. May we all extend some grace to each other and reassure those around us that they too, are enough.
Shame is a dirty fuel too. It can motivate us to change, but we end up worse off for it
@@Jhawk_2k I see the most damaging kind as that which comes from the situation where people seemingly "do the right thing" by working hard, being loyal, living well, and are still shamed and experience contempt.
@@BrandonFoltz for sure. It's the "I've tried everything and nothing works" that leads us to some of the darkest places. Believing that this hard work alone will make us worthy of happiness that can hurt us so much
No. Most people are not enough. And I'm not going to congratulate them for doing the literal bare minimum. Stop with this feminine emulation. You are a man. Act like one for the sake of your father's dignity!
@@Jhawk_2k Wrong. Shame is what kept people in line. Just saying its a universal evil that must be suppressed is suicidally dumb. You have been failed by your parents and society that gave you such nonsensical beliefs. Shame is healthy and it keeps people from acting like feral animals.
I'd rather have people that feel bad about themselves than people that feel great about themselves and then they all flash mob rob the grocery store. They have many names these so called people. But you know who exactly I'm talking about.
>Kids
>Teens
>Thugs
>Youths
>Mayors
>Joggers
Rascals
>Parolees
>Juveniles
>Hooligans
>Hoodlums
>Squatters
>Protesters
>Teenagers
>Pranksters
>Youngsters
>Ex-convicts
>SUV Drivers
>Party goers
>Delinquents
>Church goers
>Young fathers
>Jobless losers
>Gifted athletes
>Gang members
>Trouble makers
>Bus passengers
>Aspiring rappers
>Subway dancers
>Repeat offenders
>Lifelong criminals
>Masked assailants
>Lunchtime rowdies
>Persons of interest
>Restaurant patrons
>Former NFL players
>Community activists
>Unhappy customers
>Black Friday crowds
>Troubled young men
>High school students
>Spring break partiers
>Neighborhood bullies
>Scholarship recipients
Worked for about 5 years, Monday & Tuesday nightshift(10:30 PM to 6:45 AM), Wednesday & Thursday free, Friday, Saturday & Sunday early shift (6:30 AM to 2:45 PM). Only I kept showing up half an hr earlier to help out in case the shift before me was being overwhelmed, kept staying longer to make sure I took care of everything, kept jumping in and taking over other people's shifts if they couldn't come to work, and kept taking on extra responsibilities to make sure problems didn't develop further down the line.
My mentality was "Someone has to do the job, and if you can work, you will work", and felt ashamed of even thinking of saying "no" if I got asked to work some more. The two days off didn't feel like days off, since I was still thinking about work and trying to adapt my sleeping schedule to the shift I had next.
At some point I looked at my bank account and noticed how much money I had saved up and how I have no idea what to do with it. I had no desire to spend it on anything, since... when would I have the time to enjoy what I bought for myself, but more importantly, I had no plans for the future whatsoever. It felt like I was working to gather money so it could collect dust.
I surprised myself when I told my manager, seemingly out of the blue, I want to quit and not work for a while so I could figure out what I wanted from life. Even that I felt ashamed of, since I felt like I was abandoning my co-workers.
But it was the best decision of my life. I had no idea what being relaxed actually meant.
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Can you give me some money that u have earned, so I can fulfill my desires and then I will become desireless
Thật tiếc khi bạn không nói cụ thể công việc của bạn đang làm là làm việc gì.
Nếu bạn đang làm việc và thấy tâm mình an với công việc mình đang làm thì tốt thôi. Như về thiền thì thiền không có nghĩa là ngồi yên một chỗ tĩnh lặng mà hoàn toàn trong lúc đang may quần áo, đang làm bánh, đang làm một công đoạn nào đó trong dây chuyền sản xuất,....thì cũng có thể thiền. Bởi vì, thiền là nhất tâm, một tâm duy nhất, không vọng tưởng.
Nên khi bạn làm việc mà chú tâm vào nó, không bị phân tâm thì chính là bạn đang thiền rồi đó. Mà thiền là 1 trạng thái thư giãn rất tốt, ở đó không có niệm tưởng lăng xăng làm đầu óc bấn loạn, bị kích thích quá mức.
@@Ren7i8988hhkkbhhyou should feel shame you beggar
@@ngocthamhuynh9966 I had the same life as him and the problem was the all encompassing nature of the work. It left no time for relationships, friends or hobbies.
I do agree that meditating at work and being in the zone accomplishing something hard was an amazing feeling.
It was fun while it lasted but spending your entire life climbing mountains leaves a lot to be desired for other goals. For me it was finding love for example.
Sitting in one's car and just listening to nothing but the rain is incredibly underrated.
Try listening to the rain outside the car next time, it's even better to feel the elements. 🙂
@@Keilnoth Very true, but living out of my car, getting drenched isn't exactly fun, as drying off can be a bit of a task.
@@KevinVeroneauI quit my high paying stressful job and have been driving up the coast living out my car and i can deff attest to this. Sometimes we don’t need much
I read that as "shitting" in ones car...
@@theworldofwoo8320sounds like a cathartic act
When I was young, I couldn’t wait to get off the family farm and onto the fast track. Now, I long for that farm, and the wilderness.
Chúc mừng bạn!
Me Tooooo when I was younger I really wanted to become a Yogi and I used to think life in Africa under a tree would be nice. But! Capitalist society we have to play the game of money. So I have a degree not rich and going to expat out of America in five ASAP now that my mom has passed safely. Can't sell my soul any longer for money.
So why not go back? I would
@@LeGrandeCappucinnaI’m thinking of going back 🙄
For me, it was/is a fishing boat.
As a kid I lamented the mundane drudgery, the hard work that seemed unending, only because I'd rather have been doing something else.
Now, it's those times when "nothing" was happening; when it was just the sea, the land and the sky, uninterrupted nature, life and perception uncontaminated, the very stuff of the universe... that I remember so clearly.
"Man surprised me most about humanity.Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived."
-Dalai Lama
Man I really love the Dalai Lama
Its just pretty standard Buddhist thinking. They were very big on living in the present thousands of years ago.
There was a time where i truly did not live either in the past, nor the future. Solely in the present. I was so much happier. Was genuinely happy, for the most part. Now, being older, i find it difficult to not live in the past, nor to fear the future.
Sadly though, if i had have worried about the future more in my youth, I'd probably be better off than i currently am? But perhaps would not have enjoyed the past as much?
Sad challenge of life.
That hit's home though. I lived so much of my life acting as if i was going to stay young and that things were going to remain the same, same things would be fun, nothing had to change, not too many worries or cares.
I was wrong. And i feel quite lost. Something i fear a lot of today's youth will experience, more than previous generations.
Lot's of people old and alone. After an extended adolescence.
This is quote was said 1500 years earlier, by a man called Ali ibn Abi Talib
Dalai Lama didn’t have a family or expenses or a minimum wage to sustain his family to worry about… Dalai Lama has no experience in being a modern family chief slave.
We live in a society where we compete to be better than the other person and over work ourselves day and night to one day wake up and understand it was all pointless. The Pursue of nothing..
WHAT ......
Society cannot give you purpose, you have to find your own purpose in life. But society gives us the right conditions to self realisation. The extent to which we utilise these conditions properly is up to us.
@@Michael-ko8ufit definitely doesn’t give you the right conditions for self realisation. Working a soul crushing job only to have no energy to want to do anything isn’t the right condition at all.
Competition has the very negative effect of wanting to stop others from being as successful and knowledgeable as they could be, as well as making people work themselves to death to get ahead.
@@swampsprite9 So sayeth one who never watched a sport in their life.
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”
we are forced either to scam themselves or help a scammer called the employer. No other way in capitalism, that's why it is a rotten system where only certain sick type can thrive, the rest just tries to survive ...
be grateful to all the scientists, engineers, doctors who went thru burnout to bring the modern man, amenities like antibiotics, electricity, GPS, microprocessors, brain surgery. Imagine a world without anesthesia and repairing a fractured bone. Its time for you to put on your big boypanties, stop complaining about burnout, and carry on the torch...humanity needs you!
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@@fitnesspoint2006 hahaha
@@fitnesspoint2006 Go fish.
I feel like my eyelids are peeling off from the speed of change. I wish I could just step off this society rocket and share more love and make more memories I cared about. Instead of just falling forward for no reason
Yup, I found the words of the Buddha can show us a way forward. 🎉❤
"Falling forward for no reason" is a good way summary of my life
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Profound as fuck
@@thesjkexperience I found the Buddhist philosophy terrifying. I actually think it is mostly right, but I do find the having "no-self" part a little too much. I think the truth is somewhere between "I have an intrinsic unchanging self" and nirvana.
I was burned out 3 years ago, and still haven't recovered. I gave everything to my work, but when the big sick hit I was shown what people really care about. I can't imagine myself working for someone else again, not even for myself.
@@EmbraceTheStruggle24what is your problem?
if i may recommend, pls do: kapalbhati yoga, it'll open up lungs, for vitality to rise and burnout to recover.. for me as well it took a lot of time.. i got seriously drained, that memory went low, intellect became dull, n more.. this really helps heal brain n body
Same here. I just cant see myself becoming a salaryman anymore, it feels like i rather die and i prefer suicide to it. I have been like this since for some time now. I am really depressed and i get nightmares everyday. I wake up, having panic attacks. I cant meet or socialize with people anymore. I cant imagine being in any other place besides my house for a prolonged time. I dont have the motivation to do anything. Constantly, i am finding myself reassuring that suicide is a good option. I am convincing myself to do it. I told many of my loved ones about this and my battle with depression for 8 years. But everyone brushes it off, remarking i should man up and suck it up, find work, regardless of job. I just cant. People dont understand
I'm sorry to hear that. Since burnout is a symptom of how we are self-managing or failing to. Burnout is the result. Tips for burnout help start with an early warning system for burnout. When you notice yourself starting to lose interest in your business or work that used to bring you joy, don't wait until you can't stomach it anymore, taking action early to reassess your process, revise your time management and spend more time in energizing relationships will help prevent burnout before it takes over. When you're already burnt out, it is still possible to get yourself back to your former self. But you must start the rebuilding work from connecting with what drives you, what matters most to you at a high level. list those things and then start to craft steps to experience them in order from highest to lowest. You can absolutely recover and come back stronger than ever. I believe in you, you've got this!
@@brianstone4459 I worry that we don't always have the option of taking action. In this day and age of high inflation and cost of living, low wages, and the expected achievements that are mentioned in this video, a lot of people don't seem to have a choice about their time management or energizing relationships, even if they feel the alarms inside of themselves going off. That's why they've ignored them. Sorry to be pessimistic, but I struggle to necessarily find a solution to some of these problems.
Tao Te Ching - Verse 24
He who stands on tiptoe
doesn’t stand firm.
He who rushes ahead
doesn’t go far.
He who tries to shine
dims his own light.
He who defines himself
can’t know who he really is.
He who has power over others
can’t empower himself.
He who clings to his work
will create nothing that endures.
I like those eastern wisdom, so simple yet profound. I collect them in my channel as well.
Nội dung bạn chia sẻ hay!
In short:
Just be.
You are a being.
Your natural state is to be.
Nothing more nothing less.
The Tao Te Ching is a very important piece of work, and always refreshing to read. Truly timeless.
The balls of your feet give you the most dexterity in combat. He who stands firm could never hit me :P
Most of it is nice-sounding gibberish though.
Folks, make a priority to sit still in silence for at least one hour every day and just let your thoughts wander without interfering with them in any way, don't force a thought or resist any of them, just let them run their course so to speak. Same with the emotions, because once you start practicing this you are going to notice that a lot of bottled up, unresolved negative stuff is going to resurface and you just need to simply let them work themselves out and not push them away, they'll go away on their own, don't worry, you just need to give them some room to breathe. The key is (this is very important) basically to sit still and not interfere with any thought or emotion and just let them be. You're going to start noticing major changes fairly quickly in 2 weeks already if you do this consistently every day. I'm telling you, it's life changing, wish I knew about this years ago, honestly would've saved me a lot of misery. It'll literally feel like you've gotten rid of heavy baggage that you've been carrying around on your back for years and your head will always be clear with zero anxiety.
Also, if you think sitting in silence sounds boring, it is, but only for the first 15-20 mins, then you'll naturally enter trance-like state which you'll find very comforting and you'll actually look forward for the next one, so don't let yourself be discouraged if it doesn't seem to work at first, give it some time and you'll be amazed what a wonderful blessing this meditation practice is.
Great comment, thank you 🙏
thanks for advise, always wanted to try it, but got distracted easily. I hope I can dedicate time for that soonest
@@bogdankarpenko6661 yeah the first 15-20 mins is kinda tough, ngl, especially when you are just beginning to practice it, your mind just keeps racing and it's very difficult to just sit there not doing anything. But if you stick to it, all that noise in your head will start to disappear and once you start noticing the overall positive changes in yourself it'll motivate you to stay consistent with it. It kinda carries itself from there on, you just need to kickstart the whole thing, you'll always want to go back to it once you see the difference it makes.
1 hr was daunting to me some months ago, so if anyone's feeling the same but would like to try it out, start small. Starting off with 10, 15 mins twice a day will lead to you slowly building a tolerance to complete silence.
And journaling, in my experience, seems to be a lite version of this. Or it at least helps with being able to sit with yourself.
Does silent walking have the same effect?
You guys have time for burnout?
Society is so nuts because you basically have to live past your limits every day to survive
This comment has the stench of genius about it. Bravo.
My dream is to travel and sleep
Travel and sleep on the car and train. Don't want to stop anywhere.
Just travelling
Bro it's not related to time, no matter if you're busy doing a job 24hours or something, you're burnout if you're burnout
Exactly
i shut everything off on sundays, do nothing, sleep as absolutely as much as I can, then go for a walk, then go back to bed.
To the people in the comments telling others to not be lazy and stop whining, I'm sorry you feel you cannout express your struggles openly and in turn are irritated by others doing so. We all deal with our pain differently.
Everyone has different pain. But Gen Z has COMPLETELY neglected learning how to count their blessings.
Shut it@@cowmath77
@@whiteglint7694 you must stop losing
@@bigjhon8475your the cringe loser
@@whiteglint7694 In some countries, your fingers would be missing already. Count your blessings; one for each finger, limb, and heartbeat.
I developed depression very early in life, and then burnt out at 35 after a suicide attempt at my then work. It's been three years, I am on disability and probably will be for the rest of my life. I am a shell of a man, easily scared and quick to anger. I have been through therapy and prescriptions. I was on two or three pretty serious things at one time and man did it screw with my head. I don't know who I was at that time but it was someone who made all my friends hate me. Now I just try to live a quiet life, play some video games, watch come videos. Read a lot and go on walks with my head phones on. Just quiet me living my own life, trying to put it all back together.
I wish you all the best my friend. Quite similar to me. Hope you find some peace on your journey.
Slow and steady wins the race. Ive been in a similar place. I've found reading philosophy has been tremendously helpful over the course of my life. Nothing fancy, just read some accessible books that can give you food for thought. Enjoy a few moments of silence, engage in some contemplation and reflection, and dont forget the great healing benefits of just spending some time in nature. Good luck on your path mate.
im in the same position as you i developed a chronic illness at 35 and i'm a shell myself
@@HarryKamal-c4d I wish I could tell you it gets better. I wish I could tell you there is hope. But if there is one thing I have learned, its that it only gets better if you make it do so, and there is only what hope you give yourself. I am here to talk, always. best of luck, one shell to another.
@@generalnawaki Oh I know it doesn't get "better". I have been trying to get better but trying to make ends meet on such a small income in a city where you need to make 60k to be able to live, with high costs of rent and expenses keep me in such state of high stress that the situation ensures that I will never recover. And my illness traumatizes me repeatedly and so does living in solitary confinement and so I am trapped in a vicious cycle. One can not recover when faced with constant stress.
I play retro games, watch videos, cook, eat, jerk off, tune out, and just think to myself that atleast I'm not a wage slave anymore.
A lot of people are trying too hard to be something..when they already are of value.
Đúng vậy.
You're right. However, we are still the highly intelligent apes that we always have been. We are meant to live in small, tight-knit communities where we constantly receive social feedback.
Now I live in a city of millions, most humans I meet I will never see again.
Even though I agree with you ideologically/philosophically, without a steady source of positive social feedback from a community, to my ape brain, I have no value.
@@ngocthamhuynh9966 ủa người việt nam à
@@damakuno đúng vậy.
This “burnout” happens, because the modern mindset focus on material pursuits and achievements mostly, the spiritual and natural were completely thrown out of our existence, this is why even tho we achieve much, it all seems meaningless and empty
True, i used to collect things, materialistic non essential things, used to mean so much to me, now means nothing. I never married nor had kids, was never something i wanted nor felt built for, but now i can see that living without these things, i am also not religious, etc, so life just feels meaningless and just a repetitious ground hog day grind.
And i am not wealthy enough to just travel or start a family now or etc either.
Bought a house but my neighbors houses are all so close, jammed together, so yeah, there really isn't much "natural" about my life.
Any pursuit, material or spiritual, has a burnout.
It's because there's a fear that people have and especially big business, that if we don't rush ahead we'll never reach our destination at all, so there's this need to go as fast as possible to ensure we make it there. Instead, a better idea is to thoroughly plan before moving forward on any ambition or venture, and work in a very relaxed slower pace, and focus on health and relaxation in life, in work and in vacation.
Currently trying to read Byung-Chul Han. His books are short but very dense. Wonderfully insightful though. I love the analysis of "self-optimizing, crafting our authentic lifestyles, and becoming the best version of ourselves", all concepts whose over-use now make me cringe, for the very reasons Byung-Chul Han outlines. There is a cult of self-improvement that keeps us all tied to a life of ever more striving and sees any kind of negativity as morally questionable at best.
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@@EmbraceTheStruggle24 It's a commentary on how even the self improvement crowd has essentially become a commodity and how the book they're reading is effectively addressing those concerns because the book is self aware of this very problem growing in the self help community that seems to focus on striving for greater and greater abundance. That's why it feels cringe inducing to the OP how overused these self help terms are becoming since it seems modern self help people often are really trying to essentially spew out yet another form of consumerism to keep generating more success for themselves and others who become like them.
My two sense is the underlying problem with saying for example you need to "manifest abundance" is it's a very unstable model at the core that people on the surface won't see because, compared to trying to be more mindful and minimalistic for freedom, having more abundance is ultimately based still on the idea of infinite growth in a finite world, a world which also always requires cheap and nearly slave like work to offload the material labour to allow for such practices to exist in the first place. Even if everything is recycled like it should be, someone has to manage all that "abundance" of waste to turn trash back into treasure. Will those people ever have a chance to do what we're doing?
No so, to me, humanity's real goal should be to only consolidate power to redistribute it, meaning seek abundance to share it, not own it. Often self help stuff seems obsessed with individuals gaining power to only teach others how to gain power the same way they did, if they happen to actually share their real technique if it's truly more then merely generating wealth off the interest of others who want said wealth.
If you connect with this message, it would be nice to see a like or a comment. In✌️and ❤
@@dr.laydude yes this was definitely well thought out. Believe you me ... I definitely was not attempting to spam or troll ... lol ... however I must say, that all of what you described is very accurate and validating on a whole bunch of levels ^_^
mobile phones, news and media...
i had no phone for 3 days but i wasnt sure if want to buy another one. the amount of peace of mind was fantastic.
LAMO. You normies really can't handle the world. I've always always always hated telephones before everyone got forced into carrying cellphones. They had buttons. Do you what a button is you little zoomie? Ever actually dialed a phone number? You weaklings make me feel self esteem.
Yes.
That's called a dopamine detox. I would like to try that one day> It's difficult to do all the time because banking services, bills and so on are now done digitally.
When I'm not into social media Facebook I'm more peaceful and can focus. I have twitter, no IG, no Tiktok. I'm only in YT because I wanna spread joy, enthusiasm, inspiration as well as my photographs😊.
@@PeterGregoryKellyjust do it on the computer.
When I worked at Amazon I took a month off for medical leave of absence and when I returned to work I had 4000 emails and 10000 chime messages waiting. Soon after I quit the madness.
This is why they want immigrants. They will work unfair jobs for nothing. Congratulations.
The smile logo is upsidedown
Whew!
Amazon is pure evil, and Bezos is one of Satan's top minions.
Aah yeah the "when you are not there nobody continues your work", cause we are managing a tight ship.
I've been experiencing this burn out for some time now, it's gotten to the point where I couldn't take it anymore and quit my job. Doesn't help that I've been dealing with depression since I was a child and never really learned how to properly regulate my emotions so when those low times kick in, I'm a mess.
Couldn't take all that pressure, and it hurt even more when I realized how little it all meant. I still feel empty and unfulfilled and I honestly just want to give up. Can't take this anymore. Decided to just use what free time I have now until I can find a job to just get back into my martial arts and try to actually just take a break.
I'm so tired of all this.
Qq
I also quit my job because of burnout (I was a teacher). To be honest, I also feel worthless sometimes, as if there were nothing worthy to fight for. But after a while, I came to the conclusion that I don't know anything about life and that good and bad are often a matter of point of view. Many wonderful things may come in the future, some of them pretty suddenly. So, I just try to keep myself busy, think on others too and keep learning from life.
Me too man, me too... It's tiring
I spent 12 years working 12-14 hours shifts with no weekends off, on top of trying to work on a side hustle on my days off. I was always spaced out and could never enjoy the moment with my friends. I finally started an 8 hour shift and I realized how much free time I have now. I feel myself returning to me, I may not be making tons of money but it feels like a restart to finding myself and what I really want to do again.
Thats sounds stupid, did they pay crazy well?
I was working 12 hrs for a few years. No weekend 😔. I think it was stupid now. But I was a work a holic. As long as I was working I was a good person and I get ahead. Only I never did. 🥴
@@whatrtheodds Yeah everything I saved up went into 3 emergencies that happened separately within 12 years. Since I worked so much, I didn't have any time for hobbies or learned any new skills. My days off involved catching up on chores and running errands, plus I'd be so tired I didn't have the mental capacity for anything else. After the lockdown I was a wreck. I was completely burnt out so I took a pay cut and found a job with regular 8 hour shifts. My quality of life has greatly improved since then even though I'm making less. I'm currently studying for a certification in tech while enjoying the things I've been putting off for years.
@@ConcurrentSoap Amazing! Yeah you start to see it was actually holding you back. Lol. Sounds like Ur heading in the right direction. Good on you ☺️
@The_Boys____ just curious - were they emergencies to do with you or you paying for others?
I wrote something on this a while back that touches similarly to what Han noticed. "We are the hardest working slave and the most cruel taskmaster; all in one."
That’s so bogus it’s actually funny. A slave? Do you know what an actual slave does?
@@jonalexdeval It is just an analogy for how poorly we treat ourselves.
Our phones and non essential information overload.
Minimalist functional phones are on the rise ...oh dear, think I just hyped that up, but yeah the desire for a dumb phone is a thing
It's rather a lot of pressure to do meaningless and pointless tasks faster every day.
And the desire to get others off their phones as well.❤
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Actually we’re learning essential information and realizing that we’ve been living in a manipulated society to a degree that’s absolutely horrific. My phone allowed me the access too enough information that I realize we’ve been all lied too from birth about everything.
This video makes more sense than anything I watched in a month. It also explains why it is so.
Many people work to afford health insurance for their family. This is making us sick, so we need more health insurance. Repeat.
And then work to pay the deductible 😂
Đúng vậy. Nhưng không biết số tiền đóng bảo hiểm y tế ở nơi bạn sống thì như thế nào, còn ở nơi tôi, Việt Nam thì mức đóng tiền bảo hiểm y tế thì có thể chấp nhận được, và không cần phải làm nhiều để có đủ tiền đóng bảo hiểm y tế.
Mà hiện nay tôi thấy có vấn đề là ở bảo hiểm nhân thọ. Có rất nhiều người làm việc kiệt sức như bạn nói để có thể đóng mức tiền cao ngất ngưởng để khi họ chết thì người nào đó họ chỉ định sẽ nhận số tiền đó.
Trong khi hợp đồng thì lê thê, tiền có thể mất bất cứ lúc nào.
Thật là, những người làm bảo hiểm này ăn trên nỗi sợ của người khác. Và thật sự chỉ khiến người ta sợ hãi hơn, tham lam hơn, yếu đuối hơn.
I was thinking about this the other day. The one way to get affordable health care in the u.s. is by making yourself a cog in some system, full time. And the only reason that was probably created.. Was most likely by companies that wanted their staff to stop dying from over working them. "Alright, lets give them healthcare, but we have to own them if they want it."
Well sometimes illness strikes , not caused by your own treadmill
I am someone fascinated by history. I also have an absolute appreciation for authenticity and simplicity. Now, it's all so difficult and different. Society has nothing to offer us. No ritual, no authenticity or passion.
Bertrand Russell's 1935 essay "In Praise of Idleness" is cited to argue against the modern obsession with work. Russell asserted that excessive work is not only unhealthy and unnecessary but also a waste of life and human potential. He argued that advancements in technology have made it possible to drastically reduce the workday and workweek, freeing up time for leisure and personal pursuits. Russell believed that society should re-evaluate the value of work and prioritize activities that are not solely focused on productivity and monetary gain.
Awesome video. It is true that some people die at 25 and aren't buried until they are 75. "Benjamín Franklin"
My dad is a good guy and his whole life has been to grind, achieve, level up, become noticeably better than they were yesterday. I’ve lived my whole 25 years of life in this way, and only in the past 6 months is this not right for me. It’s really hard to drop this line of thinking “the grindset” thinking. If I don’t work as hard, then I’m not valuable as a person.
Well since I have been taking more breaks, and chilling out a lot more, I’ve been overall happier as a person! I don’t put as much emphasis on being valuable as much as I do having fun. Thanks for the video. I take it as a sign from the universe that I’m doing the right thing now :)
Especially when you see people who do 1/5th of what you do running the world and 1/20000000th as well as you would. You realize that’s not the best way to play the game
You've been immensely valuable from the day you were born. That doesn't change, no matter what you do!
Yeah, we live in a different age, we need to really alter these outdated mindsets that get passed down.
So true. It’s literally a kind of guilt towards the system and shame towards oneself for not being “optimally productive”
Oh I should be watching this movie in the zeitgeist! I should be learning a language while playing a game so I’m actually accomplishing something!
I need to listen to a padocadt while getting my coffee at the local cafe so I’m not wasting time!
It’s all time wasted regardless of what you do. It will pass no matter what.
So better to take it slow and be “bored”
there’s a lot being ignored in these theories. the idea that we are creating our own prisons is not necessarily true, and it once again shifts blame on the individual. the reality is that we live in societies that govern what we need to do. we can’t escape the systems we are a part of. so it is not us who are building our prisons, it’s our society and government. this is why people who live in countries where the government provides more for the people, have a better quality of life and more happiness. whereas in places like the US, where the structure is design to make everyone fend for themselves, we suffer. I can guarantee that if our societies / governments provided more to maintain our necessities, we wouldn’t be in such a rush to achieve.
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Nope that's not it, the reason is that we stayed away from a traditional life of family, people are selfish,all they care is appearance and what are they perceived as,the capitalists government seek at every corner to tax you more,to steal and fund more wars all while your wages have stagnated for decades in purchase power,inflation is always high,wages never catch up,energy is always more expensive, governments always restrict you more in what you când do.
It seems easier to me to adjust my behavior than to change the way a society functions. But yeah, the States do seem to suck right now.
No doubt, agree.
I think Han and some others choose the individual framing (or at least include alongside the systemic) to emphasize the idea of co-creation, which lends the individual agency. That idea being the individual does participate to some degree in the preservation of that society / system that dictates what is needed to survive by participating in it, even if begrudgingly.
I just came from work but I need to rest before I watch it cause I'm tired.
Sleep well my sweet prince
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Take it easy dear sir.
I'm so lucky. Born disabled, therefore shunned by society and the people that make it up. Never been included, never had a job, never been loved by any other person, always been a reject.
But I adore the beauty in nature, I have a disability welfare check that's higher than the US average wage, I get free healthcare, legal medical weed and no obligations to anyone or anything.
I own a 4x4 and a bunch of camping gear, a camera drone, a nice DSLR for my photography and videography hobbies. Every day is a blank page for me to create on.
And no, I don't feel the least bit burned out. Quite content and happy for every sunrise I get to see. Life is beautiful. People are terrible to each other though, I avoid them at all costs.
Glad it worked out for you. Not all people are terrible. But we all have shortcomings. Stay blessed 🙏
It is so nice to hear from someone who sees their freedom and takes it. I have friends on disability who are held down by the weight of their "shame" (but they have nothing to be ashamed about. Their good people.). They just feel that society has rejected them and it hurts them. It follows them every day.
But they have unlimited freedom. Yes they cant afford super fancy things, but they can afford whatever they need and whatever they might want if their smart about it. They can self actualize totally, in any direction. Its, in a way, what you get for the cost. Some people would pay anything to have that.
But that societies expectation just crushes them, even while they have total freedom. To me, it has become the ultimate example of how materials are not what allows you happiness. Your ability to see the freedom, and TAKE IT, is so deeply admirable. You DESERVE it. Dont let people tell you what is and isnt success. It sounds to me like you found it.
The disability check is from people that care. People that are terrible to each-other are just scared and trying to act tough. Pity them.
I felt that i had to quit my job because of burn out ! Money doesnt pay health ! I lost a lot of money but now i have my focus again stop drinking stop partying eat good food again and working out ! Money isnt everything dont compare youself with others every person need to find their own PATH and just to try every day better and everything is going to align !
Good advice.
But at the same time though, what would you be doing differently? You would probably be bored af just look at you when the power goes out.
Been 6 months for me. I haven’t recovered from my burn out at all.
@@BlackJesus8463 the purpose of solitude is to find out whether one can live with their thoughts, for stimulation is only desired when one needs an escape from it
@@BlackJesus8463 for me solitude is really What is giving me Clarity ! Burn-outs make you wanna drink do drugs live Life reckless cause when you are tired of your daily rotine everything that is “bad” Seems to be a good escape ! Now im Alone yes but now i know my worth im learning to say no im learning What type of beahviour is not align with my better self in the end of the day being alone its all about lay low and getting stronger and better
I think people say "whatever happens in Japan, so goes the world" Japan is a great indicator of where the world ends up, and we are seeing this now. They went and are going through overworking, burnout and loneliness. Now the world is experiencing it. Also,getting a college degree and making good money comes at a price: overworking and burnout. Now a lot college jobs are basically no different than fast food jobs. I think we are really living in a real worsening dystopia. it is happening very slowly ,but we are still experiencing it. Too many unsolvable problems hitting society all at once and there is a "creativity crisis" and no solutions to fix these problems. It sucks. Climate change worries the hell out of me.
Take a deep breath and Touch some grass
@@michaeljaymarajas8186how can we touch grass when we are all overworked, underpaid, depressed, hyper fixated, misunderstood, and only looking forward to death
Why does climate change scare you?
100% a growing dystopia
@@46FreddieMercury91 its unnatural and shouldnt happen.
Animals and nature end up dying. The arctic is losing land mass (ice) and thus polar bears barely have room to live
Acid rain is forming in more places than china
And many places are not equipped for the changes. Ie: snowing in texas. Cars arent equipped for any snow at all, thus causing many accidents. Or snow melting in alaska. Many homes are built on thick ice in alaska. Landslides occuring and ruining homes
I decided to increase my stress-resistance by working a stressful job (smart move, isn't it?) ended up being completely burned out and diagnosed with depression (on top of my already existing anxiety from the previous job). Now I'm hoping that my savings would be enough to renovate a tiny house where I would be able to live with my pets and work remotely or do some part-time jobs. I also want to get some chickens which is considered a wild dream for a 25 y.o. girl living in the city these days.
I genuinely mean it. You will be miserable, because women are not like men. That is the number one lie on this entire planet, anything to do with the dual mating strategy of our species. Have kids, none after 30 unless your doctor says you a genetic freak that is as healthy as someone half your age. I'm telling you. *You do not want to have a kid that will be physically and intellectually dependent on you until you die and they will soon die after you, this is what happens with geriatric pregnancies.*
Hoping you get your dream 🌺
…hope you get your chickens. I am 56 and it took me many years to realise than Less is More
i hope your dream comes true! I have a similar dream. I just want to retire early and live with a few animals on a little farm somewhere on an island in Indonesia 😍
20 years ago I helped place my father in the retort (oven) at the crematorium. Then, I did the same for my brother 16 years ago. As I drove out of the cemetery, smoke was rising out of the stack.
The majority of people say, how gruesome ~~!! But for me, it allowed me to witness the reality of life in that we all "pass". I have an awareness that many people do not have, nor want to acknowledge.
When in India, I saw the place where Gandhi was cremated. I relate seeing Shiva dancing in the circle of fire, beating the tambourine, which is the tick, tick, tick of time for all of us......
I agree with that, One has to embrace death as much as one embraces life.
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Bởi vì con người ảo tưởng sống lâu nên mới tăng tính tham lam tích góp cho thật nhiều.
Người ta nhìn người khác chết, người trong ngôi nhà lân cận chết nhưng họ vẫn thản nhiên, cho tới khi nào người trong chính gia đình họ chết thì họ mới có chút biết mạng sống ngắn ngủi, biết mạng sống vô thường. Nhưng đó còn là cái chết của người khác, chưa ảnh hưởng họ là bao nhiêu, cho tới khi nào chính thân họ bệnh tật thì họ mới hốt hoảng.
All civilizations rise and fall. Our society isn't different,
It is different. The difference is we can map out its entirety and we have a lot of information to use from trial and error.
We have been close to a society crash numerous times for 2 decades. The only thing keeping us a float is hope and societal organization
Hard to see how considering humans don't change. Too many mouths, not enough resources?
Except our society has lived and transformed through the industrial revolution, the information revolution and now, the AI revolution. These are just the big ones. A lot of technologies have completely transformed our socities over and over for the last 200 years. That didn't happen to any of the other civilizations in history. So no, our civilization is not going to simply fall and be replaced by a new one like the egyptians. Anyone who thinks it will fall and that they will somehow live to see the next regime is a dillusional fool.
Impermanence
Yes, every society can fall. But it would be stupid to say that societies are different and there is no difference between the fall of Ancient Greece and USSR. Different consequences.
I have watched many many many of your RUclips videos but this one? Byung-Chul has absolutely and profoundly captured society as it is today. Profound...absolutely nails the empty "vessels" in the world.
US metrics:
Cost of living is out of control
Rising grocery costs are 2x what they were 4yrs ago
Utilities cost more
Gas costs more
Housing is absurd, imagine the choice of 500k-700k on a "condo" that also requires a 300-500/monthly HOA OR you can live 2hrs away from work
Average car payment is 1000-1200/month
Early talks of increasing income and other taxes
Is it really a surprise that people are "burnt-out" and not caring about the future???
And why many are choosing not to have kids. Can barely afford myself how could a afford a child
@lindyloohoo facts. Society expects us to have kids so society can go on but our society has made things so expensive that it's easier/better to just go childless.
I'd never spend that much on a car nor lease / finance it. I don't drive much though so bought some cheap (less than 8k the one I paid the most) second hand ones.
Just to say that the video doesn't mention it (unless I missed it), but debt is another form of control 😅
@@Legrandcase Far East is not getting richer. They are in a worse spot than the West. In literally every measurable way.
The whole southeast Asian prosperity thing, that's just a facade. This is literally the art of war, WORD FOR WORD! "When you are weak appear strong, when you are strong appear weak."
Tell me. Does Korea manufacture quality products or shit? Taiwan? Philippines? China? No. They *mass produce* cheap plastic bullshit, cheap plastic parts that are not reliable, and pig iron not steel. The far East is no powerhouse, its a warehouse that nobody is willing to admit is completely ablaze.
Yes, everything is becoming more predatory. The problem is a lack of money and money management from government, company, banks, and other bullshit. The decline of society is real. Also, human nature is always biased about who deserves the most benefits.
After my mom died, I lost interest and faith in everything. I go out into the world and I feel invisible. Nobody cares about each other like they used to. Occasionally someone will smile at me but that’s it. They don’t even say hi when I say hi. People say I need to try harder but if I tried any harder than a Hello, they’d call me weird and I’m just so tired of it all.
Hello ❤
I'm sorry for your loss. My mom died recently. I care and hope you find people. ❤
Irony is... The People who actually needs to watch this Video won't have Time to watch it 😂
Or the video will appear in their RUclips feed but they are too depressed to watch it.
There is prevention. Also, when I was working 15 hours daily, I used to listen to stuff on youtube too, depending on the nature of the work.
Or they’re too busy “crushing the day”.
On sick day off for burnout
Bad friends ruin lives. Anyone who introduces you to bad habits is toxic and need to be replaced by people who possess good & healthy habits.
I love my friends and miss the fallen ones, but it is absolutely true that people i met and became friends with had a huge impact on my life.
Positive in some ways, long term strong friendships, at one stage a rather large social circle, but this was at the expense of me once getting good grades in school and playing sports. And replaced with things like drugs, alcohol, staying up all night and sleeping all day, even had other people get me into certain types of video games and on line gaming, anime, etc. All of which took over my life at stages.
For better or for worse ^^;
But yeah, you need to rid yourself of people who bring you down, keep you down, block your progress, leech off of you, etc.
This is why I gave zero fucks about money when making decisions. Like my pops says, “if you got a problem that money can fix, you don’t have a real problem.”
what if you’re starving
If you don’t care about your finances you’re doomed in this lifetime
If you care about nothing but your finances you're a massive part of the problem.
@@austinharvey9116 Nobody is starving because of money since food is plentiful and cheap. If you can't afford food then it will be given to you.
Starvation today only happens because of war
@Brian-vk1hm exactly money is all we have to survive. Only broke people are told this to keep them down
“As for pleasures: once we have passed youth they vanish away, never again to be seen. 🌞
Death is the end of all. Never to be born is the best thing. 🎃
To have seen the daylight And be swept instantly back into dark oblivion comes second.” 🌻🌲🍉🎃
- From Oedipus at Colonus
Hey man, That's too negative. 🙂
Famous people who speak and are quoted also have opinions.
I respect the comment, but from my experience I know some elderly people who have more energy and act younger than some of the youngsters today. Age is a state of mind firstly, obviously the body gets older but the mind can still remain young if your SPIRIT is strong
Even myself grew up with heaps of body aches and pain, after practicing yoga for a long time now I have never felt younger :) thank God for this Blessing and my Bliss
@@anattaevergreen❤ 100%. Recently added Qi Gong to the yoga. 🧘 🔥
do you know that there are MANY unborn souls out there waiting to be born as humans?
Watching this after getting a super small paycheck is like an extra axe in the heart
change, coz nothing changes until you take steps to change ...
Get roommates, makes a world of a difference on a small paycheck. I lived off of $800 a month about 5 years ago. Extra bathrooms and privacy are perks no one is entitled to.
@@stephosoinstead of thinking in entitlement terms, which are judgmental by nature… think of human needs terms, do I or they need this to survive or it can be done/lived through just fine without that ‘thing’
@@stephoso No one is entitled to privacy? Dude I think your way of thinking has been warped.
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I find it quite coincidental that I stumbled upon this video just as I've been contemplating this topic recently. I've been pushing myself too hard and constantly burning out, and I've been wondering why. I always thought I had to be a warrior, relentless in pursuing my goals. I believed that if I didn't take action, nothing would happen. However, I'm starting to realize that this may not be true. I don't want to constantly be in warrior mode, relentlessly chasing after the next project. Perhaps this mindset was ingrained in me by my upbringing and society. This intense competitiveness is rooted in my upbringing and is tied to my fears. I'm making an effort to not push myself so hard now, but it's proving to be extremely difficult. I'm committed to this experiment because I can't keep burning myself out for the rest of my life.
Some might say "live the life you have instead of chasing the one you think you want". Time passes quick man, trust me... It'll be over for most before it even started.
If you find yourself enslaved to ideas about who you think you're supposed to be but find you cannot bridge the gap between those expectations and who you are, stop trying. You get to be the author of your own story. There are multiple ways to combat burnout. One of the first is to take control of your time. Use the 80/20 and make the commitment to eliminate in the next 7 days anything that represents a heavy draw on your time and energy, with little or no significant return. Reinvest that energy into recharging yourself and your batteries. Start there and there are many other useful steps to help continue to refine your pace and your life. You've got this.
Thanks all for the comments!!
There's nothing wrong with championing noble goals for a good cause. Just don't work too hard and wear yourself out in the process...
I have suffered from mind-distorting anxiety and more than one depression consistently for years, every time I tried to achieve something I felt was significant, I had the rug pulled from underneath by these life-sapping conditions. Part of me also recognized that I seemed to be freaking out over trivial things but this busy demanding commercialized society also reinforced my neurotic obsessions. It appears that nobody escapes mental health decline these days and I think, finally I see what I have been hoping for, that somebody who is academically noteworthy will come out and tell everyone honestly that it is our social setup that is driving all of us insane.
His name is professor Sam Vaknin.
yes. and everyone will forget and go right back to hustling.
Yeah, we aren’t working ourselves to the bone for self-optimization or achievement, we’re doing it to provide our basic needs.
You don't need to burnout if you never rush, and if you're working at a job where you need to rush, gradually find a way to shift to a job in where you don't have to rush.
I remember when I was 18 I had a job at a warehouse.
Freezer Warehouse like -20°.
After a year of work in 6 days a week 10 to 12 hours a day I asked for less hours.
The boss lost his mind berating me saying all these other guys work just as many hours and nobody else complained.
I quit on the spot and said well they can do it then bye.
Dude look like he was going to have a stroke and a heart attack all at the same time.
I remember him very well bald probably got divorced his whole life was just work.
So I think seeing somebody else say hey work isn't the most important thing in my life really triggered him.
I hope you found peace.
I hope he figured out that money isn't the end I'll be all of life.
Gratitude in all things, small acts of kindness to ourselves and others, the joy of solitude and mindfulness in the now moment and Satori. Loving this journey of self discovery. Blessing to you and yours, shared your production with several of my contacts. Bravo. ♾Rb
well, done, that's how you sell his product for him ... without being paid a penny.
That was another fantastic video, Einzelganger! I love how you noted the tormentor has become ourselves as opposed to the prison guard. And multi-tasking world doesn't allow time for true creativity to create great things - well at least you have. Keep them coming!
Western society is two headed,
We can choose hyper achievement or be subject to the same old authoritarianism
We’ve replaced parenthood with narcissism and imposed greater authority, we live in fear of humiliating failure while we imagine surreal success
OMG are you kidding me? The parents are the biggest ass "narcissists" that I know. Their babies and children have become "accessories" - you know the Baby Bump, the Babymoon, the look what "I" made early days, the running buggies, the post-baby fitness classes, the pregnant Yoga classes, the baby clothing, the Instagram and Facebook pages. Barf.
We actually ARE living in authoritarian society. :D
There is no either or. We already live under the boots of men that believe they are gods and our purpose as goyim is to serve them.
Speak for yourself 🐑. I live LARGE 🤣💪🍁👣😉
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"When someone takes a break these days, it's often something like binge-watching a series on Netflix while checking one's phone, with music in the background"
This is becoming a serious issue; I don't know about not being able to endure boredom, the people I've heard defending this say they're trying to manage their anxiety to the point that they can't fall asleep without all of that.
Avoiding that anxiety will cause it to explode
We’re not in an achievement society we’re in a consumer society and most of the advantages you attribute to it are only available if the individual can afford it.
Not an achievement society so much as an exploitative one.
@@kin-of-orakio Spare me the exploitation angle. That just screams to anyone clued in that you are a perpetual victim. Explorative is the wording used by weaklings. You have to articulate what is wrong with regulations and anti-competitive lobbying. Those are both exploitation but if you use that word people will rightly ignore everything you say. Nobody cares about your sex life or the color of your skin, its not an argument.
I guess the Korean dude wrote about what he sees in Korea, but the world couldn't be less homogeneous. Here in Hungary, for instance, the gov is a corrupt tyrant / mafia. In Communism, everything was state-owned. The moment we adopted Capitalism, the new elite took everything into private ownership (for free) under the slogan "The state is a bad (read: extremely inefficient) owner/operator." They made sure there was no way of entry into their markets for outside independent parties. This continues to this day. The result is that there is no motivation of any kind to perform. You do the absolute minimum in your job, because there is no competition, only cartels that arbitrarily set prices, therefore there is no reason to perform. And there is not a damn thing people will do about it until they have their basic needs met and are kept "safe".
Respectfully disagree. Society is what you make it. If your only motivation is getting the new iPhone, you'll view it as consumer. If your motivation is getting a great promotion at work, or building a business, you'll view it as achievement. It's all personal perspective.
Economic productivity and status is not a value
"Let's just take a freaking break." Excellent.
I’ll add my experience as a late diagnosed autistic adult. I escaped a traumatic and neglect filled religious fundamentalist childhood and went on to graduate from big ten university with 3.8 GPA, made it all the way to 🍎. Autistic burnout is NOT plain burnout and is often medically mediated. It’s from being forced to live in a stigmatized and discriminatory society, years of perpetuation. It’s from being forced to communicate with the most willfully ignorant, low consciousness, credentialed people who run the world. I’ve had 9 lawyers in the last decade to fight discrimination cases, won two through EEOC. Been assaulted by police because of my autism. So naturally one would burn out in a society committed to ignoring and abusing us. 13x higher suicide rate in my community.
Assaulted by police due to having autism?
Lol you sound like you have a proper victim mentality
Something'll have to give at some point.
There's a lot of shame forced down our throats by default for wanting something different out of life, and I can barely begin to imagine how being different without knowing it adds to that.
Again, good luck to you.
It's also nice to seeing you here as well.
@@anthoras Oh yes, I do recall your other message, which I was too sick to reply to a couple of weeks ago.
I'm not sure what you think has to give and at what point you are thinking. Your other comment indicated I may be stuck in victimhood, not taking responsibility for myself. I don't owe any justifications and don't feel inclined to divulge more personal details, but know that's not the case.
I don't take the shame down the throat- that's one of the characteristics people don't like about autism is I don't pull any punches or beat around the bush. It's not that I want something different out of life. It's that my neurotype and medical conditions are different and are not mirrored back to me, so I always chart my own course by necessity.
@@SideB1984I realized while writing this that it's unclear what group I'm referring to. "We" as in humans.
I was referring to burnout. If we keep doing something because we think we should, rather than because we actually want to, our lives will begin to deteriorate. And that something that'll have give will either be our tolerance of it (and we stop doing it), or our wellbeing (and we "break down" in some way). If we're being forced to, then it'll be both, which will be worse, since we don't have agency.
I wasn't trying to make any implications in that comment (and that's what I was trying to avoid), I only meant it as a warning of a mistake that I made out of... hatred, at that point.
What I meant in my comment here is that a pretty good chunk of people imply that we're wrong for not wanting to follow the "best" path, or some social norm. For not caring about having the best paying job, for not caring about having a degree, for not wanting to sit in class for 8 hrs / day memorizing what is basically trivia and then not wanting to do the same thing again when we finally get the opportunity to do something else. That's what I meant by "something different out of life." And I've been shamed for simply liking or being drawn to different things than what others liked or were drawn to. So I was trying to imagine what having to deal with that, what seems to me to be a default level of shaming, plus the stigma must be like.
Oh this is me after a year losing my job and going to the doc to see what the hell happened I was misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety and I believed her but after a year of no work trying all these medication I took a rash decision and moved to London and now I went to my new doc it turns out I have ADHD now it all makes sense and it feels like a massive weight off my shoulder. After years feeling like a failure it was just a fault with mind and now I’m on the mend and I can see the future again!
Hard work never scared me. People scare me. I just need to keep it together a little bit longer so i can get my truck license.
Speak up, speak out
Hard work isn't the problem, it's when your hard work used to fuel the rich instead of yourself.
Amen to that!!@@pedrokantor3997
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@@pedrokantor3997yep its the pay. The exploitation thats the problem.
Funny to see this here now, I am currently half way through reading this book - very insightful I might add. Thank you for sharing
I used to be in a corporate culture of go go go go go. About 5 years ago I had enough of that so I sold all my stocks, investments, cashed out my retirement, and sold everything that I could sell like my house and cars. I thought a bunch of rentals and quit my Cobra job. I am now much much much much much much happier not working for anyone else. I take my time to do things incorporate at my own leisure. Even waking up in the morning I wake up not by an alarm clock but buy just naturally waking up at whatever time. In other words my life has slowed down greatly and I love it
this is why it’s important to know that everyone’s timeline and pace is personalized, which is why it’s called divine timing
Can you go a little into what you mean by "divine timing"?
I don't really see what you mean
@@anthoras everyone has a purpose to fulfill but u have to be patient and trust the process
@@ahmedfiasco6412 alright, fair, but I was hoping for a more in-depth understanding of what it means. This is like answering the question "What is burnout?" with "It's feeling exhausted." It doesn't really say much
Let's not forget that this society is like this because of the government and millionaires. If we had true freedom, we wouldn't need to work 80 hours a week just to barely pay for rent and bills.
Rich gotta rich, poor gotta poor. Be rich, and then you'll win. Else, just become wealthy. No excuses. 💪😎✌️
The "expectations" of being successful sometimes choke me ngl. I want to become an artist but I stopped posting my art on social medias because attaining popularity was poisoning my mind and I gave up not only to protect myself but also because "there are so many artists out there and I'm not contributing anything meaningful/unique in this world. The world would be better off without me"
Hey, you’re like me
I make music in an age of music being completely devalued. Abandon all hopes of ever being "marketable" and do what you enjoy. Keep at it ❤
This hit the nail on the head my friend, I do not subscribe to the capitalistic world we've been thrown into, and it's odd to look around at how many are completely "lost in the sauce" as I like to say haha. Thank you for taking the time to create such intricate videos, it shows.
I've recognized my own behavior so many times throughout this video, it's actually terrifying!
as a corporate lackey and gym rat, this hit home powerfully. I'm often bothered by an "intrusive" thought: what does my life mean? Too many of today's doctors treat this as a symptom rather than a valid existential concern.
This is so relevant for our time! Why aren’t more people talking about this!! We are all living in this capitalist prison pursuing that ever moving end goal and before we know it life is over
People do, but many dont want to be reminded how dire and shitty our situation actually is
Ignorance is bliss
Its genuinely not capitalism. You have been mislead. You are now further away from understanding the nature of reality than you were before having watched this video. I know that will sound bizarre, I know you will want to disagree and argue. But it is true. This is literally how the system consumes people, and you're following the steps to the dance perfectly.
Is that really what you want? To be entrapped by the features of the prison you scream that you want to escape from? Cus that's what you're doing. Getting deeper into the hole.
@@Moe_Posting_ChadDescribe the reality you are referring to, please.
Because it is not Capitalism xD.
An expectation of constant improvement is going to be there whether capitalism is there or not. It sucks being a Korean, north or south because of work culture. At least in capitalism you get to keep your stuff instead of working for some bizarre utopian worker’s paradise that will never exist.
Thank you Einzelgänger.
Great contribution to the ongoing discussion of “how to do this thing, called our life”.
A lot of love to you from the Beautiful Islands of Trinidad and Tobago 💞. Great content.
This might be the best Einzelgänger's video yet
Man you described what I have been doing for the last 20 years. I achieved a lot, but I am so burned out that I can’t even talk to people without getting exhausted in a matter of minutes…. And I was asking god for some material about the burnout and here it is
Same..it’s like my brain is broken
My brain 'broke' a little more than a year ago after ~20 years of striving, culminating in back-to-back months of over 80-hour intense weeks at work (while raising / helping to homeschool three children and being involved in leadership in a church my family helped to plant in a rural area over the last 15 years). I don't know how I am going to stay on the hamster wheel long enough to see the kids finish growing up and moving out, let alone until 'retirement' (which I am not confident will exist).
There is a lot more to the story, but there was a period of time last year when I became suddenly unable to even do the most basic tasks at work despite sitting at a desk all day trying to force myself. (I'm a computer programmer.) My brain would 'shut down' within minutes of any beginning of an effort. I have not been the same since. I was miraculously able to hold on to the job - which subsequently almost went bust, lost more than half of my pay in the last year, but that is also another story - but I no longer have the ability to process / problem solve / burn through solutions over extended timelines like I used to.
If I can't somehow keep this gig or something similar (with restored income...) for the next decade or more, we cannot continue to live the way we do (with my wife able to devote full time to management of home / projects and the children's education). But I feel like my life's energy is already spent.
@@valkyrie5948 Studies have revealed that while using constructs in your brain reinforces them, overusing them actually causes them to degrade and have the opposite effect of practising something. Over long periods of time, like years, those structures will slowly die from overuse and you will literally lose a capacity you had from doing it to much. Like overworking a muscle to death.
Worse, if you are hard burned out, and you take a break and dont use the constructs, they often just die. Meaning in order to do the same thing again, you need to start from scratch. In order to actually recover from burnout, you need to stop doing what is causing the burnout, but then do "very light exercise" of that thing, in order to bring it slowly back to life.
Thats where the brain is broken feeling is comming from. It is. Your literally destroying yourself, and if you go far enough, a break wont even be the solution. Youll need the rehab I mentioned above.
Great video! I am adding this book to my reading list. The concept reminds me of Thoreau's words, paraphrased as a person is rich in proportion to the things they can let alone. To me, the way out is awareness and a blend of hard work, to a point, combined with intentional minimalism. Similar to the topic discussed, it's no wonder society has so many autoimmune diseases. I am sure this is not the only reason, but it certainly makes you wonder. Chronic distress is self sabotaging. I can certainly relate that the modern world is overstimulating for me and I find great solace in nature away from it all for a majority of the time, a reversal of what is considered "normal".
Many of us are more connected to self then ever. And it's best feeling in the world. You realize many things you believed aren't really true. I healed my addictions, depression, ptsd, anxiety with energy work and no meds. Not saying was easy, it was rather slow change but so worth it! I hope we all find our way to be who we came to be ❤
What are the most unexpected things you believed in are untrue?
19:05. As a 56 year old woman, the gym is my happy place (I go when it's empty) and it's to maintain health, not for posing or attracting a mate. That being said, I gave my notice to step down from a managerial role, as I can't abide the corporate BS. I'm totally burnt out. I'm not depressed, I'm just so tired, and there's no joy. Hence the gym for endorphin hit. I'm saving this video, as it's so eloquently on point. Thank you 🙏
This is illuminating, and terrifying.
You dont have to take it seriously. ✌
@@BlackJesus8463 yes, because nothing truly matters...just ask Meursault
This honestly might be my favorite video so far. This needs to be addressed more than anything! I wish anyone would be willing to have these conversations.
Brilliant video. I love the idea that multitasking, especially in work/business means that there is no space for creativity and therefore no new ideas. I wonder if AI will replace or reduce the multitasking jobs and leave more space for creative roles.
I spent 5 days camping solo in the bush in an area with no phone reception so all I had was food, fire and nature to walk around in and observe. New ideas for music, writing and for my life popped into my head after 2-3 days and when I returned I was invigorated and fresh.
Tôi không biết AI có làm được việc thay thế hoặc giảm bớt các công việc đa nhiệm cho con người không. Nhưng trước mắt tôi thấy nó đã đang thêm vào một công việc cho con người là theo dõi nó, học sử dụng nó, trang bị máy móc, thiết bị, lại thêm công việc cho con người và thêm thứ kích thích con người.
Và bất cứ thứ gì thì cũng không nằm ngoài vô thường, hợp rồi tan bất cứ lúc nào. Nên tôi biết AI sẽ sập bất cứ lúc nào, khi con người đã lệ thuộc vào nó mà nó lại "sập" thì con người càng trở nên trống rỗng, mệt mỏi đến tê dại.
@@ngocthamhuynh9966Sure hope so.
So it's not just me that noticed since 2022->Now the burn-out rates are sky-high
I think the biggest reason for this is that employers are back in power now, because of the bad market conditions they know that people are trapped and they can ask anyone to do overtime or do more work and cannot reject due to fear of being fired.
@@bobbyverma94yahoo I still don't do overtime. I just found that their products are non-compliant with some laws, and now I get the best treatment there is
@@bobbyverma94yahoo Before you get gaslighted to believe the company is doing bad, check if that’s actually true
we are analogue creatures, do not touch digital stuff, you will save yourself burnout and depression.
Yup, that is the case and that is so true. This is actually what I'm going through right now. I never thought I would be working back in the warehouse. I was trying to get a job with of the bank Since I worked with this same bank before as a contractor, But they keep telling me they found somebody better than me. And they give me these rejection letters. So,here I , I am thankful that I have a job at least. Lower pay less hours, but it's something to help give towards my family and I have no car either anymore.That broke down last year. So I take Uber to work, but I try to walk everywhere when I need to go to the store. This goes against everything I try to do to save money. But yes, I still have my health and I'm here helping my parents as much as I can, since they're older now. Trying to keep focus to learn more on about my purpose.
Nothing wrong with immense effort towards an achievement. As long as that achievement is moraly astute.
I am going to look for The Burnout Society on my next trip to my local independent bookstore.
Or have them order it for me.
Thanks for this video.
Very thought provoking ideas.
Wow, I didn't expect anyone serious on youtube would bring this subject to light.
I'm extremely thankful to this channel for this and many other videos.
It's important to remember about the pros and cons of current system.
So happy and proud to have just noticed you passed the 2M subs.
Wow, nice one. Dramatic ending.
Most of these ideas are also elsewhere. Cal Newport is an example of proponents that say the modern culture of productivity and hyper attention is actually less productive and more stress inducing. He reminds us that we will be remembered for our main achievements, and those hard things take time and focus and deep thought. He blasts corporate culture and helps people find techniques to move away from this.
I did hear an idea I hadn’t before. The diagnosis of depression as a response to the stress to be productive seems very believable to me, and an original thought. It can explain why depression is so ubiquitous today, whereas not common in yesteryear.
Just discovered this channel, deep thinking channels are my new favorite
Your videos are always 100% spot on. Im glad a couple months ago, i started realising where society is going, and making changes in my life on a deeper level to stay ahead of everyone else. I used to work as many hours as i could for as much money, now im trying to get as much as i can while working as little. Trying to do more with less, and stop trying to trade time for dollars and trade time for happiness instead. Our society is going further and further into debt, not just financially.... and i have no desire to be a part of a future like that
It’s all the social media and phones. Including me commenting right now. Let’s get rid of it all and get back to face to face
I’m afraid it’s not as simple as that, you see we also go into this way of life because of the reality our world has been facing that’s always been there, even if you go back to face to face, we will almost never know exactly how to solve society’s issues that make us turn to the phone in the first place.
Wouldn't work. The issue was there even before social media and phones.
I cried while watching this and just said to myself “I dont wanna live like this”
Eye opening😊
"We are our own master and servent"
Not according to your neighbors! They want your labor, and they want it now!
@@BlackJesus8463 🤔
@@BlackJesus8463 You mean welfare leeches that vote themselves more of your money!
@@BlackJesus8463 What's in it for me? I unapologetically put a price on my labour and contribute to not providing more labour by not having kids. Lower the supply to increase the demand and then you have a market you can exploit.
It’s amazing how hard we work and how the wages here in the US are barely enough to live. It’s very depressing.
Byung-Chul Han’s Vita Contemplativa is also a real gem… as the antidote to burnout
I’ve realised that a simple quiet life is the way.
All I need is a book with a cup of tea and my garden to enjoy them
Everything else is surplus
I almost cried watching this. Hits home
You always seemed to be thinking what I’m always thinking. Keep doing what you are doing, I’ve been watching for years ❤👍
There’s a surplus of everything. It’s overwhelming. Remember the 70s: turn on, tune in, drop out. We don’t have to over achieve.
The problem also stems from the fact that our society values ambition and devalues its absence. A lot of people just want to live a quiet life, have a job that's often food, do things they enjoy, spend time with friends and family, maybe it's routine, but a lot of people enjoy it. The problem is that social pressure pushes people to pursue goals, be they economic, celebrity etc., when this doesn't make them happy - quite the contrary.
Im actually burned out bc i used to be so chill but i have no patience for bs anymore any ounce of it my body snaps like bart choking his son
If i had to guess, I would say your naturally chilled out state was being hit with all the bullshit of the world, and instead of reacting you stayed chilled, but the emotion built up in your nervous system and now you're over reacting to any stimulus that touches it, super sensitive and getting triggered (not saying that in a derogatory way). You gotta process and release the emotion out in a private setting eg 😡/😭 but mainly 😭 tbh
WHAT
Homer chokes bart
Part of my challenge is that when I breath and look around, I recognize I live in paradise (certainly when compared against someone's life a 100 or 200 years ago and increasing the further back you go.) I am safe, I have food, I am healthy, I have money in my wallet, I have AC and heat, I have clean water, shelter from the elements,.. but it often feels like (not realistically but feels,) it can be taken away quickly if I don't continue to spin. Then I get angry at myself for not appreciating the paradise I live in and that my complaints are petty. I beat myself up for not achieving more or being more given the paradise of options available. Fitter, smarter, more friends, more caring, more giving... I retreat within because I don't have the energy to do all the 'I should' or beat myself up when I fail to workout or eat right. Then I remind myself, its ok, I live in paradise, relax... and the cycle begins to repeat.