I’m out here dodging bullets. My first relationship was difficult to get over but I chose the hard route of letting her go completely and not reaching out. 3 years later and she’s is sliding into my DMs but I chose not to respond. I reminded myself it would bring nothing, I don’t respect her decicions , it would bring unnecessary drama into my life. I had to remind myself to avoid the temptation. It’s easy to make bad decisions especially if you’re lonely or hold onto things.
To paraphrase a comment Courtney made in passing, one of my favorite quotes of all time: "If it's important to you, you will find a way. If it's not, you will find an excuse."
Yes, if a girl really has desire for you she will find the time to get back to you. Although, if her dating profile says she sucks at texting, or she tells you that in a message days after talking to you, that just means she is busy talking to other guys and you are not her first choice
@@urlauburlaub2222 I must have run into a few unicorns, then, who actually wanted to get serious right away after a handful of dates and were never bad at communicating with me, played no games, and lasted a year or more until we reached impasses and ran into issues or differences we couldn't deal with. It's been a blessing and a curse, because I know such women actually exist but are so hard to find, so it's difficult to settle for less. And as far as politely calling women out for bad and or inconsistent communication skills, when I do this, it almost always backfires and turns her off (probably because she knows she's screwing up) and gets me labeled as "aggressive" or "insensitive" to her feelings, lmao. My feelings, of course, don't matter, smh
@@danwarner7816 100%. If they're going to date around, despite having had a good date or two with us, then we need to do the same thing. And if they can't even find the time to consistently speak to you or get together for a fricken first date, then you really can't take them seriously. This is why, when I meet someone (usually online, but even in real life), I progress to a phone CALL (not texting) immediately after getting her number to weed out the ones who are sincerely interested vs the ones who just want attention and are jerking me around. Then, if the phone call goes well, I set up a first meeting during that phone conversation. I get commended on this attitude by many women who are so relieved that I'm not "one of THOSE guys who only want to endlessly text" (apparently a lot of men do the same bullshit these insincere women are doing). Also, my time is valuable and want to be efficient with dating, so I don't want to waste 1 to 2 weeks worth of texting and or calls, only to then finally meet up and not like each other.
If you have to ask, she doesn't like you. Same way the other way around. There is a clear and distinct difference in the way someone acts when they do like you. Remember that feeling when you have it and journal about it. This way, in the future, you never have to wonder and settle for less.
Disagree; if you’re new to chatting with girls, asking if she likes you doesn’t signal that she doesn’t in any way. Some people aren’t good at reading signals.
I wasn't asking if he liked me. He asked me out because of the way I looked, and still did not compliment me. It was odd. Beautiful women are used to hearing genuine compliments, and we genuinely appreciate them. We should soak 'em up when we're young, because those same genuine comments will naturally decline with age one day, no matter what shape we're in.
Sometimes people are genuinely not into texting, which I’m fine with as long as things go much better when interacting in person! But usually if I have to question whether they like me, the answer is no
I hear ya - Admir! Lol Great tips - by Courtney & Friend! Women give out their numbers to guys all through the day… sometimes just to get rid of the nice guys approaching them - that doesn’t mean they’re going to pick up when you call, or respond when you text them. But if you want to start changing that… you need to learn to “build an emotional connection” within seconds of meeting her - that way, you have a much better shot at her remembering you, and picking up your phone call, or responding to you text. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
That is true there are people who aren't into texting however, usually if they are interested in you they will tell them to call you because they don't like texting not just text you here or there
I'm actually suspicious when the girl keeps replying to my messages. I usually get ignored after 5-10 back-and-forth messages, and I don't really care how quick someone responds, but if someone keeps replying to my messages, there's a chance that she's enjoying my company.
Don't get suspicious, bro! Consider yourself lucky that she's not a game player and has enthusiasm for you. Idk how long you've been dating, but as someone with over 30 years of dating experience, my really good relationships (including my ex wife) all got back to my phone calls or texts very promptly. On the other hand, the ones who didn't were either not that interested or game players who only liked me until they realized I also really liked them.
Got this girl I text with if I text her she responds within a few minutes. First thing I ever texted to her was where have you been all my life. She’s a instigator in this fb dating group. I do the same stuff too because I don’t take any of it serious. We both are seeing people. But chat from time to time.
If a woman texts you from time to time after telling you she's not interested in a relationship, see things for what they are man. She doesn't want a relationship with you but she definitely wants one with the guy she really wants, but she's texting you because he's not available at the moment.
It's 2022, people literally have their phones connected to their watches, laptops, tablets.. anyone claiming to be a bad texture, or so busy, is just not interested. Simple
Bad texters usually aren't interested the majority of the time. Girls will say this when they want your attention, not you itself. The best way to see if a girl likes you is if she is willing to spend time with you. Girls who are interested in you will move mountains to be with you.
truee and i honesty think dating apps are waste of everyone time. its better meet at hobby, club (i.e sports or bookclub) or somewhere where you see them everyday. its cheap and fair. Than having spend money to boosts your profile in searches
@@FleetAdmiral833 What I always tell guys when I give them advice is that anything that isn't a "Yes" is a no. A maybe, is a no. An "I'll see" is a no. A "possibly" is a no. Another huge guage is sex. If she isn't having sex with you she could be on drugs, bad genetics, or she's not interested in you that much. Men can have sex with anything for any reason so the sex guage doesn't work on men but works wonderfully on women.
@@danwarner7816 I wouldn't say dating apps are a waste of time. I have scored on those apps a number of times throughout the years. It just takes a long time. I've had more success online than I have in person. Online opens you up to many different women. You can see what she's into and everything. You can talk to 10 different women in 10 mins. In person you can't do that. You don't know them so you can be walking into a disaster. Women who dislike you on apps can just not answer your message, done deal. A woman who has no interest in you in person won't want to just not answer you so it's harder to tell. Of course it has its cons. Everything has its pros and cons. But for me dating apps work much better. It's very hard to meet women in person now, it's not like what it was decades ago. Plus, I am not out at clubs and bars to meet people. I go to work, study, lift weights, train MMA, read books, etc. I have a busy life. So I can't do as much as everyone else. I am getting older now so I don't go out to parties or anything. But if you find meeting women in person easier, go for it man. Everyone has different lifestyles and preferences.
Talked with a girl on a Tinder before who was in an open relationship and I considered going on a date with her. She told me her boyfriend cheated on her and they talked and agreed to an open relationship. So I was the first guy she was trying this with for herself. I think she masking some serious commitment issues between them. I felt like she only agreed to it just to hold onto him. The whole time talking to her I just felt like a side piece. For me personally, I feel like you can’t spread your love evenly. There’s always going to be one person you like more than the other
the question everybody in those open relations should ask to themselves is : Am I OK with that conclusion of love inequality? Those open attempts are unstable interactions, once you figure out what you don't want or sacrifice the personal boundaries should be set in stone. Most dont know what they want or what is wrong within, hence the trial and errors but keep in mind the clock of life is ticking.
I remember when I met a girl years ago and we would text each other for hours and when we would get tired of texting we would call. We actually had to stop each other at a moment and say “hey we need to sleep”. If that is not happening, my friend, there isn’t much interest going on. Easy like that.
Couldn't agree anymore, it really should be that easy simple as that, was talking to someone previously and it was that easy and conversation flowed very easy unfortunately she had bad emotional and mental damage due to shifty parents. Had to cut her loose
i feel like that’s a bit over the top haha. maybe if you’re dating in High school, but once you hit 25ish, i think that level loses its luster. plus, you want to entice them a little! make it fun; flirty give-and-take where you’re not always texting each other can be fun and mysterious. obviously there’s a level where it’s toxic, but creating a little intrigue is fine imo
I understand Hallee's stance on being busy and dating, but let's take a moment to realize her options and "role" as a woman. As Courtney has mentioned many times before: women get way more matches than men and don't have to/ aren't expected to initiate the first few interactions. With me being a man, I wish I could purely rely on an immediate click/spark/connection, and not get tired of coming up with something new & fun to say for the initial interaction. So, to the guy who asked the question: most of the time, feeling out the connection is just part of the process, and if you're looking for a long-term relationship be upfront, like Hallee, with matches that can't seem to handle you're busy life.
Even if you talk to a woman online or even in person. It's always "take a number". You're right. They have the ultimate privilege to just fly through guys until one sticks on the first try and leaving out a potentially better match because they didn't want to look past their noses.
@Jay Bee & now you're bashing guys. You're also proving our point. We don't even get the chance to see if you make our heart fultter. So are you surprised that we mostly go off of what see physically and tryout whatever we get? Going off of "heart fultters" is later game for us because we simply don't have a choice otherwise. ruclips.net/video/PqUAmwWx8wA/видео.html
When someone cancels a date for a legitimate reason (illness, work obligations, e.g.), and they can't set a new date right then and there, though, I think the ball should be left in the other person's court to contact YOU and reschedule it. Otherwise, I feel like I'm chasing them, vs, as you like to say, pursuing them. What do you think, Courtney?
This video probably wasn’t supposed to be a Foray into pretty privilege and female privilege but it certainly was. Halle has clearly got lots of options, talks to lots of different men at the same time (who knows what she tells them to keep them as options). It just shows the chances of having a relationship with substance in this day and age with women is next to impossible with the new rules of dating. Good luck Fellas. Maybe try to find something else that makes you feel valued and special. Props to Halle she’s working the system. But it’s the system that is the issue.
The key is to not be a needy weakling (we've all been there, what is sad, is when grown men haven't learnt that lesson yet). If she doesn't reciprocate interest, cut her out of your life instantly. You shouldn't be working harder than her to develop a relationship. And while this isn't PC, neediness places you beneath a woman. She wants to be beneath you (figuratively and oftentimes, literally). Most women will never admit to that, but if you get experience you'll see for yourself. Men still need to be strong and men still need to lead. The most "independent and powerful" women still want that from a man.
You could argue the independent and powerful ones want it more! they're so used to being 'leaders' and 'empowered' that it might wear them out, they want someone to take over, not to run their life, but to lead in a healthy masculine way, so they can experience the femininity that modern society is telling them they need to ignore or shun. There's been a multitude of studies done that say 'woke' women actually don't find 'woke' men to be as attractive as those men who display so-called 'benevolent sexism'. Admittedly this stuff can be kind of subjective too. Regardless, it doesn't hurt and can often help you to express your masculinity in a positive way; be independent, assertive, know what you want and go for it. Doesn't matter how independent, powerful, or woke any woman is, that behavior on your part will make many of them attracted to you.
Another nice one ladies! Thanks again. Honesty with things like texting does go a long way. The I’m a bad texter in their profile is a RED flag for me too
I feel you G, but you gotta think Courtney does a lot and she seems typically just drained but thats the difference with a strange guy seeing her verse teddy who knows that she looks good whether she smiles or not, knaw-what-Im-sayin
Honestly, I am the absolute worst at texting… but then I don’t own a cell phone.
A good indicator on how someone feels about you is their willingness to spend “time” with you. Your time is the most important currency you will ever have. It is also the most finite as most of us never know how much time we have left.
Meet 'n greet....in person...spending quality time....asking fact- finding questions...Finding out whether there's a...Spark....Chemistry...& Connection. Put your best foot forward while being " yourself ". Texting is so impersonal and should be kept to a minimum. You can literally meet people....anywhere & anytime!
As I accept my future of being alone I can't help but wonder what it's like to even speak to women now. I got dumped at 18 and am now 28, and the thought of chatting with someone who likes you over the phone blows my mind. You guys in the comments are lucky.
I'm 37 and single. Was married, thankfully got out of it without having any kids, nowadays I just walk by playgrounds on the way to my street workout spot, I see all of the aging parents (who got "lucky" with each other some time back) yelling at their kids and at each other - and I feel much better about my life and about being free.
"Boys, never help an ex, never be friends with an ex. Don't let them back into your life " Courtney and Hailee's advice is well received here but this one I disregard actively. Maybe for a lot of guys they feel strong to leave her completely in the rear view mirror but for me there's been a huge shift in that I became cognizant of the fact that when dumped I had a strong tendency to lash out blame the other and get mad about it not that any of it did any good. I didn't like that side of myself at all, Vindictive, mean and always out for revenge, always. So yeah no I'm not friends with the earlier block of them but lately the more recent women to come along and me still talk. For me it's about personal growth and feeling downright petty and tiny for lashing out the way I did. If I can't be friends with them afterwards that's something I should work on within me.
@@stevenbrashear3408 the dates are illegible, some of the reverses are legible, yet they are 999 copper, they are older than you, and they are not going to be handed over to any female (my nephew can decide otherwise when I'm gone)
Thank you for the advice on dating with a busy lifestyle. I am a graduate student aho works part time, but have wanted to invest in my dating life more. Sometimes it can feel like I don't have time, but I feel like what you shared was helpful, thank you.
I've had girls who would take a bullet for me, but they text like "wyd" and are very lame texters. That's why being in person is a different ball game. Judge how she acts in person.
It's been a while since I watched one of your videos, and I really like how simple engaging they are. Congrats on your engagement! I wish you all the best and happiness!
I agree with Hailey if conversation feels force - it means there"s no common connection. A And in most cases that person is not really interested in you as you are in THEM
I think when it comes down to "Bad Texters" I think it depends on how you met them. If you just found them on instagram or got their social media through a friend, especially if they likely never seen you in person then they are definitely not into you. You will probably have a better chance of finding a "good texter" if you met her in person and ask for her social media, because at that point you've made a good first impression on her and she'll actually remember you as appose to the other guys she might have just met online as well.
I’m actually going through that now. Met in person. Got her number. Set a date. She said early on she’s not a good texter. Date is in 2 days. Guess I’ll see if there is a connection then
This whole issue with texting is why I'm starting to believe that the convenience of dating apps is far outweighed by just finding someone who's interested in you in person. When you both know that you like each other, you know.
A bad texter is not someone who forgets to respond; it is someone who is bad at expressing themselves by plain text. The main virtue of texting is you can pick it up and put it down, but if they don't pick it up at all, that is all you really need to know. Also, I have NEVER seen a polyamorous/open relationship that did not have a pretty obvious toxic element to it. Often more than one.
I think it’s more common for guys to be into you but also be a bad texter. Of course, there is a difference between being a polite person and someone who is a good texter. I don’t like having conversations through text personally, I’d rather call or FaceTime. For me, texting is a place for: memes, directions, making appointments, and casual check-ins. Obviously, communication is key and perhaps you have to be more specific then just using the cliché moniker “bad texter.” And say something like, “hey, just to let you know, I don’t like to text too much because I don’t like the way it pulls my attention away from what I’m doing and I’ve been frustrated with the miscommunication that happens often in texting. But I’m down to chat on the phone or FaceTime if you are.”
Agreed. I’m bad with texting since my friends and I mainly communicate via our group chat (so I don’t have much 1 on 1 practice in terms of fitting), but I’m much better at doing so in person. It’s just a weird thing I still want to improve on though for the future
I often get asked to do video chat or to call on the phone and I'm more of a face-to-face kind of guy and since I live by myself and take care of everything, cook real food and do everything I need to do to take care of my property and to get things ready for the week, I don't always want to sit down and take the time to make a phone call so I guess it really depends if you are busy or not getting things done or not because a lot of my downtime will include reading, yoga, and meditation. There are some guys that don't take care of their living environment or their property and they want to spend a lot of time playing video games so they definitely have the time to call and video chat even though they probably don't want to give up that attention so again it really depends
I don't mind checking back throughout the day for those who had texted me and replying although if it does become distracting I will make sure to let them know that I really need to pay attention to what I'm doing and I will get back to them later and it really does help find out which girls will respect you and which girls have nothing going on in their lives that they need to text somebody all day everyday which is annoying for both men and women
true story. back in my simping days, i was visiting a girl many years ago, and she was basically venting about her problems for a few hours. i thought i was being that gentleman, listening and being that shoulder to lean on. she seemed polite. i found out a few days later, she told her friends that i was extremely boring and that i didn't do anything for her. when i look back from high school to where i'm at (48), there has never been anything good that came out for the female or myself when i was involved in emotional tamponing. females don't want solutions when venting, and very few of them take responsibility for anything wrong that happens in their life. there was no gratitude shown, or respect earned from the female for myself for being that "nice guy". these days, when a female tries venting on me, i make it a point (in a polite but firm manner) that i am not going to be that emotional tampon. another great way to weed out emotional vampires, is to listen to her problems for a bit, then start talking about your own, with the same energy that she was giving you - and you'll see pretty quick how (un)interested she is in you as a person. i'm not upset lol - just learned from mistakes over the years to stay to myself, stay on my purpose, do the things i enjoy. a woman should complement a man's life, not be the focus. 💯
I struggle with texting.. I prefer talking on the phone or face to face.. I'm slow to warm up too.. these videos help alot I need to develop these skills tho
I got the impression from someone that they weren't a texter, so I straight up asked them about it. Granted, it was someone I met in person, and we had good interactions in person. It helped me out using that approach. Now I know not to text them too much.
It can be an uphill battle to just get a date going. Some just wanna be text pals...me personally, I just say this... So tell me whatcha want whatcha really really want So tell me whatcha want whatcha really really want I'll tell ya what I want what I really really want I wanna I wanna I wanna 😂😂😂
I hope you save that as a template because I would not want to type that over and over again unless there is the audio message version then I would definitely have fun being funny like that
If it's like pulling teeth to text someone they're not interested in you like you guys are saying Courtney Ryan I agree with you guys totally thumbs up thanks for always the good advice
Re bad texters... having adult ADD, part of the way I manage is to look at my phone only occasionally during the work day... because when I looked at it every time a message came in, my attention became even more fragmented. Don't have a choice but to get things done and make messaging a secondary priority. Try to stay in an active exchange, but one-off messages and messages opening a conversation may take time to see and respond. Even when I've explained this at the outset of dating, a substantial proportion of people I've dated become impatient with this. I think there's a lot of eagerness, often too much, to measure interest by how frequently a person texts.
Gentlemen......if she has genuine burning desire for you, she's going to get back to you ASAP. Period. Had one telling me how she's never on her phone, terrible at texting and messenger. Went out to dinner with her, and she moved faster than a ninja when that phone made the slightest noise. If she gets back to you in a reasonable time frame, she's interested. If it's more than a day or so, drop a gear, mash the throttle, and find the nearest exit.
I broke up with a woman because I learned she does not have integrity. I spent a lot of money on her, took her out on my motorboat, restaurants, etc. One time she asked to barrow money. I saw this as a good opportunity to see if she has integrity. She didn't just not mention the money she owes me but she asked for more. I cut her off completely. It's the principle.
I stumbled across your videos and you are full of good insights and easy to listen to and I have to say your friend Hallee would be someone that I would ask out for sure she has the perfect attitude and demeanor that being said keep doing what you are doing you are helping people for sure
Hello Courtney. I've been watching your videos for a while now and as much as I would like to say I am more confident with women after watching them, I feel like I'm more discouraged than before. I feel like dating has become a game where some have social disadvantages that keep them from being successful in the dating world. I dont think you've made a video about autism and dating, but I really would like to see a video addressing the disadvantage that neuro-atypicals like myself have in the dating world. It's not just about looks. It's also about how our brains work. I'm not a Red Pill but I find it depressing that some of us are just unlucky and have bodies and minds that no one wants. We live in a society where dating has become a game of exchange. Could you do a video about this? Better yet...could you have me on your show and we could have a dialogue about it? I feel like the manosphere and feminists dont talk about this issue that needs to be addressed. Much love and thank you. I hope to hear from you.
Hello Courtney, I really appreciate your insight. I am a happily married man of 15 years and I really enjoy going to marriage seminars with my bride. I really like psychology and personality typing and I think it would be interesting to see your take on the Meyer Brigs personality test. I am an ISTJ and when my wife learned that and did a little research, our marriage got exponentially better. Understanding each other is key for long term success.
Hallee is 🔥…anyone else?? So are you Courtney but I’ve seen you daily for 2 years so I feel like I take you for granted. From a man view: I enjoy having your friends on so we get two views.
3:40 is a massive red flag. She may be lying about not wanting a relationship and might actually be in a relationship now. But that relationship may not last, so she tries to keep him "warm". Another possibility is that she is checking her options. Hitting him up but also hitting up other guys. Third possibilitiy is that she is playing games with him. Either scenario is bad.
It's true! It starts off as a number's game like sales. Do not be a simp and ask, just do! Then things will just flow or stop. Good. Now you know it's a dead end. Texting so much, why? I guess I am more personal and physical that the phone is only to find out when and where. Save the texting and we'll talk about it when we meet up. If she likes you, she'll usually make obvious efforts. Recently, there were a few that captured my love muscle aka heart and wanted it to work out and they did too and yet, nada, nothing ever became of it. Penalty I endure for going against my norm. See, people can even like each other and yet for some reason, it never happens. And I patiently gave it a lot of time. I am still single as is Hallee, how does the song go? Things that make you go hhmmm (take note). Hallee, you have a nice smile, and pretty complexion, hairs, and eyes.
Great video. To go along with what was said after the second submission. I have heard that if she knows you still have feelings for her But she doesn't feel the same. she may text or talk to you if she doesn't have anyone . As she knows you will respond since she believes you still like her even if she doesn't have feeling for you that way .
Even if they're not texting others, bad texters simply show that they can't handle basic communication. Move on and find someone who has the qualities you want from a partner.
I was outta town and This girl was all over me in person, but takes days to reply. Mind you she watches all my stories n everything. I don’t wanna waste my time.
I think you girls make a good combo. You should do a podcast together. You are very compatible 😊. A good post is " I tripped and fell into your DM's." I had someone msg me that exact line it made me laugh and definately got things off to a good start. So yeah funny beats corny pick up lines every time.
Great video, loved it! 😊 As far as texting goes, it wasn’t until 2018 that I bought an iPhone 📱 so texting was a bit more labor-intensive with a talk & text phone. Courtney, I hear you big time when you mentioned a stage 5 clinger. The gal I was seeing last year was the type that would get upset when I couldn’t always answer my phone/text while at work.
Dating is like a raffle. You have to buy your ticket to win. Keep your options open but remain true with your selection(s). Don't go buying all the tickets 😂, especially if you have have a busy lifestyle and are feeling pressured to be in a relationshipn for whatever reason. If it's a relationship you're truly after you have to work for it. Cut out all the BS. Know yourself and know what you want from a relationship to an extent. Good luck brothers🤝🏽
they never get bored when you are tall and handsome. you just keep quiet and listen they will love you. in case you are not, you are done, doesnt matter how you try you can't keep her interested. sorry
Even if you are busy, you can find hour or two for a date after finishing at work. Its that easy. Use your phone, not a carrier pigeon. It takes less than a minute to call if you already went out before. Your place, her place, beach, a walk, restaurant etc. it can be done. Dont worry about missing an episode of that soap opera.
Without sounding like a simp, when I see pretty girls with awesome personalities, like Hallee, I do wonder how girls like her are single. I know that dating and relationships are not just about looks. But honestly, girls like her, you'd think would be snapped up really quickly and thus one wouldn't ever have a chance! There's still hope guys! Hallee indirectly proves that!
The reason a girl that looks like her might be single isn't because of the men not wanting her. I work with a morbidly obese woman who is very hairy and smells terrible; this girl STILL gets guys every week. Men will date anything. The reason she is single is her own choice. Her standards being very high. She might only be attracted to 1 percent of men out there, the other 99 percent she finds gross. Your average man would probably date 80 percent of women. So, finding that 1 percent man for her is going to take very long. Also, if he is that high value he has his picks too because he is so high value so he might not want her because he has what most men don't have, the power of selection. This is a hugeeeeee problem these days. Due to the success of women, they have ultra high standards now. Now we see over 50 percent of women who are 30 do not have children. Marriage rates are plummeting. Back then, women had a larger selection because men drastically out performed women economically. Women have since caught up which very much limits the dating pool. Sex rates among men have plummeted within the last 25yrs. They have seen younger men struggle far more than older guys 30 and above. The biggest factor being money. Older men make much more money than younger men.
It's because she is either picky, has standards that some guys will never meet, or she doesn't quite show herself off in a way that will get her noticed by a guy she is proper for. She's a lady, she displays attraction, and could lack desire to flaunt seduction cues. I'm glad she's single. Quality doesn't need tarnished, it needs highlighted.
I sort of agree and disagree about the "bad texter" question. I think there are absolutely people - a lot of them - who will throw that out as an excuse, even ahead of time on a dating profile, so that they can get away with not responding to people they aren't interested in. In that regard, yes, agreed, it's an excuse. At the same time, people have different communication styles, and some people are just bad at communicating via text and are much better in person or on the phone. Hallee is right, someone who is interested will always make the time to communicate but I think, for those folks who are legitimately bad at texting, this is going to look like setting up a phone/video call or meeting in-person instead because they know they are legitimately bad texters, and yet want to stay in contact.
Honestly you should just minimize texting in general and be upfront about it. IMO texting should just be for setting up dates, answering general questions that are one liners, and maybe exchanging funny internet memes. Texting isn't conversation. You will get way more authentic conversation via calls or FaceTime. Your sole attention will be on the person opposed to trying to respond while doing something else. People also over analyze what they say and receive over text which makes it less authentic as well.
I’m a bad texted because I’m so busy with business not because I don’t care but I can see how that can come off badly. It’s probably best to be communicating that then.
For me personally. My gf is really busy and so am I. We text on the weekends. During the week I work a full time job and she is going to college full time and also her parents own a business and she helps out there on the weekends so I know that she is really busy. But these are some good points here.
Hi Courntney Here are some funny texts i use to my girl "I just reviewed your case and you need a good nite hug and a lot more to improve your emotional love life " then sleep well love The other one " Who is this and why are you wearing my pyjamas " the answer came back real fast '"because i can " making them funny with a touch of confidence
A whole lot of humanity has gone wrong simply because they think that life is all about a love story but it is not. The real purpose of life is to do something good for the cause of this whole humanity so that you may live long in the land in which you were living and will also be remembered after death. Don't waste your time making someone like you. You are the author of your life. No one can determine your happiness. You determine your happiness. That's it
Open relationships are usually red flags more often times than not one partner is more interested in a open relationship than the other which means most open relationships actleast from a relationship perspective don’t last long
3:36 you're acting like women give straight answers hahaha - I was seeing this Chinese girl a few years ago I felt like I was texting her a bunch, I asked her 'I know I tend to go off on tangents about certain topics, would you prefer it if I txt you less?' she said 'to be honest sometimes it is a bit much (laughing emoji)' so I said 'yeah, I get it not everyone approaches every topic with so much energy, no probs' I started txting her like twice a day max and she started blowing up my phone... then we just txt each other all day... I get that it worked out well cause I am always in favor of talking to everyone and everything, but my point is that most women don't have a CLUE what they want and they have even less of a clue as to how to tell you.
13:00 guess I'm f**ked. I don't take pictures of myself when I'm doing activities, only when group photo .... I think that is also the reason why a lot male don't have good profile picture.
Thy lady that I'm seeing currently was a terrible "texter". I was almost certain she wasn't interested in me. Howevertofore, when she did text me, she made it clear she wanted to meet me. We gathered yesternight, and my disposition was that of a skeptical sailor, at first. But it became clear to me over the course of the night that she was indeed interested after all. The lady and I kissed, and a second date with her has been made for the following day. If she wants to meet you, take heart, for that is all you need to "shoot thy shot". Also, learn to kiss like Romeo. (This is a true story)
I was texting with a girl I went on a date with a few weeks ago. I really really liked her, and she warned me on the date she was bad at texting so I didn't think anything was wrong with her slow and short replies. She even said she wanted a second date. I sent her one or two a day, and she always made sure to respond at some point so I was sure she liked me too. Then at 630AM on my way to work after about 3 weeks of that I got the it's not you it's me text. Damn near broke my heart because I was so sure she was into me, and I was definitely into her. So even if the texting and communication seems okay, you just never know. That was like a month ago and it still stings a bit when I think about it.
Damn bro I feel you too. I still hurt from that. Only because it's the first girl out of my league that was actually attracted to me before I even talked to her. 😔
I know it’s annoying dealing with clingers. But those individuals tend to have child-parent issues. They didn’t receive the necessary validation that children need to feel confident about themselves. And tend to seek a parental figure in adult relationships. Which can turn ugly if the person they attract decides to take advantage of that.
Could you make more videos about relationships? I know you already made one, or more idk, but it would be nice watching videos about it. Like, communication tips or negotiation tactics
Great content ladies. Very interesting. I'm a man in my early 50s. Coming off a 26 year marriage. Just trying to learn how to date again. Lol. I disagree with the bad texting only because 95 % of my texting over the years are to male friends and we don't care how the text sounds . Trying to text a woman who I am very interested in can sometimes be hard to do. Probably because I'm so new to all this. Lol. But thanks again for all the great info. Much appreciated.
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Boys, never help an ex, never be friends with an ex. Don't let them back into your life
Amen to that...learned that the hard way. It really isn't worth it. I've never helped them out monetarily, but emotionally, just stay away.
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I’m out here dodging bullets. My first relationship was difficult to get over but I chose the hard route of letting her go completely and not reaching out. 3 years later and she’s is sliding into my DMs but I chose not to respond. I reminded myself it would bring nothing, I don’t respect her decicions , it would bring unnecessary drama into my life. I had to remind myself to avoid the temptation. It’s easy to make bad decisions especially if you’re lonely or hold onto things.
Agree!
I let me ex come back, and kick her out.
To paraphrase a comment Courtney made in passing, one of my favorite quotes of all time:
"If it's important to you, you will find a way. If it's not, you will find an excuse."
These are facts 💯💯
Yes, if a girl really has desire for you she will find the time to get back to you. Although, if her dating profile says she sucks at texting, or she tells you that in a message days after talking to you, that just means she is busy talking to other guys and you are not her first choice
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She gets it
As a girl, yeah pretty much you’re right on
@@urlauburlaub2222 I must have run into a few unicorns, then, who actually wanted to get serious right away after a handful of dates and were never bad at communicating with me, played no games, and lasted a year or more until we reached impasses and ran into issues or differences we couldn't deal with. It's been a blessing and a curse, because I know such women actually exist but are so hard to find, so it's difficult to settle for less. And as far as politely calling women out for bad and or inconsistent communication skills, when I do this, it almost always backfires and turns her off (probably because she knows she's screwing up) and gets me labeled as "aggressive" or "insensitive" to her feelings, lmao. My feelings, of course, don't matter, smh
very true it mainly case with a lot of girls. you are defo not her first choice. i recommend to also talk to other girls if your not together.
@@danwarner7816 100%. If they're going to date around, despite having had a good date or two with us, then we need to do the same thing. And if they can't even find the time to consistently speak to you or get together for a fricken first date, then you really can't take them seriously. This is why, when I meet someone (usually online, but even in real life), I progress to a phone CALL (not texting) immediately after getting her number to weed out the ones who are sincerely interested vs the ones who just want attention and are jerking me around. Then, if the phone call goes well, I set up a first meeting during that phone conversation. I get commended on this attitude by many women who are so relieved that I'm not "one of THOSE guys who only want to endlessly text" (apparently a lot of men do the same bullshit these insincere women are doing). Also, my time is valuable and want to be efficient with dating, so I don't want to waste 1 to 2 weeks worth of texting and or calls, only to then finally meet up and not like each other.
If you have to ask, she doesn't like you. Same way the other way around. There is a clear and distinct difference in the way someone acts when they do like you. Remember that feeling when you have it and journal about it. This way, in the future, you never have to wonder and settle for less.
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Damn Louis always spewing facts
Disagree; if you’re new to chatting with girls, asking if she likes you doesn’t signal that she doesn’t in any way.
Some people aren’t good at reading signals.
I wasn't asking if he liked me. He asked me out because of the way I looked, and still did not compliment me. It was odd. Beautiful women are used to hearing genuine compliments, and we genuinely appreciate them. We should soak 'em up when we're young, because those same genuine comments will naturally decline with age one day, no matter what shape we're in.
The question is, if Apple's customer service replies quickly, should you date Tim Cook?
Sometimes people are genuinely not into texting, which I’m fine with as long as things go much better when interacting in person! But usually if I have to question whether they like me, the answer is no
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I hear ya - Admir! Lol
Great tips - by Courtney & Friend! Women give out their numbers to guys all through the day…
sometimes just to get rid of the nice guys approaching them - that doesn’t mean they’re going to pick up when you call, or respond when you text them. But if you want to start changing that…
you need to learn to “build an emotional connection” within seconds of meeting her - that way, you have a much better shot at her remembering you, and picking up your phone call, or responding to you text.
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
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@@CourtneyRyan I feel absolutely worthless and useless at the moment.
That is true there are people who aren't into texting however, usually if they are interested in you they will tell them to call you because they don't like texting not just text you here or there
I get suspicious when a girl actually responds quickly to my texts haha. Usually it never happens. Courtney, thank you for your advice about dating!
I'm actually suspicious when the girl keeps replying to my messages. I usually get ignored after 5-10 back-and-forth messages, and I don't really care how quick someone responds, but if someone keeps replying to my messages, there's a chance that she's enjoying my company.
Don't get suspicious, bro! Consider yourself lucky that she's not a game player and has enthusiasm for you. Idk how long you've been dating, but as someone with over 30 years of dating experience, my really good relationships (including my ex wife) all got back to my phone calls or texts very promptly. On the other hand, the ones who didn't were either not that interested or game players who only liked me until they realized I also really liked them.
@@ShadowbannedAccount Been there man.
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Got this girl I text with if I text her she responds within a few minutes. First thing I ever texted to her was where have you been all my life. She’s a instigator in this fb dating group. I do the same stuff too because I don’t take any of it serious. We both are seeing people. But chat from time to time.
If a woman texts you from time to time after telling you she's not interested in a relationship, see things for what they are man. She doesn't want a relationship with you but she definitely wants one with the guy she really wants, but she's texting you because he's not available at the moment.
It's 2022, people literally have their phones connected to their watches, laptops, tablets.. anyone claiming to be a bad texture, or so busy, is just not interested. Simple
Bad texters usually aren't interested the majority of the time. Girls will say this when they want your attention, not you itself.
The best way to see if a girl likes you is if she is willing to spend time with you. Girls who are interested in you will move mountains to be with you.
truee and i honesty think dating apps are waste of everyone time. its better meet at hobby, club (i.e sports or bookclub) or somewhere where you see them everyday. its cheap and fair. Than having spend money to boosts your profile in searches
@@FleetAdmiral833 agreed, i had that in past, in end i was like forget this chick talk to another girl who values my time
@@FleetAdmiral833 What I always tell guys when I give them advice is that anything that isn't a "Yes" is a no. A maybe, is a no. An "I'll see" is a no. A "possibly" is a no.
Another huge guage is sex. If she isn't having sex with you she could be on drugs, bad genetics, or she's not interested in you that much. Men can have sex with anything for any reason so the sex guage doesn't work on men but works wonderfully on women.
@@danwarner7816 I wouldn't say dating apps are a waste of time. I have scored on those apps a number of times throughout the years. It just takes a long time.
I've had more success online than I have in person. Online opens you up to many different women. You can see what she's into and everything. You can talk to 10 different women in 10 mins. In person you can't do that. You don't know them so you can be walking into a disaster. Women who dislike you on apps can just not answer your message, done deal. A woman who has no interest in you in person won't want to just not answer you so it's harder to tell.
Of course it has its cons. Everything has its pros and cons. But for me dating apps work much better. It's very hard to meet women in person now, it's not like what it was decades ago. Plus, I am not out at clubs and bars to meet people. I go to work, study, lift weights, train MMA, read books, etc. I have a busy life. So I can't do as much as everyone else. I am getting older now so I don't go out to parties or anything.
But if you find meeting women in person easier, go for it man. Everyone has different lifestyles and preferences.
@@bane3991 oh that's gud on you bro. I'm opposite I score more in person than online dating I think it works better for some ppl that's all
Talked with a girl on a Tinder before who was in an open relationship and I considered going on a date with her. She told me her boyfriend cheated on her and they talked and agreed to an open relationship. So I was the first guy she was trying this with for herself. I think she masking some serious commitment issues between them. I felt like she only agreed to it just to hold onto him. The whole time talking to her I just felt like a side piece. For me personally, I feel like you can’t spread your love evenly. There’s always going to be one person you like more than the other
the question everybody in those open relations should ask to themselves is : Am I OK with that conclusion of love inequality?
Those open attempts are unstable interactions, once you figure out what you don't want or sacrifice the personal boundaries should be set in stone.
Most dont know what they want or what is wrong within, hence the trial and errors but keep in mind the clock of life is ticking.
I’ve always felt disrespected by people hitting me up to be their third… I’m worth more than just being the evening entertainment.
I remember when I met a girl years ago and we would text each other for hours and when we would get tired of texting we would call. We actually had to stop each other at a moment and say “hey we need to sleep”.
If that is not happening, my friend, there isn’t much interest going on. Easy like that.
Couldn't agree anymore, it really should be that easy simple as that, was talking to someone previously and it was that easy and conversation flowed very easy unfortunately she had bad emotional and mental damage due to shifty parents. Had to cut her loose
i feel like that’s a bit over the top haha. maybe if you’re dating in High school, but once you hit 25ish, i think that level loses its luster. plus, you want to entice them a little! make it fun; flirty give-and-take where you’re not always texting each other can be fun and mysterious. obviously there’s a level where it’s toxic, but creating a little intrigue is fine imo
I understand Hallee's stance on being busy and dating, but let's take a moment to realize her options and "role" as a woman. As Courtney has mentioned many times before: women get way more matches than men and don't have to/ aren't expected to initiate the first few interactions.
With me being a man, I wish I could purely rely on an immediate click/spark/connection, and not get tired of coming up with something new & fun to say for the initial interaction. So, to the guy who asked the question: most of the time, feeling out the connection is just part of the process, and if you're looking for a long-term relationship be upfront, like Hallee, with matches that can't seem to handle you're busy life.
Even if you talk to a woman online or even in person. It's always "take a number". You're right. They have the ultimate privilege to just fly through guys until one sticks on the first try and leaving out a potentially better match because they didn't want to look past their noses.
@Jay Bee & now you're bashing guys.
You're also proving our point. We don't even get the chance to see if you make our heart fultter. So are you surprised that we mostly go off of what see physically and tryout whatever we get? Going off of "heart fultters" is later game for us because we simply don't have a choice otherwise.
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When someone cancels a date for a legitimate reason (illness, work obligations, e.g.), and they can't set a new date right then and there, though, I think the ball should be left in the other person's court to contact YOU and reschedule it. Otherwise, I feel like I'm chasing them, vs, as you like to say, pursuing them. What do you think, Courtney?
This video probably wasn’t supposed to be a Foray into pretty privilege and female privilege but it certainly was. Halle has clearly got lots of options, talks to lots of different men at the same time (who knows what she tells them to keep them as options). It just shows the chances of having a relationship with substance in this day and age with women is next to impossible with the new rules of dating. Good luck Fellas. Maybe try to find something else that makes you feel valued and special. Props to Halle she’s working the system. But it’s the system that is the issue.
Agreed
For the most part girl go to the highest bidder. And it more currency than money very few counts morals as a form of currency.
Halle is genuinely one of the prettiest women I have ever seen. This video might be funnier if it had only average girls in it.
The key is to not be a needy weakling (we've all been there, what is sad, is when grown men haven't learnt that lesson yet). If she doesn't reciprocate interest, cut her out of your life instantly. You shouldn't be working harder than her to develop a relationship. And while this isn't PC, neediness places you beneath a woman. She wants to be beneath you (figuratively and oftentimes, literally). Most women will never admit to that, but if you get experience you'll see for yourself. Men still need to be strong and men still need to lead. The most "independent and powerful" women still want that from a man.
You could argue the independent and powerful ones want it more! they're so used to being 'leaders' and 'empowered' that it might wear them out, they want someone to take over, not to run their life, but to lead in a healthy masculine way, so they can experience the femininity that modern society is telling them they need to ignore or shun. There's been a multitude of studies done that say 'woke' women actually don't find 'woke' men to be as attractive as those men who display so-called 'benevolent sexism'. Admittedly this stuff can be kind of subjective too. Regardless, it doesn't hurt and can often help you to express your masculinity in a positive way; be independent, assertive, know what you want and go for it. Doesn't matter how independent, powerful, or woke any woman is, that behavior on your part will make many of them attracted to you.
You've said it before and I love hearing it every time "If a woman is interested in you, they will make time for you"!
Another nice one ladies! Thanks again. Honesty with things like texting does go a long way. The I’m a bad texter in their profile is a RED flag for me too
Oh wow! I've never seen Courtney smile like that in her thumbnails. She looks even prettier. She usually smiles without showing her teeth
🥰 thank you!
I agree
Courtney is beautiful
I feel you G, but you gotta think Courtney does a lot and she seems typically just drained but thats the difference with a strange guy seeing her verse teddy who knows that she looks good whether she smiles or not, knaw-what-Im-sayin
Both of them are so beautiful. My God, young pretty girls are literally a gift for Men from God
Honestly, I am the absolute worst at texting… but then I don’t own a cell phone.
A good indicator on how someone feels about you is their willingness to spend “time” with you. Your time is the most important currency you will ever have. It is also the most finite as most of us never know how much time we have left.
Meet 'n greet....in person...spending quality time....asking fact- finding questions...Finding out whether there's a...Spark....Chemistry...& Connection. Put your best foot forward while being " yourself ". Texting is so impersonal and should be kept to a minimum. You can literally meet people....anywhere & anytime!
As I accept my future of being alone I can't help but wonder what it's like to even speak to women now. I got dumped at 18 and am now 28, and the thought of chatting with someone who likes you over the phone blows my mind. You guys in the comments are lucky.
I'm 37 and single. Was married, thankfully got out of it without having any kids, nowadays I just walk by playgrounds on the way to my street workout spot, I see all of the aging parents (who got "lucky" with each other some time back) yelling at their kids and at each other - and I feel much better about my life and about being free.
@@kylev5602 Working on my weight. I have a good face so I do catch women looking but the weight makes me not want to pursue.
"Boys, never help an ex, never be friends with an ex. Don't let them back into your life "
Courtney and Hailee's advice is well received here but this one I disregard actively. Maybe for a lot of guys they feel strong to leave her completely in the rear view mirror but for me there's been a huge shift in that I became cognizant of the fact that when dumped I had a strong tendency to lash out blame the other and get mad about it not that any of it did any good. I didn't like that side of myself at all, Vindictive, mean and always out for revenge, always.
So yeah no I'm not friends with the earlier block of them but lately the more recent women to come along and me still talk. For me it's about personal growth and feeling downright petty and tiny for lashing out the way I did. If I can't be friends with them afterwards that's something I should work on within me.
Thank you for this! If they were to ask me for one red cent, I'd flatly tell them get a job and go work. I don't give handouts.
Haha I have many large coronet cents I could loan you to tease them (if you're joking about pre 82 pennies)
@@LatimusChadimus 😂 good one! Then again, you may not want to do that because the collector value might increase.
@@stevenbrashear3408 the dates are illegible, some of the reverses are legible, yet they are 999 copper, they are older than you, and they are not going to be handed over to any female (my nephew can decide otherwise when I'm gone)
Thank you for the advice on dating with a busy lifestyle. I am a graduate student aho works part time, but have wanted to invest in my dating life more. Sometimes it can feel like I don't have time, but I feel like what you shared was helpful, thank you.
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You too John! 🥰
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I've had girls who would take a bullet for me, but they text like "wyd" and are very lame texters. That's why being in person is a different ball game. Judge how she acts in person.
Which gives you the opportunity to take the lead in the conversation because some girls do that just to break the ice or just to claim the attention
It's been a while since I watched one of your videos, and I really like how simple engaging they are. Congrats on your engagement! I wish you all the best and happiness!
I agree with Hailey if conversation feels force - it means there"s no common connection. A
And in most cases that person is not really interested in you as you are in THEM
I think when it comes down to "Bad Texters" I think it depends on how you met them. If you just found them on instagram or got their social media through a friend, especially if they likely never seen you in person then they are definitely not into you. You will probably have a better chance of finding a "good texter" if you met her in person and ask for her social media, because at that point you've made a good first impression on her and she'll actually remember you as appose to the other guys she might have just met online as well.
I’m actually going through that now. Met in person. Got her number. Set a date. She said early on she’s not a good texter. Date is in 2 days. Guess I’ll see if there is a connection then
This whole issue with texting is why I'm starting to believe that the convenience of dating apps is far outweighed by just finding someone who's interested in you in person. When you both know that you like each other, you know.
Understandable but you can't negotiate desire so at some point you're going to have to get used to doing things face-to-face and not screen to screen
There is no convenience in online dating. It's basically just doom scrolling through a list of profiles of people you know would never look your way
Keep life active. Once motion of mind is active. Love enters in peaceful calm mind. Love DON'T enter in stress body.
Straight up if a girl is interested in u ull know she'll match ur efforts and u won't have too chase or beg
A bad texter is not someone who forgets to respond; it is someone who is bad at expressing themselves by plain text. The main virtue of texting is you can pick it up and put it down, but if they don't pick it up at all, that is all you really need to know.
Also, I have NEVER seen a polyamorous/open relationship that did not have a pretty obvious toxic element to it. Often more than one.
As a long time subscriber to this channel, glad that you ladies speak your mind so openly in front of the camera!
I think it’s more common for guys to be into you but also be a bad texter. Of course, there is a difference between being a polite person and someone who is a good texter. I don’t like having conversations through text personally, I’d rather call or FaceTime. For me, texting is a place for: memes, directions, making appointments, and casual check-ins. Obviously, communication is key and perhaps you have to be more specific then just using the cliché moniker “bad texter.” And say something like, “hey, just to let you know, I don’t like to text too much because I don’t like the way it pulls my attention away from what I’m doing and I’ve been frustrated with the miscommunication that happens often in texting. But I’m down to chat on the phone or FaceTime if you are.”
Texting is the absolute WORST way to communicate. Texting should be used for quick comments or questions. Not conversations.
Agreed. I’m bad with texting since my friends and I mainly communicate via our group chat (so I don’t have much 1 on 1 practice in terms of fitting), but I’m much better at doing so in person. It’s just a weird thing I still want to improve on though for the future
Yaaay!!! Halle's here!!
My question didn`t make it.. But seeing Hallee here made up for it :D
Cool, calm and collected. Lots of women are not like you both! Great video!
I often get asked to do video chat or to call on the phone and I'm more of a face-to-face kind of guy and since I live by myself and take care of everything, cook real food and do everything I need to do to take care of my property and to get things ready for the week, I don't always want to sit down and take the time to make a phone call so I guess it really depends if you are busy or not getting things done or not because a lot of my downtime will include reading, yoga, and meditation. There are some guys that don't take care of their living environment or their property and they want to spend a lot of time playing video games so they definitely have the time to call and video chat even though they probably don't want to give up that attention so again it really depends
I don't mind checking back throughout the day for those who had texted me and replying although if it does become distracting I will make sure to let them know that I really need to pay attention to what I'm doing and I will get back to them later and it really does help find out which girls will respect you and which girls have nothing going on in their lives that they need to text somebody all day everyday which is annoying for both men and women
true story. back in my simping days, i was visiting a girl many years ago, and she was basically venting about her problems for a few hours. i thought i was being that gentleman, listening and being that shoulder to lean on. she seemed polite.
i found out a few days later, she told her friends that i was extremely boring and that i didn't do anything for her.
when i look back from high school to where i'm at (48), there has never been anything good that came out for the female or myself when i was involved in emotional tamponing.
females don't want solutions when venting, and very few of them take responsibility for anything wrong that happens in their life. there was no gratitude shown, or respect earned from the female for myself for being that "nice guy".
these days, when a female tries venting on me, i make it a point (in a polite but firm manner) that i am not going to be that emotional tampon.
another great way to weed out emotional vampires, is to listen to her problems for a bit, then start talking about your own, with the same energy that she was giving you - and you'll see pretty quick how (un)interested she is in you as a person.
i'm not upset lol - just learned from mistakes over the years to stay to myself, stay on my purpose, do the things i enjoy.
a woman should complement a man's life, not be the focus. 💯
@Stevo just worry about you. the best return on investment is on yourself.
I struggle with texting.. I prefer talking on the phone or face to face.. I'm slow to warm up too.. these videos help alot I need to develop these skills tho
I got the impression from someone that they weren't a texter, so I straight up asked them about it. Granted, it was someone I met in person, and we had good interactions in person. It helped me out using that approach. Now I know not to text them too much.
It can be an uphill battle to just get a date going. Some just wanna be text pals...me personally, I just say this...
So tell me whatcha want whatcha really really want
So tell me whatcha want whatcha really really want
I'll tell ya what I want what I really really want
I wanna
I wanna
I wanna
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I hope you save that as a template because I would not want to type that over and over again unless there is the audio message version then I would definitely have fun being funny like that
@@LatimusChadimus duly noted 😂😂 most girls I've said that too were totally caught off guard by it, but thought it was hilarious!
But what if she really, really, really wants to zigazigha? (Yes, I'm ashamed that i know this)
@@mikeklein1779 oh the perks of being a late 1900s baby
(I read that on IG the other day and thought, oh boy, this is now a thing)
If it's like pulling teeth to text someone they're not interested in you like you guys are saying Courtney Ryan I agree with you guys totally thumbs up thanks for always the good advice
Hi, thanks for having this channel. It's really helped me correct some of my style faux pas. Please keep doing that you're doing!
Re bad texters... having adult ADD, part of the way I manage is to look at my phone only occasionally during the work day... because when I looked at it every time a message came in, my attention became even more fragmented. Don't have a choice but to get things done and make messaging a secondary priority. Try to stay in an active exchange, but one-off messages and messages opening a conversation may take time to see and respond. Even when I've explained this at the outset of dating, a substantial proportion of people I've dated become impatient with this. I think there's a lot of eagerness, often too much, to measure interest by how frequently a person texts.
Gentlemen......if she has genuine burning desire for you, she's going to get back to you ASAP. Period.
Had one telling me how she's never on her phone, terrible at texting and messenger. Went out to dinner with her, and she moved faster than a ninja when that phone made the slightest noise. If she gets back to you in a reasonable time frame, she's interested. If it's more than a day or so, drop a gear, mash the throttle, and find the nearest exit.
I broke up with a woman because I learned she does not have integrity. I spent a lot of money on her, took her out on my motorboat, restaurants, etc. One time she asked to barrow money. I saw this as a good opportunity to see if she has integrity. She didn't just not mention the money she owes me but she asked for more. I cut her off completely. It's the principle.
I stumbled across your videos and you are full of good insights and easy to listen to and I have to say your friend Hallee would be someone that I would ask out for sure she has the perfect attitude and demeanor that being said keep doing what you are doing you are helping people for sure
Hello Courtney. I've been watching your videos for a while now and as much as I would like to say I am more confident with women after watching them, I feel like I'm more discouraged than before. I feel like dating has become a game where some have social disadvantages that keep them from being successful in the dating world. I dont think you've made a video about autism and dating, but I really would like to see a video addressing the disadvantage that neuro-atypicals like myself have in the dating world. It's not just about looks. It's also about how our brains work. I'm not a Red Pill but I find it depressing that some of us are just unlucky and have bodies and minds that no one wants. We live in a society where dating has become a game of exchange. Could you do a video about this? Better yet...could you have me on your show and we could have a dialogue about it? I feel like the manosphere and feminists dont talk about this issue that needs to be addressed. Much love and thank you. I hope to hear from you.
Hello Courtney, I really appreciate your insight. I am a happily married man of 15 years and I really enjoy going to marriage seminars with my bride. I really like psychology and personality typing and I think it would be interesting to see your take on the Meyer Brigs personality test. I am an ISTJ and when my wife learned that and did a little research, our marriage got exponentially better. Understanding each other is key for long term success.
Hallee is 🔥…anyone else?? So are you Courtney but I’ve seen you daily for 2 years so I feel like I take you for granted. From a man view: I enjoy having your friends on so we get two views.
Hallee' hair was looking beautiful for these videos.
3:40 is a massive red flag. She may be lying about not wanting a relationship and might actually be in a relationship now. But that relationship may not last, so she tries to keep him "warm". Another possibility is that she is checking her options. Hitting him up but also hitting up other guys. Third possibilitiy is that she is playing games with him. Either scenario is bad.
I love it when a man calls (even if it's just a few minutes). It's lovely hearing from the people who you like... Or love hehe 🥰😘
It's true! It starts off as a number's game like sales. Do not be a simp and ask, just do! Then things will just flow or stop. Good. Now you know it's a dead end. Texting so much, why? I guess I am more personal and physical that the phone is only to find out when and where. Save the texting and we'll talk about it when we meet up. If she likes you, she'll usually make obvious efforts. Recently, there were a few that captured my love muscle aka heart and wanted it to work out and they did too and yet, nada, nothing ever became of it. Penalty I endure for going against my norm. See, people can even like each other and yet for some reason, it never happens. And I patiently gave it a lot of time. I am still single as is Hallee, how does the song go? Things that make you go hhmmm (take note). Hallee, you have a nice smile, and pretty complexion, hairs, and eyes.
Great video. To go along with what was said after the second submission. I have heard that if she knows you still have feelings for her But she doesn't feel the same. she may text or talk to you if she doesn't have anyone . As she knows you will respond since she believes you still like her even if she doesn't have feeling for you that way .
Guys just be real the girl will love you! No ghosting,no tricks only beautiful hair and some licks! ❤
Even if they're not texting others, bad texters simply show that they can't handle basic communication. Move on and find someone who has the qualities you want from a partner.
I was outta town and This girl was all over me in person, but takes days to reply. Mind you she watches all my stories n everything. I don’t wanna waste my time.
I think you girls make a good combo. You should do a podcast together. You are very compatible 😊.
A good post is " I tripped and fell into your DM's."
I had someone msg me that exact line it made me laugh and definately got things off to a good start. So yeah funny beats corny pick up lines every time.
Great video, loved it! 😊 As far as texting goes, it wasn’t until 2018 that I bought an iPhone 📱 so texting was a bit more labor-intensive with a talk & text phone. Courtney, I hear you big time when you mentioned a stage 5 clinger. The gal I was seeing last year was the type that would get upset when I couldn’t always answer my phone/text while at work.
Dating is like a raffle. You have to buy your ticket to win. Keep your options open but remain true with your selection(s). Don't go buying all the tickets 😂, especially if you have have a busy lifestyle and are feeling pressured to be in a relationshipn for whatever reason. If it's a relationship you're truly after you have to work for it. Cut out all the BS. Know yourself and know what you want from a relationship to an extent. Good luck brothers🤝🏽
they never get bored when you are tall and handsome. you just keep quiet and listen they will love you.
in case you are not, you are done, doesnt matter how you try you can't keep her interested.
sorry
Even if you are busy, you can find hour or two for a date after finishing at work. Its that easy. Use your phone, not a carrier pigeon. It takes less than a minute to call if you already went out before. Your place, her place, beach, a walk, restaurant etc. it can be done. Dont worry about missing an episode of that soap opera.
Without sounding like a simp, when I see pretty girls with awesome personalities, like Hallee, I do wonder how girls like her are single. I know that dating and relationships are not just about looks. But honestly, girls like her, you'd think would be snapped up really quickly and thus one wouldn't ever have a chance!
There's still hope guys! Hallee indirectly proves that!
She has a requirement a man makes seven figures.
The reason a girl that looks like her might be single isn't because of the men not wanting her. I work with a morbidly obese woman who is very hairy and smells terrible; this girl STILL gets guys every week. Men will date anything. The reason she is single is her own choice. Her standards being very high. She might only be attracted to 1 percent of men out there, the other 99 percent she finds gross. Your average man would probably date 80 percent of women.
So, finding that 1 percent man for her is going to take very long. Also, if he is that high value he has his picks too because he is so high value so he might not want her because he has what most men don't have, the power of selection.
This is a hugeeeeee problem these days. Due to the success of women, they have ultra high standards now. Now we see over 50 percent of women who are 30 do not have children. Marriage rates are plummeting. Back then, women had a larger selection because men drastically out performed women economically. Women have since caught up which very much limits the dating pool.
Sex rates among men have plummeted within the last 25yrs. They have seen younger men struggle far more than older guys 30 and above. The biggest factor being money. Older men make much more money than younger men.
It's because she is either picky, has standards that some guys will never meet, or she doesn't quite show herself off in a way that will get her noticed by a guy she is proper for. She's a lady, she displays attraction, and could lack desire to flaunt seduction cues. I'm glad she's single. Quality doesn't need tarnished, it needs highlighted.
All these presumptions. Why not have Courtney just ask her who would be her 'Prince Charming'?
@@gardengrower7633 Her Prince Charming is probably Tom Brady.
I sort of agree and disagree about the "bad texter" question. I think there are absolutely people - a lot of them - who will throw that out as an excuse, even ahead of time on a dating profile, so that they can get away with not responding to people they aren't interested in. In that regard, yes, agreed, it's an excuse. At the same time, people have different communication styles, and some people are just bad at communicating via text and are much better in person or on the phone. Hallee is right, someone who is interested will always make the time to communicate but I think, for those folks who are legitimately bad at texting, this is going to look like setting up a phone/video call or meeting in-person instead because they know they are legitimately bad texters, and yet want to stay in contact.
i'm such a Hallee stan
I don't know why but every time Halle looks at the camera, I get shy and look away haha😅🤣
Honestly you should just minimize texting in general and be upfront about it. IMO texting should just be for setting up dates, answering general questions that are one liners, and maybe exchanging funny internet memes.
Texting isn't conversation. You will get way more authentic conversation via calls or FaceTime. Your sole attention will be on the person opposed to trying to respond while doing something else. People also over analyze what they say and receive over text which makes it less authentic as well.
I’m a bad texted because I’m so busy with business not because I don’t care but I can see how that can come off badly. It’s probably best to be communicating that then.
Hallee is so my type. Ask her if she’s up for long distance relationship. I live in Sweden.
For me personally. My gf is really busy and so am I. We text on the weekends. During the week I work a full time job and she is going to college full time and also her parents own a business and she helps out there on the weekends so I know that she is really busy. But these are some good points here.
Lmao your shawty for the streets :/
Hi Courntney Here are some funny texts i use to my girl "I just reviewed your case and you need a good nite hug and a lot more to improve your emotional love life " then sleep well love The other one " Who is this and why are you wearing my pyjamas " the answer came back real fast '"because i can " making them funny with a touch of confidence
great video ladies Hallee is so good to listen to.
@@kylev5602 yes let's go to Starbucks to see if they can spell my name right.
That 25-cent gumball line is PRICELESS! 😆
A whole lot of humanity has gone wrong simply because they think that life is all about a love story but it is not. The real purpose of life is to do something good for the cause of this whole humanity so that you may live long in the land in which you were living and will also be remembered after death. Don't waste your time making someone like you. You are the author of your life. No one can determine your happiness. You determine your happiness. That's it
Two beautiful star but I give you.five⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
God bless everyone watching those two gorgeous ladies
Peace and love for everyone
Remember God loves us.🙏.
Both of you look beautiful 😍 thanks for the upload
Courtney, you should check out the swinger lifestyle, and as your friend said it's all about honesty, and communication
Open relationships are usually red flags more often times than not one partner is more interested in a open relationship than the other which means most open relationships actleast from a relationship perspective don’t last long
LOL - "have a conversation that Flllooowwwwwwwssss" - This!!!
Use the phone (text/call) to set up dates. That’s it
3:36 you're acting like women give straight answers hahaha - I was seeing this Chinese girl a few years ago I felt like I was texting her a bunch, I asked her 'I know I tend to go off on tangents about certain topics, would you prefer it if I txt you less?' she said 'to be honest sometimes it is a bit much (laughing emoji)' so I said 'yeah, I get it not everyone approaches every topic with so much energy, no probs' I started txting her like twice a day max and she started blowing up my phone... then we just txt each other all day... I get that it worked out well cause I am always in favor of talking to everyone and everything, but my point is that most women don't have a CLUE what they want and they have even less of a clue as to how to tell you.
13:00 guess I'm f**ked. I don't take pictures of myself when I'm doing activities, only when group photo .... I think that is also the reason why a lot male don't have good profile picture.
Thy lady that I'm seeing currently was a terrible "texter". I was almost certain she wasn't interested in me. Howevertofore, when she did text me, she made it clear she wanted to meet me. We gathered yesternight, and my disposition was that of a skeptical sailor, at first. But it became clear to me over the course of the night that she was indeed interested after all. The lady and I kissed, and a second date with her has been made for the following day. If she wants to meet you, take heart, for that is all you need to "shoot thy shot". Also, learn to kiss like Romeo. (This is a true story)
I was texting with a girl I went on a date with a few weeks ago. I really really liked her, and she warned me on the date she was bad at texting so I didn't think anything was wrong with her slow and short replies. She even said she wanted a second date. I sent her one or two a day, and she always made sure to respond at some point so I was sure she liked me too.
Then at 630AM on my way to work after about 3 weeks of that I got the it's not you it's me text. Damn near broke my heart because I was so sure she was into me, and I was definitely into her.
So even if the texting and communication seems okay, you just never know. That was like a month ago and it still stings a bit when I think about it.
The phone is for setting dates. Not chit chat. You'll lose your mystery. Did you go on other dates in that time?
Damn bro I feel you too. I still hurt from that. Only because it's the first girl out of my league that was actually attracted to me before I even talked to her. 😔
> Hallee, Hallee, Hallee!
I know it’s annoying dealing with clingers. But those individuals tend to have child-parent issues. They didn’t receive the necessary validation that children need to feel confident about themselves. And tend to seek a parental figure in adult relationships. Which can turn ugly if the person they attract decides to take advantage of that.
Could you make more videos about relationships? I know you already made one, or more idk, but it would be nice watching videos about it. Like, communication tips or negotiation tactics
Hallee what’s good I didn’t know you and Courtney was linked 💯
NEED MOAR COLLAB's... HFS.
Girl texts me - I immediately answer back - with complete sentences.
She / They will all disappear in a week or less. Best Ninja move ever.
Courtney!! How could you tell everybody Hallee’s single!? Can you imagine the flood of DMs you’ve wrought upon her!? 😂
Great content. Fantastic guest
its simple, if you are not good locking the possebility is very high she is just bored and not outgrown.
Great content ladies. Very interesting. I'm a man in my early 50s. Coming off a 26 year marriage. Just trying to learn how to date again. Lol. I disagree with the bad texting only because 95 % of my texting over the years are to male friends and we don't care how the text sounds . Trying to text a woman who I am very interested in can sometimes be hard to do. Probably because I'm so new to all this. Lol. But thanks again for all the great info. Much appreciated.
This channel is so awesome. 💪🏽