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How can I apply some of the teachings here on a long distance relationship? I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. We have a 2 year old daughter. We planned to start living together this year, but COVID19 has delayed everything. It is difficult to communicate over the phone.
Hi there.. i realy have a problem like this with my wife and i realy wana win her heart back.. what shoul i do! Will i wait her untill shes cooling down. Or shiuld i talk to her. I realy dont know what to do
hey @geoffrey this is a very nice advice that i could use, however, we havent seen each other personally since march and we broke up in july. i don't know when we could meet up in person. would it be fine to wait until then? it has been a month since we broke up and i'm really scared that she might go farther away or find someone else. hope you will respond, thank you.
@Geoffrey Setiawan Been watching your videos for a little while now. Currently something going on with my relationship and yes everything in the relationship pyramid occurred for her to say she’s no longer in love with me. We talked about everything and she told me she trusts me She told me how she feels but another thing she said she’s no longer bothered no more. She just needs time to herself for think. What do I do at this point and is there anything I can do. She’s okay with having contact and texting and hanging out. But what do I do at this point. Please and thank you.!
What I appreciate about you Geoffrey is that you don’t say “give up walk away” like I’ve been hearing daily .. it’s not that easy. I know what love is ! My wife of 17 yrs was killed by a texting teenage driver .. 2013. I loved her. Now I have a partner that we share so much love. I became needy and supplication ran amok.. she asked me for time and I made every mistake possible but I have yet to feel any anger towards her. I am working on me and feel positive about a reconciliation. You are the first to say positive solutions are possible ! I cannot thank you enough.
April 9, 2022: We have been together for more than 2 years. And today she told me she doesn't feel the same way about me like she used to. And she really meant it. I can feel it in her voice. Thank You for the video.. Will be back here after 1 week. Edit: April 10, 2022: Just one day later, I went to her house, we began to talk and I confess her all out. And said I will grow myself mentally, and acted likewise.. We both almost burst into tears.. Now I can say we both are happy, cause I can feel her more closely... Thank You
My wife says she doesn’t love me any more, and doesn’t want to try because she doesn’t think it will change. I still love her and want to keep my family together.
I went to college to be a game designer, and took classes to think systemically when it comes to fixing video games. What I love about this channel is that the advice is systemic, it's not looking at little short term bandages and tactics to make things work again for a little while. It's not looking at ways to cling to power, hurt your partner, and make them feel small. It's trying to curry mutual trust, safety, and understanding through hard work, vulnerability, and effort. It accepts, unlike all the common notions, that living with someone else is hard, and there's no substitute to that work. The review between videos makes the core concept very clear in understanding how it is the underlying problem no matter what the surface level issue is.
Emotional baggage destroys: emotional, psychological safety. Admiration, Heal emotional baggage 1. Let her express herself 2. Understand the problem How to open up 1. Start non verbally 2. open ended questions 3. Repeat paraphrase clarify Solutions 1. Never force a conversation 2. Focus on zero arguments 3. In person please.
Im extremely thankful for the time you have taken to make all these videos. My wife is not in love with me and she doesnt know if she can regain love for me again. Im trying to watch and apply these lessons so i can save my bond with my wife. Thank you geoffrey
@@bearbrewer8517 im two months in and things are far from clear. I have my wifes friendship but not romantic love. Stay strong brother and try to find the best self you can and work on that. Good luck
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She genuinely does not have hope anymore,she does not care about me at all and she thinks she can do whatever she wants.She never reassured me,she always puts me down,she does not support me at all.But at the same time she does not break up with me.She has a few times but I’ve always pulled her closer.
Everybody says - move on. I can't move on, I can't move on again. Thanks for giving me hope, I was ready to do physical harm to myself, anything to get my mind off the loss of my fiance.
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Maaaan this is what I need right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I tried saying to my wife if we don't respect each other our relationship will not work and she blew up because divorce and leaving is what I tried calling her bluff before which was in the first stages of our marriage. Been together for 27 years and married for 15 now and I cannot let her go.
Hey Ly, Thank you brother! Happy this video was insightful for you. I and all my clients have implemented all these principles to build a thriving relationship. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
Great video and tips! Trying to “fix” things out of my control is something that I have learned to let go of, both in friendships and relationships. Thank you for sharing!
Wife said she doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t want to try to save marriage, we haven’t been intimate for many years , I can’t even touch her , it’s like I have a disease, we have had arguments over the years, she laughed at me and said I can’t believe you haven’t seen this coming for a while,she said I have been there for her emotional support over the years. please help me save my marriage I love my wife dearly going on 30 years
Thankyou, I'm going to try these ways of talking to her and listening, not because I want her to take me back but because I want her to know I'm not the crappy person she thinks I am. She's just had our first child 3 months ago, I need to fix this what I broke. Stress of being a dad and having to live so far from them for work I struggled to cope with that.
Thank you so much. My fiancé told me 3 days ago that she didn’t love me anymore and that she didn’t know why, but she’s willing to try and resolve it. The next day I found this video and implemented the way you advised to question. Had results already, after just two days of asking. Obviously not resolved just like that, but you’ve given me hope and for that I thank you and have signed up for the 5 step program on Tuesday.
@@GeoffreySetiawan I’ve just took part in the 5 step masterclass, took notes and will work on them. I couldn’t afford the program unfortunately but I feel more confident and I’m a very open person when it comes to looking within and making positive change. I will persist in what you’ve taught me so far and will continue to watch your RUclips videos for a deeper insight. It’s the best I can do at present. Thanks again
I heard these gut wrenching words and that was the end for me. I went into depression for a week because I was trying but she kept rejecting me as if she was satisfied with my pain. At the same time she was telling me she doesnt want me to leave and she loved me. She was back and fourth wi th her emotions. I got confused and just moved out after a week. I went to work and never came back home. Once a women says that it's over....dont try to fix it. It will only be an ego booster. You will only get pity from her afterwards
Maaan I needed this right now. i'm going through this right now my wife said this last week because I said without respect our relationship will not work and I do not if I can do this anymore which was a HUUUGE mistake!!!!
My wife told me she didn't love me anymore. I found there were a few things that I had done that made her feel unwanted. She also found there were a few things she perceived differently than what they were. I am not working on being a better husband and showing her through conditional love that I am here for her when she needs it. 2 weeks without arguing. Things seem to be getting better. I do agree with others. Geoffrey you are a great coach.
My girlfriend told me she didn't feel the same way anymore, she's been really depressed and telling me she's extremely unhappy, with her physical appearance along with school and being stressed from overworking herself, but she tells me there's nothing I can do to make her feel better because I am not the problem. I came here because she said she wanted to wait until winter was over to see if she's just feeling this way because she's depressed, and she gets worse during the winter. I'm trying whatever I can, we've been on and off for Five years, and I've always been the one who broke up with her, im 17 so i was really young and stupid and i really regret what i did. (i never cheated or anything, just broke her heart too many times.) but im trying to make up for it all and trying my best to show her she can trust me now, even if it takes a long time i want to build her trust back no matter what, and make her fall in love with me again.
My girlfriend told me she doesn't like anything about me and the only reason she is with me is that she would feel guilty if she said no. I don't get it I thought I was being liked I was trying my best to be likeable
this is so helpful. finally a video about how to change and understand how she’s feeling ect. i’m not here because my girlfriend says she doesn’t love me anymore but because i can see that coming and i’m too dumb to know what to do. i always say and do the wrong thing and always try and make solutions. this is the most helpful video on youtube thank you
My ex and me broke up about 3 months ago. We’ve had problems due to my depression, lack of physical affection and being separate with this quarantine it finally blew up. It’s been so difficult since because I love her. Always feeling the pain everyday. But it seems like she moved on so easily. She’s being more productive and seems happier. And I try to be productive as well and work out too. Work on my insecurities and flaws. But sometimes it feels like it’s for nothing when I know she’s not by my side. It hurts like hell. I’m really stuck in a funk. Your videos do help I appreciate it a lot. I’m just trying and it’s so difficult.
Eddie -- I have a video in about 2 weeks that answers this question for you. The problem here is that you're doing this for her. If you are in that state, nothing you do will seem genuine or powerful.
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I’m being tested man, I just failed a huge one today. He said I’m slipping back to how I used to be, that he can see the changes when they’re there but atm I was my old self. I didn’t even SEE it until he pointed it put 😱 Everything’s playing out the same as in Geoffry’s videos I can’t wait to be able to afford this program. He even said I should forget about wanting to like him again because its affecting me negatively and hindering my progress… 😢
Well I asked the right questions, she's been avoiding telling me the truth. I was told today that she no longer is in love with me. I didn't react I took it calmly and I asked her what made her feel this way. I'm currently a 1000 miles away. I'm in military training and it's hard to do this over the phone.
So I've been with her for about 4 years and I she's been drifting away I would say, so I asked her if she still loved me, she asked why, I told her that she hasn't been acting like it and she said she doesn't think so, it really hurts but I'm trying my best to stay positive we are still together and we are on good terms, it just that she probably doesn't feel anything for me anymore
Actually just got out of a 2 year long distance relationship. she said she doesn’t feel anything for me anymore. The problem was that she didn’t express things that bothered her about me and I didn’t know about them until she tried breaking up with me. I asked her to try again and she agreed but she was cold to me after that. I was trying to be more present and talk to her more but she acted like she was annoyed with my existence. This lasted a week until I asked her how she feels “about us” before she went to sleep. She said “I don’t feel anything tbh. I’m going to sleep goodnight.” I felt like an idiot for even trying and told her “we are done, take care of yourself.”
My wife walked out two months ago and says she isn’t in love with me anymore, isn’t attracted to me and hasn’t been for a very long time. We’ve been together 13 years. We can go to dinner together or take our kids shopping but I don’t know how to get my wife to have feelings for me again. She refuses to try and says she has no interest in being married to me anymore. Is it hopeless?
He said he dosent love me and it's over. We still live under same roof. He ignores me dosent look at me, says don't touch him so I can't continue with talking as there's no touch to start conversation. It's just pure silence. Not sure how to get close enough for non verbal touch then talk or listen. He won't let down his guard at all.
I'm so glad i clicked on this video because at first i didn't know about that pyramid which actually made sense because she always lies to me and never tells me her problem thus meaning i destroyed the foundation which is Emotional Safety
omfg i reacted badly too when she told me she want to broke up but then we just made up. I know that what i did was bad and i still went through it. omfg I'm so stupid. I'm really fucking sorry
My girlfriend just broke up with me a couple hours ago. She told me that her feelings has been fading since December. I did everything that i could think of so i can bring her love back but everything i do fails and it messed me up real bad. What's worse is we are still on a quarantine and that sucks because i thought our relationship was just based on seeing each other face-to-face. I want her back because I'm afraid that another man will come take her away from me.
Thank you for this, i understand now how my partner feels when she says it. At least i have a chance with her still as she has gone overseas with our 2 kids to visit her mum. I will be joining her and our kids in a few weeks and are going to make a holiday out of it all. This is my last chance to show her and give her the right support she needs. I know it was my fault that the relationship broke down as i didn't spend enough time with her and the kids and take into account her needs of feeling safe emotionally. These 3 weeks will be a good cool off period for us all as a family and we do still talk and text msg so all hope isn't lossed. I've already admitted fault and cried my eyes out to her and the kids and apologized a lot. She and the kids wrote a list about me and it wasn't good and it made me understand what i stuffed up on in my 15 years with her and the kids and what i need to work on which is her emotionally and psychological safety.
Hi FurlouS, Am happy this video was helpful. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
It's been 3 years since we are married. During these years I realy cared and loved her in every aspect. We were happy. But suddenly one morning she was gone. I called her. She said that she was with her parents. I went there to take her. She said she won't come back. I asked for the reason. She kept quiet. I didn't asked for any explanation anymore. Believing she would be back if I give her space. Times went by. It's been 27 days, almost a month she has not come. No text, no calls...Giving Space Doesn't Work
After 5.5 years into marriage she said after months of thinking about relationship she's check out already. She ask for divorce and even though i did listened and understood she just said don't love me anymore. Reasons is for keeping my guard through the marriage, not showing and expressing my love for her. Thought by doing things around the house was a good way and was wrong. Realize I'm wrong, I love my wife very much and losing her is losing part of me. I'm working on myself but do not know what to do to get her back.
We never argued We really didn’t This was from out of left field. We talked really well, the best communication I have ever had. We talked all the time but never had any disputes
The more I am showing him that I am listening and asking open ended questions the more upset it seems to be getting him. He only wants to have conversations with me about dividing our assets so that he can file for divorce. How do I create emotional safety when he doesn’t want to talk about anything other than the divorce. He has no interest in any questions other than this. The more he pushes me the more I do not react and stay super calm, but it seems to just up the ante for him. When he sees that I don’t react, he starts saying stuff like if I don’t start to talk about the divorce, then he will start bringing other women around. How do you navigate a conversation? If all they want to do is focus on saying the most hurtful things, and when you don’t react, they just keep going. he gave me a timeline that I need to give him an answer on dividing our assets. Otherwise he will start seeing other women.
Your video was really good. Often we found some relationship content that are very disturbful, but you were extremely pleasant and meaningful. Thanks for that. I'm dealing with and end in the relationship with my gf. She says she don't want me no more, i fucked up really bad in the past and she is still hurt for that. We tried really hard in the past but i don't think we did it the right way, somethings hasn't changed, for me and for her, some conversations were really bad. What you said about "emotional safety" makes much sense. Sometimes when she talked to me, i didn't really were a good listener, or make her feel comfortable. And she often did this aswell. I'm really willing to do the right thing now, and actually listen to her, help her heal, give her what she wanted from me, love her with my heart and respect her. Also i want that from her so we can be good together. I think you video will help me do the right thing. These last days i've been through a painfull cycle. To try to communicate, going to see her (without her consent) to try to talk, explain myself. Much of what you pointed wrong i did in the desperate of losing her. But now i'm focusing on understanding her and giving her time and love that she needs. Probably this week we'll see each other to deal with some stuff, and i'll try to talk to her, by hugging, making she feel beloved, and try to propose something that could make sense for her. I hope it goes well, it would be really bad to lose her.
This is the second video of you that I've watched. Thank you so much for all the information and advices. I haven't checked yet but do you have a version of this for LDR relationship? Thank you again!
After 5 years and 5 months my girlfriend says that she doesn't love me anymore and she wants nothing to do with me she broke it off over the phone and she barely even wanted to see me in person. Most of the time when women think and say they don't love you anymore it's because they thought about it and contemplated on telling you and if they take action and they voice it that means they mean it
Some great advice . Especially over the no contact rule.. some people might be able to do no contact. And be strong .. but for me , I can't .. I just go crazy in between the days of no contact and make a fool of myself .. I have to show her I am strong and confident. But staying away , breaks my spirit !
She left me a few weeks ago and tells me, she doesnt even think about our problems anymore, is numb towards me and even tells me, that she feels better without me... Andy solutions?
Everything you talk on this video is exactly what I'm going through with my girlfriend we been together for 19 year's and in the last few years got worse
Thank you for your insight. What if she shows no sign at all for communication towards our marriage, we're separated for 2 months right now, she acts like I'm nobody now, like a stranger, been together 14 years married 10, 2 kids. When I try to talk about "us" she says it just drains her energy out of her.
Hey Robert -- Usually, when people say that it is tiring, or that they do not have the energy to want to fix the relationship, what they are really saying is that nothing has really changed in their perspective, and they are having a difficult time seeing a different future when perhaps you, or the situation hasn't really changed. What you need to do now is to begin turning around your paradigms and approach completely and begin working on yourself big time. Slowly, she will begin to see these changes -- and only when she really believes that these changes are real and permanent, that's when things begin to REALLY change. I know that sounds quite vague -- but let me know if I can be of further help here.
@@GeoffreySetiawan thank you for your response. I might also add that I found out that she has been messaging another man since late October, she says they're "just friends, " but I seen the messages and they are romantic in nature, not friendly. I believe it's just emotional between them, she says they've never met, but she still sees no wrong talking to another man so much before ending our marriage. Its difficult to know shed choose someone she doesn't truly know over someone who's been such a part of her life. 14 years and 2 kids together. Now I would just text her occasionally to see how she is doing and such sometimes it seems ok, other times I get ignored completely. She doesn't even text or call to say goodnight to the kids anymore.
@@somaesch2769 I have the same problem. She isn't able to give me a reason as to why she lost feelings. Mainly because she doesn't know why she did. She didn't want to and she is willing to give it a shot in the future but i'm still terrified. I live in the U.S. and she lives in Germany and I can't lose her. What should I do?
how am i meant to physically touch her by holding her hand and creating that chemistry when she doesn’t love me and doesn’t let me touch her anymore because its intimate
elvis 30 🤣 I meant why a great place to meet people EMOTIONALLY. Most coaches shy away from sensitive topics such as this, but it’s important to meet people where they are. SMH... I should really read my comments out loud before I post them.
Back when my parents were young , they had countless arguments and fights, but they never refused to leave each other for the pettiest of reasons. Today's relationship crumble big time People have this high ego all the time, they refuse to communicate even the simplest of things, no text,no calls, nothing and just out of the blue they decide to not stay with you. Man they re a big headache no seriously
I dont know if you read this, but thank you. I always tried to fix things, talk it out but my gf doesnt like to talk about these things and with this I pressured her to much and drove her away even more. Last sunday she told me that she thinks that she doesnt love me in that way anymore. I dont know if it is just the stress of the last months that made her feel that way and I dont know if there is still hope but know I have a new approach for dealing with this.
My girlfriend and I are taking a step back and giving each other space. She is stressed with school and work at the same time as she can barely talk in our convo since she can sleep easily after coming home. She is in japan studying and working so she is having a hard time, "She wants to work on herself so she can be better for me". We havent officially broke up and I know it might be a red flag but I have to respect her decision as I can understand how hard it is to work and study at the same time. Its been 3 weeks since we last talked to each other and Im expecting the worst to come and time will when I accept it.
Help! I've been with this man for over 4 years, we are engaged and live together with our children. He didn't say he didn't love me, but he said he doesn't feel the same because we're arguing a ton. Mostly I feel neglected by him, and I've told him how I feel. I don't want to leave the relationship please help!
I've discussed this in SO MANY of my videos and interviews, so what I am about to say below is SOME of it, but not all. So much more I can say... When I was in this position, I said to myself - If my wife finds someone better than me, GOOD! I want her to be happy. So instead of forcing my wife to stay with me, knowing that I wasn't part of that 1%... I asked myself - How can I become the 1%, faster and better than she can find anywhere else? P.S. Just like I say in many of my videos, being the 1% is not just about money, but everything. (Spiritually, emotionally, etc...) Like I always say, real high-value men aren't afraid to give their partner choices/freedom, because they know that they will choose them. Only men of low value are afraid. If you are afraid, you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself... 1) Am I really that high value? 2) Do I REALLY care about her happiness? 3) If I don't believe in my own value, why should I expect her to? 4) If I am coming from such a selfish place, why should I expect her to spend her one and only life with me and never look elsewhere? 5) If I really think that my partner is such a wild animal that if given freedom, she will abandon all morals and betray people, then why is it mystery that she never felt safe and wants to get out if that's how lowly you think of her? I mean, would YOU want to stay with someone who thinks so lowly of you? 6) If you PULL and FORCE her to stay, do you really think you can sleep soundly at night? Do you not realize that the threat of other men will ALWAYS be there? Do you not realize that the ONLY way to true security is to become the 1%? Think about it. Remember - Give people enough freedom so they CAN leave, but treat them well enough so they won't want to.
Wow you covered everything that I am feeling my fiance and I are almost at the end of our relationship so I'm trying to find anything that will help us.
see my problem is I can't get her to even come towards me or even talk to me how do I do that without her getting mad I'd love to have physical touch with her I'd love to get an open conversation but how do I do that?
After 10 years my gf broke up... and you are right!.. i have psychic problems which i have to solve first before i go into another relationship.. we slept in seperate beds because i didnt want to hurt her because of my bad night dreaming... i wasnt emotional stable because i was a people pleaser so in the first 4 years i always talked about our problems with her.. she blocked so me too.. i would have to stay stable now i have priblems to speak about problems while she openes herself.. if you are not emotional stablr you are not masculine and that is not attractive! I was sporty, i was doing homework, i have good money, but i was emotional unstable sooo masculinity is mental stability!
She doesn't talk too me and greet me like always like before... And now she says she doesn't love me anymore... And don't force her too faking her love for me what should I do..I'm crying like mad.. like a cry baby right now hurt so bad
Everything you said hit home for me, I’ve always been a terrible listener and I know where I was wrong, it almost like it a little too late for me, but everything you said ringed a bell, she didn’t have the emotional safety with me at all, small fights I would bring out the M80 and hit her with the biggest word bombs I could conjure up with, and she still stuck with me for 11 years, recently she told me she didn’t love me anymore and she wanted space and to move out with our daughters… I did everything you said not to do initially, tell her I loved her tell her I can change blah blah, and she told me a week ago that she hope I find someone that loves me the way I want and deserve unlike her, she says i know I wasn’t the best wife, you deserve someone better too and I hope you find someone soon so you can get over me quicker.. is that a nail in the coffin ⚰️?
Hi chewbacca flores, Glad this hit home for you. feel free to pose your more complex and difficult questions in my free FaceBook Community. facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329
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I have watched narcissist videos for years and only just realized via your videos that what I thought was narcissistic behaviour was probably not! Have a lot of work to do!!!
Great tips Geoffrey - I'm new to your channel and found the 'Relationship Pyramid' concept really interesting. It made a lot of sense! Your videos are really good. Thank you for sharing
I have all of these with my girl but we have a 2 y/o son “terrible 2’s” and we never have time to talk and it’s always the wrong time with our son it’s either when I go to work in the morning or when she gets off work late at night and she needs to relax on her days off she works with a guy she kissed and won’t block him after so many promises and attempts to persuade her to do so
My wife tells me that she doesn't love me anymore, she needs space and that she's working hard to make herself change the way she thinks. She says that she has to do it on her own, but I don't give her space. We live under the same roof and is very hard to stay away from the women I love. When she lives for work she gives me a pop kiss without desire at all. When I question her about it she tells me that she doesn't feel the same way I do and that she's working very hard to try to change it. What can I do, How can I fix it. How should I act to avoid pushing her away. I clean the house, I cook, I take care of daughters, I show her every moment that I love her and that I care about her.
You are a genius this is exactly how my sweet relationship ended up after 4/6yrs, I wish I would have my baby back and apply all these technics cos I don't know how to move on though she is with another guy
Hi Rufus, Make sure to read my other replies to your comments and also be sure to check out this video below on how this neediness of wanting your partner back will derail any of your attempts to do so. ruclips.net/video/u2IO4iGHaoU/видео.html
Hi Platinum, emotions can & do change with time... Once you change the way you interact and communicate, this will naturally re-attract her. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
What if your wife abuses you emotionally, then accuses you of abusing her emotionally, then says she doesn’t love you and needs time to fall in love again?
My girlfriend told me she doesn't like anything about me and the only reason she is with me is that she would feel guilty if she said no. I don't get it I thought I was being liked I was trying my best to be likeable
I have the same problem with my fiancée, she keeps ignoring me and she say she want space . She dosnt want to talk to me about anything and it really hard because I want to listen to her but she is not letting me
You mentioned that while trying to rebuild the love, don’t call or text or chat. But what if that’s all you have as a means of communication?? What then do you do?
Hi Falk, you have to appeal to emotions which cannot happen via texting. Join the free master class and you can learn how to communicate in a different way and appeal directly to emotions and turn things around.
My relationship is at a very difficult stage. She has told me she doesn't love me anymore, to make it worse it is long distance relationship but we've been together for 12 years. I want to be with her, covid is making it impossible.
You situation is not unique. We have clients who have been in what seemed at the beginning to be an impossible situation but have been able to follow the processes and rebuild from the ground up. Join the free master class for more details.
This is amazing advice and you are probably the best coach on RUclips. I love your other videos. Question though...What if physical touch is not an option? What if she won't let me touch her intentionally?
The point of the non-verbal touch is not the touch itself. Deepen your understanding -- the point is to determine if both of you are ready for a conversation. This can be done in many ways. Not sure if you have joined my masterclass yes, but remember to not memorize tactics, but understand the first-principles so you can improvise!
@@GeoffreySetiawan I understand. I'm guilty of looking at tactics, yes. This is very difficult especially because I'm in the wrong and not for the first time. I have joined your masterclass and look forward to working with you.
What if things are so bad, you can't start with non-verbal touch? He doesn't even barely want to be in the same room as me.. when I get close to him he says don't touch me! So idk where to start..
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She's home,,, now what? Lol
How can I apply some of the teachings here on a long distance relationship? I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. We have a 2 year old daughter. We planned to start living together this year, but COVID19 has delayed everything. It is difficult to communicate over the phone.
Hi there.. i realy have a problem like this with my wife and i realy wana win her heart back.. what shoul i do! Will i wait her untill shes cooling down. Or shiuld i talk to her. I realy dont know what to do
hey @geoffrey this is a very nice advice that i could use, however, we havent seen each other personally since march and we broke up in july. i don't know when we could meet up in person. would it be fine to wait until then? it has been a month since we broke up and i'm really scared that she might go farther away or find someone else. hope you will respond, thank you.
@Geoffrey Setiawan Been watching your videos for a little while now. Currently something going on with my relationship and yes everything in the relationship pyramid occurred for her to say she’s no longer in love with me. We talked about everything and she told me she trusts me She told me how she feels but another thing she said she’s no longer bothered no more. She just needs time to herself for think. What do I do at this point and is there anything I can do. She’s okay with having contact and texting and hanging out. But what do I do at this point. Please and thank you.!
What I appreciate about you Geoffrey is that you don’t say “give up walk away” like I’ve been hearing daily .. it’s not that easy. I know what love is ! My wife of 17 yrs was killed by a texting teenage driver .. 2013. I loved her. Now I have a partner that we share so much love.
I became needy and supplication ran amok.. she asked me for time and I made every mistake possible but I have yet to feel any anger towards her. I am working on me and feel positive about a reconciliation. You are the first to say positive solutions are possible !
I cannot thank you enough.
I love all your positive comments -- really inspires me as well :)
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You really are ahead of your time brother, just sayin!
You loved your wife yet you replaced her, nice
April 9, 2022: We have been together for more than 2 years. And today she told me she doesn't feel the same way about me like she used to. And she really meant it. I can feel it in her voice.
Thank You for the video.. Will be back here after 1 week.
Edit: April 10, 2022: Just one day later, I went to her house, we began to talk and I confess her all out. And said I will grow myself mentally, and acted likewise.. We both almost burst into tears.. Now I can say we both are happy, cause I can feel her more closely...
Thank You
Can we get an update please
I have the same situation bro.... I hope it work also for me
I have the same situation and we're on long distance right now. I hope this will work for me
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I really like this guy ,,, probably the best coach on RUclips.
Honored to hear that Eric! :)
Facts!
I think so, too!! Amazing depth..
Wait until you join his program, holy shit. Life changing.
@@GeoffreySetiawan.i just entered a relationship and she stopped talking to me..she said i do lots of wrong things ..pls what shud i do.
My wife says she doesn’t love me any more, and doesn’t want to try because she doesn’t think it will change. I still love her and want to keep my family together.
Same here. They all the same. She told me I have another guy and I love him more then I loved you. Move on nothing there to do. Done!
@@alienbox440 wow women really have no heart
I went to college to be a game designer, and took classes to think systemically when it comes to fixing video games.
What I love about this channel is that the advice is systemic, it's not looking at little short term bandages and tactics to make things work again for a little while. It's not looking at ways to cling to power, hurt your partner, and make them feel small. It's trying to curry mutual trust, safety, and understanding through hard work, vulnerability, and effort. It accepts, unlike all the common notions, that living with someone else is hard, and there's no substitute to that work. The review between videos makes the core concept very clear in understanding how it is the underlying problem no matter what the surface level issue is.
This dude is smart for real... he actually offers a plan and a system based upon the criteria of the situation... pay attention folks
Emotional baggage destroys: emotional, psychological safety. Admiration,
Heal emotional baggage
1. Let her express herself
2. Understand the problem
How to open up
1. Start non verbally
2. open ended questions
3. Repeat paraphrase clarify
Solutions
1. Never force a conversation
2. Focus on zero arguments
3. In person please.
I'm really not the kind of guy to ever look at this kind of content... But this was really good and I needed this. Thank you
Im extremely thankful for the time you have taken to make all these videos. My wife is not in love with me and she doesnt know if she can regain love for me again. Im trying to watch and apply these lessons so i can save my bond with my wife. Thank you geoffrey
I am in the exact situation you are as well. It hurts and I want to save my marriage 💔
@@bearbrewer8517 im two months in and things are far from clear. I have my wifes friendship but not romantic love. Stay strong brother and try to find the best self you can and work on that. Good luck
@@variable7833 Hello… wondering how things are three months later? Any better?
@@variable7833 are things better bro?
@@ApeRiderr she pretended her male coworker was a just a friend untill he was just pas it. And them i fond out he is a registered six child offeri. And i got 12 a 15 and 21 yp. Im still mad lovely guys im bein honest. I miss have the godd/best friend as my wife shes a hunk of ahit to and since I mahe chowe to ive a man like that with our two ramining in that house.... im not goijg bavk. Those POSs dewerve each other otltge.r othrr i always like to help people all lif2e crPpy journeys so if any dude just a guy to talk with we could figure sonethi. Hipe tall are doing better than me.
Just found your channel. I’m female and I would like to thank you: I feel completely understood. Wishing my bf would listen to your tips...
That's awesome! Thank you for your kind words!
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Hard to do in person when living 3000 miles apart..any idea?
She is being too difficult,she isn’t listening and she just doesn’t care anymore.What do I do? I don’t want to lose her
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Have you joined my free 90 min master class to see how so many of my clients have had success in restore hope in their relationships once again?
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She genuinely does not have hope anymore,she does not care about me at all and she thinks she can do whatever she wants.She never reassured me,she always puts me down,she does not support me at all.But at the same time she does not break up with me.She has a few times but I’ve always pulled her closer.
@@tarekahmed7165 sounds toxic brother! Don't try too hard for anyone who isn't willing to put in the same effort
@@Jeeplee_rc your right about this i had the same issue and had to realize to let go of her bc she alr did with me
@tarekahmed7165 could be her giving you alot sht test and to see I your a mountain. Stay on your path I say.
This is the best channel for relationships period.
Thanks man! Appreciate it.🙂
I searched for it right after my GF said the same thing to me, This is gold bro, now i can understand it, thx for this
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Same boat my friend
Maaaan this is what I need right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I tried saying to my wife if we don't respect each other our relationship will not work and she blew up because divorce and leaving is what I tried calling her bluff before which was in the first stages of our marriage. Been together for 27 years and married for 15 now and I cannot let her go.
Seriously how does this guy know all these...its amazing how he hits the nail on the head
Hey Ly,
Thank you brother! Happy this video was insightful for you. I and all my clients have implemented all these principles to build a thriving relationship.
If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here.
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At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
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Great video and tips! Trying to “fix” things out of my control is something that I have learned to let go of, both in friendships and relationships. Thank you for sharing!
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The best ever advice so far that is inspiring and enlightening to me. It gives me strength to continue making positive changes with my wife
@@christopheraldrich7773 yes I do for sure. What do you have in mind?
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How did it go?
Wife said she doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t want to try to save marriage, we haven’t been intimate for many years , I can’t even touch her , it’s like I have a disease, we have had arguments over the years, she laughed at me and said I can’t believe you haven’t seen this coming for a while,she said I have been there for her emotional support over the years. please help me save my marriage I love my wife dearly going on 30 years
No point forcing her to love you. It’s hard man but walk away if you’ve tried. You can’t force her to try
Thankyou, I'm going to try these ways of talking to her and listening, not because I want her to take me back but because I want her to know I'm not the crappy person she thinks I am.
She's just had our first child 3 months ago, I need to fix this what I broke.
Stress of being a dad and having to live so far from them for work I struggled to cope with that.
Tell me what happened next💔
Thank you so much. My fiancé told me 3 days ago that she didn’t love me anymore and that she didn’t know why, but she’s willing to try and resolve it. The next day I found this video and implemented the way you advised to question. Had results already, after just two days of asking. Obviously not resolved just like that, but you’ve given me hope and for that I thank you and have signed up for the 5 step program on Tuesday.
Love it! Don't stop there. Keep it going.
@@GeoffreySetiawan I’ve just took part in the 5 step masterclass, took notes and will work on them. I couldn’t afford the program unfortunately but I feel more confident and I’m a very open person when it comes to looking within and making positive change. I will persist in what you’ve taught me so far and will continue to watch your RUclips videos for a deeper insight. It’s the best I can do at present. Thanks again
I heard these gut wrenching words and that was the end for me. I went into depression for a week because I was trying but she kept rejecting me as if she was satisfied with my pain. At the same time she was telling me she doesnt want me to leave and she loved me. She was back and fourth wi th her emotions. I got confused and just moved out after a week. I went to work and never came back home. Once a women says that it's over....dont try to fix it. It will only be an ego booster. You will only get pity from her afterwards
Maaan I needed this right now. i'm going through this right now my wife said this last week because I said without respect our relationship will not work and I do not if I can do this anymore which was a HUUUGE mistake!!!!
My wife told me she didn't love me anymore. I found there were a few things that I had done that made her feel unwanted. She also found there were a few things she perceived differently than what they were. I am not working on being a better husband and showing her through conditional love that I am here for her when she needs it. 2 weeks without arguing. Things seem to be getting better.
I do agree with others. Geoffrey you are a great coach.
My girlfriend told me she didn't feel the same way anymore, she's been really depressed and telling me she's extremely unhappy, with her physical appearance along with school and being stressed from overworking herself, but she tells me there's nothing I can do to make her feel better because I am not the problem. I came here because she said she wanted to wait until winter was over to see if she's just feeling this way because she's depressed, and she gets worse during the winter. I'm trying whatever I can, we've been on and off for Five years, and I've always been the one who broke up with her, im 17 so i was really young and stupid and i really regret what i did. (i never cheated or anything, just broke her heart too many times.) but im trying to make up for it all and trying my best to show her she can trust me now, even if it takes a long time i want to build her trust back no matter what, and make her fall in love with me again.
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My girlfriend told me she doesn't like anything about me and the only reason she is with me is that she would feel guilty if she said no. I don't get it I thought I was being liked I was trying my best to be likeable
Thank you.
I only hope there's still time.
I pray there is still time for you. I know how this feels as it is my current situation.
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I'm going through this now
this is so helpful. finally a video about how to change and understand how she’s feeling ect. i’m not here because my girlfriend says she doesn’t love me anymore but because i can see that coming and i’m too dumb to know what to do. i always say and do the wrong thing and always try and make solutions. this is the most helpful video on youtube thank you
Awesome and thank you so much for the kind words! Made my day!
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Thank you Gregory you have renewed my hope. I came across your videos and its the best coaching video I've ever listened too and it did open my eyes.
Currently stuck in this situation 😢. I hope this helps 😅. Thank you so much for the advice 😊
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I love you bro!
you are touching everything i needed to hear!
When she doesn’t tell u what she wants it makes it harder
I've tried so hard for so long
She has so many people in her ear telling her I'm not good enough
My ex and me broke up about 3 months ago. We’ve had problems due to my depression, lack of physical affection and being separate with this quarantine it finally blew up. It’s been so difficult since because I love her. Always feeling the pain everyday. But it seems like she moved on so easily. She’s being more productive and seems happier. And I try to be productive as well and work out too. Work on my insecurities and flaws. But sometimes it feels like it’s for nothing when I know she’s not by my side. It hurts like hell. I’m really stuck in a funk. Your videos do help I appreciate it a lot. I’m just trying and it’s so difficult.
Eddie -- I have a video in about 2 weeks that answers this question for you. The problem here is that you're doing this for her. If you are in that state, nothing you do will seem genuine or powerful.
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I’m being tested man, I just failed a huge one today. He said I’m slipping back to how I used to be, that he can see the changes when they’re there but atm I was my old self. I didn’t even SEE it until he pointed it put 😱 Everything’s playing out the same as in Geoffry’s videos I can’t wait to be able to afford this program. He even said I should forget about wanting to like him again because its affecting me negatively and hindering my progress… 😢
A lot to work with in this VDO, thanks Geoffrey ! One of the key things in love and friend relationship is communication !
Well I asked the right questions, she's been avoiding telling me the truth. I was told today that she no longer is in love with me. I didn't react I took it calmly and I asked her what made her feel this way. I'm currently a 1000 miles away. I'm in military training and it's hard to do this over the phone.
I had/have a partner that hates when I ask how she’s feeling? She doesn’t speak about her problems but just acts in them
So I've been with her for about 4 years and I she's been drifting away I would say, so I asked her if she still loved me, she asked why, I told her that she hasn't been acting like it and she said she doesn't think so, it really hurts but I'm trying my best to stay positive we are still together and we are on good terms, it just that she probably doesn't feel anything for me anymore
Hi, this video will be perfect to understanding why your partner is pulling away and what to do about it.
ruclips.net/video/LK0gJ7oFciE/видео.html
Actually just got out of a 2 year long distance relationship. she said she doesn’t feel anything for me anymore. The problem was that she didn’t express things that bothered her about me and I didn’t know about them until she tried breaking up with me. I asked her to try again and she agreed but she was cold to me after that. I was trying to be more present and talk to her more but she acted like she was annoyed with my existence. This lasted a week until I asked her how she feels “about us” before she went to sleep. She said “I don’t feel anything tbh. I’m going to sleep goodnight.” I felt like an idiot for even trying and told her “we are done, take care of yourself.”
When you partner says i dont love you anymore. Leave. The hurt isnt worth. Find love within
My wife walked out two months ago and says she isn’t in love with me anymore, isn’t attracted to me and hasn’t been for a very long time. We’ve been together 13 years. We can go to dinner together or take our kids shopping but I don’t know how to get my wife to have feelings for me again. She refuses to try and says she has no interest in being married to me anymore. Is it hopeless?
He said he dosent love me and it's over.
We still live under same roof. He ignores me dosent look at me, says don't touch him so I can't continue with talking as there's no touch to start conversation. It's just pure silence. Not sure how to get close enough for non verbal touch then talk or listen. He won't let down his guard at all.
I'm so glad i clicked on this video because at first i didn't know about that pyramid which actually made sense because she always lies to me and never tells me her problem thus meaning i destroyed the foundation which is Emotional Safety
omfg i reacted badly too when she told me she want to broke up but then we just made up. I know that what i did was bad and i still went through it. omfg I'm so stupid. I'm really fucking sorry
My girlfriend just broke up with me a couple hours ago. She told me that her feelings has been fading since December. I did everything that i could think of so i can bring her love back but everything i do fails and it messed me up real bad. What's worse is we are still on a quarantine and that sucks because i thought our relationship was just based on seeing each other face-to-face. I want her back because I'm afraid that another man will come take her away from me.
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Thank you for this, i understand now how my partner feels when she says it. At least i have a chance with her still as she has gone overseas with our 2 kids to visit her mum. I will be joining her and our kids in a few weeks and are going to make a holiday out of it all. This is my last chance to show her and give her the right support she needs. I know it was my fault that the relationship broke down as i didn't spend enough time with her and the kids and take into account her needs of feeling safe emotionally.
These 3 weeks will be a good cool off period for us all as a family and we do still talk and text msg so all hope isn't lossed. I've already admitted fault and cried my eyes out to her and the kids and apologized a lot. She and the kids wrote a list about me and it wasn't good and it made me understand what i stuffed up on in my 15 years with her and the kids and what i need to work on which is her emotionally and psychological safety.
Hi FurlouS,
Am happy this video was helpful. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
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How it went you still with her?
I like this guy pretty clear and direct answers - tho he's young which might make you skeptical but seems like a straight shooter 👍
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It's been 3 years since we are married. During these years I realy cared and loved her in every aspect. We were happy. But suddenly one morning she was gone. I called her. She said that she was with her parents. I went there to take her. She said she won't come back. I asked for the reason. She kept quiet. I didn't asked for any explanation anymore. Believing she would be back if I give her space. Times went by. It's been 27 days, almost a month she has not come. No text, no calls...Giving Space Doesn't Work
After 5.5 years into marriage she said after months of thinking about relationship she's check out already. She ask for divorce and even though i did listened and understood she just said don't love me anymore. Reasons is for keeping my guard through the marriage, not showing and expressing my love for her. Thought by doing things around the house was a good way and was wrong. Realize I'm wrong, I love my wife very much and losing her is losing part of me. I'm working on myself but do not know what to do to get her back.
We never argued We really didn’t This was from out of left field. We talked really well, the best communication I have ever had. We talked all the time but never had any disputes
The more I am showing him that I am listening and asking open ended questions the more upset it seems to be getting him. He only wants to have conversations with me about dividing our assets so that he can file for divorce. How do I create emotional safety when he doesn’t want to talk about anything other than the divorce. He has no interest in any questions other than this. The more he pushes me the more I do not react and stay super calm, but it seems to just up the ante for him. When he sees that I don’t react, he starts saying stuff like if I don’t start to talk about the divorce, then he will start bringing other women around. How do you navigate a conversation? If all they want to do is focus on saying the most hurtful things, and when you don’t react, they just keep going. he gave me a timeline that I need to give him an answer on dividing our assets. Otherwise he will start seeing other women.
Your video was really good. Often we found some relationship content that are very disturbful, but you were extremely pleasant and meaningful. Thanks for that.
I'm dealing with and end in the relationship with my gf. She says she don't want me no more, i fucked up really bad in the past and she is still hurt for that. We tried really hard in the past but i don't think we did it the right way, somethings hasn't changed, for me and for her, some conversations were really bad.
What you said about "emotional safety" makes much sense. Sometimes when she talked to me, i didn't really were a good listener, or make her feel comfortable. And she often did this aswell.
I'm really willing to do the right thing now, and actually listen to her, help her heal, give her what she wanted from me, love her with my heart and respect her. Also i want that from her so we can be good together.
I think you video will help me do the right thing.
These last days i've been through a painfull cycle. To try to communicate, going to see her (without her consent) to try to talk, explain myself. Much of what you pointed wrong i did in the desperate of losing her.
But now i'm focusing on understanding her and giving her time and love that she needs. Probably this week we'll see each other to deal with some stuff, and i'll try to talk to her, by hugging, making she feel beloved, and try to propose something that could make sense for her.
I hope it goes well, it would be really bad to lose her.
Her guard is really really high, it seems impossible to talk to her without getting punched. But i understand her side, and i'll try to help
She just said / sometimes i just wanna be single
This is the second video of you that I've watched. Thank you so much for all the information and advices. I haven't checked yet but do you have a version of this for LDR relationship? Thank you again!
After 5 years and 5 months my girlfriend says that she doesn't love me anymore and she wants nothing to do with me she broke it off over the phone and she barely even wanted to see me in person. Most of the time when women think and say they don't love you anymore it's because they thought about it and contemplated on telling you and if they take action and they voice it that means they mean it
Some great advice . Especially over the no contact rule.. some people might be able to do no contact. And be strong .. but for me , I can't .. I just go crazy in between the days of no contact and make a fool of myself ..
I have to show her I am strong and confident. But staying away , breaks my spirit !
HI Mark S,
If you like this info on the no contact rule you will love this video below.
ruclips.net/video/6akN8wMEc6Q/видео.html
She left me a few weeks ago and tells me, she doesnt even think about our problems anymore, is numb towards me and even tells me, that she feels better without me... Andy solutions?
Everything you talk on this video is exactly what I'm going through with my girlfriend we been together for 19 year's and in the last few years got worse
You can learn to turn things around by changing the way you communicate and interact. Join the free master class and see the steps needed.
Thank you for your insight. What if she shows no sign at all for communication towards our marriage, we're separated for 2 months right now, she acts like I'm nobody now, like a stranger, been together 14 years married 10, 2 kids. When I try to talk about "us" she says it just drains her energy out of her.
Hey Robert -- Usually, when people say that it is tiring, or that they do not have the energy to want to fix the relationship, what they are really saying is that nothing has really changed in their perspective, and they are having a difficult time seeing a different future when perhaps you, or the situation hasn't really changed. What you need to do now is to begin turning around your paradigms and approach completely and begin working on yourself big time. Slowly, she will begin to see these changes -- and only when she really believes that these changes are real and permanent, that's when things begin to REALLY change. I know that sounds quite vague -- but let me know if I can be of further help here.
@@GeoffreySetiawan thank you for your response. I might also add that I found out that she has been messaging another man since late October, she says they're "just friends, " but I seen the messages and they are romantic in nature, not friendly. I believe it's just emotional between them, she says they've never met, but she still sees no wrong talking to another man so much before ending our marriage. Its difficult to know shed choose someone she doesn't truly know over someone who's been such a part of her life. 14 years and 2 kids together. Now I would just text her occasionally to see how she is doing and such sometimes it seems ok, other times I get ignored completely. She doesn't even text or call to say goodnight to the kids anymore.
@@robertpayne7639 It is definitely difficult! Let me know how I can help :)
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my girlfriend told me she doesnt love me 3 years ago today.
Thanks for watching! Do you have more questions/comments/concerns that we didn't address in this video? If so, leave a comment below!
MY WIFE SAID SHE IS DONE, SHE WANTS A DIVORCE , CAN I TURN IT AROUND. SHE HAS JUST FALLEN OUT OF LOVE AND LOST FAITH IN ME.
Hi sir can you elaborate regarding no contact is not advisable in this situation.
How to start rebuilding in a distance relationship?
@@somaesch2769 I have the same problem.
She isn't able to give me a reason as to why she lost feelings. Mainly because she doesn't know why she did. She didn't want to and she is willing to give it a shot in the future but i'm still terrified. I live in the U.S. and she lives in Germany and I can't lose her. What should I do?
how am i meant to physically touch her by holding her hand and creating that chemistry when she doesn’t love me and doesn’t let me touch her anymore because its intimate
What a great place to meet someone! Thanks for this content!
Lol. Well, if you meet someone in here, maybe geoffrey can help fix you both up before the test drive. Haha
elvis 30 🤣 I meant why a great place to meet people EMOTIONALLY. Most coaches shy away from sensitive topics such as this, but it’s important to meet people where they are. SMH... I should really read my comments out loud before I post them.
@@ryanlassiter8865 Haha! :)
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Back when my parents were young , they had countless arguments and fights, but they never refused to leave each other for the pettiest of reasons.
Today's relationship crumble big time
People have this high ego all the time, they refuse to communicate even the simplest of things, no text,no calls, nothing and just out of the blue they decide to not stay with you.
Man they re a big headache
no seriously
I dont know if you read this, but thank you. I always tried to fix things, talk it out but my gf doesnt like to talk about these things and with this I pressured her to much and drove her away even more. Last sunday she told me that she thinks that she doesnt love me in that way anymore.
I dont know if it is just the stress of the last months that made her feel that way and I dont know if there is still hope but know I have a new approach for dealing with this.
My girlfriend and I are taking a step back and giving each other space. She is stressed with school and work at the same time as she can barely talk in our convo since she can sleep easily after coming home. She is in japan studying and working so she is having a hard time, "She wants to work on herself so she can be better for me". We havent officially broke up and I know it might be a red flag but I have to respect her decision as I can understand how hard it is to work and study at the same time. Its been 3 weeks since we last talked to each other and Im expecting the worst to come and time will when I accept it.
what happened with you two?
Help! I've been with this man for over 4 years, we are engaged and live together with our children. He didn't say he didn't love me, but he said he doesn't feel the same because we're arguing a ton. Mostly I feel neglected by him, and I've told him how I feel. I don't want to leave the relationship please help!
Hi Vaneza Figueroa,
Start here to learn how this loss of safety slowly and gradually begins to break down.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Very simple. Goodbye!
a lot of things changes when she doesn't love you so she cheats with someone else.......which wrecks you as a person
What do you do if she has already met someone who is making her happy and making her emotionally safe
I've discussed this in SO MANY of my videos and interviews, so what I am about to say below is SOME of it, but not all. So much more I can say...
When I was in this position, I said to myself - If my wife finds someone better than me, GOOD! I want her to be happy.
So instead of forcing my wife to stay with me, knowing that I wasn't part of that 1%...
I asked myself - How can I become the 1%, faster and better than she can find anywhere else?
P.S. Just like I say in many of my videos, being the 1% is not just about money, but everything. (Spiritually, emotionally, etc...)
Like I always say, real high-value men aren't afraid to give their partner choices/freedom, because they know that they will choose them.
Only men of low value are afraid. If you are afraid, you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself...
1) Am I really that high value?
2) Do I REALLY care about her happiness?
3) If I don't believe in my own value, why should I expect her to?
4) If I am coming from such a selfish place, why should I expect her to spend her one and only life with me and never look elsewhere?
5) If I really think that my partner is such a wild animal that if given freedom, she will abandon all morals and betray people, then why is it mystery that she never felt safe and wants to get out if that's how lowly you think of her? I mean, would YOU want to stay with someone who thinks so lowly of you?
6) If you PULL and FORCE her to stay, do you really think you can sleep soundly at night? Do you not realize that the threat of other men will ALWAYS be there? Do you not realize that the ONLY way to true security is to become the 1%? Think about it.
Remember - Give people enough freedom so they CAN leave, but treat them well enough so they won't want to.
But how can I do that in person when we're a long distance relationship 😟
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Miles I appreciate your support.
Wow you covered everything that I am feeling my fiance and I are almost at the end of our relationship so I'm trying to find anything that will help us.
see my problem is I can't get her to even come towards me or even talk to me how do I do that without her getting mad I'd love to have physical touch with her I'd love to get an open conversation but how do I do that?
After 10 years my gf broke up... and you are right!.. i have psychic problems which i have to solve first before i go into another relationship.. we slept in seperate beds because i didnt want to hurt her because of my bad night dreaming... i wasnt emotional stable because i was a people pleaser so in the first 4 years i always talked about our problems with her.. she blocked so me too.. i would have to stay stable now i have priblems to speak about problems while she openes herself.. if you are not emotional stablr you are not masculine and that is not attractive! I was sporty, i was doing homework, i have good money, but i was emotional unstable sooo masculinity is mental stability!
I just want to thank you so much!!! I get it now why I feel like this .....thank you and god bless you🙏🏼
Hi cecilia lambert,
Would you be willing to share with me what you found to be most eye-opening?
She doesn't talk too me and greet me like always like before... And now she says she doesn't love me anymore...
And don't force her too faking her love for me what should I do..I'm crying like mad.. like a cry baby right now hurt so bad
Ive been in this situation for about a month now. Wish i saw this video sooner
Everything you said hit home for me, I’ve always been a terrible listener and I know where I was wrong, it almost like it a little too late for me, but everything you said ringed a bell, she didn’t have the emotional safety with me at all, small fights I would bring out the M80 and hit her with the biggest word bombs I could conjure up with, and she still stuck with me for 11 years, recently she told me she didn’t love me anymore and she wanted space and to move out with our daughters… I did everything you said not to do initially, tell her I loved her tell her I can change blah blah, and she told me a week ago that she hope I find someone that loves me the way I want and deserve unlike her, she says i know I wasn’t the best wife, you deserve someone better too and I hope you find someone soon so you can get over me quicker.. is that a nail in the coffin ⚰️?
Hi chewbacca flores,
Glad this hit home for you. feel free to pose your more complex and difficult questions in my free FaceBook Community.
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@@GeoffreySetiawanthis link isn't working , can you tell me where to talk with you
Hard when they always think there not to blame for anything lol
Preach!
I hope I am not too late to fix myself and my relationship. Thank you for your videos
Hi Gera,
Check out my list of clients who also waited till things were dire until they did something about it.
See the power in what one person willing to make the right and real changes needed to reconcile the relationship can do.
ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
I have watched narcissist videos for years and only just realized via your videos that what I thought was narcissistic behaviour was probably not! Have a lot of work to do!!!
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Great tips Geoffrey - I'm new to your channel and found the 'Relationship Pyramid' concept really interesting. It made a lot of sense! Your videos are really good. Thank you for sharing
Thanks for the kind words!
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I agree. It goes both ways. They left maybe for a reason. If they come back maybe we can talk. Gods plan
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Thank you so much for this video !!! This is so helpful.
I have all of these with my girl but we have a 2 y/o son “terrible 2’s” and we never have time to talk and it’s always the wrong time with our son it’s either when I go to work in the morning or when she gets off work late at night and she needs to relax on her days off she works with a guy she kissed and won’t block him after so many promises and attempts to persuade her to do so
yeah but what if she doesnt want to meet in person and only wants to text
this is the reason why we broke up. just want to ask a question, what if she is not ready to talk to me yet?
What if she doesn’t wanna speak up about it what do I do then just wait until she’s ready?
My wife tells me that she doesn't love me anymore, she needs space and that she's working hard to make herself change the way she thinks. She says that she has to do it on her own, but I don't give her space. We live under the same roof and is very hard to stay away from the women I love. When she lives for work she gives me a pop kiss without desire at all. When I question her about it she tells me that she doesn't feel the same way I do and that she's working very hard to try to change it. What can I do, How can I fix it. How should I act to avoid pushing her away. I clean the house, I cook, I take care of daughters, I show her every moment that I love her and that I care about her.
@John William how???
Father time is your friend. be patient with her
You are a genius this is exactly how my sweet relationship ended up after 4/6yrs, I wish I would have my baby back and apply all these technics cos I don't know how to move on though she is with another guy
Hi Rufus,
Make sure to read my other replies to your comments and also be sure to check out this video below on how this neediness of wanting your partner back will derail any of your attempts to do so.
ruclips.net/video/u2IO4iGHaoU/видео.html
Dammit! My relationship is long distance ugh!!
Let's take notes
This happened to me. We stopped trying to be together so we stopped caring. Then she broke up with me and said she doesnt love me anymore
Hi Platinum, emotions can & do change with time... Once you change the way you interact and communicate, this will naturally re-attract her.
If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
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What if your wife abuses you emotionally, then accuses you of abusing her emotionally, then says she doesn’t love you and needs time to fall in love again?
My girlfriend told me she doesn't like anything about me and the only reason she is with me is that she would feel guilty if she said no. I don't get it I thought I was being liked I was trying my best to be likeable
I have the same problem with my fiancée, she keeps ignoring me and she say she want space . She dosnt want to talk to me about anything and it really hard because I want to listen to her but she is not letting me
Hi, have you seen the many more videos I have on this topic of your partner wanting space?
ruclips.net/video/1ZVCi3FX26M/видео.html
You mentioned that while trying to rebuild the love, don’t call or text or chat. But what if that’s all you have as a means of communication?? What then do you do?
Hi Falk, you have to appeal to emotions which cannot happen via texting. Join the free master class and you can learn how to communicate in a different way and appeal directly to emotions and turn things around.
My relationship is at a very difficult stage. She has told me she doesn't love me anymore, to make it worse it is long distance relationship but we've been together for 12 years. I want to be with her, covid is making it impossible.
You situation is not unique. We have clients who have been in what seemed at the beginning to be an impossible situation but have been able to follow the processes and rebuild from the ground up. Join the free master class for more details.
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@@GeoffreySetiawan she started dating a new guy..
This is amazing advice and you are probably the best coach on RUclips. I love your other videos. Question though...What if physical touch is not an option? What if she won't let me touch her intentionally?
The point of the non-verbal touch is not the touch itself. Deepen your understanding -- the point is to determine if both of you are ready for a conversation. This can be done in many ways. Not sure if you have joined my masterclass yes, but remember to not memorize tactics, but understand the first-principles so you can improvise!
@@GeoffreySetiawan I understand. I'm guilty of looking at tactics, yes. This is very difficult especially because I'm in the wrong and not for the first time. I have joined your masterclass and look forward to working with you.
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What if things are so bad, you can't start with non-verbal touch? He doesn't even barely want to be in the same room as me.. when I get close to him he says don't touch me! So idk where to start..