I am glad I found you ❤️ also glad I didn’t offend that was NOT my intention at all. I am determined to at least try to declutter, man it is ever, ever hard! I find myself asking questions like where did all this stuff come from? How did i let it get this bad? I am on day 3 btw and have only touched the tip! Lol
It takes a special person to actually motivate this "queen of procrastination", so kudos to you for doing so! I will watch your videos when I'm tempted to backslide. Thank you.
Personally, I enjoy housework. It's a way to express my gratitude for what I have been blessed with. I can also inventory what I will continue to keep and what I can donate to others if not in use.
“The benefit of knowing what you have and where to find it” is a brilliant statement. If we could all grasp that our lives would be so much more peaceful! Thank you!!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Reminds me of my advice to former French students. I used to tell them to reframe, “I have to do homework,” to “I get to do homework.” Worked most of the time!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I would love to be a full-time homemaker, but the two of us can't afford it on one income. I'm hoping that with minimalism, I can learn to live below my means and save up more for the future 😊
I do think that financial responsibility goes hand and hand with this lifestyle! I know that my husband and I really cleaned up our debt/financial mess when we embraced minimalism! Blessings on your journey! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I LOVE this video!! I’ve watched it a couple of times. I had a light bulb moment when you talked about chores beings a blessing and how some people don’t have what we have. Sometimes it’s all about a mind shift ❤❤❤❤
Changing how I perceive the ‘chores’ has been SO helpful to me as a homemaker! Like I said, if it all has to get done anyone - might as well have as good of an attitude as we possibly can about it! Thanks for watching! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
good morning 🐦 nice to stop by the cottage and thank you for today's video..😊 I can never be the snappy cleaner that you are! -of course when we complete a task-it is certainly beginning a fresh cycle of needing to be done again at some point- the dust on the top of the fridge has no hesitation at regathering itself- certainly a clearer -open landscape in the house lends itself to a fresh indoor environment!! it makes me think of Marie Kondo saying how her initial inspiration for tidiness came from her observation of people never actually tackling their household cleaning properly - have a good day and a good week
That is very true! When we are burdened by too many personal possessions, we don’t have much time left for proper cleaning! Thanks for stopping by to say ‘hi’! ❤️
So true. I used to be very sad, angry, frustrated about how the dust and mess always came back. But then I finally just accepted that such is life eh? It’s better to accept facts and deal with them swiftly than to “go on strike” Bcuz you don’t like how it is. Lol.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I always enjoy your videos! My big thing is procrastinating. And picking up as I go. When I have those under control, things stay so much cleaner. Love seeing your channel grow.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
To me it’s like being self employed or working from home. I def think it should get the same credit tho. Its 24/7 and you can’t ever “escape” it so you really have to learn what lines to draw or when to take some personal time or stop and rest or take a break. When I used to go out and work a regular job, to me that was like a picnic. The work at home and being a mom was way harder. And so is self employment. I doubt I could ever appreciate being pushed into a situation I didn’t want, but I CAN still find some kind of gratitude regardless. I don’t appreciate being abused or controlled, but I can still appreciate other things. Even tho I was put in quite a frustrating and pickle of a situation, I’m quite surprised that “prison” could be so much better than it was. Such as it’s far better than dooming my whole life Bcuz this part of my life is pretty suckage. And you will always be better off making lemonade out of lemons than you are sucking on sour lemons and crying all the time. (Even tho truly some situations….you’d be hard pressed to strain a gnat to get even a drop of lemonade but also even that can be done and when you’re dying of thirst, one refreshing drop is like an oasis in the desert. I guess I would say that the good news is that once you start, it has a way of multiplying itself even in the worst of times. So yes. Always find ANY gratitude you possibly can. Search it out like valuable treasure, Bcuz it can save your life. I don’t recommend denying suckage when suckage is there, but the whole point is AND ya know. Not either/or. There can be suckage AND good things. Anyones life is like that tho. Nobody has pure bliss and nobody has to have only suckage for their entire life in all things. Def it’s often somewhere in between for most of us. And we def have seen inspiring stories where we think “utterly impossible” and yet said person has somehow made the most of it. That is what I feel like is the amazing power we human beings have tho. It’s just more about finding it and tapping into it. Finding the silver lining is work tho. Sometimes it’s really hard to find, but it’s always there somewhere. Freedom is always better of course, and I’m on my way, but maybe I can at least stop and appreciate myself….like pulling a Joseph when he was falsely imprisoned. They threw him in the clinker and he wound up running the place. 😂😂 (I guess my category is more like “self employed” when I don’t want to be any entrepreneur. I don’t “love” the job but at least I can be proud of killing it like a boss lol). The hamster wheel life isn’t so bad tho if you can be the boss of it tho. I tend to think that an out of control house IS more like a rollercoaster tho. I’ve been on both ends. First in that category (and also many rollercoaster life situations) and now I have a lot more predictable days. There is such a thing tho. When you grew up on a chaotic rollercoaster and that’s all you’ve known, the mundane life can even be scary. Most cases chaos would be subconsciously sought out. So ya know at least for me I was pretty textbook. I always found a way to self sabotage until I learned better. More predictability and more structure gives me more peace and security and stability and I have grown to treasure the very few “reliable” things in life. And I also have been able to create more reliability in my life and that feels really good. Life is often crazy and unpredictable, so it matters a lot to be able to create some space where you can make certain things very predictable and reliable. It gives you sturdy, solid ground to stand on (without always falling over or getting swept away) in the midst of the storms of life.
@@ArrowHillCottage Yah. Just recently I’ve been running across a lot of “gratitude” content. I’m thinking it’s a sign or maybe just a reminder. Lol. And self pity is pretty much the devil. Some who shall not be named have also tried to incite me to continually remain sorry for myself by comparing their “wonderful and rich” life (fake and a show just to affect my own perspective) to my “sad state of affairs.” (As they look their noses down on my “humble” life 🙄). Of course I think their main motivation was to feign superiority over me, (in my face to boot), but one day I just saw right through it. Saw the games, the ploys, the envy. And it was at that point that I started looking at everything differently. I actually started laughing Bcuz I thought how ridiculous it was of them. Like ok honey. Did you just drop by to watch me either JADE or get sad or try and get me to feel like crap about myself and my life? Good grief. Do you really not have anything better to do tho? I think I laughed Bcuz I saw what a lie it really was and I was so glad that it wasn’t really true. Lol. And Bcuz if I hold onto hope it is never going to really die on me. Well hence the moniker I use on here Bcuz some people just have an ever changing measuring stick and no matter how far you get, they’ll still poo poo all over it or rain on your parade. And also what the black and white thinking is called (Aka this sucks therefore everything sucks therefore my life will suck forever) splitting. And that is usually how a child is raised when there are narcissists in charge. But still it’s a great example of how most anyone can get a better perspective Bcuz we all seem to be tempted to some degree with comparison traps or keeping up with the Jones’s or feeling bad about ourselves when we can’t ever keep up with the Jones’s. Plus you just have to ask yourself…if my life and who I am is so sucksge then why are you so envious of me tho? It would make no sense unless I knew they were envious of the more intangible things that they will never be able to dive into or have Bcuz of the way they wallow constantly in the darkness and can’t ever really know the joys of real love, inner strength and contentment. It’s def worth a lot more than all the money and assets they have and so on. And it’s really almost comical. Just the fact that I’m writing about silver linings myself as I used to be the queen of “But you don’t know how bad it is/was” (and maybe they don’t but still it would be a moot point by now). So maybe I’m just trying to say that if someone like me can do it, pretty much anyone can do it. Bcuz I was not at all any poster child of hope and positivity. Not at all. Lol. I guess another thing tho is to not get confused about why things got better or how. And not just let “manageable” complacency and comfortability take over. I still have to be cognizant of the need to “flee” but also I have to remember that it was ME who made it better, not my abusers who will never change. The reason I think I like to not forget all the bad that happened is Bcuz I don’t want to ever go back to a Pollyanna state of denying that abuse exists just Bcuz I got really good at “making the most” of something that could’ve been so much more horrible. Well anyways. I hope that makes sense. In some ways we just can’t afford to forget Bcuz we def don’t want any more repeats with other abusers. It’s a fine line I guess. One has to see if they’re just needing a fresh perspective or if they need to just get out or change course and to quit trying to polish a turd. If it’s a turd, there’s only so much you can do. If it’s not a turd, you can prob turn even the Titanic around. And you know tho. Toxic positivity (the folks that think we “should” just be happy all the time etc) isn’t a cure all for what all is truly wrong. And it’s also not denying the existence of true suckage when it is really there. So I just carry on now with…the situation I was thrust into against my will is pretty suckage…(or should I say that anytime any adult has their own will summarily overridden…isn’t ever a good thing…BUT….so on I go making the most of whatever is thrown at me until I can bust out of this place for good. Lol.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I probably didn’t explain it the best - basically to me it means doing as much as the ‘same type’ of thing at one time- instead of constantly switching back and forth. For example…when you’re in the kitchen cooking, maybe do some prepping for the next meal - or when you already have the bathroom cleaning supplies out, so them all at once. ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I admire you! Just let me say tho (no offense) I could not live in your house 1. No curtains, blinds and that comes from a bad childhood and I gotta have color. Like I said I mean no offense, I really like your tips. I’m 61 and I fall under the category of “ shop to be happy” because of where we live and well, now I’m paying for it let’s just say. Soooo with that being said I’m working towards being “sort of” a minimalist like I said working on it lol the “to do list” is a GREAT starting point! Thank you!
I take no offense at all. This home was custom designed for US, and we love it just the way it is - it’s ok if nobody else does! Good for you for making some positive changes in your life. Blessings on your journey! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Thank you for watching! I hope this homemaking motivation encourages you!
I am glad I found you ❤️ also glad I didn’t offend that was NOT my intention at all. I am determined to at least try to declutter, man it is ever, ever hard! I find myself asking questions like where did all this stuff come from? How did i let it get this bad? I am on day 3 btw and have only touched the tip! Lol
It takes a special person to actually motivate this "queen of procrastination", so kudos to you for doing so! I will watch your videos when I'm tempted to backslide. Thank you.
Personally, I enjoy housework. It's a way to express my gratitude for what I have been blessed with. I can also inventory what I will continue to keep and what I can donate to others if not in use.
I agree! I enjoy it too! ❤️
“The benefit of knowing what you have and where to find it” is a brilliant statement. If we could all grasp that our lives would be so much more peaceful! Thank you!!
That is a sentiment I keep at all times and really helps me stay focused on the overall goal of simplicity that I’m after ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Reminds me of my advice to former French students. I used to tell them to reframe, “I have to do homework,” to “I get to do homework.” Worked most of the time!
I’ve been amazed over the past few years how impactful the way we think about things can actually be! Have a great day! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I would love to be a full-time homemaker, but the two of us can't afford it on one income. I'm hoping that with minimalism, I can learn to live below my means and save up more for the future 😊
I do think that financial responsibility goes hand and hand with this lifestyle! I know that my husband and I really cleaned up our debt/financial mess when we embraced minimalism! Blessings on your journey! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Gratitude is everything! Thank you for the reminder.
Thanks for watching! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
So true, the time we spend stressing about a certain task often elongates the burden… thanks for this sweet reminder ♥️
Thanks for watching! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I LOVE this video!!
I’ve watched it a couple of times.
I had a light bulb moment when you talked about chores beings a blessing and how some people don’t have what we have.
Sometimes it’s all about a mind shift ❤❤❤❤
Changing how I perceive the ‘chores’ has been SO helpful to me as a homemaker! Like I said, if it all has to get done anyone - might as well have as good of an attitude as we possibly can about it! Thanks for watching! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
good morning 🐦 nice to stop by the cottage and thank you for today's video..😊 I can never be the snappy cleaner that you are! -of course when we complete a task-it is certainly beginning a fresh cycle of needing to be done again at some point- the dust on the top of the fridge has no hesitation at regathering itself- certainly a clearer -open landscape in the house lends itself to a fresh indoor environment!! it makes me think of Marie Kondo saying how her initial inspiration for tidiness came from her observation of people never actually tackling their household cleaning properly - have a good day and a good week
That is very true! When we are burdened by too many personal possessions, we don’t have much time left for proper cleaning! Thanks for stopping by to say ‘hi’! ❤️
So true. I used to be very sad, angry, frustrated about how the dust and mess always came back. But then I finally just accepted that such is life eh? It’s better to accept facts and deal with them swiftly than to “go on strike” Bcuz you don’t like how it is. Lol.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
The snowy woods look so beautiful.
This is one of the many reasons our home has large windows! Looking out then is like seeing an art exhibit year round. ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I always enjoy your videos! My big thing is procrastinating. And picking up as I go. When I have those under control, things stay so much cleaner. Love seeing your channel grow.
Thanks so much! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Your t-shirt colour is sooo cute, it brings out the colour on your cheeks.. 😍
Awe, thank you! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Great tips. I love your cottage 💕
Thanks so much! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
Im so grateful.
❤thank you!
Thanks for watching! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I totally enjoyed this video!!
Thanks for watching! Glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
To me it’s like being self employed or working from home. I def think it should get the same credit tho. Its 24/7 and you can’t ever “escape” it so you really have to learn what lines to draw or when to take some personal time or stop and rest or take a break. When I used to go out and work a regular job, to me that was like a picnic. The work at home and being a mom was way harder. And so is self employment.
I doubt I could ever appreciate being pushed into a situation I didn’t want, but I CAN still find some kind of gratitude regardless. I don’t appreciate being abused or controlled, but I can still appreciate other things. Even tho I was put in quite a frustrating and pickle of a situation, I’m quite surprised that “prison” could be so much better than it was. Such as it’s far better than dooming my whole life Bcuz this part of my life is pretty suckage. And you will always be better off making lemonade out of lemons than you are sucking on sour lemons and crying all the time. (Even tho truly some situations….you’d be hard pressed to strain a gnat to get even a drop of lemonade but also even that can be done and when you’re dying of thirst, one refreshing drop is like an oasis in the desert. I guess I would say that the good news is that once you start, it has a way of multiplying itself even in the worst of times. So yes. Always find ANY gratitude you possibly can. Search it out like valuable treasure, Bcuz it can save your life. I don’t recommend denying suckage when suckage is there, but the whole point is AND ya know. Not either/or. There can be suckage AND good things. Anyones life is like that tho. Nobody has pure bliss and nobody has to have only suckage for their entire life in all things. Def it’s often somewhere in between for most of us. And we def have seen inspiring stories where we think “utterly impossible” and yet said person has somehow made the most of it. That is what I feel like is the amazing power we human beings have tho. It’s just more about finding it and tapping into it. Finding the silver lining is work tho. Sometimes it’s really hard to find, but it’s always there somewhere.
Freedom is always better of course, and I’m on my way, but maybe I can at least stop and appreciate myself….like pulling a Joseph when he was falsely imprisoned. They threw him in the clinker and he wound up running the place. 😂😂 (I guess my category is more like “self employed” when I don’t want to be any entrepreneur. I don’t “love” the job but at least I can be proud of killing it like a boss lol). The hamster wheel life isn’t so bad tho if you can be the boss of it tho. I tend to think that an out of control house IS more like a rollercoaster tho. I’ve been on both ends. First in that category (and also many rollercoaster life situations) and now I have a lot more predictable days. There is such a thing tho. When you grew up on a chaotic rollercoaster and that’s all you’ve known, the mundane life can even be scary. Most cases chaos would be subconsciously sought out. So ya know at least for me I was pretty textbook. I always found a way to self sabotage until I learned better. More predictability and more structure gives me more peace and security and stability and I have grown to treasure the very few “reliable” things in life. And I also have been able to create more reliability in my life and that feels really good. Life is often crazy and unpredictable, so it matters a lot to be able to create some space where you can make certain things very predictable and reliable. It gives you sturdy, solid ground to stand on (without always falling over or getting swept away) in the midst of the storms of life.
Very true. The bad things tend to cloud our perspective, but if we look closely there is always some sort of good. ❤️
@@ArrowHillCottage Yah. Just recently I’ve been running across a lot of “gratitude” content. I’m thinking it’s a sign or maybe just a reminder. Lol. And self pity is pretty much the devil. Some who shall not be named have also tried to incite me to continually remain sorry for myself by comparing their “wonderful and rich” life (fake and a show just to affect my own perspective) to my “sad state of affairs.” (As they look their noses down on my “humble” life 🙄). Of course I think their main motivation was to feign superiority over me, (in my face to boot), but one day I just saw right through it. Saw the games, the ploys, the envy. And it was at that point that I started looking at everything differently. I actually started laughing Bcuz I thought how ridiculous it was of them. Like ok honey. Did you just drop by to watch me either JADE or get sad or try and get me to feel like crap about myself and my life? Good grief. Do you really not have anything better to do tho? I think I laughed Bcuz I saw what a lie it really was and I was so glad that it wasn’t really true. Lol. And Bcuz if I hold onto hope it is never going to really die on me. Well hence the moniker I use on here Bcuz some people just have an ever changing measuring stick and no matter how far you get, they’ll still poo poo all over it or rain on your parade. And also what the black and white thinking is called (Aka this sucks therefore everything sucks therefore my life will suck forever) splitting. And that is usually how a child is raised when there are narcissists in charge. But still it’s a great example of how most anyone can get a better perspective Bcuz we all seem to be tempted to some degree with comparison traps or keeping up with the Jones’s or feeling bad about ourselves when we can’t ever keep up with the Jones’s. Plus you just have to ask yourself…if my life and who I am is so sucksge then why are you so envious of me tho? It would make no sense unless I knew they were envious of the more intangible things that they will never be able to dive into or have Bcuz of the way they wallow constantly in the darkness and can’t ever really know the joys of real love, inner strength and contentment. It’s def worth a lot more than all the money and assets they have and so on.
And it’s really almost comical. Just the fact that I’m writing about silver linings myself as I used to be the queen of “But you don’t know how bad it is/was” (and maybe they don’t but still it would be a moot point by now). So maybe I’m just trying to say that if someone like me can do it, pretty much anyone can do it. Bcuz I was not at all any poster child of hope and positivity. Not at all. Lol.
I guess another thing tho is to not get confused about why things got better or how. And not just let “manageable” complacency and comfortability take over. I still have to be cognizant of the need to “flee” but also I have to remember that it was ME who made it better, not my abusers who will never change. The reason I think I like to not forget all the bad that happened is Bcuz I don’t want to ever go back to a Pollyanna state of denying that abuse exists just Bcuz I got really good at “making the most” of something that could’ve been so much more horrible. Well anyways. I hope that makes sense. In some ways we just can’t afford to forget Bcuz we def don’t want any more repeats with other abusers. It’s a fine line I guess. One has to see if they’re just needing a fresh perspective or if they need to just get out or change course and to quit trying to polish a turd. If it’s a turd, there’s only so much you can do. If it’s not a turd, you can prob turn even the Titanic around. And you know tho. Toxic positivity (the folks that think we “should” just be happy all the time etc) isn’t a cure all for what all is truly wrong. And it’s also not denying the existence of true suckage when it is really there. So I just carry on now with…the situation I was thrust into against my will is pretty suckage…(or should I say that anytime any adult has their own will summarily overridden…isn’t ever a good thing…BUT….so on I go making the most of whatever is thrown at me until I can bust out of this place for good. Lol.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
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Thanks for watching! ❤️
What is meant by batching chores?
I probably didn’t explain it the best - basically to me it means doing as much as the ‘same type’ of thing at one time- instead of constantly switching back and forth. For example…when you’re in the kitchen cooking, maybe do some prepping for the next meal - or when you already have the bathroom cleaning supplies out, so them all at once. ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤
I admire you! Just let me say tho (no offense) I could not live in your house 1. No curtains, blinds and that comes from a bad childhood and I gotta have color. Like I said I mean no offense, I really like your tips. I’m 61 and I fall under the category of “ shop to be happy” because of where we live and well, now I’m paying for it let’s just say. Soooo with that being said I’m working towards being “sort of” a minimalist like I said working on it lol the “to do list” is a GREAT starting point! Thank you!
I take no offense at all. This home was custom designed for US, and we love it just the way it is - it’s ok if nobody else does! Good for you for making some positive changes in your life. Blessings on your journey! ❤️
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love 💚 , and peace all over the world 🌏. I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind? I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?❤