My mother is attached to her only son. I've been expected to coddle him, provide for him financially, and forgive him for his crimes. I set boundaries between myself and them. Now I'm living a better life!
Bring back SHAME! they should be ASHAMED to do this kind of favoritism/toxic codependency with their child. it is actually DISGUSTING! The fact they would go so far as to post this contact as if they are proud of it and think this is right. geez. how despicable.
You do understand this is satire, right? I think the person in this channel doesn't understand this fact. Why does nobody say anything for the equally disgusting "daddy's girl?" That is just as damaging, huh? If your answer is no then you, dear, are a hypocrite. They are showing the stupidity of "daddy's girl" ridiculousness.
Wow, shame is definitely not the emotion that's going to fix the issue... People who feel ashamed often try to hide it rather than fixing it or seeking help. They try to cover up the thing they feel shame for because it's embarrassing. Empathy would be a better start. So that instead of doing things because of how it makes the parent feel, they'll do things because they're thinking of how it makes the children feel.
@@woljay9362 The trend on tik tok is satire. So what are you on about? How is your reading comprehension? Re-read the first sentence. Stop complaining about a satirical tik tok trend. Stop being purposefully obtuse in the things you watch and apparently the things you read as well.
I love that you took a clickbaity tiktok trend idea and instead of just “reacting” to it you went deep and deconstructed its meaning! From boy moms to addiction and loneliness.. A critique on social media without becoming too academic. Really great video!
that one lady who did the " you don't know what love is" is a parody account, she makes fun of the toxic boy moms and points out a lot of the weirdness many of them display with their male children. there's one story she covered that floored me and i believe was on reddit about a bride looking for her soon to be husband i think was in his 30's, literally on their wedding day, caught him breastfeeding from his mama in a random room somewhere.... i gagged out loud when i heard it again from her account...like ma'am and sir....that's beyond weird.
Megan do you think we could get Mr. Moons perspective on mother in laws and boundaries and maybe things that you set as a boundary that he had a hard time accepting. I just think getting the perspective of "the native" might shine some light on the topic as well. Do you think he will agree? I know Mr. Moon is more on the quiet side.
This video is exactly what my sister and I went through with our brother... 😥 our mom put her "only son" on a pedestal and still does. Therapy saved me. Thank you for speaking about this.
I didn't have the love and support from my mom and sister but I didn't grow up to be a mean girl. I grew up to believe competition is heartless and brings out the worst in people. Since I didn't feel safe and supported from my 5 brothers and father as well, I also grew up feeling like I can love others but they can't love me. I became hyper sensitive to things like kindness. Someone being kind makes me cry sometimes even though kindness is basic. It's that upbringing that makes me want better for others. I can't change my experience but maybe I can do better than I got and show others they're valid if they went through the same thing.
I personally think bullies/mean girls come from parents who love their children, but they let them do whatever they want. Very spoiled in the sense of never being told no because their parents just don't teach discipline or boundaries at all. I got bullied a lot growing up, and every "mean girl" was usually a rich daughter who's parents bought her whatever and her parents tried hard to be the "cool parents"/Best friend type.
@@mwintersweet3538 I think that part was valid because some people do become resentful and bitter. I can see how that outcome could happen, it just wasn't my story. 🙂
MEGAN! I have never related to a video as much as this before. I am a "boy mom". My family (mum's side) have been so obsessed with boys that I was afraid of having a girl because I was worried I'd treat her the way my mum treated my brother and I, or how my grandma treated my mum and her brother (luckily my therapist said bc I'm already aware, its unlikely I'd carry on the cycle). Its so ingrained that when i gave birth to my son and expressed how im not planning on having any more children, my mum replied "its okay youve already done your job, you provided a son". I am British btw...so i was like "lady..we are not the freaking royal family". However, as a boy mama I find these videos disgusting. I am literally dedicated to raising a man who will be good to his partner. And I welcome and am excited for the day (when hes older) when he one day finds his soul mate. Why would women deny their children of this? Crazy!!!
This was a much needed video, thank you! What many people fail to realize is once you post something, it is forvever in this digital world. My heart goes out to the daughters who do not feel loved.❤
My heart goes out also to sons who go through the same unloved feeling from father's with "daddy's girls." I'm sure you feel the same unless you are a hypocrite.
It’s emotional (and a lil bit physical) incest. It’s horrible parenting that’s being disguised as being ‘quirky’ or ‘I’m the cool protective parent’. The son, and any siblings they may have, suffer.
@@southerngirl9376 yall think everything is satire as if “satire.” Is not something from a real fucking place🙄 gtfoh…. My mom has an emotional incest relationship with my brother so no… you must be like that with your son🤔 weirdo
The being able to love your kids while you are struggling, is so true. Before I became a mom I didn't understand it and I realised I had to take care of myself first in order to be the best mom I can be. It definitely is very important. ❤
@@southerngirl9376 so completely true! Best case, “girl-dad” posts for praise for doing the most basic parenting things; worst case, the emotional awareness, tenderness, and attentiveness they display towards their daughters is grossly opposite to their thoughts and actions towards women…ew.
Way before Tik Tok, my mom always had her favorite which was my brother. My sister and I were like you said, put aside. As we became adults, I kinda kept my distance from her, don't have a close relationship either. Its different with my kids, I don't have a favorite child, they all have the same amount of attention!
Megan, my in laws are Korean American but we’re raised by their grandparents so they are super old school. But my MIL is super attached to my husband but he is very Americanized so he sets boundaries with them but at the same time has to just be quiet when it comes to them being overbearing. It’s such a weird combo of cultures and it’s really hard to find our footing because the in laws pick and choose what they want to be strict about. Your videos are super informative and insightful for the mix of Korean and American cultures. Thankful for you!
This is my first time hearing about this Toxic Mom thing. Glad you are addressing this the way that you are. It might look like the young girls know that this is a joke however, as soon as the young girl experiences something that might have them question their place in the family or with their boyfriends, their mind will subconsciously reminisce about the toxic mom skits. Remember the saying...It's a man's world. Well, it doesn't have to be that way. 🙂
What really would be wrong with mother's teaching their sons they do not have to put up with mistreatment from a woman? When father's do the same teaching to their daughters it's fine? You all are nothing but hypocrites.
Hello Meagan...I have recently discovered your channel and I love it. I am an older black woman from the USA. I've been seriously thinking about getting out of here for years. I'm so impressed with how you went about your journey in Korea. But to your subject today...I had a mother like that my exes mom wasn't directly like that but she would fine some way to blame me for what he did wrong and this dude is considered elderly. I'm trying to find the strength to get out of bed and live but not just him but soooo much disappointed in my life.
Honestly: THANK YOU! I'm not a mom but I 've noticed sooo many wrong behaviors like that around me. And if I try and say something like what you said in this topic no-one listens because, guess what....: I'm not a mom.... So, again, THANK YOU for pointing out such wrong behaviors!
I have 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls. I love all my kids equally. I don't do more for one than I do for the others. I can't imagine being biased to my children. Maybe because I watched my mom coddle my brothers. 😂 I am a middle child, I was not coddled, and I am not a daddy's girl like my sisters. I have stood on my own two feet since I was 17. Dare I say I am the most successful of my siblings.
Good on you and that is a major advantage to your kids as they will grow up all equal with no preconceived favouritism..so they can raise their kids the same
Same, but I cut my whole family off. I never feel like talking or going back to them. This is sad but says a lot about the toxic narcissistic behavior towards me and my siblings. My siblings stayed in contact due to money reasons. Not me! I’m struggling financially in some ways but it’s worth repairing my mental health.
My folks are from Louisiana. I'm born and raised in California since the 70s I live in Korea right now and these videos are very informative thank you sister I appreciate it🎉
I've worked with toxic boy moms in a childcare setting and it is *something*! And you know they are cause with their daughters, the same rules don't apply, but with the sons? Suddenly everything you do is wrong 😂 Korea and divorce could be an interesting topic, too, as well as child custody stuff. I've heard weird things about it there.
@Cski2020 it's a lot crazier since they don't respect international abduction laws so some parents have literally kidnapped their own children with no consequences. I've even heard of sole custody being awarded to the last parent a child was with.
While TikTok can be a source of creativity and community, it’s essential to approach trends critically and be mindful of the potential toxicity that can arise from them.
You have a good way of articulating yourself and i think everyone enjoys that. You also talk about things most people avoid. No many people would so openly discuss the cons of korea or different cultures but you do and you do it in an educated and respectful way. On a completely unrelated note i do miss you talking about things you enjoy and favourites. Like the spring favourites videos. Id love to see workout gear you have been loving, kids stuff favourite cooking equipment ect. The family vlogs are also great your kids are cute and i think you are an amazing mum and with the attitude displayed here i think your kids have a bright future 😊
Heem in my case it's actually the opposite I was born a sick girl, so I got much more attention than my older brother, and since he's a boy he started going out a lot to hang out with friends and that's how couped with it. Thankfully he's very popular among his friends , he's an extreme extrovert 🥰 . Very well loved and cherished definitely an insider guy. I on the other hand, was too protected, end up as an extreme introvert. Yep that's me . I'm very glad my brother did not fall into despair it makes me feel less guilty really, however, the downside is he has no interest in household affairs .He pretty much does not have any hope for emotional support from our parents, so my family is very worried that he won't be able to open a house of his own. Huh! Attention and love should indeed be as equal as possible, it is a core point for development. For any parent's out there with sick kids, take a good look at your healthy kids too, listen to them and don't tell them they are being selfish. Cause attention and love are free. ❤ Don't make them carry the guilt for the rest of their life like me.
Coming from a toxic household with alcoholism Megan got me into working out as a 16 year old with her body building videos and explaining healthy eating. Now I’m 24 and still have hard days but watching her come back from pregnancy with love and hard work has inspired me that women can really do anything. She is such a loving mother and wife but doesn’t fear showing us the ugly side too like some content creators. I truly value and love this account so much. Thanks for helping me grow up Megan!
Megan you have literally blown my mind. I have always had this jealousy issues just in general with other girls. And just realizing it could stem from my childhood with my toxic mother.
Thank you for taking these deep dives into sort of tricky and certainly complex topics. It's highly interesting and I appreciate the care you put into it. Keep going please 🙏
Tmi, my younger brother was born when I was 7 and this is exactly what happened. I was emotionally neglected my whole childhood and I remember even bringing it up to my parents and they ignored it or told me it wasn't true. News flash, it was, they never talked to me, asked me anything or wanted to do anything with me. I was always in my room playing flash games etc and would only see them when we had dinner. Looking back, I very quickly realised my parents were not gonna give me any affection or care no matter what I did and became an independent and also rebellious child, I thought most adults in my life ain't shit (only few that I looked up to or thought were decent) lol The good thing, I didn't grow up to hate girls or anyone, but yes, I did look for some love and validation in my early 20s in... sexual ways... If you read this far, sorry if you had a shitty childhood too ^^'
I think Tik tic is mocking the toxicity but I could be way off. My adult kids only send me animal videos and I’ve really never explored the forum further than that, though.
I think that one lady is very obviously parodying boy mom's on tiktok (miss "you don't know what love is"). Boy moms is something that exists across all patriarchal cultures. It's weird growing up and realizing that so many people feel that women are disposable
When I used to work at Sephora, I had an experience where a mom tried to petition me by saying, "You're so pretty and nice. I will make my son break up with his girlfriend if you give me mixed-Black grandbabies." I was like, 🤮 on the inside, but I just said, " No, thanks." And walked away. I asked the male beauty advisor to finish helping her. There was also a different experience that I had where a woman helping me and my mom at a car dealership trying to petition me on behalf of her nephew. These two incidents happened to me only a couple years ago. Toxic boy moms def be in every culture.🤦🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
I love these types of videos! Can you link more of the RUclipsrs and professionals you follow Megan? Especially on postivie childrearing! I love how you said the bit about how kids are raised will affect them in their later addictions, etc...
Is "daddy's girl" gross? Same exact thing, yet females praise that and say it is great for the girl. Nope! Can't have it both ways. And this is satire anyway. Everything she showed was satire.
@@southerngirl9376 Watching kids slapping their mom's butt is gross from my point of view. If you like it, have it your way with your kids. There is nothing wrong with being "daddy's girl" or "momma's boy" as long as you show love and you respect both of them the same way. No kid should feel unloved.
Anyone can have kids and it’s messing our society up! Stupid people raise their kids in the most ridiculous ways and then these kids grow up into also being stupid and ignorant.. possibly emotionally damaged or abusive towards others. It’s a real danger! Parenthood is such a huge responsibility!! Keep that in mind before having children. I’m so glad for people like you, Megan. ❤❤ we need more common sense in the world 😊
It's always been like that ...but now it's lazy ass parents who let their kids be raised by social media and parents who want to be their kids friend instead of being what they should be and that's a parent
I know the “p-word” podcast doesnt have the best reputation but I do think you have a niche, from american and korean-expat POV on a variety of issues, on top of being well spoken, I’d def tune in!
As the favorite child of my father my siblings use to hate me but then realized I had no control of that (I’m the youngest, I was like 5ish) our relationship became stronger and now we are inseparable.
Megan I so appreciate your wisdom. In the start of your sharing you have nailed the essential issues of the presidential election. He’s a weak self-centered person and she is a confident person living a love based value system even in her professions. Thanks for sharing.
Sarah is actually a parody RUclipsr, she does amazing because her eyes always looking crazy 🤣 but they're also so good because her videos are not too far off
Megan I love your videos. And I love how you throw in concepts of kid psych and development. Do you have any books related to that that you recommend. My husband and I will be doing IVF in a couple years and I want to learn as much as I can now to be a supportive mom to my kids.
Asian moms like my mom, favored and coddled my younger brother. So we never became close unfortunately. I have a daughter and now she doesn't feel it's normal to be close to her mama. Gen Z😭
I remember when my sister was pregnant with her first son, she in disgust showed me a onesie that said "I'm Mommy's new man," ick. So agree with you, Megan, about everything! I'm so glad Luna and Rubin have strong parents that love each other and a best friend in one another...I can fully see both of them defending each other if anyone ever messes with either, LOL.
I'm not Asian but you described my upbringing to a tee. My family is Latino. My mother would always say out loud to people that boys were so much better to raise. I wasn't a bad kid but I think my mother didn't have a clue how to raise me..She had plenty of experience with the boys because I had 3 brothers. What's interesting, I think my 2 younger brothers felt unloved too. My oldest brother to this day thinks he is more than any of us. When mom died he would call me to ask where he could buy certain things because my mother used to buy him groceries and clothing too. Having children is not for everyone and I wish parents would realize that before having children. I have never married or had children.
There was a poet that said give your kids two things, a strong foundation and wings and instead these mothers are not helping their sons at all, and they are going to turn into nightmare adults. Brain function, not even adult whining.
Megan... can you talk about being a US citizen in S.Korea? Since you have been aboard for so many years can you talk about things that have changed for you or in the US that you impacted you there. Perhaps an opinion as a American but seeing the US from outside perspective, seeing all the changes over the years you have been gone? Hope I explained that well.
I thought you were narrating my life. Im the oldest girl out of 4.... Twin boys 16 years younger than me. And i lived that life. I chose to break that "traditional", boys are better, even though i was blessed with 3 girls. 19, 2, and 1 year olds. Megan, youre telling me that i am not alone... 🤯
Because it's so common that some moms are like this, many people around my mom thought she was like this too. Because I was more if dad's girl and my brother was more mom's boy. She said she felt so sad people said "Oh so you only love your son huh" because she loves us equally, I just choose to hang on to dad more 😂
Oh this was totally my parents growing up 😂 my sister and i are 11 months apart and my brother was 5 years younger than me 6 years younger than my sister and my parents were obsessed - they still are 😂 to be honest we didn’t really care, but we did do a lot of stupid things and we bullied our brother 😅 but we’re all super close still so it really didn’t do much to hurt our relationships, but to the credit of my parents they put all of us kids first in their life and still do. My brother was the best behaved of us 3 BUT he is the least successful and most dependent on my parents, so maybe that is something ?? I am the middle of 3 and I am the most successful and most independent of my siblings, and i truly believe that middle children try to overachieve to try to gain the attention of their parents, but also ended up being a huge benefit in my own life. Parents don’t sleep on your middle child, they’re the real ones that will take care of you when you’re old.
My mother is attached to her only son. I've been expected to coddle him, provide for him financially, and forgive him for his crimes. I set boundaries between myself and them. Now I'm living a better life!
Same on my end he would even get awarded for killing animals. I have not spoken to my entire family not just parents for years now.
Bring back SHAME! they should be ASHAMED to do this kind of favoritism/toxic codependency with their child. it is actually DISGUSTING! The fact they would go so far as to post this contact as if they are proud of it and think this is right. geez. how despicable.
You do understand this is satire, right? I think the person in this channel doesn't understand this fact. Why does nobody say anything for the equally disgusting "daddy's girl?" That is just as damaging, huh? If your answer is no then you, dear, are a hypocrite. They are showing the stupidity of "daddy's girl" ridiculousness.
I mean, I don't know about condemning people, but definitely, we should express our disapproval.
Wow, shame is definitely not the emotion that's going to fix the issue... People who feel ashamed often try to hide it rather than fixing it or seeking help. They try to cover up the thing they feel shame for because it's embarrassing. Empathy would be a better start. So that instead of doing things because of how it makes the parent feel, they'll do things because they're thinking of how it makes the children feel.
@@southerngirl9376It’s pretty much the same?? But the trend on TikTok is not…soooo what are you on about?
@@woljay9362 The trend on tik tok is satire. So what are you on about? How is your reading comprehension? Re-read the first sentence. Stop complaining about a satirical tik tok trend. Stop being purposefully obtuse in the things you watch and apparently the things you read as well.
_How to talk about narcissistic parents without mentioning the word narcissism. Megan you are a real one!_ ❤❤✌🏽
I love that you took a clickbaity tiktok trend idea and instead of just “reacting” to it you went deep and deconstructed its meaning! From boy moms to addiction and loneliness.. A critique on social media without becoming too academic. Really great video!
that one lady who did the " you don't know what love is" is a parody account, she makes fun of the toxic boy moms and points out a lot of the weirdness many of them display with their male children.
there's one story she covered that floored me and i believe was on reddit about a bride looking for her soon to be husband i think was in his 30's, literally on their wedding day, caught him breastfeeding from his mama in a random room somewhere....
i gagged out loud when i heard it again from her account...like ma'am and sir....that's beyond weird.
His mouth was on his mother’s nipple? That man is a victim. And that mom is a sexual predator. Hope she didn’t get married.
Ohhh. I got to go and see that!!
What in the world!!!! On his wedding day!? I mean any day past the age of 2 (imo)!?!
Omg 😳
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Megan do you think we could get Mr. Moons perspective on mother in laws and boundaries and maybe things that you set as a boundary that he had a hard time accepting. I just think getting the perspective of "the native" might shine some light on the topic as well. Do you think he will agree? I know Mr. Moon is more on the quiet side.
This video is exactly what my sister and I went through with our brother... 😥 our mom put her "only son" on a pedestal and still does. Therapy saved me. Thank you for speaking about this.
I didn't have the love and support from my mom and sister but I didn't grow up to be a mean girl.
I grew up to believe competition is heartless and brings out the worst in people. Since I didn't feel safe and supported from my 5 brothers and father as well, I also grew up feeling like I can love others but they can't love me.
I became hyper sensitive to things like kindness. Someone being kind makes me cry sometimes even though kindness is basic.
It's that upbringing that makes me want better for others. I can't change my experience but maybe I can do better than I got and show others they're valid if they went through the same thing.
I hope that you will get the love and support that you deserve from other people in your life
I loved the video and her talking about these issues in general. But I thought that 1 part of what she said was very judgemental and ignorant tbh.
I personally think bullies/mean girls come from parents who love their children, but they let them do whatever they want. Very spoiled in the sense of never being told no because their parents just don't teach discipline or boundaries at all.
I got bullied a lot growing up, and every "mean girl" was usually a rich daughter who's parents bought her whatever and her parents tried hard to be the "cool parents"/Best friend type.
@@J.A.00 Thank you. 🫂
@@mwintersweet3538 I think that part was valid because some people do become resentful and bitter. I can see how that outcome could happen, it just wasn't my story. 🙂
First time commenting but I've watched your videos for years. I love this new series you're doing!
Thanks for the support and watching ❤❤❤
MEGAN! I have never related to a video as much as this before. I am a "boy mom". My family (mum's side) have been so obsessed with boys that I was afraid of having a girl because I was worried I'd treat her the way my mum treated my brother and I, or how my grandma treated my mum and her brother (luckily my therapist said bc I'm already aware, its unlikely I'd carry on the cycle). Its so ingrained that when i gave birth to my son and expressed how im not planning on having any more children, my mum replied "its okay youve already done your job, you provided a son". I am British btw...so i was like "lady..we are not the freaking royal family". However, as a boy mama I find these videos disgusting. I am literally dedicated to raising a man who will be good to his partner. And I welcome and am excited for the day (when hes older) when he one day finds his soul mate. Why would women deny their children of this? Crazy!!!
This was a much needed video, thank you! What many people fail to realize is once you post something, it is forvever in this digital world. My heart goes out to the daughters who do not feel loved.❤
My heart goes out also to sons who go through the same unloved feeling from father's with "daddy's girls." I'm sure you feel the same unless you are a hypocrite.
@@southerngirl9376 O M G. There’s always men crying whataboutme. You are so pathetic and vile
It’s emotional (and a lil bit physical) incest. It’s horrible parenting that’s being disguised as being ‘quirky’ or ‘I’m the cool protective parent’. The son, and any siblings they may have, suffer.
Satire
@@southerngirl9376 not all of them unfortunately
@@southerngirl9376 yall think everything is satire as if “satire.” Is not something from a real fucking place🙄 gtfoh…. My mom has an emotional incest relationship with my brother so no… you must be like that with your son🤔 weirdo
The being able to love your kids while you are struggling, is so true. Before I became a mom I didn't understand it and I realised I had to take care of myself first in order to be the best mom I can be. It definitely is very important. ❤
Toxic relationship made me stay single.
The pick-me-to boy-mom pipeline is so real.
As well as the pick-me-to girl-dad pipeline. Just cringe all the way around, right?
@@southerngirl9376 so completely true! Best case, “girl-dad” posts for praise for doing the most basic parenting things; worst case, the emotional awareness, tenderness, and attentiveness they display towards their daughters is grossly opposite to their thoughts and actions towards women…ew.
Way before Tik Tok, my mom always had her favorite which was my brother. My sister and I were like you said, put aside. As we became adults, I kinda kept my distance from her, don't have a close relationship either. Its different with my kids, I don't have a favorite child, they all have the same amount of attention!
Megan, my in laws are Korean American but we’re raised by their grandparents so they are super old school. But my MIL is super attached to my husband but he is very Americanized so he sets boundaries with them but at the same time has to just be quiet when it comes to them being overbearing. It’s such a weird combo of cultures and it’s really hard to find our footing because the in laws pick and choose what they want to be strict about. Your videos are super informative and insightful for the mix of Korean and American cultures. Thankful for you!
Same here with a Mexican MIL that criticizes everything American and shames me for it. But she got naturalized.
It’s mind boggling.
Girl I'm with you on brazen ✋️
This is my first time hearing about this Toxic Mom thing. Glad you are addressing this the way that you are. It might look like the young girls know that this is a joke however, as soon as the young girl experiences something that might have them question their place in the family or with their boyfriends, their mind will subconsciously reminisce about the toxic mom skits. Remember the saying...It's a man's world. Well, it doesn't have to be that way. 🙂
What really would be wrong with mother's teaching their sons they do not have to put up with mistreatment from a woman? When father's do the same teaching to their daughters it's fine? You all are nothing but hypocrites.
@southerngirl9376 found the toxic boy mom lol
Hello Meagan...I have recently discovered your channel and I love it. I am an older black woman from the USA. I've been seriously thinking about getting out of here for years. I'm so impressed with how you went about your journey in Korea.
But to your subject today...I had a mother like that my exes mom wasn't directly like that but she would fine some way to blame me for what he did wrong and this dude is considered elderly. I'm trying to find the strength to get out of bed and live but not just him but soooo much disappointed in my life.
Ahhh. I’m sorry you had to deal with that :(
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I WANT ALL YOUR CLOTHES 😭🩵 off topic, but I love your style.
Your facial expressions in the beginning said it all 😂😂😂😂
Honestly: THANK YOU! I'm not a mom but I 've noticed sooo many wrong behaviors like that around me. And if I try and say something like what you said in this topic no-one listens because, guess what....: I'm not a mom.... So, again, THANK YOU for pointing out such wrong behaviors!
I have 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls. I love all my kids equally. I don't do more for one than I do for the others. I can't imagine being biased to my children. Maybe because I watched my mom coddle my brothers. 😂 I am a middle child, I was not coddled, and I am not a daddy's girl like my sisters. I have stood on my own two feet since I was 17. Dare I say I am the most successful of my siblings.
Good on you and that is a major advantage to your kids as they will grow up all equal with no preconceived favouritism..so they can raise their kids the same
Same, but I cut my whole family off. I never feel like talking or going back to them. This is sad but says a lot about the toxic narcissistic behavior towards me and my siblings. My siblings stayed in contact due to money reasons. Not me! I’m struggling financially in some ways but it’s worth repairing my mental health.
Thank you for contributing to this subject! Everyone does need love ❤
My folks are from Louisiana. I'm born and raised in California since the 70s I live in Korea right now and these videos are very informative thank you sister I appreciate it🎉
I truly love this new series you're doing and I am sure it is helping people set boundaries and get out of situations that don't serve them.
I've worked with toxic boy moms in a childcare setting and it is *something*! And you know they are cause with their daughters, the same rules don't apply, but with the sons? Suddenly everything you do is wrong 😂
Korea and divorce could be an interesting topic, too, as well as child custody stuff. I've heard weird things about it there.
@Cski2020 it's a lot crazier since they don't respect international abduction laws so some parents have literally kidnapped their own children with no consequences. I've even heard of sole custody being awarded to the last parent a child was with.
Thank you, I'm glad I watched this video. I am still getting over my mother's toxic ways.
You might want to consider a podcast. I’m enjoying these talks.
While TikTok can be a source of creativity and community, it’s essential to approach trends critically and be mindful of the potential toxicity that can arise from them.
You have a good way of articulating yourself and i think everyone enjoys that. You also talk about things most people avoid. No many people would so openly discuss the cons of korea or different cultures but you do and you do it in an educated and respectful way.
On a completely unrelated note i do miss you talking about things you enjoy and favourites.
Like the spring favourites videos. Id love to see workout gear you have been loving, kids stuff favourite cooking equipment ect.
The family vlogs are also great your kids are cute and i think you are an amazing mum and with the attitude displayed here i think your kids have a bright future 😊
It’s like things start to make sense after this vid. Thanks Megan!
Megan preachhhh!!!!
I looooooove how you're rolling these videos out lately, YUM!!
Heem in my case it's actually the opposite I was born a sick girl, so I got much more attention than my older brother, and since he's a boy he started going out a lot to hang out with friends and that's how couped with it.
Thankfully he's very popular among his friends , he's an extreme extrovert 🥰 .
Very well loved and cherished definitely an insider guy. I on the other hand, was too protected, end up as an extreme introvert. Yep that's me .
I'm very glad my brother did not fall into despair it makes me feel less guilty really, however, the downside is he has no interest in household affairs .He pretty much does not have any hope for emotional support from our parents, so my family is very worried that he won't be able to open a house of his own. Huh!
Attention and love should indeed be as equal as possible, it is a core point for development. For any parent's out there with sick kids, take a good look at your healthy kids too, listen to them and don't tell them they are being selfish. Cause attention and love are free. ❤
Don't make them carry the guilt for the rest of their life like me.
Thank you for your wise comment. You are the only comment I've read that isn't full on hypocrisy. ♥
Coming from a toxic household with alcoholism Megan got me into working out as a 16 year old with her body building videos and explaining healthy eating. Now I’m 24 and still have hard days but watching her come back from pregnancy with love and hard work has inspired me that women can really do anything. She is such a loving mother and wife but doesn’t fear showing us the ugly side too like some content creators. I truly value and love this account so much. Thanks for helping me grow up Megan!
Great video, entertaining for sure! 👍 when’s the skincare dropping this month?
Very deep information, and all truth in it,thank you 👏🏻
Megan you have literally blown my mind. I have always had this jealousy issues just in general with other girls. And just realizing it could stem from my childhood with my toxic mother.
You popped off with this video, love this type of content ❤
Love to see this side of you Megan. You also seem so much happier ☺️
Can we please get drama of Korea divorce cases and outcomes? What does it take for courts to agree to divorce?
Thank you for taking these deep dives into sort of tricky and certainly complex topics. It's highly interesting and I appreciate the care you put into it. Keep going please 🙏
Tmi, my younger brother was born when I was 7 and this is exactly what happened. I was emotionally neglected my whole childhood and I remember even bringing it up to my parents and they ignored it or told me it wasn't true.
News flash, it was, they never talked to me, asked me anything or wanted to do anything with me. I was always in my room playing flash games etc and would only see them when we had dinner.
Looking back, I very quickly realised my parents were not gonna give me any affection or care no matter what I did and became an independent and also rebellious child, I thought most adults in my life ain't shit (only few that I looked up to or thought were decent) lol
The good thing, I didn't grow up to hate girls or anyone, but yes, I did look for some love and validation in my early 20s in... sexual ways... If you read this far, sorry if you had a shitty childhood too ^^'
Brilliant content Megan,, Thankyou 🎼🌞🍮
I’m always excited when you mention reading psychology :3
I think Tik tic is mocking the toxicity but I could be way off. My adult kids only send me animal videos and I’ve really never explored the forum further than that, though.
Thank you for sharing. I love hearing your thoughts on parenting 💕
I think that one lady is very obviously parodying boy mom's on tiktok (miss "you don't know what love is").
Boy moms is something that exists across all patriarchal cultures. It's weird growing up and realizing that so many people feel that women are disposable
Thank you for talking about this issue! Those videos make my skin crawl. It’s sooo gross and disturbing these boy moms.
When I used to work at Sephora, I had an experience where a mom tried to petition me by saying, "You're so pretty and nice. I will make my son break up with his girlfriend if you give me mixed-Black grandbabies." I was like, 🤮 on the inside, but I just said, " No, thanks." And walked away. I asked the male beauty advisor to finish helping her. There was also a different experience that I had where a woman helping me and my mom at a car dealership trying to petition me on behalf of her nephew. These two incidents happened to me only a couple years ago. Toxic boy moms def be in every culture.🤦🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
i love this type of content from you! all your content is great and have been following for years. youre still rocking it!!
I love these types of videos! Can you link more of the RUclipsrs and professionals you follow Megan? Especially on postivie childrearing! I love how you said the bit about how kids are raised will affect them in their later addictions, etc...
It’s like the show I Love A Mama’s Boy. There’s no way I could deal with that mess! Even the show sMothered is just as crazy!
Well said Megan ! These videos were gross and misogynistic.
Is "daddy's girl" gross? Same exact thing, yet females praise that and say it is great for the girl. Nope! Can't have it both ways. And this is satire anyway. Everything she showed was satire.
OFC daddy girls gross ... especially as "daddy" has been turned into a sexual term...🤢@@southerngirl9376
@@southerngirl9376 Watching kids slapping their mom's butt is gross from my point of view. If you like it, have it your way with your kids. There is nothing wrong with being "daddy's girl" or "momma's boy" as long as you show love and you respect both of them the same way. No kid should feel unloved.
You are my big sister vibe. Do you know you speak out the truth. Thank you . The mil episode was my fav tooo.❤❤❤❤
Damn the way the nail was struck on the head with this one. Jheez! I couldn't understand my mother-in-law's favouritism towards her sons until now.
Another great video. I am really enjoy these new videos about these subjects!
i’m loving theses talking videos, megan! your study and take on the subject is so refreshing 😍😍
Yikes 😬 this is definitely strange. This will for sure affect the other children now and when they are older.
Unrelated by I love your outfit & jewelry! Would love to see a styling video from you 😊
Love this type of content
PREACH❤
Megan, I love your channel and also the direction you are going in 🎉
My biggest question is, how do you educate a mom like that? I know one and they just become defensive and there's no getting through to them
If social media at some point quits paying the bills… You could be a very successful therapist
Anyone can have kids and it’s messing our society up! Stupid people raise their kids in the most ridiculous ways and then these kids grow up into also being stupid and ignorant.. possibly emotionally damaged or abusive towards others. It’s a real danger! Parenthood is such a huge responsibility!! Keep that in mind before having children.
I’m so glad for people like you, Megan. ❤❤ we need more common sense in the world 😊
It's always been like that ...but now it's lazy ass parents who let their kids be raised by social media and parents who want to be their kids friend instead of being what they should be and that's a parent
I know the “p-word” podcast doesnt have the best reputation but I do think you have a niche, from american and korean-expat POV on a variety of issues, on top of being well spoken, I’d def tune in!
As the favorite child of my father my siblings use to hate me but then realized I had no control of that (I’m the youngest, I was like 5ish) our relationship became stronger and now we are inseparable.
Always love your videos, 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️👋
Yes more please 🥰🥰😍😍 i enjoy all ur videos
Megan I so appreciate your wisdom. In the start of your sharing you have nailed the essential issues of the presidential election. He’s a weak self-centered person and she is a confident person living a love based value system even in her professions. Thanks for sharing.
Its very sad for parents to do that to your own kids mentally off.
I am so impressed with your analysis! I would love to hear you as a guest host on Cinema Therapy!! Maybe talking about the movie Parasite?
I agree whole 100%, the bum slapping video also gave me the creeps
Facts, Jokes are really the truth!
Sarah is actually a parody RUclipsr, she does amazing because her eyes always looking crazy 🤣 but they're also so good because her videos are not too far off
Megan I love your videos. And I love how you throw in concepts of kid psych and development. Do you have any books related to that that you recommend. My husband and I will be doing IVF in a couple years and I want to learn as much as I can now to be a supportive mom to my kids.
This is one way for your kids to start hating you.
In a nutshell you summarized a lot of the Korean/asian culture.
i love u meghan!
Asian moms like my mom, favored and coddled my younger brother. So we never became close unfortunately. I have a daughter and now she doesn't feel it's normal to be close to her mama. Gen Z😭
The lady from 10:25 is a satire tiktoker btw
🤣🤣🤣🤣Intro nuts!!
Agree💯% Megan! You are my superhero :)))
I remember when my sister was pregnant with her first son, she in disgust showed me a onesie that said "I'm Mommy's new man," ick. So agree with you, Megan, about everything! I'm so glad Luna and Rubin have strong parents that love each other and a best friend in one another...I can fully see both of them defending each other if anyone ever messes with either, LOL.
I'm not Asian but you described my upbringing to a tee. My family is Latino. My mother would always say out loud to people that boys were so much better to raise. I wasn't a bad kid but I think my mother didn't have a clue how to raise me..She had plenty of experience with the boys because I had 3 brothers. What's interesting, I think my 2 younger brothers felt unloved too. My oldest brother to this day thinks he is more than any of us. When mom died he would call me to ask where he could buy certain things because my mother used to buy him groceries and clothing too. Having children is not for everyone and I wish parents would realize that before having children. I have never married or had children.
Megan, your recent content is fire 🔥
There was a poet that said give your kids two things, a strong foundation and wings and instead these mothers are not helping their sons at all, and they are going to turn into nightmare adults. Brain function, not even adult whining.
Megan... can you talk about being a US citizen in S.Korea? Since you have been aboard for so many years can you talk about things that have changed for you or in the US that you impacted you there. Perhaps an opinion as a American but seeing the US from outside perspective, seeing all the changes over the years you have been gone? Hope I explained that well.
Yup I have been trying to saw away at that umbilical cord for about 2 decades now
Megan didn't realise you were this intelligent. Not in a rude way but clearly you have a talent for commentary
I thought you were narrating my life. Im the oldest girl out of 4.... Twin boys 16 years younger than me. And i lived that life. I chose to break that "traditional", boys are better, even though i was blessed with 3 girls. 19, 2, and 1 year olds. Megan, youre telling me that i am not alone... 🤯
Because it's so common that some moms are like this, many people around my mom thought she was like this too. Because I was more if dad's girl and my brother was more mom's boy. She said she felt so sad people said "Oh so you only love your son huh" because she loves us equally, I just choose to hang on to dad more 😂
Great points about how the young daughters being cast aside are going to grow up.
Luckily the Sara account is I believe a satire account so don’t worry about her hahah! But the other mom accounts are genuine in their toxic beliefs!
Omg im so early. Hi megan!!
Sarah's videos are all parodies, most based on other videos boy moms post 😂 she is hilarious. I love her videos.
Oh this was totally my parents growing up 😂 my sister and i are 11 months apart and my brother was 5 years younger than me 6 years younger than my sister and my parents were obsessed - they still are 😂 to be honest we didn’t really care, but we did do a lot of stupid things and we bullied our brother 😅 but we’re all super close still so it really didn’t do much to hurt our relationships, but to the credit of my parents they put all of us kids first in their life and still do. My brother was the best behaved of us 3 BUT he is the least successful and most dependent on my parents, so maybe that is something ?? I am the middle of 3 and I am the most successful and most independent of my siblings, and i truly believe that middle children try to overachieve to try to gain the attention of their parents, but also ended up being a huge benefit in my own life. Parents don’t sleep on your middle child, they’re the real ones that will take care of you when you’re old.