Anxiety about the Uncertainty of Future: Causes & Antidotes
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
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You have no idea how perfectly timed this video is for me, personally.
I’m really happy to hear that! To be perfectly frank, it’s well timed for me too, as I’m currently catastrophizing internship applications🥲
Same!
SAME LOL I JUST REALIZED RECENTLY THAT WHATS BEEN BOTHERING ME IS THE UNCERTAINTY OF THE FUTURE idk why im yelling sorry
@@AnaPsychology I wish that you do well with your applications. Only someone who has gone through this could do justice to this topic.
I've been in almost a year-long long-distance marriage due to COVID after more than a 10 year-long LDR. I thought I was doing fine until our plans to meet midway were cancelled. So, a lot of uncertainty. I am trying to refocus my attention to "Plan E". xD
@@kwram1 You have every right to scream xD
I read Man's search for meaning after my boyfriend died 3 years ago. Highly reccomend it to anyone going through a difficult time.
Such a sexist title for a book, isn't it? 🤪🤨🤔
@@mikaellundburg4753 Nope, pretty normal title. It's a great book.
Like many right now, I am going through some of the worst depression of my life and the wait lines for therapy are insane. I am struggling alone and you have no idea how much this helps me. So thank you for this. I know this information is online but it is so much easier to get from someone you trust and can see on video personally. I am exhausted as it is and this is such an effortless way to get hope. Bless you!
This video saved my life
Side note: your hairstyle in this video and the last looks AMAZING! Very voluminous, face-framing, and mature- love it and love you 😊
She is wifey for sure
This is insane I've never in my life had anxiety until now and it's an awful feeling. Thank you for this grounding video
My anxiety is starting to act up again due to uncertainty in future events, this video popped up when I needed it. Thank you. I feel a lot better to be honest.🙏
Thank you Ana for posting this, I was feeling a wave of uncertainty about my future. I'm really glad to know I'm not alone on this 💛
This is just what I needed right now. I even had a night mare about a worst case scenario. Thank you for the advice
RUclips was pushing this video now (Christmas 2023) and ... you've grown so much as a therapist and RUclips. The video outlines perhaps the answer taught in school but now you provide so much more context and philosophy to your responses.
I don't know why RUclips recommended this to me but I REALLY needed to watch this today. ❤️
I learned that i have to pursue what i love and what brings me peace without worrying too much about what's gonna happen latter on , we have to stay in the present
I had a meltdown YESTERDAY about this and just randomly decided to check your channel again. bless
EDIT: Finished this video and you may have just pulled me out from a spiral. The last two months of my life have been absolute disaster both mentally and physically and I have always been someone who sees the good in things and has hope for the future but I have just felt it slipping through my fingers. Thank you for reminding me who I am and how strong I can be. I will never forget it again.
In my opinion, this is one of your best videos YET Ana! Keep crushing it, no doubt you’re helping soo many people 🤙🏻
Hi Ana, I've been watching your videos for a couple of months now.
You have no idea how much they've helped me personally.
Thank you so much, more power to you
Thank you for making this video and reassuring all of us who deal with anxiety. The fear of the unknown in the future is definitely experienced by us all but I feel I've been dealing with this for much longer. It's numerous factors which contribute to that feeling of fear, not just one factor like financial in nature. Like you mentioned, there's the health aspect, things you can't control, and the people whom are in your life. It's the fact that tomorrow is never guaranteed. That feeling of not being where you feel you should be in life or where you want to be. Comparing to others in your life or just people on social media. It's that feeling of not having enough time to do everything you want or need to do, not having the financial resources to do them. All the insecurities which are brought up when you start to have romantic feelings for someone. Maybe it's that time of reflection on certain holidays or certain anniversaries for events that happened in the past. Or things in the past which you simply cannot change. I know that's a bit off topic, but they all factor into who you are in the present and what you do with your time. Then there's that age old question about one's purpose here on earth.
On another part of the spectrum, there's the stigmatization/ostracization/judgement from others and society in general if you share your experiences with the wrong people.
Sorry to dump all of this here, but it needs to happen, and in a way, it may also help others know they aren't alone in what they are experiencing. I know that was critical for me dealing with anxiety, depression, and insomnia in the past.
I have been trapped with this since i was young and now i am mostly apathetic about life it's not good
Thank you so much for the video! It's the night before my Master's thesis defense and this is perfect for me right now.
That bit about nightmares is so interesting. I've just talked about dreams with my friend yesterday. I think he's got more of the opposite of anxiety, that he "hopes for the best" in any situation as he puts it. He told me about his dreams of beautiful mountains and views and how much he's enjoyed these dreams. Dreams he had maybe years ago.
I also remember dreams I had years ago. They were kinda like my friend's, but instead, they were filled with dread and anxiety. The most iconic one for me is when I found myself in this cottage up in the mountains or something, a wooden interior with many weirdly connected claustrophobic rooms. And I knew there is this guy with a knife who may be about to get me with it. He never did attack me with it, but perhaps that is the point. I never knew when he would go after me. Defending myself didn't seem an option to me. I felt completely defenseless and I just knew I was at this guy's mercy. There were others in this building, but I could not manage to ask them for help or anything, and they all just had these hostile looks at me like my presence just bothered them, like I'm an unwelcome imposter there.
Another dream I remember a bit less, but it involved me with my little five year old sister out in the mountains, outdoors this time, on skis or something. Lots of people around. At some point I lost sight of her and then there was a little avalanche or something.. somehow, I felt like my sister was under it. Somehow I thought or felt that she may be dead, that thought overwhelmed me and I panicked, but didn't even scream nor could I ask anyone for help. Like I could not bear the embarrassment or vulnerability of showing others even this insanely intense emotion. Of course her parents weren't anywhere to be found. I woke up around that point.
I had more dreams like this and I eventually started thinking that these nightmares or stress dreams were like designed specifically to make me in particular feel as much dread and helplessness as possible. So maybe my friend's dreams were designed specifically to be as enjoyable to him as possible. And now I hear that nightmares are theorized to prepare us for the worst. For what the particular person considers the worst I reckon, makes sense in my case. But if my idea is right and me and my friend's dreams come from the same source, how does that change things? This is nothing to make conclusions out of, but it makes me recognize just how reliant we are on our own nuanced perception of the world and just how relative it can be, just how different it can be person to person. Just how different the expected development of a given situation can be within models of reality different people have.
Thank you for your insightful words as always, Ana. Would you consider doing a video on living with grief? And also death anxiety? I lost my dad when I was young and I feel like I have a fixation on death and thinking about how everyone around me will eventually die. What you said about being afraid of not being able to handle it hit home for me.
I'm feeling the same lately.
Thank you for sharing. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about my future since I’ve been trying to figure out what I want my life to look like so many years from now. I have to keep reminding myself that I will be okay no matter what happens.
Thank you so much for the video, Ana! Very helpful and some things are very very well said.
I find your videos beyond therapeutic, you have a way of healing that inspires me to do the same 💕
I'm low key hyped that as you go through the internship match process, content keeps coming that is relevant to everyone else going through that/ this application period for most apps. If you don't get into a good site, I will eat my shoe.
OMG are you psychic or what?? This video came RIGHT on time, RIGHT when I needed it! My husband is going atm through a depression episode because of this! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!
I can’t thank you enough for your videos!! I love them ❤️
i came across your channel about 4 days ago and your videos have been helping me alot to cope with my breakup from a 1 and half year long distant relationship.i never knew it was toxic untill i started watching your videos,because she broke up with me despite my all love for her and attached and addicted i'm to her. and i've been blaming myself for why it ended. it was toxic because she wanted to be just a friend and i wanted more, so for as long as we know each others, we were confused about whether what we have is friendship or a relationship" at least she was confused because from the first day we met, i wanted her to be my girlfriend! because i don't know how to be friends with girls " but i just loved her like i never loved someone before.she was that girl i always known in the back of mind that she is way out of my league! but i tried everything to make her love me! but she is the most complicated person i have ever met! one week she loves me like crazy! making me the happiest person on earth, then next week she hates me and blocking me and doesn't want to communicate with me! hen i literally i have go through hell to get her back,then our relationship is perfect and she is crazy me about and then once again she starts hating me for no reason and break up with me. it's been hard because i'm madly in love with her.whenever she breaks up.with me! i panic and i feel like i can't live without her. she is my 3rd love story but i never loved someone like her and probably never will..i love her personality,i can't get enough of listening to her.she is the most amazing person i have ever met and i will always love her. been 3 months now and she barely reply back " she had me blocked in all social media, she does this every time she break up with me ! the only way to contact her is through emails" . i have known her for a year and half " the longest i have ever been/ known a girl!" and it pains me to let her go. not sure if i could be just a friend,but i wish one day we can be friends..
Great video!! Personally I’ve been afraid in this specific moment for my future, and watching this really helped a lot!
You hit the spot. No one took care of me.
Well, good thing you have yourself now!
Very grateful for this and glad to see this, thanks for sharing.
Absolutely amazing video! Super well articulated. This helped me a ton!
Thank you so much for these videos 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you Ana, I think this video today will really help me. I finally worked up the courage to give a girl in my community college course my phone number a couple days ago, I’d really like to hear from her again and not knowing when or if I will has been rough.
Thanks for the video 💕 next time I am laying at night anxious I am going to think about the best case scenario because those still exists to.
I was spiraling and you helped me stop. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this video dr. Ana .
Bad things are inivitable and could happen to anyone at any point of their life , in fact they are out of out control . So there is no point of worrying about them
This video was very soothing Ana thank you 🙏🏾
I have a painful past and that triggers uncertainty of the future, well I do have therapy which is very helpful, and I'm very lucky that I found this video. 👍
this is amazing thank you for explaining this so well
Needed this! Recently discovered your channel and love your videos
Decatastrophize is a word I hear frequently in your videos. Thought provoking.
In my professional opinion. Without social comparison, self esteem would be a non-entity. Think about it, where does our beliefs and opinions of ourselves originate from? Yes, you've guessed it, others. We are influenced by others a lot more than we consciously think or admit to. One of my techniques was to invite my patients to log all the interpersonal and vicarious human experiences they encounter, for just one day, then consciously analyse and rate the influences from weak to strong.Most were astounded.
Thank you. Im so sad right now because of my anxiety
As someone who has been through trauma, and more recently, a trauma of nearly being evicted from my home, and needing family support, this whole fear of the future has been a huge thing for me. I had to seek validation from family that I am making changes and they are glad that I am taking things seriously. However, in the meantime, I'm feeling like I'm having to make a bunch of changes at once, so that I never land in this situation again.....like it feels like I should be constantly looking for a better job that pays way more than what I have now (like at least double), or that I should be constantly working, and prove to my family that I have made things better for myself. I know that I'm not a machine, and even machines break down if they're not maintained properly, but that's kinda what I feel like where I am at.
This video really helped me, thank you!
This was really helpful ! Time to put my findings here into play 🤠
thanks, excellent realizations!
Interesting video however none of the fears you mentioned are my fears, I fear war, insomnia, cardiac arrest, plane crash, losing my temper, closed places, crowds and so on. Indeed some of them happened in the past and my mind is trying to get me prepared in case it happens in the future.
Omg much needed thank you!
This video was needed especially as I’m doing my grad applications right now. I’m interested to hear your perspective on how anxiety over the future plays into self sabotage. Is there an underlying self esteem issue there too when it comes to self sabotage?
Thank you so much for this❤️
Thank you for this video 🙏🏽
Another banger of a video Anna. You ought to make a video on meditation. What an are the psychological effects of meditating regularly? Are those effects the same for different types of meditation or do they vary?
Have you tried it personally? (If not then you must. I personally would suggest going to a Vipassana meditation camp/retreat near you. I went for a 10 day Vipassana meditation camp a few months ago and it was one of the most meaningful experiences of my life. Do try it).
Amazing video, thank you
Thank you for this 😭
This video is literally carrying me through midterms
Helpful 💯😌 Thankyousomuch!
I'm surprised there're no simpin' comments below ~ big ups pimp!
Ana, you are the best 👍💯🌼
Thanks for this, so helpful
Very helpful, thank you.
This video is and will be on repeat
Was literally talking about this with my friend today and he sent me this.
I am watching the show The Patient And the LAST ep I watched had huge themes about human's search for meaning and touched on so many of Frankel's ideologies. Now I'm seeing this video for the first time? This world is a simulation
Thanks you!✨
That hypochondriasis theme got me really scared. When i heard you saying that word I was expecting the worst and it got me into a anxiety attack thinking of what can happen because of me being an hypochondriac. Nocebo...All will be fine...
Great video !
Thank u ❤
Thank you great video... sometimes the fear of future stops one from enjoying the present moment. Children are good at this... they enjoy the present moment without thinking about future.
Thank you
Traumatised children don't, they fear the moment And the hopeless future ahead of them..
I'm a young teenager, and I stress every day, and every night about things that happened in my past that I worry what will happen in the future. I live in mental pain because of it, so definitely not all children.
I think about the future way too much, though have gotten better at managing it in the last year 😅
Thanks
everyone needed this for finals week lol
I was the escapegoat in a volatile and hostile household so, unfortunately, catastrophising was a coping mechanism that helped me survive and anticipate obstacles in my way to stability.. I know brains are plastic to a degree but I don't know if I can re-wire mine to think differently :(
Thank youu
I'm currently starting on anxiety med and this helps alot . Can you do a video on depression and antidotes please?
I used to be able to watch scary movies but now I get very anxious and sometimes triggers panic attacks. This is also after I developed type 2 anxiety. Can you explain if I can overcome this?
can you do a video on religous trauma? and religon impact on internalized misogyny
Simple concept. Difficult in practice.
Omg thanks! you made it! can't wait to watch
I've been on Xanax 6mg a day. Cut myself back to 3mg a day. Very interested in this. Thank you.
Any books or reference to recommend on this topic? thanks xx
what if i cant find the midpoint? worst and best scenarios are so opposite from eachother i cant think of how would they have something in common
Just in time...
Recommendations for other channels like anas? Or channels you like ana? I need more uplifting content like this. Thank you Ana!
The psyche show and psych2go
Not exactly like hers, but I'm a sucker for CinemaTherapy. It has a therapist and a professional movie maker (idk his exact job) break down movies that have psychological themes
Heyy,,can you make a video about shadow work?Thank you! :)
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What is the definition of 'attitude'? I tend to be quite literal minded so I get hung up on things like this.
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What if you have valid concerns like poor cancer prognosis
I'm looking for a group that I can have conversation with. Is this that type of group or just the doctor speaking?
What if we r not scared of the worst case scenario
What if we r stressed about not knowing
Can you do a toolkit video for adhd
Could you make a video about people who touch you without your consent?
I think a lot of people are having anxiety about the new year.
At what point does staying 'present' and ignoring your anxiety become counterproductive because you actually become too hopeful and optimistic about the future when instead you should be attuned to the difficult emotions and plan instead of falsely sitting and hoping?
I guess that point is when it becomes damaging. Like tuning an old school radio, going too far either way won't work. There should be a point in the middle where your approach will be the least counterproductive.
I struggle with this though. I've spent a lot of my life hating myself so far and trying to suppress the traits I see as bad. I'm kind of entering the land of not overanalyzing my behavior for things to fix now, but I often wonder if being more lax will result in less suppression of the bad traits and/or if it could cause some to go out of control. Being too strict will lead me down a spiral of perfectionism too. Unlike with the radio, there isn't even a loose indicator of where I'm at at any given time.
I think a solution would be to meditate or something and maybe that will make you able to accurately assess a situation and shield you from thinking about the worst or the best. I don't know if that makes sense because I never tried meditation, don't really know what it is exactly and so maybe I'm asking too much from it, but I guess it can't do more harm than good in a situation like this.
This future anxiety sucks I swear
Hey Ana, totally over subject but i wonder if you can do a video about red pill/incel dudes and their hate on women. In a few words, giving young girls warning about their behavior and how to avoid them, if that makes sense. (English is not my first language)
Sometimes, we get answers from Wisdom from the ancients: "Premeditatio Malurom".
as many videos as ive watched nothing helps its frightening.