Should you gf or marry/live in with a woman? | Retired in the Philippines

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  • @MrZola1234
    @MrZola1234 3 года назад +17

    I could just see Mia watching this video and giving Paul dirty looks. Lol

  • @neilgonzalez551
    @neilgonzalez551 3 года назад +4

    The title sounds sexist and disrespectful sir.

  • @zeckul
    @zeckul 3 года назад +9

    Good discussion, but I take issue with the title. Talking about people as property, even as a joke or clickbait, is poor taste.

  • @rbfarrell1
    @rbfarrell1 3 года назад +15

    Having options is the nice part of being in the Philippines or Thailand. In the U.S. finding a slim nice lady is getting harder. I don't want a land whale who's hobby is shopping.

    • @mromneyobama
      @mromneyobama 3 года назад +1

      It didn't used to be that way. It really is a new phenomenon, maybe 2 decades old. I have been watching Priscilla Barnes in Three's Company and she is fine.

  • @themountainwanderer
    @themountainwanderer 3 года назад +4

    Pretty offensive title if you ask me. I know you clarify in the description , but still. Those terms should not apply to human relationships, period.

  • @Paulnhawes
    @Paulnhawes 3 года назад +16

    If that’s Gio behind the camera I know what he was focusing on and it wasn’t Paul 😂

  • @kenroch9137
    @kenroch9137 3 года назад +9

    Paul I disagree with you .I think you were burned in the past but when you come here leave the baggage behind and open up

  • @davidgalbraith7367
    @davidgalbraith7367 2 года назад +2

    distasteful terminology

  • @biodiversity9808
    @biodiversity9808 3 года назад +4

    I always rent. I owned once for a year ended up in disaster. Learnt my lesson. I like being independent i go to Angeles City have fun then say bye

  • @ronmccumber5218
    @ronmccumber5218 Год назад +1

    I would have less $ s if I lived by myself than living with Ne, not all Filipinas R poor. She owns the canteen above the casino & makes around 30K a mo. Since she serves food R grocery bill is about 1/2 of what mine would be. I personally don't want anyone else; we have been together since I got off the plane 4 yrs. ago. Her parents have more $ s than we do. I wouldn't live with a girl I didn't love & trust.

  • @couchgame
    @couchgame 3 года назад +1

    Renting, for lack of a better word? Such disgusting terms, as if women are just commodities. Owning? Even worse.

  • @SunRise-ul7ko
    @SunRise-ul7ko 3 года назад +15

    In Sydney, I fully own my house. I also have an investment's & a retirement funds, that give me passive income.
    For the last 6 years, I've had a girlfriend in Sydney. She has a mortgaged 3 bedroom appartment & not much else.
    She is 17 years younger than me & my income is triple her income.
    So I've told her, because we have commonlaw in Australia & prenuptial agreement are as good as toilet paper, it's not in my interest to get married, or live with her.
    I've told her the statistics. 50% divorce rate & 80% of divorces are instigated by woman. I've still been on holidays all over Australia, the USA & China with her, but no way would I ever move in with her.
    I'm not a fool.

  • @cynthiamarieds9345
    @cynthiamarieds9345 3 года назад +1

    As a woman, born and raised in one of the islands, (i live in California for 30 years)i find this conversation quite offensive. What do you guys all think of women in the Philippines a commodity? Shame on all of you!

  • @jaimedominicpanelo7246
    @jaimedominicpanelo7246 3 года назад +2

    Better practice Samadhi and do rhe ritual meditation to make it work to control desires and suppress compulsiveness on sexual desires, it would save you all the expenses for renting or owning.

  • @rasputinswalloper475
    @rasputinswalloper475 3 года назад +33

    Famous quote: "if it flies, floats, or fucks ... rent, don't buy".

    • @Dutchy-1168
      @Dutchy-1168 3 года назад +2

      A pussy is a renewable resource

    • @mromneyobama
      @mromneyobama 3 года назад

      @@Dutchy-1168 🤣🤣

  • @Medic-lx1ne
    @Medic-lx1ne 3 года назад +5

    In the west there's a term for a girl that rents her time or services .....

  • @thetruckersmanifesto3873
    @thetruckersmanifesto3873 3 года назад +7

    I lived on a small boat in a marina. When things start getting weird u can just leave. This life style takes more creativity, and not everyone can do it.
    But it works for me. Some people need a mother or something.. thats what a wife is. Laundry, dinner, and all that. I think it all boils down to i.q,

  • @difab4052
    @difab4052 3 года назад +1

    Whatever you advise about having a gf is inconsiderate…. Pls do not give mean advise. Filipina girls are not a toy.

  • @difab4052
    @difab4052 3 года назад +1

    I hope the economy of Philippines will get better so they won’t go out with foreigner that talks mean in social media. or no respect for women in the Philippines .

  • @whynot2734
    @whynot2734 3 года назад +6

    SHOULD YOU RENT OR OWN A WOMEN I will give you this you got balls

  • @corollatoyota2262
    @corollatoyota2262 3 года назад +4

    Date them all and you will end up very lonely with a beautiful woman the is not investing in you

  • @CoreyBrass
    @CoreyBrass 3 года назад +17

    Renting vs owning...gee how is it possible that you've been divorced 3 times? 🤣🤣🤣

  • @to04buk
    @to04buk 3 года назад +1

    and you are in Philippines cause women over there are cheaper ?

  • @roadside7531
    @roadside7531 3 года назад +13

    Lol 😂, great and fun video too watch. Your the only foreigner that picks a subject like rent or own Filipina girl and explain the topic so well. Personally, I prefer to be mobile and flexible in where I go so I choose renting. However, just like a house or car, if you find girlfriend that is worth keeping and you can picture yourself with her for the rest of your life, she’s a keeper. Unfortunately, remember all good things eventually have an ending. Keep the videos coming. Thank you 🙏⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @jamesrussell6736
    @jamesrussell6736 3 года назад +4

    Bro i dont believe in renting

  • @petertosh4748
    @petertosh4748 3 года назад +1

    ME...I can't afford you!!!
    HER...But I'm not a 304.
    ME...Then I REALLY can't afford you...

  • @carsonnavigator4066
    @carsonnavigator4066 3 года назад +20

    the most important thing Paul said is "frame". It makes all the difference. whether rent or own. Even in marriage setting the frame from the beginning is crucial. That includes having no assets that are openly available. Woman got no business in my business. It does not mean you cant be kind and generous.

  • @williamvandenbosch9829
    @williamvandenbosch9829 3 года назад +6

    Haha love it
    No political correctness here

  • @sammynavarro9881
    @sammynavarro9881 3 года назад +16

    I wasn't even paying attention to you Paul. Gio's camera movement was more interesting than hearing you yap yap yap 😂😂😂
    Thanks Gio✌👍👌

  • @kenroch9137
    @kenroch9137 3 года назад +3

    I'm married to a Filipina here in Cebu province and I will never be able to be with a north american girl

    • @stephendunn2860
      @stephendunn2860 3 года назад +2

      You’re married so I guess you wont be in the market for anyone anymore!

    • @paulsasianadventure8050
      @paulsasianadventure8050  3 года назад +2

      I am not married but I am in the same boat

  • @marshallhoss35
    @marshallhoss35 3 года назад +2

    i think Gio was holding the camera..lol

  • @roccohagedorn3110
    @roccohagedorn3110 3 года назад +12

    Rent a woman I understand, owning a woman on the other hand could get you in serious trouble no matter where you look. I know what Paul had meant to say, and I’m sure he didn’t mean to offend anyone, it’s just not the right way to bring his point across.
    Regarding the subject in itself: I shared my last 30 years with a woman. in short: never again would I commit myself fully. I guess renting it is for me from now on. I’m certain the end result will be a much happier outcome. And best of all, variety is the spice of life. Speaking from experience.

    • @wanderingdoc5075
      @wanderingdoc5075 3 года назад +2

      What's your 30-year woman in Asia or in the West? And what kind of woman was she coming what was her background?

  • @philippinecowboy
    @philippinecowboy 3 года назад

    I promise I was listening Paul, I was watching 3:15 and 4:30 ...........oh and 7:45 🤠

  • @nathangibbs7539
    @nathangibbs7539 3 года назад +9

    I was makati b4 lockdown & the ocean of filipinas around 5.20pm from office jobs walking to transport is a site.
    Definately have to take it slow if you there as paul advises..lol
    Hopefully that will happen again when this covid thing eases..

    • @mikopanglao4457
      @mikopanglao4457 3 года назад +1

      Yep... Friday afternoons after 5PM..:)

    • @mromneyobama
      @mromneyobama 3 года назад

      Oh my goodness. This is why I love Makati and stays there as my base on my trips. I just love the traffic of beautiful office girls morning and afternoon. I'd stay in a room with a balcony and just sit by my chair with my red wine and enjoy the lush scenery unfolding before me. This is my preferred living arrangement when I retire.

  • @ssj3vegett0
    @ssj3vegett0 3 года назад

    you make it sound Like rent its cheaper. the starting rate in usd for an escort (renting) is like 100$. if i wanted to rent for a year that be 36k!!! on top of my Bills. But if you Own (marry/wife) for one year, and your just a normal Guy renting a home an not owning what is she going to take 50% of if it didn't work out? so if she wanted a divorce i saved 36k cause all the bills i normally pay for she would just be under that umbrella for one year.
    *this whole comment is based on a normal guy, not a rich guy where he can lose sooo much.

  • @joenewontheblock2404
    @joenewontheblock2404 3 года назад +4

    Paul, get real! I like you and your channel, older than you, and I will come over soon when allowed! If you do not want to tell us from your experience, then ask the other old dogs there how much licky, licky they do to keep the girlfriends happy! Cheers!

  • @moderndaypirate8931
    @moderndaypirate8931 3 года назад +4

    I dated a south Korean, she lied to me about being previously married. Then called me one day and said "if we don't get married I'm going back to my ex husband." I told her no way in hell and she got married a week later...Crazy girls out there

    • @paulthurson
      @paulthurson 3 года назад +2

      ive lived in korea 13 years and japan 4 previous to that .. k and j girls can be super super 'sneaky' that way.. hide all kinds of things .. for example married women who have slept with me here and told me the fact AFTER.. you gotta be careful with them ..

    • @surfguy777
      @surfguy777 3 года назад +2

      Sounds like you dodged a bullet with that one.

    • @moderndaypirate8931
      @moderndaypirate8931 3 года назад +1

      @@surfguy777 definitely lol

  • @ginnie5099
    @ginnie5099 3 года назад

    Background style is like that of Serpentza's thought Paul's is live.

  • @chazgregrrr404
    @chazgregrrr404 3 года назад +14

    Is Geo handling the camera? Best views I've seen so far 👍👠🏆

    • @Geoduck.
      @Geoduck. 3 года назад

      I'm gonna bet it was Mia. What a wonderful partner Paul has.

    • @GregVT
      @GregVT 3 года назад +1

      ​@@Geoduck. It's Gio. This was filmed at the same time as Gio's 'Six Month' video. Paul's wearing the same shirt 😉

    • @robbyrose6904
      @robbyrose6904 3 года назад +1

      @@GregVT not to mention he’s not going to look like the neighbor peeking over the fence
      Every time a female passes in Mias presence.

    • @GregVT
      @GregVT 3 года назад +1

      @@AlreadyShort For your sake, I hope that's the dumbest thing you say today 🙂

  • @mradobo3935
    @mradobo3935 3 года назад

    Finally a video that gives the complete picture. Instead of these other "Super Simp Channels."

  • @pauls.8675
    @pauls.8675 3 года назад +3

    Can you get an agreement that protects your possessions and income (pension) with a common law agreement? I heard prenuptial agreements done right can be air tight in The Philippines. If that’s the case it sounds safer to be married versus common law.

    • @paulsasianadventure8050
      @paulsasianadventure8050  3 года назад +4

      No Marriage is the least safe, if anything goes wrong and you want out its not going to be easy and marriage laws can change. The common law sound bad but I have not heard of one case for expat and filipina. Just make sure you dont invest here so that you can protect your investments

    • @pauls.8675
      @pauls.8675 3 года назад +2

      @@paulsasianadventure8050 Ok, thank you very much for your reply.

  • @-whackd
    @-whackd 3 года назад +4

    What you brought up as advantages of a live in partner are not at all exclusive to live in partners. You can travel with someone you don't regularly live with. You can pursue interests and commonalities with someone you don't live with.

  • @gregyyr
    @gregyyr 3 года назад +7

    omg are you going to get flack for that great statement ;)..lol... thanks for always keeping it interesting!!!

  • @merrills1460
    @merrills1460 3 года назад +10

    The background was more interesting as the cameraman noticed.

  • @David53D
    @David53D 3 года назад +8

    Just about every woman that passed by was in shape .

  • @Geoduck.
    @Geoduck. 3 года назад +4

    Great video. Paul you were saying something but I got distracted. Did anyone else wave back?

  • @ivoted7199
    @ivoted7199 3 года назад

    Guessing Mia is you camera person? You do not seem entirely comfortable today. lol

  • @stevenlawrence5733
    @stevenlawrence5733 2 года назад

    You never mentioned where you are in the video? Newtown Lapu Lapu??

  • @difab4052
    @difab4052 3 года назад

    Prostitution is illegal in the Philippines so you don’t say you rent a girl. Be respectful .

  • @billlyell8322
    @billlyell8322 3 года назад +1

    Ok I already made this mistake. So there is no reason why your any less free with a live in partner.
    If I want to go on a trip with the guys, I will. Same if I wanted to go for a drink I will, if I drank.
    She will go do things on her own too. If she has a problem with that, she always knows where the door is, she can leave.
    But yes of course, if she is sick I'll take care of her. I would help her family in case of special emergency, but I'm not a loan company. It won't be a regular thing.
    I already know I'll be feeding them sometimes when they visit her. But she needs to make us the priority first.
    She always has the choice not to move in if she doesn't agree. I'll move on.

  • @dantesalazar7805
    @dantesalazar7805 3 года назад +2

    Go to thailand

  • @Ilovephilippines24-ph
    @Ilovephilippines24-ph 3 года назад

    Its more fun in the phillippines

  • @cesaroscar8036
    @cesaroscar8036 3 года назад

    Dude, where are you,? I see all those cute girls passing you by

  • @Dinngg0
    @Dinngg0 3 года назад +1

    I would not spoil her with gifts, instead just act like you have been married to her for 10 years. You will find out quickly if you could really last that long with her.

  • @jessiehere3188
    @jessiehere3188 3 года назад +1

    for fun so paul you can take her to your place but rather get a hotel room

  • @travelsarkar7484
    @travelsarkar7484 3 года назад +1

    One of the best video to explain what exactly an Alpha male should handle his relationship status. I think your ideas are not applicable in Philippines but also in many countries. But when I talk about Philippines , if I go for casual dating approach stay 3 to 4 days, travel girlfriend then it's possible to encounter with many scammers and prostitute I might encounter. How to separate these girls from genuine girls.

  • @josephfuchs4903
    @josephfuchs4903 3 года назад +6

    I thought the roaming camera thing was a nice touch this time. I thought it was funny! Thank you for that.

  • @SunRise-ul7ko
    @SunRise-ul7ko 3 года назад +8

    If you have millions, renting ends up being much cheaper in the long-term.

  • @townekook2226
    @townekook2226 3 года назад +1

    Umm, Dating 101 that may lead to marriage

  • @dmanmorales7385
    @dmanmorales7385 3 года назад +1

    Is that GIO controlling the cam?

  • @saintluke2nd
    @saintluke2nd Год назад

    you are great communicator

  • @koufax174
    @koufax174 Год назад

    Excellent message 🙏🏼

  • @britgerus1956Glenn
    @britgerus1956Glenn 3 года назад +2

    FWB?

  • @geralddery1060
    @geralddery1060 3 года назад +3

    Gio with the roving eye... Love it!

  • @sistermoonofthephilippines6767
    @sistermoonofthephilippines6767 3 года назад +4

    This conversation is about regarding "a woman" as an object, comparing her to owning or renting a "condo". In addition, this conversation is enforcing an image to disrespect Filipina women, especially when foreigners are at a great advantage over them, in terms of having more money than their counterpart(s).

    • @goprojoe7449
      @goprojoe7449 3 года назад

      Yes it is mutual. The man is also an object. It can become more.

    • @goprojoe7449
      @goprojoe7449 3 года назад

      I like to be a sugar daddy with live in gf

  • @razorramon5642
    @razorramon5642 3 года назад +6

    Everything you said about renting vs owning is very true as being single vs in a relationship. It's either an open door having multiple woman or closed when owned by only one. What's that old saying...you can't have your cake and eat it too Paul😂😂

    • @goprojoe7449
      @goprojoe7449 3 года назад +1

      Renting, they will often also require gf status and be very jealous. If they live in.

    • @jeffrt3893
      @jeffrt3893 3 года назад +1

      What good is cake if you can't eat it?

  • @lamberko
    @lamberko 3 года назад +1

    I understand the Pros and Cons. And "yes", maybe at the beginning of a "relationship" the renting thing is the better option.
    But, we also have to think on the long run. What after some years of living/being together? How can I make sure, that she will be safe and secured, when I'll check out and leave this planet? Do I care, or do I give a f*ck?
    I think one very important thing is to think about the "last will".

  • @goprojoe7449
    @goprojoe7449 3 года назад +1

    So easy to be a sugar daddy. Set a price and dont pay more. She will live in and provide maid service as gf.

  • @rustycutts8665
    @rustycutts8665 2 года назад

    Not a live in il have my house and she has hers

  • @BluegirlXhin
    @BluegirlXhin 3 года назад +1

    Is that in mactan new town? I really thought your talking about condo lol

  • @williamknopic7915
    @williamknopic7915 3 года назад +1

    There's no sense in marriage for a man.
    I'm happy single. A girlfriend is fine. Providing she has her own home.
    Marriage is just a piece of paper which in most cases benefits a woman. Not a man. If something happens to me I look at it this way. I came into this world without anyone or anything and I will leave the same way. You will too. Always look before you leap.

  • @goprojoe7449
    @goprojoe7449 3 года назад +1

    Maybe Thailand is different? I have live in rentals, we are like gf/bf. No obligations legally.

  • @kevinr8431
    @kevinr8431 3 года назад +1

    I think some inaccuracies here. You say a live in is more expensive. It should be cheaper if she is working then you split the rent. You need someone who can earn money. The second point about traveling makes no sense since you can travel with a girlfriend that does not live with you.

  • @jdbucha
    @jdbucha 3 года назад +3

    I'll never buy a Condo. Makes it harder to move on.

  • @steveroque7938
    @steveroque7938 3 года назад +4

    Love ❤️ The View

  • @jaydel3
    @jaydel3 3 года назад +1

    what weird analogies

  • @drewnc6196
    @drewnc6196 3 года назад +1

    Mia need a marriage and a baby. Make it so number one!

  • @briandumont7272
    @briandumont7272 3 года назад +1

    I wonder how much having a woman who can cut through the skin tax for you lowers that 20 to 30 percent more expenses.

  • @gim6109
    @gim6109 3 года назад +2

    Live in partner is renting too its just she has freebies.wife is a different story.,the typical pinay bf and gf relationship they dont live together they are not called rentals here..the live in partner is called her your rental because anytime you can get rid of her.

    • @gim6109
      @gim6109 3 года назад +2

      @@mayofw3163 unfortunately few of these men think our women here is just a commodity of their needs,the reason they always get a bad reputations here,when you meet a filipino decent family first they will asked you if you were married if not they will think these men are here for sex and exploting some of our girls but you cant blame it to these men,they both has their benefits,girls got their share too.i think its fair enougg.

  • @johngord752
    @johngord752 3 года назад +1

    The heart wants what the heart wants. I hope my heart wants someone with a good job and their own money.

  • @lowtech67
    @lowtech67 3 года назад +1

    Not a bad video and some good advice for foreigner men. I do think it was odd you didn't mention anything about feelings toward girlfriends. So many men fall into lust thinking its love.

    • @mromneyobama
      @mromneyobama 3 года назад

      I think the audience here are either with someone or had moved past it. But for those 60+ and still finding their true love, nothing wrong with that also.

  • @billglaser1270
    @billglaser1270 3 года назад +1

    Your PW.🤣

  • @tdscasanova7428
    @tdscasanova7428 3 года назад +12

    it is much better financially to rent. why you ask? main reason is because there is no better scent in this world when you enter a car with a new car scent, zero miles on the engine, no leaks or smoke blowing out of the muff ler, all tires have the same air compression and are not going flat, gasket to the engine is new, you dont hear all kinds of rattles on the body when going over a bump, the paint job on the new car looks very shinny instead of the old grey car you will own if you buy it, and a million of other reasons not to own. yet the number one reason why you should never own is because if you did the lawyers and judges and ex wives will be the happiest people on earth that you did own.
    rent rent rent rent rent rent rent!

    • @johnp9890
      @johnp9890 3 года назад +3

      I have a car that i drove for 300k kilometers. I bought her new. I love that car and i will continue to drive her untilmat least a million km.

    • @bobbruce4135
      @bobbruce4135 3 года назад +2

      How? The short-time rentals, such as at Mango Square, Burgos St, and Fields Ave, have more miles than a space shuttle. I believe that's why some expats talk a lot of marriage and family and flash their wealth but have a stealth vasectomy. Right now it's possible to find a live-in easy with Covid travel lock downs. But, that will change really fast. Peace.

    • @mromneyobama
      @mromneyobama 3 года назад +1

      @Dan Blackburn The miles of a car is directly proportional to its age.

  • @menopillion9853
    @menopillion9853 3 года назад +1

    Great Info.

  • @ObolonWeener
    @ObolonWeener 3 года назад +4

    click bait.

  • @skykiss12
    @skykiss12 3 года назад +3

    Very well balanced lectures. Love it.

  • @Hicks-g1m
    @Hicks-g1m 3 года назад +4

    very interesting topic Paul I'm still single here in the Philippines and I'm staying that way for a very long time that's the best way to go at least for me the more freedom I have the better off I am

  • @jasond9401
    @jasond9401 3 года назад +1

    Damn dude I want make that spot you are sitting my hunting spot.

  • @GregVT
    @GregVT 3 года назад +5

    Which one of you came up with the “moving camera” idea? It’s a horrible idea. Sometimes “Never been done before” is for a very good reason.

  • @stephendunn2860
    @stephendunn2860 3 года назад

    Unspoken assumption is same quality of women are available for girlfriend as for wife.

  • @p.steven2413
    @p.steven2413 3 года назад +2

    Nice Short Video Paul . Oh Yes , Warning -- If a Girl Gives an " Ultimatum " or Demands Something or Else ? I Agree - She is History , No Ans ,
    ifs , or buts ! Never accept an Ultimatum That would Go Against Your Beliefs and Values in a Relationship . Take Care Paul .

  • @dingodave2464
    @dingodave2464 3 года назад +4

    I agree Paul if western guys came here they would not believe how different dating is in Philippines. It is a real candy shop. I have been in the multi girlfriend and because you have such a big choice, it has been hard choosing which one to keep and which one to let go. So easy here to have 3 or 4 really good girls and wanting to keep them all. Only time and money finalize the choice. I have always told my 4 boys never get married. Every honest guy get sick of eating Eye Fillet Steak, some times you just need to add a Lobster.

    • @namvet1968
      @namvet1968 3 года назад +1

      Interesting comment. Retired a few years ago and traveled to Cebu. Really liked it. Thinking about moving there. Lots of attractive girls everywhere.

  • @davidhaylett1810
    @davidhaylett1810 3 года назад

    Rental sounds better. Definitely do not get married ever, anywhere. Take it slow and try out lots of girls before going for one gf.

  • @stevenlawrence5733
    @stevenlawrence5733 2 года назад

    Great video about they the women being more expensive when you buy them and they live with you. Most of them expect you to pay for everything and they usually aren't worth giving that to.
    I did have a girlfriend in the Dominican Republic for 3 years and even though we never lived together that woman always took money out of her pocket any activities we shared together.

  • @tobiasdelabarra6086
    @tobiasdelabarra6086 3 года назад

    Damn there were so many pretty filipinas... Where are you exactly? Is that a mall?

  • @ericeengel2446
    @ericeengel2446 3 года назад +2

    Good info and the best camara man 👍👍👍

  • @difab4052
    @difab4052 3 года назад

    Don’t worry about your finances anything you accumulate before you meet your gf is yours.

  • @jenserikjohansson6228
    @jenserikjohansson6228 3 года назад +1

    Herlig tema Paul ..ikke alltid lett

  • @williamfeders8073
    @williamfeders8073 3 года назад

    Nice video Paul .. haha i would prefer renting there 👍 good advises

  • @mromneyobama
    @mromneyobama 3 года назад

    I would rent a woman at my age and I'm single. Ideal sweet spot for me.