My ex broke up with me. I begged and pleaded and did all the wrong things, but then I went No Contact for 2 years! Safe to say I fell in LOVE with No contact. I followed all the tips from binge watching your videos Chris, you know health, wealth and relationships. A few months ago he came back begging to have a second chance with me. I’ve actually been dating a really awesome guy and have no desire to return to my ex. Now he’s the one being a GNAT. Funny how those tables turn. ;)
Hi Chris Seiter! Yesterday I Made the comment about the ABSOLUTE IMPORTANCE OF NO CONTACT. I also wanted to add, having been & lived through this situation, Ladies show your man what he is missing! Prove you are a high value woman in ALL aspects of your life! But, NEVER, EVER LOWER YOUR STANDARD'S!
I want to say something to Chris. Thank you! I did everything you said to do. My ex and I are taking things slow. We are not boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but we do have better communication skills than last time.
I'm sorry to hear that. Work on closing that gap. As long as you have a plan you should start feeling a bit better about your situation. I know LDR's are tough. My wife were in a long distance relationship before we got married.
Chris Seiter Thanks Chris! Our relationship was not a LDR but we’ve lived together for 2 years. However because of this breakup, he doesn’t want us to live together any more (for a long period time in his words). We’re international couple and I decided to stay back in my home country for the risk of not being able to get back together. I was hoping him might change his mind shortly when I made the decision. But after watching many videos I realized that’s not gonna happen. I must give up on the old relationship and re-attract him and start a new relationship. I have no faith on that to be happen when we cannot be physically together. Should I just give up.... Now it’s been almost 2 months since our breakup and I already felt very distant from him.
I have no chance. This new girl, who he says is just a friend, but 1. I know she did everything to get to him, because she likes him 2. Men fall in love with any women who shows interest and is not totally ugly. So I know they’re fwb which is a relationship disguised. Something he said he didn't want... She did all that: played with similarities (she copycats him), with familiarity (she took him to places and events and spends all the time with him), unlike me she had 3 days a month completely alone with him at work, and she used it all, he was ready to replace me, so she played it so well. She even trojan horsed me to remove me from the picture I thought he had a connection with me, but I now see I was just sex. He never allowed me to bond emotionally. What do I do?
Do you have videos for no relationships? Like situations where he just wanted sex and after getting it started fading away, left the door open to monkey branch then broke up to date a “friend”. (And yes, I confronted him so many times that he thinks I’m a burden, and yes, she was my “friend”)
My long term boyfriend of four years asked for a break while he figures his things out mentally. We didn't fight, I listened and tried to be honest with him and fought for our relationship. He said he was mentally checked out and was miserable in every aspect of his life. He just wasn't happy with life. He then said he wasnt feeling our relationship for the past few months. Just last week he asked me when I was marrying him and what my ring size is. I get it if he needs time to figure things out mentally as I do want him to get healthy and happy, but I was taken aback as to how all of a sudden saying he hasnt been feeling "us" and said he can't do "us". I'm just confused because of the grey area that we're in. We ended it with a hug, and I kissed him on the cheek. He said it would be okay to text from time to time to check in, but I just cut all contact because I was so hurt and I knew I had to work on myself. In this case, what do I do? So he's basically single to figure things out, how do I attract him back in this weird grey area.
Hi Sarah so you need to do some work on yourself where you will appear to be the Ungettable girl to your ex, you can look up these videos on my channel. It is where you work on being the best version of yourself and post to social media, selecting the impression want your ex to have of the "new you"
Sarah C hey! I’m literally in the same exact position as you! 5 years together and ended it with me to figure his life out because he felt lost with his life and needed to sort himself out mentally etc.. we didn’t argue or leave it on bad terms! Hugged goodbye abs he said I can text him but only if it was basically like an emergency and I really needed him! I’ve been in the no contact for a week now (feels like a month) how has it been going for you? I feel like I’m losing hope of him contacting me because he was the one who asked for space! I’ve taken a small week break on social media as well because I kept checking up on him and it was driving me insane! But just wondering how it was going for you?? Anything good happen I hope! xx
Hi Celtics Girl! Cool name. I take it you are a fan. Yes and No. NC may be in play, but there is another method I call "Being There", which can be employed depending on the factors involved. Swing on by my website as there so much more of "me" there in terms of content than I can provide in these short burst of responses!
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My ex broke up with me after 5 months ( was going to be 6 in a week after he broke up with me) he had broken up with me on november 20th we had been constantly fighting before because he would talk inappropriately to other girls and would call girls beautiful but then would say i would overreact and i had asked for his instagram accounts before and before he broke up with me he had told me that he changed his password and that i could get in a month and it had been pretty suspicious so i was questioning him about it and he said i don’t even have yours and i had said well i gave you all my passwords and then he had broken up with me while i was out with my sister and he had told me he wasn’t happy for months but never told me he was unhappy it had never seemed he was but i was unhappy he would always make me feel like his friends were all above me and that i was last in his life i had multiple times wanted to breakup with him but i didn’t go through with it because i didn’t want to hurt him because i cared about him very much and i had begged for him back he didn’t budge he would talk about how other girls were attractive and that he didn’t even cry about me and he said he was soo happy without me and it hurt me a lot so i had asked for my gifts that i gave him back because he never gave me gifts and i was the only one who gave gifts and he had gotten bitter calling me a psycho bitch and that i’m crazy and a dumbass because i would try to call him and it had been the worst he treated me so bad i hated it but i very much still wanted him back i had called him and said sorry and that i forgive him for everything and i would tear up and he would laugh at me crying and he had said i never put effort into our relationship and that i’m acting like the victim and that in the relationship i was always on his “balls” he explained that that was the reason he had broken up with me he also had lied and told me that a friend that was friends with the both of us sent him screenshots of me talking about him and it ruined me and my friends friendship so then after i implemented the no contact rule but i would post about my feelings because i just wanted a way to put my feelings out in words i was hurt and he found out about the posts about him and i deleted my instagram and every social media because most of it made him hate me and it reminded me of him but he had texted me calling me a coward and that i was childish and that i should move on and grow up but i was still implementing the no contact but yesterday i had apologized and he didn’t say anything and well i just need advice if i should continue trying to win him back or should i leave it alone
Hi Lauren! I can see a lot has happened and you have been thru a lot. It seems to me your ex has been abusive to you. And you should have zero tolerance for that kind of behavior. Focus on your own healing and recovery. Going forward, it should be about "you", not him.
Hi. Can I join the private Facebook group? I seem to do all the steps right, also I’m in no contact for over a month now... would love to know what to do next. Thank you!
My ex and I broke up on the last day of April. It's been 6 months now of no contact. On the day we broke up he said that he wanted to be friends and at first I said "sure." but in reality I quietly left, I haven't reach out to him since and he hasn't reached out to me since either. I have heard you and other relationship/breakup coaches say it's okay to reach at later on but thing is.. I feel like it's not my job to fix what I didn't break, if he misses me he should reach out. He's done that before when we had a break when we were together but.. now that we have been broken up, neither one of us have reached out, not even on eachother's birthdays. So I don't know what to think of that ? Has it been too long? I'm trying to focus on myself and my life though.
Chris,have read all your article,subscribe, i was doing no contact rule for my ex for 30 days, during that time, three of my ex's whom i long time forget came back and i met this other guys, even though none of them really impressed me anymore,they look old worn out,so i decided to fight for my current ex, after no contact rule, honestly i contacted him and he was happy, i lied to him i was not feeling well, well,after no contact rule things didnt works so well,it was pull and pull from february to june we met, didnt find him any attractive,he has gained weight, a bit old,well after meeting he went backnto his usual behaviours of ghosting, not initiating conversation,i exploided insulted him, send him back all his pictures, over 2000 picture,i wanted to jam he's phone,this hegoat ,i asked him for swim date he said ok we could go swimming,didnt right for two weeks hoping after our meeting he might check on me,well im not suprised of hes uncourth behaviour,i wrote to him hi, only him to reply me with his pictures caption ,greetings, from Barcelona, Ibiza and velnecia, i feel so low,im a student who doesnt earn more, i asked myself,why do this guy always want to make me jelousy by showing always all hes fake life traveling around the world,does he want to make me looks poor and hopeless? Make you,whenever he's on holiday,this man would send me pictures of his polatable life,asking me my pictures in return,to make him horny,but whenever he's around this Nazi never writes back,i asked him he's on holidays with who? All my life have never see a man with a huge group of friends,always busy with friends and partying with friends, i know all hes friends only through pictures and all family only throw pictures,suprisingly none of them i know by name, i fell bad send him he's pictures back,he never replied,he always ignored my text, not unless i send him my pictures for him to reply,when i wrote him 3days later,he's reply was leave me alone, i told him ,you have two option either talk to me like agrown up or block me,been begging him to block me for a year now,he finily did,wanted him to block me so that he could realized probably where all tjis coming from,we've been blocking each other on off but only for hrs,i told him even if he blocked me,i wont pleade or beg him to unblock me,when he finally blocked me, i sent him text SMS i dont know whether he got or not,i told him what he did was a bold move and i asked him not to unblock me coz i belong to his block list,i slso told him,i didnt know pur stand,i told him,would be best we take a brake from communicating to each other since we've lost respect to each other,its been nearly two weeks of no contact, have deleted his number,i didnt blocked him,i dont know whether im still blocked, i dont want to know anymore,ill know the day he will text me,as for now i wont bother even checking on him, a week later my 5 yrs ago ex whom i blocked, changed my number found me in IG, he want us to meet, hes on holiday, i asked him if hes now mature enough and now know what he wants he said ge has learned from his past,now what next,how would i carry my self to be a woman with integrety,i dont want to waste another years again in push and pull games like how the other guy was,what i will set this time,no man will ever come to sleep with me in my Appartement again, no more short time meeting just for sex, either spend time with me get to know me or walk off, i also dont want him to get the impression that hes the Center of everything that he can ghost me and come back after years and still single, during my no contact rule period, i met two guys nice one though who likes me dearly, i just want to date 7 guys parallel to avoid being heartbroken again.please reply to methank you....
Hi Nyiri...i think your focus should be around embracing those kinds of activities that will bring more healing into our life. Visit my website as I have a lot of information about personal recovery and also Podcasts and articles that talk about uplifting your mood and recovery.
@@chrisseitercoaching thank you, have read all your article but not recovery, no im not moaning, the guy gave me best decision after two years of pull and pull, all what know, how to handle my self after long period of no contact with othe ex's, the current ex, i decided to give him a brake, he's to immature to me and a narcissist. I want to meet my long time 4 ex's next week, i want to be bold and confident without shying, infact i even stopped drinking alcohol, my brain is sober as Johannes,the other guy almost brake me down emotional, thank God been keeping my other ex's on a long arm, ... thank you chris your exfactor is great
Hi Chris, my ex boyfriend he break up with me almost 4 months now, but we still talk and see each other and hang out together sometimes, i was even make the mistake of having sex with him. But then i can feel even i didn't ask and he didn't tell. still he don't want to commit and don't want to get back together and he keep being cold and act like he's not human sometimes even i being nice and calm control an everything, not fight, not talk about getting back or about the break up. But now I'm think about going to no contact. If that could help when i start to be gone from him! Or maybe that will make me feel better and to moving on!
Thats what i went through, went no contact rule for 30 days it didnt changed any of his believe or intrest,infact afterwards the push and pull games got even worse,we met had sex,then went again cold, its has been me who has to initiate conversation, before meeting it has always been push and pull games, sexting, act nice,pretend to be calm even if i know deep down im not calm,that i have something to discussed, we have the most terrible chat,whenever we meet,he could meet me for three hours just for sex,which is not enough time to discuss. My long time ex contacted me,we never argued i just discard the communication with him coz he was behaving like the current one,now hes serious and he wants me back, i will meet him when im bold and i will put what i want direct on the table,not going to do any breadscrambing anymore, infact let me do research on getting back together after so many years, the other guy let him enjoy with he's flying monkeys i nolonger care, i wish i hadnt lost my Sport shoes i would have used this moments to go jogging, anyway,im currently doing home sport, hope it will work on my current Depression...
Hi, I was dating a guy for a few months.It was all very full on.I thought he felt the same has me.We where having such fun.Butter flies in the stomach every time I saw him.Which was every minute we weren't working at hour jobs.He took me to meet his family.The I had to go to Portugal for a few weeks to look after sick friend.Two days in and on video chat he tells me one of his friend says she loves him. He said he has always had feeling for her but in the past she just wanted to be friends.She meet me just before I left for Portugal.So he dumped me on video chat.I am trying no contact.I hurt and have never felt such intense feeling for a guy before.Please help
Hey Sushi, to get to a point where you ex is meeting up with you. You need to work up the value ladder. Texting for sometime, phone calls for some time and then short but positive meet ups that increase with romantic vibe
Chris Seiter - Got the fulfilling, at least some, important needs by being friends w benefits with my ex...but I want more. Should I continue or walk away?
Stacey Swope Jesus! You have a comment on every single coaches video... hmmmm.. maybe you just shined some light on me having the same browsing problem lol
Joe M It appears people who see me on “every site” are also on the same sites? Lol I don’t watch videos as much as I read comments to either support or get insight. Online support group
We were committed for 8 years and now he left me saying i don't love you and he blocked me from everywhere atleast 15 days before leaving me. I couldn't even contact him. What should i do now?? I love him
Start with the No Contact as I tell everyone, take the time to get yourself composed and over the initial heart ache, work on yourself and make sure you are prepared for when you are unblocked to show how amazing you are doing without your ex in your life leave him wondering if it even bothered you that they left
@@chrisseitercoaching after my expierienced of no contact and initiated chat, it was push and pull,i wish i wouldnt initiate conversation, now he blocked me for the first time ever for longer period, i personally i thoroughly welcome his i dea of blocking me,i had to push him to the wall to block me, its better than ignoring my text ,and only demanding a pictures of my ass, what jerk! I hope he's happy with he's decision coz deep down he blocked me long time ago,it came to a point where he's conversation was strickly sexting and asking my nudes, what the hell did i involved with😥i swear dating has become so difficult knowadays,a grown up my would rather share he's sexual fantasies on chat than meet.. DEAR ALEX I HOPE I WILL NEVER MISS YOU,PLEASE GO TO HELL AND NEVER COMES BACK!NEVER again to tolerate sexting sh*t with any Psychopath..
Oh no, I own two websites. Exboyfriendrecovery.com (for the ladies who are trying to get their ex boyfriend back) and Exgirlfriendrecovery.com (for the guys trying to get their girlfriend back)
@@chrisseitercoachingOk thank you. What about your videos on RUclips. Are they only for women ? Or you have videos on your websites? Sorry for many questions
Its always wise to follow a sensible plan and sometimes that NC - sometimes not. Pop on over to my website as I have lots of content and Podcasts that can help you thru the dark days.
If your breakup was highly emotional wait 45 days, if it was a typical breakup 30 days and if he's been reaching out a lot during your no contact you can shorten it to 21 days but I wouldn't recommend contacting before 21 days.
I hope I hear back from you Chris. I was with my ex for a year and a half and yes things happened that wasn't good but there also was alot of good. We could talk for hours about any and everything and this wasn't just in the beginning but through out the entire relationship. I guess I would say I ended things first because of what he said to me and how he acted but then he ended things also so maybe it was mutual but the last day together was bad. I still loved him just couldn't understand him and why he did and said the things he did. But we were supposed to meet in talk in person after things ended but the day we were supposed to meet he only texted me that she was going to be ok, we're still in love and going to try and make things work and that he would never contact me again.. My heart sank. He chose his ex wife over me. But I knew it wouldn't last and I was right. I did try to call and text when things ended because I loved him and couldn't understand how he could just leave me like he did. It took a long time to get over him, a very long time. He did call me once but never said anything and I know in my gut he showed up at my apartment but I believe he chickened out on knocking on my door but my little yorkie seen him and was barking and acting weird and when I picked him up to show him that no one was out there I see a truck identical to the truck that he drives and what gave it away that I know it was 100% his truck is he had a big tag hanging from his rear view mirror and I knew it wasn't a handicap tag so I called my sister and asked if her husband had anything hanging from his mirror and she said yes it is a parking pass he got for work aprox a month prior and sent me a picture. It was identified to what was hanging from this mirror. But just when I was 85 to 90 % over him and this took me 3 1/2 yrs to get to this point, he texted me. First time he texted me in 3 1/2 years. I didn't reply right off, I had him wait for a good 30 to 45 mins. But it was just like old times, we texted as if nothing had ever happened. We ended up talking on the phone and a few weeks later ended up having sex but only once. Things got heated between us again and I was done. Aprox a month or so later he messaged me on the dating site that we are both on and before the conversation ended I told him that he really needed to change his picture because it looks nothing like him and if he did he might get lucky. That is when he said can he be honest and I said yes. He went on to say something about when we were together and how it still makes him so mad that I did that and that if that hadn't happened that we would still probably still be together. I asked him after close to 4 yrs later why does that still hurt you so much. He replied because he truly cared. I don't know what to make of this because after that he never contacted me again nor would answer my text message, only way he did answer it is when I wrote something to tick him off but once he message me because of that message I let him know that I was only teasing but that is the only way I was able to get him to reply to me. He also told me when he messaged me back in may of this year and still when we talked and text that he hasn't been with no other women at all except his ex wife twice right after things ended with us a little over 3 1/2 yrs ago. I wish I knew what went through a man's mind. I wish I knew how he could be so mad at me from something that happened over 4 yrs ago and it was only me getting on his phone but I had a very good reason to do but not going to get into that on here. But he has done things way worse and I have been able to forgive and forget. How he said he wanted to be honest and said I guess the reason he still is so mad is because he truly cared. And last but not least that he has not has sex with any other woman except his ex wife right after things ended with us and only twice because he said it was like sleeping with his sister. But he has only been with me that one night back in may of this year and only me before and after. So please tell me what I could do or say to get him off his high horse and talk to me and see if he would want to work things out. I do still care about him but I have no clue what to do or say or not to say. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you and god bless.💕
I need advice Chris. You had gave me some advice already and no contact really work. Few days silence and he send me a message. We are not together yet but we will going to weeked holiday to spa together on September. What shall I do?
My ex boyfriend also asking do I know any free woman but when I tell him he say he is not intrested even he say she is pretty. And when I say do he know any free man he is silence and ignore that message. He haven't dated any one after our break up. Can it be that he want to know what he feels about me and that's why he want to go to spa with me? Or do I have any change? Yesterday he told me he had a lot of romantic plans for us. And then he said time will show
My ex broke up with me. I begged and pleaded and did all the wrong things, but then I went No Contact for 2 years! Safe to say I fell in LOVE with No contact. I followed all the tips from binge watching your videos Chris, you know health, wealth and relationships. A few months ago he came back begging to have a second chance with me. I’ve actually been dating a really awesome guy and have no desire to return to my ex. Now he’s the one being a GNAT. Funny how those tables turn. ;)
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Happy Me Thanks! 🤗
This made my day! Seriously.
@@chrisseitercoaching I wish you would answer my question.
What's your question?
Hi Chris Seiter! Yesterday I Made the comment about the ABSOLUTE IMPORTANCE OF NO CONTACT. I also wanted to add, having been & lived through this situation, Ladies show your man what he is missing! Prove you are a high value woman in ALL aspects of your life! But, NEVER, EVER LOWER YOUR STANDARD'S!
Great add!
@@chrisseitercoaching Thank you
She's already in love with me but I'm past caring! I walked away and haven't looked back. Life's too short for the games!
Awesome!!!!
I want to say something to Chris. Thank you! I did everything you said to do. My ex and I are taking things slow. We are not boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but we do have better communication skills than last time.
I like how you called me christ!!!!
I'll keep doing my best.
How long were you apart
“Pull it out of my butt” 😂 Chris your hilarious.
Thanks
Feels so hopeless that my ex and I are now long distance and therefore cannot be in any romantic environment together...... :((
I'm sorry to hear that. Work on closing that gap. As long as you have a plan you should start feeling a bit better about your situation. I know LDR's are tough. My wife were in a long distance relationship before we got married.
Chris Seiter Thanks Chris! Our relationship was not a LDR but we’ve lived together for 2 years. However because of this breakup, he doesn’t want us to live together any more (for a long period time in his words).
We’re international couple and I decided to stay back in my home country for the risk of not being able to get back together. I was hoping him might change his mind shortly when I made the decision. But after watching many videos I realized that’s not gonna happen. I must give up on the old relationship and re-attract him and start a new relationship.
I have no faith on that to be happen when we cannot be physically together.
Should I just give up.... Now it’s been almost 2 months since our breakup and I already felt very distant from him.
I have no chance. This new girl, who he says is just a friend, but 1. I know she did everything to get to him, because she likes him 2. Men fall in love with any women who shows interest and is not totally ugly. So I know they’re fwb which is a relationship disguised. Something he said he didn't want...
She did all that: played with similarities (she copycats him), with familiarity (she took him to places and events and spends all the time with him), unlike me she had 3 days a month completely alone with him at work, and she used it all, he was ready to replace me, so she played it so well. She even trojan horsed me to remove me from the picture
I thought he had a connection with me, but I now see I was just sex. He never allowed me to bond emotionally.
What do I do?
Do you have videos for no relationships?
Like situations where he just wanted sex and after getting it started fading away, left the door open to monkey branch then broke up to date a “friend”. (And yes, I confronted him so many times that he thinks I’m a burden, and yes, she was my “friend”)
My long term boyfriend of four years asked for a break while he figures his things out mentally. We didn't fight, I listened and tried to be honest with him and fought for our relationship. He said he was mentally checked out and was miserable in every aspect of his life. He just wasn't happy with life. He then said he wasnt feeling our relationship for the past few months. Just last week he asked me when I was marrying him and what my ring size is. I get it if he needs time to figure things out mentally as I do want him to get healthy and happy, but I was taken aback as to how all of a sudden saying he hasnt been feeling "us" and said he can't do "us". I'm just confused because of the grey area that we're in. We ended it with a hug, and I kissed him on the cheek. He said it would be okay to text from time to time to check in, but I just cut all contact because I was so hurt and I knew I had to work on myself. In this case, what do I do? So he's basically single to figure things out, how do I attract him back in this weird grey area.
Hi Sarah so you need to do some work on yourself where you will appear to be the Ungettable girl to your ex, you can look up these videos on my channel. It is where you work on being the best version of yourself and post to social media, selecting the impression want your ex to have of the "new you"
Sarah C hey! I’m literally in the same exact position as you! 5 years together and ended it with me to figure his life out because he felt lost with his life and needed to sort himself out mentally etc.. we didn’t argue or leave it on bad terms! Hugged goodbye abs he said I can text him but only if it was basically like an emergency and I really needed him! I’ve been in the no contact for a week now (feels like a month) how has it been going for you? I feel like I’m losing hope of him contacting me because he was the one who asked for space! I’ve taken a small week break on social media as well because I kept checking up on him and it was driving me insane! But just wondering how it was going for you?? Anything good happen I hope! xx
@@livingwithgee3201 I found out he was cheating on me. :/ I wish all the best and all good luck for you!! It's a crappy situation.
He's just keeping u there incase it doesn't work out cut contact
is this applicable if your ex also cheated and is with that someone already?
Hi Celtics Girl! Cool name. I take it you are a fan. Yes and No. NC may be in play, but there is another method I call "Being There", which can be employed depending on the factors involved. Swing on by my website as there so much more of "me" there in terms of content than I can provide in these short burst of responses!
Can you please send link for private Facebook group? I've been listening to these videos for six months and I have a question! Ty😊
Here is some information on how to join!
exrecovery.lpages.co/private-support-group/Entry into the Group is free if one purchases "Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro Premium Package"
My ex broke up with me after 5 months ( was going to be 6 in a week after he broke up with me) he had broken up with me on november 20th we had been constantly fighting before because he would talk inappropriately to other girls and would call girls beautiful but then would say i would overreact and i had asked for his instagram accounts before and before he broke up with me he had told me that he changed his password and that i could get in a month and it had been pretty suspicious so i was questioning him about it and he said i don’t even have yours and i had said well i gave you all my passwords and then he had broken up with me while i was out with my sister and he had told me he wasn’t happy for months but never told me he was unhappy it had never seemed he was but i was unhappy he would always make me feel like his friends were all above me and that i was last in his life i had multiple times wanted to breakup with him but i didn’t go through with it because i didn’t want to hurt him because i cared about him very much and i had begged for him back he didn’t budge he would talk about how other girls were attractive and that he didn’t even cry about me and he said he was soo happy without me and it hurt me a lot so i had asked for my gifts that i gave him back because he never gave me gifts and i was the only one who gave gifts and he had gotten bitter calling me a psycho bitch and that i’m crazy and a dumbass because i would try to call him and it had been the worst he treated me so bad i hated it but i very much still wanted him back i had called him and said sorry and that i forgive him for everything and i would tear up and he would laugh at me crying and he had said i never put effort into our relationship and that i’m acting like the victim and that in the relationship i was always on his “balls” he explained that that was the reason he had broken up with me he also had lied and told me that a friend that was friends with the both of us sent him screenshots of me talking about him and it ruined me and my friends friendship so then after i implemented the no contact rule but i would post about my feelings because i just wanted a way to put my feelings out in words i was hurt and he found out about the posts about him and i deleted my instagram and every social media because most of it made him hate me and it reminded me of him but he had texted me calling me a coward and that i was childish and that i should move on and grow up but i was still implementing the no contact but yesterday i had apologized and he didn’t say anything and well i just need advice if i should continue trying to win him back or should i leave it alone
Hi Lauren! I can see a lot has happened and you have been thru a lot. It seems to me your ex has been abusive to you. And you should have zero tolerance for that kind of behavior. Focus on your own healing and recovery. Going forward, it should be about "you", not him.
can this work for ex girlfriends
Hi. Can I join the private Facebook group?
I seem to do all the steps right, also I’m in no contact for over a month now...
would love to know what to do next. Thank you!
Brenda Crawford rossey
My ex and I broke up on the last day of April. It's been 6 months now of no contact. On the day we broke up he said that he wanted to be friends and at first I said "sure." but in reality I quietly left, I haven't reach out to him since and he hasn't reached out to me since either. I have heard you and other relationship/breakup coaches say it's okay to reach at later on but thing is.. I feel like it's not my job to fix what I didn't break, if he misses me he should reach out. He's done that before when we had a break when we were together but.. now that we have been broken up, neither one of us have reached out, not even on eachother's birthdays. So I don't know what to think of that ? Has it been too long?
I'm trying to focus on myself and my life though.
Also I got like about a 71% on your quiz, it said "above average".
Chris,have read all your article,subscribe, i was doing no contact rule for my ex for 30 days, during that time, three of my ex's whom i long time forget came back and i met this other guys, even though none of them really impressed me anymore,they look old worn out,so i decided to fight for my current ex, after no contact rule, honestly i contacted him and he was happy, i lied to him i was not feeling well, well,after no contact rule things didnt works so well,it was pull and pull from february to june we met, didnt find him any attractive,he has gained weight, a bit old,well after meeting he went backnto his usual behaviours of ghosting, not initiating conversation,i exploided insulted him, send him back all his pictures, over 2000 picture,i wanted to jam he's phone,this hegoat ,i asked him for swim date he said ok we could go swimming,didnt right for two weeks hoping after our meeting he might check on me,well im not suprised of hes uncourth behaviour,i wrote to him hi, only him to reply me with his pictures caption ,greetings, from Barcelona, Ibiza and velnecia, i feel so low,im a student who doesnt earn more, i asked myself,why do this guy always want to make me jelousy by showing always all hes fake life traveling around the world,does he want to make me looks poor and hopeless? Make you,whenever he's on holiday,this man would send me pictures of his polatable life,asking me my pictures in return,to make him horny,but whenever he's around this Nazi never writes back,i asked him he's on holidays with who? All my life have never see a man with a huge group of friends,always busy with friends and partying with friends, i know all hes friends only through pictures and all family only throw pictures,suprisingly none of them i know by name, i fell bad send him he's pictures back,he never replied,he always ignored my text, not unless i send him my pictures for him to reply,when i wrote him 3days later,he's reply was leave me alone, i told him ,you have two option either talk to me like agrown up or block me,been begging him to block me for a year now,he finily did,wanted him to block me so that he could realized probably where all tjis coming from,we've been blocking each other on off but only for hrs,i told him even if he blocked me,i wont pleade or beg him to unblock me,when he finally blocked me, i sent him text SMS i dont know whether he got or not,i told him what he did was a bold move and i asked him not to unblock me coz i belong to his block list,i slso told him,i didnt know pur stand,i told him,would be best we take a brake from communicating to each other since we've lost respect to each other,its been nearly two weeks of no contact, have deleted his number,i didnt blocked him,i dont know whether im still blocked, i dont want to know anymore,ill know the day he will text me,as for now i wont bother even checking on him, a week later my 5 yrs ago ex whom i blocked, changed my number found me in IG, he want us to meet, hes on holiday, i asked him if hes now mature enough and now know what he wants he said ge has learned from his past,now what next,how would i carry my self to be a woman with integrety,i dont want to waste another years again in push and pull games like how the other guy was,what i will set this time,no man will ever come to sleep with me in my Appartement again, no more short time meeting just for sex, either spend time with me get to know me or walk off, i also dont want him to get the impression that hes the Center of everything that he can ghost me and come back after years and still single, during my no contact rule period, i met two guys nice one though who likes me dearly, i just want to date 7 guys parallel to avoid being heartbroken again.please reply to methank you....
Hi Nyiri...i think your focus should be around embracing those kinds of activities that will bring more healing into our life. Visit my website as I have a lot of information about personal recovery and also Podcasts and articles that talk about uplifting your mood and recovery.
@@chrisseitercoaching thank you, have read all your article but not recovery, no im not moaning, the guy gave me best decision after two years of pull and pull, all what know, how to handle my self after long period of no contact with othe ex's, the current ex, i decided to give him a brake, he's to immature to me and a narcissist. I want to meet my long time 4 ex's next week, i want to be bold and confident without shying, infact i even stopped drinking alcohol, my brain is sober as Johannes,the other guy almost brake me down emotional, thank God been keeping my other ex's on a long arm, ... thank you chris your exfactor is great
Your welcome and best of luck to you
Hi Chris, my ex boyfriend he break up with me almost 4 months now, but we still talk and see each other and hang out together sometimes, i was even make the mistake of having sex with him. But then i can feel even i didn't ask and he didn't tell. still he don't want to commit and don't want to get back together and he keep being cold and act like he's not human sometimes even i being nice and calm control an everything, not fight, not talk about getting back or about the break up. But now I'm think about going to no contact. If that could help when i start to be gone from him! Or maybe that will make me feel better and to moving on!
Ubolrat Sriyawong
that’s what I’m going through right now too. I guess I’ll need to stop contacting him.
Thats what i went through, went no contact rule for 30 days it didnt changed any of his believe or intrest,infact afterwards the push and pull games got even worse,we met had sex,then went again cold, its has been me who has to initiate conversation, before meeting it has always been push and pull games, sexting, act nice,pretend to be calm even if i know deep down im not calm,that i have something to discussed, we have the most terrible chat,whenever we meet,he could meet me for three hours just for sex,which is not enough time to discuss. My long time ex contacted me,we never argued i just discard the communication with him coz he was behaving like the current one,now hes serious and he wants me back, i will meet him when im bold and i will put what i want direct on the table,not going to do any breadscrambing anymore, infact let me do research on getting back together after so many years, the other guy let him enjoy with he's flying monkeys i nolonger care, i wish i hadnt lost my Sport shoes i would have used this moments to go jogging, anyway,im currently doing home sport, hope it will work on my current Depression...
Just love your advice.
Thankyou🙏
You're really welcome Carol :)
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Hi, I was dating a guy for a few months.It was all very full on.I thought he felt the same has me.We where having such fun.Butter flies in the stomach every time I saw him.Which was every minute we weren't working at hour jobs.He took me to meet his family.The I had to go to Portugal for a few weeks to look after sick friend.Two days in and on video chat he tells me one of his friend says she loves him. He said he has always had feeling for her but in the past she just wanted to be friends.She meet me just before I left for Portugal.So he dumped me on video chat.I am trying no contact.I hurt and have never felt such intense feeling for a guy before.Please help
HI Tiffany...I know these things can be painful. No Contact can help you see the way towards some healing.
My ex doesn't seem to want to meet me again. How can I get him to want to meet me so much?
Hey Sushi, to get to a point where you ex is meeting up with you. You need to work up the value ladder. Texting for sometime, phone calls for some time and then short but positive meet ups that increase with romantic vibe
Ok I can help you asrt
Chris Seiter - Got the fulfilling, at least some, important needs by being friends w benefits with my ex...but I want more. Should I continue or walk away?
Stacey Swope Jesus! You have a comment on every single coaches video... hmmmm.. maybe you just shined some light on me having the same browsing problem lol
Joe M It appears people who see me on “every site” are also on the same sites? Lol I don’t watch videos as much as I read comments to either support or get insight. Online support group
We were committed for 8 years and now he left me saying i don't love you and he blocked me from everywhere atleast 15 days before leaving me. I couldn't even contact him. What should i do now?? I love him
Start with the No Contact as I tell everyone, take the time to get yourself composed and over the initial heart ache, work on yourself and make sure you are prepared for when you are unblocked to show how amazing you are doing without your ex in your life leave him wondering if it even bothered you that they left
@@chrisseitercoaching thank you for responding.. I m in no contact from a month and trying to work on myself. Still most of the time i miss him 😓
Too bad my ex won't talk to me. Had to restart NC 😩
Did you reach out after no contact? If so, how did that go?
Chris Seiter He didn't reply. All he did was look at my Instagram story 2 times and that was about it.
Chris Seiter any thoughts?
You have to try a new text something more interesting to him.
@@chrisseitercoaching after my expierienced of no contact and initiated chat, it was push and pull,i wish i wouldnt initiate conversation, now he blocked me for the first time ever for longer period, i personally i thoroughly welcome his i dea of blocking me,i had to push him to the wall to block me, its better than ignoring my text ,and only demanding a pictures of my ass, what jerk! I hope he's happy with he's decision coz deep down he blocked me long time ago,it came to a point where he's conversation was strickly sexting and asking my nudes, what the hell did i involved with😥i swear dating has become so difficult knowadays,a grown up my would rather share he's sexual fantasies on chat than meet.. DEAR ALEX I HOPE I WILL NEVER MISS YOU,PLEASE GO TO HELL AND NEVER COMES BACK!NEVER again to tolerate sexting sh*t with any Psychopath..
What is the link
Hi! Are all of your advice's work only for women ?
Oh no, I own two websites. Exboyfriendrecovery.com (for the ladies who are trying to get their ex boyfriend back) and Exgirlfriendrecovery.com (for the guys trying to get their girlfriend back)
@@chrisseitercoachingOk thank you. What about your videos on RUclips. Are they only for women ? Or you have videos on your websites? Sorry for many questions
Most of all of the principles, concepts, strategies, and tactics apply to men and women alike.
@@chrisseitercoaching OK thank you !
Your welcome Artjom
What about NC to an aspie? I'm hopeless... help!
Its always wise to follow a sensible plan and sometimes that NC - sometimes not. Pop on over to my website as I have lots of content and Podcasts that can help you thru the dark days.
ok so i'm currently in no contact. how am i suppose to know when it's ideal to contact my ex????
How long are you doing no contact for?
Chris Seiter monday will be two weeks.
If your breakup was highly emotional wait 45 days, if it was a typical breakup 30 days and if he's been reaching out a lot during your no contact you can shorten it to 21 days but I wouldn't recommend contacting before 21 days.
@@chrisseitercoaching should I reply when he reaches out during no contact?
No that's part of no contact. You can read about that here. www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule-version-2-0/
Can I be added to the Facebook group
Hi Christine. You can visit my website and learn about my Private Facebook Support Group and much, much more!
I hope I hear back from you Chris.
I was with my ex for a year and a half and yes things happened that wasn't good but there also was alot of good. We could talk for hours about any and everything and this wasn't just in the beginning but through out the entire relationship. I guess I would say I ended things first because of what he said to me and how he acted but then he ended things also so maybe it was mutual but the last day together was bad. I still loved him just couldn't understand him and why he did and said the things he did. But we were supposed to meet in talk in person after things ended but the day we were supposed to meet he only texted me that she was going to be ok, we're still in love and going to try and make things work and that he would never contact me again..
My heart sank. He chose his ex wife over me. But I knew it wouldn't last and I was right.
I did try to call and text when things ended because I loved him and couldn't understand how he could just leave me like he did. It took a long time to get over him, a very long time.
He did call me once but never said anything and I know in my gut he showed up at my apartment but I believe he chickened out on knocking on my door but my little yorkie seen him and was barking and acting weird and when I picked him up to show him that no one was out there I see a truck identical to the truck that he drives and what gave it away that I know it was 100% his truck is he had a big tag hanging from his rear view mirror and I knew it wasn't a handicap tag so I called my sister and asked if her husband had anything hanging from his mirror and she said yes it is a parking pass he got for work aprox a month prior and sent me a picture. It was identified to what was hanging from this mirror.
But just when I was 85 to 90 % over him and this took me 3 1/2 yrs to get to this point, he texted me. First time he texted me in 3 1/2 years. I didn't reply right off, I had him wait for a good 30 to 45 mins. But it was just like old times, we texted as if nothing had ever happened. We ended up talking on the phone and a few weeks later ended up having sex but only once. Things got heated between us again and I was done. Aprox a month or so later he messaged me on the dating site that we are both on and before the conversation ended I told him that he really needed to change his picture because it looks nothing like him and if he did he might get lucky. That is when he said can he be honest and I said yes. He went on to say something about when we were together and how it still makes him so mad that I did that and that if that hadn't happened that we would still probably still be together. I asked him after close to 4 yrs later why does that still hurt you so much. He replied because he truly cared.
I don't know what to make of this because after that he never contacted me again nor would answer my text message, only way he did answer it is when I wrote something to tick him off but once he message me because of that message I let him know that I was only teasing but that is the only way I was able to get him to reply to me.
He also told me when he messaged me back in may of this year and still when we talked and text that he hasn't been with no other women at all except his ex wife twice right after things ended with us a little over 3 1/2 yrs ago. I wish I knew what went through a man's mind.
I wish I knew how he could be so mad at me from something that happened over 4 yrs ago and it was only me getting on his phone but I had a very good reason to do but not going to get into that on here. But he has done things way worse and I have been able to forgive and forget.
How he said he wanted to be honest and said I guess the reason he still is so mad is because he truly cared.
And last but not least that he has not has sex with any other woman except his ex wife right after things ended with us and only twice because he said it was like sleeping with his sister.
But he has only been with me that one night back in may of this year and only me before and after.
So please tell me what I could do or say to get him off his high horse and talk to me and see if he would want to work things out.
I do still care about him but I have no clue what to do or say or not to say. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you and god bless.💕
Kim Sikorski how long has it been since you two broke up?
maybe just be honest with him of what you feel. like just insanely transparent.
I need advice Chris. You had gave me some advice already and no contact really work. Few days silence and he send me a message. We are not together yet but we will going to weeked holiday to spa together on September. What shall I do?
My ex boyfriend also asking do I know any free woman but when I tell him he say he is not intrested even he say she is pretty. And when I say do he know any free man he is silence and ignore that message. He haven't dated any one after our break up. Can it be that he want to know what he feels about me and that's why he want to go to spa with me? Or do I have any change? Yesterday he told me he had a lot of romantic plans for us. And then he said time will show
IS this some big game? He thought I had something with My ex husband and that's why we break up
He's seeing if your still interested. Flirt a little so he doesn't loose hope and keeps trying.
Can i have the link for the fb group
Hi Chryssi!
You can learn more about it here......exrecovery.lpages.co/private-support-group/
Hey Chris I want to be in your private Facebook group!
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