10 Early *WARNING Signs* Of A FEMALE Narcissist
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00:00 Unmasking the Hidden Manipulators
00:33 The Surprising Trait That Reveals Everything
00:59 The Secret Weapon They Use to Reel You In
01:10 Understanding the Need for Validation
01:31 Uncovering the Insecurities They Hide
01:40 The Shocking Reality of Unequal Affection
02:43 Trusting the Whispers Within
03:01 Identifying Lack of Empathy
04:26 Spotting Manipulative Behavior
05:16 The Silent Manipulation Tactic
07:11 Unveiling the Crown
09:48 The Green-Eyed Monster They Can't Tame
11:47 The Feedback They Fear the Most
13:57 The Blame Game They Always Win
15:37 The Strings They Pull to Get What They Want
17:30 The Impossible Standards They Set
19:12 The Trail of Broken Hearts They Leave Behind
20:53 Breaking the Cycle
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Gday Thank you your content is spot on. Do you have a contact email for a general comment and chat? God bless
How do you make the determination on whether or not she is narcissistic, or if it’s ones self who is narcissistic? I’m left very confused in this matter.
"Do you want to come over for dinner? Yes? Cool can you bring xyz and fix the shed and also change the bulb in the bathroom?" Sadly, the lesson is- don't trust people from the start. Don't show your hand. Don't be desperate to be accepted. I guarantee that if you say no, disagree with them from the start, they will discard you almost immediately. A healthy functioning adult would never be upset with you having other plans. Would never be offended if you disagreed with them. Would never get angry if you say no. Do the homework before throwing anymore time away on these emotionally immature, emotionally unavailable folk.
Very easy to spot- usually a sob story about past relationships. Then putting people down- testing to see if you'll be brave enough to disagree with them. Put you down in front of others to see if others will defend you and if you'll stick up for yourself. Pushing boundaries and pretending they had no idea.
This is the most absolute perfect summary of some of my experiences. Here's the thing though. You see all the ex's relationship sob stories in the very beginning, and the devalue, discard, and put downs near the end. At least from my experiences. I have yet to find a woman who doesn't do this. Does take accountability for their past failed relationships and their part in it, and does have a balanced memory of good times, and bad with their exes, or has anything good to say about them or why they were compatible for a time but no longer. They not only rewrite history in their own minds, but play the victim right from the jump, while simultaneously seeking attention from other men, have low self esteem, always seeking validation outside themselves instead of within, and place the entire blame on their past, while refusing to be present with you. Thankfully. I've experienced this enough times to say "HELL NO!" when I see it now, and don't want any part of it or that person.
When I attempted to set boundaries with my narcissist best friend, she would do something mean as payback. Once we went on a 3 day trip to a city a 3 hour drive away. She said she would pay for everything since I was agreeing to be her travel companion (and she has more $$$ than I did). I realized later that this gave her all of the power and the control over the entire trip. On the 3rd morning, I decided to go to the hotel lobby for coffee and to watch the news (since she doesn't drink coffee and would not let me turn on the TV.) When I arrived back to the room, I took my turn in the shower. Unbeknownst to me, she called the bellhop while I was in the shower to pick up out luggage an hour earlier than the agreed upon checkout time as revenge for me going for coffee. When the bellhop knocked on the door, I had curlers in my hair, and my suitcase wasn't packed. When we eventually got into the car, I said, "When did the schedule change? When did the schedule change?" She clamed up and refused to respond and refused to admit to her mean passive-aggressive retaliation.
I was furious the day I sat back and remembered bad things I let slide I literally slapped my head. Now she’s back in the streets dealing with bigger narcs while I’m getting married this summer. I thank God for the woman I got. I ignored smear campaigns and time will avenge me. I cherish more my soon to be wife they are polar opposites
TRUST is a must. My ex combined traits against me (gaslighting, baiting, hyper jealousy, devaluing)
For example a woman could walk across our path as we strolled together through the city and she would accuse me of looking at her even though the only visual contact was the woman passing by my line of vision. She then went into a rant telling me that I was 50 and the woman was 30 and wouldn’t be interested in me at my age so I shouldn’t be looking. My reply was what woman, what are you talking about. She regularly blew my mind with her bullshit
My ex-girlfriend used to call me unempathetic even when I always tried to comfort her in bad times, whenever I'd try to open up about something she'd always say something like, "well you better grow up!" or "I don't even know what to say when you say things like that!"
It's like I was nothing but a tool for her to use for self-validation that she didn't appreciate.
I am the main character of my own story.
Will never be parasitized again like I was by her. Textbook covert narc.
I moved in with a covert female narcissist for nearly a year. She wanted an outlandishly expensive rental house. When I protested, she claimed that she could easily afford it on her own and that I was cowardly for complaining. Foolishly, I listened. She quit two jobs because she didn't feel that they were giving her "what she deserved" and left me paying for everything. On top of that, she figured that I wasn't contributing enough at home even though I cleaned more often. I couldn't be honest with her about anything that I felt because she would always invalidate and attack me for it. The best part is that she instantly wanted to move out when I broke my leg. Everything I sacrificed for her meant literally nothing; it was just expected. Remember: love is real, and there is a place for trust in your life. Don't let a narcissist take away hope and compassion.
WALKING ON EGGSHELLS: We were struggling to pay the rent of the nice house chosen by my ex, so the owner offered me a smaller place in a less expensive neighborhood. One day I decided to check it out and when I was leaving she asked me where I was going. I told her I was going to buy some groceries because I didn't want to start an argument (she was totally opposed to the idea of moving out). But then, on my way out, I thought to myself "what are you doing? she's your wife! just tell her the truth", so I turned around and did just that. As expected, she became angry and we started a fight... In the end she just told me that the only one that was moving out was myself and discarded me in the cruelest way.
sad, hope you are doing better now, you were only trying to do the right thing, I hope you didn't have to pay for her house
One sign is that you find yourself double and triple thinking of how to word things, and not saying certain things because the other person will likely misinterpret it. I’m not talking about the typical way we try to make sure we’re being kind to others, but the feeling that you have to get the wording exactly right otherwise they will either get angry or criticize something you said. Constant criticism no matter how small is abuse and I realize that I have also picked up this habit from my upbringing and and really working hard to catch myself and focus on the positive instead of finding something to nitpick.
They misunderstand you on purpose .. they’re thirsty for your reaction , silence kills the narc .
You will never be enough, do enough, provide enough to satisfy a narcissist. They will still look you right in the eye and accuse you of not appreciating them as much as some other ‘do nothing’ does.
I am the main character in my movie!
Narcissists will try and flip the eggshell thing onto you sometimes. You start having reactive abuse about something out of pocket they said or did and it’s “wow I have to walk around eggshells around you you’re so sensitive”
In reality no, you just don’t consider how things you say or do affect people, because as a narcissist you have your own fantasy world and when you project that onto others in a negative way, of course they’re going to get upset! There is a difference between genuine truth and just being mean.
I constantly can’t share the honest truth with my mom because I know certain things will upset her, make her cry and play victim, or get angry and have an argument with me. I’m simply avoiding conflict yet she says things to start conflict, like bringing up politics or playing on insecurities. When I reveal that this upsets me it’s “sometimes I have to walk around eggshell around you, I’m just being me” like no girl you just wanna fight and provoke me so that it goes along with your fantasy of me being the difficult one 😭😅
Everything's on point, Especially when i dealt with my ex-spouse which has covert NPD. I was pretty much being treated as a servant instead of a mutual spouse. Glad my ex discarded me after we decided to split for good. I DESERVE BETTER!
Indeed! 🙏❤
The feeling was almost as if you couldn’t believe they could act that way. Almost convincing you of their thinking.
Disbelief perfectly describes the feeling after being discarded. How could they do this if they loved me? Well they never really loved us, we were being used.
When I remarried, I married a covert narc. She love bombed me, but after about 6 months of marriage, she started to compare herself to my 1st wife. She wanted me to tell her that she was prettier, that she was sexier, that she was smarter, that she was kinder.
I tried not to compare her to my first wife (a 20 year marriage), but comparing 1st to 2nd seemed to be a behaviour that would produce bad things. 2nd was jealous of my 1st, never understood why.
This describes my covert narc ex to a tee. Chilling to see how obvious it was, but it was my very first relationship, I have a saviour complex, and she exploited it to the max. By the end of the relationship I was doing literally every single piece of housework, including making her breakfast, and giving her a massage every single day. It's embarrassing to admit how much I got conned, but she was incredibly good at playing the victim. She also tricked me into marrying her for a visa, which was her trump card. Because any discussion of our relationship eventually ended in her implying that I wanted her deported. She was truly a vile excuse for a human being who used my empathy against me. I said to my mum that my ex was so manipulative she would shoot herself, get on a life support machine and put the on/off switch in your hands, then guilt you for having soooo much power over her. Sickening.
It's in the past and it's never coming again!
I was married to a covert malignant narcissist for 29 years. They get much worse as they get older. I think she was a sociopath when I divorced her. Don't ignore the warning signs.
I'd like to hear more about how people on the ASD spectrum can recognize and defend against narcissists.
Asking for myself, straight up
I see it halfway through after having already overshared
I dated someone who seemed to have narcissistic traits. She came on very quickly (we moved onto the same street) and was very sexually suggestive. Always complimenting on my sense of humor, accomplishments and looks (not that high on the last lol). But this was when she was new to the area and once she had found her "posse" she almost never reached out to me. When she did she expected me to drop what I was doing no matter the time or schedule. Always her friends first. Always talking down about them and making fun of them when with me.
She had been very honest about "issues" with her husband which was then her ex. But then I saw she was treating me the same way. Cold shoulder if she didn't get her way. Talking about other guys all the time. And then tell me how these other guys didn't understand how I wasn't "more into her" if I didn't give in. I volunteered to talk to them but she backed down quickly and acting like it was joke. I found she would boomerang around with these guys when I wouldn't give in and then come back a few weeks or a month or so later wanting to pick up where we left off. It finally ended when I told her current (at the time) boyfriend about how she was trying to hook up with me and showed him the texts. Of course she flipped out on me. But thankfully that was the last time I interacted with her.
Sounds like a good thing you got out when you did 🙏❤
Yep- You have to trust your Gut Instinct !!
They are 100% PHONEY BALONEY SAD ATTENTION SEEKING CONTROL FREAKS !!- Waste of Oxygen and Floor Space
My mother constantly seeks praise and will put herself down to fish for it, or boast about herself in hopes you’ll agree. I notice this and it makes me so annoyed, so I don’t give her the praise she wants, and yes this makes her so mad! I’m sorry, but I have a different perspective of her from the experiences I’ve had with her and I’m not going to play along and lie. She gets increasingly more passive aggressive and guilt trips even harder when she doesn’t get the validation she wants. Says things like “You just hate me” “if you have it in your heart…” or if I show I care it’s “wow you actually do love me”
I could try my best to give this woman compassion and kindness, and even when I do it is never enough. I could give and give but if it’s not exactly she wants, my efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated.
Thank you for this!!
I DESERVE HAPPINESS
I'm amazed on how much red flags I missed in the earlier dating stages. We were together for 9 years and married for 5 of them. Upside, I'm finding myself again and it feels great!
me too I am amazed but so many people nowadays seem Cluster B and a lot of the mistakes narcs make just seem like pure stupidity or social ineptitude. Never knew it was something deeper.
It's too late to save me. The discard went down, and now I am broken.
Maybe too late to save you from the early signs, but you won't feel this way forever. It gets much better from here, 🙏❤
@@CommonEgo Thank you for what you do. 😘
The discard won't be permanent. They'll reach out when something else hurts them, or when they have some reason to use you to make their new partner jealous.
Give them an ultimatum to apologise and admit fault if they want to keep in contact. They are pathologically incapable, will turn it around on you and give you the silent treatment. It's a win win for both of you at that point, and you can move on.
Your looking at the discard the wrong way. It’s what will save you from years of hell with that person. Now that you know what NPD is take the time to educate yourself on this sick behavior so you never repeat it again in your life. You may be broken for now. Stand up and take your life back one day at a time. I wish you all the best. If I can do it after 38 years with a Narc you can to. It all starts with you.
You've already been spared. Take the discard, change your number, move on ❤
My ex of 18 years read tons of books and loved Stephen King, Dean Koontz, etc. and I just love horror movies , especially geeking out of special effects and editing tricks. You’d think we’d have made a connection through this content, but I realize that the reason she can read the novel and not watch the movie is because she controls the reality in a novel. The movie shows you what the horror is, gore and all. There’s no escaping the director’s reality but to leave the theater.
Alas, it was of no consequence to know this about her. I had been walking on eggshells for a decade with 2 kids in tow just trying to be a good dad and partner and one day I’d had enough. Currently in isolation but not alone nor unsupported, just taking a moment to myself so to speak. My children get a different experience when they visit me. Their mom is a good mom and I can at least rest assured she will care for them. As a positive result, we made two fabulous children who make me so happy and starting over at 52 is kind of invigorating 😂
What’s also hard is when people don’t see the red flags and then have children. All this is pretty much to a T for my mother and my dad doesn’t have a good relationship with me because he takes her side on everything. Even to the point she was upset that he was grieving his mom when she died. I get it tho because once I started standing for myself I was ousted.
My mother definitely has covert narc traits and I started noticing this in a friend I have recently grown apart from. We had an up and down friendship for about 7 years and at first she seemed so sweet. Then I noticed small things like me leaving a sweatshirt at her place and a week later she’s wearing it, leaving liquor at her place and in two days it being drank. Small things turned into big things. She had disowned me once because I didn’t text her for two weeks. She was moving away and her moving date changed to much earlier than I was told, but she never updated me. I tried my best with the little maturity I had at the time to fix it. She threw a going away party and purposely didn’t invite me, then called me (from another friends phone) drunk crying at the party cause I wasn’t there. I actually showed up and thought we talked it out, I always felt like communication was a two way street. We made plans to get lunch the next day and she “didn’t remember”. I tried to hangout every minute I had available before she left and she was always “busy” and eventually on her last day she blew up at me, freaked out on me and I was in shock. I had no idea she thought so badly of me the entire time we were friends, it hurt pretty bad.
She continued to slander my name to mutual friends and made indirect posts about me all over her social media for a long time, we didn’t even speak at this point. I would go on vacation? She would post about how her living location is always a “vacation”. She started to mimic me, copy me, while claiming she hated me. It got so frustrating.
We actually reconciled but it’s never been the same and she remains states away. It’s hard to trust her again. We’ve definitely grown apart, a lot factors into it but thankfully no big blowout has occurred. I noticed her copying and competition tendencies reappear after she went online, specifically picked out almost the exact same jeep I used to have, same color, same year, very similar model. It’s something so small but it was truly my last straw. We don’t speak anymore and I have to be okay with it.
I came to the conclusion that after our first fight I was always trying to prove that I was a good friend to her because I felt like I had truly messed up, giving parts of myself away and not getting much in return. When I backed away and failed at meeting her expectations the cattiness came out again and everything was a competition. It’s frustrating because it feels like she’s getting away with a crime 😂 I’ve grown up a lot and by observing her behavior online and how petty she gets when having a problem, I’d say I have outgrown her. You are who you surround yourself with and I’m happy I had the opportunity to disconnect from her and grow, even if it takes some mourning ✨
I am the main character of my own story..... And it feels GOOD!! 👍Kx
Love it! 🙏❤
I m the main character of my own story, and its never late to realise it 💜
I am the main character of my story!
This is also Borderline structure ( reason why they are very difficult patients and hard to change!)
So you're telling me that being discarded for not driving to her in a tornado warning and her saying my mom was lucky to be gone to not have to deal with me is probably a sign she was a covert narcissist? I only stayed because her life was in turmoil and I wanted to help save her. Starting to realize a few things 😮
Yes that’s the kicker, you can’t save anyone else. A lesson I’ve had to learn the hard way a few times.
TRUST IS A MUST!
I'm autistic too and am glad someone else brought that into the conversation. My needs were never respected. And I would always just let shit slide and make excuses for her and compartmentalize individual instances and never put all the examples together. Eventually I did put it all together, but she'd already wreaked havoc on my self and my life.
I keep my engagement ring on my keychain as a reminder -- NEVER AGAIN
My narc ex wife made me late to my own grandmothers funeral
I take accountability for my faults and do my best to make amends. At the beginning of our relationship. My X cared about being together. As time went on. My X seemed to check out, display her insecurities, and lash out. Just physically here but empty soul. My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. It's been a few months of self-healing and overcoming the trauma bond. So far, so good. I have my salvation
Once I was reading about dancing with the stars. Then the ex-wife walked in. When she saw what I was doing, she stomped out the room and gave me the silent treatment all weekend. When she finally talked, she said that she was upset about me looking at naked women.... Again I was literally on the ABC website, and reading about dancing with the stars. The women were fully dressed. But according to her, they were naked women because their outfits were so revealing.
I deserve HAPPINESS!
trust is a MUST!
Just unhooked from a Christian narcissist after 20 years. Thank God.
Trust is a must
Okay, that was so spot on it's basically scary... thanks for your videos, I really wish I had been educated about this before marrying someone who checks basically all those red flags...
Unless they are my very close friends that I have known forever, or my own family members, I am not saving anyone.
you had the twist her arm to get her to apologize and when she did it didn't seem genuine. It was just "I'm sorry". Absolutely never again!
Hey Christina!! I’m good at spotting those signs real quick! 🧐😂😘♥️
I'll bet.... you should start a channel!! 😆 Hope all is well! 🙏❤
@BigPete44 Likely a painful experience getting that knowledge.
Not sure what you meant at 16:47 by 'when the trauma bond takes hold' ... but I think that happened to me. THANK YOU for the wonderful content !!
9:16 this is so true. Or even birthday week. A friend of mine got upset with me when I had invited a few neighbors over for a glass of wine on the back deck on a Saturday night. Well this particular neighbor in question was having a couple over for dinner with she and her husband. She was upset that I had invited neighbors over, including her and her husband because I was stealing her thunder from her birthday week and weekend. Her birthday was Friday. As if to say no one else can do anything on a night that she’s having a few folks over for dinner. What she didn’t know is that her husband was in on a surprise birthday party I was throwing for her. And so was the couple dinner at her house. And so were all of the neighbors. it was a heavy hors d’oeuvres party plus drinks and dessert. Her husband kept texting me from their kitchen saying he was having a hard time getting her to walk across the street to my house long after they had finished dinner. They eventually got around to coming over. Imagine her surprise when she saw all the balloons and the signs and realized I was throwing a surprise 50th birthday party for her. About halfway through the party a couple of neighbors pulled me aside and told me all the bad things she had said about me having the audacity to invite folks over. When I confronted my neighbor about it at the end of the party since she was the last to leave she said “ I’m over it now.” I was very hurt and let her know. I never saw her the same again. I was cordial and that’s about it. She and her husband moved out of state. I’ll never forget the entitlement she felt expecting everyone to not do anything special together because it would interfere with her birthday week.
Your first sign could be a result of her not understanding why you love her. I couldn't even leave the house without her wanting to be with me. I had this happen with my wife, and I asked why she loved me. Then I told her you can't define love, and all the signs and actions that went along with this disappeared.
I had a girlfriend who wanted to marry me over to my friend's house. She then set me up with a sit down with her male cousin. She then asked me how I felt about her cousin, and I told her I felt bad for him, because of his situation. You could see her whole plan just blow up in her face. If she had told me face to face about her concern, then she wouldn't have put herself in that position. Now granted I had to work with my wife on speaking up, but she never tried to manipulate me like this girlfriend. I wanted to marry her as well, but I look back on it as escaping a bullet.
I am very lucky to have the wife I do.
7 months in and my narcissist is flashing illumines red lights at me. But today she got me got good and left me feeling like “huh, wtf, how!?!” .. joking together about dogs looking like their owners - she states that her and her dog look alike, we laugh - i then make a cheeky joke playing on the “dogs look like their owners” i say “yh, your husband Boots - you show him more love than me” .. she lost her shit, broke down in tears and told me i’m disgusting, and now and i have made her feel like she’ll never get married. (Dying with laughter on the inside, but holding a straight face) ..
Not sure if this is weird entitlement or just straight crazy in the head. Lol
…….. I’m running, i’ve seen enough.
Great video.
Well done.
I deserve happiness! Thank you for this video.
Over all the videos that I have watched, the silent treatment, the cold shoulder is the most common red flag that must not be ignored.Keeps coming up over and over again
Growth over EGO!!! YES!!!
Trust is definitely a must !
NEVER again!
Thank you. I have experienced everyone one of these traits of my ex gf. We were together for 8 years. And I am the one that always came back to her asking for forgiveness. I feel like I have been used emotionally, financially, intimately, and mentally. I finally ended it almost 4 months ago. And it was hard to get over, but I feel so much better now that I broke up with her. I had dealt with lies, manipulation, shaming, feeling like nothing I did mattered, turning things around and making it about her and how she played victim. She had broken me mentally,l and emotionally. I hit a very low and was depressed and had bad anxiety. I was happy, independent, and outgoing before I meant her. I feel like I wasted years being with her for so long and that I could have been with someone who treated me better.
Really appreciate your videos.
I managed to break free permanently from a female narc over 6 months ago and I'm pretty far removed from those soul crushing early days. Watching your videos helps me remember not only the experiences I went through but the progress I made.
Also that there are always new victims in a desperate state who I'm certain are getting much needed comfort and courage as a result of your wonderful videos - as you did for me! #NeverAgain
The female Covert narcissists is truly cruel and evil
Trust is a must!
I saw her manufacture an argument with her friend before her Birthday so that she would grovel to be back in her graces! She did the same to me before my Birthday but this time I’d seen the manipulation play out and wasn’t going to buy it. Constantly giving totally stranger men lewd glances and setting me up in situations to “save her”. I know this wasn’t normal as i never had this with my previous girlfriend who actually had more of the attributes impulsive types of men go for. Now she ignores me but tries to provoke me constantly with other men.
Basically every single red flag described (except for birthday month part) is spot on. Wish I paid more attention before I got attached and later discarded about over a year ago. I deserve happiness and I deserve better.
Many male narcissists will claim narc behavior from women being "that's how women are". It's not
It's one thing if you ask someone to do errands and they've piled up, plus it's an emergency. In that case, should have taken care of them as they came along.
No one wants a lazy partner who won't take care of anything when you're down and out, needing to physically recover.
Got mixed up with a married couple. The female narcissist caused so many problems for the guy, that he chose to find comfort in me. I didnt consent but i did consent. Idk. Its weird. I feel bad fr him. I wanted to comfort him but i didnt think hed take it that far. He took my kindness as a go ahead. This all could have been avoided if she didnt treat him badly. The poor dude is messed up after 25 years of being around her. I feel for him. He managed to leave her for the most part. They have kids. I unfortunately work with her and shes quite a gaslighter and cant understand why im setting boundaries with her. She always blames they guy for everything. I think he needs to seek professional help and i hope hes doi g alright. He did sincerely apologize to me for his behavior so im not mad. He had to get a new job because of her. He justs wants her to care and shes just blaming him for everything. It doesnt sit right with me. I met him at work. He never talked much about her, but did when she gaslit him and he was upset. Shes been trying to gaslight me now, because he doesnt wanna talk to her. She is the reason i got dragged into the whole mess. Its insane. I hope they transfer her to a different crew. She never shuts up.
trust is a must!!
Time investment is a reason used to hang onto the people.
I DESERVE BETTER!!! Yessss!!!
I acknowledge it is the month of my birth but to celebrate the whole month... 😬😬😬 I couldn't even do that for myself let alone ask others to do it!
I have difficulty with criticism but not cause I'm a narcissist cuz I grew up with constant criticism and I can't deal with it cuz I'm living in a toxic environment
I deserve happiness!
Trust is a must.
Growth over ego
Once My ex-wife sat down next to me, and started eating nachos. Which was fine, but she was crunching them really loud, LoL. So I asked her to not do it so loudly. Well, that led to a meltdown that lasted two weeks. According to her, I was saying that she was fat. I think that's when the egg shell walking began.
Wow. That's crazy
Growth over ego.
Could you do a video on manipulation/narcissism outside of a romantic partnership? For example friend, coworker, spiritual coach, business service provider, etc
In laws!!!
NEVER AGAIN!
Thanks!
Thanks Bill! 🙏❤️
I deserve better !
Never Again!
Growth over Ego
As of about a week ago I am the main character of my own story and I remain to keep it that way😊
It’s a minefield out there! I need a mine detector! 😂
My ex convinced me I had BPD for getting upset when she went for last minute sleepovers alone at her male "friend's" houses that she never saw in a group.
I also got the big red flag in the beginning of all the stories of horrible exes. She did everything she said her exes did to her, to me during our relationship. The pain flipped to humor after she dumped me and said "this is now 5 boyfriends in a row who've had personality disorders.". All diagnosed by an unqualified flawless victim of course.
Do you know what lesson it is trying to teach you?
Never Again
I deserve the best!
NEVER again
I disagree about celebrating your birthday month You can be a healthy person & celebrate yourself in a healthy way with the people you love. You just might have several different groups of people in your life to do that with.
That's kinda my take too. Birthdays *are* special when you care about someone. But I suspect people who agree with that commenter have encountered a lot of entitlement around the birthday month thing 🙏❤
Wish I saw your videos early in my last relationship. She wasn’t necessarily a narcissist but had a form of borderline very similar. Or maybe she was both but she was toxic and I became toxic and it’s been a year and I’m just now starting to get strong and back to being my old self.
To those that are going through this , leave get healthy. You deserve better, it’s the only way things get better. It’s abuse!
Secondly rely on friends and family and if you are/were cut off from family and friends it’s time to make amends.
Her attractiveness is no reason to stay in a relationship. Learned the hard way. Almost literally killed me. Be better than me.
GROWTH over EGO
I am the main character of my own story. I deserve happiness. (Not being only the subject of a joke) No I do not know anyone male or female who expects that their birthday be celebrated for a whole month. Like when more than one of their close relatives have been born in the month of July. Trust is a must. I deserve better. Never again. Thank you "common ego" for offering us the right to yell those slogans sometimes on occasion too whenever that would be appropriate to the situation. Instead of dutifully after being handed a vial of prescriptive drugs taking it to the front door after opeing it; taking the lid off of it; - And then chucking it out onto the front lawn. Something that cops who are sensible would approve of too. Unlike the enviornmentalists. Kind of like the hullabaloo which went on for awhile about the danger of children taking knobs off of the T.V. too for awhile. We are not sure if that was because of the cops or the enviornmentalists.
Absolutely! 💯
Dear Common Ego, why have you literally hit every target in my last marriage!!! thank you for your videos!!! (^_^)
Not just ex's. Female family members! It's so clear now but my goodness how much my brain used to hurt feeling and thinking what the heck did I do! What's wrong with me? Why do females in my family treat me like this. I must be shit.e do better, try harder, be nicer, etc etc still get the same results, actually worse! Now my eyes are open and my mind working overtime in the other direction what do I do now? Can't leave but I can stop engaging ... that's really really really hard sometimes. I see a funny picture post and think to share it with the narcissist but quickly realise I'm engaging with them. It's hard isn't it. I've walked away from my fair share of toxic people only because they're not family. When you love your family no matter how they treat me I find this the hardest.
Never again!!!
Sounds like my X. I'm free like a genie out of the bottle.
Red flags...... take it or leave it. I am learning to leave without further questioning. Bye.
I deserve Better!
So true
I wish I knew all this. We wouldn't have got fooled.
I am the character of my own story!!!!
Never again!!!!!
Never again!
I Deserve Happiness. 💯