Huge Retirement Money Traps - How To Avoid Retirement Fears
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- Which money decisions that can damage your retirement, how to avoid making big mistakes that will impact your comfortable retirement and prevent retirement fears. Retirees need to be aware of family financial pressures and deal with requests from your grown up children and grandchildren for money.
Without a regular pay check you could create financial problems for yourself by being too helpful to your family. Learn to say no and value the pension money and savings you have, you need this for the rest of your life.
We show you many situations where it could be so easy for you to loose money, we give you some tools to make thoughtful decisions and deal with family requests for your money. Don't succumb to retirement fears or family pressure for loans.
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I very much agree with gifting rather doing a loan. Do you want to be that person's banker or their parent or grandparent? Can't have it both ways.
Great comment Mary we agree, hope you are having a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺🙂
@@ThisIsOurRetirement Think about this: parents have capital, which they would like to invest in real estate and child who also would like to buy a home, but doesn't have the money. Giving money would have tax consequences. But loaning money to the child for buying a home and using that as loan guarantee, would give the possibility to gradually over the years give smaller gift sums without tax consequences. The child would benefit from the possible increase in the value while parents could get some interest to their capital and perhaps also payments of the capital.
Parents often, because of their more stable economic situation, can have access to cheaper loans as their children.
If you plan to give money to your children as gifts and/or inheritance, loans can be a tool to make it more cheaply.
But of course this is like any financial arrangement, where you need to be aware of the counter party risks. And relationship with own family can be too complicated and difficult to make such arrangements, I can understand that.
But you have to remember there are family businesses and other situations, where such situations are unavoidable.
Thanks for your comment Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
It’s Friday night, Nooohm. You’d better be editing up a storm.
@@elterrifico9522 You bet El it’s not a storm Norms doing but a Tornado 🌪 coming see you Tomorrow 🍷🍺
My parents "gave" one of my siblings a "loan." It was never paid back. It grated on my parents for years that no payment was forthcoming. One day a nice sum of money appeared in my bank account. Asked my Mom what is this? She said she discussed it with my Dad and they agreed it wasn't fair to all of us (5 kids); once they could afford it, they gave the other 4 kids the same amount. That sibling never got another dime out of my parents.
Wow that story is very close to home thanks for sharing Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I hit the lottery years ago. Not the mega amounts that make the news but a nice chunk. It wasn't long until I was hearing from distant family members I've not seen in 30 years calling for loans. Some weren't politely asking some were demanding, some almost threatening. It was quite upsetting and for a bit I was sorry I won the money. I focused on what I could do to make this a totally positive experience for me and it came to me it's finally time I grew up and learned to say 'no' without guilt. the first was a cousin I've not seen in decades and didn't really like even back then, I told her 'no' and then declined to continue the conversation with her why I should owe her a loan/gift. I discovered if I didn't continue to engage in her tirade she had no power to continue to try to manipulate it. It was quite a freeing experience. I did it, I could say 'no' without guilt and learned to not carry on a conversation that didn't serve me emotionally. The win did turn into a totally beneficial experience. I invested, saved, donated sleep peacefully I served the money in my own way.
Wow what a story thanks for sharing and we are so glad it worked out in the end for you , sometimes it’s hard but you do have to learn to say no in life . Have a great week Cheers 🍷🌺🙂
I am so grateful to own a house in the downtown area of a small quaint town 30 minutes south of Atlanta. It has a separate two bedroom apartment with it’s own garage and a separate entrance. The income from the apartment pays for the upkeep of the main house where I reside.
Sounds like a great plan in place Pam have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🇺🇸🇨🇦🌺🙂
Watching your videos about 10-15 years before retirement makes me feel as if I am at a HUGE advantage as we approach your phase of life. Thank you for the thoughtfulness you put into your content.
Wow, thank you! glad you are enjoying them have a nice weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Same! This just popped up on my feed today. God wants me to be prepared! 🙂
Me too! Such great advice!
Tina and Norm, I remember when I was even a teenager my grandmother would proudly announce, "I'm on a senior's pension," when dealing even with business people and often she got a bargain and rightfully so.
David your Grandmother sounded like an awesome women, nothing wrong with what she said.
Another great video; you are not afraid to address the elephant in the room.
A few years ago I lost a friend when I said no to her request for a loan. I felt that the friend was very unreasonable for asking; and I said no because I saw her as irresponsible with money.
There is a saying “ a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush” so I took my CPP ten years ago at the age of 60. I wasn’t going to wait 10 more years for a bigger cheque. I did the math, and considered other factors, like my neighbour who died on the day he was eligible to collect his first CPP cheque. Ten years later, I am still satisfied with the decision I made back then.
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment, we feel if we can share ideas it might help one person who would be unaware of a point or give strength to someone who is facing a decision like you had to. We feel the same as you about CPP. Have a nice weekend.
Your comment about inheritances is so right on. I've seen multiple situations where people didn't get expected inheritances. In one case, the person did no retirement money planning because of an anticipated inheritance and now she is in a terrible financial situation. Always view an inheritance as a possible bonus not a sure thing.
Great comment Jenny and so true , have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I would not leave an inheritance to a someone who didn't plan for her own retirement. It shows great irresponsibility, and immaturity. I would rather leave it to a charity.
People often think their elder relatives are doing better than they really are. Life is complex and expensive.
Interesting point, thank you!
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Great advice. It's tough and necessary to set boundaries and limits, and it can be an uncomfortable conversation but you explain it so plainly and sincerely which will help your listeners take this important stance. Thank you.
@@Pops2 Your very welcome have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌺😎
Another one is helping adult children with starting a small business. So many fail, especially food or restaurants. My parents helped a sibling with a restaurant startup, a sure thing. They cashed out retirement funds to “buy in” and be part owners. It was profitable only after 5 years, and I’m sure they put additional capital into operations. 7 years in it folded, in debt. It hurt parent’s retirement. They also said it would come out of her share of inheritance, but that was not the case when the last parent passed. If you really do want to leave something to children, consider these things along the way, it does impact the future and relationships. Btw, my daughter wants me to spend every dime having fun in retirement ❤😆
Thanks for sharing Janet very sad when something like that happens Cheers 🍷🙂🌺
Some people out there might not like what you're saying, but you are spot on accurate. I've seen families tear themselves apart because of loans, co-signing, inheritance, etc. As usual, great points. I'm glad your channel is gaining popularity. It's well deserved.
Thanks Mark, the truth can be painful but being informed is half the battle. Thanks for watching and making a great comment.
Good point about your house owning you! Once I adopted that “millionaire next-door“ mindset of not defining myself by my possessions or achievements, it made a huge difference! I don’t care if my house is much smaller than my friends or if we drive an old car or if I don’t have the latest fashions. I know I have a lot more net worth than all my friends who have those things 🤑
Love that! thanks for sharing have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
It's so much better to be able to sleep at night without worries. And have the money to pay for necessities ahead. For example, hubby has to have dental implants and that cost 6k in NYC. He became deaf in 1 ear last week, after years of wearing hearing aids. We probably have a huge copay or deductible for the cochlear implant ahead. So glad we have the money saved.
@@sct4040 absolutely! I totally agree. I hope everything goes well with that procedure!🙏
We don’t have kids but we have friends that do and many are seemingly incapable of ever saying no to them, even to the point of putting themselves in financial distress at an age they can’t possibly ever recoup losses. We know so many retirees raising their grandchildren so any “me” time has gone out the window. Every single thing you said here is so true and I hope this might help parents and grandparents to have the courage to say “no”
Thanks so much for your so true comment Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Its amazing to see how like minded you two are. My wife and I diverge on many subjects. I hope we can close ranks like you two have. Thank you for the inspiration.
You are welcome Tom have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
So much easier listening to a couple talk about retirement than a financial advisor. You put it in simplistic terms that people can understand and relate to. Keep the good work! I am 55 next year and shall be watching closely! Cheers!
Our pleasure! glad you are enjoying our videos Peter our stories are real as it’s our life we are just sharing with others Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Your last tip about not relying on an inheritance was probably the best point. You never know what will happen or if a person's Will will be changed at the last minute, etc.
We think so, thanks for watching.
Cool T-shirt Norm ;) Renting not an option for me, there are way too many 'renovictions' going on and the idea that anyone can kick you out at anytime scares the $hit out of me. Downsize, execute major repairs while you are still working(roof/hvac/windows) in the last 5 years of your career and make sure you have $ set aside for maintenance and future repairs.
We are all different for us it worked out perfect , renting with rent control and from a large corporation Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
These are very great suggestions, spot on. However, in my case I live in a market where rents have escalated quickly and are now seriously out of reach for many working people, never mind a retired single person on social security. The lucky thing for me: 11 years ago I bought/moved into a centrally-located low-priced condo. I front-loaded the loan payments in the beginning while I was working, then refinanced such that now I can pay the small remaining mortgage and the HOA, and all my other monthly expenses entirely with social security. It's not easy, and as you say I've had to pay special assessments once in awhile, but it's a fraction of the rents in my area. Great walkability near a park and on the bus line. If buying choose your location, try to find a building that doesn't display deferred maintenance, and take the very smallest unit you can live with because the HOAs (which always go up) are based on the percentage your unit's square footage is of the total.
Thanks for sharing we are glad your plan has worked out for you have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
My wife and I were the ones to always pick up the bill before retirement and we were happy to do it. 2 sons in university that we funded and we knew this was a short period of time and we were both working. Now, both sons working full time we have no problem saying NO to them. Still love to help out with babysitting etc. but it’s our time now! Took a bit of time for them to understand our relationship changed but they get it now after a bit of resistance!
Thanks for sharing your story have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Great advice! We expect to have a quite comfortable retirement. It’s all of the reasons why we are not going to divulge to anyone how well we’re doing 🤫 we keep a low profile anyway. We plan on traveling often and like you’ve said, we’ve earned it!!! Thanks again for your sound, practical advice
Sounds like a great plan Darcell fly under the radar, thanks so much for watching. 😀😀
wow so honest about loans to close family members!
Thanks for watching glad you liked it Cheers 🍷🌺🙂
Great job you two!! I enjoy your videos and watch every one to make sure we are prepared to enter the next phase of our journey, The Retirement Years, which if all goes as planned is only 4 years away. I have heard so many retirees' that have found themselves in the situations you discussed.
Awesome! Thank you! hopefully Teri you have the heads up have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Excellent video! When you spoke of the condos it reminded me of when, in 2008 or 9, in the midst of the housing crisis, a friend of ours lived in a townhouse community (in the US). So many units in his HOA were in foreclosure. The HOA was not getting the usual amounts of monthly dues and therefore closed down the pool and fired the landscaping company. Meanwhile, the residents who were able to stay were expected to continue to pay the same amount but with greatly reduced services. Yikes!
Thanks for sharing your story Kristi have a wonderful week Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Hey Tina and Norm! Great to see this video today on money traps to avoid in retirement. It makes sense that you rent now as owning a home is crazy expensive with all the upkeep and overhead, especially if something major goes out, it could be thousands and thousands of dollars! After hearing what you guys said about kids and grandkids being expensive, we are just thankful that we don't have any LOL!! But it is true that people tend to go to the eldest member of the family if they need a loan or help in any way. Glad you guys have a trailer so if one of your kids needed to live there -- they could instead of at your house LOL!! Great video and love you guys to the moon! 💖🥰🌛
Hi Bears and Butters hope you are both keeping well lovely to hear from you we are so glad we rent and don’t have stress and unexpected maintenance and expenses of owning a home 🏡.
We are counting down the days till we can go to the trailer this week we are hopefully going to temps of 15° yippee!!
Take Care and have a wonderful week Cheers 🍷🇺🇸🌻🇨🇦🍺🤗
Thanks again you two! So much wisdom, things I never would have thought about! Thanks
Our pleasure! enjoy your weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Great advice(as usual). I appreciate and respect that you were able to discuss this in a calm, objective and rational way. You brought up some very important points, especially about dealing with financial assistance requests from relatives. Discussing such matters in an unemotional way is so important. Take care and have a great week. 👍🤗❤🙏🌎
Thanks for your comment John glad you enjoyed it we appreciate your support hope you have a great day Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I just read a story about seasonal campers at a recently sold to new owners campground in Door County Wisconsin getting a 71% increase in year to year rate fees. And if they didn't like the fee increase they have 3 weeks to vacate the property . Being notified this late into the booking season most campgrounds are already booked for seasonal use, so they're kinda stuck paying the increase .. They'd have 2 choices: 1 pay the increase while probably seeking alternative seasonal spaces for next year or 2 if possible move their campers into storage and seek alternative camping spots for future years. I'd imagine after years of camping in one location, getting used to having the same neighbors season after season etc.. having a huge increase in rent must derail quite of few campers/retirees who are just barely covering their month to month expenses.
That is a very sad story Mark thanks for sharing we have heard of a similar situation, there is really no answer we don’t know why they do it . We hope that doesn’t happen to us 😱have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
A friend here in the US just purchased a camper in a seasonal campsite mountain area in the Southeast... but he plans to live there fulltime 12 months annually, he bragged how low the monthly rental fee of $250 (excluding other expenses) is currently... I'm sure he never figured the possibility of the fee increases... he would be shocked if that happened, his low-retired-fixed-income is why he bought the used camper outright that was already established at the campsite... guess he'll adjust if that happens, perhaps less golf.
Thank you, really enjoy watching your weekly videos. It is nice to be reminded of all the pitfalls that we have to navigate in our retirements, I thought it was going to be a great time to look forward to, but along came the pandemic and children seem to take so much longer to grow up these days. Your conversation reminds us that we are not alone in this life of constant dilemas. Stay safe and Cheers.
Hi Nair We never stop being parents, yes the pandemic has taken a big bite out of our travel plans. Stay safe too.
You are so, so right! You are reiterating what my late husband used to say, and what he told his adult children. That didn't stop them from asking.
Thanks for sharing Roberta , hope you are enjoying a nice weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
You are so down to earth. I love that your videos are so informative. Your topics are always given in a way that everyone knows you genuinely care and want to help others. I ❤️ your channel. I am learning a lot, about travel, retirement, and life. Thank you!
You are so welcome! glad you enjoy them Lynn have a wonderful week Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Tina and Norm, you guys are Terrific together. You complement each other Extremely well ! I am so glad you are straight up and honest and do not try to "sugar coat" things like so many Vloggers do. Thank you !
Thanks Phil that’s great to hear have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍺🌻🍷
Great video! I can relate to so many of your points and have been guilty of them. Being a single woman with adult children who are not in financially great positions (one moved back in with me) I realize I need to be so much more careful with my money now. Thank you for reminding me!!
You never stop being a parent and caring Karen , have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I totally agree with your point about relying on an inheritance being risky. You may think that you will get a big chunk of change when your parents die, but it's quite possible that they may encounter big expenses late in life, such as assisted living costs, which could significantly deplete the inheritance you're expecting. Amazingly, some people actually factor in possible lottery winnings into their retirement planning, too.
Thanks Doug for sharing , think if you factor in lottery winnings for your retirement you really are off track LOL 😂have a great week Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Loved this video, all points are so true. It really mad3 me smile regarding paying for the family meals and our kids expecting us to carry on paying and also when they come to us and say “can I just borrow …” as you know you will never see that money repaid 😀
Absolutely!! guess they always get used to us being the parents Jacqui , have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Incredible video guys!! Having been a banker and a CPA, everything you said is right on the money!!
Thanks for a wonderful compliment Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I think it is extremely important to communicate with your children regarding finances and expectations. Also, to be fair and treat each child equally. We never know the future, just because 1 child said she will study pharmacy, doesn't mean she will actually go into the profession. People do change. The child who didn't have a college major in mind, might turn out to be the one who makes the money. 😊I should know 😊.
The resentment from treating children unequally will last forever and destroy relationships way past the parent's lifetime.
Thanks for your comment we have and always will treat both our children equally hoping you have a wonderful week Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
i will watching for all of these money traps . thanks so much for posting
Your welcome Stephen glad you enjoyed it Cheers 🍷🌺😎
You both are so realistic and helpful. Thanks for building up our confidence as we are in or close to retirement.
You are very welcome 🍷🌺
My goodness, you guys are so wise as usual!!! What an excellent job you're doing. I look forward to your videos and I always learn loads. Thanks for your advice and your common sense approach to life in retirement. I've already been tapped a couple of times by friends and family but it's worked out so far. I'm learning never to discuss my financial situation with ANYONE! Stay safe and have a great week.
Thank you so much! glad you are enjoying our videos we hope you have a wonderful week Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I have a part time volunteer “job” in which I help job seekers with job search skills. Working with the job seekers every day I have encountered many people who are in their late 60s or 70s and have lost their retirement savings. It is heartbreaking! My mothers 2nd husband in his 90s was very mentally sharp EXCEPT he got suckered into so many scams!!! It was so sad to see him lose money time and again 😩
That is so sad 🥲 thanks for sharing have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🇺🇸🌻🇨🇦🍺
Thank you for sharing another thoughtful and interesting topic. I always learn so much from you two ⭐
Our pleasure! have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Thank you, Tina and Norm. Much appreciated information as even sometimes nephews and nieces and even friends ask for a cosigner. If they try with me, I'll run to the hills.
Glad to hear your learning in class David LOL 😂enjoy your weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Great video, so many great points. I was always thinking I should pay for dinner at a restaurant and it was actually my kids that said "no you got it last time" I also sold my house and purchased a condo, fortunately my condo fees are low as I bought in a brand new building. I had thought I would stay here until they took me out in a box. However after watching your videos and seeing the value of the condo almost double (lucky me) I am thinking I will probably sell and rent an apartment in the next few years. I had only looked at keeping my cost of living down I had not even thought of the interest from the money paying my rent. This is why videos like yours are so wonderful as it gets you to think about the alternatives to how you are managing.
Thanks for sharing Maureen those Condo fees do rise even in new buildings, we are pleased you are finding our videos helpful have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I love your videos! You always give sound advice to consider. I agree that, whether you are lending money or a book, lend it as though it is a gift as it is never guaranteed to be returned.
Lovely comment and so true thanks for sharing enjoy your weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Agree with everything you said. We are in the process of getting our house ready to sell. Downsizing - its too big and too much maintenance. Very good advice on all counts!!!!
Thanks so much Erin, we wish you well with your downsizing!
You two are so sweet together. My cousin weaseled his way into my parents life and the farm was given to him rather than my bother and I. This type of thing happens way more often than people think. Thank God I am not relying on inheritance for my retirement. All of your points are much appreciated.
"Inheriting farms and cottages" - there's so much family drama surrounding those topics that someone could probably do a RUclips channel on each or both of them !
Steve
I had a problem with my brother....
I asked all my customers back when I worked and almost everyone said yes they had a different situations, but some said that it was smooth because there was no money to spilt
I'm very sorry to hear of this terrible situation. Unbelievable what some people will do.
Thanks for sharing so sorry to hear , we had a sibling rivalry that destroyed our parents plan so absolutely we know how you feel 🤗 have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Interesting idea Steve , it also destroys families too Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Another great video and tips sledgehammered that like button stay safe awesome and blessed enjoyed and shared
Thanks for the visit have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🇺🇸🌻🇨🇦🍺
A couple years ago we informed our kids they are adults now and would be removed from our cell phone accounts, AAA membership, Amazon Prime access, etc. They were a bit surprised as they had paid us their share of the cell phone plan each month as well as movies on Prime, etc. We told them we would no longer be a bill collector and they were adults who would take responsibility for their phones, AAA, etc. It all adds up. They took the news better than we thought!
Very good point, as we get older is nice to simplify your life, stream the boring bill paying stuff. Good for you making these decisions, we always think people will take things negatively but mostly they don’t. Thanks for sharing your experience with us!
Watched videos of Portugal then get hooked on your retirement videos lol liked, subscribed and watched your ads!
Thanks Ken that’s great we appreciate your support have a lovely week Cheers 🍷🇵🇹🇨🇦🌺
You guys are ALWAYS dead on!!!!! Love it!!!!👏👌❤️
Thanks Elly 💕🙏
These are all very valid points. We own an apartment in Dublin. We downsized about 8 years ago. We pay fairly hefty Management Fees and we were hit with a bill of over 12,000 euro to fix a fire problem! We even had to vacate the Apt for 2 weeks while work was being done. So the expense of a hotel! We did not go abroad as we wanted to keep an eye on the place. We now realise there will be more expenses like a new roof! We do not have children but we have nieces and nephews. Unfortunately there was a costly marriage break up. Very sad and also very expensive. We now know especially in Ireland you have to keep some money aside for medical care even if you have private insurance! It might not cover all!
Thanks for this video and everything you said is so true. Have a great weekend!
Yikes 😱 that’s a pretty hefty bill Mary Rose your management fees sound like the Condo fees in Canada 🇨🇦. (sorry we aren’t a fan we have had family members had bad expensive shocks so we decided to rent ) . The only thing we need is to pay for dental 🦷 as we get older , all other medical expenses is covered in 🇨🇦 Canada .
Have a wonderful weekend in Dublin Cheers 🇮🇪 🍷🇨🇦🍺
You guys are doing a terrific job with your videos. They are really enjoyable and informative. Thanks so much.
Our pleasure! glad you are enjoying them have a wonderful St Paddy’s day Cheers 🍷☘️🍺🇨🇦
Hi Tina and Norm, we recently retired bought a condo and sold the family home. Looking forward to the east coast for the summer and Portugal in the winter. No more landscape and snow shoveling. I'm thinking of an indoor vertical vegetable garden. Thank you for the great info. P.S. maybe an in site to the grandparents scams, bail money is a cashier's cheque not cash. Ty cheers
Congrats 🥳 on your retirement Samuel thanks for mentioning the Grandparents scams that are all in the news at the moment , maybe we might meet next Winter 🥶 in Portugal 🇵🇹 Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
A great video! Don’t let anyone “guilt” you into co-signing, loaning, making your home a free B&B, etc. if you are feeling guilty for not wanting to help, that is a huge danger sign. Helping because you have the funds and the desire to do so ON OCCASION is a blessing to the giver. Putting your own financial health in jeopardy is unwise.
Thanks for your comment Dell have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
So many thoughtful points for everyone to consider.
Thanks so much enjoy your weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Couldn’t agree more! Excellent points. My husband and I are in our mid-fifty’s and will be retiring in 2 years. Love all your videos. Learning lots from you two. Thank you 🙂.
So glad you are enjoying and finding our videos helpful Suzie ,have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Love you guys! Every Saturday! Love from Kamloops, BC!
Awesome! Thank you!
Thanks for yet another very informative video! These are a few points I had not thought of, but make good sense.
I recently retired (January 28th) and my bride retired last year. There’s still the uncertainty of the financial markets at the present, but we’re looking forward to our next chapter in life, and the travelling we intend to do.
Cheers!
Congratulations 🥳 on your retirement, and your wife’s last year 🥂we hope you enjoy travelling together and creating lovely memories Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
I discovered you both a little while ago and you are two delightful people. I'm getting ready to retire in about a year and you've been very helpful. Thank you for your wonderful, helpful videos.
Welcome aboard! glad you enjoy our videos Tom have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🙂
Very sound advice! Thank you for sharing.
You are so welcome! have a great weekend Paul Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Great video. My husband and I have been through many permutations of these pitfalls but we were able to manage them successfully. My son moved in while he took a course (we charged him rent); my stepson required his father to co-sign his mortgage (that was discharged after three years) and I have helped my children on occasion with small loans (all paid back). I guess it all depends on the integrity of the parties involved. As we get older I don't think we will be doing any of these things again but at the time we were able to do it. And great advice about expecting an inheritance or getting tempted by investments schemes. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is! Take care!
Hi Guys, We have helped our children too and you are right about integrity. These points are probably more relevant when we become elderly. Have a great weekend and enjoy your wine! 🍷
Great summary. One skill many adults lack is the ability to say "no" because they want to nice to everyone. That's just setting themselves up for failure later. Setting expectations early (as in the examples of buying a meal for family, co-signing, loan to family members) could go a long way
So very true thanks for watching have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Hi all. An elderly family member couple moved from one province to another when retirement came. They moved from a mid-sized house with a grassed yard to a smaller house with a gravelled yard. No grass to cut. No tractors to buy. No weekly yard maintenance workers. In sum, our relatives bought a small lot home with fewer ongoing operational costs. Ongoing operational costs will hurt your bottom line. We all need to be careful of the leaky retirement bucket. In his mid-90's, the widower told me that he lives very simply and was glad he was able to stay in his own home. I hope I have not offended anyone.
Thanks for sharing your storey, there are many solutions but taking some action rather than no action is the key to making retirement work. Thanks so much!
@@ThisIsOurRetirement 🥰🤗 Yes, agreed. Thanks! Have a wonderful week 😊!
So sensible. Thank you🙏🌺
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Thanks, Tina and Norm for another very informative video. You guys remind us of things can that cause us pain in our retirement, if we don’t pay attention. Based on your advice, I aspire to one day sell my house and rent an apartment. I don’t won’t want deal with house repairs forever. Thanks again.
Thanks so much Carolyn we really appreciate your support, have a nice weekend.
I totally agree with everything you’ve said
Wise words
Take care and have a good week xx💙❤️
Thanks Paula glad you enjoyed it hope you are keeping well and enjoying your weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Yes I did Tina
I totally agree with giving the money rather than a loan
Thank you we will had a good frugal day out today not sure what’s happening tomorrow
Hope you have a good weekend as well Tina
See you next week xx❤️💙
Another good one Tina and Norm. Thanks for sharing.
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Kevin
Glad you enjoyed it
All of this is sound advice and you’re so diplomatic giving it. Wonderful video!
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Hello Tina and Norm ✋Tina I like your hair ! Thanks for sharing this info. Never have or ever will co sign . Just found this out in Indiana if your retired you get a break on property taxes and if you are disabled or veteran you pay zero. Have a great week from small town in USA 🇺🇸
Thanks Tina had just been to her hair dresser, sounds great from the different states and property taxes thanks for sharing 👍
Greetings from Zwijndrecht in the Netherlands (aka Holland). Thank you for discussing honestly your thoughts and experiences on retirement and travel. Its helpful for forming my own thoughts.
Wow, thank you! glad you enjoyed it and that we gave you some ideas hope you have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷 🇳🇱 🍺🇨🇦🌍
Another great commonsensible video! I appreciate that your advice is from a Canadian perspective. A lot of retirement advice out there comes from the United States and much of it doesn’t pertain to Canada.
Your advice about not co-signing or being a guarantor is universally applicable though. We avoided this situation but the story is a bit reversed. My husband and I are both still working. Several years ago an older retired relative wished to relocate and asked my husband to co-sign on a mortgage in order to secure a desirable property. They wanted to have the luxury of moving into the new home without having the pressure to first sell their current home. Assurances were made that it was only temporary and there would be no risk to us as my husband would be named on the title. My husband heard him out but we later discussed it together and decided to decline. That relative doesn’t have a great financial track record and previous dealings with him had ended up costing us several thousand dollars. Once bitten, twice shy. The relative did not take my husband’s refusal well, to put it mildly. Sadly, it caused a rift in the family that remains to this day even though those relatives were eventually able to work things out on their own.
That is a sad story and thankfully you were able to say no, and prevent future financial headaches and stress. Thank you so much for watching.
Definitely agree on making or guaranteeing loans. I have done both and I have also refused to loan but given as a gift instead. You have to be very clear with yourself that you might not get it back and that you can cope with that financially and emotionally. Even the most trustworthy person can fall ill/lose their job.
Absolutely we agree Caroline there can be genuine cases in life , hope you have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
It sounds like a terrible thing to say, but in my experience never trust anybody with money not even your own family.
This is from personal experience. Thanks very good advice.
We agree it pays to be cautious or ruthless take your own course
Lots of interesting comments from this presentation! 💯One that was needed to raise awareness. There were quite a few of your "traps" that sounded familiar as I watched my parents deal with my older brother and his financial issues, and my older cousin who never married was being pursued by one of our cousins who had 3 children. The wife worked but he was a stay at home dad, but once the youngest was well on his way in school, the cousin didn't get back into the work force from having been removed for decades. ⁉️😳 Anyway, my dear older cousin asked me to be sole executrix, and as life has it he unexpectedly passed away in 2015. Well! I had to deal with the cousin who had 3 children, and with another couple who were friends of my older cousin with a C0-sign for their vehicle!! It took years to deal with the disorganized bank to let them know my older cousin had passed. Then the fear that because I was sole executrix I was on the hook for the balance should the couple forfeit their payments. Well...guess what! Yup! They did forfeit their payments so copious amounts of my time and mental energy to connect with the right bank/loaning person to let them know my older cousin had passed away 4 years ago, after I had already notified the bank person who's signature was on the "you own money" letter. Which by the way, was just a photo copy of his signature! By the time I got through the WALL of road blocks to finally talk with this bank/loaning man in person on his cell phone, he had ZERO idea of what was going on and felt very embarrassed I was getting these "you owe money" letters. He said he would take care of it. 6 months later I received the same "you own money" letter. The cycle restarted....finally got to a new cell number and by that time the bank/loaning man himself was retired! He was embarrassed again. He led me to another bank/loaning person who replaced him and .... here we go again! What I did at that point was repeated calls to the retired bank/loaning man to harass him to stop this nonsense! So, yes, Norm and Tina....give any "loaning money" as a gift and for gosh sake...never co- sign a loan! If I am ever asked again to be an executrix, it would be my 3rd time, I have 3 criteria before I consider to accept the responsibility....I give this as a gift to any of you who are listening; 1) insist that the will ,or there is a note in the will, that clearly states how much the executrix will be paid. Why? Because if the will states beneficiaries get a percentage of the remaining funds left, they have to hang around for a while until the Estate business dealings, involving the CRA, is done and by that time, months from the death, they are anxious to get their inheritance and will not be willing to give you the maximum allowed 5% but will dwindle it down to 2% or less which is ridiculous considering all the moving parts, and worry, one generally has to deal with (if there are properties to sell and co sign loans to deal with and managing lots of money and homes to sell, lawyers, accountants and communicating with the beneficiaries...who all have no idea of the time consuming liability and responsibilities of an executrix. 2) Ask that there be no beneficiaries that are to receive a "percentage" of the remaining funds but ask if a set amount of money can be awarded instead, or a specific item(s). Why? Because if a set amount of money is allotted, and there are enough funds, once the CRA and lawyers have done their duty, and charities have received their donations, then once you get the set amount of money and items to the beneficiaries they "sign off" and you can proceed as executrix with less emotional hassle from the beneficiaries. They would have got what was assigned to them, good bye and leave the Executrix alone to continue with the time consuming tasks of dealing with lawyers, accountants and the "friendly neighbourhood CRA!"🥴
3) Every couple of years have a private conversation with the person about where things stand in their estate so to keep updated. I actually keep my Executor updated every 2 yrs and leave notes in a special binder designated for the Executor. Leaving notes is handy because I write down Estate related issues so that I don't have to contact the Executor frequently. Also, ask the person if there are any co-sign loans or debts they have when you have your update private meetings. Make super sure you know where their social insurance number is, and birth certificate. You will need these as important documents for estate trust income tax preparation and year of death income tax reporting. All necessary info to get the taxes sorted. The first 6 months after a person passes is very hectic and you go through a consuming learning curve.
You might ask, so Meg would you do it again? I would, if all of the above, 1, 2, 3, are part of the Estate planning. Whoosh! Looks like your presentation raises some poignant points and brought me down memory lane eh! Hope my story might help even just one person....it was a 5 year journey dealing with my older cousins Estate. He died unexpectedly at a young 64 yrs of age. He was like the brother I never had. I miss him dearly. Stay safe everyone as restrictions from Pandemic protocols are lifted.😷😑🇨🇦🍁
Wow Meg thanks for sharing it will hopefully help others if in the same situation, enjoy your weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
You brought up a lot of great points in the video. I agree with you on your CPP decision. I plan on having us take our Social Security at 62 even though we don't need it. My reason is that we can use that money for expenses and let our investments continue to compound. I ran the numbers and I project that the compounding will pay us more over the rest of our lives than waiting for the bigger payments later on.
We sound very alike Ron that’s exactly what we thought take it and enjoy it even though we didn’t need it either Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Great video, thanks for your wisdom.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Soooooo true what you say about home expenses.... there's always something to fix! I recently had to deal with a broken garage door.
And hate to say it but the floor there also needs an expensive repair 😞 Good topic.... thanks again. Have a great week 🇨🇦♥️🇺🇦
We hear you we remember those moments when we had the house LOL 😂that’s why we now rent!! thanks for watching have a wonderful week Cheers 🍷🇨🇦🌻🇺🇦🍺
Great video,I certainly do learn alot from you guys, keep up the great work, cheers.
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Great advice! Thanks!
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Sage advice! Thank you for another great video.
Glad you enjoyed it! have a wonderful weekend Diane Cheers 🍷🌻🙂
So enjoyed listening to your points.
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I did have a niece try to borrow some money just a few years ago but I politely declined the opportunity. She had some very serious problems and unfortunately is not with us any longer. Good video. Nice chat with friends.
Thanks for your story have a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌻
Great videos! And Love the Led Zep t-shirt as well! Cheers!
Glad you like Norms T-shirt he has a lot of nice ones ! have a lovely weekend Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Excellent advice. Regarding a loan/gift to family members, also be aware if you loan/ gift one grandchild, the other ones will be expecting you to be open to helping them as well when they ask. This should be considered when making your decision. Talk about ruining relationships- money issues will do it!
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You guys are awesome! Thanks for your videos!
Our pleasure! thanks for watching Cheers 🍷🌺🙂
All very good points know friends who’ve been affected by one or more of these - people should take heed.
Many of these points have a lot of emotions and feelings around them, we thought for some of our viewers maybe take time to develop a response before one of them happens. Thanks so much Tameka for your comment.
Great advice. Thanks for another informative and entertaining video. Enjoy your Sunday. Cheers 🍷🍷
Thanks Andrew great to see you again, likewise have a great Sunday!
Love the part of, "Does your house own you" selling our home will be the hardest part, so many memories, etc. We were going to downsize but now will look into renting, especially here in Austin with the crazy high properly taxes, renting might end up being cheaper
Glad you enjoyed the video we do enjoy renting Cheers 🍷🇺🇸🇨🇦🍺
Good information to know and to follow too the letter!
Glad you enjoyed it!have a great weekend Andre Cheers 🍷🌺😎
Great advice! Have a great weekend! 🍀
Thanks! You too!
Thanks for giving us these great possible pitfalls. The one I continue to ponder is whether to rent or own my home in retirement. We have a few years to decide.
It is a big decision and very personal, hope you can work it out. Thanks Dorian for watching.
Great uncomfortable subjects covered thanks guys. 👌👌👌
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Great advice! Stay well and have a great weekend!🤗
Thank you! You too! hope you are both keeping well have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🍷🇺🇸🇨🇦🌻🍺
Really appreciate your perspectives on retirement. Valuable information and very well presented. I’m 53 and just finishing up a divorce. Not what I wanted, but it is what it is. Looking to retire around 62, would like to go sooner, but I’m working on planning right now.
Sorry to hear about your divorce, all we can say is we took early retirement at 58 and 60 and so glad we did, if you can plan to do it sooner and enjoy it we wish you well Cheers 🍷🌺🙂
This is so good. We have helped our children here and there, however, we do not volunteer help. We always talk about it as a couple and then go back to them with the answer. We make them do the homework on their financial issue before helping. We’ve told our six young adult children that when we retire we will have a drop in income so they need to figure it out.
I believe I will plan on taking Social Security at 62 because my husband is 12 years older. Also in America if I take SS it helps my son who is autistic & on disability get a higher benefit. Since I help him now this will offset those cost.
Excellent video.
Thanks so much Courtney for sharing your thoughts, it sounds like a wonderful thing that you can help your son. It is important to secure your own retirement as this is it, it’s what we have worked towards. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
I agree with not getting into a condominium, at least not the type run by a board. Some people want to keep the maintenance fees at a minimum and don't support spending money on regular maintenance. When the parking lot needs to be worked, on the lack of maintenance may mean ripping it all up and then replacing it, rather than simply patching it. Some folks can't see beyond their nose! If a condominium is in your plans, get one in which you own both the building and lot and you can control having necessary maintenance done instead of others not wanting to spend money at all.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts we appreciate it Gord Cheers 🍷🌻🍺
Thank you for sound advice.
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Great info as usual, thanks!
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Great advice and insight. Thank you
Glad it was helpful! have a great day Sandy Cheers 🌺🙂🍷
Thank you so much for putting time in making the enormously helpful and informative videos.
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