7 Simple Steps To Attracting Your SOULMATE (It’s Not What You Think!)
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As you may have heard me share on the show, when it comes to romantic relationships I’ve had to learn some hard lessons and have had to do a lot of healing work on myself. I’m far from perfect, but I have been curious, committed and hungry to understand what makes certain relationships succeed. And now I have something I have never experienced before in any relationship. Peace and Harmony. So, whether you're in a relationship or on the journey to find that special someone, we've got a powerful episode for you today. We're discussing the "7 Keys To Lasting Love." This episode is for those who are willing to do the work, to take a hard look at your patterns, to define your own worthiness and to adopt a mindset of Greatness when it comes to your romantic relationships.
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00:00:00 - The Importance of Building Deeper Relationships
00:02:03 - Choosing the Right Partner and Building a Thriving Relationship
00:04:15 - Keys to Creating a Thriving Relationship
00:06:30 - The Seven Keys to Lasting Love
00:08:42 - Doing the Work for Lasting Love
00:10:57 - The Power of Self-Love
00:13:07 - The Key to Thriving Relationships: Self-Love and Communication
00:15:20 - The Skill of Listening
00:17:33 - The Power of Listening and Communication
00:19:40 - The Importance of Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships
00:21:43 - The Strength in Being Vulnerable
00:23:54 - The Courage to Show Up and Be Vulnerable
00:25:58 - Acceptance and Respect in Relationships
00:27:58 - Respecting Boundaries in Relationships
00:29:54 - Creating Peace and Harmony in Relationships
00:31:54 - Appreciation in Relationships
00:34:08 - The Importance of Alignment and Growth in Relationships
00:36:08 - Commitment to Personal Growth in Relationships
00:38:14 - Quality Time and Intimacy
00:40:14 - The Magic of a Digital Detox
00:42:21 - The Importance of Adaptability in Relationships
00:44:21 - The Importance of Being There for Your Partner
00:46:40 - Facing Your Inner Demons and Finding Love
00:48:51 - Finding Inspiration
#greatness #inspiration #motivation
7 steps to find the love you deserve:
1) self-love (love yourself first & give to yourself what you want to receive from others)
- communication (not what you say, but learn to listen!)
2) Vulnerability (create safe space so they can be vulnerable)
3) Accept and Respect (can you accept them with their values, vision, life style…). Respect their boundaries!
4) Appreciation (understand their love language, words of affirmation )
5) growth (both has to commit to work on themselves individually and together)
6) quality time together (schedule date nights or activities, digital detox!!)
- have meaningful/deep conversations (read books and talk about it) & do Mindfulness activities together
7) Adaptability (flexibility on both sides)
Remember you are Love and you are Loved! love is within you! You just have to find it again!
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Thank you so much, i appreciate your effort with this written notes, especially when I can read it and not disturbing kids nap
Glad it was helpful 🤗@@quiney001
Gracias!!!❤
I read a piece written by a Native American who said find your life purrpose then as you are working towards a purpose you can manifest things into your life
I feel that!!!
So true
“Fall in love” with listening to your partner. Then learning the art of intrigue & understanding your partner.
For me, the moment I realized why I was attracting emotionally unavailable men my whole world changed; I was attracting emotionally unavailable men because I was emotionally unavailable to myself.
Lewis, I've watched many of your interviews with many incredible people.. this heartfelt, helpful, healing video is my new favourite. You are loved and appreciated by me, my friend.
Thank you!
I second that! Much love and many blessings to you!
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Your authenticity. Much respect brother.
Hope to attract a man who appreciates that vulnerability is truly about courage, takes inner strength, promotes authenticity and develops trust that leads to deep connection. Along with curiosity, if it is not present, its hard to imagine that a relationship could ever grow and develop in a meaningful, lasting way.
My life long tag line is "I don't know what I dont know, but I will strive to continue discovering."
EXCELLENT THOUGHTS!!
After my Dad died years later my 70 plus year old Mom found a relationship. Then years later he died and my Mom found another relationship. I asked her how she manifested. She pretty much didn't expect to be in a relationship. My Mom doesn't work on anything you talked about. I think letting go of need for a relationship helps manifest.
At 55 yrs old now, after being married for 25 yrs & now divorced for 10 yrs this is the best advice I’ve heard. My ex lived a double life (quite well I must admit) and told me that I wasn’t enough for him and I have carried that with me for the past 10 yrs. I’m currently single bc of exactly what you are saying… thank you for this reminder.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
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I love the part where u talked about how we forget that we ARE love! I wanna cry because that’s such a good reminder and so easily forgotten. Thank you❤🙏🏻
You are love indeed!
Just listening to this my eyes have opened up . I never knew my greatest fear and why my relationships have been failing. My greatest fear is ABANDONMENT. I grow up in a broken home. There’s more to my life than this but now I realize what my greatest fear is . ❤
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You will never abandon yourself. Learn how to take care of you.
I enjoy life-long learning… bliss, abundance, thriving…
Thank You. I am happy to know you found the love of your life. I totally agree and is so true, I have now found the love of my life.
I am excited to continue to do the work until I am ready! I know it will come to me when I am ready! So excited for the new chapter of my life!
Personal growth is an unending journey that I have been going through for so many years and for the last 3 years I've been more intentional & specific on areas of my life that I need to know and work on them. Listening to you speaking about this subject is music to my ears because you share great insight of things that I need to search in my life. I read the book of the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman in Spanish and it taught me of areas in me that I wasn't aware of. When you get to know yourself more you understand what to accept and not accept in any type of relationship and this includes our own adult children. I love every point you brought up and I enjoyed listening to you. This time was you talking to me directly without a guest and this type of chat is rarely seen. Keep it up Lewis and thank you for giving the best of you to us. You truly deserve Martha as much as she deserves you. A great man for a great woman! ❤
Abandonment, fear of intimate. But confident and outgoing on outside
True, I realize that I have a fear of intimacy and put all of my energy into my business to avoid having to worry about my lack in terms of intimacy with others and avoidance of love with myself. In short, I keep myself busy running my business so that I do not have time for anything else.
Thank you, can’t wait to share this video with the love of my life, when I meet him 🙏❤
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
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You are a treasure!!! Thank you for persevering , for overcoming, thank you for finding the way to become happy because that's how you can now help me and so many people. ❤️
These were great reminders all in one video,a to the point conversation. I love when content is given directly without a lot of extra side talk .
What i love about your podcast is the way you frame your questions.. It makes the speaker more interested in answering them❤❤❤
Thank you!
“In a relationship you’ve committed to wanting to be there for another.” Beautiful, Lewis! I think many people don’t really think about relationships in that way anymore. Thank you for bringing that to the foreground again. 🙏❤
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Abandonment is one I’ve been working on overcoming
Abandonment is my greatest fear, and is exactly what has happened recently after 21 years in my relaionship married for 13 of those years
Unfortunately I’ve never dated anyone that I was worried to lose. Still looking for that feeling that I love someone that much that I don’t want to lose them…I value myself and I believe I deserve someone who loves me for everything I have become because I worked on myself for many years and healed myself from the wounds and traumas. I absolutely love myself and I’m very grateful and proud of who I am now.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! 🧡
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I'm doing the work, I'm excited to find the life YOU'VE found. I've spent my life looking, and I think I'm finally on the correct path. So much suffering has brought me tremendous opportunity...and I can see the gifts are waiting for me...juuuust over there. Rolling up my sleeves. Thank you for your inspiration and insights. You rock 😊
Keep up your strength. The work is very tough. There’s a great book called Do The Work. Love and good vibes to you.
Truly powerful. I simply love it! I have actually been practicing your tips and the tools that you have been delivering through your interviews and talks and have to say that I really enjoy the way it has been unfolding. Remarkable. Transformative. Feel my heartfelt and deep gratitude.
Wonderful!
I am excited to do the work, and have greatly appreciated all of this. I follow your podcasts and get all the announcements. I have followed Joe Dispenza for many many years. Through all of his audiobooks, I rebuilt my heart, which I was told could never happen. I’m so glad that you were in one of my banners today to listen to this. I have now shared this with my very best friend. I didn’t tell even what it was, I just shared it so that he hopefully will listen to it. He’s just a very best friend. Thank you for this.
I definitely have a fear of intimacy for it resulted in me being prideful. And when you are prideful, it causes blocks in your heart where love is supposed to flow from. Its where connection is made brighter as Lewis says in this video. Grateful to have come across this video. Working on it!
Why can’t we have more men like you 😢 You really are the definition of a perfect man in this world ❤
I always love how authentic your podcast always has been
Thank you for being here 🧡
Thank you so very much. Your transparency and courage to share from your heart is so brave. It is helping thousands to heal and experience freedom.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
Yes, you should acknowledge your fears as gifts, face them with courage and grow as a result.
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Abandonment for sure. Then Intimacy next because UI have a hard time trusting and opening up and being judged. What's funny is I am so easy to talk to and I do not judge, but I love others stories and learning from them. I have my Masters in Social work and for the most part, disagree with their ideas of theory. SW do not discuss their own lives but what a book says...WRONG. peer support is the best way. Be vulnerable and discuss your strengths and weaknesses...thats the GOLD. LOVE your podcast!! xoxo
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I am Japanese, and this video reminded me of a time when I was 18 and decided to become someone I am not just to fit in. In Japanese culture, conformity and harmony are highly valued, making it extremely difficult to remain true to oneself. However, I will try again to bring my true self back into the light. Thank you for your inspiring work.
You're welcome, thank you for sharing.
I’m engaged and I’m so glad you created this episode. Perfect timing. Congrats to you and Martha 💕. Lewis you ,Jay & Eckhart Tolle have saved my spirit and life. You’re an inspiration and have helped me through many challenges and brought my awareness back.
Yay! Thank you!
Wow...yes...become the energy you want to attract
Thank you Lewis! Great video! Appreciate the wise words
Amen, Lewis. I applaud your wisdom and you are blessed to have gained this wisdom at such a young age. It's taken me over 70 years to FINALLY get to where you are. I am forever greatful for this healing journey.
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Happy Valentine’s Day all ♥️ Another great one from Lewis Howes. Thank you for what you do. And making life better for so many of us.
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There are a ton of wonderful lessons here Lewis! 🙏
I loved this style of video. Keep it coming. Thanks Lewis 🎉
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
This was so powerful and a great podcast …. I am love ❤️
Fear of Rejection - is #1 for me; when i don't feel wanted
Thank you so much Lewis! It was really powerful conversation for me! 👏👏I 'm excited to do the work and find love❤️
You're so welcome!
Wow. That is so sad that some women belittle men who are willing to be vulnerable. I'm 63 and divorced and can tell you---if my spouse had been willing to be vulnerable and honest and if I had safe enough to open up myself--we might still be married.
Thank you Lewis. Perfect timing for me. Walking away from something that doesn't serve either of us...and rather than being upset I love what you said....just means I have work to do. Thank you for your inspiration, education and leadership and supporting me...and all who are willing on the path to great.
You're welcome!
This is excellent! So brilliantly explained and super helpful concise tips. You are such a gift to so many.
Means a lot!!! Glad this was helpful for you🧡
Thank you so much for this! I have a lot of work I get to do. I'm starting over this year at 55, and I needed this reminder to be who I am...love.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching 🧡
Everything that you have been saying is absolutely what I was attracting. I think this video and I’ve watched many of your podcasts, is very very helpful to me. I’m going to re-listen to this podcast more than once, and I’m going to take some notes down. I am in the Dating scene, and just realized that all my relationships were not in alignment. Thanks for doing this. I greatly appreciate you.
Glad it was helpful!
Good morning from Switzerland 😊
That is not easy to find, the connection. Gracias por hablar tan bonito , te escucho para mejorar mi inglés, eres lindo😊❤
What a perfect day to hear this, on Valentine’s Day! So excited for my future and to love BIG! Love your story as well! Here’s to love! ❤
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Man I'm just glad I found your channel. You inspire me and give me hope for a better future relationship
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thank you Lewis, love it all, super helpful! I'm confident that I'm manifesting my aligned husband and agree with all of this-great tips and ideas thanks! Especially the digital detox date! At least starting with turning the phone off completely during the date (airplane mode) hidden in our pockets. Focusing on each other and the present. Also love the retreats and I'm planning on Joe Dispenza's retreat (first time) in July, I can't wait! I'm a huge fan, really appreciate you and your work! Hugs! 🤩
You're awesome Lewis! I wish more men had the courage to do what you've done. You're a great example and role model!
Try mediating for the day when you become a parent 😂 it becomes very hard to do any of those things, especially together
I am ready to go out there and be the love of my life💗
Love how u meticulously explained everything... Thanks so much I really needed it at this moment
Thanks, this is a really great episode. And I love the shirt- it looks really good on you.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Great episode! You really spoke from the heart. Great job Lewis!
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Thank you Lewis for all you do and for reminding us all to embrace and love ourselves unconditionally. For accepting who we are and making sure we are solely responsible for our own healing and growth before attracting the abundance of life and love that other people can contribute to life together. I realize that with intentional awareness of being the love itself that is the bridge to connect with others…we are love, we are valuable and we are enough. My heart overflows with gratitude for this amazing message. I wish you and Martha a beautiful Valentine day together. Peace and love❤
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Fantastic advice and summary on the topic.
Thank you so much Lewis, for this helpful and inspiring conversation! If I were to put it in the order of what I'm worried about the most. It would be: 1. Inadequacy 2. Abandonment 3.Intimacy. In regards to vulnerability, that's something I still really need to do more work on.
Iam exited Iam already doing the work and now I will listen this video more times until I understand.
Great reminders to all of us. I enjoyed this podcast. Thank you!
You are so welcome!
Thank you Lewis! This was extremely helpful. It helped validate why a recent past relationship was not good for me or viable long term and to release any remaining heartache over it as well as to look forward to continuing to work on myself and to use these very important principles to help cultivate the love I want and deserve. And, to be the best I can be for someone else. I so appreciate you showing up and being vulnerable. You’re awesome ❤
Lewis, this video is so impactful and has so much depth. Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤with
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
I believe all the steps you talked about but having trouble finding this kind of relationship
Personal growth and how we spend time together
Thank you Lewis for this inspirational video! I really wish education like this about self love and relationships becomes part of school curriculum. I believe relating to others is the most crucial skill everyone needs. 💫
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
Lewis, this couldn’t have come to me at a more perfect time. Kudos to you and Martha for choosing this path. I’m on the path as well. ❤
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That agreement is very important I was married for 18 years I tried and tried but when the other person don’t want to grow it will fail eventually or they will just stay for the kids etc but not for love. Growth is a must
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Thank you, Lewis, ❤, I really needed this, perfect timing.
Glad this was helpful!
I really appreciate you Lewis, I only bless you brother ❤❤❤❤
I always have my phone on silent and I leave it at home when I’m with people or in my bag! I believe in giving my full attention to the people I am with, being present and enjoying their company.
Amaziiing💫💗🙏thanks a lot for sharing great knowledge which you have gain through life experiences and all lovely mentors during your special journey 🎉
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
This is incredible and valuable content, thank you ❤ I have been following for years and I think this was my favorite one. You poured the love and wisdom, we feel it! I would love for you to do another video asking all those courageous questions to ask at the beginning of a potential relationship 😊 Please!
One of the best ones you've done. I appreciate what you put out into the world. Happy love month
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Love this, i need to connect with myself. I keep choosing unstable relationships. I must be the one thats a problem. Seems almost impossible but people like you sharing their experiences helps know I am not alone!❤ thank you for sharing this
Hi Lewis, greetings from Bulgaria! Thank you for sharing this video. My biggest fear is definitely abandonment. I have a childhood trauma related to this and I work every day to re-wire my brain circuits regarding this. Some days it’s no work, some days it really hard work. I believe the responsibility for mental health is our own only, so when it comes to a relationship, we are also fully responsible for our mental stability. But the first step for me is taking this responsibility and there are many people who prefer not to take it. I have it in my family and in people around me. Thanks for sharing, Lewis, I’m reading your book and am a fan of yours! 😇
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
I like the style of this pod Lewis, creds to the editor
Great speech Lewis, and happy for you and Martha. Happy Valentine’s Day to you both 🌹 ❤
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you said everything!!! Waw thank you for sharing this beautiful message! this is a 💎nugget!
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Love this topic..loving myself 90% And 10% For others...thank u you again for this powerful message
🙏❤️ Happy Valentine's Day Soul Tribe Soul Family 🙏❤️
I love everything about this episode!!! So true. So helpful!
Thank you!
Thank you Louis that was Worth my writing it down. Happy Valentines to You and Martha.
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Thanks a million for this Lewis, much love 💝
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Not even 5 minutes in and I already want to cry, cant wait to have such a relationship. I am in a space where I feel like it is not possible. Thank you Lewis
You're welcome!
Thank you so much for this guide. I believe much of what you say and I am so happy you put in a few key details that now I will implement in my life. Thank you so much for this I can't thank you enough.
Glad this was helpful for you🧡
Great episode Lewis. Thank you for sharing your insights ! 🙏🏼
PS: can you please put the links of the episodes you mentioned in the description ? I think that would be a wonderful addition to this podcast.
I needed this message. My relationship has gone horribly wrong of late and we're at a crossroads. The message has given me tools to improve what I bring to the table and how to love myself, whether this relationship succeeds or not.
So happy to hear this was helpful for you!
This was amazing beautiful powerful episode Thank You 🙏 ❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
What a beautiful video. You are such an inspiration Lewis! 😃 😊 😀 ❤️ 😍 💖
This video is gold, thank you Lewis❤😊
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Out of the millions of podcast i listen to, this is best yet and the best of yours Lewis Howes. Thank you so much for this one.
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Im in love with this eposide, I felt amazing listening to this episode , thanks a lot for sharing
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Lewis, you're an incredible individual! I hope you know that. I love each point youve put together. At my age of 60 it seems hard to find a guy who has been working on himself and reading self-help books/ retreats/ etc. Im looking into going to Joe Dispensas 7 day retreat. Ive already done the online prerequisite. Heart coherence is opening me up. I look forward to implementing these points with a partner. This was an extremely incredible video with your experiences that resonated with me!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks!
Dear Lewis , I have listened this pod cast on Valentine’s Day sitting alone in my living room. And wanted to thank you as you seem to be perfectly aligned with a certain vibration of the universe and bring messages to us all In a clear easy to understand way. Thank you for this beautiful Valentines gift … love to both of you ❤❤❤
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Perfect knowledge to learn and a apply.Thanks for sharing with us🙏😊
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Lewis is an amazing human being! Thank you
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This was so inlighting
I'm realizing that the biggest problem I had in my relationship was that i feared being inadequate and abandoned. Unfortunately, that's what happened. It's time to work on me, for me!!
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Excited ! Loved this podcast Lewis, I feel it's always important to remind ourselves of those principles even though we're doing the work, before meeting someone new...
Each day I attack with Mindful abundance and self love, I attract more positive opportunities to me !! ❤ Mindfully feeling worthy of love is a GAME CHANGER on all levels!
Love this!