For ‘Illuminators’ and ‘diminishers’ read ‘drains’ and ‘radiators’. Makes more sense. And the best subjects about which to ask questions of people is by using the acronym ‘F.O.R.E.’ ie: Family Occupation Recreation Education - works every time!
Most of the time, getting a meaningful conversation going and having a connection has a lot to do with who you’re with. But for people who get anxious in a social situation, it’s good to have a few light weight conversation starters up your sleeve.
This advice is awful. Don't put people on the spot with questions like the ones mentioned. It's creepy AF and makes folks feel uncomfortable. Complete a shared experience or activity with people and start off talking about that. Most meaningful friendships start out slowly and grow organically. Don't force yourself on others. It will make them feel like a hostage to be in your presence. Everyone is multi-faceted. While describing limiters and illuminators (types of people), you're placing folks in boxes.
I don’t think he meant to suggest asking those questions the very first time you meet strangers. I’d say, probably the 2nd or 3rd time after you get a feel that you’d probably and most likely are interested in each other to some degree/or like being in each other’s presence.
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An American treasure - David Brooks is just amazing & I am so grateful he shares with us through his books & interviews - wonderful!
I got the book..it is great!! Also he has been on Ted Talks....great impression. Thank you David Brooks!!
For ‘Illuminators’ and ‘diminishers’ read ‘drains’ and ‘radiators’. Makes more sense. And the best subjects about which to ask questions of people is by using the acronym ‘F.O.R.E.’ ie:
Family
Occupation
Recreation
Education
- works every time!
Two of my favorite people.
Most of the time, getting a meaningful conversation going and having a connection has a lot to do with who you’re with. But for people who get anxious in a social situation, it’s good to have a few light weight conversation starters up your sleeve.
Brooks should be the next pope. what a saint
Not Dan Akroyd
A lot of my connections start with eye contact, and responding to, "Hey Mister, wanna' date?" ;-P
Someone needs to tell Honda to ,lean back
It’s not a good interview style to be leaning into the guest.
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This advice is awful. Don't put people on the spot with questions like the ones mentioned. It's creepy AF and makes folks feel uncomfortable. Complete a shared experience or activity with people and start off talking about that.
Most meaningful friendships start out slowly and grow organically. Don't force yourself on others. It will make them feel like a hostage to be in your presence.
Everyone is multi-faceted. While describing limiters and illuminators (types of people), you're placing folks in boxes.
I don’t think he meant to suggest asking those questions the very first time you meet strangers. I’d say, probably the 2nd or 3rd time after you get a feel that you’d probably and most likely are interested in each other to some degree/or like being in each other’s presence.