How to Connect with People When You Feel like an Outsider | Eckhart Tolle

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  • @JDHart
    @JDHart 2 года назад +179

    I’m 62. I’m an introvert. I have one friend, my wonderful wife of 30 years. That’s all I need.

    • @Olivia-bs5wj
      @Olivia-bs5wj 2 года назад +8

      How do you make a relationship works? I also want one friend, a partner, but everyone leaves me. I want commitment.

    • @JDHart
      @JDHart 2 года назад +34

      @@Olivia-bs5wj I understand how you feel and I wish that I had the answer to your question. I can tell you that for me personally, I envisioned my partner in my mind first. I meditated on exactly the kind of person my partner would be in great detail. With much clarity, I spoke the words out load to the universe. I believed and acted as if it had already been accomplished. Before I knew it that person showed up in my life and I knew with great certainty that my affirmation had manifested. I had to become the person that I wanted to attract into my life. The universe responded in kind. We have grown together over the years, always placing our friendship above everything else. We always choose to be happy over being right. I hope that sharing this will help you find your partner, your best friend and your happiness as well.

    • @fozzieandflup
      @fozzieandflup 2 года назад +1

      @@Olivia-bs5wj everything starts with a thought. Be positive and don’t let thoughts come from a place of fear, let them come from a place of love. Don’t use words like “want”, think more like “I need commitment” but make that statement with confidence, not in a needy way. Make statements like “I am certain I will find my soul mate!”, and write it down on paper, pin it on your door, manifest it into the physical world. You will find your soulmate and it will be amazing! Take care

    • @JDHart
      @JDHart 2 года назад +4

      @@TinybirdPauline We have much in common. You were so correct in being very specific regarding details about your perfect partner. The universe always responds in kind. I am so happy for you and your successful manifestation. I have discovered that it not only works for the perfect partner, it is an immutable law that works for whatever you want to create in your life. You don’t even have to know how it works, only that it works. Thoughts become words, words become action, action becomes habit, habit becomes character, character becomes destiny. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. May life always give back to you as you give to it. ❤️

    • @ther3
      @ther3 Год назад +1

      ​@JohnDoe-xj1pfand its ok, love is not an Amazon shop, its shared and built with a human being

  • @oliviajoanlowe
    @oliviajoanlowe 2 года назад +148

    I always feel like an acquaintance and I've never had close relationships with anyone except maybe a cat. I enjoy my own company more than with other people.
    People stress me out and I often feel drained after interactions.
    I love being in nature by myself.
    I thought that perhaps I may have had a mental disability because of my lack of communication. But it's reassuring to know that its ok.

    • @LMB2301
      @LMB2301 2 года назад +25

      I once read that introverts find relationships or interactions draining because they give energy to maintain the interaction, whereas extroverts take energy from the interaction. It sounds like you are a strong introvert so you need to be careful who you spend time with. I also find some interactions can be very draining. You may also have autistic or asperger tendancies. I have a family member like that - they don't do well in company. Whatever it is, you must honour the way you feel and not try to fix it. We're not broken, just different!

    • @oliviajoanlowe
      @oliviajoanlowe 2 года назад +18

      @@LMB2301 Thank you. Yes it has crossed my mind that I might be slightly autistic but I don't want to label myself. I remember when I was younger that I loved exploring the neighbourhood on my bicycle or doing adventurous things in the garden. Often, I would decide to do it and then kids my age would want to copy me or join me. But I was happy exploring even if they weren't there. Also, I've never felt the need or wanted to initiate friendships with my peers. And I'm still kind of like that now. There are the odd people who I find interesting but I really struggle to want to keep people around me. I don't know how to explain it really. But I'm realising now that it's ok to be me and to not need to behave how 'normal' people behave.

    • @Vashti0825
      @Vashti0825 2 года назад +10

      I share you sentiments. It's so much easier to accept than trying to conform to societal expectations. Once I did, I felt at peace.

    • @ruth6833
      @ruth6833 2 года назад +2

      @@Vashti0825 helpful comment thankyou

    • @soulhappy
      @soulhappy 2 года назад

      Have you checked out enneagram typing? It might help give you more peace. It helped me anyways

  • @birgittaaxelsson9356
    @birgittaaxelsson9356 2 года назад +34

    I have now been living with this feeling of not belonging for close to 77 years. I found Eckhart two years ago, which has eased my burden of regret and guilt a lot though I am still

  • @evabickerton3856
    @evabickerton3856 2 года назад +18

    Im 47, tried therapy because did not have "friends,found it hard to make a connection, than I went to a medium, she told me that there is nothing wrong with me, I just do not need others like most people do, I need meaningful conversations with healers like me or people who are more awakened, more aware, because " I have been around the block many times"

  • @clareunderwood6690
    @clareunderwood6690 2 года назад +66

    We are so lucky to have Eckhart leading the way for all us 'misfits' and 'outsiders'. I love this man for what he is teaching us all.

  • @jamescadzow9545
    @jamescadzow9545 2 года назад +25

    Multi-dimensional being living as a human experience. I see it as a gift and I cherish it everyday..

  • @1j007zm
    @1j007zm 2 года назад +936

    Great video, love Eckhart!. I 'll be 60 yrs old this year, and I still don't fit in, never married, my relationships have never succeeded, but I've always been a happy camper. My sister would always call me an old soul ( even though she was 6 yrs older ), and my mother once asked me why I'm so weird. Since discovering spirituality, I've never been happier. I wish everyone Peace, Love, & tranquility!

    • @user-so9yv2iq4q
      @user-so9yv2iq4q 2 года назад

      Thank you for subscribing this is my private account DM me for private reading

    • @behere3319
      @behere3319 2 года назад +11

      Best wishes and more presence to you ❤️

    • @janmejaypandey2424
      @janmejaypandey2424 2 года назад +5

      Hopefully by now you would have learned the art of maintaining good relationships 🙏

    • @1j007zm
      @1j007zm 2 года назад +38

      @@janmejaypandey2424 Life is always a learning process, and what I learned is that I really don't want a relationship. "I've never been happier" thanks for the reply Peace!

    • @1j007zm
      @1j007zm 2 года назад +3

      @@behere3319 Thank you!

  • @NextCherryParadise
    @NextCherryParadise 2 года назад +44

    It's comforting to know that quite a few people feel like me, like this hehe
    And it's so tempting to just surrender and accept that I shouldn't be counting on fitting in with the majority of people ever. The desire to be liked by everybody is so strong and egoic attempts to achieve that are quite draining. Might as well just accept the futility and move on. About fitting in - maybe it'll happen, maybe it won't, who knows? But I sense it would be so liberating to stop working so hard for it. I'm getting there😀
    Wish everyone a beautiful time of the day wherever you are🙃and thank you Eckhart for everything

  • @samanthaphillipsdiamantesb1139
    @samanthaphillipsdiamantesb1139 Год назад +11

    I have felt like an outsider since I was around 5 years old I started to have realisation moments and thoughts I didn’t fit in. This has continued through school, work all my life so far. I accept its who I am since my spiritual awakening journeys and have been to healing centre to connect with people on the same level.

  • @kennedyblevins2174
    @kennedyblevins2174 2 года назад +45

    Needed to see this exactly today. I used to feel like this a lot in life, and sometimes when things are tough I still do, but I’ve grown more comfortable with being an “outsider”. I hope those who feel the same know you’re not outside, you are part of something bigger and you are important 💚

  • @tunjiseton
    @tunjiseton 2 года назад +4

    Trying to fit in can be mentally drain in most times

  • @alexythimia7
    @alexythimia7 2 года назад +34

    I feel very much the same as the questioner. Due to my unusual way of perceiving and explaining things. I think there's also a fear of rejection as that was a trend in my earlier years. I love listening to Ekhart as he puts it so beautifully clearly. It gives me hope that I'll find that broken part inside me and heal it.

    • @behere3319
      @behere3319 2 года назад +6

      Best wishes. You are not alone in this journey.
      More presence power to you ❤️

    • @walteredstates
      @walteredstates 2 года назад +5

      I wouldn't approach your self and finding happiness from the position or belief that you have a "broken part" in you.
      That won't be helpful i don't think.
      Life/ evolution works on the very principle of variation on a theme and diversity. With us humans and our consciousness there is even greater variety.
      I encourage you to practice loving kindness I your self and move towards assuming that you are rare, and precious.
      Enjoy!

  • @tyremanguitars
    @tyremanguitars 2 года назад +7

    I had a friend at university who introduced me to Eckhart who I am very grateful for now who I miss a lot.

  • @theresegrech1685
    @theresegrech1685 2 года назад +8

    From the moment that i was born i feel myself an outsider, i do not have an i terest in the events of my country and still i do not fit and i do not want to fit in.

  • @yourcalmplace
    @yourcalmplace 2 года назад +71

    - I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

    • @WisconsinWanderer
      @WisconsinWanderer 2 года назад

      Thank you

    • @Kupferdrahtful
      @Kupferdrahtful 2 года назад +1

      like the person every 40 seconds that commits suicide? Did they get through it?

    • @hansmayr4600
      @hansmayr4600 2 года назад

      Thank you. It's now been almost 65 years I go throug thoug time(s). Hard to believe that it'll ever be over.

    • @behere3319
      @behere3319 2 года назад +1

      Thanks buddy ❤️

    • @dinahbrown902
      @dinahbrown902 2 года назад

      😊❤️

  • @callistomoon461
    @callistomoon461 2 года назад +1

    Eckhart is truly a gift from Heaven.

  • @nightside7409
    @nightside7409 Год назад +1

    I was lonely outsider but i found soulmate friends, but i found more suffering through it... Social life was based on alcohol and i used it too much. This made me read Eckhart Tolle more & watching this channel, suffering, challenges and problems awaken us eventually it seems.

  • @fiachramacaonrae5449
    @fiachramacaonrae5449 2 года назад +2

    You're not the only one!

  • @Andrewjames319
    @Andrewjames319 2 года назад +189

    Someone needs to hear this 0h Lord! God almighty! I magnify your name! Yaweh I give you all the glory for my life! Forgive my sins and my un confused sins Lord! L0rd I want more of you and less of me! I thank you for your protection! I am truly blessed and highly favored I sit in heavenly places and I am the s0n of a mighty King! I love you Jesus! Lord I pray fOr those who don't know you in a intimate way that they will humble themselves and come to know you on bending knee asking for their forgiveness! Father I bind the spirit of pride! I cut it off at the head and send it back to the pit of he'll in which it has come fr0m! I release lOve, kindness, patience, humility in the name 0f Jesus! I followed my heart and I am glad I did. I lost my wife 2 years ago due to the pandemic and I was about giving up, knowing God has brought me this far was for a purpose and I kept on looking on to him. My destiny helper was sent to me the year my wife died. The moment I was about giving up, I was introduced to a business by a man I met in a seminar I went to in Florida. This was not my first time hearing of such business but I took the risk Investin 1000 USD and it was worth it feedback@markhanfarmer. C0M FOUR weeks later I kept on getting earnings and I started using the money for Gods w0rk. I am very popular in Maryland. Doing God work always give me joy. There is peace and joy in my mind. I am here to motivate you and tell you never to give up even though the situation seems so though. God has promised his children and he will surely d0 what he has promised his children.

  • @saferspaces
    @saferspaces 2 года назад +1

    I instantly felt connected with this beautiful woman the moment I saw her. I wish with all my heart she feels those connections around her. I have felt and still am in that state of kind of isolation.

  • @nick_carnelian
    @nick_carnelian 2 года назад +2

    Thank you, Eckhart! The timing of your videos is just incredible!

  • @elinope4745
    @elinope4745 2 года назад +31

    All my friends that radically accept me are older. The younger generations don't respect individuality so much. The young demand conformity.

    • @anniemccowan9902
      @anniemccowan9902 2 года назад +5

      I disagree!! I have many younger friends who are more accepting of who I am them my peers are. People who demand conformity can be any age and at any stage of their journey.

  • @vladbarabas1213
    @vladbarabas1213 2 года назад

    I like listening to him

  • @neatneat9088
    @neatneat9088 2 года назад +1

    So happy to find my soulmates. We are necessary or we wouldn't be here!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for this video.

  • @sp-gw7zl
    @sp-gw7zl 2 года назад +3

    Accept this is how it is ⚘⚘⚘

  • @pjzhao7930
    @pjzhao7930 2 года назад +1

    what you said is so good

  • @littlewillowlinda
    @littlewillowlinda 2 года назад

    “It worked.” lol I love that. It's true that you really have to hit rock bottom to look upward at the universe. The search for self and connection leads to enlightenment

  • @sallylatif8685
    @sallylatif8685 2 года назад

    Love you Eckart Tolle 💕 I live in London and wish to see you 🧡

  • @gavinspeaks
    @gavinspeaks 2 года назад +10

    Remember that you’re amazing! Your parents, your ex’s, toxic people etc. Don’t make them become you. You must let go of what they have done. You must move on from what they did. Don’t carry the poison of hurt expecting your life to change. One must heal, forgive and let go to make SPACE for a new life.
    ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜

  • @nwoslothbite3077
    @nwoslothbite3077 2 года назад

    Thank you Eckhart.

  • @tinatini3940
    @tinatini3940 2 года назад +1

    It’s not easy for me to understand other people while I m in the process of awaking and on spiritual journey. Sometimes they don’t understand me, and I don’t like to explain them where I m , because most of them are on normal level and I am not. I like when you - said to don’t get to superior level- this is how I feel most of the time.

  • @mikkiflutesaou
    @mikkiflutesaou 2 года назад

    Wonderful video, thank you so much!!!!!! I’m 68 and all my life I’ve been an outsider too. I accept it and life is beautiful in all respects. I am … ♥️🙏

  • @l7weenie273
    @l7weenie273 2 года назад +1

    I relate so much 😖

  • @unconditionalfreedom
    @unconditionalfreedom 2 года назад +2

    So get this glad to hear someone say it--

  • @adrianamanta291
    @adrianamanta291 2 года назад

    People fight because they are seeking things outside of themselves to fulfill them inside

  • @nellllo
    @nellllo 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for this

  • @SandraRojo
    @SandraRojo 9 месяцев назад

    I understand you.

  • @jaredmayo5820
    @jaredmayo5820 2 года назад +1

    Me and My gf were good at phycology and summing people up

  • @irishroverandthecrew
    @irishroverandthecrew 2 года назад +2

    Outsider here as well, it's lonely, that's the worst part, on the other hand very true - best people of this world, from Jesus onwards were absolute outsiders. Best of greetings to my fellow outsiders, hope to connect !

    • @annianiscanlon8852
      @annianiscanlon8852 2 года назад

      “May the light forever dance across your path” my fellow Outsider☘️ connect anytime.

  • @jeremyhulin2160
    @jeremyhulin2160 2 года назад +1

    lots of us 😊

  • @Siameezkattwo
    @Siameezkattwo 2 года назад +1

    I have never fit in strange to be in this world and be so lonely

  • @dulceclassica7139
    @dulceclassica7139 2 года назад

    Thank you so much, Mr. Toole.

  • @rubytwoshoes1032
    @rubytwoshoes1032 2 года назад +2

    It's when you don't want to feel the hopelessness of being an outsider, because you just want normal for a moment. To fit in and have a life full of people, rather than being alone and wondering what's the point of me even being here. For me it's very difficult I don't want my life to be this, no matter how hard I try it just stays the same. 😞

  • @hereanddraw
    @hereanddraw 2 года назад +1

    The same for me❤️ thank you Eckhart

  • @aliceg2
    @aliceg2 2 года назад +1

    Ahhhhh so wonderful ...thank you!

  • @RegianneRosaCoaching
    @RegianneRosaCoaching 2 года назад +1

    I would love to connect with her.

  • @watchcitydog
    @watchcitydog 2 года назад +1

    I was told that is how the lead singer of Janes Addiction felt. Thats why he goes by Perry Farrel. If you didn't get it Peripheral on the edge an outsider.

  • @Chopin4321
    @Chopin4321 2 года назад

    you are peace and sweetness... soft music and serene harmony.. a beautiful triple silence.. that special magical silence before, during and after sound, words.. life...
    thank for existing, you are one of the best gods proof existence, you are an invisible saint, an angel.
    your cristal clear voice, look.. soul, everything.. are pure love, eternity.
    just a second of your look is a bless, and you give us so many minutes.. for nothing, for free, for love, thanks

  • @_jinu
    @_jinu 2 года назад

    There is no way to get rid of this other than accepting that you are lonely and will be lonely forever. I am struggling for years now.

  • @ronamain8689
    @ronamain8689 2 года назад

    I'm a creative artist and I know I'm a misfit. I still have days when I blame other people for not being more like ME! I have close family relationships and cat relationships but the rest ? I find them difficult and uninspiring. I love these teaching videos.

  • @dkl2282
    @dkl2282 2 года назад

    thank you so much

  • @kw2299
    @kw2299 2 года назад

    Trying to separate being alone and being lonely - disconnected a lot. I’m trying to come to terms with it now and I think meeting anyone significant is very much a ship that's sailed. I do know people who have lovely relationships and I hate the fact that a difficult marriage to a violent and manipulative alcoholic may be my only real experience of a connection.

    • @livefree9454
      @livefree9454 2 года назад

      Feel that you just need a hug.

  • @SwedenAsif
    @SwedenAsif 2 года назад +1

    My friends called me weird, I didn't mind I knew what he meant today I'm very happy to be a wired person....

  • @lukehening5915
    @lukehening5915 2 года назад

    Stumbled upon this video
    Weirdly contains absolutely no information but lots of positive comments. What have I missed exactly?

  • @higheryibes4430
    @higheryibes4430 2 года назад +3

    I was thinking about this while having shower 10mins ago, i am from india and i cant attend to echart's retreat physicaly nor do i have the money to attend. But then a thought came that social media may be the answer and now this video pops up. I dont crave anybody but i am just curious how they doing.

  • @jeanshareux2090
    @jeanshareux2090 2 года назад

    It seems there are things I'm not able yet fully understand. I am aware of the ego and pure consciousness and I am able to tap into the presence often (not for a long time, but still). I still have a constant battle in my head. One part of me wants to just be present, enjoy every second of life, feel the energy of everything and live calmly in the mountains in a small house. But the other part of me wants to build something big, earn something (yeah even money - not to be better and more rich than others and build strong ego, but to enjoy some normally unavailable things and secure my family), and be reckognized somehow in this world. If I'm in a fully present state i have tendency to really not care about anything and I have no desire to build something in this world. Yet the state is enjoyable, but the other part of me wants to do these things, not egoisticly, but to achieve and make this world a better place not just for myself, but others. As you type about lose of your sense of identity (name, job etc.) - Somehow I really don't want to do it. I respect my parents and I want to make them proud and honor them and I don't want to lose my identity, my name, all good aspects of my personality and the way I am. Yet I wan't to live fully in present without EGO. When I obtained my college degree it seemed that my parents were more happy about that than me. I want to be happy about my achievements and share the happiness with them but in the present moment it seems I can't do it. So I'm very confused about that and it's a thing I somehow cannot understand yet. I don't know if y'all understand me, but I would be glad if there's somebody who could explain this to me..... As well as a person with a yet small company with few employees I have to sometimes be authoritative. Sometimes I need to use negative motivation and be tougher than normally on them. If I want to build something.. something which the society will benefit from I just need to do it. Everybody knows that and it's a concept which is done for a decades and it's working like that. If i wouldn't do it, my employees (as a normal people) would instantly use me or use it to somehow cheat on the job and thus slow the grow of the thing I want to build. I need to be performance oriented to do my job right. Yet it seems I am not able to do it in pure present state. I am really wondering about how to connect the business focused on performance and the present moment and living without ego. How to work harder than other companies and still be present and without ego. I am really battling with myself and I can't understand it yet.

  • @davidcollins2044
    @davidcollins2044 2 года назад

    I was always happy to be an outsider because they want you outside there ring for a reason and I keep my ring small

  • @isaacmorris1397
    @isaacmorris1397 2 года назад +11

    If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realise that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key.

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      @katiaviana9836 2 года назад

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      @davidhoover3358 2 года назад

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      @davidhoover3358 2 года назад

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    • @davidhoover3358
      @davidhoover3358 2 года назад

      ﹏﹏﹏
      十𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟖𝟖𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟑𝟖𝟏
      ﹏﹏﹏﹏

    • @davidhoover3358
      @davidhoover3358 2 года назад

      You can reach her on wat s ap

  • @perpetualbystander4516
    @perpetualbystander4516 2 года назад +1

    I'm a misfit with a life irrevocably lost in seclusion...

  • @lindakingsley9486
    @lindakingsley9486 2 года назад

    What I did was I became a round peg in a square hole. I did my best to fit so I could work. But I really never fit

  • @jaredmayo5820
    @jaredmayo5820 2 года назад +1

    If you don't like me,and I don't like you,what's the point

  • @KaylaJ8827
    @KaylaJ8827 2 года назад

    Well, I’ve always been a loner, kept to myself and felt different…. I found out recently though that I was molested at 4 yrs old at recess in kindergarten a field next to the school repeatedly. I blocked it out, and only had fragmented thoughts of it until I turned 50 and 2 family members were dying, well their dying traumatized me to the point that I remembered my molestations and now I have acute ptsd. So sometimes you have dormant ptsd for years cuz you blocked something out, and it makes you live a sheltered life and you don’t even know why. Now I have all these horrible memories to deal with and severe anxiety. Ugh!!!!

    • @KaylaJ8827
      @KaylaJ8827 2 года назад

      @telegram_Eckharttolle01 hello, what do you have to share? Thank you

    • @KaylaJ8827
      @KaylaJ8827 2 года назад

      I’m not sure how to DM you I guess can you just reply back, It would be an honor thank you

    • @alexandrawagner6330
      @alexandrawagner6330 2 года назад

      ❤️

  • @danurkresnamurti3598
    @danurkresnamurti3598 2 года назад +1

    so what is the point?

  • @tomkahusi7914
    @tomkahusi7914 2 года назад +1

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ JAVID SHAH

  • @melissasibindi7375
    @melissasibindi7375 2 года назад +311

    I actually said to my friend a few days ago that I've never felt like I belong to this world. I am 48 years old and FINALLY accept, no, EMBRACE my beautiful soul and those who I have been gifted with. There is ALWAYS connection and I send you all blessings for the same.

    • @TheMediumChannel
      @TheMediumChannel 2 года назад +10

      Congratulations, to be on this world but not of it is a beautiful thing and when you accept that you begin discovering your "supernatural" gifts. Many blessings

    • @James-3000
      @James-3000 2 года назад +12

      Me too! My unconscious inner mantra was "I'm in this world, not of this world", like I got sent to the wrong life...these days, I'm absolutely in love with myself and this world (most of the time anyways haha). Now I wrap up each meditation with a prayer and it goes, "Thank you, God".
      Blessings!

    • @sarahmillson1594
      @sarahmillson1594 2 года назад +2

      You might be Lemurian

    • @globug8864
      @globug8864 2 года назад +1

      @@sarahmillson1594 Do you know a respected person I may watch/contact? I'd love to know if I am Lemurian. I've always felt like I was adopted and not belonging to this world. 💫🧠👁👽

    • @VeniVizzleVici
      @VeniVizzleVici Год назад

      @Lisa Wadsley Are you an AI?

  • @BBFCCO733
    @BBFCCO733 Год назад +15

    Weird people are highly sensitive and perceptive, cautious people. I am one of them. It's very difficult to be around others, some groups are nicer than other, but some can be so cruel.

  • @bmc5367
    @bmc5367 2 года назад +202

    I believe you’re more an “insider” than you think. You’re your own best friend. It’s everyone else that’s on the outside. Be you and enjoy. ✌️

    • @dinahbrown902
      @dinahbrown902 2 года назад +4

      ❤️

    • @Tererinterin
      @Tererinterin 2 года назад +6

      Great approach 🤔

    • @Chriswallace0405
      @Chriswallace0405 2 года назад +6

      Thats easy to say but it gets lonely

    • @JakobNoone
      @JakobNoone 2 года назад +10

      ​@@Chriswallace0405 I've been trying to spend time with myself so I can know myself - the true self Tolle mentions as the you that exists when you're listening to someone speaking and you're waiting for them to resume their words (so you aren't thinking or interacting, you're just being, which is the true 'you' devoid of external noise).
      Knowing that true 'me' means I can better recognize the qualities I see in my true self reflected/exhibited (or not) in others. If I recognize those aspects of me in them, I am not an outsider, and they are just a stranger as yet unknown. If I don't recognize any of the aspects of the true me in others I try to honor them as being sugar while I'm salt, so to speak, and the two don't need to cohabitate if they just don't pair well.
      My point is you - the conscious ego you think you are - can be open to connection with your own true self when you're alone (and thereby not be lonely), because you truly are 'hanging out' with a 'you' that is the realest you, but is also often a stranger to the ego-saturated you). Viewed that way, you aren't really alone. So loneliness can be less a problem despite being physically alone.
      Recognizing your true, non-ego self's characteristics, you are then in a better place to recognize those qualities in others and therefore again loneliness can be less a problem (or non-existent, even). True loneliness comes from not knowing your true self and from being with others whose selfhood shares little overlap with your true self.

    • @Rich-wi7dn
      @Rich-wi7dn 2 года назад +1

      Still working on tolerating myself here. I feel like an outsider whether I’m in a group or alone with myself. Hoping to figure it all out at some point.

  • @jaycee8121
    @jaycee8121 2 года назад +113

    I’ve just turned 60 yrs old & I always feel like I’m looking from the outside in. Find being in a group difficult but love to be out in nature on my own xx

    • @perculiar_daughter
      @perculiar_daughter 2 года назад +5

      I am exactly that way too Jay, so nice to know others out there feel the same. Xx

    • @roisin252
      @roisin252 2 года назад +4

      ‘Looking in from the outside’ ... what a perfect way to say it

    • @Vashti0825
      @Vashti0825 2 года назад +6

      I am also 60 and feel like I'm in a wonderful state of acceptance.
      I was discarded out of a social circle 2 years ago. It was hard at 1st, but sent me on a journey of personal growth.

    • @eimearlynch7414
      @eimearlynch7414 2 года назад

      Exactly how I have felt

    • @veroniqueverstichelen7371
      @veroniqueverstichelen7371 Год назад

      I understand.🌌💚

  • @birgittaaxelsson9356
    @birgittaaxelsson9356 2 года назад +276

    ...very lonely. Watching this has eased my burden of loneliness when I really needed it. Thank you, Eckhart, from my heart. Also to the sweet girl who asked.
    And love to all my fellow outsiders!

    • @perculiar_daughter
      @perculiar_daughter 2 года назад +8

      Birgitta, I too felt the same on listening to this. It's hard being the seemingly wrong jigsaw piece in the wrong puzzle box. My thinking is that we were never meant to sit comfortably in the reality of this particular puzzle.
      Peace and love to you.

    • @oceanicdrop
      @oceanicdrop 2 года назад +3

      I am wanting to attend a gathering to meet and greet people in flesh and not satisfy with "looking at people through a slit in the jailcell that is my apartment room and computer or TV".

    • @cathychase663
      @cathychase663 2 года назад +2

      You aren't alone in feeling lonely- me too.

    • @alexandrawagner6330
      @alexandrawagner6330 2 года назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @pleun315
      @pleun315 2 года назад

      What helped me was watching video's about star seeds, feeling An absolute outsider? You are a soul from somewhere else ! We are human but souls In first place Just search for it and the answers Will come😄 There is An important reason why you are the outsider , you have Choosen tis journey ask your spirirguides die help ! They are glad to help ! Much love and light from the Netherlands ❤️🙏

  • @akaiyanagiteru
    @akaiyanagiteru 2 года назад +177

    At least we got each other here. I take being an outsider a blessing. It has save me from a lot of pain and suffering from not turning out like majority of my peers. There are worse things in life than being misunderstood and not belonging. All we can do is try to live a compassionate life and end the cycles of suffering. I love y'all and wish y'all love, happiness, and most importantly peace. 🥰

  • @michaelwachtel4165
    @michaelwachtel4165 2 года назад +164

    The women in the video really touched my heart and I could connect to what she said. I'm also from Austria(Vienna)! Maybe she reads this or someone who nows her and we can get in touch! 🙂🙂

    • @alicjal4856
      @alicjal4856 2 года назад +23

      I had just the same impulse as you! It means there's actually quite a lot of us spread all around?
      Greetings from Salzburg.🖖

    • @melikairandoost9587
      @melikairandoost9587 2 года назад +6

      😀

    • @borbalaszokendi3436
      @borbalaszokendi3436 2 года назад +13

      Greetings from Innsbruck:)

    • @michaelwachtel4165
      @michaelwachtel4165 2 года назад

      @@borbalaszokendi3436 Servus, bist du das in dem Video?:-) Vom Foto kann ich es nicht ganz erkennen^^

    • @michaelwachtel4165
      @michaelwachtel4165 2 года назад +6

      @@alicjal4856 Hallo Alicia, find ich toll,dass es hier einige Leute aus Österreich gibt:-)Ich hab mir gerade gedacht wir könnten eine Whatsappgruppe initieren wo wir auch mal Treffen vereinbaren können:-) Fände ich super,wenn man sich auch mit Leuten über spirituelle Themen und natürlich auch alles andere mögliche austauschen kann. Was meinst du? lG aus Wien

  • @FrancisTrach
    @FrancisTrach 2 года назад +71

    Often times we thing that the letting go of the ego construct will result in us feeling "disconnected" from Life, or other individuals, when in fact. In my experience, the opposite is the case. The more I let go and give myself permission to be who I really am unconditionally in all moments, the more I feel connected to EVERY single being around me, and the more I heal myself and others in the process. If you step into this space, you can expect to heal multiple generations of repressed desire and connection to who you really truly are. Great video Eckhart. Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day. Much Love. 🙏

    • @ailidhlalala1592
      @ailidhlalala1592 2 года назад +3

      Yes exactly, I have the same expirience at least sometimes. Sometimes I still feel isolated

    • @Manofvalue525
      @Manofvalue525 2 года назад +1

      @@ailidhlalala1592 yeah this just sometimes, because we don't truly always in that state

  • @narcissistichealingforempaths
    @narcissistichealingforempaths 2 года назад +45

    I am an INFJ. I have felt like an outsider since my childhood.

    • @HeavenlyLights
      @HeavenlyLights 2 года назад

      INFJ are the MOST RARE people on earth. You are very special.

  • @anandakumarsanthinathan4740
    @anandakumarsanthinathan4740 2 года назад +120

    It's amazing how the Universe works. Just today, my 14-year old daughter came back from school and told me that no one talks to her in class and that they all form a 'group' and are always interacting within the group. I didn't know what to tell her. I will share this video with her. Thank you, Eckhart. 🙏🙏

    • @terryhoffman2760
      @terryhoffman2760 2 года назад +28

      It's so difficult for her. At her age she is trying to find her identity. How you react may be more important than how she reacts. Love praise and patience. Good luck.

    • @anandakumarsanthinathan4740
      @anandakumarsanthinathan4740 2 года назад +4

      @@terryhoffman2760, thank you very much.

    • @marciamorgan5316
      @marciamorgan5316 2 года назад +9

      Sending her a 🤗 hug I have a 13 year old I always say never leave anyone out, if someone new starts introduce yourself and ask if they want to join in

    • @anandakumarsanthinathan4740
      @anandakumarsanthinathan4740 2 года назад +5

      @@marciamorgan5316 thank you so much. Hugs coming all the way from Chennai to your little one.

    • @marciamorgan5316
      @marciamorgan5316 2 года назад +2

      ❤️@@anandakumarsanthinathan4740

  • @chrisberry9017
    @chrisberry9017 2 года назад +32

    Oh my goodness, the synchronicity of this question and answer. I felt very akin to the young lady questioner, and when she said that she came from Innsbruck I could barely believe it! I live in the UK, but have a number of very dear friends in Innsbruck - people who I feel closer to than my own family, and one particularly is very spiritual. It would be wonderful to reach out to this young lady, and put her in contact with my lovely friends.

  • @Bodyknowledge77
    @Bodyknowledge77 2 года назад +39

    The struggle in many individuals' existence(mine included) is finding those who can appreciate, accept, and reciprocate. The worthy of the precious time commodity.

  • @punxsutawneyphil3944
    @punxsutawneyphil3944 2 года назад +36

    I've always felt like either I was born in the wrong time or on the wrong planet.

    • @behere3319
      @behere3319 2 года назад +8

      You are not the only one who felt like that. Me too 😀

    • @joanramsey4002
      @joanramsey4002 2 года назад

      Yes, I feel that I've been parachuted into a war zone and told to get on with it! The world is too mad for me to take it all in :(

  • @ChangeYourLife1122
    @ChangeYourLife1122 2 года назад +36

    Thanks Mr Eckhart Tolle, your videos make me feel better ❤️💓🙂, and for those who are still in pain/suffering, and Im telling u everything is going to be ok, peace🙏

  • @natcat1984
    @natcat1984 2 года назад +27

    Can totally relate. Sometimes I think „I'm in this world, but not from it“ 🙃 Blessings from Germany

    • @dinahbrown902
      @dinahbrown902 2 года назад

      You aren’t supposed to be of it😊❤️

    • @walteredstates
      @walteredstates 2 года назад +1

      Hey, we are born out of this world!
      Like the apples grow out of an apple tree.
      Just more diversity in the human planet's fruitiness ☺

    • @dinahbrown902
      @dinahbrown902 2 года назад

      You are and you aren’t supposed to be of it😊

    • @alexandrawagner6330
      @alexandrawagner6330 2 года назад

      🙏

    • @dinahbrown902
      @dinahbrown902 2 года назад

      You are 😊

  • @KnowledgeCollectiveOfficial
    @KnowledgeCollectiveOfficial 2 года назад +26

    I relate to feeling like i am not from here. Always loved Stargazing or Observing the Universe with my Telescopes. I think we are all connected and should make an effort to change the world. I know I will try!

  • @Dancerlil
    @Dancerlil 2 года назад +122

    I had similar experiences. As a child I had a friend who was deaf & another who had down syndrome. I am going on 68 & embrace my weird introvert self more than ever now.
    In grateful appreciation for all you do & are Eckhart.
    Blessings to one & all.
    Liliane

    • @denisehay8895
      @denisehay8895 2 года назад +4

      I'm 72 marycatfish and also embracing my weird introvert self!

    • @bananamanly9997
      @bananamanly9997 2 года назад +3

      I am 14 and am learning to. Love y’all. See you later and hope you have a great day! ❤️👍

    • @rouenpucelle
      @rouenpucelle 2 года назад +1

      Interesting! I also had a Deaf friend and a friend who had Down syndrome when I was a child!

  • @bokkebokke7
    @bokkebokke7 3 месяца назад +3

    I’m 34, always had a lot of acquaintances but genuine friends are so hard to come by these days. Everyone has their own lives, their own tribes, etc. And I’m just not privileged enough to be more appreciated in those places.

    • @usewisdom2
      @usewisdom2 25 дней назад

      Yep lots of acquaintances, a few true friends, which is good but none that are truly of like mind and truly resonate

  • @defender7624
    @defender7624 2 года назад +19

    I use to think I was a outsider but now I realize I’ve always been on a deeper level then most. There’s very few people I can be around these days. I mostly like to be alone

  • @Madelro100
    @Madelro100 Год назад +6

    I spent my whole life struggling to fit in, without success. Now, I feel good thanks to Eckhart and the people who write comments below.

  • @leem3299
    @leem3299 2 года назад +9

    If you weren't an outsider you probably wouldn't be here. Well said. I like it here.

  • @SunnyKindJourney
    @SunnyKindJourney 2 года назад +18

    Be YOU or be nothing ❤

  • @dakotaovdan
    @dakotaovdan 2 года назад +25

    The moment I found presence I saw everything was so interconnected and that most other people couldn’t see beyond themselves. They felt like the outsiders and the minority to me because there’s so much more life in this universe than just human life.

  • @memomon23
    @memomon23 2 года назад +17

    Those feelings of an “outsider” are a deeper calling to independence 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @xneobloodchaosx7875
    @xneobloodchaosx7875 2 года назад +15

    He telling us what we NEED to hear instead of what we WANT to hear. Acceptance, especially self-acceptance is one of the most powerful, I believe, things you can ever come to love as it starts from within.

  • @lunasonce8686
    @lunasonce8686 2 года назад +7

    To a lady who put question. Iam somehow same so if you feel to chat about whatever, contact me. You are far from alone. Love from Slovenia to all🙏

  • @isabelalmeida7676
    @isabelalmeida7676 2 года назад +10

    I do feel the same, I also wish I could have someone to relate to, but I'm beginning to accept it with compassion and kindness without struggling and wanting that people around me change, now I accept me and them as they are and I move forward knowing who I am.😊

    • @Jack-is4bd
      @Jack-is4bd 2 года назад

      Your comment has helped me a lot. Embracing compassion and kindness feels much better than struggling❤

  • @nannenon
    @nannenon 2 года назад +7

    I could see the light in her eyes. Not many have that.

  • @lindakoch9524
    @lindakoch9524 2 года назад +9

    Such a great shortie!! Loved the girl and Eckhart’s response….it speaks volumes that Eckhart befriended those who others rejected even when he was a child!

  • @marliesvrakking2407
    @marliesvrakking2407 Год назад +3

    This was very helpful in the sentence of that I'm not the only one who feels like an outsider.Its only that I'm afraid of people on daily basis because how they act on the outside and what they say is most of the time different from what they show me on an other level.Its like they have an agenda and the life from out of manipulation.Its confusing for me.I try not to judge and to accept them for who they are but I'm most of the time alone because then I feel save.Are there other people who recognize this?

  • @JohnMiller-hg7ty
    @JohnMiller-hg7ty 2 года назад +2

    I look and I look
    I must have come to the wrong planet
    It's so strange here
    - Sigbjorn Obstfelder

  • @classicmeditations9357
    @classicmeditations9357 2 года назад +31

    It is okay not to be like everyone around you, you are unique and that is what makes you AMAZING!

  • @lenkaa.9955
    @lenkaa.9955 2 года назад +2

    I do not feel as outsider or misfit. However l do miss the connection with others. I used to be very social and enjoyed being around people.
    Nowadays it's hard to find people who do not drain you. If I am lucky to interact with ppl who are not negative or too egoistic, it's always only on surface, shallow. Never deep meaningful. Never connection. But need to accept that as it is. Which is not easy, it's rather lonely life. Fortunately I don't feel that being alone is negative. Just miss people positive vibes . Happy I have one true friend I can talk to. I rather be alone than to spend hour with negative energy around.

  • @Kaptan_Gezer
    @Kaptan_Gezer 2 года назад +2

    All the people told "This is impossible!" than came somebody who was not aware of that, and he made it possible.
    This is called "Outsider" =able to think by your ownself.
    it is not easy, but it is not impossible.
    first and foremost: believe nothing what you were told

  • @alohadave8119
    @alohadave8119 Год назад +1

    We are insiders trying to connect with people who only know outside things

  • @bernadettekrejci7343
    @bernadettekrejci7343 2 года назад +3

    I'm from Innsbruck too!!!!! Awakening here 😀