Pivoting || Father Knows Something Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 10 июл 2024
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This week's episode has Jerry, Justin, and Morgan respond to listener write-ins that all involve the potential for a pivot. Whether you're ross trying to move a sofa or trying to decide where to go next in your life, a pivot can be a good thing. Some of these may not be pivot appropriate though, and the listener could be right where they should be.. you help us respond and decide!
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Index:
00:00 -- Start
03:57 -- Story 1
17:50 -- Story 2
23:03 -- Story 3
32:55 -- Story 4
41:26 -- Story 5
JERRY CLAPPING AND DOING THE THUMBS UP WHEN U WERE TALKING ABOUT MOVING OUT💀💀💀💀💀 my mom and stepdad did the same thing😭😭😭🤣
Recently my mom, uncle, and I got to recreate the pivot scene when we walked a small couch from my uncle's house to my grandma's house, which is thankfully next door. I screeched "pivot" the entire short walk over while my mom yelled at me to be quiet because I was embarrassing her. But my uncle is a huge FRIENDS fan and he tried not to laugh too hard and drop the couch.
My almost 3 year old has autism and our SLP and OT have been so incredibly helpful. Speech language pathology has helped my little one go from nonverbal to starting to say a few words! If you’re reading these comments- please follow your passion. If your heart is in this, go for it! I am eternally grateful to the SLP and OT that have taught me how to help my little one thrive. ❤
For the LSAT girl and anyone else feeling lost career-wise, please read What Colour Is Your Parachute! They release a new book each year so it’s up to date with the current job market, and has tips on how to change careers as well as exercises to help you figure out what elements of a career are most important to you, what transferable skills you have, etc. I made a career change last year and this book helped me move forward with confidence
Oooo this sounds like such a good book! Thanks for sharing
I was pre-law all throughout my undergrad and before I started to consider law schools my advisor had me read that book! It is a great tool to decide if pursuing a law degree is what you truly wish to do. I also spoke to many people in the legal field before making my final decision, reach out to your network before making any decisions.
Story #2 also hit home for me. I made the choice to postpone my wedding in 2020 due to covid. Almost exactly 100 days before my new wedding date, my mom died really unexpectedly. If I knew there was a possibility that my mom couldn't come to my wedding, I would have done a small ceremony on my originally scheduled date so that she could have been there. I'm with Morgan, I would ABSOLUTELY pivot to a small ceremony and then have the large party in June. If the father can make the original date in June, that is just one more memory you get to have. Once my mom passed, many people thought I should postpone again.....I am so glad I didn't, as my dad passed suddenly within a year of my wedding.
Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story ❤ I'm sorry for your losses. I hope our listener reads your comments
Re: the first story, lots of law schools take GRE scores nowadays! So if you feel like you’ve done all you can with the LSAT, try the GRE.
for the second write in, I am so sorry you're going through that. The thought of losing a parent at any age is unimaginable, but especially when you're still young yourself. I'm 18 and I lost my mom to breast cancer 6 months ago yesterday. Whether or not your Dad ends up going to your wedding physically, nothing will stop him from being there spiritually. Sending you so much love and many prayers your way♡
I really agree with what Morgan is saying in the first story about finding some thing related in the field. I wanted to be a teacher for a long time, and I spent three of my five years in undergrad in an education program. when I got to really student teaching I absolutely hated it. After that, I switched my major to something related but not specifically education focused, and I started working at a library, which I absolutely loved and I would’ve never thought was an option
For story 2... I went through this. My dad passed in 2019 due to cancer, 2 months before my wedding. I knew he wasn't going to make it, although Lord knows he was trying to. I ended up having a small private ceremony with my dad in my parents home. He passed 4 days later. Do something small now for your dad and keep your second wedding for everyone else. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so hard to lose a parent.
For the girl whose father has cancer - she really needs to know the disgnosis. There are maaaany cancer treatments and symptoms that wont allow travel. If you need something like high flow oxygen you can hardly make a trip across town.
31:30 so I was like this at 24 when I got engaged to my fiancé. Our families helped us get an apartment immediately after getting engaged and when move in day came around, I was PANICKING in my car. My parents walked to my car door and both told me "Hey, you agreed to marry this man. Take a deep breathe and let's help you get things organized, if things don't work out you always have a place at home with us." Mind you, we had only been together 8 months! Although they always said no living with a man until marriage, they saw the value in figuring it out before we got married. Now, four years later, we are still together and my parents are my best friends. I talk to them everyday! I complain about my in laws to my mom, I talk to my dad about my husband and he gives me advice to help the relationship. We've had a lot of ups and downs and we have a baby girl now. But I still know I can go to my parents or they will come get me and my daughter if I need some TLC or if things go south. I'm glad we didn't marry first then move in. I was scared to leave my parents and felt things were moving too fast but they were super supportive and there for me. Now I live an hour away from them and seeing them on FaceTime for an hour a day is always nice, or visiting on weekends when we're able to! When we were having financial difficulties my parents offered for us to move in with them with our daughter to save money. Who knows, we may take them up on it with rising prices of everything 😂😅 My parents have turned into my best friends and I'm so thankful for it. Don't be scared to try living together because it may be what you need to commit fully or let go!
For someone who also is working / pursuing a career that I feel that many people complain about (and had to just stop following people in those fields) I would recommend either the person writing in or anyone reading this to ignore a lot of what you read about your career online, as so many social media sites are often just capturing the people most vocally unhappy, the people happy in careers are too busy enjoying their lives so if you want perspectives on the career path speak to people who are working in the areas you want to work, and i don't know how feasible it is for the person's partner but perhaps considering if they can get some recognition of prior learning either in the field or from a educational organisation and do an abridged course/degree might be a compromise? best of luck!
Wow..don't think I've ever seen a video on here or THT this early! 😂🎉 5am on the East Coast! Love yall!! ❤
for the first story: i’ve been wanting to go to dental school since grade 9. i’ve written the DAT (like the LSAT) 4 times and been rejected 3 times, I assume because of my low scores. so, youre not alone
Thanks for another great episode guys! Love listening to the show while I work 😊💕
RIP Matthew Perry 😢❤
Love you guys so much!
This podcast with Jerry is so precious. I appreciate everyone’s input on all the situations ❤ keep up the good work
17:50 I know im 3 weeks late and probably no one will see this, but for the person whose father has cancer:
First of all, im so sorry youre going through this, but try to stay calm and dont panic plan yet. My father has a chronic heart condition. A few years ago he was in active heart failure and needed a transplant, but he got it and is doing great now.
I will tell you what my dad told me when i considered dropping out of college to be with him: you can't put your life on hold. Talk with your dad about what he would like you to do. Once you guys have a care plan, youll know whats possible. I think a intimate ceremony with him present is a good idea to be safe, but i dont think he would wamt you to throw that money away and give up your dream wedding
2nd year SLP grad student here… if this is that persons passion, my advice is stick with it! In my experience and program, the second year is almost entirely internships and it makes things so much easier. I’m in my school placement right now and I love it. It has just made me more excited for my career to come. If this is what the writer wants, hang in there, it’ll get better ❤
Thank you for what you’re doing! My almost 3 year old has autism and our SLP and OT have helped him sooo much. No matter what field of SLP or OT someone goes into, they are in a life changing position. So, thank you for doing that!
here I am yelling READY at my screen lmao 😂
Oh my goodness! How do you not remember pivot!? 😂
They gonna invite Jerry over to cook dinner 😂
1000%!!! Those meal kits can't cook themselves 😂 and he's just so much better than me!
The second one hit home. My mom had brain cancer and is now in a nursing facility to my partner and I are going to do vows in front of her this Christmas. If my mom is still around when we do a ceremony for commitment I want her to roll me down the aisle I don't know when the cancer could come back or other health issues she's been having.
Maybe that's something you do with your dad you and your partner say your vows in front of him so even if he can't be there he got to be a part. Also we do have streaming now so you could consider doing a video call
i’m so early! can’t wait to hear what you have in store this episode
The LSAT person needs to re-evaluate priorities. The passion for law school may be gone, but I've heard many lawyers say that paralegals are invaluable and in demand. I do disagree with Jerry, though; not everyone can work their passion. For some of us, finding a job that you don't hate is good enough, as long as it can support your passions outside of work. I get very minimal fulfillment in my day job, but I don't mind it and it pays enough. I think the narrative of "do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life" is outdated and only applies to a handful of people in the world.
This episode came exactly when I needed it! I'd always dreamt of studying biology but due to issues out of my hands, I am studying law in January instead. And it makes me sad cause I never wanted this but I have hope I'll do well
Aww Jerry is a good guy Morgan is lucky she has someone who cares for her....Jerry so chill lol i can imagine sittin at home all just chatting havin awesome convos...and Jerry is right deff need to live fully together before marriage to see what the person is really like because visiting and living is very diff lol im in MN my moms in Wi and i dont get to visit that much but i could never move back to Wi not my vibe.
I was wait listed for a dental hygiene program in AR (we have 2 programs that accept about 30 candidates each - one in Little Rock and one up in the middle of nowhere lol) FIVE TIMES!
I grew up poor w no support and had to take a few classes at a time and the Little Rock school basically docked me for it acting like I couldn’t take on a full work load although I had spent years setting myself up for this program and was a dental assistant during that time working in oral surgery and in hospitals building my resume for my dream job. Needless to say I had to pivot and am now an ICU nurse and now looking into CRNA school. I can save lives but they didn’t think I was good enough to clean teeth I guess 😂
Looking back now it is a huge part of my story and how when life gets hard move in a different direction. I make more, flexible schedule, endless opportunities, etc.
OMG LOOK AT YOU GO!!! ICU nursing is one of the toughest gigs out there. Most nos can turn into such better doors. Thank you for sharing!! Pivot QUEEN keep going
@@TwoHotTakes 🥹❤ it really can. You would have thought my life was over at that crossroad but it always works out!
My sister just took the LSAT, they definitely still have logic games. They may have changed the proportion of them or something like that, but they're not gone.
yes yes doesnt go into effect until 2024! I keep forgetting what year we're in apparently 😂
Love FKS! ❤
Helping me with this slow day ar workk
My childhood bedroom became a room for my moms cats 😅 and most recently became my sons second nursery 😊
This episode felt heavy! Love you guys still! But now I feel so sad. 🥹
Wow this episode came at such a necessary time for me.❤
Good morning guys!
fks and tht have become the audio track of my life recently
Love you’re videos jerry, u never fail to make me smile 🖤
ask your father about external medicine, he once time questioned me on an airplane from Las Vegas to Denver
200 g sugar and 85g butter 118milk
I was unable to use the thing for kiwiko it keeps coming up as an error and then I get re directed
early!!! love u all
In regards to story number 4, my mom is the clinical supervisor of speech language pathology in the hospital she works in. She has made a lifelong career out of it and built herself up since she was my age in that career. While she can be burnt out with her job, she loves helping people. In my opinion, she makes good money- my brother and I have never wanted for anything. There are so many opportunities in that field. To the person who wrote that story, if you have questions about actually working in the field, feel free to send me a message and I can ask my mom her thoughts!
I am sorry beforehand, but the last story made me irate. He has cancer and can’t give you what YOU need. The level of selfishness 😢 if my partner were to get cancer I couldn’t fathom putting my needs before his 😔.
Same feelings here. If you really care about someone you won't bail because they can't be there for you as much while fighting cancer... Also sounds like they might be getting through the worst of it now and still are giving up. Wtf.
What does jerry do to involve hangers and planes?!? Sounds mad
could be some type of engineer or technician
I wrote in almost a year ago and I still haven’t gotten advice 😭
Did you figure out what you needed advice on in the last year?
Almost had to stop watching because Morgan was quoting “Pivot” 3 octaves too high 😩
LOLLLLLL
HONESTLYYYYYY
I dont have the same finesse as ross I should have just let the audio play damn 🙈
@@TwoHotTakesI loved it hahah friend’s references make me happy🤗 I was also not wearing headphones tho so maybe that altered my view 😂😂
I really don't usually comment these things but PLEASE look into better help and why it's so bad, the money for the brand deal cannot be worth subjecting your viewers to a company like betterhelp and their "therapists"